rSlash - r/Offmychest I'm a Gold Digger

Episode Date: June 1, 2024

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I'm in my mid-twenties and engaged to a well-off man in his forties. And as my title says, I'm a gold digger. I grew up extremely neglected emotionally and sometimes physically. After I turned 12, my parents would abandon me to take care of all my younger siblings for up to a week at a time so they could go on vacation, leaving me to feed, bathe, clothe, and raise four kids under six alone for two months of the year until I was 18. And even when my parents were around, I still did most of the parenting. Everything is transactional to me, and I can't ever see myself being with somebody for the merits of their personality. I did

everything right, and I was left to fend for myself. I got good grades, I was a dutiful daughter, and it got me nothing. Now I need to take care of me. All of my siblings are going to have their college paid for. Mine wasn't. My siblings are all taken care of, and now I just want somebody to take care of me. My parents are angry at me for getting engaged to this guy. They want me to be normal and to be with someone my own age and in my own tax bracket, but I don't care. I have an arrangement with my fiance. He can sleep with whoever he wants as long as he gets tested.

And in exchange, he'll take care of all my finances and we'll have two kids. After which, he'll pay for me to get a voluntary hysterectomy. I won't have to work and I'll only have to do the cooking because a housekeeper will complete the cleaning. It's eat or be eaten. Kill or be killed out in the world. I don't plan on being a sheep when the wolf comes, but rather the fox that slinks back into the hole as the farm falls apart. I've been selfless for too long. It's time for me to

think about me. Also, down in the comments we have an interesting exchange. Someone says, you should probably consider what happens when the gravy train runs out. In ten years, after two kids, he'll replace you with the next 20 year old. OP replies, if he does, he can kiss his inheritance goodbye. The whole point of the marriage is to meet the qualifications for his inheritance. One of the conditions is that he loses two thirds of his inheritance if he divorces me, which is why I'm okay with him sleeping with whomever he wants. Then someone asks, why is his inheritance riding on his marriage to you? And OP replies, it's one of his father's stipulations.

He has to be married and have one child to receive his inheritance. My soon to be father-in-law really wants grandchildren before he dies. He's a very sweet man in his late 70s. And then beneath that there's a bunch of people discussing the legality of this will and whether or not it's actually enforceable, which is silly because we have no idea which country this is in. So what's valid in one country may not be valid in another country, so who knows. Our next Reddit post is from BellaBella. He chose the rockstar life over his infant daughter and fiance, and he thinks that he

did nothing wrong. He had it all, a devoted fiance who swooned over him, a perfect baby girl, a comfortable apartment that I paid for while he was out of work. I paid all the bills while I balanced childcare and a full-time job so that he could pursue his dreams of becoming a rock star. He's a very talented drummer. He promised that once his band hit it big, his baby girl in love would want for nothing ever again.

He quit drinking the day that I got pregnant and was more motivated and productive than ever. It looked like he was really going places with his new band. But after I gave birth, he grew distant. He started drinking again. He stopped coming home at night. He lost his side gig that was supposed to help pay for the bills. And he complained about having to watch the baby on occasion so that I could focus on housework. I was a single mother long before I got the news. The band went on tour a few times while I stayed at home. It took a couple more months for him to come clean after he was pressured by some of the

friends that he was bragging to. Turns out, he was banging the lead singer and the bassist while on tour, both young, beautiful women living their rockstar life with him. I was numb when I found out. He said that he didn't want this to get between him and his family. I told him that the only way this was going to work was if he found a new band to follow his dreams with. He chose the band. I chose to protect my sanity, my daughter, and my heart. Now he's homeless. Blackout drunk every chance he gets.

He does ask to visit his daughter once in a while, and he does sort of. He comes over to shower and sleep on the couch about once a week. He tells me none of this would have happened if I were famous. That I'll regret kicking him out over his stupid lust. As a quick aside here, OP keeps referring to the woman in the story as SHE and I thought that OP was talking about herself in like an artistic way so I was changing SHE got screwed over to I got screwed over but it turns out that OP was actually talking about her friend so I'm sorry about that mistake and I'll continue the story.

She's my best friend. She doesn't have time to lament what she's lost. She just has to keep moving forward for her sweet princess. She doesn't want me to lash out or call him out, so I took her to Costco and bought her diapers and essentials. And now I'm venting here anonymously just to tell you all. If you already have everything that money can't buy, why throw it all away just for a chance at fame? I really like this top comment from Gnomes in blankets. None of this would have happened if he was famous already.

