rSlash - r/Relationships My BF's Batman Voice is Driving Me NUTS

Episode Date: February 16, 2025

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please go to connectsontario.ca. Welcome to r slash relationship advice, where OP discovers that his boyfriend's gravelly Batman voice isn't actually his real voice. Our next Reddit post is from throwratnax. I'm a 26 year old woman and my boyfriend is 29. We've been dating for just over 5 months now. In all other areas, things are going pretty well thus far. We've met each other's friends and I'm planning on introducing him to my family soon. My boyfriend's voice seems

to fluctuate a lot, way beyond what's normal. 99% of the time, he'll speak in this heavy, guttural voice that sounds like an action hero or something. I know that some men have a deeper voice naturally, but my boyfriend's voice is far deeper than anyone else I know in real life. It's practically a growl. But as we've been spending more time together, I've noticed there are certain times his voice sounds way different.

For example, a few days ago, I asked him a question in the middle of the night when he was almost asleep, and his voice sounded much more normal. Whenever he's excited or taken by surprise, he lets his other voice slip. The other voice is much higher in pitch and more nasally if that makes sense. It's nothing like the voice I associate with my boyfriend's. When we first started dating, I remember noticing that my boyfriend had a voice that was lower in pitch than average but never thought much of it. But I was watching a saved video of the two of us from a few months ago and comparing

now to then, there's been a significant drop in pitch. His voice is so gravelly now that he basically sounds like the Christian Bale Batman voice if that guy had also been a chain smoker. This didn't really seem like an issue until I was thinking about it the other day and I brought it up to my boyfriend just out of interest. What I wasn't expecting was for him to absolutely shut down, telling me to mind your business and that his voice has nothing to do with me.

Obviously, this relationship is new, but he's never flipped out at me like that before. He's actually usually a pretty good communicator. How do I handle this? I don't really understand the issue here or what's getting him upset, but I get the feeling it's something we need to talk about if it's making him react like this. I don't know why he put on a voice that's so much deeper than his natural one, especially considering nobody really talks like he does in real life. OP, if I had to guess, either your boyfriend is insecure or he's watched stupid YouTube slash podcast videos about how alpha males have deep resonant voices, and this is some attempt to alpha max his voice

or whatever it is people call it nowadays. Also, down in the comments, a couple of people have linked a very similar story from r slash in my the butthole, which I'll just go ahead and read. Am I the butthole for laughing at my boyfriend's voice? I've been with my boyfriend for two years. I'm 23 and he's 26, after we met online. We were long distance, but he only texted me, and at a point I told him that I couldn't continue without a video call to ensure that he is who he says.

He says that he was insecure about his voice on the phone, kept putting it off until I gave him an ultimatum. We had our video call, I told him I loved his voice, and we haven't had a problem with calling since. His voice was raspy, like strained vocal cords. So I figured that was why he was self-conscious. When I met him, it was the same thing. Deep, but raspy and hoarse. It was kinda sexy to me, and I made sure so he knew he didn't feel insecure. After we met, we saw each other every other weekend alternating

drives, until we got a place together in my town 6 months ago. He met my family and friends. I've only met one of his friends because he was his roommate. He says his other friends aren't really close and he has a strained relationship with his family. His mom has been calling him since he moved, but he always ignores them. I don't want to go into detail why he didn't want to talk with her, but I eventually talked him into giving it a try. Earlier this week, he actually took the phone outside and called her back, but asked me for some privacy. They talked for almost 3 hours. When he finally came in, he looked happy. I asked him how it went, and he immediately answered, really well, but I swear he sounded like a Muppet character. It was not my boyfriend's voice by a long shot.

He went from a deep, raspy voice to Mickey Mouse. I sincerely thought he was joking, so I laughed. He started a coughing fit, but I thought that he was laughing too. Nope. He asked what I was laughing at, and I told him whatever that impression was, legitimately thinking he was making some weird joke. The absolute difference in voices made it sound like it was out of a cartoon. He got pissed at me and went back to his regular gravelly voice, I guess, and told me his voice

cracked from talking too much. Well, today, when he was ignoring his mom's phone call again and when I asked why, he got quiet. After trying to figure out what was wrong with him, he finally opened up that he's been faking his voice our entire relationship to the point that even he believed it. And when he talked to his mom, his natural voice just came out and I embarrassed him. I don't know what to think. I both feel like a butthole for laughing at him and like it's not my fault that he lied

about his voice and then randomly went from The Witcher to Sesame Street. This story's kind of funny to me. I guess the closest parallel is would be like a woman who, I guess a man too for that matter, who wears makeup every single time they see their partner for two years straight and then for the first time ever they take off their makeup and the other person is like, wait, that's what you look like? I could see that being shocking and surprising to the other person, especially if they don't even realize their partner is wearing makeup. So I don't know, this is just kind of a funny story all around. Our next reddit post is from throwaway. I'm a 26 year old man and I found out that my father, who's 54, sexually assaulted my

