Sex, Love, and What Else Matters - Breaking News: Tom Sandoval is NOT suing Ariana Madix!

Episode Date: July 19, 2024

Episode 120. In this episode, Kristen and Luke address the news that was just released today – Tom Sandoval is NOT suing Ariana Madix?! They share their opinions and unfiltered thoughts about the situation… even choosing to disagree at times. Next they talk about what they think their toxic traits are! More breaking news, they’ve finally signed on a house and they are SO excited! All this and so much more in this week’s episode, enjoy! Sponsors: Go to foodforpups.com/DOUTE and watch Cesar Millan’s video now. Again that’s foodforpups.com/DOUTE Use code DOUTE at checkout for 15% off your entire order at www.vionicshoes.com when you log into your account.  Follow us: @kristendoute @luke__broderick Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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news. Breaking news. So we were literally about to jump on to podcasts anyway when Luke, who follows Tom Sandoval on Instagram, all of a sudden sees Tom Sandoval had posted one minute ago. So now it's been about 30 minutes ago. So let's start there because I was about to ream his asshole. Yeah, so let's start with the post because this is actually quite similar

to what I kind of guessed was going on when we saw the tabloid coverage of it. That Tom is suing Ariana, which is batshit fucking crazy. I've been texting horrific things. I don't want any of you to read on how vile I thought that was. Okay, Luke, read Sandoval's post and let's talk about it. All right, here we go. Late Tuesday afternoon, my attorney, Matt Garagos, whose advice

I trusted, called me about a cross-complaint and the lawsuit against myself and Ariana. He assured me that the action was customary and strictly preventative in these types of lawsuits and it urged me to agree to it. The words new lawsuit or suing were not articulated to me. I should have done more of my due diligence on the matter. Upon realizing what this action actually means, I have removed Matt Garagos from my legal team and no way am I suing Ariana. The action against Ariana brought on my behalf is being removed. I hold no ill will or vindictiveness towards Ariana. Now by removing both the cross complaint and the attorney who recommended it, I hope to

get through this case quickly so that Ariana and I can both finally move on with our lives. Hallelujah. I know it's funny because like when I first saw the article written about it all, I said this is probably something just to separate Tom and Ariana and it's like a normal legal type proceeding because in the distribution of revenge porn or whatever it was, his attorneys probably said, look, if you file this against Ariana, then that removes you because she took it from your phone. And therefore, one of these allegations can get dropped against you.

Which is cowardly, because Ariana did zero wrongdoing in this. In Raquel's bullshit lawsuit, in this lawsuit, we were told by the media Tom was filing against Ariana, which I know Ariana was aware of. I was clearly aware of, Katie Maloney was aware of, she made a public comment on it. We were all aware of this alleged lawsuit, I guess because of this attorney, I guess because of this media, I guess, because of this media.

But like, those were your thoughts? My thoughts were vile, disgusting, deplorable, vicious, revolting. I know you've known the guy, you dated him forever and whatever, but recently I have talked to Tom more than you have. And this, it took me by surprise. I was like, that's so weird. I don't give a fuck. Recently, I've talked to Tom more than you have. And this, it took me by surprise. I was like, that's so weird, which is why I'm not coming into just straight up, like blindly defend him, but I'm saying I've been sued.

I've been in a lawsuit. I've spent six months of my life, stressed to the gills from one business, erroneously suing my business, costing me upwards of $40,000. But this is, this is a, this is about, honey, I feel you, but this is reality television. Everyone signed a contract. I have been doing this shit since 2011 during our pilot, 2012. Just like Tom, just like Tom Sandoval.

He's tier one, OG one, season one Vanderpump rules. Raquel jumped in, I think it was season four, five, whatever season it was, signs the same damn contract. She is making six figures. Easy, breezy, lemon fucking squeezy. And this bitch has the audacity to sue my friend, her quote unquote best friend, after she had an affair with her boyfriend for seven months?

