rSlash - r/Relationships My Girlfriend Tried to Murder Me Twice! Should I Dump Her? 🤔

Episode Date: October 4, 2020

r/Relationships_Advice In today's episode, OP is stuck with a real headscratcher. On the plus side, his girlfriend is pretty and fun to be around. On the down side, she literally tried to murder him twice. So, should he stay with her or break up with her? Talk about a real conundrum! Personally, I feel like 1 attempted murder is 1 too many but maybe OP just draws the line at 3 attempted murdered. What do you think? 🔔 Subscribe: https://bit.ly/2E3A8i6 💬 Discord: https://discord.gg/VD6eYD3 🎧 Podcast: https://link.chtbl.com/rslash ⚓ Send me a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rslash 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rslashyt/ ♪ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@rslash0 🛒 Merch: http://bit.ly/rSlashMerch 🎁 Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/rslash Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is just the beginning. Stream the complete Dutton Legacy, 1883, 1923, and all seasons of Yellowstone. I love Montana, but I'm doing this far family. Paramount Plus, the streaming home of Yellowstone. Welcome to R-Slash, a podcast where I read the best post from across Reddit. Today's subreddit is R-Slash Relationship Advice. I'm a 27-year guy and my 24 year old fiance has accidentally lost her broken 3 engagement rings now. I'm starting to suspect she's

doing it on purpose. I've been with my fiance for 3 years now. I proposed a year ago, but it definitely wasn't out of the blue. She'd been not so subtly hinting at getting engaged for months at that point. Although we're both somewhat hot-headed, we generally have a good relationship and we occasionally only fight about small, normal things. I know nothing about jewelry, but I spent a lot of time looking for the right ring to propose with. I talked to two of her closest friends to get their input, and in the end, I spent about $4,000 on the ring.

When my fiance saw it, she told me she loved it, and I'm pretty sure she was telling the truth. This January, my fiance called me up in tears. She'd somehow lost the ring on her way home from work, and she has no clue where it might be. I left work early to come help her search, but since she'd been writing this subway, the ring was long gone. My fiance was clearly distraught, so a few weeks later

I dipped into my savings and bought her a different ring. It wasn't quite as expensive as the last, but it was from the same jeweler and it was still a good make. Around June, I noticed one day that it had been a while since I saw my fiance actually wear her engagement ring. She went pale and confessed to me that she thought she'd taken it off before bed one night, and now it was lost somewhere in our apartment. This time we searched for days and I dug up half the floorboards looking for it, but the ring is to this day missing. At this point, buying another ring was out of the question, it was too expensive.

So I asked her if she'd rather have a cheaper placement ring under $50 until we're married or go without a ring for now. She chose option B. One day we were visiting my grandmother who asked my fiance where a ring was. When we told her it was lost, my grandmother was kind enough to give my fiance one of her rings instead. My fiance seemed delighted and everything was working out perfectly until this week. I came home to find my grandmother's ring on the table, looking almost unrecognizable. My fiance cried and told me she'd managed to step on the ring that morning hard enough

to break it. I took the ring to a jewelry repair service right away. Sadly, they told me that since a few small stones are missing and the original fitting is warped, the ring will never really be the same. They also told me they were certain that someone stepping on the ring couldn't realistically cause that amount of damage. When I got home, I brought this up with my fiance and asked her if she was 100% sure she'd only stepped on the ring. She completely flipped and yelled at me, asking if I was calling her a liar. I mentioned with a jewelry store said, and she started screaming about me only caring about money and the cost of the rings. It's been two days and we've barely spoken, especially since she's only come out of

our bedroom for meals. Pretty much everyone down in the comments of this thread agrees that she's probably just pawning the rings and getting cold, hard cash. O.P., it sounds like your fiancée is manipulating you out of your money, but if you're determined to try to make it work, Cricketboo has an interesting point. If you really want to give her another ring, make it a tattoo instead. Put the tattoo on her finger, and if she accidentally amputates her finger, then don't get married. My girlfriend tried to push me off a cliff as a joke.

My 20 year old girlfriend is completely crazy, but mostly in a good way. Spontaneous is an understatement. Sometimes she goes too far, but I love her for her crazy personality. I'm 18 and more relaxed and we balance each other out. Two recent incidents really freaked me out, and I need advice. I was driving on the highway with a lot of traffic. We were going maybe 40 miles per hour. She suddenly started tickling me and wouldn't stop when I yelled at her.

