Sex, Love, and What Else Matters - Besties & Babies: A Conversation with Amy & AMA

Episode Date: April 5, 2025

Episode 152. This week, Kirsten is joined by her bestie from high school Amy, as they catch up on life, love, and everything in between! They dive into some deep, real talks about the rollercoaster of becoming a parent - navigating the world of motherhood and hormonal changes, they unpack it all. They chat about everything from birth plans (music, lighting, and all the vibes) to the most important 9 minutes of the day with your kids. Amy shares her journey, from worrying about every little thing after having her baby girl, to how she hopes her daughter grows up to be. Plus, they talk pregnancy symptoms, nesting, and the funny yet frustrating moments that come with it all. They wrap the episode with an “Ask Me Anything” segment, where they tackle listener questions! Whether you’re a new parent, a long-time mom, or just a curious listener, this episode is filled with laughs, wisdom, and some honest truths about the ups and downs of parenthood. Tune in for a mix of nostalgia, real-life experiences, and all the things that make friendships—and parenting—so special.   Sponsors: goPure Beauty: For a limited time, our listeners get 25% off goPure with code KRISTEN at checkout. Just head to gopurebeauty.com, use code KRISTEN. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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I'm pregnant. Did you know that? I have my BFF in town. Amy, how are you, my angel? I am good. How are you? I know you're good because you're at my house right now. So I knew that.

Amy flew back with me because I, if you listened last week, went to my baby shower in Michigan. So she came back to like hang and then I was like, guess what girl, you podcast with me. Let's get the real real. Um, yeah. So I'm still pregnant. I popped a rib out of place or something. That's what's happening with me right now. It's hard to breathe. My phone is always dying. How many times a day do you charge your phone? Uh, once usually. Just once at night? Yeah.

My phone is always dead. It seems to be different here though. Like it's dying in the middle of the day. It is? Yeah. So maybe we're in like some little weird zone. Where it just sucks your battery out. Yeah. Yeah.

I think that's happening. It's called Los Angeles California. Certainly sucks my internal battery dry. But seriously, I'm like, am I really on my phone that much? I know I can like check and see, but I don't want to right now, but I'm going to do it and not read it out loud. Like, what do I spend my most time on? Oh, today?

Oh, no, but just it just went right up. No, just how many hours? What does yours say? How many hours time on? Oh, today? Oh, no, but just went right up. No, just how many hours? What does yours say? How many hours were you on your phone today? Oh God, I don't know. Let's be honest here. Mine's five hours and 43 minutes. I feel like I was on it a lot,

because I was just- Because you had the day off. Yeah, I was chilling when you were working out and getting your hair done, and I don't even know where to find that. Scroll all the way to, here here let me see your phone. Three hours and 26 minutes. Son of a bitch. Me? More than you? Yeah. I thought my games were going to be the highest because ever since I've been pregnant

I've played like a couple of games on my phone non-stop which just like helps my brain. And I know everyone's going to disagree and be like it's overstimulating. It's not actually calming your brain down. It's making your brain go wary, whatever with my ADHD. That shit makes me zone in and focus on one thing. Yeah. I thought that they were supposed to be good for you. Like brain development. So I just play like backgammon and I play this game called decor match, which is basically it's like a, one of those bejeweled blitz type of type of games. But then after you get so many like points and whatever you get to like do, you're like an interior decorator. So you're like playing to be able to like color something in. Anyway, that's what I like to play. What do you play on your phone?

There's like a cash games or something like that. And so I would do that. Do you win real money? Yeah. Wait, really? Yeah, for real. But like you have to play forever. So it would take like a long time, but I wanted to play the games anyways. Because mobile betting and mobile winning money is legal in Michigan. Yeah. It's not here.

No. I feel like you could do that though. Like it's make money, I think is what the app was or something. And it had a whole bunch of think is what the app was or something. Probably not. They don't like us having fun here. So what else is fun? Amy's here. She's had to work every day, but not today.

It was pouring down rain just a second ago, but Gibson just did a photo shoot for Purina. So excited. And yeah, he got it. He's gonna be a cover model. Yeah, he got it. He booked it. He performed. He went and stayed with his trainer this weekend and he had to learn a certain command.

So she was like, can he sleep over so we can like work on some stuff? I was like, yeah, sure. And so he essentially had to learn how to, I should post this video, bow, what they call it is like bow or the play ball movement where it's like his butt's up in the air and his front paws are down. It's what I call a very handsome stretch. But he had to learn how to do that, hold it for five seconds while looking at the camera. Like, I needed so good. There are cast members in the Valley who couldn't do that. Okay?

Yeah. Me being one of them. It's a long time to hold my train of thought. Anyway, I'm just so proud. From like Gucci Pucci to Purina Pup, like where are we going to next? He's so famous. I know, but I wanted to be an influencer so he actually makes like, buko bucks. Does anyone know how to make my dog a...

He's very handsome. Yeah, an influencer. He wants his potigraph. You let me know. So Amy's here. She was like, I'm going to help you do the nursery- Go through baby stuff. Yeah.

And I was like, well, it's all boxes right now. I feel like I'm trying to tackle every room in the house. I'm just trying. It's like, yes, I am decorating and yes, I want some changes and things, but I always do. But also I want to make, and I've said this on the podcast before, but like Luke and I have realized like, we're not even trying to, we're not baby proofing. We're not making things easier for the baby necessarily. We're making things easier for us. I was like, I can't handle A, B, C, and D that have not been organized since we moved

in six months ago. These things have to be handled or I'm going to lose my effing mind. But I feel like you're not even in the nesting phase either. Isn't that like later on? I'm in their trimester. When does it happen? The end of the... Yeah, that's what I thought.

I mean, but I already have all the lists. Like I told Luke that we're getting our furnace cleaned out and he's like, excuse me. I was like, I don't know, it's what I read you should do. So it's gonna happen. Get it all done. Yeah, and I read this thing, this is to all my friends, if any of you are listening, that you should have a nesting party

where you invite all your friends over and you have like drinks and snacks for them and like whatever, but then you just have a list of all the cleaning and shit that needs to happen. And you have your friends do it for you. With you, but for you. Yeah, you should.