Like what in the actual hell? I feel like Ariana, I mean I feel like all of us as Ariana's friends and the cast or previous former cast of Vanderpump Rules have been going through this scandal shit for a year and a half, but imagine being Ariana. So thank fucking God. The second Luke showed this to me, we read it, he read it to me, I immediately text Ariana like, holy shit, holy shit. Like this is the best case scenario, you know? I'm not going to divulge into like what my text conversation was with her, but I am really fucking happy because Tom Sandoval invited me in a text from his phone to my phone to his birthday party. He also, dare I say, had the audacity to ask me

if he could come on my podcast, our podcast, to talk about something else. And I declined because it's not something I wanted to touch with the 10 foot pole. Even though I think, would it be great for our ratings, Luke? Sure would. Yeah. Would the fans love it?

Absolutely. But what Tom wanted to talk about and clear his name of, I'm sure you guys can all guess this podcast balancing act is not the platform for that. And I am fucking loyal. And somebody's hose ain't loyal. That's not the tune it goes to, but. Because I'm trying not to like lose my shit right now and I'm trying not to cuss even though I'm cussing and this is just mind blowing.

So anyway, I'm so, so, so, so happy that Tom had this realization., however this came to him, whatever epiphany it took. I'm sure he saw. I'm sure a million people sent him the article that we saw a couple days ago, and everyone's responding to calling him this awful piece of shit. It's been going on for days though. How is he completely unaware that part of his legal team made this claim

or literally did do, I guess. Kristen, do you read your contracts before you sign them? I do and I go through them with my lawyer. You told me multiple times that you trust your lawyer and you signed your contracts. And if you- The same lawyer I have had since 2011. Right.

We just had a lease contract for the house. By the way, we'll get into that. We finally found a house to rent. I've never read a fucking lease contract in my life. I read every single word. Every contract that I get for my company, James May, I read every single word. Do I read all of my contracts for reality television anymore?

No, I do not, because I've had the same attorney for the last 13 years. Right. So if he were to say this is a standard thing, it's normal for this type of proceeding, it's basically just to, you know, help things move along faster or something that simple. Would you take the time to read every word of it? No, I know. I see where you're going. Yeah, is that Tom was blindsided by this attorney who urged him to do something that he was unaware he was actually doing, is what it sounds like, correct? Yes. He was told it one way and that way is probably not false.

It is that, but it's not the whole story. So he didn't know the full scale of what he was doing. And I think he made that clear. Well, thank God for that. And thank God he and Victoria took a break from their vacation house so he could focus on this for five minutes. Sorry, it's all over the internet.

I don't know how to ignore it. It's like, I don't want to talk about it, but everyone's talking about it. And I don't have a, I didn't even have a serious problem with Sandoval or Victoria. I don't even know Victoria. I've met her like one or two times.

But even Sandoval, in the last couple of months, are we friends? We're not. Are we going to be? We're not. Can I be cordial and cool with him? Yes, I can. And I have been until I see him do something stupid or

say something stupid. And then it's just like, I'm tired of giving you chances. I am team Ariana. I do have her back. This was a shitty thing. Everyone had to go through again. But I got rid of the hate because we've said this on our podcast before, like, you can't punish someone forever if they show change, if they deserve grace. Unless it's first degree murder, then they're in jail forever. Touche. I'm saying in the—you're so annoying—in the fucking instance of the scandal bullshit and Raquel suing everyone and like, oh God, I just can't bitch. Like I fucking can't. I wish I could go back to all of the seasons.

I mean, I don't have the energy. If any of you guys want to do it for me, if you're bored, like by all means, send it to me, DM me, email us at sexclubpodcast.gmail.com. Of all the times Raquel called me names. Do I go and sue her too? Like, is she gonna sue me now because I'm saying, Raquel, you're a fucking ungrateful bitch for the job you had and you did a terrible thing and you hurt some people, so move on with your life.

Like, it's so fucking simple. It's like they can't get away from this dire obsession to be in the media. And I feel that way not only about Raquel, but a couple of other people who I'm, they're going to remain nameless because they don't deserve to have their name said. I'm so worked up right now.

Do you feel a little better? I do. Good. I still feel, I feel very like amped. I feel invested even when I don't wanna be. Like Ariana has moved on. She's hosting fucking Love Island. Bitches tanning in Fiji.

