Secret Mum Club with Sophiena - The First One At Home!

Episode Date: February 27, 2024

That's right Mum's we're officially out of the studio and recording from home! And with only one disruption from Chrissy (it's not the Secret Daddies Club!), we'd call it a success! The bump countdown continues and it's safe to say those third-trimester symptoms are coming in thick and fast. Sophiena has a WILD secret this week, and Emma shares her children's party woes. Plus we have a sack full of your secrets... and they're eye opening. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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And I'm Emma. This podcast is a safe space for mums everywhere. A safe space to share our secrets. Because we all have secrets, don't we? And as we know, sharing is caring. You don't have to tell us who you are. Yeah, you can keep that to yourself. You can be anonymous. And those secrets can be serious or silly.

All secrets are welcome in The Secret Mum Club. Soph, tell me about your week i have had a good week have you well i say a good week i've been up to london oh i know i've been up your ends um we we went for a night in well i had some work to do up there so we went for a night in london ended up being two nights you never believe it threw colby in at the swimming pool he swam i saw on his own i saw a video on your instagram oh my god amazing oh it was so good i just i'm so relieved he just did it on his own like the best decision claire ever gave me yeah best advice claire wasn't it yeah it was so we went to um we did some bits around london we did some madam two swords and went to see a museum and swam loads nice so great success how are you feeling pregnancy wise because that's like walking around london for the day is

major when you're in your third trimester. It's a lot on the vagina, isn't it? A lot on the old... Do you feel like it's a lot on your vagina? Yeah, a lot on the crotch, a lot on the bladder. How is your vagina doing? Well, my baby's been like head down engaged for quite a while. So I'm feeling like a lot of pressure like very very low down under pressure yeah I can't really walk more than like five minutes without needing the

toilet like my bladder is compressed do you know what happened to me today I sat on the toilet to have a wee and it was like he literally was like a plug he just went straight across and it just instantly cut off my wee stream i just instantly stopped weeing couldn't get any more wee out and i was bursting for a wee but he just gone in such an angle that i couldn't pee wow that is wild but i'm at the point point now, we're like fully in there, you know? And I can't put my legs, when I lie on my side, I can't open my legs up. Can you open yours? I wouldn't say that I've, you know, I wouldn't say that's a position I find myself in often.

Yeah, I wouldn't say I've tried. But I think if I imagine it now, I think I think i probably could yeah why can't you open your legs because you're gonna need to open your legs to get the baby out it's only when i'm mounting my cushion to the side like when i've got my pregnancy cushion and i go on my side and i go to mount a leg and i'm like whoa head in the foo-foo oh no no it's he and i can't like that much in the way he's that much in there that i can't open my legs when i'm on my side because his head his head's there i feel like he is just gonna like drop out any moment now we're just high-fiving on the daily on the break oh my god I saw my obstetrician today and she was like how you feeling I was like well you know a lot of pressure very low down like

some days I think like I'm I'm definitely like not gonna make my due date and she was like yeah people often come to me and they're like, just I feel like this baby is literally going to drop out of me at any second. I was like, that's exactly how I feel. Like if I walk anywhere, I feel like this is risky because this baby might just fall out. Just plop. Which is obviously not what happens. But that's what, isn't that what it feels like? What, when you actually give birth to a baby out of your foo-foo?

No, when I'm just walking around now trying to go about my daily life i'm like i feel like this baby's just gonna come out like it feels so low down emma i already had a gaping vagina so now to have a what a six pound baby in there now just hanging on for i feel like he's like at the side of my vagina just trying to hold on like no i'm not ready yeah and you've got a couple couple more weeks left than me who knows i um do you know that it weighs six pound because when i went for my most recent scan they gave me an estimated weight of six pound eight which is like the size of a like baby when it's some babies when they're born what that's

what you they think thought you were on that day yeah like now well i tried to weigh him on the scales how did you do that try to just um rest him on the scales um wait like kitchen scales or like luggage scales or just my mini mouse kitchen scales yeah said he's like 10 and a half pounds already i said it's all water it's just a bit of water weight don't mind us chrissy we're just we're just recording a podcast here don't worry about it don't worry about us we're fully recording the podcast and you've just walked this is so sorry about him this is my lodger

this we should explain to people this is the first like proper episode that we've tried to do from home and let me tell you it has been riddled with technical difficulties. Welcome to the Secret Monk. Chris clearly didn't get the memo. Chris didn't get the memo. He doesn't even go here. Get out, Chris. You don't even go here.

