Sex With Emily - Best Of: All the Oral You Can Handle

Episode Date: October 23, 2019

On today’s throwback podcast from the SWE Vault, Dr. Emily is joined by Menace and they’re getting into everything oral sex – from oral etiquette to getting over insecurities – and she’s answering your questions. The two discuss the craziest places they’ve had oral, as well as the way social media is taking a toll on relationships (mind you, this was 3 years ago!). Plus, Emily gives advice on getting past the gag reflex, confusion on your partner’s oral reactions, and details on going from front to back (hint: don’t!).Follow Emily on all social: @sexwithemilyFollow Menace on all social: @menaceFor even more sex advice, tips, & tricks, visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to the show and you're gonna love this one because we are talking about everyone's favorite topic Oral sex. I know you love it and you want to be better at it and you want to understand it So in this show, I'm giving you what you want from how to give to how to get to the tips you need to below your partner's mind Men and women. I'm answering your emails and all things oral to help you get better at going down So things everyone for listening, enjoy the show. Now, look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our secret institutions.

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Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean like laundry? It's drinks? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm off here, I'm so drunk. Being bad feels pretty good. You know, Abelene's not the kind of girl you just playing with it. So you can install our podcast and sign up for our mailing list. Have you not done that yet? Really?

You really should. Because our mailing list started. They were not. We sent out one a week. I've done it like this. Like I was. We sent out, you know, once a week, we don't spam you or anything. But people really like them.

And we send you good interesting information. If you miss the shows, we do two a week. We wrap them up in there or we send blog posts. So check that out and videos, all that fun stuff. And I'm here with Menace. Hello. Hello, darling. I am excited to be here with you. I swear.

I swear. I swear I actually really, really like me today. Yeah. Now you like me, Lollily, because we don't see each other as much. We used to do each other five days a week, and it was like, oh, yeah. Too much. I know.

This shows about oral sex. No one's ever an expert on it. I mean, except for you, right? Yeah. Now, I've always had stuff to learn. I really do. I think that we were always learning. I, we were always, always learning new tips and tricks.

I remember reading a book once. I just was talking, what's the son of a show? I don't know what's on this show. But I gave this, no, I didn't. It was in an interview, actually. So it was an interview that someone was doing on the phone. But I remember just like, we all tend to do the same things sexually over and over again like this is how I give a blowjob.

This is how I give a hand job. This is how I kiss. But I was reading a book early on in the show when I started doing the show about oral sex blow jobs. And it said to do something, I wish I could have a boy the exact move was, it was like something with my tongue and my hand, it was like mixing it all together and I was about to go give a blowjob funny enough that night to my boyfriend. And when he was asked and I tried this little trick,

like I'd be giving him blowjob for six months and he was pleased. He never complained, you know, he liked him. Yeah. But I did this little trick and he was like, oh, and he came and he was like, what the hell did he just do? Who have you been hanging out with?

No, no, where I like did this little trick. It was like a little tongue wiggle pull thing, and I'm just like, you know what? You can always become better at everything in life. So don't just stop, you know, with your oral sex limitations. Yeah, I wanna go back to that, but what's going on with you?

Are you trying to get where? I'm going anywhere, doing things. I'm going to New York, and a few weeks to see you two my friends putting on a concert their backstage. Sweet. I know. It's going to be awesome. She works for Salesforce.com foundation and they're doing a you two thing.

A you two thing. And so I said, I'm going backstage. That's awesome. I know awesome. It'll be really fun. So that'll be like a fun trip. I'll do a little bit of work there and a little bit of fun. And I should plan more trips this summer, maybe Palm Springs.

I kind of like Palm Springs. It's easy. It's Palm Springs is great. It takes you hours away. You're in this like a totally different place. You're in the desert. Yeah, it's cool. That's super fun.

I'm going to New York too, but in August. Well, I'm going to Boston first and then I'm going to New York. And then in September, I'm going to, oh my God, Haiti, the Grand Caymans, Jamaica, Mexico, yeah. You're going on a cruise? Yeah. A Disney cruise? No, why aren't you going on a Disney cruise?