And people are still trying to drag her name. I'm over it. Get a hobby everyone else. Like seriously, get a hobby or move somewhere. Move out of the country, move somewhere you don't have wifi-Fi, Wi-Fi. God, and I wanted to talk about toxic traits today. Now I feel like it's just,

is that a good idea or a bad idea? I think it kind of ties in. Do you want me to start with my toxic traits? I mean, yeah, so like Luke and I were thinking, we have such a busy week of work and I have some fun stuff I want to talk about. Like I said, we're moving. We found a house finally. It's not the one we were talking about on a previous podcast. We found an amazing house that we can rent, that it's great for the dogs. It's in a neighborhood that we love. It needs a little TLC, but it is just so us and fun and cool. And I'm so excited

to like have a home with you because if we rewound to a year ago when we moved into this apartment that we're in right now, you said repetitively like, I know, but it's your apartment, babe. Right. But this house is not my house. It's not your house. No, our house. It's our house. We have a garage and a yard and a pool. But you're allowed to have more than the garage. I want you to, I am the better decorator, but I want to like bring in your masculinity

and like the Western or the Southwest or the, you know, just like the decor that'll make you feel vibey. Okay, okay. Like I'm not just gonna be like, ooh, peaches and whites and plants and like, like my old house. I want it to be this like boho chic, modern mid-century. Like let's just, let's just fuck it all up and add everything in.

Yeah, absolutely. I mean, I'm here for all the DIY projects. You point me in the direction, tell me what you want and I'll do it. I think that's going to be really fun for both of us is DIY stuff. Yeah, I mean, I won't have time to go get tools in the next couple of months, but I'll be buying tools. You better believe it.

I have a drill set and I have so many kinds of nails. Like I have every, I have skinny ones, fat ones, not fat girthy nails. I have like short ones, long ones. I have screws and anchors. I have like ones, fat ones, not fat girthy nails. I have like short ones, long ones. I have screws and anchors. I have like all the stuff. You have all the stuff to hang pictures and pictures and stuff.

Yeah, you're right, you do. And we'll get you a saw so you can make me things. I want a garden box. Perfect, that will take no time at all. See? We can grow some veggies, maybe a weed plant. Yes, yeah, I want a garden for sure. Do you know Cesar Millon?

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not my favorite thing in the whole wide world, but mentally, psychologically, and stress-wise, it does make it a little bit easier. It will make it a lot easier because another difference between the apartment, moving apartments in the same complex and moving from an apartment to a house, we need a lot more furniture. We're gonna have the house painted.

Like the rooms are different colors, they don't bother me, but Kristin wants all white. So we are getting bids for that. We're gonna have all the interior walls painted white. I'm very grateful that the owner of the home has been so wonderful in saying, that's no problem. I'm like, we're not going to fuck up anything. Yeah, we're not tearing up cabinets.

We're just going to upgrade a little bit. But one of my toxic, I'm a 10, but one of my toxic traits is spending money in places that it's unnecessary. So that's something I feel that I'm going to get better at this time around with your help, Luke, because I mean, just you're a business brain in general. And I have to constantly remind myself, like I don't own this home,

and I've never rented a house before. I've rented apartments and I've owned a home. So it's gonna be, it's a little bit different. Like you're not just in this building where you're like, yo, come up here and change my light bulb. Right, I mean they have a handyman. Of course. I am just looking forward, I mean with the garage,

we'll have backup air filters and backup light bulbs, backup all the other stuff. When something needs done, I'll just do it. And the apartment just feels stupid. Like why would I do it when they are supposed to have someone on site all the time to come and do these things? I'm not gonna spend time and money on that sort of thing in an apartment building.

We're so adulty. Anywho, back to toxic traits. So Luke, I'm a 10 and one of my toxic traits, like I said, is overspending on stupid things. I have a couple of other ones. At least I have one other really good one that is definitely a toxic trait of mine that I want to work on, but you're a 10, duh. You're an 11, babe. What's your toxic trait?