You can't sit with us. So yeah, well, they measured like his leg tummy head yeah and said today because i had a scan today and they said he's like five pounds three ounces oh but the other day yeah he was he was a whopping ten and a half pounds according to my scales in the kitchen oh so so just just double what they said so pretty accurate it's somewhere in between there isn't there it's gonna be somewhere in between I'm really worried about mine because if it's six pound eight now and I've got a good few weeks left then I think it's I think it's gonna make it to like 10 pounds nine ten pounds at least hold on we yeah but you haven't got a good few weeks left emma well i've got like at time of record i have about three and a half weeks left do you yeah oh okay yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah it's gonna gain it's gonna gain some

timber in that time half a pound a week is that what it is because i just don't see how i can get any bigger i do feel you if i'm honest with you so many people ask me how i've got so much energy and i said it's basically a combination of gaviscon renny mixed with some iron tablets and a bit of laculose oh that's it i'm i'm on a whole cocktail of drugs. That's the magic formula. Not only do you take something that makes you severely constipated, you then take something that gives you diarrhea. So combined together, I'm not shitting great.

Let's just say that. It's just not working out for me. The iron tablets really mess you up, don't they? Because I'm on iron as well. And they really they they play havoc with your bowel movements have you got black poo yeah why does iron make your poo so dark mine's black it looks like tar what is that we're healthy i mean i guess it means the iron is like filtering through so it's working which is good but can doc can a doctor tell us why iron makes your poo so black

you could probably just google it to be fair we could probably google it but it's more fun when you guys message in and let us know yeah we love that yeah it's more feels more scientific or it's more fun it's more fun to speculate my friend told me it was about blood in your poo but i think she's lying is there blood what like a black pudding what oh god chris ate that at ikea this morning made me so sick i can't watch him now i just think oh there's my poo regenerated oh no that's i can't um but other than that life's great at the moment how has your week been because you've had yeah round two party round two party and I've also don't know if you can tell my by my voice but I've also had I've also had a really bad cold

oh I know I know get out your tiny violins but it's um it's not fun when you're pregnant and also looking after a another baby i just have had no time and then yeah we had joseph's we had a joint um birthday because his birthday was a couple of weeks ago but we had a joint birthday party with one of his little friends whose birthday was also um last week and we went to a soft play with 18 kids and about 40 adults so that was an intense day I just feel like I haven't it looked fun though it was good it was really fun the kids loved it we had an amazing dinosaur cake it was great Joseph was actually a little bit you know you know how he is he was a little bit overwhelmed bless him uh by the time a lot of people got there he was fine at the beginning when it

was quiet. And then when everyone was there and he was a center of attention, he did not like it. And, um, it was like balloon museum mark two, cause he made me carry him around the whole party for the second hour. So I was absolutely shattered. I was sweating my tits off. I'm in all the videos for happy birthday. Cause he would not sit on his own and have happy birthday sung at him he was freaking out so that wasn't a restful day I just feel like I haven't been all in all it was a great party great party for everyone else I think everyone else had a great time for everyone bar Joseph Joseph and me who was knackered I just feel like I haven't been able to like rest up and properly just like fight this cold off get my voice back I've been on at work on the radio obviously where

you know you have to talk um and use your voice so it's just uh it's not been a great week to be fair it's been a whole lot of everything for you. It really has. Oh, and one of the great symptoms of this cold is that I've gone deaf in one ear, which, let me tell you, is so disorientating. Like, it's making me feel so dizzy and, like, almost like I'm drunk. Do you know what I mean? It's like really... On a boat. Yeah. It's really making me feel like just

