Sex With Emily - Best Of: Back to Mastur-Basics

Episode Date: May 18, 2016

Masturbation Month is still in full swing, and we’re continuing the self-love celebration with a throwback podcast from May 2015! Emily breaks down the benefits of masturbation, and explains how mastering your own pleasure will propel your sex life to a whole nother echelon. Get special self-love tips for both men and for women, and learn what’s new in stimulating yourself. So who came up with Masturbation Month anyway? Emily enlightens us on the origins of the month-long celebration, shares tips on how to locate your elusive G-spot, and provides her top picks for new sex toys to add to your repertoire. Make this May the month you try some different masturbation methods—Nipple orgasm, anyone? No matter what your masturbation question, this classic show is sure to have the answer to your every self-love quandary. So pick a (G)spot, get comfortable and don’t miss out on this classic Sex With Emily! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Happy masturbation month lovers! Welcome to Sex with Emily! Today's the first of several shows that's dedicated to this self-loving month. Because hey, masturbation? Sex with so many love. But how did it start masturbation month? Why does it deserve a whole month? And how can you make the most of it to actually improve your sex life? We will be answering all these questions and more. So thanks for listening. If you've listened to the show the last couple months, you've probably heard we talk about a unique product called the womanizer. A while back the owners of the company asked if they could send me one to test out, which of course, you know me, I agreed to it. I own and review a lot of toys, and I was fairly confident I've tried every category of product around, but I was wrong. The womanizer was designed in Germany, and unlike anything else on the market,

it indirectly stimulates the clitoris using suction. It's kind of like a sexy erythomometer. It has a silicone cylinder on the face that you place over your clitoris, kind of like how a partner might use their mouth. And while it's on, you can vary the suction and move it around to create an amazingly intense experience. In fact, most women in their focus group achieve orgasm in one minute. That's right, a 60 second orgasm. You can just knock it out if you want. So I tried the womanizer, and they were in kidding. It's amazing. The suction is adjustable and you can position it to create so many different sensations. The womanizer is really in the category of its own,

and I suggest you check it out for yourself. Go to sexwithmwe.com and click on the womanizer banner for more information. Best by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Betrubized, they call them a lie-gone day. Hey, Evelyn, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute. The girls got a hair stand.

Oh, my. The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry? It's drinks. And we not talk about sex so much. Are you kidding me? Oh, my God.

I'm off here. So, girl. Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com where you can do so many things there. You can easily subscribe to the podcast. Did you know that little button on the top?

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They're like, you know, they're interesting, they're informative and it'll change your life. Hi. Hi, and also never forget to do a review of the show on iTunes. Exactly. We love it. We love to hear from you. I tune to what you think of the show. It's even rip you apart though. Oh my God. I get on the daily. Really? Yeah. Oh, well, because I do the morning show, morning show, morning talk radio. And now it comes from everything. It comes from Twitter. It comes from text messages. Twitter comes from Text messages it comes from emails just people just love to dissect you And it's funny because like one thing that one person dislikes another person absolutely love Absolutely. Yeah, and that's why you can't I mean I love hearing your feedback

It's true, but some people yeah, you hear different things all the time and it's hard when you're in this business Because you're public so people are gonna be like oh, I love this and you got it then like take all the Criticism all the advice then then you check it with yourself. You're like, what feels right to me? Yeah. Maybe they're right about this. But they're wrong about that. But really, you know, but I listen to you all.

I do read you. But if a lot of people say the same thing, then maybe you listen to that. Yeah, I don't know. No, you're like, I don't get it. I don't get it. I don't get it. I just do what I do.

I know. You're very good at doing what you do. Thank you. You can check out his show, The Woody Show. The Woody Show, yeah. It's in Los Angeles, Monday through Friday, six to 10 AM. It's a bummer because I wake up at 10. Yeah, on Alt 987. But they do podcast The Woody Show.

It's not about sex. So you're not gonna find it. You always say that, but my listeners have other desire to interest. I understand what I don't wanna do. I mean, barely, right? Guys, you're all nymphomeneers. Yeah, I like all the great, another sex podcast now.

It's not, it's about pop culture and topics and. Pop what? Just kids. No, yesterday, I know pop culture, I've heard of it. But yesterday I was on Ross Matthews podcast. Oh, yeah. Yeah, he's fun Ross. Yeah.

He's been, he started out in turn Ross on Leno and then he had his own show. And now he has podcasts here in our studio. He's on Chelsea, a much better time. Yeah, Chelsea Leighley, he's awesome. It was so funny, but I'm like, oh my God, he's so pop culture. And I'm getting better because I live in LA,

and it's like I don't speak the language. It's like I'm in China, and I'm trying to ask him over directions, and they're like, oh, yeah. Like really here, like at the dinner, I get so funny because my friends had me other day. She's like, you're the only friend I don't talk about television with.

I'm like, yeah, cause I don't watch it, but I'm working on it. So, but it was really fun. I was telling you that for years. I know, you told me that and say, I'm just going, and you guys do really want me to sit here and break down the Kardashians. I mean, yes, like Bruce Jenner, that's relatable.

I mean, that's relevant, because of the transgender, you know, I get that, but really, but also I'm just saying you say that for the show, but now just being a person living in LA. Yeah. I gotta watch house of cards. I don't know. Or whatever it is. Well then there's people in the building are walking by the building or walking outside constantly.

You know, like who's that? I'm like, I know. It's freaking blah blah blah. I know the biggest celebrity in the world can't see the next to me. I'm like, who are you? Pass us off. Just right before the studio, Rob, not Rob. A D Schneider was here and Sebastian Bach were here like

half hour before he got here. Really? That's amazing. Now name where they're from. I don't know. But that was fun. So his podcast is really fun and it's coming out. I think like this week, so check out Straight Talk with Ross Matthews.

It was a fun show. How have you been? I've been great. I'm leaving for Vegas. I'm gonna go to Rock and Rio. And we're gonna be there at the same time. I'm leaving it, okay. So.

What's your plans? What are you doing? I'm hanging out at the Hard Rock. There's some event. I'm going with Lynette and Adam Corolla. There's like a man-grea thing. Oh, nice. What do you say?

You're welcome to bring people Saturday. Saturday. Okay, I'm gonna have to figure out time. We'll talk on this after. Cause I have to work. You're busy, what else? I'm work. I'm working too. I'm working drinking really really hard at the rehab party. Where ever it's called, you know that rehab. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's fun. That's awesome. I know. I'm so psyched. I mean, I can't wait. I've been traveling a lot and it's, you know, I really that after all this time, I can actually

take time off and things are good and I'm actually better for it. Don't you feel that? Yeah, yeah. You have a great support team. Oh my God. Awesome. Madison, she rocks. She's here. Hi, Madison. Yeah, so you can, you know, I know it's weird, but you've seen me for 10 years.

We've been doing, okay, here's another thing, Madison. Yes. I was gonna say Madison. I was gonna be like, I'm gonna say Madison. Madison. You call me Madison. Madison.

