Sense of Soul - Change Your Mindset With Cappi Pidwell

Episode Date: November 8, 2024

Today on Sense of Soul we have Cappi Pidwell. She is a Master of NLP and Hypnotherapy, a professional speaker, author, mindset strategist, and product developer. She has been consulting and coaching business owners, associations, corporations, and individuals to get quick results with her mindset programs for more than 30 years. She is a distinguished mindset expert whose transformative work has empowered countless individuals and audiences too unlock their full potential, and achieve their personal and professional goals. With an unwavering commitment to understanding and harnessing the power of the human mind, Cappi has become a trusted authority in the field of mindset development for more success and happiness. Having dedicated decades to the study of Hypnotherapy, NLP, EFT and personal development, Cappi possesses a profound understanding of how our thoughts, beliefs, and subconscious programing, shapes our lives and our outcomes. Her journey as a mindset expert began with a deep curiosity about the human psyche, and a desire to help herself as she overcame many personal and professional challenges, and began sharing her mindset solutions with others accomplish the same. Cappi's innovative approaches to rapid mindset transformation has earned her recognition and respect from clients spanning in various industries. She has developed highly effective strategies and on line programs that reframe limiting beliefs, cultivate resilience, and foster a powerful success mindset for more sales and success. Whether she is working with individuals, teams, organizations, and on a stage, Cappi's guidance has consistently yielded profound results and increased outcomes. https://www.cappipidwell.com https://youtube.com/@cappipidwell www.senseofsoulpodcast.com

Hello, my soul-seeking friends. It's Shanna. Thank you so much for listening to Sense of Soul podcast. Enlightening conversations with like-minded souls from around the world, sharing their journey of finding their light within, turning pain into purpose, and awakening to their true sense of soul. If you like what you hear, show me some love and rate, like, and subscribe. And consider becoming a Sense of Soul Patreon member, where you will get ad-free episodes, monthly circles, and much more. Now go grab your coffee, open your mind, heart, and soul. It's time to awaken. Today on Sense of Soul, we have Cappy Pidwell. She is a master of NLP and hypnotherapy. She's a professional speaker, author, mindset strategist, and product developer. She has been consulting

and coaching business owners, associations, corporations, and individuals to get quick results with her mindset programs for over 30 years. And today she's sharing her amazing wisdom with us too. So please welcome Cappy. Hi there. Hi, Cappy. How are you? I'm fabulous. How are you doing? I'm good. I need you. I need some Cappy in my life. Well, it's nice to meet you.

Nice to meet you as well. Where are you? I'm over in Colorado. Where are you at? You're in LA? California. Yeah. I was like, wait, she helps busy people?

That's me. A lot of people. You know, I used to be the busy mom. Got it. I was going to say, you probably have kids, right? Yeah, but you know, for the first time in my life, they're very self-sufficient. All of them, you know, most of them, three of them are adults. One of them is in middle school.

But yeah, I mean, this is the first time I've been able to really have something. Sense of soul is another child of mine. I love it. I love it. The more opportunities I get and I keep saying yes because I was in this, I'm not good enough for that. Or maybe I'm not, you know, if that's how it used to be. So then I got into this flow of saying yes to opportunity, but then opportunities keep coming. And I'm like, wait a minute, which is so weird because someone just read my Chinese

zodiac and I'm a dragon. So this is the year of the dragon, which is the year of opportunity. Yes. That's exciting. I mean, that's wonderful. I think for, I mean, I've been in hypnosis for 30 years and way before people were speaking and coaching, I was doing this. So it's kind of interesting to me to watch the cycle of all these people coming out with their genius and awakening and, you know, having these types of conversations, which never used to take place. Right. So I think for someone like yourself, who's younger, you are in an amazing time for sure.

