Sex, Love, and What Else Matters - Ask Me Anything + “The Valley” Premiere Date

Episode Date: January 28, 2024

Episode 87. This week, Kristen and Luke respond to an 'Ask Me Anything' poll from Instagram and cover a variety of topics! Kristen spills the tea for the first time about what happened between her and a VPR castmate – are they still friends?? They reveal the premiere date for “The Valley” and its sooner than you think. Kristen and Luke talk about if they are trying for a baby again. What happened to Kristen’s lips? Was Luke ever able to adjust to the cameras while filming a reality show? All this and SO much more, tune in now! Sponsors: Get 20% off your first 90-day bottle of Just Calm and Just Thrive Probiotic today. Visit JustThriveHealth.com and use promo code: DOUTE Go to Addyi.com and use code DOUTE for a $10 telemedicine appointment Follow us: @kristendoute @luke__broderick Email us: [e-mail] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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or visit connexontario.ca. Please play responsibly. What's up, babies? Welcome back to another episode of Sex, Love, and What Else Matters. Hey, honey. Hi, honey. It feels like it's been more than a week, doesn't it? No, it kind of does. It's been too long. Well, we're going to have two a week coming up next week.

Oh, yeah. It's coming up that fast. Wow. Okay. The VPR premiere. I haven't seen a single lick of it. The commercials are on everywhere we look. Yeah, seen the all the previews the commercials all that stuff, but we have not seen any insider

premiere. No, someone told me that they saw the oh, no, did you tell me someone saw a Valley commercial? Yeah, I got a text, but then he said it was social media. Never mind about that. So it's been a fun week. I did Brittany's podcast. Then we had Brittany's girl's birthday dinner to all of y'all that were like, where are the boys at? Is everyone OK?

Are Kristen, are you and Luke OK? Are Jackson, Brittany OK? It was just a girl in Gaze Night. That's what she wanted. And we're having another party this weekend at their bar to celebrate the Lions and Brittany because she's the best. Perfect I can't wait and you know sometimes you just need that. Yeah. Need those girls nights girls and gays nights and the guys nights. It

was a lot of fun and I'm gonna have Brittany on soon and we'll tell you all about that crazy night. Okay. We're gonna save it for that but for today we didn't ask me anything and I was wildly overwhelmed by the amount of questions. So thank you guys so much for writing in. You wanna just get started? Yeah, let's dive into it. Okay, we'll start slow and easy and we won't get anything too crazy right off the top, okay?

Okay, you got me worried. I have not seen these yet, so. Luke, how tall are you? Ha ha ha. Just a hair under six too. Just a hair under six two. Just a hair under six two. I say you're six two because I just want you to be taller. I'm like, I is like barely six three.

No, I say you're six two. I mean, with shoes on, I'm over six two. Next question, are we trying for a baby again soon? And this is from Hair We Again 77. Hair We Again? Hair We again 77. Hairy again? Hairy again 77. That was Hairy again, which is everybody that shaves anything, you're always gonna be Hairy again. Okay, that's true.

Anyway, are we trying for a baby again soon? Do you want to answer? I think, no, I think it's more your... If I, okay, it's just, it's just up to me. We, we, I think we said this on the podcast already because we're pretty open and honest, but we did try right after the pregnancy loss. I was ovulating a couple of weeks later and it didn't happen. So we're just taking a breather for a minute, taking a breather and we're going to try again

in a couple of months, I think. Yeah, we'll reconvene when it's, I guess, warmer. Or, you know. When it's warmer? I don't know. When what's warmer? It's winter. What?

What are you talking about? You know, I just mean when the, whatever. When the weather's warmer, we'll try to, you'll come inside again. I guess. Oh my God. Loops a little out of it. That's why I said you should take this.

Get some whiskey, babe. Okay. Somebody wants to know how they can watch the Valley Overseas. Well, it was really like, how can I watch it in Italy? How can I watch it in Brazil? So you guys, I don't know the answer to that question. I know that when I was on Band of Pump Rules,

it was syndicated in well over 100 countries. So wherever you watch that in your country, wherever you watch an NBC Universal sort of umbrella. Most likely Peacock. I don't know what the streaming rules are in your country, wherever you watch an NBC Universal, most likely Peacock. I don't know what the streaming rules are in other countries, but that is a question we can run up the chain up the ladder and figure out for you. Yeah, I'm not totally sure. Like in Australia, when I was there, it was, Hey, you. So I don't totally know.