Because I assume that you would have all been... I mean, I love Disney cruises, they're like my favorite. And they believe it or not, there's a billion adult only sections of the show. I don't know, so I don't make you mess showing up when I'm giving my Boy kind of spontaneous low job on the yeah, and I read Oda you could you could pretty much avoid kids if you want to the entire time And those are the concepts I like not that I don't love kids, but but you know You know, everyone knows if they've been listening to podcasts a long time. I'm super Disney fan and I I love it Okay, I know I'm adult, but it's fun. But the problem is the only time that I have

Off is batches up with crews that I already taken so this one I'm going on a different one. Good times Forget what your lady. Yeah with my lady. So we're gonna go check it out and have some fun Get in some hot weather and some vacation sex. If vacation sex is always good and fun. Everyone should check it out too because I just wrote a new column for Harper's Bazaar online and it's about vacation sex and it's coming out soon. Now it might even be out by the time you guys are all listening to this show. We talked about this in the last podcast but I always like to promote it. If you are downloading this podcast from iTunes, please just write a little review

The podcast is free. It costs Emily a lot of money to put together In time spent there's employees say hello everyone in the room say hi Amazing, that is in producer amazing. So there's like a lot that goes into it So I'm not to guilt trip you or anything, but just please, just write a review, give it five stars because five stars is always great. And I announced this on the last podcast if you didn't see this, I hear this,

sorry, I was looking up all the podcasts and you're like in top 250, 260 in my mind. I too. I can cry. Hundreds of thousands of podcasts out there. It's crazy. 250 to 60 that's my my entire I tune that's like hundreds of thousands of podcasts out there. It's crazy. I didn't believe it when I saw that. You told me I mean you told me.

No, but I wanted to say for sure. I know that's really we never talk outside the show but that's probably the best. But that's amazing you guys. I just want to thank you for allowing me to do what I love and make it really hard to be like an artist and make a living and do what you love. Because I actually, I never ever say I don't want to the show.

Like, there's other things I don't want to do. Like, I don't feel like doing my taxes or I don't feel like talking to my accountant or not. But things that I'm about to jot, I don't want to go to the website. It's hard for me, right? But I friggin' love doing the show and I love hearing from you all. And I just want to thank everyone for like 10 years of supporting the show and making the top podcast and thank you, Menace, and we're gonna do a live show so listen up for information coming soon. And then getting back to Blow Jobs because that's what's

about some important, real quick. Yeah. Okay. Where do you think is the craziest place you've given a blow job? Can you remember? Gosh, that is such a good question. Yeah, I know I've given some crazy blow jobs in some crazy weird places that are sort of precarious.

I remember it a wedding once, like in the Hamptons. Really? There was like a super fancy outside tent and everything. And we, I took the boyfriend at the time and we went like, not too far off the tent. As the wedding's going on, there's a reception. But they were already walked on the aisle. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Yeah. All the boring stuff is done. And it was like outside and I believe that people walked by and there might have been some kind of embarrassment. They saw you. I know, they saw you. Giving for a show.

I mean, I'm kind of a busy place. Oh, I know like in my house recently, like visiting my parents in Michigan, thank God they don't listen, but I remember giving one like on the back porch and then I my mom will catch and lights off. That was a embarrassing at this age still. And then also, you remember my famous Coachella experience when I had sex at Coachella outside, funny enough that guy from years ago, I haven't talked to him in years, but he lives in LA and we ran into each other.

Now we're like, oh, speaking of me, you met us, so we did the best friends of my exes, which I am really good friends. We're super good friends now. I'm like, remember that 10-and-we-bane to go to LA? I talk about it all the time. I'm ruled. Yeah, what's the crazy place you've ever received,

Felicia? Probably backstage at a concert. I don't know, nothing to insane. Yeah, we got a ride. We did a car roadhead. Yeah, we got a safe. I don't recommend it. We got a borrow, so many private jet and dislike.

How about my brothers? Yeah, my brother's jet. And to say, hey, we need it for a second. I know, no, I mean, we'll see. Okay, so, Felicia, but first we got a little sex in the news. You'll appreciate this because it has to do with an Apple product. Okay. Which, yeah.

That's weird, Apple and Sex Together. That's interesting. That's interesting. Yeah, tell me more, please. Apple adds feature to iOS 9 that lets you track your sex life. You'll soon be able to track how active your sex life is using your phone, iPhone, thanks to a forthcoming update. Apple's iOS 9 will let people track when and how often they

have sex as well as letting women log their menstrual cycle. The company's privacy come on our fire for ignoring the importance of female customers and this will be redressed when the revamped health kit rolls out in autumn. Isn't Iowa's 9 already out? No, I'm on 8 right now. Okay, users were able to track how much water they drink, so it's all like everyone's like becoming like the Fitbit, right? Like everything's like that. So UV exposure, how long they sit still for, my would be like, you did not sit still once today. And they're as well as their reproductive health, but they didn't provide further details. They will be able to enter details as like when they had

sex, when they use protection. But I want to know like who's really going to do that? I like the thing. Reason why I love the Fitbit, you still have your zone I lost a couple months ago. Doesn't never fall off, I lost two of them. I'm done, how about it? How come you were? No, but you have like a small wrist. You're probably, you know, it just pops off.