I was like, who would be willing? I was thinking like, who would be willing to be a part of my nesting party? I mean, I will like tomorrow, we can nest in the baby's room. I was like thinking about it. I'm like, those are the, my rider dies, you know? Like Zach would be in a heartbeat. I mean, Zach already does. He literally, you guys, Zach came like thinking about it. I'm like, those are the, my rider dies, you know? Like Zach would be in a heartbeat.

I mean, Zach already does. He, he literally, you guys, Zach came over the other day. I mean, he's over pretty often. This was like before you got in tiny me. And Zach came over and I can't remember what we were going to do, but there was a reason we were waiting for something.

We were either waiting for someone to get home or Luke to do, I can't remember. But we were, so Zach and I were just kind of in limbo, like hanging out, waiting to do something. And he decides to start vacuuming. And I was like, you don't have to vacuum because sometimes Jill's hair bothers his allergies. He's like, no, just let me, like, I love it.

And I was like, you don't love it. And then not only does he fill me in that he secretly like is obsessed with vacuum cleaners, like he has this like quirk for them. Like he wants to like change the filters out and like make them all nice and clean. Like it's- He can come to my house anytime.

He literally said that. And it was like, I, well now I'm telling all of you, but I was like, that is such a good trivia question about you. Like no one would know that, but like me and Benji. Does Benji even know that you have this weird obsession with vacuum cleaners? So he vacuumed my whole entire house.

Good friend to have. Literally. He's like, I just vacuumed under your bed and on your new rug and da da da da. I'm like, what the hell? Then we found my Roomba thing that was in my garage and I ordered a new base for it because I didn't know you can buy a base if you lost it or whatever for like 35 bucks It's a good generic your base when I was moving. Okay I was gonna throw away the whole Roomba because I haven't used it in a few years

Yeah and Luke was Luke of course like held on to it like a responsible adult who spends money and he was like Well, maybe you can just look online for like a replacement base because it got lost Somewhere in the move. And so I looked, it was like 35 bucks. I just saved a really expensive thing. So anyway, then I ordered like new little replacement parts for it for like 10 bucks. And Zach's like, oh, he like took it apart, cleaned the filters.

Yeah. I don't at all remember the point of telling that story to begin with. There was something about, oh, Zach. Because Zach would be a part of the nesting party. And yesterday he was like, yeah, you need to probably empty that out and clean it up. Yeah, he did. And I was like, I'm going to wait until Luke gets home. He would be pretty full by then.

I literally will wait. Luke's in Colorado right now. He just left yesterday. He's going to be back next week in like a week. And I will not empty that vacuum cleaner until he gets back and be like, babe, will you handwash these three pans and change all the filters in the vacuums? Thank you. But you took the garbage out today and moved stroller boxes.

Yeah. He doesn't really let me take out the garbage anymore. Like he'll see me do it. Like I'll pull it out of the trash can and he'll like stop what he's doing and run over and he's like, I can do it. Let me do it. Which is so cute and manly and strong, but also like I can, I work out. I can carry a bag.

My suitcase on the other hand, not as easy. Yeah. No, that's, that's when you're going to figure out who your real friends are. Like after the baby's born and your friends come over, your true friends will be coming over and they'll be like doing your dishes and your laundry and like taking care of stuff for you. I did read a thing today, like, well, like I do it for everything on Instagram because my algorithm is so amazingly for pregnant people right now, pregnant women.

I did read a thing about what you were just saying and it was like, because it's like talking, it was something about how people are going to want to come see the baby. You have to be able to set boundaries, blah, blah, blah. But it said like, remember the people that supported you during like the worst times of your pregnancy? Because those are the people that will really show up for you and the people that like not like should be able to see the baby But it was like those are the people, you know Not the people you haven't talked to that didn't come around and they're like I want to come see the baby and it's already

Overwhelming as it is sure I was like a hundred percent when I think about who I'm so excited to Introduce to the baby when she's super young. It's like I have a list where my body feels calm when I think about the list. And there are other people and this is not, I want to talk about this a little bit. And I'm not going to, you know, this is, it could be friends, could be family, could be whatever. And I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings and I'm not pinpointing anyone, but I have, Luke and I have both, we've thought about this and had this conversation.

Like, there are people that when I think about, it's not that I'm worried about this person with the baby. It's me. It's like, if you bring me any- Stress. Possibility of stress or anxiety. Yeah. I can't deal. And it's like, I know that even when I say that,

just so I'm not, my words aren't getting misconstrued. I mean, with love, I mean the one or two or whatever, however many people Luke and I have in mind that when I'm saying these things, it is not that I think they're irresponsible, or I think that they are the type of person to stress me out, or they're not a good friend or a good whatever in my life. It's not that at all. It's just when I'm already anxious, I need a certain thing and a certain kind of person

around me. And Luke can be that person or he can be the person that's not being great. And he knows that. He knows what to do now. He's navigated these waters. I just would not be able to handle it. If I get frustrated with another person that's not myself, really myself, if you know.

Like I know I'll get frustrated with myself. I'm not gonna be frustrated with a newborn. I'll be frustrated with Luke, I'm sure, but we're aware of that already. How many people did you let see Mackenzie? Mackenzie is her daughter, who's not a baby. I have to remember. It wasn't well, when I was in the hospital, Mary came and Kelly came and my parents obviously. How many days were you there? Three. Do you remember back in the day? Yeah, so long ago.

I was in there for about three days. I had a C-section. So yeah. Yeah. I don't remember the healing and I mean like what that calls for. It all ran together. So it's even just during the labor from the time I went in and got induced to the time I was released, it just all ran together and I was not paying attention to what day it

was. Well, yeah, because you're not like putting your pajamas on and waking up and changing clothes at a certain time. It's just like whenever it happens. Yeah, and then you're not sleeping because you have nurses coming in every hour. And then they're like taking the baby and you're like freaking out.

Well, they have to take the baby, you know, to weigh it and just kind of, they say they want to give you like a little bit of relaxation time. So they take the baby for a little while and try and give you some rest. How long after? Like the next day.

