Sex With Emily - Adventurous Sex: Hot New Things to Try Tonight

Episode Date: April 11, 2015

Tonight’s episode answers the question on many monogamous couples’ minds: How can we spice up our sex life? With the help of Anderson and her assistant Madison, Emily gives tips on how to get adventurous and try new things with your partner, from new sex positions to switching up locations to the lost art of phone sex. The gang also gets into some fun sexting stats: How often are Americans getting freaky with their phones? Sure the sex was wild and crazy in the beginning of your romance, but how do you keep things hot past the honeymoon phase? In this show, Emily breaks down those little ways to keep things spicy, long after that new relationship smell wears off. Don’t miss it! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily! Tonight's episode. This is the one you want to hear. It's the question I get asked all the time. Emily, how do I spice up my sex life? It used to be so good and now it's just kind of blah. The answer, well we're going to cover that today, but you kind of get adventurous.

You got to do something a little bit different. It doesn't have to be a huge gesture. You don't have to buy a sex jungle gym. Like I have, you really don't have to. But I'm going to tell you some little things you could do that will rock your sex life. Today's show answering your emails on adventure sex and giving tips to help you expand your sexual repertoire. And I'm here with Madison. I'm a wonder assistant of everything and I'm also here with Anderson. But I need to talk to you Madison real quick

about our crave Vest Bernucleases, which we're all obsessed with in the office. Absolutely. So we ran all the time and you've seen me Anderson, the necklace with the, did you take one for your wife? I wanted you to give her one for Christmas, but I can't remember. No, I didn't.

You were like the only one like Drew gave one to his wife and and one. Alright, we'll be part of the club. Yeah, you're not in the club right now. Wow. I don't know why. She's actually angry. You're on the outside looking in.

What abs? Do you have one that's got like a coil, so you can actually use it while it's around your neck like it and then it's pretty bad. Yeah, you can't know, but take it off. Take it off. It comes off. It's like a beautiful hanging necklace. It looks like a pen.

I wear it all the time because it's actually one of my favorite layering pieces. So I love it. It's a vibrator in orgasm. It's jewelry in orgasms, which is one of my favorite layering pieces. So I love it. It's a vibrator in orgasm. It's jewelry in orgasms, which is sort of the most perfect thing. So I actually got a funny email. One of my long-time listeners who I adore Greg, Astrovich. You know, Greg, he must all the time. I read all your emails, Greg. He emailed me the other day. He said, I'm at the Embassy Suite today because my wife does the scrapbook weekends where they stay here and crop all weekend He's a good husband

My kids and I got in the elevator with four women who I think were inebriated One was wearing a vest bar. I asked her necklace was a vest bar and she said yes My kids asked what that meant and I just had athotype in necklace I don't know if the woman was embarrassed funny story had to share and I feel like they keep popping up everywhere Like I know actually really funny story had to share and I feel like they keep popping up everywhere like I know actually really funny story I My other assistant and I went to some concert or something and ended up at a 24-hour diner in West Hollywood afterward and we're next this table and there's all this commotion going on

There's these drunk people and one of the girls I can hear her yelling No, you guys like I can use my sex toy at the table and I look over and she is waving around her cray besper and using it on the gay guys at the table next to her to show them the vibrations. And I look over at Kimber who's of course wearing her besper and she wears it everywhere. And I was like, Kimber and we look over

and we're like, hey, you guys have the same necklace. So long story short, it's everywhere. It's everywhere. It's at the table next to you at a gay restaurant. I think the rest of the gay's love it. The thing is, it's always a conversation piece. What are the orgy take place after that? Yeah.

It didn't, but I mean, we'll talk later. It was really pretty short. Yeah, the orgy's coming up next. There are some husband swapping. Really? Would you guys? No, no, no, no, no. With us, we're watching.

We're watching all these gay couples kind of like be weird and scandalous together. And we're like, well, this is fun. I got to go and kimbers, like, I could stay here forever. I was like, no, I'm tired. That's the next story. But the reason why we're talking about them is because we just got to call, because I love them.

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It looks so good, okay? Okay. Eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that block our sacred institutions. Betrubized, they call them in a fight on day. Hey, Emily. You got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.

The girls got a hair stand. Oh, my. The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry? It's shrink? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me?

Oh my God, I'm so, so, so, so. Being bad feels pretty good. You know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between for more information. Go to sexwithendela.com. It is your non-stop destination

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What do you got? I am April 14th, which is this Tuesday. I'm going to be in Las Vegas. I'm co-hosting the People's Podcast Awards and being gets with Chris Jericho. It was going to be a dance miller right now. It's Chris Jericho. I was going to be a Drew as well. I thought it won't be. Yeah, Drew was going to do it too and now it's Chris Jericho. Do you know him? Wesler. Yeah. He's a wrestler. Yeah. And he's like a band. Last week I told you on this on this very program that he's a nice guy. Oh, so we already talked about this. Oh, pretty. Yeah. Yeah. Good. Well, I've heard a lot more about him. I had a conference call with about this. Oh, pretty sweet. I think. Yeah, good.

Well, I've learned a lot more about him. I had a conference call with him. I will not meet him. I fly in. I get there at 430. The show starts at 6 and then we practice. His move in the ring. His patented move is he beats off and then throws it like spider man's, his victims.

He throws seem in the face. Yeah, that's amazing. That's it. That's it. That's it, okay. But I don't think it's that. I listened to his podcast today and just to get a sense, and he talks first of all faster than I do, and more than I do.

So it'll be an interesting, it'll be an interesting. It'll be fast awards. Yeah, it'll be an, it'll be an, the words will be over, it's like 50 awards, it'll be over 22 minutes,

and it'll be competitive talking all night. It'll be a good time. But you guys can also stream it. I think if you go to podcastawards.com, and you know what's so amazing, Anderson and what's touching, Madison? What up?

Is that so was a big call. It was the people from the podcast awards, like the what's it called at the new media expo. And I was there 10 years ago, the very first one, the first podcasting conference and the owner of a remembered man, the conference guy goes, you were here, there was like 10 of us, you know. Yeah, it was like five, six years. Literally. And he's like, there was an award show.

I mean, maybe there was like 200, but it was really small. Now it's like thousands of people. The presenters I was gonna say it was like five six years. No, literally. And he's like, there was an award show. I mean, maybe there's like 200, but it was really small. Now it's like thousands of people. The presenters are giving the awards to themselves. For exactly. I mean, I even know people were like, but it was a small little community. And now we're all coming together again because podcasting has come so far. How do you get nominated for these awards? Because I'm on two very successful podcasts. I'm IP a lot of money. And I'm not the only way that I'm hearing about these guy damn podcast awards is from you. I don't you know

I got nominated, but then you had to do it because choice thing and I had to I gave I sent out the link to a bunch of people I don't know if I might have to be up there and read my but there's a thing love lines not made in the same category Feels like it's fixed. I feel like there's grease the palms being grease. There's like 20 categories because there's so many great podcasts now But it's also love line and sex with Emily in mature adult category. So, you know, it's a win-win win, unless someone else wins, and that I piss. I wouldn't even give them their award. I'd be like, dude, so that'd be fun.

