rSlash - r/Relationships My Mom is 2 Years Older than Me

Episode Date: January 24, 2025

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My dad's girlfriend is 25, two years older than me, and she started moming me yesterday. We're on a family trip and they just got back together after a two year separation. Well, she just showed up to our family Thanksgiving and I guess that means they're back together. They met when she was 18 and he introduced her to me and my siblings when she was 19 and I was 17. He lied and said that she was 25 at the time, but a little light googling, I found that she was 19. We're on like day 8 of our 11 day trip and now all of a sudden yesterday she started

treating me like a child and she's trying to make it apparent that we're from different generations and it's getting on my nerves. For example, she tried explaining what Vine is to me and she wishes it was still around so I could experience it too even though I did. Then today, I was making jokes with my 19 year old sister, literally making fun of myself and the girlfriend jumps in with a stern voice and says, Girls, stop it right now. It was a very stern, disciplinary voice because she mistakenly thought that my sister made fun of me.

This made my blood boil because even if we were fighting, she has no business jumping into the conversation to stop it or to take on an authoritarian role. Later on, my girlfriend explained to my other sister, who's 18, how to turn on a normal shower and asked my sister if she needed help undressing and getting in the shower. My sister obviously felt very uncomfortable and was like, hell no, I'm not showering and getting undressed in front of you. And this woman acts like an 18 year old girl is incompetent. By the way, this girl is my dad's sugar baby and is completely supported by my dad.

She's extremely spoiled and entitled. Like she won't drink anything less than Voss water and she must have top tier designer clothes and jewelry on her at all times. My dad and his girlfriend are really toxic for each other. They've broken up at least 20 times that I know of since I met her. This top post from Lizzie Bonnet. Does she have a dad? You could do the funniest thing.

Ooh, and this reply from Nick Pimpslap. He doesn't even need to be single for it to be funny. Our next reddit post is from Throwaway Tall Giraffe. I'm a 21 year old woman and I met John, who's 22, in a college class last semester. He's an overall great guy and he's very respectful and kind. He also has a great sense of humor and we have lots of similar interests. We've been friends since then and we started dating this July. He's the first person I've ever dated in my life. Last September, he met my family when I visited home for my brother's birthday.

My brother Trev, who's 19, has been deaf since birth. So my whole family communicates with him either through sign language, Trev's lip reading, or through text. During our small celebration at home, it was clear that my parents liked John. He was very charming, funny, and respectful. He even tried to connect with Trev by typing some of his jokes for Trev to read. Whenever John would tell a story, either I or my parents would sign it for Trev. My parents said that they're happy that I found a sweet and caring guy in John.

Of course, I was glad to hear this. Before we went back, John and Trev had a quick call of duty gaming session. For someone with Trev's condition, he's a really talkative guy. He's very expressive and likes to communicate a lot, especially when gaming. Of course, he couldn't outwrite trash talk, but he does the closest thing with his hands. So there we were in Trev's room, with John and Trev playing while I was translating for them. I was laughing way too hard because Trev was trying his best to trash talk John, like saying

he's weak and trying to say all these expletives, but I'm trying my best to tone it down for John. Meanwhile, I'm translating John's instructions and strategies for Trev. Also, because this was the first time John met my family, he was saying all these praises to Trev, like, good job job or we can do better next time. Although I know that deep inside, he also wants to trash talk my brother. The two of them got along pretty well and they've

been having online gaming sessions since then. Two weeks ago, John visited home along with me again for my mom's birthday. There, he surprised everyone, including me, by communicating with Trev through American Sign Language. John was still at just the alphabet, some basic words, and some rehearsed phrases, but we were all delighted that he even made the effort.

Trev's face lit up, and I've never seen him happier having a new long-term friend with low communication barriers. Apparently, John's been watching some YouTube tutorials and got a free subscription to Skillshare to learn ASL. John has been religiously learning American Sign Language since then, and he's been watching some YouTube tutorials and got a free subscription to Skillshare to learn ASL. John has been religiously learning American Sign Language since then and he's been making a lot of progress. I was so happy with this, so I told my close friend group from high school. However, most of my friends, especially my closest guy friend, told me that what John

was doing was a red flag because it could be a form of obsession and emotional manipulation. He also said it was creepy because John's becoming too attached to my family when we've only been dating for five months. He also said that John might only be doing this so he could get laid or something. I know there's some validity to what my friend said, but I'm not really convinced. John's been a wonderful and sincere guy this entire time, and I know it's naive to say this because he's my first ever relationship, but I can see this becoming long term. Yeah, we haven't hooked up yet because I told him I wasn't ready yet,

but he's never pressured me to do it. However, is his behavior something I should really be concerned about? Again, I don't have any experience with dating or relationships, so I don't know if this is something that's truly concerning. My friends are pushing for me to break up with John, but I'm not sure. How do I proceed? OP, what your boyfriend is doing here is super, super sweet, so I'm not even sure what your friends are talking about.