Oh, okay. I thought you meant like that day. I was like, nobody's taking my baby any damn way. It very well could have been that night. Like I said, it all ran together. I was out of it. I've read things on the pregnancy app that I really love. It's called like Pregnancy Plus. I have a few of them and I read on there,

I have this area where I can create my birth plan like for my own mental, whatever, or Luke and I have to talk about it. And it's like, add this and no, I don't want that. And there's different aspects of it. But one of them was about the baby right afterwards. So it's like, add this, and no, I don't want that. And there's different aspects of it. But one of them was about the baby right afterwards. So it's like, whether you have a C-section, do I want her to go right to Luke until I can hold her?

Or if I had to do vaginal birth, you know, I want her right with me, and then I want her with Luke. I do not want them, and one of the things is, I do not want them taking my baby out of the room without my partner. And I was like, yeah, I don't fucking know these people. I mean, of course they're there to do their job and be helpful. And that's the point.

I'm just saying like, she just came out of me and she's now not safe, quote unquote. She's been perfectly safe where she's been and now she's not. And now you cannot take her away. They say that when you have a birth plan, you should just, you know, kind of just throw it in trash because it's never going to go the way you want it to go. I mean, obviously, if you don't want them to take her, I think they would go along with their wishes. But yeah. Medically necessary, of course. But just like, be sensitive to me. Yeah, but they also just gotta check on her.

Right. Did you think about music or lighting? I did not think about lighting. Every one of my moms, my friends that are moms say the same thing. They're like, no, it's on my birth plan checklist, Gibson. Yeah, and you have a playlist for... Yeah, it's like, do you want music? Do you want subdued lighting?

And I was like, is that an option? Yeah, it's like, do you want music? Do you want like subdued lighting? And I was like, is that an option? Because then I'm like, how can they see? Well, I guess once they go for it, the lights are on. Yeah. In that moment, you don't care about any of that. Yeah. So you heard it here. If you have a boyfriend, throw that shit to the wind. Yeah. It's never going to go exactly how you want it to go.

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I just keep thinking about, well, the visits. people, it's like you guys flying in, you, my mom, my sister, I don't know if any of Luke's family wants to fly in, but then even just the friends that live here in LA and people are like, oh, well, like what day, like how long after do you think we can come see her? And I'm like, I don't know. I have no idea. Like I can't, number one, I'm terrible at planning ahead. It stresses me out.

Luke will be like, yeah, we have to like book our flights for this trip. And I'm like, oh, I don't know. And he's like, we're leaving in two weeks. And I'm like, oh, can we just think about it for a while? I'm so big, it stresses me out to make decisions. But what's stressing me out more is like giving timeframes on these decisions. Even though I understand people have to plan. I don't know at all how I'm going to feel. No, you just play it by ear. I mean, I know it sucks for people that are flying in.

They want to be able to book that early and plan ahead of time. But like as far as everyone else. I've just never done this before. So how the hell do I know how I'm gonna be? I could be as chill as a cucumber. You play it by ear 100%. I think like two days maybe after we came home, my brother and my niece came over and my sister-in-law. And then I think it was a few days after that, Casey, your sister came over and your mom came over.

And then my cousins and they brought my grandma. And that was it. Just immediate family for the most part of some family friends. I can do that. I don't know why it feels more overwhelming. Like some of my friends have had a sip and see where they like have all these people.

I guess not all these people, my one friend, I guess she didn't have all these people. I guess not all these people, my one friend, I guess she didn't have all these people. It was like all her best girlfriends, but I have had friends who have had like 30 people. Yeah, that sounds a little excessive to me. I don't even know if I like 30 people. I do. I love all of you. So I read this other thing that was like, postpartum is about the mother receiving support she needs while she's physically and emotionally healing. And this part got me. It was anyone upset by the new parents boundaries are a clear indication why boundaries are

needed. 100%. And that made me feel better. Yeah. It should be all about how comfortable you are and what you're wanting. Yeah. I don't want anyone to take it personally. No. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings because then I'll feel sad.

It really goes back to, I guess, it's all about me right now. It is. But I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. It genuinely is all about you though. I know. And you need to have that in your mind. You can make this about you because it is about you. It's about you and the baby and Luke and that's it.

Whatever everybody else wants, they have to wait. You guys need to suck it. Just kidding. You are not entitled to access to my baby. No, I hope that I am so chill and I hope I'm like not all the anxiety I'm thinking and feeling right now. I mean, that's what anxiety is. It's like worry about the future of shit that hasn't even happened yet and could never happen.

I don't know. I just thought that was interesting. And then I also read, I was curious, because you're not like a big feelings person. No. Like I am. So I wasn't, but I will say that did change. That's true. After I became a mom, 100%.

Like you're saying your anxiety, even if you were not an anxious person before, having a kid can make you that. I didn't care about lots of things, most things before. Oh, we were talking about this the other day. You said you would not go... Wait, I want to talk about this. You said you would not go skydiving. I would not go skydiving again.

I've been skydiving twice. I've done many, many things that put my life at risk. That's why, let me tell you, Amy is like, yeah, before she had her daughter, Mackenzie, you were like, cause you were like a preschool teacher for like a little while and you were like, I love kids, I don't have my own for myself. Like a long time ago.

Yeah. Let's say 20 years ago or so, right? And Amy was like the bucket list queen. It wasn't even like she had a book that was like, this is stuff in my bucket list. It was just. That sounds fun. I haven't done it.

Exactly. I want to do it. I want to hang out with penguins. Check. I want to skydive. Check. I want to do an aerial yoga class. Check. I want to skydive. Check. I want to do an aerial yoga class. Check. Whatever it is. Ride an elephant, drive a race car.

Exactly. If I can do it, I will try and do it if I haven't done it before. So that immediately changed for you as a mom? So the dangerous things changed. Things that- Because you don't want her to be motherless. Yeah.

That's like, boom, that's it. Things that I would have done before that, you know, had a risk. What if she wants to do those things? Because I- I'm going to hope that, obviously, as a mother, you don't want your child to get hurt or put themselves at risk. 100%. I just have a feeling as my daughter, she will be similar in that aspect.

She'll be adventurous and she'll want to do all the things. But the first time I went skydiving, I texted my mom about 15 minutes prior and I was like, hey, I just wanted to let you know I'm going skydiving today. And I don't even know if I text my mom that day and told her. I don't think I did. I didn't even cross my mind. So for me, and now I'm saying this while the child is still inside my stomach, I'm very well aware of that.

