Sex With Emily - Back Door Man

Episode Date: October 11, 2011

What's sexy about having sex in nature?, Menace's worst phone sex fear, when men get bored with sex, the hottest and cheapest date idea for the weekend, how can you have sex at 85mph?, did Emily helped SF to become the most promiscuous city?, what happened with Menace's previous engagement?, Emily loves her new pet name, "Princess Emily," ways to work around foot fetishes, being in a relationship without the commitment, how to suggest anal play to your partner, the essential tool to use every time for backdoor sex, the number one rule to make it pleasurable and how to get the most out of it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemle.com. A lot of you are at sexwithemle.com now listening to the show, which is awesome as you know, the show is now live streaming every day, Monday through Friday, one to two, Pacific Standard time. So you can take your lunch break, have a sandwich, watch a show, soon you'll be able to watch menace,

we'll be getting more cameras in here. Hey, menace, what's up? Hi, how you doing? I'm good. How are you doing? I'm really excited because I actually, uh, I was on my way to Pixar yesterday. Uh-huh. Sorry, just to dive into a story, but let's just do it. I was driving a Pixar to go check out cars to everybody. Go see it because it was amazing.

And I plugged in my iPhone and I streamed the sex with Emily show through the Sitcher app. We record the show at Stitcher.com. And I really enjoyed the show. Yes, I know. So it was really good. I liked it. Not to toot our own horn and stuff like that. But it was funny because I liked it. I don't. There's a lot of pussy talk on it. A lot of pussy talk. We now look how easily it rolled up your tongue today. Well, I just want to throw out once when we're doing the show yesterday, we said like 15 to 20 times in a row. I know. But you were uncomfortable by your face turn right when you said pussy, but just now you said pussy like you're saying now it's embarrassing me because I'm

You're embarrassed. You were embarrassed yesterday, but it was funny because menace actually I got home from a party I went to a friend's book party last night. Sounds amazing. And I came home and I was like, I'm going to check out the show because I don't typically watch the show but since it's a new format and I was watching it and I'm like, oh my God, it's funny. And then men has called me. He's like, I was just listening to the show. And like you just mentioned, Stitcher is an app for any smartphone that you can download

and stream the show so easily. Yeah, you have to be a friend of benefits member to get the full show. So just go to sexwithendly.com, sign up, and then you'll get your password and then you type in your password on your mobile phone, and you only gotta do it once, and then it just stays saved in your phone. And it's amazing, because I just plugged it into the speakers of my car,

and I was just like, you're like, we're funny, right? Were you like, we're funny? Yeah, that's kind of obscure. Mostly about my jokes, because they're hilarious. See, I don't laugh at you. Yeah. But yeah, everyone wants to become a friends with benefits member.

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Exactly and then we're bringing you so much more content every day We've got blogs. We've got we've got videos. We've got interns doing amazing stuff sex story reviews as we talked about yesterday They're so excited about their sex story reviews and and porn reviews and lots of fun stuff coming up So so how was it a sexy book party? It was a sexy book party. It was a Gumps, which is a department store in San Francisco, which is a beautiful department store. I gave her a shout out a few weeks ago.

She wrote this book called Eco-Amazon, it's all about women doing amazing things and she had another book party last night that I went to. Okay. Yeah. Her name is Dorka, Keen. If you want to check out her book, if you care about the environment and women who are doing great things. Yeah.

And that's what I did last night and then I went home and I was watching the show and then you kind of part of the thing that's in town right now. What thing? I'm sorry if it's in your sex in the news, but they just released a story today about there's like an eco sex convention this weekend in San Francisco. Did you know that? No, but my one of my sex school friends just texted me about it. Yeah. So apparently there's a

He go how do I not know this the how did I not know this until I got because you're all into that hippie crap So I figured that you would already know okay She said you don't have to tell you don't have to say what she said because I already I know the sexuality thing It's seven I should go. Yeah, you should go. I so this is what I heard about it. It's like all weekend So like these people they're like green So this is what I heard about it. It's like all weekend. So like these people, they're like green that are, they get off on having sex in nature

and like being with nature. And like some of them even like marry the earth and like marry snow and like marry, there was like a bunch of other stuff that they were married. But they're, well it was cool though, they're just like, yeah, you know, they're really into just like having sex in the middle of fields. Yeah, we talked about that all the time, sex outdoors. Yeah, but they're just like, no, but it's like a religion. Yeah, they

get off on it. Right. Right. Right. Yeah. Which I just think it can be uncomfortable and you get sticks up your butt. Oh, so maybe we should go to the convention and tell them. Speaking of, speaking of, speaking of your butt, today's show, it's Anel Sex Friday. We're going to be talking about Anel Sex today on the show. And which I know that menace is excited about. It's a huge topic with all the fellas. All it is? Do you have your friends talk about it?

No, we don't talk about it. I don't talk to my friends about sex. You don't ever? No. Do they ask you for advice now? Because you should be an expert too, by having sat here for five years? No, they don't ask me for six months. I Got a good idea. I'm kind of relieved in the not in the bedroom or anything, but I give them advice on

You know how to deal with certain situations in the relationship. You do. Yeah. Oh God poor friends. So no my friends dude They love my advice. I'm kidding. You're a viseous guy sometimes. Okay, so my advice is take no shit. From when I. Be nice, be nice, be respectful, but don't take no shit. What kind of shit are you talking about? I'm saying, if you, example, give me an example.

If you are a man, you work every day, you provide for your lady, and you're not a dickhead to her, you treat her with respect. And then suddenly she's trying to get all crazy with you and give you crap about something. I'm telling you, don't back down and kiss her ass. Stand up and be a man. And so you have friends who have issues. They're the provider and the women are taking advantage.

How so? How so? How are they taking advantage of How so? How so? How are they taking advantage of them? I need specific details. Because they don't treat them with the same respect. That's why. That they give them.

What do the women do? What do they women? Example. Example of maybe he wants to go out with his friends and go to a bar. Right. And then so she starts getting... Freaks out.

Freaks out and starts getting crazy. Right, that's what we are knowing. I think you have to a bar. Right. And then so she starts getting freaked out and starts getting crazy. Right. That's one that I'm knowing. I think you have to give men their time. You have to give men and women their time with their friends. Yes. So that's what I said. But you're saying women are drama, right?

Yeah. And it goes both ways, too. Totally. You know? Right. You accept to. That's just my attitude. It's like, be respectful, be nice, be cool.

But once somebody starts trying to take advantage of you, you gotta like nip it in the bud, like immediately. Yeah, I guess so. I don't know, I guess I don't know that many women or men, I don't know, I don't have that same situation. Like, I don't know, I'm not like that. I don't take advantage of that. Because your friends are hallowed drama.

