Sex, Love, and What Else Matters - Ask Me Anything & New News!

Episode Date: June 28, 2023

Episode 41. Kristen and Luke play a game of catch-up with YOU and with each other! They dig in to a new news headline - a controversial list of “7 Things Men DON’T Care About.” Kristen answers all of your burning questions in a round of Ask Me Anything! Sponsors: Cozy Earth provided an exclusive offer for my listener’s today. Up to 35% off site wide when you use the code “DOUTE” Organifi.com/doute and use code DOUTE for 20% off your entire order - try Organifi today and take the first step towards a healthier you! Go to Hungryroot.com/KRISTEN, to get 30% off your first delivery and get your free veggies. Follow us: @kristendoute @luke__broderick Email us: [e-mail] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hello, my darlings, welcome back to another episode of your favorite podcast, Sex Love and What Else Matters. I have Luke remote today. I'm all the way in Colorado. You text me yesterday and you were like, we have not even discussed how's our week been on the phone. We haven't talked about our lives for a few days now, which is not normal.

I had a really busy weekend because three of my friends had a birthday on Saturday. One was out of town, two were in town. It was Princess Nassassia and Princess Ariana's dual birthday, per usual, but they did not celebrate them together this year. Stasi had a show. My weekend was pretty much like it used to be on the Vanderbump days. I went to Stasi's podcast live show.

It was her final show at the Aso Hotel downtown LA. And I have never gone to one of Stasi's live shows before. So I was really excited. and I feel like I already hear like the rumbling of our listeners going, oh my gosh, like, do you guys hang on a lot? Which was a lot of the questions that I got. So I was at Katie's the other day and we were trying our new,

which is if we have read potion, we were trying some options. She was telling me about how she was gonna be on stage with Stas for her birthday show. And I was like, fuck, I want to go. That sounds like fun. So I text Stas and she was like, yeah, let's rock and roll. And it was an absolute blast. And I've posted some videos and I'll keep posting. But yeah, it was just so cute to see her little pregnant butt up on stage just doing her thing.

And being sober, non-apperel, spritz, stossy, but just as funny, if not funnier, and Bo is really cute, Hartford saying, let it go from frozen on stage and her gold sparkly dress, and it just, my ovaries were on fire. That was my Saturday. And then my Sunday was with Ariana, and we had a barbecue, and I was really bummed. You weren't here, babe. Yeah, I'd plan not being there, but the car problems made a little bit of a damper for me this weekend. It's a long-ass drive. It is and you need a reliable vehicle and unfortunately the shop kind of screwed me over on it. I had had everything planned out, dropped it off Thursday. They didn't get it back to me till Friday and didn't figure out that there was a major issue until it was too late

So our pit of the week is that auto shop in that city But we won't shame them because they're like I'm on pop shop and I don't want to be a dick But my pit of the week is that auto shop in southern Call of Broughto because my boyfriend could be here right now with his dog Kept us up at three extra days. Everything's fine. We're fine. Everything's fine. But you're about to get on the fucking road and you're coming here. Are you excited? We have to the drive to be here.

Not for the drive, but to see my girlfriends been almost two weeks. So we can make love. Is that what we call it? Yes, we do call it making love. Yeah, yeah, yeah, exactly. I'm gonna use its fucking, but usually it's making love. Okay, babe, do you want to talk about this ridiculous thing that I read on Daily Mail today that I sent you?

Seven things Mind don't care about. Seven, we talked about. You got, here's my headline. If you listen to our podcast with Ryan Bailey, either on ours, which Dal you should have, and if you haven't, you need to now, or if you listen to Ryan Bailey's shout out, it's so bad it's good with Ryan Bailey, either on hours which Dalya should have, and if you haven't, you need to now, or if you listen to Ryan Bailey's shout out. It's so bad it's good with Ryan Bailey. But we Ryan and I are like obsessed with daily mail, and it is like our morning, noon, and night,

like newsfeed, okay? So I send Luke these articles sometimes, and sometimes, like today, I sent him three in a row, and he was like, what are you sending this? No, it does not have to do with us. I just think these are like things for us to talk about. Is that what you thought? Well, before I open them, you just sent me three like relationship things. And we just had a deep conversation. So I'm like, what is this right now? I didn't even think of that that you would correlate the deep conversation that you and I had. I all of a sudden I'm just like, hmm, look at these weird things about relationships.