Really? Pissing me off, because I loved it. I was like, because the truth is about the Fitbit, if you all know, it does, I'm like, oh, I've only done five thousand steps today, you know, like it makes me want to do more. But I think this is harder because you've got to plug it in. Like, oh, I just had sex. Hold on a honey. Let's write this down. Yeah, you don't want to write this. But then a few weeks ago, we had a sex and you straight about a mattress where you

remember that mattresses that measure your sex life, there's a mattress that's going to be able to measure how often you've been active and then it's going to send you text messages and be like, hey, you should take your partner on a date tonight because you guys haven't banged in a while. You guys should try the doggy style Everyone wants to check your goddamn sex life. I think there's a crisis people sex lives apparently And I'm also kind of pissed about iPhones. Can I just talk about that for a minute? Okay, what's wrong? I think since Steve Jobs died the iPhone has just gone downhill Approportics in general and then we're all true believers and we all love it and everybody's iPhone because it's cool We can eye message, but I think that like the droids and then we're all true believers, and we all love it, and everybody's iPhone, because it's cool, and we can eye message.

But I think that like the Droid's, Android Samsung, they're far superior in a lot of ways. Wow, look at you, ho. I know, you don't even know how I knew what Android was, but I do. Yeah, that's cool. You disagree? Yeah, I definitely disagree.

I think it's good. I think it's good. Okay, and I know, man, because Android, not like tech with Amelie. Yeah, but Android users are so hardcore about Android, and I know they get upset with that. And I have an Android also, and I've worked with tech startups. I've worked at a startup before I moved to Los Angeles.

And every single app is a subpar version of an iPhone app. It just is. But, Android's are great. They have amazing options that iPhone do not have. So, I'll give them that. Okay. Yeah. Like, like, like, HagleCam app, which is not on Android yet. I think with a camera wise,

the newest Samsung is actually the best camera I've seen on the... That's when I've heard. On the iPhone. So, I'll buy the camera. You're all about your Instagram. What is your Instagram? Just menace, ME and ACE. So, yeah, so props on that, but I mean,

I went through the apps and the apps are okay, but they finally... I'm not like to... Finally, Andrew is there with the camera on that phone is as equal as I'm. Okay, so I mean, I'm not saying there's always like drawbacks and everything. There's pros and cons, but I did just get the six,

though, you'll be happy to know. Could I drop the five in the toilet? Did your brother get for you? No, my brother, my brother bought me an iPad once. And men's legs like, did your brother, no, it's always ever bought me. Oh, really? Okay. We think he's bought my dinners, trips.

Didn't he get you a laptop? Your brother's amazing. I love him. Dude, he got me an iPad. It was really small with him. I know. He's in town right now. He's coming out, but you got me an iPad. It was really small with him. I know. He's in town right now. You're coming out, but you don't want to.

And he loves you too. Dude, how wasted we get at the Ritz Carlton difference is for that night. We were okay. So there's a quick story. Emily's brother was staying at the Carlton in Teferns, Cisco. And he was all like some special.

Her brother's like a baller. He's like, he was on like some special V her brothers like a baller. He's like, right. Like amazing. So he was on some VIP floor where they have like a free alcohol. It's like open bar. Oh, he's open food. All you can eat is crazy.

I've never seen anything like this before. So we go there. We're just getting hammered, wasted. And there's all these classy people dressed up, and you know, of course we were. We were not one of them. Yeah, we're like, I'm dressed like a bum, and I'm in there, and we're just laughing so hard in there. And I just couldn't, I'm like, I'm stopping for a second.

I'm realizing that everyone is just staring at us, because we're just rowdy. And I love your brother. That's why I want you to come with us tonight, but no rush. I know, because I know if I go out with your brother. I know. That's why I want you to come with us tonight, but no, Pash. I know because I know if I go out with your brother, then I'm just gonna be out all night. And I have on Friday, the next day,

I have a 22-hour day of straight work. That's unhealthy. It is unhealthy, but I have to do it. You look good, though. Did you lose weight? I've actually been working out every single day for the past month. Are you men? It's okay. Wait, you've never done that in your life. I mean, I have. Not working out every single day for the past month. Are you men? It's okay, wait.

You've never done that in your life. I mean, I have. Not every day. I'm, you look great. I meant to see that when you walked in. Yeah. It's your same, really proud of you. Yeah, I have a, I'm training for a marathon.

