Scamfluencers - Bess Myerson: Miss America on Trial | 212

Episode Date: May 4, 2026

Bess Myerson rose to fame as the first - and still only - Jewish Miss America, antisemitism on the pageant circuit. She parlayed this visibility into a successful television career, then made... the leap into New York City politics in the 1970s. But in the 1980s, her carefully built reputation began to unravel in a sensational scandal involving her married boyfriend, his divorce judge, and allegations of bribery. The saga was splashed across headlines as the “Bess Mess” – and threatened to eclipse her trailblazing legacy.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Audible subscribers can listen to all our episodes of scam influencers ad-free right now. Join Audible today by downloading the Audible app. A note for our listeners, this episode describes incidents of domestic violence. Listen with care. Sarah, have you ever entered a beauty contest by chance? Like, were you ever competing to be Little Miss Ottawa? Oh, of course not. I was a weird-looking kid.
Starting point is 00:00:32 No, no, no, no. No. There was no universe where that would have happened. my life. Why? Would you? No, I mean, my dad was like one of those very particular male feminists in the 90s, so it was very important that I'd be smart above being pretty. So I would never be entered in a contest, like rooted in my cuteness. I also was weird looking. But look at you now. Smart. Look at us. Beautiful. Oh, you can win Miss Podcast. That should be an award and they should give it to me. Yes. All right. Well, Sarah, we have a really good.
Starting point is 00:01:06 one this week. It's all about one of America's most famous beauty queens and how close she was to losing everything. It's October 1987 in New York City. Sixty-three-year-old Bess Meyerson is in a Lincoln town car pulling up to the federal courthouse in Lower Manhattan. Waiting outside are around 200 reporters, photographers, news crews, and plenty of curious onlookers packed onto the courthouse steps. The moment her car door opens, they surge forward, all trying to get a glimbing of the great Bess Meyerson brought low. Bess has been a New York icon for decades, ever since she was crowned Miss America more than 40 years ago.
Starting point is 00:01:49 Since then, she's been a TV host, an influential figure in city politics, and a regular tabloid fixture. But lately, she's been in the headlines for a very different reason. She's at the center of a tawdry affair, one that has spiraled onto allegations of corruption while she was in office.
Starting point is 00:02:05 And today, she's being indicted on federal charges, including bribery. Best steps out of the car wearing a black Chanel suit. Her short brown hair is perfectly styled and she stands tall at 5'10. Simply put, she's striking. Bess holds her head high
Starting point is 00:02:22 as she walks through the scrum, not showing a glimpse of doubt or shame. Inside, Bess makes her way to the huge black marble and wood trimmed courtroom and takes a seat. A moment later, Federal Marshals escort in a man wearing a dark blue suit. This is Andy
Starting point is 00:02:38 Capasso. He's 15 years younger than Bess, with thinning brown hair and thick, bushy eyebrows. He's a little rough around the edges and looks like an extra from the Sopranos. Then Bess's name is called, and she takes her place next to Andy. He leans in to whisper something to her, and then they kiss, because Andy isn't just Bess's co-defendant, he's also her boyfriend. And together, they're accused of doing favors for the judge overseeing Andy's divorce case in exchange for a reduction in his alimony payments. The woman who was once New York sweetheart now stands accused of not just breaking up a marriage,
Starting point is 00:03:14 but colluding to take money out of the ex-wife's pocket. Usually once people are in court and they're probably guilty, they don't kiss, you know, they usually break up by then, they're not really supporting each other. So this to me sounds like true love. Wow, Sarah, that's really beautiful. I'm not saying it's good love, I'm just saying it's true. Yeah, a subtle but important distinction.
Starting point is 00:03:37 while Andy has been brought in for this hearing from a federal penitentiary in Allenwood, Pennsylvania, because he's already serving a four-year sentence for tax fraud. Seeing him in person must comfort Best a little. After everything they've been through, at least are facing this moment together. And now, in front of the judge and the press, they hold hands. Best pleads not guilty. The judge sets her bail at $250,000 and orders her to surrender her passport. But luckily, she's granted permission to travel.
Starting point is 00:04:07 within the United States, because she's scheduled to do a press tour for her upcoming book, Miss America 1945, Bess Meyersson's own story. Just 50 minutes later, the hearing is over. Andy has to return to his prison cell. Best leans into Andy and they kiss goodbye. Best makes her way out of the courthouse and is usher to a microphone, where she delivers a brief statement. For a long period, I've been the target of ugly accusations and false rumors. And I look forward to having my day in court. I'm totally confident that I will be vindicated. Yeah, you just shouldn't say that even if you're right.
Starting point is 00:04:47 Like, it's court, babe. You might not be vindicated, even if you should be. That's true. But you know what? That confidence is needed, I guess. Yeah, go off, Queen. Well, Best doesn't answer a single question. Instead, she turns and walks to her.
Starting point is 00:05:03 waiting car. As she passes, someone in the crowd shouts, good luck. And you get the sense, they might mean it. Because despite this fall from grace, this trial isn't quite what it seems. Behind it, there's a disgraced judge, a mentally unstable daughter, and an opportunistic U.S. attorney looking to use this high-profile case to advance his career. When news of Bess's affair first broke, the public backlash was brutal. But now, the backlash to the backlash is beginning to swing back in Bess's favor. The whole saga has come to be known as the best mess, and it threatens to tarnish the career Bess has spent decades building.
Starting point is 00:05:40 But in some ways, she's been training for this moment her entire life. Now, the city's most successful beauty queen is stepping onto a different kind of stage, the courtroom, and she'll do whatever it takes to prove her innocence and protect her legacy. From Audible Originals, I'm Sachi Cole. And I'm Sarah Hagey. And this is scamfluensers. Legend. Best Meyerson's remarkable life
Starting point is 00:06:16 reads like a parable of the 20th century American woman. She rose to fame as the first and still the only Jewish Miss America, overcoming anti-Semitism on the pageant circuit. She leveraged this fame into a successful television career. And then, in the 1970s,
Starting point is 00:06:32 she made a leap into New York City politics, becoming part of a new generation of educated, ambitious women stepping into public life. But in the 1980s, it all began to unravel. A scandal, and the legal drama that followed, became a tabloid obsession,
Starting point is 00:06:47 and the press gleefully ripped apart Bess's pristine image. Her story captures the contradictions of that era. Women celebrated for breaking barriers and yet judged more harshly when they fell short. In every way, Bess was larger than life. And in the end, it may be her flaws that define her legacy. This is Bess Meyerson, Miss America on trial. It's September 1945 in Atlantic City,
Starting point is 00:07:15 less than a week after the end of World War II. Best Meyerson is standing on stage with 12 other finalists for Miss America. We have a photo of her from that night. Sarah, can you describe her? Yeah, she's beautiful. She's stunning. Like she looks like a classic beauty. Party with a body.
