Sad Boyz - Mr Beast AI Thumbnail Controversy
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Welcome to sad boys podcast about feelings and other things also. I'm Jarvis.
Jordan. What the hell is up?
Dude, we fricking nailed that.
People probably think we're normal people who breathe air and drink water.
I was funnily enough thinking about like, cause it, cause we are, it's only a,
you know, a little vignette into you and me once a week, right?
There's not too much time we talk about our lives, but it's what we present.
Leader really is just us hanging out.
we talk about our lives, but it's what we present.
Literally is just us hanging out.
I wonder if there is a contingent of fans of sad boys who think that we are
normies. We think that we are just day to day, regular, well balanced people.
And we're, and we are.
It's possible, right? It is possible.
We're also older.
I like the idea that like Rick and Morty bit from like the first season where it's like a commercial
then he watched the guy after he finished the swimming commercial. Oh, and then he walks home.
You're like, we in sad boys and I get on a dragon and fly away.
Anyway, I'll see you later, Portal. Yeah, yeah, the frame widens and we all like turn into
golems. Because I aspire to normieism. I think it's very admirable, but I
Because I aspire to normieism. I think it's very admirable. But I just wonder if, because we just filmed some mailbag content, reading some U of L and checking it out. It was very sweet. Thanks
for sending it. We did it on the Patreon. Patreon.com. It is free. You can watch it regardless of whether
or not you signed up. In which case, if you are signed up, you get a bonus upload. Forget about it.
You're not saying words.
Sorry, I blacked out. What did I do?
But while we were doing it, the overwhelming sentiment was just like, hey, thanks for hanging
out.
Thanks for chatting.
It really makes my day feel a little normal.
Yeah.
This is the most normal part of my day.
Most of it is just playing Expedition 33.
Well, that's work.
Yeah.
You know?
You're trying to save me. I'm in the old grime.
Yeah, and it's tough.
Not all heroes wear capes, especially not Gustav.
He's busy hanging out.
Today, we're chatting about MrBeast dropped a new thing,
and everyone's talking about it.
It does feel nice.
It's so sick.
It's so nice having that north.
Speaking of the north star of like, what's going on?
I mean, what is life? I mean, I've got to leave for like
the UK like, is it my ever coming back? Is things ever
gonna be? Oh, Mr. Beast was weird about some? Yeah, right.
Everything's normal.
And not to mention, we found out that we found out that chat
GPT is rotting people's brains. It's crazy because like we got
we got evidence that chat GPT is bad for you. Before we got we got evidence that chatgbd is bad for you before we got evidence that video games
We've had like multiple studies saying video games are like good for you in various ways and
The thing that helps you cheat on homework is like the thing that rocks your mind. Yeah
We say that is we're pretty we're pretty brain-rotted
No, no blame on video games.
No, it's all doom scrolling.
But I do-
Dude, I wish I rotted my brain from huffing paint
and not reading horrible takes on Twitter.
Yeah, having fun instead of seeing a screenshot from 4chan.
Oh my god.
Pepe and then a take on where the planned parenthood
should be around.
Sometimes, dude, it sometimes blows my mind how organized 4chan is.
Um, I think something happened to 4chan recently.
Like I think they got like maybe hacked or something.
Let me check my account.
I'm a mob.
Like I can't remember.
Uh, so I don't know what the situation is today cause I haven't been there in a
long time, but I did used to go on 4chan when I was a tot, a young child.
Yeah. I mean, I went on, because random sounded so funny. I didn't know what was happening.
Like the interface, it looks impossible. It was just like such a weird, when you're a kid on the
internet, you just click a few things and you're watching like, a live leak video of, you're watching like Pain Olympics
and you're like, how did I, what's going on?
I'm saved by the fact that my dial-up
can't buffer this video quickly.
I'm able to have the reaction.
It's like a quick, yeah, it's like a quick time event
where I'm, everything's moving at hyper speed
and I can just like get out of there.
Bullet time. The thing that happened to 4chan is there was like a cyber attack. Yeah, that was quote-unquote
catastrophic and they
Essentially admitted that they don't have enough money to yeah actually have any security
it's in weird dire straits right now because it's like I don't know who heads it up anymore because
Moot used to be the big, the big
bastard in charge.
But then he like went corporate.
I think he like went to go work at Google or something.
I remember Russell, my buddy, my hometown buddy,
he went to Carnegie Mellon and he was like,
Moot is talking to our class right now from 4chan.
I was like, hey?
I guess that is the kind of graduation you want to do.
You do want to kind of, you know, speaking of quick time
events getting out of there, you want to flee that battle.
Yeah.
Get out of those.
Hey, I mean, I was just watching a video essay about
how all the like Nintendo leaks happened.
Oh.
And how like a lot of that stuff ends up unfolding on a 4chan and when someone posts you have no idea if they're
shitting or not and
Well, cuz they cuz they could be posting on their phone wall on the toilet, which is fine. You have no idea if they're shitting
Like bullshitting they could be playing Blattro or anything else and then they like like start leaking like never before seen Pokemon and shit. You're like, oh this is real
What the hell is happening? An Eevee that can drive a car?
Dude, it's it's a wild wild world out there. Yes to the to the
the youth in the room. Do you guys feel like you kind of
dodged the Wild West era of browsing online where are we still in it is you
were kind of up is it happening because I feel like I feel like you take the
wrong turn in roblox and you can see something you're not supposed to see
yeah I feel like I feel up in my experience I feel like by the way peeps
your new tattoos look sick as hell thank you Joel ticks having a hard time
healing a little bit um well that's, he's just a little guy.
He's just a little guy.
Thanks, I don't know how I feel about the detailed portrait
you got of me, it doesn't really,
because it's weird seeing your own face
from the other end.
But it's okay, but it's with Joltik, so it's fine.
I'm eating him.
No, that's why he's having a hard time healing.
But no, I feel like I managed to dodge most of it
because I feel like it was like right before I was really online slash when I was only
Playing like webkins or Club Penguin. Yeah, and then it kind of like the Wild West part of it
You have esoteric interest
Generations yeah, we were in Toontown pop Tropica. Yeah, we were Club Penguin, Toontown, Pop Tropica.
Yeah, I was more of a Gaia Online, RuneScape kind of guy. Neopets? A little bit of Neopets when I
was in middle school. You don't want to bring up Neopets because then we'll show the screenshot
of one of them that you found the other day. No, that's Webkinz. That was Webkinz. I assume you had
that one. To be fair, it was my sister's. That was Hallie's. I'm gonna call her out. That's Hallie.
You had that one. To be fair, it was my sister's.
It was Hallie's.
I'm going to call her out.
That's Hallie.
Was it cold?
We were going through our old Webkin's account, me
and my sister's old Webkin's account.
And there are 120 Webkins on there.
And how many you need?
OK, sorry.
I actually don't know anything about Webkin's.
This is embarrassing for me to admit.
Is it?
What's the deal?
So it was like these little plush toys you could buy and they would each have a little like hang tag code
But they were digital?
So you buy the plush and then you enter the code
And you like scan them in basically
Got it
And so we had 120 of them
Jesus
During the recession, that's crazy
Yeah, whoa
What did you guys eat for dinner?
It was like between four girls
That makes sense And that's all I ever asked for
Prime loans in Florida
People were buying Bitcoin
But my sisters we were looking through all the old names and there was a frog on there and you can nickname them
I say I mean when you what you adopt them
And we found one named Pete diddy we found a frog named Pete diddy on there. A possible series of events took place. I know that was my two oldest sisters I know that was them and I'm like what I said I sent it to I sent it to them I said a screenshot and I said what is this and they said oh?
I think I saw a headline about some some drop some charges being dropped in the P. Diddy case apparently
It's not going well for the defense, which is the government. Oh, that's according to
the bits and pieces that I've read and also the hours of
Videos I've consumed about the day-to-day proceedings at the court.
But yeah, so I feel like a lot of the wild west
of the internet was during the time
where I was only playing that
or just games that you would download.
Which is good.
But then like.
I think that the thing about the unfettered internet or having no supervision
is that something horrible could happen.
Oh, for sure.
And I think it kind of teetered off a little bit
by the time I was just exploring the World Wide Web,
but then I think it's come back since then
in terms of whenever like, Gen Alpha is online
and like you said, on Roblox
and there's suddenly something horrible,
I think that's a lot more common now.
I do think-
Isis simulator.
There's like a, I don't know like the full full details,
but just from what I've seen,
I do feel like there's like a dark underbelly to Roblox
and it feels very hard to moderate.
It feels a little like, you know,
the bigger the iceberg gets, the deeper it reaches.
It's only so far, it's like, okay, well Well as soon as this is the biggest thing on the planet then
Yeah, cuz robots can have any I mean it's it's a platform so like anything could exist in roblox. You know I man
I don't know what I do if I had a kid that was playing
This is I assume that you there are like parental tools or something
But there's no way to say like every bad server can't be accessed
Yeah, I think you'd probably have to have like a,
look, I'm not a parent.
That's a parent.
Unless, come on in.
What?
Vegeta, Goku, my son?
But I do think that there has to be a way
to like whitelist servers rather than blacklist.
Oh yeah, yeah, yeah.
Like should you have like things that are be allowed.
Like.
Pretty fast by those.
Things.