But Luke is super like not afraid of anything. Like Luke wants to do it all. He was a little wild child climbing, jumping, getting hurt, who cares? He's exactly the same as an adult. I am obviously not like that. For my daughter, I want her to be. I want her to surf.

I want her to go rock climbing. I want her to do cool stuff that I wouldn't do because I feel like fear has stopped me from doing a lot of things in my life. But even being aware of that, it's like I can't push myself past the boundary for certain things. I just can't. And I don't want that for her. I want her to be like her dad in that way.

Now again, I could give birth and then be like, I'm chaining you to your bed till you're 30, like putting bubble wrap around you, I don't know. I don't think I will be though. I think I really want for her everything that like, I'm not. Yeah. See, Dan is kind of like that a little bit. You know, he doesn't want her to get hurt obviously, but he's very like, don't do that. You know, you're not old enough to do that,

or you don't know what you're doing to do that. And me, I'm kind of like, how is she gonna learn? Let her try it, let her figure it out. She's not gonna learn if you don't actually let her try to do it. If I'm there and supervising. So as much as I'm like, I want her to be adventurous, I also think Luke's gonna be

like, she's gonna scrape her knee or bump her toe to figure it out where I'm like, no, I'm like childproofing everything, like make sure the floors are made of marshmallows. So I have to make sure not to be like a helicopter parent in the way of physical safety. Cause I'm like, she is my daughter and I'm the biggest cluts I've ever met. Well, from the get-go, you know, like I was saying about nothing scared me.

After I had her, everything scared me for a while. I mean, I was afraid of, you know, onesies and the zippers. Do you think it was like hormones? Well, no, it was just, you know, you want to do everything right. When you when you become a mom, you want to make sure you're doing everything right. You want to make sure you're giving your child everything that is good and nothing that's bad. And, you know, I was I was worried about every little thing. And that's good to a certain extent. Right.

But because you extent. Right. Because you care. Yeah. But you know, women that have had multiple children will tell you, you know, the first baby you try everything and do everything right. And the second, third one you're like, eh, it's fine. Oh yeah. It's like every one of my friends that I was around for, and I'm not just talking about the show girls.

I have other friends. But just like so many of my women friends, like as an adult, have had babies. I've seen them with their newborns or infants, where they're like the floor is spotless all the time and like everything is just like in place and careful and the baby could never... And then by the time the kid's like one and a half,

they're like, eh, it's just dirt. You know? Like the pacifier, they just like lick it and wipe it on their shirt and they're like, eh, it's fine. But like when the baby's a newborn, they're like sterilized. I mean, and of course, to be fair, a newborn is obviously much more fragile. But even as like a six month old to like a two year old, the way that a parent changes

that I've noticed, you're just like, this is not the big of a deal. Right. You get laxed and chill out a little bit. Totally. Let's see if I chill out with her. I don't know. There are things I'm just not worried about, and that brings me peace because I'm like such a worrywart. But I am a little nervous that that's going to that could switch for me after the fact. But I do have a lot of resources. I talk about this shit on the podcast all the time for moms.

So I'm like aware. Even my fucking psychiatrist, bless his heart, he even said to me when I was telling him I wanted to add Lexapro back to my intake of medicine, which was in my second trimester, he said that I am, how did he, I forget how he worded it, but essentially like, I'll probably have postpartum depression is like essentially what he said. And I love my doctor, of course, and no one knows his name because they won't.

But I had another friend who's a therapist be like, men. Why is your, and even though he's just doing it like, we're just having a conversation, we're very open. She's like, why the frick would your doctor tell you you're essentially gonna probably have postpartum depression? Like, is he insane? He's such a- Like you're more susceptible to it. Yeah, like you're such a dude, shut up.

I was like, yeah for real. I don't know what you're talking about. But I also, when I was looking at all the stuff that I've saved and just thinking about all the things I've been trying to prepare myself for via Instagram, Pinterest, and Google, I was curious if you do remember, and if so, what was it like for you experiencing the hormone drop that I read about all the time. It's like after a woman gives birth, specific hormone levels,

which have reached their highest peak, they plummet back to pre-pregnancy by the fifth day after giving birth. And it is the most dramatic hormonal drop any human will ever experience. So I'm like, do you even know or are you just so busy and so tired that you don't?

Yes. I don't remember being overly emotional after I was 100% overly emotional before, but after you're just trying to get through it. You're just trying to figure everything out. You're in survival mode. Right. And yeah, I don't know that I was overly emotional after. Did third trimester suck for you? Because were you sitting there? I forget when I was reading the other day about how in third trimester I'm supposed to experience some new emotional shift. And I was like, no, no, no, no. We've been there, done that. We are happy right now.

We are coasting. I have a lot of physical ailments. I will take those any day of the week over the way that I felt in the beginning of the pregnancy. And the thought of going back there, I feel like I've given enough. Done? We're there? We're there? Yeah.

I think I've given all the fucks that I have to give as far as like anxiety is concerned. So do you remember having that shift then? I just, yeah, towards the end is when I was very, very emotional. Sorry. Okay. We're here to talk. Be honest here. I remember like, cause I had gestational diabetes and I had to, you know, watch what I ate and I had this whole list of the things that I could eat and what I shouldn't eat.

Yeah. It was like no, no bread pasta. Like, ugh, like all I eat. So I swear they were going to tell me, they were going to be like, ma'am, you're turning into a carb. Yeah. And Dan and I were, we were going out to eat and he be like, ma'am, you're turning into a carb. Yeah. And Dan and I were, we were going out to eat and he's like, where do you wanna eat?

And I just started bawling, crying so hard. And I was like, I don't know. I don't know what I can eat. I was just a ball of emotions at that point. All the time I was crying over the dumbest thing. Yeah, it makes you want to cry. They're like, you can have romaine, spinach or arugula. You're like, I don't want it.