You tell me the stories all the time. They're not drama, they're just funny. They're not drama. They're not like, I need my man to take care of me. And I'm not gonna do it. You know, it's not like that, I don't take it. Because your friends are hallowed drama, you tell me the stories all the time. They're not drama, they're just funny, they're not drama, they're not like, I need my man, take care of me, and I'm not gonna do it, you know, it's not like that. Like I'm not gonna go to the friends. You have friends that wanna text guys and tell them how much they love the guy

spooge in them like five times. Like I don't have friends like that. That's funny, it's sexting. Oh my God, I got a million responses yesterday. I put on Facebook, do you wanna sext? Or do you wanna have have phone sex or sex? What would you prefer and it was it was it was 50 50 I think 50 50 yeah people I'm just sexting and phone sex more sex thing dumb on the phone. Yeah, sex thing is so much better

But it just comes naturally to me though. I think I'm a professional, but I can just do it I can like oh, yeah, I can just snap it out. I'd be so afraid that you were recording me like you would be saying So such outlandish things and getting me to say something and then you would be like I would never record you. I would never record you. I've never recorded anyone illegally unlike you although it wasn't illegal You just tape them and I don't tape people on the phone. No, but you tape them having sex and then you have a library I keep thinking of you being like that movie sex lies in videotape like you have I don't have a hidden camera in my room somewhere No, I was at the guy once where I was with a hidden camera. No, I started freaking out because it's kind of creepy. He's the same guy that I had sex with.

I told you I had Coachella outside. When I first started seeing him, I hear something about him that was a little sketchy. And I really had this moment where I'm like, I think he's got a camera in here. That's from the time to end the relationship when you have feelings about something. Yeah, I don't think there was. I probably would know's from the time to end the relationship when you have feelings about someone. Like, someone's not coming in there. I don't think there was. I probably would know by now. It was years ago, five, six years ago, but I've one time I asked him,

I'm like, I just feel like there's something freaky in your apartment going on. I was like, paranoid. Sounds so paranoid. I was like, are you taping out? Because he was bad. It's so easy to spot hand cameras though, at least for me. Well, you could.

You're like, dude, dude, dude, yeah, you can track it. I'm so not a detailed person that there could be like a whole crew and I'd be like really? Oh, they're they're taping on it. No, I'm like not paying attention to details. Um, okay. So yeah, what's going on with you? It's Friday.

What's going on to? DJF, baby. My weekend is I'm going to a birthday party tonight. Have you been to the new Phoenix hotel yet? How they changed it? Do you remember it was back? I'm invited to go. Yeah.

Tonight there's like a part of a birthday party for like four friends there. And it's really fun. It's a really cool bar. There's like outdoor, there's this outdoor. There's a pool not that people swim, but there's an outdoor area you've been there before, right? Yeah. And so that'll be really fun, friends birthday. And then I'm going to work on the weekend.

I've got a ton of writing to do for the website. And I'm going to go out with that guy tomorrow night that I've been seeing and I don't know what we're doing because he's planning it because I told him that I just don't bring that to the table. I don't bring planning. Does he know now not to ever say that again? Yeah, probably. He's like, what do you want to do? How is he? He's older. He's older. He's like, how does he not know that by now? Did not ask the woman, what do you want to do? Well, we've been dating for a while. So he's just like, what do you feel like doing Saturday night? And I'm like, I don't care. I don't care. You just decide. You just decide.

Please. Is it going to take you somewhere riveting like a, like a, like a, uh, museum? Some science fair or something? No, I think we're done with that. But speaking of which, we do have some date tips coming up since it's the weekend, we thought we should give people some ideas about some fun different kinds of dates You can do this weekend and some of them might seem cliche day you might be like yeah, I do that But really people are get so boring they get so stuck in their routines that I'm just gonna name some fun things that you got you can do that you haven't done before Oh, they better be good. I'm gonna rip them. I know you are menace and you just have to be kind because people get stuck in Ratsy do the same thing like let's run the movie let's order pizza. Let's do nothing

Let's just at home and not have sucks like here's some fun things you can do like go fly a kite We're gonna be talking about that in a minute thing. Like, let's run the movie, let's order pizza, let's do nothing, let's just sit home and not have sex. Like, here's some fun things you can do. Like, go fly a kite. We're gonna be talking about that in a minute. Flying a kite? Flying a kite. Flying kites could be fun. Yeah. See, there you go.

You gotta find the right girl that's into flying kite. Yeah, it's hard to do. It's hard to do. I'm not saying it to you. You are not a flying kite girl. No, I'm not, I'm not a big flying kite girl. But I would, like if a guy was like, oh, I guess, if we were already there, like. Yeah, see, that kite girl, but I would. Like if a guy was like, oh, I guess if we're already there,

like, yeah, see, that's our your first response, I guess. And then boom. I'm trying to think of like my best dates I've ever had. And I just, I can't even think like what was like a, I think it's more like about the connection. Like I feel like I don't care where we are if we're connecting and we're doing something fun and we're talking and like,

always talking about connection. Like, do you not know what that means? No, I know what it means. Don't break it down. It's just like, it doesn't. But if you're with someone, and you're with someone, you are to stay out of the game and connect it.

This is what I'm saying. Yeah, but you're talking about places to go. Well, I am giving people, because some people have been together for so long that it's like, or even if you're new for a state, and you want to try something new, we have some ideas that we're gonna give to you. But I feel like if I try to go back into my mind,

I'm doing the like, the the mental flipping of all the dates. It's like the best ones are like when I actually like the person and we were just at dinner or seeing a concert or something like that. Something fun. All right, what you got? Okay, this is what I got. In mail today, we're gonna be talking about

foot fetishes, good sex and bad relationships, what to do about them, how do you know when you're a boyfriend, you know when your boyfriend girlfriend and SNM? And on today's show, you're also finding out everything you really wanted to know about anal sex, but we're afraid to ask. Cool, it sounds really good. I already got a bunch of ideas of things I want to talk about with just the list that you provided. What do you mean list type of all those things? And then we've also got some, yeah, sex in the news, of course, and some sex tips, some, you know, some dating tips, dating places to go.

Cool. That kind of thing. And then we have this poll that we have every day. Okay, so here's our poll that we had this week. At sexwithfamily.com. At sexwithfamily.com. We need everyone to go vote on these polls. So this was the poll we were asking,

are you happy with your sex life? Okay, 13% said I would be just happy having any sex. 20% said yes, but I wanna start trying new things. 23% said my sex life is great. I'm having plenty of sex these days. So 23% of people are happy, but 44% said no I want more. So almost half the people are like 44% said no, I want more. So almost half the people are like,

not having enough sex and they want more. And those were guys that just want to have more sex. Maybe, but it's not always a menu. Do you know that's a myth that we took yesterday's show is all about the breaking sex myths? That there is a myth that like men have this huge sex drive and women don't want sex, but I can't tell you like I think it's like

when you get a little bit older, maybe like in your 20s, maybe in your 30s, I feel like I have so many women who are dating guys and they're like, he does one sex, he does one sex, because I think that men get bored with sex when they're with someone for a long time, typically, and so maybe they stop or they're sex, that's when you have to start to spice it up. I have been noticing a lot recently that the women that at least that I'm around are worse than the guys. What do you mean? About just like going out and getting laid? We mean the worst something guys. They're going out getting a lot. They're yeah, they're drive to go have that happen is like Guaranteed like twice as much than the guys. What do you think that's about? What do you think that's testament to no mid mid

20s late 30s, just like. Yeah. Like, they're like, I just want to get late. I have so many friends in the net town. I have friends who are like, I'm literally, I just need to have sex. I just need to have sex. I just want to bring, I think I just want to break it down

as their teens, early 20s, they might have had a boyfriend or girlfriend for a couple of years. And they're really serious. And they're in so in love. And then they broke up with them. And they're like, oh, I just want to have fun, you know? Yeah. And they could have been doing that earlier in life instead of being locked down for a

year. See, I locked down. I always locked down. I was a serial monogamous from like 18 to like 28. I had boyfriend's always two and a half years, two and a half years, two and a half years and I was just like, done. I was like, I don't want to do this anymore. That's why you're so crazy.