nauseous and like off balance it's just the weirdest I've never had this with a cold before it's the weirdest thing yeah no I have had it before but I don't think I've had it pregnant it's just I don't want to you know what it's like I don't want people to say I'm moaning but you're not allowed to moan just being ill when you're pregnant and you're looking after a toddler it's just not it's it's just not the one I know sorry that's it now I've got it out there that's it I'm leaving it there it's so much controversy where controversy controversy where I've talked about it on my Instagram is people get so mad at me because they're like oh you should be so grateful for this wonderful I am and I'm not moaning I'm

just literally using it as an outlay that I am struggling and it's okay to struggle it is but if you came on and you were like relentlessly positive all the time you'd be lying yeah well I was positive today I had my positive pants on and I was just living my life but that's not every day I yeah I did I did see you dancing in your kitchen this morning i was shaking that tushy i was on the top of my life i was ready for it but i just it's really hard i find at the moment i feel like there's nothing that i can say that is the right thing to say like everything i say someone's like oh god all you do is moan you should be grateful you should be enjoying this you only get one i know i'm just like oh you know yeah sorry sometimes i just need a moan but otherwise

you know otherwise we're fine we're doing great we're doing great yeah yeah we're growing tiny humans yeah exactly cut us some bloody slack We've been growing humans for nine months nearly. And do you know what the maddest thing is? Is there's a full blown human inside of me and a full blown human inside of you. I know. Did you actually see the video I put up? I actually managed to capture some movements on camera. And I put a video on my Instagram stories the other day and it was like the most like extreme movement i've ever seen i felt like that baby's foot was gonna bust out of my skin busting out of the seams baby keep a little tool for me wasn't it i know that's me on the regular though that is honestly how he has been the whole of our my pregnancy yeah is he's just full-on being like clawing his way out rolling around rolling just can't wait to meet you that's what it is i don't think he wants to come out

though i think he's very cozy in there well yeah that's what you hope until your full term and then get out here get the fuck out what is um full term, 36 or 37? I thought it was after 30. Obviously, you're pregnant for 40 weeks, but I thought full term was 37. Could be wrong. No, I don't. I don't know. Again, if you're a midwife, please do let us know.

Let us know. One exciting development for me pregnancy-wise this week is that I can start collecting the old colostrum, which we spoke about before squeeze those nips because i'm 36 weeks now so get squeezing i've been watching i've been watching videos of how to massage yeah your breasts yeah after you get out the bath or shower give me a little massage in your breasts i'm just shaving mine yeah have you thought you're gonna do the old liquid gold or no i have i have bought a pump i did buy a pump

because it was on offer at tesco so i thought why not let's just buy one just in case you know you never know yeah um and i have thought about it i was considering it but i just i feel like it's the last one and i feel like i in my heart i want to try because it's the last yeah but i just can't get over my udders i can't get over feeling like daisy the cow like you know like i love it for everybody but just for me personally just because I'm such a big unit, I'm just worried that I'm going to feel like a massive huge cow with this tiny, beautiful... Give your nips a squeeze and see what happens.

My nips are huge. I've got the stuff coming out. Oh, perfect. I have to wear a little pad in them. But the midwife did say not to stimulate them too much because it's a bit early. Well, this is what I'm a bit nervous about because even though I'm 36 weeks, so i can technically start doing it i think they say it can bring on an early

labor which is not what we want it's up to you isn't it you can get the little syringes as well off amazon i was looking the other day is that what you told me to get them yeah yeah that's what that's what i'm thinking of doing but i just don't But I just don't want to get too squeezy happy before the old Centre Parcs trip because I'd like to make it back from Longleat before this baby makes an appearance, you know? You could be having him at my local hospital. Yeah. Well, I thought the plan was at your house, no? Yeah, we can do it either either. I'll take it anyway.

Yeah, get the pool up. Get the birthing pool up. Woo! Woo! either either i'll take it anyway yeah get the pool up get the birthing pool up woo emma and i really want to hear from you yeah we want you to join us in the secret mom club you're all welcome you can share your secrets with us respond to what we've been talking about or just say hello and there's a very special day coming up so we want you to send in your Mother's Day messages. It can be a message of encouragement to a friend with children. Or a few words of appreciation for mums everywhere. You can even wish your mum a happy Mother's Day right here. Send them in on TikTok and Instagram.

