Sense of Soul - Unconditional Self Love

Episode Date: January 26, 2024

Today on Sese of Soul podcast we have Judith Costa. She is an Unconditional Love Coach and Self-Love Expert, Seminar Leader, Writer and Speaker, with a Master’s Degree in Psychology and Psychotherapy and an MBA. Judith helps her clients overcome their inner blocks to LOVE, to know themselves better, to achieve their dreams, and to find Love and Happiness. Judith offers many programs as well as retreats around the world. She uses a combination of different techniques such as Astrology, Reiki, Meditation, Dream Interpretation, Self-Coaching, Past Life Regression, and the Akashic Records. Which all helped her find her meaning, and convinced her that her path was helping others find their own way. Do you want to discover the map of your life and happiness? Or do you simply need some perspective to recover your way?  Let Judith help you discover your inner compass. Visit her website at www.judithmcosta.com Learn more about Sense of Soul Podcast: https://www.senseofsoulpodcast.com Check out the NEW affiliate deals! https://www.mysenseofsoul.com/sense-of-soul-affiliates-page      

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monthly circles, and much more. Now go grab your coffee, open your mind, heart, and soul. It's time to awaken. Today on Sense of Soul, we have Judith Costa. She is an unconditional love coach and self-love expert, a seminar leader, writer, and speaker with a master's degree in psychology and psychotherapy. Judith helps her clients overcome their inner blocks to love, to know themselves better, and to achieve their dreams and to find love and happiness.

Judith uses many modalities such as astrology, Reiki, meditation, dream interpretation, self-coaching, past life regression, and Akashic records, which all helped her along the way. And now she wants to help others find their own way. So please welcome this beautiful soul. Thank you so much for being with me. Thank you for the invite. Yeah, I'm excited to talk to you. In my journey, I have found that self-love is something I was lacking. And when I awakened to it, it was what broke me open.

Well, me too. Tell me about that. Well, there was a moment in my life where nothing was working. From outside, I had the perfect life, nice marriage, a handsome husband, enough money, a beautiful house. The problem with not loving yourself is that you can do it for a certain period of time. But if you continue going against yourself ever and ever and ever, you are going to have consequences. It can be spiritual, it can be emotional, it can be physical, doesn't matter. But there is a moment where even if you try to fake it, it can be emotional, it can be physical, it doesn't matter. But there is a moment where even if you try to fake it, it's not going to work.

You are going to go down. I had problems with my thyroid, that it's connected with emotional problems. I had depression. I couldn't make decisions because when I kind of recovered to have clarity and to connect with myself, it didn't last enough to make the changes. And then I went down again, no? And I was in this cycle of not being okay and not knowing what was happening. I never had been, even though I have a master in psychology and psychotherapy, but I did mostly to understand my dreams. And it's based on the teachings of Carl Gustav Jung. I have not been connected with the idea of just therapy,

going there and talking about your problems or taking a pill and thinking this is going to resolve everything. Then the only, the only thing that I could do is to start knowing myself. And I think that this is the beginning of a different relationship with yourself. What's going on, who you are, What do you like? What do you want? Not the roles that you have in this lifetime. It's more about that maybe you have abandoned yourself in a relationship, in a job, in life, whatever happens. And you have to just come back home, come back to yourself and find out what do

you want to do with the rest of your lives? My clients, when I ask this question to my clients, the ones I coach say, oh, that's a difficult question to say, yeah, but this is what we have to figure out together. Yeah. You know, I remember when I was first in therapy years ago, I remember this woman would ask me the same question every week. Like, what have you done for yourself this week, Shanna? And I was like, I'm here. And then I, another question she would ask is what are you good at? Oh, that one got me. And all I could ever say was like, well, I guess I'm a good mom. I mean, I really couldn't come up with anything for myself. Yeah, no, I understand. I asked this to my clients and it's very difficult because we

don't cultivate this sense of appreciation. Loving yourself starts with accepting yourself. And we have many judgments. We are very self-critical we don't like ourselves it's weird because we spend with ourselves like you are with yourself 24 hours 365 days a year and you make it difficult then from acceptance from saying okay this is the whole package i don't have to be perfect. I just have to be me. We move to self-appreciation. Then who you are, that without your achievements, your worth doesn't depend on the money that you have in the bank, your social status, the work that you do. Then you have to understand that you are valuable because you exist, that this worth is your birthright. You don't have to do anything to achieve this. But this creates a disconnection because we are so used to the idea that love is conditional. This is what we have learned

