Sex, Lies & DM Slides - 99. Are Dating Apps OUT?

Episode Date: July 24, 2024

Today, we're tackling a hot topic: are dating apps on the decline? We debate whether they're an amazing way to meet people or just a platform for judging someone by their photos. What would work (and what wouldn't) if a guy approached you in real life? We share our thoughts on whether it's harder to find a genuine connection on apps. Plus, Ana spills the tea on whether her cheesy chat-up lines have worked and Saff explores if running clubs are the new hot spots for dating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Visit connectsontario.ca. let's go hi guys and welcome back to another episode of sex slides and dm slides with me saffron barker and me anastasia kingsnorth so we are back for another week and back for another opportunity to deep dive into all things sex and relationships how are you how is everything i'm good i'm good how are you i'm good a little bit hungover went out to watch the football last night it looked absolutely incredible i was like i want to be there with the atmosphere by the way because i didn't realize because basically i'm doing the same cruise as saff but the week after have you uh packed your pajamas for the pajama party again because i completely forgot oh my god no i haven't

i literally i went on the app the other day to fill in all the stuff and it was like get your pajamas ready for pajama party and i was like shit i forgot that they do all those theme nights oh my god i forgot about and do you know what do you remember i didn't check anything last time i just brought myself and i was about to do that again yes well remember pajamas and red night on the thursday i'm pretty sure it is so pack a red outfit okay because i ain't got no red outfit pajamas got it yeah got it sorted i can't believe anna and i are going on different cruises not because we don't like each other but because i didn't want to go over my birthday anna's going over my birthday and i couldn't do next week because i'm in london so we had to go on opposite cruises which is really annoying because it was so fun when we did the cruise last year so fun i loved it there

was so many of us i know who are you going with this time uh sasha oh are you yeah oh my god that's gonna be so fun flying from australia well yeah but she bloody loves a cruise she lives on cruise ships she loves the cruise she adores them to be fair i love a cruise now after last year i was i see the obsession same i absolutely love them it's so fun you'll have the best time then you can tell me all about it so i can get excited for the next week exactly yeah exactly i just can't wait to get back in that galley and eat all the food it was so good feel you feel you god we've traveled a lot this summer we really have a lot a lot but i love that for us though i love a summer out the country i love that for us i do

kind of miss having a manchester summer though because i feel like manchester summers are so fun so i'm back like officially i was thinking i really do want to come for a weekend to manchester this time i'm back officially on the 10th of august so anytime after that we can go out and just have a mad weekend going out to we can go diecast we'll just go everywhere i feel like it's very needed we need to do that very needed just a little girls weekend i don't like manchester like the perfect place to do that okay we'll do that in summer yeah and hopefully things across the weather will be better because again today it is raining see it's so beautiful here i'm well actually i'm not jealous because of today, it is raining. See, it's so beautiful here. I'm, well, actually I'm not jealous

because of how hot it is in your house, but I am jealous because- It literally is a greenhouse. Yeah, it's actually ridiculous. But yeah, it's literally grey skies. Piss it. It was raining last night again at the football. I got drenched.

No way. Yeah, it was pissing it down. It wasn't like that in London. Was it sunny in London? No, it wasn't sunny, but it wasn't raining. Manchester is just not where it's at for the weather this summer. But heat wave next week, apparently, so fingers crossed. Let's go.

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you realize everyone's on them. Whereas like, if you're not on them, you realize, Oh, nobody's on it. Like, I think it's one of those.

I feel as if they're not declining because I think it's so hard to meet people nowadays. I think that everyone meets online. Yeah, I know. I'm actually like, yeah, hearing more stories as well from like you guys who listen to the podcast. When,

when you message a stories, a lot of people have met their partners on dating apps more so than like meeting them out and about which makes me so happy because i'm like oh like that gives me like a positive like oh they are they do still work but i'm just like oh i'm still kind of waiting on it to work for me again anyway yeah i mean don't get me wrong i i think dating apps are an amazing thing that's been invented because of the way that we all are like it's so hard to meet somebody online in real life nowadays however would you rather meet somebody in real life a hundred percent i would much rather somebody to come up to me and be like oh like you're really pretty whatever can

