Sex With Emily - Best Of: Bigger, Sexier Brains w/ Jim Kwik

Episode Date: April 14, 2021

The brain is the largest and most important sex organ. So on today’s Best Of, I’m joined by one of the world experts on optimal brain performance, Jim Kwik. We talk about how to sharpen and focus your memory (no more forgetting your anniversary), specific steps to activate a healthy brain, and the best foods to give your brain a boost.You’ll be able to follow along as we walk through very specific, impactful, and easy to learn exercises you can use right away –– because a big, healthy brain is always sexy.For more on Jim Kwik visit jimkwik.comFor even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Music Here's the thing, learning is not a spectator sport. Learning is not a spectator sport anymore than lovemaking is, right? Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Betrubize they call them in a fight on days. You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex. The brain is the largest and most important sex organ. That's where all the magic happens between our ears.

And today's best of, I'm joined by author of Limitless and one of the world's experts on optimal brain performance, Jim Quick. We talk about how to sharpen and focus your memory, no more forgetting your anniversary, specific tips to activate a healthy brain and the best foods to give your brain a boost. What I love about this episode is you're going to be able to follow along as we walk through very specific, impactful and easy to learn exercises you can use right away. I learned so much of this episode. I still use the exercises because listen, a big healthy brain is always sexy. All right, intentions with Emily for each episode join me in sending intention. What do you want to learn from this episode? My intention for this episode was to have the world expert on

To help you get your brain on board for sex because when your brains on board your body will follow. It's true Listen, I'm doing a virtual live show on April 15th, 2021, so just in a few days, it's at 6 o'clock Pacific and you are all invited. It's going to be so fun. We'll all be together there. I want to be giving you giveaways from my personal six toy closet. You can ask me questions live and we can all interact. Can't wait to see your faces. We're going to do polls and questions. It's going to be super fun. I love this platform at Looped Live. It's $10 to view the live podcast experience

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And remember, I get so many emails from you, you can always send me an email to feedback at sexwithemily.com or sexwithemily.com slash ask Emily, include your name, your gender identity, your location age, how you listen to the show so I can best answer your question. Alright, enjoy the show. Jim Quick, yes, that's his real name, K-W-I-K. He's the founder of Quick Learning and a widely recognized world expert in speed reading, memory improvement, brain performance, and accelerated learning. After childhood brain injury left him learning challenge, Quick created strategies to dramatically enhance his mental performance.

And he's also dedicated his life to help others unleash their true genius and brain power to learn anything faster and live a life of greater power, prosperity, productivity, and peace of mind. And I promise, a better brain is also going to help with your sex life and your relationships. Find more about Jim. Go to jimquick.comkwi.org or Jimquick on all social media and his podcast is Quick Brain Podcast. Hey Jim, I'm so glad you're here.

I'm glad to be here. This is a real treat. Thank you everyone who's listening. Yeah, and I want just a little bit about your background about how you became the Jimquick master that you are. I was bitten by a radioactive elephant and I have this incredible memory now. But yeah, when it comes to relationships,

I believe two of the most costly words are I forgot. You know what I mean? I forgot to do it. I forgot I got to bring it. I forgot that conversation. I forgot that person's name. I forgot we had plans. I made other plans.

Exactly. They show up. You're not there. Yeah, I was going to say, you text your significant others saying, hey, take the food out of the fridge or the freezer and then they say, yes, of course. And then you come back and that nothing was done. Or you know, you go on, you know, they forget to do things. They forget to turn off the oven. They forget whether they put the keys or not their keys. Something larger like their car. They see the people in the parking lot and you wonder, I believe memory lapses, they heard relationships, personal and professional.

And so I like to fix people's forgetfulness. I like to help people to focus in a world full of distraction. And I think it helps with their productivity, their performance, and their peace of mind. Yeah. You know, like your mind is everywhere nowadays, you know, we're driven to distraction.

And what do people do? How do they get things done in a world full of app notifications, social media alerts and all these things? Right. Exactly. And so the fact that you are able to work with people and what I was hoping, you know, like I've said, I always joke because we hang out with our friends. I'm like, you help everyone.