Starting point is 00:07:31 Yeah, she has a big, bright smile. She's wearing her crown, beautiful dark hair. I mean, yeah, she's beautiful by any standard. Yeah, she's super cute. And even among the other beauty contestant, Bess stands out because she is nearly six feet tall and towers over the other women. But while her smile exudes confidence,
Starting point is 00:07:53 inside she is fighting major imposter syndrome. Bess grew up in a large Jewish housing co-op in the Bronx during the Great Depression. Money was tight, so Bess and her two sisters shared one bedroom and their parents slept in the living room. And even though Bess grew up knowing she was beautiful, beauty wasn't the priority in her family. Hard work and education were.
Starting point is 00:08:14 And her mom, Bella, was. strict. She pushed her daughters to study, telling them, you hate me now, you'll love me later. Funny enough, that kind of sounds like Ramona Singer. It's very mom. It's very mom. It is. And it's kind of what you should be saying to your daughter, especially, you know, like it's 1945. Being Jewish-American in the Bronx is not easy. And it sounds like good parenting to me to empower your daughters that way. Yeah. Well, Best desperately wanted her mother's approval. So she excelled in school and became an accomplished pianist.
Starting point is 00:08:50 She figured if she was good enough at piano, she could always make money teaching. By 12, Bess was performing with a small orchestra and after high school, she majored in music at Hunter College. But although she wanted to get her master's, she couldn't afford it. That's when her sister signed Bess up to compete in this pageant. Bess only agreed for one reason, the $5,000 prize, which would be about $90,000 today. So now, Bess is on stage wearing a board. borrowed white bathing suit that's a little too small. Her sister slept in it last night to stretch it out and then sewed Bess into it that morning. If she breathes the wrong way, she's worried the
Starting point is 00:09:27 seams will pop. But despite all that, she's doing incredibly well. She's already won the talent portion by playing the piano and the flute, and she won the swimsuit competition. No other girl has two wins under their belt, so Bess knows she's got a legitimate chance. This is a huge moment. reporters are everywhere, and for the first time, the pageant is being broadcast on television. As the runners-up are announced, so many thoughts must be racing through Bess's mind. Besides being taller than the other girls, Bess is also the only Jewish contestant. In the 1940s, that doesn't exactly fit the conventional idea of beauty. Bess later said she could feel the anti-Semitism at the event.
Starting point is 00:10:10 And while Bess doesn't know it at the time, many of the judges received calls the night before, warning them not to vote for the Jewish girl. Oh my God, that's terrible. And it's honestly just like not surprising at all. I'm sure it's just like a terrible feeling to know that you're probably the best there, but you are being told that you're not. Yeah. Weirdly universal experience, huh? Yes.
Starting point is 00:10:34 Well, Best tries to stay calm. And then they call out the winner's name, Bess Meyerson. The audience erupts in cheers and applause. a crown is placed on her head and a robe around her shoulders. She smiles and stays composed, just like her mother taught her. Back in the Bronx, neighbors celebrate with music and dancing. At only 21, Bess is the first Jewish Miss America, and her win means a lot to the Jewish community.
Starting point is 00:11:03 But while the crown is supposed to open doors, Bess is about to find out just how many will remain stubbornly closed. And if she wants to make a difference, she'll have to forge her own path. Just a week after being named Miss America, Bess is on the road touring the country in a vaudeville show called The American Beauty Review. She's playing the piano in a high-neck dress, and she can hear the audience snickering.
Starting point is 00:11:29 She knows what they really want, to see her in a bathing suit, just like the one she was wearing when she became Miss America. Night after night, it's the same reaction. Eventually, Bess gives in, first, adding a bathing suit during her final number, and then wearing it for the entire show. She's making good money, $1,000 a week,
Starting point is 00:11:48 but this experience isn't what she expected it to be. She's feeling lonely and depressed. You know, it's always hard when you feel like you're doing something lucrative that many people want to do, but it's still not really fulfilling, and you're also doing things that feel icky, you know? It's like she's meant to feel like she's so lucky to have this opportunity, but there's something not right about it, and she's lonely.
Starting point is 00:12:12 She misses her family. Yeah. and it gets worse. Many of the pageant sponsors are unhappy supporting a Jewish winner. And on the road, Bess is banned from certain country clubs, veterans' hospitals, and hotels.
Starting point is 00:12:26 Finally, she's had enough. Bess quits the tour and goes home to the Bronx. But instead of disappearing, she decides to fight back. She partners with the Anti-Defamation League and spends the next six months traveling all over the country giving a speech titled,
Starting point is 00:12:40 You Can't Be Beautiful and Hate. You know, that is a 30 rock joke. It's a fact, too. You can't be beautiful and be a hater. Only ugly people are haters. Yeah, you know what? It's about who's giving the message. And that is the message that is tailored for the beauty queen, right?
Starting point is 00:13:00 It's important. Well, as her life moves forward, Best meets a successful manufacturer and World War II veteran named Alan Wayne. He's tall and handsome with wavy brown hair, and she is immediately smitten. Unlike other men, Alan is easy to talk to and he doesn't seem intimidated by her. Bess proposes, and one month later, they elope.
Starting point is 00:13:22 A year after that, they have a baby girl named Barbara who goes by Bara. But her marriage isn't the fairy tale Bess thought it would be. Alan, likely struggling with post-traumatic stress disorder, abuses Bess when he drinks. Bess wants out, but her parents tell her to go home and fix it. But at least Bess's career is taking off. She gets a job on a game show called The Big Payoff, and for eight years she's known as the Lady in Mink. She introduces guests, announces prizes,
Starting point is 00:13:51 and wears a mink coat to show the contestants what they can win. She also does promotional work. Here's a clip of her advertising shampoo. I'm here easier to manage hair. I'm Beth Morrison with wonderful news about three luster cream shampo. Best looks glamorous on TV, but behind the scenes, it's a different story. She often has to call in sick
Starting point is 00:14:15 because she's too bruised to appear on camera. Despite the chaos at home, Beth shines on TV. Her charm and her charisma are undeniable. Bess's newfound fame and success don't sit well with Alan. And finally, in 1956, 10 years into their marriage,
Starting point is 00:14:31 things explode. Alan and Bess get into an argument and Alan hits her, chases her into the street, and drags her across the sidewalk. Four days later, Bess calls the police and leaves with their daughter. Alan reports her for kidnapping and Bess files for divorce.
