Sex With Emily - A Dose of (Vitamin) D with Max Lugavere

Episode Date: March 12, 2020

On today’s show, Dr. Emily is joined by NY Times best selling author and host of the Genius Life podcast Max Lugavere to talk about his new book, The Genius Life & becoming the better, healthier version of you.They discuss the hyper-palatability of food addiction and porn addiction – and how they’re somewhat similar, ways artificial light is affecting our health and our bedroom activities, why it’s important to get the D – vitamin D that is, and ways making small improvements in all areas of your life can translate to a better sex life.Follow Emily on all social @sexwithemilyFollow Max on all social @maxlugavereFor even more sex advice, tips & tricks, visit http://sexwithemily.com/  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's time-placed for Cheetos and a lot of porn. But we all have those moments. However, if it's too often too much, too many processed foods, and too much porn, you're never going to be satiated, and you're always going to have a craving, and then overall, you're not going to be sexually healthy, or physically healthy. But I thought it was great.

I love hyper-palatable. Hyper-palatable. Yeah, for me, because porn is hyper-political. Like, when in human history would a male have, I mean, not to say that women don't appreciate, or can't appreciate porn either. But when in human history would a male have access to like the kinds of, like all, just all the different

permutations of porn that there are. All right, and all at once. Yeah. And by the way, like, I'm a male, okay? I'm in my mid 30s, so it's like I've watched porn, like I will confess and there are times in my past when I've watched porn and while I think this is pretty common because I have male friends, I've got younger brothers, when you're watching porn, you're already thinking about the next video that you want to click on. While you're watching the current video, yeah, like what else can I go, where can I leap from to, you know, from here?

Before you leave, okay, right? And that's the same thing that I think happens when people are hooked on these ultra processed foods. What else can I go, where can I leap from? To, you know, from here. Before you leave, okay. Right? And that's the same thing that I think happens when people are hooked on these ultra processed foods. They're like eating, they've got one mouthful, and they're already thinking about the pleasure that they're gonna get from the next mouthful. Right.

Right. Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily, and on today's show, I'm joined by New York Times best-selling author and host of the Genius Life podcast, Max Lugabair, talked about his new book, The Genius Life, and becoming the better, healthier version of you. Topics include the hyper-palitability of food addiction and porn addiction, and why they're somewhat similar.

How artificial life is affecting our health and our bedroom activities. Why it's important to get the D, vitamin D that is. And ways making small improvements in all areas of your life can translate to a better sex life. Hey, Avaline, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken, he thinks you're kind of cute. Hey, girls, gotta have a stand. Six, oh my! The women know about shrinkage.

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what do you want to get out of listening to this episode? Like how could it help you? Maybe it's, I feel as if there's ways I could be healthier in life that can lead to better sex. Or maybe it's, I love to know what environmental factors are affecting my health and side note, my sex life. My intention for the show is to show you what small, simple changes you can make

towards a healthier life in and out of the bedroom. All right, enjoy the show. I'm so excited. Hi, Max. What's up? Max Lugavir, usually I just see you at Erwin like with a bunch of like a gaggle of how women surrounding you. And I'm like, I don't know if I should guess they had a max right now. Wow, that is good. He's making it. And I'm like, I don't know if I should guess they had a max right now.

Wow, that is good. He's making it. That's good branding, I guess. Yeah, max is hot and smart. His book is the, it's true and kind. Thank you, thank you. And like a good man, like, I don't think you're like on the make after Irwan, going home and having sex with all of them in a way that's just tasteful.

No, no, I'm not. No, I'm not. I'm a, I am a, you know, I was raised well. I know. No, I respect for women. You really do. I love Max. I Max has come tightly regarded from men and women alike. Thank you for being here. And congratulations on your new book. Thank you. Genius, the genius life. That's the name of the book. That is the name of the book. Following your New York Times bestseller, genius foods become smarter, happier, and more productive while protecting your brain for life,

which was really a wonderful book that you wrote. I know because you found that your mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and you went out of journey to really heal her. And now you end up healing yourself. Yeah. And millions of people. Yes.

My mom was sick. She had a young age developed dementia. and I had a background in journalism. Yeah, Alzheimer's is the most common form of dementia. Yeah. It can get confusing. There are different types of dementia. There's vascular dementia, which is the second most common form. My mom actually had a very rare form called Louis body dementia, but because there's a relative dearth of information on Lewy Body Dementia, I kind of focused on Alzheimer's disease and in my research just because there's just a bounty of it, there's more of it. But yeah, my first book was a nutritional

caromanule to the brain. And the genius life is really more of a a caromanule for the body. So for people looking to optimize their metabolic health, you know, prevent things in accordance with what we currently know the best available evidence about dementia prevention, cancer prevention, heart disease prevention, it's sort of like a guide to that while also helping you get your body into the best shape possible with the least amount of obsession and effort, you know, it's going to take some effort, but it's all about efficiency.