Can't you? You know, I'd love to know how to do this because I feel that I For so long I was never able to I don't know that can't even focus out and I think that ADD or whatever you want to call it is sort of a gift Right, there are a lot of creative minds and you we operate differently in the world But it's really not it's been a it's been a challenge like I just assumed things about myself for example like I can't read I can't get through this entire book on time. I just assume things about myself. For example, I can't read, I can't get through this entire book on time, I can't make appointments,

I lose my car and my phone and my keys on a daily basis. And I've studied organization and systems, and I have a cook for the keys. So I've tried and I think a lot of people tried, they buy the bins and they buy the things to help them get organized, but I think the way that you come at it is very interesting, because also I have also come to believe that this is just how I am, and there's nothing

you can do about it. I think a lot of people think, well, I just don't remember. We make assumptions that because we've been doing things this way and our brain works this way, this is how we are. We're wrong about that, so that's good. So what I would say is when people see me on stage, they'll see me memorize like, I have a hundred people stand up and I'll memorize all their names, me on stage, they'll see me memorize like I have a hundred people stand up and I'll memorize all their names or they'll give me a hundred, you know, digit number or hundred words and I'll memorize them forwards and backwards. But I always tell people afterwards that I don't do to suppress you. I do this to express to you what's really possible because the truth is every single person listening this right now could also do that and a lot more.

It's just we weren't taught. If anything, I think we were taught a lie, a lie that somehow our intelligence, our potential, our abilities, somehow fix like our shoe size, and it's absolutely not true. We've discovered more about the human brain, and when we're talking about relationships, I feel like that we are in the millennium of the mind, when people are dating people, it's important. You want to be with somebody, you know, who has more to offer than just, you know, maybe looks or, you know, something substantial like, you know, you don't have deep conversations with somebody, right? Because you want to stimulate, you know, different parts of their body, but you definitely

want to stimulate someone's brain, right? Exactly. So, but the challenge is, you know, we discovered so much about the human brain and we're grossly underestimating our own capabilities. So, you know, really what so much about the human brain and we're grossly underestimating our own capabilities. So really what this conversation is about is about transcending. It's about ending the trans. Ending the trans that we're not good enough, that we're not smart enough. So I'm everybody-

Stopping those negative self-talk. I guess. And we can talk about that because everybody here, what we go through, I would love to do this actually, which is we've always talked about this, is rolling up her sleeves and less getting into it, fixing forgetfulness and memory lapses and focus issues, all the things that could hurt your business, but certainly also your life. I think everybody could relate to this thing where they feel absent-minded, like senior moments are coming too early, or they need to remember people, like they meet somebody and then seconds later, the handshake breaks, and then the name just disappears. Or they have a fear of public speaking. When I have shared the stage a number of times,

but people get forgetful because they have to give a toast at a wedding or maybe a sales presentation at work and they feel like they're going to get nervous and they're going to not remember the things that they need to remember. Okay, so let's jump into the mechanics. How do you do these things? How do you learn faster? How do you read faster? How do you remember more? Right? And so our, the goal is to be the best version of ourselves and it starts with our mind because our mind controls everything right our brain controls Our relationships and our career our health and everything our habits everything so there are four keys to learning any Subject or skill faster what I want everyone to do right now is to think about a subject or skill it could be making love It could be mandarin it could be, it could be music, it could

be martial arts, it could be marketing, anything that you want to learn faster. There are four keys to learning any subject or skill faster. And I want you to remember this, fast, F-A-S-T. I'm going to go through this rapid fire. All right, so the F stands for forget. And you're like, Jim, you know, you're a memory expert. Why are you telling me to forget something? One of the reasons people learn slowly is they feel like they know something already, right? And you know this, right? This is coming back to a beginner's mind

in order to learn something faster. You have to empty your cups, you can learn something new, because it's cliche, but it's true. Your mind is like a parachute. It only works when it's opened, all right? So temporarily, forget about what you know about a subject. And so, you know, if you're listening to a podcast and it happens to be on one of your,

you know, the subjects that you're talking about, then if someone knows about that subject, temporarily forget about what they know so they can learn something new. The second thing I would forget about are situational things. So the reason why I say this is like, remember we can multitask. So if you're trying to listen to a podcast and do five other things at once, it only gives you about 20% of your resources to be present. People don't learn faster because their attention is split. So you don't want to do that. The third thing I would say to forget, and something you could do is just,

if something comes in your mind, just write it down. You know, you think about the dry cleaning, you think about the client stuff, just write it down, because you don't want to try not to think about it, because what you resist persists. I tell you, don't think of a big pink elephant or a polka dot giraffe, you're gonna think about it more, right?