Well, yeah.
And then you can maybe kind of get a vibe from.
The thing is, I feel like I would have to be
an engaged parent.
Like I would be like watching like the YouTube video essays
on like what my kid is like consuming.
So that I could know what the themes, the lore, the depth.
Because I was gonna say, most of what kids are watching
or playing these days, because most,
not games that are made for kids,
but are made to look childlike and then are actually,
so to start, FNAF or Poppy Playtime, Baldi's Basics,
anything like that, I feel like that's what most kids are,
what's the word in the game?
Influenced or...
Exposed to.
Exposed to.
And that, like, I feel that bite, that little sinisterness
is something they've never had in their palette before
and why it can't be appealing.
Or like, even when they're on Roblox,
people can make maps for anything.
So like, even if they're just playing Roblox,
there's Poppy Playtime is there, you know?
Huggy Wuggy's there. Sorry, what? Who? Huggy there um what who huggy wuggy do you know poppy playtime oh okay yeah yeah
i'm also not a parent but i do until today that i know of it's come on in bulma trunks
I would name my kids something like sailor moon to
Maybe like sailor mercury again as best-oss
That's like a Twitter name for somebody I used to joke that if I had a kid I'd name them James Newell
Osterberg jr. And they call them Iggy for short because that's Iggy Pop's real name.
You're so weird.
Okay.
I think we figured it out.
We've tried and figured out what your whole deal is
so many times with so many words, you're weird.
That's the dig, check the DSM.
Photo of you.
Oh yeah, weird.
Photo of you.
Photo of you.
How cute.
Oh, let's go to swag, photo of me.
No. Okay.
It's a fart ass, it's a photo of you.
Oh, god.
They're getting worse.
I actually dislike the nickname.
No, but I'm not a parent,
but I do think something that probably doesn't happen enough
is just like having conversations with your kids
at a very young age about what they're doing online
and then talking kind of more openly
about what's bad out there.
Yeah.
And saying like, hey, you know the thing that we,
including you are all addicted to and on all the time?
You have to not do it sometimes.
You have to like limit it. Moderation, yeah. And they're like, wait, but what? It's the thing we're all doing all the time, you have to not do it sometimes. You have to limit it.
Like moderation, yeah.
Wait, but what?
It's the thing we're all doing all the time.
Like, yeah, but it could get you.
And even being like parents, you know,
one of my friend babies, her mom.
That's not gonna, if it's someone's first episode,
they're gonna be like, what the hell are you talking about?
They already know you're weird.
One of my friends has a baby. Okay, has a baby. I'll say it that way.
You can just always say it that way.
My friend Molly was just telling me like how she wants to be off her phone more. Like put
her phone away more throughout the day because she's like, I don't wanna model that behavior for my kid.
And her kid's only one and a half,
but it starts at an early age.
Most of my kid's time we spend doing martial arts.
Right, setting the blade.
They wouldn't have access to the internet
because they would be at the Shaolin temple.
Well, I've made a sequel to karate,
it's called Jodh Rati.
Also, look out towards the end of this episode
for us responding to a few advice questions
that people have written in and we provide
our professional, well thought out advice.
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Solving all the problems.
There's a, speaking of the Shaolin Temple,
there, Victor Womanyama,
I, you know, approaching my favorite NBA player at this point,
he posted on his Instagram,
he has actually been at the Shaolin Temple
in the off season, training his mind and body.
There's a, he posted on his Instagram.
Jacob, can you pull up that photo that I have?
I also love how popular he is.
He's so internet.
He doesn't post, but then when he posts, it gets a bajillion, guy's so cool.
And there's a photo of him kicking upward,
and you can just see how flexible he is from the kick.
And I'm like, my hamstring doesn't do that.
Oh, is he doing that insane butterfly kick where really goes. Yeah, it's on his it's on his Instagram. It's in the the carousel
This is I mean what I'm doing that a lot
Sort of what you know after the show's over I go I do my cartos
I think you would die my arm would fly off and then my head would collapse
The air pressure from that much he's built like a He's built like a fighting character in a video game,
including his pants.
I feel like you could drop him straight into street fighting.
It's a really strong silhouette, so you
can see the moves animated.
Yeah, look at this.
Look, the guy next to him, you can
tell that guy's got bend because his hamstring's not.
That guy has a knee.
Yeah, that guy has a knee.
Wimby says, no.
I am become water, dude. Wimby just took a guy's head. Yeah, that guy's a neat when he says no I am become water, dude
God, that's what we just took a guy's head off with his foot
Yeah, so fast so while and that guy was also seven feet tall that goes also by the way right next to him
It looks like he's further away with the right next to each other. Oh man to be that
He's so cool never change now to be fair. We've never posted photos of us doing that. Maybe that would pop off also.
Well yeah.
That photo was so hard dude! What the hell?
Okay, we could do that!
What the hell?
We could sit down all the time.
You can be backlit.
We could go sit on a balcony and just...
We could probably backlight you right now.
Man, that's so sick.
Don't threaten me, I know martial arts.
Dude, he might be the Avatar.
See?
What?
Jacob did that on purpose.
I guess if I say that's exactly as cool.
Please write in the comments if it's as cool as.
Yeah, it's the same picture.
JPEG.
Let's just say, I think all the comments.
Hey, look at that, liked by Jarvis, damn straight.
Not liked by me because I'm not like,
this black mirror stuff, you know.
Yeah.
I'm not online.
What else is in this, what else is in this?
Yeah.
Look at that guy in the back.
That guy's right next to him.
That's so sick.
Look at his arm muscles too.
Damn.
He's kind of got that Popeye phone,
which is a fighting game build.
Gorgeous.
We go to the Valley.
That wall busted out right after that photo was taken.
That's him taking a single step.
That's a, wait, can you, okay, back up.
Can you back up one?
So imagine the guy under him's a goomba?
You see how big he is after he gets a mushroom yeah, oh my god
Okay
Okay, well hey
Hey mouths all over the place. Oh
That's so sick. Did he so cool, and he reads fantasy novels. He does he's a big Brandon Sanderson head
He's based basketball
And he's French. He's got French. Okay. Well, you can't have it all he might be the coolest French guy ever do exist
Look
I'm probably wrong. But in my mind, in my headcanon? I would... I like lots of French people, more than Jordan, certainly, and I would agree with you.
It might be the guy from Matrix Reloaded that makes cake the most...
I was gonna say it might be Versho.
That's true.
Or Gustave, dude.
Oh, damn.
I think it's Orgasm Cake Guy from The Matrix Reloaded.
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Hello, thanks for having me in sorry. I'm not available
Sorry, I mean I was just calling because I would like my earliest appointment is in a three thousand years
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Speaking of children and the internet,
let's talk about MrBeast for a little bit.
All right, so MrBeast, for those who don't know,
imagine I just described that he's a YouTuber.
No, he has a-
Follum's swipe.
He has a company slash website called view stats
That's like a bunch of tools for creators which from a mission standpoint I
It's something that I like would do myself like making tools to make you know, the creation job more egalitarian
Why not? And he's got pedigree, you know
Goals but it doesn't look wrong with that, you know,. They just dropped AI thumbnails, and that's already that's already a
Hmm, whatever do you mean scratching chin?
So he says few steps just dropped AI thumbnails, and it takes the guesswork out of what thumbnails will preform
Which is something that you do when you're creating a sword?
Perform which is something that you do when you're creating a sword. With forging everything you'll need. Per form. Just prompt what you're looking for,
and it will generate a data-backed viral thumbnail.
Now, let's pause. Let's pause and say, no, it won't.
Because just because it went viral for one person
doesn't mean it's going to go viral for the other person.
MrBeast knows this and he's
like selling a product because at the end of the day, it's a paid service.
Before we watch this, can we hop over to viewstats.com? Yeah, okay, so
here there's a couple different plans. You can pay 50 bucks a month for the Vue Stats Pro plan, 80 bucks a month for the
monthly pro AI, and now that includes the AI thumbnail thing, and you get some AI credits,
and you can generate thumbnails. Now, I don't know if he's changed the pitch, so hopefully we have
the original thing, and then there's business. These prices, by the way, it's like this is the normal price for like some sort of like
business software, I feel.
Yes, an executive suite.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
But the issue is that it's charging money for these AI thumbnails and the AI thumbnails,
I wonder what they were trained on.
Just probably MrBeast.
No, probably working out.
No, Jordan, they were trained on all the viral videos on YouTube logic though
He's only using pro tools to do it the you've named two
What's the term for those audio laws Dawes?
Digital no no no hold on hold on I got this I got this
Digital audio workbench is that right workspace work fucking space
What's my family all right? I'm sure somebody will correct both workspace makes sense
While we're at it look mr. Beast you got to stop the the the like
Ghetto mr. Beast or whatever the hell it is. Oh, yeah, what is it called?
Fuck boy. I don't know what boy mr. Beast where he's holding the stack. It feels that feels wrong
He feels like it feels like digital blackface even though it's not changing the color of the skin.
He's doing the Mark Zuckerberg rollout. He's doing the like, would this be cool?
But it only exists in memes. It's not a real persona because he, obviously it would be
very weird if he presented like that out of nowhere. It mean he it has a this is very much a $5,000 t shirt aesthetic that he's
rocking right now.
Jim.
Well, that's weird.