Yeah, that's what I like. That's how I felt when I read your first book. I was like, oh, God, we were all reading it in here. I remember Jamie were like, oh, God, we gotta pull over, we talk, we can't eat anything. We didn't eat anything, we really tried it. We did it. We felt really good.

I learned a lot, I ate more eggs and avocados now and everything. But in this book, it's like, wow, there's so many things in my environment, like I'd heard, and you actually made it easy for me to understand like why lights could be, like my there's so many things in my environment. Like I'd hurt and you actually made it easy for me to understand why lights could be, like my lights could be so harmful in my home. Yeah, it's super important. I mean, nutrition is just one part of the story. I mean, you could be checking all the boxes, dotting all the eyes, you know, crossing all

the teas. But if you're not cognizant of the fact that the environment affects our health in a profound way, in a way that most of us aren't even conscious of, you're really ahead of the game. It's such a major, major part of having good health, of feeling good, even feeling energized, and feeling happy. I mean, the environment plays such a huge role. Exactly.

In that. You say that food addiction is much like porn addiction. Yeah, yeah, it is. I mean, if you look, so porn addiction is a relatively new area. You know, I mean, we've only had the kind of mass proliferation of porn that we that we currently see just over for the past couple of decades, but when I was doing my research and writing the book and I was looking up anecdotal reports of how people kind of experience this porn addiction, what they were saying about it was

so similar to how people feel when they were addicted to hyper-processed junk foods. And I was actually shocked by that. So when you think about it, like ultra-processed foods that line our supermarket shelves, they trick our brains like they send off our reward trip liars in the same way that porn does, right? I mean, these foods are hyper-palatable. They bring together these flavors, these mouth feels, these sensations that are, you know, I mean, to say that they're delectable to the human brain would be an understatement.

And so what that does is it creates overconsumption, you know, it creates this insatiable appetite, the same way that you kind of feel sometimes like when you're exposed to pornography. And I'm not placing judgment on either of them. There's a time and place for both, right? It's time and place for Cheetos and a lot of porn. But we all have those moments. However, if it's too often, too much, too many processed foods and too much porn,

you're never gonna be satiated and you're always gonna have a craving and then overall you're not gonna be sexually healthy or physically healthy. But I thought was great. I love hyper-palatable. It's like that word. Yeah, for me, I mean, because porn is hyper-palatable.

Like when in human history would a male have, I mean, not to say that women don't appreciate or can't appreciate porn either. But when in human history would a male have access to like the kinds of, like all, just all the different permutations of porn that there are. All right, and all at once. Yeah. Right. And by the way, like, I've, I'm a male, okay.

I'm, I'm in my mid 30s, so it's like I've watched porn. Like I will confess, and there are times in my past when I've watched porn. And while I think this is pretty common because I have male friends, I've got younger brothers. When you're watching porn, you're already thinking about the next video that you wanna click on. While you're watching the current video,

yeah, like what else can I go, where can I leap from, to, you know, from here? Before you leave, okay, right? And that's the same thing that I think happens when people are hooked on these ultra processed foods. They're like eating, they've got one mouthful and they're already thinking about the pleasure that they're gonna get from the next mouthful.

Like you can't, you just want, you can't, you just want to go, you're going, you're going, you're right. It's the same thing, and you're not satisfied, you're absolutely right. So then what the hell do we do when everything is processed? Like what about people who say like it's a lot of work, but I'm in a rush, I don't have time, that's what's available to me.

Yeah, I think you just, well, what I like to advocate for are essentially a diet that excludes these ultra processed foods for the most part, I think in 80, 20 rules fine, but then you can have planned indulgences. So I actually like to call them planned indulgences, I don't like to call them cheat meals. Because I didn't use feel bad. Because then you feel bad. Cheating, bad branding, good cheat day. Good. Take that back. Yeah. I like it. Exactly. So the plan of indulgences,

you can have them in moderation. But generally, what I think is so important that most people don't have and that's what I'm trying to drive home is that it should at least be informed consent. You know, I think oftentimes when people crack open the pint of ice cream or the bag of chips, and before you know it, the pint is gone, or they feel like failures. They're like, why didn't I have the self control? But the truth is, those foods are not designed to be consumed in moderation. And I think with porn, it is informed consent. It's like, I know, I'm going to indulge a little bit right now.