Which one do you want me to start with? I don't know, just whatever you want. I'm kind of an extremist that when I decide I'm gonna do something or do something with someone, sometimes I become a little overbearing, like hey, we can also do this, hey, we can also do that, all these things are gonna make it better, faster, stronger. You know, like, and yeah, I've been told

I'm a bit extreme at times. So I could see that being a beige flag or toxic trait. Okay, and what would you wanna like change about that, or I hate the word like do better change, but like, do you think that's like a part word like do better change but like do you think that's like a part like a strong suit of yours where it's like a positive thing but it also can be super negative? I think personally well my ego says it's a good thing because it's more it's not really that common I don't feel like

but I do know that with a lot of people and with certain relationships, it can make things more difficult. If that makes any sense. Oh, it does. Yeah. And you're asking me or you asking the audience. If it makes sense. Yeah. So yeah, that's definitely a toxic trait of mine.

That it's like highway or no way at all. What is that? That's not my way or the highway. The highway or no way at all. He is that? That's not the same. My way or the highway? My way or the highway. The highway or no way at all? Heard it here first. Okay, so it's your way or the highway that goes nowhere at all. That's not, no, no, no.

That's not what I'm saying. Okay, no. I'm not saying that's my way or the highway. I'm saying that like I will annoyingly suggest things that may or may not make things better or faster or, you know, whatever it is our goal is. My former business partner was more or less on the same page, but there were times where it would be like, we're already doing this. Why? Like that's got it. That was going to cancel something else out. We don't need to do that. And then I would process that and say, you're right.

Okay. I'm just throwing out ideas. And so like the idea machine on things that could make things better, whatever, you know, I don't know the right word for it right now. But yeah, you agree with that? I mean, yes, I don't know if that's necessarily like toxic trade. It's just like, like my, so like I'm a 10, but like another toxic trait of mine is something that I call racketing, which can be very similar to complaining, where it's like I run a racket about something. It's like this thing, this thing. It's like almost like takes over my brain.

Like a racket, okay, so I'll explain it this way. If you guys ever read my book or even have listened to this podcast back in the day, I talked about this quote-unquote cult that I went to called the Landmark Forum, and I did gain some really wonderful things from it, but I also think that a lot of it is just a giant crock-of-shit pyramid scheme. But I do remember when they talked about running a racket, which like I said is kind of a complaint. So it's like, let's say call it a complaint where it like constrains your freedom to just be who you are.

Okay. It also constrains your freedom to act. And the thing about a racket is that it has a payoff and a price. So the thing about a complaint, right, if you will, it has a payoff and a price. So the thing about a complaint, right, if you will, it has a pay off and a price. So let's say my complaint or my racket to you is X, Y, Z. And my payoff is, oh, look, I'm right, you're wrong. I dominated that conversation. Therefore, I avoided dominance. I wasn't taken over by you. I'm not speaking about you Luke, but I'm just using you as an example. Like I've been thinking about apologies and

complaints with friends and circles of friends. So this is more about other people than it is you Luke, but I'm using you as an example. Also like with a racket, I run this racket, this complaint. I win, so then you lose. Like I won, I dominated this, I'm right. I am also not justified and you are invalidated. And it's like, here's this temporary fucking feel good, right? Like my nerves are tingly, I'm on a high,

look what I just did. But what was the price of that moment? Especially when it's with, mostly when it's with someone you care about, or if it's not, I don't know. The price was love, well-being, self-expression, satisfaction, true fulfillment. It was like this temporary high that I got because I was able to like quote unquote win that conversation. But like at the end of the day do I feel really good about myself? Not really. So

I've been battling about that being my toxic trait with people that I love because I know that that is factual about me as a me personally right. But then I've been thinking about friends or people I used to be friends with or people I've considered be friends with or people I've considered making up with. I mean, LA is such a big city and I have, as you know, and you've said on this podcast, like, I have so many different groups of friends where you're like, cheese and rice. How do I get to know every single person's name?