Starting point is 00:14:47 Bess and Alan spend months fighting over custody and even try to reconcile. But by November 1957, it's over. Bess secures full custody. She and her daughter are finally free. Oh my gosh, that is insane. 1957 getting full custody and divorcing, it's not an easy thing to do. So it happened at all and she got it.
Starting point is 00:15:10 out of that marriage is huge. Yeah, I mean, thank God. But there is one big problem. During the divorce, Best discovered that Alan had spent almost all of their money. Now, she's a single mother who has to pay the bills.
Starting point is 00:15:25 So she starts booking more TV gigs. She appears on panel shows like, I've Got a Secret, guest hosts the Today Show, emcees the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade, the Rose Bowl, and even returns to Miss America, this time as the host.
Starting point is 00:15:39 For the first time, she's really living on her own terms. Bess embraces the single life and begins hosting events and putting herself out there. And at one of these events, she'll meet a man who will change the course of her entire life. In the fall of 1961, 37-year-old Best is emceeing the Anti-Defamation League's annual dinner. After she gives a short speech, she introduces one of the night's honorees, Arnold Grant, a 53-year-old lawyer in the entertainment industry and well-known fundraiser for Jewish organizations and the Democratic party. When Arnold stands up to speak, he asks her out in front of the entire crowd.
Starting point is 00:16:20 You know, I do think that is an extremely nutso move, but she's a gorgeous woman, and gorgeous women sometimes respond to grand gestures. So I could see how this could work, but it also depends on how handsome and rich she is, in my opinion. Well, Bess is flattered, and she's heard of Arnold before. He's Uber rich, represents clients like, Johnny Carson and Bing Crosby, and he runs in social circles with people like Eleanor Roosevelt and John F. Kennedy. He's traveled all over the world, buys expensive art, and vacations in exotic places like the French Riviera. Plus, she thinks he's handsome, so Vess accepts his invitation. Six months later, Arnold proposes with a $60,000 diamond ring. And after they get married,
Starting point is 00:17:06 they jet off on a honeymoon around the world. When they finally return to New York, they move into a suite at the Plaza Hotel while Arnold's triplex apartment is being remodeled. Bess is now living in luxury and meeting people like Salvador Dali and Johnny Carson. Arnold even adopts Bess's daughter, Bara. On paper, it's a perfect life. But behind the scenes, it's also tumultuous. Arnold has a very 1950s attitude when it comes to gender rules. He wants to be the star, often launching into long lectures at dinner,
Starting point is 00:17:37 while Bess is supposed to play hostess for his fancy friends. but we're now in the 60s and Bess isn't interested in shrinking herself. Sarah, can you read how Bess described one experience in the fall of 1965? Yeah, she says, One night, we had some political people over. It was a stimulating dinner party.
Starting point is 00:17:56 After it was over, I said, Arnold, I learned so much tonight, it was wonderful. And he said, yes, but Bess, sit down. I want to discuss something with you. These shrimp forks are too small. I knew then I had to leave. Wow, that is really one of those interactions that seem so small that just kind of solidifies why someone isn't right for you. And also, it pisses me off when a guy marries a woman knowing very well what her life is and expects her to change.
Starting point is 00:18:23 You know what you were marrying. Why do you think she's going to change now? Yeah, exactly. And after four and a half years, Bess and Arnold divorce. But then her TV career takes a hit when I've Got a Secret is cancelled. Suddenly, Bess is feeling financially uncertain again, and for some reason, Bess decides to give Arnold another chance. The couple have disagreeing accounts as to why they ended up living together again, but either way, they get back together and remarry in 1968, and Bess quickly realizes this is a mistake.
Starting point is 00:18:56 But this time, she feels stuck. She doesn't want to get another divorce. Then comes another blow. The Miss America pageant replaces her with a younger winner, which leaves Bess feeling even more insecure and depressed. It's the late 60s and everything is changing. Culture, expectations, and opportunities for women. And Bess starts asking herself the same question a lot of women are asking at that moment.
Starting point is 00:19:21 Is this all there is? But soon, she's going to get an unexpected opportunity, one that could give her a new sense of purpose, if she's brave enough to take it. In early 1969, Bess gets a call from the office of New York City. city mayor, John Lindsay. She's shocked when he offers her a job, Commissioner of Consumer Affairs. It's not the most glamorous job, but John thinks Bess's fame could draw attention to consumer rights issues and make his administration look good in an election year. Bess is intrigued.
Starting point is 00:19:56 She's always had strong opinions, and this would give her a real platform to help everyday New Yorkers. But she's also nervous to try something so different. This isn't a game show. It's real life. somewhat surprisingly, Arnold is the one who hypes Bess up and encourages her to go for it. He gives her books about consumer protection law and even quizzes her while they're on vacation in Palm Springs. At least for now, this opportunity is bringing them closer together. So, with his blessing and encouragement, Bess accepts this post. In March of 1969, Bess is sworn in in what the New York Times calls an unusually well-attended ceremony at City Hall. Mayor Lindsay even thanks Arnold for allowing.
Starting point is 00:20:36 best to take the role and best accepts the position with pride. My thanks to Arnold Grant for sparing me some time of his charming wife, as I said to him, you're not losing a wife, you're gaining a city. He said you're also gaining a beautiful woman. All true. Thank you very much, Mayor Lindsay. As a native news, Yorker, I declare with pride and conviction that this is the greatest city in the United States. It can also be the most difficult, right? Mr. Lindsay.
Starting point is 00:21:19 Okay, do they know she's right there? Like, do they know she's right there when they're talking about her like that? It's like, hey, thanks for letting me borrow your sexy wife. But hey, you get the whole city. What the hell is that? Yeah, it's a lot of people treating her like a prop, which I, like a prop, which I, guess she kind of was in some ways. But Bess hits the ground running.
Starting point is 00:21:41 She's in charge of setting up programs that protect consumers and ensure that local businesses operate ethically. As the child of two working class parents who worked hard to provide, Bess can easily relate to consumer pain points. One of her first big projects is a truth in pricing bill, which introduces unit pricing so shoppers can actually compare costs. Sarah, do you know what unit pricing is? Yeah, it's one of those things I see.