But we did get a question of when is the spin off from J Rose 85? And I've seen online many, many a times Alex Baskin, who was the creator of the Valley as well as Vanderpump Rules. Alex Baskin at the Vanderpump Premier very publicly said in the press line that Valley will air on the eighth week of Vanderpump Rules. So if you do your girl math and Vanderpump airs on January 30th, go eight weeks out. And that's the day that we premiere. Okay, we premiere on March 19th. That wasn't the date that I was told to begin with,

but that is now the official date. So March 19th, here we come. All right. Not on my birthday for once. Normally Vanderpump rules airs on my birthday. And it's always like a reunion or like a really shitty episode or like a finale. And then I have to talk about it in press and I'm like, what's on my birthday?

Great. Well, definitely not this year. Nope. Not this year. So this year we will be in Hawaii on your birthday. We will be in Hawaii on my birthday. White the different vibe. Yeah.

I'm ready for adventures and relaxation before the crazy begins again. Whales and sunsets. Hell yeah. Next question. What area did you buy the land in and begin home building from Terra Daniela 100? So do you want to explain about our land that we bought? Yeah, I'll explain. So we bought a lot as an investment. We do not intend to build on this Lised lot.

Believe it or not. We know it's a really great neighborhood. It's an awesome neighborhood, definitely. However, we feel it was undervalued and therefore we bought it as an investment to eventually sell. So yeah, anyway, the area is south of Indianapolis, north of Bloomington.

I'll leave it at that. Yeah, so it is in Indiana, you guys. It's not in Michigan. But yeah, it was, I don't know, we're adulting. Luke's a big investment person and I'm trying to be a better adult in ways like that. I can take care of my dogs, my house, my stuff, everybody around me, but when it comes to

business-y adulting, it's just not my favorite thing. But you're really good at it, so there we are. Luke, what are you most proud of about yourself as well as me and for us about each other from Suzanne Dawson. Oh, you're gonna spring this on me like that. Yeah, man. What are you most proud of about yourself? I can, I know what I'm the most proud of you. What makes me the most proud of you? It's like all the things that I love about you. I just think you take everything like little by little, you don't really allow things to overwhelm you. And like you always

say, you always land on your own two feet, you're not afraid of adventure, you're not afraid of change, and you always make shit happen. And as business of a man that you are, you're also such a dreamer. And I think it's such an interestingly complex situation with you, because I don't really know how to be emotional and logistical and be a dreamer but also be structured and I think you've really that's just kind of who you are you've learned to balance those things. Thanks honey. You're welcome. That's super sweet. Yeah, be totally honest this timing at the moment I'm not super I don't know up on myself kind of been beating myself up recently. I don't know if it's the Winter months or what it is, but it's yeah, more difficult than it should be to come up with what I'm

proud of myself for. Okay, so we had a full moon just recently. I washed all, I cleansed all of our crystals and charged them. I gave Luke some black tourmaline to hang on to to suck that negativity out. Mm-hmm. Well, I don't wanna like project it. No, you're not. But everyone has bad days and it's okay to have bad days and it's okay to have bad moments

or like question things. Right, yeah it is. But that's why I'm telling you all the things that you're amazing at, you know? Uh-huh, thanks baby. Okay, great. We're gonna move on from that one because Luke's just not feeling it right now, which

is okay. Sometimes I'm the Debbie fucking Downer. You're not a Debbie Downer. I love you so much. All right, let's just get into this one. I got about a trillion questions. You ready for this? Yeah, let's do it.

This is from Monica Bierman. What is going on with you and Lala? Is there beef? Luke, what's going on with you and Lala? I'm just kidding. Me and Lala, see, she just really doesn't like me for some reason. No.

Okay, so here's the thing with me and Lala. I have been sitting on this, not thinking I was gonna talk about it on the podcast because Lala is my friend. Well, I guess was my friend because according to her in this moment, she doesn't know who I am. She's not even sure if she's ever heard of my podcast or is the podcast even exists. It does. So Lala, I chose to text Lala when I heard that she was upset with me because I was very caught off guard. I did not know that she was upset about anything and a friend filled me in on that, a couple

of people. So I sent Lala a text about this. So what happened from my understanding is that I did Zach Peters live podcast in November and I was with Gigi from Shaws and Raza was also up on stage with us. I found out the day before that Gigi from Shaws was gonna be on stage with me. Also, I'm just gonna toss this out there. I was pregnant at the time so very sober, very exhausted, a little nervous, but I texted Zach and said, oh, so Gigi and I are on stage together? Okay, well FYI, she can't stand me.

