Sex, Love, and What Else Matters - Our Birth Story

Episode Date: July 26, 2025

Kristen and Luke get real about Kristen’s birth story and recovery, Kaia’s Us Weekly cover moment, and Luke’s appearance (and fashion regret) on The Viall Files Podcast. They share thoughts on a recent disappointing article, the Coldplay cheating scandal, and whether social media can actually help with parenting. Kristen and Luke also address the question they've been hearing the most - When’s the wedding? Sponsors: Magnetic Me: New customers get 15% off your first order when you go to MagneticMe.com Nutrafol: For a limited time, Nutrafol is offering our listeners ten dollars off your first month’s subscription and free shipping when you go to Nutrafol.com and enter the promo code DOUTE. Rula: Visit Rula.com/DOUTE to get started. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey there, I'm Christy. And I'm Sophie. We're your extremely online hosts of Snarkbait, the podcast where we talk about the things you have no one else to talk to about. Whether it's a lore of a niche Instagram influencer, your favorite internet rabbit holes, or a dark celebrity scandal, we're here to dive into it all. With lots of laughs along the way, of course. Listen to Snarkbait every Tuesday and Thursday wherever you get your podcasts.

Hey guys, we're back. Welcome back to another episode of Balancing Act. It has been a damn long time. It has been a very long time. And we are in a new chapter of our lives. Oh my God, we're balancing so much differently now. Do you feel like days are so long, but like weeks disappear? Like times moving fast and slow at the same time? Yes, because I don't feel like we have a six week old baby. I feel like we have a six month old baby. But she's not that big. But she's really small. And also, I don's not that big, but she's really small and

Also, I don't know. It's like she's growing really fast But I feel like we've had a baby forever. I feel like pregnancy was like a trillion years ago It does seem like you gave birth way more than six weeks ago. Yeah. Yeah wild Hey, we're here and we have a baby We do and she's been sleeping great recently. Yes, so we're staring at our iPad, looking at our little Nanit screen. Nanit is a, what's it called? A baby monitor.

Thank you, baby monitor. That was so tough. So we're just watching her sleep. It's not creepy or anything. And hopefully we can get through this unscathed. Yeah, I mean, we'll finish it one way or another if you catch a couple cries in there. Yeah.

Oh, well. So we had a baby and I'm obsessed with her and she's my bestie and we spend all day together and we sleep by each other at night and I really love it. You know, parents, if you're a non-parent listening, sorry if I'm boring you with all my baby cuteness, but we're like contact napping right now

because she does not want to be put down. We weren't contact napping at first. She was really good about just sleeping in a little lounger or a bassinet or whatever it was. And now that's not happening, but I guess that's what happens around this time. Contact napping, I mean, she, it's just gross spurts and it's like, as soon as you feel like you got a handle

on it, something changes and it's no one's fault. It's just a growing baby. They grow so fast. Yeah, and she's like so cute. She's so cute, you guys. I'm not gonna lie. I think all babies are glorious, but I've seen ugly babies

and I knew our baby wouldn't be one of them, but I actually think she's like the most beautiful baby on the face of the planet. I couldn't agree more. I mean, there's clearly no bias from us. Not at all. So I gave birth. My birth story, kind of long story short, went really well.

I was terrified of giving birth. I was afraid it was going to hurt. I was afraid of tearing from the gene to the b-hole. I was afraid of something going wrong. Like, how does a watermelon come out of a keyhole? It doesn't seem physically correct. And I'm fine. I mean, I was as drugged up as I can possibly get,

as far as my epidural. I was like, numb, me. Don't want to feel a thing. I was going to say, clarify that, as drugged up as I can possibly get, as far as like my epidural, I was like, numb, me, don't wanna feel a thing. I was gonna say clarify that as to drugged up as you can possibly be. Meaning like in the spine, yeah. I'm like, I don't wanna miss a thing, but I don't wanna feel a thing. I mean, babe, your body is made for making babies,

the way that went. Like one of the nurses even said, how old's your other baby? Made an assumption that there'd been- I pushed for nine minutes. It felt like three. It felt like three minutes. It was, I mean, it was incredible.

