Sex, Lies & DM Slides - 102. Have you ever had a flirtationship?

Episode Date: July 31, 2024

Today, we’re diving into the world of flirtationships and what happens when they move from DMs to real life. Ever had someone slide into your DMs and a flirtationship that only exists there? We’re sharing your responses and stories. Ana spills on the time she left after 10 minutes because of a major catfish—have you ever been catfished? Plus, we debate whether Instagram is actually the biggest dating app out there. Join us for a fun and revealing episode! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Visit connectsontario.ca. let's go hello everyone welcome back to sex lies and dm slides it is thursday which means we are back for a bonus episode so on tuesday we did one of our favorite episodes and favorite topics we answered all of your dating dilemmas some of them were fucking wild so go and listen to that i just will never go over the fact that some of them are real uh but today we are going to speak about always blow my mind no honestly it's crazy not like crazy not like yeah your guys's dating situation is just wild like i thought mine was bad no but today we are going to speak about whether we've ever had a flirtationship with someone you've never met and what happened when you try to meet up with them so first of all what is a flirtationship so according to Olivia Petter

who is a writer for the independent it always starts the same way someone you've never met in real life starts sliding into your dms and it can happen out of nowhere and nothing and the first message isn't necessarily flirty it's like more often than not like it's not flirty like very like casual cute um but then soon this person starts messaging you very regularly and then you start to wonder when are they going to ask you out but then that's the thing with instagram flirtationships they only ever exist within the dms i actually feel like this has happened to me many times 100 i have spoken to so many people on dm and nothing has

ever come from it but they'll always randomly pop up at a story. Or randomly pop up at something. And they'll maybe suggest meeting up. Then nothing. It just stays. Really see. I would say I've definitely experienced this. Weirdly. Not like.

Not recently. Not within the past two years. But when I was younger. I experienced this all the time like all the time guys would just constantly reply to all of my stories super flirty and it was just that was how I knew them they'd never ask me out they just would flirt with me all the time now as I've got older actually everyone that ever messages me always ends up asking me out. But I think maybe that's because of the age of guys

I'm speaking to. That definitely comes with age. Yeah. Or something's changed. So I'm assuming it's the age thing. But when I was younger, definitely like I experienced this all of the time. And I'd be like,

why are they just not asked to meet me? Yeah. With a flirtation though, there's no like commitment involved.'s so far from like commitment that none of that is involved it's literally just flirting with someone over the dms but in a way that actually makes you like think about that person more because why are they just flirting with me and like why is nothing coming of this like I can't even know how many times it's happened but we also asked you guys whether you've ever had a flirtationship with someone they'd never met

and we asked what happened and we're gonna listen to your responses but 70 of people said yes which is high but i kind of expected it to be high these are your responses that you guys sent him so i haven't met up with them as it's two hours away and i don't have the money so i don't know what to do see that is hard okay so that's that goes to show that they have made an effort to try and to try like to say to me because like for me i've experienced this without people even asking to me yeah same but you've obviously had that conversation and acknowledge the fact that you know you can't right now because you don't have the money to, and you're obviously two hours away,

but like you want to. So I would actually say that's not really a flirtationship because you've acknowledged it. Yes. You're more like- Yeah, I would too. Like it is a flirtationship for now, but it could definitely blossom into something else.

Yes. If you could meet each other. Whereas like to me, a flirtationship is somebody, I i mean it's the first time i'd heard heard of it but for me yeah somebody that then doesn't even make the effort to try and meet you they just literally like flirting with you and that's that a hundred percent let's go it's a new day. How can you make the most of it with your membership rewards points? Earn points on everyday purchases.

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Ooh, you know what? It's so much easier to flirt online than it is in person. And I think if you're just used to flirting with somebody constantly, and then you meet them and they're just not like that, it's really difficult. But also like, are they on about major catfish in the sense of like, do they not look like their pictures? Well,

yeah, definitely could be that too. That would really stress me out. Like really stress me out. I've never actually, have I been catfished like not really not like that bad where i'm like oh shit i've been catfished do you know what i mean i feel like people always like remotely like their photos but i've definitely

spoken to people before where they're like oh my god no i've met people and they look completely different and that is my biggest yeah i've never had that i've never someone said to me that i didn't look like my photos like they met me and they were like you look completely different in a bad way i'd be so i'd be like oh my god i'd be so upset like but you know what i've been questioning my pictures recently because i and this is a great thing but every person's been meeting meeting me recently has said to me and this is this is a this is what they've obviously I don't think this yeah this is what they've said to me and I'm like this is such a compliment but also