This isn't a red flag, it's a green flag. Well, one month later, OP posted an update. Last week, my friend group had our year-ender party and I decided to bring John along to meet the rest of my friends. My other friend in the group also brought his girlfriend, so this wasn't really weird. Initially, there was some tension and awkwardness from my friend group towards John. They were a bit cold and they were throwing some harsh remarks towards him. Eventually though, they all warmed up to him, and they were actually pleasantly surprised

by his personality. We all got along well and we even had fun in our games. However, I could tell that there was still awkward tension coming from Mike toward John and the rest of our group. My friend Mike was throwing meaner jokes at my boyfriend than usual, and he was kind of isolating himself from the activities. The day after the party, I had lunch with my closest girlfriend, Sophie, who's 21, to clear the air because I could tell that they could also sense that something was off.

A lot of redditors speculated that Mike had a crush on me and was jealous of my relationship with John. Turns out, you guys were 10,000% correct. But it's a lot more complicated than that. Apparently, Mike has had a crush on me since our senior year in high school. However, he's known in our school as a notorious ladies man and had a new girl with him almost every month. This got exponentially worse during college.

He had different hookups almost every night, and he even had a pregnancy scare with a girl last year. I know about all this because he bragged about sleeping around every time we meet up. What I didn't know was the entire time Mike had been making up fake stories about me and him. Sophie told me that apparently Mike and I had a pact that if we're both still single when we're 30, we'd marry each other. Also he told our friend group that we hooked up after graduation and he took my virginity then so he's my special person.

He also told them that we'd been secretly hooking up consistently throughout college. Lastly Mike told them that I said that I'm in love with him. He told our friends not to tell me anything so I don't get embarrassed or upset since I have this image of being somewhat of a prude. Mike also told our friend group that when he met John, he thought that John was a total jerk who's been manipulating me and taking advantage of my innocence and naivete. He said that John has been forcing himself into my family and is driving a wedge between me and my friends.

Mike also said that after he had lunch with me and John, he tried to convince me to stay away from John because he's not a good influence on me, but John had effectively brainwashed me. This explains why my friend group was already so antagonistic towards John when I told them about him. For the record, none of what Mike said was true. There's no pact, we never hooked up, and I have never been in love with him. After that, Sophie and I asked the rest of our friend group, except Mike, to jump on a FaceTime call with us.

They all shared different versions of what Mike told them. There were a lot more stories, but I disputed everything. We were all collectively shocked about everything that we learned that day. They apologized for their behavior towards me and John, and I told them I understood given all the lies fed to them by Mike. Then everyone agreed to kick Mike out of the friend group. Sophie suggested that maybe we could have an intervention for Mike first, but I just said that I didn't want anything to do with him anymore. The rest of the group agreed, so we're essentially cutting him off.

Sophie said that she would talk to him to inform him of everything that happened, but I really just wanted to distance myself from him. Now it's been a week of being Mike-free. Sophie said that when she and her other guy friends talked to Mike, he became extremely defensive, confrontational, and aggressive. He wasn't physically violent, but he called them names, attacked their characters, and made awful statements about everyone in our friend group. It looks like cutting him off completely was the right call.

The rest of this rather long post is OP just describing that her relationship with John is good, also John's relationship with Trev and the rest of her family is also good. John even invited Trev to his Dungeons and Dragons sessions. Our next Reddit post is from throwawayice. I'm a 33 year old woman and my husband is 34. His 28 year old pregnant mistress begged me to leave him and I refused. Where do I go from here? I don't know what she qualifies as, if mistress is fitting or not. It was a drunken one-night mistake, according to my husband. They run in the same work circles and fields, but they don't work together. My husband was

dropped off at our house two months ago, drunk off his butt after a company event. He was crying and out of it, blabbering about nonsensical things. I tried sobering him up, but his legs couldn't even support him and I couldn't drag him to the couch. So he slept it off on the ground and the next day he confessed to everything. He was crying and I've only seen him cry a handful of times in all our years of marriage and he said that everything was foggy and he doesn't remember much but that he slept with her.