since we were kids. Then love is this exchange that in order to really get the love and the belonging and everything that I really need, I have to fit. I have to be at a certain way. I have to show the best version of myself. Then we start shifting and changing and creating this personality that goes around showing this that we are not, maybe, but we feel comfortable showing to others. And that makes us

like be intentional all the time, because we cannot be us shining with our own light, because we believe that in order to get this love, we have to be somewhat different or someone different. And we learn this very early in life. And I wish we learned the opposite very early in life. I've always said that. Can you imagine a world where this is like the first thing that we teach our children? Oh, yeah. But there are two sides to this. First, not all of us maybe have conscious parents. And now there is a big conversation about conscious parenting that was not there before. First, solve your own problems. Don't try to create a mini you and educate this person with the same patterns that you have.

Or like fulfill the dreams that you didn't, you know. Yeah, but even at an unconscious level no all this uh stuff that you haven't resolved and that you're putting on the next generation no but uh i have different tools all of them to access the the unconscious and sometimes we realize that from a soul perspective there are different reasons why we choose to be incarnated in a family that is not giving us the love that we want we don't have parents that really cultivate this self-love they cannot share it with us because they don't know what it is this love and you just have to perform in life and something happens just shut up and continue living and this is because maybe we have to create

this self-love from scratch maybe we have chosen an environment that doesn't give us this because our soul came with an agenda to learn exactly that and I have seen it in my marriages that was the reason why I thought I got divorced the first time and he was the perfect teacher for me to love myself more to awaken this because there is a moment where again your soul says not anymore yeah you cannot stop being yourself to be in the relationship then where are you you awake yourself like be just you and see what happens. And then when you do this, you say that maybe, yeah, the relationship doesn't work, not because you don't love each other. I

still love my ex-husband, but it's because there are certain things that you need to learn. And when the circumstances are there, you are able to do that. You are able to overcome things that if you don't have the test, you will never work on those things. You will never make the effort, not even have the conversation about. I found that I was searching for love outside of me, that love and validation for my parents, my partner, for my children. I just, you know, that codependency. I'm going to love you so much and you're going to love me back the same. And, you know, that's one thing that was so big for me when I learned that not outside of you.

No, when you discover that you are the source of love things get simplified because it's like if you have a magical refrigerator this is an example and it's in a book that i love the mastery of love no that no matter what you take out of the refrigerator it really has more and more and more and because you have a lot you can share all this food with everyone and with self-love happens the same if you are the source if you cultivate it then you always have more and more to share the problem is like we give and give and give we don't replenish our batteries we don't go and buy more groceries than put in the refrigerator yeah and then we give from a position where we don't we are empty we don't have anything to give then what we are giving is not love anymore its obligation is i should i need to because i'm used to it it creates resentment because at the end i give but because i don't receive and love

is a flow it has to be given and receive at the same time, you give and it comes back to you. Then there is a moment where you say, what about me? And you become resentful. Then it needs a shift in paradigm. Maybe you have seen all your life that love has been conditional, that people that love you ask you something in return. But when you have it inside of yourself and you don't depend on external love, approval, validation and everything that you have said, then you are free. You are free to love whoever you want.

You can even love someone in spite of who this person is because you choose. Then the good thing about your relationships is that they improve because you don't try to fix, change, or possess the other people. You can just allow them to be the way they are because you are not trying to get anything out of the relationship. You are giving your 50%

and you try to make it as good as you can, but you allow the other people to be and you give a space for them to grow without saying like yeah i don't like you because of this or that you have to change or or we have this problem or that problem then you can approach them from a place of love and not from a place of judgment the more you love yourself the more you start being understanding and compassionate and kind with yourself. And then you're able to do the same with others. And I think that a lot of people are like, oh my gosh, no, I know I love myself. I know I love my

family, all of these things. And it's like, let's not forget that you're loving yourself as long as you stay just like you are right now when you love yourself. But as soon as you gain five pounds, all of a sudden, maybe you're not loving yourself as much, right? There's those expectations and conditions. Yeah, you're totally right. I mean, how easy is to love yourself when everything is right? But when we believe that we have made a mistake, how can we forgive ourselves? We can accept those parts of ourselves that we don't like. And that's the beauty of this journey because self-love is a journey.

