rSlash - r/Relationships My Aunt Tried to Seduce Me

Episode Date: April 6, 2026

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About six years ago, my brother met a woman online from another country. He flew to see her and secretly married her without telling any of us. Over time, we accepted it because we love him. From the first time I met her, she made me uncomfortable. Her behavior was always inappropriate and sexual. She talks to me about my brother in graphic ways, makes sexual comments, and once took off her bra and threw it at me saying she likes women too. My brother yelled at her that time, but otherwise this kind of behavior is usually ignored.

She also regularly puts people down, tries to embarrass others, posts unflattering photos of me online, and creates tension everywhere she goes. I've tolerated it over the years because I love my brother and wanted peace in the family. This past Christmas, I went home for three weeks. My brother and his wife came, along with my other brother and my 18-year-old son. For context, I escaped an abusive marriage abroad years ago. Because of legal restrictions, my son couldn't leave that country until really. This Christmas was the first time that he had ever met my family in person.

It meant everything to me. From the moment my sister-in-law arrived, her behavior was exhausting and disruptive. She insulted my brother, controlled plans, made sexual comments constantly, and acted selfishly. One night, at 2 a.m., she came into my bedroom and started playing cards over me while I was in the bed trying to sleep. This is normal behavior for her. yes, my brother acts like this is all normal. After they left, my son told me how uncomfortable she's made him the entire time. He said that she told him to visit her house so he could hook up

with her married friends. She said she wanted to twerk on him, make videos together, and then show his girlfriend to upset her. This is my son's aunt. He asked me not to say anything because he didn't want to upset his uncles. A few days ago, while on a video call with my son, this conversation came up, and my son's girlfriend told me that my sister-in-law rubbed my son's thigh and back. He hadn't told me that part because he was embarrassed. I completely broke down. I told my father and other brother. Their response was to tell me to slow down and not say anything yet. That hurt deeply. I already come from a family where I feel minimized and gaslit. They even made comments like I'm acting like my mom to hurt me. I called my married brother while crying and upset. I admit that I spoke emotionally and strongly. I accused his wife of inappropriate

behavior and used harsh words. Instead of concern, I got defensiveness and yelling. Now, everyone is acting like none of this is real and that I'm being dramatic, that his girlfriend made it all up because she's jealous and that I've broken our family. I'm a mother. My child was made uncomfortable by a grown woman in a position of trust. My brother said that his wife never cheated. But that's irrelevant. Her behavior is inappropriate, patterned, and unacceptable. I do not want her around my son again.

Now my family says I've broken everything. My brothers are angry. I feel isolated, devastated, and blamed. I even feel guilty. I genuinely don't know what to do next. How do you move forward when your child was crossed emotionally and your family refuses to take it seriously or you? I admit that I acted rashly and used harsh language, but I'm his mom, and it was almost an out-of-body

experience. My family is everything to me. O.P., well, this is pretty easy. You have a responsibility to protect your child. Even though, you know, you can't technically call him a child when he's 18, he's still your son. He came to you for help. You have a responsibility to help him. Clearly, the rest of your family is not interested in helping him. They're only interested in excusing the inappropriate behavior of the aunt. So do what you got to do. You're either going to alienate your family or alienate your son. I hope you make the right choice. Our next Reddit post is from Apprehensive Yak. I'm a 35-year-old woman and my husband is 36. We've been married for 10 years and have two boys, ages 7 and 5. I honestly don't know what to think anymore. About three months ago, my husband started

sending me really nasty messages while he was at work. At first, it was just mean comments. stuff like telling me I'm lazy, that I'm a terrible mother, and that he regrets marrying me. It was completely out of nowhere. The weird part is that when he would come home from work, he'd act completely normal. Like nothing happened. He'd kiss me, ask what's for dinner, play with the kids. The first time it happened, I thought maybe he was having a bad day at work. But the messages kept coming.