There's another one, and another one. And not only that, just like porn, you don't realize because it feels so good. There's like no harm yet. It felt great, I had an orgasm. And then you keep doing it and doing it and doing it and you're like, after, well, oh, I actually don't really feel comfortable having sex with humans anymore.

I'm no longer as turned on. I want to know why three of her friends didn't show up and there wasn't like, you know, like if guys people who learn from porn, like young people are like, why wasn't there an orgy? Like that's how sex should be, and why isn't every woman squirting?

So it's very unrealistic. And if you keep eating foods like that, like the same, you really don't know, though, because it's all that you know. So how can you learn to be healthy? Like what are the like, you know, it's like what are like the misconceptions we have? Like that, I mean, how hard is it?

Is it really, what can we avoid? What's the easy, where do we start? Well, I think there's a few easy things to do First of all realize what these ultra-process foods are gonna do to your to your willpower to your fragile finite resource that is your willpower and try to avoid them as best you can and the way that I think that is most effective to do that Is to aside from those plane indulgence is to not even not even try them, to just cut them out of your diet. You're not a failure if you cheat area, or if you have that plant indulgence no way. I'm not placing moral judgment on this, but just to have that informed consent

so that you can kind of build your diet around minimally processed foods. The other recommendation that I make that I think is pretty groundbreaking in the book that the fitness community has appreciated for a long time is to prioritize protein. So protein is actually the most satiating macronutrient. It's very hard to overindulge in protein.

When was the last time you binged on chicken breast or fish or whatever? I ate the whole roasted chicken. Yeah, that doesn't happen. It doesn't happen. It like snipes your appetite in a really powerful way. So if you prioritize protein, yeah, like a sniper, I just like that.

I just want my appetite sniped. It's kind of sexy. Sounds sexual. Because. It does,, I like that. I just like that. That's what my appetite's sniped. It's kind of sexy. It sounds sexual. It does. I'll admit that. I'm going to snip your chicken. Yeah. At every meal, make that the centerpiece.

Make that the centerpiece. I mean, if you think about the last time you overindulge on carbs and fat, which they're so good. It's hipify. Yeah, they are good, but it's basically pure energy, you know, and your average person is walking around. I mean, you're a pound of fat carries about 3,000 calories, worth of energy.

So, I mean, when you look at statistics, you know, one in two adults by the year 2030, you're on track to be obese, and I'm, you know, not, not shaming anybody here, but we're all carrying a little bit of extra weight, you know, statistically for the most part, that's essentially energy. Focus on protein, and you're going to be less inclined to eat all the other stuff.

And protein, by the way, it's super important for building and maintaining lean mass, which we know is important as we age. You lose lean mass. It's got a metabolic advantage. Actually, protein is like, there's an atomic effect, so actually a third of the calories that you consume via protein, you just burn off via digestion alone. How do we not like, so I feel like we've known this about protein and that we still it's training our minds, I guess, just you have to do

like baby, I don't know, are you saying babyceptor just card all out? Like do you think we should just go in? People just clear it out because I know that I eat healthy. Like I have for many, many years and I don't, years and I don't crave processed foods and think like every once on maybe I'll have something, but I do believe I've been able to train my brain, my body to crave what is healthy. And you've probably seen that through your book. I'm talking to Max Lugavir if you're wondering what is going on here.

Why are we talking about health? But we're going to help you when you're overall healthy. You make a lot of these changes that you have in your book, Max Lugavir, the genius life, the best-selling author. Heal your mind, strengthen your body, and become extraordinary. That's what I want. That's what we all want. So we all want. I want to be extraordinary everywhere. Max Lugavir, you could also find him on Instagram.

I love your Instagram. Thank you so much. So it's also in our show, once you can check it out, Max Lugavir. Yeah, you do well because it's like, oh yeah, I guess this is how I should make my breakfast and make my everything. Like it's very smart how you do it. Yeah, simple things. I mean, in a way of simple things.

What are some other simple things we can do? Because I know when we move, I love that you have the hacks for easy exercise in here. Like I was like, oh, I can do it in like 10 minutes or less. Yeah, yeah, ways of getting of making your workouts more efficient with high intensity interval training. This is great. I mean, I love reading this study because I personally hate doing cardio.