Starting point is 00:22:05 I guess when I visit New York, most of it's a lot of. mostly, but it's kind of how much something costs like the individual unit. So it'd be per pound or ounce or item. And I guess it would just help you compare prices. It just helps you make an informed decision about how much money you're spending on something, right? Yeah, exactly. And at the time, this is a new idea. Even though a lot of companies push back, the idea is popular and the law passes. Within eight months, Best helps push through some of the toughest consumer laws in the country. It's a huge win, and people feel like Bess is really looking out for them. Bess is crushing her new job, but privately, things are unraveling. Her marriage
Starting point is 00:22:46 is teetering once again, and she's suffering from depression. So, in the winter of 1969, she heads to London to visit her daughter Bara, who's now 21. And while she's there, Bess goes into Herod's one day and shoplifts a sweater. The police are called, and she begs them to just let her pay for it. She has the money, but they arrest her instead. And when she gets outside, she makes a run for it, but she's caught and brought to the station. Oh, Bess. I feel like this kind of shoplifting is often a response of your life being uncontrollable, just trying to do something insane to get a rush, and I'm really sad that happened. I mean, listen, name me a woman who hasn't stolen something dumb to feel alive. Just let her pay for it. After three hours of questioning, Bess is a
Starting point is 00:23:34 is told to come back the next day for a hearing. But she never shows up. Instead, she flies back home and tries to forget all about it. Back in New York, Bess and Arnold begin leading separate lives. By March 1970, the couple is barely speaking when Bess goes to the hospital for a facelift. And while she's gone, Arnold reads Bess's diary and what he finds is brutal. He reads that she despises him and he finds a love letter from another man. Sarah, can you read part of what it said?
Starting point is 00:24:07 It says, I have little or no illusions about you best, for I know you more than in the biblical sense. There is nothing delusionary in my love for you. Okay, romantic A.F. Sorry. Biblical? Damn, I know what that means. Well, there's even an entry where she writes,
Starting point is 00:24:27 quote, If Arnold will die, I would have the safety and security of a house, a place to exist. I would then reach out to new. experiences and have people around me. Yeah, I mean, it's clear that she really wants an out. And her even just like fantasizing about what would happen if he died is so clearly her trying to figure out how to leave him without doing the right thing.
Starting point is 00:24:53 You know what I mean? Yeah. And by July 1970, the marriage is over. Bass is at City Hall when she served divorce papers. By the time she gets home, Arnold has changed the law. locks. Arnold cuts her off financially, even calling stores to cancel her credit. He then reminds Best that he has pages from her diary and can release them if needed. With her public image at stake, Bess finally agrees to the divorce. Her marriage may be finished, but at least she's in a good
Starting point is 00:25:21 place financially. After saving most of her income over the last few years, she is a nest egg of roughly a million dollars. And she's now earning around $25,000 a year from her new job, which is a little more than $200,000 in 26. Within a year, Bess's life looks completely different. In July 1971, she's featured in Life magazine with the headline, a consumer's best friend.
Starting point is 00:25:45 And now, with her marriage behind her, Bess is ready to see where her new political career can take her. Bess is so popular as the Consumer Affairs Commissioner Commissioner that there's talk of her running for mayor. But after a few years on the job, Bess is over the 10-hour workdays. She resigns and becomes a consumer affairs consultant for Citibank, earning $100,000 a year, which today would be over $700,000. It's a big shift, less pressure, a lot more money, and for a moment, she even seriously considers running for Senate.
Starting point is 00:26:20 But then, everything changes when she's diagnosed with ovarian cancer. Bess is only 49 at this point, and alone, and she keeps her diagnosis fairly quiet, worried that Citibank will cancel her contract. Bess has a hysterectomy, but the recovery is brutal, 18 months of chemotherapy, leaving her weak and sick. And still, she often pushes herself to go to work straight from her chemo appointments. Eventually, Bess is declared cancer-free, but the experience changes her. She doesn't feel ready to run for office anymore, but she also doesn't want to disappear completely. So she attends political events and endorses other candidates, like her good friend, Ed Koch. In 1977, when he's running for mayor of nine, he's running for mayor of nine,
Starting point is 00:27:03 New York, Best goes all in for him. Hitching her star to Ed's wagon is going to pay off for Bess big time. But it also sets the stage for what comes next, because a bigger spotlight comes with bigger risks, and Bess is about to put everything she's built, her reputation, her career, her second act, on the line for a man. I'm Raza Jaffrey, and in the new season of The Spy Who, we tell the story of Dr. A.Q. Kahn, the spy who sold nuclear science. secrets to Iran. He was the scientist spy who stole nuclear technology from the Netherlands
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Starting point is 00:28:29 I'm Leon NaFok, best known as the host and co-creator of podcasts, Slow Burn, Fiasco, and Think Twice, Michael Jackson. I'm here to tell you about my show, Final Thirteen. Thoughts, Jerry Springer, whose name is synonymous with outrageous guests, taboo confessions, and vicious on-stage fights. But before the Jerry Springer show became a symbol of cultural decline, its namesake was a popular Midwestern politician and a serious-minded idealist with lofty ambitions. Through dozens of intimate and revealing interviews with those who knew Springer best, I examined Springer's lifelong struggle to reconcile his TV persona with his political dreams
Starting point is 00:29:06 and aspirations. named one of the best podcasts of the year by the New Yorker and Rolling Stone. Final Thoughts, Jerry Springer, is a story about choices, how we make them, how we justify them to ourselves, and how we transcend them or don't. Listen wherever you get your podcasts. Or binge the whole series ad-free right now on Audible. Start your Audible subscription in the Audible app. It's Columbus Day, 1977. Bess and mayoral candidate Ed Koch are sitting in the back of a limo trying to make their way to a parade.
Starting point is 00:29:45 But they're stuck in traffic. Ed's team is frantic. The driver is so hopeless, he backs into another car's front bumper. Then, while everyone is losing it, Bess calmly tells Ed that she'll take care of it. She steps out of the car wearing a blazer, turtleneck sweater, and skirt, and confidently marches over to the policeman. Before her colleagues can even get their bearings, Bess has been. gets directions and navigates Ed to the start of the parade. At this point, Bess is the co-chair of Ed's mayoral campaign, and also the face of it. Frankly, more voters recognize her than him,
Starting point is 00:30:20 and it's working. Now that she's taken Ed under her wing, his poll numbers are rising. But there's a problem. Rumors are swirling about Ed's sexuality. And although Ed denies the claims, they won't go away, especially because one of his opponents has been spreading the rumors to benefit his own campaign, And that man is none other than Mario Cuomo. His campaign even starts using the slogan, Vote for Cuomo, not the homo. Wow, it is rotten all the way to the top with those Cuomo. The roots, the seeds, the apples, the leaves, everything.