With three pushes. So I feel very lucky that she came out, you know, so quickly, so safely, and my recovery wasn't too bad. I mean, it wasn't, you know, recovery's recovery. My mental recovery, I feel like it could be worse. I don't know if I have postpartum depression. I don't think that I do. I'm taking my placenta pills.

I'm on my Lexapro. And truly, I'm just trying to stay super, super busy. Like after I gave birth, I read the five-five-five rule. So at first I'm like, that's what I'm gonna do. And we're gonna hire a night nurse and I'm gonna be in the bed for five days on the bed and near the bed. And then, yeah, right.

Like we came home two days after we gave birth and I was like running around like a chicken with my head cut off. My aura ring was like, bitch, you got 16,000 steps today. No joke. And I think that's just the way that I cope. It's like totally a coping mechanism that if I just keep moving,

I don't have to sit still with my thoughts. And because newborns keep you super busy, super tired, and super wired, it's worked for me. Yeah, I mean, as far as it being worse, I think it's going fantastic. Like, I've been with you through some depressing periods and seen you go through some shit, and I think you are crushing it. You're absolutely crushing it, babe.

Thank you. Like, staying busy, you're sleeping better. Granted, not for as long a times, but I feel like you don't have as much trouble getting to sleep. Well, no, because we're flipping exhausted. So it's like, when it is time to sleep, it is time to sleep. That is true. I've become a much better follower sleeper. There's no TV on. There's no play with my phone all night long. Not smoking weed currently.

No, not smoking anything. Yeah. Not smoking weed right now. That's kind of a bummer part. I really love weed, but like, I am pumping and then, but even if I weren't pumping, like if I weren't doing anything from the boobies, I just can't smoke weed right now because weed makes me sleepy, weed makes me forgetful. And those are two things that I am very naturally right now and I don't need any help with that.

So one day I'll be able to toke on the ganja, the kaya as they say in Jamaica. Right, the kaya. If you haven't heard that Bob Marley song, give it a listen. It's called Kaya, K-Y-A, and apparently it's like slang term in Jamaican for weed. So I'm like, that's kind of fun and cool. I won't tell her that till she's way older, but.

Gotta have that Kaya. Gotta have that Kaya. Anyway, so yeah, we're doing pretty well. And I don't know if you guys caught it, we were on the cover of US Weekly. Mostly our daughter was on the cover of US Weekly. We were in the background, but we're still on the cover of Us Weekly, mostly our daughter was on the cover of Us Weekly. We were in the background, but we're still on the cover. And I'm so happy about it. I was so excited to do it. It's such a cool memory. It's something so cool for her when she gets older. The article was awesome.

And yeah, we had to talk about like Vanderpump rules and all of that stuff. But I don't know, this is just such a moment in my life that I'm excited that the viewers of The Valley are noticing and maybe you guys are if you followed like my journey over the last 10, 13 years. I'm very different and now as a mom, I'm so different. And so I just really appreciated them caring enough to wanna like cover that.

That's amazing. I mean, I love you so much. And this mom version of you, you've never been sexier. Thanks. I'm really in my prime guys. I have such a purpose. Like I'm a really good dog mom. I'm a good mom to people that don't necessarily

deserve it, friends. I'm very maternal, but now it's like, yeah. All baby first. All kaya, kaya, kaya. So that's, yeah, that's where we are. We can't talk about the valley still. We can't ever talk about the valley. No, we can't.

But there's one thing I think I can say, and I just want to get this out of the way. I did vile files. Yes. If you didn't hear it, go give it a listen. Can't give too many details, but I do want- Well, you can listen to it and then you'll know all the details. Yeah, exactly.