I'm excited about that. And also one more thing is on May 12th. Hey, it's a day after my birthday. Let's all celebrate. Let's all celebrate. Let's celebrate. Dude, we've never gotten drunk together. And I just feel like it's a right of passage.

To get drunk with me. Yeah, yeah It is why haven't we been drunk in a good time? Where was you like oh? Stress or I'm drunk most of the time so it's pretty here. No Soon is on out of here. Yeah, I'm like in the car at my home. I you know You wait to get home. I like yeah Hence why do you think they're on these things are on these microphones? Yeah, okay? You don't get drunk. I drink dry. Okay, so and I'm May 12, Lynnette Corolla, who's awesome. She's a podcast for crying out. Yeah, I wasn't that

in Corolla. We are doing a live podcast. It's her podcast. I'm gonna be the guest. It's at 8 p.m. Ring Horn flats. Where that is but more info. It's in Hollywood. It's a live show. We call it. Live show. Yeah, Dick Horn flats. Dick Horn flats. We changed It's a live show. You could do a live show? Yeah. Dick Horn Flats. Dick Horn Flats. We changed the name for the show. Ring Horn Flats. No, it's her show for crying out loud and I'm the guest. Ring Horn Flats.

Yeah, I might be into that. I came to both of Europe and I'm podcasting. Why am I fucking birthday, man? Dude, this will be fun. It's a day after you're birthday. It's a Tuesday, right? I don't know. Yeah.

I don't know anything about it. I'll bring you whiskey. Yes. Is it time for me to bring you a new bottle? Yeah, it is. Really? I can't remember. I can't remember. Is it whiskey?

Okay. So today's show is going to be, it's really important. I feel very, very strongly about the show. I'm going to give you a little sex in the news first, but I just want to say that, you know, I, I've been trying to change a lot. I've been going through a lot lately, like in a really good way. Yeah, you know, I've been trying to change a lot. I've been going through a lot lately, like in a really good way. Because light.

Yeah, you seem very clear. I do. Yeah. Oh, that's sad. Well, you did last week. Oh, and this week, not so much. You slip. Well, because I couldn't, you know,

get the lights off in my rental car. She comes in, she's like, I need a man's help. How do you turn off lights in a car? No, she's kind of, I need help. I need a man. And then I was like, those are too strong. I walked in, you're sorry to interrupt your Pac-Man game, but I was like, I need a man. I was playing Gallagher. Dude, I love Gallagher. Can we play, I kick your ass down

to be whatever, but no, no, no, I had it in my house growing up. Did you really? So listen, so what I think my, my uncle, um, no, let me tell you something. You ever bang the joystick? I'm sorry. No, but it's not bad. Yeah, I didn't know what a bang tell like 20. I didn't know what a rob against anything in orgasm. Don't get me started. So my uncle, I'm going to get back to this, what the show is about. But he, this was kind of major as a kid to have an uncle who own pinball parlors. So we need extra ones. We had four pinball machines. Listen to this. In the 80s, I had full size Pac-Man, full size Gallagher or Galaxi. No wonder you didn't discover sex.

Guys were probably coming over. Oh yeah, I thought they liked me. Yeah, I sit over there, I'm gonna go play these games. Level 22, Pac-Man. You don't need to put corners in as the greatest. No, it's free. I had a pretty good, that was the only good part of my childhood. So I've been thinking though lately,

because I've been doing a lot of just, you know, I went to, with my family for two weeks, it was this virtual trip. I went to Tony Robbins seminar if anyone knows about Tony Robbins, Love and Marjardum, whatever you're however you find trying to make change in your life. I've been trying some things and it's hard. I tried to meditate. You know we talked about this just when we came in because Anderson actually looks amazing. He's lost how many pounds? It's five. Do you not know how to talk about this there? He's also a lot of weight.

He looks great. I'll go up and down, up and down. I'm down by 20. He's very disciplined and he's very healthy. He's got the fifth bit, the whole thing. And I was thinking about change is hard. And like, I've been trying every day to just little things, like meditate twice a day. I try to write every day.

I'm afraid of meditation because I'm afraid I'm going to fall asleep. Well, you might, but it's better. I'm always worried about being tired. You know what I mean? So the meditation thing seems like I'm gonna, it's gonna make me sleepy. Do you know that meditation actually gives you energy? And so the reason why the kind I do,

I do it twice a day for 20 minutes. The first time I wake up in the morning and then I do it like two or three, is because it actually gives you energy. So it's been great for me and I've been on and off for years, but this is the most consistent I've been, but I just think it's just every day, just little changes, right?

You do one thing like some days I don't do it. I don't beat myself up, but this is the most consistent I've been, but I just think it's just every day, just a little change is right, you do one thing, like some days I don't do it, I don't beat myself up, but I'm trying to change and just different things. And so I think people listen to the show a lot, it's like, it's whole self-help thing. A lot of times you just, you know, you're listening, you're like, yeah, I'm here giving good advice, I'm gonna try that.

And then there's like this gap, they're like, I hear what you're saying about tying my wife up, but like I don't really know that that would be art, you know. So I thought, you know, let's really try to help people tonight. I want to give you tips that you can actually use. Now that you can't use other ones, but that'll be like, kind of like, oh, I get this. Like I could go home and try this one, two, three. We're going to be a lot of tips tonight to kind of just make it different. Be more adventurous. Do something different because let's be honest with sex.

We all know the pattern. Amazing at the beginning. What it is about you, but I think that they're pretty decent ideas. And I seem to always get these fresh new ideas when I'm doing a show with you. Yeah. And I just thought of something that you could maybe do. That would be good. What? Is I have a series of shows.

It can be standalone shows. They'd be sex with Emily shows, but they could stand alone. And they would be geared towards a guy like who has a wife who he wants to do certain things with, but he's not sure how to broach it. And there'd be like a code like you listen to this show with her, you just pop it on like you know, casually and you would gear the show towards talking about that and bring them together or vice versa. I've a woman.

You're the exercise. But it would be almost like a trick like, you know, like, well, a lot of couples listen to my show together because they always email me and say, oh, we listen together. Because I think it's I'm sort of the third party. Like Emily says so we should probably, you know, but if they're not open to that, uh-huh, maybe like have like, you know, a show in the title would be like giraffe-like, or something, or something. Something's strange. Like a coat.

A coat. Like, I think they're watching the wildlife channel. And you tell the guys to listen to this one with your girlfriend or if you want to like get to into the anal play or tie in her up or something because I really talk a lot about that on that program and it might get her. Right, that's good.

Yeah, and I could talk about like what the fears she might be having around it and kind of debunk those. Yeah, I like it. Especially the ladies, I think when they hear another like a normal, same smart woman, right saying smart woman, especially somebody like you, powerful and a strong woman, strong voice, talking about something there. And like the way they can break it down, I like it.

We'll do that. Let's do a whole series like Humbin' Naxig we'll do like 50 of them. Okay, cool. But at the beginning of the relationship, we know it's like you have almost like 100% like if there was money involved, back guarantee that you will have great sex, first six to 12 months for a relationship and then you know

You might even say like oh, this is the best sex in my life and then eventually you know You're having sex all the time at the beginning like rabbits and then there's always that night Madison's you have this in your relationship where You just you watch the movie you know because you always watch movie and you never finished the beginning like you're Sir dating and one night you just finished the movie, you know, because you always watch movie and you never finish the beginning, like, when you're starting dating. And one night you just finish the movie. And you're like, yeah, it's okay. We still like each other when we have sex, but tonight we watch the movie. What's really funny is like, I still go to that all the time.