I was like, no, no, honey. This is just like, I think, interesting to talk about. That's good, because it definitely was like, oh, no, I thought we were on the same page. Yeah, I actually... Oh, shit. Okay, so on Daily Mail, it is this Australian matchmaker, her name is Luan Ward. And it says, Luan Ward reveals the seven things men don't care about.

And the headline is, I am a relationship expert. And these are the seven things men, in quotes, don't care about. The first thing is your academic achievement. Well, where are you talking about? She says about it. Because she basically gives a little quip like after under each one. Yeah. So I'm not saying you won't be impressed by them,

but they're not going to help them choose whether you were a suitable partner for them. And it says instead, men are more concerned with a woman's ability to be feminine and comfortable with herself. I'm sorry, what year is this? I like the comfortable with herself, but like,

men care more about a woman being feminine than smart. I kind of make achievement does not equal intelligence. I mean, Kristen Eurikolge dropout. No offense meant by that. I'm saying, it doesn't equate. I've met people that got degrees very young age that I'm like, so what's going on up there? I'm like, is there much thought? Like, what's happening? So yeah, clearly that's not what matters. I get she's a matchmaker, but I'm curious what, what, maybe we need to bring Luanne on the podcast, you know what I mean?

But I'm curious what Luanne wore, what in her time living on this earth and her relationships, in her time matchmaking with people or what meant in her life, maybe it's friends or whatever, but who are the people that have helped her make these decisions? That a woman's ability to be feminine overrides the woman's ability to, I don't know, is to be honest. You're talking to a man, and it's not weird. How could could if you were really smart, but you were like one to be the man in the relationship and didn't like do anything feminine, you didn't want to look good, you didn't want to like ever wear anything nice. We literally like didn't ever want to do anything feminine, then that would be a turn off. And that would bother me a lot more than someone's lack

of education. Yeah, I know you're right. I actually, I started like going down the wrong rabbit hole. I think I was like a little triggered by the ability to be feminine in thinking like, oh, you want feminine over intelligence. But Luan, this matchmaker, is not saying intelligence. Like you said, in the beginning, she's saying academic achievement. So I just got sucked into the complete wrong rabbit hole. You're absolutely right. So the next one is you're busy. So another thing a guy is not impressed by is your busy social life. And she says, men don't want to know how busy you are. Socializing and going places.

Luann shared that men care about how women look physically, how they look after their homes, their health and their partners. What, how do you feel about that? Well, I think 100% like busy social life is more of a turn off than something that's going to impress me. Like always, always out doing something and neglecting those other things. Yeah, that's a more closer to a red flag.

But what if my me time is connecting with others? Well, as long as you're still looking after your health and your partner. Yeah, I home my health and my partners, aka you and my dogs, while taking care of. Okay, so right now, as much as we hated this article, we are agreeing with her. We're two for seven. Next. Yep. Okay, next she says, your career success. The Perth dating coach revealed that, like their education, a woman's career isn't going to help a man decide whether she's a great match for him.

But an important character trait is how supportive someone can be about their goals and dreams. I don't completely agree with that one. When she said goals and dreams, I was like sucked in. No, that is important. I'm not saying those are exclusive though. I do think someone that has their own goals and their own career and the things that they aspire to be into achieve is an attractive thing. Yeah.

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a boyfriend. I have a brother. I have a brother in law. I have a lot of guy friends. And I think that a career path can be a part of choosing your partner because what if it's just like not down your path in life. Well, I'll just say if you have like a path somewhere you're headed like a goal to get to that actually has, you know, you can see it. That's the direction you're headed. It's a lot better than someone that jumps job to job and can't figure anything out

and is constantly trying to find themselves, trying something new and not sticking with it long enough to find out if it's even the right thing for them. Like that's clearly more of a turn off than someone that's like, this is what I want to be. I'm doing these things to get there, you know? So we disagree with this one. We're two. We're two first three.

We're two first three. How do you do it in sports? We're number three. I was like, we're two for seven, but we're not. We're two for three right now. Okay, it's about dudes. I'm going sports. Okay, next is your financial status.

And in quotes, she says, your rich parents are all the things you have. They don't matter to him. She revealed that while a man would prefer not to take in a woman who is coming with a whole pile of debt, her financial status is not a major selling point. What do you think? I'll remember. I want these to be from your perspective, but also like as it just the dude, you're the dude that speaks the voice, you know?

