Sex, Lies & DM Slides - 98. Embracing Our Feminine Energy!

Episode Date: July 17, 2024

Today, we're diving into the world of feminine energy! What does it mean to give off feminine energy, even if sometimes we sit with our legs spread? We'll explore the concepts of light and dark feminine energy and debate if embracing feminine energy is reviving outdated roles. Plus, when dating, do you tap into your feline energy? And, of course, we discuss our dream dates! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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don't know what it actually is feminine energy refers to being nurturing soft intuitive and emotional feminine energy is often said to be connected to positive emotional qualities such as empathy and patience and beneficial traits like creativity good communication skills and high self-esteem okay i feel like i'm very much embracing my feminine energy at the moment yeah i'd like to think i am yeah i mean i would say we're very much those things if i say so myself well me too and i hope that everybody else agrees although i was sat eating pizza last night and i was eating of my hands thousand opposite me was sat eating a knife fork i thought i am so unladylike this is not giving in feminine energy right no but babe it's pizza who eats a pizza of a knife fork i know unless it's

like covered in a lot of shit that i can't pick up i'm using my hands yeah yeah yeah to be fair i always feel like i'm in my feminine energy but then i always like like you like when you just said about you eating the pizza with your hands i always have a habit of sitting very manly like i don't sit very ladylike look i'm sad yeah i sit with my legs spread my legs up constantly all the time all the time i'm on the sofa my legs are spread and everyone's like why are you sat like time i'm on the sofa my legs are spread and everyone's like why are you sat like that i'm like i'm comfy don't say that again i was like like people was like why i'm like i'm comfy like this like this is how i like to be sat i feel but it's just not very like cutesy cross-legged of me

really like no it's very feminine yeah it's not very feminine but but i mean my feminine energy i can feel it um there's also such thing as light feminine and dark feminine most recently tiktok and celebrities are applying the idea of dating and relationships hearkening back to more traditional gender roles so like the guy taking the lead so do you think that feminine energy is reviving outdated like gender roles yeah i do i think it definitely is like the thing is and i think you guys are like we're very traditional like both of us are very in in how we date in how we think guys should treat us yes in how i think i treat us but i do think feminine energy is like becoming way more of a thing than what it was and that probably like not gonna like is down to tiktok i feel like tiktok has literally changed fucking everything everything everything

absolutely and like every topic we talk about on the podcast is because of tiktok isn't that wild yeah no it's so true it's actually wild and if i was making a video like feminine energy it'd be it'd be calming it'd be you know relaxing it'd be that sort of like very girly vibe yeah me too so with so i think it very much is just yeah like the the tradition of how men and women should be in a relationship. I think it is honestly that. Let's go. After decades of shaky hands caused by debilitating tremors,

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energy very much only letting the guy text first because if they want me enough they will if they wanted to yeah they would if they wanted to they would the the infamous line if they wanted to they would but also like i think i just like that i think that is like me like we're very traditional in the dating like i like them to plan dates like of course i will plan dates yeah further down the line as we're like dating and stuff and i actually have planned like second and third dates before but i would just love the guy to do it oh my god same like imagine just oh cuteness imagine like arrive actually what would be in the summertime like such a cute day that a guy could do for you or if yeah okay in the summer if it was actually warm i would love like him to do me a cute little

picnic of like all my favorite food like if he's took note of like what I've said are my favorite things and he's like bought them and then we like go to a little like field I don't know wherever you go for a picnic yeah I'm going for a picnic after this no you're not are you lying no i swear to god oh my god as if i've just said that and you're going on a fucking picnic i know oh well i love this for you wow wow thank you babe i know that is fucking iconic honestly i would have said the same thing like how cute is that i love do you know i just don't i don't even go on picnics with my friends like why is that not more of a thing because that's just the cutest thing i love a picnic like when it's really warm outside it's actually so nice me and you need to go for a picnic that's the more i'm saying the word picnic it sounds

really weird i don't know why it does some words i think the more you say it the weirder it sounds there's quite a few words yeah and picnic is one of them because it's sounding really weird every time i say it now but we need to go on one i don't think picnic is actually one of the worst ones i'm trying to think of another word that i've said and i'm like oh the more i say that the weirder it sounds yeah i don't know why i think i've just said it so many times the last minute but we need to that would be so nice well yeah i'm a little picnic my favorite food and i'd love that even though you're going on one after this. I'm so jealous. I'd love to be doing that today.