So, only thing I wanna say is out to Michelle Olly. I made a comment, it wasn't necessarily mean or aggressive, but about the issue with her mom passing and I feel like it was insensitive to even comment or acknowledge or act like I know anything. I don't know anything. And my very sincere apology goes out to Michelle for even entertaining a question about it

because I don't handle that the family well, never lost a parent and can't imagine what that's like. So one of them put that out there. And you Michelle kind of had a quick little chat and you said the same thing to her. Yeah, we exchanged a couple of texts and I said the same thing to her. Yeah, we exchanged a couple texts and I said the same thing to her. I just wanted to get that out there.

I don't feel good about it because I know how death affects me. So yeah, that's good, babe. You know what else about biophiles? Who wears short shorts? Oh my goodness. Luke wears short shorts. I mean, to be fair, it was 90 degrees in the valley that day. And to be fair, when you left the house, it did not even cross my mind.

And I know that you're sitting on a couch in Nick and Natalie's studio, and that is the framing of their camera. It did not cross my mind. Yeah. Live and learn, I guess. I will wear pants next time. 100%. Because a lot of podcasts, though, are framed, the cameras like a lot closer to your face. It's like chest up or something. Or like belly up. I had no idea and I was also on three hours of sleep going into that.

Exactly. So I was like, okay, I have clothes on, I have shoes on. Yeah. I think... You had something on other than underwear, like you didn't forget. Right, three cups of coffee, I'm ready to go. Let's go do this thing. I thought it was a really good interview.

I'm gonna say that I did feel like... After they... You guys talked about Jesse Lolley and they were giving his opinion, and you were like giving your opinion, which is different than Nick's, and we're friends with Jesse, I feel like after that, you kind of did seem, not disinterested, that's not what I'm trying to,

I don't know the word I'm looking for, but you were, it was kind of like, okay, let's get through these questions. And it was toward the end of the interview. And you know, I love Nick and Natalie, but I feel like he was pushing you really hard on that. Like you didn't give the answer that he necessarily wanted, therefore he was like, kept asking you again

in different ways. And I wanted to be like, yo, Nick, Jesse's our friend. Sorry, we don't feel the same way. Yes, we think Jax is worse. End of story. Yeah, I mean, I think that just comes back to the three hours of sleep, you know, like a cognitive function, whatever.

It's like, maybe, I don't know if it's I lost interest or just like, I don't know, it was not as on point anymore. Yeah, I was a little taxed at that point. Anyway. Wait, one more thing about, I'm not done. One more thing about that interview that I have grown to appreciate you talking about something that bothered me is in regards to your new fatherhood, right? Yes.

I do like that you were very honest about where you're at with it, with being a dad to a newborn. And that like, of course you love Kaya, of course you guys have like your own relationship, but that you're really personally looking forward to like another month from now or a few months from now when she's just a little bit older and smiling and laughing

and like kind of all of that, because I don't wanna say it gave you shit unless you feel like it gave you shit, but like in the first like two weeks of- You definitely gave me shit. Okay, fair enough. But because I didn't understand in the beginning and I don't have to understand why you don't

want to just sit and hold her and stare at her the same way that I do, or like contact nap with her for hours and hours or something the way that I do. I didn't understand it in the beginning. And I was like, why do you want to put her down? Like, why do you want to get her to sleep and then put her in her bassinet? Like why don't you want to just be with her and stare at her? And you were like, because I just don't need to. I got her to sleep.

We had our moment. And it did bother me. And now I'm like, you know what? I bet a lot of guys out there feel the same way that you feel and are really going to appreciate that you were honest about it or bullshitting. Yeah. I'm not it or bullshitting. Yeah, I'm not good at bullshitting. Right, as we know.

Yeah, sometimes too direct. But yeah, I mean, that's the truth of it. I feel like you're not doing yourself or anyone any favors by masking it or acting a way that you don't feel. So, I mean, it's not like I don't love her. It's like not anything like that. I am really looking forward to interaction, to being able to make her smile, to make her laugh,

to help her make these big leaps. Whereas right now, some people call the potato phase, it's feed, change diaper, they sleep, and you do some little things, but as far as interaction, like eye contact is good, your tracking is getting better. It's just not as, you know, just like- It's not as interactive. It's not as interactive.

