rSlash - r/Relationships My Husband Accused Me of Murder

Episode Date: July 16, 2024

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Welcome to r slash relationships where OP walks in on her husband wearing a diaper and sucking on a pacifier. Our next reddit post is from throwawayhusbandandbaby. I'm a 34 year old woman and my husband is 36. I walked in on my husband wearing a diaper and acting like a child. Where do we go from here? My husband has been acting odd lately. I first noticed it a few months ago when we were at the grocery store. He would buy things geared towards kids such as stuffed animals, candies that he previously said were only for children,

things like that. He'd go out of his way to get kids meals at restaurants as well. But it wasn't every day and it wasn't a lot, so I figured maybe he was finally giving in to what he'd always wanted as a child. He'd had a rough time growing up. Both of his parents were abusive and parentified him. He's currently in therapy for that. Then he started pulling away from me at home.

He would start spending time in our bedroom with the door locked, saying that he was napping, but I could hear voices in there. He stopped leaving his phone out and changed the password. When I asked him about it, he couldn't give me a straight answer. And he pushed me to go places without him, leaving him alone in the house. I thought that he was cheating and maybe the younger woman brought out new feelings in him, making him want to act like a kid again. So today I went out to the gym as I normally do, but this time I left my phone at home on purpose. I drove all the way there, hoping to make him think that it was just a normal visit

with the timing and then I came back. When I walked in, the TV was on playing a kid's cartoon and I saw my husband sitting on the floor in an adult pull up with a pacifier in his mouth. He turned around. I don't think he heard the door open and he looked terrified. That's the only word I can really use for it. He looked afraid of me. He pulled his pacifier out and tried to explain, but I told him that I needed some time before he could talk. And before he said anything, I was out the door. I'm at my sister's house now. I told her that we had a fight,

but not what it was about. My husband has been texting me, asking to call or come home, but I haven't responded. I don't know what to do. Everyone in the comments is saying that this is either some sort of like mental trauma that he's working through by regressing or a fetish thing. And I also think that's more than likely what's going on here, one of the two. So either this guy's got some issues

that he needs to work on and I guess he is working on them, in which case you can lend him support, patience and understanding, and hopefully help him get the help that he needs. Or this is a fetish thing, in which case you could decide either, hey, this is not for me, you gotta do this on your own. Or turn up the heat and ask your husband if he wants some milk.

Well, in all seriousness, I'm making dumb jokes here just to defuse an awkward story. But realistically, OP, it sounds like your husband has some trauma and he's, you know, he's struggling. So, this is the worst part of For Better or Worse when you marry someone. Just, you know, listen, be understanding, and hopefully it's something he can work through. Oh, there's an update. I missed that. Okay.

OP says, I've texted my husband letting him know that I'm going. Okay. OP says, Then another update. to upset or hurt him further. I also reaffirmed that I love him very much and that we're not getting a divorce. Then another update! I hit it home early this morning. We've had a conversation and yeah, you guys were right. He's an age regressor and he's been participating in this for a few months. His therapist recommended it to him as a way to reclaim his childhood. It's apparently been helpful for him, especially now that we've been trying for kids because he's struggled with thoughts of turning into his parents and this has helped him come to terms with those fears in a healthier way.

He's been planning to tell me for a while, but he's struggled with figuring out the right way. I did tell him about the suspected cheating and we both had a good laugh about that. I'm glad that it was just this diaper thing. I told him that I still love him and while this was not the ideal way for me to find out, I'd be willing to participate in this activity with him if he wanted me to. Hey, wow, that is what you call a supportive wife. He said that he'd be comfortable with that and we have plans to watch one of his shows

together tonight and order in food for dinner. Thank you all for your advice. Except those of you who called my husband a freak. It really helped me put all this into perspective. Wow! I'm going into OP's post history! And she says, I think my husband is an age regressor. How can I be there for him as someone who knows nothing about this?

And she writes, I think the title says it all. I recently walked into my husband wearing a diaper and watching kids television shows. Does anyone have any resources for me to look at so that I can support him? Any sort of information would be good. I just learned about all this today. Thank you all. Man, I personally really, really admire these ride or die types of people who are just like, yep, that's my man.