So, okay, so, Madison, I, I've been doing the show for 10 years and it started as a podcast in my living room. Just a little background if you didn't know this. I just, you know, I had not had the best sex in my life yet. And I thought, I want to find out from other people how you have amazing sex because people are like, I had the best sex and also relationships.

So I invited people over, had a podcast in my living room. Six months later, I get a call which is like a dream for anyone. There's nothing like this I haven't since. I've had some good stuff, but they were CBS radio in San Francisco free FM. And they said, hey, we love your podcast, come and do a live show. So I was like, holy moly, that was six months in. I do a live radio show.

Menace is assigned to my show as the board engineer. Yeah. Like, so we didn't really talk. No, I mean, it's a little bit. It was 2005, yeah. And we just met, but first we didn't really weren't really friends as much. I was like talking and trying to figure out radio. Oh, man.

This chick's trying to be straightening me. She's trying to be straightening me. But I learned a lot, and menace is always stuck by me, like seriously, and then the show was off the air because they got anything. And radio is a tough business, but I always stuck with the podcast. I've got 2000.

Menace has been on many of them, and I just, I appreciate you. I thank you. It's 10 years. I think we have to have a blowout live show. That'd be fun. It'd be great. That was just breaking down for me. Why it's important and why you need to have a country and I love you and I appreciate you. I don't know if I tell you that enough. So okay, we have a lot to cover because here's the thing you might be thinking like masturbation won't like every guy tell. Like today I was

just on a radio show. My counter would who host love line has a morning daytime show filled in for Drew and he was like, well, every day's masturbation. This or every guy says, like today I was just on a radio show, my counter would, who host Love Line has a morning, daytime show, filled in for Drew. And he was like, well, every day's masterpiece, this or every guy says to me, every day's masterpiece and day. Okay, I get that, but I'm gonna break down for you today, like why it is so important, especially for women too, if you're with someone and you're like, why isn't she orgasm here?

Why doesn't she tell me what she likes? This is for her too. So we're gonna get into the nitty gritty of how it will blow your sex life through the roof. If you just take some time, dittling your body. That'd be great. And I've got some sex in the news.

And I know, did you have something that you were excited about to share first? Yeah, sex in the news. There was this story. I love when you're excited. The story out of Florida. This was in Florida. Yeah, this couple, well, one of them, the male,

might get 15 years because they had sex on the beach. They had sex on the beach. Does everybody have sex on the beach in Florida? I guess it was out in the public. The guy had some prior record or something like that. So he might get 15 years. And then also the chick that's involved might get some time too. For having sex, was it daylight?

It was daylight on the beach, and like make it with inter-black-it, or like... Indicent exposure type stuff, and... That's how the beach is so overrated. BTW, because you get sand in places you don't want it at all. And it's fun at night, maybe, okay, don't do it because obviously it's legal. But like if no one's around and you're on a beach chair and you've got plenty of towels,

oh my God, were they drunk or were they? I didn't say it. So the cops come up and they're like, hey, she's like, she's like, I'm almost there, one minute officer. Calm down. Oh my God, 15 years. 15 years.

It's a beach, it's Florida, that's stupid. Yeah, but I thought it that way. But it is illegal. Yeah, I thought that was crazy That is crazy, but always the crazy sex stories come out of Florida or Texas. Yeah, but it was so funny because we're reading all these stories At the same time so this guy is like almost facing facing 15 years and then Read stories about like horrific things and people get like yeah, let's do it. Yeah, it's terrible It's terrible. So we sex out outdoors. You buy a little buzz going. Yeah. I mean, I don't recommend it. There's kids around. It's not so great, but 15 years.

You're going to waste taxpayer dollars on holding him because he was like got a little randy outside. Yeah, it's ridiculous. But okay, exclude all your, you know, wild sex orgy parties and, you know, situations that you might have been in. Have you ever just like walked up on somebody having sex randomly out in public? Um, you know what? I don't think I have. It's so funny. I, I don't, I, I've definitely run into people like mashing a hooking up craziness, but not like actually going at it. Have you? I, yeah, I have. I remember.

Beside your parents just kidding. No, I was in middle school. I was probably fifth or sixth grade and I was going to summer school and it was like recess or something like that. I would go out there and these teenagers are out in the middle of the field during the day having sex in the middle of the field and then hundreds and hundreds of kids come out onto the ground and they're still going at it.

And then so they call them yard duties. Right. The people in charge had to go over there and break them up. Oh my God. Was that the first live public sex act that you ever saw? I think so, yeah. That's so fun.

I mean, like, I saw when I was six years old, I saw a porno by accident. Right. Oops. But, yeah, live, like sexual sex, that's what I saw. I did. I think the high school is a popular place for people that have sex because when I graduated from, or when I graduated from, or when I moved to San Francisco after college,

I had a boyfriend and I brought him back to Michigan to meet my family and we were out at night and I was like, oh, you got to see where I went to high school. So I drove him to my high school, we parked, it was like a Saturday night and I'm like, let me walk around and then we went into the football field and then we started fooling around. We weren't having sex but then the cops pulled up.

Oh no. And we got, like, they were like, you have to leave now, but I didn't get arrested. So I think we might have had sex because it seemed been a fun, you know, was it high school? Oh, man, I remember one time this girl and I were dating, and we went out somewhere, I forgot.

And they're like, oh, you know, you wanna, there was just like, man-made lake where I lived, there was in Newark, California, and they're like, oh, you know, he wanted, there was just like, man made lake where I lived, there was in Newark, California and they called it the lake. So who we pulled up to the lake and it's like 2 a.m. and she was driving and for some reason we were at like a dress up thing. So she had like a lot of makeup on.

And so we're making out and suddenly this car pulls up the light shine onto the car and it's a police officer and he comes and taps on the window and I'm like, oh, crap. And like he's checking our IDs and all this stuff. And then I'm like talking to the officer, you know, and he was cool, he let us go. Right.

So I get home and I immediately I go into the restroom and I look in the mirror and like she had so much eye makeup on. Oh no. It looked like I had a black eye. Oh my god. So I was talking to the police officer with a black eye. Right, the black eye. The lawyer's full of makeup.

Oh my god, that's bad. That is so funny. She needs to dress it right. We're not doing anything else. We're not doing anything else. We're not doing anything else. We're not doing anything else. We're not doing anything else.

We're not doing anything else. We're not doing anything else. We're not doing anything else. We're not doing anything else. We're not All right. That's our sex in the news. Yeah. That's more stuff. Okay. This is interesting because actually a few people texted this to me today. My best friend in Chicago was like, did you say this? Okay, it was a study that came out, baby boomers and gen Xers had more sex partners than millennials. All right. I'm not sure about this study. Okay, so here we go. The general theory now or about

is that millennials are more open about sex and have more sexual partners than any generation before them. But according to a new study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, only one of these theories is actually true. So via time.com, including 33,000 people and found that premarital sex is more accepted than ever with a whopping 58% of respondents in 2012 saying they thought there was nothing wrong with sex before compared to 44% in 2004. So whatever, we're all into marital sex. I don't know if some people aren't into premarital sex because we'll get to that in a moment. But anyway, you're saying so the young generation right now is having less sex? No, we're going to get to that moment. That was the headline, but now that's the thing that's article is a headline.