Not to shame people who love doing cardio. I know there are those people, but I am not, I've never enjoyed getting on a treadmill and doing those like long runs. So, to do something like high intensity interval training, so taking something like sprints or getting on a bicycle and giving like an all out, giving it your all for 10 to 20 to 30 seconds and then resting a little bit and then doing that again.

Studies show that you can basically achieve the same boost in your cardio respiratory fitness as 45 minutes of doing 10 minutes high-intensity interval training compared to 45 minutes of steady state cardio, which is amazing. That's like five times the efficiency. Exactly. It's like running stairs, like running spins, you can do that anywhere. Exactly. That's why I love it.

Okay. That's good. That's easy. We can all do that. If you guys have any questions at all about your health, about what to eat, the hacks you could do around your home, like we got to get into like all the toxins in our homes, I really want to talk to you about how the light from our screens are fucking with our health. What do we do? I know the glasses and turn it down, but like, how bad is it? Well, it's super important. So I mean, light is an important time set

or our bodies are where rhythmic beings. You know, there was that new radical song, you've got the music in you. I love that song. But yeah, so you want to basically make sure that you're getting bright light from the sun, you know, in the first half of the day Preffer preffer preffer I can't talk preferably before noon here. It's weird. Yeah um, and uh, I Have to leave you when before noon before noon getting that bright light so I see about the people also like sunny there Their pyronyms Primes have you heard have you seen that yeah anyway, but before before noon I wonder if it's the same thing before you do both I have not

stunned it yet well wait wait wait sorry what you heard about the people who were sending their perineum I did not how did we not it's a thing thank you Max yeah it's a thing people can we yes there was all the they were hold maybe it was over Christmas maybe it was over the holiday break and we didn't have a chance to discuss it it was all over the news Do you guys not know what I'm talking about not at all? They put their hand they put their leg They if you it was this pictures of men and women's Their but hold like they're but in the air in the sun for 10 minutes a day

Well, here's the thing the sun is a disinfectant. So I mean from a you know our answer Who knows like what what kind of magic, you know, what kind of reprieve from infections and whatever they got from doing that? I have no idea. But anyway, vitamin D though. But yeah, and that's something, Jamie, what, you didn't see that?

Yes, it was a viral thing. It was viral. How the fuck my mother asked me about it. Everyone asked me about it. I'm like, constantly looking at sex things. I don't know how you mess up. I'm so assuming we discussed it. What the fuck?

I actually know one of the main advocates who kind of went viral. I can, I can look. Did you try it? I've not tried it, no. But it's warm. It's warm. You got to imagine it was pretty good, you know?

Yeah, that's it. That's the position, but I couldn't do it because I'm wearing a skirt right now. I would have done it. I would have sunned myself just now to show you how to do it. I would do it. Why the hell not? I think we should do it because I'm wearing a skirt right now. I would have done it. I would have sunned myself just now to show you how to do it. I would do it. Why the hell not? I think we should do it.

Are you still in my neighborhood? We could meet up in Sunnabond. Let's do it. Yeah. After Airwine, if you don't have a date. Yeah. But the sun that I'm talking about is getting the sun on a different part of your body. Tell me.

Okay. Your eyes as opposed to your butthole. Okay. Tell me you're walking through. Okay. Yeah. But I mean, you know, maybe that's important. I just just try to thought. Tell me about the vitamin D in the morning because like, I'm going to be inthole. Okay, tell me you're walking through, okay. Yeah, but I mean, you know, maybe that's important. I just, just try to thought.

Tell me about the vitamin D in the morning, because like, how long do we need to, what do we need to, we have to walk outside. Yeah, so about a half an hour of 1000 lux of light, so I actually have an app on my phone that's called Lux and you can basically measure light intensity in your ambient surroundings. And even on an overcast day, the light from the sky is at least a thousand locks. And so what that does is basically activates proteins in your eye, that then activates a region of the brain that's sort of like your body's master clock, and that primes you for daylight associated activity.

So feeling focused and happy and energized are really going to be encouraged when you get this bright light in through your eyes. But if you consider the fact that 93% of our time today is spend indoors, it's a major reason why people, I think one of the many reasons why people are walking around almost zombified, you know, they don't feel super happy, they don't feel super energetic, you need light. We need it, even it's for how many minutes a day?

I would say a half an hour in the morning, I mean, but generally the more time that you can spend outside the better, we know that. I mean, we're just, we're not, we're animals. We're not meant to be, you know. We are locked in cages all the time. And we're in Los Angeles even in our cars. We're not outside enough. I know.