Yeah, salads from Wendy's were my go-to. They had like the strawberry fields salad or something like that. And I was so devastated when they took it off the menu while I was still pregnant. I'm like, no, I can't get it anymore. What do I eat? I don't know what I can eat. Damn. Damn, Gina. So do you think that's why you were so bummed out? It could be. Yeah, because you wouldn't know any differently to know that if it were or were not, that

was your experience. Honestly, I can pretty much guarantee you I would not cry over not being able to eat pasta on a regular day. So my emotions definitely were heightened. Okay, fair. Oh, God, I hope I really got through mine. Son of a gun. Okay, so I'm basically now just going through some things that I've read that I've found really what I think is going to be important anyway. I'm curious what your thoughts are on it. So this was one that stuck with me and this was after the baby is born.

I mean, you have like an actual full grown child now in elementary school. So going on 18. Yes. Yeah. So this says, from like parent to child, the nine most important minutes of the day, the idea that the most impactful times to connect and set the tone for your child are the first three minutes

after they wake up, the first three minutes after they come home from school or daycare, et cetera, and the last three minutes before they go to bed. Spend three minutes giving them undivided attention and positive thoughts. I think that was interesting. I agree with that 100%. I'm sure you've heard, no matter how bad your day is,

if you're coming home to your kid, you need to put a smile on your face before you walk in the door. That's so important. And I always, always wake Mackenzie up very gently and very sweetly and same thing going to bed and same thing when I get home. Now three minutes, you're gonna have to invest more than that.

Totally. As I was even reading it out loud, and I'm like, it's like, give your kid undivided attention for nine minutes a day. It's pretty bare minimum if you ask me. I know some parents like that. But I just thought it was interesting to make those points that like those specific times, it's very extra important.

But really, I guess it's like, no shit, duh. Do I like being woken up? I've been woken up many times as you have, as we all have, by someone being like, get out of bed, get up. And it's like, how fucking dare you make me start my day like this? Exactly, it's you want them to start their day well, and you want them to end their day well.

You want them to be able to fall asleep easily and peacefully, because if you don't, they're not gonna to fall asleep and you're going to be awake still. Okay. That's so interesting. Good to know. I just have to be good at this, right? What about swearing and being a mom? I mean, like I don't, here's the thing. I feel like if people are listening to this that are like Vanderpump watchers,

they still have this, some of you have this idea of me, where they're like, Kristen, still smoke cigarettes, which I haven't for three plus years now. But it's like, she smokes and she swears and she's not polite and bram bram bram. Like, yeah, when I was like in my 20s and early 30s on a freaking reality show without children or like my grandmother around

or dare I say people I worked for. People I worked for that I actually respected. I would never speak in that way ever at all. I could not even imagine speaking like that around my family. Like my mom and I, like we can shoot the shit, you know? So therefore I would never around my child, right? But I'm thinking more like, oh, I'm on the phone

in the other room with my friend. And I'm like, what the fuck did he say? Or something like that on accident. Yeah, I mean, it's gonna happen. Everybody, you know, lets it slip. What about when it's a baby though? Because it's probably the worst time, right? Well, baby, baby, I don't think it really bothers

because they can't talk yet. That's true. As they're getting older, yeah, like one, two, three, probably avoid it because that's when they're sponges and they're gonna repeat everything you say and everything you do. But it is so funny. It's awful, but it is really funny when I see other people's kids do it.

And then you just, you know, you tell them, okay, adults can say that, you cannot. Right. And you know, what's that? I've learned that, yeah. I mean, the way I feel I'm going to approach that when it happens is the same way I've handled it with any other kid who wasn't my own, is like, if you make a big emotion or expression about a word, now the word's big.

If you don't, then it's not, and you can correct it and move on. But it's like anything, if a kid falls and you're like, are you okay? And it's like, well, now they're not. They're certainly not, even if they were. Yeah. They're like, oh, something's wrong. I'm supposed to be upset. Yeah. So it's just curious. I was like, man, sometimes I swear I try to be better at it.

What's the movie where he's like, earmuffs? Oh, old school. Yeah. Yeah. Yes. Yeah. You just got to... Max earmuffs. They'll learn school. Yeah, yeah. Yes. Yeah, you just got to... Max earmuffs. They'll learn what they can and cannot say. And undoubtedly, they're going to say it when you're not around, but...

Totally. Interesting. ...then you have to have that conversation. Oh, I want to wrap up the nesting part. Welcome to ADHD. Blame it on the ADD, baby. The nesting thing. So nesting is cleaning or it's like the organizing of

and the interior decorating of it all. I feel like I thought it was that. But then I'm like, as I was telling you about the nesting party that I saw like on social media, invite your friends over to clean things. I'm like, is it just cleaning? I do like my house clean right now, but I don't like cleaning. It's like building a nest.

You're trying to get everything together and everything ready. And you want to make sure everything is set for when the baby comes. So it is cleaning. It is putting everything together and putting the baby's room together. Buying new throw pillows, way too many, all different colors. Nope, that doesn't work, that doesn't work. Oh my God.

I know I have the honeydew list I have for Luke. He's only been gone a day. I'm like, will you hang the curtains in the living room? Will you do this? Will you hang that? I'm gonna get a new rug again. I'm gonna get our fourth rug since we've been here in six months because I can't stop changing my mind.

Oh my gosh. That's okay. I know. Clean slate. What am I gonna do? Oh, what was your worst pregnancy symptom? And then what was like, what did you like love about it? Because I wanted to start being more positive about mine.

So the other day I was like, you know what? I love that I get to wear sweats all the time right now. Yeah. Even though that's pretty much all that fits me. I still am leaning into like really loving being cozy. I mean, just, I loved having the belly and you know, yeah. I feel like I really wanted it early on because I wanted to like dress cute and have my belly out and now that I have it, I'm like, it's really hard to feel cute.