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Hi ladies, I listen to the pod whilst in labour. It made me laugh so much and helped with the pain. My little one is four weeks old now lots of love oh isn't that just the most adorable thing in the whole entire world i can't believe we're the soundtrack to somebody's labor i think i'd piss myself off if i listened to my own podcast in labor i'd be like oh shut up oh and it helped with the pain. Oh my God, that's amazing. That is wonderful. Thank you for sharing that. Wow.

Yeah, I wouldn't have thought we'd have like particularly soothing qualities, but... Speak for yourself. Good for you, Sherelle. Speak for yourself. Maybe with this voice, I'm pretty sexy. Hello. I sound like I've been smoking 60 a day. All right, we've got another email here it says hi ladies oh it's Gabby the centre parks lady again I never delivered any babies at centre

parks myself but I would say all the staff at centre parks are amazing and if you were to go into labour while you were there you would be in good hands the lady who went into labour while on her holiday actually wrote a little blog about it love the podcast and thank you for reading out my message all my love gabby and we've got the blog post here stop it oh my gosh i'm fascinated this could bloody beat me in a couple of weeks time all right right. This is a shortened version. Also, she was 37 weeks. Yeah. She was 37 weeks pregnant. I'm going to be... Just saying.

Just saying. Just saying. All right. She says, here's a shortened version. Mark and I wanted to do something relaxing with the girls before the baby came. So we booked a holiday at Center Parcs. Although I was 37 weeks pregnant,

I felt fine. And besides, the resort was just a two hour drive from home. This is sounding very familiar. I packed my hospital bag, but I didn't think I'd need it. Looking back, I was naive. At 10pm on the first night, oh no, as I lay down, I felt a huge gush. In the loo, my mucus plug came away and I realised that labour had started. We alerted the complex's reception too, who sent a security guard to our villa.

Luckily, he was an ex-paramedic. He called an ambulance and the paramedics took me to a local midwife-led birthing centre, which was like having my own private hospital. And after eight hours of labour, my baby boy Henry was born. Oh my God. This is the most beautiful birthing story I've ever listened to in my life oh that should be reassuring for me but it's actually making me more nervous how did you just stumble across an ex-paramedic as well what the fudge i know who knew center parks was so full of like equipped professionals

i so well equipped wow oh that is phenomenal i absolutely love that what an incredible story and what an incredible thing to share for the rest of your life i know that's a great story for henry to tell when he grows up as well what a dude Henry is oh well thank you so much for sharing that that was lush I hope that Emma goes into labour in all honesty so I love that but I am just hoping that that's not me secretly hoping it is keep your fingers crossed and I'll keep my legs crossed I'm secretly hoping it will be Emma here to tell the tale so you can get in touch with us on anything at all yeah it can be serious or silly

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each week we'll be sharing our secrets and yours in the secret mom club so here's my secret of the week i'm about to blow your big colostrum boobies off i have lost my plug twice and i'm not just talking about my what i'm not talking about my phone charger plug no no no i'm talking about that plug in my vagina you're not talking about your bath plug you're talking about your mucus plug my mucus plug yeah twice hang on hang on hang on hang on hang on back the fuck up what i thought that meant you were like in labor. What the hell? It regenerates. What? Like, like Doctor Who.

Like it just. Or like a. Like a starfish's arm. Yeah, just rebuilds back up. You're joking. I had no idea. Neither did I. Also never lost it with the other two.

Never ever seen what it was like. I literally thought of a jellyfish had fallen out. I was like. Oh my gosh. I found it. It's not minging. I was just like, wow, I found a jellyfish. fallen out i was like oh my god i found it it's not minging i was just like wow i found a jellyfish chris was like where i was like in my fufu obviously hang on hang on hang on hang on hang on i need some more information what like what happened where were you how did you realize what it was what was it like was it just like a jellyfish in your pants i basically sat on the toilet and I just felt this like a suction out.