And I would just say, I mean, and I know you already know this, but it's really just listening to your instincts on those yes and no's, right? Just being clear, like, yeah, it sounds good. It looks good on paper, but something inside saying no, and then sticking to that something inside because it's always right. You are right. Yeah. Yeah. There were two things I was invited to. And one of them, I really wasn't a yes in my body and I still did it. And you're right. I should have listened to myself because I could have really used that time, you know, towards something else that I wanted to do. Right. Oh, well, I mean, I think the busier you get, the more you have to do those kinds of things,

you know what I mean? So it's just really, I just think today with technology today and the way, I mean, I am a stage speaker. I've been on thousands of stages and to go from that to the online platform, I've struggled with it personally because I'm old school, you know, I, yeah, I vote for Deepak. I've been on that. I mean, I've literally done stages and now everything's here. And so it is a different, it is a whole different energy. It's a different everything I'm learning, but, you know, it's been a challenge, I think, for people, um, of my schooling, you know, that went to school, nothing was online, you know, I mean, I went to school. So it was, you know, now everything's

like go online and get certified or whatever. I'm like, took me four years and I drove to school every week. So, you know, it's just a different world in the ability to connect with everybody, which I love. It's fabulous. So I think for you, it's really, you're at a great time. Really, really good time. It's exciting. Yeah, good time. But I'm also trying to finish up on my book. I've got some deadlines.

And so I've got my own things. That's the other thing. So it's making space for me. I need a clone. That's, you know, with technology, can I get one of those? Right, get an AI girl that looks just like you. Right, they have them probably. Probably, that's next for sure.

But you know, this is a really cool time for me to have something of my own because my entire life was dedicated to raising children. And so, and even though I do have, I have one who is on the spectrum, so he'll probably be my living child forever. However, as long as he has what he needs, he's good. How many kids do you have? Four. Wow. That's a lot. I only have two and it was a lot.

I was a single mom though. So it was a lot of work balancing between business and especially if you have, I can't even imagine, two was enough. Yeah. So tell me your story. How did you end up driving to hypnosis school? That's funny. So I was in corporate sales and I just working my butt off, had quotas and goals. And again, this is before cell phones and stuff. So it's funny because I'm sure they say the same thing to you because you look really young. I physically look younger than my number. I'm 60 and most people do not guess me at 60. So when I've been doing this 30 years,

they're like, huh, but I'm like, yeah, really, I have. So when I, when I started, I was super stressed, I was in sales. And so somebody said, Oh, you know, I do this. And nobody really meditated and stuff, but it wasn't popular, but I got locked jaw. I would grind my teeth at night and I couldn't open my mouth. So I went to the doctor and then they sent me to a specialist, blah, blah, blah. Anyway, by the time I got done, they were like, we need to break your jaw. You know, you have to wear these wires. We have to wire your mouth shut, blah, blah. And so I was crying and I was in my office one day and I was telling this lady, it hurt all the time. I mean, the pain was excruciating. And then my jaw locked for five days straight when I finally went to the doctor. So this lady was like, you know, you should try hypnosis. I'm like,

please. And I just thought it was ridiculous. So I got in my car to go home, long story short. And this little voice in my head said, what if it worked? You know, so I went in the phone book. I found one person that did hypnosis back then and went to see her very, very reluctantly. And after the hour session with her, hour in her office, it wasn't even an hour session, my jaw popped open. And I felt incredible. And the pain was gone. And I was like, what in the heaven did you just do? So I asked her like, what else can you do? And she's like,

oh, just go home and listen to your little cassette tape. So I did. And it just literally started blowing my mind. So I started working with her and going to see her. I didn't really have a specific outcome. I was in sales, but my stress went down. My sales exploded, my confidence, my capacity to just manage myself. I did everything different. And people started noticing, people started coming to me going, what are you doing? What are you doing? I'm like, I'm working with this hypnotist. So my manager told me not to say that anymore. And he's like, don't say that, you know, you're going to look weird. I'm like, well, whatever.

I can look weird all the way to the bank. So I became the top sales rep in my area. And after I was working under her, I started going to school with her. She was a master trainer. And then after that, after four years of working with her, I went to the American Institute of Hypnotherapy in Irvine. So I studied under Tad James, who basically was Tony Robbins NLP guy. So I studied under some really amazing people and my life just changed dramatically and my business, I didn't think I was going to be self-employed. I always, you know,

worked for somebody. And back then, like I said, it just wasn't a common thing for especially a woman. So I started speaking, sharing my secrets. I guess you could call that's what I would call them. With salespeople, I would go into real estate companies. I started getting sponsors. I didn't even know what I was doing, but people just started coming to me. So it grew. And then I started making products and I had a private practice for 25 years. So it's been a very, very challenging journey,

especially in the early days of being single and a mother and a woman. I had a lot of slimy corporate people, you know, wanting appropriate things to get me on stage. I mean, it was bad. It was bad. I always say it's like the Wizard of Oz, people behind the curtain were really gross. So I really just kept my integrity and my purpose. My two daughters would come to events with me and hand out forms and their little pajamas. I mean, I didn't have a babysitter. So everybody was just like, Oh, my God, they're so cute. They are. They're 30 and 27 now. But, you know, they grew up pretty much working with me on the side, they were on my hip all the time. And it's just been I couldn't be more proud of both of them. But it's been a journey. So then, you know, I got my book done in 2020. And then