Like, she's never liked me. We've never gotten along. And he offered to not have us on stage together. And I said, that was ridiculous. Like, we're adults. It's not a big deal. I'm just giving him a heads up because I've never gotten a warm greeting

from her in my life. So cut to we are on stage together. I find out Reza's coming. Reza's a friend of mine. I love him dearly. I'm like, okay, this is a great buffer, right? And for whatever reason, we end, I end up sitting in between Gigi and Raza. This live podcast was streamed. So it was live streaming as well, from what I understand. And at one point, whether it was Zach or someone in the audience was asking Gigi about her beef with Lala, which I really didn't know about if I'm being honest.

I didn't know that Gigi was friends with Randall. I didn't know that this is the way this is going to go. So it went pretty, it went pretty shitty. It went pretty dark and Gigi ended up saying some shit about Lala's parenting, which I do think is extremely fucked up. And where Lala got upset is that I did not fight back about that, that I didn't say anything to defend Lala. So here's how I feel. In the moment, what I had heard was that Lala said I laughed about it.

So my text to her said that absolutely did not happen. And I got the footage, I watched it back, and I wrote her and said, you can see I clench my jaw, I watched it back, and I wrote her and said, you can see, I clench my jaw, I roll my eyes, and I turn toward Raza. And you can hear me say, why am I sitting in the middle right now? Or why am I sitting in between you two? Or something along those lines?

And now in hindsight, here's the thing. I didn't feel it was like my fight to fight because I thought it was just so mundane and so stupid. Who cares what this chick has to say. Right. Why would you respect this person's opinion? Like she's a fucking tool. She's a fool as it is to begin with. And Lala is an insanely wonderful mother.

She's a great mom. She's always put ocean first. She's been through hell and high water with everything Randall's put her through, which I'm sure you guys are all aware of if you listen to give them Lala. So I was a little stung and a little hurt. Number one, that Lala, I'm talking to you and to all of you guys listening, that as my friend, if Lala was upset about this, it was something that hurt her feelings. If she pissed her off, she should have just called me.

Just call me, shoot me a text and say, this really fucking hurt my feelings. This was not cool. I'm not happy about this. And we could have had a conversation. But instead she started telling our friends who then had to come back to me weeks later and fill me in on this. So of course I'm like a little, honestly, like I was a little bitchy about it. Like, here's my take on it. And this isn't going to be nice because I live in the real world, not in this crazy reality version of the real world where you can call someone your friend and then not address something like this and take it up to everyone else and then act like you're going to make up and be fine with it. Just grow the fuck up.

Like if you guys are real friends, if you were ever really friends and something upset you because someone didn't act the way that you would have or you thought they should have, if you don't take it to them, you have no respect for that person. You're going to go talk to other people to try to blow this up and be a bigger deal. La la, reach out to Kristin if you guys are real friends. She didn't do anything intentional and it's quite clear that there was nothing intentional to harm you whatsoever, the way you interpreted it.

Thank you. I agree. I mean, because the only time I can think of, I can fully think of when Lala said something, uh, she did it on Watch What Happens Live, and she and I have talked about this on her podcast before. This is like a long time ago, but there was a question from Andy saying, which one of the Vanderpump rules cast members would you not allow to babysit Ocean? And she said me. And I was fucking gutted.

I cried. I think I knew in my heart of hearts in the back of my mind it was like a funny jab. Kristen can take it. It's funny to make fun of her. But for me, all I heard was, OK, I'm the oldest girl. I'm the only one other than like Katie, like, without a baby. And now you're saying you wouldn't let me watch your daughter.