It's not something that you cultivate. But coming back to what you say, yeah, I have clients that say, yeah, I love myself so much. I have a great relationship with myself. You say, okay, for a week, please write on your phone everything that you say to yourself, every thought. Because in one day, maybe we criticize ourselves,

I don't know how many times, but in a week, you will have like the tendency. How is the curve? Then when they come back to the next session, they say, oh, wow, I wasn't aware of this. We are so mean with ourselves, so hard. Worse than the people we criticize that you don't treat me well. No, we are sometimes our worst enemy. And, you know, I have found that the things that you are telling

yourself that self-abuse is actually what you will allow other people to tell you as well, because you believe it about yourself. So when someone's saying, oh, my, my partner's just so rude to me, he's always saying, you know, you're lazy or something. And then all of a sudden he calls you a bitch. Whoa, whoa, wait a minute. Now that's not okay. But it was okay that he said all of these other things. And if you're quiet and listen, you'll find that those are the same things you're telling yourself. That's why you didn't have that same reaction to when he called you a bitch, because now you know you're not a bitch, but do you know that you aren't all those other things that you allowed? Yeah, it's complicated because we don't set up boundaries because we are afraid of losing love

or creating a bad moment or changing the dynamics of our relationship or losing the love that we want. And then we really allow things to happen. And maybe when we react, as you say, no, I mean, this is just too much. It's a little bit late, but it's never late. There is always a chance to stand up for yourself and to say what you have to say. The problem is that a lot of the ideas that we have about ourselves are not conscious. We don't go through life saying, I'm a loser. I'm a bitch. I'm terrible. I'm not going to make it. I'm a disaster. No, we in theory consciously have a good opinion about ourselves, but we have a programming. We have a lot of unconscious beliefs and patterns that we acquire from zero to seven.

We don't discriminate and everything that everyone tells us becomes the truth. And we accumulate ideas about how the world works, who are we and what happens. Then every of these messages is still there. It's like if you have a computer, unless you install and upgrade, it keeps running with the old programming no then with that happens the same then yeah consciously you may think that you have a great opinion about yourself but there are a lot of belief systems that if you don't see it and find out what they are and you can see in your in your actions you don't have to go through a past life regression or do many other things about this. And I do, I have the tools. I opened Akashic Records and I can tell you, just see about

what you complain. For example, when we do a practice in how to find your soulmate, this worship that I have. And you say, what are your complaints in the last relationships that you established? Oh, he didn't pay attention to me at all. I was very involved in the relationship, but he was always busy. He didn't really care about my opinion, my time and all of this. How was the relationship that you had with yourself? Do you care about yourself, your time? Do you really have a good relationship? Then it's kind of our inner world represented outside for us to learn. And this is great news because when something becomes conscious, we can heal it. We can change it.

We can do something about it. But if it's in the unconscious, if it's this programming, this pattern that runs away once and once again then it's very difficult to do something about it because you're unaware I'm a different mother today than I was you know with my older children they're in their you know 20s and my younger one she gets the more awakened awakened mother. Lucky her. Maybe. But I think that there was this very dysfunctional thing that when you came home with good grades, we celebrated and you felt the love. When you hit a home run, we cheered and your fans all gave you the pat on the back there's this love that is associated with victory and with success yeah and you know and that is not loving unconditionally and I yeah I almost think that in those times people need love more

yeah but again how I'm going to give you something that I don't have But in those times, people need love more. Yeah, but again, how am I going to give you something that I don't have? Right. Then unless we believe that love is not something that we give and we get empty of, it's something that we can really cultivate and replenish. I can love someone for no reason. I can love someone no matter what. But it's really difficult for our mind to understand because we have lived in a different way all our lives. And I believe that the reason why we are here is to learn how to love and how to be loved. Then we have to go through all these experiences to really arrive to the point of this unconditional