Stedman Graham, Oprah's partner, I got connected with him through my publicist. He read my book and texted me. And he's like, I freaking love you. So I've met him. I've done some events with him now. He's just delightful. So I have good, you know, a lot of good energy around me. I love, love, love, love, love hypnosis. It's

changed my life in so many ways. I've helped thousands of people and I don't do that. So I don't talk about it a lot because I don't take a lot of one-on-ones anymore. So I don't want to get on a stage. I don't typically go, oh yeah, because then everybody comes up to me and, oh, can you help me with this? Can you help me with that? So I don't do the private sessions too much unless it's someone I know or have had in the past or if it's a referral. Today, I mostly coach and help sales people. I go into companies. I speak on mindset for sales and success.

And then I make products and programs for companies that I license to the companies. And then I'll typically get a CEO or a manager, somebody that I will do. I'll put them through a 60 or 90 day program, which is my high end program. But I don't take just, Oh, you know, I want to stop smoking. I I've done thousands of those, but I can help anything really. I I'm a master hypnotist. I mean, I, it takes me, I just did help a friend's husband stop smoking after 52 years. And it's one session for me. Oh, you know, that's funny.

The first time I ever did hypnosis was a cassette tape. It was when I was trying to quit smoking in my twenties when I was pregnant with my oldest son. And yeah, it was my dad. He had given it to me because he had done hypnosis. And that was I never even thought about that until right now. And when you mentioned that. But yeah, I remember laying next to my radio and it did work. Totally forgot about that until right now. But you know what? Hypnosis was one of the first things along my journey that kind of broke me open. I love it. Yeah. What did you do? this was one of the first things along my journey that kind of broke me open. I love it. Yeah.

What did you do? Well, it started, my youngest daughter was four at the time. And she had told me that one time she was an old man. And she knew the name and where he lived. And this is a little girl who liked My Little Ponies and Princesses. Why would she want to be an old man? They remember their past lives. Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah. And I was, I was already kind of along my journey. I was practicing mindfulness. I'd already been breaky. I think I was even Reiki master at the time, but I still had these strong cords to Christianity where I wasn't so sure about past lives.

And, you know, I'm very deeply rooted Catholic. And so at the time I was like, I'm going to do this for myself and see if there's some credibility. Maybe, you know, what she's saying, I had read Brian Weiss's book,

you know, Many Lives, Many Masters. And I was shocked. And what ended up kind of coming from that was that afterward I had my ancestry and I found a connection. And then I was like, wow, okay, there's no way that I knew any of the things. So I basically was in a life that I had never thought of, but then end up finding that same life in my ancestry. So it was pretty remarkable. And I was a believer. Yes, I can relate because when I started learning hypnosis and I was working

under my teacher, I was doing a session one day and a woman went into a past life and I wasn't even doing that for her. And she started speaking another language. And I was just like, this is fascinating. And so then I started talking about, she said, yeah, she just went into a past life or spirit and her subconscious just took her there. And I went with it. Of course. I mean, it was amazing and I loved it and I recorded everything. So when we got done and brought her back up, she was like, but I said, yeah, you started speaking French and you started, it was, and I don't understand French, but it was remarkable. And she said, I just remember wearing this old white dress. And like, she recalled

some of the imagery she saw, but she didn't recall the language that it was fascinating. So then I started studying past lives and went into all that for a few years. And yeah, it's, it's remarkable. I've done thousands of, I could tell you story after story. And I feel like that's how I've learned so much, right? Like you see a soul and you sit with them and stuff comes out of them. And then all of a sudden you bring them into a whole level of consciousness. And, you know, sometimes the ab reactions are, you know, physical and it's just, it's fascinating. So I just, yeah, I love it. I, you know, I'm a master of NLP and master Reiki as well. I took all those classes and did everything, you know, that I could learn and still study different things, of course. But my foundational training, the thing I resonated