Even though at home I feel cute. Yeah, like at home with Luke on the couch and he's like kissing it and like talking to her and like I'm just in gross sweats or like a bra and sweatpants. I'm like so happy, but I don't want to like leave the house or get and sweatpants, I'm like so happy. But I don't want to like leave the house or get dressed. Yeah, I had to wear dress clothes for work at that point. And so I had the maternity black pants and leggings. That's all I wore the entire time. But yeah, I mean, did you feel like really like, yeah, you like you felt like pretty and like and those uh cardigans

like the long cardigans dusters yeah those were very in when i was pregnant so i wore those all the time i've been i've been struggling to find two dusters that i really like duster like i want like kind of a jacket but i want it light enough where it's more like part of the outfit you don't really want a sweater because we're getting... It's never not sweater season, but it has to be like lighter sweater season. If anyone knows any good dusters, some good brands, please don't tell me to look on Revolve because I can't find anything. But I've been struggling with that because my friend Nia, she wears dusters all the time

being pregnant with like a little black dress. Or she'll wear like black pajamaama bottoms with a black t-shirt and then just throw a cute duster on over it and then go run errands and she looks so put together. And I'm like, ooh, I got my fruit of the loom, men's large, because that makes them long enough for my lanky butt. And I live in those with a cropped wife beater that is now a bra on

me. That's what I wear. It is not put together. It is not cute. No, it's fine. It's all about being comfy and you're allowed that. Yeah. So you liked the bump. What was the thing you disliked that you... I don't even want to talk about pregnancy in a negative way, if I can for just like one episode. If there was something that wasn't a part of pregnancy that would make you happy, what would that thing be you could do without? Well, I mean, the nausea, you know, wasn't fun. I didn't have it bad.

I guess sore feet. That was like the worst for me. I wanted a foot massage all day, sore feet. Oh, that's a good one. That was like the worst for me. I wanted a foot massage all day, every day. And even when I was in the hospital in labor, that was my request. My mom gave me a foot massage while I was like in the bed and then Dan would give me a foot massage. And that's what made me feel better because... Interesting.

Yeah. Okay. Oh, I'm so, that's going to be feel better because... Interesting. Yeah. Okay. Oh, I'm so... That's going to be so interesting. Did Dan sleep? Did he bring like an air mattress? Does anyone actually do that? Or is it just things that I...

No. Because it's like a pullout couch or a recliner, right? Yeah. We actually had a very large room and there was a big couch and another chair and Dan was there, Dan's mom was there and my parents were there. Oh wow. Yeah. All in the room while I was induced.

Like while you were giving birth? Yeah. Well, not while I was giving birth because they took me and I had a C-section. Oh yeah, you were in surgery. Yeah. But they induced me and put me on pitocin and I was in the hospital for a very long time doing that before they finally decided to... Which is also one of my biggest fears and I feel like it's totally going to freaking

happen to me. That's why I still... That's why I say throw the thing out the window because you just got to go with it. Because we talk about a C-section or not and I was gonna schedule one, even though it's not necessary per my doctor. And then I was like, no, but I just, and I'm sure as I say this, if I'm basically manifesting it, which I don't wanna do,

but I do have this fear because it's just, I feel like at least the people that I know, the women that I'm friends with, 80% of you have gone through a very long, like 30 hours labor or whatever it is and then had to have an emergency C-section. And I'm like, if it's going to fucking happen to me too, then why don't we just schedule a weekend with, but I don't know that. Well, that's the way I was. And my doctor did not want to give me that option. He's like, let's just see how it goes.

And I'm like, OK. And it was a very long time of let's see how it goes before they were finally like, OK, we feel like we need to do a C-section now. And I'm like, yeah, we could have done this 20 hours ago. Yeah. Thanks very much. You sound like exactly every single one of my friends that I've had this conversation with you guys. It sound like exactly every single one of my friends that I've had this conversation with, you guys, it's like verbatim.

And I also feel like, you know, I'm not a doctor and you know, there's no weight in this whatsoever, but I feel like it was my intuition that was telling me, you know, I feel like I'm gonna have to have a C-section. My mom had a C-section for both of me. So I could have listened to my intuition. My mom had a C-section for both of me. I could listen to my intuition. That's kind of how I felt.

And it ended up being that way. I'm not saying it always happens that way, but that's the way I felt at the time. Yeah, I like it. Guys, this isn't supposed to be like a pregnancy podcast, but it's like where I'm at in life. You know what I mean? Let's take it over to a best friends podcast. A best friends podcast. Tell everybody what they really...

What do you really wanna know? Okay, well I did do some Ask Me Anythings. Let's see what the people wanna know. We'll go through a few of them. And then we're gonna go to Brittany's tonight, because now we can talk about Amy's here we're going to go to Brittany's tonight, because now we can talk about Amy's here. We're going to go over Brittany's, Brittany's family is in town. So that's super fun. And we're going to go hang out with them. And Zach and Becky, Zachy

boy. We went and had lunch today and was Hollywood and I ran into Stacey today and that was so nice and out of the blue and random and she was really cute and really, really sweet about the baby. And yeah, so that was fun and nice. Nice little like unexpected run in. All right, let's get to the people, shall we? Okay, what were, for you and I both, what were your first impressions of each other?

I do not remember. I could not tell you that many years ago. Yeah. I don't have any memories. I have a million memories of high school, but it's not like I have like core memories. Yeah. It's not like, oh, this girl that I've never met, I have thoughts about her. It was like a really long time ago, like 25 years ago. Yeah. So. Eww. Eww. Eww. I don't want to be old and busted and a new mom. I can't wait to get boat dogs and just feel young again. Oh my God. What am I most excited about for being a mom? I'm excited to see just what she's like. Yes.

Like she's a Gemini, which is cool. I haven't actually, well, no, of course I haven't. I literally was about to say I haven't done her birth chart yet because she's not born yet, Kristen. Yeah. But when I do her birth chart, pregnancy brain, after she's born,

like I believe in astrology very, very much so and numerology and everything else. Luke and I were like trying to decide what we wanted her numerology to be and then try to have her that day. Make it happen. Manifest that shit. Yeah, totally.

But even all of that said, like the astrology, the numerology of it all, the foo foo shit that I'm into, I'm just so curious and excited to see what parts of her where I'm like, oh, that is such a Luke thing, or that's such a me thing, or that's just a her thing. Mm-hmm, yeah, I was definitely excited to see what she looked like. I mean, you know, I-

I mean, it is your twin, but she's also exactly the two of you. But she looked exactly like Dan when she was a baby. She was all Dan and somehow just morphed over to all me. Yep. It's so true. And they say that's a that's a nature thing, you know, so the dad doesn't reject its animals. Interesting. So the dad doesn't reject the child. Our baby's most recent ultrasound, it's getting really tough to get a good one because she puts her hand over her face.

