rSlash - r/Relationships My Husband Writes Erotica about Dating Kids

Episode Date: September 8, 2024

0:00 Intro 0:11 Pregnancy  4:09 Watching now 7:07 Comment 8:10 Disgusting AI 9:54 Strip club 12:37 Comment 13:04 Debate skills 15:32 Top comment Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

the game. Welcome to r slash relationship advice, where OP finds out that her husband is making AI erotica about children. Our next reddit post is from throwawaylosingmind. I'm a 26 year old woman and my husband is 32. For the past week, my husband has been convinced that I'm pregnant. I have no idea why, because I'm not. We haven't even started trying, though we do have plans to have kids in the future. We were just making conversation and yeah, I did mention feeling tired, but that's

all. A few hours later, he just came in so excited. I told him I'm not pregnant, but he won't let it go He's made remarks about how happy he is what a wonderful mother I'll be and what our baby will be like not all the time, but he does it a couple times a day I told him I'm not pregnant I even took a test because even I started wondering and it was undoubtedly Negative, I showed him and he just got annoyed and said that Tess can be wrong.

He didn't speak to me for the rest of the evening. The next morning, he acted as if nothing had happened. When I tell him that I'm not pregnant, he just kinda shuts me out. I lost my cool yesterday when we were in bed and he put his hand on my stomach and I told him that he's acting crazy. I'm not pregnant and his behavior is scaring me. He went to sleep in the guest room after that and left for work early in the morning. I haven't seen or spoken to him today. I'm just at a loss. I don't

know where this obsession is coming from. I even asked him if I gained weight if that's what's gotten him confused. He assured me that I didn't. I'm thinking of contacting his parents or maybe a therapist or something. I honestly don't understand what's happening and I'm worried about my husband. Down in the comments, people seem to think either one of two things. One, that he's like having some kind of mental breakdown or two, that he's tampered with OP's birth control and he's expecting her to get pregnant any day now. Personally, I think it's option three, which is it's a fetish. I think he just is getting turned on by this and he's kind of roleplaying it in his head with her,

even though she's not really a willing participant. But we have an update, so let's find out. The update comes three days later. Things escalated when I tried to speak to him, keeping some of your guys' advice in mind. I sat him down and explained to him that I'd love to have kids with him in the future, but that I'm not pregnant right now and that his insistence worries and scares me. I told him we would go to the doctor together if that would put his mind at ease or I could take another test in front of him. He got very agitated, said many hurtful things and accused me of being a liar many times. He said that I'm trying to keep our baby away from him and so on. Nothing else made sense and I wasn't feeling safe anymore. I knew my husband would

never harm me in any way, but this isn't my husband. Things got worse. He did hurt me, but nothing permanent or even emergency care worthy. I also know that if he was in his right mind, he would have never done something like this. I called my parents and his parents and I'm now staying with my mom. He did seem to calm down a bit when his parents arrived. I haven't seen or spoken to him since. His mother, she's an angel, is keeping me posted about everything. We all agree that something is very off about him and we don't know what it is. But he hasn't agreed to getting himself checked out in any way.

I don't know how they'll go about it, but they say, and painfully I have to agree, that it's best to keep my distance for a bit because most of his craziness is aimed at me. I'm safe and so is he. I miss him so much and I just want an answer as to why he's being like this. I keep trying to figure out if there were signs before or what I did wrong. Okay, I admit, I think I was wrong. This does actually sound like some kind of psychotic break.

I hope he gets help. This could be like a... I've heard of brain tumors doing something like this where the tumor puts pressure on part of your brain and it Completely changes your personality and then when you remove the tumor you're back to normal. So maybe something like that I don't know our next reddit post is from throwaway. Hey, so yesterday I was jerking it a pastime which I will likely not do for a long time after this. On this website, there's a section called Videos Being Watched Now. One of these videos catches my eye because I recognize the setting of the video. It looks like the bathroom of my wife Mary's childhood home.