And so looking forward to that, like I said, it's not that I don't love her and I do love holding her. I just don't necessarily want to hold her all day. And I don't mind at all. Right. So anyway, if that's all, I've grown to appreciate your honesty about it, even though it's not what I wanted to hear from you

in the beginning, especially your aunt, more like your honesty publicly about it, because I think you and I throughout our whole like fertility journey, then we're pregnant, you know, our pregnancy journey, just being very honest about like, that we were getting in fights and my hormones were really bad and the fertility journey could have been difficult and that we've had

these difficult moments. And I think it's important to me to stay true to that and be honest through our postpartum journey. And so I think that men out there will relate to you and say like, yeah, same, you know, I'm in the same boat. And I don't know if all men would be that honest about it publicly because it's very easy just to say, oh my God, no, I'm so connected. Like we're souls connected at birth, like some bullshit answer. So that's all. Okay.

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Get Even Not Fet. So plug there and you'll get to hear all about the valley and all of my feelings regarding that sitch. Oh, and just super quickly, because I got a text today from a friend saying that they saw my New York Times article. It's the first big thing that I have not plugged, promoted, or pushed on social media, even though the photo shoot was so much fun and it was so cute. I was really excited and very honored to do an interview with the New York Times. And when the article came out, I was disappointed.

We had a great interview. We talked about a lot of stuff and I felt and feel that when the article came out, it was just so much backtracking. It was so much about what was rather than what is and what will be in my life. It was so hyper-focused around Vanderpump rules. And I was just like a little bummed out, like, man, all of all the stuff. And that's kind of where it lies. So just disappointed, but still very honored. And like I said, the photo shoot was so cute.

So you guys should maybe check it out. I don't know. Just check out the photos. Maybe I'll just post the photos. It was fun. I remember the photo shoot was awesome in our backyard. Yeah. So we're watching a lot of TV right now.

So much. And listening to a lot of music in the morning, but watching a lot of TV because there's a lot of couch sitting with the baby. And because just because we can't talk about the Valley doesn't mean we can't talk about anything Bravo. McBee. McBee dynasty.

That's my new favorite Bravo show. New reality show. Reality show, that's not a competition. Number one. Yeah. Absolutely. And Steven has reached out to Kristin and myself. We've exchanged some DMs, invited us up to the farm.

We will get there at some point. I want to cross over. I want to cross over. I don't know when they film, but I want a crossover. I want to go to the farm, whether we're filming for The Valley or we're filming for their show. I want to film it for The Valley, not their show. I just think it would be so much fun, but I love that show. I loved season one. We are not caught up as of today on the last episode of season two. And I cannot tell you how many of my girlfriends have been texting me about it

and asking me whose side I'm on, Galena or Masha. And I can't give an opinion right now because I don't know. But I will say right now, as of the episode before last, okay, I loved Galena on season one. I loved her. She's kind of annoying me a little bit this season. But I feel bad for her also. I feel for her, but I'm also like, oh my God, you, like, I don't know, maybe it's like I see, like, my old self in her and that's why it's irritating me,

but I'm like, girl, like you're so like hyped on all of this crap and granted it is her friend. Now I'm backtracking even myself, but I'm like, I don't know. It just feels a little, you're better than that. Who cares? Like, why are we giving Masha a storyline? Like screw Masha, Steve McBee,

the dad's not even on the season, at least thus far. So why are we giving his quote unquote whore, you know, his girlfriend a storyline? Because she's Galena's friend. I know, but I want to be like, I want to shake Galena and be like, girl, don't ice her out, but don't talk shit about her and don't give her a storyline. I believe in Galena. And I think that... You believe in Galena? I believe in Galena. And I think that... You believe in Galena. In Bangalena, you trust.

I trust. I think she is good for the business and I think she is going to turn a corner and finish the season strong. I think she's great for the business too. I just met in the personally stuff. Yeah, yeah. I don't know. We'll find out. But all together, like... I love Jesse and Allie.