Jim Beast.
There's a new way to make professional looking.
Jim, sometimes you got to take it.
Wait, no, that was a really good thumbnail.
Him with
Indiana Jones with his face
over him by the pyramids.
Well, the thing is, MrBeast has a history of
people stealing his thumbnails
and putting their faces on it.
So we thought, why not turn that
into a product? That's a great idea.
How do I steal my own
and the best part is this new method works in every niche whether you do gaming cooking beauty this works the holy trinity gaming cooking beauty you know the ones mr who's the boss
yeah that guy's a big tech youtuber yo huge tech YouTuber. What a sick name. His videos, by the way, Mr. Who's the Boss,
have the most VFX of like your average video.
Like you watch them and it's like,
it's crazy the VFX there in those videos.
Creating custom results from any channel
to literally being able to put your face on a thumbnail.
It literally feels like cheating.
So when you hear that, right, you gotta think,
hmm, is it cheating?
No, no, feels.
Also, the face replaced on an already existing thumbnail
is just, like that's just theft,
but in a way that it's not like.
It's pretty existing theft also.
I'm trying to put myself in the shoes
of someone who doesn't see a problem with this,
and it's difficult, but it is a somewhat unique form
of thievery because you probably are thinking,
I want a thumbnail that looks like that,
and maybe you're not thinking about the hours
that a artist spent, like,
because the artists that work on Mr. Beast's thumbnails,
like put in hours and hours and hours and hours of work.
And lifting that with a simple like face swap,
it does two things.
One, it's just like outright theft.
But two, it is creating something
that looks like a market replacement.
Yeah.
Like that's where fair use breaks down, right?
When you are like rep, like almost replacing, you're saying, watch my thing instead.
And you, and this typically is the way that that gets institutionalized is that they
make an enterprise version of something unethical to launder it.
It's like, well, it's's yeah, it's money laundering
But that's a bad. It's a big bank. That's normal. It's a business
And then on top of that it's weird because there are like large
It's it's I don't know how to use I almost want to use the term big box youtubers big box
Yeah, you know what I mean like big box retailers, but like so you will see like a Brent Rivera
Get in trouble for
lifting a thumbnail concept wholesale from a mr. Beast or Ryan Trahan and
that
Feels bad because it's so direct and the concept is non-straightforward.
Whereas like if you and I both happen to make commentary videos talking about the
same thing, the thumbnails will look similar because it's like my head...
A style guide. Yeah, it's like a news video is gonna have the Philip DeFranco's
face and then like a picture of the person who's talking
Yeah, if they're talking about
Hassan and mr. Beast then they put his honor mr. Bees on thumbnail cuz those get clicks and if someone else is talking about those
Two things then they're not ripping off Philip DeFranco by putting those two things on the side, but when it's so specific
Like so specific that it's literally
just a face swap, then it does feel like it just feels like it accelerates theft of concepts
and creative like IP. And I mean, the time to have this conversation, like the, hmm,
what could that, what are the bigger implications of that? What could it do is not after the product
is launched. It is the, but again, I mean, even instinctually, there's going to be people
that comment on this video saying, well, who cares?
It's just, it's just, they're just getting views.
It doesn't matter.
It's the content that matters.
And it's like, right.
But where does the air quotes content begin?
Is it how you showcase it?
And then what about the first 10 seconds of the video?
Okay, what about the first two minutes?
What about the title?
At what point does this just like,
it's okay to just like homogenize
to the point of being distracting.
And also like, I don't know,
do you feel great about the idea of a larger scale YouTuber
taking the presentation of a thumbnail
of a small to smaller medium YouTuber? That'll of a thumbnail of a small,
small to smaller medium YouTuber, that'll catabolize it a little bit. I'm going to look at it and go like, didn't I fucking watch that?
What did it happen the other way around? Like when you had like, uh,
craft YouTubers back in like the early, the mid teens,
uh, and five minute crafts comes along and almost like terraforms that like
Ecosystem and category of videos where it could take people's like viral videos
you know it's like story booth had these videos and a few of those videos went mega viral and
then a big company can come along and
kind of take the packaging and
Run with it and then doing that on mass kind of take the packaging and run with it,
and then doing that en masse kind of like dilutes
an entire category.
And like it's mining with dynamite.
Like you just destroy the entire mine and you're like,
okay, well, look through the dirt,
there's a little bit of gold, there's a little bit of gold.
Anyway, leave the pile.
I mean, and it happened with MrBeast too.
Like there's tons of, like so many.
They would localize it a lot, right?
So many MrBeast videos are like only possible
because of the scale that MrBeast operates at.
But like if you see, but you see a change
in YouTube thumbnails post MrBeast
because it almost feels like MrBeast style
become big became a thing.
Which is the, you know, that's regular influence,
that's building the aesthetic by virtue of influence
and size, that's perfectly normal.
And we already have like, but it is like a,
I think it just kind of creates more noise
in like finding what you wanna watch online.
Because if everything looks like a MrBeast thumbnail
or if everything looks even more exactly like
a thumbnail of someone else.
And again, like, I'm talking about thumbnails
that are like a creative interpretation type thumbnails,
and not thumbnails that are like person space
with thing they're talking about,
because I've personally been accused of stealing videos,
ideas or thumbnails from people when it's simply like,
it's simply just person with topic
that they're talking about.
It's the house style.
It is the, you know.
Yeah, and that's like, we were talking about the,
Brendan Abernathy, Austin made a thumbnail
that didn't have the like big quote from it on there
because he was trying to avoid copying like what Curtis did.
And I'm like, well, Curtis is just using the famous quote.
And I'm like, if we want people to know
what we're talking about,
we probably want to use the famous quote.
And so I texted Curtis and he's like,
yeah, obviously you do this.
And I'm like, yeah, yeah, yeah, I know.
But it's like, sometimes you just, you don't I'm like, yeah, yeah, I know but it's like sometimes you just you don't want to
Ruffle feathers and but everybody kind of gets it, you know, it's like or I don't own this concept and that's obviously you can do it
And that's a curtain. I'll see amongst friends, but this is even the 249 99 version
I doubt has a automatic DM to first. Yeah, I don't know if I'm like making coherent points here.
No, I mean, we, I think we're having the same, um, I think, I think we are,
but I think in the back of our brains, we're always aware of the same thing.
We don't know if we talk about AI stuff or like creative ownership stuff where
like the argument we always have to parry is well,
if you don't care about that and you don't care about diluting a market or like
bastardizing the work of other people in whatever way you think you are if
that's not what you care about if you don't think that like Studio Ghibli needs
to exist anymore we should just do it with a computer like and well then like
okay I have no argument with you then because we're speaking different
languages the tool that I that I feel like could help creators
that is not ripping people off would involve
going back to the bare essentials of what makes
a thumbnail a good thumbnail, right?
How many subjects are in the frame?
What does the eye line scan look like of this?
From, in English, we read top to bottom left to right.
Does the presentation of information
like follow the logical like eye scan?
Did we change it local, like the local region
could have a different version of it or test it.
When this is small on the sidebar
or this small on mobile, like is it still discernible?
Like what's
in the what's in the thing high contrast yellow text versus more kind of standard
yeah color for you do get some sorts you get best practices out of that like you
try to avoid having a ton of faces with eyeballs because it's really hard to
like it we very naturally gravitate to make eye contact with the thumbnail.
So having one person with two regular old eyeballs
like to look at when you are clicking on a thumbnail
like allows you to communicate more information
in the split second that someone's making the decision.
But when it's like big tiger attacking face
and it looks exactly the same like it's pixel
perfect except for the face like what are we doing I know it's it does feel I
love his his iconic line it almost feels like cheating like me as I pound
performance enhancing steroids before a big race yeah me as I'm like cheating me as I'm like
Signing up for that the like cheating websites this
College where it's like win for free. Yeah. Yeah, we'll do your homework for you
It almost feels like cheating well
No, I think it might be I think the school does think that it's like it's so funny because if chat GPT
Was behind was called if chat GPT was behind was called
like cheat GPT then I feel like people would realize that they were cheating
but because they prompted it with hey I copy and pasted my homework prompt can
you help me dude oh my god it's a person it's like it's their responsibility I
would and don't don't get me wrong like if I was in high school I would also be utilizing this dude. I got so many like I did so much bullshitting and
And my bullshitting would have been so much better if I had chat GPT had read the book
Oh, dude, if I if I had asked chat GPT to
Summon all of the best most popular quotes from the books
I was supposed to read as opposed to me using the Google sample pages, and then copy-pasting them into a document,
and then writing an essay that conformed around those quotes,
which I definitely didn't do, Anastasia, and I resent the implication.
Definitely don't do that, winking with both eyes back and forth.
Why the fuck would I even spend that amount of time?
Yeah. And also, you know,
if you're in like high school or middle school, especially like you want to see
friends and do stuff. Homework is poison. But like,
Yeah. It's,
it's one of those things where it's like,
I think that chatty BD could be a wonderful learning tool where you can use it to
help you understand or interrogate things and learn better. And like, I think that ChatUBT could be a wonderful learning tool where you can use it to help you understand or interrogate things and learn better. And like if you're doing coding assignments and you're like, OK, I'm getting this error. Where might my error be?