Sometimes he'd send them during the day. Sometimes late at night if he was working overtime. They got worse too. saying things like I'm useless, that I'm lucky he hasn't left me yet, that no one else would want me. The first few times I confronted him, he acted confused, like genuinely confused. He would say things like, what messages? Or you must be misunderstanding something. I literally showed him the texts on my phone, and he just stared at them and said he didn't send them claiming he lost his phone. Which yeah, he did, but he had a new one and was still texting and calling

from that number. I know it sounds ridiculous, but he didn't look guilty. He looked confused, almost scared. I thought maybe he was gaslighting me, but it was such a weird way to do it because he never got angry in person. Finally, about a month ago, I snapped. I showed him a bunch of the messages at once and told him I couldn't keep living like this. I told him if he hated me so much, he should just say it to my face. He kept insisting he didn't send them and said maybe someone was messing with us. At that point, I was done. I packed clothes, grabbed the kids, and went to stay with my parents who live in the same state. They were amazing and helped me so much, and I never felt luckier to have a close family. Since then, the messages have continued with the same number and

the same horrible tone. Things like, running to mommy's house just proves my point. You're pathetic. You'll come crawling back eventually. I sent screenshots back to the same number, and still, he swore again that he wasn't sending them. He was just saying that he lost his phone at work and had to get a replacement. But he still had the same number and when he would show me his phone, I couldn't see the messages. I just think that he's deleting them though. He said someone must have found the phone and was messing with me. Last week though, I let the kids stay with him for a couple of weeks since he's still their dad and they miss him. He still denies everything, says he never sent those messages and he thinks someone is using his old phone. Meanwhile, the texts haven't stopped. At this point, I didn't even know what to believe anymore.

Either he's lying to my face or something really weird is going on. Has anyone dealt with something similar? I feel like I'm going insane and don't know what to believe. We genuinely had the most perfect relationship before all this, and I don't know what to do. I'm scared I'm breaking my family apart for no good reason, but some of the texts have been so horrible I can't even include them here. Then, Opie posted an update. The text memorandum, messages kept getting worse, so I went to the cops. At the station, they were able to track the missing phone. The cops actually gave me the location, and the officer who helped was very nice. The address was very similar and quite close to our house, so I decided to drive past to see where I knew it

from. Turns out, I had been to one of my husband's workplace parties there, and the female co-worker that lives there is someone that I'm actually quite close to. I told my husband that I knew one of his co-workers had his old phone, and how I was disgusted that his female co-worker was ever someone that I considered a friend. By this point, I was absolutely breaking down. When I told him this, he looked shocked, so I asked, why was his phone at her house? And how did she know your password? He just said that maybe she took it from work, and I don't know how she knew my password. But after reading some of the comments from the Reddit post, I was done with these playing down excuses. That answer didn't sit right with me at all. Something about the whole situation

felt off. The messages had been too personal. Whoever was sending them knew things that only someone very close to us would have known. So I pushed harder. Turns out his co-worker, a 30-year-old woman, wasn't just a co-worker. She's been having an affair with my husband for over a year. He tried to claim it wasn't serious, but I was sick of him making me feel like I'm overreacting. I know. I people said this was a possibility, but I could just never bring myself to believe it. I've never felt so betrayed. Everything made sense. She knew details about our relationship, our house, our routines, the kids, things that would be impossible for a stranger to know, all because my husband was telling her everything. I don't know exactly how she ended up with his old phone. He claims he lost it at work

and thinks she took it. I honestly don't know what to believe anymore. All I know is that the messages kept coming from that device, and they just kept getting worse. Who knows how far she would have gone? Part of me thinks there's no way he didn't realize. The messages were constant. It's hard for me to believe that he was completely unaware of what she was doing. Maybe I'm wrong, but my trust in him is completely gone. At this point, I've officially decided to start the process of filing for divorce.

This isn't the man that I thought I married, and after everything that happened, I don't even feel safe around him anymore. For now, I'm staying with my parents and the kids. I don't trust him around them right now, and he seemed accepting over this because of the affair, and he still has to work. The fact that his co-worker smiled to my face, sat in our home,

and acted like my friend, and was secretly involved with my husband for over a year, and then spent time tormenting me, pretending me to be him, is honestly one of the most disturbing things I've ever experienced, and I still can't even wrap my head around it. I still have this horrible feeling that there's more to the story than either of them is admitting. All I know is that I've lost a lot of trust for him, and no amount of counseling could change that.

We're done. Well, at least we now know why the text messages always came when O.P.'s husband was at work. It's because the co-worker had to know where the husband was, because obviously the co-worker couldn't have known if the husband was actively having a conversation with the wife. So if the messages came while the husband was talking to the wife, then the wife would know, you know, the husband doesn't sending the messages. So the cheating woman had to send messages when the husband was at work. Our next Reddit post is from Professional Quail. I'm a 32-year-old woman and my boyfriend is 34.

He blew all of our savings on a really dumb investment. We've been together six years and we have a four-year-old boy. So technically, we got the money in the first place because of me. But because his names were on some papers and not mine, the money was given to him. We agreed the money was not to be touched, like at all. We need to move, and that's what it would be used for. I trusted him. At some point between when we got the money and now, he invested all of it.