Starting point is 00:30:58 Everything. Wow. Terrible. Well, to help dispel the rumors, best goes with Ed everywhere. They hold hands and kiss. He even teases that she'd make a great, first lady. And it works. On November 8th, 1977, with Best by his side, Ed beats Mario to become the 105th mayor of New York City. But while Best helps with Ed's image, her own personal life is a different story. She's still looking for love, and the next relationship she falls into is going to bring out a side of Best that borders on madness. It's 1977 and 34-year-old Joan Ray is rebuilding her
Starting point is 00:31:38 life. Joan is a divorcee and single mom, but she's making the best of it. She's beautiful, with blonde hair and a warm smile and newly in love. The man she's seeing is John Jacobson, a 48-year-old financier with curly hair and tortoiseshell glasses. She thinks are headed for marriage, until he meets Bess Meyerson at a dinner party. Soon after, he breaks things off with Joan, and she is devastated. Things between Bess and John heat up quickly. But after about four months, the relationship cools. John leaves Bess and starts dating other women, including Joan. But as soon as she and John get back together, Joan starts getting harassing phone calls,
Starting point is 00:32:20 about 50 times a day. Someone calls and hangs up as soon as she answers, and the calls continue for months. Eventually, John shares a theory. He suspects the calls are coming from Bess. He tells Joan that once, after Bess realized he was seeing Joan again, he came home and found Bess inside his apartment, rummaging through his stuff. And she didn't even have a key. Joan isn't convinced.
Starting point is 00:32:45 Bess is beautiful, well-connected, and rich. Maybe she's heartbroken, but why would she risk her reputation by making creepy phone calls? But when Joan finally calls the telephone company, they trace the phone calls to pay phones a few blocks from Bess's apartment and near the Mera's house, where Bess spends a lot of time. But even though everyone suspects that's Bess, John declines to press. charges. And then, Joan starts getting anonymous letters in the mail. The letters are cryptic, but seem to imply that John is cheating on Joan. They also mentioned Joan's appearance and make
Starting point is 00:33:18 it clear whoever is writing them is very familiar with the couple's movements. Sarah, can you read some of what the letter said? Yes, it says, do you know that John has another woman? She's beautiful and bright. They carry on at the Carlisle and at her place in Scarsdale. They're in constant touch with each other. Check his phone bills. Wow. Another says, Let your hair grow in. A bleached blonde is ugly these days. And they were all signed the same way. More follows. Okay, Bess, you need to stand up. No man is worth this. I think at this point, Bess, as much tragedy as she's endured, she's kind of used to getting things her way and using her beauty and her charm to get what she wants. I think it's kind of breaking
Starting point is 00:34:04 her that it's not working this time. A man will embarrass you every time, Sarah. Yes. Well, Joan is scared. But when people suggest she go to the police, she shrugs it off. Why would the cops care about some silly letters? Plus, right around this time, Bess is officially launching a campaign for the Senate. Joan sees her on TV looking professional, confident and beautiful. She's sure John is the last thing Bess is thinking about. But John is convinced. He confronts Bess, and she claims she's also been receiving letters. When Joan calls to commiserate, Bess demands to see Jones' letters
Starting point is 00:34:39 and then refuses to give them back. Jones suggests they turn them over to the police, but Bess insists the press coverage would hurt her Senate run. And then things escalate. That summer, Joan and John are at the beach and the Hamptons for a little R&R when they look over and discover Bess
Starting point is 00:34:55 right next to them doing jumping jacks. So this is like, an 80s erotic thriller now. Yeah, she's doing fatal attraction. Yeah. At the beach. Well, Joan doesn't know what to do. At this point, Bess's behavior isn't just strange.
Starting point is 00:35:15 It's downright frightening. And for Joan, the whole situation seems deeply unfair. She's a single mom just trying to live her life. And this is Bess Meyerson, a public figure and possible future senator. But Bess seems to feel like she's the one who's been wronged. The last straw is when a shopping bag is delivered to John's apart. with a literal pile of shit inside.
Starting point is 00:35:37 John has had enough. He confronts Bess and threatens to go to the police, but Bess beats him to it. She goes to the cops first and claims she's also receiving threatening letters, and she demands that they investigate the matter. Her plan backfires. Investigators later conclude that Bess made the phone calls and sent the letters, although they can't prove that she sent the bag of shit.
Starting point is 00:35:58 But the cops tell John and Joan that there's not enough evidence to pursue criminal legal action. Yeah, I mean, Bess is smart. I think Bess was kind of reckless to a point knowing that she would get away with not getting charged in that sense. Yeah, probably. While Joan and John are ready to leave all of this behind them, eventually they get married. But Bess has a harder time moving on. Her life is spiraling.
Starting point is 00:36:26 And the next man she meets, someone who works in the city's sewer system, is about to bring Bess down to his level. It's September 1980, and Bess is devastated. She spent the last year and about a million dollars of her own money, vying for a seat in the Senate, and she's just lost the Democratic nomination. So now she's sitting in a hotel room near Times Square trying to get ready for her concession speech. But she can't stop crying.
Starting point is 00:36:55 Bess's stylist keeps redoing her makeup over and over. Bess really thought that this was her moment. She had the resume, thanks to her work as a consumer advocate, and the political connections. But she was facing far more experienced candidates, and on the campaign trail, she came off as out of touch, out of her depth, and entitled. Eventually, Bess pulls herself together and walks on stage holding a bouquet of roses. The audience watches her toss flowers into the crowd, looking just as composed as ever.
Starting point is 00:37:25 Some people even say that her concession speech is the best speech she gave throughout her entire campaign. I admire her risk-taking in a time when being a woman and running for office is obviously worse than it is now in many ways. But it just seems like she wants attention more than she actually cares about like doing anything. It's like this constant search for validation and approval. Yeah, exceeding expectations at a figurehead position is one thing, but this is the Senate. When it's over, reality sets in, and she needs a job. So Bess asks Ed Koch for a role in his administration, and he says no. We don't know exactly why he turns her down.
Starting point is 00:38:12 Maybe it's because Bess's one sterling public reputation has taken a hit from her campaign, or maybe it's because Ed has his own battles as mayor now. Either way, Bess is shocked when he says no. She feels like a shadow of the woman she once was, but there's one man who doesn't see her that way. Andy Capasso. Andy's a wealthy, 35-year-old contractor who lays sewer pipes for the city. He's also 21 years younger than Bess.
Starting point is 00:38:39 He was born the same year that she won Miss America. Andy met Bess at a party during her campaign and was immediately taken with her. And at a time when she feels abandoned by her party and friends, this comes as a comfort. Sarah, can you read what Bess later said about this time? She says, After the election was over, everybody in my kids, campaign ran to the other candidate. When you lose, people don't know what to say to you.
