Sex, Love, and What Else Matters - Getting Emotional with a Month or Less Left... flashback to our pregnancy announcement!

Episode Date: May 17, 2025

Episode 158. There's only a month (or less!) left until the baby here! This week's episode is a flashback to when they first announced their pregnancy. Kristen and Luke open up about their fertility journey and share the exciting news of their pregnancy! They discuss the highs and lows, what they're most excited about, and some of the concerns they're still navigating. Kristen gets emotional as she reflects on the past few weeks, revealing how a piece of advice from a close friend completely shifted her perspective. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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I'm as pregnant as they get. Like it's not, you know, it's there. It's not going away. So I guess I'm very pregnant. There is a bun in the oven. There is a bun in the oven. Oh, you guys. I'm not going to complain the whole time,

but first trimester is so hard. It is so hard. When I say that out loud, I could start crying because no one prepares you for how hard it is. I guess I thought that it's like when you're bigger is when it's hard because all the weight and it's like you can't really move as much and it's hard to sleep. I'm sure that that comes with its own level of difficulty.

It's like trying to beat Bowser at the end of like Mario, you know, and you're like coming toward the end and you're like, oh, these last, because that's what Zach calls it. Zach's like, how many levels? When I was like 10 weeks or whatever. And when I said that, he goes, which level are you? And I was like, okay, so there's 40 levels

and then I beat Bowser. And he was like, okay, so there's 40 levels and then I beat Bowser. And he was like, yeah, kind of. But anywho, yeah, first trimester is mentally, emotionally and physically fucked. It is fucked. Like the nausea, the headaches, the hormone headaches, but also like maybe it's just because we live kind of desert-y California,

but I'm extra like dried out and it's the winter obviously. I'm sure if I lived in humidity in the summer, feel differently, but I don't know, like my immune system's down, so it's just been kind of a little bit of a bitch. So anyway, thank you all my ladies who have been DMing me with tips and tricks because I try all of them.

I try every single thing that any, like all of it. Anything that's even just like, today it was like, my friend DMed me actually and she was like, Granny Smith apples, they're sour, they help fight nausea. And I'm like, what the fuck? How is that gonna, it sounds awful right now. With the thought of eating a Granny Smith apple sounded terrible.

I mean, I've only, the last time I ate one was like baked apples, you know, with cinnamon and stuff so they're not as sour, they're just so sour. I know. And then you cut one up and I ate the whole entire thing and I'm no longer gonna throw up. Oh good, I didn't know it worked. It totally worked, yeah.

I mean, I still have a raging headache, so. I don't think anyone, well, neither of us got any kind of insight on what the first trimester's like, as far as what Kristen's going through. Uh, we've had a little disconnect as far as trying to, she's had a tough time putting it into words, and I've had a hard time, like, understanding, because I did think the same as she said,

that first trimester, she'd still be able to do everything. Everything's like, that's the time she doesn't have all this weight, it's the time I should go to Colorado, get my stuff done, because she's gonna need a lot more help later. I feel I was wrong. Well, also for us, this is something we also were not aware of, and I didn't know that this kind of like made us different or special, but because we were under the care of a fertility doctor,

so rewind a minute, we did tell you guys many, many weeks ago, like a bunch of idiots, fistful of assholes, were like, hey, so guess what? We did IUI yesterday. Totally not, I don't know, did we not think it was gonna work? Or... We just lacked foresight. We just didn't... Oh, wait, people are going to want to know the results of this.

And then we just went into quietness and hiding, because we're like, well, we're not ready to announce it yet, because we had a loss last year. And anyway, we'll get into that stuff. But yes, so we did IUI, which I do want to talk about, and it worked. But being under the care of a fertility doctor, I did not know that that was different,

that it would be so different than being, when you're under the care of your OB. And I now understand, and this might also have to do with my age because I'm at high risk at 41, a high risk pregnancy, but my fertility doctor, of course, like they're extra cautious and extra careful. And, you know, they raise a lot of red flags in the meeting,

like, don't do this, don't do that. Like, just the way my OB word said is like, if they had their way, you would just stand in the middle of your living room and do absolutely nothing for your entire pregnancy, just to be super cautious. Probably like a padded room, to be honest. But yeah, so it was like, don't go in the pool and don't eat this and make sure you're having like 70 something grams of protein a day.