But we got just enough of a profile. Now, obviously, I'm not sure if it's at all like, it needs to be adjusted like the photo, you know what I mean? But from what we can see in this particular photo, I think she has Luke's profile to a tee. And he doesn't think so, but I was like, oh my God. And it brought me back to when Brittany had Cruz, she still has his last ultrasound, his 3D one on her fridge.

And if you look at that ultrasound photo and you look at that little four, almost four year old, it's like identical. Yeah. Identical. So it's so wild to think, and not all, I know some newborns just look like newborns. They just look like babies,

but other babies really, you look at them, like Mackenzie, your daughter, like you look at her then, you look at her now. Yes, because of her hair and her eyebrows and all of that, like she does look more like you, but she looks exactly the same as a baby and as a kid. It's so interesting. So that's what we're most excited about.

Amy, what do you think is the biggest misconception about me? Oh Lord, where do I start? Let me tell you. The crazy Kristin of it all, the, you know, not a good friend. Listen, I will tell this story and if you know me, you've probably heard this story. But Kristen is, she will do anything for her friends. One time when I was in my, probably like 20, because I'm still going to Canada. Where you're from Michigan, you can just go over to Canada, you can drink when you're

19. I went with another friend and said friend threw up in my truck on the way home and I must see it smell it hear it I'm gonna I'm gonna Ralph myself But Kristen took my truck gave me her car and she took my truck and got it detailed So because her you know boyfriend at the time worked at a dealership, but besides the point, she took my car, gave me hers. And so I wouldn't have to drive around a pukey truck. I don't know anyone else that would do that kind of thing.

A good friend should because you are so sensitive to it. I'm very sensitive. And I'm sensitive to your noises. Did I just do it for myself? No, I'm just kidding. I love you. And then she climbed a palm tree in Puerto Rico to get my veil out of the palm tree with a selfie stick.

That was really fun. It was very impressive. That was a little liquid courage and a whole lot of fun. But just two things out of dozens and dozens of reasons why. You know, she's a wonderful person. And what you see on the shows, it doesn't show you who she really is at all. She's a great friend. She's a great person. She is going to be a marvelous mom.

A little crazy, but. Nah. Aren't we all? I made a little list prior to her baby shower, just in case I ended up doing like a speech or something. I was like, how do you know she's gonna be a great mom? And it's one, they say get dogs if you're thinking about getting kids.

She's a fantastic dog mom. Two, she is amazing with my daughter, Mackenzie. Anyone or anytime, all the time, she's always asking, can we call Aunt Kristen? When can we see Aunt Kristen? She's always asking about Aunt Kristen over anyone else. Which makes me so happy because, well, I know that it does partially have to do with like,

oh, I don't live there, I'm all the way out in California. But it still makes me so happy because it's always such a fear of mine like living so far away that I'm not gonna have, that I wouldn't have that relationship with her. Yeah. But there's many other people in our lives that live far away and she doesn't ask about them ever.

Yeah. And number three, Detective Doty. She's gonna know everything that that child is doing. Oh yeah. A hundred percent. Ahead of time, so. And she's just. I've already learned something from you in that way.

You have a baby, like basically a baby monitor, like still in your kid's room. Yeah, we still have a room in her room. Genius. It actually comes in handy. Yeah, we still have a room in her room. Genius! It actually comes in handy. I mean, she had a friend over and I can just peek in every once in a while and make sure they're not, you know, jumping off the dresser.

Right. Like, they get their little privacy, but they're like safe and okay. Exactly. Super smart. I'll be like, I'm just making sure you're safe. That's what I tell her. What are you doing and who? Tell me what your friend's name is. but they're like safe and okay. Exactly. Super smart. I'll be like, I'm just making sure you're safe. That's what I tell her. What are you doing and who?

Tell me what your friend's name is. That'll come out eventually, but right now she's eight. It's fine. Yeah. Oh, I love you. Thank you. I love you. What baby product am I most excited about so far?

Oh my gosh. I will say for mama products, like true, belly oil. Even though everyone told me like, you should use belly oil or you should use shea butter or you should use this, that, whatever. I, for some reason was like, I don't need to do it. And it's like, I started doing it early because not because I was like, I don't want stretch marks.

I've kind of like welcomed them with open arms. I don't have them yet. I don't know if I will. I could still get them for sure. I definitely think I'll probably get them on my boobs, but I've welcomed them with open arms. It was more just like about making sure I was like, my skin was staying hydrated and nourished.

And it's also like became like a thing between me and her, like a moment. So anyway, that's my favorite me product is the belly oil. And there's like a scrub that I use in the shower by a brand called Pure Mama. Love, love, love. For the baby, I don't know yet, really. Amy just bought us like so much cute stuff.

It's just like all the cute, like the cute little like, oh, that is just so precious. Like that blanket or like those little shoes, but like a baby product product, I don't know, cause I haven't really used any of them yet. I will say I really love baby list a whole lot. And I don't know how long because my first time being a mom, how long baby list has like been a thing.

And that's where everyone creates their registry. Cause I feel like back in the day it wasn't. Yeah, we didn't have that. Like 15, 20 years ago, or whatever, 10 years ago even. And my experience with BabyList is just, it's so easy, and they keep track for you, so when you're doing your thank you notes,

it's all in there if someone bought from your registry. So, but yeah, for products, I'm gonna have to come back to that once. I do have a couple different kinds of diapers. I do have, and this is not a commercial for Babyless, you guys are not paying me for this, it's not a freaking ad. But something I liked about it is I've heard that like with bottles, like I did end up getting some bottles.

I did all glass. But after I chose those bottles because a lot of friends told me they liked them, I heard that the baby will choose your bottle, you will not. Yeah, I believe that. The baby will like it or the baby won't like it. So Babylist, where I registered, they have things called the glass bottle box.

And it's not super expensive, but you could register for it, someone could buy it for you as a gift. And it has three or four of different kinds in there. So you can just really, and they have like one for sleep sacks or for swaddles. They have a box like that. So certain things like that I think are really smart

because when you don't know, and the only way you have to go off of our other people's opinions, what works for one mom could totally work for you, but also may not work at all for your baby or you. Yes. So that's how I feel about baby products, but ask me again in 12 to 14 weeks once the baby's here and we've settled. Mm-hmm.