the most with was hypnosis. And still, I would say today is, I don't use a ton of NLP, I found it a little harsh, and kind of almost a little manipulative, if you will. But I had to learn it and understand it. No, just the power of suggestion and the words and the language patterns and stuff. So I think every person finds their their genius. Right. And after I was doing hypnosis, I would say probably in the first three or four months, I mean, you know, because she'd hand me scripts and stuff. I'm like, I can't even, I just had to tune in. And then I would see pictures and I would just start talking to

everything I saw. And then when I would get done, the person would say, how did you know to take me, you know, on a whatever, do this? I'm like, I don't know. I just thought of my head. So I don't, I mean, from that day on, I never picked up another script or did any of that. I just closed my eyes and tune into what their soul needs. And then I speak to that. And then half the time when I get done and I listened to it, I'm like, dang, that was good. I don't even know what I said. I do the same thing. So I even have, I call them soul immersion is one of my clients helped me come up with it. I actually offer it on my website, but it started out me leading people through meditations during their Reiki sessions. Cause I wanted to get them down to that theta brainwave where I felt they would

be receiving rather than rejecting me. And so this just happened, evolved over time, but I, I never use scripts. I always just go with what I see. Then I started noticing after hundreds of different clients that I was bringing Jane back to this tree every time I saw her for whatever reason. And we saw this masculine thing. And for this one, I brought her to this shore with this boat. And I was like, holy crap. Like, you couldn't make this up. It was very unique. Specific for unique, yes. I would agree. I would agree.

And sometimes, like, I'll say, or I was in a session recently, just very recent, probably two months ago with this elderly lady. She's in my 90-day program. Well, she just finished. But I was like, just tuning in and feeling everything. And I was like going in her heart. And I kept talking about her heart. And I was like, just feel your heart. And I was like, feeling like frequency and just energy and stuff. And so we got all done with her session. And she was like, Kathy, that was beautiful. But I was like, okay, you know, enjoy. I'll talk to you next week, whatever. Well, she happened to go to the doctor that week and the doctor did some kind of scan or whatever. And they found a nodule in her lung that was like eight centimeters or something, not in her heart, but in her lung. But I felt like all that, right?

I'm not a medical intuitive or anything. So she texts me and she says, I'm freaking out. And I said, okay, let's just do a session because I felt that air of your body. Let's go into the nodule. Let me connect and see. And so I did. She went back to the doctor two weeks later and it shrunk from an eight to a two in two weeks. It's just fascinating how sometimes the more I think we trust, right, source to guide us through the process. And the more we say, give me the perfect words and images and whatever for my client. It's so, you know, I tell people get rid of the word hypnosis or Reiki. It's really a step into the same frequency to serve that soul that's in front of us.

And then I love making them the products. I'm really good at product creation. So the products, and then they listen to them and, you know, they have my, I'll walk into a room or an event. People call my God, I still listen to that thing you made me, you know? So I make all my products. Yeah. So it's really, so you, do you personalize it or what do you do? Yeah, they're all personal. So, so basically my, my program that I have right now, it's every week they coach with me and then I do all their systems and strategies for their business. So I look at what they're doing, how they're doing it. And then

I kind of change or modify any strategies that I can tweak or improve. And then I do the subconscious stuff. So I do a ton around money. What's the relationship to money? What are their beliefs about success, you know, their inner image. So I kind of work on the inner game of helping them reach their peak performance, whatever their own personal peak performances. And I've helped a lot of people make a ton of money. Let's put it that way. Is it mainly women? I mean, why do women have so much hang up with money? It seems like a lot of us do. And also a lot of healers.

Yeah. And I would include myself in that because I think that's why I teach so much of it because I went through so much of it as a single mother. I think that women do because at a go back to caveman days, we were conditioned to nurture, to be the family caregiver, do the laundry together. And the guys were out hunting, right? And women have turned into hunters. We're out there doing business. We're making the money and we're still taking care of the kids. We're still cleaning the house. Just in the seventies.