And I love that they're covering. Because they were so... I felt like they were so cute and so perfect last season. Not perfect, but they were just like so cute, even though, you know, they had been together for a long time, and then you finally see them get engaged. And so I kind of thought like,

oh, we're just gonna see how cute they are, and then they're gonna get married as we see in the preview. But I like that we're seeing a lot of realness. Right, with the distance. Like, that they have two houses. What do you think about all that? I mean, we did long distance for a while, but to be at that point...

They're engaged, and it's the distance of, like, their own homes that they own, and they're an hour and a half away. That, I mean, I don't know the solution. I'm usually a solution guy, and that's a really tough situation with her having to work there. I feel like Jesse needs to be the one to budge. But, okay, this massive farm, this whole thing, like, as far as their livelihood...

I don't know, he's a boy. I'm like, it's an hour drive, get over it. Don't make her drive. No, sure, but in reality, it's something that can't happen on a daily basis. I mean, especially, I also know with farming, there are times where you work, like like sometimes 20 hours in a day. If it's time to plant, the ground's right. You got to plant. If it's time to harvest, you got to harvest. What is their solution? What would you do?

I mean, that's really tough. I have no idea what their financial situation is, but her as a nurse and him with the farm, like... And they have two nice houses. Two nice houses. I'm sure they have two solid incomes. It's just a really tough situation. I mean, I don't know the right solution. I don't think it has anything to do with finances.

I think it's just the distance. Like Ali has said, like her life is in the city, her friends, her family, her job. His life is on the farm. That's the issue. So how do you even budge? Where do you budge? I think you've got to look back on how you got to this point where you're getting married and what your shared vision was prior.

If things have changed as they move forward, I don't know. It's a tough conversation. We know that and I'm all for it. I'm just talking about the conversations they're having right now on the show. That's all. Right. Well, also, you know, every couple's different. It may be a situation where they can make it work, where they're both independent enough that they're okay, you know, sometimes going a few days without seeing each other.

That's not crazy. Some couples do it. That's something... But that's something that Christy, the mom, has been very headstrong with them about that, like, that's the trap that she and Steve maybe fell into. And she was like, we weren't... Like, that was kind of... Well, also his infidelity, but like, kind of the demise of their relationship was, like, living apart. So she doesn't want that for them.

Also, shout out to Christy, the matriarch. I am obsessed witharch. I am obsessed with her. I am so glad she is on the show. I've been dying to see this godsent woman angel that could raise four boys like that. Coming from someone who always said I wanted two boys and that was it, I'm so glad I'm a girl mom. So far. We will have our boy. But I just am obsessed with Chrissy the mom. I love her so much.

What do you think about Steven and Calla? And also knowing that they're broken up now. That's, I don't know, another tough situation. She left everything behind to be up at the farm, you know, fish out of water, which is what I kind of did coming to LA. So I can relate to her as well as Steven being so busy and having all the stress of the business on him with his dad leaving.

So, another tough situation. Like, I've, you know, started a business, run a business, not nearly to that scale, but the amount of stress that's just on you, you need a woman that is not going to add to that. That's going to be more comfort. Yeah, I don't think she's... It's just tough to be there for... I don't think she's the right one for that lifestyle.

See, your takes on this, it's exactly why I think they were such a good show to add to the Housewives Driven network that is Bravo. Because it still is all this relationship stuff, but like something you can get into. I mean... Because it's like manly dudes and farming and tractors and shit, but then it's like the underbelly of it all, still the same. It's still...

There's still always couple drama. Mm-hmm. I love it. I love it. And I DM'd Steven saying, I have a million questions, but I'll wait until the end of the season. And maybe I'll just like have a cocktail at BravoCon and like corner him. And be like, tell me everything. Do we know that he'll be there? Of course.

Okay. I said I'll see you at BravoCon. Okay. Well, awesome. Anyway, moving on, moving on, moving on. Let's talk about the Coldplay thing, just very briefly. Okay. So, the reason I'm even bringing it up is because my friend Brent just went to Coldplay

the other day and he posted it. And I was like, ugh. Okay, I love Coldplay, but it made me just so jealous because I miss live music and I realized that is the one thing I miss in my life right now more than anything else. Ever since pregnancy and now- Well, you need to go.