So don't try to fight it and just write it down. So forget about situational things. And the third thing you want to forget are forget about your limitations. And what I mean by that is all behavior is belief-driven. And a lot of us have this negative self-talk. We say, oh, I'm getting too old, I have a horrible memory. But I was- Never been able to in the past room, but I never- Exactly. And so like I'm horrible with names, but I always tell people if you fight for your limitations, you get to keep them Right if you are if you argue for your limits, they're yours, right? And so you want to be very careful with yourself talk, you know, I remember I was

preparing for a marathon, right? And so my last name really is quick. I didn't change it I love it KWK if you're like, that's not his name I didn't change it. It's my father's name, my grandfather's name, but my life was pretty much planned out. I had to be a runner back in school, which is a lot of pressure when it says, quick, right on your shirt. I had to.

Because what if you were the slowest dude? Exactly. And then so I have to be careful when I'm driving because the worst name to have in your driver's license when you get pulled over for speeding is the name quick because you're not going to talk your way out of ticket. And I get to do my, my, my, my students want to learn faster. But anyway, I was preparing for this marathon and part of, I was reading this book and one

of the chapters was the psychology, the mental training part of it. And I remember reading this verbatim. It said this word for word. Your brain is a supercomputer and your self-talk is a program that will run. So if you tell yourself you're not good at remembering names, you will not remember the name of the next person you meet because you program your supercomputer not to. And that's why I think it's really important to get rid of your ants, automatic negative thoughts, kill those ants, automatic negative thoughts.

We all have that, but we do, we do, right? And so part of it is just like what you said, either just go on like a little fast, right, you know, negativity fast or what are people called in terms of the complaining that we do. I didn't even a three letter word, very simple word like yet, also changes the meaning for things. Like I don't have a great memory yet, right? Or something, something simple like that, right?

So you get really the answer. Automatic negative thoughts. Automatic negative thoughts. simple like that. So you get really the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, the ground. And in the beginning, you would try to make it the way free. It would pull and pull and pull and struggle. But after a few days, maybe a week or two,

it learned that it's helpless. So even when it grew into this incredible animal that could pull down the whole circus tent, it still doesn't because in its mind, it's still that weak. And so that's learned helplessness. Right, and we learned that two a lot of times, negative things that we've heard from our parents. That's what we carry in your life.

Negative self-body image or even when it comes to any of these topics, whether it's sex or scholastics, it's all the same. We all have these negative beliefs about certain things and all behaviors believe driven. So we set the thermostat that we talked about earlier, that is certain level and it just reaches that. So you want to forget about those things, the F stands for forget.

Forget about what you know about a subject, forget about what's going on situationally, and forget about your limitations. The A in fast stands for active. And this is huge. All right, if you want to be a better learner, if you want a better memory, if you want better focus, you need to be more active. And what I mean by that is if you are overloaded with too much to learn too little time, it's because you and I and most of our listeners, we all grew up with the 20th century education.

You know, 20th century education prepared us for a 20th century world, which at the turn of the century was work out in farms, working in factories. And it really was like an assembly line. It was like one size fits all sequily by yourself. Don't talk to your neighbor. Right. You know, and it just it was cookie cutter approach to learning. And now we live in a world that's so different right now, right? We live in an age of autonomous electric cars and spaceships that are going to Mars. But our vehicle of choice when it comes to learning and education

is like a horse and buggy. And that's why we do this. It's true. It's so slow. Change it, I know. But one of the reasons why is 20th century education was so passive, it was like you're being lectured to and you're supposed to just consume information. But the human brain doesn't learn by consuming. It learns by creating. And so the human mind, it doesn't want to just consume

and be lectured to. It wants to create. And because we are all creators. And so how can you be more active? So active would be, it doesn't want to just consume and be lecture two. It wants to create, because we are all creators. And so how can you be more active? So active would be, for example, taking notes, active would be asking questions, active would be sharing this information and teaching other people. Because here's the thing, learning is not a spectator sport. Learning is not a spectator sport.

Any more than love making is, right? And so it's not a spectator sport. Well, it depends if you're into that kind of thing. But right. So you want to get, you have to roll up your sleeves and you have to get involved to get the benefit. So you want to be active. The S and FAS we already talked about, that's state, right? And so if you want to learn faster, all learning is state dependent.

