rSlash - r/Relationships My dog saved me from a MURDERER, now my family wants to put her down!

Episode Date: August 2, 2020

r/Relationships_Advice In today's episode, OP is plagued by a stalker who harasses her at every turn. She eventually gets fed up and buys a huge dog for protection. Well, one night the stalker breaks into OP's house, and her dog viciously attacks the intruder and saves OP's life! After the incident, OP's family thinks that the dog is a dangerous animal that should be put to sleep. What should OP do? If you like this podcast and want to see more, follow my podcast for more daily Reddit content! 🔔 Subscribe: https://bit.ly/2E3A8i6 💬 Discord: https://discord.gg/VD6eYD3 🎧 Podcast: https://link.chtbl.com/rslash ⚓ Send me a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rslash 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rslashyt/ ♪ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@rslash0 🛒 Merch: http://bit.ly/rSlashMerch 🎁 Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/rslash Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This NBA season make every three-pointer alley-oop and buzzer-beater even more exciting with FanDuel. Download the app today to see why we're North America's number one sportsbook. 19 plus and physically located in Ontario, Camlin Tom call 1865-312-600 or visit connectcentario.ca Welcome to R-Slash, a podcast where I read the best posts from across Reddit. Today's subreddit is our slash relationship advice. So on this next post, I'm going to replace certain words with armpit hair. But suffice to say this story isn't actually about armpit hair. I have to be cautious because of YouTube

demonetization, so it's up to you to figure out what I really mean when I say armpit hair. So yesterday, my girlfriend casually asked me how I prefer her armpit hair to be groomed. She usually keeps her short, but neat. I assume she just wanted to change things up but wanted my opinion, so I answered honestly and said that I find completely shaving attractive. But in the grand scheme of things, I couldn't care less. It's not a turn off if there's hair, and that I like the way she has it now. Well, it turns out that she had a lecture today at college, she studied psychology, and the topic was on people who abuse kids.

Apparently, one of the talking points was that people in that group are attracted to the lack of body here. When she told me this, I asked her, are you seriously calling me a member of that group because I find completely shave and attractive? Can I just point out that you're 21, not 12? She basically skirted around my questions and then stormed out of my apartment when I kept pressing her on it. As she left, she called me revolting and is now ignoring my calls and text messages. What?

The... F. Honestly, I'm not even sure where to go from here. We've never had any issues, and I was planning on proposing in the next year. Where is this even come from? And then OP posted an update. So an update to my previous post. She ignored my messages and calls for three days, at which point she texted me asking if I was free for her to come over for a movie night. I told her, sure, but we need to talk about what happened before anything else.

She replied with, about what? I figured it was best to wait until I actually saw her in person before trying to discuss the issue, which I did. When she arrived, we sat down, and I started by saying that I was upset by our last conversation, and I'd like to discuss what happened. At which point she said, It doesn't need to be discussed, can we leave it? I said, not really, no.

I'd like to get to the bottom of what actually happened and also discuss your reaction of storming out, and not talking to me for three days and then acting like nothing's happened. She basically refused to discuss it, so I told her that if we can't at least discuss what happened, then I want to break up, and that she needed to get her stuff that she has in my apartment and leave. She lost her mind, bawling and screaming so much that my neighbor came and knocked on the door to check if everything was okay. He's a chill dude so I asked if he could stay while she got her stuff together as she seemed to calm down when she was present. She basically soaked around, slamming cupboards while she got her stuff and then left. So yeah, no real answers and I'm still super confused as to what happened. I texted her mom to keep an eye on her as I'm kinda thinking she's losing it. I've never seen her like this and it worries me. She's been blowing up my phone about how she

loves me and can't imagine a life without me. But honestly, this whole thing has soured me and I'm struggling to see any way that will continue this relationship. O.P, your girlfriend's reaction was really bizarre, so I went through the comments trying to find a comment that made sense of this, and I think John Ticket has came up with a really good response. I read the original and hoped for an update. I bet she asked around, and all her friends told her she was completely nuts. She was embarrassed, so she refused to talk about it. Either way, good on you for drawing a line in the sand.

It needed to be discussed before you moved on. Crazy that even after your ultimatum, she wouldn't talk about it. My 33 year old wife is denying that we're married and wants to be called my girlfriend. I'm confused. My wife and I have been married for four years now, coming on five. We've generally had a good relationship and a good marriage. We had a reasonably expensive wedding, which we're still paying for now. I get the bill every month to prove it.