Like it just, to me, it was like a really fucking hurtful. But I didn't come to her with it for a while because I didn't really know how to handle it. And I didn't go around telling everyone else when I finally felt like I could say something to her. And I was a little more calm about it. I did text her and I did talk to her about it. And she apologized and said, oh my God, it was just like a joke. I didn't mean it. And it was cleared up. Instead of me going, fuck you, you're dead to me, to all of my best girlfriends who are her friends as well. So that is really where I stood with that. And so

like I said, I texted her these things, never got a response back. This has been a while now. And I will say this too, because this is so like, ew, convoluted. I read this quote today., uh, convoluted. I read this quote today that said, surround yourself with people who fight for you in rooms you're not in. And where I'm going to apologize is that Lola was not in that room to fight for herself. That makes me feel like I should have said something. And I think normal me in my normal brain would have turned to this girl maybe because that's kind of what I've always done, right? I'm fighting other people's fights all the time. It's also

what I get in trouble for. So it's like a really difficult balance at times. But reading that quote made me go, you know what, that's kind of fucked up, Kristen, because Lala wasn't there to defend herself. She wasn't there to have her own voice. You're her friend. I should have said something. Like, that's not cool. Don't say that in front of me. Don't talk about my friend like that. So Lala, for that, I'm sorry. You know what?

I should have done it. I just feel like we're fucking grown adults. If you have a problem with a friend, if something upsets you, call your friend. If you're friends, that's the thing. It's like, just call what it is. If you're not friends, then don't act like you are. Right.

Because a lot of the times we've been around you, you have been a friend. I think, I've told Kristen, I think you're cool. I think you're real. Mm-hmm. But this is not that. And that's why I'm confused and don't know what's going on. Like why you wouldn't take it up. But hey.

Right. Well then, and I also want to say that I've now roped in my good buddy, one of my very, very close friends, Josh Peck. Hi, Joshy. I've now roped Josh Peck into this fucking friend or ex friend beef on the internet because he will have Lala next week on the Good Guys podcast. And he had texted me and said, Hey, I'm having Stacey and Lala on separately. Is there anything I should ask them or know or whatever? And I said, well, and I told them about this beef.

So he did bring it up and Lala said, I guess like read me your phone. And I put Josh in this fucking awesomely horrible situation. But Josh is my boy and he also said, Lala was an amazing guest. So Lala, you know I love you. I think you handled this like shit. I'm not happy about the way you're fucking talking about me or my podcast because it's just so petty. However, you weren't there to fight in the room for

yourself. I should have said something. I understand why your feelings were hurt next time. Just come to me and say my feelings were hurt and don't blast it on the internet that you don't know who I am. Calm down. So I'm still a little perturbed by that part, as you can see. I see. But I think, yeah, you're being the bigger person right now. There's more I could say, but none of it's nice, so I'm ready to move on. Okay, let's move on. So that's the beef with me and Lala.

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and then I just decided to watch and listen for myself. And I kind of agreed with everything that she said. I don't think that it was shady or mean or hurtful and it was honest. Sussie and I don't talk or hang out very often. I still consider her family. I would be there for her if she ever needed me. But she does, we lead very different lives. And I just think she was honest. Luke, you heard it and listened to it. You kind of thought the same thing. Absolutely, there was nothing mean about what Stasi said.

She was just honest that it's just not her group, but she doesn't want to change her life to do this television show that it does not reflect the life she's living. Exactly, I mean, I'm on this show and I believe I've only been in the same room as Stasi one time. And I I mean, I'm on this show and I believe I've only been in the same room as Stasi one time and I had to ask Kristin afterward.

I was like, have I ever even met Stasi? She's like, yeah, kind of at, you know, this bar she was there and I'm like, oh, I didn't even notice. I didn't, I have not been formally introduced to Stasi. Right. We just have different lives. She's not wrong. Exactly.

I mean, she has two kids. She's a husband. She's, we just have different lives. This not reflecting her actual reality is accurate. I'd say yeah, so that's that I hope I'm sure you guys were hoping for some crazy Like tea and beef, but nope no for me. I'm happy for you. Say have your own happy little bubble with your kids and your husband Good for you stasi. Yes for you. I fucking agree wholeheartedly for real. Next question, this is from Sam and Roxy Rooney. Why do my lips look like I've been stung by a bee? Oh man.

Yes. So. It's what Kristen wanted for some reason. It's kind of what I wanted. I mean, they're not ridiculous, but here's the thing. Shout out to Rachel Wolfson, comedian extraordinaire. Who needs to come on this podcast? We will have her. Yes, Rachel, we are having you on here.

The only female in Jackass, if you're living under a rock. I saw Rachel get stung by a scorpion, so I was like, I wanna get stung by a scorpion in the mouth. That's not what happened. No. Kristen would have been absolutely terrified. I got a little bit of filler because it makes me feel good about myself and I probably posted when they were freshly like plumping hadn't gone down yet but also if you asked this

question and have not seen the video of Rachel Wolfson's scorpion lip filler look it up take it enjoy that Enjoy. Because it's hilarious. You're welcome. Rachel, you're a boss for going through with that. She's such a boss. She's amazing. And happy belated birthday, Rach. Next question, and this is anonymous.