And I was like, oh, that's weird. So wiped and it was on the tissue. And it was just, it's literally like a, just a clear size of maybe a 10 pps, mucusy jellyfish like with some blood in it so i took a picture of it and showed the midwife what and so hang on so that's that's happened twice twice and they've just told you like oh that doesn't mean you're going into labor you can just carry on as normal well i did go and have my cervix checked because obviously we've had a lot of right we've had a lot of things with my cervix through the pregnancy so i did go and get myself checked at the day unit um to make sure

that my cervix was closed and to make sure i wasn't leaking any fluids or anything like that and all was perfectly fine they were really happy and they said it's it can it can go but it doesn't mean labor's gonna start whoa i've never heard of that before it can regenerate okay and then so and then it happened again so what was the second time basically just the same but it was more like a like it was more brownie so it was clear but it had some brown in it and blood in it but it was like um like an old period blood yeah i feel like that's what they call i i had a little bit of that before i went into labor with joseph and i think they call it is it the bloody bloody show i think it's called the bloody show but again that is another sign that bloody show it's a bloody show guys

it's a bloody right old show we're having a right old show here tonight guys um but yeah i've heard that they call it the bloody show but i yeah nothing we've not had anything not had like no waters have gone or anything like that i've had contractions but i've had contractions really sporadically along with my contractions yeah so basically are you just in like the world's longest labor i hope not because i don't want to like just give birth on the toilet but this is the thing that i mean like how do you how do you like know when it's coming now do you know what i mean like it could be it could be any time now or like if that happens again you might not think you're in labor because you'll be like oh my

my plug's just gone for a third time but then that might be the time that you're actually in labor like how are you supposed to know what's even happening now i don't know i think you've just got to this is the scary thing about like being pregnant isn't it and i feel like this bit is the bit that's not really ever spoken about is the bit like you're just waiting for the day well and like what's happened to you i've literally never heard about happening to anyone else so that would make me like has it made you so nervous about when like when it's coming? I think I would be panicking. But I think because I've had two babies, so I know what contractions feel like, and I know kind of what to expect. Kind of we're not there. So I kind of just a bit like, oh, well, he's happy in there. He's moving. He's safe. I'm being monitored at the hospital. My waters haven't gone. Like I can feel him moving. Like there's not much else really we can do other than just keep waiting

but I feel like this bit isn't the bit that's not spoken about is it is just the waiting game like you don't know one when it's your first baby what to expect what it feels like or what should be coming or what should be happening it's kind of like no one knows yeah it's so weird and it's like when you're having a natural labor like I did last time you're obviously just like waiting and it could come at any any moment in time but like because obviously I'm having cesarean this time the experience is so different I feel like I'm kind of because I want to make it to that c-section date with the baby as full term as possible I feel like it's a lot more pressured

this time because it's like if you if I went into labor before it was just like I'm in labor and I'm having a natural labor and that's fine and you just go into hospital and you carry on whereas now I feel like it's like a lot more pressured because I'm like trying to make that date that I've got set for the cesarean and like if, if I don't make that date, like what happens? Do I go into hospital and I have to give birth vaginally? Like, I'm like more nervous about it this time in a way because there's like a deadline on it that I need to get to. I think though, what my midwife said is if you are elective,

you can, if you go into labour, you can still go in and say, I still want to have my cesarean yeah and that should be fine because obviously like you're normally in labor for quite a while before you have a baby so there should be time to go to surgery and and still have everything go to plan and all that stuff but i'm just like i'm almost wishing away the last weeks of my pregnancy now because i'm like oh i just really want to get there you know I don't want anything to like happen that's going to kind of throw the plan off it's just a weird yeah it's just a weird feeling kind of not just not knowing what's going to happen no but it's I also do find that it's quite fun I mean obviously it's so exciting I

can't I cannot wait but it's just it's like but also i'm like we're waiting for christmas but we don't actually know when it's coming yes exactly yeah yeah it's so weird that is wild though i can't believe that that's mad isn't it that was a good one that was a good one that was a good one and it wasn't nutso that wasn't dots or cobs this week just me that i think that's that's the new baby's first secret. I feel like I'm having a lot of time on my own at the moment, you know. I'm feeling very with myself, you know. Do you feel like that?