Nah, he would have just screwed even more women. Our next reddit post is from throwaway. Background. My older sister did a student exchange program when she was in college. She liked it so much that she ended up staying there. Eventually she met someone. They have a child who's 8 years old now and they were planning on getting married. However, their relationship fell apart before the wedding happened.

My sister wanted to move back here and bring her child with her. I always thought that if a baby had a parent with US citizenship, it automatically made the baby a citizen no matter where in the world the baby was born. But that's not true. Since my sister and her child's father aren't married, and my sister hasn't been physically present in the US for years before their child was born, it means their child is NOT automatically a citizen. Their child could get US citizenship, but that would require them to, one, be allowed

to enter the country legally as an immigrant, and two, For them to be in physical and legal custody of my sister. This is where the problem is. Their child is a citizen of her father's country and the court there won't let my sister have custody or bring their child here. My sister keeps trying to appeal but the court says that the current country is the child's home and their child has no ties to the US and has never even been here. So my sister has no right to remove the child from home and their child has no ties to the US and has never even been here. So my sister has no right to remove the child from their home country. The courts also say that free healthcare and a better standard of living means that their child should stay there and also it's safer there than here.

My sister has hired lawyers in both countries. She's gone to politicians in both countries. She's had all kinds of consultations with experts in international law. And no matter where she turns, the law is against her and her ex says the child will never come to America until they're 18 and they can decide for themselves. So these are her choices. She can either stay in the other country where her ex has full legal and physical custody and her sister would have visitation, not 50% but close. If she went this route, she would also be able to apply for citizenship in that country. Or she could move back to the US and visit her child once or twice a year.

To help my sister pay for her huge legal bills, my parents remortgaged their house. It was basically paid off, but now they're underwater on it. They gave her their entire savings as well. My mom didn't work after my sister and I were born, but she's had to get a job as a cashier because of my parents' new financial situation. My dad won't be able to retire now. They're looking into social assistance because of how bad things are. I'm terrified that something will happen that'll make their situation worse, like an accident or an illness because of how bad things are. I'm terrified that something will happen that'll make their situation worse, like an accident or an illness because of how bad the situation is. Even after all this, they're still hell-bent on helping my sister. I don't have the money to look after them if

anything goes wrong. I'm a phlebotomist. I don't have piles of money lying around to help my parents and even now, they're still giving my sister money. My sister is massively in debt. Before now, neither my sister nor my parents asked me for money. But now that my parents and my sister have found out that I'm taking a vacation, they want me to cancel it and give the money to my sister. I finished my training in 2020 and the last four years in healthcare with COVID

have been so stressful. I haven't had more than 3 days off in a row since I started my job. I'm going on a Viking cruise and I've been looking forward to it for over a year. I do not want to cancel it. I currently don't have any debt, but they're pressuring me to go into debt from my sister. My parents have visited my sister's child, they've visited the other country, and they regularly do video calls and phone calls. But I think that my parents and my sister are still in denial about the situation. When I said that I'm not canceling my cruise or going into debt to help my sister, all three of them got so angry. My sister lost it on me and my parents backed her up and said

they were disappointed in me. Besides my sister's child, the three of them are my only family. But my parents and my sister won't talk to me unless it's to tell me how angry they are. It just sucks that they won't talk even though I know that I'm right and I won't change my mind. OP, your sister is absolutely delusional. Even if your sister had all the money in the world, how does she expect to convince a court that an eight-year-old child who has citizenship in, I don't know, Sweden and has grown up in Sweden for the past eight years and has legal guardianship under a Swedish parent should go live in the U.S.? That doesn't make any sense!

What is she talking about? Her kid literally hasn't even been to the U.S. I don't even understand what the lawyers are saying. Are they just taking her money and just, well, thanks for the US. I don't even understand what the lawyers are saying. Are they just taking her money and just, well, thanks for the paycheck. Anyways, OP, sorry this happened to you because your family seems pretty sucky. Well, not sucky to your sister. They're bending over backwards for your sister, but they're sucky for you. Our next Reddit post is from Dry Donut. Last week I caught my husband Jack cheating on me with his step-sister Claire. I went

out with a friend last Saturday and I planned to stay at her house. Jack didn't want to be alone all night, so he said that he would just go hang out with his step-sister. They've always been close and they ended up going to a bar. I was feeling unwell and just wanted my bed, so I decided to get an Uber and head home. I was not expecting to walk in on them passionately hugging on the couch. I literally threw up on the floor by the front door. They told me they were drunk and it just kinda happened. I screamed at them both to leave.