My wife took charge of planning the wedding, so it was to her tastes. She seemed to enjoy it at the time, and for the first few years of our marriage, she would look back at the wedding with me happily and without issues. In recent months, I've noticed my wife's attitude to our wedding and our marriage itself shift. It began by her, I thought jokingly referring to herself as my girlfriend. She told me to buy her a girlfriend card for Valentine's Day rather than a wife one, for example. I thought she was just playing around at first, but this behavior has only escalated. Two months ago, my wife stopped wearing her wedding ring.

I was understandably upset and asked her if there was something wrong. She told me everything was fine and she just doesn't like the sensation of jewelry on her hands. My wife has never liked rings in jewelry so this could be the case. But when we're with friends, my wife will get upset if I talk about her as my wife rather than just a girlfriend. She'll go so far as to interrupt me if I'm telling a story to correct me on our relationship. Initially, this was something our friends laughed at, but now everybody finds it understandably

awkward. One of our friends was talking about their own wedding, which is scheduled for early next year. They asked for advice from my wife about how she'd planned ours, and my wife responded with, What wedding? When our friend continued talking about the table decorations my wife had used, my wife visibly teared up in front of the whole group and had to step outside. Later that evening, I asked her directly if she has a problem with our relationship, or if I'm doing something wrong in our marriage. She assured me that everything is fine between us. From my perspective, outside of this issue, our relationship is as strong as ever. We're considering kids in the near future. Our passionate hugging life is great, and my wife recently

suggested we get matching tattoos as a renewal of our love. Is there advice anyone can offer on why my wife might be acting like this, and what I should do? So down in the comments, it's like a 50-50 split between, your wife is having some sort of mental breakdown, she needs a psychiatrist right now, or your wife is having some kind of medical issues, she needs a doctor right now. Specifically, I'm going to refer to this post by Rene Babitt. It could be a brain tumor. This happened to a friend of mine and he started

losing parts of his memories. He had a tumor the size of a kiwi they had to remove. Edit, the fruit kiwi, not the bird. And then another reply from Austin Amatic. This is the exact way my friend's mom was acting. They took her to the doctors eventually when it got really bad and found out she had a tumor pressing on some part of her brain. It was like she was transported 20 years into the past, but only in her head. She was start acting shy around her husband because she didn't know if he had a crush on her or not. They've been married for 15 years. I don't want to make light of that story too much, but I've got to say that's also kind of cute. She's been married to a guy for 15 years, and when she forgets she's married, she instantly gets a crush on him. That's just adorable. And then this commenter posted an update that

the mom went through surgery and she came out okay and got her memories back. Well, most of her memories. Austin Amatic writes, On even creepier fact is that if you ask her about specific things that happen while she had a tumor, she can remember them. But if you ask her about specific things that happened while she had a tumor, she CAN remember them. But if you ask her to bring up these memories on her own, she CAN'T remember the entire year. For example, my friend's cousin graduated in August, so if I ask, what important event happened in August, she'll say, I have no idea what happened.

But if you ask her like this she will remember. Do you remember Joey's graduation in August? OMG yes! The whole family went and Ruth almost fell down the stairs because it was raining. The brain is a weird thing. I'm a 28 year old female and my dog attacked my stalker after he broke into my house. Now my 32 year old sister-in-law says that my dog is too dangerous to be around my 4 year old niece.

I feel like I'm going crazy. This is kind of a complicated story, but I'll just get into it. I used to be in this controlling kind of abusive relationship. When I finally broke it off a year ago, my ex started showing up places trying to get me to take him back. Eventually, it developed into full on stalking. He would show up at my work and took to just waiting outside of it after he was banned. Leave notes on my car when I was at the grocery store,

leave all kinds of flowers outside my house, and then stick angry notes on my door after he saw me throw them in the trash and wrote me all kinds of weird, obsessive emails and letters. I've had to change my phone number three times. This behavior escalated over time and got scarier and more threatening. In one instance, he started a small fire in my driveway but the police couldn't get enough evidence connecting him to it. It was after that instance that I put cameras in my yard. I previously only had them pointing at my doors. I was horrified to

learn that the police couldn't do anything about any of this until my soccer was actually caught doing something illegal, like breaking into my house, at which point I might already be dead. I decided I wasn't spending the rest of my life waiting for the other shoot to drop, so I got a handgun and a concealed carry permit, took some self-defense courses, and started doing strength training. I also looked into getting an attack dog, but after all the money I had sunk into my other methods of protection, they were prohibitively expensive. So I went to my local animal shelter and got the scariest, meanest looking dog I could find. This is where Thor comes in.

