Sex, Love, and What Else Matters - Catching Up with Kristen & Luke + AMA

Episode Date: June 27, 2024

Episode 117. This week, we’re catching up with Kristen & Luke! They share an update on their fertility journey, their search for a house, and wrap up the episode by answering listener questions. Kristen opens about her ADHD, OCD, and depression and has a vulnerable conversation with Luke about how it might feel being in a relationship with her. What cities would they move to? Plans for another dog?  What TV shows have they been watching lately? All this and more in this episode! Sponsors: Unlock Jennifer Anniston-approved hair at lolavie.com. Get an exclusive 15% off your entire order when you use code DOUTE at checkout. Go to Addyi.com and use code DOUTE for a $10 telemedicine appointment. Follow us: @kristendoute @luke__broderick Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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What's up, babe? Welcome back to another episode of Balancing Ads. I got my Lukey Booky with me. Hi, honey. What's up? And we're just going to kind of shoot the shit today. It's just me and Luke. We've had so many guests lately, amazing guests. We've done a lot of like Q&As and interviewing people and Luke's getting ready to go out of town again. Who would have guessed, right?

Whomp, whomp, whomp. Like literally in about an hour. So today we just wanted to kind of like catch you guys up and just hang out. I feel like I want to start out with the very last thing as of today that I posted on Instagram, which I think is your last thing too. It is.

People need to know. What is this flipping trailer? Everyone wants answers. Okay, so let's back up about 18 months. So I was talking with Greg, it was just the two of us out at the ranch at the time. Greg, explain Greg. Greg is, just to remind you guys,

if you're jumping in as new listeners. As new listeners, Greg is Greg Hunter. He's my neighbor in Colorado. Your bestie. He's my neighbor in Colorado. He- Your bestie. Yeah, my best friend. He- Married to Rachel O'Brien. Right.

He and Rachel's wedding is where Kristin and I met to simplify things. Now he has a background in the Hollywood stuff. He lived out here for seven, eight years. The Hollywood stuff. Well, I got to say it because- He's a musician. He's a director, writer, producer, editor. Videographer, everything. Yeah. He's a jack of all trades. Yeah. He's a jack, he's a director, writer, producer, editor.

Videographer, everything. He really is a videographer. Yeah. He's a jack of all trades. Yeah, he is very good. He's the one that shot all of that footage and also edited it. So kudos to him. He and I started talking about this idea.

I wanted to shoot some sort of Western horror film, and then it slowly progressed into this podcast-based, like video log or daily vlog type thing involving Kristen and Rachel, who both are professional podcasters. Long story short, we shot for a few days last fall and come up with this trailer. We have multiple scripts. We don't know which direction we're going exactly yet. We could go feature film. We could go a series. We could go a series. We could go scripted podcasts.

Those are really the only three directions we're considering taking it. So you guys, it's not an actual true documentary like The Valley is. It is not a docu-series. We are not telling anyone to join our cult. I am. I don't know what you're talking about. Come to my commune. Rachel does say that we have a, it's like our quote unquote cult, like the commune out in the ranch. I don't like the word cult.

I know. It's a commune. But again, you guys, hear the word scripted, scripted, scripted. It is scripted, absolutely. But I love that everyone thought it was slightly real life, which means we did a killer fucking job acting. Yeah, they did great.

What may or may not be scripted is whether or not Kristen's doctor told her she needed to try some mushroom therapy. Maybe you'll never know. Maybe. So that is the trailer. It was something we were gonna hold close to the chest. And we were just so proud of it.

And Greg had showed it to me and Luke last time I was in Colorado. And I was just so proud of it. And Greg had showed it to me and Luke last time I was in Colorado. And I was just so incredibly impressed with Greg's pacing, the editing, the music, just like the lighting and everything. And I was like, we're so proud of this. Let's just fucking throw it up on Instagram and see what the people think.

And thank you guys all so much because it has been overwhelmingly a positive experience for all of us. Yeah, it's been great positive feedback. Reigniting the flame, because like I said, it was last October when we shot all this. To be putting something out right now, knowing we are really trying to get the ball rolling again to finish the project, it's exciting. It is exciting.

And if I can say, because a lot of the question on everyone's mind is about are trying to conceive. I'm not pregnant, you guys, but we are trying to conceive. And something that's really special for me is that when we shot that, I was pregnant. Kristin was pregnant at that time. So like what, two days before you flew out to Colorado, you called me on the phone to tell me, FaceTime me. FaceTime you, yeah. Colorado, you called me on the phone to tell me, FaceTime me. FaceTimed you, yeah.

Yeah, to tell me. And I was like, well, I'm already going to Colorado. No one says you can't fly when you're two days knocked up that you're aware of and you don't even know how far along you are. Right. We figured it out, but yeah, I don't know. To me, that's just really special

because everyone was so cool and kind and cautious with me. I was like, yo, I feel pretty good because everyone was so cool and kind and cautious with me. I was like, yo, I feel pretty good, except I'm really tired and I puke sometimes. And you were a little bummed you couldn't drink with the rest of us. That's true. It's tough being out on the ranch, because at the time it was Halloween and it was-

Exactly. The Wheeler. The Halloweeler. We do the beer pong tournament,nament. We do it every year. Yeah. And I was like, cool, guys. Well, I'll be here just slamming some water out of a red solo cup and everyone will think that I'm playing.