I mean, I watched my mom go through it, get a job. It was like a big deal. So it's not been that long that women have been, you know, producing and yes, there's a ton of amazing, powerful women out there today, but we haven't been doing it as long as men and we're still not paid. I mean, get into that whole thing. Right. But I think that for women, we love to give women are often not the best receivers. And I think that's a big block for women with money. And then you get the greedy women that are almost too masculine that make a lot of money. But I find they're not in their femininity often. We're so out of balance. Yeah, it's a fine dance. I remember in my 40ies, I was like, I got to take off the cape. You know, I felt like I was driving that bus and I was killing it.

And I was, I was like, I'm losing my, losing my girly self, you know? So I had to create that and find that for myself. And I'm always been a girly girl, but my energy was very plow. So I had to just kind of go, I can be effective without trying to go plow the bus over. Yeah. Or also that competitiveness between women because they had to be, I mean, if there's a position and there's only two women going out for it. So it's just like that became a natural thing.

I think so. So I think those dynamics today for us is really unique. Like you're in your genius. I'm in my genius. I think we're getting more comfortable being in our lane. Genius, you know, like people call me all the time and go, Kefi, can you help my kid? They're a drug addict or can you? Nope, nope, nope. I don't do that anymore. I don't do private practice. I'm not going to sit with someone. And I mean, again, I will if it's a past client or they've got their kid or something that because I know how fast I can help people.

But my time is so valuable that I just don't have the time to sit and listen to people's problems all day. And yeah, me either. I don't want to do that anymore. I did it for many, many years. Well, I also felt that way when someone asked me to volunteer at my kid's school. I'm hiding. I'm like, I did that forever. I'm done. Me too. And that's the beauty of it, right? Today with doing the sales thing, it took me years to figure out. And it's harder to get a client, but I only need three clients a year. You know what I mean? So it's different than the onesie twosies, but you know, I can go in and

work on the project for two, three months. And then my high end, when I get, you know, a client for whatever, I don't need a lot of those. And then I work with that one individual for either 60 or 90 days, depending on what they need. And they pay for different, you know, those two packages. That's kind of it. And then of course I have books and I'm having a guy redo my whole website right now. I'm getting back out and speaking more. And that's been in, I'm speaking at UCLA next weekend. So I'm getting kind of back into the circuit. I've got, I think five or six events lined up in the next two months. So I have a booker and,

you know, I think maybe Corey, maybe I met you through Corey. Corey Poirier. Yeah. Yeah. I love Corey. That's probably where we met then.

Yeah. Oh yeah. Probably. Okay. Cause he, he books some stuff for me. That's probably. Okay.

That's probably. Yeah. I think that people need to be able to surrender a little bit because like i'm hearing you talking and i'm just thinking to myself if i laid it all out for you or if anyone laid it all out for you you have a different perspective then we're in it you know what i mean and it's really hard to see everything. Like I bet you, you could tweak just like a little over here and a little over there and it would just make everything flow and go so much better. But it is hard though for people to surrender and give up control. But I

think that it's, it's worth it. It is because I tell people i call it the um treadmill of trying that's right they're on the treadmill and they just keep trying and they're doing all these things and i'm like get off the treadmill of trying or the hamster wheel yeah yeah let me help you figure it out find a solution and then what's really nice if there's resistance and i can make them a session for the resistance right to the change effortless for them, then it's so much easier for them to implement and do. They're excited about it. I tell people, I don't do difficult and you shouldn't either. Do what excites you.

Do what makes your soul sing. When you operate in that, it's fun to create. Whatever you're passionate about, like follow that. You can't go wrong with that. And I do know that whenever, like I just said at the beginning, when you made me think, I was saying yes to things that really my body was like, eh, you know? So I know it wasn't in my passion. And I should have just followed that it's very important

to listen to your body if you're getting anything that's like then don't do it i agree it's boundaries it's about boundaries yeah and trusting ourselves right when you're talking about like business and how successful you are this is usually mimicking your life as well yes i mean and i feel like just like my house like if my house is really messy then usually this is going on in my mind in my head in my life and so there's this like we're reflecting you know in all the things that we do even parenting everything that we do yes absolutely i totally agree i mean our external i say that's the universe, right? It's just a mirror, right? Everything's reflecting back at what we're vibrating or going through. And so