I mean- I know, well, it's not the time yet, but I'm like, oh God, I want to just start making like a wish list of concerts. Well, you feel not the time yet, but I'm like, oh god, I want to just start making like a wish list of concerts Well, you feel physically up to it. I am 100% down to hold down the fort Yeah, when the baby's a little bit older I mean, there's a couple concerts coming up that into the summer that maybe I can just like go for like two hours I think you can go for longer than that. I can handle it. I can't be away from the baby that long. I

Want to go see Maren Morris and I want to go see Maren Morris, and I want to go see the Frey, How to Save a Life tour. I'm all for it. Maybe I can go to one of them if we can have family or somebody in town. Someone we trust with her. But I'm fine not going either and just taking her. So you can do that. And then I'll still be able to golf and fish once in a while.

Yeah. But yeah, I just really miss live music. But what are your thoughts on the Coldplay thing? the dolphin fish once in a while. Yeah. But yeah, I just really miss live music. But what are your thoughts on the Coldplay thing? So I still don't know if this guy, this Andy guy, did he write that statement that came out because the astronomer Twitter page came out and said that it was not true,

that that was not his personal statement. But then a statement from the wife just came out and now I'm like, well, how am I supposed to believe that that was even the wife that put that statement out? What if no one's putting statements out and it's just someone did it on chat GPT? Exactly, like these are some of these AI problems. Essentially, you know, there was a statement

about Nia and Danny leaving and the way it was written actually sounded like Nia, that they were gonna step away from the valley, but they had nothing to do with that. Somebody made it up, posted it, and it's not real at all. It's hard to know what's real these days. Yeah. But as far as the whole, you know, what happened, it's obviously the fact that they're this

higher profile and I feel like none of us would know who they are. And like intercompany. Intercompany, sure. But none of us would know who they are if this didn't, if the news didn't pick it up. No, I still don would know who they are. Intercompany sure, but none of us would know who they are if the news didn't pick it up. To me, my honest opinion is I think it's weird as hell that someone that's not in the public eye in any way other than running a big business has been put on blast this hard. The way they handled it when the camera went to them is like, oh man, they're hiding something. This is bad.

Right, oh, absolutely. As far as company conduct, absolutely not okay. It's just funny how much the news and social media and everything has picked up on this and made it a big deal. Like Scandival 2.0. It kind of is, literally, it kind of is. It's wild.

Did they talk about it on CNN? I wonder, probably not. But you never know. It's possible. I mean, my meme page has never been so bright. Did they talk about it on CNN? I wonder. Probably not. But you never know. It's possible. I mean, my meme page has never been so bright. I think the whole country was, we finally stood together on something. We were all down with Andy at the Coldplay concert.

Every time I'm fishing or golfing and you're like, when we be home, I'll say I'm not at a Coldplay concert. Yeah, and that won't fly. You know what I feel like hasn't been talked about though is the fact that, okay, so Chris Martin, apparently what I found out was that he was, this is like a thing that he's doing right now where he's kind of panning the camera onto certain people and then he's creating a story.

So that's what happened. But the thing that I don't get is like, when we see it, right? They're cuddling, they're canoodling, and then all of a sudden she looks mortified, and he turns away. But then he like puts his hands up like, yeah, bro, yeah, woohoo. Well, you know, he turned around,

then his head goes, act normal. And so he turned back around. Oh, you think? Because at first I'm like, oh, like the first time I saw it, I was like, oh, she must be the married one because he switched his, like his dynamic like so quickly. And then you come to find out he's married, but he's like putting his fingers up in the air. Like he said, like, I don't know. What are you doing, homie?

Okay. My question to you, do you think this would have been national news or whatever if they had not acted like that? If they hadn't changed at all? No, because no one would have known. Exactly. Yeah, but you're not gonna, no one's, unless you're a sociopath, no one's gonna naturally just be like, play cool, play cool, play cool.