love this is the phd of love yeah and most of us we are between kindergarten and middle school and some people are in university we are at different levels learning how this works. But we blame others for the way we see love, disappointments, betrayals, our parents didn't love us enough. And I think that when you're an adult, there is a moment where you have to figure it out that maybe it's not out there, as you say, you're looking for love in the wrong place. You have to start looking inside and seeing what you can do about love towards yourself, connecting the idea that you are not alone here. You are not separated from the rest of the universe. You are part of this. You are this drop in the ocean that it supported, that it's here for a reason. Without you, the universe will be different without your existence

certain things will be amazing how difficult is that someone is born the probabilities that are that all of this happen and still you are here then you are here for a reason then when we start really paying attention of everything great that we have that we bring to the table that love is not doesn't equal relationship love is just something that i give because i can and it's a big concept because we have been talking about loving yourself without really defining it. But it implies so many different things. It's appreciating. It's stop judging. It's finding your voice.

It's setting up boundaries. It's honoring yourself. It's forgiving yourself for your mistakes or anything that you feel like it's that. It's having fun and connecting with pleasure. It's a combination of factors and you don't have to be perfect in all these areas. Just have to choose the ones that are more difficult for you and start working in one, just focus on one thing. And we have so much against us. I mean, you know, I've had on a few, one of the first oversized models and, you know, what a huge statement that is to love your body too, which I think for women, well, and

men, it's such a big deal because we've been covering our body and shaming our body, especially women, for so long. I started my career helping people to find true love, to find their soulmates. And very soon I realized that there were a couple of reasons. We sometimes get stuck in a moment in life and we are not able to forgive ourselves or we don't love ourselves enough to connect with this idea of love. And that was the reason why I created this other workshop about falling in love with yourself. But then I got cancer, thyroid cancer.

And I was teaching self-love at that moment. And I thought I loved myself, no? But it was the perfect opportunity to take it to the really practical stuff, no? And that was the reason why I created this workshop, Fall in Love with Your Body, because it doesn't matter if we talk about losing weight or what are the illnesses that we have. It seems that the body is this machine that has to be perfect. And when it's broken, we get angry with the body, no? When the body is just answering to everything we are doing to come back to perfect health as much as it can. If we get out of our way, you know, then fortunately, my experience with cancer was great.

It was not an aggressive thing. I feel everything is great. And don't worry about this. But I had to make changes. And there was the moment to really think, I am living for the future of I am living right here, right now. What is important? I'm going to use the best glasses to have this drink. Or I'm going to just use the day to day because this is for special occasions. Every day is a special occasion. Your body listens to everything you say. Then if you encourage your body to heal, to support the healing, you listen to its messages.

You really understand that losing weight is not about calories and just what you ingest. Exercise. That maybe the weight has a component of all the emotional baggage that you are carrying. And this is another area of loving yourself. Like, are you ready to let go of everything that you carry from the past and to live in the present and to create the future you want? Doesn't matter what happened in the past. What happens is what are you going to do with your life from now on? My biggest thing is with self-worth. And like you said, I believe that self-love is a journey. Sure. It definitely awakened me and it is a practice every day, but yet there's still this ego that I have that will come in sometimes and say, you step back and make sure everybody else has before

you. And the reason is, is because like you said, in those first seven years where we're in theta brainwave and we're watching the world and how it is, this is what was demonstrated in the mothers in my life. They were martyrs. And actually I grew up honoring that and thinking it was very beautiful to be selfless. And I wanted to be just like them. And I was. I was very good at it until me too. A pain, right? My body started to react to it.