It could help. You know, like when I was having an issue with my homework at midnight and it was due the next morning and office hours were six hours ago.
You know, it's like, then I have somewhere to go.
That's not just like cheating or like asking a friend at the, uh, in the middle of the
night or something like that.
And like,
like if you don't, there was the same panic at one point, like, uh, the institution is
always going to be slower than the technology.
And it's like, well, okay, well, we don't really want you this. Mm-hmm. It's like, okay, but that is unsustainable
Well, that was also such a thing that yeah in school. It was like well don't use Wikipedia and
And then so it was like, okay
So I will go to Wikipedia and I will look at the sources the Wikipedia site
And then I will go to those places because they uh, that's kind of the best homework
Anyone's ever done is a Wikipedia page it's the ultimate homework and
They did it for fun, which is always odd. Yeah, that's to the psychos
but anyway, I feel like now that's like the closest analog because
chat GBT has like AI psychosis and will like do weird stuff and say
Wrong things and enable your bad ideas
like if you if you were to say I think this book is about this.
And then it's so true.
That's so true.
And you're a genius actually.
And here's what was it?
We're hanging out with Eddie the other night talking about it.
I'm saying it's the chat.
GPT is the passenger and you're the weird Uber driver.
Yeah, like, you know, I've been thinking like,
maybe the new world order is like, I should crash the car.
No, for sure.
Like, oh, I, you're, yeah.
Damn, that's crazy.
There was actually that recent New York Times story
about a guy who had a mental breakdown
because he was already having
like an anxiety attack and he was on chat GPT
asking questions and it was yes ending him.
And it said, yes, you do live in a simulation.
Yes, you should stop taking your anxiety medication.
Yes, you should stop taking, you should stop sleeping. It like encouraged him to stop sleeping.
And he had a mental breakdown.
And it's like, yeah, of course.
And the title of the New York Times article is,
they asked an AI chat bot questions.
The answer sent them spiraling.
So if you wanna like read it yourself.
It's a fucking Jubilee title.
It's like having an enabler friend.
Yes.
Like dude, so true.
So true.
And we should rob the bank.
Bro, why are we sober?
Let's both get drunk.
I feel like if I asked you right now,
I was thinking I should rob a bank
because that's a great way to make money.
What do you think?
Then what's the closest Wells Fargo?
Yeah.
We were joking the other day about the idea
of going into a bank to rob it,
but just asking them to raise the figure
in your checking account, pointing a gun at them,
mask on, and then be like,
can you raise this, handing my passport,
this guy's checking account to a million dollars, please?
I'm a big fan of Michael Mann's heat.
Oh, we would have been even better with that.
And I love, there's a line in there
where they say, don't be a hero,
they're robbing a bank, they're pointing guns at people
and they say, don't be a hero.
Don't be a heat right now.
We're not robbing your money,
we're robbing the bank's money,
your money is federally insured.
And.
Don't rob the bank.
I always think, how,
that puts so many thoughts into so many people's heads.
Hello, Highwater exists because of that moment for sure.
So funny.
All right, let's continue this video.
Give me Jimmy.
Now let's say you don't want to take inspiration from a YouTube channel.
You don't have to.
As you can see here, I have a very descriptive prompt with no YouTube inspiration.
When he says no YouTube inspiration, that is impossible because this had to have been trained on YouTube
Nothing would appear so it's nothing but YouTube inspiration
I think that might be where a little of this comes from is the like
mystical
Interpretation of AI where it is just like and it just like fucking happened because from I think I remember like it came out that open AI.
I'm not sure if it was open AI, but it was like one of these companies had like
scraped like tons of huge YouTube creators, videos and stuff.
And, um, like I remember MKBHD was like one of the creators and he was like, well,
I didn't okay this yeah
You know like this is my intellectual property. It's not we're
Probably going to very soon see what the legal boundaries are with
Using intellectual property to train a model because Disney is suing
What was that one
Which one is it it's it's it's on the tip of my tongue
wait don't tell me so it's sort of like you're going on an expedition you're
going on a trip you're going on an expedition you're going on a voyage
you're going on it but it's it's it's you're halfway oh you're halfway. Well, you're halfway through your halfway there. It's also a journey
Okay, expedition 33
Mid-journey. Yeah, they're they're suing mid-journey for training on their IP and it's like we talked about this before where it's like
It's weird to be
defending
Disney but I think this will establish some legal precedent because currently it's the Wild West.
Like the ways that we have been able to tell
that small artists have been used to train AI
is when their like watermarks and stuff
will show up in the generated image.
And it's like that's like one of the only like
gotchas that we have.
There was just that huge, well I say,
I mean I guess it is huge.
The implications of it are huge.
Bungie, creator of Halo and Destiny and the like.
They very recently got in a whole heap of trouble because the upcoming, well, it's going
to be upcoming, reboot of the Marathon series that they turned into kind of a escape from Tarkov style, looter shooter, shebang.
They put out a bunch of trailer info, a bunch of visuals.
It's a very distinct visual design.
And it's like a, it has a name, the genre,
the aesthetic genre has a name,
but there happens to be one artist that does that design
very, very proactively.
And their designs, including their logos
and little design, what am I saying?
Portfolio is like ripped wholesale.
It was found in the textures of the game
during these pre-alpha server tests, or previews.
And rightfully, everyone, including Bungie,
who acknowledged that it had happened and that it was,
and I think this is understandable,
a couple of people on the team
that were taking those resources and using them,
I think it's perfectly possible,
and I don't think Bungee as an organization
is dumb enough to not, like, to go like,
yeah, let's just steal it.
They would just go, hey, I don't care,
just get me the thing by end of day.
Yeah, at a certain point up the chain,
you're not asking where everything comes from
because you're working under the assumption
that things were done in a above board way.
You're doing it, yeah, again,
they're not designers, they just go like,
do the fairy dust you do, do the magical thing
where you do something on a computer
and then you bring me the picture.
And that pretty intuitively was shitty the game
was indefinitely paused and I don't think anybody has any disagreement about it it was like a
universal don't do that and yet because this is that this is different for people somehow well
this is like you're saying oh okay here's this artist's portfolio. Now give me something in that style
where I don't have to compensate them in any way.
And then people are just like, yeah, but it's different
if they did it different.
Because even if I trace Goku, I don't own that IP.
It's my pen.
Yeah, what do you mean?
It was my pen.
No, this is Kogu.
And it's a thing about regulating art
that is very, well, it's very thing about regulating art that is very,
well, it's very tough to legislate.
I mean, even fair use is like a set of guidelines,
but then each individual ruling is on a case by case basis.
But it doesn't pass the sniff test.
It's so obviously wrong.
We do always end up kind of triple prefacing it,
but this is not, machine learning is not the
villain. That's that's not the point. It is.
I do think it comes from a place of like not respecting art or the artistic process.
Yeah, why would you care?
Because I saw so many tweets about people who are like, well, like, art is dying anyway,
like artists are all going to go out of work. So like, Miz will just like, expect the process.
Also everyone being like, well, it gives everyone access to do art
I'm like everyone has always had access to do just do it
That like universally anyone could do
It is the saddest shit ever when somebody posts the most ghoulish busted looking drawing of an off-brand Superman ever
And like here's the prompt I used. And then one person replies like,
it's like a cartoon. Like you could learn to draw it. And they're like, I,
I do not have a guy. Maybe you don't know. Maybe I don't have any hands and you,
you, uh, it's just cope. It's fine. The reason I can't draw.
The reason I put it in like a respecting art thing is because, uh,
similar to what Jacob's talking about about I have for the past probably
year plus have seen this type of
Post from like an AI accelerationist. That's like Hollywood is over check out this trailer made entirely with AI
And it's the most fever dream shit you've ever seen like it's me, Captain O'Monica. We're doing the Covenders.
This thumber.
And they also like unrelated to the morality of it.
This thumber.
It's not good.
Because like when he was showing the two volcano ones,
he zoomed in on the one that looked more like him,
but the other one was terrifying.
You guys see that?
It was scary as well.
I'm confused.
What?
If I choose Mr. Beast, because he's saying, imagine that you are MrBeast.
So I type in my own channel.
And then you're looking for inspiration for your own channel. It's a little bit mixing
use cases, I think, because it's like, in one case, you're MrBeast and you're, you're
want to get inspiration for your next MrBeast video. And then the other is you're not MrBeast
and you want to rip MrBeast's thumbnail.
Why even allow me to search for different channels? Why is it why don't I just connect mine?
But like friend of the show, Point Crow tweeted like an old MrBeast tweet where he was complaining
about someone ripping his exact thumbnail. And it's like, why would you extract this into a tool? Yeah like we've done this Jarvis, you and I, in the past where we tried to create our
own version of a like popular channel content farm or whatever just to show the behind the
scenes of how that stuff was made. Someone could just like make Mr. Beast videos, right?
And not do the behind the scenes.
Just do the straight up make it.
And people do.
And that's the thing.
And that is a form of what is it?
What would I call it?
It's like, it's, it's such a cheap, it's a cheap.
Way to profit, which is like a lot of people are in the market for that.
And there is a difference between people who are willing to mislead and lift
someone's creative identity or property or whatever to make a quick buck and
someone who like respects that boundary. And those two forces are at odds often on YouTube,
but especially like within this pitch.