And it was just so much stuff and so much caution that I think I was extra worried also that if I didn't do everything perfectly, that something would go wrong. I think you definitely had added anxiety. Like our first, we were doing ultrasounds every week. Yeah. Which is another thing that's very different. Once we had a positive pregnancy test, once a week, going in to just check the progress to see if anything needs to change.

Yeah, blood tests. So they would check my progesterone. And this is for like, I know, there's definitely a handful of you listening that are like, I don't care that much about pregnancy. But I know most of you are women that listen and maybe a bunch of you are parents. So for those of you that are not, just bear with me. But they were checking out my progesterone levels,

my HCG levels, obviously at first, and then my estrogen and really just making sure everything was on point because of the high risk. And I think for my own sake, because of the loss that we had last year, did you truly think the IUI was going to work though? Yeah, absolutely. You were just like, no brainer.

I thought it was going to be twins. Okay. Oh, you did. Yeah. I kind of, kind of did, maybe not like in the depths of my soul, but I was like, I would not be surprised at all. I was very prepared for multiples.

Right. I don't wanna say multiples. I was not prepared for triplets or anything else. We're only having one, so. I mean, is anyone actually prepared for their first kid? Does anyone really know what they're getting into? You can read all the books, but until you are hands-on, I feel like, I don't know, correct me if I'm wrong, but until you start doing it, you don't know. That's what all my friends say too.

All my friends that are parents have all told me that as of late. Sheena, Brittany, like all the girls have said, it's okay to just be like, I have no idea what the hell I'm doing because you're not gonna know what the hell you're doing until you start doing it and then you're gonna be really good at it

and it's gonna be fine. And everything's gonna be fine. But another thing really quick, just about IUI. I was prepared for twins. I was also slightly prepared that it wasn't going to work because we had heard from friends and I had a lot of people messaging me online as well and I was reading all these messages

because I was so open to hearing everyone's experiences and I don't usually take strangers like words of advice or words of wisdom to heart. But when it came to something that I know nothing about, I thought it was smarter for me to like really listen and keep my ears and my heart open to this But a lot of people said IUI didn't work the first time and so I was I've heard that a lot more than yeah People saying it did so I was super prepared for that. But then when it did work

Then I was afraid is this gonna take away from the pregnancy like the conception part of it Did you ever think that? I mean, it didn't, so I'll say, just so everyone knows. It did not, strangely enough, it did not at all. Like, I just thought in my, you know, hindsight's 2020, but I thought, well, if we didn't, if it wasn't conceived by this like lovemaking session that one specific time, is it gonna be as special?

I don't feel that way, but because we both said this too, we were on a, essentially a schedule, baby making schedule leading up to it. So there, as long as the sperm can live in there, it's definitely possible that it happened before IUI. It's possible, you know, we don't know for sure. That's very true. So the way that it works guys,

we'll just give you a quick little lesson, at least the way it happened with me, is for like almost two weeks I was on it taking hormone shots. If you didn't listen to this part of the podcast weeks and weeks ago, it was pretty freaking miserable because it's just really hard on your brain and your body when you're like, ah, wait, I'm not used to like all of this stuff and

just making me feel a little bit crazier than normal. But then during the hormone shots, like you're supposed to be having sex fairly regularly, but then specifically, what was it? It was like every other day. Every 48 hours. Every 48 hours. And then you do the trigger shot and then you go in 36 hours later. They do the thing. It's very science based. Nothing fun about it. And then you're just like, OK, cool.

Well, hopefully there's a baby cooking in there. And I went to Vegas like the next day, which was really weird. It's a little weird. But I treated my body like I was pregnant. Yeah. I just faked that I was raging and partying. Anyway, yeah, so that was just like the beginning of everything. And then, yeah, we were like, obviously really, really excited.