So anyway, that is that just made me like feel. Yeah. I feel all this sort of nostalgia is really special. So on the trying to conceive front, we are hasn't happened yet. It's he am I guys, I'm on my period right now. So we know that it did not happen for us this time. But I did get a lot of fertility questions. And I'm not here or one to give advice

or fertility options for any of you because I'm still trying to figure it out. I'm not a doctor. I've not yet given birth, so I don't feel that I'm in a position to do that. I can just tell you what we've been going through and what we've done, and I'll make it short and sweet for the moment. But we did go see my doctor a couple of weeks ago,

and we assumed at the day that I went in that I would be ovulating or near ovulating. We did not see any follicles. The next week I went in for a progesterone blood test and my doctor called me the next day and said, ladies, if you're out there, he's like, your progesterone, it was a 9.3, which is phenomenal. So he's like, anything above a three, you want to be close to a 10, but that tells us you did ovulate. So essentially we were just off on my ovulation date. I use all the apps, we try to figure it out.

And the sticks. And the sticks, I pee on the sticks, I do it all. And so now we're at a point where I feel like, maybe I'm kind of like overthinking and overdoing all these different apps and contraptions and things like that. I just need to pay attention to my ovulation sticks and paying attention to my body. So that was great news that I did ovulate.

We were just not on the right timeframe. Luke, I didn't even tell you this, but I talked to our doctor this morning and said, you know, what do you recommend for next time around? Because we did discuss the possibility of taking medication to up my ovulation. So I asked him, is this something I should be jumping on? What do you think? And he was like, you know what, as always the best doctor in the world, like whatever I want to do, he's down for. But I asked his opinion.

He said, I think you guys need to give it another month or two. Let's give it another month or two and just pee on the normal sticks, just like a fertility specialist would tell you to. You don't need a fancy app or a little fancy computer or anything else. Just pee on the sticks, figure it out. And then if, you know, if that's what we come to in a month or two, then we can have that discussion, which is a reason I'm saying this now, because we're going to do an Ask Me Anything at the end. And one of the questions was if we would consider IVF. And this was something that our doctor asked us.

He asked if we wanted to speak to a fertility specialist. Now, something else that's new, just recently, is Kristin has started fertility acupuncture. So you haven't been able to give me very many details. You're like, they put a few pins in you, you don't feel much and that's it. You just lay down and rest. started fertility acupuncture. with all of my doctor appointments. So I really don't know. I'm not an acupuncturist, but it's worked for a ton of my friends.

Yeah, I've heard all good stories about it. I haven't heard anyone be like, I tried acupuncture and it didn't work. I've heard people say IVF didn't work and acupuncture did. So we figured we'd go the less expensive and more homeopathic route. Yeah, I mean, yeah, it's just when he, my doctor had asked us, our doctor, my doctor, whatever, had asked

us how we felt about talking to a fertility specialist. I personally said, and I feel like Luke, you agree, I would rather exhaust every other option until we have to get to that point. And if that ends up being where we need to go, then we'll have that conversation. Right. I mean, there's still somewhat of a timeline. We don't want to wait five more years and then be like, well, now we should maybe try IVF for sure.

I don't think that's the right way to go. But yeah. That's where we're at. So we're just going to have sex a lot and pee on sticks. That's that. I'm not paying on any sticks. No, you're not. You can handle all of that.

Yeah. Oh, goodness gracious. So that's all that. That's all that. Well, another big thing that is hopefully happening, we just submitted applications to move into a rental house. Yes. So exciting.

Get out of the apartment. And let me start off by saying I am very grateful once again for a roof over my head. We are so grateful for everything, but it's just getting to be a fucking pain in the ass to have two dogs. We used to have four, rest in paradise, but now we have two. And just our quality of life, it's not like up and down the stairs. We don't really have sunlight. We don't have, there are just things I'm realizing about myself that I absolutely need to thrive. And that is being able to go outside with my dog

at any point, sit outside and work. I think I work the best when I'm sitting in a backyard or just sitting in the sunlight. My creative juices really flow and I feel a lot more free. So we did, yeah, so we looked at a house and we're like, we're in, bruh. We did and we loved it and we're applying for it's got a pool. I'll have a garage that I'm most excited for.

I know Kristen isn't quite as excited, but I'm going to get that second fridge back. It's coming back. Yes. I said, you can have a second, you can have a third. I don't give a shit what you put in that garage, but like you say, I'm not excited about it, but I told you, like, I am like a psycho on Pinterest. Even on Instagram, when I follow all these like DIY people, I'm not excited about it, but I told you like, I am like a psycho on Pinterest, even on Instagram, and I follow all these like DIY people. I'm like, I want to learn how to use all those fun saws. I want to make, I want to make things.

Okay. Yeah. That sounds fun. As long as you let me, you know, maybe hang some antlers in there or make sure you like, it can be MySpace. You can do whatever you want. MySpace? What was your MySpace profile You can do whatever you want. MySpace? What was your MySpace profile name? Oh geez, I don't know.

I think I only had it for like a year before I went to Facebook because I'm a baby. Oh, you didn't even know how to code digital? No, I was like drag and drop. Sorry, you said MySpace, so that's all I could think of. But yeah, you can do the antlers and stuff. Awesome, great. Cagrator, I'll build a workbench. But yeah, you can do the antlers and stuff. Awesome. Great.

Cagirator, I'll build a workbench. I'll bring all the tools. I mean, you guys putting the juju out that we get this particular house because I don't know why we wouldn't unless someone beat us to the punch, but we are, we're pushing. We are.

Send everything in, just waiting, trying not to hold our breath so we can stay alive. I'm holding my fucking breath. I want the goddamn house. I have a Pinterest board already. It's like new house, secret locked board of everything that I want to do to the yard, to like the rooms.