God, you're so, you're so right, Max. We gotta do this. I don't understand. So even just 10 minutes. Is it matter like if we're looking up, looking down like what? Well, I would speculate that 10 minutes would be better than 10 minutes is better than nothing and depending on how bright the light is You know if it's like 10 minutes in in like broad daylight Then that would be then that would be great. How long do we need then I think 10 I'm 10 to 10 minutes to a half an hour

I think you should give yourself that Go go stand outside or buy an open window or in your car, keep your sunglasses off during this period. I was gonna ask you that, because you said it's about your eyes. Yeah, you want the lights to enter your eyes. You have these proteins, they're called melanopsin proteins. I mean, I go into great detail.

I love this in the book, you guys. Genius life, we have a link to it on our show notes. Yeah, but I understand, it's like, do they're just like, point, we go, oh yeah, I've been feeling that lately, then you go outside and you feel in a texture sex drive. Yeah, the other thing is that people who are older,

there's a natural coloring that occurs to the lens of the eye as we age. It's just an inevitable part of aging, but it's gonna make us less light sensitive as we get older. So you might actually need more time in the sun in that morning as compared to like a much younger person. And so this is one of the reasons why I think it's so common to see older adults say I just

don't, I don't sleep as well as I used to. I mean, that is such a common complaint. Exactly. I think it has something to do with the fact that we're all plunged into this always-endor kind of lifestyle. And I think our older adults are suffering from it. Well, okay, let's, I'm talking to Max Lugover. His book is the genius life

bob fifty eight pennsylvania has a question about this bob thanks for calling your own with emilyen max lukevere morning i don't know how you are you bob good well my morning everybody's evening correct and no it's a waste for us night people in that there what well i guess you can't just did cover part of it or you know all of it

but being when you when you was saying older uh... what's what's the age cut off i'm fifty fifty eight and that there so should i be looking to get more son as a as my age or more yeah yes bob i'm gonna i'm gonna say yeah i mean it's not just light so light that definitely plays a role in in your health

But then also your ability to synthesize vitamin D Tends to falter as you get older so it becomes even more important I think as we age to spend time getting good quality light into our eyes in the first half of the day Making sure that we're exposing our skin to sun, not burning mind you, but just getting enough exposure to the sun on our skin so that we'll have healthy levels of vitamin D, which I define in the book as being between 40 to 60 nanograms per milliliter.

You can get that tested with Vierier doctor. It's a very simple and cheap blood test. But yes, I think as we get older, we need a little bit more TLC. We really do. God, such a great. Thanks Bob. Thanks for calling.

We're going to take a quick break and we'll come back even more with Max Lugovir. Max. Okay. So all these things, obviously, if we like make our rooms healthy healthier, we crack the light, we get, we guard side, we have more vitamin D. Also, we sleep better, we're gonna have, we're gonna want to have more sex. We're gonna feel healthier,

and we do, there's a lot here to do. I want to also cover here a sleep, because sleep isn't up to a demigrate hour, a lack of sleep, that everyone's confused, and how do I do it, and everyone's like, their phones are in the room, like you have some great tips in here, can you share? Yeah, absolutely.

What the hell do we do? Yeah, so I mean, when it comes to sleep, you really want to be mindful. First of all, good sleep begins the morning of. So all those tips that I was giving about, getting good at a high quality light in through your eyes in the first half of the day, that's gonna help you actually sleep better at night.

No joke, exercise, we know being active, helps encourage sleep. I would not exercise too close to bed But an early evening workout has been shown to boost sleep quality when it comes to actually getting to you know winding down I think we want to be really kind of cognizant of the light that we allow to enter our eyes in the latter half of the day So whereas in the first half you really want that bright light into your eyes You really want to avoid bright light in the in the evening because what that does is it tricks your brain into thinking that it's daytime and that's not when we sleep. We don't sleep during the day.

In terms of making your bedroom optimal, optimizing your bedroom for sleep quality, you want to make sure that it's cool. You keep it at a temperature of around 65 degrees, give or take. I mean, that could be pretty cool for some people. I mean, you get under the covers, warm yourself up, but that ambient cooler temperature has been shown to actually encourage higher quality sleep because our body temperature actually drops while we sleep, so that kind of supports that. But then also, there was a really interesting study that found that when people slept in an environment that was cooled to 65, 66 degrees, that they saw a proliferation of a kind of fat called brown fat.