Thousands of dollars, gone. He didn't say a word to me until now. He got hurt at work and hasn't been working. We have a lot we need to do in order to move. I felt like he was just uninterested in trying to do anything. I told him if that's the case, we can just work on ourselves. He gave me a sob story where he slipped in that he didn't have the money anymore. Once I realized what he said, I stopped him and asked why he never said anything before.

He said he didn't know how to bring it up. I'm actively searching for new homes, thinking we have a good start of funds, especially since he's not working right now. I had no idea the money was gone. He has no backup plan. And he's still gambling money away after many, many conversations. I truly don't think he cares about anyone other than himself. He was supposed to be covering rent.

He hasn't since before he got hurt. So a few weeks ago, he asked me to pay like three months' worth of back rent. I did so only because I thought we had that money. Paying that rent messed up a lot of what I was working on. I don't think he understands or cares. He can't see this isn't only about him. that we have a child to take care of. I have my own stuff. I refuse to save him every time he does something stupid. This is not the first time. He has no money and he can't work. I tried to have

empathy for him. That's why I've done all that I have. I have nothing left to give. When your partner falls, you're supposed to be there to catch them, but how much is too much? I can't see him as anything more than a liar. I can't trust him. I don't know how to move on. I don't have time to save what I need. again. I don't have family I can go to. He will most likely give me custody of our son. I'll gladly allow that, but I need a place for our son too. I have a month to figure everything out. Well, O.P., considering he doesn't even realize that he's in the wrong, that means this is your future, forever as long as you're with him. But hey, look on the bright side, O.P. Whatever he's investing in, it probably isn't as bad as the guy who spent, I forget, like $80,000 on a wheel of

cheese. No, I think it was 40K. Unless O.P. is that guy's girlfriend. Our next Reddit post is from Welder Deep. I'm a 28-year-old woman, and my 28-year-old male partner gave me an ultimatum. Him or my birds. I don't know what to do. I've been in a relationship with my partner for about three years. I love him a lot, and I genuinely imagined a future with him. We moved in together fairly quickly, and we've been inseparable since. The problem is my budgies, which are small parrots. A year ago, we decided to get pets. I really wanted cats, but he was averse due to all the hair. And he thought birds would be really cool.

I had budgies as a child, and I knew how to take care of them, so we decided to get those instead. It's been a tough start. I've cared for them through illness, vet visits, special diets, etc. One of them, gutsy, has acquired health issues recently, a broken beak, and requires special food and regular checkups every two to three weeks with an avian vet. I'm paying and taking care of everything, food, toys, vet, meds, etc. My boyfriend has never really bonded with the birds. He told me he feels uncomfortable in our living room because the birds are there,

and they make noises when he plays guitar. He says he gets nothing out of them emotionally, and that they only stress him. He imagined them to be like those Instagram and YouTube shorts where they fly to you and hang out with you. They are somewhat tame, but not to the degree that he expected. We had a long discussion yesterday, and it ended with him basically saying either I rehomed the birds or we end the relationship. What makes this harder is that he also told me that he cannot promise the relationship will work long term, even if I do give them up, because we've had some conflicts recently, and he's

unsure about the future. I tried to propose compromises. For example, I even suggested renting a small second-hand apartment, which I might have access to through a friend's family, and keeping the birds there, as to you know, as well as turning it into my office. That way, he wouldn't have to live with them. But he said that would be a step backwards because it would feel like I was moving out

and he doesn't want that either. Because it just feels like a slow breakup. The thing is, if I give up the birds and the relationship still ends later, I would feel horrible about myself for abandoning animals that depend on me. I don't know if I'd be able to forgive myself. I was thinking of going back to school to become a vet.

My love for animals runs very deep. But at the same time, I love him deeply, and the thought of losing the relationship hurts a lot too. I would lose everything. Him, the future we might have had, my home, I'd have to restart from zero. So I feel like I'm choosing between the person I love and the animals I feel responsible for, and I don't know what to do. O.P., I think the birds are a metaphor for your relationship. The way your boyfriend views the birds, disposable and for his benefit only, is basically, basically how he views you as well. All he seems to want is some pretty convenient thing that comes when he tells them to come and, you know, does whatever he wants and treats him like a Disney

princess. So, yeah, starting over from zero when you dump someone does suck, but it sucks less than being in a bad relationship. That was our slash relationships. And if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.