Secret Mum Club with Sophiena - The Babies Are Here!

Episode Date: April 11, 2024

Can you bloody believe it?! The ladies are finally back together but this time, they've brought along Baby Renley and Sadie! With their little humans in tow Sophiena and Emma have A LOT to catch up on. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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two extra members. We've got so much to catch up on. I've had a baby. And I've had a baby. So there's so much to talk about. Let's get straight into it. Emma, would you like to introduce us to your new baby? I would love to. Here's baby Sadie. And she's a girl. Oh my gosh, I was shook. Shooketh to the chorus.

Shooketh. When I saw those labia staring me in the face in theatre, I couldn't believe it. You know, I was so convinced we were having a boy. So convinced. Those tulips, don't they say? Tulips? The best flower you'll ever see. Honestly. I couldn't believe it. I don't know why. I mean, obviously it was 50-50. I don't know why I was so convinced we were having a boy, but I just thought, I just thought it was the same as last time. I thought I was carrying pretty big again and Joseph was a big baby I just thought and also I think it's just easier to think like familiar isn't it you just think you're gonna have

what you know again grow another dick so yeah I thought I was growing a willy inside me but turns out I was not no I was growing a little girl and And technically, when we look really side by side, the bumps are different. They are different. And I think all those old wives tales, you know, are probably a load of rubbish. But loads of people did say to me, you're carrying high this time. I had nausea this time, which I didn't last time. It was actually quite a different pregnancy. So I don't know whether any of that meant that I was having a girl. I did say to you to you didn't I that moment we sat on the floor didn't we in the old studio and I said

to you I'm still sticking to my guns I think it's a girl and we were trying to say about baby names weren't we and I was like tell me your names and you were like I will not I will not well do you know she didn't have a name for about a week because we just couldn't decide on anything and I didn't really look at girl names because like I say I was just so convinced she was convinced we were having a boy we had a boy name locked down and then we were like shit what are we going to call it are you going to share with us your boy name or are you holding on to it just in case so the no well no I think I really think this will be it judging by how the last three weeks have gone I think this will be it oh no oh gosh we've got so much to delve into the boy name was going to be um Ellis spelt the Welsh way with one

L I really love that yeah but then um but then we went with Sadie because um she's a girl she's a girl and um Sadie was Stefan's grandmother's name and she lived until she was 101 so I feel like it's a good vibe Jesus Christ Sadie you got big shoes to fill there girl I know she's gonna be around for a while yet oh and does she have a middle name she does yeah so um so yeah Sadie is after Stefan's grandmother but he wanted to pick a more Welsh kind of traditional name for the middle name so because Joseph pick a more Welsh kind of traditional name for the middle name so because Joseph has a very Welsh first name doesn't he he does yeah his name is actually Tiddyr Joseph that way around yeah um but because we thought English people would just

struggle with Tiddyr we call him Joseph um which is actually his middle name but confusingly we're calling Sadie Sadie this is too much that is her English name to start with and then she's got a Welsh yes middle name and then her middle name is Anne Wen oh beautiful she's little Sadie Anne Wen Powell Jones oh she sounds like a rock star already doesn't she it's a lot of names isn't it I feel like four names is a bit extra but here we are who gives a shit yeah you can only it's the only time you can ever be extra. I feel like you waited so long, though. This is like the biggest surprise you're ever going to have. And I feel like this is like doubly a surprise for you.

Because not only have you waited nine months to find out the gender, it's also a girl. Yeah. I, yeah, like I say, couldn't believe it. I'm still in shock. And also, I was like, oh, I really don't mind. Like I don't have any preference. Like another boy would have been fine. Girl would have been nice. And people were like obsessed with being like, oh, you know, girl would be nice. Then you'll have one of each. And I was like, that's not really a big deal to me. I don't mind.

And then when it was a girl, I said to Stefan, like, I'm surprised by how thrilled I am. Much I wanted this. Yeah. I didn't know how much I wanted a girl until I had a girl. Like I didn't think I minded and then I was actually chuffed, you know? Yeah.

It's so nice. And now I really feel like we've completed the set and we can just retire. Oh, I said that five years ago. And here we are. And looky here.

Looky here. But I am honestly, and I've been inundated with messages. And it was really hard because on the last episode, we did a little episode last week, just me and Chris catching up while Emma had her recovery time because Sadie was brand new to the world. We had so many messages and I couldn't say anything. One, because I generally didn't know anything.