I'm like really questioning my photos everyone keeps saying to me oh my god like you're way prettier in person I'm thinking well what are people seeing online like is am I like showing like a and it's good that it's this way not the other way right but the the reactions i've been getting anna is like i don't look like my photos but everyone's saying it's a really like good thing but the reaction that's an amazing thing my photos huh i know that's an amazing thing i often get told i look better in real life and i think i'm so happy that you think that and that makes me so happy but then I'm also like yeah what is wrong with my pictures that's not quite portraying what people are seeing in real life then I don't know yeah but it's better to be that way I couldn't if it was the other way around I'd

be traumatized oh my god I'd be insanely offended to the point I'd be so embarrassed like I actually wouldn't want to show my face ever again so yeah catfish in not the vibe do you know what as well I actually I would admit I used to edit my photos quite a lot and I really genuinely don't do that anymore like I don't and my thing is I used to go somewhere and I used to and I would only edit it because of the idea of perfection on Instagram oh yeah and don't get me wrong like I feel as if everybody throws a filter on like does little things but I that I've been through stages where like I edited too much and I fully admit that and I don't do that anymore but I used to go out and I used to say to my friends but do I look like my Instagram

photos do a little my Instagram photos yeah that was like my thing because I was so scared in somebody not thinking I looked that way which is so bad which goes to show that I was editing too much I mean I think we all feel like that anyways because Instagram is your best version of yourself but 100% nowadays I don't do that so I never think to myself do a little of my Instagram photos because yeah I don't edit them because you don't so hopefully you know that you do instagram photos you know yeah i used to edit crazy amount but you know what people are just so cruel on social media and people just yeah strive for perfection way too much that that's i think why we went through those stages whereas as i've got older i'm just like fuck it all my like reason instagram photos i'm not even fucking wearing makeup a lot of mine yeah a lot of mine in Bali a lot of I didn't have makeup on it and I was like I'm

actually so fucking over it like I would rather look at the picture and think that was such a good memory and I was so happy in that photo than me being like oh I don't look amazing in that picture I can't post that like I'd rather look back at it and have those thoughts but anyway yeah definitely um the next one met someone online message for weeks finally met in person and we've been dating for nine months okay so a flirtationship you meet then i thought a flirtationship was just something that didn't ever have the courage to meet you the same but maybe these are all people then that have just met through instagram so we've got some instagram success stories well i can completely see that i know a million people that met through instagram

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Learn more at sunnybrook.ca slash special. Let's go. is special learn more at sunnybrook.ca special well this one isn't actually as good tried to meet up on valentine's day he stood me up and turned out we had a girlfriend that's a horrible person that is that's like genuinely you were like the worst the worst and i fucking wish hell upon you on valentine's day what arsehole boys are shit i swear to god like actual shit no i just made me fucking angry i had a girlfriend the whole time he's been cheating on his girlfriend as well yeah like what did he gain out of that like what did he gain out of that okay never met but he sent me itunes vouchers and a swarovski crystal we were 15 quite random really random but to be fair when i was 15 i probably would have loved an itunes voucher oh my god same isn't that weird how that was such a thing yeah probably would have loved that when i was 15 for my little ipod shuffle

yeah without the screen that's actually quite cute yeah that's like probably too young to actually go and meet you so that was the best you could do and swastika is very nice i like crystals so very random but actually very nice presents for 15 so i love that for you um okay the last one he was one of my clients and i got to know him really well through messages and it was going really well then i got blocked and saw him on a date with my hairdresser what the fuck that's so weird oh my god why would he block wow i don't get why people use the block button so often i don't like for people they would see do you know what i mean yeah just for someone that you see like surely it doesn't matter that much no the fact you saw him on a date with your hairdresser

as well i don't know what i would do well you wouldn't do anything would you but i'd just laugh like in that situation i think you do just have to laugh because it's just like what the fuck are you doing well for a flirtationship we've got some good ones and we've got some bad ones so some things have led from just flirty dms and their relationships i think i think from listening to this though if somebody's just writing flirty things as a whole it's probably not ever going to go anywhere that amazing i think if somebody likes you, they're going to give you a bit more than just flirting to your DMs. I don't think a flirtationship very commonly leads to a relationship as we've also just experienced from your guys' situation.

I think, you know, you can flirt with somebody now and then, but if the bulk of it's just flirting and then you meet up, there isn't, there's not anything more substantial. I don't think it's just flirting and then you meet up there isn't there's not anything more substantial I don't think it's necessarily going to go anywhere and I think your situation's improved that a hundred percent a hundred percent and I mean yeah I've been in flirtatious I can't believe that's even a term now it's happened to me loads and nothing has ever come from it I would

just much rather someone to message me and be like let's go and grab a drink and like actually trying to get to know you rather than just yeah flirting you know but then at 15 would i have loved an itunes voucher fuck yeah would have absolutely loved so maybe they're just a younger thing but maybe they weren't when we're younger yeah well that is the end of this episode thank you guys so much for listening be sure to check us out on socials and subscribe to the pod on spotify so you don't miss out on all of the goss and we will see you next tuesday for another episode bye everyone bye everyone sex size and dm size is a spotify original podcast it was produced by spirit studios