I would never want to learn something in a dull, bored state because you're not going to retain any of it. So whatever you could do, the up the emotion, either physically or mentally. And one of the best ways is just monitor yourself talk, right, or change or put a smile on your face or get fascinated. There's a roomy quote that says, sell your cleverness for bewilderment. Like when's the last time we felt bewildered about something, you know, playful about something like when you even play like who are the fastest learners? You know, children, right? Children can learn musical, how fast can they learn a musical instrument? How fast can they learn a second or third language? And I think one of the reasons why, you know, is because they play

all the time. But as we grow older, we stop playing. And I don't think it's because- I think about that. I was like, what happened to recess? Like there was a reason why we could- I was telling them, I'm like, go walk around the block, but we had recesses kids who now we played and you come back in. So, like, any kind of kid, it's like, you, but we agree to this kid you play. We play and you come back in. So we're gonna need to move. And he has a kid, you know, you wanna go outside and play. And later it's like, oh, do you wanna go out and hang out or whatever, we change even the words. And so as we grow older, we stop playing.

But I don't think it's that way. I think it's the opposite. I think it's, we grow older because we stop playing. Yeah, I think so too. It's not like we stop playing because we grow older, maybe we grow older because we stop playing. I think so too. And so add play, that's a state of mind. And when you're playful about something, you're more active. It's not like we stop playing because we grow older, maybe we grow older because we stop playing. I think so too.

And so add play, that's a state of mind. And when you're playful about something, you're more active. And finally, the T and fast stands for teach. And this is a huge one. If you want to learn something faster, learn with the intent of teaching somebody else. We've all heard that phrase, those who can't do teach. I never thought it was a negative. Those who can't do business, teach business. I actually thought it was like, oh, if I can't do something, let

me teach it. And then by teaching it, I'll learn how to do it. And so let's say, like, you know, we're going to go through all these brain hacks right now, but let's say you're listening to this and you're thinking about somebody you wish was listening to this podcast right now with you. Like think about right now as you're listening to this one person you think could really benefit from this, right? And so what I would say is, imagine yourself having to give a presentation from that person tomorrow.

Would you pay attention differently? Would you concentrate differently? Would you ask better questions? Would you take notes differently? Of course you would, because here's the thing, when you teach something, you get to learn it twice. When you teach something, you get to learn it twice. So why not learn with the intent of teaching it? So that's fast. Forget what you know about a subject. A.B.

active. S. Monitor your state. T. Learn with the intention of teaching somebody else. So, what I'm going to share with you right now, seven keys for memory names and faces. I want to teach you seven keys for memory news faces. And then I'm going to teach you the ten things you need to do to unlock what I call your quick brain. Because really, this is not just about mental intelligence. Yes, you'll learn facts and figures and formulas and your friends name faster. But really, what I want people to do is not just be more mentally intelligent. I want them to have mental fitness. People don't know this, but one third of your memory is predetermined by genetics and biology. One third of your memory. Twothirds is completely in your control.

So we get to write it's not what family do. Yeah, so let's say that I activate. So it's genetics, and when I'm talking about, so independent of your age, your background, your career, your education, your financial situation, your gender, your IQ, let's go to names when face is real fast. Here's a quick brain hack. So when you're out there, because I see you, you're on stage, and afterwards you're mobbed with people, right, and they introduce themselves.

How do you remember all those names, right? So what I want you to do is I want you to be swav. Be swav. Be swav. Be swav. So you're looking in the mirror, you're checking your makeup, people are checking, you know, their outfits and everything, and you say to yourself, I'm going to be swav. Next time you're out and about, you know, you want to remember names.

The B is believe, because if you believe you can or believe you can't, either way, you're right. Okay. Right. So you might be self-taught. I will believe that I can. Right. And so you need to be able to believe it, to be able to achieve it. And that's really the thing. It's not, it's not, you'll, you'll believe it when you see it. It's you'll see it when you believe it. Right. It successes an inside-out process. So that's the B is believe. Get rid of the negative self-talk. The E stands for exercise, right? And because the bad news that takes effort, the good news that doesn't

take as much as you think. So I'm not saying it's easy, but I'm saying it's going to be worth it. Because the memory of the name is so important. So practice makes progress. Now the SWAV, yes, the first thing you do is you say the name. So you just literally repeat the name back to them. So common sense, but it's not common practice. But the reason why you say it is because you want to make sure you observe it correctly. So if a person's name is Ted, you don't want to say it at the end. You don't want to say goodbye, Ed, you know, 30 minutes later, you want to get corrected up front. And because lots of times there's ambient noise, and you're at an event, or whatever it is, you say the name. the U is, you use the name.

