rSlash - r/Trueoffmychest My Husband's Mistress Came to My Wedding

Episode Date: July 13, 2023

0:00 Intro 0:09 Wedding ruined 7:37 Tragic story 12:49 Not invited Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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For daily door crashing deals, visit your local travel agent or... Welcome to R-SlashTrue Off My Chest, where OP discovers that her husband has been cheating for four years. Our next Reddit post is from Level Cabinet. I have debated about posting this, but I have to rant to someone. I'm a 23 year old woman, and I had my wedding with my now husband, Josh, who's 26 last week. At first, everything was beautiful. I got married to my high school sweetheart and was so happy. It felt like my fairy tale come true.

I felt like a princess. While I'm taking photos with my bridesmaids, I see Josh's cousin, Nicole, with a girl Sarah, who I'm unfamiliar with. Sarah isn't very talkative, but she's friendly to me at first. We finish our photos and go inside to relax and chat before I walk down the aisle. Later, after vows were exchanged, I bump into Sarah while on my way to the food table. Sarah is clearly intoxicated, but through her slurred speaking, I could hear her ranting about how crowded the venue was, but then it escalated. I was getting food for my mom when Sarah said that she was surprised that Josh married

someone like you because Josh could do better than me. I tried to laugh it off, and I told her I was very lucky to have him. The interaction left me feeling upset, but I brushed it off as her just being drunk, and I started drinking too, and soon I forgot about it. Time passed, I was feeling good, and me and my husband were dancing. Suddenly, I hear a crashing sound near the food table, and all of us rush over to see what was happening. I see Sarah on the ground sobbing hysterically and Nicole was trying to calm her down. Sarah had completely smashed my wedding cake and ripped off the decorations.

My heart was broken to see my wedding cake completely destroyed, but I tried to ask what was wrong, and Sarah started screaming and cursing me. I was confused and drunk, so I started shouting back and ordered my husband to kick her out. He didn't want to, and told me she should be allowed to stay since she was a friend. I argued with him, and told him that she ruined my wedding. It eventually took my husband and Nicole to get Sarah under control and convinced her to go home. Nicole left with Sarah and when my husband came back, he looked angry with me. What? He completely blew me off for the rest of the night and I could tell the atmosphere was now awkward for my guests.

What is going? What am I reading? The next day, my husband lectured me about how I hurt Sarah's feelings and demanded I apologize to her. We argued and he slept on the couch. Things eventually cooled down so I tried to talk to him about the following days, but he shut me down and just told me I was being over-dramatic about the situation. I have never even seen Sarah until my wedding, so I have no clue why she would lash out like that.

I am hurt that my husband doesn't see my perspective. Even though she was drunk, she ruined my special day. And now I can't think of the happy memories I have because I can only think of that incident. Sorry for the long read. Thanks for listening. Okay, something's not adding up here. You said, okay, let me think. You said that Josh is your high school sweetheart,

and he's three years older than me. So that would imply to me that you were a freshman in high school when you met, and he was a senior, maybe a junior. So you've known your husband for your entire adult life and his entire adult life. But you've literally never met this friend of his before. She just showed up, and he's protective of this woman, Sarah, even though you've never met her.

Where did she come from? How is this guy friends with this girl that you've never even met her after being together for anywhere between four to seven years? And then he's defending her. Is he really that much okay? There's only a couple logical explanations here. One is that your husband is a mega pushover, a mega mega super people pleaser, and he hates the idea of confrontation, so he's mad at you for getting mad at a guest just because they

caused a scene and he wants everyone to be happy, which doesn't seem very likely. Another explanation is that Sarah secretly loves your husband, and he knows about it and he feels guilty about it, so he's protecting your feelings that way. And the third explanation I can think of, which in my opinion is the most likely explanation, is that he cheated with her. And he still has feelings for her and Sarah still has feelings for him and that's why she made a big scene with the wedding and why he's defending her. You know, I can't back it up, I'm just saying it is a logical explanation.

But in any event, something super, super fishy about the story, because Sarah's reaction doesn't make sense, and your husband's reaction doesn't make sense. Is there an update? Please tell me there's an update on this post. Oh, there is an update. I'm gonna make this as short as possible. I know this update isn't gonna be very shocking, but I at least wanna explain myself a bit better. I started thinking and taking everyone's replies into consideration and called Nicole. Nicole is the cousin. I demanded she tell me the truth and she eventually did. You all were right.