24 year old girlfriend. So my girlfriend and I are very open with one another. We often play on each other's phones, and never have problems with one another going onto each other's phones. If there's something specific we don't want each other to see, we'll tell each other and respect that. We don't have anything to hide. My girlfriend has an app where she records her dreams and she's usually fine with me going on that because they're

strange and funny sometimes and make for a good conversation. But today, when I went onto that app, there was a dream of my dad being inappropriate with her and she typed out the actual sexual assault. I was really shocked. I decided to go into her messages and search for keywords and I actually found a conversation about it with her best friend. I read the whole thing and I'm so disgusted by my father. I'm so angry. She never told me because she didn't want to ruin mine and my father's relationship, but this is such an important thing. I'm not going to immediately take her side. I want to ask her and my father's relationship, but this is such an important thing. I'm not going to immediately take her side.

I want to ask her about it, but I'm scared that asking her about it will do more damage than good. I'm really stuck with what to do in this situation. Should I ask her about it or rather not? And if I do and it's true, what should I do?" Then OP posted an update. I spoke to her. We had a long, hard conversation about it.

She confirmed it happened, but couldn't voice what happened, so she asked me to read her messages with her friend. I pretended I hadn't seen them. She's deciding what she wants to do. I told her it's completely her choice, and I won't be upset if she chooses to press charges. She's asked me not to speak to my father about it yet. She wants to talk to my mother. Not to get her against my dad, but to ask if something like this has happened before. When my girlfriend is comfortable with it, I'll speak to my dad.

I don't want to make this more difficult for her, and I want to do things at her pace." Then OP posted an update. We both eventually called my mom and spoke to my mom about it. My mom was really mad and went to speak to my father about it while we were on the call. He admitted to doing it and blamed alcohol as the reason that he did it. He's been an alcoholic all my life and would often blame his alcoholism on things. My mother was obviously furious and kicked him out of the house. She told him he's not allowed to come back to the house until he's been to rehab. My girlfriend has decided not to press charges.

I've told her numerous times it's okay if she does. For now, she wants to stay away from family events that he'll be at, and she would like to cut contact with him. She says I don't have to, but I want to rather keep contact with just my mother. Maybe in the future, if he changes and sorts himself out, I'll get into contact. So where are we now? My father is in rehab sorting out his addiction, as well as seeing psychologists for his behavior. My girlfriend and I are going into counseling separately and together.

She's also going for sleep therapy due to reoccurring nightmares of the trauma. I feel so guilty that this has happened. If I had known my father was this bad, I would have never left her alone with him. I'm also paying for my mother's counseling. I'm trying my best to help my mom and my girlfriend and I'm trying to give them the best possible support I can. I'm still trying to get over the shock and guilt though. What's so disgusting about the father here is he uses his alcohol as an excuse, but to me that just makes it even more disgusting. Dude, take some responsibility!

Let's not forget, alcohol doesn't turn you into someone who assaults people, it just makes you drunk. It lowers your inhibitions, which probably means he wanted to do that in the first place. Our next reddit post is from Betrayedbywife. My wife and I are married together and have three kids, ages 11, 8, and 3. When I was in my 20s, I donated sperm, as there's a massive shortage in my country. I have always been upfront about this fact with my wife. Always.

And she's always said that she's okay with it. Fast forward to yesterday. I answer the phone to a girl who immediately starts nervously apologizing for calling me, but she had to speak with me personally. Obviously, I have no idea what the hell is going on, so I ask her to explain what she's talking about. Turns out, this girl is my daughter. I understand it's wrong to call her my daughter when I didn't raise her, but for lack of

a better word. And she just turned 18. After turning 18, she got access to my contact details as required under my country's law regarding sperm donors. She called my house last week to talk to me, and my wife picked up. Apparently, my wife told her that I wanted nothing to do with her and that she should never call this number again before hanging up. Honestly, it broke my heart to hear that the woman I loved could be so effing heartless.

So for the last week, this poor girl has been crying her eyes out trying to work up the courage to call again, and thankfully she did so when I was home. I tried to keep my calm while on the phone and reassure her that I didn't say any of that. We organized a place and time to meet, and as soon as my wife got home later that night, I blew up at her. Honestly, I've never yelled at anyone as long as I can remember, but I couldn't hold it in. Am I wrong to think that's so severely messed up of my wife to do? I honestly can't comprehend how she could say that. I'm not thinking straight, and I need some advice on how to deal with this."