He's a 100 pound American bulldog. Looks like he'd rip your throat out on site, but is basically a gigantic teddy bear. He loves every person he's ever met. Is incredibly sweet and gentle with my four year old niece and joys of their animals, and even loves the mailman. I just kind of accepted that he probably wouldn't do anything to protect me from my stalker, but it didn't matter that much, because having such a huge dog made me so much more confident. I brought Thor everywhere I could,

and was working on getting him trained enough to be an emotional support animal, so I could bring him inside places with me. left turns where it's safe to do so. Be alert, be aware, and stay safe. Enjoy the classic taste of the holidays at Tim's with the new non-alcoholic Bailey's flavored holiday menu. Whether you're hanging holiday lights or driving up to your folks, you can enjoy your Tim's and Bailey's anytime, anywhere, at participating restaurants in Canada.

Last month, I woke up in the middle of the night to Thor whining. I was groggy and thought he had to go to the bathroom, at participating restaurants in Canada. went to run for my gun. Before I could do anything though, Thor ran across the room in full attack mode. The memory is really blurry for me, but there was blood all over my living room, and I remember my stalker was eventually able to escape, at which point Thor chased him outside and then came back to me. When the police showed up, they said Thor was a hero who'd probably save my life. I don't want to list what they found in my stalker's car after they caught him, and I'm still shaking a little as I type this, but I'm sure he was going to bring me somewhere and kill me.

It looks like he's going to prison for a long time though, so my nightmare is over. Pretty much everyone in my life thinks Thor is a hero, except my sister-in-law. She and my brother have a four-year-old, and she says that she doesn't want Thor around the child anymore. She says since Thor snapped in the past, he could do it again, so he's not safe to have around kids. We used to see each other a few times a week before she decided Thor was dangerous. The way she words this makes me really angry because Thor didn't snap.

He saw a stranger break into his home, hurt his owner's scream and terror, and reacted to defend me, himself, and his house. Nothing about that screams dangerous around children to me, unless my niece is also going to break into my house and threaten me. This is also a very emotional issue for me because Thor isn't just a dog to me. He's my safe place, my hero. The one who protected me and kept me safe when no one else could. I've also gotten increasingly anxious since this happened and I can't go anywhere without Thor.

I barely leave my house, pay to pick up my groceries from the store instead of going in because I know Thor isn't allowed inside, and all my friends know that if Thor isn't welcome in their house, I'm not coming either. I'm really going through it, and I'm working with a therapist to overcome this. Luckily, my office is still fully remote, but I need to be able to go back to work once we're in person again. But I really, really need my brother and sister-in-law's support. I think my sister-in-law thinks I'm just pouting, and that's why I won't just leave the dog home and come over without him. I don't know how to explain to them that the fear hasn't stopped just because my stalker is in jail. It's actually a lot worse than it was before. I've already suggested they come over and I create Thor, but that wasn't good enough for her.

What can I do to make her understand the situation better? OP, I agree with you, your dog is absolutely a hero. But that being said, I definitely do understand your sister-in-law's hesitation about your dog. A hundred-pound dog who attacks someone with a four-year-old is not a good match. I mean, I definitely agree that your dog defending you is an extenuating circumstance, and I don't think your dog is hostile or aggressive at all. That being said, your sister-in-law is going completely overboard. I mean, she's not even willing to let you create the dog? That's completely unreasonable. I think my recommendation would be to start working with your brother to build trust, and then together the two of you can start bringing the sister-in-law into the house.

There has to be a compromise that allows you to be with Thor but also see your brother and his family. My 32 year old wife has been having an affair and I'm broken. I'm a 30 year old male and I got married with my wife in September of 2018 after being together for three years. Right before our honeymoon, we bought a house together in Virginia and after we got back pulled our remaining money and time to completely redo her old starter home in Maryland and sold that in early 2019. We both work full-time jobs in Virginia. I make pretty good money, she makes even better money. My wife, let's call her Katie, decided to pursue an MBA and started last fall.