Sarah and Josh were a thing. Yes, he cheated on me. I knew it. I knew it. For some backstory, me and Josh have known each other since elementary school. We grew up together and started dating freshman year of high school. Hey, I was right! So she was a freshman and he was either a sophomore in a junior.

He was my first everything. I've never loved someone the way I love him. I didn't want to believe Nicole when she confirmed my suspicions. When she told me he cheated on me, my heart sank, and I haven't stopped feeling nauseous. I'm completely devastated. How could I be so foolish? How couldn't I see what was laid out right in front of me? Is this even real?

Sarah went to a different high school than me and Josh. Nicole introduced Sarah and Josh. Nicole knew that he was taken, but she never liked me because I mixed race. Nicole's a terrible person. My husband dated Sarah while he was dating me all through high school. When he graduated, he ended things with Sarah. He isn't currently cheating on me, but Sarah was still angry that Josh ghosted her, so she took it out on me.

Nicole brought Sarah to the wedding, knowing Sarah wanted some type of revenge. I didn't want to believe that the love of my life, my whole world, the person I cherish the most could do this to me. He cheated on me for four whole years, and I was completely oblivious. I don't want to lose him, but I can't look at him the same. He's always been so sweet, so caring of me, so loving. I wish this wasn't real. I wish I could wake up from this terrible nightmare.

When I confront him, I'll update if anything important happens. And for anyone that's been so kind to me, thank you so much. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. Oh man OP, this story is rough. It's painful to see that you don't want him to leave. You said something like, you know, I don't want to leave him because he's always been so kind and loving to me, but that's the thing though. He wasn't actually that kind and loving to you because he was secretly cheating on you for four years. More than half of your relationship is a lie.

So all those positive memories he has of you, they're just, they're just wrong. They're just lies, unfortunately. So the best thing to do is to just get a divorce or maybe even get the marriage annulled. I'm not really sure how that, I don't know, just leave them, man. Okay, Max, we have a new spot for Sunwing vacations. Okay, Sunwing Cyber Monday deals up to 40% off. Hang on, I think we got the wrong script. Yeah, it's 40% off. What's the issue?

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I'm a 45 year old woman, and I met my husband, who's 46, when I was in college. He was the sweetest, kindest, most helpful and supportive man, and overall the best person from the time that I met him and tell his death. We have three kids, a 22 year old woman, an 18 year old woman, and a 16 year old boy. He was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer a year and a half ago, and succumbed to it three weeks ago. Everyone was devastated. Our kids have been struggling a lot, and I'm barely hanging on myself. He was the glue that held everyone together, and my rock for over 20 years. Our oldest daughter is especially having a hard time.

She expressed guilt and regret over not spending much one-on-one time with him, and it's been hitting her hard. A few days after the funeral, I went to visit his younger brother, who's 38 to check on him. He was very close to my husband, and he also lost his wife a few years back, and was pretty much alone outside of his parents while he was looking after his 12-year-old twins. Behind me, he probably visited my husband the most in the hospital. This is where things get devastating.

My brother-in-law confessed to me that one day while he was visiting, more towards the end of my husband's life, my husband expressed that he felt like his kids didn't love him, and will have an easy time getting over his death. He said that he was actually happy that it was him dying and not me, because if it were me, then it would be four people mourning. Or as he felt that with him dying, they'd be sad for a bit, but get over it and would be there to help me grieve. This absolutely killed me.

I wish he could see how much his kids miss him. I can't even imagine being in his position and feeling like your kids don't care. I cried heavily when my brother-in-law told me that. When our first daughter was born, he was so happy to be a father and wanted to be the best dad that he could. As the years went by, we had all of our kids, and they seemed to gravitate towards me, and he noticed that. It's not like he didn't try, he was very involved, he went to as many extracurriculars

as he could. He would try to hang out with them and would constantly tell them that he was an ear if they needed to talk. But it seemed like they only wanted to hang out with me. If I asked them to go on a one-on-one lunch with me, they'd go. If he asked them the same thing, they'd always come up with an excuse. They'd always made posts on their social media accounts for Mother's Day and my birthday, while they never made posts about him.