So someone was asking, I had a couple of, actually a few questions about this. If I can just share more about my experience taking Luxa Pro and another person had written in saying that her husband's newly on it and is experiencing a lot of fatigue. So thank you for asking what my experience is because you guys, I'm not a doctor, I'm not going to tell you what to do, how it should make you feel. It was recommended to me. And I decided to go on it. For me, it took a bit to kind of feel a change. And I will tell you in my experience, I did not, it wasn't this like click

or like this overnight like, oh my gosh, I'm so happy all of a sudden. I'm not depressed, I'm happy. It's not a, it's not a benzo. It's not this immediate thing. It's something that happens over time. But I definitely noticed a shift in my clinical depression. It doesn't mean that situationally,

I'm not depressed at times, but it's been a huge weight lifted off my shoulders. So if it is something that you're considering, I highly recommend talking to a doctor about it, a psychiatrist, and just finding out from your doctor. That's all I can really say. And as far as the fatigue is concerned, in my experience, I do not experience

fatigue, but I know that that is a side effect of it. And I was told to take it at nighttime. For me, I take it in the morning because that's when I remember to take it because of my awesome ADHD. So I take it in the morning, but I don't experience the fatigue, but I think that's a very normal side effect that most people feel. So they recommend taking it at night. So that's all I can really say about it. It worked for me. If you're curious, definitely go see an actual doctor, right? Right? Right? I don't have a comment on that. I know you don't. So well, this one kind of goes back to, I think some things we were just talking about, but Luke, I'd like you to weigh in on this. This is from Tiffany Taylor. How to deal with close, like having a fallout

with close friends when you're in your 40s. Now you're in your 30s, I understand, but we're both adults. I mean, I'm LA 40s for sure, as far as maturity goes. I think you're like LA 50s. Are there specifics? What? Are there specifics to the question?

No, no, but I wrote down another quote because that's what I do. And I read this quote the other day that said, God removes people from your life because he heard conversations you didn't. And that hit me like a ton of fucking bricks. Like, whoa, there are certain people, whether you believe it or not, some people may have actually cleansed all these people from their lives, but most people have somebody that is talking shit about everybody else. Every single person gets their turn on the table being like having shit thrown at them,

be like, well, this is the problem with that person. Well, this person would be perfect if they didn't blah, blah, blah, blah. Like there's these, these types of people around. I'm sure everyone's coming contact with them. As far as this question goes. Yeah, I think so it's how do you deal with like close friends falling out like in like this stage of our life. And I'm not going to lie. It's almost easier. Well, I was I was just going off the quote you said. That's why I said before I was leading into this. But ultimately, you know, it all depends on where you are with your circle, whether they're completely out of the outer circle after that, or they need to do some things to work their way back in.

But as you get older, your circle gets smaller. You know, it's more proximity based or, I don't know, you become friends by convenience in certain ways. And if someone, if it doesn't work out, but, you know, their kid's still on the same soccer team as your kids, you know, you're still going to see each other. You can be, you know, friendly, you can be acquaintances, you can be friendly, you can have buddies. If this is, well, they said close friend fallout.

So I guess, yeah, I mean, there, there's a lot more factors to this in my opinion, but it's really what caused the fallout. Was it something very tragic? Was it something slightly unforgivable? Was it just factors like outside of your friendship that caused this? I think communication is everything. It's what Luke and I always say.

If I just said it about me and Lala, if you can have that conversation and figure out what the fallout is about, and if someone's not willing to converse with you about that, then maybe that's the fucking problem to begin with. It shouldn't be that hard. Yeah, I guess it depends on how loosely you're using close friends. Like the close friends I have have years of rapport. You know, I don't have close friends. Anyone I'd call a close friend that I don't have what probably at least five years of rapport with, like

I said, other than you. But that being said, there's an old saying time heals everything. It doesn't heal everything, but it can help a lot. It can help emotions kind of fade away. And if it is an emotional response to someone that maybe hurt you in an emotional way, but didn't like truly cause damage to your life, maybe you can get over it and you guys can get back to being friends down the road. It'll still have to be addressed at some point. Just don't sweep it under the rug because eventually there'll be a lump and you'll trip over it and you may break

your nose. Hey, I'm just gonna leave it at that. I don't need to. Yeah, Luke wins. Good job, man. Yes. No, that was a great fucking answer. I totally agree. And if we didn't answer it enough for you and you want us to get into it more, send us an email, babe. Next question. This is from doubly26. Did you guys drink the cocktails in interviews or were they just props on Vanderpump Rules? So they were just props, but we definitely had drinks, most of us.