She had an educational trust that her parents started for her and therefore didn't ask me for any financial assistance. However, because I saw how time consuming the NBA was on top of her already large professional workload, I took it upon myself to take care of everything related to our still relatively new home, including dealing with contractors, managing all our bills, maintaining the house, taking care of our dog, purchasing and assembling furniture, yard work, cooking, cleaning, laundry, and hosting and entertaining her family that insisted on coming over at least two weekends every month. Lately, Katie's been unhappy with our relationship, complaining that I wasn't spending enough quality time with her and not making her feel wanted. I tried to argue several times that between her work and studies and my work and home responsibilities that there simply wasn't very much time to spend together in general. We frequently wouldn't even eat dinner until 9 or 10 at night, and I would either need

to bring her a meal to her home office, or we would quickly eat together, and she would return to schoolwork or study to percolate in group projects and sessions. She would argue back that the things I was doing around the house were simply my responsibility as a husband, and that while she appreciated it, it didn't count towards me trying to maintain or build our relationship. We'd also been arguing a lot about other things, and combined with the lack of free time would be intimate maybe once a month. But after one particularly emotional and drunk conversation, about three or four weeks

ago now, I vowed that despite what I already thought was prioritizing her needs, that I would go even further. I began to take off work. I, unlike her, still had to go in during COVID, or go in late or leave early, stop seeing friends, skip workouts, and would even wait until she was occupied with something else to even take a shower. Also, I could spend as much available time as possible with her in-between her obligations. As a result, things seem to be slightly improving between us, and now we arrive at last Wednesday. We have a tablet in the kitchen that I primarily use for recipes. As I was finishing up, the tablet began pinging non-stop, and I checked out what was happening.

As it turns out, the tablet is linked to her Google credentials and I first saw an ongoing Hangouts conversation between Katie and a friend, discussing what to do about someone's wife who had come to our house that day while I was at work. Scrolling through the conversation history, I found more about Katie's lack of feelings for me, and the longing and dreaming twins did be with some guy we'll call Luke. Physically shaking at this point, I decided to venture away from Hangouts and open her Gmail, where I found several emails. Going as far back as March between her and Luke, calling each other babe, sweetheart, and my love.

Unsure about what to do next, I first took screenshots of everything I could find. Then, stepped outside to call the only person with log experience that I knew, an executive of my company who I'd become friends with. He advised that I immediately confront her, but first call someone to come over to the house to act as a witness in case things became physical, or if she might later try to claim that they did. So I had a friend over in about 20 minutes. I confronted Katie, and she confessed to the relationship and claim that they did. So I had a friend over in about 20 minutes. I confronted Katie and she confessed to the relationship

and admitted that they had been intimate several times over the past four months, both at hotels and in our home. Now completely distraught, I tried to maintain my composure and ask her to leave. She stayed at a hotel for two nights, then despite my protest came home on Friday, stating this was her house too. She insisted on talking when she returned She stated a hotel for two nights, then, despite my protests, came home on Friday, stating

this was her house too. She insisted on talking when she returned, and not having a witness this time, I decided to record the entire conversation on my phone. She tried to reiterate that she had been unhappy, but despite that, she had been reaching out to her friends and mother about suggestions and resources she could use to help our relationship, even though I had suggested counseling in the past, but she refused. She tried to tell me that she made a mistake, that she had already broken it off with Luke a week ago, that I was the only person she wanted to spend her life with, and the only reason she hadn't told me about it was because her friends had advised her not to.

She also said that if we truly love each other, that divorce was a mistake, and that we should be able to get through anything, I replied that love is worthless without trust, and then said that if she insists on staying here to please stay in the guest room. Obviously free usage of her home office in the guest bedroom, but to please stay out of our bedroom and bathroom unless telling me first. So, now I'm here, sitting in my house alone with just my dog. Her and her aunt, uncle and cousins are currently at our neighbor's house for a barbecue. They don't know what she did.

I can't bear to go over there because I don't want to talk or even look at Katie, much less pretend in front of a bunch of people that nothing happened. 90% of me wants to get a divorce, but despite her feelings, I was very happy with the life we were building. We had even been talking about getting pregnant by this time next year, but no matter what I decide to do, I know I don't want to make that decision without getting more information about what I can do. What minding up happening if we proceed, and I definitely want to talk to a few Virginia

lawyers to protect myself. We only have one joint account with less than $20,000 in it and the only asset we share is our house. So that's it. I'm sorry for writing so much. If you've made it this far, thanks for reading. And I would really appreciate any and all inside suggestions or advice. I just feel completely destroyed, empty, and alone. Please help me.

OP, I hate to be the one who says this, but I think that your marriage is already over. I mean, it sounds like you were putting everything you had into this relationship. You were giving her time, attention, taking care of chores, and that still wasn't good enough for her. So she stepped out and slept with another guy behind your back repeatedly for four months. OP, your wife is either lying to you, herself, or both of you. Please do yourself a favor and get out of this relationship because this is not working.

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