That guy who made the spreadsheet of all his wife's excuses and one of them, my favorite one was like, I want to watch an episode of, I want to finish watching the episode of friends. And everyone's like, it's a rerun. How dare you? And it's like, I wanna watch an episode of, I wanna finish watching the episode of Friends. And everyone's like, it's a rerun, how dare you. And it's like, I'm sorry, sometimes I would really rather just watch a show without being pod at. Like, I just wanna watch my show. I know.

And it doesn't mean that I don't find you attractive. It doesn't mean I don't wanna have sex with you. It just means like, tonight, maybe I just wanna watch a show and not be treated like a piece of meat. Exactly. And yes, we experienced that maybe about like seven months into actually being in a relationship. Right.

That's actually being like one-on-one. Right. That's about right. That's about the time limit. You're like, OK, now we got a negotiate. Because at the beginning, like I said, you always want to sex. Then you realize some people, someone wants it more,

someone wants it less. It can even switch at certain times. But no matter what, even if you don't feel like having, and that's fine, of course, for you to say not to my honey, I'm watching Rachel's New Haircut on Friends. And I totally got it. I had her haircut, by the way. Um, they're Rachel.

Rachel's haircut, you had that? I had the Rachel. I could see that. I wanted the Rachel. I wanted the Rachel. Like, did five. Oh my God, no, I do that to me. I had the Rachel, it wasn't cute.

And then I had it again, by mistake, a few years ago. I was like, what did I tell you to cut the Rachel? It was terrible haircut. But so I was just thinking that yeah, you know, right. And then you got to, of course, compromise because if you said no every time, that would be a problem. But here are just some little things, you know, that we're gonna get you that you can do to spice it up.

We're gonna give you like things that you can like tangible. And I like to hear that Anderson's actually is learning a lot from the show. But sometimes I think I just wanna make it easy. I don't wanna be like, oh things that you can like tanger bulls. And I like to hear that Anderson's actually is learning a lot from the show. But sometimes I think I just want to make it easy. I don't want to be like, oh God, I got to buy a red room, like, you know, red room of pain. I know what I just said. Red room of pain.

Yeah, it's a 50 shades reference. They think they got about stuff. So we're going to get back to the end of that one. Did you even go? No. OK. I had a girlfriend in high school. I remember she's a real pain in the ass.

And she liked to watch cartoons at her school. And when you're in high school and you get a girlfriend a real pain in the ass and she'd like to watch cartoons at for school And when you're in high school when you get a girlfriend who let you you know do things to her It's pretty exciting Yeah, and I wanted to do things to her and she's like I want I want to watch the show and I'm like, okay Can you just watch the show and I'll do things? And I remember she's just sitting there like watching this car is so creepy She's watching a cartoon on the couch and I was just happy sex with her She's like seriously, she was like almost like, her arm underneath her head,

just kind of like, relaxing watching TV. This is what you're pounding away, or how? You don't even care when you're like 17, right? Yeah, I was like 16, she was like 15, 16. You don't even care, you're like, it's an arface, it's a whole, I'm in. I'm in.

I don't need anything, yeah. I felt very shameful afterwards. This is creepy, I've actually had. And then we watched team in. You did? I've had this experience recently, where I was like, you're gonna have sex with me, like, I'm gonna be doing this.

Yeah, like, I'm just a fish on my own. Are you like a crossword puzzle or something? No, I was watching, I think maybe, they just put CSI a lot bigger. Yeah, please. Okay, got it. So she told me it was extra month. Yeah, that's strange.

I would rather just say no, but you know, you know what, you know what, you know what I do that to be honest is the morning sex. When you wake over with the dick in your back and you're like, okay, I got it. Like you wanna have sex, I'm tired. If you just do it from behind, I'm fine. Like I don't know how to hate it.

I'm probably not gonna have an orgasm in the morning because I'm tired. But yeah, you have a bone already. Let's get that to do it. Fine, and I lay there, but it's not like I'm sitting there reading or texting, although I have been known to you. Yeah, I was gonna say you check your emails. Sometimes I check my email.

Okay. That's when you should send out your mass email. What? Your new flutter. Sex. Sex with Emily is actually happening right now. Right this moment. Right that down. You know, like some typos.

I mean, you have no idea. I'm like, you know what's happening. Yeah, you have no idea. Dude, that's happened before. I know I've never had sex during the show. Okay, a little bit of sex in the news, because we found some good ones to speak. A Bluetooth vibrating implant

could be the next big thing in sex toys. You ready for this? We've heard of Bluetooth vibrators, right? Like the, oh, I got it. The new one. The new one. I actually plugged it in and charged it. The new one is the back door ones, the new one.

Oh, the new one. The new one. Is it really called a new one? Yeah. Because it do a and a new one. And the new one is for Yeah, it's a do a and a new and the new is for couples. It's remote control and blue tooth. What the do is for couples. Yeah, the do is for couples. The new is for back door couples. Okay, it's really cool. It's a new thing. It's a terrifying. Why? The terrorists are going to hack our wives and girlfriends. No, we're going to lose the entire country because our wife. It's actually one of the story. I'm just playing with this. We're in the vibrator. Yeah. No, it's like, we're gonna lose the entire country because our wives are real quick.

No, I'll be into this later. It's actually one of the, I'm just playing two of these vibrators in here. We're gonna, no, they have to be wearing the vibrator at the top. Oh, sorry, no, but I thought it was like implanted. Oh, this is in my mind. Oh, this part, don't get here, I go.

I just, it's hitting me again. No, you're so right. We can totally like get all of the waves of all the, all the, all the pattern wave, what is it, what would it be? All the frequencies of all of them and make everyone one orgasm in America. It's America. Same time. Do listen to this though. Horney women can rejoice everywhere because sex toy implants are going to be a thing. Imagine the ability to have your clitoris stimulated anywhere

you go forever. Jezebel reports, Bluetooth controlled vibrating clitoral implants will become a huge deal. Fun factory and I love fun factory. They actually, I've been playing with their Amorino, which is a great G-Spot Vibrator. It's AMOR, I-N-O. It's awesome. Anyway, they make amazing toys, love them. They are introducing the medical grade silicone implant called orgasmia. Imagine that. I wonder how many naming meanings they had. As a device, that can be used on its own for hands-free orgasms. So just to go back to the earlier I was saying, this Bluetooth now, you can control someone's vibrator

from your Bluetooth. This is like in your vagina, in your clitoris. So orgasmia gives women control over their arousal and pleasure. The motor nestles against the pelvis and users report that they stop noticing it after only three to four days of use. They're just in excruciating pain at first,

inspiring by the design of thermal electric watches, the device automatically recharges using body heat. As with all fun factory products, it's in case in medical grade, silicone, wait, it's in case in medical grade, silicone, weight, and it's in case in medical grade, silicone, while the implant can be synced to respond to remote commands from a number of electronic devices, including many smartphones. So and along with this thing that's implanted in you, they're also

offering discrete remote control designed to look like rings, watches, necklaces more. So you could like control it through like your Fitbit watch. So every time now, what, what, once this goes down, every time someone fiddles with an earring or something, I'm going to think that they turn themselves on right now, literally. But here's the thing, it's only be done being done by Beverly Hills plastic surgeon. Not cheap, 6500 plus the device, but it lasts a long time, a 20 year warranty for the motor and fun factory with a couple, half cover, half the cost upgrades. Okay, this just concerns you from a medical purpose perspective.