We had drinks like sitting aside. Those were like taped down to the glass table and sometimes it was a beer for the guys, sometimes it was like water and food coloring or like apple juice or something. Because you gotta remember, this shit's sitting there for hours and hours and hours like collecting dust and it's a continuity thing. So if we were really drinking out of it, the lipstick gets on it, the beverage goes down.

So that's just the magic of TV. I feel like we had drinks in some of our interviews for the Valley, but I didn't last time. We don't? We don't at all. Nope. Maybe you're right. I didn't last time. We don't, we don't at all. Maybe you're right. I think they asked us what we wanted and then we never like did it, which makes more sense because Vanderpump was like, Oh, you work at a bar, you're bartenders. Here's a blue cocktail.

Um, oh, this is a really fun one. Okay. Hit me with it. This is from Trisha underscore Maria underscore. What are our phobias? This is terrible, I don't have a phobia. I, whoo. You have more than one.

You have enough for both of us. I do, but I think my biggest, I mean, I hate bugs, I'm terrified of bugs in general, like creepy crawly bugs. Tiny ones don't bother me, so I don't think it's necessarily a phobia. Like I don't have an extreme panic attack over this But I do have panic attacks. So I think what it is called I've read like Basie phobia or basophobia BASO

Phobia and this is different than acrophobia. So acrophobia is a fear of heights. I'm not a I always I'm like am I afraid of heights? No, I'm afraid of falling. So the fear of falling is The basophobia phobia if I'm saying that correctly. So the fear of falling is the basophobia, if I'm saying that correctly. I think it's heights though too. I mean, you couldn't get with- No, I skydive, I go on roller coasters. You couldn't get within 10 feet

of the ledge of my cliff in Colorado. Correct. Without like feeling nauseous. And so what I wrote was, I'm afraid of falling, leaning over an edge, bridges over water, hikes, or driving on steep cliffs. I have actually Broken down in tears. You went skydiving. You can't be afraid of falling you chose to fall out of a plane. I jumped It's a fall. No, it's not. I don't think it's it's not

I chose to go up and put a parachute on and jump out of a plane Sure, but I'm saying jump but you literally just lean forward But I chose that I but I'm terrified of like going to a tall building or like in standing on the edge, even like a tall balcony, like a really tall like skyscraper balcony and standing near the edge. Hell no. A rooftop standing near the edge. Hell no. Bridges over water. Like I said, said hiking even just hiking and there's a very steep decline It absolutely makes me cry feel like I'm gonna throw up might ship myself I want to curl up into a ball and just get the fuck I start shaking like uncontrollably

So whatever the fuck fear that is that's my phobia. I think it's very falling. Okay. That's very I'm not you don't have any Phobias, you know, I tried to think about it. There is a phobia. I don't remember the name. There's a phobia that's a fear of phobias. I don't have that fear though. I mean if I had to come up with a fear like something that I'm truly afraid of it is I don't even know what you're afraid like total loss of autonomy not being able to make my own decisions anymore like that would be a fear I'd have But I don't know if there is a phobia for that. That was like deep thing. I did a deep dive Yeah, you're searching. Yeah, I'm searching but if I lost like the ability to make decisions for myself

I just had to follow orders day in day out If you were like Britney Spears and her conservatorship. Is that what's going on? I don't, I'm not, I'm not. No, she's free now. Oh. Oh man, she's free Britney. She was in a conservatorship for 13 years. Under her dad and a bunch of rando people who were making way too much fucking money off of her money and she finally got freed. I can't believe you don't know this. No, I don't know. You need to listen to the audiobook. It's so good.

Okay. Moving on. Luke, how long did it, no, sorry. This is from Seville, Cizer, 04. Luke, how long did it take you to get used to filming? That's a really good question. Because I feel like you were so much better than I was like season one of Vanderpump rules, seeing a camera in my face for the first time. What did that feel like?