I know it's not, we didn't buy it, but. Yeah, well, this is still, this is where we want to be for the next years, more than one year. We want to be there for two, three, four years, however long it is until we want to be for the next years, more than one year. We want to be there for two, three, four years, however long it is until we are ready to buy something and set our roots down with our baby or two, ideally. So yeah, we're trying to make this our last move before we find a place to set our roots. Yeah.

Okay. I want to talk about something like super briefly because I have talked about this on my Instagram stories asking people if they would be interested in this. So moving forward, I'd like to like bring on a professional or two and talk about this, but Luke for you, I wanna talk about my ADHD for a second because I feel like maybe that would get people to get to know me better

because it's not something I've ever talked about on the show. Maybe I post funny casual stories like on my Instagram story. I don't know if ADHD alone covers everything. And OCD. As far as my understanding of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. Yes. Yeah Well, and I have like ADHD with OCD plus depression and anxiety at times and this is all very diagnosed by my psychiatrist you guys as an adult in The more recent time so I don't want to hear you at me anything

but the reason I'm bringing this up because I was like anything. But the reason I'm bringing this up because I was like scrolling on YouTube and watching things that make me happy. And I fell upon busy Phillips was recently on the Today show with Hoda and Jenna. And she's been on her podcast very upfront about her daughter, Bertie having ADHD and how she went to that appointment with her daughter and her daughter's father. I don't know if they're still married. And Bizzy suddenly realized all of these things that the doctor was pointing out about her

daughter really related to her. So she went and got a diagnosis on her own with her own doctor. And something that she said that like, the reason I'm even bringing this up with the reason I really stopped on this particular video because she, it like almost makes me emotional, but she was like, I felt like prior to being diagnosed, she was like, I felt like I wasn't good at life. She was like, why am I just, why do I just suck at everything? Like, why am I not good at life? Like, why can't I handle this or why can I get this done on time or why can't, all these things. And like, it hit me like a ton of fucking bricks like straight to my heart.

I was like oh my god I too feel like no matter what I do I'm just not good at life sometimes. Why do I procrastinate? Why am I late even when I plan my whole day around not being late? I'm sure I don't know if you guys will see it maybe because I look up this kind of stuff on Instagram but you scroll through Instagram and it'll be like here are signs of like an adult diagnosed with ADHD. And I'm like, yes, yes, yes, yes. But of course I've talked to my doctor about this, but some of the things that really strike me, like the comical ones, it's like, I know I have an appointment at two. So therefore I set my alarm for eight. I'm probably gonna sleep until 8.15, but maybe 8.30, 8.40, oh shit, now I'm running late. But then my alarm goes off at 10,

it means to get in the shower because then I have to walk my dogs and I do this. My point is by 2 p.m., I have now set up my whole day just to go to this meeting at 2 p.m. If I have a meeting at two, be damn sure there's nothing else I'm doing that day because my whole day is gonna to be revolving around. Does that make sense, Luke?

Sort of. You know how my brain works, but I just did like, is it hard to date someone who's neurodivergent? You know, I don't know all the exact terminology, but there are definitely times where I'm like, what is happening in your brain? I do not understand. I want to understand better because I don't get it. I just don't get it sometimes. And that can be frustrating.

Like, I don't listen. If we're sitting there talking and I'm like, wait, can you say that again? Wait, sorry, can you say that again? It's not that I'm not wanting to listen to you. It's because I can't fucking focus. Failing to follow through with things. Right. Saying, like, telling me, yeah, we'll do that right after this. And

then your mind's moving so fast that you're like, okay, well, I mean, I could do that right now, but I feel like this is a better idea to do first. And I think I should do this, this and this because this is, you know, he'll really like this instead of doing that. Just, you know, I can come back to that kind of deal. And it's like, I don't know, our brains definitely just work differently and some things become. But I'm just realizing how difficult it can be. But the more I'm trying to understand it, it's like, I don't know, our brains definitely just work differently and some things become... But I'm just realizing how difficult it can be, but the more I'm trying to understand it, it's like, it's tough for me to explain it without it sounding like I'm making an excuse for it,

but I feel the more that I understand it, the more I can get a grasp on it, rather than going, oh, too bad, I'm just a procrastinator, deal with it. It's like, okay, so I know this about myself, but the fact that I know that me not following through, it doesn't mean I'm lazy. I beat myself up, as you know.

Like, why am I so stupid? Like, well, how could I just like not get that done? Why did I spend so much time on the couch doing this? Or why did my brain decide to start like alphabetizing something in my room rather than put the clothes away that it's been on my list for like seven days? Does that make sense to you? Yeah, it does.

I mean, I've been diagnosed ADHD. I know it's not to the degree. And I know that I don't have the overlapping anxiety and other things most of the time that affect you. And I don't know something that maybe a psychiatrist could help you out with, but I feel like in my mind, there's a thing I call like my Trump card. If we're going to Euker on this, that there are times where I beat myself up just like you do. There are times where I don't didn't get anywhere near as much

done. And I'm like, what did I do? What choices did I make? I didn't, I procrastinated, came up with excuses not to get my stuff done. Right. And ultimately it's like the next day or that night or sometime I'm like, all right, screw this, I'm going to turn the trump card on, which means if I catch myself doing these things that I know I'm going to beat myself up over later, I just say no. Like no, get up, put it down, just get up, like on my feet, start moving in one direction or the other and stuff starts happening for me personally. Which is really tough to do for me.

The hardest thing to do is to just stand up or walk out the door or get in the car or walk to the closet and just do the thing. That is the hardest fucking part. And I think where I beat myself up in the past is it appearing to be laziness, procrastination. I don't care. That's something that I've lived with for a long time.