Now brown fat is actually very good fat. Oh, God, so hard to remember that. Okay, brown fat is good. Brown fat is good. It's not the kind of fat that we gather on our hips and on our waistlines. It's a very sparsely located in the body, sparsely, sparsely. It's basically metabolically active fat. So it actually burns other fat.

It burns the kind of fat that we don't like, and it burns sugar and calories. So by sleeping in a cool room, it's actually really good for metabolic health, and it's good for sleep quality as well. You want to make sure that the room is dark. We're now seeing studies showing that even like low light, like candle light almost,

can affect next day cognitive function. So blackout curtains are great. And if you can't put up blackout curtains for whatever reason, a good eye mask works as well. Okay. Great. I also have a big fan of, I mean, I'm not a big supplementer, but magnesium can help people sleep.

There have been studies that have shown that I believe it was about 400 to 500 milligrams of magnesium daily. Okay. Can help. Dimming the street screens too. Or just leaving milligrams of magnesium daily. Okay. Can help. Dimming the street screens too, or just leaving lots of the bedroom first off. Yeah, that's. I,

your bedroom is for sleeping and for sex. Sleeping and for sex. That's it. Yeah. But if you're watching TV before you go to bed, I thought I was interested in you at some tips like turn down the screen, like the brightness.

Yeah, yeah, because the light emitted from our devices can easily reach that 1,000 locks. It can easily reach a light intensity that's capable of resetting our internal clock. And that was never thinkable, like I just can't sleep. Well, you were watching TV, right,

before you got in bed. I think people might know, but they're not really sure the way to hack around that. So I love that. And the other thing is we just had a caller who doesn't want to be in the air and they just called in, which I love this because they asked about sunscreen.

And I know you really get into sunscreen in your book too in depth, right? Kind of sunscreen to use. Yeah. When would you do with that? Well, I have a whole chapter in the genius life on environmental toxins. And my goal is not to fear monger, but it is to kind of let people know that there are certain chemicals in the environment, industrial chemicals that are under tested and that they should just be a little bit more critical of or skeptical of.

And these chemical-based sunscreens are one category of chemicals where we've been, we slather them on us every summer and on our children. And some of them, like oxybenzone, has been a proposed endocrine disruptor, meaning it can affect your system of hormones. And in an adult, that's not good news, right? No. But in a child, it's even worse news because any alteration to your to your finally tune system of hormones can potentially have lifelong effects. So the

sunscreen that I recommend, first of all, I think the sun is important. So you definitely want to expose your skin to the sun without sunscreen. You might put sunscreen on your face because there is you know that whole photo-aging thing. But generally, if you are at risk of burning, so if you're gonna go on vacation, whatever, you don't wanna burn, then the sunscreen that I recommend is a mineral-based sunscreen like a zinc oxide or something like that, which forms a physical barrier between your skin

and the sun, not a chemical one. So, I mean, I grew up, here's the thing, I grew up, my mom and my, and we were all afraid of getting too much sun because we're all pretty fair skinned. And the truth is, when you're fair skinned, you need less time in the sun to create adequate levels of vitamin D. So when you go on vacation,

you're inevitably gonna spend too much time in the sun. But these sunscreens that we slather ourselves on, I mean, the FDA recently did a, or there was a study recently where they found that when we adhere to the instructions on these, you know, on the drugstore sunscreens, that they get, they enter circulation. And they, not only that, not only do they enter circulation, but they reach a level far higher than the FDA's, what's called a threshold for toxicological concern.

So that doesn't sound good, right? No. And so, you know, I mean, I'm just not, I'm not, I don't think that we should be taking those kinds of risks with our health. No, I think, no, you can find, and you can find mineral-based ones at the drugstore, right? Yeah.

They're now easy to find. They have like titanium-based, they have, I mean, get those, like, that's, yeah, that's important. I've known, I'm glad you said that, because I think that's helping a lot of people. We got to get into plastics because I've been hearing this, you've talked about a lot in your book, like how bad, we don't realize plastics for a while,

I was getting a food delivery service and it came in a plastic container and then I was microwaving it and that's bad. How bad are plastics? Plastics are not good. I mean, plastics are, plastics are usually made, first of all, I mean, it's not good for the environment, but aside from that, plastics are made with compounds

like thalates and bisfinal A and other bisfinals, which have been known for a century at this point to possess profound estrogenic qualities. A century. Yeah, for a century. Yeah. No cares. The estrogenic properties of BP. Whether you like air, yeah.