I'm sticking with him through thick or thin. This is my girl. I don't care if she got her face burned off in a car accident. I'm still going to love her to the end. Those types of people are just so admirable to me. And OP is like, whoa, I found out my husband likes to hang on diapers. Cool, let's support it. I'm here for it.

That is what you call wife material. Our next Reddit post is from throwawaySkidrowski. I'm a 28 year old guy and my girlfriend, who's 27, called me Ben 10 while we were passionately hugging. I think she might be cheating. How do I check? So my girlfriend and I are doing it this morning and it's really good. At one point she screams out, give it to me Ben, but my name isn't Ben. She then pauses and says,

Ten, give it to me Ben Ten, oh yeah you like banging Gwen don't you? She later acted embarrassed and admitted to me that she has a huge thing for Ben Ten as he was her first crush as a kid. But I think that she might be lying and there might be some other guy named Ben out there. Am I crazy or does my girlfriend have a Ben 10 fetish? Well, OP, the only solution is to do some experimentation and see how she reacts. Strap an Omni-Trix around your Johnson and see if she reacts. Our next Reddit post is from throwaway not a killer. I'm a 30 year old woman and my husband is 33. My husband accused me of murder out of the blue.

How do I salvage this? So my husband Luke has a sister Laura who's 29. We were all close and we saw each other 2-3 times a month along with their parents. Almost 6 months ago, Laura fell down the stairs at their family home and died. It was a freak accident! There was a window on the half landing and she hit her head on the window sill. I was the last person to see her. I was there for less than 10 minutes and she was in her pajamas making coffee.

I didn't even stay for a drink and I struggle with how such a brief and meaningless interaction could have been her last. She deserves so much more. My husband and I have only been married for a year, but we've been together for four years and we've known each other for over 20 years. When Laura's parents found her, they called my husband straight away and we rushed over. We faced the whole thing as a family. In the days after, Luke started quizzing me.

He asked what she and I talked about, what she was wearing, where she was standing, etc. It progressed to him saying that I was providing conflicting information and accusing me of withholding information because I couldn't tell him things like which pajamas she was wearing. This escalated quickly but lasted for less than a week because I lost my cool and made it clear that I was done answering questions. He didn't bring it up again and I wrote it off as a grief quirk. His behavior was generally that of a normal grieving person.

Last Friday, my husband outright accused me of murdering his sister in front of his parents. Out of the blue! We were all stunned! The police investigation had recently concluded, and there was never any doubt the verdict would be accidental death. He said that it was completely obvious that I was the murderer and he couldn't believe that no one else could see it. He claims that I went through his phone and found his messages with his sister.

I have absolutely no idea what messages he's talking about. I've never looked through his phone and found his messages with his sister. I have absolutely no idea what messages he's talking about. I've never looked at his phone. And that I went over to confront her and things got out of hand and I pushed her downstairs. By the end of it, he was shouting about going to the cops and getting the police investigation overturned and that I wasn't going to get away with it. Let me be clear, Laura and I had a great relationship. I have no idea where this came from. Other than these messages, which I haven't seen, and even then, I don't think there's anything I could ever see on someone's phone that would drive them to murder. It's just ridiculous. He's been with his parents since this happened and he won't

talk to me at all. I've had some contact with his mom, but she's not being very communicative. And last I heard, she didn't know what messages he was referring to either. I'm still completely stunned and I have no idea how to proceed. I made a commitment to be there for him always and I can understand that grief can manifest in strange ways, but part of me feels like my love for him died the second he called me a murderer and I don't know how we could possibly work through this. I also really don't want to be thought of in this way and I have no idea if he's been saying this to other people we know. I obviously haven't. A brain tumor or psychotic

break has crossed my mind and I suggested those to his mother and she said that she'd talk to him. Other than this wild accusation, he hasn't been acting odd. Obviously, he's grieving, but he seems sane and sensible other than this. I feel like I'm going mad. Does anyone have any advice at all? Obi, you seem invested in protecting your relationship, which is admirable, but I think in this situation you should focus on protecting yourself because if your husband gets his way, girl, you're going to jail, possibly for the rest of your life. So you have got to shut this down.