Why? Because I was always locked down. You were so like, down, you didn't have your fun earlier. I know, so I'm having so much fun now. I'm having way more fun. My friends are like, are you like 20? Well, what are you doing? The way I live my life. But I think that's fine.

I think I'm doing it in reverse, and I'm loving life right now. It's amazing. So here's the new poll that everyone has to go answer. And we talked about this last week on the show. We did a man-scaping, women-scaping show. How do you feel about hair below the equator? No preference.

On natural is best. Trim to please are full Brazilian wax, no hair. So people gotta vote on that. Oh, okay. I thought you already had that vote, though. No, we didn't do that on that show. We didn't do that on the poll. No, no, no.

This is the new poll we posted today. We're posting three polls a week. No, okay. Sorry. We talked about it just recently, so that's do that on that shot. We didn't do that. No, no, no, no. The new poll we posted today, we're posting three polls a week. No, okay. Sorry, we talked about it just recently, so that's why I was saying. I know, it's okay, it's totally fine. So then we've got some, yeah, that's what we're doing. So we got some sex in the news. Okay.

Okay. Oh, but first I'm going to get into the date ideas for the weekend. The date ideas for the weekend? Yeah, okay. So because they're here. Okay. Okay, you could do it. Whatever's in front of you, you're like, effort. I'll read it

Okay, so what do you got? Cook a meal together That's a fun thing to do. Cook a meal together That's great. So, and that guy comes over your house Cook a meal for Emily. I just got my cell and bitch. Yeah. I am not saying this is me because I didn't put it How are you trying to suggest that to other people when you can't even cook next Order and pizza and have a candle at dinner. You can do I can do all these things. I'm just saying

Go on a hike bike ride kite flying a long walk bring a picnic. That is so fun. Bring a picnic I've had fun dates like that. Oh, no picnic. Nature. Once they picnic is fine, kite flying is a stretch. kite flying came up to me. One of my interns said a guy was like, let's go kite flying. And she was like, no thanks.

Okay, but it didn't work for her, but it came work for her. But then my other intern, Aaron was like, oh, that'd be really fun. So see what I mean. I seriously have like a little mini focus. We tried to have some experience. Should we?. I seriously have like a little mini focus. Should we. I know it's like a little mini focus group in my office every day. I'm like, who's on this? Who's done this? And it's amazing because they're all different. You know, so it's great. Okay. When was the time you went out dancing? Dancing is fun. We were kind

of dancing when we went out last week drunk in the cast. Yeah. I like dancing. I can get down on dancing. Yeah. That's fine. Bubble bath and a juggle wine. This was our most wow. Yeah, that's awesome. No, we all love that one. Like taking a bath with a guy is hot. Is that real life or is that a real life in real life? You can take a bath. I'm amazing cloth foot club tub in my house. Like do a bath in there. Okay, play a game of hide and seek in the house or at the park. Who's gonna do that? Okay. If you're high on peyote or something. Movie night, knock off movies on your two watch list. I need to do that. I need to sit home.

I just wanna be locked up in a house for like two weeks watching movies. I haven't seen any movies in like 10 years. Why? I don't know, understand what you're doing with your free time. I know me neither. I don't, I don't understand. I don't like that you don't have free time

to watch some of this stuff. I just busy. busy doing what? I don't work museums? Yeah, museums. Not having sex really? Okay, go to the pub and watch a game. Go to the pub and watch a game. Yeah, no lately like I've been running into a lot of, let's see, the thing that sucks is I have to fake that I like sports right here one of those guys That's a very San Francisco male thing. I can't never put you in the typical San Francisco male category But a lot of men in Sanford lay my friends and they're not into sports. It's not like a sporty town I was when I was younger, right, but I played baseball or something right no, I played soccer right which is not really a sport Just kidding for all our blisterers around the world. I don't want to piss you off

But I was really yeah, I was really into sports sports team I collected all the cards and all that stuff in the Something but now it's just I it's a time thing I don't have time to say right watch a game for some people are really into a Gordle game going to a game super fun even though baseball is so boring. So I love going to our giant stadium. It's so fun. Yeah, I don't know if we're gonna do a field trip there. Basketball games are super fun. I grew up going to Detroit, Detroit, Piston's, basketball games. They were really good team then. But yeah, but no. Yeah, but no, what I was going to say is there's a lot of

Smoking hot chicks that are in like die hard into sports. Yeah, I'll tell you this Here's a little secret that if you guys don't know what the hottest ones are into hockey. They love the hockey players I know I got because the they they get off on the violence like all the fights No, the guys are hot. No guys are hot That's what I have guys are hot you are so into hockey players and date them and sleep with them like I've those There's a whole group of women who are just like into dating athletes hockey groupies. Yeah, totally. I'm not into that But the violence I hate it. Oh don't want to watch it But that's what I hear the hot chick so maybe you should go to hockey games and pick up chicks

That's a great, great point. I know, like, some, you know, some tens that are, like, really into hockey. That's, like, their number one sport. Wow. Yeah. I know a lot of women who like hockey, too. Okay, make a trip to the farmer's market, a free market. I like going to the farmer's market.

Ugh, boring. Video game tournament, invite your friends. Yeah! You love video games. Do video games? Art openings and museums. I'm telling you, these are people, like, when my guys was like, the guy that I'm dating what apps was like, what do you want to do?

Sarah and I was like, I don't know. Like, nothing, but these are some ideas. Volunteer together. Volunteer together or start a project together. Dress up and go see an old movie or go to the drive-in. That would be cool. Make a trip to an arcade or appear to play games. Those are just some ideas that you need. It's going to be a bit summer time. No, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, if there's alcohol involved, then all

those things are fun. True. Man, I think you have a problem. We should send you to like meetings or something. I haven't drank since last time we drank really not one sip not one That's so weird why No Because I don't I think you binge drink. I don't binge drink maybe Well, if you only drink once we drink a lot if I have if I have you want to talk about this Yeah, I'll tell you right now if I have somebody If I have a ride from one place to another right and I don't have to work the next day, then I will... So what are you doing this weekend? Are you going out tonight?

Not tonight. Tomorrow I am going to... Oh, a bunch of my friends from my old town are going to come up and we're just going to drink around my neighborhood. Are you going to go fly, Cite? We're not going to fly, Cite. You can do any of these things. Yeah. Okay, so... My good British spears after, though. British spears? I want to go to British right? We're not going to fly. You know, you can do any of these things. Yeah. Okay. So I go to Britney Spears after though.