But I was also super nervous. And I think with the last pregnancy, I was so excited that I didn't really mind telling people fairly soon. I agree 100%. And we're excited mind telling people fairly soon. I agree. A hundred percent. And we're excited to tell people. Yeah. And I, and it's like, there's, you read, a lot of people say like, you have to wait till after 12 weeks because that's when you're safe and it's like, once the

first trimester is over, like the chance of a miscarriage goes down, like a crazy amount, but then you can also Google, read, ask anyone, including doctors and fellow mothers. Well, like, when did you, when is the right time? When did you tell everyone? And everyone will say, whenever you wanna do it is the right time. Whether it's like the day you take that test, it's six weeks, eight weeks, 10 weeks, 12 weeks, whatever.

So the first time I was just like, who cares? What does it matter? And then this time it mattered a lot to me. Because I think until I saw the ultrasound where the baby, the little gummy bear fetus situation actually moved, like on its own, I don't think that I was comfortable or safe to think that it wasn't going to go away. I can see that. I know it sounds really dark, but it's just true. I know when we'd go into these, when it was every week, ultrasounds that you were definitely

more nervous and excited when we were going in there every week. And I have to assume that's from last year. Yeah. And I felt guilty that even when I got the, I mean, of course, when we got the positive result, I was super fucking excited, like of course, but I was also really overwhelmed and really nervous. And I didn't react the way I pictured myself reacting, like the way I reacted last year.

It was those nerves of at any second, this could be taken away from me again. But it didn't, and it's not. So the positive part is, throughout all the nausea, that's a good sign. Oh yeah, you've got all the symptoms I believe. And that means I'm still pregnant, so woohoo. What's something positive about pregnancy?

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The hard part is getting up at four is not like, and then this morning it was three, but like three, four o'clock is not, it's like dark out. It's not really like normal yet. So then by, you know, 10, 11, 12 o'clock, I'm exhausted again. And I'm not much of a napper. I don't normally nap. Well, that can change, obviously.

I mean, I definitely take little naps here and there now. That's pretty much how it started and what happened. Is there anything you're afraid of? Right, and what are you the most excited about? I'm excited about being a dad. We have to refer to it as it. So like, are you excited to teach it to fish when it's older? Oh yeah.

Teach it things? Well, your girl, I have always thought I'm going to essentially treat them the same as far as activities I want to do with them. Yeah. You know? We know the gender. Okay, guys, we know, we know now. We do know.

But we are keeping that to ourselves just for just for a teeny bit longer, but you'll know by next week. We just want to keep something close to the chest. Yeah, hold a little something back. But I mean, I don't know, I'm just excited. I'm excited for all the big days for you to get birth, for the first words, for steps, et cetera, everything. I know you're super excited about the different clothes

and shoes and I also, one thing, I want to build a crib. I know you've said maybe for Colorado or for somewhere else because you'd like to buy one for here, but. Yeah, well actually my mom wants to buy the crib. Like, I feel like I don't have any control anymore now that there's like a legit baby coming with like a due date and everything, because everyone in my family is like,

I want to do this and I'm going to do that. And I'm like, wait, no, please, I don't want to give up control. Everyone chill. I have to learn how to set boundaries, healthy ones. Yeah, and how to accept help. I know, because other people are excited too. Well, not just that, but like,

they're trying to take something off your plate and you should be relaxing. So you are getting an absolute shit ton done and I wanna help more and you're so, get up and do it yourself all the time, I just think. You should build a crib for Colorado because you have like wood in Colorado and stuff. Like what are you going to do?

Go to Home Depot here? Like, I mean, you have more space there to like build. Well, I mean, I'm going to build an organizer for the garage. So, I mean, I'm going to get in the spirit of building things. Yeah, start with the organizer and then you can do the crib for Colorado.

That'd be so cool. I think so too. So only one thing about the sex that I do wanna say cause it's on my mind. So even though we do know, there's this like tiny part of me still that feels like once the baby comes, that there's this possibility that the test was wrong.

Does that ever happen? I mean, I don't know with like the way we did it, cause we did like the blood test, you know, the chromosome. Yeah, so I mean, I guess nothing's perfect, but this girl, Julia, that I know, we were chatting at the hair salon the other day and her mom was told that she was supposed to be a boy. And then obviously she was born and she is not a boy.