They have some theories about that. Okay, we know, we know, we know, we know, we're going to get to the moment. That was the headline, but now that's the thing that's article is a headline. That's the thing that's a theory is about. Okay, we know me too, but we're going to talk about that. But first of all, they're just saying that Americans are more open to premarital sex, which does. Thank God. Because you don't want to think, like, I really love this person. So that means our sex life is going to be awesome. Let's get married, walk down the aisle and find out that it sucks. So no, premarital sex, that's great. And you know, a lot has to do with religion and all that. And that is compared to 44% only in 2004 and then 28%. So anyway, we're all feeling good about that. So also, it seems logical by this data to assume

that millennials are also lase fair with their number, or it's just sex partners. Well, it doesn't even talk about sex partners, whatever. Okay, so this data, it says, millennials are laws they fare with their number of sexual partners people assume. But according to the study, the baby boomers, Burmard boomers, I can't say they're our bio-bombers,

and early gen-axors born in the 50s and 60s have had the most sexual partners, an average of 11, followed by those born in the 40s or 70s, who averaged about 10 partners. Millennials born in the 80s or 70s who averaged about 10 partners. Millennials born in the 80s and 1990s have an average of eight partners. Okay, so although millennials are more tolerant of these behaviors, they're not taking that license to sleep around. She noted the decline as more to do with increasing information about HIV, STDs.

That's what I was going to say. Yeah, millennials have never known a world where premarital sex was a taboo, first of all. So that makes sense. But okay, let me tell you why the study makes no sense to me. Millennials, there's in their 20s, their numbers are still climbing. So yeah, maybe they've had eight now,

but I think since people are delaying marriage, no one's committing or getting into relations of not nobody, but it's less typical if we put on their 20s to be striving for relationship or marriage for that. So how would this study even make sense if their numbers are 80 to 25, what's going to be 35? So this study is kind of like, I love it, 35,000 participants.

It's legit. And then can you imagine, like I said, that's the premier all set. I mean, I understand what you're saying, but I also hear like, there's so much more information, like the older generation, oh, free love, you know, it's all great. Let's just hook up. It wasn't as a big of a deal. Scary. Yeah, I got scary like right around the time. Like I started having sectors like AIDS and all that like use protection. And so I hope that that's the case. Like I hope that people

are being scared and you should all use protection because I feel like it's just everyone knows it. And you hear me saying this, you're like, I always do and then people get drunk, little buzz, you know, kind of women are ashamed about carrying on condoms which they should not be. Like you should throw that friggin lipstick, that lip gloss, your ID and a condom when you go out tonight. Yeah, it's funny.

I know this couple from New York and they were telling me that they have friend, guy friends who say that the women never bring up protection ever Really, yeah, they're like oh, it's cool And let's do right and I don't understand what because you know it is and I've been there Okay, I'm not always a saint haven't been in my past but you're in the moment and we all know it does feel good to get that penis You know feel that penis in your vagina and then you this moment you're like, oh, it's okay, you know what?

And then I even hear people rushing out, well, I know him. So we can't have anything wrong. It's like, dude, I don't care who, you know, people can have something. You can't see it on their penis. And so don't trust them and don't let that moment slide. Like don't because you're like, it's new and it's going to be exciting. And it could also mean the apart ways. So I'm just saying, carry on.

I'm just saying. Yeah. Oh, do you know what's funny? Well, it's not funny at all but i hear all my friends like who said in the park correction i'm like really okay yeah uh... oh so we're talking i i just brought up like all fifteen years you know having sex on the beach and then uh... somebody getting six months now i remember what we were comparing it to when we're talking about the new story the uh... six months thing was a story out of San Diego where a guy no only had HIV since 2007 and he was dating a guy in 2012 and he didn't disclose.

And the guy was like, oh, you know, he was asking him like, oh, do you have anything blah, blah? And the guy was saying, no, no, no, I don't have it. But there's a law in California. If you know, only give, you know, something to someone, any kind of a city. Yeah, it's a, it's only a Mr. Meener, though. So the guy got six months.

That's it. Right. And he's not going to do six months. Right. So this guy gives somebody else HIV and gets six months. Well, a guy is having sex on a beach. Consensual sex. Free love.

Yeah. It's a 15 years. Exactly. I don't understand. You really, I mean, that's, that's crazy. So people just, and then people don't want to admit it because they think someone, and it's the same thing with herpes. So now it's like so common, what is like one out of every like three or four students or

people have it and they don't want to talk or let them don't know. But if you do know and we've talked about this a lot in love line, maybe not as much here and people just want to know like how do you bring it up to your partner. And when you do, you don't, I don't know, I'm going to sign in about the show, but you don't, you sound like you're at a death sentence, you're not going to die. You are hopefully taking meds that will suppress it. And you know, you can still have healthy sexes you should be using protection, a condom anyway, which is very, you know, which is a great way to protect someone from transferring

the disease. And you just say, hey, listen, so I have our piece. I just want you to know that. And I was diagnosed and I'd taken precautions and don't make it like the whole we got to talk about it. And hopefully you'll be with someone who's cool with it. Don't trip. Hey, happens everyone.

Here's another section of what we what we can say about that. No, no, no. You're a piece. Okay, women fight back against revenge porn sites by copyrighting her breasts. Revenge porn sites popping up left and right, victims are forced to take extreme measures to protect themselves from potential online harassment.

For woman named Hillary, not a real name, whose ex decided to post topless pictures of her online without consent, took an unconventional approach to protect the unconventional approach to protecting herself. She decided to copyright her breasts and force the images down based on infringement.

Wasn't easy process though. Hillary made three different registrations for over 100 R rated images, while her pictures weren't put up in the Library of Congress, her real name, and the titles of the images do appear in its public catalog. On the upside, Hillary has way more rights than other victims might because she took the photos over herself. So thanks to this copyright process, she was able to get her pictures taken down from

some websites, sadly some keep popping up. So what do you guys think? Would your copyright your body parts if they showed up on a revenge porn site? Like what do you think about this? I just think, well I'll tell you what I think first before I want to know what you guys think too. But people, and I know that men, it is very impopular and you're going to be really upset with me for this. But this is the women. Listen, I know you're dating a guy and it's socially acceptable right now and he's probably saying, hey, I want to see a picture of you.

So how last night and you want him to like you and you want to be like your friends and you sent him a photo. Just know that once you press send, that that photo has a really good chance, and I would even say upwards of 97 to 98% chance, that do no matter how great of a guy is, someone else is gonna see it.