Jack refused to leave and refused to sleep on the couch, so I ended up leaving anyways and went back to my friends. I'm still in shock that he actually slept with Claire. I think I'm gonna file for divorce. I'm so in shock that he actually slept with Claire. I think I'm going to file for divorce. I'm so overwhelmed and uncomfortable. Down in the comments, someone asks, I'm curious, how long have they been step siblings? And OP replied, their parents got married when he was 10 and she was 4? No!

It makes me kind of sick that they've been in each other's lives since they were young and they could actually do this. They've always said they consider themselves full siblings so this is really disturbing. When I read this I just automatically assumed that they became step siblings at the age of like, I don't know, 16 and 20 or however the math works out. But he's known her since she was 4! That's so gross! That's like straight up just a biological sister at that point.

Our next reddit post is from BadPettyAssDaughter. I've never told anyone this, not even my husband, but it happened again tonight and I'm feeling a bit giddy because of how well it worked yet again, so I want to brag. I'm aware that I'm a piece of garbage, that's part of why I haven't told anyone. When I was little, my mother wanted to use corporal punishment on me. Not my siblings. Never my siblings. Because I was such a bad kid and she wanted my dad to hit me. My dad flat out refused and told her that if she hit me then he wouldn't be able to

stay with her because he didn't want anyone who hits kids. My dad was abused pretty badly as a kid, which is a whole other story. So instead, whenever my mom was mad at me, she would give me spicy food to eat even though I hated it and it made me sick. Like full on stomach cramps, diarrhea, the works. She would only do it when my dad was at work, which was most nights during dinner. And whenever I asked for something else to eat, she would break down and cry over how much time she spent on my food and don't I love her, guilting me into hurting myself.

Well, when I turned 16, I was supposed to start taking over more of the chores in the house, including cooking dinner twice a week. My mother hates pasta. She hates it. It's a texture thing and she claims it's always slimy. One brilliant night when I was 16, after my father began working morning shifts, I was mad at her for screaming at me earlier in the day and I realized that I could do something about it.

Ever since that night, one of the only meals I've cooked for my mother is pasta. I load it with sauce. And sometimes I make things like baked spaghetti because she hates the way the top of it looks. Whenever she tried to turn it down, I would put on the waterworks and shake and look at the table. You've always eaten it before. What did I do wrong? Are you mad at me, mom? And because either my dad or my husband or other people whose opinion she actually cares about is there, she's never called me out. I'm 26 years old and I intend to do this for every meal that we share or until she cuts me off.

I'm not going to be seen as the bad guy here for not keeping the family together. I honestly don't care if this makes me a bad guy. My mom sucks and this is my pettiest form of revenge. Watching her try to keep a straight face while choking down chicken alfredo is the highlight of my week. The extra funny thing about this post is down in the comments people are giving OP cooking tips on how to make their pasta extra extra slimy. Our next reddit post is from NoAlimoniNo. I got good news today.

In our state, South Carolina, a person cannot receive alimony if they committed adultery. So I won't have to pay my husband a dime. Two months ago, my husband told me that he was leaving me. He's been having an affair. The other woman is a year younger than our 22-year-old son. My husband is 44 years old. My husband said that he was moving out and he rented an apartment near where the other woman was living. In our state, to get a no-fault divorce, the couple has to live in separate residences for one year before a divorce can be granted.

I decided to see a divorce lawyer because I knew that my husband had already retained one even though a year hadn't passed yet. The lawyer I consulted said that the law forbids someone from getting alimony if they committed adultery. No exceptions. Also, I'm able to file for divorce because if you file on the grounds of adultery, you don't need to live separately for a year. So I can file immediately.

I also learned that adultery can affect the division of assets and if he spent our money on her, it could cost him. I have proof of the adultery. My husband gave it to me himself. My lawyer says that I have more than enough proof. If it wasn't for this law, I would end up owing him thousands of dollars a month. And I might have even been ordered to pay lifetime alimony because we've been married for 24 years and there is an income disparity. My income is about 4 times what his is. My husband also doesn't know about the adultery law. After a string of bad days, this was welcome news. So what do you think the odds are that the 21 year old girl is going to stick around

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