So I didn't ask her if that was like an ultrasound thing, but then why would they think there was penis? I don't know. So ever since she told me that, I've just been thinking like, what if once I give birth, it's not the sex that we think it is. So, anywho, that's what I was thinking. Well, I just did a Google search

because we don't have somebody on our team doing that for us, but roughly 95 to 98% of the time, a blood test is accurate. So there's definitely a chance that it's wrong. So you're saying there's a chance. Low chance, but there's a chance. I mean, there always is. I don't know why that just popped into my head.

It was very random. But I feel like I am excited now. I don't feel afraid of anything for the rest of the pregnancy. And I want to say, why am I so emotional? To like moms or moms-to-be or women that are trying to get pregnant right now

that are listening. Oh God. My friend Courtney told me something very valuable to me in my earlier weeks because she was someone that I told super early on because she and I are three weeks apart, which is super exciting. And my friend Meredith, if you guys follow Meredith, she has a podcast called The Backup Plan Podcast. She and I are two weeks apart, but Courtney told me that even though it was okay

to be nervous about losing the pregnancy, that I cannot jinx it, that it is literally impossible to jinx it and that I am allowed to be excited about it at any time. And that definitely took a little bit of weight off of my chest. So I would like to lend that same advice to you ladies out there.

If it's something that you're nervous about while you're trying to conceive or if you're already pregnant, even if you've just given birth, just know there's nothing you can do or say, like you cannot jinx this. And it's just like in God's hands, universe or say, like you cannot jinx this. And it's just like in God's hands,

universe's hands, whatever you believe in. So at the moment she told me that it was just, yeah, it was very helpful. You haven't even told me that before. So I'm glad that I'm glad you got that. I think you should definitely hang out with your pregnant friends. You all need to get together

because there's quite a few of you right now. I am so, oh my God, I'm so thankful. And it's Courtney, Courtney Berman, if you guys watch the Vanderpumpers out there, they've watched Vanderpump Rules, now Courtney Baker. And her sister Brittany is also pregnant. So the four of us have this awesome group chat and I love sending memes to all my pregnant friends and just having that support and being able to complain to each other and help each other out and know that we're not fucking crazy

is just really, really nice right now. And something else I'm really excited about to start, I'm excited to start doing is working out because that was something that my fertility doctor did not want me to do in the beginning just as an extra precaution of raising my heart rate and things like that, having to do with oxygen and blood to the baby.

But it's something I'm very nervous about because I'm like, well, shit, should I have started like right away? And now am I like kind of late to the game? Because I want to be super, super healthy. Like, it's not, I mean, they're okay, listen. It's about gaining like weight too, because I want to make sure I'm gaining healthy weight and not unhealthy weight. But it is also just about being really healthy. because I want to make sure I'm gaining healthy weight and not unhealthy weight. But it is also just about being really healthy.

And I'm like, oh shit, am I so far along now that I should have started early and now it's going to be harder too? But then I think about how shitty I've been feeling and it's really not that easy. Like I bought some workout equipment, I bought some new dumbbells, and I have this arm workout I've been doing, and I've done it twice and I bought some new dumbbells, and I have this arm workout I've been doing, and I've done it twice, and I'm very proud of myself.

And I plan on using Brittany's at-home gym that she's just recreated and made into this cute, girly gym. But yeah, I think about that. How do women work out in their first trimester when they're keeling over, wanting to throw up? It's got to be difficult. And then once you have this big giant like weighted basketball strapped to your stomach, like then how do you work out? I guess you

just have to. I mean, I'm sure there's a ton of resources with YouTube and Instagram and everything else as far as the best workouts, because you're going to have lower back pain, you know, when you're carrying the extra weight in the front. Totally. There's going to be certain areas like, you know, tenants' ligaments tightening up... Totally. ...that happen that there's good stretches to do. I don't... I haven't researched specifically for you.