Might just be the friendy sitting next to or it might be your avenged porn site, okay? Take your pick. Either one of those things are not good. So if you're trying to get a job one day, whatever, your breasts are now for public consumption. So I know guys, you love getting these photos, at least chop your head off, but still,

that's like a better move, but just don't do it. Like like I don't know how else to speak it because it's the norm now and you almost guys might be pre I think guys pressure women for pictures too they do pressure I mean yeah they are of course they're gonna ask for other guys what do you expect and every single guy that I know that I'm sitting with at dinner, whatever good guy friends, tons of them, they're like, hey, look at this. Look at this.

Look at this one from the last one. Well, you hang out with sleets. It's an easy peop. Dude, you have a freaking library of sex. Have I ever showed you anything? No, see? Dude, I'm just saying. I think it's closed.

No, we're not going to go to the other side. You're going to hang out with sleets, both. No, but what do you think about her? Like, do you think it's a good demeanor? It's fine. It is. What's great is the guy who had like one of the biggest revenge porn sites out there is No, but what do you think about her? Like, do you think it's a good, do you mean it's far? I do. It is. What's great is the guy who had like one of the biggest

revenge porn sites out there is gonna be doing a ton of time. Like, he's the site guy. And revenge porn sites are people descending photos of like, hey, here's my accent. Yeah, here's my ex, you know, she's a bitch, whatever blah, here's the photo. And it was crazy is the guy who had like one the biggest revenge porn sites out there Is doing so much time is because he also had another site pretending to be like oh I can get your photo

off Before Revenge porn sites if you pay this fee so he's basically like just blackmailing A bunch of people too. Yeah, yeah, oh yeah, he's gonna just blackmailing a bunch of people too. Yeah. Yeah. He's going to jail for 15 years. I think he is actually. So the bottom line is just to just, yeah, don't take it. I know in the moment yet, cut up. He's like, let's make a porn baby.

You should then delete it after, make, watch him delete it. Because I'm not for like, you know, can be fun. You know, tape yourself having sex, but then just crush it, delete it. Now you don't want to like a tape. You just delete. Delete. Delete. That's a just crush it. Delete it. Now you don't want it to take. Delete. Delete. That's a joke.

OK, Menace. Yes. I think that we should get a little bit into some masturbation, Monthray. All right, let's talk masturbation. OK. So there's so many tools now for masturbation. Oh my god, they're endless.

They're endless. They're endless. Wait till you see, oh, did I bring the, I meant to put in my car for menace, the fleshlight. Ah, I think it's in my card. I think it's in my credit area out of the office yesterday. Yeah, you did, I think.

It's in my card. So the launch, yeah, but anyway. Yeah. There's amazing tools, like amazing, and which I've talked about, and we're gonna be doing another show about like the specific products and all that, but let me just say how it started,

because people think I made it up, which I did not. But our good friends in San Francisco, the good vibration, sex sex shop were the ones who started masturbation month in 1995, 1995. But tell me if you remember this. It was a response to the firing of then surgeon general, Dr. Joycelyn Elders

because she suggested it under the Clinton administration. I remember that while I was working in politics at the time, so I remember this whole thing. She suggested that masturbation being included in youth education programs completely agree with her, but everybody went crazy, and they were like, oh my God, that's terrible. Like don't talk about masturbation in public to kids,

which by the way is what I think sex education should be teaching, so you have to turn your body. Not only were people so pissed, and it was at the UN conference, it lost her the support of the White House and she was fired by Bill Clinton. That is weak. Right, who was ironically getting a blowjob

in the Oval Office, where I was like, okay, so they started in. I think if that happened now, that people wouldn't go that crazy. No. Well, they would know five minutes earlier and you wouldn't need like 12 months of testimony. Yeah, I think. And masturbation and all the kids that they said that they're gonna teach these to

they're like, I- Are you saying if that happened? I think you might Clinton getting in peach. You mean Joyce and Elders, yeah. Yeah, like if she brought this up today, I don't think it would be a big deal at all. And probably the young kids would be like, I have a snapchat. I already know all this. Yeah, exactly, exactly.

Or they think they know. But right, exactly. They think they know. But right, exactly. So, you know, and I love that it was, it was good vibrations. You started it, which, and if I mention any toys there, anything, just go to my, our code is Emily, or GV Emily 20, for 20% off, anything I answer,

talk about, GV Emily 20 is the code. But if you go to my website and you click on the good vibes banner, you can see like, I have a toy store, I think all my favorite toys are. So anyway, but first I'm going to take a quick, before I get into the tips of masturbation month, that was just some history for you. I'm going to tell you a little bit about, oh.

Yeah, go ahead. The flashlight. Oh, yeah. Yeah, look at that. Yeah, the flashlight. So the flashlight, okay, you guys, let's speak. The masturbation, never one sex toy for Ben.

Probably the only one you want. And we were talking earlier about the launch pad, which is actually a device, that you can put in your, so you stick the flashlight, which looks like a flashlight, and you can take, it's a masturbation safe, so you put it in there,

and you can attach your iPad to it. So let's say you're having phone sex, you're watching your partner, you're doing some Skype sex, or you're having phone sex, you're watching your you know partner You're doing some Skype sex or you're watching porn. You can actually be using the machine up and down on your penis to To make it to mass-made, but I also makes amazing toys With are you gonna make a launch pad video? I should well, I bring it to you to give to you one of that For your show, right? Yeah, they will talk about it. Yeah, I've got one.

But they also have all these really cool things and these flush lights are, I mean, they, for men and for masturbation, if you want to last longer in bed this month, maybe that's your goal. Maybe sometimes you just don't last long. Stand on a training unit. It's awesome. It helps you practice lasting longer,

becoming a better lover, and your experience, some of the most mind-blowing organisms of your life, so I've heard. And the material, because I don't have penis, but the material is made by NASA, patent and material. It feels like the real deal, looks and feels like the real deal. I was actually invited to the flesh I had quarters to watch. Yes.

Because a lot of porn stars. There's a lot of porn stars too, if you like porn stars, which you might, she might have ever vagina molded, and it might be an exact replica. They're not all like this. And they want me to come see next week, but I couldn't go, but I'm going to go to the next one. So go to sectwithm.com, click on the Fleshite banner, use code Emily, and you get a free bottle of their award-winning Fleshloob. So check that out, do it now.

That's awesome. I was listening to Howard Stern and he had these porn stars that were leaving his show and going to get that done where they were going to have their- Yeah. By flashlight, molded. Yeah. So you're going to do it, right? That's why you're going. You know what?

I don't think that I want my vagina for public consumption. Oh, what? Yeah, that's not my gym. I think I would have done it by now or never done it or I think it's not me. Just naked photos. Yeah, I'm not gonna do a naked, I've never sent a naked photo in my life, and I'm not gonna start molding my vagina either.