My mind was all over the place. So what I did was numb it all, right? Took all the medications to numb it all, but there's, it's still there. And until you actually can truly listen to that voice and be the witness to it and tell it to get lost. That's not true about me. That's an old narrative. And I don't live that way anymore. But it still happens. Not as often. But yeah. No, thank you for sharing. I think that we are touching something that a lot of people that are listening have. Again, we have been educated, or we have ancestral or genetic patterns, family patterns in the way we have to behave. And we follow that because it might be not comfortable. It might not be giving results, but it's the way the programming

is. Then you just follow what you have learned. I always say that we go through life with a big suitcase and we keep putting things on it, yeah let's see it's a backpack and more there is a moment where the backpack is so heavy that we go down no like we cannot continue then there is a moment to sit on the side of the road and say okay what is inside of my suitcase my backpack no okay oh this i don't believe this anymore, no, then I can throw it away. Or this, oh, this comes from my parents, but I don't think that I have the same belief system. Okay, I can let it go. But if you don't really do this kind of reflection on your life, and the rules and regulations that you are following, the belief systems, the patterns, the things that are are there you will never find out because again

your brain is wired in a way that has a lot of automatic processes we go on autopilot because the brain cannot function in a way that can make these micro decisions that we have to do all the time then it automatized part of the things like it always have been this way then you continue being this way until you add new material new belief systems you let go of this you release and acquire new ways of being then what you just said especially for women mothers even more is very important i have learned that i'm the last. Then what I tell people is in front of every decision, small or big, like I'm going to eat now or I'm going to do something else before because it has to be ready when the kids arrive home.

What is the best choice for me now? Do you know, I can't ever remember my mom, my grandma ever sitting down and eating with us more. My mother, even now today. And I can honestly say that definitely stopped with me. I even make sure that I eat sometimes first before them. And it definitely stopped with me because my daughters, they practice self-love. They know that I do. But I mean, but there was even a time, Judith, that I would have to lie to go get a massage because I didn't feel like I was worth it. I felt like that was selfish.

That's the reason why I emphasize that the more love you have for yourself, the more you can share, because a lot of people think that, oh, if you love yourself and you put yourself first, then you are selfish. And lot of people think that oh i if you love yourself and you put yourself first then you are selfish and it's not about that it's like love can expand in your heart it's like you say i can love my children but i can love my husband or i can love my husband but i cannot love the dog i mean you you can have a heart big enough to love. There are many different kinds of love. It's not only a romantic relationship. Then love is something that will transform your life and transform everything you touch.

But if your worth depends on the external, on what you achieve, then you are never going to be worthy then i think that's something that changed for me and i think it's the first time i expressed this idea in public really is when i really start strengthening my relationship with the divine when i really figure out that i was not here left alone, I was part of something big and I was loved unconditionally from this big force, call it whatever you want, then my worth was not connected anymore to this lifetime because we don't even have an idea of the big plan. We don't have the big picture. We don't know the lessons of our soul. And we try to compare one with another, like if

all humans are here for the same reason and doing the same things with the same talents and same difficulties and same, that's not true. We are all here in our own path. We have a lot of similarities and we live in this earth together. But from a soul perspective, our journeys are totally different. And it's a little bit absurd that we try to achieve what other people want without asking ourselves what is important for you, why you came here, what are you feeling you have to do with your life. I agree with you. In fact, a while back, it was in a meditation, which I always just let the meditation come forth and whatever I see, I just kind of do. And there was a meditation and whoever it was, I quite don't remember at

the moment, but they're probably listening. But I remember it was from a soul's perspective where in this sacred space, this person met this light and this light was clearly telling this person, I chose you. I chose this body. I chose your mind. I chose your parents. I chose all of this because I knew there'd be something so divine about everything about you and your life. And it was almost like the soul had like walked in front of her physical body and was speaking to her. And it was very touching. Even for me, I was surprised, you know, even being the one who was relaying this in her meditation, that we're all so unique and we all are so purposeful. Like you said, connected to the divine all sparks of the divine just knowing that that your soul picked you your body whether you had effed up parents or the perfect parents whatever it was right

so important like you're so special thank you yeah it's so beautiful it's so beautiful thank you for that and i think that one of the reasons why I changed was when I started working with the Akashic Records. For those that don't know what it is, it's a field of information with everything about us is recorded. Every thought, every experience, every feeling, every event that happened. It's like the book of your soul it's it's the journey of your soul from the inception from this disconnection from Source your present incarnation and also contains the future development of your soul like the potential no because we we have free will then we can really change our future but when I do a session with someone or in the classes, I see how these beings that are