Unless you are a literal sociopath. Okay, that's your opinion. That would be crazy. It would be wild. You know who would do that? Jax Taylor. Jax Taylor would be like, it's okay. Do I say that?

You probably shouldn't. Whatever, it's fine. So I have a question. Do you think- Throw it at me. Do you think in this day and age, Instagram and social media is a good resource for raising a baby or not necessarily? I think it's fantastic. I think you also have to have a brain and have your wits about you and you can't take everything as Bible.

But there are so many things. I love my algorithm more than ever right now, during pregnancy and now having a newborn, because things pop up for me that I maybe wouldn't even think about, but I don't take it as like, you know, science or God's word, but it definitely makes me go, oh, wait, I should like ask the pediatrician about this. But do you think sometimes, you know, these moms posting these things, like, what you don't know before this age, things you can do, you know, these moms posting these things, like, what you don't know before this age, things you can do, the things you should or should not do, is like, what's the science behind that? This is one person's opinion if this is not a pediatrician

or something else. But I think if you can watch it intelligently as someone's opinion, it's just like, what's the best baby carrier? What is the best diaper? Like, I fall into some of those traps where I'm like, like, what's the best baby carrier? What is the best diaper? Like I fall into some of those traps where I'm like, oh, that's the one. But if you just look at it as an opinion, I think it's fantastic. Do you think you ever get anxiety from something you see as far as should I be doing this differently? Oh, I haven't done that yet. Yada yada.

That sort of thing. Yeah, a little bit. I think I get more inside of Googling things than I do from social media. Yeah, it makes sense. Like when she was, when Kaia first started grunting and grunting in her sleep and things like that, I text my, I have like a mom chat group of friends that I text with and I was like, oh my God, I think she has this disease disorder, whatever it was, this certain thing. I was like, guys, do you guys think it's this?

And they're like, no, pretty sure. It's just grunting. It's just what she does right now. So that was like me Googling things. I had nothing to do with social media. But no, I get what you're saying. I think I have anxiety about everything. I have anxiety about my anxiety. So maybe I'm not the best person to ask.

But I also know to take social media with a grain of salt. So I could say, arguably say that I think that it can cause anxiety in people for sure. But I really appreciate moms that put themselves out there and say what has worked for them. Right, yeah, I agree. Because I'm like, it's tried and true, especially if it's not an ad. It's like, you're telling me the products

that have worked for you, the ways to make the baby burp that has worked for you, things I haven't tried. All right, hold. Or I'll go get her. She's okay. Shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh,

All right. Now we are back and Kristen is currently feeding Kaia, so I'm going to lead this and we're going to wrap it up. You might hear some like from her. Say hi, from her. You wanna say hi, Kiah? So overall, Instagram is, it can be helpful, but it can also potentially raise anxiety. You think it's more helpful than not? Yes.

For me, as of late, it has been, but this is like a newer opinion of mine, because I think that if definitely, if you live in the comments, it can be really taxing mentally, because there are so many trolls, there are so many unhappy people, a lot of argumentative people,

but I think that it can also be just so helpful. It really got me through my pregnancy, like it made me laugh, it made me think about things I didn't really think of before. I don't know, that's kind of, but maybe it's my algorithm too. Right. I mean, I definitely would have. What like sparked this for you? Uh, just you send me a million things a day and sometimes, you know, I read

through all of them and I'm like, it's impossible to do everything that is, you know, there's these lists of things to do. Uh, and he's like, okay, it's not possible to do anything. This could definitely send you 30 things, 30 things a day because I think about you all 30 times, you ungrateful potato. I think you're thinking about Kaya when you send them to me most of the time. Anyway. I don't even send you everything either.

That's fair. So does it give you anxiety or does it make you anxious about it? I'll be honest, there are times where, I mean, I don't doubt that I'm doing a good job, but it's like, I question, could I be doing, can I be doing better? You know, it's like this comparison thing

that comes to mind. Oh, yeah, we can't do that. Yeah. I'm learning that because that will eat us alive. Right. And I think that social media breeds comparison. Mm-hmm. Too shay. That's super fair.