Yeah. Well, I'm saying I agree. I don't think rich parents have ever impressed me by any means. I'm not into that sort of thing. It's more about the individual person, but I also do agree, well, I agree with that. I agree that coming with a pile of dead is some baggage that you don't want either, necessarily. Yeah, and for me, I wonder this, because again, I keep trying to do this from my point of view,

but this is about a man's point of view. So when it says like, take in a woman who's coming with a whole pile of debt, from my perspective with all the guys that I know, I think that that is not necessarily like a red flag if she has her head on her shoulder straight and like wants to get because who knows what put a woman in that place? Maybe it was a guy.

Maybe it was an ex-husband. You know, maybe it was the pandemic. Maybe it was all these things. So if it was just like, you know, maybe it was the pandemic, maybe it was all these things. So if it was just like shit happens, I would assume that most great men would not look at that, you know, with their nose turned down. But if it was just irresponsibility, that means something else. I'm just saying like some people have shitty parts of life. I mean, I know plenty, unfortunately, plenty of women who have been married and like been robbed blind and or have gone through difficult, like domestic violence situations

are just there's just so many ways that that could go about that where I've I have friends who have literally walked away from everything they had in order to get away from a marriage. So that is brought on debt, but it doesn't mean they have a good they don't have a good head on their shoulders that they're willing to like, enable to get out of said debt. I think if the woman has a path and the wear with all to like get her shit together, but maybe she just had some baggage that fucked her up for a second. Yeah, I mean, the direction you're moving in obviously matters. Like if you have a, a pile of debt that say you owe $50,000, but it was 200, two years ago,

and that's like the direction you're going, not gonna matter. If you have $100,000 in debt, and you are behind on all your credit cards, and still buying shit every time you get a chance, two totally different situations. Yeah, so it's like, she's not right, she's not wrong about that one.

I do think some of these kind of, for me, I'm always just like, well, what if she went through that, like the empath in me is like, but I don't know, but I don't want to answer because I'm not the guy. Oh, you're the one. No, generally though, that's not something a man does want to take on. So I mean, if it is something like that is a totally different situation. If you're headed out and you like see the end of the life, the end of the tunnel

versus having this pilot that with no plan and no necessarily means to do anything about it. That's, that is absolutely an unattractive quality. It's a red flag. I mean, I can speak as a woman if I were in that position about a man. I would say that's also a red flag. Yeah, agreed. That's what it's like. Next, she says, how independent you are. The man said that when a man hears the line, I don't need a man, he usually checks out. Why would a man not want to be needed? She asked, instead she said that men are looking for a woman who can control her emotions and be rational. He wants someone who can talk about the way

they feel rather than ranting, raving, blaming, and nagging. I mean, as a, I just, I wanna, I know this is again, I'm gonna say it for the 40 million time, like about how a man feels, but I'm like, yeah, that's how I'd feel about my partner too. I would be needed and I don't want that those things, but okay, I don't like the way she titled this one has that. And the pen that you are, obviously a man wants to be needed like, wants to be,

be able to not necessarily need to provide, but like, you need him to move the couch for some reason, you need to hang pictures and you need to do anything, no matter how small it is, that makes them feel important. So I totally agree with that statement, but that doesn't mean you can't be an attractive independent person if you know not to belittle the other person. That just sounds like belittling more than being independent, if you ask me. Well, I totally agree. That's a really good point, babe. And what you just said reminded me, and I probably said this on one of our very early podcasts, but my therapist slash life coach Heather, was the one to tell me like,

I needed to sort of disarm myself at times, like with you, right? With my boyfriend, like when you want, you're like, we're going to the airport. Let me carry that bag while I roll my suitcase so you don't have to carry your bag and roll your suitcase. Like, let me do it. And there's something inside of me

that's like, independent woman, her. I'm a strong woman. I'm like, I got it. I got it. And she was like, you know what? She was like, my husband of X amount of years that, like, literally a specific story where she was like, you know, my,

I think it was her suitcase actually was like, up in the attic. And she was like, am I fully fucking capable of grabbing it out of the attic? Of course I am. But if I were to just say, Hey, honey, would you mind grabbing that from me out of the attic? He feels appreciated. He feels important. He feels like she needs him to do that.

