rSlash - r/Trueoffmychest My Husband Got My Mom Pregnant!

Episode Date: March 26, 2022

r/Trueoffmychest Today's story is a wild ride. OP is a married woman who lives next to her parents. One day, she walks in on her husband sleeping with her own mother! She learns that her husband and m...om have been having an affair for over a decade, and he even got her pregnant! That means that some of her siblings are actually her step-siblings AND her step-children! OP becomes utterly heartbroken and destroys her mom's life because she deserves it! Get $90 off and a free gift at Sunbasket! Go to sunbasket.com/rslash - Enter the promocode "rslash" at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Welcome to R-slashTrue off my chest, where OP discovers that her mother has been sleeping with her husband for two decades. Today's episode is sponsored by Sunbasket. Because of COVID, I literally haven't gone to the grocery store in like two years. Obviously because I don't want COVID to kill me, but also because I do voice work, so I don't think my fans would really enjoy my content if I catch COVID and I have to record episodes like, welcome to R-SlasprowerVenge! That's why I love, love, love services like Sun Basket. Sun Basket is a meal delivery service that delivers healthy meals straight to your door.
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Starting point is 00:01:34 I'm a 40-year-old woman. My dad, who's 63 and my mom, who's 60, have been married for 43 years. I have six siblings, a 42-year-old sister, a 38-year-old sister, a 34-year-old sister, a 20-year-old brother, another 20-year-old brother, and an 18-year-old brother. I've been with my husband, who's 39, since we were 15. I got pregnant at the age of 17 and moved in with my parents. I gave birth to my now 22-year-old daughter. We got married at 18 shortly after.
Starting point is 00:02:03 My dad's father passed away shortly after our wedding, and he left his ranch-style house to my father. My grandparents built a house next door to my parents when they retired. My parents decided to let us live in this house, and they told us this would be my inheritance. My husband and I had no issues with this. We went on to have more kids, a 20 year old son, a 14 year old daughter, a 5 year old daughter, and I'm currently 7 months pregnant with my last child, a boy, doing April. I thought that I had a good marriage. We were intimate more than twice a week, we went on date nights, we bought each other gifts, we didn't fight. My entire world was shattered
Starting point is 00:02:40 on New Year's Eve when I returned early from a girls trip that I had taken with some friends. I walked into my bedroom to find my mom having sex with my husband. My mother screamed at me to get out of their bedroom, which really shook me up even more. Unfortunately, my oldest daughter was also home in her bedroom across the house getting ready for a party. She ran out and witnessed my naked mother covered in a bedsheet run out of our house next door to their house and then slammed the door. My daughter was devastated and went to my sister's house. I asked her not to say anything until I first talked to my husband. I asked him for the truth. He told me that my mom seduced him when we were 18 and living in their house. They've been having unprotected intercourse at least once a month for longer than we were married.
Starting point is 00:03:31 I ran the math and I was horrified because the timeline meant that my twin brothers and youngest brother could be my husbands. I immediately called my dad and told him to come to my house without my mom. I made my husband confess and my dad was devastated. He and my mom were high school sweethearts too. Needless to say, we could hear my mother screaming from her house when he confronted her. I then told my older sister and she and I decided to have her throw a party for the whole extended family and we invited my ex's family as well. At the party, I had my 22 year old daughter take all the kids to our basement and put a
Starting point is 00:04:10 movie on, leaving only the adult children and siblings upstairs, and I told them all exactly what had been going on. Most of the family is on my side, except for my three youngest siblings, my 38 year old sister, and my ex's entire family. They all say that I'm the butthole for dropping this publicly. Word got out, and my mom's best friend, who's on leadership at my mom's church, called me to verify. My mom has since been let go as the children's pastor there, and she claims I've essentially ruined her reputation in life. My dad kicked her out, and now she's living with my 38-year-old sister.
Starting point is 00:04:48 And lastly, my dad insisted on a DNA test for the three youngest boys before he consider anything to do with their marriage. The twins are my husband's biological children. I've since kicked my husband out of the house, and he's living with his parents. Oh my God. My father and I are discussing me moving into his much larger house and him selling my grandfather's house and him giving me the money to buy a new house somewhere else to get rid of the memories. My husband is appalled and furious that I proved that he actually has seven kids, not five and that I'm going to be taking half of his business
Starting point is 00:05:25 away from him. My husband started his own HVAC company a few years back, and for the first five years, I helped him get it set up, ran the office completely, and took time away from my teaching career to help him get it established. In my state, all marital assets, including businesses, are split 50-50.