Nothing wrong with it. Well, you're no fun. I actually found a statistic today, guys. I have this fact on luck. It costs, I think, five, I'm pulling up the factor and it costs $5,000 per vagina mold. Wow. Yeah, like it costs a lot of money

to get your vagina molded. Yeah, $5,000 for one mold. Wow. Yeah, like it costs a lot of money to get your vagina molded. Yeah, $5,000 for one mold. That's either lady parts or behind parts. Wow, that's a lot. Yeah, sure. I mean, when I was at the AVN show a few years ago, they had them just standing there with the stuff in the vagina molding. Yeah.

I mean, some people have interesting. They have like this, these creeps, I think they're from like Sweden or something. And they do like edible, they have a website called Edible Anus. Oh yeah. we didn't know something and they do like edible, they have a website called Edible Anus. And they like mold your butt hole area. And then they make chocolates out of them. No thanks, that sounds not good. But we do have chocolate penises in the office which I've been snacking on lately,

but chocolate, but holes don't sound good. Okay, so why do we need a month dedicated to masturbation? I know. Right, because you're thinking I've been doing this in third grade I know it feels good. What the hell? Whatever masturbation is more than just an instant release It's also about your sexual health and wellness because actually the more you masturbate and you release your semen for example It's good for you. It's good for your prostate and

In any relationship that you're in if it's or otherwise, you need to know and love yourself before you can have someone else do the same. So a lot of us have self-doubt or body images used. And it's just a great way to learn your body. And especially for women who get into relationships. And I hope this is changing with millennials. I don't know for sure. Right?

Is there robots yet? They can get you there. Almost. Seriously, we're very close But figure out where you like and you know figure out what feels good to you because like I've said You know I was raised at least that it was about the man's pleasure and that the second I have sex love and orgasm because he knows what to do And it just penis goes in vagina. It's like he goes into the ignition and the car starts. Yeah penis goes in the vagina even orgasm. Like that's what I thought.

And so then I thought something was wrong with me. Well, there was nothing wrong with me. It's that I had to take time to really, I was one of those women who just had it. Some women do right away. And I had to like master, I had to like work on it. I had to walk into good vibrations when I moved San Francisco, like from Michigan off the boat.

And I was like, hi, and they're the friendliest store if you go there. And I was like, hey, because they're also online, but a store, I was like, hi, and they're the friendliest store if you go there. And I was like, hey, because they're also online, but a store. I was like, hi, I have an orgasm and they're like so set up for me. Like, hi, okay. So here's your clitoris. Like they're showing me that here's the toys and like, I for sure enough bought a toy, bought a book and, you know, I was on my way.

And so it didn't, but I went after it because I wanted to experience it. And not only that, if you already have great sex and great orgasms, you can learn more ways because our bodies have so much capacity for pleasure. And speaking of like, like I was saying, there's benefits, reduces stress. One of the biggest killers people sex drive is stress, anxiety, all that stuff because you have an endorphin release when you have an orgasm. Like you actually have adrenaline, the excitement, endorphins, reduction of prostate gland infection for men. So you got a master rate. Resistant to yeast or pelvic infections for women. So if you're prone to those, it helps with that.

And it's an excellent cardiovascular workout. I've like sweat sometimes during masturbation. Like I've been like, oh my god, it was so hot. I pulled a muscle for sure. Did you? Yeah, happens, right? So women who master, here's nothing though. So another, I said the big killer of sex drive or libido or why you don't want to have sex is stress and anxiety. Another one,

body image issues. Not feeling great Ross Matthews was talking about this podcast. He's like, I think I waited too long to have sex because I'm ashamed about my weight. And so women who masturbate regularly are more likely to feel positive about their body because they feel in control and they know their own body. And it's shown to actually cause higher self-esteem and sexual confidence in women because when you know what makes you feel good and you realize that your body is this amazing capacity for pleasure, you'll be more confident. Yeah, definitely. Yeah, so I wanted to ask if this thing was invented yet. Okay, go ahead. If you're going to, If you're going to talk to the fleshlight people, you know I've been talking about this for about 10 years now. Have something, or like a fleshlight, that a male has sex with on one end,

and then it's like USB to internet, and then on the other end, somewhere, and then the problem. He's still getting energized. Yes. It just came out, oh my god. It just came out. I swear to god. It's called, somewhere, another problem. She's still getting her red eyes. Yes. It just came out. Oh my God. It just came to our office today. It's called the key, key rule?

Yeah, it arrived today. It literally arrived today. And it is the coolest friggin thing you've ever seen. It might go on that I talked about 10 years ago. You did. You've been talking about forever. It is said that I was insane. No.

Yeah, I didn't get it, but I get it now. Dude, okay, so this is, I don't know if it's for sale yet. It is for sale. It's like five, I think the price point on it is like $500. Okay, it's called the key. I want to say it right, okay, so this is, I don't know if it's for sale yet. It is for sale. It's like five, I think the price point on it is like $500. Okay, it's called the key. I want to say it right. Okay, it's K-I-I-R-O-O. Okay, right.

So check this. So like men said, it's a flashlight and you put your penis in it. But while you're doing that, you're partner on the other end at our house across the country doesn't matter, has a dildo, a vibrator that she's sticking inside of her. And you guys are connected. So when it goes inside of, let's say I'm duming it together for a moment, don't get grossed out. So you're putting it in my vagina.

And how I'm feeling it, like if I'm tightening or whatever, you're gonna feel that same thing. Because your penis is in a flesh like that's connected to everything, and I'm gonna feel your thrusting. And it's like rubbing sex. And did you see it? The picture? No, I'm looking up right now. It's truly just came today.

What? I know. I've seen it at the trade shows. I think it's K-I-I-R-R-O-O. Oh, yeah. Cute. On the flashlight. And there's a video and stuff.

I mean, it's brand literally. I think I got like a sample model. Like it's C. Whoa. Dude, is that what you were talking about? See, that's what what you were talking about? See, that's what I've been talking about for 10 years. Why didn't we make it?

I don't know, honey, because I mean, you've got a lot of ideas that your dumb truck idea for the library, no, it's a terrible name, but we could've done it. No, but I do think that, yeah, it's amazing, amazing. And I've heard virtual sex stuff is going to be, you know, rock and people's world. I know, right.

There's that. No one's going to leave their house. That's the point. There's the Oculus headset, which is basically, it's 360, 3D type of stuff. And they're starting to make porn with that. So, yeah, no, please, we already have enough issues. But, no, but it'd be cool, it's like,

if they had this and then you had Oculus thing where you actually can see the person, that'd be cool. It's like if they had this and then you had a Oculus thing where you actually can see the person That'd be awesome dude. That's like worse than people's addictions of you But you know what that's just gonna get people they will never leave the house Oh, never normal sex. They won't talk to the public Yeah, people are never gonna want to have normal sex ever again I know like why would you need to like I don't need to get sweaty. I don't need to have this. Oh, what okay? So then there's there's a gay version where there's two guys that can use this thing.