I mean, think about like IUDs. I mean, every night we get a call from someone on Love Line saying, Yeah, I put them on top of the fridge, so I don't forget what I had in there. That's some lost and found stuff going on. Yeah, we'll put them back on top of the the the Fridge so I don't forget what I had some lost and found stuff going on. Yeah Thanks man, that's really smart you leave them there so you know you got them, but then goddamn janitors Yeah, I damn janitors. This is doing his job. Sorry. Okay, so think about the IUD, right? I've never had to I have an IUD right now my body rejected it for like first three months

It was like it's a painful, but an IUD is an implant that you put in, gives you birth control for three to five years, depending on the ones. So it's a commitment. So, but why, like, first of all, if I had a thing in me that it was resting on my clitoris with a toy, I wouldn't go to work. I would just sit on my orgasms all day.

I mean, this doesn't sound, I mean, this isn't for women, if this was for women who are pre-orgasmic or couldn't experience pleasure and joy, but for people who have money, who want to spend it on weird shit. I kind of want to do it just to try it, I really don't know. I'm afraid of the paint, I got to talk to Drew about it, I think it's not good. It sounds really dangerous.

So dangerous? I mean, getting the IUD it put in, it really bad, that doesn't even have a motor on it. I mean, the best mood all the time now. It's made by watch makers, the guy gets a wine. I'm factory. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, the best mood all the time now. It's made by watch makers. You get to win. No, no, no, it's made by amazing sex toy line. If you go to good vibes.com code Emily, you get discounted all these toys.

But here's a problem. Certain waves, certain things are going to trigger it by mistake. Probably, it's brand new. You're like checking out at the supermarket and all of a sudden it starts humming. You're going to be in trouble. In trouble? Is it really trouble? Actually scans your bananas in a band. Yeah, what happens at TSA? Yeah

I honestly I wouldn't trust my boyfriend to have like a control to my pleasure all the time It'd be really mean. And then if you break up with someone and they have the code We'd be like a dinner with my mom and he'd be like Let's see. That's the fun part. That's what I like the vibrating so this is like they already got the under way that I'm talking about I've got the vibrating panties and that you put the thing in and I've done that boyfriend went to a party and he had the promote and it's kind of hot that's I'm saying you guys you're going out with your partner you've been together a long time at that night she's wearing the panties you've got a little remote control

pocket and everyone's well you know you're standing on talking to your boring friends is y'all the, you turn on the vibrator and then you go to sex and the bathroom or on the way home. It's hot. But this I I'm not implanting at any time soon. Just saying. Okay, sexting stats show just how much Americans get freaky with phones. As smart phones have now become the norm sexting is more happening all over the damn place. So who's doing it? How often are they doing it? And just what the hell are these people setting to each other?

Well, now we have the answer to those and many other questions thanks to this brand new infographic. The NSA. Thank God for it. Exactly. The NSA is the right word. They're rocking it. Exactly.

They have an infographic, which you know are great because you just have to look at pictures. Here's a few more interesting details that you'll learn from it. More than 35% of Americans admit to sexting. 90, have you sexed? But have you sexed in Madison? Oh, yeah. I was sexing before it was cool. But do you still sexed in a relationship?

I mean, I usually don't instigate it. But yeah, like everyone smiled during the day. I'll get like a random text message. And you're like, I'm here. I'm here. Yeah, I'm like, all right, let's just save that. Spunk for home. How about you? I've been with my wife for a very long time.

See, this is why you need to send her a sexy text. But before a sexy night, I used to send Polaroids to people. In the mail? Or does that hand them? They get like a week later after the date. Like, get up with the pigeon. That's cute. Just keep them into their hand when you're like,

like, bye, I was good seeing you. You just took my little polar right of your penis. Was it your penis? Actually, no, I did take pictures and I have them developed by a place once. That's not smart. Back in the day, that's what we had to do, kids. We did.

They can actually take them. Like they can confiscate nudies that they process. Like they're allowed to do. Right, but that's why you use polar right. We'll digress a little bit here, but I had a friend who actually worked at one of these places. And the first her first day working at the place, they said, all right, here's the number one thing.

If you get any newties, you make doubles and then you put them in this book back here and they had a massive book like a collection. Like a writing, they double them, yeah. They make duplicated. Just for fun. And then keep it in the giant book. It's really legal and corporate America.

Absolutely. I love it. Thanks for wanting to get a job at Walgreens. Okay, 95% since sexual thoughts are ideas. legal and corporate America. I love it. Thanks. You want to get a job at Walgreens. Okay. 95% sexual thoughts are ideas. 38% sent sexy selfies. 36% explicit images. 32% said they started sex scene between ages of 19 and 29.

And 56% say they who have done it admit that sex has improved, sexing has improved the relationships. And those who are dating are more likely to sex than those in the committed relationship. And I think you people in your committed relationships here probably need to sex more than others. And what I'm saying is not every day, but like I always say sex,

or four play starts after the last orgasm. So you could say, babe, last night, it was so hot. Are you so great this morning? I know you're like Mary, whatever, but women always want to hear that you're thinking about it in sex. Yeah, I'm defying sex thing, because I think I probably do it every day.

Oh. I think you're awesome. Last night sex was really great, or you looked really beautiful this time. I can't wait for this weekend. I know I do. Because my wife and my mom are right next to each other in my phone.

And twice I've sent something very inappropriate to my mom. So I- That's awesome. I think they're actually statistic about how many people have asked to accept something. Missed sex thing. So, that's awesome. Wait, I think they're actually statistic about how many people have accidentally sent something. Yeah, it's called like, where was it? Oh, oops, sexting accidents. Oh, that's funny.

16% of men have mistakenly sent a sex to a family member. The last one I sent to my mom, this is a true story. It was a joke, but I just out of the blue sent, I'll suck your dick for a dollar to my wife. Thank you, Noah. Make her laugh a little bit. No. To my wife, think you know it. Make her laugh a little bit. And then my mom said, no, thank you. That could be worse than that.

That was hilarious. Actually really fast before sexting, I have a really funny story. I just, I've never shared it before. I have to show you. Oh, go. I accidentally booty called my dad during a booty call. Like back when your phone could like dial on its own. You just sit on it.

I snuck out of the house to have sex with the guy. And while we were having sex, I guess my phone engaged, it was like in my pocket in a jacket that had got under my, like under my butt while we were having sex. And then we drove back to my house. Oh no. And as I'm driving up, I see that my front door is wide open. And I can see the silhouette of my dad, who was a huge dude.