I know. You have to prepare for this. Yeah. Well, it's like, because I'm running. Yeah, I'm running and so forth. Everyday running. Yeah, every day, every day for the past like months. Like I don't. Yeah, I'm running and so. Every day running. Yeah, every day, every day for the past like months. I don't even know, like I need a moment.

I don't even think I just want to. I just really want to get back to where I was. I, uh, 10 years ago when I met you. 10 years ago. I didn't even talk about that. I never thought that I would do it. I was still out of you. But it's just sucks because, okay, so.

I'm dying. I got kid even speak. I'll tell you what happened. I, I mean, I mean, McDonald's every day for a month or whenever. Star, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I'm part of a morning radio show called The Woody Show. You can park your seat. It's not about boners or sex, so don't download it and think you're going to hear about weeners and boobies. It's not going to happen. But the thing is, it's getting a really hardcore fan base.

And then so I go out all the time and people want to take photos with me. And you know how I like to control the photos. Well, I'm not going to say, hey, let me take the photos or let me look at the photo. I'm like, oh, yeah, it's cool, we can take a pic. And then people take a pic and then put the social media out there and all that stuff. And then I look at it, I'm like, oh my god, it looks so bad. It looked terrible.

This is what happens is celebrity. This is what happens. And then you get anorexic. Don't get anorexic. I'm not gonna get anorexic. I'm still eating what I want to eat. Look at my Instagram, I'm still not holding back. But I'm definitely healthy for your longevity.

Yeah, so I definitely want to just like at least, you know, do something about it. Okay. And then I actually feel way better. So that's cool. Okay, awesome men. So I'm really proud of you. Thank you.

I really warm the conversation with my heart. Anybody that feels like. I'm gonna get to email her now. Yeah, I'm gonna get to know you. I'm gonna get to know you. I know, I know. We'll talk about talking to our leaders in a second. No, Anne, we don't know her. I know, I know. I know, we'll talk about talking to leaders in a second. No, and-

But I just wanna talk about inspiring people. If you feel the same way, just get up and do it. Every day I know it's hard, there's days that I don't wanna get in the gym and do it, I just do it. And you just start off, so don't go from zero to a thousand. Just start off from 10 minutes a day. Like Michael, do a Michael Moore, the filmmaker, he started a whole walking thing

He's like just walk for 10 minutes and that's yeah, so I'm just really proud of you because this has been a 10 year Thank you. All right. Let's talk about leaners. Okay. Thank you for emailing me feedback at sex with Emily dot com and for Gynast and people's you can yeah feedback at sex with Emily dot com I love hearing from you and I also love even more when you include your name You can we can change your name but where you are? Where you live and how old you are and yeah how you listen is cool too. We'd so nihilist but really it's how old you are okay ready and you're where you live. All right dear Emily. I came across your website recently and I listened to a handful of

your podcasts while on a long drive. Needless to say I fall in love with your podcast. Anyway I'm a 24 year old woman and I'm pretty sure I'm a rarity when I say I love giving blow-dops, the main reason being I get ridiculously turned on by hearing a guy breathe heavy and or moan, and I'm sure it's somehow subconsciously related to my own ego. I guess I'm just curious if this is normal for women. I mean, I know guys really enjoy hearing women get off, but I've never really heard about it the other way around. Thanks Emily, sincerely be. I think that's really funny because first of all, I think that women do. Definitely, I love that you're saying this because I've actually been having a debate lately

with my friends. It just happened last week where my guy friend was like, I don't think that women do women really like low-dubs. They're always saying, I can't wait to have your cock in my mouth or whatever. They text me that. He's like, I don't think that women do women really like low-dubs. They're always saying, I can't wait to have your cock in my mouth or whatever, they text me that. He's like, what do they really like it? I'm like, yeah, some women do some don't, but I think women like it. And then my friend, he's got all her married friends,

she texts it all. And they all said, no, only has birth, they don't like it, blah, blah. But I'm like, I like it. Like I don't, so I think it's split. I don't think it's a 50. I don't even know what the split is. But what is your perception?

Do you think that women like it in your overall like do you think that they just do it? Are they like they just like? Did they really enjoy it? Oh, what do you think? I think I agree with you on the 50 50. Yeah, yeah, I was just saying I don't know if it's 50 50. I want to hear from you guys because I love it. Mm-hmm.

I mean, I've never- I think some just do just to do it though. Like I remember like, remember when you hear when Linda Curler was on the show and she was like, I've been with Adam for 20 years, I've never said no. Never say no to the BJ. I was like, why would you? It's like a 10 minute thing.