I won't type in my reaction because I can only describe it as violent. Not physically but I unloaded on him and sobbed and screamed and then lied to our kids after it woke them up. We tested him for drugs because what he was describing, having a foggy memory even though he didn't drink that describing, having a foggy memory even though he didn't drink that much, was assault. And as awful as it is, I felt a little bit of relief that it might have been that he was drugged and that he hadn't willingly cheated on me, but there was no trace of drugs

in his system. The past two months have been brutal on us, but we're slowly working on us in therapy. Some may call it weak, but I didn't divorce him. But I just can't bring myself to do it and believe me, I thought about it a lot. He hasn't had contact with her since that night up until she got his number and sent him a picture of her blood work a few days ago. She's pregnant and is asking him to meet up. That sent us into another spiral, but we agreed that I would meet her because there's an

innocent life on the line. I wish I could say that she's awful, and I hate myself for this, but under different circumstances, her and I would have been good friends. She seemed ashamed and honestly looked lost. She's not that much younger than my husband and I. We're 33 and 34, and she's 28, but grew up sheltered by her religious parents. Not that that's an excuse. I asked her what she was going to do with the baby and she got quiet. I don't know what I thought she was going to say but it certainly wasn't her asking me to leave him. She said that once her

boyfriend finds out, he'll leave her and her parents will cut her off for having a bastard baby and that she can't do it on her own, and that I'll get a nice settlement and start fresh. I laughed. God help me, but I laughed harder than I thought I could while she started crying. These past two months have been testing my sanity, and I don't have that much left in me. Once I calmed down, I told her that I will not leave him.

If she wants to have a baby, we'll figure out support and custody, but that's about it. She started crying harder in the middle of the cafe, but hell, we were already getting looks from my unhinged laughing and begged me to leave him. I told her I won't. My husband and I have been together since I was 14 and he was 15. We stuck together through high school, got engaged and married throughout our bachelors and masters, have two beautiful kids and we're trying for more.

And I won't throw all that away just because SHE spread her legs and he screwed her once. He's all I've ever known. I don't even remember a life without him in it. And let's say I agreed to leave him. Then what? He'll marry her and she'll take over my life and be in my kids' lives raising them half the time? I didn't let her get a word in and I was crying by the time that I was done with my rant and I left her there sobbing too. My husband and I already talked with

a lawyer for a paternity test and were waiting on that before we do anything else. My husband sent her a text with my contact information and told her all communication are to be done through me before he blocked her number. I didn't ask him to do that, but he's trying. I just don't know where to go from here if it does turn out to be his kid. Wait, hold on. So this woman has a boyfriend. Why exactly does she think that it's your husband's baby and not her boyfriend's baby? This sounds a little fishy to me. Our next Reddit post is from NotKelsey. For context, my boyfriend and I have been together for three years.

Since I've known him, he's always loved Pokemon. Personally, I have no interest, but as his partner, I encourage his hobbies and support him. This past Christmas, we had a few brief conversations about Christmas budgets and we've mentioned to each other things that we've been wanting. I know packs of Pokemon cards were on the top of his list, so I made sure to get him some. I mentioned wanting a few beauty products and a specific hoodie.

Well, Christmas comes around and to my surprise, I opened my gifts and the first one is a pack of Pokemon cards. Okay, whatever. The next one was a a pack of Pokemon cards. Okay, whatever. The next one was a booster box of Pokemon cards. I stop and ask him if he's joking because this must be a joke, right? Well, he smirks and tells me to keep going. I open my next gift

and it was another booster box of Pokemon cards. He was full of excitement while I opened my gifts. That's it. Those were my three gifts. I am not and never have been interested in Pokemon. After this, I told him I needed a moment to myself. I went to our bedroom and took a moment to gather my thoughts and lower my temper. When I came back to the living room, there he was on the floor. Both booster packs and the packs of cards that he got me were open and sprawled across the floor. I was in shock!

Not only did he get me gifts that I didn't want, but he actually got them for himself and tried to play it off. I have been trying to move past this as I didn't want to seem ungrateful, but I just can't believe that he would do something like this. Every time I've tried to bring it up, he's told me how expensive those booster boxes In the title, OP lists the boyfriend's age as 30, which is crazy because this behavior is more suitable for like a 6 year old. That was r slash relationships and if you like this content be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.