Yeah, at one with yourself. I wouldn't say I'm at one, like at peace with myself. I'm just really pissing myself off, you know, because it's just a lot of me, you know. I'm not really going anywhere. I'm not really doing anything i'm trying to rest up because that's what the midwife is said to do i'm trying to stay busy in the house but not do too much and i just it's a whole lot of me you know yeah that's nice though that's nice to have that for the last few weeks because let me tell you i don't know what time to myself feels

like i don't i don't know i think i'm just irritating like I feel like I've got a secret about myself because that's a whole out of me tab me in the toilet yeah but but it's like that's what's happening to you like every every day for us now there's no escaping these pregnancy symptoms it is wild all up in your face all up in your grill there's no getting away from it it's like it's all up in your face all up in your grill there's no getting away from it it's like it's all up in your vagina it's all up in your crotch it's all up in your bladder it's all up in your pelvis all up in your getting away from it titties titties titties but there there we go so that was my secret and um next we'll be hearing some of yours on the Secret Mum Club. Ah!

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We've got three secrets from you we're going to be discussing this week. So Emma, hit us with number one. All right. This says this says hello Soph and Emma I travel a lot for work and I've only recently discovered your pod I am in my auntie era and hopefully will get to be a mum one day so I've been using your pod as a way to brace myself for the future I had an experience when I was looking after my nephew he was only a little thing but he kept grabbing his willy and crying I spoke to my nephew he was only a little thing but he kept grabbing his willy and crying i spoke to my sister in law about this when i dropped him home and she responded with oh yeah he's discovered his foreskin and then swiftly moved on with the conversation is that a thing it's not the sort of thing i would know how to google yeah i probably wouldn't so here i am asking the secret mom club

thanks in advance miriam beautiful name miriam. Beautiful name, Miriam. I love the name Miriam. Google, don't Google foreskin. You will be arrested. Yeah, especially not. Can you Google foreskin? Especially not like child foreskin. Don't even, don't even go there.

I don't think we've reached, I don't know if you remember with Colby, Soph, but I don't think we've reached that stage of discovery for Joseph yet. Not specifically foreskin, but he has discovered that he's got a willy. And the only time he really mentions it is when I drain all the water out the bath and he likes to keep sitting in there. And then sometimes when all the water's gone, he just kind of points and laughs at his willy. It's almost like he's like, oh, I've got his willy it's almost it's almost like he's like oh i've got willy the other day

i drained all the water out of the bath and he goes oh hello little willy it's just so funny the willy isn't it like what where did you come from it just must feel so funny in the bath like it just must be so cold and just hanging there yeah i know a lot of like baby boys as well when they um they get to an age where during nappy changes all they want to do is grab their willy and that's happened to a few mum friends of mine and they're just like nappy changes are a nightmare now because it's just just willy's willy's everywhere i'm gonna be brutally brutally honest and throw an absolute curveball in there colby has never ever ever ever been fascinated with his willy ever really we never had an issue of grabbing the willy playing

with the willy touching the willy it's just he just never never done anything never the only time he did was when the blood rushes to them which is a good thing at this age but it's something again no one ever talks about is that your little boys willies have all the blood rush to them which is just proof that they work and no one tells you what to do and then they just run at you with this willy and you're like ah ah just i just chucking cold chucking cold water at it like oh god chucking a wet flannel like oh fuck i don't i don't know what i'm meant to do but no that's the only thing we've had but no never ever been interested in his wow willie i think just i think we've spoken briefly about the the baby boners before and they are very unsettling it's hard you don't