My dad was like a football player It's like a linebacker Picking up the whole doorway looking like just serious hell and I was like, oh my god Oh my god, I had fun my phone and so I pull out my phone We were probably like five minutes from my house where we were having sex We'd like parked in a discrete location and so that was good. Yeah, exactly And so we're like we're like pulling up and I was like, oh, I need to find my phone I need to find out what's going on. So I pick up my phone. It says, call with dad 13 minutes. Oh, and we had definitely been having sex

about like 10 minutes ago. And so my dad is standing in the, and the doorway holding the phone just staring out. How old are you? I was like 18 maybe. Like so I was like, I was like, like legally allowed to have sex, but it was still awful.

He had for sure heard me having at least four to five minutes of sex. Don't get over that. What happened? It was awful. I made the guy drop me off down the block Yeah, he's got to get the fuck out of it And so he dropped me off down the block. I walked up and he's like where the hell is this guy? And he starts cussing oh my god. That's major. It was awful It was but I booty called my dad during a booty call that is epic That's actually could be in Anderson's next movie That would be too much of a sort in a movie a bit come on on. No, I know. Most ads, I think what he would have hung

up, right? I think most ads would. I wish to be here. Maybe he thought I was in danger. He had about because here the five minutes at least and then he probably heard me being like, all right, we got to get back. Okay. So what's your sex? I was like, I got to go. What do you think you heard? I mean, he heard that guy climaxing. This is before the orgasm. Okay, what was that like? I have no idea. I don't remember this guy at all,

but it was probably like really quiet. And then I was like, all right, give me a cigarette because I was super classy, is an 18 year old, and you should smoke right now. That's right, if you're dead, it was like more pissed about the smoking than he was about the sex. I told you not to smoke!

I was smoking cigarettes, that's crazy. It was all disease! We never spoke about it again. Like it didn't come out and that's for us. So funny, people have all these traumatic things with their parents that could get they walked on. I mean, having sex, they walked on me, you're like giving a blowjob,

and then they like, we never talk, we never spoke. Yeah. And you know that your dad's like, every time, you know, they get over it, they get over it. So my thing with this is, I think that I am not going to knock any way that you relate to your partner or anything sexual that's going to get you turned on and have persexual life, but I think phone I am not gonna knock any way that you relate to your partner or anything sexual that's gonna get you turned on and have persexual life, but I think phone sex dying art, that was fun

because it's not just words, it's like you can hear the voice and it's real time. So sometimes if you're sexing, you're not really master, I mean sometimes you can, but it's like how you're gonna masturbate and sex with one hand. The point of phone sex was that you'd both be getting off, or sometimes you'd just be getting them off, and I'd be lying, but doing dishes that were telling me,

I'm getting off. I mean, yeah babe, what's that noise? I'm like, oh nothing, just really wet here, you know? But I'm pretty good at phone sex, I can get people off, and I feel like you'd hear it, it's auditory, and, but the thing is, so I think it's a time, I mean, did you ever phone sex?

No. Did you? Okay, yeah. So I guess the same principle though, and I think it's a giant, I mean, did you ever phone text? No. Yes. Did you? Okay. Yeah. So I guess it's the same principle though, and I think they're both effective. Here's why I like them both,

is because there's something about being removed from your partner, and the reason why I think couple say it improves your sex life is because you can say those things that you can't say to your partner. Like, I see you right now. I'll tie it up with a ball gag in your mouth, roped from the ceiling, for example. And you might not wanna say that when you see them.

But then she's thinking that's hot too. Like that's another way to express your sexual desires. So that's what. I never got the phone sex thing. Never, never, never got, or like call the 976 numbers. I never understood. You know what people I like.

Yeah, I know. But like the guys, I mean that was a real market. People would call and they'd just say, I never understood it. It's a huge market. I used to phone that was a real market. People would call and just never understood it. It's a huge market. I used to phone tech operators on the show and they actually taught me how to do it. Pretty good. Well, what does this sound like?

Oh God. You can do it with me. Okay. Okay. When I come back Anderson, you moment, I got to give a quick shout out to my peeps, but I really think that you should have a little text with me. All right. But before we do that,

I need to tell you about the fleshlight. Bringing people together phone sex wise, you can use that during the phone sex. The fleshlight is such a great phone sex, a kutramant, because you could say, hey, baby, I want you to grab that fleshlight and I want you to wrap it on your cock. I tried to just run the show when I was doing something.

But you said you prefer dick and I keep thinking about that. I did. I'm weeping the way. You said you said dig over cock. Yeah, cock is a little harsh. Well, because I was phone-sexing with this guy or sexy. And he kept saying dick and I was saying cock. And I've noticed and I'm like, God does he want me to say dick?

And I was confused. Did that get in your head? Yes, you're a dick guy in my head. So anyway, so you can say, hey babe, what are you doing right now? Can I have that fleshlight? I got you. Okay, babe, what are you doing?

What are you wearing? Nothing, I'm naked, thinking about you. But we know that I'm not. Okay, babe, I want you to take that fleshlight. I want you to put a little leave on it. And I want you to put it over your hard cock right now. And I want you to rub it up and down, up and down. Does it feel good?

Does it feel like it's like my mouth? Does it feel like you're actually having sex? That's good. Thank you. Now, you were allowed to like, when they taught you, you were allowed to use descriptive stuff because- Oh, it just be very descriptive. My friend owned a bunch of those numbers.

And since they were out of LA, they couldn't use actual terms. They had to use like melons and all these like you from like food you from his and I he had me call like I was a secret shopper and I would call these poor women and I would try to get them to say filthy things and that's a full sex stuff about filipines. No but in L.A. you're not Russian right? For a while you weren't allowed to in L.A. like the ones that were like routed through Vegas and the Philippines was different. It was very bizarre. Did not know that. I know it's fleshlight. Okay, so fleshlight, it simulates the sensations of sex.

They have so many kinds of fleshlights. If you love a particular porn star, her vagina just might have been molded into a fleshlight. Maybe your butt too. Maybe your butt. Yep, her butt. There's like ones for men too. If you're gay, man, men might like a butt

of his favorite porn star. He might like the penis. It is up to you. They make so many different kinds of material. It's all patent. And actually NASA created it. It's the coolest material that makes you feel like it's. They have a idea.

What is it going to use for? No, probably not. They're like, we're doing good here. We're going to the moon. We're going to the moon. We're going to the moon. We're giving them a really good orgasm. Oops.

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Well, I guess I just did the phone sex, Anderson, so we don't really have to get into that. You've been saved by the bell. But let's get into some adventure sex. So this, we got a question from a listener, which is gonna tie in, how to keep the fire alive. Hey, Emily, I'm 20 years old, I'm a 20 year old man. I'm 20 years old actually, I'm not a man.

20 and he's working on that. That's a woman, actually. What apps? The fire go down. I'm from Australia, and I so appreciate it actually, because I've been asking people, and I love, I love, wouldn't do this if you give me your name. And you don't have to use your real name and your age,

and where you're from. Social. Excuse me? Social security number. Yeah, and your social security number and credit card. Cool. And the number on the back. I love your show Heaps and it's totally eradicated much of my fears about sex that I gained from going to a Catholic school.

Anyway, I've been with my boyfriend for 4.5 years and we've lived together for nearly two of those. We have a pretty great sex life and have experiment with a few things including a massage candle and the form 2 Jimmy Jane vibrator. Love it! My question is whether you have any tips to keep the awesome sex and attraction going as I am worried that due to our young age and that both of us were virgins and we met that it will be difficult to keep the fire live as we go forward. Any tips or advice? Cheers from the Southern Hemisphere, Rebecca. So this, I know.