And that's actually more money than the one with the female male. We should give one away if they're open to it. I'm not gonna say it right now, but we'll talk to them about it. Okay. And I have a menace, you could've been called the menace. See.

But now it's called the kind of. You know everybody, and I give you the ideas, well, you don't run away. Do it on busy. Okay, listen, am I painted you guys at best? You've got a private jet right now. My private jet is coming, menace. I will have a part, no, I don't know.

You guys just keep listening to the show and like supporting it and send me money. No, you know, if you like our sponsors, you could buy some of the products and then I'll have a private jet and I'll drive you all, I'll plop fly you all around the world. Sweet.

Okay, so listen, here's the thing I'm masturbation. You don't need a partner to do it. You don't ever grts in the morning because you're feeling kind of like bad about yourself because you didn't sex with somebody, you don't know their name. Take as long as short as you like and it doesn't matter if your partner is messy or someone's coming over, you can, you know, your home alone doesn't matter. You can just do it anywhere anytime. Okay.

So here's the recipe. So you all have a perfect masturbation month. You need to practice. So I am not going to tell the story again about my friend who masturbated every day for 30 days until she had an orgasm and it was until day 28 because I've told that story a lot. But all I'm saying is how many people have committed to your sexual expansion, to learning your body and to knowing it makes you feel good. Because you probably already think, I know, like I get on top of your woman,

I have an orgasm this way, guys are like, whoa, I use my hand. So what if I told you that your body could, that's great, I'm glad you get off and you know your think, but there is so much more. Like it's like, our we use 10% of our brain, I think we only know maybe 10% of what makes us feel good. You know, people can have orgasms and pleasure in so many ways.

So for men, this month, you've got to practice. That's my first tip. So I just think that for men, again, if you maybe want to last longer in bed or just feel something different, try the flashlight stand to train the unit. Because this is the best sex toy for men, and it turns out it's also multitasking. So even if you're not saying that you have a problem, but if you just like one or last longer, and it's really important for guys to learn

their arousal cycle and to know when you're about to ejaculate, when you're about to go over, if you want to have more control and it helps you and you've freaking feels good. And you know, 20 minutes, that's it. That's for men. Yes. Do you want? I took you one years ago. You came to my office and said I was like, do you want one? I'm like, hell no, but you know what? It wasn't a flashlight. It was a cheap knockoff. Yeah, it wasn't as cool as a flashlight. No, okay

I'll give you a weird thing. No, it was a weird thing. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it was totally bad one. Sorry about that. Okay for women you guys Great. You got to you got to practice and you've got to learn about what you like and how you like it because whether you're with someone or you're single and you are going to get in a relationship, this is such a great time for you to like, okay, I'm not a relationship, but I'm going to get my sex on anyway and figure out your own body. So you might already know and you might say, well, I just reach for this vibrator and this is what I do.

Try not to this month. Like for at least the one of the days. So you know what, I'm gonna start giving myself a little erotic touch. So what does that mean? You know, you might want to set the mood. You might want to light some candles. You might want to turn on some music

and just start touching your body all over with your hands. Use some massage oils, light one of my Emily and Tony massage candles, do something like that, and explore different parts of your body and see what specific touches and pressures and movements feel best. And once you figure that out, then you can bring in your toy again, but like I've discovered like there's certain toys for example like the magic one that you are used certain ways. I'm like, okay, it's easy, it's quick, it gets me off, whatever. But then I was like, you know what? I have so many toys as you know, and it's part of my job. I've discovered so many different personally like over the last even though now that I'm actually

spending time and I think using them a lot over the last five, 10 year, five, six years that like I'm not just saying like you should like I've learned that there's parts of myself, Libya, inner part of walls. I didn't think could have as many orgasms. And my clitoris, so 8,000 nerve endings, 8,000, okay? So nothing else has 8,000, penis has 4,000. And the only reason exists is for your own platter. So the clitoris, you might know,

oh, I touch it this way every time in round circles. But maybe touching the side of your clitoris and not going directly for it could give you a completely different sensation, but you don't know. What you try that one night, and then go to your go-to. Take 10 minutes exploring that. And you know, just figure it out.

And then when you figure it out, you'll be like, oh, I can do this during sex with this move and this will feel good. And of course, like, partner, I'll just keep getting it with this move and this will feel good in a course of life partner or just keep getting it off that way. Because do you feel menace like in a relationship with someone that you kind of know what gets, that you do this thing kind of every time?

Just do the same thing. Because you know that will get them to where they need to be. Right, exactly. So. You don't really explore anymore. No, you don't. You know, like exploring is like in the beginning of the relationship and then you kind of this. Yeah, you're like, this, like, exploring is like in the beginning of the relationship and then you kind of just,

yeah, you're like, this is it, we have no time, but a lot. And that's what pissed, that's why, honestly, that's why I do the show. That's why I feel like you're getting tired of it. I never do because I know that sex is one of the most pleasurable experiences we can have on the planet. And it's free, most time. That should pay for someone.

It's so enjoyable. And our bodies have this amazing, expansive, capacity, or pleasure that we never tap into. So I'm like, I want people to do this. I want you to see that you can have multiple orgasms if you've never had, that you can't orgasm from anal sex. For example, if you're a woman and you like that kind of thing, I'm just saying, don't settle for what you know now.

It reminds you of like, you dropped out of school in the fifth grade or something, and then you're like, thing. I'm just saying don't settle for what you know now. It reminds you of like you dropped out of school in the fifth grade or something and then you're like, oh, I only know this and this is the, this is how I read this level, but there's so much more out there. It's almost like you stopped having sex when you met your partner or you know, in high school people learn certain things.

So that's why it's important. It's my soapbox. You know what? I feel really strongly about it. You do. Okay, so no matter how great sex is the between you, and your partner, I'm saying you need to meet time this month.

And it's funny, because don't you sometimes wish that when you had a new partner, it came with an instruction manual. I like this. I like the left. I like the right. Because as a guy, you're having sex with something that you like, and you're like,

man, I wish I knew everything because a guy, you're always worried that you're going to suck and then she's not going to come back. Right. You know? Are you in your head? Are you thinking at the first few times? You're like, oh man, yeah, I got to be really good or she's going to like never come back, you know?

And I want to continue having sex with this person. So it would be kind of nice to have, you know. I know I was thinking, you know what, I shouldn't say this out loud, but I kind of think like it could be my next iPhone app. Because you feel like your sexual preference is like, maybe you do it there together and then you exchange it and then you already know what the person likes

and it's like your sexual roadmap. Well, people fill it out. Well, people fill it out. The awkward conversation. I don't know, or maybe it's a funny six questioner bucket list. My six map or something. My six map. There you go.

OK, so because everyone likes something different below the belt and no one knows your body better than you. So when you're with someone new, you can start to tell them. And you can even do mutual masturbation. That's a big one. Watch how each other touches all that stuff. And have some fun this month.

OK, so next you want to discover your hotspot. So this one is for the ladies. So here's the deal. Literal orgasms weigh more popular than G-spot. But everyone says G-spots like the Holy Grail. Do you know the difference? After up 10 years? Yes.