I'm very grateful for Instagram. I will say this is like probably the first time that I am like bowing down to Instagram. There's so many helpful accounts to follow and there's just funny fucking videos and funny memes. And it's pretty much what I spend my extra time doing. It's just finding ways to like laugh or finding things that are very helpful

and sending you a bunch of stuff mostly. Sending me a ton of stuff, yeah. Like 58 an hour. Kristen got me an awesome little book called We Are Pregnant, the first time dad's pregnancy handbook. I'll plug that real quick. So it just goes week by week, talks about where the baby is and what your lady's probably

going through. It definitely helps give some perspective. But I also know that the first trimester for every pregnant lady is different. And it can be different per pregnancy as well. My mom even said that it was different carrying me versus carrying my sister. Oh, God, and she had four kids. How? I need to talk to your mom and be like, what are you, Wonder Woman?

How did you get pregnant on purpose four times? Oh, man. Well, I mean, one of the big family. They started early. My mom did it three times, but still. Sorry, go ahead. Anyway, also my mom did say that the second trimester is what she remembered being the best. I've heard that. The whole pregnancy goes all four times.

She felt like the second trimester was the best. Sickness kind of went away. She wasn't that heavy yet. Yeah, libido comes back. I've heard moodiness chills out. Like, you start getting, like, the happy feelings, the happy hormones, the endorphins, like, that's what I've heard. I hope, babe, I hope that next trimester,

you're feeling a lot better, because it's hard for me to see you feeling so rough. I thought the beginning of last week, I was like, you know what? I think I'm past the bullshit. Like, go me. Okay, all right, now I get what everyone was talking about. And then all of a sudden, just like hit by a Mack truck.

Like ha ha ha, that's what you thought, pregnant lady. We're going to go right back to like week seven and eight where you felt like you were hungover every day. Ha ha ha ha. That's what it feels like, but very grateful. What else does your book tell you? I mean, it even goes so specific sometimes that, like, I think week nine said that your wife or your person's superpower

is smell this week. And lo and behold, you call me about a smell in the house that week that hasn't been around since. Yeah. Yeah, it's interesting. It's just funny. There are some keen things. I don't know what it really has done for me. It gives me a little insight, but more it has given me this desire

to find other soon-to-be-first-time dads. Because I feel like, obviously, we aren't going through what you're going through, but I don't spend more time with anybody but you. If anyone has tricks or things that work to, I don't know, help you relax because you're so go, go, go. You really are working all the time right now as well. I would love to talk to some other guys

that are soon to be first time dads that have found some things that- I wonder if there's an app for that. Do you know there's an app for pregnant people that wanna become friends with other pregnant people and moms in their community? That doesn't surprise me, but I did not know that. It's called Peanut App.

I have not yet joined it or been on it because when my girlfriends were first telling me about it, we had not announced yet. So I was like, well, can't really jump on there. That'd be a little weird, right? But yeah, she was telling another friend of ours who lives out by Disney that it would be something good for her to do because it's tough for us to get to each other during this time.

But I wonder if they have one for dudes like that. I don't know, you guys, if you know anything like support systems for men. I'm not asking for a support system. I know. Just like, you know, people going through the same thing. I guess it's essentially the same thing. What if there's like dudes in the Valley

who are like around our age that- I'm sure there are. There has to be. There's gotta be some kind of- Like a million people here. Like a meetup group or something. Right. There's a million people, there has to be like a hundred of them that are soon to be. There's like a million people here. Like a meetup group or something. Right. There's a million people. There has to be like a hundred of them

that are soon to be first time dads. Yeah. That's a very good point. I'll find them. You know, we'll probably have our meetings on the golf course. It'll be super productive. Yeah. Yeah, right? I figured it'd be like coffee, golfing, sports bars, like parks or something. Like dog parks, I don't know.

I don't know, how do you do that? It's like when you're trying to find someone to date but you're not trying to find someone to hit on, you know? That's weird, what? You're trying to find like some guys to date, like some guys to be like boys with. Oh, I see, like I love you man kind of thing. Yeah, exactly. Yeah, exactly.

Yeah, yeah. No one in my group of friends out here has a pregnant fiancee, wife, significant other. True that, true that. Well, we'll figure it out. We'll figure it out. It'll be just fine. What else?