He always felt left out, and would make small joking comments that hinted on how he felt without expressing it fully. I just brushed it off as him joking. I'm even more distraught now. I feel so much sorrow for him feeling this way. I'm also starting to wonder if I demanded their attention and took away from him. It's weighing on me heavily, and I have no idea how to move forward. Especially since my oldest daughter actually expressed regretting not spending more one

on one time with him. It's been hitting her hard, and she's been staying with me since his passing. She's been a wreck just like me, and it said, I hope he knew how much I loved him. And it kills me to know that he didn't know. I hate everything. Oh man, this was a tough read, OP. Literally, as I'm reading this post, which is my job. My wife is taking care of our kid because she's a stay-at-home mom, and I'll be honest,

that's a deep-seated fear of mine, that my daughter will grow up loving her more than me simply because she spends more time with her. It's like, man, how can a guy compete with that? In single-income households, the breadwinner gets kind of a raw deal because I feel like most kids don't really understand the contribution of the breadwinner until they're like 8, 10, 12 years old does it really start to click just how valuable work and earning an income is? So how do I know I'm going with this? It's just, I feel like this post

is kind of playing on my insecurities a little bit. I feel like this is a very natural thing to be concerned about when one parent takes care of the kid most of the time, the other one works, it's scary to think that you'll be just less loved, less valued, less valued. And I hope that doesn't happen to me. You know what I think about sometimes?

This might be really dark. I really don't know how you guys are going to take this. But sometimes I think that if I just randomly die, you know, a plane falls out of the sky and lands on me and I just die one day or I'm in a car wreck or something, I think of this YouTube channel as being kind of like a time capsule almost where even though my daughter will have never really gotten a chance to know me, at least she can go to these videos and just listen to me talk about random stuff and make silly voices. I don't know, it's kind of weirdly comforting to know that if I die tomorrow, at least she can listen to this video and have some record of me, just my opinions,

my thoughts, and just like, I don't know, get to know me as a person? I don't know, is this really dark? I just think about this sometimes. So Lili, if I'm dead and you're listening to this, I love you girl. Our next Reddit post is from Charming Educator. So my brother's wedding happened two days ago, and it turned into complete chaos, which I know even though I wasn't there. You might wonder why I didn't attend the wedding if it's my brother's wedding. Well, it's because of his wife's family. He did send me an invitation to the wedding

because he wanted me there, but his fiance told him that I couldn't attend because I had a boyfriend. What? You might be confused, but I'm a man. Ah-ha! A bisexual man to be exact, and I have a boyfriend who I wanted to bring to the wedding. She said that even though she doesn't have a problem with that, and he doesn't have a problem with that, her extremely religious parents,

who already forced her to do the wedding in a church, would most likely banish us from the wedding and cause trouble between our families. After she told him that, my brother told me that I couldn't attend and told me why. You might think that I was angry, but the truth is, I was relieved. I hate going to big events with lots of people because of my social anxiety, and I was already used to not being able to attend certain events because of my sexuality, so it was nothing I haven't heard before.

So on the day of the wedding, I stayed at home with my boyfriend. It's worth mentioning that my parents didn't know that I wasn't attending the wedding. I was chilling at home, cuddling with my boyfriend, when I suddenly got a text message from my parents asking me where I was because they couldn't find me at the wedding party. I told them that I wasn't attending the wedding, and I asked them if my brother had spoken to them. They said no and asked me what happened. I didn't see any reason to lie, so I sent them a text message telling them exactly why. Now, I have to admit that I don't know exactly what happened after I sent them the message because they read it, but didn't reply. And why do they care

in the first place? They didn't notice that I wasn't there before until the wedding was already over. They only noticed when the wedding party started. However, apparently my parents talked to my brother about it, and all of a sudden, my absence was the main topic of the wedding party. From what I heard, two factions formed. My side of the family against my brother's wife side of the family. And apparently, as a husband, my brother felt compelled to take her side and try to argue in her favor.

It's crazy to think that I was just sitting at home living my best life with my boyfriend while all that stuff was going down at the wedding. The wedding party was ruined and my brother appeared on my door screaming at me that I ruined his wedding. I was confused, asked him what happened, and he told me everything. I told him that wasn't my intention. I just told our parents what happened because they didn't know and they wanted to know what was going on.

He screamed at me that I ruined his wedding. I told him that it wasn't my fault and that I was honest with him. I simply respected their wish to not attend the wedding. I couldn't know that it was gonna go down like this because I couldn't attend several events before because of my sexuality and my parents never said anything about that, so I thought that it'd be the same thing here. But I've gotta admit, it's kinda sweet that my parents and the rest of my family stood up for me.

They haven't done so before. That's a more than welcome change, but I still feel kind of bad because apparently I really ruined the wedding party. Opie, all you did was say what happened to you. Everything that happened after that was other grown adults making grown adult decisions, so I wouldn't sweat at Opie. There are definitely some people in this story who did things wrong, but you are not one of them. That was our slash true off my chest, and if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.