You do. So, but there's a lot of women who just say, oh, you know what? I can't have a G-spot orgasm. I've never had one during sex. I've been with my partner for 10, 15 years or I've had a lot of sex. I've been with my partner for 10-15 years or I've had a lot of Sucks. I have little orgasms. Game over. Guess what? Not necessarily true. You can learn to have a G-Spot orgasm. Most women are capable of it,

but they don't get it during with just a penis. Maybe your G-Spot's in a different place. So, you know, if you want to find it, this is the month to get in there and figure it out. So, if you don't know where your G spot is, it's located to, and you can do this with a partner. In fact, fingers are the best way to find it. So, if you're in a relationship, I have no problem with you at all saying, hey, body, that's coming tonight. Give me your hands. Two inches inside the vagina on the top side of the wall, and it's actually easy to locate when you're already aroused. So, it helps if you're making out, kissing, maybe even goes down on you, or maybe you've already had a clitoral orgasm. Because a lot of women need a clitoral orgasm before the orgasm. So anyway, it sounds like it's a rough being. It feels like a rough spot inside. Do you know what I'm talking?

I get one of those. Like the bottom of your tongue. Yeah, exactly. Right. Like an apricot pit, they say whatever. Smaller though. This size and location varies, but you'll know a bumpy walnut like texture too they say. So next time you're treating yourself to some self loving, try inserting something new. Like try inserting the Fifi by Jésus. There's so many great G-spot toys there. You could actually have a little orgasm the way you do and then stick that in there and start poking around and feeling it. If the figures don't work or if you just want to have your own.

And I'm telling you, I'm going to be honest. I said this few ago and that's how I had my first one. I really thought that I couldn't and it didn't happen the first second of the day. But I was like, oh, and you clench your muscle and you figured out and then you can have one and then you translate that into section through partner. And the fefie is great because it was designed to help you achieve this G-spot orgasm. It's perfectly contoured and certable shaft has flexible ears, and it's because it also has the clitorates like a little rabbit.

It takes something familiar, clitoral stimulation, makes it, it was something less familiar, G-spot, and then you can have the blended orgasm. The blended orgasm. Yeah, have you found that women you're with have more G-Spot or clitoral? Do you know? Oh, my gosh, she's just run me. Yeah, no, it's mostly clitoral than G-Spot.

G-Spot is... Elusive and scary. It's work, man. Well, it doesn't have to be. It's just less accessible. I think it's't have to be. It's just less accessible. I think it's like people want to go right for the button that's right on the outside. They're like, all right, let's just focus on that.

Well, as a guy, it's hard for them to hold it in. They go for the quicker, easier option. Exactly. And there's a lot of women that know I just move this way and it hits the spot. Honestly, your G-spots are in a you're lucky. They're in a certain place or however you move, but you can get into those positions. That would allow you to have one. And I was gonna say that oh, and when I went to give vibrations when I first moved there, I did buy a book about the G spot, but

like I never read it. I just use the Cliddle vibrator and it's a year's later. So I'm saying there is a book called like there's a million of them, fine, G spot. Okay. So also here's a thing about masturbation one that you can do. Take your old favorites to a new level. So if you have your favorite masturbation device but you wanna upgrade it, you can do that. Because we get into a sex right, people ask me all the time,

or like, I only use this vibrator, I only do something else, and if you've had your vibrator for like five, 10 years and that a lot of my good close friends, you like have money to spend, like now I've got this old, I like five, 10 years and that a lot of my good close friends, you like have money money to spend Like now I've got this old plan. I mean, you cannot be friends with me and have that plastic janky thing from China with Fallyt's in it that are going to blow up your vagina. Yeah, there's so many beautiful sex toys on the market that are like waterproof and like rechargeable and good for you. So like go shopping, go to your local sex Toys store, ask some questions, upgrade it, buy yourself something.

And also, I have to announce that my favorite toy, the Magic Wom, which plugs into the wall, is coming out as the recharging Magic Wom, cordless this month. What? Unplugged. Big deal. Big deal for masturbation.

It's the mascot of masturbation month this year. Lubricant is my final point, because Lubricant is amazing for sexual pleasure. So if you're masturbating and during sex, you might not be wet right away. So add a little water-based lube which is great to use with toys and start to like touch it. Women, this research studies show over and over again that women who use lube regularly during masturbation and sex have more orgasms and more sexual satisfaction. Even if

you're already wet and the stigma with lube which I've talked about is that like it's dry, it's comfort, the guys feel bad, I did something wrong, I didn't turn her on, do you still believe that anymore? No, no, no, you're so mature for that. So get some lube. I recommend I love System Joe. They have water-based lube for women. It's amazing. Or PURE PJUR has a silicone-based lube for extra slippery sex with your partner.

So do that. Those are my masturbation on tips, but don't worry, that is not all. They'll be more coming. But I hope I drove it home. And I think in the past years, I've just been like, get this toy, do this, but I really wanted to get home like that.

If you really think this month, you can do some different stuff and take your sex life to the next level Do it like there's no downside to this right no negative Okay, what are you gonna do this month? I just I come in it's that try and have a nipple orgasm Oh a nipple orgasm So many that can do that yeah, yeah, yeah, how was that hot? Hot yeah, she has told you about it or you were the procure Procure, but she's had a A boob job since so I wonder if it still happens

Well, a decrease in if I had if I friggin had Nipporgas and potential I would not get a boob job that'd be so risky. Yeah. But no, it's popular, so that's what I'm gonna do. What do you gonna do? I should find out. Do you want a toy for your girlfriend? Uh, you should look at it. Could we talk after them? Come come to the trunk.

Do you know two, your friends at Hustler like sent like five bags full of sex toys to my office? They did, Hustler Hollywood. Yeah. Why are you making it for you to take any? No, it's sitting in my office I had to cover up stuff. So when people walk in the office, they didn't see a bunch of sex toys all over the place.

That's hilarious. Well, you know, have a good time. There you go. Tell your buddies that it worked at its masturbation month, dammit. Oh, yeah. Okay, so we're gonna get in some emails. All right, cool.

Thank you, everyone, for emailing me feedback at sexwithamlee.com. Love hearing from you. Okay,, everyone, for emailing me feedback at sexwithamlee.com. Love hearing from you. Okay, dear Emily, what is the protocol with bringing sex toys from a past relationship into a new one? Obviously, case by case, but generally speaking, is it an acceptable practice? I know what you're going to say, but I know what I'm going to say. Sorry, you got to throw out the old practice you left your house or the packer bucket.

No way, dude. Bernie. You do not? A woman just thinking, oh my god, there's a pubic here on it. Like, who's was that? Like, do not you have to get rid of them or give them back to your ex?

You still cost a ton of money. No, they don't. They don't. They can't replace them. Yeah. Her first reaction is like, where has that been and where's the front door? Yeah. That'll be your second reaction.