It's like, that's how I used to say flowers for women. Okay, so be, you're totally fine. You are in the zone that's great. And you realize the magic and the power of the blow job. I know, and you keep your man happy. You keep him happy and it's great that you love it because it helps you get good at everything in life. I think that there's a lot of women who don't like it.

They might say it's the taste or the comfortable but I think a lot of women and men say with Conlinkus, they feel like they just don't know what they're doing or they're not confident. But the only way you're gonna get better is that when you keep doing it and you get the positive moans and the feedback and that totally turned you on. I think that's awesome beat it turned

you on. So I want to be clear though it's totally fine for women to enjoy sex as much or if not more than men. So you are not unusual. I'll beat you are my hero. Yeah. Yeah. It was funny. There was this famous actress I trying to play, but she would say in interviews just keep your man Drained and fed in your good and he'll never leave you Train you'll be like a puppy dog next to you. Yeah, so control. Yeah, it's true though. I mean it's not that hard And I just build it up on the blood We'll take a time. I can't see The oral sex women maybe takes a long or whatever, either way you should go down.

Okay, hey Emily, first and foremost, I want you to know how much I love and appreciate your show. You provide an invaluable service and it's a pleasure to get insight on sex and relationships from such an intelligent, well-spoken, classy woman. I'm classy. Anyway, onto my question. I love giving oral sex. It's so intimate and sexy. And there are a few things as beautiful. There are a few things as beautiful as women climaxing when I'm going down on her. But with the last few women I've slept with, it seems like it only goes on for a few minutes

before they want to have intercourse. I'm the type who likes taking his time. So it's making me wonder, would they be hurrying things along? Because are they hurrying things along because they're so turned on? Or because they aren't enjoying themselves and want mering things along? Because are they herring things along? Because they're so turned on or because they aren't enjoying themselves and want me to belong. I'd appreciate your input.

Thanks again, Sean. Oh, Sean, I love you. You are my dream man. They're a set it. I wish all men had these feelings about oral sex because there's a really complicated thing going out with oral sex because I do believe that a lot of women, there's like different substance. They're like, he doesn't want to be doing it.

Maybe I taste weird or smell funky and he doesn't want to be there and it's going to take me a long time. So I'm just going to say, let's just have sex. And I think a lot of women can test that. And the best thing that a guy should, if you're into it, the best thing that you can say to a woman and I'm telling you, I've had guys say this to me and it is like music to my ears when they say, I love doing this and I could be here all night. Because then when he's going down to me and he's like, listen, I love this.

I want to do this. Layback relax chill. And you're like, oh, it takes all the crash off because we're always thinking, does he want to? We're looking at the clock, 10 minutes, 15 minutes, and 90 more. But you know, I'm saying like, settle in. Tell me you got some time and you're going to be there and hopefully show relaxed more Sean. So I think you got to let him know how much you really want to be there between your legs. Pleasing her.

I actually never asked you this in the past 10 years and you've always promoted oral sex. Is it your favorite thing that guys do to you if they know how to do it? Um, is it your all-time favorite? I think it's yeah that's it's top top. Top? How many things in there? What is your top three? Then what is your favorite? I mean, I guess I like inner course. I like being spanked. Now I like doing talk. No, I really have to say oral sex is probably one of my top things. Yeah, if you like it, you promoted so much.

I hate to, you know, it is like choosing between like children or something. Like for me sex is like, can I say oral sex? But yeah, I love some really good warm up with oral sex. If a guy knows how to do it, or I, you know, and he's into it. Because that's when I'm going to tell you to come up That's when I'm gonna say oh, it's cool to have sex because I know you're not into it. It's just like blowjumps You don't want to blowjob from a woman who's like gagging and like rolling her eyes and like make it It's just so like no pressure to it at all. They're just doing it to do it. That is the absolute worst

The number one tip I always give our oral sex across the board for men and for women is to be enthusiastic and to be into it And if you're not you go to scotty fake as you make it. You might as well not even do it. Don't even do it. Don't even try it. Just say I'm not into it. Exactly. And there are plenty.

Because then he's just going to go around and say, oh, she gives terrible blow jobs. Right. You might as well not even try that, right? So, and but Sean, it could be happening for a number of reasons. Like I said, how does nothing do with you? She could be insecure. She might have trouble relaxing. So you could try to do that. She could be sensitive. There's a lot of women who actually are oversensitive. In fact, women who are very orgasmic, multi-organic, tend to be women who actually don't like oral sex or doesn't feel good to them.