Starting point is 00:05:44 Since the house was still in my father's name, my husband will get no money from the sale. Neither will my mother, since inherited assets are not subject to be split in divorces. My mother is also likely to not get any alimony, because our state is a no-fault divorce state. A month has passed, and I'm now extremely bitter and angry at my mother, especially at her hypocrisy of calling me a whore and shaming my family when she's done so much worse. I also despise my ex with everything within me now, because he was having intercourse with both my mom and me, in some instances coming to our bed just minutes after he was
Starting point is 00:06:24 with her. He got my mother pregnant less than a week after getting me pregnant. And while I initially thought that it was so cute and fun that I shared a pregnancy experience with my mom, she was carrying my children's half siblings. My husband has broken all trust that I had in men and being faithful. I've already gotten a good lawyer from the firm that helped us in financial matters for both me and my dad, and my dad is helping pay for it. My twin brothers, one of my sisters, and my entire ex's family have gone no contact with me and my children. And my children have essentially lost all of their grandparents except for their dad, two uncles, an aunt on my side, and my husband's three brothers,
Starting point is 00:07:05 due to this mess. I've also developed ulcers and digestive issues because of this, so I'm visiting a doctor soon, and I've been in therapy since the first week of January. I've offered family therapy for my two adult children as well, but they're doing individual therapy right now. My 14-year-old daughter knows that we're getting divorced and why, and she's so angry at her dad that I struggle sending her to his house on the weekends. I feel like she's old enough to make a decision about that, but I don't want to damage her relationship with her dad. I have told all my kids that it's okay to love their dad, even if he hurt me, but the
Starting point is 00:07:43 oldest two have cut them off 100%. I won't tell my youngest two kids until their teens why we got divorced, and everyone else has agreed to not spill anything until they're old enough to understand. As for how I had no idea that this affair was ongoing, my husband confirmed to me that they would have intercourse at my mom's office at church. Oh my god! Also, in their cars at a motel, and when we built the business, they started routinely having intercourse in his office after I went back to teaching. They also had intercourse in our houses when my father would go away on business trips
Starting point is 00:08:19 or when I'd be out of town. It was just pure happenstance that I came home a day early from a trip because I was uncomfortable from being nearly 7 months pregnant and I just went in my own bed for me to find out. Knowing they'd still be carrying on this full blown affair if I hadn't caught them is what's making me still so upset. The fact that the grandmother and the father of my children cared so little about destroying our families is what I can't get past. What's hardest for me is that my own mother would do this to me and would continue to do
Starting point is 00:08:52 this for years and not caring when all blew up in her face and that she would be destroying her entire family. Also, to add insult to injury, my husband confirmed in one of our mediated conversations that the affair started when I apparently made him angry. He didn't tell me that he was angry and instead vented to my mom when they were alone. She comforted him and that was the first time. He loved it and then pursued her after that. He said that he would have divorced me, but he knew that he would get cut off from her, and she was so much better at intercourse than I was, so he stuck
Starting point is 00:09:30 it out with me. He told me that I was a placeholder of all the betrayals and low blows, that statement is what keeps me up at night. Okay, so of all the thousands and thousands of Reddit posts that I've read, this has to be one of the top five craziest stories easily. Your husband cheating on you with your mother-in-law for like 20 years in a church? Oh my god. Then he impregnated both you and your mother at the exact same time. God, I can't get over this! Then OP posted an update. I tried hard to go the route of immediate divorce,
Starting point is 00:10:09 but my ex told me yesterday through his lawyers that he doesn't believe the baby that I'm carrying is his, and he wants a DNA test as soon as the baby's born because he doesn't want to support a child that isn't his. He also believes that I routinely cheated on him through our marriage and that I routinely cheated on him through our marriage and that I knew about his ongoing affair and used that as my excuse to have my own affairs. None of that is true, but I kind of wish it was because it would make this divorce so much easier.
Starting point is 00:10:37 My lawyer basically told me to get ready for a long, drawn-out, brutal contested divorce, and that my ex is likely going to try every underhanded tactic in the book to make my life even more miserable. Then OP posted another update. I had a phone conversation with my aunt today, as in my mother sister, and she told me that there's a family history of cheating in our family on their side of the family. My grandma cheated on my grandpa for years, but they reconciled. My aunt herself had multiple emotional affairs, but she still married to my uncle.