I messaged Emma, didn't I, on your due date. And I was like, happy birthday. Yeah. And it was like, oh, I know know but nobody else knows that I know yeah and like today I know that she's having her baby and then I was like we just got to sit and wait so I had lots of lovely messages of people asking about how you're doing so it feels like and it generally I wasn't saying anything because generally I didn't know anything it was just Emma and her little family in your bubble wasn't it you know when people are like you go onto a Facebook post and somebody does that so glad we can finally speak about it and tell the world about your secret and you're like

oh you're that friend are you I generally wasn't saying anything because I generally didn't know yeah no we I didn't put loads on but um the stuff I have put on social media has been very well received. And comments, like you say, have been really lovely. So thank you to everyone who took time to comment and like and message and get in touch. It's been really lovely to read them. I loved your episode with Chris, by the way. And I have to say I was a little bit nervous that I might be replaced as a co-host.

Because he was a bloody natural, wasn't he? I don't know. The blooper killed me. I feel like that's going to live in my brain forever. Okay, well, the edit was good. It was a fun episode. It was nice to fill the gap until normality resumes. But this feels more comfy, you know?

Okay, he won't be coming back. Maybe like when we need Stefan and Chris, when things are on the down, you know? Okay. He won't be coming back. Maybe like when we need Stefan and Chris, when things are on the down, you know? Yeah. When we're desperate. I get it. But no, it's lovely to see you and lovely to have you back. It's so nice to be back, isn't it?

We were just saying we feel a bit weird and a bit out of practice. I thought I'd actually forgotten how to string a sentence together we also forgot what color our names were on the intercue is it an intercue it can't we can't basically you can't even read anymore basically we've had babies like my brain's gone to mush don't you just got really overexcited like a caged pigeon to see each other like I feel like I can't concentrate on anything anymore i'm tired man i'm tired how have you been because what how is she how old is she now oh she is two and a half weeks and how's that been for you let me tell you newborns are a piece of piss and not to be

fucked with no easy compared to toddlers geez oh i wish I'd known this I thought you were going to tell me something like this has been the worst week of my life no newborns on their own absolutely fine I wish I'd known that when we just had Joseph because I feel like I didn't really appreciate how and it's not easy I'm being flippant but how like I just didn't make the most of how not complicated it was without a toddler as well like I put him on the bed the other day and I was like should I do anything like he's been led there for like an hour like should I play with him should I do something and Chris was like why don't you just go for a bath and I was like oh no I can't in case he wakes up and he's like you need to get a fucking grip like just leave him on the bed he's gonna be totally fine obviously he was totally

fine the children just they just all led in the bed and watched the film but you feel like do i need to do more and i feel like as a first-time mum we did over complicate it yeah 100 you do you're like i need to do this and i need to do that and you're like no just let him chill i wish i'd had this hindsight which is obviously impossible you're never gonna know that with your first baby but never yeah you i put her down she just stays there she doesn't move she can't roll off the bed yet she I can go and have a shower like it is you can poo without someone coming in yeah it's compared to having a toddler it is um it is straightforward and she seems to me like a chilled baby but I don't know whether that's just like second time parents like we're probably more chilled with her um so that makes it a little bit easier but um yeah it's

when you throw a toddler into the mix that things get really crazy I was going to ask you a huge question but I feel like we need to wait until um Monday's episode okay do you want to hold it like we need to yeah I think I'm gonna hold it I think I'm going to hold out for the big question. I feel like if people can't get the big question. Okay. So you're going to have to hold out. I'll have to make... Can you hear him?

Yeah, he's very vocal. I have to say, we were a bit concerned about how much Sadie is asleep because she literally is so quiet. She barely opens her eyes. I think she's asleep for about 23 hours a day.

I would say Renly's quite, he's quite sleepy. He's a bit constipated at the moment, bless his heart. But he's quite sleepy. His awake time conveniently is between 10 and 11 p.m. Oh, nice. So much fun for us. Yeah, she's up like every two hours in the night, I would say. Do you know what?

I'm so jealous of your schedule. The bottle feeding schedule. Oh, because you're on the boob. You just know when it's coming. What is he every three hours now? Four. Every four hours. Yeah.

