rSlash - r/Relationships My Cousin is in Love with Me

Episode Date: November 17, 2024

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calling me names and belittling me. My husband pulled my brother aside and had a talk with him and the insult stopped. An hour or so later, we were standing around talking with some friends and family members and my brother came up to me and told me that I'm a whore. His exact words were, You know that you're an effing whore, right? He said it loud enough for almost everyone at the party to hear. All I saw was my husband next to me look at me.

Then I felt my husband push me to the side, stepping in front of me, and the next thing I know, my brother is out cold on the ground with blood on his face. All I heard is my mother yelling and my husband saying, You do not talk to my wife like that. I warned you already. Now before I continue, my husband didn't hurt me. He didn't push me hard or anything like that. I don't know how to describe it.

It was like a push that someone gives you when they're trying to pass by. I went like one step back is all. I'm not mad at my husband. I'm mad at my brother who was demeaning me the whole day, insulting me, belittling me. I don't know where this came from. He's never talked to me like that or to anyone that I know of. The bigger problem I have is that I have to choose. My husband or my parents.

My parents are pissed and have given me an ultimatum. I either leave my husband and divorce him, or they cut me off completely. My husband doesn't care at all that they're mad. The only thing that he's mad about is that he only got to punch my brother once. I love my husband and I don't want to lose him, but I don't want to lose my parents either. They've supported me through a lot and have always been there for me. I know they're serious as this is the first time they've ever

issued me an ultimatum. They also threaten my husband with an assault charge, but he doesn't care and he welcomed them to do it. I'm stuck between a decision that will change my life forever and I'm panicking. I've received messages from friends and other family members that have given me support and condemned my husband, but they're also leaning more on the support side. Then OP posted an edit. I'm choosing my husband. I've never questioned that, but I also don't want to lose my family. I'm very family oriented and my family to me is everything.

I want to find a solution where I can keep them both. I'm quite fond of this top post from Cultural Shape. He says, Ask your parents why they think you should choose them when they've already made it clear they'll choose your brother no matter what he does to you. Right? I'm definitely on the husband's side here. What I like so much about this is the husband handled this pretty much as fairly as he could.

He took the brother aside and is like, hey, don't talk to my wife like that or there will be consequences. Then when the guy talked to his wife like that again, there was a consequence. Setting a boundary, then enforcing the boundary. This husband's a keeper. So OP, I'm glad you're choosing the one person in this story who actually stuck up for you. Also, OP posted an update.

My parents invited me over to have a talk with them, but they wanted me to come alone as they didn't want my husband at their house. My husband refused to let me go alone and said that if he isn't going, then he won't allow me to go. He basically said that if I go alone, then they'll all just pile on me and he won't let that happen, so we went together. My parents weren't happy to see him and my mother wanted to say something until my husband told her that he isn't here for them, he's there for me. And if he's

forced to leave, then I will leave with him. I agreed with him. Reluctantly, they agreed. My brother was there as well. He has a bro- a broken nose and chipped teeth and he refused to look at me or my husband. He just kept looking at the ground when we were talking. Apparently what happened with my brother is that he broke up with his girlfriend a month ago. According to him, the reason that he had a go at me that weekend is because my perfect life with my husband kept popping up on his feeds and he got jealous.

Everything on my social media is with my husband. Also, he overheard that me and my husband are currently trying to have a baby and that just made everything worse in his head. His life was falling apart and mine was going perfectly and I was trying to have what he wanted with his ex. My brother said that he didn't take my husband seriously when he pulled him aside and my husband warned him. I seriously don't know why he went after me because nothing he said was true in any sense and I did ask my brother why he said those things. He refused to answer me. I asked him why he called me a whore because he knows that my husband was my first everything,

but my brother refused to answer. I asked him if me trying to have a baby with my husband makes me a whore because it requires intercourse and my brother just left the room. I asked my parents why they didn't step in and tell my brother to leave or stop. My dad said that he wanted to, but my mother told him to leave my brother B because he wasn't actually hurting anyone. And as for the ultimatum, they wanted to protect my brother. I asked,