And man, I'm wondering what the text messages could be because if they're super problematic texts between him and his sister, wouldn't that just incriminate him, not you? What could the text even say? Man, what would it be? Maybe he confessed that he cheated with his sister? No, I don't mean he's sleeping with his sister. I mean, he confessed to his sister that he cheated with someone else.

Maybe he just bad-mouthed OP to his sister and they like trash talk her together. But why would that make OP want to murder the sister instead of murdering her husband? I don't know. Something doesn't quite add up here. Our next Reddit post is from throwawayballofmaz. I'm a 24 year old woman and my boyfriend is 25. My boyfriend told me that me snacking on mozzarella cheese balls might be a deal breaker. What should I do? So to preface this, I'm a cheese lover. I absolutely adore cheese and it's my favorite snack. My number one cheese has got to be mozzarella, specifically ball shaped mozzarella. The texture and flavor are so good, especially with a little salt sprinkled on. I buy those Belgeo-yoso packs of mozzarella

balls and they've been my snack of choice since I was a freshman in college. They were easy and convenient to keep in my mini fridge for a quick, cheap and easy bite. My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years now and we recently moved in together He's known about my love for cheese since our first date He took me to a restaurant and we ordered like three charcuterie boards lol wow op I don't think he knew what he was getting into with my snacking and he probably didn't expect to see me eat mozzarella balls on the Daily I thought that he was fine with it But now he's making an issue out of it and I don't know if I should stop. His specific issue is the

shape of the cheese. He tells me that seeing me he tells me that seeing me eat you know ball shaped cheese makes him uncomfortable. He says that it's lewd and that I quote seeing you pop a wet cheeseball in your mouth makes me think of having another man's balls in my mouth. What? So yeah, I was really confused and I told him that I don't think this is that big of a deal and that it's literally just cheese. But he told me that the imagery still grosses him out. I thought that we could work through this, but after a while he said that it might be a deal breaker if I don't stop. Afterwards he left for work.

During the argument he said that he doesn't care if I eat mozzarella cheese, but he just wants me to eat it straying or shredded instead. I know this is so high maintenance of me, but mozzarella balls are just my favorite snack. The texture, the taste is just so good. I like shredded cheese and string cheese, but they just aren't the same. I'm sorry, this story is so dumb. I'm thinking I should maybe just buy smaller mozzarella balls that Belgio Yoso sells and hope they won't bother him. But if I feed into this, could it reinforce this mindset that he has?

I don't know what to do. I want to make him comfortable, but this feels really controlling and unnecessary. Not to mention, I really don't want to give up my favorite snack. He's a great guy and I know this post isn't doing justice, but I just want to know if this is a red flag from him or is putting my foot down on this unreasonable. Thanks in advance. All right here's my question and I mean this is the first thing that popped into my mind. It seems super obvious to me. When your boyfriend watches you sucked out when your boyfriend watches you slurp down a mozzarella

cheeseball why does he imagine that being someone else's balls and not his own balls? Right. Because if you're imagining balls, just imagine that they're your balls. Then it goes from being gross imagery to delightful imagery. And I don't understand. Now that I think about it, I don't understand how string cheese would be any better because string cheese is famously Dick shaped it's very long and thin and kind of floppy So wouldn't that just go from him imagining you slurping down another man's balls to slurping down another man's a dong

How is that any better or worse? I'm imagining op coming down I'm imagining OP coming down. I'm imagining OP coming over to the sofa to watch Netflix and then her hand she has a plate with two mozzarella balls and a long string of cheese in between the middle of them. Yum! OP, I think you gotta stay on your ground here. Because if you give ground on this, then pretty soon all spherical ball shaped foods in your household will be completely banned. No meatballs, no cake pops, no fried mac and cheese balls. And if spherical foods are out, what about round foods like Oreos? What kind of life does anyone want to live without Oreos or cookies or crackers?

What about your phallic foods? Your popsicles, your bananas, sausages, burritos? Do those count? Are burritos phallic? It's pretty thick. Pringles, no Pringles! Alright, I gotta stop joking around. OP, in all seriousness, your boyfriend is insanely, ridiculously absurdly insecure.

I've seen a lot of stories of overly protective, jealous, you know, insecure men on Reddit, but getting jealous over a ball of cheese is pretty out there. That was r slash relationships and if you like this content be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.