And I think that it is a valuable thing in general. I said this on the podcast before. My grandmother used to tell me, when you are late to something where you're meeting someone else, you're late to something, it's essentially disrespecting someone else's time, no matter what your excuse is. Obviously accidents happen.

Of course, life is in the way, you can't control, right? But when it is in your control, my grandma would tell me, don't make excuses about it, because basically all you're saying is that my time means more than your time does. Or this person's time. Or it's's time. Or is more valuable. Yeah. And it used to like gnaw at me because I don't think that or mean that.

In fact, I probably take three hours longer to get ready to go to this meeting, whatever it is, right? But then all these little things pop in the way that feel like not more important. I don't even know. It's like, I read this thing one time that this psychiatrist said that they said in times like that where it seems like laziness, procrastination, unimportant,

that it's not a willful thing that we do as adults. It is literally neurological. So that's why I really like to bring, I'm not gonna bring my own doctor on, I think that'd be weird, but having just like a specialist or something on to just talk through this a little bit more because I do try to cover it up at times.

I know that. And I do have a lot of guilt. The crazy thing is like poor organizational skills. I think that's like one of the one things that doesn't totally screw me because of my OCD. I was going to say you don't have poor organizational skills. You have poor consistency discipline is what I'd say.

There are times where you are incredibly good at organizing everything. But I also lose things. Right. That's what I mean as far as the consistency, the discipline to maintain that level because I've seen you be very, very organized. Right. Because that's me trying. That's like showing you, like I'm not showing you, but showing myself like I really am trying.

I know that I lose my keys, my phone, my this. So I buy a bunch of air tags. Well, they're tags. I know exactly where they are right now. I'm pretty sure they're in some like cupboard in the bathroom or like in a closet somewhere. But I tried. And we do have the little dish by the door where I put the keys,

but sometimes I don't remember to put the keys there. So what do I do, Luke? You asked me where to have it. What do I, no, what do I do when I really can't find my keys? You asked me for help. And I watch what? Oh, and you watch the, what do you call the home? The Nest. The Nest, the Nest camera.

That's right. Yeah, you watch that. Spend a lot of time looking for it, but I mean. To see where I walk in the door and you watched the, what do you call the home? The Nest. The Nest, the Nest camera, that's right. Yeah, you watched that. Spent a lot of time looking for it, but I mean. To see where I walk in the door and I'm like, where did I put the keys that day? Like the mail keys, it's different. I'm like, I checked the mail like three days ago and then I watched the Nest and I was like,

oh, in that pair of pants or like that jacket that I hung up, anywho. I just thought maybe a little bit of insight because I've been feeling a lot of like, I feel like I'm drowning a little bit today for no reason at all. Would maybe just help you guys understand me a little bit more. But yeah, I would really like to have like a therapist, a psychiatrist, a specialist,

someone on like that because like therapy is like Botox. You know, irons out all the wrinkles. It's preventative. Just someone on like that because like therapy is like Botox, you know? Irons out all the wrinkles. It's preventative. Therapy should just maybe be used slightly more often. Slightly less toxic. I don't know. Okay.

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But I showed you Luke this, which I'll post to you guys when this airs, this really cool thing I found on Instagram. This girl was talking about being defensive in partnerships. Yeah, you said it to me, I saw it. Yeah, which is so fucking simple, but sometimes the most simple things I need to like digest again

or hear it worded a different way where it makes sense to me. And I thought it was just really interesting because it's something that Luke and I do go through. It's like, I think we have a healthy relationship. I think we're really solid, but yeah, we fucking get into it sometimes. Everyone does. Everyone does. Everyone. And a lot of what Luke and I do, even though we both thrive on being communicative with each other, it's like sometimes we're just not fucking doing it. He's trying to communicate, I'm trying to communicate, and it's like the North Pole and North Pole magnets just going, nope, don't see eye to eye.

The exact same words said by one of us has a different meaning than it does coming from the other person. So it's like, that's a disconnect we've had recently and we've been working through and we've made... Yes. Like you said, disconnect. That's a good idea. It's a really good way to word it.

But something that I, this thing that I saw on Instagram was like, I'll use myself as an example, what Luke said versus how I felt. So the example she uses is like, Luke were to tell me, you said you were gonna take the trash out this week. Like it was, you know, now I had to go take the trash out, but you said you were gonna do it. And so there's two ways that I can respond to that. One is getting defensive and immediately deciding

what those words mean to me. Now- And saying, well, I did all this other stuff. Why couldn't you just do it? I did all this other stuff. What is the you just do it? What is the big deal? Like why are you making taking out the trash the biggest deal in the whole wide world now we start a fight but if I react to respond to the words that you said the words that you said were I'm Frustrated I think that's what it was

Frustrated that you didn't take the trash out when you said you were going to and then I had to do it So if I just listen to the words, yeah, I'd be fucking frustrated too. That's a little irritating. Like I can totally see how you'd be frustrated. And I definitely did not mean to frustrate you. Like what a change in dynamic rather than me go, okay, fine, yeah, I'm sorry. I'm sorry I didn't take the fucking trash out.

Like, is it really the end of the world? Or can you just ask me to do it now? My bad. Like all this attitude comes with feeling attacked when you're just trying to express how you feel. And like, what a difference that could do to a conversation. So anyway, this is me trying.

So I'm gonna be working on that. Yeah, I think we've both been, I've had this really short fuse recently and like- High stress. Yeah, I guess kind of high stress. And it's also building frustration, trying to have conversations. I've been trying to reword things so that Chris and I can have these conversations. And I feel like you felt attacked. And so basically that thing, that reel we saw was so on point.