I do self-hypnosis every single day. You do? Yes. Every single day. Kind of like a meditation? Well, I think the difference for me between hypnosis and meditation is it's specific outcomes, right? If I want to, you know, get an answer or get an insight, yeah, I'll just I can put myself in state, you know, in a minute. And then I'm just there. And then sometimes I'll write the question out prior, you know, what answers or insights do I need to learn about this, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And then as I'm sitting there and I feel like, you know, the vibe and I'm connected, plugged in, then I'll just give my subconscious. So I really work specifically with my subconscious for the specific thing I'm

working on. So usually it's my highest, best self, whatever, you know, what is the reason or the lesson I need to learn from this specific experience? And then so far, that was a money thing. Okay, so I need to go into my part of my subconscious, my money wiring and undo what was done. And then I kind of go through a process in my brain. Yeah, to kind of unwire that belief and loosen it a little. And so it's specific. And as I kind of did that, I could feel that energy loosen, let up. And then, you know, I'm done. And then when I meditate, it's more like I might sit, you know, here at my desk or whatever,

and then close my eyes and just ask for insights or what do I need to know? I love Mother Mary. She's one of my favorites. So sometimes I'll just call in different guidance, St. Germain or Mother Mary, somebody just to kind of fill my soul and myself, and then I'll go into my next project or whatever. But I use self-hypnosis for really specific things. So you're directing it, giving it very specific intention where in meditation you're more open to receive more. Yeah. Okay. I like that. I understand that. That's really neat. And so I find that when

you get the answer or the insight you ask, and then you get the answer, it's like, what do we do with that? Right. Oh, I got an aha. But then I take it kind of to that next level. So you get honest about that money thing. Cause that old wounded me, you know, and then I had to go, okay, wait, Cappy, even though I've physically made the money of taking care of my kids, I put them through call, you know, I've done it all. There was that old little girl, still that piece in my brain, you know, you marry a man, he takes care of you, all that. So I went in my subconscious and I like to go into like, I like to imagine the neural networks connecting. How do I on wire? I want to do more than I have to do for people. And it very visual. You obviously are too. Yeah. Yeah. I had a kidney stone one time and I went through the whole year in a meditation and I got rid of it after three months. I love that. Yeah. It was crazy.

I had my kids through hypnobirthing. So I had Alexa, my younger daughter had her in 20 minutes. It was incredible. So yeah, I'm very, so I would talk to her in the womb and tell her she was going to, you know, the placenta and my uterus and I do all the pre-hypnosis, hypnotize the baby that when she comes out, like how blessed and beautiful and wanted she is and all that great stuff. So my daughter is like so tuned in. It's crazy. She's like a master. Yeah. Wow. I wish I would have been awake back then. Yeah. You know, with my slow immersion sessions, it's much like what you talk about. And so I do wonder in some ways, I've always wondered this, if I was actually putting them into it. Well,

I mean, you are basically. Yeah, of course. And I mean, I never did it intentionally, but it's just, and I've always just followed and leaned into whatever was happening. I'm like, okay, I've never done this before. But I've said the same thing that you have said afterwards before so many times. That was so cool. Like I've never, you know, and actually almost every time. I'm like, I've never been there. That was amazing.

I'm feeling just as excited. Yes, because we're tuning into those frequencies for sure. And I think the more the veil has been lifted, right? Since 2012, I've noticed a huge difference even in my work. Yes. Because I was doing this, like I said, I was a salmon swimming up a stream all by myself, really. There was no women out there doing what I'm doing. There was no women on stages talking about me.

People used to make jokes and, Oh, are you going to hit me? Take me to take off my clothes. I mean, I've heard it all. I've heard it. So I had to get very,

just surround myself in my own light, but there was no light when I walked into every room, it was tough. And so I just got more clear. And I, you know, I used to ask God, like, why did you give me this gift like I don't want this people think I'm weird my name's Cappy right I love that I loved your name thank

you and I'm like you know I used to tell my mom why can't I just go into an office and sit in a cubicle like everybody else I just couldn't yeah couldn't I tried and I would get sick and I would, you know, the stress, the TMJ, like all these things just got me out of that whole BS, what I was supposed to do to, you know, I was married to an engineer and, you know, I was married 15 years. And so it was just a struggle. It was a struggle. It was not. But, you know, we had the house. We had the house on the hill. Right.