And my jaw nearly dropped off my face when I saw what looked like my effing high school sweetheart girlfriend stepping out of the shower, not knowing she's being filmed. We've been together for nearly 13 years now and this must have been the year before we met when she would have been 18 or 19. The video is grainy and old and there is a shadow of a doubt that I'm just making the whole thing up and that I've never met this person in my life. That being said, I've been in denial about this being real. So I went on Zillow and I compared pictures of her

old bathroom and I'm like 99% sure that this is her and her old bathroom. Who the F could have possibly done this? She has a dad and a brother, but there's no f-ing way that they did this, right? There's no history of any sort of crazy abuse or anything like that. I spent a lot of time trying to reverse image search the video and find out where it originated from, hoping that at least if we found out where it was originally posted, we could maybe see if we could get any sort of hint as to who it was. I haven't told my wife yet. I found no evidence of any other videos of her out there. But it still leaves us with the fact that somebody probably took a video of her coming out of the

shower. And it had to be someone she trusts, obviously. I don't know what I should tell her because on one hand, somebody very close to her has fully betrayed her, but on the other, I could just let her enjoy the bliss of her ignorance for the rest of her life. We're adults now, and we live states away from everybody. Her dad passed away a couple of years ago, so if we do find out that it was him, there's no way for any closure on that end. What do I do? Should I tell her? Or

should I bury this so deep within my vault that it's never thought about again? Would you want to be told? Also, OP adds in an edit, There have been times in our life when I told her things that open up this whole can of worms. And she, an incredibly high anxiety person, talks to me about all the ways that it's messed up and all the new things that she has to think about now. And at some point she says, I think I wish you never told me. So that's kind of a big deal. We are both going to need therapy after this one.

OP, honestly, I think you have an obligation to tell her. Because otherwise, that means you're hiding secrets from your wife, and that's just scummy. In that case, she's been betrayed twice, once by the person who filmed her and once by her husband who's keeping that a secret from her. Also, down in the comments, we have this story from the dirtiest of dirties. Okay, I have a story that might muddy the water a bit, but it could take some stress away.

I grew up on 22 acres out in the country, and when I was 4 or 5, we had a brand new modular double-wide home put on the property. Three bedroom, two bath. Nothing special, but it was home. Fast forward 25 years and my wife and I are about to rent a 5 bedroom, two bath house in the city in a nice subdivision. We're touring the house for the first time and when we walk into the master bedroom, it is identical to the master bedroom in the house that I grew up in. Not similar

or kinda like it, but identical. Down to the flooring, the brand of toilet and bathtub, the shower layout, the double vanity, the exact same corner of the house. You'd be surprised how much builders just copy and paste room specs from a common source. Grainy video plus copypasta bathroom could make it seem like it's your wife when it might not be. And op replies, that makes me feel a lot better for some reason lol. Our next reddit post is from throwaway. I'm a 29 year old woman and my husband is 32. My husband is making AI erotica about grooming a minor. What do I do? Typing this out breaks my soul. I'm physically ill. I'm at a loss. I'm married to someone who's been the love of my life for many years. He left a chatbot open on his computer

and I scrolled through because at first I was amused. I knew that he'd been making lewd AI chats and I rolled my eyes because I read plenty of erotica myself. But then I almost threw up because this chat was about him… Oh geez. Having relations with the mother of a 14 year old girl and he said the girl… He said he was into the girl.

As he helped her with her schoolwork, he did subtle grooming tactics. Then he went on to tell the AI that later in the story he wants to have an encounter with the girl. I was shaking. Who is this man that I've poured my soul into? Nothing he's done has crossed legal lines yet because of AI laws. I've scoured the internet until my fingers were metaphorically raw. I want to throw up. This man has half my heart. We have two little boys who we both worship and he's the best father I could have ever asked for. He loves me and I love him. Where do I even go from here?

My only thought is continuing to collect evidence. But to what end? What do I do? My soul is shattering. OP, you want to collect evidence? Collect evidence for what? If this already isn't enough to go to a divorce lawyer, then what are you waiting for? Our next Reddit post is from throwaway. My husband and I booked a last minute getaway to Vegas for a couple of nights. We arrived yesterday. We had tickets to see a show last night, but after a long day of drinking in the heat, I wasn't feeling well and needed to end the night early. I encouraged my husband to still go so he could enjoy his evening, so he did and I went

to sleep. 2am rolls around and I wake up to find that he never came back to his room. The show we were supposed to see is literally at our hotel. So I start to panic. I go to check his location and it's off. Then I text him asking where he was. He reads it, but doesn't respond. I call him several times and he sends me to voicemail. While I was trying to get a hold of him, I see there were two separate charges for a thousand dollars plus from a strip club. Geez, two thousand dollars? He didn't respond to me till nearly 3am and texted me that he was on his way back. Thirty minutes later, he stumbles into the room, absolutely obliterated.