I want to know. And then how long did it take you to get used to it? So being in front of cameras is obviously foreign to me. You know, I don't believe I ever really forgot that they were there, like had any kind of discrepancy of other cameras on me or not. Like I have this compartmentalization ability that I'm like, okay, I can put it back here and ignore them, like actively ignore them and go about what I'm doing, but I never

like forgot about them or never entered this space that I think some people do mentally that's like cameras on or off, I'm gonna be this exact same person and I'm not gonna have any awareness of it. I never really got to that. It was like they, you know, I could minimize it and be like ignore them, do my thing, but totally getting used to it. I mean... Did you ever? Probably not, huh? You were used to it. I mean. Did you ever? Probably not, huh? You were used to it in being that never, I guess what I'm saying is like,

it sounds like it never really bothered you. Like you weren't self-conscious. No, I wasn't really self-conscious. No, no, no. I just don't think, I did feel, I guess, some sense of relief when I'd take a mic off and it'd be done. Yeah, I remember being like that my first season for sure. And they were more flies on a wall

in the first couple of seasons of Antipump Rules than they have been the rest of my entire reality TV experience, because I am more aware. And I know what I'm doing, but I still am honest. But the first couple of seasons, I was very aware they were there, but almost at the same time, I was kind of just being. Because there was no, we weren't being produced by any means, you know?

Right. That's a great answer. You know? Okay. Okay. Next question. Oh, this is a really good one. This is from Casey Ward.

Advice for intimacy and long-term relationships when your body has changed. Long term, not long distance. Long term. Long term. Your body changes. Yeah. So I can very much relate to this because I feel like my body has changed a whole lot and I'm not just saying because of pregnancy.

I'm just saying like I've gained weight. There are times where I mean Luke is you're the best partner like you really are. You don't ever make me feel that way. I never feel you make me feel so secure but I'm so insecure in my own head that I'm like I don't want to take my shirt off and I don't want you to like see my belly or like see my fat and make sure the lights are off at times. And then it makes me not as excited to come on to you because I'm not comfortable with my own self, but you do nothing to make me feel that way. You always make me feel so comfortable.

So I think my advice, if you have a very loving partner who does make you feel good about yourself is really girl, it's on you. Like you have to get out of your own head and definitely, you know, and do things to make yourself feel better. Go for walks, workout if you can. Like I don't know what, you know, kind of struggles you're having, but these are the same things that I tell myself is just like little by little every day, nothing's going to happen overnight. I I'm not gonna lose a bunch of weight overnight, but little by little just try to do things to make myself happier.

So I am a little more secure. Only thing that ever crosses my mind is how much it weighs on you. And obviously I haven't called things out. No. It doesn't bother me at all, but I see it bothering you. And so I don't know how to, I guess I try, I do what I can to give you confidence, but

I don't know what I can do to help you get that confidence back. Yeah, I don't think you can. I think it really is a personal thing. And like I'm saying this with a very supportive, loving partner who tells me I'm beautiful and then I'm hot and he wants me like all the time. I feel very lucky and that's how your partner should be. So I hope that your partner is doing that for you. So you really need, in my experience, telling myself this as well as like just work on your own brain and that that person's not looking at you

the way that you're looking at yourself. Right. Well, I'd say, you know, there are other things to other factors that help or hurt your mental state and your confidence. And one, doing things that you're good at to being physically active and three, your gut health. You know, we had the Just Thrive podcast like, gut health is a big deal. That is another brain in your body. Yep. I agree. Great point. I have to say, I know that I get into a slump. If I, you you know end up

partying a couple days in a row so I've got a weekend where I party three days in a row and then I've been eating garbage. Guess what I'm probably gonna be pretty low self-confidence not feeling very good for a couple days probably be down on myself and just being healthy yeah and you're gut health I totally agree with that. Be active get sunlight sunlight, eat good food. Those are things you can do to have more confidence, you know, and I'm not going to judge any woman's body. Yeah. Not where I am because beauty's in the eye of the beholder.

Agreed. But it's all about how you feel about yourself too. It's a really big thing. Exactly. And I will say this for sure, that no matter what size a woman is, having confidence and knowing you have this sexiness of your attitude, of your vibe, this confidence, no matter what physically, how physically you look, having that confidence will override it or trumpet every time. Totally. And your partner will see that. So. And you'll both feel it. Yeah. So take steps to have that confidence. Get your sparkle back. Yeah. You know what if it's really. Brittany always tells me, you gotta get your sparkle back. If it's really beating you up,

just think 1% a day. Yeah. Little baby steps. Yeah, baby steps. Just do 1% more every day to try to get better. Yeah. I love that, babe. That's fantastic. Okay, quick question about why was there a child's TP behind me in the video when I said ask me anything? That's a child's TP that I bought for our German Shepherd, Luke's German Shepherd. That's Jill's doghouse. It's Jill's doghouse. She does not fit in dog TPs.