emissaries of the divine, we call them masters of the Akashic records, but they don't have a name, really. They don't have a body. They're pure energy, pure unconditional love, as we were mentioning before, how they really can support us and guide us without any judgment. This is one of the things that people say after a consultation. I have never received guidance that comes with such a love where I felt supported but without any kind of, this is the thing that you have to do. When we are talking about an important problem that someone has and we realize that in the journey of the soul, this lifetime that we are having, this problem that we are having is like five minutes in the journey of your soul. And we are so concerned and it's like life or death and how you can really see and say okay life gonna continue and you're gonna be okay and you have to trust that you are never alone always supported always loved the way

you are and then you start connecting with this idea and when I see it again and again and again in how the clients are treated by them because i'm just an intermediate person and being a channel in that moment no of the information that these beings have for them and the questions that the client has for these beings but it's so interesting to realize that all the pressure that we put on ourselves is just self-pressure one can just love us the way we are we don't have to be fixed or improved we just have to say everything is okay the way it is and declare this and start a new every breath you take is a new opportunity to live differently you know i think one of the things about being that witness and listening to the voice is that the ego is the one who would say, you're not living

the right way or you're not doing the right thing. So you're not worth it. You're not good enough. All these things, if your soul would never tell you something like that, because your soul could care less, you know, if you went to college or if you have the best body, you know, may care that you have a healthy body because this is its vehicle. But there is a clear difference in the soul and ego when you really, truly listen. Yeah, maybe for some people that they don't believe or the soul, it means too much. You can say you have a selfish voice of your heart or the voice of the ego. Usually the ego is very loud and it screams. And so much shit it's very mean the voice of your inner self your higher self or your soul

your heart is whispers and it needs some silence some calmness to be heard and that's the beauty of spending a couple of minutes just in silence looking at something or meditate or be mindful while you are washing the dishes just wash the dishes because when you are doing something that you create the space for these messages to come to you to arrive to you if you're busy busy busy all the time there is no space and you cannot listen to this voice. But it's very easy to distinguish because the heart comes with love. It doesn't really tell you what to do. It gives you, never takes you. No judgment. Put yourself down. Exactly. Which is so hard for some people to accept that because when they think about going to the other side you know many of us have grown

up with christian beliefs that you're going to be judged judgment day yeah and and i ask in the workshops uh a lot of people what do you have to unlearn because again a lot of the work that i do it's not like oh let me tell you the solution and then you really do this and your life is going to be wonderful. It's like, first, maybe we have to delete some programs from the system, identify some things that are not working and learn certain ways of living to install something else on top of this I mean I don't like research with mice but they have saved the current electricity on top of some mice when they have a concrete aroma smell and then the office spring of these mice never have been electrocuted like never received these shots of electricity, two generations down, when they have the same aroma, the same smell,

they reacted with the same fear. Then, sorry for this, that is very disturbing, at least for me. Yeah. And I'm very sorry for the mice. But what it's telling us that we are a product of a lot of things

that we have inherited. Unconsciously. We have a genetic lineage we have an ancestral lineage we have a lot of things that we not aware i mean i do this for living and i keep investigating investigating and investigating and more things are coming and i have fun with this but i realize that the idea that i have about myself does have nothing in common with the reality. And we tend to torture ourselves. The opinion that you have about yourself is not true because it's based in this programming, in these old things that you have learned. Someone told you that you have been practicing whatever it is, doesn't serve you anymore. Yeah. And unless you're conscious of it, you don't get to make

your own choices in your life. Yeah, but good news. The brain is plastic. We have this concept now of neuroplasticity. We can change. I tell people when they say, oh, but changing is so hard. And I say, no, it's harder to stay where you are, where you are unhappy. Again, you can start anytime you want.