what about me? And they were silent. All my father said was that the ultimatum was my mother's idea and he just went along with it. My husband did apologize to my parents, but refused to apologize to my brother. When my mother asked him to apologize to my brother, he outright said no. He won't apologize for standing up for me and my brother got what he deserved and he was warned and didn't listen. Yo, every single sentence I read about the husband in this story makes me like the husband more. My mother said it still doesn't excuse him for hitting my brother. Then my husband asked my dad what he would do if someone called his wife a whore. My father said that he would have a talk with that person, but would never hit someone. My husband laughed and told my dad that he's

a weak-willed, spineless man if he allows someone to demean his wife like that. That got my mom right in the face and I could see that she was getting angry. That's when I told my husband it's time to leave. I told my parents that I'll be going low contact with them and the ultimatum they gave me broke the trust I had in them. I told my parents that I'll be going low contact with them, and the ultimatum they gave me broke the trust I had in them. I understand they wanted to protect my brother, but in doing that, they hurt me. This seemed to take all the anger out of my mother. They asked if I'd be cutting them out completely, and I told them that's up to them.

I don't want anything to do with my brother at the moment, because he can't even apologize for what he said to me. I told them if they can respect my wishes then we'll see. When we got up to leave, my husband went over to my parents and actually greeted them politely but told my dad that it's time to grow a backbone. Oh man. I don't know what I saw but I think it was shame in my mother's face because my dad looked at my mother and she looked away from him.

So this is where we are at the moment. My husband on the way back home apologized for possibly escalating things, but told me that it was time someone told my dad the truth. He said that whatever punishment comes, he'll take and deal with any fallout, and that I don't need to worry or stress about anything. Yo, this husband! I am... I'm horny for this husband, you guys.

I'm... I like to think I'm pretty straight, but this guy's turning me on! Every single word out of your husband's mouth is straight facts. As I was reading this and the dad was like, well, I didn't want to give an ultimatum, but your mom wanted to, so that's what we did. I was thinking, wow, this guy needs to grow a spine. And then that's exactly what the husband said.

So OP, you found a real keeper here. OP, good luck with trying for a baby. Our next Reddit post is from somecase. I'm a 29 year old guy, and my girlfriend is 28. We've been together almost three years. 99% of the time, we're great. She's funny and smart, and we have a lot of shared interests. We've been together almost three years. 99% of the time we're great.

She's funny and smart and we have a lot of shared interests. But every time we visit her family, I start doubting everything. They are very wealthy, which by itself isn't a bad thing. But they're also very fixated on being rich and have a habit of placing the monetary value of things and people over everything else. I come from a very middle class background. I have a good education and a decent career that I really enjoy, but I am definitely not

rich. Because of this, they view me as a loser. For example, yesterday we made the two hour drive to her parents in my new-ish Honda. When we got there, her mom immediately ordered me to park the car behind the house so the neighbors wouldn't see it. She was furious that we didn't bring my girlfriend's Land Rover, which they bought for her as a birthday gift this year. My girlfriend doesn't like to drive on long trips and I'm not allowed to drive the Land Rover, per her parents, so we brought my Honda. My girlfriend's dad has never spoken to me directly.

Even when she introduced me the first time, he turned to my girlfriend and said, what does he do? So we went in the house and I gave her dad the usual, hi, Merry Christmas, and he gave me the usual disinterested glance. Another example, last year I made the mistake of bringing a bottle of wine. It was a $25 bottle, which was pricey for me, and I even had the wine store lady help me pick it out. My girlfriend's mom told me to put it in the kitchen, and they didn't open it while

we were there, and she later admitted to my girlfriend that they had re-gifted it to their housekeeper because it was gas station hooch. We managed to get through the day yesterday without much drama, except for the car thing, which I would normally consider a win. But today, I kept thinking about the whole situation with her family and wondering if I'm really willing to deal with these people for the rest of my life. My girlfriend and I have tossed around the possibility of getting married more than once, but I know they'll never accept me. If we get married, I'll have to see them a lot more than once a year.

My girlfriend has given up trying to defend me to her parents and just ignores their BS most of the time, but I can tell that it bothers her too. They bankroll a big chunk of her lifestyle and I think she's worried that they'll cut her off if she pushes too hard. They've threatened to over other things. So not to sound like a butthole, but am I wasting my time? Is this relationship doomed? Then OP posted an update.

