Secret Mum Club with Sophiena - BONUS: Halloween

Episode Date: October 27, 2023

We’re back…. BOO! It’s spooky season and the ladies are asked about their opinions on dressing up, trick or treating and all things Halloween. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hello, this is The Secret Mum Club. I'm Safina. And I'm Emma. And welcome to our bonus episode. Each week we're going to take a different topic and we're just going to chat about it and share our thoughts. That's right, it can be absolutely anything. Last week it was prepping for a baby arriving. Very apt for us two. So let's jump right in shall we emma what is our topic today the topic this week is oh hold on wait i wasn't ready

halloween halloween this comes from finished finished this comes from jess she says i love halloween i loved it as a child and if possible even more so now as a mum i just wanted to know what you both think of it what are your childhood memories and what do you do now if anything with your own children i lock the doors and fucking shut the blinds pretend i'm not in i feel like it's the purge we're all gonna die oh we've just been speaking about this haven't we right i loved halloween when i was a little girl not gonna lie my mom was we won competitions every single year

first second and third me roxanne and richie for the outfits yeah for the outfits they used to do floats they used to shut the roads it was great it was great camaraderie camaraderie camaraderie yeah so the whole street got involved like everybody it was a whole street of people that we all grew up with their parents the children there was loads of us um people just travel from outside the town you know and come in to be involved was it southampton yeah and it was great had a lovely time um then it sort of turned into being a very commercial holiday which i don't feel like halloween was commercial back then it was bin bags yeah bog roll yes homemade like we never bought any outfits yeah cling film if my mum wrapped me up in cling film one year tissue paper for a mummy yep tissue paper for a mummy or bog roll whatever you whatever you fancy so yeah i felt like it was great we used

to have tights stuffed with bog roll to make a spider legs oh yeah yeah that was a classic black tights in your leotard yeah i had those long witch's fingers yes the rubbery ones i loved them you used to walk around they glued in they glued in the dark they glued in the dark darlings they glowed in the dark didn't they yeah yeah and used to go to your pat you used to do the evening didn't you go trick-or-treating to all the houses that you know you know betty winnie abercinny i used to have the time of my life we used to love winnie abercinny's house then you'd move on for an evening party wouldn't you at someone's house in the road oh we know we never had an evening party my dad just took us trick-or-treating and someone said this to me the other day oh you only knocked on the doors of

houses of people that you knew but actually we did our whole close because it was just like a cul-de-sac yes so we knocked on everyone's doors but you pretty much knew everybody kind of probably knew of people but like even people we didn't really know got a big haul of sweets and then we just went home there was no evening party oh we used to tend to have an evening party all of us used to congregate in one house um and it was great great memories yeah that does sound great i'll have to get the photos out yes my mom sent me something we'd get to wear eyeliner and it'd be so exciting to wear makeup or mascara red lipstick yeah loved it or when your

mom used to make you a ghost you had to wear a bed sheet yeah you have a white face yeah loved that um so yeah it was it was good fun incredible obviously you get loads of sweets which is amazing incredible memories growing up now hate it fucking hate it i do as well can't stand it i think we're unusual because a lot of people love it a lot of my friends love it it's like their favorite holiday of the year they'll get dressed up go out no one the cold just absolutely screws me over i can't handle it i feel like it's colder now i'm a grown-up yeah um two i don't teach my children to talk to strangers that they don't know why am i going to get you to knock on the door of a stranger that could just nab them and pull them into the

house well you'll be there you don't i know but you normally stand at the end of the driveway don't you and let them walk up i mean we're not talking halloween in america like if we're doing halloween i want to be in the States doing Halloween. Yeah, because I feel like actually people here don't give a shit. I've got 17-year-old boys with a screen mask knocking my door. Any sweets, love? That's the thing. I think when we got to teenagers, it changed.

We stopped. The lovely bit of dressing up when we were little and going trick-or-treating, very innocent, great, loved it. When we were teenagers. Now you look like a fucking weirdo. You were like a thug. Yes. And basically used to walk around the village getting terrorizing old people and egging people yeah which

was terrible yes um and then since i've been an adult do you know what i think ruined it for me was university because you'd have to do like a big fancy dress effort but then you go to college and university and you now have to turn into the village bicycle and you have to go out wearing basically nipple tassels and a butt plug no I used to I loved that at uni but what it's ruined it for me now because I had so many years of like obviously at uni that's a big night out right any occasion that you can make like a big fancy dress night out you do it so I had some great outfits and it is an excuse to just go out in I used to go to Primark and buy cheap knickers cheap tights and then make what I could from there

so I did a robin hood one year with like little but were you like a sexy Robin Hood yeah well obviously yeah come on yeah and then so you were you were you were the sexy one I was literally the pinnacle of um mean girls you know when she gets invited to the Halloween party yeah and it's the only time of the year that you can be an absolute slut I turned up like a fucking zombie in a bed sheet, blood hanging out of my eye sockets, scared every fucker in town. No one would come near me. I got free drinks all night, bonus. But I was, you know, I couldn't be sexy.