Like, you have all these different groups of friends. And as we've gone through our fertility journey and talked about marriage and making our circle closer, moving out of California one day, being closer to our family, making new friends, there's just so many variables within that that I've been thinking about people that I maybe want to demand an apology from. Or do- You can't demand an apology though.

No, correct. I'm talking about in my own head. Okay. Just in my own head. But then I think about some of those people where I'm like, like I deserve an apology. Do I even want that apology? And then what do I do with that apology if I don't want to be friends with them anyway?

Is that an ego thing on my end? Do you know what I'm saying? So then I started thinking about like, well, what if I think I'm so deserving of this apology from John Doe, you know? John Doe was my friend one time and I'm like, John Doe really needs to apologize because we're not gonna be able to be in a good place

or he can't be in my life with Luke until John Doe apologizes. And if John Doe does apologize, what if I don't want to accept the apology? Now am I an asshole who just... I think that's just being confused because at the core of wanting or feeling that you need an apology means that person

is important in your life. Do you need an apology from some homeless dude that bumped into you walking down the street? No. You're not gonna lose sleep over that person. You don't need to find them to get an apology because they're not a part of your life. So if there's some part of you telling you that you deserve an apology, then that person has some importance. But is it importance or is it a trauma? Or a role? Like a past trauma? I don't know.

Or is it my ego? I feel like the deserve, the fact that I use the word deserve is like, that's my ego talking. For me, I just am different. In my extremist ways, if I feel wronged by someone, I'm not going to demand an apology. I'll probably be around them again at some point. If they want to act like it didn't happen, I'm going to be one word responses and go about my life without them. I don't need other people. I'm way more of a lone wolf than you are as well. I do a lot of things on my own, which I've said numerous times.

So I can brush it off. It doesn't really bother me. If somebody close, like if my brother and I got in a big fight, I have no doubt both of us would apologize. For sure. And we'd move on. And would it bother me day after day

if there wasn't some reconciliation? Yes it would. But there's only a very small number of people in my life that would carry that weight. And that is exactly who you are. So what I think it is about me is that proudly, I am a social justice warrior. I've said it once, I'll say it a million times more. Talk all the shit you want about me. You come after my friends. You come after my man. You come after my family. Or even my character. Like you can call me all the names in the book,

and you can go on social media and troll me and blah blah blah blah. But if you hit me where it hurts and it's purposeful, because you're like going for my character, or like to me, I am a fucking social justice warrior, and I wanna see that person burn at the stake in a way, until they understand. I don't want bad things to happen to them. I don't wish ill will. I don't want them to be hurt physically.

I don't want them to be sick or be in an accident, or like I'm not like voodooing people. I just, I want people to understand, become empathetic and know that words. Like it's that saying sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me. Words can fucking hurt. When you're a public figure. No, not when you're a public figure.

Think about all the bullies of the world where literally teenagers, children have committed suicide because people talk shit about them. I agree, so I retract. There are certain, I'm not everybody. I know where you're going because you're thinking in our age, our level, reality television. I just grew up, I heard that so much.

Like that was the thing that was something my dad didn't stand for was being all worked up or heard over somebody that was like kind of a't stand for was being all worked up or heard over somebody that was like kind of a friend but not really said something mean he's like sticks and stones like don't let it bother you. Sticks and stones move on how why are you letting that affect you right now? Yeah. Go about your life go fishing go do something you like to do and be like okay you're right I'll go fishing. I think that's the battle I'm having

internally is I agree with you, but I have that little part of my brain that's like, don't be moved anymore. Some people are outdoorsy people stuck in an apartment in Los Angeles that can't go fishing. And then this sits with them. No, baby, it's not about fishing. Literally. I mean, the way your dad explained it to you is like, don't sweat the small stuff. If it's someone that's not important to you, they don't deserve to have an effect over your soul, your mentality, your psychological wellbeing, right?