Then OP posted an update. My wife texted me yesterday and said we needed to talk while I was at work. This was the first time either of us had spoken or messaged each other since the fight. I dropped our kids off at my parents' house so that we could be alone and went straight home. I'm not exactly sure what I was expecting her to say, but I genuinely hope that she would at least apologize first and foremost. Because in my opinion, she severely betrayed my trust by not only denying my agency, but also lying to me about it and then downplaying the entire ordeal.

When I get home and we sit down to talk, the first thing she says is that she forbids me from seeing this young woman. Not an apology, an ultimatum that if I went and saw her, she would kick me out of the house, which is laughable considering I own the house before marrying her. I asked her if she was serious, if she isn't even going to apologize, and she reaffirmed that she has nothing to apologize for. Yeah, okay. At that point, I remembered someone's comment in my post about how she might have done this before. I asked her if she had ever done anything like this previously

and she said no. I kept pushing her and she kept saying no. Finally, I told her that I'd already called the fertility clinic to reach out to any parents and explain what my wife had done in case they tried to contact me previously. I explained that if I find out she's done this before and doesn't come clean now, I'm divorcing her immediately. She immediately changes tune and says she's only done this one other time. Only. Damn. That ONLY infuriated me even though it's only a stupid word. Anyways, turns out another girl called a couple of years back after she turned 18 too. Her parents are lesbians, and she just wanted to meet her biological father since she doesn't have a father of her own, according to my wife, so take it with a grain of salt at this

point. I tend to believe what she's saying, as the original girl also had lesbian parents and wanted to meet me for the same reason. She wouldn't say exactly what she said to this young woman, but she did say that she made sure that she would stay away from our family. I mean, at least my wife was finally honest with me, but Jesus Christ, what a heartless thing to do. I feel like I don't even know my wife. The woman I thought I married has no empathy. She still hasn't apologized and went back to forbidding me from seeing this young woman. I explained that she no longer

has a say in the matter. Had she explained her concerns to me like an adult, I would have listened to them and taken them seriously. But by trying to deny me having any choice in the matter and by being needlessly cruel to these girls, she doesn't get a say in this anymore. I told her she has seven days to give me a genuine apology and agree to marriage counseling, or I would call a divorce lawyer. I also reaffirmed she doesn't get a say in whether I meet with this girl, but I would consider her feelings if any future kids reach out, and she doesn't effing lie about it. A few hours later, she apologized. And I say apologized in quotes because it was clearly not genuine.

But whatever, it's at least an admission of guilt. So we're going to marriage counseling and try to work through this. To be honest though, I don't think I'll ever see her the same way again, so I have doubts our marriage will last. The foundation of any marriage is trust, and I just don't see how anyone could possibly trust their partner after such a fundamental and consistent betrayal. If it happened once, you could almost try to look past it and understand their reasoning, but doing it twice and lying to you consistently means she's literally just a liar.

That's just core to her being, her identity. She's a lying, awful person. It's so scummy because not only are you being dishonest to your husband, but you're also crushing the heart of some innocent 18-year-old girl. TWICE. Our next reddit post is from FearlessCrow. My husband keeps calling me a dog murderer. We're both 29. Seven years ago, I got a call from my husband at work saying he needed his headphones and asked me to come drop them off for him at work. I brought his dog along with me to say hi.

I rolled down the window so the dog could smell outside. At a stoplight, he saw a family walking by and jumped out the window, getting hit by multiple cars. I rushed him to the vet emergency room, but he passed away on site. It was extremely traumatizing for me, and I was diagnosed with PTSD. He only outwardly blamed me for his dog's death once after it happened. It's been coming back up recently, and it's nearly an everyday thing where he calls me a dog killer.

It's not like he's processing it through therapy He never has so it's not like it's coming back up there. This is out of the blue He keeps talking to our current dog saying things like don't go in the car with mom. She'll kill you He does stuff like that all the time blaming me for losing his things, his mental health, financial situations. We know he needs therapy, but when he went for a year, he wouldn't talk to the doctor. I am so tired of him breaking me down, but he's my husband. Is this a deal breaker? I feel like this is something you'd get a divorce over, but he also told me that I'm the only thing keeping him alive. He'd likely commit if I left him. Should I leave him or try to work this out with him?

So the guy hates you and blames you for killing his dog, and he also blames you for losing things and mental health and financial situations, but also he can't live without you and he would die if you left. Okay. Sounds like he wants to keep you around, but he wants to destroy your self-esteem to make you as dependent on him as possible. OP, I don't think you're a partner. I think you're a stress ball, something he squeezes the life out of to make himself feel

better. Doing this after seven years, I mean, don't get me wrong, losing a dog is awful. I would feel a lot of emotions if that happened to my dog. But yo, seven years have passed and he's reminding her of this on a daily basis? Huh? OP, you gotta move on. Get a new man and a new dog. That was r slash relationships and if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.