So we have a ginormous child's TP. And last question, because the lions are playing, of a ginormous child's TV. And last question, because the lions are playing, coming up, I love this so much. This is from Small Foreign Faction. And they wanted to know just my favorite things about Detroit. So I'm assuming you're also Detroit native, Hala, let's go lions, hashtag one pride.

I'm freaking out. Three, one, three. Everybody from the three, one,. I'm freaking out. Three, one, three. Everybody from the three, one, three. I'll keep that three, one, three numbers until the day I die. But yeah, just in general, so God, there's so many, so I'm kind of going off the cuff here, but the things that just came to mind, food, easy. Lebanese food, Lebanese food, hands down.

That's a dearborn thing. It's a dearborn thing. Yeah, for sure. In downtown Detroit, I love Greek town. Greek town is amazing. Of course, all of our Coney islands are the tits. But memory wise, I think the very first memory that rang a bell to me was with my very best friend, Amy, who is obviously one of my favorite people. She's on my group chat with my family as like our other sister.

And we got to go to the Toy Soldier music video shoot. So cool. So cool. Yep. It was pretty wild. Also, I worked at this club called Blue. I don't know if it's still there on Woodward downtown Detroit. When I was a lot younger and we had the eight mile party there, I waited on Eminem before.

I've been rest in peace proof. I've been to proofs like mama's house before. I've hung out with D12 a bunch, my best friend Amy and I. So that was just a blast. Shout out to our friend Jimmy for always taking us along on those fun, crazy rides. And then another thing that really rang about, it's kind of going along with this whole Eminem thing,

but St. Andrew's Hall and the shelter, you guys have seen eight miles, those are real places. My cousin used to be the manager of those venues. So the first time I ever got to stage dive, I was actually like given permission because my cousin was managing St. Andrews Hall and he took me up on stage and I got to stage dive to Primus and that was the tits and I lost a shoe. I was wearing flip flops because that's what I used to wear. That's pretty cool. And I went to an M&M concert at Ford Field right after Ford Field became a thing.

And I was wearing skinny jeans with a black tank top and black stiletto high heels because I thought M&M would like notice me and think I was hot or something, which was like the dumbest thing I've ever done maybe. And my feet hurt so bad, I took my shoes off and walked through downtown Detroit barefoot to go see Nate Dogg at the shelter.

Questionable choices, but awesome. But I'm all safe and fine. So those are all the downtown Detroit things. And of course, like my best friend Phil, who's, you know, huge Lines fan, Detroit fan took me to the trailer park where they filmed Eight Mile, which was really fun. And then I remember one time when I finally, you know, was making money and stuff,

I went, I flew into town and I stayed at the Renaissance center and I rented out the penthouse for one night because I'm like, I just wanted to experience what it was like to be like that cool. Just that one night, you know? So these are just staples from Detroit, Pablo Island back in the day. You said Renaissance Center,

the coolest memory I have in the Detroit area. I know it wasn't in Detroit, but when we went to the Renaissance Festival. Oh yes, in Holly. In Holly, that was fun. Yeah, that was super fun. I love Detroit so much. I am just so proud of our city, you guys,

all of you from Detroit and go fucking lions, so. Go lions! No, seriously though, when we ultimately get out of here, because Kristen and I will not be in Los Angeles forever, I hope there's more Midwest involvement in our lives. Of course there will be when we have a family. Yeah, exactly. That's where our family lives.

So maybe we'll bump into some of you awesome fans and listeners out there. We will definitely have some live shows there. In the future, hopefully not too far off. Yep. But at the moment, there are no plans. You will hear it here first once we have that dialed. So stay tuned.

All right, well, we love you guys so much. Look forward to talking to you next week. We'll have the Vanderpump recap episodes happening all the way into the Valley recap episodes. We're going to stick with the sex level. What else matters, but we do have the change of the name and a little, what's the word I'm looking for? Re-Vamp? A little Re-Vamp, a little rebranding, a little Re-Vamp of this podcast coming up very soon. But thanks you guys so much for always writing us.

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