I jammed on the break and someone almost hit us from behind. I asked her what the F is wrong with her, but she just laughed about it and told me to chill. I said, what would make you want to do that? And she said, I don't know, just felt like it. Then last Saturday I was hiking with her and I was standing near this steep cliff. I'm usually wary of her because you never know what she's gonna do, even though it's usually just a prank or something. I let my guard down and she went behind me and pushed me towards the cliff and I swear I almost fell

off. She did it hard and I ended up right at the edge. She was laughing so hard. I freaked out and started screaming at her and I may have been out of line but holy s**t. She laughed about it at first but then she started crying and saying she was so sorry. The next day she started texting me saying that she didn't mean any harm and she just didn't know that I would get so mad at her for doing that. Am I crazy for even thinking about this? Is it possible she's just immature, and if I get back with her she'll be different? I'm kind of lonely and I really love her, but this made me rethink the situation because now I feel like she's legit crazy. Not just fun

crazy. Thanks for your advice. So to answer your question OP, yes, you do need to end it. Your girlfriend basically attempted to murder you twice and you're wondering, hmm, should I stick around, fellas? No, do you have a death wish? I promise you, there are plenty of other attractive, sweet girls out there who won't try to murder you. And then OP posted an update. I've been thinking a lot and I decided that I'm ending my relationship with her. This isn't easy for me.

It's hard because I've been with her for almost two years, but it's even harder because now I feel a ton of guilt myself, as I remember things that I ignored and how I was only worried about her after I became the victim. I remember early this year her dad got a job at the front desk at the department complex. It's hard to explain this place because it was sort of a luxury place and most departments aren't like this. But I was there once or twice to pick her up and I remember what the building looked like. There were a lot of older people living there and right near the entrance of the building

there was an elevator. Then there was this other main elevator that was kind of far down along a hallway. One time, me and her were smoking, and just chilling talking about stuff. She was laughing to me about how she would sometimes disable the up elevator and pretend it was out of order, and then she'd watch these older and handicap people walk down this long hallway to get to the main elevator. She got fired pretty quickly anyway, because she activated the fire alarm when there was no fire. When they asked her what happened, she pretended that the computer was glitching and she couldn't stop it, but they believed she did it on purpose so they fired her. I'm

sure some people could have been injured during the chaos. I guess the alarm must have disabled the elevator so everyone had to grab their stuff and run down the stairs as quickly as possible. I can't imagine all these elderly people going down so many flights of stairs. I don't think anyone was injured, but they did fire her and maybe they're still investigating. I don't know if it could help, but I'm gonna call that place and tell them what she told me and how she admitted to pulling the alarm on purpose. That'll help my conscience out a lot. Opie, I'm glad that you're breaking up with her because this lady is just sounding crazier and crazier.

But if I can give you a word of advice, you need to change your logs, change all your passwords, and freeze your credit. Because she doesn't seem like the type of person to take this breakup laying down. My boyfriend's friends called me Butterface and my boyfriend Co-Signed. I've been with my boyfriend for two years. I thought he was attracted to me, all of me. He's never called me ugly and always complements me with or without makeup. Last night he brought his friends over. I'm cool with him but we're not that close,

so usually when they do come over to play video games and smoke, I go upstairs. That night when I was walking past the room to the bathroom, I could hear my name. The door was closed, but I stopped to listen. I know he was dropping his wrong. But come on, they said my name. I heard one of my boyfriend's friends say that they hate that I always leave when they come over because I wear shorts in a tank top around the house and usually dress more conservatively when I'm around them in social settings. He went on to say that I have a big butt and nice boobs, but I'm a butter

face without makeup. If you don't know, it's when a girl has a nice body, but her face. And my boyfriend laughed loudly. He didn't even defend me. His reply, her body is perfect. What? They moved on to a different topic and started talking about other girls, so I gave up on listening and went back upstairs. I don't think I'm ugly, but I did cry. I'm ashamed to say myself a steam took a hit, but it did. It hurt worse to know that my boyfriend laughed and didn't defend my looks. I won't lie and say I'm the best supermodel, but I'm not ugly.

I have shoulder-length brown hair, clear skin, and my features are decent. Maybe my eyebrows could be less spars and I wear glasses, but I would give myself a solid 6 out of 10 without makeup and maybe an 8 width. Maybe I'm just illusional? I felt sick sleeping next to my boyfriend and wouldn't let him touch me. He's attracted to my body and not my face, and I hate myself low-key. I'm 22 and he's 25. O.P., after something like that, I don't know if you'll be able to recover the relationship.

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one, and I want to thank you all. Breaking up wasn't even a thought on my mind, but seeing men saying that they wouldn't allow their friends to say that and women saying that they wouldn't tolerate that helped me be more confident in bringing it up to my boyfriend because I wasn't planning on it. Last night, I sat him down and I told him that I overheard his conversation with his friends and what they said was really hurtful. And it stung worse that he didn't defend me and just laughed. At first he denied it ever happened, and I got upset and almost cried because I felt so frustrated. Then he admitted it and said it was just a dumb joke, and he forgot about it five minutes later. Then he said that his friends opinions wouldn't matter so much to me if I didn't care about their

thoughts on my physical appearance. I said I don't care what they think, it's the fact that they said it and you sat there and laughed. He said that he finds me attractive if that's what I want to hear so badly and that if my friend said he was a butter phase, he wouldn't care because he isn't attractive to them and since I care, I must have some sort of attraction to his friends. I got up and said that we're done. How is he going to flip this on me and make it seem like I want to be with his friends because they're comments upset me? His reaction is what upset me. He said that if I'm breaking up with him because his friends think I'm unattractive, then