i have your number rather than me can't just swiping on dating apps because also the thing with dating apps is you're just look like you're judging somebody by their photos and just on what they look like and the few prompts that they've put up whereas like in real life i feel like i can catch somebody's vibe straight away but it might be someone that i would normally swipe past on a dating app so i've probably swiped off so many people that I would like really get along with and like potentially have something with because I've been shallow and based it off of their pictures yeah do you know what I mean because I'm really like if they're if they've got a picture at ocean beach on their dating app gone but they could be such a nice person if you saw him in ocean beach probably won't think that I

wouldn't because it would be at ocean beach we'd be like oh he's fit so it's it's so annoying yeah yeah yeah and i feel like i need to kind of like swallow my pride and stop being shallow with that because i probably like i said have swiped so many people that i would get along really well with i actually saw no definitely i saw somebody last night when i was out who i'd seen on hinge before and i recognized him and you swiped them i'd swiped him right before but this was months ago but i instantly recognized him because he was beautiful like and i just saw like did you match with him i matched with him months ago but like i can't remember if we spoke or not it was just one of those ones where like i just have him ingrained in my head still because i remember him being so

good looking and i saw him in real life last night and i was like oh my god yeah he's gorgeous too scared to go up to him no way why didn't you say anything i don't know i said to calum daniella i was like don't make it obvious don't turn around at the same time but that boy leaning on the photo booth do you think he saw you he didn't see me he didn't see me he was so tall and it was oh babe i would babe, I would have walked past him at least. I would have had to. I know. The thing is, I can't remember his name.

I can't remember anything about him. I just recognize his face. You should have walked past him, given him eye contact, because he might have remembered you. I know. That could have been it. I know, but maybe if it's meant to be, it will be. Invisible string theory or whatever.

Honestly, guys, Anna's actually fucking hilarious, because whenever she's out and there's a group of boys, I get a message like, this is my message that I got last night. Out of nowhere, I'm out and about and I randomly get, babe. Another one. The boy's out for the football tonight.

Another one. You would be, in capitals, in love. If I get close, I'll show you. You'd be in your element. I so wish you were here because i literally saw a group of guys i was like sapphire love it into i i do i were they just my time yeah i got why you're saying yeah i spot sass type from a mile off and straight away i can tell exactly when she would like and i'm just like oh if she was here right now she would be in her element so what did they look like gorgeous so tall like could like skin fade gorgeous like dress sense just that vibe of boy that you like

like you know what vibe of boy right okay and as soon as you see them i'm like oh that's saff's type because as soon as you see my type you're like anna you'd fancy him but like your type was when i'm seeing curly hair i'm thinking anna would fancy yeah nice bit of curly hair i love that also really tall and we just we just know which is the type so i just had to let her know when anna's seeing really tall oversized clothing probably mixed race she's seeing my time yeah and that was a lot of the football last night and i was like i've just gotta let her know that potentially her future husband is here waiting for us. It's just so cute because it's happened so many times. She's messaged me that.

If we searched it in our texts, hang on, let me just search. What should I search? Your type. The amount of times it's like, Saf, you would die. Saf, you need to be here. Saf, screaming your type. Right, here we go.

27th of April. Babe, I'm out in Firefly. The amount of boys that are your type is insane. You'd be fucking loving it. Last year in july the 26th of july no yeah last year june july yeah this is july babe your type is everywhere you'd be in your element oh my god i told you see i'm telling you she does this she's so cute i do it all the time because i'm just like oh i wish she was here so when you come to manchester but like it's not like all the time it's enough that i know that it obviously is actually my time oh no yeah yeah it's not like

every time i go out i'm like oh my god but just like when i see a really good one i'm like oh i'm like that's a good one i wish i had the confidence just to be like i never get pictures guys so she just no that's true leaves me hanging that is true because i don't know just leave me hanging you're like you just let letting you know you should be here but you're not but you're not and also i'm not going to show you what they look like but just imagine yeah next time i do it i will send you a picture but i don't know how to take a picture of them without it looking dead obvious i'll just have to do a little pan of the room yeah just zoom in zoom into their faces one by one like look this one yeah but anyway it's funny because um oh go on i was having a conversation with a friend of day

and we were saying if a guy came up to you in real life like what would work and what wouldn't work if a guy came up to you but he was the most beautiful guy you've ever seen right and he hits you with what's happening girl you're right if he hits you with that but he is the most beautiful guy you've seen but is he saying it in a jokey way or like because it's all over the internet or is he doing it no no serious serious i don't think i'd be that put off if he said it in the right tone of voice. But, it also wouldn't be like, wow. Why, what would you, how would you react?