Don't wait until tomorrow, next week, next month. Do it in the next breath. Just a baby step is necessary nothing else you don't have to really figure out where are you going start with a concept that it's difficult for you and find a way i can share a lot of tools for a lot of people is forgiveness then learning how to let go forgive but not in, again, Christian sense of I'm a good person and I'm going to forgive you. The idea is not to really make the things disappear or condone the events that happen. The forgiveness is what sets you free, what allows you to move forward

with your life. Yeah. Don't be attached, right? Exactly. This backpack and say, okay, I'm going to put everything outside and it's going to be recycled. It's going to be this energy. I don't have to carry it anymore. And I can continue with my life. Like I'm lighter and freer and I can make new decisions and I have a space for new beliefs, new things that are going to happen in my life then everything is energy you know your thoughts the way the way you see life the approach that you have then the more you look at life as an opportunity the more you look at yourself as a work in progress like a white canvas that can have a beautiful painting on it the more you are able to create a different life. The one that you want. We have like the mirror looking at the past to criticize ourselves, or we are afraid of the

future because we're not going to be able to figure out what next. And we are in this middle ground where we don't feel safe or secure, then it's difficult to build self-love from this perspective. There is a power in the living in the now. If I ask you, Shanna, right here, right now, everything is okay? In this moment with me talking, then this is where we live. This is where life is happening. This powerful moment is where your life is happening. The important is the mom that you are right now. The important is the decisions that Judith make to be un-stuck and work differently and live differently. Then we all have certain ways of being.

We are afraid of taking risks, of living what is known and living in a different way. But there is so much waiting for us that we cannot imagine. Possibilities are there for us and they are looking for us and waiting for us instead of saying, yeah, that's the end. So in the Akashic record, how much of the information are you finding is present information or are you reviewing your past to make sense of your present life the good thing about the consultation of the cash breakers is totally depends on the questions or topics that the client will ask in hour, we have like time for 10 questions. Then if the person is really trying to find out what of their past lives is still affecting their life, then they are going to ask questions about that.

Why I have the same pattern of abandonment in relationships. And maybe it's really related with something that she experienced and she came into this lifetime to resolve that. A lot of people are dealing with stuff of this lifetime, no? People that have two jobs, two job offers that are very similar, like what is the best one for me? What I'm going to receive in each of one, like similar salaries, similar institutions,

but they can tell you about the team and the things that are going to happen and what are the good things about it and what you have to be careful about. And sometimes, yeah, it's information about the future, but they can give you an overview that it's good enough for you to make the best decision. It's like, this is what is going to happen in offer number one, and this is what is good in offer number two. Here you have and you decide. And yeah, people ask about about even we have done like business plans marketing plans about companies talking about the slogans and talking about classes and and where to teach these classes and what to do you can open the cash records of

everything that means that not only you and me have a record a house have a record a business have a record everything that exists has a record, a business have a record, everything that exists has a record because in this field of information we call the Akashic Records is where we are all one. And there is a lot of physicists getting involved in this and explaining it from the point of view of the scientists because it's a little bit complex to understand how is possible that this field of information,

it's like if you have a webcam attached to to you where yeah everything we do we do now this information no but the funny thing is like people say it's like the book of your soul no it's it has video like this conversation it's not only been recorded in neutral point. No, it has your thoughts, your ideas about what is the next question I'm going to ask, what happened, how you feel about the answer, how is it going? And it has information from my perspective. How do I feel, what I'm thinking, what I'm talking about? Sounds like an algorithm. I mean, literally, that's the same thing.

But people will believe that it's an algorithm that just developed on its own, you know, in technology, but they have a hard time believing in, you know, something that they can't tangibly see. I stopped trying to convince people, but really until you really try, it's difficult to understand how it's possible that these records are accessible.

And I teach classes. I mean, this is not something that i do like because i have a gift anyone can learn to do this in a weekend i teach you how to access your own records have to have this oracle available for you 24 7 and and to have this kind of guidance and then it's up to you to ask questions i remember when i learned like i had so many questions about what happens and what is this questions that you always wanted to know and you never know to whom to ask these things and now is like the most important time they're going within to ask because there's so much false information you know people are always looking for answers online and yikes yeah yeah yeah don't tell me like yeah we will and all this then i think that also one of the things that are good about loving yourself it's like you stop not only comparing yourself to

others you stop caring about what others think about yourself it's not even it's not your business you cannot control the opinions of others then you try to make decisions from a space in your heart where it's the decisions that you are making feels right then even if you are getting information from out there you have to filter through who you are and what's the best for you now i think that the problem that in the past everybody believed like oh it's a scene in tv then oh that that must be good, no? Resolve a lot of the issues about trusting, then you stop looking for the validation and start like going into your path. This is the way I should go. And I understand that maybe it's not your way, or you don't get