I'm doing him the biggest favor of his life. So whereover. I'm moving in with my sister in our spare guest room. I'm so heartbroken. His reaction wasn't what I thought it was going to be. I don't want to end things with him thinking I like his friends, but I guess it is what it is. I'm moving on. He doesn't care about me, and I wasted two years over him. It's whatever. I'm not interested in dating now, but there's more fish in the sea. So clearly OP, you're better off without

him, because this reaction makes him look even worse than he already did. And secondly, this guy's saying that he wouldn't care if your friend's made fun of him is complete nutter BS. If one of your friends said that his member was tiny and you laughed at that, then I could guarantee that he'd be upset about it. My 24-year-old girlfriend told me she's pregnant, but I'm sterile. I'm from a Southeast Asian country and my first language is not English. Back story, I got into an accident after my college and will never be able to have kids. None of my family members know of this. They know about the accident, but not about this. I've always wanted to be child-free, so it didn't affect me

much mentally. I finished my master's to relash year and never dated before. I got a very high paying job directly through campus placements. My parents immediately wanted me to get married after getting a job, but I wanted to work on myself and explore a bit. They said no, and I said that it was my wish. All my life I did what they wanted, and for the first time when I acted against them, they were not happy. This was last year, and they gave up after COVID started. So I picked up some dating apps and went through them, but no luck. Then my parents introduced me to a family friend's daughter and we clicked kinda. Looking back, I was a fool. She said yes to anything I said and never complained about anything. I felt kind of awkward about it. I wanted her to express

her interests, but she always said that she was interested in whatever I do. Well, I didn't think much about it. I said that I don't want to have kids ever, and she surprisingly said okay. I was like, man, she's probably the one as it's very hard to find a partner who's child-free in my country, or at least I thought. But we were in the initial stages and I hadn't told her about my accident. Long story short, we passionately hugged a month ago. I used condoms because safety first. The next day and onward, she started ghosting me a bit. I thought it was due to my performance and bit and wanted to give her some space.

Then she texted infrequently and only replied with one-line answers. I thought maybe she wanted to end the relationship and was sad, but left it at that. Yesterday, all her family came to my house and she claimed she's pregnant and the father is me. Needless to say, I freaked the F out I wanted to collapse on the ground. I didn't say anything while they were talking about marriage and stuff that needs to happen because I got her pregnant. Please advise me on what steps to take now, Reddit. And then OP posted an update. Let me start off by saying that I'm very grateful to all the redditors who took time to read and give me advice. I was overwhelmed by the amount of comments and how many of you said that it might not even be my kid. Looking at it from a different perspective gave me much more insight on the whole situation.

I called my boss and took a day off. I called up some clinics to get tested and was given a slot on Friday afternoon. Then I went to the store and bought some pregnancy tests and asked only her to come to my place tomorrow. I also called my parents and before I said anything, my mom asked me if I had any good news. I was shocked by what she said and asked me what exactly she was talking about. She then played dumb and I knew the situation was more screwed up than I had thought. I cut the call and cried all night until 3am.

A grown man crying for the first time since 8th grade. My girlfriend came this morning with her parents even after I told her to come alone. They were under the impression that I was going to discuss engagement plans with them. I told them to wait outside and I called her in and they threw a fit. I told them either they could all leave or let her come in alone and they said okay. I took out the pregnancy test and gave it to her and told her to prove that she was actually pregnant and told her where the bathroom was. She started screaming at me.

She had never done this before. I was shocked at this. Then she went out the door and called her parents in. Now everyone is screaming at me in my own home because I asked her to prove the pregnancy. I told them all to screw off and one hour later they and my parents all came to my home and they spilled the beans. She was never actually pregnant, as many redditors said. My parents were afraid that I was getting too old for marriage and wanted me to marry and give them grandchildren. They said that in arranged marriages, there's no need for the people to actually get to know the spouse because parents choose only the best for their kids.

They planned all of this, and were only waiting for me to passionately hug her to do this. I broke down and cried again. All my life, I did exactly what my parents wanted. Always got good grades and never asked for anything. I told them to get out and never talk to me again in between crying and they said parents know what's best for their kids, and I should do what they say. Then I got extremely angry and told them to go f themselves in my native language, which was very bad. Finally, I think they realized I was serious with them, and they all left. I blocked them all before sending my parents a message to never contact me again in my

life, even if one of you is dying. OP, I've read a lot of stories about entitled parents, but parents who actively deceive their own child to get him to marry a girl that he's not even all that into is disgusting. Your parents are among the worst of the worst and I don't blame you at all for cutting them out of your life. Same thing goes with your ex-girlfriend, what she did was a complete betrayal of your trust. I'm sorry that this happened to you OP, and I suggest you might want to consider therapy because what these people did to you is a deep fundamental betrayal of your trust. That was our Slash Relationship Advice, and if you like this podcast, and check out my Patreon where I publish extra episodes. Also, be sure to follow my podcast

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