So my post blew up overnight and made the front page, and my girlfriend saw it. I didn't give too many details, but she still figured out that it was me. So the next day, I was unaware of this and I got the dreaded, we need to talk text. Yep, all caps. And I was like, well, I'm dead. My girlfriend was feeling hurt and angry when she sent the text. But she said that she had time to read through some of the comments and think about things and she wasn't as upset when she came to the apartment later.

She even brought food. Still, she said that I had no right to tell the whole internet about our relationship problems and I agreed and apologized. I should point out that she knows that I'm writing this update. We talked for a long time. She said that she knows her parents treat people like garbage and that they control her and her siblings with money. It's partially a cultural thing, according to her.

My girlfriend was born and raised in the US, but her parents grew up rich in a different country and moved here a long time ago. She said they had a hard time assimilating with upper class Americans and they flaunt their wealth because they're socially insecure. On top of that, she told me that her mom was and is emotionally and physically abusive. She said that her mom used to slap her for talking back. And once, she cut up all of my girlfriend's clothes and bidding after an argument over her going out with some high school friends. My girlfriend said that she's still afraid of her mom and has a hard time standing up to her.

She also got very little affection from her parents growing up. It seems like that was all replaced with material things. So to her, being cut off from her family financially is the same as being cut off emotionally. All that being said, my girlfriend doesn't expect me to visit her parents again. She was very apologetic about how they treated me and also about not calling them out. She said that she was really hurt when I said that I thought that I was wasting my time in the earlier post, and I said that I was sorry and I am sorry. I was raging a little when I wrote that.

I asked her about maybe letting her parents cut her off financially and living on her own. I don't mean that she has to go no contact, but their relationship should be based on something more than money. We've been talking about moving in together for a while now and she actually suggested that she move out of her townhouse, which her family pays for, and into my apartment. We spent hours yesterday going through her finances and coming up with a budget. It's going to be a big change in how she lives and thinks about things. So thanks Reddit for telling me to grow some balls and talk to my

girlfriend about her family situation. I did and I think things are going to get better. So on the original post, this top comment from Puglife, the problem isn't that they're rich, the problem is that they're a-holes. Our next Reddit post is from Sue Star. I'm a 36 year old woman and I recently started talking more to my distant cousin, a 32 year old guy who has Down syndrome. I found out from his mom that he follows my posts on social media and draws inspiration from them.

I suffered an accident a few years ago that left me disabled and I post about life as a differently abled person. I gave my cousin my phone number hoping that chatting would be a good experience for the both of us. He writes to me daily quite disturbing messages. He says that he constantly mourns the friends that I lost in the crash, that he needs me, that he wants to save me, that he wants to avenge me, he misses me, and he wants to live with me.

I talk to him and to his mom and he seems to be very well taken care of. I thought he might be abused, but both of his parents are really caring and take him on walks, take him to school, he looks very well, and there's no sign of anything being off in the family. He seems to have developed an obsession for me and my accident. If I don't answer him ASAP, he tells me he's scared for my life and he feels worried sick. Please note, he barely knows me. We only met once personally and we've never been close. Most of his messages are quite dark in that he's fixated on my injuries. He asks me about the accident and when I switch the topic, he goes back to it even more intensely. If I say that I'm okay now, he says that he's not okay and he can't forget what happened to me.

Frankly, I think he might feel socially isolated and disconnected and I've become some sort of refuge for him. But everything is just very intense and I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I also can't save him or be his everything. I really need advice on how to proceed further. I've tried talking to him about other things, asking him about himself, his hobbies, his friends, but nothing works. I've asked him if he sees a therapist and he said he wants to be my therapist. I'm considering talking to my parents at this point. I'm worried about his mental health and I feel the relationship with me is doing him more harm than good. Should I tell his parents?

It sounds to me like either this guy has a crush on you, which is very inappropriate and this is his only way of connecting with you, or he just literally doesn't really know how to reach out to another human being so he's talking to you about the one thing that he knows to talk to you about, which is the accident. So I think you've got to cut this off or at least inform the parents before things start escalating. That was r slash relationships and if you like this content be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new reddit podcast episodes every single day.