I don't know. I think it's harder because of the trend of it now. Yeah, because if someone said it to me now, I'd be like, oh, you're definitely taking the piss. It's like really engraved in my head. Yeah. Yeah. But like, even going back before that trend,

I think if it was like the most beautiful person I've ever seen, wouldn't put me off i think it also depends on their accent like where they're from because if they were from london and they were saying it i'd be like oh that suits you like you're probably gonna say that but if they're from manchester i don't i don't know maybe i don't know i don't think it would really put me off I think there's worse ways that someone could come up to me and introduce themselves yeah what is like a what's like a good way and what's a bad way of somebody approaching you I feel like it'd be nice if someone like complimented me I'd be like oh that's really sweet or if they actually if someone said something about my outfit if they liked my outfit in the way that I dressed for me that'd be like a really

big compliment I'd be like oh this that's a really good conversation starter because i'd be like oh i like that but then if someone was like i don't know they said like a really cheesy chat blind in real life or just i don't know maybe that i don't know what would really turn me off i've never really or just really like over the top maybe because i'm trying to think when we've been out in like alberts and stuff how like boys have approached and sometimes if they're really over the top and won't leave you alone and don't get the fucking hint then i'd be like oh yeah what about you yeah yeah yeah i guess probably the same sort of thing i mean i think if like there's a difference between like confidence and arrogance so I think if somebody had like too much I think oh probably not you know but also I love people

that are confident but you're right there's a big difference and I think it's obvious when you can see like if someone's genuinely just confident or like actually just being an arrogant arsehole yeah a hundred percent but i love that anyways yeah anyways bad sense but if anybody wants to compliment my outfit on a night out that's a really good way to start a conversation that is actually the best compliment i would be well i don't know i'd say somebody like compliment your eyes or your feet oh yeah still such a good compliment but yeah when somebody says you dress well it's like you've noticed yeah i'm loving that train on tiktok moment where people are shut like i don't know i can't remember how it starts but they're posting all the photos like oh do i dress

well and they're posting all their outfits i'm like some of the outfits are so cool no way have you not seen it next time because of my feed paid i'll send it my instagram doesn't represent how i actually dress mine doesn't i actually think about this a lot and i think why do i think about this a lot but i think in real life i dress very cool if i say so myself but my instagram is just giving very much like cutesy like not so much me too because i find it hard to get like i find it hard to get like cool girl pictures because a lot of the cool girl pictures are like candid photos but they're nice candid pictures where they look no one's taking them of me no and when they are taken yeah i look fucked like i just look awful

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Register now at causeandeffect.ucc.on.ca. Back to dating apps do you think it's harder to find a deep connection on apps because there's too many options and you always search for something slash someone better i grass is greener approach i kind of think so because on day that's like you can just go for hours and just like and the thing is because I've been on dating apps for so long I feel like I'm so specific with what I want so I'm looking for like such a specific type of profile which like I was saying earlier I don't think I should do anymore but like I look for someone who dresses really cool, who has really cool looking photos, who like, you know, and that's like realistically one in about 500 people.

I don't like many people on Hinge anymore. I used to be a proper like serial liker and would like a lot of people, but now I just don't. So I feel like it just, right. I just have, yeah, I'm just really,