I'm super sensitive to, due to past trauma that isn't your fault, has nothing to do with you. That that's also something I have to recognize. It's just recognizing and being aware. And I don't know, it just all felt really powerful, like kind of coming to these thoughts coming to fruition. Ultimately though, babe, you know something you've said multiple times?

What? Just slow down. I said I have to slow down. Just slow down and it'll all be better. Yeah. That's why I like Colorado, mill and nowhere. It's slow. Well, it's not even about that. I like certain fast paced things, but it's when I need to take something in. If you ask me a question or you tell me to do something or what do we want to do instead of just reacting, responding in one second. Like I'm allowed to take a breath, seconds and think about the words before I speak. Exactly.

Yeah, totally. That's our Ted talk for them. That's our Ted talk. So it is officially summer now. It is officially summer and it's hot as ballsack. It's hot as ballsack. I'm going to Vegas next weekend with Brittany, everyone. If you're in Vegas, come visit me and Brittany at the Mandalay Bay. It's hot as ball sack. I'm going to Vegas next weekend with Brittany everyone if you're in Vegas come visit me in Brittany at the Mandalay Bay. It's all over our Instagram, but I checked the weather today

109 fucking degrees shoe. I guess you don't need a jacket That was a Midwest kind of good I come on, I laughed on the inside. I could see it in your eyes. But like, that was the most Midwest, like, I can't with you. Yes, I won't need to bring a jacket, Luke. But 109, what the fuck do you do in 109 degree heat? Like the pool isn't gonna be cold enough for 109. It might be.

I mean, you sit in the pool under an umbrella. Should I request a block of ice on my river? Maybe, I mean, at least like an ice, a bucket of ice water you can dunk a towel in or something to cool off, yeah. How's Colorado gonna be? Ah, it's gonna be lovely. Highs in the 80s, be fantastic.

Lows in the upper 50s. Those are my favorite kind of nights. Yeah. Are you going to be taking care of Rachel O'Brien? Are you going to be on watch? I think Rachel O'Brien refuses to be taken care of a lot of times. She's like, I'm fine. I got this. I'm good. But I will be assisting with the Hunter family. We'll just leave it at that. Yeah. We'll catch you guys up at another time. A lot of accidents and bad, jujui things happening on the ranch. So keep all of our ranch family in your prayers,

and we'll talk about it another time. I wanted to talk really quick about the house that we might move into though. Okay. Just, I had a question for you that I skipped past. Because you know that I thrive on like nesting and like Pinteresting. And so when we moved into this apartment, you were like,

well, it's your apartment. The ranch is mine. This is your apartment. It's your stuff. When we moved to this house, you're still going to have the ranch. We're always going to have Colorado. It's never going away. Do you feel like you want to have an opinion? That's a better way to put it. Unlike the decor? No. No? Only on the garage. I do not care about the decor.

I'd like you to just be like, can you hang this stuff here? I'd like it to start at this level and then make it even with a little offset. I'd be like, gotcha. Okay, now then I want this painted over here. Gotcha. I want, can you build this and set it over here,

evenly between these two walls? Gotcha. Like, tell me what to do. I'll knock it out. Fuck yes, fuck. It's all you. I want can you build this and set it over here, you know evenly between these two walls? Gotcha Like tell me what to do. I'll knock it out. Yes. Fuck all you yes Don't ask my opinion on whether this picture that picture or the other picture for the living room. I'd rather you just tell me Okay. No, I love this. We are on the same fucking page amazing. Okay, great Then there's that what's what are the top things you're stoked about with the house? I guess the garage. I think we already did this. The garage, the yard, the pool.

Those are big things, but we'll also be in walking distance to Ventura Boulevard. We can walk to dinner. That's a big deal to me. We're manifesting this because we have not yet been told that this house is ours, but I am making a plan for it. In my head, we got it. It's too perfect. It's too perfect. We'll have a podcast room and a guest room and a pool and a yard and a garage.

Amazing. I don't know what else to say. I love it. Okay. And Luke, as my ADHD does and did, I took off with the whole Vegas thing, but you wanted to talk about the fact that it's summer, which is awesome. It is summer and it is awesome. In the Valley, it's hotter than Kristin's cities, but-

Oh, that's not true. You're right, your tits are pretty hot. But anyway, maybe in Vegas it will be- What are you thinking, Boo? I'm thinking, you know, I've been changing some habits of mine for kind of a glow up this summer You've been working out so fucking hard. I it hurts as long as it hurts I have not worked on my farmers tan yet, but I've got a really strong golfer Stan. So I think I got a good base, right?

But anyway working out changing some wardrobe things, gonna have a new haircut, some... What do you mean a new haircut? Oh, you don't know yet. Are you being serious right now? If you guys could see the look on my face, don't do anything weird. Do I look serious?

Yeah, kind of. I can't reach your face right now, now you're smiling. I don't know if I trust or believe you. What are you gonna do? Don't cut it weird. It's not gonna be weird. Your beard is great. I don't mind when you have like almost a Duck Dynasty beard, but like unnecessary in the summer.

I'm shaving the whole beard. I'm going almost a buzz cut, like buzz on the sides, but it's gonna be long on top with a, you know, slick back. That's the look these days. You're so full of shit right now. Okay, I'm full of shit. I can't even with you. I'm making that up.

Oh my God. I thought you like had this whole plan with your hairstylist. I was like, okay, Zach, calm down. No, but I have talked to Mike about my hair being changed slightly. Okay. Look, you're a grown ass man.