That's what I mean. And I think, I guess my, guys, we're in a fucking therapy session. What? Like my toxic trait is like being somewhere in the middle of that. It's like, I am a social justice warrior. I want the person that wronged people purposefully

to burn at the stake a little bit. Like a little bit. I want them to feel some heat under their toes. I do. Maybe get some blisters. I do. I want them to realize what they've put other people through, maybe unknowingly or subconsciously knowingly,

like how people, and I'm talking like, obviously guys, like 13 fucking years of reality TV plus middle school and high school and everything else in between. But these things like have stuck with me. And as a very grown ass adult who Luke and I are obviously trying for a baby, all of these things cross my mind all the time in the way I want to raise our child and like

what our child will, children will possibly have to deal with one day. Things we deal with as adults being in reality TV or even just in real life. So I think my toxic trait may be, no I think it's a strong suit, my social justice warrior, I think it's a strong suit, my social justice warrior. I think it's a strong suit. It can be negative or positive. I think my toxic trait is passive aggression. I would say to tag on to what you're teetering on, I think the aspect of it is-

Yeah, explain my words. I'd say the aspect of it that would be a toxic trait is being willing to abandon your own responsibilities to pursue that social justice. It would be the toxic trait of it, that would be a toxic trait, is being willing to abandon your own responsibilities to pursue that social justice. It would be the toxic trait of it because you do that sometimes as well. You raise it to the highest priority when you feel like somebody has been wronged. A friend of yours has been wronged, so clear the schedule. I'm making this my priority the rest of the day, week, whatever.

Year. Exactly, yeah. You know me so well. You know that you know me better than any boyfriend I've ever had. You think so? Yeah. I think it's because I know myself a lot better too. I could, yeah, I could see that. And you're a very curious person.

You're very curious about people even though you don't want to be like involved in their bullshit. You're still like a very curious human being in general about like why people work the way they work. Yeah. I'm an analytic. The good, the bad, the ugly, the funny. Like you're just always very fascinated and curious as the way that I am.

Yeah. Basically, this was a fucking word vomit therapy session, you guys, but I feel like anyone who's listening to this podcast knows me or is curious about me or my relationship with Luke or Luke just as a human. So you guys are like on my level of that. So anyway, that was the major thing is talking about the toxic traits and then truly considering like,

I thought about what if I'm not ready to accept an apology from someone? I remember times on like Vanderpump Rules or not filming Vanderpump Rules but during like my 20s and 30s, right? Because that was most of my adulthood. That's why I'm using reality TV as an example. I feel like guilt when someone's truly genuinely or it appears that they are apologizing,

like who the fuck am I to not accept that? How awful of a human am I to not accept this person's apology? But like now in my life at 41, I'm thinking about all the friends, the giant circle that I've had. And I'm not saying it's all about apology based, or like maybe trying to come back into our lives, or whatnot, right? Like what if I don't want that? How does one

express that without being cruel or hurting someone else? It's called saying thank you for your apology. I forgive you and walking away. That's what it's called. Okay. And that's that. But saying I don't want to be your friend. You don't have to say that you can show it actions over words Words are cheap. What if someone came to me and said like can we be friends again? And I'm like hell fucking no

I don't trust you Like to babysit my dog for 30 seconds like I don't trust you to babysit my plant Then you say honey, I forgive you but we're a long ways from me trusting you again. And I hold no ill will, however, I don't see us being that close ever again. Oh, you're the best. You think that you could do something like that? Yeah, I wish you were like my Teddy Ruxpin.

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Is this a TV show or a movie or? Teddy Ruxpin? Yeah, I don't know what that is. Oh my God, bless your heart. I know a Ted. No, Teddy Ruxpin was a Teddy bear that talked and like moved. I think in hindsight, it was a little creepy,

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How do you feel about themed parties? I've been thinking about it a lot because to me, the summer screams a theme party because it's beautiful outside, no matter where you live typically in the United States. So when I lived in Michigan or I live in California or I lived in Florida, it's like summertime, get-togethers, barbecues, pool parties, bleh blah blah, people over in your backyard. Themes are just fun but

sometimes they're not. How do you feel about a themed party? I have never been big on themed parties. However, there have been a few occasions that I have really gone all in at them. And I feel like it's been a long time. So I'm ready for something. I don't know what is coming up yet. I know, will we having a housewarming party? Maybe we'll put a theme with it.