But I can imagine the last three women you've been with are the best few that this is the case. So it's normal to feel insecure that it's about your oral sex skills. Like we all question ourselves when our partners say, no, does something return away that we think it's us. But I think that you should just, you know, go slower. Every woman's different and ask what she wants. Again, it's always great to start off slow and just let her know that you are there and you're settling in.

You're going to pinch your tent and hang out for a while. That's all I want. Okay. Hey Emily and staff ladies That would be everyone here. I've been listening for a while and I've been listening for a while and now you know it yeah, okay Hey Emily and staff ladies. I've been listening for a while now and always find the show entertaining and usually find it instructive Thanks so much for everything. Each of you do. My wife of 20 years and I've used your valuable information to enhance your sex life and grow even closer. This brings me to my question. A few nights ago as I was washing the vomit off my genitals,

I realized that my wife might need some help learning to give a blowjob. That happened to my friend once, but I think it would be just because she was drunk. She threw up on us. That happens too. She only recently started trying to learn this skill and apparently has a fairly active gag reflex. She's open to learning and I want to encourage her. We bought the tickle as pickle book you featured on the show and that helped, but she doesn't

learn from books. Would any of you, would any of you, have a beginner-friendly video recommendation towards learning this womanly art? Thanks so much. Have a happy season. Holiday season, everyone. Nate from Austin.

Okay, Nate, I love this question. I'm gonna get right back to it. After I tell you something very important. Okay, Nate, here's a thing. I love this question. We have had some feedback in the past that we don't do a lot of tips for women. I had to give a good BJ. And I know we have, but whatever. We have done a lot. Do you think she's this gang because she's like just going too far? No, I think they're women. Yeah, she's probably going too far. She sees it in porn. She thinks that that's what men don't really want.

But you don't have to deep thote every time to please him. If you have a sense of gag, reflex, here's the thing. Is that you can use your hands. You can like put it in your mouth. But like if as long as you have enough pressure on the penis, you don't have to go all the way back there. Plus the nerve endings that bring the most pleasure is the tip of the penis, the front new lump, which is on the underside of the penis. So if you just like, if you like, keep your mouth

around the head so that your lips hit the area where the head meets the shafts, that gently on the tip, and you use your tongue to place pressure on the underside of the front new lump. So like the underside of the penis works. You're a rack, you know, I'm talking about the boy that that's pointing down towards your balls. Yeah. That little area beneath the tip is the frenulum. It's your best friend. It feels really, really good when a woman sucks on it.

So she could do that. I mean, I don't know if you're forcing her head in there or if she just thinks she has to, but clearly it's not her thing. And if she's vomiting on you, just tell her to like, like really, she could use her hand job blow job combination. Those two sensations together, I mean, you ever going to turn down like a blow with a head, they use hands when we use their hands, the

balls, the whole thing. They need to. They need to. Yeah. You want to have more pressure. So I think she should just like, step away from the deep throat. Although, if you do want tips and you're listening and you don't actually vomit, but you want to know more, the best thing is to just relax your throat. And to breathe before you do it, and you relax your throat, and you like, got your tongue fall back, and you just take deep breaths, and you can learn to relax it. But it sounds like that's just not her thing. In this situation, you know better what feels good for you. So if you teach

your partner how to please you, you know, maybe you guys can do mutual masturbation. She knows how you want to be touched, but no more gag reflex for her. Anticholous Pickle is a great book for anyone who wants to learn about the pickle. Sweet. Yeah, okay.

Okay, A to V legging. All right. Hi, I'm 36 years old. I'm writing from Omaha, Nebraska. Is it safe for a man to lick my A and then my V? That would be an Assemblina for those of you who aren't Sorry, I'm just laughing because there's a song out right now called a to V. No, oh, Choffa butter. Well, not even that dude. There's another one that says

Eat the booty like grocery Yeah, there's Nicki Minaj eat your ass like grocery. Yeah. There's Nicki Minaj eat your ass like a cupcake also. Oh, yeah, it's very popular right now. So trendy. It's last night. Not that I don't love sex, but right now. I think you go astamouth all the time because you never

denied that you didn't. Every time I call you every time I bring it up you should never go asked about all right that's bacteria that's bad for you can't go I don't know I see like I just go to the mouth do I ever want a mouth on an ass yeah are I was thinking we're talking about China's an ass yeah yeah but I'm just starting no I don't do that very well. I know, I don't. I actually can't be honest, can't be honest.

I don't. Okay. I don't. All right. And I should. And I will finally, you made a statement about it. Because every time I bring it up, you kind of give a giggle like that is something going on in your daily life.