You can do what you want. But yeah, so okay. I did want to ask you about your summer glove or like, cause Zach and I just talked about it on last week's. And I was like, this will be a funny question to ask Luke, but you read my mind. I wish we had a guest or someone to give me their opinion. So I actually, so I got a necklace, a chain from Kyle Chan Design.

I love it. You love it. Yeah, yeah, I like it. I don't know. Sometimes I look in the mirror, though, and I'm like, I don't want trying to look. I like it. I don't know. Sometimes I look in the mirror though, and I'm like, I don't want to try and to look, I like it. I don't know. I don't know what it is.

There's some like weird stigma in the back of my mind that I'm like, am I not being me by wearing this necklace? But does it feel good when you wear it? Cause you put it on every day, whether people see you or not. So I think that you really enjoy it. And I think you hit it on the nose that the stigma, I think you shouldn't be wearing a piece of jewelry because you're not that guy, quote unquote.

That's bullshit. Right. Okay, as long as I don't, don't ever let me buy a Rolex. Not that you control things in my life, but if I'm ever like, I'm thinking about buying a Rolex, babe. Be like, hey, you told me. If you win the lottery, you can.

Why the hell though? I hate wearing watches. I don't wear watches. It'd be like just a status symbol that I don't need. I'd rather... I've wanted to buy you a watch before because I think it's just like... But you're right, you don't. It's not your thing.

I don't. We all have phones. Why do we need a watch? I mean, come on. The time's right there. I don't know. So you're nodding your phone and you can check the time. Well, it takes one second.

You look at it. Anyway. Fair, fair, fair. And then I look at it with the hands and like nowadays, no clocks or hands. I'm like, okay, so that's a six and the five and the takes me longer. Okay, you didn't drop the ball that hard. Like you're a smart guy. Like you graduated way more recently than I did. Like you're fine. Sure. But did you have digital clocks in your high school? Digital clocks. Is that how young you are? I've been around for a

long time now. Did you have digital clocks? No, we had normal, but that's high school. Is that how young you are? Digital clocks have been around for a long time now. Did you have digital clocks? No, we had normal, but that's high school. We're talking 15 years ago now. I think the kids these days do have digital clocks in high schools. We did in college. You'd have one above the door, whatever would be digital. No, no, no, no, no.

Do you want to tell the people why you wanted to be working out? Because this isn't just a vain, like a vanity thing. It kind of is, no. Not for the show though. I feel it sounds like you want to work out so you quote unquote look hot on the show. And I know that that's not the truth.

That's not the, no, that's not the way I'd say it. Because you have, let's just talk about, we're talking about insecurities and all sorts of crazy shit. And maybe we've said it in a jokingly way, but like, listen, I have a hard time losing weight. Luke has a hard time keeping weight on. Yeah, so when I was gone for over four weeks, close to five weeks, a whole month anyway, I lost weight again, and it's never intentional.

It just kind of happens when I'm traveling. And I didn't think, I don't feel like I look healthy. It's not total vanity, but I can't act like there's no vanity in it. When I see that, I think I look skinny. I'm vain as fuck, okay? I have extensions, I love to go tanning. I like to look in the mirror and feel like

I look pretty to me, like without makeup on. So like there's a level of vanity sure that's like within your self-confidence though. And I think that that's very okay. My point is when I say vanity, I mean like, it's not because you want like the viewers of the show season two Valley to be like, well, Luke's looking, you know. No, it's not like that.

It's like, I want to look in the mirror and not be like, David, I'm scrawny. Because that's the first thought that comes to mind when I get out of the shower. So I've been working out very hard and eating twice as much as I normally do because that's how I gain weight. It's so wild that that's like a thing for people. But I'm not here to shame you because I will not shame people that are so thin, just like I would never shame someone who thinks they need to lose weight or

shame someone who's right in the middle and they have a feeling about themselves. We all feel something about our own bodies, regardless of what other people say or comments that are made. And I think that's what's important. As long as you don't have body dysmorphia, you do not have body dysmorphia. You actually lose weight just by breathing. I mean, I'm 6'2 and got down to 170 pounds. And that is unhealthy in my opinion.

When I was at my peak athletic ability, I was at 190 pounds, 20 pounds bigger. Peaked at athleticism. And I think 185 is the most comfortable walking around weight I can be at. So I want to gain 10 to 15 pounds. Yeah. That's ultimately why I'm working out so much. And I'm 5'9", one, you're right. You fucking psychos. Like I would ever tell you.

I actually don't even know because I won't let my doctor tell me how much I weigh because it's not important to me. Okay. I love that, babe. I want to talk about like TV permanent because I've been watching some really awesome shit. Luke, we've talked about this on the side, but everyone is posting about House of Dragon or Dragons or whatever it's called. It's like the Game of Thrones thing, right?

Oh yeah. I even saw Katie and Dana, Katie Maloney and Dana, Kate then were talking about it on their podcast, Disrespectfully. Y'all check it out, holla. But I'm just not a fucking Game of Thrones person and I'll never go back. I will go back and rewatch Breaking Bad, Blacklist. I'll rewatch shows that I've already watched.

Dexter. Dexter, I can't, just the Game of Thrones things. It's just not my jam. You did watch Game of Thrones, maybe not super religiously, but you are very familiar with all the houses of the people and the stuff. What I liked about House of Dragons, or not House of Dragons, sorry,

what I liked about- Game of Thrones. Game of Thrones, god damn. You really loved Game of Thrones. I loved Game of Thrones. No, what I'm getting at, what I liked about Game of Thrones more than, I didn't dislike the show.