Britney Spears? Yeah. I want to go to Britney Spears. You tickets. Yeah. But somebody's asking me to go. I'm not. Oh, check.

Yeah, but it's like a work thing. It's a work thing. They're all work things, whatever. Whatever. Whatever. Okay. Sex in the news. All right.

Now that everyone knows what they're doing this weekend, UN gay rights protection resolution passes hailed as a historic moment. So this is a huge deal that the United Nations issued its first condemnation of discrimination against gay, lesbians and transgender people, transgendered people hailed by supporters, including the United States as a historic movement. And so the quote from the US ambassador says, you just witnessed a historic moment at the Human Rights Council and within the UN system with a landmark resolution protecting human rights of Lesbian. I mean it's the first time it's happened that UN is stepping in. So that's a big deal

for gay and lesbian rights. So what does that mean? I mean, like, San Francisco. Yeah, it just means that like the UN is now paying attention to it, like all the different countries in different states. We've all done our own legislations, but now it's like the UN is like we're there with you. So we live in San Francisco. We were like the first city to have gay marriage and stuff. So we're kind of like, yeah, welcome to the club. But it's a big deal. Okay, man allegedly had drunk sex at 85 miles an hour and got busted.

Okay, break this down from here. Okay, ready? Yeah. So okay, the latest allegation and the, okay, at the time of collision, the defendant was going 85 miles an hour having sex with a female driving admittedly drunk and partially are totally in the backseat of the car. So he was driving, but he was partially, he now denies he was driving, he was coming from his 21st birthday party in Baltimore.

What? Oh my God, there was someone else in the car and he says there was, yeah, so it's a little of the 28, yeah, exactly. The plaintiff, a 28 year old cab driver seeking damages was like a plaintiff because they got an accident and um... so he was kind of having sex i guess i mean must have been having sex they pulled him over it's kind of a sketchy story but it says that that's what happened i could see how that could happen how could you have sex at eighty five miles an hour in the car driving but you're happily in the back seat i'm

thinking of the logistics uh... okay so if he was laying down all the way on his back and he was using his feet as the gas and brake. And not watching the road, but me. No, but then the girl sits on top of him on his, on his reener and she's driving. Oh, right. And that could work.

See, I figured it out right there. Yeah, right, that could work. That could work, but he wouldn't be really quick on the break. Yeah, why not wait to get home? I was 21st birthday, my 21st birthday. Oh yeah, he was well. My 21st birthday, there's pictures of me being dragged into, oh God, I'd like 400 people at my college house

that I was living in, literally 400 people, like a million kegs. And it was, I was like, I want it. And I've never gotten sick drinking. And I was like, tonight I'm going to do it. And I still couldn't, but a million kegs. And it was, I was like, I want it, and I've never gotten sick drinking. And I was like, tonight I'm gonna do it. And I still couldn't, but I did pass out. And there's pictures of my friends dragging me to my bedroom like by my hair. That's fun.

Doing shots, jealous shots. I want to shoot those photos, or on sexathamely.com right now. Should we? If you want to post them? I don't mind, they're back in Michigan. They're funny pictures. I mean, I'm not that mess,

because I don't get that drunk. I have issues with it. I mean, I want to, but I can't sometimes. I mean, I have. Yeah. But I don't get like sick. 21st birthday though. It's sex to strenuous for men's hearts.

It's a typical movie scene. An older man has sexually beautiful woman when suddenly way on me as a heart attack. That's me one day. So should men be concerned? Yes and no finds a new study in the Harvard men's health watch. Fewer than one in a hundred heart attacks are linked to sexual activity.

For healthy, 50-year-old man, the risk of having a heart attack at any given hour is one in a million. Sex doubles the risk, but it's still just two in a million. In fact, the review highlights research that suggests sex is actually good for men's hearts. So it's actually good for you. One useful gauge of a man can't comfortably climb several

flights of stairs. He should probably avoid knocking boots. Well, I guess I should never have sex ever again. Why? Who do you mean a fight of stairs? Who doesn't get tired on a fight of stairs? Yeah, but are you like, taking a break after like the fourth step? No, I'm not taking a break. Just maybe after the seventh step. Okay. Maybe you should be having guy. But you're still young. Yeah, what have?

Sexually, okay, so it's ultimately though, experts seem to agree with just a few caveats. Sexually, the familiar partner is safe, even good for the heart. So, you know, you always hear stories about like, that's how people die. But I think that's quite a way to go. If you're going to go, like, if you're going to die and you like, go die during sex. That would be the best way. People are, I'm looking over because I like to respond to people that are watching. There's a bunch of people watching us online.

Yeah, no, I know. SexSexSami.com. If you want to watch us live, it's- I really think that people, yeah, I mean, no, they are. Tons of people watching. If you want to watch us live, it's money through Friday. One p.m. One soup, yeah.

Pacific Standard Time. Every day, Monday through Friday, it's awesome. Yeah. SexSami is your favorite one. They're saying they're enjoying the show. Okay, good. Okay, I think that we should get into some awesome. Yeah. Sex Emily is your favorite. They're saying they're enjoying the show. Okay, good. Um, okay, I think that we should get into some emails. Okay. And, um, yeah, okay, no questions.

You're Emily. No questions is time. Just have to say I love the new format with video. Emily, you're super cute and fun. And you guys both clearly have more energy just like you said you would. Proposal San Francisco for being the most promiscuous city. I think

Nashville would probably be the most guilt-ridden about sex. Ha ha, sign Marvin. He's a new friends with benefits member. And I'm currently masturbating to the video. Menace is on a big kick for everyone to masturbate. That was the piece, right? You didn't read it.

There was no PS. There was no PS. So yeah, we talked about it yesterday. San Francisco is the most promiscuous city. And I feel like I had something to do with that, not personally, but the show. And we're all so sex focused in San Francisco. So anyway, it's awesome.

You're everybody's wing woman, you're getting everybody laid out. I get everyone laid. I do. So many of my friends, I would get laid. All of them, I'd get you laid, I get anyone laid. Seriously, I feel like everyone in life,

the biggest, one of the biggest challenges in life is trying to figure out what your skill set is. And once you have a skill set, you kind of move towards that and then you hire people to do the other stuff that you're not good at. So I'm good at getting people laid. So I just just want to say that's that you put in your work for. Yeah, I feel like my friends are yes.

Okay. Hi, I'm okay. This is for you, minus. Okay. I hope you're okay with this. I'm okay with anything. I figure you are. I'm curious what happened to menace's engagement a couple years ago.

It's from college. We talked about this a bunch of times. Yeah, but I know. I know, I know what's been a while, I don't know if it's like ripping the wounds off, ripping the scam off the wound. No, I am totally, it is fine for me to talk about. Okay.

What happened? Oh, that was it? That's only a question. What happened? I am constantly working and she didn't like that and caused issues. And it's either I don't work as much. And in my thought process, because I've been through this before,

where I started putting my relationship more over my work, I ended up getting let go from my job. So that's why you're so obsessed because you got let go early on from a job. Job because I started focusing more on women. On my relationship. Right. And then so once she started giving me crap all the time about being at work, I told her

that it's not going to change. Right. This is who I am. That's what I do. And then it is she just wouldn't agree with that. So I said, all right. And then that was it. Right.