Now notice you use it, you don't abuse it, right? Emily is so good to see you. Emily, you don't grab the love, Emily, I'm gonna top it, that'd be an abuse, right? They write, abusive, it's slightly creepy, right. Right, you wanna use it three or four times in the context of the conversation, right? The A is, you ask about a person's name, right?

And so this is really neat because, you know, you're mentioning, you know, people's names, we're pretty common, right? Mary, Ted, yeah, or like most men's names, one syllable. Yeah, and then they're just very, weirdly, the character. And so asking about a person's name,

you know, so when you meet the rare times, you meet somebody in their name as unusual, different, maybe 10, 20% of the time, Afsau, RidaGalt, ridicger, you meet somebody with a different kind of name, then you ask about, what can you ask about a person's name? I feel like, oh, that's interesting. Is there a fan for it?

Which is your name from? Exactly, exactly. Yeah, let's see, what's the origin? Or have you named after, have you spell it? What does it mean? Like, you can, you know, you can get asked those questions. And that's what I would do if somebody's name

you haven't heard before. So like, what's everyone's favorite subject? Themself. Right, exactly, right? And so the people are flattered. So I what's everyone's favorite subject? Right, exactly. Right. And so the people are flattered. So I was doing a training at the country's largest life insurance company. About 100 people in the audience,

and the training director's name was Nankita. Nankita. And I was like, wow, it's a beautiful name. How do you spell it? Where's it from? What does it mean? And she paused. I was like, what does it mean?

And she said it means graceful, falling waters. And I was like, wow, that's kind of interesting. And then, you know, her co-workers kind of made a little noise. And I was like, how long have you worked here? She was like, you know, five, six years. I like with everyone here. I was like, yeah, a lot of good friends in my wedding. I was like, raise your hand if you need to. That's what Nanky's name meant. Out of a hundred people, how many people raised their hand? None. None. right? And remember, a name is the sweetest sound to a person's ears. So you ask about a person's name, right? And then finally, the V and the E and Swab, the V is visualize the name, right?

And so I bet you're better with face. I bet most people are better with faces. I am, I remember, I do. I'm a little bit upset. You go to somebody and you say, I remember your face, but I forgot your name. You never go to someone to say the opposite. You never go to someone to say, hey, I remember your name, but I forgot your name. You never go to someone to say the opposite. You never go to someone say, hey, I remember your name, but I forgot your face.

Right. That would make any sense. Right. Because your visual cortex is larger than the other areas. And so we tend to remember what we see. There's a Chinese proverb that says, what I hear, I forget, what I see, I remember, what I do, I understand, what I hear, I forget, I heard the name, I forgot the name, what I see, I remember, I I do, I understand. What I hear, I forget, I heard the name, I forgot the name.

What I see, I remember, I saw the face, I remember the face, and going back to doing and practice exercise, I understand. And so if you tend to remember what you see, then try seeing what you want to remember. So this is really easy to do with those single, like those single syllable names that you mentioned. You know, you mentioned someone named Jim,

you just imagine them literally just at the gym. And it sounds so so silly and third grade but again, children learn fast, right? They have imagination. So a person's name, for example, is Mary. Imagine me someone Mary at Mary, right? And then all of a sudden you imagine like two lambs underneath her arms and just like and you make too loud. But even if it's right, so I'd be like, oh, Mary, and then the next time I saw her, like in a month, I'd be like, that was Mary. So watch, watch, watch this. So there's a difference between long term and short term, right? You want to make sure you get the short term because my goal with you right now is to overcome what I call the six-second syndrome.

Six-second syndrome is you learn something. Somebody gives you a pass code, right? They give you their phone number. They give you their name. You have six seconds to do something with that name, otherwise what happens? It's like gone in the ether, right? And so you need something to be able to capture it. So if person's name is Mike,

imagine them jumping on the tables and singing on a microphone. And you're like, well, that's very childish. Yes, and that's why children learn so quickly, right? How many people had their name made fun of growing up as a kid in a wide... Right, a lot of kids did, yeah. Everybody does, or they make fun of your name

And now like David is therapy because he was called David the David Right, right. He doesn't even know what a David is any therapy for like 10 years exactly It's just you right and that's that's how kids remember things They make fun of these their imagination and so what I would say is It's memorable and so when I'm at a party right you and and I see each other a lot of gatherings and stuff like that. I see Mary holding the lamp, see Bob, bobbing for apples, I see all, I see Carol, Christmas caroling.