And at night time, I don't want to say it, but we're currently on 12 till 7.30. Shut up. Shut the... Get the hell out of here. I'm lucky if I get 90 minutes. I don't want to say I'm a pro at this. No, I'm kidding. What a cunt. Stefan, she's a wanker.

Honestly, if I get three hours, that's a bloody good stretch at the moment. Renly has some good awake time. I was trying to figure out as well before we went live as to how many days is between them yes he's ninth and she's the 22nd obviously i listened to your birth story on your um instagram and i listened to your episode with chris so i've had the lowdown but what the hell sounded mental how i mean how old even is he now four weeks so he is so he was born on the 9th of march and it's the 9th of april today happy one month's birthday is it one month or is he four weeks well yeah here here or there give or take so what so what is it would you say it's one week it's one month one month but it's it's probably a bit longer than four weeks because there's like 31 days in March.

Okay, so you're a month old today. Oh, one month old. And it was his due date yesterday. That's crazy to think he's been here for so long already. And yesterday, technically, he should have been in my tummy up until that time. Look at the size of him. That is wild. Is he piling on the pounds?

He looks like a good size. He isn't piling on the pounds. He like a good size he isn't piling on the pounds he is only just reached nine pound that's good he was what 6 13 born 6 13 yeah but he was a little bit slow so we went down to 6 13 down to 6 8 then down to 5 13 oh so we lost quite a bit and then we we're, slowly creeping back up. That's brilliant. Nine pounds. Also mental to think that Joseph was nine pound one when he was born. He came out that size.

That's mental, isn't it? Yeah. Imagine him coming out this whole size. Imagine the size of him if he'd gone full term. I know. Well, I couldn't believe it when you said he was 6'13 and he came so early. Five and a half, five weeks. Was he five weeks early? Four weeks and three days. Was it just a mad experience?

I know you were in hospital for a long time, but the actual birth was super quick, wasn't it? Yeah, it was a little bit traumatic. I was looking on my badger notes. Some people don't know what badger notes are. The badger notes are down here. We have our maternity notes now on your phone. You don't have them in like a folder anymore down here well some some do and some don't depends on the trust like Southampton Trust does them on your phone whereas Winchester I think Winchester's different but anywho so the notes and I was reading through them the other night while feeding

Renly and it was like two minutes four minutes three minutes 15 minutes one minute and I was like this is the whole like the stages of my birth and I was like fuck that bit was one minute and then going back to like Colby's and Dottie's Colby's was like an hour and 47 minutes at the same stage and Dottie's was like 52 minutes his was like two minutes oh my gosh I can't believe how it happened I felt every bit of it and you what did you what pain relief did you have nothing and that again that wasn't anything to do with the fact that I thought I was superwoman because I had every intention this time to one going for an elected cesarean that's what I thought that was that was my birth plan I

was an elected cesarean and the reasons for that because I put a lot of people asked me what my reasons in reasons for it were I just I just wanted an elected cesarean I just had a few things that bothered me on my brain um I'd done two two out of the exit and I just thought I just want one out the sunroof you know I don't I do it's really hard to talk about because I feel like it's no you're damned if you do and you're damned if you don't so it's a really sensitive topic to talk about that was just my options for many reasons but we our waters had broken on the Monday Tuesday morning sorry and that was it I was in hospital until I had him wild ride I was so surprised to hear that you had a um that it

was a vaginal delivery because the whole time i thought it's gonna be we're going for elected yeah yeah i know but we're gonna have to delve more aren't we because this is just a little this is a quick fun episode this is just a little taste of what happened we'll get into the fall with my vagina tune in for monday's episode if you want to know what happened with my sunroof stay tuned yes if you want to know what didn't happen to emma's vagina come in monday come in come in monday coming in hot no one's coming in no one that was sadie did you hear that yeah she she just made her audio debut on the podcast. She did.

How was it for you? She's a woman of few words. She doesn't say much. She's got time. Yeah. There's time for her, yeah. Yeah. I just can't stop looking at how small she is.

Speaking about how big Joseph was as a baby, 9-1, right? I was like, this second baby's obviously going to be bigger she was seven six which is like an average size for a baby but to me that seemed so tiny like i literally can't stop looking at all her features i'm like her eyes are tiny her nose is tiny her mouth is tiny her ears are tiny her fingers are tiny how um how big were your sisters your sister had her babies is your sister had her baby no still not no at the time of at the time of record no um her she's due though isn't she she's due more towards the end of april got you yeah and she thinks she's gonna go late she was late with her first one so we we will see. And was her first one big?