Starting point is 00:39:04 They don't call you. Andy was the only person who picked up the phone. I feel like losing something probably does make you a pariah in some way, especially when it's politics. And, you know, if we know one thing about Bess is that she's going to latch on to a man. Yeah, she will. Well, then things get even heavier. Bess's father passes away, and soon after, Bess has a minor stroke, which leaves her with
Starting point is 00:39:28 speech difficulties. After three weeks in the hospital, she makes a full physical recovery, and Andy was there through it all. He even picks best up from the hospital, and from that point, their relationship is on. But her friends are worried. He's not the type of guy they would expect for her. He never even went to college, and he's louder and more crass than the men she usually dates. And then, there are his ties to the mafia.
Starting point is 00:39:55 Honestly, that makes him sound cool. Like, why not try something new, Bess? You keep going around to the same guys. This younger guy is into you. He's a bit dangerous. He's helping you out at your lowest point. Can't really argue. Well, that's exactly right.
Starting point is 00:40:11 To Bess, he feels different. Andy is caring and attentive, always asking her what she needs. After a lifetime of taking care of herself, it's refreshing. Andy also allegedly promises to help her recoup the money she put into her campaign. There's just one problem.
Starting point is 00:40:28 He's married to a woman named Nancy, and they have five kids. Okay, so Bess just goes after guys who are unavailable. Yeah. She wants to be picked. She's a pick-me. Yeah, she's doing Ariana Grande before Aene Grande was doing Ariana Grande. It's a whole thing. Well, after her campaign ends, Bess moves all of her stuff into Andy's office,
Starting point is 00:40:48 and they start spending more time together. Andy tells his wife that he has late-night meetings and stops coming home as much. Bess throws herself into her new relationship without any regard for the family on the other side of it. But Andy isn't married to a wallflower, and Bess is about to find that out the hard way. It's 3 in the morning, and Nancy Capasso is lying awake, unable to sleep. Her husband, Andy, isn't home again.
Starting point is 00:41:18 He says he's under a lot of pressure at work, but she feels like he's taking it out on her, and she can't figure out why. Nancy is a beautiful brunette with green eyes, and by this point, she and Andy have been married for more than a decade. They have two kids together, and Andy has been a loving stepfather to her three kids from a previous marriage. They live in a gorgeous home in Manhattan and want for nothing. On paper, everything is solid, but underneath, something is breaking.
Starting point is 00:41:46 And then one night, Nancy gets a glimpse of it. She's having dinner with a friend at a Chinese restaurant where she often eats with Andy, and suddenly there he is. He walks in alone and heads to the back room. So Nancy follows him and finds him sitting with Bess. Bess is 20 years older than Andy, so Nancy writes off this weird encounter until a few months later
Starting point is 00:42:09 when they're invited to Bess's daughter's wedding. At the reception, one of Bess's friends reportedly walks up to Nancy and says, quote, Hey, can't you see what's going on? Nancy doesn't know what they're talking about, but it can't be good. Yeah, Nancy, I'm sorry, you are really naive.
Starting point is 00:42:27 You just think because she's old, your man won't leave you? No, we're talking about best, okay? She's an expert at this. Yeah, she invented it. She invented it. She knows what she's doing, honey. Yeah. Well, at home, Nancy confronts Andy, who tells her she's being paranoid and denies the affair.
Starting point is 00:42:47 But then, a maid hands Nancy cold, hard proof. Apparently, at some point, Andy had bugged their home phone line trying to see if Nancy knew about his affair. But he accidentally recorded himself leaving a very touching message for Bess. Their maid heard it and gave the tape to Nancy. Sarah, can you read some of what the recording says? Yes. Oh, brother.
Starting point is 00:43:11 It says, Hi, baby, how are you? I'm so sorry, I didn't have any opportunity to call you sooner. I love you, I miss you. Think of me. And then he made kissing noises before hanging up. You know, it's cool when there's a technological mishap that has nothing to do with texting the wrong person
Starting point is 00:43:31 or emailing the wrong person. This is classic. It's a voice recording. Yeah. Pretty low tech. Mistake. Yeah. All things considered? Well, now Nancy finally has the proof she needs to fall for divorce.
Starting point is 00:43:44 But they're still living under the same roof and things turn volatile. One day, when he's leaving the house, his daughter asks, quote, Dad, are you going on with your girlfriend again? And Andy loses it. He must think that Nancy has been talking badly about him to their kids, so he hits Nancy. He screams, throws her over a glass table, and kicks her.
Starting point is 00:44:06 After that, Nancy goes to family court to keep him out of the house. The next month, when Nancy is leaving the house to see cats on Broadway, she served with divorce papers. And Andy wants everything. Custody of their two kids, the Fifth Avenue apartment, the condos in Palm Beach and their West Hampton Beach estate. Nancy is floored. But she's also done being passive.
Starting point is 00:44:28 She's determined to write the wrongs done to her and get the spousal support she deserves. But as their divorce battle heats up, Bess will be pulled directly into it. It's June of 1983 and Horton's Gable is hosting a dinner party. Hartens is 70 years old, petite and frail with short, dark hair and enormous glasses. She's been nearly blind since childhood.
Starting point is 00:44:52 She's a widely respected judge and a longtime advocate for civil rights who was appointed to the New York State Supreme Court in 1975. Now, Hortense is working the marriage circuit, and she just so happens to be the judge overseeing Nancy and Andy's divorce. Although Nancy and Andy aren't invited to her dinner party, Bess Meyerson is. Recently, the two women have grown close. A few months before, Ed Koch had finally come through for Bess and named her cultural chair commissioner. Recently, Bess invited Hortons to an event at the mayor's mansion, and she even asked Hortons for advice on a government proposal. Tonight, Hortons is hoping Bess might help someone else.
Starting point is 00:45:31 Her 39-year-old daughter, Sucrete. Secrete has short brown hair and a cherubic face. Secrete is brilliant. Oxford-educated, fluent in three languages, but she is struggling. She left her Dutch diplomat husband when she got too bored, and she recently left her doctoral program at the University of Chicago to return to New York to find work.
Starting point is 00:45:53 But she struggled to get a job, perhaps because she can be intense and a little off-putting. Her given name is Julie, but she changed it to Secrete, which is an Indian name meaning someone with the tradition of happiness. And her name change might be Secrete's way of trying to manifest some happiness because for as long as Hortons can remember, her daughter has suffered from extreme depression. Hortens is desperate to help her, so she introduces her daughter to Bess,
Starting point is 00:46:20 who has agreed to meet Secrete tonight. At the party, Hortens is thrilled when the two seem to hit it off. Bess spends most of the night talking to Cicrete, and a few days later, she invites Cicrete to join her at the opening of the New York Shakespeare Festival in Central Park. The two starts spending more time together, and Bess eventually offers Crete a job in the Department of Cultural Affairs. It looks like a lucky break,
Starting point is 00:46:44 but at the same time, something else is happening. Andy Capasso's lawyer thinks Andy's $1,500 monthly alimony payments to Nancy are too much. So Hortons reduces it by half. Andy's lawyers keep pushing, and in September, Hortons lowers the payments even more, leaving Nancy with one-third of her original monthly payment. This is so gross. Honestly, to me, this does seem like an arrangement, if you ask me.