And you jumped into it a little too quickly. You got engaged like on the second day. Yeah, but I think I I would have been fine with it. It's just that it's you've talked to anymore. No, I don't talk to anymore. But I think it's just like a it's a hard thing to find to somebody that can deal with having your significant other not be there. Right. At all. It's hard. Right. And it's like then people that, I try to get with people that work in the same industry as me. So they at least understand.

Right, they get your obsession. Yeah. And then, but when I don't do that, and I do people, they always go, when I take it with me to like a concert or something like that, they go, why is she like hanging out and stuff like that? And I go, kids, when I go to concerts, I'm working, not having fun and drinking beer right, I mean sometimes you do

Right barely okay, but you haven't dated anyone seriously since then no right okay Princess Emily I'm an avid listener to your show and have a question for you Princess Emily I like it. Yeah, it's okay. You like it. It's attention Do exactly like crack. I do I do I love it who Yeah, of course you like it. It's attention. Dude exactly like crack. I do. I do. I love it. Who doesn't love attention? Find me one woman on the planet. He's like I don't like I don't know how you would live without it. I wouldn't I Wouldn't even choose a life like that I'm an avid listener to your show and have a question for you. I'm a single 48 year old male living in Kansas City I'm currently seeing a beautiful 31 year old woman. I have a passion for the female foot. Buying shoes,

pedicures, and food worship, and it is cool with a foot, which of us cool with that. But for some reason, within our relationship that has lasted so far three years, I can't seem to have normal sex with her. I don't seem to hold a steady erection unless she is, has played with me with her feet. She loves being dominant in the bedroom and that is cool with me, but without her feet I can't seem to perform in the proper manner. Any ideas, Stephen? Real quick before you go into something. Yes. God damn it. I've been begging for a foot fetish guy forever to email the show and please try to diagnose himself to think what does he

love about it so much that gets him off. Right. But he didn't do that. He didn't get into that. But there's a bit of just they have an association with the feet. It's like anything like having a fetish, but you want to know specifically like what it is about the feet because you don't get it. I guess he should figure out like what.

Right. I think it's just a lot of times they tie fetishes into early childhood things. So if a man has a certain fetish something could have happened in his childhood with feet. Like he could even have been abused by someone kicking him and he could have a foot fetish that translated into that yet i mean it's not like his feet are like so they need and right right gross man case of the many men right so steven so there's many men who who do find it

arousing you can see the rousing and so there's plenty of new who would enjoy having their like foot massage to himself that you could start with a foot massage women would be totally down with that. I think I don't know. I would kind of like data foot fetishes. I would give you a foot massage. I wish.

I wish to know if he talked to her about this. Yeah, he did. He means she knows it. She knows it. But if you reveal it too soon in a relationship, it could turn some women off. They may feel like you don't care about other part of their anatomy. Yeah. So you have to be kind of careful with that. So the real problem though is his erection.

Yep. And it's a high-ranking fix as a leader. Well, if it prevents him from having normal relationships with women, then he should see counseling. But if it's not a problem, and he can get off by just like misaging her feet or like maybe she likes her feet like up over his head or something, like, you know, those positions where you put her feet up have you ridden that. Yeah, the pretzel. I don't know what it's called. Okay. The feet, like maybe he's holding him is enough and he doesn't have to, but if it's like

a problem and he's not getting enough and that's all it is and it's like an obsession, then he could seek help out if it's ruining his relationship. But there are ways like like a foot massage, like I don't know how much the level of intensity that he needs. But again, like massaging it or just trying to like not make it so obvious. I mean, because a lot of women could freak out by that. Of course. But if you like start again, start with a massage or hope you need to hold her, it just

needs to be seen then the whole time, but it's not like totally obtrusive, then that's fine. But again, he can just get a blue, he can get a blue diamond. And it's all good. A what? A blue diamond. So I just know so many street terms that you don't even know. Yeah. Yeah. Blue diamond Viagra. It's a blue diamond. Oh right. It is blue diamond. Yeah. No. I wouldn't say Medicaid. I wouldn't say that

Stephen. I would say just I would I would talk to her about it eventually. They've been together for what are you stretching? Yeah. I thought you were like punching me or doing something. I just like look at a like Jaycecee Penny's catalog before. But he's saying he's like feeling like he can't have normal sex with her at all. Like it's not normal. So he could talk to someone about it because there might be some deep seated issues, but if it becomes a problem. So, okay.

Hi, Emily. I really enjoy listening to your chat. What? I'm sort of like Zappos is like porn for him. Like Zappos is fucking me. It is for me. Zappos is porn for me. Like pornography just goes, that's what he should do.

Just like, you know, just like go through that. No, but he needs, but when you have a fetish, you need to like have the feet. Like he needs to be engaged, or maybe he needs her to play with his penis with her feet or something. Okay. You're like, okay, but if a foot fetish

is listening right now and you'd like to email us about your deal, that would be awesome. You can email me at feedbackatexademy.com and it's also a lot easier right now. We've got a email us about your deal. That would be awesome. You can email me at feedbackatetexturdomy.com. And it's also a lot easier right now. We've got a Q&A section on the site and you can just click and there's a page where you can just, it's an Ask Emily tab actually and you can just email me there.

It's really easy. Hey Emily, I really enjoy listening to your show in the variety of topics. Keep it up. I know you've had a segment on good relationships, bad sex. But what about the opposite? Good sex, bad relationship. I recently got of a two-year relationship that was very emotionally difficult and stressful most time, but our sex was really amazing. How is it that

two people can connect so well with physical and emotional intimacy between the sheets, but struggles so much with their regular communication interaction and relating outside the bedroom? Thanks Octavia. Well, this is a very common issue. Like the people, they always say that the people you have the best sex with, you don't end up marrying, you know? There's a lot because the thing is, the reason a lot of times what makes sex great is that tension that you keep with each other.

Some kind of turmoil, up and down emotions, they're fighting a lot, and you have makeup sex and break up sex and get back together sex, and I'm mad at you. You know, it's because you're so emotionally up and down. Sounds like a nightmare. No, but that is, I mean, that's how it happens, but you're just not compatible. And it's a bummer because that's what, like, there's, it's part of having really good

sex, what's conducive to that is sort of keeping tension. So when you have like that tension with someone, that is what keeps it exciting. And after you're with someone for a while, you no longer have that tension and then the sex becomes dull and boring, which is why I always tell you how to keep it interesting. So it's very common that you could have the most explosive amazing sex with someone

that is just and you're not compatible with, just kind of a bummer, because then you're always searching for that person and I still am that you can have amazing sex with Anne B. with forever. Yeah. Yeah. So that's how you ever had to get that? I've ever had a good relationship. Great sex, bad girl that you didn't

love. Not a good relationship with great sex. No. I don't believe so. No. I'm trying to think if I have, I have, oh, I'm sure. Because you're going to start giving me problems. They're out the door. I had guys that I just like to sleep with, but not like I knew that it wouldn't go anywhere. They were crazy, but like the sex was amazing. Yeah. So, okay. Dear Emily, I love your show. I've only recently started listening.