So for these names, you do a, I don't know what to do for Matt, because every guy's name is Matt. Right, and so this is the thing. It's Matt like a doormat. Yes, and so Matt is being Matt and you're using their tie for a doormat, right? And so here's the thing, it's always one to one.

Whenever you meet a Matt, you always use door mat. So the person name is John, you can picture one. Bathroom. Okay, great, yeah. I don't know. Yeah, that works, right? Oh, okay. Now, in your mind, so anytime you meet John,

that's what you always associate. And then here's a magic, right? Once you know their name, it's only a means to an end. Once you have the end, which is knowing their name, the means disappears, the pictures disappears. It's just meant to get you to focus on the name and the person. It's good. I swear. And once you know it, you disappear. And then when I would recommend people like, well,

how do I hack that and make it even better? What I would do is I would go, because I know you have listeners all around the world, I would go on, you know, your government, census, bureau, find out the most used names, like, you know, they list all the hundred top, most popular baby names, everything for that year, whatever. And just come up with pictures for the top hundred. If you did that, look for, again, example in the US. And you just look at all the top, you come up with a picture, like 10 names a day

for 10 days, right? And for male names, if you come up with a picture for those names, like James is Jam or whatever, then you have the a pictures for 60% of the male population in the US. I mean, that's just smart right for for female names top 100 is like 40% Because there's you know more creativity and such But that's that's working smart and then every time you meet somebody use those pictures So that's what you do. I don't think that's that's very helpful and then finally the e and swabs stands for end and

Meaning you end the conversation using their name right because if you could walk into a room and meet 20 strangers and leave Saying goodbye to every single one of them by name. Who do they all remember? Right, you're the good guy that even know who you are Standout skill because before you sell anything what do you sell yourself? Yeah, no, I get it That's that is like that that could just save me. That is helping me a lot. I see that. I go to conferences, I do think,

so I'm like, what's their name? And we've all been out with our dates or friends, or like, you whisper, like, introduce yourself, like, hair over their name. Like, how do you love doing that? You got to tell your name, right? Stick around, after the break, I as Jim, how to remember specific to do's,

like, when I told my boyfriend, I pick pick up his birthday cake and then I totally forgot it How about facts that come in randomly I have the succession of I got it right everything now And then I forget where I wrote it, but like you're saying like in relationships We're saying if someone says, because one of my big things where it came out in a relationship, I'll give you an example, I was dating someone years ago and I said I would get the cake for his birthday and I was on an email with 20 of his friends. And I emailed, I said, you guys, I got the cake because he was my boyfriend and I was like,

great. And then I remember the day before we were going to the beach in San Francisco, we were going to Stinson Beach. If any of my friends are listening to this, you guys all know this incident. It was a very dark time. But we were going and I'm like, oh, but I got to get like a bikini wax for it because we're going to the beach. I'm like, oh, but then I got to do this.

And it's not because I'm a selfish girlfriend. I thought I'd get the cake after the bikini wax. And then after Charlotte wanted to stop at Walgreens and then whatever. And then all of a sudden we're on the road to go to the beach. And I'm like, my mind's going, oh shit, I didn't get the cake. Even though it was on my mind for two days, the cake, the cake, the cake. And then we're driving there.

And there's no turning back. I'm like, okay, at dinner, I will run at the cake. So anyway, he's like, my therapist thinks you have 80, how did you forget the cake? So how do you not forget that? And that's a really extreme example I can't, I still feel bad now. If I tell you I'm gonna eat the cake,

you probably need to back up. But yeah. And I loved him. I wasn't that I was trying to pass. I'm like I was I love John Yeah, I mean just we weren't taught how to do this right and because nowadays we don't have to because we have smart devices and everything and when you're driving a lot of times You can't write things down because you're driving or you know You're in the shower or I don't know why people would call you and the shower But it's the same kind of thing you like you go to the grocery store to buy one thing

You come back with two bags of groceries, you forgot that one thing that you need to do, right? And so we all fill out some money. I'll give you a solution for this. I'll give you one tool, like one quick tip. All right, so I'm gonna give you a tool, a memory tool right now on how to memorize speeches and facts, like really fast, okay?