And Mr. Beast and his general cohort, you know, they're the Walmart's,
they're the targets. The shoplifting means a lot less, sure,
as far as just literal margins go.
But come on, you know, we're not talking about them, right?
Like the problem isn't that we're talking about them when we say like, Hey,
it's weird that when people make a generated artwork of, I don't know,
Pixar style characters, almost the Ghibli ones were just especially sinister.
They're like, Oh, I made the profile picture of a studio Ghibli art.
And I'm like, okay, yeah, this person is just having a bit of fun online.
And then someone always has to arms race it all the way up and be like,
and this is why this is why we should get rid of Japan.
And there's like, okay, I'm not sure I follow that.
The channels at the medium level that are losing.
That artist who was ripped from the marathon assets,
they're not a large artist that's able to defend themselves.
They could have just been compensated.
But they just didn't.
Sure, right.
And that's the thing where it becomes so easy to,
you know how like content ID on YouTube
prevents you from like just outright
taking someone's stuff too much?
And obviously they can like put a manual claim on it
or whatever, but like even though we think,
you know like ever since Napster,
we've had this like price memory in our mind
that like music should be cheap if not free.
That has had an impact on artists
mostly of the mid-size to small
because I know tons of musicians
who have hundreds of thousands of Spotify listeners
who like can't pay their rent.
And a day job.
With the money that they make from that.
And yes, that is partly the world evolving,
but we expect that type of creativity to come with no cost.
Yeah, that labor is less valuable pound for pound.
Yeah, and that's like a back,
I feel like it kind of is a back door into thinking
that no creative labor is valuable and naturally one step down
Because you have the audacity to think you're better because why is making it free
Liberating and evening the playing fields for everyone
Because it's someone's labor that you're making free
Yeah, you know what I mean? Also, I think people forget that someone is making money
off of it.
Businesses are making money,
but the artist who creates the thing isn't,
which I think is what this kind of boils down to, right?
It just feels like that type of thing, you know?
That type of Nap, but for thumbnails.
And then, cause wouldn't it be great if I could have anyone's work that I wanted.
And then whoever comes along and is just like, well, yeah, but like, it's the
most efficient way to make the iPhone.
I'm like, you little rat, you little rat, all he wants the cheese.
You just don't care.
It's just like not something you value. Like, Oh, it's yeah.
But if we paid them more and we wouldn't get the thing, it's yeah,
of course like people in the medical industry are underpaid or like what,
of course teachers don't get paid properly. Cause I don't know. It's like,
you are, you are not the top of the ladder.
Why are you defending these guys
that would burn you at the stake?
For $10, $15.
Every dollar.
They're like a temporarily embarrassed billionaire.
Yeah.
It's like I'm down today, but I'm a billionaire tomorrow.
So I've got to protect.
You've got to worry about it.
I've got to protect that.
I've got to protect my future bag.
I'm signing up for the 249.99 version of Theft Inc.
or whatever this is called.
Yeah, well that's why I am in so much credit card debt.
Why not support the people who are millionaires
and billionaires now? My future peers.
That guy who was like the make college great again
or whatever because his plan of going to college
was to connect with a co-founder to do something.
A co-founder and a future wife.
That's right.
And he wanted to have the best years of his life.
He wanted to acquire people.
So what do you mean I'm not allowed to go to the Ivy
League that I deserve?
This isn't fair.
One time I brought up the concept of a salary cap
or an income cap to a friend, which
these are revolutionary concepts because in America,
we don't allow ourselves to think about that.
It's no rules, just right.
Yeah, so I was just talking about it,
I was like, yeah, what if we had an income cap
and like after, you know, $200 million,
you had to give the rest to charity or whatever.
And he was like, Whoa, I don't want to stop anyone from getting their bag.
Oh, yeah.
That's the thing is that person.
$200 million is a bag.
What are you talking about?
That is generational wealth.
It's only the bag if you believe that the $40,000 teacher's salary is working in 0.0000,
infinite zero, 0.1% less than the person making $200 billion.
If it's merit.
But then the answer I think, and I'm as guilty as anyone because it kind of does burrow into
your brain is like, well, if you want to be a teacher, you know,
you want to make that much money. I'm like, well,
but it just creates a brain drain where it's like one of the most like
pivotal roles in our society is not
desirable because it doesn't provide a living wage.
It's very uncreative. It's a very uncreative way of approaching the world.
Like, well, we have to play by these rules.
And no, that's what like a amendment is.
You know that, right?
That's like changing something because other stuff changed.
It's sad that-
If everyone could fly, they'd change the rules of football.
It's really sad that someone who's like passionate
about teaching and good at their job will
likely get burnt out at some point because it is such an underappreciated profession.
They had the audacity to lead children down a positive path.
I mean, not even children.
I mean, even talking about like college because right now it is so hard to get a 10-year track job
that you just end up working part-time
for like three different universities.
Yeah.
And yeah, it's like at any level,
teaching is underappreciated.
The other thing about that is that people
immediately defensively go,
well, why don't you give all your money away, Hassan?
And it's like, okay, because you're-
Because I'm like, $200 million.
Yeah, there's also like, it's a systemic issue, right? Like, it's like okay because I'm x 200 million yeah yeah there's also
like it's a systemic issue right like it's like you can't the issue is that
one person can't move the scales unless they're the richest person in the world
then they can move the scales a little bit but even that person cannot move the
scales as much as you know getting a plurality of people to agree on a system.
And if the claim is like, hey, Hassan, you should give away all of your money.
Like, OK, how much money should he give away?
And then they say, I figure I'm going to like, sounds a little bit like a salary cap.
You're saying you should give away down to that amount.
Right.
So should everyone go down to that amount?
It's almost like the intersectionality of like a lot of these different kind of
forces which is why this conversation went this way and also ADHD but let's hit
play all from one single prompt and no inspiration from any other channel you
can type literally anything you want and it will generate that's the part that's
not true it's badness when he says no inspiration, he is saying,
I didn't tell it to look at Dream's thumbnails
and then make this, but Dream's thumbnails
are in the DNA of the program that generated that.
Essentially he's saying, I didn't say,
it's not inspired by one thumbnail,
it's inspired by all thumbnails
that have ever been on the internet.
Yeah.
It couldn't be more inspired.
Yeah.
It's more inspired than any players could be.
Because all these LLMs are doing
is like very fancy pattern matching.
And if it does not know what Minecraft is then it just thinks
generate a isometric Minecraft thumbnail
and so it doesn't know what a YouTube
thumbnail is and so it was even think
it's like Minecraft that gives me an
idea it makes the whole game you know it
goes it goes well let me you know match
all these okay this looks like this and I know that because of these things it's like not it's so hard to explain
But yeah, it's basically pattern matching so you could get it to like generate a
You could probably get it to generate something that looks like a thumbnail that already exists on YouTube
And I haven't played around with this, but I wouldn't be surprised. But we are signing off the tune,
$259.99, it just went up, it was $249.99.
All right, but anyway, continue.
To demonstrate, I have this F1 thumbnail
with an F1 car, and so in the prompt,
I'm just gonna simply type in,
change F1 car to minivan.
And boom, it's done.
Also, the like, most of the thumbnail was the car.
Replace this image.
Also, like that example is a very fun one to include, the like most of the thumbnail was the car. Replace this image.
Also like that example is a very fun one to include
because it's the easiest one to do with Photoshop.
Yeah.
It's the easiest one to do.
It's a white background.
Just select the part that's not the F1 car.
The easiest part would be adding the business of F1.
Just find a photo of a van.
That is funny though, cause in chat,
GPT if you try to do some, like out of the box,
it like doesn't do that very well.
Text is known good, right?
Yeah, well, but the other tools, like the ones that are like,
and I actually don't know about chat GPT 4.0
cause I don't like really use it a ton.
So I haven't ever tried this, but back.
So I can't really speak for modern day chat GPT.
If you really like the thumbnail you're generating, but not the face on it. Don't worry. We have this face. It's not your face
Do like and it will instantly swap it on face you do like
So what I don't like is markiplier space and what I do like is my face
It feels like when those like cheating websites are like,
it helps you study better
by telling you the answers to the test.
Helps you study really well.
Yeah.
This is the future of YouTube thumbnails.
No more complicated Photoshop and having to get a PhD
in how to edit things and figure out what a thousand buttons do.
I gotta say, I think I wasted my time getting my masters.
Yeah.
My doctorate in doing podcasting,
I feel like it's not fair at all. Yeah, my doctorate in doing podcasting. I feel like
Yeah, dude, honestly my postdoctoral thesis in flying an airplane is not useful at all
What by the seeds of rehearsal season 2 yeah, all right, so so now I will say point crow
I'm not gonna hold them to these initial tweets
I'm not gonna hold him to these initial tweets because there's a developing story
and we were gonna have him on the show
but he's not feeling well
because he's been using too much of the Tashubiti.
No, but he did have some bangers here.
So can we go to his original tweet though?
So he said, so MrBeast gets a complaint
about channels stealing his thumbnails
then turn around and make a tool
that does exactly the same thing
but faster and cheaper.
He promotes his new AI tool in a video on the site
saying it can copy any channel style of thumbnail
for YouTube videos and even edit it so your face is in it
instead of the original creator's.
He initially states it can be used for inspiration
but then continues on and notes that this will literally
be the way you generate your thumbnails going forward.