I need some help. I'm 22 and I've been single my whole life. I've been on dates, but I've never met anyone I felt interested enough to pursue a relationship with. The last year I actually met someone. The only problem is I'm not sure what we're doing. He's, he's met my family and stayed over with my parents, house with me and I've hung out with his friends and he's introduced me to his family and we all went on a day trip together.

He confides me, listens to me and treats me well. We're very compatible and there's a strong attraction. The only problem is, ready? I know where this is going. Is that I asked him to my boyfriend and he said no. I'm confused and when I bring it up up he just skirts on the issue and says, oh, it's a lot of responsibility, but I don't get it. Being in a relationship is practically what we're doing,

especially now that I move back to San Francisco for school. And he's been staying over all the time and even keeping things in my place. Please help Danielle San Francisco. Shout out to Daniel and San Francisco. I'm down. Okay. Daniel, here's a deal. You're not getting what you're wanting. You're not getting what you want.

You're not getting what you want in this relationship. He sounds very not- Because you're getting the cow, dude. That's what's going on. Can I just- Yeah, go ahead. So, I just think that you're not getting what you want. And a lot of guys are, you know, you're 22.

It's young, you're not in the middle. He says it's a lot of work. It just sounds like he's not the kind of guy that you want to be in a relationship right now, even though you are acting in a relationship. This is a very common phenomenon that goes back and forth. It's like, we're everything but commit. And I think I've done this to guys.

They're like, we're everything but together, but you don't want to be my girlfriend. I'm like, exactly. And so you should run from people like that. No, but it's like the commitment thing. He sounds like, you know, he doesn't want to commit. He's got issues around relationships. And he's still young. And Danielle, you have to pay attention to what you want.

I think a lot of times in relationships, more often than not, women are trying to change men. I mean, I'm trying to change women, but let's look at your situation since you're a woman. You're trying to change him. People do not change unless they want to change in a relationship. That is like the most key fundamental thing

that you can learn about relationships. You could want him to change and getting into a relationship with someone thinking they're going to change is wrong. It's never going to happen. People are the way they are. And maybe eventually he'll come around and I think that's what you're thinking. He's going to come around eventually and he's going to want, but it's not going to happen. Like he's telling you right now straight and forward that he's not, doesn't want to be

in a relationship. So I would say if that's what you want, then you need to move on. Yeah, and I totally screwed up what I was trying to say. I said, you're giving them milk, you know when they say oh the cow Yeah, not for free. What is it? Given them they won't buy the cow if they get the milk for free. Yeah, but what are you saying? I'm saying that I mean I know you're saying that means she needs to cut off the for the genus apply that's the only reason that the guys staying around

I don't know where you get your information from. What do you mean? If she needs to stop having sex with him, she needs to play mind games with him and stop playing mind games with them but that's I'm just saying that's why he is sticking around because he is getting laid that's what guys do. But he probably really likes her and he probably just a fear of commitment. He really likes her he would be with her. I'm sorry. But he sounds like he's with her everything but the commitment. That's great but he wants to sleep with other people.

No it doesn't sound like that's the dish. What do you mean? We've talked about this. This is the same reason you won't put your status on Facebook because you want to leave your options open. This is the same reason. No, it's the same thing he's doing right now. He does not want to put a label on things because he wants to leave his options open.

Okay, maybe he does. Maybe he does and she wants more so she should get out. Yeah. Just get out. Done. Bye bye. If you're not getting what you want in a relationship and you're expecting them that you're going to talk them into something, it's not going to happen. No. And maybe leaving him, maybe he'll come back and realize, you know, whatever, but

you can't bank on that. I'm sure if you do leave them, then he might attempt to come back. Sometimes they do. People don't like rejection, but don't bank on that. We don't want to tell you that. Like, I want you to move on and find a guy who wants exactly what you want. And if you do that and he tries to come back after two weeks, like, it don't fall for that crap like cut them off for a long time go you're in San Francisco You play games, man How am I am how my mind effort? Cuz you're so really

Like I this game that women are conniving and attorney get it to dip but then I'm Men that wasn't saying women are conniving. I said I did earlier like so are women and I know but I just don't my brain is using you to get laid I'm saying cut off your vagina and move on. That's all I'm saying And I said that too is a different way. How's that playing? Because you're like then she'll come back and don't go back too quickly. Yeah, don't. I guarantee you, you're probably hit you up because he's not getting laid after like a couple weeks. And then you're going to be in the same position that you're already in. We do that in relationships. We say in the same

positions. And that's why I was going to tell her I was going to say, say, said a deadline and be clearing your intentions. Like, I always have done this with friends. And if they're complaining to me about a relationship, this happens a lot more with women. I think the men because you guys don't sit around and talk about your relationships. I don't know what you talk about, but you don't sit and you're not like, women, we process our relationships. That's what we talk a lot about. And it feels like I have a lot of good friends that we talk about our relationships. And if the same issues come up over and over again, then eventually my, one of my friends and I started this years ago, because I was dating this guy for like

two and a half years, and I was not in and she'd like, okay, Emily, we need to set a deadline. She's like, if by just three months from now, if by December, seven, I remember writing this down, she's like, if by December 17th, you do still feel the same way. Three months, we're going to check in, you got to get out of it. Because I was not changing. I was saying, because you don't realize that you get in the months, go buy and you're still having these issues. So I committed to those three months to really working on my issues that I had with this guy, and like figuring out. And at three months, she would call me, like it was in the calendar.

She was like, what have you decided? And I really made progress. We went to therapy together and decided that we didn't want to be together. So anyway, it was good. It was like a good, it was good having a deadline. So even it's a month or two months, I do this with my friends all the time.

I'm like, okay, we need a deadline for you. We write it down. I think it's a good system. Because your life goes by and you're with people that you shouldn't be with. That happens. Hey, Emily, I absolutely adore your show. I thought I'd let you know that you've got listeners over New Zealand. You are stunning and you have a gorgeous voice to boot. And now I finally see Men's photo. And I know he's as cute as he sounds. How single is he? Even if it's just for my little daydreams over here. He's single. He's single. She wants to know if you're single because she wants to fantasize about you. She has a double check in.

It's a she. Okay. She's from Brazil. Brazilian women. No, she's from she's from New Zealand. New Zealand. I don't know anything about New Zealand, but I'm sure you're beautiful women also. So she wants to fantasize about you. And he's single. Yes, you can fantasize about them. All you want. Cool. Cool. Thank Thank you And oh, do you know why I got mixed up with Brazil because I wanted to mention a story right after his email is I there's a Brazilian listener They're saying how they're a huge fan and they really want me to follow them on Twitter But they don't like have any like I don't follow random people on Twitter that don't have a photograph or any like bio Oh, okay, so I have no idea who you are. Right. You know, so that's why I'm not following you. But I see your messages and thank you,

thank you very much for listening. Can't you just follow him, give him a bone? He's a listener, follow him, what's your problem? Because if I follow him, then he might be sending. Then you de-follow him. And you can find me at Section Thenly on Twitter, by the way, P.S. And Facebook, Section Thenly.