I liked that we had a group of friends, we got together to watch it. You know, that like got me more invested than I I didn't dislike the show. I liked that we had a group of friends, we got together to watch it. You know, that like got me more invested than I think I would have been otherwise. So I saw, I can't even tell you how many seasons there were. I saw the first few, you know, in its entirety as the new episodes came out, all of that. Definitely lost my spot for multiple years.

And then I think I caught up, but I know that I saw how it ended, I saw the last season. know I know I know that I saw how it ended I saw the last season so I can't act like I'm a die-hard fan here when I watch it yes but I'm the wrong person to you know get excited or hyped up about this how many seasons of Game of Thrones do you think there were I think there were between seven and nine you're exactly correct. There were eight seasons of Game of Thrones. Good job. I could have just said eight.

I've seen one episode of Game of Thrones and it was the series finale. Oh, wow. Okay. So. And I watched it with my friend Morgan and Rihanna and Morgan was the first person on the face of the planet to be able to explain to me what Game of Thrones is about. In like two sentences, I understood the whole fucking thing and I wanted to watch this episode.

Now it doesn't mean I wanna go back and watch everything else, but I did finally understand. I think you would buy into it. Addy. Okay, so she is going to kill me for saying this, but my girlfriend was just telling me that she and her husband have been getting it on lately, like she can't keep her hands off him. And I just looked at her like, Oh my God, how?

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asleep, and dry mouth. See full PI and medication guide, including boxed warning, at addi.com slash PI or call 844-PINKPILL. Ask your doctor about ADDI or have an online telehealth appointment today at addyi.com. So last night, Zach was over and we started watching this show on Netflix. It's a British show scripted called The Stranger. So it's a limited series. There's only one season right now.

How many episodes did you watch, Luke? I thought The Stranger was my left hand. Luke. I'm sorry. Another bad joke. I think I saw three episodes and then I fell asleep on the couch. I woke up, saw part of one, then I went to the bedroom, fell asleep on top of the covers, woke up and walked the dog and then went back to sleep.

Zach and I watched the entire series. I believe it. That's why episode like four or five, Zach's like, why do I do this? He's like, I started this series way too late because I know I'm gonna finish it and finish it with you. We could not turn our freaking eyes away. I'm like, I have to know, I have to know. I need to know.

And we watched the entire series and you guys, if you have not committed to the stranger on Netflix, that's what you're doing tonight. That's what you're doing tomorrow. that's what you're doing tomorrow, that's what you're doing this weekend. If you live in LA and it's too hot, turn your air conditioning on. If you live in another part of the country and it's too hot,

like it is pretty much everywhere, turn your air conditioning on. Watch The Stranger on Netflix. I will say, from the amount that I watched, watch it when you can give it your full attention, because you will get lost if you do not. There's a lot of moving parts. There's a lot of moving parts. There's a lot of moving parts.

If you are like cooking, kind of watching, you're gonna be asking whoever else is there, what the hell's going on, you need to sit and watch this show. 100%. It is so freaking good. And lastly, on my television tangent, today is Wednesday, this will air tomorrow on Thursday,

and it is the finale of The Goat. And yo mama Kristen is back. Ay, ay, ay. So I will be on the finale. If you guys give a shit, you should give a shit because you need to know who won the 200K. And I feel like it's going to be really good. And I, of course, because I'm me, texted like every producer and person with Amazon that

I know and said, can I please have the finale early? And everyone was like no You missed your chance. I still haven't seen it and I'm like on the edge of my seat because I'm so curious Even though I was there. It's super fun to watch that comes out tonight tomorrow, which by this when this airs it'll be tonight Correct tonight Thursday be tonight, correct? Tonight, Thursday night. Thursday, correct. Awesome.

So the finale of The Goat, you guys, Amazon Freebie, Amazon Prime, give it a watch. I can't wait. There better be a season two, three, four, five, six, all the way through a million, and I want to go back on it. I want you to go on The Goat. I just think it's such a funny fucking show. And Tosh is just brilliant. Tosh is Tosh. He's funny.

He's got, he's definitely made his own brand of humor. He's funny. Let's get to these questions, huh? Yes. Some fan questions. Ask me anything, fan questions or viewer, whatever you want to, whatever you want to throw. We'll roll through those and Luke's getting on the road.

So this is from freddyp001. Will you ever bring back the wine you girls created? Oh my freddy poo, you can go to knockingpoint n-o-c-k-i-n-g-p-o-i-n-t.com and you can buy witches of leo potion one two and three. We even have for a very limited time like a little trio because we're running very low on the rosé. So get it while it's hot. Yes, we still have it. Next question, Nathan Stanley, where would you all choose to live if Cali, Colorado and

Michigan were not options? Michigan was never an option for me. I have a list. This goes, we were talked earlier about our communication sort of thing. And I've told Chris and I just want you to appease me We're not picking a house for five years down the road Let's just like get a list like make sure we're on the same page of like the three markets We'd like to look at it's just markets change all the time who they do sure would have thought but is it not fun

Why is it not fun? Is it not fun? No, everyone was gonna leave LA and go to Austin, you know what I mean? Sure, but is it not fun for you to like to think about I don't think it is it not fun? Is it not fun for you? Everyone was going to leave LA and go to Austin. You know what I mean? Sure. But is it not fun for you to like to think about? I don't think it is. It's fun for me. It gives me so much anxiety. To be like, look, I like Nashville, Tennessee. I like Charleston, South Carolina. If we're ruling out, you know, our home states, those are my top two. And Austin? No.

Oh, it was Austin. So we don't have a fucking clue that's the answer. Austin's not on the list. All right, next question. Fit Mommyhood, will you try IVF? So Fit Mommyhood, this is a shout out to you. We answered it in the very beginning. This is from Loser4UY. Luke and Victoria follow each other.