Starting point is 00:11:14 She tried blaming genetics on my mom's affair. I laughed out loud at the absurdity of that attempt to justify her affair, and my aunt is now mad at me for not hearing my mother out for her explanations for cheating. My dad and lawyer both say I should hear her out. So I'm still considering doing it right before we meet an early march to establish custody. So this person's literally trying to argue
Starting point is 00:11:37 that there's a cheating gene, give me a break. Then OP posted another update. I met with my mom, dad, and our lawyers this evening. Essentially, my mother said that she knew that it was wrong, but she enjoyed the attention. The intercourse was great, and she enjoyed the thrill of it. She kept sleeping with my dad because she enjoyed their financial stability and carefree life and wanted to stay married. She purposefully slept with my dad after every time that
Starting point is 00:12:06 she slept with my husband so that if she got pregnant, she could pass off the child as his. She also admitted to enjoying the knowledge that my ex enjoyed intercourse with her more than me. She then said that she's moving in with my ex-husband to his new place and that she invited the boys to live with them. The twins have visited once since the affair went public and told her they don't like my ex and refuse to treat him like he's their father. She said eventually they'll come around once she's married to my ex and then she'll have her family back. Oh my god, this is getting crazier!
Starting point is 00:12:40 I laughed out loud and told her she was delusional and needed psychiatric help. Then, I told her I'd be taking she was delusional and needed psychiatric help. Then I told her I'd be taking out an order of protection against her, so she'd have no access to my minor children. She called me a jealous, ungrateful cow for not appreciating that she didn't abort me and let me live. She said that I should be happy that they didn't kick me out when I came home knocked up.
Starting point is 00:13:03 She even had the nerve to say that I should be thankful she kept my husband happy when I couldn't so he didn't divorce me and leave me a broken and damaged single mother. She then told my dad that she suffered from postpartum depression after my birth and my dad ignored it and her and made her feel alone so she felt justified in hating me and to have affairs. She admitted to having multiple affairs from six months after I was born until New Year's Eve, and she said that she would still be doing it if I hadn't ruined everything. So my 38 year old sister and my 34 year old sister might not belong to my dad either. My dad is even more heartbroken and angry, but we did have both of our lawyers present and we got it on record. My dad is even more heartbroken and angry, but we did have both of our lawyers present
Starting point is 00:13:46 and we got it on record. My dad has already reached out to my siblings, but to nobody's surprise, I guess my 38-year-old sister already knew this was a possibility, because my mom told her about both affairs when the twins were born, and she knew that they might not be my dad's and kept it from us. My dad is devastated by that, even more than losing his relationship with my mom. I'm not sure their relationship will ever recover. I genuinely have no clue what's wrong with my 38 year old sister.
Starting point is 00:14:15 My 34 year old sister doesn't want a paternity test and said that our dad will always be her dad. My dad is fine with that. I sent a message to my ex husband through my lawyer that I'll be filing an order of protection tomorrow so that my kids won't have to go to my ex's house if my mother is there. Neither my husband nor my mother has even attempted to find new housing either. So I guess they're planning to move into my ex-in-laws house?
Starting point is 00:14:40 I really don't want my kids around that mess. My husband has yet to respond, but at this point, I really don't want my kids around that mess. My husband has yet to respond, but at this point, I really don't care what he wants. Oh geez. You know how you like see stories online of a husband who murders a wife or a wife who murders a husband and you think to yourself, man, why don't you just get a divorce? Then you read stories like this and you're like, I can understand it. Now to be clear, I'm not saying anyone should murder anyone. I'm just saying with the amount of like hatred and anger that these people must be feeling, I can sympathize with the impulse to want to literally kill
Starting point is 00:15:15 someone. I can't even imagine the heartbreak that I would feel if my own wife had been cheating on me for two decades with my daughter's husband, betraying both me and my daughter simultaneously non-stop for two decades. There's not even a word for that level of hurt and betrayal. And then after she gets caught, she blames you guys and tries to say that she was doing you a favor, there's something wrong with this woman's brain. There's something wrong with your husband's brain. They are seriously messed up.
Starting point is 00:15:49 Honestly, I don't blame your 14 year old daughter for not wanting to hang out with her father. You said that she should still love her father, even though her father hurt you, but like, the father hurt her as well. Your husband didn't just break up your family, your husband also destroyed his kids' family as well. Your husband didn't just break up your family, your husband also destroyed his kids' family as well. Alright, I think I just gotta like, in this video here, because there's literally no story on all of Reddit that can top the story that I just read. That was our slash true off my chest, and if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast, because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.
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