I probably should. I should admit it or just do it. Let's answer a project list. Um, no, I mean, I didn't know that much to be honest. Oh, see you have. I mean, I can't remember the last. All right. I'm just saying. I knew it. I knew it. Just okay. She wants to know. I didn't finish it because you fucked. You, you know, she wants to know the same question goes for me licking him and then going back to a blow job. Is it risky for me to transmit bacteria?

Thanks for the great advice, Jess. Yes, Jess, it can transmit vector. Any time you go from anal to vagina, or anal to penis, or anal to friggin your turkey sandwich. It is a bad idea. Because then you're eating bacteria with your mayo. The whole thing is not good. Okay.

Anal, and then you go to the bathroom. So what do you do about that? This is what you do. All right. If you go anal, then you go and you wash it off. Like, you don't, you don't go back and forth. You brush your teeth, you wash your hands, you change the condom. If it's like you're having anal sex,

and you're going back to vaginal sex. So it's really important. So you and your partner should both be showered and totally cleaned down there before any mouth to anus action, not that I would know. I don't know, I'm kidding. I've done it. I just can't realize time.

I'm super busy. No, no, no, no. I need you to tell me the last time just that you've done it before. I need that I need to busy. No, no, no, no. I need you to tell me the last time just that you've done it before. I need to do iOS 9 so I can start tracking my anal activity. Is that you haven't looked at any anus recently? Do you mind? Is it gonna text me and be like anal activity?

Yeah, you haven't had any anal activity in 14 days. I know. But do you know what's also, it's crazy, My one of my old co-workers said that he had a X-Croft that was super into it like she wanted to do it all the time. There's some people and there's guys who are super into it Everyone that everything's good you guys. It's all normal. It's all fine. We're skiggling because obviously it's funny But we're not judging. No you guys people freaking lovely. Yeah, don't be a tight saying that we're judging No, yeah, don't email me angry. Everyone wants to be a Fendee, I know right? Do you know let's get pissed? Oh my god try being

You on the air every day because you also are more offensive in nature Well, yeah, and then people just Overanalyze everything Jesus Christ You think that like being offended is people's like full-time jobs. I know. Seriously. Well, they have some freaking fun. I know. All right. We don't we love you all. Can't you tell? Of course. Okay. So here's a thing. Jess, you and your partner should both be showered. Like I said, be showered for any mouth to ainess, any ainess, anything. Please just do it in the shower. That's a great way to do it. And you're instantly you can wash it off. Right. It's not a great idea to switch from anal

angus to oral because bacteria she's totally right. So if you want to engage in backdoor play during or whether it's like a BJ or while he's going down and you can explore using a finger too. So don't use your mouth and always always always always always always use lube and wash your hands. And these days with like sanitizers and all Like, I have some wipes by your bed. Like, I have wipes by my bed. I have a lot of things by my bed. What kind of wipes? I have like, like those, like, sex twig cleaners.

I don't know. They're just regular wipes. I got it with the grocery store. It's your nightstand is full of, dude. It's just stuff. It's like, lube and me. I really, I would love to ask my intern Lori here to come and clean it.

I was like, I'm sorry, but I'm not going to. Because she'd have to research her gloves and it's like really embarrassing. Yeah, it has bad suit. Here's the problem. There's probably, and I'm no joke in my bedroom, 200 vibrators, and the problem is they're all recharging, and they're tucked away.

Oh, okay. You're like, what? Let's electricity bill must be. They're not all charged. But the problem is these vibrators, these days, they don't come with, like, this is a fun factory vibrator. This is a vibrator, then you gotta to match the chords with the I don't forget Which goes with which I didn't have a label maker out when I was master reading charging it

What I realized of the problem is I'm gonna get back to in a link is in a minute. Yeah, is it my house? It's not only not kid proof. It's not date proof So I had this date come over a few weeks ago I'm like, oh my god, I forgot those when charging in the bathroom So I had this date come over a few weeks ago. Nice, like ton of dildo. Literally. Yeah. I'm like, oh my god, I forgot there was one charging in the bathroom. I mean, I need a full on hour to hide. I've got a wedge.

Oh man. Thank God the Sibian's not set up yet. Yeah. I don't know what the hell I'm going to do with that. Yeah. It's really like it's not date proof at all. It's a problem. Set up the Sibian.

I promise. I swear. Okay, awesome. And you and your girlfriend can come here. I just want to see what it looks like. It's awesome. I mean, it's got 500 heads to it. When you guys are going to die, we're going to do some videos on it.

All right. Okay. So anyway, back to our play, tears of deal. The lining of your in-laptivity is very thin. And so it does not provide enough lubrication. That's why I'm always saying whenever you are having anal sex, even if you're using your fingers, you want to use a leaf, not your saliva.