And she knows that that kind of gives him a little bit of like a boost of like, ula la. So she was like, if they want to carry your bags or if they want to just hang the photo, like you said, Luke, or do whatever, like those things around the house, like just fucking let him. Don't be so proud that you won't allow them to do something that makes them feel good. I agree with you. I feel like I heard Heather say that. Yeah. So at the end of the day, I think one of her lines that resonated with me. Instead, she said that men are looking for women who can control her emotions and be rational. That is the little part that maybe go, no, it's true. Of course. Guess what? And women are looking for men who can control their emotions and be rational. It just sounds like a little gas lady because women, I feel like there's this stigma of women

like, oh, well, they can't control their emotions. I don't know. It made me feel a little bit of ick. Not everyone, but I think in my experience, it is more common in women. Obviously, there's outliers. There's plenty of, they'm sure there are women out there that keep their shit together better than I do. And I consider myself a pretty calm,

like rational person. Obviously, if people get pushed to a point, but in general, from my experience, it seems that it's a little bit more of a feminine quality. And I don't that mean that as a dig or a negative thing. It's just what makes this different. Takes all types of make the world go around. So what we both kind of agree on is that we don't disagree with her points, but we don't

like the headline of it is like how independent you are because they kind of, it doesn't like mesh, right? Yes, agreed. Okay. Yeah, the next thing is say, a man doesn't care about your social media and how many Instagram followers you have. A dating expert revealed that social media accounts are shallow aspects of a person's character and do not say anything specific about their personality. Fuck yes, I agree. Same.

The only thing that social media accounts matter for are for sponsored content when you're trying to be an influencer and make a living. That's all it matters for. It does not matter how many friends you have, it doesn't make you a better friend, a less than a better friend, a better girlfriend, or boyfriend, or husband or wife, or fucking anything else. I, in fact, have my social media settings

set to what I look at other peoples. It says like, Luke, Bro Brodrick and others like this, because I don't want to see the number and like start comparing and contrasting. That's fair. Yeah, okay, so we're on the same fucking page. And next is your designer handbags, designer shoes, or how much they cost. Similar to her social meaning her is Luan the matchmaker. Similar to her social media point, a person's wardrobe is mainly a materialistic aspect of their personality that doesn't reveal anything deeper about their soul. It's a little dark. Many were thankful for Luan's wisdom. You had me worried at the start there, a woman said, but quite true in the end,

caring and being impressed are definitely two different things. Love your advice. This is nothing but the truth another wrote. This is so accurate and thank you for sharing a third added, but others disagreed with her controversial opinions. Men only care if you respect them and how intimate you are. A man wrote. So how do we feel about designer handbags,

designer shoes, or how much they cost? I mean, I think I can answer this for you. Yeah, don't care. There is something though of having pride. I mean, if you have your one bag, if it's not like your whole wardrobe, and you're like, I've got a hundred thousand dollars in this closet, I'm gonna be like, not impressed.

Cool, big deal. But you know, if you saved up and got your Louis Vuitton that you wanted and it's like your thing, you really liked that one purse, I'm gonna be impressed with the fact that you made that a priority, you made it happen and you're treating it like, like it's really worth something, you know? That's a different situation.

I love that. Like someone worked so hard for something that made them feel proud to carry. I think for men it's like a watch or not your car, but like maybe not like what kind of car you drive but like how much work you put into your car of keeping it clean or your home. Just kind of like taking care of yourself

and putting pride in that you used your hard earned money to do something for yourself. And you treat it like it's something nice. It's like not just like, oh, it's just another one, whatever. It's a story behind it, you know, like you were saying about one of the earlier ones, way more than just the fact that, okay,

someone has a blue baton bag, doesn't mean mean anything to me. So yes, agreed with that, but they could make it mean something to me if they explained it and that would show something about their personality on, you know, why they wanted it, how they got to the point of getting it and showing me how they treat it. Those are things that could make it matter. That's a flipping cute of you. Wow, wow, wow, wow. And that goes for anything. It's not even just a Louis Vuitton bag. It could be, you know, whatever the item is. Yeah. So how many did we fucking agree with?

I already, I like started a lose count, but whatever. I think we're only like a hard no on like one of them. I think so. So we give her like a six out of seven, but with some wavery moments. Some asterisk in there. Some asterisk, yeah, that's right. All right, fine, Lewin.