What the fucking, okay, it was in 1930, in the 30s, that in London, it was discovered that BPA had actually pharmaceutical potential as acting like this, what's called a Xenoestrogen, like an estrogen mimic. And they were actually looking for a drug that could mimic the hormone estrogen to give to women to treat problems, you know, like associated with like, you know, symptoms of menopause and...

Yeah, we're just gonna poison you. Yeah. And put this plastic tampon inside of you as well. And then take the birth control pill that's gonna fuck up your life. Well, here's what's so crazy, is that they... Let's do all that shit. They then made a discovery.

They found a new compound called DES. And DES made it to, it got approved to be used as a drug and they were injecting it into millions of women. They were using it in the production of livestock. And what they found out later, after it was already injected into millions of women, was that the girls being born to mothers who were injected with this DES compound were developing gutter and malformations, vaginal cancers, and things like that. So DES was quickly banned.

But BPA is chemically related to DES And the reason why it was allowed to enter the marketplace in the form of plastic because it was they were able to use BPA to create these hard Plastics is because it was thought to be inert, right? We create these plastic, you know, furniture water bottles with it But we now know that BPA is able to leech into the foods that we store in these plastics, into beverages that come in these in our plastic water bottles, and that people who eat in restaurants where food is regularly stored in BPA containing containers have, I mean, 97% of all of us have measurable levels of BPA in us for that reason. So what do we, so what are the easy, so you get like a yogurt that comes in a plastic container, like everything comes in plastic in the store. So you're saying don't buy any of it. I mean, I think you really ought to minimize your consumption You know, nobody's gonna be perfect and when I'm thirsty and I'm traveling to the airport and I don't have a choice

I'm gonna buy plastic in a water bottle. Yeah, the point is just reducing your consumption of plastic and also doing things that are gonna encourage the detoxification of these compounds and when I say detox I'm not selling any detox supplement or tea or anything like that. Your body is a masterful detoxifier. All you gotta do is give it the right ingredients. So eating a balanced diet, eating a healthy diet, which I describe in my book, The Genius Life, and also doing things that help detoxify you

like sweating regularly. I love that. I wanna get it in for it, Sanna. Super great. The best. Yeah, you literally like release these compounds in your sweat. I have a steam shower in my house.

Does that do you think that's as good? I think, well, I don't do the trick. I don't like steamers because I can't tell if I'm sweating or if it's just the water from the steamer on me. Right. But eventually if you, they're long enough, you know, they're sweating. I know it's not the same.

Yeah. But it's pretty awesome. Yeah, so plausibly it would be. But it was interesting to read that it does help with like depression. I mean, I know that helps, because I didn't infrared sauna once for a week. I did every day for a week and it was like to read that it does help with depression. I mean, I know that it helps, because I didn't infrared solowatts for a week. I did every day for a week and it was like,

I felt like it cured my back pain. And I feel that I felt much clearer and I felt much more focused. I feel like it did all the things that you talk about in your book. I feel like your book, The Genius Life, really did reinforce some things that I kind of been dabbling in.

Yeah, I'm so glad. I'm sweating plastic and sweating more. That's great. Yeah, I mean sweating I'm sweating plastic and sweating more. That's great. Yeah, I mean sweating Sweating is a major detox like route of excretion for certain heavy metals for these compounds You want to make sure that you're you know peeing regularly. You're staying hydrated. Yeah, taking up water hydrator I yeah, and sex is good because sex you get all sweaty too You get all set enough sex. Yeah, but when we're not eating, because a lot of people call in Max and the show.

And they're like, I don't want sex, our low sex drive, my partner doesn't want it. And then I have to say, well, how's their diet? Do they eat? Do they exercise? Oh no, I remember one called in a few weeks ago about her husband couldn't get a reduction. He was still pretty young.

So I was like, well, what's going on? And she's like, well, he just eats fast food, and he drinks a lot, he smokes a lot. Of course, that's gonna have an impact. And your desire, your libido, your ability to maintain a healthy erection, like all these things are proven. So if you're calling me with stuff,

like I'm gonna ask you, like, how is your diet? Like, what are you doing to help that? Yeah, diet is important. When you're healthy, you're horny. And diet, please. Are you horny all the time? Ha haad please are you horny all the time? My horny all the time man. I just I don't mean to say because he is a genius and smart but but I just see him surround my way with what everyone's a fun place