See, I totally disagree with you because when you have your golf tournament with your brother and all of your friends, you guys have this mustache thing. Yeah, but it's just a, it's a thing. Okay. It is, but it's not like, I don't know. Like some people are like sixties, fifties, seventies, twenties parties. I'm like, I don't have that shit.

And your brother, your brother does like themed bloody Marys. What's that bloody Mary account? What's it called? Broderick. Broderick bloodies. At Broderick Bloody's. At Broderick Bloody's. You guys should follow if you're into Bloody Marys

because Luke's brother Ethan is like next effing level. It's all about the garnish. I want him to make me a vegan hot dog. I'm gonna send him a recipe. My point is I think dudes do themes but you don't recognize that you're doing themes. Where girls were more like it's this movie or it's this era or it's like an all-black or an all-white party or an all-rainbow party.

I mean that's usually for pride but like also not just for pride. And I was just curious like when you get an invitation for that, are you stoked? Are you irritated? Or are you just, like, neutral? I am immediately thinking, I hope Kristin gets my costume ready for this. I have a feeling. It's not a stoked, it's a mark it on the calendar.

And I mean, there are certain themes, like I said, sometimes there's a theme that'll strike my fancy and I'll be like, all right, I'm going in on this one. But more often than not, I want my girlfriend to set out or just my lady to be like, hey, let's do matching costumes. I already picked it out. I'm gonna be like, yes, good day, it's awesome. Yeah, so I'm either gonna light my closet on fire

and cry naked in my bed, or I've ordered like 18 costumes and I'm doing shots of tequila before we go out. Like there's no in-between for me. Like I think that's my whole thing with myself. Like my range of emotion is rarely at a neutral. Oh yeah, everyone knows that. But that's how I feel about themed parties.

I mean, you even get, you get anxious. If there's a theme that I fucking hate, I'm like, light my closet on fire. If it's a theme that I like, I'm so excited and Amazon just took my whole bank account. You get anxious when I'm in neutral. So obviously you're never like in neutral. Like for a reverse, for a reverse. But I love that never like in neutral. Like for a diverse, for a diverse. But I love that you're neutral. I need you in neutral.

Just coasting along. One day we're gonna figure this shit out. It's getting better. It's good, it's good. If you're a married couple or a long-term couple, and especially if you're a couple that has offspring at all, one or more, and you are anything like Luke and I, will you please fucking email or DM me and join our podcast?

Because I know people in my real life that are very similar to Luke and I, whether it's like the guys like me, the girls like Luke, or vice versa. But it is always so nice to hear how opposites attract and then find their neutral zone. Not the neutral zone, find their groove, I'd say. Common ground. I mean, we have a shit ton of common ground. I'm saying finding that neutral zone where we don't have to be like my high or my low.

Yeah, find it for you. I think it's just stimulation. Like it's everything's just stimulating here that you have a kind of a neutral. That's it's just stimulation. Like it's everything so stimulating here that you are you have a kind of a neutral when we rented that house on the lake in Michigan. You kind of were neutral there. You were like just smiley all day and not like chilling down or freaking out about anything. You're like we've got food, friends and family are coming over. There's football, everything's good. And this was without weed, guys.

This was like sober. I was very chill. It's like they can leave the door open. The dogs can go outside in the yard. Luke's down there fishing. The world is great. You're literally right. That's all I have to say.

That's why that's our end goal. Okay. Well, I hope you guys really enjoyed this podcast. The last thing I wanted to talk about was just a few things we've been watching because I think that's really fun because it's just us. I watched the new Beetlejuice trailer today. Fuck me up.

Michael Keaton, I cannot believe that he is, he looks exactly the same. Jenna Ortega, I'm obsessed with her. Winona Ryder looks exactly the same as well. This is gonna be so fucking good. I've been waiting for it since the minute they announced it. And then just a couple things, we've been watching receivers on Netflix.

The new football doc by Peyton Manning, he did quarterback last year. But Randy Moss essentially hosts this one and it follows some of the best receivers in the league. Yep. Including. Including one very special Detroit Lion. I'm on Raw St. Brown.