Lewin, word, you're not, you're not so bad, come on the podcast. I'll reach out to you. You do. Okay, so Luke is going to bed early tonight because his ass has to get up early and drive all the way to California, but we did, I did reach out for some ask me anything, so we want to answer these for you a sap. So some of these are for me, some are for both of us. This is from Miranda X Danielle. Would you consider doing a VVR rewatch and recapping

on the podcast? Y'all man, would you be? Hello. Thank you for giving us our new announcement, Miranda and Danielle, or Miranda Danielle. So starting this week, tomorrow, Thursday, you will hear us starting from season one, episode one, Vanderpump Rules OG freaking episodes that I swear I would never ever let Luke or ask him to watch. And here we go.

Yep. Here we go. I've already watched the first one. So only what in ten seasons to go. Yeah, right. But I definitely plan on, I was at Katie's the other day and I was telling Katie about my idea. And she was like, dude, you have to have some of those OGs on there. And I was like, you know, that's a great idea.

So yes, we are about to start, starting tomorrow, a Vanderpump rewatch and recap season one episode one, and then we'll just scoot right along. So, see you guys tomorrow. Next question is from Princess Peach 1993. What are your best and worst memories of your 20s? I just turned 30. So first of all, happy birthday To you. Happy birthday, my love. Best and worst memories of your 20s. Luke, do you want to take this one? You want me to take it first? You know, it's hard to come up with a worst, but the best I think my golden birthday my 24th on the 24th was my golden birthday, my 24th on the 24th was just so awesome. I can't even say it was that special, but everybody from the restaurant where I worked at came out, we went to a number of different bars,

I don't know, just that everything in that night was perfect, it seemed like we had such a good time, we were partying, somehow we didn't get a noise complaint. I remember being back at my house and music was so loud outstanding out back smoking a joint. It was in Colorado and like it's so loud how do the neighbors not care? Because the neighbors were like 10 feet on either side of us. And it was yeah, 3 a.m. Oh man.

Honestly, yeah, worse is a little hard. Actually, I know me worse one, but I'll wrap it up in a tiny little bow. It was just this really bad party night This is a little hard, actually, I know I'm a worse one, but I'll wrap it up in a tiny little bow. It was just this really bad party night in Los Angeles about a month after I moved here. So it's 24, 2007. And it was one of those, like, I was with Rachel, O'Brien, actually. But it was basically just to wrap it up, was like going to like this club and being that

girl, where I was like, oh, we got him so cool and I only do bottle service now. And then went to some mansion in Bel Air and was just like extremely intoxicated and ended up, God, we were up all night long. And the next day, I'm back in my apartment and that morning, I realized I don't have my cell phone and I just like had a full blown panic attack. Like this is like in the times of you print out your map quest, like in order to find your way. If you don't have a Tom Tom, which I didn't yet, in my 2001

Ford Mustang. And I barely knew where this house was in Belar because I lived here for five seconds, but I'm just like, I have to get my phone. What do I do without my phone? I literally don't know anyone here other than, at the time, I was like messaging my friends on my space. Like, I don't have my phone, like my friends from back home, just trying to like get a sense of calm. And I ended up getting in my car.

Like I think it was like 10 or 11 a.m. Driving down, if you guys know anything about LA, like the 405 in rush hour to this random mansion in Belair. And there was like a TMZ bus that drove by and it was like it's Snoop Dogg's house and it was not Snoop Dogg's house, just so everyone knows. And I'm waiting in the driveway

before the big giant gate. And right when I got there, I remembered that the call box was broken because I did know that. And I'm just like, fuck me. What do I do? So I had to just drive back to the valley where I lived and get back home and Rachel O'Brien saved the day. And she drove all the way to Belair with her phone.

She got my phone and drove it all the way back to the valley for me. That was pretty bad night. Go Rachel. Yeah, shout out to Rachel. My best memories of being in my 20s. I honestly think it was like working at Sir with my best friends before Vanderpump rule started. Just like having a job that I could go in every night with Katie and Stasi, and know that like, I don't know, we're like drinking wine and we're like making money and we like look cute and we're just getting off work together to go like back to someone's apartment together and it was just we're a really magical time before then. Yeah, and you're young and excited and the world's in front of you.

Yeah. A world just like oyster. I did think of a worst one. Tell me. So it was my first point of the first game of my professional frisbee and a guy dives in the back of my leg in the first point and rolls my ankle, class three ankle spray and hyper extended it. And so first point of something I've been training for for years,

I get taken out and I'm out for five weeks. Yeah, that sucks dick to be training so hard for so many years, being a pro athlete and then that happening. First point, yeah. But I finished the season after I came back, played the next year. Who do I need to count for that? Do you have his Instagram handle?