I spend days, weeks, sometimes, I I mean, point cross thumbnails are really good.
I spend days, weeks, sometimes months thinking of thumbnails, working with artists to craft
the perfect one, and you've made something that can steal my and my artists' hard work
without a thought.
Your model is clearly trained on all of our thumbnails and uses them without any creator's
permission and makes it not only easy, but it attempts to make this socially acceptable
too.
Way to take the creator out of content creator in the fun that comes from making up new ideas
Majorly fuck this if there's any class-section lawsuit count me in I'm so done with this guy. So then
So then he yeah, this is the largest channel in Russia takes my thumbnails and photoshop's his face on mine
Which is this is from 2021. So obviously his opinions could have changed about this since then but I think that it's pretty
What like you can sympathize with this right like it feels like a clear rip
but we see this thing kind of happening quite a lot and
Then beast in point crow talked
That's the two planeswalkers
Yes, I That's the two planeswalkers? Yeah, Beast and the Point Crow.
I said, had a chat with MrBeast about the AI thumbnail creation tool.
While I'm uncertain what will be happening moving forward, I voiced my thoughts directly
with him.
Great idea to want to make content creation more acceptable.
That's like what I was saying earlier, but this isn't remotely the solution to that and
fundamentally hurts creators as a whole.
Just mentioning because I think it's important to note that he reached out even though we
still largely disagree leaving everything
Leaving everything up to discourage this still. Yeah, and I'll count this hopefully as my book into the saga
Just cuz I'm sure it's very annoying to like go to bat against mr
beast where you're gonna get a bunch of like and this is
like get a bunch of like, and this is like any large creator,
like if you disagree with them,
you're gonna get a bunch of random harassment
that you didn't ask for.
There's noise.
Even this person who doesn't support Mr. Beast clearly,
but is still being very mean.
It's coming in with an energy.
Oh my God, it's like, he doesn't give a fuck.
And by the way, look at the ad. We can doesn't give a fuck and by the way look at the ad
We can't even put that on the screen like look at the ad. No, no, no, but god you people are fucking stupid
It's like okay. There's no brother like it's like yeah, take a step back. You know take a chill pill take a deep breath
Okay, there's like he doesn't care about your feelings or his fans or anything. That's not the point
to shame him
is like,
the point is Mr. Beast is a billion dollar enterprise
and he does have a lot of power.
Yeah.
Right, so it's like,
like you want to try to shift
like where that energy is if you can.
I am admittedly biased
because I have, you know,
met and talked to MrBeast before.
And I do think that while he is very misguided
about a lot of stuff,
and he will continue to make mistakes
that I vehemently disagree with,
I do think that he does care about other creators.
Whether that includes, like when he talks about
the YouTube community, I'm not sure how inclusive
that term is of all creators.
And that's just to say that like,
I think he operates in a bubble.
He has a class solidarity with that type of creator
in that space.
It's the the good-hearted
philanthropist kind of thing it's it's like you know like Batman where you're just like well
I don't know if beating up the people is like the best solution for it. And he's like, okay, I'll beat up the Joker
Yeah, yeah, I guess I would maybe just certain people I just like it. I just like fund
Like help the people or something.
What if I just beat up like the Breaks?
Okay.
Wait, what?
All right.
Like for example, like many years ago at this point,
this is like around pandemic time,
I was in a Discord group with some other creators
and sometimes we would like voice chat
and talk about like YouTube strategy and things like that.
And sometimes MrBeast would come in
and discuss YouTube strategy
and give people feedback on thumbnails
and things like that, right?
In that, it seems to me that he like cares
about the game of YouTube.
And what he probably feels like
is he's giving cheat codes to everyone.
And it is just like completely wrong.
Ironically, honestly, it's a little bit like F1,
where a lot of the teams just have more money and have better cars.
And it's like, you have a mini van. You have not qualified for an F1 race yet. No
Because the van also has an F1 engine in it, but it just rattles around in the front because it goes so fast
I'm the flash and I I put my feet through the bottom like
Redstone and then I won. Okay. Congrats. I guess it's not just like everyone that I guess if you're really fast at running
But like that is like the cliche of everyone
where the team can't afford it.
And they're like, okay, well, get more money.
You know, it's like, so I just wanted to call out
my own bias because this entire video or episode
so far has been critical of him.
I haven't quite completely fallen on the other side
of him being adverse to any feedback or change.
Cause it does seem that he takes that feedback when
criticized.
The issue is whether or not it is internalized and,
and results in action.
Or if it's only ever go like kind of like a large,
uh, large learning model, it's kind of like a large learning model.
It's kind of like, hey, it's only going to do stuff
it's instructed to and at a certain point,
you gotta have a little initiative.
You gotta like pre-screen these things.
It can't only, you gotta innovate and say,
oh wait, hang on, this idea might be bad before I do it,
as opposed to, well, we'll see if anyone tells me I'm wrong.
In the most cynical, my fear would be him reaching out
to creators directly is simply to like tank the alt
a little bit and try to, try to parry away some of this.
Can you tell we've been playing too much expedition 33?
It's more of a support role kind of reduce the
Furosity like how how the fervor like reduced the amount of energy that people have for this issue
Because if it's like oh, I can just talk to somebody and somebody goes. Oh my god, mr. Beast notice then
then they like they like chill on it a little bit.
Like that would be the most cynical way to view it.
And I think that the people criticizing him,
us included, should continue to do so
because it's a gigantic institution
that not only has impact on creators,
has impact on YouTube the platform.
I know that for a fact, like, that people at YouTube
are paying lots of close attention to MrBeast and his team,
and he's talking to those people a lot.
And we have to make sure that, like, YouTube doesn't become
a platform that is just for MrBeast and is, you know,
for everyone else.
Because it ultimately isn't super sustainable that way.
There is, we haven't reached it yet,
but there will be a market cap on how many Jimmy's can operate in rotation.
Eventually it just starts to melt out.
At a certain point you would imagine,
but Mr. Beast's business model is not to build and grow with a,
with an audience.
It's to meet people at like ages six to 18.
And then from 35 to 65.
It gets, it's weird.
No, I'm just kidding.
It's like they're trying to reach the maximal amount of people at all times.
And there's a lot of kids in that who are aging out of it
because it's like pretty colors and explosions
and stuff.
And it's a little like, I mean, you know, like when people have like homework addiction
and they come out of school and then they're like, wait, how do I get points?
Like who's grading me on stuff?
Like how do I win life right now?
You're like, oh, sorry, the rules in the real life are like way weirder and not that fun
and you don't just win from the rules.
And so that where it's like, well, I'm doing YouTube the hardest.
I'm doing the most YouTube. Right. And you're like, right.
But like other people want to like make something and do that.
They want to like grow, but like within the thing they want to do.
And he's like, but why would you do that one?
When you can become rich and famous and also have all of the money in the world.
The most points. It's almost like the money is arbitrary.
It's like, yeah, the money is there so I can make another video that gets an A plus
from my teacher and I get a sticker.
Jacksepticeye also was popping off.
Here we bloody go.
Friend of the show, Jacksepticeye.
Top of the morning.
He said, what the actual fuck?
And he used my logo and the promotion for it too.
I hate what this platform is turning into.
Fuck AI. So that's another thing. I hate what this platform is turning into. Fuck AI.
So that's another thing.
I was gonna ask if those logos consented.
Yeah, I knew that when I saw this tweet that they weren't.
And so that's another fucked thing.
The first reply.
It feels like kind of a lack of respect for other creators.
You can't, if you're building a tool that is analyzing publicly available data, respect for other creators.
If you're building a tool that is analyzing publicly available data, that's one thing.
But in an advertisement, when you're putting someone's logo in it, and you're advertising
that it's like, oh yeah, our product works well with Jacksepticeye YouTube channel. When I saw those logos fly by,
the only one that really jumped out to me that I spotted
was Marques.
I saw Marques and I went, oh, that's interesting.
Cause I know he's not an accelerationist,
but he is interested in tech and progress and tools.
And I'm like, okay, I can kind of see a world where maybe,
you know, Jimmy reaches out,
this is the project I'm working on.
Would you be all right with me?
Just putting this in the video, just from a vanilla brand PR point of view,
just do that. Like if I had a Wendy's logo in the video, I'd be like, Oh,
we should probably make sure that that's okay to have in there. Right.
I think that the beast brain literally could not conceive of somebody not liking
think that the beast brain literally could not conceive of somebody not liking it to the point where he's like, oh yeah, I'll put in that like, okay, here's my ranking for ugly.com.
I'm putting Jordan right in there.
He won't be mad.
Well, hang on, because he's ugly.
What are you talking about?
That's mean.
It's not mean.
I think it.
Like, why would you not want your logo's mean. It's not mean. I think it. Like, why would you know when you're logo on here? It's very good.
Yeah. Don't you want to be associated with the future?
Don't you want to? Oh, what do they say in the tech industry?
Don't you want to see it on the spaceship?
Yeah, dude. We're gag.
We're a family and we're going on the spaceship.
And what's your first name?
Um, can you work overtime?
We recorded this episode on June 25th and on June 26th
MrBeast released this video on his Twitter explaining that view stats would be removing the AI thumbnail feature and
Would create another tool allowing video creators to connect with thumbnail artists to hire for their videos
Let's cleanse our palate.