I don't know. I used to be a serial liker. Oh, I did. I used to just, yeah, I used to like, if I found them like a slight bit attractive, I'd be like, oh yeah, I just like them. but then i just wouldn't message them

whereas now i think i've liked about three people on my hinge in the last two weeks right okay what about you were you even on that you're not even on day and apps anymore are you or are you i'm not no no i'm actually not yeah good for you yeah because yeah yeah and like i mean like all right i can't i need to stop sucking off raya because raya's actually been great to me but it has right you can swipe 10 people a day yeah which is annoying so it's like yeah hindering that i i mean i haven't been on that for i didn't get it for very long did I I got it because Anna kept talking about it I wasn't on it for very long it is good if you want to see who's around the thing is it's really hard for me and Anna because we're like have an audience nobody ever

would believe it's me on Hinge so it was just the amount of times my account has been deleted I've gone through half of my friends phone numbers to have a new hinge account because i point blank refuse to link my instagram because i just don't want people to go in like because we do have an audience if i'm dating someone i would genuinely prefer them to have my number so they don't look at my instagram and we don't have to dm so i refuse to link my instagram so it just people report it all the time which is just so annoying but also by the way you know in the last episode i had to do those cheesy chat lines yeah they fucking worked responses yeah babe they worked all of them uh one of them hasn't replied

two of them have and i've got one of them one of them one of them asked for my number straight away let me go on it no no no i can start doing your text for you now so i will text for you And I've got one of them. Fuck off. One of them asked for my number straight away. Let me go on it. No, no, no. Oh my God. I can start doing your text for you now. I will text for you if you want. The basketball player from Chicago. Can you remind everyone what you said?

So I put, you can always bet on me. And then put get in the little asterisk. And he put, oh, I can always get on you. Then get your pretty ass on a flight to Chicago ASAP. I didn't reply. He double messaged me hours later and put what's your number he loved it that much he was thinking about it and i've given him my number and he's been texting me and then no now you've had your message yeah we've

been messaging he literally got my number last night so we haven't like where's the texas we've literally messaged about five six times but he just he messaged me saying hey anastasia and it comes through like hours after so i thought who on earth has got my number then i clocked so i was like oh hi um and yeah we just had a nice conversation and then um i actually haven't replied to this one but the one the artist from paris, the artist from Paris. Well, we put, well, I'm not an artist, but I can picture us together. He put, haha, yes, me too, actually. Maybe I can take you on a date sometime.

Babe, fucking slay. Everyone is loving the cheesy chat lines. So maybe dating apps aren't on the decline. If anyone wants any, you just DM me and let me know and I'll sort you right out. Honestly, next time I need to message someone, I'm asking you if we're doing

a cheesy chat up line because they love it. But do you know, I'm really upset if the actor hasn't replied because that I thought was really good. Can you remind us

what we said? Yeah, what did we say to him again? Hang on, let me get it up. It is so funny how we say what we said because that is actually

every girl I think. It's not what I said, it's what we said. What did we say? Yeah, it's what we said. You might want a body double for what we're about to do uh he needs to reply i think he will reply i do think he will reply but we'll give it a couple of days i think he will i just i think i was gobsmacked when the message come through i

literally thought as if they have responded to this but also i feel like it's because people in america that like they might not find that cringy whereas like british people would be like oh my god like because of our sense of humor but obviously their sense of humor is really different so you might think i'm being dead serious well obviously you did so yeah but it's worked babe it's worked love that for me got a basketball player's number now woo i can't believe that that is so funny i know that is so funny back to dating love that for you um but yeah just had to tell that in there because i was like oh my god so maybe they're actually not on the decline as much as i thought do you think that the dating app culture makes it less likely for people to approach you in real life yeah i i actually do i 100 think they do but then also

but then also if you've seen someone on the day-to-night you've more likely approached this is what i was going to say because i can't remember if i spoke about this in the podcast i think i did but i was out i don't know like two three months ago and i saw someone again who i'd recognized on hinge and we definitely clocked each other at the bar and then we messaged after we were like oh we saw each other blah blah blah we should have spoken so like it's all but you didn't but still didn't approach each other but we didn't approach them in real life but then we spoke on the hinge for a bit after then my account got fucking deleted but so i've never matched with him since but um yes i feel like it does make you approach people less but then also it gives you you can be be like, oh, I recognize that person.

And this boy said to me, he was like, it's actually happened a lot to me where girls have come up to me and said, I recognize you from Hinge. So, wow.

Yeah. So it kind of could. But imagine we didn't have dating apps. You would see someone think, oh, they're really good looking. I have one shot. I'm never going to see them again.

