rSlash - r/Relationships My Femdomme Girlfriend is Crazy

Episode Date: August 14, 2025

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Welcome to R-slash relationships, where O.P. is struggling with his Fimdom girlfriend. Our next Reddit post is from Throwaway. My girlfriend is amazing, but her sexual preferences are becoming physically painful for me. How do I bring this up without risking our relationship and my job? I'm 24 and my girlfriend is 24. We met through mutual friends at a party. She's incredibly attractive, and we hit it off quickly because we both love tech. I'm a software developer and her family owns a tech company, so we bonded over coding and other

shared interests. We reconnected at another party, and I casually mentioned I was looking for a new job. She offered to refer me to her dad's company. I went through the interview process, got the job, and the salary and benefits are amazing. After I started working there, I asked her out to dinner to thank her, made a move, and she said yes. We've been dating ever since. I've told her everything about my background. I'm originally from France, came to the U.S. for my master's, and I didn't come from money like she does. I wanted to be up front so nothing would become an issue later. She was also open about her life, including telling me that she's dominant in the bedroom. At first I thought that it was just some playful role play. But over time, I learned that she's very into Femdom, like

spanking, chastity cage, whipping, butt plugs the whole nine yards. Hopefully, Hopefully not a nine-yard-long butt plug, O.P., that would be really painful. At first, I was neutral about it and not really into it, but not totally against it either. But now, it's starting to cause me physical pain and emotional discomfort. I've realized I'm someone who prefers more traditional vanilla intercourse, and this lifestyle isn't working for me. The relationship is great in every other way, but I'm terrified to bring this up, She could literally fire me. My visa is sponsored by her family's company. What if she takes it

personally, breaks up with me, and lets me go from the job? How do I have this conversation with her in a way that doesn't ruin everything? How can I express my boundaries without risking my relationship and my livelihood? First of all, OP, I don't want to dog pile you, but you kind of put yourself in this situation when you made a move on the boss's daughter. You know, obviously you couldn't have predicted you'd end up in this situation with a nine-yard-long butt plug up the rear end. But if you're going to date your boss's daughter, there's some obvious risks there. Now, on to the butt stuff. If your girlfriend really is into the whole Femdom thing, then she should understand that consent

and taking care of your sub is an important part of that community. So she should be open to communication. And ultimately, if you guys aren't sexually compatible, then that's just the way it's going to go, right? So, like anything else, just talk about it. Communication is key. Well, there's also the key to your chastity cage. That's also an important key. Our next Reddit post is from B.F. Bald Throw.

I'm a 23-year-old woman, and my boyfriend Matthew was 25. I've been with Matthew for three years now, and we have a perfect relationship. I know everyone says that, but it really is true. I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I've only met his family a few times, because they live pretty far away, and my boyfriend had a huge falling out with his father a couple of years ago. They've since patched things up, but it's still not the same as it was. Matthew is not particularly close to his sister because she's 12 years younger than him,

and he doesn't see her that often. Of course, he still loves and adores her, but they're not a very close family. His younger sister, Jessica, has cancer, and as a result, has lost all of her hair. Matthew was devastated, obviously, and has been going to visit her. her more often. I've only seen her a few times since because of work commitments. I've been down twice alone without Matthew to visit her in the hospital. She's a lovely young girl, and I'm devastated for her and their family. Jessica is home at the moment, and Matthew's mom called last Friday and asked if we could go over there. Upon arrival, Matthew's mom whipped out a pair of scissors and shavers

and said that the whole family was shaving their heads for Jessica. My job is modeling. I have very thick natural auburn hair that reaches my waist. It's one of the reasons that I'm fairly successful. It's one of the reasons I can afford to pay the bills. I couldn't model without my hair. So I respectfully and politely declined, telling them that it would be detrimental to my career. I don't have two jobs. I don't have a backup. This is my job. It's my moneymaker. If I couldn't model, I don't know what I would do. Matthew immediately got angry. insisting that this is more important. And while I agree that sentimentally and emotionally, this is far more important, I can't afford to lose my hair. I have to think logically about this. Otherwise, I won't have a roof over my head. Or a hair over your head, O.P. Matthew's mom was very upset and proceeded to tell Jessica that I wouldn't shave my hair because I'm vain. I apologize to Jessica and explain my reasoning, and I went home. I've barely spoken to Matthew. you since it happened, as he says he needs special space to consider if he wants to be in