No, the guy actually felt awful. He came up to me a couple of years later. I saw him at a tournament and he was like, man, are you the guy I hurt in that game? And I said, what? And he's like, the guy I landed on, he's like, I feel so bad about that. We forget him.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Did he, like, or kid or anything? No, but he definitely didn't feel good about it and it wasn an intentional. He was just trying to make a play and stuff happens in sports. Okay, that's fair. Now I feel bad. But if you do want to send us an orchid to my apartment guy who almost ruined my boyfriend's career, thought you were more than welcome. Okay, do you find it challenging to maintain a healthy lifestyle amidst all the chaos in your life?

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that I love so much. I revisited the why I started it and that is what I'm going back to. So that's my Wednesday. What about yours, babe? I don't know. I'm driving all the way to you tomorrow. And I have a clue. You're gonna be resting. Next is from Mrs. Slattery here.

And it's asking me about my relationship and friendship with Stasi these days. So yeah, I went to her show. We celebrated her birthday. I'm so happy for her. She's like glowing, gorgeous. Her show is amazing. She's about to have baby number two,

her little boy. And I hope to see more of her, you know, in the future. We just have different lives right now, but she'll always be family. And I got to see her little brother, Nikolai, and her mom, which was so great. And Nikolai and I actually discussed Nikolai's time on Vanderpump rules. So Luke, I cannot wait for you to watch Stasi's little brother on Vanderpump rules. Season one, when we get there, your gets gonna be really funny. Okay.

Next question is from Kelstar 81, and it's just asking for a manifesting advice. Just in general, do you have any manifesting advice like when you wanna manifest the best? Yeah, write it down. Speaking into existence, like repeated in your head, make it the forefront of your goals. Do you want something to happen?

Like those things writing it down, saying it out loud, just keeping it on your mind makes it happen. In my experience, I completely agree. And I have nothing to add to that. It's exactly what I was going to say. Okay. Look at us. Look at us. Next question is from Andrea or Andrea Alexis.

Luke, you have not met Dan the man yet. Ariana is new friend. So they're just asking me my favorite anything about Ariana's new man. So I just was lucky and fortunate enough to meet Dan yesterday. So we're recording the Son of Monday, guys. I met Ariana's friend, boyfriend friend. I don't know what we call him right now.

And honestly, it's just, he's so sweet to her. He's so much fun. He has a smile to die for. He thought of everything got her like an aerial balloon for all of us to sign for her. He created an entire menu. Babe, they did like, what's the thing with the crab and the... The boil.

Seafood boil. Yeah, and then you have to put it like in a bucket with cold water to chill it down after he boils it. And then we had like a, they all had a nutcracker, like crack the crab or whatever. Oh man, I wanted to be there so bad. I ate a beet salad. So that's what I did. And it was phenomenal. Yeah, so anyway, so Dan, I got to meet him just for the day, but I mean, he's just the sweetest thing. And her smile is like

from ear to fucking ear, and that is what makes me happy with all my friends. Next question is from Becca Marie 806. How to balance recognizing red flags but not close your heart after being burned? That is a good one. I guess I don't know how to say how, but you've got to figure it out. Figure out how because that's only when it move forward. There's nobody, there's nobody out there that's perfect that's not going to have some red flag, it's a matter of what you can live with, and whether or not you think that person might work through it, and it's just a flag, it doesn't mean it is who they are. So you just kind of kind of keep the things separate, like just because

something happens that you're like, okay, that's a flag, you put that in the back of your mind, you keep going, if you think you a flag. You put that in the back of your mind. You keep going. If you think you really know who this person is, if they keep showing you that same flag, then clearly it's really there. That's really part of them. I think you need to tell just this very small, maybe it's like two people or something

that are very close to you, like your best friend, you're sibling about your hesitancies and thoughts that you might have that like about someone. Especially especially my point is like, after being burned is to let someone very close to you know, like these are the things that I've truly noticed. I think therapy is obviously important, of course, but these are the things I've really noticed.

And if you best friend and or sibling notice me going down that path, can you let me know in a way that is helpful and not harmful? That has worked for me a lot, but I think it can, that's why I say it with even a little bit of hesitancy. I think it can be tricky because the people that love you will obviously look out for you.