Right. Just fine. Everything in me know, we had the house. We had the house on the hill. Right, right. Just fine. Everything in me was screaming like I'm miserable. But boy, did we, you know, we looked like Barbie and Ken and we're going to call us Barbie and Ken. And I'm like, I'm so sick of that whole image bullshit thing. Like, I don't even want to live in this house. I used to say, I ain't give a shit about it. Like, none of this matters.

Everything in my soul was just screaming. I just wasn't happy. And I was supposed to be once I accomplished it all and I wasn't. So. My gosh, that's so true. I've heard so many women say this, the same story with me. So I'm from originally from New Orleans. So that Southern hospitality and when we moved to Colorado, I mean, it was so crazy because it's totally opposite here. And also in California would be the same as Colorado. I mean, women didn't work. We stayed home. We took care of our kids. And I remember my mom coming up to me at my son's

first birthday and saying, aren't you going to feed your husband? Because it was like my first event that I was doing. And I was like, oh my God, I get to feed everybody. This is what I've been waiting for my whole life is to serve people. Because I had, I'd watched that and I was like, I'm in this role that I've always looked up to. And it turned into fibromyalgia. It turned into ADHD, anxiety, me on like 10 different medications because I hated my perfect life, right? I lost my mind. I'm like, how the frick did they do this with a smile on their face and not be medicated?

I don't know. I don't know either. I think, yeah, I don't know. And again, right? That's in our generation. That's what I mean. We're new at this work, balance, life, kid, money, everything thing. Right. And so I think that that journey for us and all of our different past lives that we were suppressed and, you know, and I've done hundreds of past lives on myself too. It's just fascinating. So this really is our time, I think, to be

in our own genius and connect to all that wisdom that we have. And women have been suppressed because I think men are intimidated at our intuition and our power and our femininity and all the great things we bring to the table. And still, you know, I don't know, politically, you know, when you just see the war of old versus higher consciousness, it's fascinating to me. I think it's more of an energetic war than it is a people war. Yeah, right. Yeah, true. And there is a lot of people waking up, a lot of women waking up. And we need also, though, guidance. And that's why so many people listen to Sensible Podcast. And that's why amazing women like you are very important to help guide other women.

And there's a lot of patterns and a lot of things that need to be rewired. A lot. I would agree. I would agree. And really finding, you know, I tell people like, my genius is mine, yours is yours. And they're all it's like a vase of flowers. They're all beautiful. Yes. And it's like, if you just let yourself grow in your own and, you know, people would say to me back in the day, you know, is it scary? Are you going to find out? It's like, trust me, everything you already have is in you.

I'm just here to help you either delete, remove, dissolve stuff that isn't serving your soul and move and grow and flow into the things that are going to make you the happiest. But I think there's so many pieces to that. It's not one thing. It's not like, oh, that one thing, the house is going to make me happier. The guy is going to make me happier. It really is a whole tray, if you will. It's a whole buffet of things we need, right?

We need balance. We need to feel cared for as women, even if that's from our girlfriends. We need good relationships. We need nurturing to each other. And that trust, like you said. Right. Yes. And it's okay to ask for help. I was so afraid to ask for help for so many years. Oh, that's my big one. Yeah. And I needed help. I needed help with my kid. I needed help. And so I think that fear of nobody's going to be there for me or say no, or they can't do it as good as I can do it. You know, there's so much happening in our own internal self that we get on a screen or we get into a meeting and we're not saying

those things, you know, you know, we don't walk up and shake someone's hand and say, hi, I'm not good enough. Oh my God, that's so true. Right. But that's what people are experiencing. I'm not worthy. I'm not valued. I'm not shaking their hand. Yeah. Wow. That's a good one. You know, even sitting with every single different soul, you just learn so much. And when you've done that thousands of times, you just tune into stuff so fast.

I mean, I can literally sit with anyone i'm gotten really good i could probably help you with this if you need help i'm very good at turning it off and on so if i'm like going into like the courtroom or whatever i'm like switch it all off don't want to tune in don't want to feel it you know i don't like protect myself i'm just like shut it down cap and it's gone and then i do what i need to do and i get out and then i'm just like i'll flip it on okay spirit like i'm good at knowing when to stop that energy because then as an empath like you don't want to soak it in or sponge it up right so in certain environments you have to be able to just go turn it off want it off and then flip it back.