Whereas like, I know for a fact, we've seen people or my friends have seen people and they've been like get on hinge or get on writer and look in this area oh a hundred percent so i actually think if we didn't have dating apps people would approach each other more yes i do yeah i think it'd be more like well i'm never gonna see them again i have to go and approach them yeah whereas i think it's more that whereas you know you can just go on a dating app and just see endless amount of people so you know there's other options out there but yeah whereas in real life you don't really have that but do you think then that people use the apps as like a game to like pass time like you'll match with someone then never speak because personally this happens to me

all the time yeah yeah i do actually like all the time like and i'm guilty of it myself like i do just like people and then sometimes i'll message i just won't reply or like we'll just match and no one will message so i'm like oh what was the point of that really like there was no point yeah i think it very much and i think it's like if you haven't seen somebody that you think is attractive within like 20 swipes, you're like, oh, he's kind of attractive. So you swipe.

Yeah. Cause you're like looking for somebody to match. Cause you're like, oh, this is dial. I'm just going to match you. Yeah. I feel like that. So I think there also is kind of that as well,

you know? Yeah. I feel like that happens a lot. I do like hearing like dating app success stories though. Cause I was speaking to someone when I went to a concert. I don't know if you've seen her on TikTok. She's called Lucy, I think. And she mapped her boyfriend.

It was the first match on Hinge. She literally opened her app, set the app up, liked him. First one, they're together. They've just bought two houses. They're loving life. Yeah. And then Chloe, who owns Clomana Beauty same thing with her the first match on Hinge is her boyfriend first match first match it's happened to them both first ever match on the

date what the fuck but it was like crazy but like when I spoke to Lucy it was his first match as well like it was his first day ever on Hinge and it was his first match right and i was like how like actually how like that yeah that is actually that was obviously just meant to be like that like they would like right place right time right person came up i love that for them but i was like oh my god yeah the success stories that do come from dating apps is crazy i just obviously it has worked for me in the past it just hasn't worked for me recently but yeah i just thought that was really sweet when i saw they were speaking about that online i was like oh my god first match yeah i mean i know so many success stories now that have come from dating apps like so many loads so yeah i don't as a whole i don't think we're on the decline of them i think it probably

feels like it more so as well because it's summer so people are actually going out more so people are less likely sat on dating apps and actually probably meeting more people in person a hundred percent and i think people just go through phases with it like you're gonna go through a phase where you're really like oh yeah i'm loving this and then you're gonna go through a phase where i'm not matching anybody so i'm just not gonna go on them right now like i think you just do naturally fall in and out of love with the idea of finding somebody on a dating app like like i've gone through a million phases of loving it and hating it do you think you do you like go through like do you use instagram as a bit of a dating app like do you think you speak to new people on instagram and flirt people on instagram yeah but like i weirdly find them from dating apps like yeah like i'll find them on raya or

like they'll find me on raya or hindu whatever and follow me and then message because i don't really know how to find people on instagram otherwise like unless they come up on my explore page i think it's really easy for guys yes way to find girls on instagram yeah 100 but for girls to find guys i think it's a lot harder i just wouldn't really know where to like start with it like unless someone's no and i think a lot of guys are more likely private and stuff which is nicer to be fair yeah but i think a lot of guys are private accounts whereas girls everyone's posting their outfits and fashion and yeah do you know what i mean it's way easier so i just yeah but i do like it though like i

would like to meet somebody on instagram i wouldn't be opposed to that at all like i'm actually going on a date with somebody next week who slid my instagram dms wow yeah wow really yeah but i well we followed each other first he hit me with the flame emoji okay so that's fine but i'm not gonna knock it because he seemed really nice and okay the chat is good so updates to come on that oh i'm excited i'm excited i'll show you who it is after but um yeah, you have to. But yeah, so maybe a success story from Instagram DMs might actually be coming my way. Have you seen the videos of people at running clubs?

Like there's this whole thing of meeting new people at running clubs. Yes. And to be fair, everyone's like all the fit guys are at running clubs. And then to be fair, they're all the fit guys are at running clubs and then to be fair they're the best looking guys i've seen like way better than out in the clubs and it's actually more attractive because they're running and they're not just getting pissed on a

saturday night which i can't talk because i'm that i'm getting pissed on a saturday night but thing is like quite attractive too all the there's this whole like phenomenon about it, you know? All the men are looking hot, right? They're looking good when they're a bit sweaty. They've got their tops off. They're looking so hot running. If I went to a running club, I would look horrendous. I can't even put into words.