It's beginning to look a lot like Christmas, especially in this house. The house is feeling small already and the baby's not even here. Yeah. Why, because of my Christmas stuff? No, no, just in general, I don't know. I was going through a bunch of my stuff in Colorado,

thinking what I'd like to have out here. And then we were talking about, you know, the soon to be nursery, the spare bedroom, our closet. Full of stuff. And our closet space, like we're pretty limited and we're about to need a whole new wardrobe for a baby. Well, I mean, it's a baby, exactly. It's like doll clothes.

Yeah, that's true. Yeah, I don't know. We should give some hand-me-downs, I think. We have so many friends with young kids, some very recent parents. Yeah, I will say a guy friend of mine who has a three-year-old just told me the other day, the one piece of advice that he will end

is do not buy shoes under the age of one. That makes sense because they're not walking. Brittany just bought us some Nikes though. Size zero. Like size tiny baby. Yeah, fair. That's funny. But I do remember when she was pregnant with Cruz, she went crazy with the Nikes and like

he can't walk. He wears them for like a photo and then that's it kind of a thing. Right. So that it was kind of a waste. A lot of onesies, I think. Yeah. Right. I mean, I'm buying a lot of onesies right now.

I'm going to wrap them and put them under the tree, just cause, it's like a present to myself or a present to you, like, oh, look, baby, you've got a present, you know, that kind of thing. I love Christmas so much. I've been watching so much TV. I'm like running out of things, but my current obsession is the Hallmark Plus channel.

That's an obsession now? You just added it. I know, I'm really, really happy about it. I'm so happy about it. Because I wanted to watch this show called Finding Mr. Christmas, which is, I hate saying like a reality show, but it's like a reality competition show.

But it is like so, it's like on the level of the Golden Bachelor because it's like so warm hearted and like so sweet because it's freaking Hallmark. But it's like younger people, younger men. And so if you guys don't know what it is, Jonathan Bennett, who is most famous for being in Mean Girls, obviously, and I love him dearly and I think he's hysterical

and he's a fantastic actor and what a host on this show. It just makes my heart feel so warm and fuzzy. Anyway, long story short, all these guys are on this show and they're in this like little cabin, beautiful house that looks like Macy's threw up Christmas all up inside of it. And they're all trying to be, they're all trying to win the role of Mr. Christmas,

and they're going to be a leading actor in a Hallmark movie. Which I think is such a different spin on, it's not like a dating show, you know? Yeah, I actually like that, because dating shows are competition shows, whatever anyone says. When there's 30 dudes in one girl, or 30 girls in one guy, like you're competing.

Yeah, in The Bachelor and all of those, like Bachelor, Bachelorette, they're doing competitions, literally, to win like a one-on-one date or something. To win dates, to win time with this person because you only have 30 days essentially to decide if you wanna marry this person while competing against a bunch of other people.

So finding Mr. Christmas is all about acting. And so these guys are put in these different challenges that it's like doing improv or like doing a scene and things like that. And all of the guest judges are different actors on the Hallmark Channel, which has now sent me down a freaking rabbit hole because I was running out of Christmas movies.

And now I have a plethora of Christmas movies at my fingertips. So I think I just highly recommend it. I definitely added Hallmark Plus to my YouTube TV because duh, it's Christmas and it's the best thing ever. And speaking of Christmas movies, if you haven't seen Our Little Secret on Netflix with Kristin Chenoweth and Lindsay Lohan, jump on that.

Wait. I watched it for the fourth time this morning. Oh, that's right, that's right. You said you'd watch it three times when I turned it off last night. And when I woke up this morning, I watched it again because it's just so cute and good. I give it like a solid nine out of 10.

Wow, okay. For a Christmas movie. I didn't expect much, I don't know, just the title, I said it's under the category romance. I'm like, eh, is it gonna? No, it's super funny. Kristin Chenoweth plays like a bitchy mom and it's hysterical.