that, or maybe you would do it differently. When you love yourself, there is a level of respect for who you are that you can really apply into others. You stop putting pressure on yourself all the time just to be this perfect being that needs to show up in the world. And you say, OK, this is who I am. This is me. This is the package. When you are honestly yourself and you come from this authentic place, this is the package. When you are honestly yourself

and you come from this authentic place, then people also appreciate because they can also like put the fence down. I can just be myself too. And that's the reason why everyone wants to have a partner because when you're at home, you can just be relaxed and be there and be you. And relationships fail when you are constantly fading and you don't

have the safe place to go back you know right the more you practice with yourself this love the easier it becomes to do it with others and I think it's also good I mean we see a lot of differences in in relationships now there are a lot of things that separated us but what if we put attention in what unite us and what we have in common in what we really want to build together we tend to look in everything that the other person is not doing right and what if we as we start the conversation not saying we have to build a sense of appreciation for ourselves but not for our achievements just because exist, we start looking at the person that we have in front, just seeing it as valuable as it is and appreciating all the gifts that it brings

to the table instead of seeing all the faults. I love that. And also treating yourself that way. You know, that was probably the most eye-opening thing was when, I don't remember if someone had told me this or where it came from, but early on I had heard how horrible I was talking to myself. And I just thought I would never tell this to my children, to my daughter. I would never look at my daughter and look at her and say, you are not worth it. You're not worth it. You know, you aren't good enough. You're stupid. But I was doing that to myself. Well, because the perfect definition of self-love is just be your best friend. Just treat yourself the way you treat those you love. That's it. I really think this would change the world. This is my opinion. I believe that if we all learn to love ourselves,

it would almost be impossible to hate somebody else, to not, you know, want to see love in them too. Yeah, there are a lot of subtle changes. I remember there was one day, I don't ask a lot of personal questions when I meet someone and my ex-husband and say, oh, and where does this person come from and what he does for living and how old is i don't have any idea but you have been talking for an hour but i don't know i want to know the real you not not not the circumstances of the person and there was one day and i started looking

at the at the people here like like like if here is the seat of the soul and I can see through you the personality and connect with the essence of who you are I don't care if you are slim or fat man or woman old or young I don't care I just want to be with you with the real you the part of you that that really matters to me is that this is what I want to connect with. Then coming back to what you said, if we really allow love to guide our lives, yes, we will build a different world. But we are so busy pointing the fingers at others when we should just look at ourselves and eat the stars and it ends within you. The more love you bring to the table, the more loving world you build. Then don't wait for others to do that.

Just start doing it yourself. Start right now. Thank you so much, Judith. So much wisdom. I love this topic. It means so much to me. Get to know yourself. Love yourself. I love this topic. It means so much to me. Get to know yourself. Love yourself.

Yeah, don't get the scare. Don't get the scare. A lot of people think, okay, if I look inside, what am I going to find? No, they only love it. It's like in the shadow. There is not only the bad things about you, the ones that you don't want to accept. There is all your potential, all your creativity. Everything that you have to unlock is there.

Then go inside and find out who you are and live to the fullest you have so much to offer to the world my greatest hope is that you know everyone you know could love themselves yeah i created an organization if you just allow me uh it's not promotion is a little profit but it's called love love and love and aims to really help people to connect with love but true love where they can find resources and everything we have a shop for example that has only products that have the word love yeah it's the way we can support the organization and get resources to to do activities and pay for things, no? Where can they go? To your website?

Yeah, there is a website called love, love, and E-N-D. Okay. And love.org. And tell everybody about what you do, where they can like work with you and the Kashuk Records teaching of a book. Yeah, mostly I do coaching and a Kashuk Records consultations and classes. I have

workshops, fall in love with yourself, fall in love with your body, how to find your soulmate, how to find your desires. I also have some things and dreams that changed my life. I write a blog. If you go to my website, there is a contact form, then go there, send me an email and schedule a consultation, whatever you want of course social media and all of this and it's judith m okay dot com i saw your your podcast and i found you through an interview that you did and that yeah i want i want to talk with her well thank you i'm so glad you did. Yeah. And you opened the doors. And I'm so grateful.

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