It's like a switch. So it's important for your own well-being and your own chakras and your own energy field to not absorb all that stuff. I'm glad you're saying this because I feel like it's reminding me to do this. I haven't done that in a while. Some of my practices that I know a hundred percent got me to where I am. I've slacked on. And so I think that, you know, it's a great reminder to say, you know, I have a great toolbox. I'm just not going into it. So I need to go back in there. Yeah. And I need support. We all need support, you know, and I need to ask for help. And someone like you would be amazing for me. We should meet offline and then we can definitely

connect and yeah, contribute and help you for sure. Yeah, thank you. If anybody wanted to work with you, where can they find you? And what do you have going on? Yeah, so my website is my name. It's KappyPidwell.com. And I have a book, it's called The Mindset Code. And it's my subconscious secrets for change. And anybody can pick any topic they want work through the chapters. It's like a working workbook, I guess you could say. It's got scripts in there and people can read them on their phone, or they can buy the products I've, you know, made them and stuff. So I have programs for money mindset, mental money mastery, explore your money mindset. And then of course I do coach people. So I have programs and products

on there that people can access on my website under my products tab. So you said that basically you could take anything and use your book. You really can. Yeah. Chapter one, I have you basically, so it's super simple. I love my book. I just have to say for a minute, the books that I mean, chapter one is like, pick a topic you want to work on. I don't care if it's weight loss, smoking, anything, money, whatever your topic relationship. And then you work on that topic through the whole book. And it's very easy read. So chapter one, you get clear on what you want. And then through the next few chapters, that's all you're working on. So what do you believe about this thing? How long

have you wanted the outcome around this thing? Right. We'll call it money. You know, what have you done to accomplish this? And then you start to really see your pattern and identify what your subconscious mind is, is doing. Cause it's already wired, right? And then I get into from education and information about the subconscious mind and how it's programmed. Then the next steps is there's some sessions in there that you read and then you fill in the blank on that topic. So it's really how I would work with you, sitting with you, but I did my best to put it in a book and then they can read it on their phone. And then there's a script. And then I have a mirror session where you sit in front of the mirror and

look into your own eyes and start to really connect with this issue. Where did it stem from? Where did it root from? Blah, blah, blah. And then so I have some processes in the book. And then the last page is like, if you get stuck or you can't clear this, you know, go do this and this and this. So it's really for any reader to take a topic clear this, you know, go do this and this and this. So it's really for any reader to take a topic. But, you know, I tell people focus on one topic at a time. Don't say I want to make money and lose weight and find the person of my dreams, like pick one.

That's amazing though. I mean, so this book is good for relationships or businesses or old childhood wounds, like whatever. Yes. Yes. I really love the, took a long time as you know, just to try to figure out the sequence and the processes and what's going to serve the reader, you know, the best. But honestly, it's a book you could use over and over and over again. And that's what I like about it. You could process and go through it with one topic and then go back, you know, pretty cool. That's amazing. So it's a forever book. It is a forever book. And I even

went to the extent of, because when people buy a book, often they don't read the whole book. I went to the next level and I made a program around it that people could watch 14 days of videos with me walking them through the book. Oh, I love that. Yeah. And then helping them. And then I pre-recorded the sessions if they didn't want to record them themselves. So I have a, you know, I kind of went that extra mile with the book if people didn't want to do it themselves.

Have you heard that before? And I don't know if that's what you're saying right now, but I've heard that before that if you kind of like record for yourself, like certain things, like whether it's a meditation or affirmations that you can listen to your own voice. Yeah, I do. I mean, because I've made myself hundreds of products, but I think a lot of times where people get stuck with that is number one, a lot of people don't like their own voice. Oh, I just hate my voice.

A lot of people say that. The second thing is sometimes their voice is- They reject it. With their inner voice. Yes. So to listen to somebody else saying, from this point forward, you're going to feel blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. They can receive and absorb it a little easier versus their voicing because they're like no that's not how i feel right so sometimes there's more conflict with yeah like this unconscious thing for you yeah okay totally get that yeah thank you so much you're such a beautiful person i've learned so much you're so

wise and i appreciate you coming on sharing i. I'm going to go get your book. And I'm going to work on my book because I feel inspired right now. I love that. Thank you. So I appreciate being with you today. Thank you for letting me share and just being your energy. It's been lovely. Thank you.

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