It was traumatizing. No, like obviously just, you know, dress however you want. But we did used to wear, go out in next to nothing in the freezing cold and you know when you're 19 that's fun now it sounds like my worst nightmare i don't want to go out and get dressed up i don't want fancy dress sitting in my cupboard taking up space for the rest you know i just can't be arsed but when you have children you're that you're age seven and five they probably want to dress up and go trick-or-treating no obviously i don't have to do anything with the baby i just close the curtains and pretend i'm not in don't answer the door to anyone he probably wants to go out but we tend to now have a party

we have a little family party just at home i don't feel like halloween's like when we were children but actually streets aren't as safe is it the same and we've just changed no or was it different even my mum says no i don't i wouldn't like to go trick-or-treating i mean at the end of the day it's just a commercialized holiday that's come over from america she doesn't mean anything over here the grand scheme of things when you sit and think like go knock all these strangers doors to get yourself it is weird and also i don't want to get my children hyped up on a load of sugar also what you don't know this you don't know what they're getting to be really depressive every every week when we do this episode you sound very suspicious

of people don't be suspicious don't be suspicious you don't know what people are giving you don't eat sweets from a stranger because you don't know it might have been injected oh my god i just can't do it i'm sorry i want to be involved in this national holiday because it seems like a lot of fun. I'll tell you what, I'm switching it up this year, right? Okay, so I can get involved with everybody before everyone thinks I'm a nightmare before Christmas. I am.

I am literally the nightmare before Christmas. Aren't I? Yeah. Yeah, because I just don't, I just, basically I'm ready for Christmas. Get me my tray up. Get me the tray up. I'll happily have that.

But I'm thinking, because this is the first year that I'm actually pregnant for Halloween.een yeah you were saying it's the first time you've ever been pregnant in october yes because of the months that i fell pregnant with colby in the november had him in august yeah fell pregnant with dotty in the december had her in the september yeah so she came just before october so it's the first one i'm actually going to be and do you know how much i've longed to have a pumpkin belly a pumpkin bump i want a pumpkin bump i a bumpkin oh my god fuck we could call should we call the baby bumpkin we don't have a name for the baby

yet it's bob bean bumpkin bumpkin oh yeah but you know what i really want to top it off with i want to carve out pumpkins okay big enough to go onto our head yeah and have a photo shoot in the woods our do you mean me and you we can do it if you want to i was thinking with my family but you know you're basically the family yeah we're having a baby together and we're getting married so jump on board but i'm thinking like pumpkins on my head and a pumpkin on your belly and then to paint one on my belly you're gonna make christy one and then go in the woods what pumpkin on his belly yeah i'd never thought of it it would actually be quite fun maybe we get all of them

all of them might be weird if i don't the children yeah these are our pumpkins but yeah i really want to do that so i feel like i'm very into halloween this year this year yeah because it's my first one i don't know why people are like, oh, we can't celebrate Christmas without getting Halloween out the way first. It's like the junction between like summer and Christmas. We have to do Halloween. And to me, it's pointless.

It's pointless. It's just a stopping gap. It's just funny. Like when Halloween chocolates start coming out in the supermarket, I'm like, don't care. Get me an advent calendar. I've already had an advent calendar.

Have you? That's my secret of the week yeah that's your secret next week my secret for next week it's this this week i ate a whole advent calendar wow yes i did and i have no shame no regrets no regrets hashtag no regrets live with no regrets yeah um but yeah i'm sorry jess i want to be on board with this. Sorry to be a Debbie Downer about this. But I love people that love it. I love people that get joy out of it. Yes. All the dressing up and everything. Me too.

My sister loves it. Does she? It's her favourite holiday of the year, which I think is insane. She doesn't like Christmas. Better than Christmas. She likes Christmas, but Halloween's better, she reckons. But it's just one day, isn't it? You can't sit with us.

It's just one day. It doesn't really come with any yummy food like Christmas does. Well, I don't know. The bao buns, the Halloween bao buns from M&S. Are they nice? Shout out M&S. Are they? Pumpkin soup?

No. I don't know. No, it's just not for me. Pumpkin rolls, though. Did you make the pumpkin rolls last year? No. Flour and yoghurt. No.

Put a bit of string around them, baking string, and then I painted them food colouring. Oh. But we made our own bread rolls rolls but they were shaped like a pumpkin nice so yeah I love them best bread in the whole entire world well okay I take it back maybe there is

maybe make can you make those with Joseph please I won't make anything with him he's too messy and useless frankly maybe when he's a bit older right okay

at least I have some sort of fun in my life god I'm such a killjoy. Bring on Christmas, then I'll be excited to celebrate. I want you to come in. Can we come in dressed as elves? So now, I told you. Can we come in dressed as elves?

Stop trying to recruit me. Pregnant elves. Stop trying to recruit me into your fancy dress. I'm not into it. You're coming. I'm not into it. Yep. I'm not into it.

You're coming into my, you're going to dress up as elves. We've got to dress up as a different Halloween a different Christmas thing for every episode oh fuck alright you can be Mrs. Claus

you can be Santa and I'll sit on your lap Christ but I just say speed up put your foot on the gas pedal fast forward and get Halloween done with

yeah if I'm honest I mean to be fair Jess you say you love it. So you have a good time. Jess, you honestly, you go live it large, girl. Yeah. Because I'm living for you.

And then we'll do Christmas together. Yeah. We're all in this together. Jingle bell, jingle bell, jingle bell. But not for Halloween because we don't like it. Okay. Well, I love that. So happy Halloween for Tuesday for anybody that actually enjoys Halloween.

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