And Lindsay Lohan's like super cute and good at it. And it's like nice to have her back. Okay, I'll give it a try. Yeah, if you wanna watch it. Do you remember Midnight at the Magnolia? We did watch that, didn't we? I've seen it a million times, but we watched it together.

Where they're like podcast hosts, and they're like best friends that grew up together. And they're saving a bar, right? Yes. Yes, I do remember. They're saving the Magnolia, the restaurant. I wanna watch that again. That's another one that's top on my list, guys. I'm all about the Christmas flicks right now.

We'll put that on the list for tonight. I mean, at this rate, there aren't going to be any Christmas movies left by Christmas. That's not true. There's a million. And if you guys don't already follow Fat Carrie Bradshaw on Instagram, you should. But he's doing, I think it's like the top, I think he's doing like 25, 25 days of made for TV holiday movies. I am here for it. We've DMed about Midnight at the Magnolia because it's a good one.

But if you're running out, definitely check him out on Instagram and he'll lead the way. What's your favorite Christmas movie? My favorite, oh man. I'm so bad at favorites, babe. You know this about me. I know.

Bad Mom's Christmas, I've seen that a million times already this season. I've seen it multiple times. It is a good one. Office Christmas Parties. Office Christmas Parties is really good. That's a winner. Yeah.

Four Christmases. Duh. That's a good one. I mean, if we go classics, like I think I'd take... I mean, Home Alone. Elf. Elf. Of course.

Elf's just like a number one for me. It's like it doesn't even need to be mentioned, because it's like... Right. I got to hold it above a Christmas story. Seen that a few times. I mean, like... I don't know why, but I don't have the desire to watch it when I'm picking one, typically. No, I don't anymore, because we grew up with it. Right. The Grinch. I mean, Jim Carrey's so good.

Oh, yeah. The Grinch, Jim Carrey one is the best, and I just bought another Grinch one. It's not live action, but it's really cute. This one that Brittany really loves. What about Nightmare Before Christmas? Also really good. I haven't seen that in a while. We should watch that. Put that on the list.

Okay, it's a great list one. I'm really just, I'm mostly into the made-for-TV ones because they're just, it's just that time of year. I was gonna do like an earth tone Christmas in the house and then it just turned into Christmas. I was trying to stay away from reds and then I pulled out all of the decorations I already owned and I was like, you know what?

I can't get away from the classic. But I think I'm doing a fairly good job. I'll post some pics for you guys. Yes, we need to, we'll think I'm doing a fairly good job. I'll post some pics for you guys. Yes, we need to, we'll hang some more stuff on the walls too. And yeah, as far as, I mean, I guess I'll say a concern that I somewhat have out here, and it's nothing new, it's stuff I brought up in the past. About baby stuff?

Baby stuff. I did ask you what you're afraid of and then we just like moved right past it. Yeah, yeah. So it's kind of like the whole community thing, right? As far as most people, I would think most people have a community of that someone involves family, but both of us have family that's over 2000 miles away. And at least in the first few years it's going to be more difficult to have them around. And also, I guess, on the side of having children,

we don't have, you have a lot of friends that are pregnant. What am I even saying? I don't, I'm not close with any of their men. And maybe I need to be. Yeah, but also I remember, I remember even last year, like talking to my girlfriends about it, that it's like, oh, when you want to go to a Lamaze class or this class or a parenting class, you'll start meeting people because they all live right by us, people that we wouldn't even know.

We wouldn't meet otherwise. Right, exactly. But then who knows? Because LA is such a huge city, small world, I guarantee we're gonna meet people and then they're gonna be like, wait, do you know so and so? No way. You know, da-da-da.

And then, like, our worlds are gonna open up even more. I agree. And I do have a lot of, like, I have a lot of different groups of friends, even though I feel like since we've been, like, especially living in this house, but like, since you and I have been dating and, like, living in the Valley and obviously filming and being really busy with our really small group of friends.

We haven't really hung out with other groups of people, if that makes sense. But I have other groups of friends who have babies and small children too. So I just think we haven't really been in that circle because we are not parents. No, I definitely agree. I think we're joining a club by having a kid.