And where do you white menace.com? I'm just white menace.com, you'll find everything. But the other thing is, I just use Twitter for like news feeds and stuff like that. I get a lot of news off it, that's all. I'm really big into Instagram. So if you have Twitter, you might have Instagram. Get Instagram, hit me up on Instagram,

and I'll follow you on Instagram. But don't you need Instagram, it's only for your iPhone? That's only for iPhone right now, yeah. My iPhone drama carries on. I got to get my phone. Okay, if you haven't even gotten to her question yet because we got off on how if you're single and she can fantasize about you. Okay. Yes, Tessa, you can.

I think you're doing something amazing. Letting women know it's okay to have a passionate sexuality and to embrace it. I feel like the more I talk to different women, the more I find out that they are scared of different parts of their sexual selves. Whether it's physical or emotional, I'm gingerly putting my big toe into the SNM lifestyle, which I think was inspired a lot by your show. I just thought, why not try it out, see if that's my thing, and if it's not, no harm, no foul. Listening to all those people who push the boundaries of what is considered normal, and hearing you learning about so much new stuff really gave me the conference try it out Tessa the Kiwi

She's Kiwi I got to look up New Zealand the only thing I know about New Zealand is What what is that that TV show all you don't you're not gonna help me? I do know it's a flight of the Concord's fly the Concord's Yes, see you would know because it's all like hipster and My hipster now I thought hipster is like, so it'd be and cool to like, like, like the conqueror is hilarious. And the only reason I know it is because everyone knows I have an television in 20 years

is because I was dating a guy with the TV during the time with the season it came out and I was an LA guy. And we would watch it together. And I would laugh so hard. I remember laughing so hard thinking like, this should be illegal. This is the funniest friggin thing I've ever seen in my life.

Are you serious? You don't think it's funny? No, I think it so hard thinking like, this should be illegal. This is the funniest friggin thing I've ever seen in my life. Are you serious? You don't think it's funny? No, I think it's cool for people to think it's funny. No, I laughed my, like at heart, I was laughing. I was crying. I watched the entire, I watched the entire, I watched the entire first season.

I probably laughed one time. Okay. It was not funny. Well, I don't know funny. Watch Dave Chappelle. That's funny. I know, I could, yeah. Yeah, he's funny too. You're right, you're right. I think that funny, the was not funny. Well, I know funny watch Dave Chappelle. That's funny. I know I could yeah, yeah He's funny too. You're right. You're right. I think that fight the conquered funny. Let's move into some anal sex tips. Yes

Do that anal sex anal sex Friday I walked in the office. I was like it's anal sex Friday Okay, so we get a lot of you. Oh, I haven't emailed a read about anal sex before we do that because we're gonna lead into it That's what you really have to do. You got to lead into it. Exactly. You have to be careful. You have to be careful. You have to be careful.

You have to be careful. You have to be careful. You have to be careful. You have to be careful. You have to be careful. You have to be careful. You have to be careful. You have to be careful.

You have to be careful. You have to be careful. You have to be careful. You have to be careful. You have to be careful. You have to be careful. You have to be careful. You have to be careful. You have to be careful. in our sex lives, anal play. In the past, we both used things like a butt plug, but then we stopped for a while. But now I find myself more and more turned on by anal aradosis. So are you laughing about that?

No, after you read this email, I want you to explain what a butt plug is. Okay. Anal aradosis and whether it's touching, licking, using toys, et cetera, and for both giving and receiving, I've been trying to persuade her to explore this a little bit more with me. I've been reading a lot on this,

and I try to be gentle, use lots of lube and I make sure to warm her up first. Yes, yes, this is to no avail. We've talked several times about it, but we always end up at the same roadblock. She said she hasn't, she said she had it in the past and it always hurt a lot. She says the only way it's gonna happen, if she's can, oh God, I don't even wanna read this.

The only way it's gonna happen is if she's completely loaded on alcohol and I'll just be able to have my way. But I actually want her to enjoy it as I enjoy it that way. So I'm just going to give you date rape just kidding. Okay. I shouldn't even make jokes about that. And that's interesting for the conquest.

Can you help us with this impasse? Should I just say forget it? Should she explore on her own? Thanks, John. Okay. So it's great that he's reading up on it and he should read up on as much as he can. There's a lot to learn about it. And if she's had painful before, painful anal sex before,

it might be hard to try it a persuader again, but we're gonna give you some tips here. We're talking about it and here's some things I think that might resonate with him that he could work on. Okay, so first how to introduce it? Because we get a lot of emails about anal sex. I cannot answer them all, but this is going to be a blanket answer for everyone. Ready? How to introduce it?

Bring it up in a conversation or during sex, see if she is open to the idea. So just like bring it up, be like, hey, or you can also get closer to that area. This is what happens a lot, I think, rather than talking about it. They try to, yeah, don't, don't move in, don't, don't just move in, but like play with that area. Like use your fingers, use your mouth, see how she responds. You're really into the, the, the astamouth. I don't know. I've got a whole section on eight, ain't Alinguas. Yeah, ain't Alinguas. Can we, can we, why? Because you never explain what a butt plug was.

A butt plug is a sex toy that you can get at Adam and Eve. Okay. And it's a toy that goes in your butt and it can feel good to people. And there's different kinds. There's like a cork. It's like a cork. And there's like ridges. There's ones that are like ridges.

There's ones that are big and small and they have like little balls on the end, like little ridges that go in and you can pull it out. Yeah. It's not a little beads. But there's also, but a butt plug is just a plug that goes in your butt and it just stays there. Yeah. Okay.

Cool. I should give a shout out to Adam and Eve. It sounds amazing. But there are a lot. I actually wish that I brought in because they Adam and Eve.com is our sponsor. We love them. If you want to get anal sex toys, they've got a ton. You can get anything else that Adam and Eve.

They're offering 50% off most items to sex family listeners. They throw in three adult DVDs and a free gift and free shipping. Everything you want. Adam new.com. You can use coupon code Emily at checkout. To buy a butt plug for menace. Do they have a thing called the anal ripper because I went into a sex store and then they had the anal ripper there. They probably do. Maybe you should guys search that. Google it. I don't know. Go to Adam and Eve.

It can sort by anal toys. So, does she, so when you're getting closer to that area during sex, so men like explore with their finger, do whatever, does she tense up, does she moan, is she into it, does she like jump? I mean, start to just, you know, gradually get into it. Does she bunch you in her face? Exactly. It's not something that you only do.

It could also, you know, men could also, a lot of men like anal play themselves. Yeah. And they might not even know it. So it's the same thing. Women can play around with a man's anus. The first time that I, I don't like the word anus that much either. Just like I didn't like the word vagina the other day. I don't know. Anus, I was reading them high times. I'd say anus, but the more you say it's fine. So I can say but, but I've, this is like technical. We're like getting into it. So I'm using anus. So but. I can say but, but this is like technical. We're like getting into it. So I'm using a nice. So I don't know why I have issues with words.