He tries to lie and says that he was just gambling down on the strip, that he never went to the strip club even though the charges were literally made with Apple Pay and he hadn't lost his phone. After going through his receipts, I found that he'd been at the strip club for nearly five hours, essentially confirming that he left for the strip club right after the show ended and then came back to the hotel 40 minutes after my first where are you text message. I also checked all of our accounts and if all the charges made settle as they are, then

he'll have spent nearly $6,000 there. He swears he didn't cheat on me and says nothing sexual happened. Though I can only imagine the situations you find yourself in after five hours in a strip club, especially when you're intoxicated beyond comprehension. I feel like I'll never truly know what happened and that alone is the most painful part. We flew home a day early and I just have no idea where to go from here. We've been together for 7 years, married for 4 years in just a couple of months. As far as I was aware, we're in a great place in our marriage and there haven't been any issues with infidelity in the past.

This is completely out of character. I'm absolutely crushed and deeply disappointed. He was reckless with our money, with my trust, with our marriage, and it really f***ing hurts. The fact that we were on a solo trip together and instead of coming back to me or doing literally anything else, he chose to go to a strip club. Yo, I'm not sure what's worse here. Going to a strip club for 5 hours or spending $6,000 in just one evening of drinking? Also down in the comments,

Alekka Sandra offers some interesting advice. Okay, so there's a simple fix. Dispute the charge, so that way the club has to prove that it was authorized. Strip clubs usually get really pissy about that and they spill all the tea. That's the closest you're going to get to finding out the truth. To be honest though, you have to know that dropping 6k, turning off location and leaving you unread and denying your calls means that he cheated, right? Our next reddit post is from Throwaway Debating Hubby. I'm a 27 year old woman and my husband, who's a lawyer, is 36. His debating skills are ruining my marriage. I feel absolutely crushed. How do I get through to him? We've been together for five years now. I don't know how much more I can take. I'm feeling

absolutely crushed and powerless in my relationship. And I'm breaking down just writing this. My husband is a lawyer and his debating skills are ruining everything. It feels like every time we have a disagreement, he turns it into a debate competition. He's brilliant at pointing out logical fallacies in my arguments, but it makes me feel so unheard and undervalued. I don't even know what some of these terms mean and it's frustrating when he uses them to dismiss my feelings. Every argument we have turns into a nightmare where he uses his lawyer tricks to make me feel completely worthless. He throws around all these terms that I don't understand like appeal to emotion, ad hominem

and false dichotomy and I'm left feeling like I'm small and stupid. Last week we fought about where to spend the holidays. I tried to explain how much it means to me to be with my family this year. Instead of listening, he just said I was making an appeal to emotion and that my feelings were irrelevant compared to his logic. Another time, I told him I felt ignored because he's always working late. He said I was making a hasty generalization and that just because he works late sometimes, that doesn't mean that he doesn't care about me. I don't get any of these terms or arguments and it feels like I'm constantly losing.

Every conversation turns to him tearing apart my feelings with these fancy words. And I'm left feeling utterly defeated and alone. I feel like I'm constantly on the defensive because I can't keep up with his arguments. I love him so much, but I'm struggling so much to keep up. I feel completely powerless. I want to have meaningful conversations without being belittled. I've tried explaining how this makes me feel, but it seems like I'm just hit with more technical jargon.

Even when I try to use I statements and be honest with my feelings, he says that I'm catastrophizing things. I'm not sure what that even means. I'll tell him that I'm feeling isolated and unheard and what he said is not helpful at all. But he again manages to come up with some term or argument that I can't refute. It's so frustrating sometimes that I want to just smack him with a rolling pin. The top comment from Baboon Stew is,

Just yell, OBJECTION! This is our home, not a courtroom. Do you want to win the argument or fix the problem? Yeah, my wife and I just had our 14th anniversary, so we've been together for a long time, still very happy with each other. The best piece of advice I could ever give someone is when you're fighting, it's not you versus your partner. It's you and your partner versus the problem. As soon as you and your partner understand that, it'll be so much easier to get through problems. That was r slash relationships

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