So this is attributed to Simonides. 2500 years ago in ancient Greece, they didn't have teleprompters and smart devices and printing presses, they had to have a great memory. And so he was giving a poetry reading, and when he was done, he left the building, something really tragic happened. The building collapsed and killed everyone that was there, and he was a lone survivor. And as being the lone survivor, the responsibility of helping the family members identify their loved ones. But he was able to do so because he remembered where all of them

were sitting. And aren't you like this also? Can't you remember like at dinner, like who's sitting to your left? Who has changed your right? Because human memory, we remember things in locations. We remember things in time and space. Because back in as a hunter and gatherer, you didn't need to memorize past codes and numbers. You need to remember where things were. You need to remember where is the clean water, where is the fertile soil, where is the enemy tribe, where is the crops and everything. That was your survival. So we store information in space. So watch this. I'm going to show you how to memorize the year to do list. I'm also going to show you how to memorize

the speech without notes because it's the same exact technique. I need this so badly. So this is called the low-key memory, okay? Low-key? Low-key, low-key meaning location. Meaning we store information in spaces that we're familiar with. So what this technique is basically saying

is take your home off of a place you're very familiar with, your home, your body, your office, and why not since you're so familiar with it in your mind, store the information you want around those places. So take the first piece of information store in the first place, the second piece of information in the second place, the third piece of information, the third place. By the way, have you ever gotten an argument and go, sorry, sorry, in the first place of this and the second place that, that's where it came from.

That language came from the 2500 year old memory technique where people used to store information in imaginary places inside their mind. Now, the technique has disappeared. Wow. But that language and the linguistics is still there. Let's do this actually interactively. Sorry. So everybody right now, we're gonna go through an exercise.

It'll take a couple of minutes. So we're gonna go through it a quick visualization exercise. So I train a lot of actors. A lot of the top TED talks, I train them on how to give a speech without notes. Now you don't wanna know a speech verbatim, because you wanna sound authentic, you wanna sound natural,

but you wanna know the key points to your speech, because you know this, right? If you're going through points to your speech and then somebody asks a question, you go to answer them and you come back, you're like just like, you know, like where was it? Where was it, right? But here, you know exactly where you are.

So we're gonna take 10 points to a speech and we'll put in 10 different places that I'll walk you through. Now, remember I said in the beginning, I said one third of your memory is predetermined by genetics and biology, but two thirds is your control. Let me tell you the 10 things that are in that two thirds.

There are 10 things that activate what I call your quick brain. All right, so I'm gonna go through them really fast. Okay. So if you want a strong memory, without even using technique, do these 10 things. So number one is a good brain diet. So there's certain foods that are really good for your brain.

Certain foods that make you spastic, you can focus and have memory lapses. But there's certain foods that are really good for your brain. Avocados, blueberries, broccoli, coconut oil, eggs, green leafy vegetable, salmon, our sardines, tumeric, walnuts, dark chocolate, all good for your brain, right? So good brain diet, you are what you eat, right? Number two, killing ants, we talked about this. The second thing you want to be able to do is get rid of negative thoughts because it's

not good for your brain. Because you know, we talked about, here's just a thing, when you say, when you remember I was saying you fight for your limitation, you get to keep them when you're saying, oh, I'm too old, I don't get this, this is really my family, I'm so so forgetful, whatever it is. I'll never do it, I always failed. All of that. Your mind is always eavesdropping on your self-talk. Your mind is always eavesdropping on your self-talks. You want to keep it positive. So number two, killing ants. The third key to activating your quick brain is exercise.

Because anything good for your heart is going to be good for your head, blood flow, and everything oxygen to your brain. So people who move more physically will always, research always shows this. They'll have better focus, mental acuity, they'll do better on memory. Oh it's true, when I don't work out before a show or any day, but if I don't work out every day, I truly feel that difference. I've always drawn marathons. I need the intensity of it, I need to move every day. And that's what exercise is key. The fourth key to unlocking your quick brain are brain day. And that's what exercise is key. The fourth key to unlocking your quick brain

are brain nutrients. And that's supplementation. So if you're not getting it from your diet, because if you could do everything and a technique might not work, because you're just short on DHAs, omega-3s, or B vitamins, so supplement. On top of that, number five is a positive peer group, because who you spend time with is who you become.