you don't want to yeah you don't want to don't want to come across like you're being crude but it is again something that i never knew it before having a little boy and i was just like fuck what am i meant to do like i don't know what i meant to you you feel in a way you feel so bad don't you yeah it's just like obviously it's perfectly innocent in a in a baby or a child but it's obviously just like the connotations of it are so wrong like just like you're like oh shit my baby's got an erection what am i supposed to do yes and you feel just you honestly it's the most horrific horrific thing because you just feel so awful in yourself because you're just you just

so out of your depth but i think with anything as long as you don't pay any attention to it or make a big deal about it they kind of just forget don't they yeah and luckily it doesn't happen very often so those those awkward moments are few and far between but but yeah little boys and their willies enjoy auntie life because it is the best truly i love being an auntie and i feel so lucky that i got to have mine for so long before i had my own children so yeah okay so that leads us on to number two all right this one says hello lovely soph and emma my almost 18 month old has chipped his front tooth oh no it's only 18 months i'm absolutely devastated and heartbroken i'm not sure why i'm

so upset but it's also day one of the period that is certainly not helping i just feel like his perfect wee tooth now has one chipped broken one i feel like i've cried so much over something so silly what do i do will a dentist even fix it? Lots of love, Clarice. Oh, that's not silly at all. That is actually quite devastating. They're perfect little teeth. It's actually, that's super, super sad. Oh, do I?

I feel so sad for you because I know how heartbroken I would be. I don't think the dentist will do anything because it's just their milk teeth. Well, I don't say that. That was really wrong of me to say just their milk teeth his baby teeth i think they'll just say to wait until his big ones come through but there's no harm in asking there's no harm in going and just checking you might want to just check like all the root and everything's all okay and that it didn't damage anything any higher but it might it might give you some peace of mind if you go to the dentist yeah that's what i was going to say the only saving grace is that they it is only their milk teeth so it'll fall out and they'll get a nice they'll get a nice new one but yeah that must be so easily done as well because they're just like

chucking themselves around and getting injured and yeah i'm surprised that doesn't happen more often actually and they're so soft aren't they then milk teeth where they're so they're not their permanent teeth it's like a different type of tooth if that makes sense i don't know how to explain it because obviously colby's and now dots has started losing her teeth but the teeth are like different so it's yeah so yeah. Yeah, I didn't know that. I was going to say, Joseph's definitely don't feel softer than normal teeth when he bites my fingers,

which he's taken to do it now. He likes to watch me say ow. So he bites me. I think they're still hard, but I feel like the teeth grade between like their milky teeth and their big teeth now, like they were almost transparent colby's like

a little bit of uh like not a solid white tooth they're like a little bit off whereas yeah maybe they're not as maybe they're not as like durable because you don't have to last for as long do they they only have them for a little while yeah that's what i was trying to get at like his his big ones now are such a solid color like a solid thick color but yeah i'm so sorry clarice but do cry because i would cry i might even cry later in bed about it i would cry too also when are you even supposed to take your baby to the dentist because it occurred to me the other day that i've never taken joseph and he's had teeth for ages uh i don't see only just had her first dentist because she's lost two teeth so we took

her just to get it all checked and she's five oh okay right fine yeah i don't know i could be completely wrong again the dentist might tell you um might say otherwise so i would say let us know if there is if there isn't a lot of time but i just have never i just thought until they get their big ones we don't need to worry i also just feel like they're not going to sit there and like you know be compliant and open their mouth and let someone have a fiddle around inside there are they when they're like no maybe not to be fair dotty dotty didn't want to do it at five, so. Yeah, I can imagine she didn't. She did it like this. No, no, no. Oh, great.

Right, let's have the last secret. Okay, it says, Hi, ladies. I've got an embarrassing tale that my mum told me about my brother. He was the only child and grandchild on both sides of the family for three years. And then all of a sudden he had two new babies to compete with for attention. My mum and her sister had me and my cousin at around the same time. My brother was not at all happy to share the spotlight so my mum thought getting him a doll might help. He loved his doll and enjoyed bringing it everywhere they went because my mum's doll went