Starting point is 00:47:13 Yeah, I mean, it's either actually... corrupt or it really looks like it. And then the press gets wind of what's happening. The New York Post breaks a story about the connection between Horton's, Bess, and Secrite. Nancy's attorney allegedly tip them off. Hortons picks up a copy of the paper on her way to work and is shaken to find her name on the front page. Meanwhile, things between Bess and Secrete start to sour.
Starting point is 00:47:38 Secrete is sidelined at work and moved to a desk near the bathroom. At one point, Secreed tells her mom she was crying in the bathroom and Bessiecki is. came in and told her, quote, You've got to learn to roll with the punches, kid. Eventually, she quits. Best is so mean. Yeah, I mean, I think the world made her mean. That is like movie villain type behavior.
Starting point is 00:47:59 Well, Hortons is disappointed, and this all starts to feel like a mistake. She risked her reputation, and in exchange, she's gotten a sordid mess and an unhappy daughter. Now, the story is out there and the press is circling, and it's only a matter of time before the legal system,
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Starting point is 00:49:35 And Bess is on her way to meet with Secrete for the first time in ages. She waits in the lobby of Secrete's apartment building, wearing sunglasses, and her hair wrapped in a scarf like she's going undercover. As they walk outside, Bess offers up some pleasantries. But according to Secrete, Bess doesn't stay polite for long. So Crete says Bess looks at her and tells her to, quote, Keep your fat mouth shut. You could do me a lot of harm.
Starting point is 00:50:00 Imagine seeing someone who, like, you low-key are scared of in your lobby, and you're like, oh, hey, how's it going? And then she's like, keep your fat mouth shut. That's crazy. I mean, I feel like Bess is at her breaking point, for sure. She's becoming increasingly reckless. Yeah, now she's the one who sounds like she's in the Sopranos. Bess is stressed because the pressure is building around Andy.
Starting point is 00:50:22 Investigators have been looking into allegations of fraud in his business and there's a sense that charges might be coming. If that happens, anyone connected to him could get pulled in, which means Bess has a problem. If investigators start digging, they could uncover her connection to Hortons and Secrete. Bess stresses to secrete that if she ever talks about how she got the job, it could expose Hortons to serious legal consequences. But secrete is a wild card, so when Bess later takes the stand, she plays it safe and pleads the fifth. And while it's her constitutional right to do so, politically, this is a disaster. Ed is furious. He asks a retired judge to quietly look into what's going on, and what he finds is troubling.
Starting point is 00:51:04 The report suggests that Bess's hiring of Secrete may have improperly influenced Hortense's ruling in Andy's divorce case. Ed must be shocked. He makes sure the report isn't published, but he reaches out to Bess and asks her to resign. It's a hard moment for Bess. She and Ed are friends, and she helped build his. his political career. And now she's being pushed out. Yeah, I feel like Bess believes she can do whatever she wants if she's had success.
Starting point is 00:51:31 You can't work for someone, help them out as much as you do, and be like, well, it should be okay that I'm doing something corrupt. It just doesn't work that way. Well, to add salt to the wound in July 1987, Nancy wins her appeal and is awarded $6 million from Andy. Can you describe this picture in the New York Post when the ruling comes out? Yes, it is a headline and Nancy's on a couch. She's got a beautiful sweater.
Starting point is 00:51:56 She's got a glass of wine. She's beaming. She's smiling from ear to ear. And the headline says, the $6 million woman. Good for you. Yeah, I'm happy for her. Yeah. Meanwhile, everything around Andy is starting to collapse.
Starting point is 00:52:10 In January of 1987, he's found guilty of evading $774,000 in corporate and personal income taxes and is sentenced to four years in Allenwood. That's when Bess realizes she's going to need to spend things. She calls everyone she knows to tell them that even though she pled the fifth, she didn't do anything wrong. She even spends eight hours on the phone with one reporter in a full-blown monologue, reiterating how much she's accomplished and saying that everyone is just jealous of her. That phone call turns into New York Magazine's March 23 cover story.
Starting point is 00:52:42 The headline reads, quote, Bess and the Mess, Myerson slide into scandal. From there, stories about Bess in her hiring of, of Secrete begin to dominate headlines for days. And in June 1987, Hortens resigns from her post. That fall, the U.S. Attorney for the Southern District of New York, Rudy Giuliani, indicts Bess, Andy, and Hortense for conspiracy and mail fraud. Plus, an additional charge of obstruction of justice is filed against Bess for telling
Starting point is 00:53:10 Secrete to keep quiet. Ooh. Oh my God, it is all coming, crashing down for Bess. It really is. And Bess starts crashing down. under the pressure. In May 1998, she's caught shoplifting a pair of sandals, earrings, and batteries from a local store. To be clear, this is not about money. Bess had $160 in cash on her, and the shoplifted items were worth $44.7. At this point, she's also estimated to be worth
Starting point is 00:53:40 around $16 million. Instead, it seems like shoplifting was a compulsion, a little secret that helped her feel powerful and in control. But this little impulse, Pals grab ends up in the tabloids with a story titled, quote, Oh no, Bess? Yeah, I mean, what else could you say? It's like, Bess, come on, you're already doing with all this and then you give in to your compulsion. While this story dredges up her past, including her long-forgotten theft from Herods in London
Starting point is 00:54:07 years ago, Bess is finally forced to pay the fine she's owed for the past 19 years. For decades, Bess carefully crafted her image, beauty queen, television star, public servant, Now, all of it is unraveling, and the spectacle is so messy and so public, it earns a name that no one will forget. The Bess mess. It's October 1988 and 64-year-old Bess walks up the courthouse steps wearing a black and white-striped suit. A sea of photographers is waiting for her, but she passes them without stopping. Bess is due in court today with Andy and Hortons. Andy is still in prison, so he's being transported in for the proceedings.
Starting point is 00:54:51 An interview Best gave to the New York Post at the time gives some insight into how she was feeling. Sarah, can you read what Best said? Yeah, she says, life is very painful. I had a bad first marriage, but from it came a daughter. I had a bad second marriage, but from it came a second career. I have lived with cancer. I must live even with the foolish parts of me. So now what I have to do is get through this with dignity.
Starting point is 00:55:15 That means grace under pressure. Whatever the end may be, so may it be. I mean, this sounds like someone who is facing a reckoning. What else could you do? You have nowhere else to run. Gotta accept what's going to happen. Yeah, but behind the scenes, Bess is falling apart. She's lost 15 pounds, is barely sleeping, and is chain smoking. Plus, she isn't working, so she has nothing to distract her.