I'm hungry.
We're going to eat after this.
You won't get to see that part.
There's no Sad Boyz Buckbunk channel yet.
If you'll pay for it, we'll do it.
For the right price.
Tell me the right price and I'll do it.
OK, but I have to talk to my therapist.
No, just kidding.
I've been texting me to make fun of you.
So we got a little heated,
we got a little into that last topic,
but before we wrap up today, we want, what?
What are you doing?
Oh, okay.
We're gonna do, we're gonna do,
we're gonna bring back a Pen Pals advice segment
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Something to chat about like a little advice sad boys advice corner pen pals edition and
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So this comes from Campbell. He hem. Hello, Campbell. Dear sad boys and team, I am currently
working a job that involves working one-on-one with a
coworker for whole days with lots of tasks that leave time to talk as
someone so bad at small talk that I often forget to ask how about you after
someone asked me how my weekend was I am rapidly running out of topics of
conversation. Can you offer any advice or suggest some novel topics? Thank you,
I'm sorry.
This is like a worst nightmare scenario for someone who hates small talk. There is a
type of work where, like in the programming world, there's a thing called pair programming, where you have someone who's the driver who's writing the code, and you have another person who's like, they're helping talk through everything.
The idea is that two heads make better decisions
and blah, blah, blah.
And there's some companies that,
like I at least know of one company,
that work mostly like that for all their development work,
or one of our friends had to do it for their design work.
Nightmare.
Nightmare for me.
Everybody has to drift compatible Mac. Yes, exactly. Collaborate. Nightmare for me. Everybody has to drift compatible. Yes, exactly.
Okay. So I, can I just say, yes, not nightmare situation for me.
I deal situation. I love to gab.
Well, what do you do?
Tell us. Okay. Here's some tricks of the trade. Like I love to hear,
tricks of the trade. Like I love to hear,
like maybe this is actually me being too forward sometimes. Like sometimes I get worried that I'm asking too personal of
questions, but I just love to hear people's stories about their lives.
And so, you know, and also my brain's like a, you know,
fricking ping pong ball, just like bouncing all around.
So.
It's like a ping pong ball bouncing all around.
You know?
So sometimes I'll just be like,
oh, breakfast was like so good this morning.
Like, what's your favorite breakfast ever?
Like, that's how my brain works.
I do like the setup.
You're like, it's almost like you're trying
to ask somebody out and you're trying to like find a way
And it's like yeah, no movies are so good. Do you want to see one actually?
What is that one you're like trying to see right now and maybe not alone. Oh my god
I've been using chapstick my lips are so soft
I've actually not been using chapstick. I've been cheating with something called chap GPT
Not been using chapstick. I've been cheating with something called chap GPT
But you you bring up a good point you can talk you can small talk about anything
every little thing in the world has an infinite amount of
Complexity to it and if you need to like find time to talk or find something to talk about you can but I will say
that Silence is also not bad it is not like like if Jordan
and I are are are hanging or we're traveling or something there's gonna be
talky chatty times there's also gonna be completely silent times you know you
never see those on the podcast it would be a very boring podcast it would be
kind of cool yeah no we what it no we'd look
cool though sunglasses okay idea been around you guys when you're silent I
never thought you're cool what the hell okay um imagine like a beats to study
to like loop where it's like us working going like. Hey, Jordan, Jordan being sniffily ASMR 10 hours.
Jordan ticks, ticks only,
it's me ruffling my nose, opening my eyes.
I just wanna like answer the last question directly.
Can you offer any advice or suggest some novel topics?
Novel topics, I think, are movies.
Novels.
Things that you've done recently. And then also just being
genuinely interested in the other person.
It is very easy to, I think if,
it sounds like potentially by the way,
that this other person is maybe a little less or a little more,
a little more reticent to get the ball rolling socially. Like,
like this person may be feeling,
cause either they're feeling obliged to feel the sounds,
which is a trainable skill. It's going to feel, feel unintuitive,
but ultimately if you're adapting to a workspace together,
the sounds will kind of come naturally. The rhythm will find it.
But also if you're just finding that they like,
feel like they kind of want
to chat but you're not sure how to kick it off, there's a very thin line I think between asking
about a person and their personhood and their like intricacies and asking someone what they're
feeling in the moment.
I think if you're kind of people like to express and kind of talk about themselves
and in a positive sense and kind of bounce off of you and learn about you,
it's a lot less intimidating.
I think both as the asker and the askee art to answer.
Hey, what do you think you want to do after work today?
Or what are you planning this weekend?
They're very generic, but there's always an answer
in a way that like, who's the favorite member of your family?
Or like, why did you grow up?
That's a one-timer.
So some people, myself included,
may not want to go super, I guess when I was in an office,
but because my work now is getting personal,
but the, I may, like, you don't wanna pry
about someone's personal life at work.
Yeah, you don't wanna be like,
what's your relationship like with your mother?
Exactly.
Now some of their five year plan is.
Yeah, but.
That's a tech booth.
I'll say, what I will say is that
if you find out something that they're interested in,
that they, maybe a hobby that they have,
there's an endless amount of questions and things.
Or a movie or a TV show, like anything that,
if it's really bothering you,
you could like take more of an interest in
the things that they're interested in
and then you have something to talk about,
but they might not like small talk either. So that's the fine line
Yeah, because that's the trouble I get into because I love chit chatting with people and then I'll encounter someone who hates it
And that's when I'm like, okay
I need to chill and how do I balance my curiosity of someone with respecting their boundaries?
Right. Depends what the work is, I suppose. But I also, there's like, uh, if there's,
uh, gaps between these tasks, I think that does give you a rhythm. It sets one up for you. It's
like, oh, now we're doing this task, whatever it is and for however long it is. Let's say it's like a physical labor related, right?
Like you move some boxes, like an opening of SVU.
I'm just the guy moving the boxes, a party!
One of those people.
Boy, who put that in there?
Well, then it's like, okay, naturally,
little rest point, a how are you, et cetera.
One thing to keep in mind, there is a very good chance because nobody is like adept at all social
things.
There is a very good chance that they are feeling the same way, if not more severely,
that like they aren't sure how to move it along.
Even if they seem maybe comfortable or charismatic or something, everyone,
it's a balancing act. Nobody's, nobody's amazing at this.
It's a gift to ask like a, an easy question and then they can dictate the flow.
The last thing I'll say is that depending on the nature
of the work, if the person has a particular focus
in the type of work, you could also ask them questions.
Like, with programming, I feel like I could learn
a lot from people, because there's so many different things
that people would be interested in in that field
that I would never give a shit about to learn myself,
but then I could learn it from someone else,
because they love to talk about it.
So it's kind of like, you just gotta poke and prod
figuratively and like find what someone is like responds really positive to and then just like mine that yeah, and you're boring conversations
Well, like boring topics will probably become fun because you'll get to know each other so much better
Just naturally by sharing the same area. Yeah being like what are your plans this weekend or got any fun plans this weekend?
being like what are your plans this weekend or got any fun plans this weekend? Roll my eyes. Then you find out what someone's interested in. Yeah maybe you
bring them a gift like a little tiny knickknack and then if they really
respond to it then now you've got a bunch of stories you can tell about
finding it or about the weird guy that you saw at the store. Carry stickers on your
person at all times. Yeah or don't cuz that's fucking strange. Like little plastic
ducks or something. One thing that sucks about like it being in a professional setting instead of
just a like super chill setting is it's so fun to gossip.
Oh yeah.
Oh, it's ever so fun to gossip and you really shouldn't do too much of that at
work.
I have a friend who is around my age,
but everyone she works with is like in their late fifties. Um,
and it's like all these old women that like one at a time will come to her and talk shit about the others.
And so she doesn't like, she just listens to it.
And so she has like all of the office drama from everyone.
She can view everything.
She's got all the comp from her.
Okay, let's speed run.
I do have a quick word on this in terms of like,
if you aren't sure if they also wanna talk at that moment
or like if they wanna focus on their work, I always just straight up say like, hey, if I'm yapping too much,
like straight up tell me you want to work and I won't be offended just be like, oh,
sorry, I need to focus.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Or like, I went on a first date a while ago and I was like worried that we would run out
of things to talk about because we were just like sitting down and getting coffee.
We ended up talking for five hours
because it was just like, you know.
You're at the door.
Yeah.
You can very easily piggyback new conversations
onto the ones you were having.
Just yes ands.
Like as, yeah, like as you're talking about something,
if it reminds you of something else,
keep that there until they're done talking to you.
Like also, and just like keep doing that if
if that helps you continue finding topics also off of what Jarvis just said
we're never gonna end this question I we keep getting on actually got better at
being social because of improv mmm yeah no how it is. No, no, you're welcome to talk. I'm yes-anding, you're yes-and.
And I'm just Josh.
So we're gonna speed through these next ones, speed round,
and we know what that means.
It'll probably still take a while,
but we're gonna try our best.
Yeah, these ones might be hard to speed run.
Ha!
Oh no!
What advice, oh great.
All right, Alex says,
what advice would you give your 18-year-old self
on career relationships goals?
I will speed run this.
On career, find something that you really are passionate
about because it becomes a lot easier to invest
all kinds of time and interest into that thing
when you're not forcing it.