So, so hard that it can become a little annoying if I might say so myself, but that's why I think you keep it to a minimal amount of people that you share these thoughts with. And it's someone who's willing to listen or give advice. Yeah, that can also be a slippery slope. It can also be a slippery slope with family, in my opinion, because you're gonna make them hate them.

If you're like going to them to vent him or her, however, but if you're saying, well them to vent him or her, however, but if you're saying, well, he did this or well, she did this. And you're always saying these negative things, that's going to be their impression of them. So just as long as you don't slip into that, I agree with you. So maybe we need to on another podcast, we should really like dive into that sort of like red flag thing because I think it it's something we are both aware of in the relationships we've been in in the past,

but clearly right now we're kind of like, oh, I mean, sometimes it really is situation to situation. You know what I mean? But I would like to be able to give maybe better advice. Let's think about this one. Yeah. Wait, what does being burned mean to you in this question? After being burned, is that past relationship?

Or is it? Being burned is like after being broken up with in a shitty way, after being hurt, after being possibly cheated on, after being burned. Like, it's not just like, oh, your reconcilable differences. Oh, it didn't work out. Potato potato. It's like, no, it's person hurt. And it is really tough because I'll speak for myself. Like I read my book. Like I went down the same road many a times. So for me, honestly, therapy was the best thing for me.

Self-love, self-check-ins, making my list of gratitude, obviously, but also making my list of things that I really like about myself. I think that helped me out a lot too. Just like really, really feeling self-worth to not go down that path. Okay, just a couple more. Scotty 25, if you, this is very random, but if you could investigate one haunted location in the world, where would it be and why? I answered this in my head in a heartbeat and I actually don't

think it's a haunted location, but it was the only thing. So I hate haunted things guys. I hate ghosty, murdery, not my jam. I love true crime, but I'm not about to like go sleep in some like haunted ghost mansion and like hopefully I get to see or hear them. Nope, no thanks. But for me, it would be Kurt Cobain's loft that he passed away in. I would love to be in there because there's always this thing up in the air. He passed away in 1994. And it was like the first band that I really truly loved.

And there was always this thing about like, did he really commit suicide or was he killed? blah blah blah blah blah. So I would love to be an Aberdeen Washington and like sit up in that loft and kind of like do a say on. That's cool. Yeah, I don't. I did nothing that come to mind as far as something I want to investigate. I do have some ghost stories experiences. I have a question. Do you think that there's nothing that comes to mind because on the ranch, you're surrounded by a Rachel O'Brien and Greg Hunter doing nothing but talking

about haunted locations and true crime? Have it in the Middle East Center's podcast? Everyone listen. Yeah, I guess I'm just not that curious because I had the experiences that I've had. I don't have a doubt that like haunting is real. Share your experience. Go, go, go, I need to know.

So the first one, I was actually asleep. This is, I think I was in middle school, I don't know. But my parents had just gotten this antique arm war for my sister's bedroom. Her bedroom was more like a dendin' didn't have a closet, but God are this arm war. That very night my brother wakes up at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 oclock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 oclock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 oclock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 oclock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at 3 oclock at 3 o'clock at 3 o'clock at She looked like she belonged in a carriage, but he said she was very nice. She smiled. He said he looked at the clock and looked back and she was gone. Now, in the morning, he tells my mom this story and my mom not knowing anything about this. I had just heard the same story from my dad who left for work before we go to school.

Two minutes apart. He said he woke up at three something. I am saw the exact same thing and told her. So I mean, it's real that happened. My parent, my dad still has it and I do believe I mean you know lights come on fans come on when you're not home and sometimes odd things happen. I've heard footsteps. Why didn't you tell me that before I was in that house? Because you told me not to. That's true. I would have never gone inside. I need to like sage myself now. What if I brought that ship back? You didn't. She's nice. Anyway, it doesn't matter. Yeah,

she's in this old fashion lane. The other experience as well as only a, well, I guess, probably like 10 years ago. I don't know. Whenever I left the year before I left Indiana and movie Colorado. So I'm there. My dad and I have plans to go hunting in the morning. So I wake up and look at the clock and it's time to get up. And I hear coming down the stairs. My bedroom's in the basement and I hear the footsteps come down to landing. I hear him turn, turn around the stairs and come right up to my door. I sit up straight, expecting a knock and nothing. Just total silence. I go, Dad, nothing. So I get up, go open the door, nothing there. I go upstairs and my dad's asleep. So I didn't see anything, but I heard enough footsteps for me to sit up expecting the door to open or knock and

Nothing happened nothing there. Check the whole house. Nothing there. Did you ever have sex in that bed after that? Yes, I'll be so scared that like a ghost would bite off my penis. I Don't know why that's the very first thing I thought of. It's very irrational fear of ghosts. Yeah, I don't want to see here. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, thank you, sir. You love like, on the thriller movies, you love that sort of thing. Like, like psychological thrillers, like real people doing fucked up shit and then they get arrested.