Well, Rebecca is spawn this entire show. Because I'm going to lead into now some ways that not only Rebecca in a longer term relationship, but even if you're in a relationship for a month, or you've just slept with someone, these are things that you can use across the board Because desire in life is kind of fickle like lust is fickle desire changes in a relationship Sometimes like we were saying you want it more than your partner and You know it's a very beginning you have the best sex your life or so you can think and then the next month or 10 years You make it forward. It's like same old same old. And so the deal is is think about we think we

were talking about this right Madison like your favorite meal. Yes. What's your favorite meal? Oh you're asking me. Yeah. Besides pink. I do love a good cox sandwich but um no I'm a vegetarian. So probably my favorite meal would be like I'm good to veggie Oh, a black bean burger. Black bean burger. You love that, right? And you'd be like, if I was like Madison, look what I brought for you tonight. Are you vegan? I'm so excited. A black bean burger. I'm actually a pescatarian. I don't want to eat anything in my outfit. They don't eat everything I got. It's pretty old since she's a porn star and she's vegan, but she swallows a lot of semen, so I think that she's not vegan.

You know what I mean? Yeah, that's got to have some dairy in it. Right, my friend, okay, can we go back to semen and we remind me I have a really fast semen. Yeah, see, sorry. Okay, so we often use this analogy, okay, well first of all, what if I said to you, okay, Madison, but that's what you're gonna eat for the next six years for dinner and lunch.

Probably cry myself. Right, exactly, everyone's gonna be like, you know what, I miss cheese puffs. Yeah. Or I miss chocolate. So she needs to get a new boyfriend. Yeah. No. What I'm saying is when it comes to monogamous sex, it's like having the same meal every day for the rest of your life. So no, no, how great sex it is. It can feel like a routine long term, short term, all of it. So that's what we're doing. The show to help you with love and romance.

And so a lot of times, this is what I was saying earlier, is that when you hear me say adventurous or new things of bed, you are like, if you're me or like a lot of times this is what I was saying earlier is that when you hear me say adventurous or new things of bed You ought to if you're me or like a lot of people who are trying to get healthy think that's a lot of work or Emily's gonna do by a butt plug. I know it It's a little hard and having sex Exactly and they're like I'll listen to it, but I'm not gonna do it So I'm giving you this is something you can actually and I want you to do like one of them this week Can you pledge to me that one of these things? It's like ripping a bandie down for like how do I do this to do it Like one of them this week, can you pledge to me that one of these things, it's like ripping a bandy down

for like, how do I do this for you? Just do it, okay? So, and it's a great way to get started, try new things, it's going to be a new desire. So I'm getting to it, dude. You know I'm excited, you are a baby steps. So, here's the other thing, why I'm breaking it down for you, because you know like when you're in yoga class

or your exercise class, Madison, and they're like, you could modify this. They say like, okay, you could do it on your hands or you could go down your knees. These are all going to, these are like modifications. So I'm going to tell you some things. You could be like, well, I don't want to be, you know, I don't want to do knife play and have her learn knives

in my face, but it might be nice to have my hair pulled. Okay. So when I say like, think outside the bedroom, oftentimes in a relationship you sex in the same place all the time. Public sex. Public sex is great. So move outside the norm.

Even if it's like, so I'm gonna tell you hotel sex, amazing. Switching up location, so much so great. So first I had a Cosmo, Cosmopolitan magazine emailed me this week and for a press request, they're like, hey, why is hotel sex so great? I was like, it is my favorite thing in the whole world.

I wish I could live in hotel. Why is it so great? And I thought about it. I was like, what you can be as loud as you want, as messy as you want. It's like your new sheets, because you know what I mean? Like a new bed, a new sheet, it all feels good,

it's fresh. And it's just, you're looking at new things, you're not looking at your dirty dishes, and you away and it's different and you can have amazing sucks. It can completely get you out of any rock it might be. Everything, yeah, totally. Everything's new. But if you're like, we can't afford it, well like maybe you should have sex in your living room, in your backyard.

Do it just anywhere different. This is just the point that switching up location is key to just making things different. So like having sex on the washing machine during the spin cycle. I ever tried that. You've done that. I have done that. It's in my book actually too. So I had to try it. And the reason why it's because when you do something spontaneous and you're like, Hey babe, let's meet me in the kitchen. That increases the lust factor and adrenaline because it's something new and it demonstrates that you want to have them right there right now. And it falls in her court.

I mean, she needs to kind of take, because she's the one who's worried about it and chances are the guy will follow whatever she's into. Right, well, I'm actually not answering Rebecca's email specifically because this entire, but that thank you for bringing it back to her. But that's, well, okay, we should go back to this. She's saying that she should share this with them, you know? Yeah, it's, well, okay, we should go back to this. She's saying that she, well, she should share this with them.

Yeah, it's not in her court, it's in both their courts. Because if it's only in her court, she'll be the one making all the, you know. But it's not like she's the one who's up in her head about it. Yeah, which is great that she's thinking ahead of time. I haven't seen it for even a bit. They're both virgins though. I know, and they're 20 years.

What are you guys doing? Well, see, I don't want to say that, but they're very young to be together. Speaking from a guy's point of view, this is the people of the people. Yeah, because he's not gonna have anything I don't want to say that, but they are very young to be together. Speaking from a guy's point of view, he's going to want to see other people. Yeah, because he's not going to have anything that's rola dex to think back to, except for her. Do you think that you're going to require me to everybody? Absolutely, got to go out and fill those banks.

It's got to get some strange. Yeah, need some strange. Add it to the memory banks. I just think you're right. I think you're right. You know that I think that you shouldn't get married before 30. Back in the 20s when we died at 40, it was cool.

Yeah, totally. Get married 25, you got good 15 strong years. Yeah, awesome. Deadwood days, you know, but not anymore. Not anymore. Now we're together, you can have multiple, you know, whatever. I just think it's a, I think you don't really know yourself

in your 20s. I think 4.5 years. And what happens is you get addicted to these relationships because you really grew up in them. You know each other's families. Yeah, I did. I didn't kind of change at that point in your life. It just seems devastating.

Right. You said I should not have it. But without them. But I like that you listen. We're back away. Whether you stay with them or not, these are going to be great tips for everyone moving forward in your life. So also, get some sexual inspiration.

I'm a huge fan of watching porn with your partner. A lot of gut people watch porn. And it's secret in relationships. A lot of times guys are like, it's my thing or a lot of women. I mean, I hear this daily from women peers of my friends and my my age, they're like, why?

Why? Why is he watching porn? We're having amazing sex. Does he want me to be blonde with big boobs? Do you have that? Why? Oh no, it's just funny because my boyfriend is such a horn dog. One time he was like at class and I had his laptop and I was going to torrent something

and so I looked at pirate bay and I typed in PI and his search history pulled down the first thing and he would kill me if I told anybody this but whatever. Tell me that we won't tell you that. It was pink teen pussy. I was like the first thing that I saw. He actually typed that in. He typed in, I was like, he's so specific. I have a picture on my phone.