this relationship. I told him that I would do anything other than shave my head. I'll do a charity run. I'll raise tons of money, whatever I can possibly do instead of shaving my head, but he won't listen. All he says is, how can you put your looks and vanity over my cancer-ridden sister? Did I do the wrong thing? Also, OP posted an edit. you told me that Jessica is very upset and has told all their family repeatedly that she hates me for having long hair and refusing to shave it for her. She's only 13 years old though. I have a feeling that her family is perhaps poisoning her view. And of course, she's going to be having a difficult time as it is. I can't hold any grudges against a young girl being in such an awful situation.

Okay, I can extend a certain degree of sympathy to the boyfriend's family, because obviously they're scared of losing Jessica, and that's going to lead to some, you know, emotional intensity and irrational behavior. But what they're asking here is just bonkers, especially considering they're not willing to consider other options, like, you know, OP expressing her support with a charity run or something like that. No, you've got to shave off your hair, which they sprung on her as a total surprise, by the way. Our next Reddit post is from Throwant. I'm a 36-year-old guy, and I've become a grandfather and a father at the same time, and I'm losing my marriage. What? What is this title? When I was 20, I was in a very toxic relationship. She got pregnant, we moved in together, and it was horrible.

It all ended when she told me my daughter wasn't mine, and I was relieved. at the time. I was 20 and I left. I went on with my life. I went to college, got married, and built my life. Seven months ago, a teenage girl contacted me claiming I was her father. I explained to her how she misunderstood, but she insisted. So we took a paternity test, and she's mine. The baby that I walked off on nearly two decades ago is mine and I missed all those years. Not only that, but she was pregnant. Just like her mother, mother was at her age. Her mom kicked her out and she found me after that. She moved in with us five months ago and my grandson is now almost three months old. It was essentially like I'd

become a father and a grandfather overnight. It has not been smooth sailing. My wife has been supportive but it's taken a major toll on our relationship. We went from a quiet home to sleepless nights and emotional tension. We never planned for this and I can until my wife is becoming resentful, even though she denies it. She doesn't want to talk about it. I need to talk about this with her because I feel her slipping away. I love my wife. I love my daughter that I'm getting to know. I love my grandson. There's so much guilt on my end because of all those years I missed. I don't know how to hold all this at once and I just need help. I feel guilt, confusion, and like I'm failing everyone. Please help with advice because I need it.

Well, the obvious advice would be family therapy, at least therapy for your wife, because sounds like she's going through it. And also, I hate to say this OP because, you know, you sound like a decent guy who just got stuck in a really difficult situation, but this might not be salvageable, because this is not what your wife signed up for. And for many people, it can be difficult to get over your partner's past with their previous relationships, but it can be so much harder when a walking reminder of those previous relationships walks in through the front door and starts living with you. So I hope you can work it out, but it might not be possible. Our next Reddit posts is from Throwaway Draft Cassette. I'm a 27-year-old guy, and I discovered that my 30-year-old wife's

family was behind my vicious cyberbullying attack. My wife knew, but she hid it for years. How do I move past this. My marriage is in a really bad spot after a deep breach of trust. I don't know how to recover to trust my wife again. For context, we've been together seven years, married for five. We have a two-year-old child. We met at a convention. I thought her cosplay was amazing, struck up a conversation, and the rest is history. She's the most loving, unselfish, and decent person I've ever met. Our relationship was never without its challenges. Our biggest obstacle was her family. My presence was unwelcome. They're very close-knit, and if one doesn't accept you, then you're not getting far. There are a few family members who broke away from the pack, but no one hardly acknowledges them.