Starting point is 00:55:40 Still, if you saw her in that courtroom, you'd never know it. At the defense table, she appears as graceful and composed as ever. The prosecution begins their case stating that it's about money, greed, and an abuse of power. They rely heavily on their star witness, secrete, who they hope will prove motive and intention. But unfortunately, her testimony only makes her seem like an unreliable narrator. She even admits that after months of electric shock treatments to treat her depression,
Starting point is 00:56:07 her memory is, quote, as filled with holes as Swiss cheese. This headline is crazy from the New York Post. My mind's like Swiss cheese. I'm going to use that as a description now. What do you want me to do? It's a great line, but not. for a star witness. And the public is shocked that Secreed is testifying against her mother, a frail elderly judge now fallen from grace. So as the trial moves on, public opinion shifts.
Starting point is 00:56:33 The outrage softens and is slowly replaced with sympathy for Hortons and for Bess, both women who broke barriers and built careers in spaces that didn't easily make room for them. After four months in December 1988, the verdict comes. All three defendants, Bess, and Andy and Hortons are acquitted. When Bess hears the verdict, she looks at Andy, grabs his arm, and cries. She kisses him before the court marshals take him back to his holding cell. Sarah, can you describe this photo taken of Bess outside on the courthouse steps? Yeah, it's an incredible photo.
Starting point is 00:57:08 Bess looks totally euphoric, eyes close, like looking up at the sky. And she's surrounded by microphones and cameras and journalists trying to get a word out of her. But, like, she's on another planet. She's just beyond happy. Yeah, she looks really excited. Bess has always been preoccupied with her image. But despite her best efforts to always seem calm and in control, her blunders were so loud and wild that they also shaped her legacy.
Starting point is 00:57:36 Best might be a mess, but if there's one place you can go to make yourself over, it's Hollywood. After she's acquitted, Bess leaves New York and eventually makes her way to California. She occasionally gives lectures and does charity work, but for the most part, she chooses to live a more quiet life. In 1997, she pledges $1.1 million to the Museum of Jewish Heritage in Manhattan. She also creates a $100,000 scholarship fund for the Anti-Defamation League and works with an organization that provides free support in counseling to women with breast and ovarian cancer. On December 14, 2014, Best died at home in Santa Monica, California.
Starting point is 00:58:15 She was 90 years old. A few years before her death, in an interview with Ladies' Home Journal, she was asked what she was doing after all the scandals and drama. And she told them, quote, Why must I be doing something? All my life I've been doing. For now, I'm busy being. Being quiet, being grateful.
Starting point is 00:58:35 Finally. Finally, it's time for me. Not the public Bess Meyerson, the private me. Okay, I know I always say people should get divorced, but people really should get divorced. And I think Bess is great, but you could have been a woman. amazing if she had just never been with any men, you know? All of her harm comes from dudes.
Starting point is 00:58:58 Bess really had a type, not to like try and cycle analyze her, but like she started off her life with so little control and obviously so much trauma and things happening to her that wasn't really her choice that I think she kind of went off the deep end with her free will and kind of did whatever she wanted. Yeah. And expected nothing really bad to happen. Yeah, I think in a lot of ways beauty protected her, and so she was always looking for situations where her good looks would take care of her, and so that's obviously happening a lot in her interactions with men. What I think is so frustrating about her is the same thing that she was concerned about in her divorces is sort of what she was doing with this divorce proceeding with Nancy. Like, she was terribly abused, so was Nancy. She leaves her
Starting point is 00:59:44 husband, and then he has spent all of her money. Nancy can't really go anywhere because he has her and advice and won't pay her the alimony that she deserves after raising all of his children and taking care of him and keeping a home. Like that is what's so terrible about this is like, you know what, Best Meyerson was always going to be okay. She was always going to have a soft landing because she was always going to find work and she always had name recognition. She knew the mayor. Like he was never really going to let her drown. But to commit those acts on another woman are so, it's so cruel. Yeah, 100%. I really do think it's like this thing. where she thinks what she went through meant,
Starting point is 01:00:21 she was allowed to do whatever she wanted to other people. And that, like, she already went through the pain, whatever. Like, why should she care about someone else going through it? She survived, they'll survive, kind of thing, you know? I feel like Bess really exemplifies a version of feminism in every era that she lived in, right? Like, she goes into this Miss America pageant, which is sort of the first of its kind, and it was a scholarship, and it meant opportunity. And then she starts, you know, working in government.
Starting point is 01:00:48 more and then, you know, she has these divorces. Like, she was kind of a modern woman, but always held back by these very particular restrictions around women. Women back then had to deal with, like, the craziest shit that was, you know, not that ended, but, you know, it was so much harder in so many ways. And none of that generosity extends after their struggle. It's kind of like, well, I dealt with it. It seems like she didn't really, like, learn anything from terrible things that happened
Starting point is 01:01:15 to her. It just made her more entitled. Yeah. I think by the end, when it seems like she learned her lesson, it's mostly because the currency she used to get away with everything didn't exist anymore. She's too old. She's too old to get away with, like, being a beautiful woman, stealing a man. Like, the last chance she had was with Andy.
Starting point is 01:01:34 Her reckoning kind of happened when she didn't have any other choice. I mean, I think if I've learned anything, it's what I've already known, which has never let a man get this close to your money. Yeah. I really think it comes down to don't trust a man with your money and don't go into cahoots with him to try and get a ton of money because you will end up forgotten in the dust and in trouble. That's always our lesson.
Starting point is 01:01:55 Never be in cahoots with a man. No, don't be in cahoots with a man. And believe in yourself, okay? Don't cahoot with him. Be in cahoot with self and not with other. Yes, exactly. Great. Follow scam influencers on the Audible app or wherever you get your podcast.
Starting point is 01:02:17 You can listen to all episodes of scam flencers ad free by joining Audible. From Audible originals, this is Bess Meyerson, the Best Mess, for scamfluencers. I'm Sachi Cole. And I'm Sarah Hagee. If you have a tip for us on a story that you think we should cover, please email us at scamfluencers ataudible.com. We use many sources in our research. A few that were particularly helpful were Queen Bess,
Starting point is 01:02:43 an unauthorized biography of Bess Mearsen by Jennifer Preston, Bess and The Mess by Patricia Morris Row for New York Magazine, compromising positions Bess Meyerson and her world by Marie Brenner for Vanity Fair and Best Meyerson is One Tough Customer by Susan Berman for New York Magazine. Allison Weintraub wrote this episode
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