And it was like, I want to type in PI for pirate bay. And the first thing that popped up, this computer was like, you mean, paint team pussy. And I was like, what? I texted it to him. It's a torrenting, an online torrent. I have to hate that. Oh, it's true, it's two steal things.

Because I don't steal things. Oh, and you got to like this, because you say, I never give you anything. Here's something. Wow. When the wife and you got to like this, because you say I never give you anything. Here's something. Oh. When the wife and I first moved in together, she was doing it. It was before I was like,

savvy on the computer and I learning Cognito mode and all this things that I've been doing. Right, clear in the browser. I mean, there should be a class in high school in Africa. Totally. But before all that, and we were sharing a computer,

she actually, she was laughing about it. She thought it was quite funny, but I looked up amateur facials. I was drinking, that was what I was into. She saw that and she heard initial thought was, oh, how sweet, he's learning how to like, do I got she facial for me. You got to get your computer, you got like a Q-con for formula.

Yeah, she thought that's what it was for. And then she realized what a wise choose to stir for a second and then she started laughing about how ridiculous it was. Oh my God, that's hilarious. I thought it was so funny because it was so specific I was like you really like you went right for it and he was like it's because I'd seen like a I'd seen like a porno That was titled that was I wanted to Re-find it. Yeah sure are you sure that's kind of redundant most teams teams are pink No, he wants teens. Yeah, but I sent him a picture of it

I took a picture of it on my phone and sent it to him was like, hey, so Your computer and he was like, oh my god. He was so worried that it was gonna be freaked out But I thought it was really funny because I know the guys watch porn like it's just a normal thing You're okay with it. Yeah, and it doesn't bother me. Maybe that's a generational thing Maybe people like a little bit older I hear it from my friends who are in the 30s I hear from friends in their 20s that it's confusing, but it can be a great way to spark a sense of adventure and a big turn on for both of you and get you both wrapped up because it's great to

learn about both of your sexual preferences. Now, for example, Madison, your boyfriend might come home and you might say, you know what, babe, I don't want pink teen pussy tonight. Let's try to find something that works for both of us. Big black cock. Yeah, yeah, I'm really scared. That one. Exactly the first up. Old black cock. Yeah, yeah, I'm really scared. That one. Exactly the first up.

Old black cock. Hey, let's split the difference. I get big black. No, but it's like, I mean, I actually did this the other night with this guy that I'm dating. I was like, he was telling me about a porn that he watched. Oh, oh, because I always talk about the magic wand. Oh, because it's amazing.

And the magic wand vibrator that we know. And so he's like, oh, I was watching a porn the other day and I saw the magic wand. And we played with toys and I was like, cool, I want to show it to you. And he showed me that he looks it up. We're my bad. We grabbed my computer and we watched it together. And it was super hot. It was one of those kink.com videos where it was like, she was all tied up.

And I wrote up some of that kink.com stuff. Yeah, it's bizarre. It's bizarre, yeah. It's awesome. I mean, Sam, I opened up with the castle thing. Is that a castle? Oh, yeah, I had a party there once. It's a San Francisco guy. Peter Acquire,

who started it. My hair cutter was telling you, she, the girl that cuts my hair, it was really into all that stuff. Oh, yeah, it's pretty amazing. It's mostly hardcore BDSM. A lot of public weird stuff. Like they just take a girl to a laundry mat and they start banging her, like,

there's like people in there washing their clothes. Like, they can picture. But that's all on set there. It's a really cool place. But the thing is, is that what? Oh, no, it's not real. But afterwards, they have the girls on and we're like, no,'re washing their clothes. Like pictures. But that's all on set there. It's a really cool place. But the thing is, is that, what? Oh, no, it's not real. But afterwards, they have the girls on. And we're like, no, I really enjoyed that.

Like, she looks like she's like about, like she's being a fish, a little fixated. But they're all down and it's consensual. So this was cool because I saw what kind of porn turned him on. And this one worked because it turned me on, because I love my magic wand. We watched it together.

And then I plugged in my magic wand. And we had sex. And I kind of did what we saw on screen. So, you might just wanna go to like good vibes after dark has a lot of great porn, or just go to, and whatever site you go to, if you guys peruse together for a few minutes, I'm sure you could find something,

maybe she likes lesbian porn, which is common. And watch it together, and it's a great tool because you learn new moves and tricks, and it's a fun, something different to do. What if you're going to uncomfortable with your significant other and you don't really know how to broach it? I think that if you're uncomfortable with it and it's net porn's never come up. And I think you should say I'm wondering do you have any, well this brings me to another point here which would be a great, I'm going to bring you down to another tip here. That's going to answer your question.

Are you sure? Make a sexy bucket list. I love this because- Oh, that's good, yeah. Communication, key, key, key to exciting, you know, sex life. And when you share your fantasies and desires with your partner, it increases your intimacy. Don't lead with resum, because that'll look like- No, I know, don't, you guys, you use some discretion, okay? Like, like, your hot best friend coming over for resum, because that'll affect the world. No, I know. You guys, you use some discretion, okay? Like, your hot best friend coming over for resum,

that's not gonna work. Chessica, get over it. And new sexual exploration, so couples find it daunting, so you can make a game out of it and say, sit down with your partner, and you make up sexy bucket list. So you write down new things that you wanna try. So like, you each could write down five and then change it, you know, like exchange it. So you'd be be like I wish we had rough or sex like I wish we made out more I

wish I could tie you up to the ceiling I don't know I keep saying that because I was watching King deck I was watching King deck I'm down on like little post it's our little like index cards too in each index card has its own and then you could like do them one by one so you could say I want to watch porn together to see what turns you on. That's a great way to do it. Thank you, honey. I told you that. I know sometimes I don't go back around to the question, but I did. I thought we're going to go back to Gis too, but I thought about it. I came up with another decent thing you could do is like you could it's a little devious, but you could like slip like have a Netflix sleeve and

then slip in like that porn. And we're like, hey, let's watch the movie we got from Netflix and you pop it in and you go, oh, I didn't, this is the wrong disc, but then it's on. This should never really do. Honestly, just pick blue is the warmest color that movie you would like filled with lesbian sex. Yeah, just like put that on and be like,

oh man, like how did this happen? What, what do you think about that? That's true, right, exactly. And that's a great point because some women might have to be ready for porn. So this is like, this is how we modify. This is how we modify. Look up like the sexiest love scene movies, like E2Mamatambian.

Or, different movies like the 9-hour weeks. You could start there. Why? And then move into hardcore porn. No, I mean, you know, see what it says. It's a sexy bucket list. Great way to do it. I mean, my boyfriend watched Hollywood together. And we it's sexy bucket list, great way to do it. I do, I do. I mean my boyfriend watched Hollow Man together,

and we found out that it was like both of us and we were younger, we saw Hollow Man and thought it was really hot. That whole thing of him being visible and unfunding. The naked raper, I mean, the invisible raper. And his little blouse and everything. So that was like our code word. Like we'd be hanging out with friends,

and I'd be like, do you wanna go watch Hollow Man? I'd be like, yeah, this is like when we first started hooking up, and we'd be like, yeah, let's go watch Hollow Man. And that was like our code word. That means that's okay, man. That's awesome. Hollow Man,, man. Oh, man. I get it. I totally get it Yeah, okay, so Yeah, I forgot it. Okay, do you guys watch porn? He watches more porn than I do. Yeah, I mean, it's not that we're not that into it. It's just like I

Know our point tastes are different. He likes point of that like, I don't know, our point is they're different. He likes point of view, like hardcore banging and I like more like, this is the, this is like a drum. Pink team pussy is what he is. Yeah, exactly. And it's like, let's not mess around. Let's not beat around the bush. We know what bush he likes.