What does he think of her and all that mess? So Victoria is? Victoria is Tom Sandoval's girlfriend. I've met her maybe three times now. First time I met her, it was funny because she didn't even realize that Tom and I knew each other aside from just being at the same bar and playing darts together. After that, she's like, holy cow, I thought you were just some guy at the bar, but you're dating Kristen and you and Tom know each other

and yada, yada, yada. I'll be honest, I don't read all the tabloids. I don't really know everything that's going on. So I thought she was very sweet. Seems like she and Tom were pretty happy when they were together, when I was with them, you know, at the bar, that's all I really know. There you go, perfect answer.

We don't know everything, guys. Next question from Stephmont521. Luke, where are you from in Indiana? Indiana gal here. Whoop, whoop. Whoop, whoop. All right, so I grew up in Martinsville, Indiana, which is about halfway between Indianapolis and Bloomington.

And Bloomington is where Indiana University is. And there's like a lake there. And there's a massive lake, Lake Monroe. John Mellon camp had a house there. I think he sold it. I don't know those details either because I don't read the tabloids. So anyway. That's where you're from. That's where I'm from. Martinsville. Hello. Next question from Katrina J127. Where is, these are all for you, babe. Where is Luke's favorite place to eat here in Los Angeles? Ooh, there have been some restaurants closing down. I'd say that place I ate most is now closed.

Where? Hot Mother Clucker. Oh, it is? I mean, that's not a restaurant. It's a freaking franchise fast food place. Is it franchise? I don't know, but it's a fast food place. It was damn good chicken.

Babe, of all the restaurants you've eaten in LA, you're like, Hot Mother Clucker really hit home for me. I mean, it's a damn good chicken sandwich. But okay, okay, okay. Wooden Water was really good. We ate there with some friends. That was fantastic. Yeah, Wooden Water and Sherman Oaks was awesome.

Okay, just a couple more. This is from Hillman7, Holliman7. What is my go-to? Luke, what is your go-to lipstick gloss or liner? Chapstick. Chapstick. Luke is Chapstick brand, Chapstick, or really anything that's within his reach. My go-to liner is Mac Spice,

and I love the Fenty, I don't remember, it's like the Balm Gloss or whatever it's called, the Fenty, I don't remember, it's like the Balm Gloss or whatever it's called. The Fenty Gloss is great. I love Breeze Balm. I don't really wear lipstick. I'm more of like a liner gloss, rub it all together kind of gal.

So I think those are my top three. And Aquaphor, love me some Aquaphor. Are we watching Love Island? Are you watching Love Island? I am watching Love Island. I text Brad X Brad, Brad Kearns. I am now in his Love Island cult. I text him all of my thoughts and feelings and I have many of them and Ariana looks stunning. I will say Love Island is, this is my first time ever watching it from any country. Never watched UK, Australia. I am more of a Bachelor in Paradise fan.

This to me, I guess this was like before BIP. I am much more on the Bachelor in Paradise train, but I am fascinated with Love Island. Luke? Ariana looks great. When I walked in and Kristen was watching it, that's about all I got. Okay, fair enough. So that's Luke's answer guys. And Luke, will we get a new puppy together soon? Not soon, but- At some point. At some point. I absolutely would love to live in a place I feel like we can have all the dogs.

I know. Kristen agrees. We saw this little German Shepherd boy puppy that needs to be rescued. I posted it on my IG, guys, but I'm telling you, it was like a punch in the stomach. I want that dog so badly. I dream if we can just amuse me for a second. Let's say Nashville or Charleston or not Austin, but another city. We get a a five-acre property

They have like a little studio cabin for our caretaker of like the lands and gardens when we want to need to go out of Town, but we can have all these dogs because we have somebody there. We also have this big yard We've got a pool. I've got a pond. We have a wood shop baby goats, baby goats Our baby get along with that get along with the dogs? Of course. Yeah, they'll get along. And the Highland cows? Yeah, Highland cows. They may stay in Colorado, but yeah. Fair.

You see it? You see the vision? I do. You can have all the dogs. Imagine just like all the puppy puddle. Cuddle puddle. Cuddle puddle, puppy puddle. Okay, two more questions.

This is from Avantgard social media. What happened to the veggie blog? I miss those recipes. The blog was so much work. Didn't know a lot about blogs back in the day. This is like way before we were doing this stuff on Instagram, TikTok didn't exist. But I will say my BFF, best friend, Janine Carter,

private chef that I was doing the blog with, we are hell-bent and working on a cookbook. I will keep you guys posted on that. And last question from Priscilla in pink. How's Jill doing in LA, Luke? Always love seeing the pups. Jill is solid. She is going to love the house. She is going to love the ride back to Colorado tonight. She just got groomed. She just got groomed. She is not the biggest fan of the apartment. I don't need to say any more than that, but she just like looks out the door. She's a German Shepherd. She needs space. She does. And she just likes to lay it in a yard. She likes to lay in the grass.

We do take her to the park every single day so she can play fetch with her frisbee. But yeah, that's one of the biggest things, not only for Luke and I, just needing sunshine and outdoors for our mental health, our dogs need it too. So everyone cross your fingers and toes for us that we get this exact house that we're looking for because they're gonna let us film. That is a tough one.

Got high hopes, high hopes. Okay, well, Luke's got a jet out. He got to take a tiny nappy today and high hopes. High hopes. Okay. Well, Luke's got a jet out. He got to take a tiny nappy today and he's about to drive the distance. Not the whole distance. I'm stopping. Half the distance. But regardless, I need to get on the road.

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