So you'll never guess what. They actually will never know the birth weight because they recorded it wrong. And then when they did his checkup like a day later with the health visitor, he'd suddenly gained loads of weight and they were like, this is impossible. Sorry, we must have recorded the weight wrong at birth. So they will never know the birth weight, which I would find incredibly annoying if that was me. But they will never know the birth weight which I would find incredibly annoying if that was me but they'll never know so what was his new weight they put him down as like a six pound something and then on his first weigh-in he was like seven pounds something and

they were like there's no way because normally the babies lose a little bit at the start don't they yeah about 10% isn't it yeah so sadie was down six percent she was seven six then she went down to seven two and then we're back up to 7 14 now but wow yeah but with my nephew no they'll never know so around seven pounds i think and then me and my sister were in the seven pound mark as well so sadie's a very very very average joseph was just a big boy he was a big bigger boy big boy even now though he's a bruiser now though isn't he do you know what as well has really surprised me and people did say be prepared for this but as soon as you have a newborn baby your toddler suddenly seems absolutely

massive like i'm i'm like sorry did i just suddenly come home to a five-year-old child like he seems huge to me now and like when I do his nappy instead of hers I'm like Christ these thighs he's so heavy and solid and he just seems like just absolutely gigantic to me now compared to her the amount of messages that I've got of people going um when did Dottie become 25 yeah I know it's the comparison isn't it it's wild it's mental it's mental how big and even my two I didn't think they would like you because I had the same instance with Colby and Dottie as you are having with Joseph and Sadie because the babies Emma's two have the same age gap as mine yeah um and I did the exact same as you so I was like I'm never gonna have that feeling again

because mine are already fucking huge and then come home So I was like, I'm never going to have that feeling again because mine are already fucking huge. And then come home and I was like, oh my God, I feel like I've got teenagers. Yeah. The fuck? It was mental. A very mental feeling. It is crazy.

Like, and because I wasn't able to do stuff with him for a while because of the cesarean, it was like, I would be with Sadie and then Stefan was doing a lot with Joseph. Now I'm a bit more able to like change his nappy and get him dressed and all that stuff. So I feel like there was like a good two week chunk that I kind of missed of like hanging out with him.

And then when I went back to being a bit more involved in looking after him, I was like, Whoa, Christ, who is this? Who is this huge child? It was this massive baby. As you can tell me and Emma have so much to talk about. And we could talk all bloody day so we're going to come off of this episode and record next week's episode so if you want to hear more join in we can listen for the rest of this episode and then obviously join into Monday's episode as well okay okay don't tune out though because we're still here

this episode don't turn us off yet don't or turn us on you know because we've been in enough trouble recently anywho we've had some lovely messages about the babies so we're going to share them now this one is from another emma she says congratulations on the birth of your gorgeous babies ladies we need a photo of wendley and sadie together we do so happy that they're here and safe oh I didn't even think of their first photo moment I know I had so many comments being like future wifey future husband no pressure guys no pressure I feel like we need to have a baby grow like they're matching baby grows with their names on them for their first ever podcast photo shoot yeah when we're back together in

person in the studio we'll we'll sort it out. Got another message here from Annika. A little girl and a boy. Eek, how exciting. So happy for you both. Congratulations. But I have to know, Emma, did you make your holiday? Oh, yeah.

I had quite a few messages about this. Drum roll, please. Centre Park's gate. We made it there and back without a baby. Hallelujah, hallelujah baby hallelujah hallelujah i was fully ready to call the paramedics on the rapids to be fair i would say there wasn't that much content on your insta i feel like you were just soaking up every minute of it there was some little bits i was like oh emma's away spent the whole week panicking, to be honest. Couldn't relax and enjoy myself. While Emma's away, the baby's going to have a party. No, it was fine in the end.

I was there like beginning of March and then baby made her C-section date at the end of March. So it was all good. Thank you. I am so happy that we are back. Yes, I cannot wait to get stuck in. If you have any messages for us, then do get in touch.

Yeah, you can email us hello at secretmumpod.com or we're secretmumpod on TikTok and Instagram. And we've got another episode coming your way on Monday. How exciting! And we'll see you next time

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