Don't do it. And now, if you're in a relationship, you can buy toys together. So, take her, if you're into toys, go sex toy shopping, go to your local store, order some stuff. What were you gonna say? No, I was looking over to see if you were

when you're in your necklace. I was wearing my vibrator necklace earlier. Yeah, now I was wearing it yesterday, Maine. And it turned on in the middle of the Ross Matthew show. He's like, what is that? I was literally leaned off. It was before you even talked to him, I'm like, I'm wearing a vibrator.

He's like, how did you get so comfortable with sex that you wear a vibrator around your neck? He's like, I don't know. It was before I even talked to him, I'm like, I'm wearing a vibrator. He's like, how did you get so comfortable with sex that you wear a vibrator around your neck? He's like, I don't understand people like you. I've been seeing those things pop up everywhere. Where are people? It's called the Vesper by Crave, if you want one. Tell them Emily sent you. Like, oh, one of Paris Hilton's best friends

who's really well known for talking for, I follow her on Instagram. She was posting, having one. Yeah, it's amazing. I mean, I get cut, first of all, the best part is I wear all the time. I get compliments just because it's cool and necklace, but it's like a super powerful vibrator. So Chris, throw away, throw away and get some new ones.

That's the only thing I gotta tell you about that. If you wanna get, you know, do the classy, the classy one, the necklace vibrator, do it. Yeah, exactly. If you want to, in my own, which anyone has been, or you could even get a bullet, you could have like, oh it. Yeah, exactly. If you want to, in my room, which 21 is spent, or you could even get a bullet, you could have like, oh, like men, I got this at a party, they make these little bullets,

and they're like 10 bucks at stores, like screaming, oh, make some, and they're really powerful, because bullets are great for literal stimulation, and you'd be like, oh, I got this at a party, if you don't wanna be like, oh, I have a turfles, toilet full of sex toys, a door full of sex toys, but they come like wrapped, like, and celebrate. They're 10 bucks to be like, oh, I have a turfles. Toilet full of sex toys, a drawer full of sex toys, but they come like wrapped like in cellophane.

They're a ten box, so get that. If you're really down with it, Chris, and you want them. So. Wow. Yes, okay, next email. All right, I'll get into this one. Dear Emily, I had a hysterectomy in August of 2014. I still have one ovary, so I don't have any major hormone issues,

but I have a scar on the inside of my vagina and no cervix. I'm very self-conscious about how sex now. Can a guy really tell that I'm different from a woman with a cervix? Sign Andy. Okay, Andy, this is a really popular question, because women do get concerned about this, and they want to know if guys, you know, their partners can tell if they had a sorectomy, and most guys will not be able to. And many women report they even have stronger orgasms

and men feel like they can go in deeper. This would also be a great time. You can practice your keglexer sizes. I have an iPhone app called Keagle Camp. That could increase tightness and you can practice tightening your muscles. But it's really common, and I found this really interesting, because she has no cervix. So people would say, oh, this empty hole

and guys were like, I can't feel anything, which isn't true. So if you had a bowl of spaghetti, and I think there was like a large meatball in the middle, and then someone ate the large meatball. Yeah. The space where the meatball formerly occupied, it would be replaced by the spaghetti.

So no one would know the meatball was ever there. So a woman's pelvis is like a bowl filled with bowled the spaghetti. And if the uterus, the meatball is removed, the bowled falls into the space, formally occupied with the uterus, and there is no empty space. Wow.

Yeah, how about that? That makes sense, everyone? I'm like really hungry now. I know, I want to eat. I know, but look at that. So also people think their vagina is going to feel different in their husband. And studies show, and they talked a lot of guys, every single man who returned the questionnaire

said their wife's vagina felt exactly the same as before the hysterectomy. And the majority felt that their relationship did not suffer. So there's a lot of myths and questions and concerns. And so I totally understand your feeling this way, but don't let this Andy get in wave of your sex life and insecurities. There's already enough stuff to worry about and you're totally fine Yeah, and since we're talking about meatballs There's a meatballs spot in front of the Britney Spears

Theater inside playing Hollywood in Las Vegas. Just FYI Really, yeah, so have you been here a show meatballs. Really? Yeah, so. Have you been to her show? A little note. Yeah, I've been to her show. Was it good? We talked about it on the podcast. Dude, you know I don't remember what happens in this world. Why do you hate me so much?

I live for you. Okay, so hey Emily, I heard you on the Love Line podcast and you told the caller that there is a remote control vibrator for women that the guy could control with his phone. Is there anything like that for gay couples? I'm sure there is like that for gay couples? I'm sure there is. Well, Bert, funny you should ask.

I would think I was probably talking about the duo by J.J. U. But now there's the new one. And it's an anal toy for him or for her. I would recommend that one. It can be controlled with a discreet pen, it's like a pen shape remote, and it has an app. So on your Bluetooth, like on your phone, with Bluetooth, Bluetooth,

you can have central long distance play and intensifying foreplay, enhancing pleasure during sex. So you can basically say, okay babe, or you can even use the duo. You can use any of these because I don't know where you get turned on. I know that you're saying, okay, so I'm assuming this is an anal toy.

So I'm making that assumption that this one you'd like, the new O and U O by J.J. But there's a lot of them out there. Now there's one by O my bod, but that's like more literal. But so let's just stick with this. But here's how they all work. Is it you download the app from J.J.

on your phone. So let's say your partner is somewhere, you're like, hey babe, let's have a sex day at 8 o'clock. You could even take it on Skype, FaceTime, and you, he could control it for you. So you can be like, okay, right now the vibration, you're like, I got it on, and then you're clinging it.

It's like, how cool is that? Super cool. So if you're in London's relationship, or you just wanna, like, you know what else is fun? I think, because there's actually a physical remote control, too, that you could go out to dinner and have them wear it. You tried that once, I did try that one. I was too member, I went to a party with a guy.

This was in San Francisco years ago. I had the remote control panties. And I was wearing them at this party. And it was, it was, he had a little remote control on his pocket and it was super fun. It was like total four play all night. Cause I would be not, I'd be, you know, me at parties, whenever I don't talk to the person I'm with, typically.

I move around and I'd be talking to someone else and be like, you can't hear it though. And I'm like, wow, that's so hot. And he was like, you know, all this stuff is fun. You guys, this is what I'm saying, like sex is fun. If you were having sex the same way, like go buy some friggin' vibrating panties called a day.

Yeah, what have? What have's dude? So that's what I've got time for, Metis. It was great seeing you. This was so great seeing you too. No, thank you to all the listeners. They tweet me over the time. I know, I love got time for menace. It was great seeing you. This was so great seeing you too. No, thank you to all listeners. They tweet me all the time.

I know, I love my list, our listeners. And I just thank you. Yeah, you're cool. No, I really, guys, I would not be able to do this without you. And I love hearing from you and how it's changed your life. And I do appreciate you all every single day. So thank you.

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