I'd be so embarrassed to try and speak to somebody. I can't run for longer than five minutes. i would be sweating like a fucking dog like i would look awful so the last place i would want somebody to come up and speak to me is at a running club however really babe i've never been to a running club in my life i know that you can run you're amazing at running obviously you've ran marathons no i don't know why people think i'm amazing at running because i'm really not okay but you've ran marathons so you can definitely do it i can do the distance but i'm the slowest runner like i'll be at the back babe that doesn't matter at least you're still running i true i would have to stop you know one thing as well as i don't really sweat anymore which

is bizarre that's a very good thing like i rarely sweat but maybe that's because i don't work out hard enough anymore it could also be that it could be that but also i definitely take not sweating over sweating especially if you're at a running club but i true so maybe that's maybe that's where we need to go i've seen i've seen a lot of people talk about this do you know um joel kirby who just went into casa but he didn't get any airtime bless him the tiktoker no oh he went in and he literally got like no airtime he looked like justin bieber yeah like like not justin bieber but can't yeah yeah but the hair the flicky hair yeah yeah the flicky hair he came off my you look really young yeah he came on a few pages this morning and he was getting ready to go to a running club and was planning his outfit because it's the new like dating thing to do so

he did a get ready with me to go like try and find somebody at a running club that is crazy and i was like oh my god as if like he's done this because i saw that we were talking about his day and i was like as if he's doing that but also when i went on a date with that guy in london a couple of weeks ago he told me that running also when I went on a date with that guy in London a couple of weeks ago he told me that running clubs were the new thing he was like it's just everyone states from running clubs now maybe I need to give it a go but I think I need to practice my running before I do that yeah like it's a lot of pressure to meet someone I mean you really are meeting somebody more in the natural because you're not getting glam do Do you know what I mean? They're really...

So I think if you fell for somebody at a running club, you're actually more likely going to fall for every part of them. You know? Especially if you're falling for me at a running club because I'm slow, out of breath. Well, you see me at my worst.

Yeah, so wait until we go for dinner because you're going to love me then. Yeah. Honestly. But like, are they talking whilst they're running yeah if you're good enough babe but you need to get to that level you can talk and run i would literally just they'd be talking to me i'll be going like that i'd be doing arm gestures back to them i'd be like are you okay i'm like i literally wouldn't be able to get a word out that'd honestly be my worst you'll be

doing your you'll be giving your phone number with your hands. Yeah, literally. They'll be like, what's your number? I'll be like, oh, seven. I do not understand. But I love that for people who can. And if any of you guys actually listening have met somebody from a running club, let us know. I want to know if it's worth me taking up running for. Because that is the only reason I'd be doing it.

No, not you seeing me and Anna starting a running club in a month's time if you see me running on my instagram story you know why you just know you know why because she's not there for the sport i am definitely not there for the sport i'm just there to see what pretty men are turning up to the running club i wonder if it's big in manchester though because i feel like it's very much a london yeah baby yeah it's definitely big in manchester do you think yeah i've seen videos oh okay maybe i need to yeah do some research maybe you can get on it and you've been a gym girly recently i have been a gym girly and my stamina is getting a lot better so actually maybe i'm putting myself down a bit here maybe i

am capable i think so maybe i am capable of a running club our night out in manchester maybe we go on the saturday morning to the run club and then we go for a night out and we can see which one works better okay i actually am up for trying that i think it's definitely gonna be we should actually do that it's probably gonna be the night out that's gonna work better for me but i'm always up for trying something so if that's in manchester and you see us in our cute little gym set. No, but it's the fact that we actually will. It's the fact that I know our DMs are going to be flooded and I can't wait for it.

And we're going to be pissing ourselves. When you run a run club, I don't know why I'm asking you this because I think you're going to know, but like how long do you run for? It depends how long it is. Normally 5K is like a lot of run clubs. Okay, I feel like I'm capable of that.