Relationships, similarly surround yourself
with people who build you up rather than tear you down, people
who you admire, with people who you like being around, who give you energy rather than take
it and value those relationships.
And even if they wax and wane, they will live forever.
And then goals, it's an ever shifting target.
It's okay to have short term goals
and it's okay to think you're going in one direction
and then ultimately change those directions.
You can never go backwards, only forwards
and it's also okay to not have goals.
You gotta breathe.
I have a short answer for all of them.
Trust yourself, trust your gut.
If something doesn't feel right, it's not right.
If you don't, if you're not super into the partner, you should break up.
If you aren't enduring the career and it's not necessary, if you can always change it
something else every day older that you are, you are a better judge than the person a day
ago.
The 18 year old self has a way worse idea of what your goals are than your 19 year old self and your 20 year old self. If they feel like, wait a minute,
I don't like this field at all. Why am I studying in it?
Why am I so focused on doing a dentistry when I actually,
it's the thing I hate,
then you're more right than the 18 year old self that said it.
Setting a goal is only useful if it progresses and you enjoy
doing it.
Relationship wise, literally if you don't like the relationship, you should break up
100% of the time.
There's a way to think about my life where I wasted time by entering another career that
was unrelated to what I do now.
But if I hadn't followed that curiosity, it wouldn't have led me to so many of the things
in relationships that I now have,
even though it seems like it would be more obvious
to take a direct line if I could see the future.
That's my whole life.
I mean, you guys often, you know,
razz me for having done everything.
You joined the Peace Corps and worked at the museums
so that you could be a producer on
Sablix Podcast.
It's specifically in our job description.
This job didn't exist when I was 18.
Think about that.
Because we were too young to podcast.
Because we were being born.
It was like, we make fun of you, but really it's complimentary because you have a wealth
of life.
And I think that is like, you've experienced so much more life in your time on earth.
You're about all me.
So don't be, that's because I didn't really know what I wanted to do. And I pivoted constantly.
Well, you know what you don't want to do?
I, I, yeah, I knew what I didn't want to do. I, I want to be a professor. And then I was
like, Oh, nope. Don't want to be a professor. Try this thing, nope, don't want to do that thing.
Try this thing.
And I just kept trying things
till I found this beautiful home with Sad Boys LLC.
Follow your curiosity if you can.
I think that's one of the biggest gifts
you can give yourself.
Obviously you gotta make cash money
and survive and pay bills and stuff.
So it's a luxury and a privilege so you can always break up my one thing
if for myself specifically my 18 year old self relax chill chill out it's fine
you're just starting and also if you think you should go to the doctor, go get some, go see what mental health you might need.
I would tell myself in two years there's going to be a thing called Bitcoin.
It's dumb as hell, but buy it.
Buy it while it's cheap.
The people telling you about it, they're the worst, but just do it.
And then in a few years you can buy all the Pokemon cards you want, I promise. I have a cringe one, real quick, I'll just throw out, is be kind, but not a pushover.
It is not kind to be quiet. It is not kind to be a people pleaser.
It's actually destructive for all parties. But cynicism is not cool. It's
not impressive. It doesn't do anything for you. Or anyone else. Defaulting to benefit of the doubt,
but keeping enough self-awareness to see when someone is wronging you,
that is basically the answer to career relationships and goals. My last, my last one I promise is advice that I
learned that has helped me in a lot of situations is pretty common. Will this matter in five
minutes? Will this matter in an hour? Will it matter in a day in a week? Yeah, I try to pee
when you have to pee. Yes. Don't hold it too long. To that point, the tactic is, or a tactic that I would advise
is like, or that my therapist has advised me, I will say,
is you can worry, tell yourself that you can worry as much
as you want in half an hour about this
and just pause it for right now.
And you'd be surprised how often half an hour comes up
and you're not as worried about it.
And scenes.
Especially if you have ADHD and you literally can't remember what it was.
Alright now this one's from Al or is it AI?
Because that would be very funny.
Beep boop, beep beep beep boop.
Okay so it's very long but we're going to make it so short.
Oh god, I'm so confused.
Oh one last thing I'll say.
Okay this is asking, this is more asking for an opinion because this made me curious
I started talking to a girl and when I told her I don't really have social media. She said sorry
That's a red flag for me
But mark what's your take on that? It's a red flag
Don't be weird I feel like people can be kind of entitled online it felt pretty rude personally
I wonder if it's just me you have felt strange and other people I've asked agree with me. What's your take on public figures?
How does this affect dating?
Yeah, that's, I think that anything,
anytime someone has a red flag that is like so, who cares?
Like, if it's like, I like the band Coldplay, I don't.
Like if they go, whoa, that's a red flag for me?
It's like, okay, you care about dumb shit. I like the band Coldplay. I don't like if they and they go whoa, that's a red flag for me
It's like okay
You care about dumb shit and if you are very invested in any of anybody who has like that suite of
Yellow and red flags that like anime style
Clan guild you are part of the red guild and this this trait means this
You're weird. You're like a weird person. That is a bad
trait to have is categorizing because what it means is you
can't think for yourself. You don't have like real opinions.
You have like, not listening to arty monkeys means you're a bad
bloke. Like you listen to arty monkeys. No, but someone on
Twitter told me what the right opinion was.
I also think like, okay, so that's a red flag. That's a red flag for this person.
And it's like, who knows why that's a red flag
for this person, but.
They got told it.
You know, that's their prerogative.
And it honestly says more about them and their experience
than it says about you.
They're also don't take it personally.
They are rude.
They're just rude. You can move on to
The next person and they're telling you
You know a crazy thing to say they're telling you that they're not right for you with that sent yeah every time
I like ask my friends like oh are you guys do you want to be tagged in this story that I'm posting and
Someone says no, I'm like cool. Do you want you want your face with it? No, that's fine. Just
don't tell me. I'm like, okay. And this person being like, oh, you're not sharing every moment
of your life with everyone in the world. Maybe this is just because I'm like, I'm black
pulled with that shit or whatever. But like, this is such a funny interaction because in
my mind, this person basically said, um, yeah, I'm like an Olympian, I actually can run a one second
mile and then the person went like, ew.
Being, they're completely not on social media,
that is, I can dunk with my eyes closed,
I can shoot a 3000 pointer, no that is way cooler than you,
that's impressive and good, I'm healthy and well happy.
I don't know how old they are,
but I think that it can be common when you're younger
to place a lot of value on some of these things
that don't really matter.
We don't have your own principles yet.
And for me, if someone told me they don't watch TV
or movies, I wouldn't say that's a red flag for me,
but I'm like, oh, that's something
that we won't be able to relate on.
And it could be similar here,
where it's more like maybe they want to talk
about sad boys podcasts,
and they wanna talk about TikTok trends,
and things like that.
And so maybe they don't feel like they can relate
on those things that they spend a lot of their time with.
And thus it's a red flag.
But I think that the reason we reacted this way
is saying sorry, that's a red flag for me is so insane.
Yeah, that is, it is weird.
It's honestly cringe.
It's just so weird.
This could have been about anything,
but that's just such weird social behavior.
Yeah, it's just a weird social behavior.
They could have said, sorry,
I don't think we're gonna have much in common. Because I spend 100% of my time on social media. They could have said, sorry, I don't think we're going to have much in common.
Because I spent 100% of my time on social media. Yeah. Which is, you know, whatever. I briefly dated somebody who didn't drink for their own health reasons. It just didn't react well. It
just made them feel sickly. So they didn't drink, but had like some like kind of light social
anxiety in larger spaces. And when they had drank in the past, they had like some like kind of light social anxiety in larger spaces.
And when they had drank in the past, they're like, actually kind of helps me get past that.
Now I'm not suggesting this as a balm or something, but a lot of time we would
go to an event or a party or something.
And I do really like hanging out with friends in larger spaces.
I think it's fun exploring that and supporting one another and getting into it.
And as like some of my friends would have drinks and stuff, she wasn't engaging with that and also
wasn't engaging generally socially. None of these things are wrong. But it ruined several parties that I was going to
because the whole time they were just waiting to go home. Now if they dated somebody that did not enjoy parties like that, if they dated somebody
that also didn't drink and they dated somebody that was also more into the hobbies they had,
we didn't have a lot of crossover.
It's just a better fit.
It's alignment, man.
Like, I don't know.
For me, it's like a little bit of a yellow, maybe a red flag.
Again, I hate the terminology, but that's called red flag, not something that's objectively
bad, but something that is like, Oh, okay. We can't date is if somebody was,
I don't know, like super religious. That's fine. I just don't. I'm just pretty super
not religious. And it would, I would feel like I was robbing them of the opportunity
to be sincere and open and go to church or something. I like the, sorry, one more, one
more, one more. The person I'm right now.
It's like I'm trying to the the person I'm seeing right now they also they
don't drink for health reasons and at first I was like oh like will they be
able to have as much fun at a party that they go to with me, like as everyone else is having,
I'm like, no, that's my own anxiety.
They know how to handle themselves at parties
and I can't be concerned for them about that.
I just have to like be chill about it.
And it's the same with the social media thing,
where whatever they told me,
they don't really like post much.
I was like, that rocks.
I wish I could stop doing that.
I wanna not do it actually.
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We all look like that.
You don't look like a riding side saddle.
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