My friend texted me this morning because she listened to yesterday's show and she was like, I hate the word crotch too, because I didn't like the word crotch. Yeah, I don't use crotch. And I can't believe that you said snatch too. Like I wouldn't even bring up snatch. I didn't, did I?

Yeah, you did. Damn. You guys call it snatch out on the street. What do you call it? I don't know how you street. Yeah, I remember, he did. You guys call it snatch out on the street. What do you call it? I don't know. I remember. I remember. But going back to Anelinas, not Anelinas.

Oh, that's nice. I know it was up with you and asked them out. Hold on. Ask them out. The first time I was going to wait to start. It's a way to start. You don't go right with your penis into her anus. I know.

The first time I'm- You do not penis to anus right away. Yeah. Start with your mouth or your fingers or a butt plumb. Yeah. It was the it was the movie road trip. And that was the first time I even heard or even saw about the the milking the prostate procedure. Right. You know, and then that that told me that guys were into that kind of stuff. You know, so many men who are into anal play they might not even know it. Like my friend I was talking about last week who bought the strap on with a dildo. She's gonna. Yeah,

what's the trick? Why is it? Why is it? Oh my God, one of the most successful like two guys in the butt. It's called it's called bend over boyfriend. This guy, the Carol Queen, who's a local sexologist made this film like years ago Bend over boyfriend and it's so popular and it teaches women how to penetrate their um boyfriends Yeah, a lot of men are into it meant because it feels good like their prostate like for men It's very sensitive in there and a lot of guys like the things I'm this is gonna think I'm gay and

Duh-duh-duh, but if they just like let go and they might really like it a lot of more men Then you can realize are into it. And you might be too and you just don't know it. Or maybe you are. I don't know. I am totally. I am. You're not.

Use your lips, kiss your lover's anus and then I around it. Why do you drop on it's like the size of a you go? You're a strap on. You don't need to strap on. No, I'm saying the one that's used on me. Oh, right. Yeah. Right.

Okay, use the flat of your tongue, press it against your partner's anus. Use the tip of your tongue, wiggle it around, slip it inside, moving it in and out, or wiggle it around in circles. That's what you can do, analing us and try it out at the beginning. Oh yeah, just dive right in. Okay, preparing for anal sex. Read about it. Don't try to learn about it from porn.

So don't ever try to learn anything about sex from porn, everyone. That is my, if that, you take one thing away from the show today, that's what it is. Porn is a visual medium that they're making that men fire women, or visually something looks good, but it doesn't mean that's the right way to do it. So, there's like some kind of dressing they put on it before, you know. What do you mean? I don't know. Some kind of sauce or something, are you just... Dressing on the what?

On the anus? Loub. Is it edible? Loub? Loubs are edible. There are lobes that are edible. I'm talking about Ask the Mouth right now. Right. Are you just going without without without any dressing on it? It's just. Well, you could show shine together. I think that if you're going to experience anal sex, you should start by showing together. I don't think you've never done it. So, so, uh, and go to the top. Consider just like anal sex too. What is this? Asked the mouth. No, that's not like, I mean, it's anal play. Okay. Yeah. All right. But it's okay.

I'm just trying to explore. Let's to you ask them out real quick. Okay So no No dressing I'm not joking. I'm I'm asking I don't get the question. What do you mean? I'm saying do you flavor it up first? Do you put like chocolate syrup on the ass? You could be careful. No, no, you shouldn't It's not a taste I get it. could be careful. No, no, no, you shouldn't. That's right. I get it. I'm trying to say it.

No, no, you should not put chocolate sauce or whipped cream and all that stuff is not good because you can get it in the woman's vagina and it can understand what I'm talking about. Is there stuff out there? There is. Liebother. Yeah, Adam and Eve. Adam, you can find flavored lube and you should use lots of lube is very, very important.

It's essential because the anus, the anus, I just was like, what? The anus, men, it's talked to me. What are you saying? The anus does not have any natural lubricants. So you have to use lubricants. Yeah, well, they're you have to use lubricants. So you have to make sure you lose lubricant.

Like lube is your best friend if you're trying anal sex. You've got to use a lot of lube, and you have to use a condom. That's understandable. Highly recommended with a water-based lubricant so the latex condom does not rip or break. Always use a condom. Always, always, always. Because you can just, it's, you can get diseases, there's problems you could get. That digestive tract, it's might also contain harmful micro organisms that can be spread during anal contact. So you just should use a condom.

Don't use sticky petroleum-based products like Vaseline. People always think you can use Vaseline or cooking where I like, don't do any of that. That stuff is bad for you. Try taking a shower together before, like I said, and make sure your bottle's emptied before if you're nervous about it and you're first time. Yeah, you gotta do that, because you still know

what's gonna happen. So if you don't warm or up properly, if you don't do the warm up what what what no No, no, I just had a flashback about something. I'll mention out to this. What was it? The TV show entourage that girl Michelle Gray not Michelle Gray something great the porn star turn actress It doesn't matter something great You can look her up on YouTube. But she actually did a whole video on getting prepared to have anal sex.

I'll send it to you so you can put it on the website. That sounds great. Please do that. So if you don't warm up properly, if you go silly enough, you'll probably heard her. So you have to be so much warm up, so much for play, so much gentle, like get her into it, get her turned on, like do other things,

and then you can move into it. Now, there's a lot of, so, and again, start to touch her closely and see if she's moaning or tensing up. Okay, what you shouldn't do, don't never, never, ever enter without permission. Don't ejaculate inside her if it's requested not to and don't slam or jackhammer be forceful.

It has to be a really slow ease into it process. Like, it's slow, slow, slow, slow. Okay. Like, I had a friend, slow, slow. Okay. Like I had a friend so she was dating this guy recently and when they were having sex, he had to, in order for him to orgasm, like orgasm, he'd stick his finger in her butt and that would make him orgasm every time. And he would just like jam it in and it really bugged her and it's not that she's not into anal play but don't just jam it without any like that wasn't good. They're not dating anymore.

That's what he had to do. Yeah. That is so weird. It's not anything. It's not that weird. I mean, I think there's guys who are well, everyone's got their thing. But I'm just saying he would like jam it and she would not be like not prepared because he wasn't doing any anal play.

So just be careful. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. How about that? Okay. These are some positions that are good for anal sex. Okay. Doggy style.

Obviously. Missionary position though is actually the best beginner position for anal sex. It allows the receiver to fully relax the anus making penetration easier. So with the man on top, missionary, people think doggy style only because like anal, but missionary is actually an awesome way. Side anal, this is another really popular position when you're laying on another, when you're, you know, laying on their side and they receive it that way in the rear. Yeah. Yeah. And yeah, that's why I got an anal sex. All right, I'm sure that's gonna cause a lot of debate feedback.

What do you think? I don't think so. I think it's like you said a warm-up you've got to go slow. You have to remember just like I think that a lot of people want to get their partner into it and I think a lot of women and men are like terrified by it. So it's just like have lots of Lou Bunhan start something small like a finger or you know a butt plug from Adam and Eve and then move on to the penis. Yes. Or penetration. OK, I've got to talk about something a new segment that we're having next week that people have to start emailing us right now. OK.

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