It can be a lot longer than that. We feel like i'm capable of that anything it could be a lot longer than that we're gonna have to do a 5k one i think oh babe trust me i've got a completely ruptured acl i can't oh shit yeah yeah there's that well i was to be i'll be at the same pace as you and i've not got a ruptured acl so i wouldn't stress but at least we can blame it on that too that's true yeah she's still here she's motivated she's got a ruptured ACL but she's injured but I'm just here for moral support just to make sure she doesn't hurt herself anymore yeah just moral support I'm just a lookout for the brain yeah then I'm like oh hi I'm on a stage nice to meet you I'm actually gonna look into this now I'm gonna go delve deep into this side of TikTok and find a Manchester running club for us to attend when you come up.

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to meet someone or is he just there because he loves running yeah do you know what i mean well i'd like to think it is actually because they're like running well same but the only reason i'd be there is try and find a boyfriend so it's really hard to show people's intentions nowadays you just don't know with with the new rise of this running club dating app no this is so funny do you know what i mean i don't know what someone's intention is. So would I go up to them? Maybe not. I feel like it. I think it's definitely easier to go up to somebody in a bar

than it is at a running club. A hundred percent. Especially if you're not a good runner. Like if I'm not, I'm not the best runner. So I don't want to stand out. I would like to just blend in, do my run.

Same. Go home. Me too. If somebody approached me, fine, but I just don't know if i would be able to approach somebody i maybe before the run or unless like they were the fastest and i was like i can't believe how fast you are yeah but oh my god you're amazing like yeah but maybe

i'd have to do the approach him before before right you're amazing you're amazing you're so good at this but maybe i'd approach them before i did the run but then also i don't know i don't know i don't know we'll have to see what i do yeah i need to see who's there first what sort of guys are going to be there okay we'll update you yeah we'll update you on no no we should actually film it like we'll film it and put it on our instagrams we genuinely will we will when i go to the run club i'll go filming everyone oh my god you know those tiktoks where is it dab like where they dab like all the fit guys oh yeah yeah yeah when they those TikToks where is it dab like where they dab

like all the fit guys oh yeah when they're out and they're like dabbing up all the 10 10s yeah yeah

I love those TikToks do it at a running club yeah have you not seen people do it at a running club oh no I've only seen people do it at like

that's when I thought this trend started because this girl did it and all of these guys were gorgeous British was she from uk gorgeous yeah british london like it was kind of screaming my type really and she was dabbing up all of these tents and it was like surely not all of these guys are at the running like this is where

they're hiding all the comments were like so this is where they're at okay well i'm actually in london all next week so babe if you catch me well what time are these run clubs though we're not talking 6am are we they're in like middle no they're a lot of them are evening oh okay it's like an evening thing now yeah it's like an after work like instead of going for drinks you're gonna go to the run yeah like a 7pm okay well i need to look at these tiktoks and look at where all these amazing run clubs are in london and then we're actually gonna die if i see you at run club i'm gonna be actually if i send you a picture in my gym gear next week at seven o'clock you know exactly where i'm going and why yeah okay that's so hell anyway we have spoken about

this on the pod before but just to like round up this episode would you ever approach a guy in real life has your opinion changed or is it still a no i would i would just rather them approach me like yeah i feel i feel this i feel this i think my opinion is the guys should still come over because Because I like guys that are confident. My mindset has definitely changed on this. If you'd asked me six months ago, I'd have been like, oh yeah, I would definitely go up to them. Because I definitely have gone up to guys on nights out before.

But now I have adapted your mindset of like, no, I want them to come over to me. Like I would like somebody to come over to me because you're right. It's giving confidence. And I think you can make it obvious. Like you can give them good eye contact. Therefore, it's so easy for them to come over.

Because then they know that you're interested. Yeah. Okay. So I think that's more so what I would do. Yeah. I feel the same as you now. My mindset has changed. I'm growing up.

If the man wants me, he would. He would. Exactly. He would. He would. Exactly. Exactly that. Well. Thank you so much guys. For listening to this episode. I actually thoroughly enjoyed it.

Me too. Let us know as well. If you guys think that. Dating apps are dying. Or not. I personally don't think they are. But I'm not really on them. So.

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