Not like ghost time. Okay, I guess that's the thing. No ghost time for me. Last question, Luke. Dream interview podcast guest. This is from Mazi Muffin or Mazi Muffin. I'm not sure how to pronounce it. This took me less than, I mean, a millisecond. Then you go first. Stevie Nicks. Oh, perfect. I want to know within her time obviously instill with Fleetwood Mackwood, especially back in the day, how she felt about them like fucking fighting dating, but always remaining family. It's the Vanderpump rules of classic rock.

You know, I like that. I'm a Colts fan. So Indianapolis Colts go blue. Andrew Luck retired suddenly right before it was during a preseason game when he was in his 20s. Surprised everyone. And he is somebody that I thought was gonna be the best player ever.

And he retired all of a sudden. And I'd love to have him on the podcast and ask him a whole bunch of questions. This was probably six years ago. Something like that. So he's like close to your age. Yeah, close to my age. Well, I'll just like fucking DMM. Andrew Luck. Does anyone know Andrew Luck? I feel like we could attain that. Like, see you next. No, not so much. I highly got it. There's no way we're getting Andrew Luck on the podcast. Watch me try. Well, I mean, so we usually end our episode with, I would do anything for love, but I won't do,

ugh. And you know what, today, I just am feeling full of love. So I'm just gonna say, there's not anything I wouldn't do for love. I have a sick pup, I have a boyfriend about to be driving, you know, part of the way across the country with his dog, and I have another dog who's a giant pain in my ass and I'm obsessed with him too.

And I had a weekend full of love with lots of different friend groups and right now I'm filled with love. So today, there's nothing that I wouldn't do for love. Damn, I wish I was there. Take advantage of that. So you have an answer for it. Are you just spent on it for the moment?

No, I'm sitting here sweating because I had to turn my fan off. Uh, yeah. Nope. Can't think of anything. We'll bring this up again. Would you shave your head? Yeah. Oh, okay.

Would you let me shave your balls with a razor or clippers, landscape clip? With a man's cape. Like, what is it called? The lawn mower? Yeah, the lawn mower. Yeah, sure. I'll let you do it tomorrow. Now, if youpes. Like, what is it called the lawn mower? Yeah, the lawn mower. Yeah, sure. I'll let you do it tomorrow.

Now, if you want to see other one called though, there's a lawn mower or the hedge trimmer. The hedger. Yeah, that's for the beer. What's the hedger for? Beard. Manscape is one of our podcast sponsors, but I am bringing this up without like an ad needed

because when Luke got it, I was like, wait a minute. Can I shave my vagina with that? Because I'm always using like my like razor razor where I was like, oh, this sounds nice. So wait, would you let me shave your, would you trust me to shave your balls with that? With that? Yeah. With any ones, anything. Do you really want to? I mean, like, I kind of just want to like do a room, like just a one little like, okay, you let me show you the bet. You let me shave your neck.

I know. I said, yes, go for it. You can shave my balls. Oh my god. Yes. I'll see you tomorrow or the next day. You're funny. Yeah. Yeah. No, how about this? I wouldn't let you shave my balls with a straight razor for love. Okay. And I would not shave your balls with a straight razor for love. That's terrifying, isn't it? Yeah, no, I have zero desire to use a straight razor at all. So look, look at us on the same page. I can't wait to see you. You guys can't see our faces, but I can see his and it's been too long. So we love you guys so much. Thank you for tuning in. Hope we read the questions and answered them the way that you wanted us to and if not, whatever.

Suck a dick. And we'll read some more coming up and do not forget to tune in tomorrow to Luke watching Vanderpump fucking rules season one episode one. Oh my god. Yeah, you got to hear this. All right, we'll talk to you soon. Thanks for listening. Bye. Make sure to follow us on social media. You can follow me on all platforms at Kristen Dodie and follow Luke on Instagram at Luke double underscore broadrick. Be sure to click the subscribe button so you can stay up to date with new episodes every single Wednesday. Thanks for listening. See you next week.