They're no contact and black sheep. I didn't know what my wife's family was like, but I did know that family was extremely important to her. Her whole upbringing was based on family, so I tried everything in my power to make it work. They didn't really put up with me until we had our son. Between our wedding planning to shortly before the wedding, I was the target of some relentless and vicious cyberbullying. It got personal. Fake bad reviews polluted my business profile too. It cost me some potential clients. I didn't know where it came from or why. I couldn't find a solution. I'd report the comments, but it would take a while for anything to be done, or there'd be more accounts coming out for another round. The whole thing impacted my life and my mental health. It took a toll. My

wife was incredibly supportive. She was my rock and my best friend. I loved her even more for her care and how she held me down. Then the trolling and everything just stopped. I wanted nothing more than to move on. I put it all behind me until the other day my wife confessed that her family was behind the harassment. I didn't believe her at first, but she was serious and showed me proof in their family group chat. It felt like I was right back there again. They were gloating. and justifying themselves. Saying stuff like, some people got to learn the hard way, and if he wants to join the fold, here's his initiation. I knew I wasn't their favorite person, but I never realized they hated me and would go to such extremes. I asked my wife when she found out, and if she was a

part of it. She swore she wasn't, and that she would never do that to me. She claimed she didn't initially know that it was her family until a few months before our wedding. One of my sister-in-laws, who was 28, left her profile up on her phone, and my wife saw it. She confronted her family and made them stop. I asked why she was telling me everything now. She said it was weighing on her, and she opened up to her eldest sister, who's 35, one of the family's black sheep. She threatened to tell me the truth if my wife didn't. Nothing my wife said made it better. She knew for years what her family did and hid it from me. She kept everything quiet. It hurts more coming from her because she knew firsthand my pain.

I was pretty numb. My wife was anxious and kept pushing for me to say something. I told her there wasn't anything she could say right now that would make it okay. What she did was no better than her family. They made my life hell, and her first instinct was to cover for them? She started crying and begged me to understand. She said it wasn't like that, and she was trying to make things right with as little damage as possible and mend relationships.

I wasn't very receptive to her. She wasn't reaching me. I couldn't help her or myself. I told her I needed some time to clear my head. She was against it. She said we could work through this together, but I was firm on space. Space isn't a request that she respected. I'm really trying to understand her side. I'm trying to move past it, but I feel so betrayed. I trusted her more than anyone. I'm my most vulnerable with her. I kept opening up to her about the incident even after she knew the truth. She encouraged me to let it go and not allow it to have any claim on me. I thought she had my best interest in mind. Now, I just see it as her attempt to protect her family yet again. I haven't confronted anyone involved. I don't think they're worth it. But I've made it clear

they're no longer allowed to see our son until further notice. Now I'm getting texts about how I'm depriving my child of grandparents and aunts over past family spats. One of the hardest parts is distance from my wife. She's my best friend and partner in every way. Now we're mostly only communicating about our son and other household necessities. She's hurt by my rejection, and she's been crying often. I don't know if I'm being unfair to her. I hate all of this.

I want to make our marriage work, but I'm questioning our relationship up till now. I'm just really lost. I need an outside perspective. How do I navigate this situation and move forward for my marriage and myself? O.P.'s wife hates conflict, so much so that she's completely unwilling to address the core issues. It seems like all she wants to do is just push things back to a happy equilibrium where everyone's smiling and everything's perfect. Yeah, she stopped her family from harassing the husband, but she didn't actually address the core issue, which is that they don't respect O.P. And now that O.P.'s upset. She just wants to smooth things over again, and she's not willing to address the core issue, which is O.P.'s upset. She's not even willing to give O.P. space. She just wants everyone to be happy and smiling. This is a different type of messed up from her family. Her family are just a bunch of buttholes. But the way she approaches things and handles problems is not at all productive or respectful to O.P. Personally, O.P., I think this is a deal breaker. Having my own wife condone this level of disrespect, I don't.

don't know if I could do it, man. She lies to you for years and supports the people who harassed you and made you miserable and only confessed because she was forced to confess? That was our slash relationships. And if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.