Yeah, no bush. Girlbush. Girlbush. That's the trick here. Yeah. Girlbush. Do you think the bush is coming back? Maybe.

I don't know. Okay. So here's one more thing. Boyrism. So you know we were talking earlier about video chatting. That's another thing we got sexting, we've got phone sex video chatting, just using on your phone Skype, G-Chat, FaceTime. It's not just for long distance. So couples like in the same EricOde or in the same house if you're feeling lazy, you know, you're downstairs watching TV are really, it's really half a virtual sex. So because there's elements of like voyeurism and exhibitionism and a lot of women get really

turned on by that. It's a top fantasy for a lot of women. So you can watch her touch herself, tell her what to do, she can watch you. And if you're not sure how to start, some women say it's hot when she's like watching porn, like if you guys are watching it, she's like watching a little porn, so it makes her feel like less awkward. Like it's something to get you both in the mood and she's watching porn while you're watching her But I also think just getting started like telling her what to do or you guys both get in dress together and

That can lead to one of my favorite sex tips mutual masturbation Because there's a lot of couples who have been together for a long time and they still are like I don't know what the hell turns a partner on. And so if you're watching each other touch yourself, you're like, oh, she goes up and down on the clitoris or she never touches her clitoris or he grabs his balls and I've never touched his balls. I didn't know that. It's a great way to learn.

Okay, XM was that. I don't know. I didn't know that you'd be born. I made it up. Role playing, she's role playing. Right, I'm role playing. Role playing is really hot too and I know that you think, okay, this is kind of weird. Well, I can't say this. Yeah, you can. No, she's roll playing. Right, I'm roll playing. Roll playing is really hot too, and I know that you think,

okay, this is kind of weird, well, I can't say this. Yeah, you can. No, it's too late. But I did dress up, okay, so another thing, I had a really fun weekend. Right. So this guy I've been dating who never used a sex story in his life, like you've already met me,

like nothing ever, ever, ever. We've now, I've had a wedge for a long time, a liberator, like a really nice black, a blablable, okay,, so you know what a wedge is? No, it's a sex wedge. It's like furniture. Sex, sex furniture. And it's an amazing thing because it's a wedge and a lot of women in order to have experienced

the most pleasure and to have orgasm, their bum needs to be lifted. So it's like literally like a wedge, like a pillow. And so your butt rises on it and this one comes with cuffs too, like handcuffs, like they've so much stuff if you go to liberator.com And so I've had this wedge in my garage So we opened it up and we like used the wedge and it was hot because it was like you're elevated and you had like Cuffs and stuff like that. So it's been from the ceiling. I was not so spending from the ceiling But I'm going to work on that

Soon because I think that would be really really fun And I also try to love that. Oh my god, I'm a Russian landlord. But now I don't know what to do with the wedge Because it's so big not to mention my Sibian I was gonna bring up a Sibian right now. I don't know if I was gonna be stepping on the wedge You gotta just get rid of like your lazy boy if you have one place it like I couch With it like I'm trying to figure out like if anyone's I'm not really great and terrorizing The ins are expensive. I know I'm one of three people if anyone's, I'm not really great in terror design. The Indians are expensive. I know, I'm one of three people who have gotten a free one.

I'm so honored. It has a million touches. The other two are like a Barack Obama and who else? Yeah, Barack Obama's in the White House, but he's got more room. Like, the thing is, if I had a separate room, I would have a sex room. I know, exactly. So I got that. And then one more tip I would say here is, this is another thing that came up for me lately,

is giving her oral sex from behind. A lot of men do oral sex the same way when she's lying down. But if you only do that, it's time for twists. So next time you're going in for the oral as you should be doing, if she likes it, switch it up, get her on all fours, and then perform oral from behind her. You could either do it just like licking gander, or you could lie underneath her on your back with your legs facing away from her body. And it's an unexpected sensation. It feels different actually because you're coming in from a different angle. You're sucking

on the clitoris and using your tongue from different angles, which since the clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings, it feels a little different. So those are some tips. Roll playing is fun. What else do we have in here, Ray Little Anelpa? I think we covered a lot of it. No, we, we're not got a bunch. And stuff that we usually don't talk about. That's like the big thing is I feel like people expect us to say sorry.

I thought we got to go. You want my ejaculation? I got to get through it. I got to get through it. Okay, so I was on a podcast the other day, I called in. And it was funny. It was called Detroit Cast, right? And they're from Detroit.

It was funny enough. The two guys who host it, they're nominated for podcast awards, sorry, Anderson. And so they called, they're like, hey, I heard, they know my brother or their Michigan, I heard her sisters hosting the awards. I get on their podcast the other day. We both all went to the same high school,

which is interesting, because I went to a Randall High School. And one of the questions they have for me was a jacket, was basically a jackalation etiquette. When I want to come on a woman's face, do I ask her first or do I just do it? I ask her. And I was like, you've got to ask her. You've got to ask.

It's like if someone else, when someone's grabbed you and started spraying like SPF on you or something, you're like, what are you doing? I'm already having enough SPF. Or if you're putting anything in someone's body, I don't know why I thought of SPF. But if someone started spraying me, it'd be weird, you got to ask them.

Or if you're real smooth, bring it up like a dinner somehow. Yeah, no. Angle it in. I'll be like, baby, I can't want you to come in your face. Yeah, once you let that stuff fly in. I think in the moment, no, in the moment's big, hey, baby, can come in your face.

So I was talking to my married friend last night about the same thing came up twice in a day, so I figured it's newsworthy. And they bring together like 10 years. And I was like, she's like, yeah, and sometimes he just wants to come in my face. I was like, okay, well, what do you do? She's like, sometimes I say, yes, sometimes I say, no, I said, well, what is the deciding

factor? Like, how do you know when? She's like, I don't know. Sometimes you know, like, I just, or about to go out and I know it's going to be on my face and I think I do my makeup. And sometimes I just want to say, no, because why should I say, yes, every time makes it up. But most time I say, yes, she says two out of three times. Yeah, just one type of ejaculation etiquette, which is important to ask, don't just come on our face. A ejaculation etiquette. No, I mean, it's an adjunct.

We have a show called ejaculation etiquette. It's like wild formation. Oh, and then she said it's so fattening, isn't it? And I was like, no, it's good for you. And only that it's supposed to be really good for your skin. Like if you have breakouts, they say like to dabble a little bit on the workouts. They say it.

Teenage-pleasing. No, I mean, actually there have been studies coming out on two different around your face. Wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait where she does and her skin looks awesome. Okay, Anderson check everybody check them out on the film. The film will be after that. Yes, check Madison out just everywhere. Where are you doing? Are you Twitter or anything? Not necessarily. Let's do Instagrams, Hurricane, underscore Madison. Okay, got it.

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