Yeah, everyone Monday nights date night there. I heard that date night. What was it singles night? Oh Jesus Monday night at everyone I need to up my own game game then. I don't know. Your game is so so strong. Yeah. You've got game. I'm just teasing you, but I do think it's fun because you know shit there too. You're walking around. But then I've seen you there. I'm like, oh, he's easy. Look, I guess you can't really buy something bad at R1. Well, Max approve of what I'm buying in my cart. Do you check out people's cart? If you're dating someone, do you go in their house and look at what's in their refrigerator? I'm always curious, yeah, when I go to friends houses,

I like to see like what supplements they're like. I'll find some, yeah. Yeah, and when I'm dating girls, yeah, I'm always curious. Yeah, for me to date, for me to date someone, I mean, for me to care about somebody, it's just inevitable that I'm gonna like, I'm not like, I don't project, I'm not pushy, but, you know, I like to like kind of have a positive influence, you not pushy, but I like to have a positive influence.

Yeah, I feel like you do. I'm everyone. Yeah, I feel like all the people that I've dated have left them a little bit better. I don't know. I like to hope that. I feel that too. It's like camping.

I'm like, I leave the camp ground. I leave the camp ground when you camp. I leave the camp ground. I feel like I do that with all my axes. I'm like, they went into therapy, they stopped drinking, they knew where the clitoris was. I feel like I do that with all my exes. And like, they went into therapy, they stopped drinking, they like knew where the clitoris was. Like I feel like they're all like a little bit better off. That's amazing.

Yeah. I feel like- Like your girlfriend's like darn, using X-girlfriends like no more plastic, they dim the lights. Yeah. More brim and d- I don't know, right? I mean, that's what we do.

I feel like I- I've guided many a man down to healthier paths. Yeah, I've dated girls that were like kind of like low, low meat eaters, you know, and I think that like eating meat is just about that too. I've been in and out of meats, doing meat, not doing meat. It's so confusing, right? I'm so confusing.

It's so confusing. Yeah, I don't know what to do. I'm like now I'm like someone cooking for me. It's like it's more vegan. Yeah, I firmly plant my flag in the Omnivore camp and I say that eating high quality, you know, SB high quality. High quality, yeah, because I don't want to support factory farms, right? But like eating like grass fed red meat I think is so good for you.

If you're a pre-menopausal woman, especially, there's no more bio-level source of iron. You know, an iron deficiency anemia is something that's super common. I think in women, especially when they're low meat eaters. So yeah, I've dated girls who are kind of on the veering vegan vegetarian because it's trendy and it's also become kind of politicized because of the perception that we have that somehow eating animal products is bad for the environment. It's not inherently bad for the environment. It's not inherently bad for the environment. It's just that the way the factory farm system is currently set up.

But that includes animal, you know, I mean, we're hearing off topic, but it includes animal production. It's all a topic. Yeah, and so I've actually gotten them to eat like a little bit more meat, some fatty fish, and they all, you know, they've felt better. And that's like totally an anecdote, you know, it's not. No, it's good. Right, and everyone's got to figure out what's right for them.

But yeah, I feel that Matt, there's a lot of good, Max, there's a lot of good information in here. You've got to check out his book, The Genius Life. Max Lugavir, get his book, we'll put the link at sexwithamely.com. Max, I got to ask you the five quicky questions we ask all of our guests. Oh, my God.

What's your biggest turn on? Oh my God, kindness, that's what came to mind. I love a girl who's kind. Like when I'm on a date and I'm with a girl and if they're rude to the waiter, I just know that that's not like. Biggest turn off. Biggest turn off, oh man. Ah, I would say I'm not being open-minded.

What makes good sex? Well, I learned this from you. Communication is lubrication. That's right. Something you would tell your younger self about sex in relationships. Oh, man. Just have as much as you can. Number one sex tip. Number one sex tip. Our relationship tip.

Yeah, number one sex tip. Just, I don't know. Eat healthy, but like maybe, uh, eat, you know, lay off the crucifers vegetables, if you've got like sex in, you know, in the- You're this, no broccoli. Ah. Who just like, who wants to be bloated?

I just don't have fiber. Nobody wants to be bloated. Jamie was gonna, we found this out because Jamie was gonna make her boyfriend some kind of vegetable that was gonna be broccoli and people just the phones lit up. They're like, don't do broccoli tonight. Don't do it. Max, my goodness.

Max, Lou Geveer, thanks for being here. He's at Max Lou Geveer on Instagram, the Genius Life. All right, guys, thanks for listening and thanks to my awesome team, Ken, Chris, and Alisa, Brian, our interns, producer, Jamie, and Alisa Brian, our interns, producer Jamie and Michael. Was it good for you? Email me feedback at sexwithemla.com.