I'd love that for you. Very much need feminine energy. Well, it's 30 degrees in Germany, so. Why not? Just letting you know one more time to make you feel really bad. Yeah, just letting you know it's 30 degrees. I'm going out after this. I'm going to get drenched

because it's pissing it down with rain. No, I don't think I've ever, have I done a picnic on a date? I don't think i've ever have i done a picnic on a date i don't i've never had a guy arrange me a picnic no never oh it's the cutest thing but i think that's so thoughtful and so it is and i love it when the guys do the picnics on the beach and they have like the heart-shaped pizza with like a bottle of wine oh my god that'd actually be one of my dream dates that would actually send me with someone that like i am so in love with they could get down on their hands and knees right there honestly like with someone i'm so in love

with if they did that for me i i would not know what to do with myself no i would be the happiest girl alive hint hint nudge nudge to any future boyfriends who are listening i'm sorry but more guys should listen to this podcast because they'd actually learn more than girls all of us girls know the same honestly guys should really be listening to this all the girls that listen to this you need to get your boyfriends to listen yeah send this to your guy friends in the next few episodes we'll start telling them what they really need to be doing yeah and then all you girlies all you guys are gonna be off on picnics with heart-shaped pizzas and bottles of wine yeah and you can have us to thank yeah and i love this for you and you're going on yours i need to find someone to take me on a

picnic now you do i really do babe maybe the finance guy maybe the finance not six five but but i feel no i feel like he spoke a lot about parks and like going outdoors so i feel like it's actually could that doesn't sound like a very interesting take no but like i think it's because he's in london so he was all about going out all the time and he was saying that they always go to these specific outdoor places and like he seems very outdoorsy okay when you okay because when you just said he spoke a lot about parks yeah no that come out very wrong like if i was sat there and he was like so i went to this park and i loved this park i would be a bit like,

oh, okay. I'm not sure we've got a lot in common, but he knows a lot of good spots. So maybe a picnic isn't that far off the cards. Maybe. What? Okay. What would.

Yeah. Imagine you're at Hyde Park picnic. I'm not mad at that. What would be your dream date then? Or like in the summer, other than a picnic. Other than a picnic. Oh God,

I guess. Uh, summer other than a picnic other than a picnic oh god i guess uh is it in the uk are we in england no you can be anywhere that makes it in europe yeah we'll say europe oh um oh my god what would be my dream well oh just any this sound this time we'd get an engagement so i just like just eating lunch somewhere with a beautiful view like if they if they could decorate it in any way i think i would die okay a little bit personalization make it actually yeah if they could make it look cute okay i arrived at this if i arrived at the chair and flowers was on the chair yes big bouquet of flowers that would be a that would be a big sleigh but really i think a picnic or because i'm trying to think like i would love going paddleboarding and doing stuff like okay activity day where activity day. Where did that come from?

Where did that come from? But I don't know about first date. Yeah. Do I want to be paddle boarding on a first date? No. But like fourth or fifth date, I'm definitely up for a bit of paddle boarding. Yeah, then we can work with it. Yeah. I can't believe you just suggested an activity date.