That's wild. She's gonna be here. Whoo, just over two months. So soon. Two, three months. Crazy. Doop-a-doop-a-doo. What's your favorite comfort movie? Oh my God, do you have one? I have so many right now. I've been watching so many movies and I've been watching, I don't know,

I've watched this movie called like Megan Levy, I know I'm saying that right, about like a German Shepherd and his handler in the Marines. So from there, I started watching all my favorite dog movies that make me cry and happy cry. But then I go back to rom-coms all the time. Like Reese Witherspoon, pretty much anything just makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside. Yeah, off the top of my head, I think How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days is my favorite, just to sit down and relax and watch.

I love that one. I love that for you. Do you know who wrote that? I do. My name's Michelle Alexander and Jeannie Long. I don't know if I've ever said this on the podcast. I love how I take these neurodivergent spins and turns with you guys. That if you guys watch that movie, How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, Kate Hudson, her character, Andy Anderson. Which was my nickname in high school. Yep. Her two best friends in the movie, their character names are Michelle and Jeannie.

Nice. After my co-author Michelle and Jeannie, who wrote How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days book. So if you didn't know that, now you do. Tell your friends. I did not know that. Yep. And you can still pretty sure buy their book, which is super cute on Amazon and everywhere. So if you didn't know that, now you do. Tell your friends. I did not know that. Yep. And you can still pretty sure buy their book, which is super cute on Amazon and everywhere.

You can buy books. Yeah, I love that. So we're both in the rom-com. Yeah. Wait, I just thought of something. I also love Disney movies are my comfort. Is that going to go away now? No, it's going to get even more so.

Okay. You're going to want to watch all the movies. Yeah, because Brittany really loves Disney movies still. And then you have an excuse now. I mean, I'd be like, I'm a grown kid and watching a cartoon. I am a grown kid and I love watching cartoons. I know, I love, have you seen Bluey? It's been on at friend's houses because I think it's cute that it has an Australian accent. I love it. It is Australian, right?

Yeah. Okay, good. Yeah. I love that show. And it's- Is it a blue healer? Mm-hmm. Okay.

Mm-hmm. And it just has really good points and really good messages. Okay. And it's cute. And I like watching it with Mackenzie. Was Miss Rachel a thing? Not for Mackenzie. Okay Miss Rachel a thing? Not for Mackenzie, thank goodness. No shade to Miss Rachel, but from what I've seen, I don't know.

That would drive me a little boggars. It would. We'll talk about it in Brittany's letter. She knows the words to every song. And she didn't do, what was the other guy with the hat and the glasses and like Blippi. She didn't do that either. It looks like Wiers Waldo kind of? Yeah, yeah. Yeah.

And there's no more Barney either, which I'm happy about. Yeah, same. Couldn't do Barney. Totally. Can I share my workout routine? Oh, I love that you asked that because I posted on my Instagram,

my friend Jenna Willis has been training me. She's an amazing trainer. I personally know myself and I get the best results when I'm working one on one with someone. My friend, Megan Johnson used to train me until she moved. So anyway, Jenna is the best and I post those on Instagram because many reasons, but like I'm so proud that I'm doing this in my third trimester. I didn't start as early as I wish I would have, but I'm glad that I reached out to Jenna and that she could make the time for me. And I know

that my body's going to thank me for it post-birth too. If I, you know, if we just keep working. Really, she said we're going to work out till the last minute. She just adjusts my workouts to what is safe for me, for the baby and what I'm capable of. And we push when we can, and we scale back when we can't. Example, today she came over, and I told her about my ribs hurting, and I had a reaction to my Tdap shot, so I can't really lift my shoulder on one side. So she was like, I was going to cancel, if I'm being honest, and I normally wouldn't do that unless I had a work thing,

or I was puking my brains out. But I was like, should we cancel? And she goes, no, there are other things we can do. And I'm like, oh, okay. And she adjusted. So I cannot personally share it because I don't know what my routine is. I work with Jenna. Do what she tells you. Exactly. Follow Ms. Jenna Willis on Instagram, she has like an online workout program that is amazing, that I use when she's out of town. And Luke kind of holds me accountable

because that's again, like my biggest problem. I'm not great at holding myself accountable. But it's all really easy stuff you can do at home. I don't have a gym, we do it in my living room. I bought a yoga mat off Amazon. I have a few free weights, like dumbbells that are, you know, the right, between like five and like 15 pounds is what we've been using.

And then I have like an exercise ball. I'm looking at my equipment right now. And that's pretty much it. So very inexpensive, don't need a lot, totally can do it at home. Highly recommend, pregnant or not, I will continue doing that. Random Vanderpump rules question,

when Jackson Brittany came over to mow your lawn, did he finish? When I lived at my old house, he did. Well, we have it, he did. All right. He had to leave because he, God, that was like, what a blast in the past. He left because, I remember he brought his lawnmower over and then he forgot something

and he left, but he did come back and finish it. He's ever done anything nice for me. That's about it. Where do we go to high school? E-F-H-S. It's Google. Go Thunderbirds. E-F-H-S, baby.

There's a lot of valid questions you guys and I cannot answer them. You just gotta be patient. I haven't seen the first episode either. So if I have to suffer, so do you. If I could answer, I would tell you everything, but I can't. And what fun would that be?

Let's all just go relive it together. It's only about 13 days, something like that. Something like that. Okay, so we're gonna end it on a Disney question since we were talking about that. Amy for both of us old school Disney movies or the live action adaptations? Oh old school. Same. Totally. I have a really hard time with the live action. I do I did like the Little Mermaid one not better than Little Mermaid by any means but I did like the Little Mermaid one. Not better than Little Mermaid by any means, but I did like it. I am super excited about Stitch.

That looks really cute. What's that? Stitch. You know the blue alien dude Lilo and Stitch? Oh! They're doing a live action of that and that looks really cute. And the actress they got for it, she's adorable. So it looks like it's going to be really fun. Okay.

Well, thanks for catching up with us guys and listening per usual. Yeah. And I don't know. That's it. Just happy, happy weekend. Happy next week to everyone. Hang in there for the Valley. Hang in there for my pregnancy.

Thanks for taking this ride with me. That is so terribly long and magical. It's wonderful. Everything's wonderful. It's magic. Okay. Love you. Talk to you next week.

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