So all that spitting, you see importance up. That's also bacteria that's not safe. So nothing should go near your back door, toys, fingers, penis, anything should go back there and then, in your vagina, on your vagina, any of that. So keep wipes, all that stuff, very bad. Like I do. I can never find them, those are very dumb choice.

All right, we've got some more sex. We've got some more things about oral sex. Are we good here? People? We're having a good time here. Okay, dear Emily, I love the show. Okay, here's Sitch. I love performing oral sex on my lady friends.

Here's the caveat. My orgasms are not as intense without it. And I recently started sleeping with someone who insists that I gargle after going down in her and it completely takes me out of the mood. I'm not opposed to the taste. She really is clean. So why must I gargle after?

Is that what she goes down to her? And she's like, don't make out with me. Wow. We never hear about that. I know. You always hear the guy who's like, you just followed my gizz. Fresh tea. I know you never hear about that. I know you always hear the guy who's like, you just followed my giz, brush your teeth. Some guys do that. Yeah. And it's a venture. It's just weird. But it's whatever. It's just your own giz, it's not like some

other guys, you know. Yeah, because that's really weird. Yeah. Okay. So you should just, you know, so why should I gargle after? Is that a thing to do? Ask, going downtown now to go on Rinsom, is that a thing to go downtown and then rinse my mouth? Should I suck it up and mentally get back into the game? Like it's pissing them off. He's like, I just gave you an orgasm and now you open to go to the bathroom and get out of the mood and gargle.

But I guess it's not unusual because women are always self-conscious and men about their penis and about their taste of how they taste down there. I think for men, they're thinking like not even just like, I think for women that like, I think it's the same thing. They think that they're not gonna taste good. Thank you for going down there,

but I don't want anything to do with it. For their hygiene, because we're always wondering if we're clean or not. And I have to admit that there have been guys I've been with, it's been a while since the guys were like, don't kiss me. But I also don't try to, I'm not like, I'm like trying to like make out with them

right after I swallow their semen. But I do understand this, and obviously he's probably, these guys, he's okay with her kissing him after Flascio. But if it's a deal breaker, I would bring it up or just, why does he just put some of those breaths strips by your bed instead of having to get out of bed?

Or just keep some mouthwashed by the bed and poured into a cup of me. The thing is, I don't think this should trip about as much as it, I mean, I think we can put it into this. I think that you could like split the difference. If it freaks her out and you still wanna make it out, like put a breast strip in your mouth or like drink some water.

Cause for me, like after, if I, let's say I swallow, I'll drink some water and then, you know, it's all good. Like we're all fine. Like you're not gonna get sick from it But he's offended and it takes a lot of mood has this ever happened you with a girl? No, that's just weird No, I think I always hear that with guys though, you know, but why is it why are guys so freaked out and girls typically aren't? I don't know because guys are weird too

It's hard to understand Things like I think guys are like I want to taste my Jets or maybe I called Uber or maybe also like Maybe she had a bad past experience You know something with her on yeah, maybe she had a bacterial vaginosis or something and so I'm going on or that You infection or I don't know. I don't know All it takes is really one guy to be like, that you're disgusting down there.

Like things are not so fresh. And it just, you're done for as bad as that. Yeah, you were, you were finished for life. It's true. Or some guy tells you you got a small penis in the locker room at a young age. I mean, if anyone insults your genitalia across the board, it will stick with you for life.

So that could be it as well. So Sean, nothing we were talking about. And saying, you know, is that Sean, right? I think you're Jason. Yeah, just say, hey, do I really need to go do that right now? Right. Like, I think it's great. Also, Sean, I also find it kind of weird that you're even Jason. Jason, it's Jason. Yeah, whatever. I thought you just had Sean. I did. It was a mistake. My'll have a one to go. Correct it. My bad. Jason. I do come find it kind of weird. Like you're you can lay it.

Who cares your guy? You know what I'm saying? I know, but he's sensitive about it. You guys don't really care or sensitive or care about this kind of stuff. No. So, you know, if that's just something like something she had a bad experience in the past and that's what she really wants to do to get through it You know what you're still getting laid. There's a billion guys out there not getting laid and that it would be happy to

Flanko do you some mouthful? They would go to the store. Yeah, they would walk 50 miles to their house to the chicks house, you know, joke man cares But yeah, at least talk to her at least once and if she says that's what she likes and just stick with it. And there's a lot worse things that shouldn't make you do, you know. Exactly. Thank you, menace. It's been a wonderful show.

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