Yeah, but babe, I love activities. It's just not for a first date. There's a difference. Yeah, it is a lot on a first date there's a difference yeah it is a lot of first it's just i know i'm gonna cringe i know i'm gonna cringe at myself because i'm gonna be trying really fucking hard because the thing is i can't not lose like i'm so competitive i can't yeah you can't lose that i will be giving them the ick i'll be giving myself the ick and then i'll be like trying to flirt like with the fact that i've lost and i'm meant to lose but then that's just it's just too much just too much don't take me on an activity date for the first day no but paddle boarding for the fourth or fifth

and you've won a heart she loves bit of paddleboard in this one i love it but not in uk summer no definitely not that's euro summer that's europe summer that's euro summer yeah okay yeah do you know what there's loads of places so this is so going off topic there's i've decided there's so many places i really want to visit in europe because even going to germany like i've traveled so far out like so far away but i barely actually traveled there's incredible places in europe i'd love to go to the amalfi coast oh my god babe it's my dream yeah that's what i'd really love to do yes i also want to go to lake como all of our all of them but we're actually going to micken oscar yeah where else well maybe not together hopefully yeah hopefully together if

you go on the you're doing the same cruise as me aren't you so annoying we're not on the same fucking cruise yeah i know but yeah we're both doing a great cruise where else is there in europe like have you been to milan yes i'd like to i'd like to go to milan you've been to venice as well haven't you i don't love milan i think it's one of those places where i don't want to get hate for that but i just don't love that i didn't have the i i want to go but i don't think i could spend too long there i feel like i'd like a day or two would be enough to like just see yeah i think yeah i want to see do you know what i mean and the same with like i don't know though because i might go and i might love it but yeah this oh no venice my favorite place yeah i really want to go to venice i said about a lot of places but nashville and venice are two places and vegas love vegas there are three

places i've been to and i've been amazed when I and Venice if you go there with a boy with a oh my god if you go there with your boyfriend not that I've been there but I went with my mum it's like the most romantic place I know it I mean it looks insane you're walking around you're in a Disney yeah because when you just said about being amazed that's how I felt when we went to Vegas last year and obviously it was my first time and i just driving up the strip i was looking around like oh my god like it looks better than what i thought but if you feel like that of vegas if you got to experience nashville or nashville's on my list to every person that's listening i beg you if you can travel to the us go to nashville it'll be the best thing you'll ever do every single person i know that's been to nashville says it's the best place on earth

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games so if i'm with someone or because they haven't texted me i'm not texting them no because i can't be asked the whole that's like messing with my own head more than yeah i definitely would like if they hadn't texted me i only would text again i mean then if they don't reply to that then i've been ghosted but is you're right that's like almost easing into the gameplay inside of things which is just long like nobody can be bothered to do that anymore that is just not yeah do you think guys like women to behave like this you think like guys like girls being in their feminine energy so i think some do i think some hate it but i think some love it i think guys do i actually do think guys do i think if you get the

right guy who's very much like yeah i want to look after my woman like very like traditional in that sense i feel like they would love a girl being in their feminine energy but like some guys would just be like what the fuck but then they're just not men they're boys yeah true i'm probably a lot younger that as well i feel like dating older i feel like yeah you get that more like i want to look after you sort of vibe which i like which is what i love yeah i want that so much i like that okay so to end it on then so do you think a successful relationship requires the traditional masculine feminine energy balance like a guy chasing a girl oh no i don't think a successful relationship takes that I think a successful

relationship is like I think that's so dependent on who you are for me yes because I wouldn't that's that's how I'd want to be treated in a relationship that's how I am personally but for that to be it's the only successful like definitely i think it's successful relationship just replies on like no sorry relies on balance in general i don't think it's anything to do with like necessary like masculine feminine energy i think it's just balance and having that like equal respect for each other and everything being equal i think that's but you can still be in your feminine energy and have that yeah i think a hundred percent i think that's but you can still be in your feminine energy and have that yeah i think a hundred percent i think that's what it takes i think that's a nice note to end it on well thank

you so much guys for listening thank you very very much if you didn't already listen to tuesday's episode we did have a big catch-up that ended up more talking about love island yeah we have we have our opinions yeah we have our people to go you want to go and hear our opinions on that go and listen to Tuesdays go and listen to this episode and other than that we shall see you guys next week bye everyone

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