One million percent. That's something we need to talk about because Oh, the friends that are coming around, and I love it, I'm not complaining. But the friends that are coming around all of a sudden that are like, that wanna hang out with us. Right, I mean, a couple of years ago, when we started dating, you did express,

why didn't I get invited? All these people with their babies going to Universal or going to Disney, and it's like, it's because I don't have a kid. Is that why I didn't get invited? I was like, I still like those things. And I would respond, probably, like they're like mom and dad time, you know? Bring your baby, go walk around,

talk about the issues you're going through. Like, it's not something you can relate to if you don't have a kid. Totally. I do feel like we were just like, suddenly, randomly, almost sneakily invited into these clubs now. Just like, hey, do you wanna come to this Christmas party? Hey, do you wanna come to this thing?

Hey, what are you doing next weekend? I'm like, I don't know. Like, I don't really have plans. Wait, really? Oh, that's so nice. I was already invited to some, like, mommy and me little events by my friend Lindsay, but it was before we announced. And even though I don't have, like, an actual child to bring with me, I was like, I still have one.

Yeah. It's just still cooking. Really, really tiny. Yeah. So small you can't even see it. Yeah, I do feel like we you can't even see it. Yeah, I do feel like we're joining a club though. Sounds like a fun club. The parent club, yeah.

I mean, well, you know, our pre-marital, pre-family counselor says it's the, should be the most boring stage for our life. The three acts or whatever, you know, we talked about. It's like act one is single, dating, et cetera, even married. But then once you bring children single, dating, et cetera, even married. But then once you bring children in, children is your second act of life. And when the children move out, brings in your third act of life.

So you're in act two for a really long time. I mean, if you look at it, we've been in act one for a while, a pretty good while. So if we have a couple kids within a couple years, we've got about 20 years of Act Two, which is less than Act One was. Yeah. Right? And then hopefully we get more than that afterward. But it's still supposed to be like the most boring time, so we find ways to have fun and be super structured.

And we're doing things more by the book than we have versus off the cuff. That's a good point, because I just don't know what the hell I'm doing. So... I mean, we're figuring it out. We're getting more organized. I definitely think that is something that has changed. A very positive thing that's changed in our lives is we're more organized than we were. Yeah, my ADHD has kind of left my body.

Not completely, but certain aspects of it. And I've heard that a lot from girlfriends of mine have told me, like girlfriends of mine that have ADHD have said that that same thing happened to them, but they're like, don't worry, it comes right back. Not too long after you give birth, but it's something about hormone changes that I haven't really been taking my ADHD medication

because I haven't felt the need to, because I just wake up hyper-focused. And I'm like, huh, this is new and fun. Color-coded my calendar, went through my whole checklist, like didn't leave checklist laying around, didn't go through the ADHD paralysis. Like it's pretty awesome. But I also kind of like run, run, run, run,

and then just like crash and burn. Yeah. I mean, yeah, still some hyperactivity. HD in there, not the AD. But I will say when I wake up, sometimes at 7.30, she's been up for three hours already. Yeah. Three breakfasts later. Right, right. It's like she reorganized the pen drawer again. Decided to go alphabetical instead of color coded.

You know, she is, yeah, 100% on top of it. That's funny. Who, me? No. I already know what I'm getting you for Christmas. I don't want you to get me anything because we have a lot of stuff. Yeah, we do have a lot of stuff.

We've talked about this before, but I'm getting you a thing. Oh, okay. Because I think it's something that will benefit both of us and we will use all the time. I have no idea what it is. That's all you get. A vibrator. No, I have lots of those. Okay, babe, well, I could talk for like another hour,

but I have a raging, raging hormonal headache. Yay, baby. It'll be fine. Everything will be fine. I am great. I love being pregnant. Don't lie to everyone. Ah, you guys, I really don't like being pregnant, but I'm so excited. And every single person has told me, as soon as I have the baby, I'm going to be like,

it was all worth it. And I have not heard any differently. So I have to assume that every single person is correct. Right now, I kind of feel like shit. So I'm going to go to bed, but we love you so much. And can't wait to talk to you next week. Thanks for listening, everyone. Bye.

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