everywhere too. That was her. One day they went shopping at the mall and they had to stop to feed the babies mid feeding my mum turned to see what my brother was doing only to see that in the middle of the mall he had also lifted his shirt up and started nursing his baby as well i love listening to you guys mel in canada isn't that the just the most adorable thing that that is the cutest thing and also just makes me think of joseph because i'm thinking of getting him a doll so that he can like mimic feeding when i have to feed the new baby and if if he did that i would just die you'd be so your heart would melt i would just my heart would actually just explode it's just too much that is so that is so and as well it's a boy a little dude doing it as well oh i love that there's these are really lovely secrets this

week that is such a sweet one isn't it what i know mel you said that was embarrassing but i actually think that is makes it's adorable yeah what a dude i just think how lush though that your mom just embraced that and she's like yeah he's got to do his feed as well yeah exactly that's what they do they copy you i um i put up an instagram post this week about how to whether people had any tips for kind of introducing a second child after having a first child because obviously Joseph's about to get a sibling and he's not going to know what's hitting him and people's comments were so lovely and people came through with some really good advice on my Instagram comments but that was one of the ones I definitely think we're going to do is that when

I have to feed the new baby because I think that's something that Joseph might really struggle with especially because I'm planning on breastfeeding he's quite possessive and clingy and I think he might find it hard to see me breastfeeding another baby so somebody said get him a dolly and all the feeding stuff and a bottle and whatever and he can just pretend to feed his baby when you feed your baby which I thought was really nice so I definitely think that's something that we're gonna do well that is really nice and I said to you the dolly worked great for us with Colby but we got the dolly from really early on I think we had the dolly from I think I want to say about 12 weeks but we used to put like the dolly in the bed and Colby used to put dolly to bed and then we used to do like bedtimes and they matched bedtimes

and things like that and we used to have a little bit of quiet time or when the bed was out so I found it really good the whole working around the working around the dolly and Colby loved it and the moment she was here instantly literally just loved her well he did call her dolly for a while when she was here and I was like no no it's it's Dottie but he um he took to it really great and he was the same age as joseph is having his sibling yeah you know yeah joseph now is the same age as colby was when dotty came yeah so what he will be when your baby comes so yeah i'm definitely yeah i'm gonna apparently he plays with the dolls a lot in nursery so i'm definitely gonna give it a go see how we get on take him to the are you going to take him to the shop to pick it

I should yeah I should do that shouldn't I and he can pick like a bit like if you went to yeah that's a good idea toy store he can pick like the baby grow as well as the baby and there's girl dollies or boy dollies yeah that would be cute he's I've been really torn on like how much to push it because I don't want to like I don't want to wrap you know ram it down his throat and like I want to make the most of it just being like the last few weeks just him and like make him feel special and not be going on about the baby all the time but then also I'm like we do actually really need to prepare you for the baby this life-changing event that's about to happen as well so yeah I've been torn about like how how hard to like push the message if

you know what I mean but I think probably three and a half weeks out now is probably a good time to um to start doing I think um with anything that we've learned in the time of me doing this podcast well us doing this podcast is that my children respond well to just letting it be what it will be you know and that's the same with you you're kind of the the you'd rather just let joseph just figure it out which i think is a really lovely way to do it and i think i think we sometimes we forget how resilient children are and i think joseph's gonna really shock you because of how loving your home is your home is really loving you're a great mom and I just think he's just going to,

it's just going to be a wonderful experience for you. And I just think you'll truly be shocked, I think, by the experience. Because even if it is hard or if it's easy, you get to see your babies together. And I think that just outweighs it. And I just think you just gotta wrap yourself up and take every day as it comes and just enjoy them as two people yeah i am so excited i'm so

excited for that i think um yeah they're more adaptable than you think aren't they either that always going to be like what the fuck have you done fuck what the fuck why is this baby not a cow why is it not mooing oh dickhead thank you for sharing your secrets this week everyone is welcome in the secret mom club yeah and if you want to share your secrets with us you can the email is hello at secret mom pod.com or withmumpod on tiktok and instagram have you googled foreskins or have your little ones copied you breastfeeding do let us know there really is nothing too outrageous and keep an eye out for our thursday episode and we'll see you next time on the Secret Mumb Club!

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