Yeah, that's where I'm coming from with it. So yeah, just be careful. Yeah, I don't think I've fallen down that hole yet. I think right now I'm only in the like, the medical science hell of it all. Like, is something wrong with her? Does she have this? Is she breathing the right way?

Why, like every time I hear her like, have a little congestion, I'm like, you know what I mean? So that's kind of like where all my anxiety lies, rather than comparing her and like where she's at. Yeah, I'm not saying comparing her. I guess I'm analyzing myself as a father, as a parent. Like, I know I'm not doing a bad job,

but can I be doing more? Should I be doing more? Should I not be sleeping? You know, should I be sleeping less? Kind of be doing more? I see what you mean. Should I not be sleeping? You know, should I be sleeping less? Right. Kind of thing. Anyway, that was just it. I wanted to know your opinion on it.

I think some of our listeners would like a check-in with our doggos. Oh my God, I know. Jill was such a star. She is. She's a star. She was such a star on the show. Gibson's a star.

Yeah, Gibson just shot, finished, wrapped his Purina commercial and photo shoot. So that was Phenom. Phenom, he's the most famous dog I've ever met. Most famous dog I ever take into a park. Jill's amazing. Both dogs are handling baby well. Jill is the protector. Gibson, I'd say Gibson is more... He's gotten better. He's gotten better.

He was really needy and like absolutely obsessed with Kaya the first couple of weeks. Like did not... I think he just doesn't understand like why he can't play with her. Why can't he lick her? Why can't he? Right.

Like why does he have to stay away? And then she's like crying and he's like, why? Yeah, he would bark when she was crying. He did not, did not like it, but they're all, they're better now. They obviously would like more attention, but that's how it goes when you have a baby. Yeah. I mean, for real, I think we're doing the best job that we can right now. We are. We're doing great.

Yeah. We're doing great, sweetie. Got a question for you. I'm only asking you because people want to know. Okay. When are we getting married? Oh my gosh. When are we? Why don't I turn the tables on you? When are we getting married? Oh my gosh. When are we? Why don't I turn the tables on you? When are we getting married?

Oh man. Well. I should just start asking you that. What do you envision for our wedding, Luke? Well, do you want me to take the lead on it? No. I didn't think so. I mean, like hypothetically, I don't know.

Like you can if you will then give up control. Okay, I mean, I don't want to plan the whole thing. I definitely don't. I'd rather just... Do you feel like we need to start planning it now? She's six weeks old. No, I understand. I barely remember to like brush my teeth sometimes. I shower like three times a week.

I can't plan a wedding. Exactly. I understand. I wear daytime pajamas and nighttime pajamas. I understand. The thing I'd say is to try to, whether it's 18 months, even two years out, some of the venues, the best places we may decide that we really like this place over these other ones that are available this year. Let's plan on 2027 in September. God, I'm so bad at planning. Terrible at planning. I hate planning. Planning gives me anxiety. Well, maybe I will kick it off by bringing up places, venues, that's the word, venues, and we find one we really love

and lock it in and then we know our timeline. But it won't be too soon, obviously, like, no less than a year. I'm still a little torn of, like, I think that I like the island idea. I really think that if we don't do that, I'll probably regret it, because we just, it's just like my favorite climate. But then there's this little part of me that's like, man, the country could be so cool.

Like, so much space. Kaya, what do you think? Kaya will be the flower girl. Thank you, everyone, for listening. We'll have more for you next week. And we're back. Yeah, we're back. Thanks for sticking with us, guys. It's been a journey.

And if you do watch The Valley, you can kind of see everything we were going through pre-pregnancy. So I'm sure you can imagine pregnancy, you know, and you heard it on the podcast. So it's just been a little bit more of a journey for us and maybe taken me a little longer to snap back. Yeah, but we're back. But we love you. So we're back, bitch.

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