Let's go Lions. But also a lot of other wide receivers that I love. So yes, guys, I'm a chick. And if you're new to our podcast, I'm obsessed with football. No, we're not going to have a football podcast No, we're not gonna have a football podcast, but we're gonna talk about football during the season. Yeah, I probably will. Do we just need a football podcast?

Like I am hardcore obsessed with football. I have multiple fantasy teams. I love to learn, like I am that girl. So if you or your significant other, or you're just like interested in learning more about football, definitely watch the Netflix documentary, Receivers. I would also watch Kelsey about Jason Kelsey. That is beautiful because you're also seeing like the life and you're seeing the fun of football, which I think lacks a lot. I think that's why I have to pinpoint

y'all females, but my girlfriends, personally, that do not watch football are like, it's so boring. I'm like, but if you watch these, especially receivers, and you see how much fun they're having on the field, and it like goes back to almost like childhood days, but they just work a hell of a lot harder, it's just like so heartfelt. And I respect them beyond. And I respect them beyond and I don't know it's just it's fantastic. It is fantastic. I mean just diving into their personal lives and how much pressure and how much weight certain plays in a game have on someone that sticks with them for weeks or months that you know it's it's all real it's like just catch the ball. Yeah there's a lot

more to it than that. Their parents, their significant others, their children, yeah. And then if you have another one, baby, you want to throw out, my last one is worst roommate ever. The new season just came out and holy fucking shit, you guys, I love true crime. So good. Do you have another thing? What were you watching last night? Last night?

Oh, Vikings of Valhalla. Okay. Yeah. I thought it was the dragon or Game of Thrones. No, I was just catching up on season two. I'd seen it last year, but I didn't remember all of it before I start. Season three that just came out, I think last month.

So, yeah. So we recommend those things. And you know what I love about us to wrap this up? What's that? We have shows we watch together, but we do not give each other eye rules if one of us moves forward. Like last night, I had to leave the house

to go work on something for a couple of hours, and I came home, you were watching receivers. And I was like, wait a minute, did I fall asleep during this part, or are you ahead of me? And Luke was a bit ahead of me, and I was like, wait a minute, did I fall asleep during this part? Are you ahead of me? And Luke was a bit ahead of me and I was like, okay, can you let me know which episodes I have to catch up on? Like we're not that couple that's like, you did what? You're in the dog house tonight, bruh.

We have series we love to watch together, but it's like, sorry, I go to sleep sooner, or Luke wants to watch it later at night and I want to watch together. But it's like, sorry I go to sleep sooner or Luke wants to watch it later at night and I want to watch it in the morning. And we try to find a, yeah. We're just apart for two weeks. No, it's like. I don't want that to happen ever again.

Then you just have to come to Colorado with me. Duh. Duh. Anyway, I just recommend don't fight with your significant other if you guys aren't watching the show at the same time. Just like have a set of like fun rules. And if you are the couple that's like, no, no, no,

Kristen and Luke, shut the fuck up. If he or she does not watch it with me, they're in the dog house, then have like funny punishments, if you will. Like if you watch ahead, you have to something. You have to rewatch it from the dog crate. Have a dog crate you bring out there to sit in. It's a bit dark.

It's not dark. I mean, it could be kinky, but it's more just like demoralizing. Yeah, it's not good. I was thinking more like you have to buy me a present or like go pick up food or make dinner but yeah. Yeah, I'm way too literal. We don't have the same fucking sense of humor. I love you so much.

I'm obsessed with you. I really am. I love you. Okay, you guys. We'll talk to you next week. Thanks for listening. Bye. Make sure to follow us on social media.

You can follow me on all platforms at Kristen Doty and follow Luke on Instagram at Luke Hey, I'm dating coach Talia Korenne, host of Dating Intentionally, where I help listeners date with confidence and learn to enjoy the process, whether you're new to the dating scene or you've been at it for a while. Tune in every Tuesday and Friday for my no-nonsense advice on using dating apps and navigating new relationships without letting your anxiety take over. You can find Dating Intentionally wherever you get your podcasts.