So true, the five people you spend time with are not... Yeah, we are the average of the five people we spend time with going back to those marinaraons because it's even our habits. Like they'll say it's not even like, like whether or not you smoke or not has less to do with your biological networks and more to do with your social networks.

So it's not just your neurological networks but your social networks. It's like there's your friends, friends smoke. That's more likely to influence you, right? social networks. It's like, there's your friends, friends, smoke. That's more likely an influx to you, right? Because who you spend time with is who you become. But you know this, you know, we even, you know, whether it's dating or it's our social circles, it's just some people have, they're encouraging, they're challenging, they're kind, you know, they're cheerleading for us, and other people are like energy vampires.

Right, I want to tell people to really, this one I think is very important. Because if you have a lot of friends or people around you and you're like, why is it so toxic or my work environment is toxic? I'm not saying necessary to get rid of everybody, but it's important to look at because you might be part of the problem too if you're seeing a lot of things come up in your life or if you're just people and you might outgrow people, you might keep people around because they're family. But I think that that is something that's so important to really pay attention where you

spend your time, who you look up to. That's just something. Because those marinarons, again, going to, you know, brain, is we start imitating them. We start adopting their habits and their beliefs and then their values and things, what's possible. So it helps to be able to come out of it. On a side tangent, there's a book called The Structure of Scientific Revolution that basically says all innovation comes from somebody outside the industry. So it's Elon Musk looking at automotive or fashion or technology or something.

Because if you grew up in an industry, you also have the same limitations and living beliefs that come with it. You usually take somebody from the outside and be like, why aren't we doing it this way? But a lot of it is who you spend time with is who you become. So a positive peer group. I think people are basically, some people are batteries included, but there's some people batteries got included and they still your batteries and that's a challenge. So that's number five is a positive peer group. It's good for your brain. Number six is a clean environment. That's huge, right? Your offices

are amazing. Love it here. It's inspiring. The great light here because, you know, you clean, because your external world is a reflection of your internal world and you know this. Like when your desk is cluttered or your laptop is full and everything else, you have a cluttered mind also. But when you clear it out, you have clarity also. So the success is sometimes the outside in process also. That's number six.

Number seven is sleep. This is huge, right? Because there's a sleepless epidemic. And the reason why sleep is so important. What is sleepless, was this sleepless epidemic, well, it's an epidemic now, but I don't feel like people were always complaining about sleep. Yeah, and I think a lot of it has to do with our digital devices. How about caffeine, the fact that we never used to drink as much caffeine.

Yeah, you're not supposed to have caffeine pass to 2 p.m. But like we used to have one cup in the morning, like 30 years ago, right? And there's Starbucks, and now everyone, I agree. Yeah, I agree. Everything's digital. Everything's digital. I think the world we live in right now, the amount of electromagnetic fields that are out there, it's just so much stuff that are vying for attention. And so what I would say is sleep is so important

because number one is where you clear up plaque out of your brain that leads to Alzheimer's and dementia. So that's important. Number two is where you consolidate short-to-long term memory. So all those all-nighters aren't helping. It's better to get sleep. Third reason is I talked about before is remembering your dreams. Because you need to be able to sleep to get in... You need to be able to get into that REM stage where you're actually dreaming,

but you're not getting it if you're short-changing or sleep. And so make sleep a priority. Like literally you have to sleep your way to the top. Because that's the goal. Because you can do everything else right? But if you're not getting a good night's sleep, how's your mind the next day? How's your focus, how's your memory? You can't solve problems, you can't do anything. No, you can't. You can't.

And so for me, you want to go to bed at the right time, you want to be able to, you know, before midnight, it's always better because you get deeper, deeper rest. That way, blackout curtains, because it's not just your eyes. It's also you have photo receptors on your skin too. So even any little bit ambient lights can throw you off also as well. They put little red lights behind somebody's kneecap

and it'll actually affect their sleep. I mean, it's things really... I'm working on that blackout curtains, my dear. The blackout curtains are really good. Get rid of the digital devices. That's a big thing. Screens. Right?

Anything with the screen that's emitting blue light is really bad because it stops the secretion of melatonin which helps you to relax and go to sleep. So when you're looking at your phones, your iPads. How about not looking at your phones and iPads before like an hour before sleep or two hours? A couple of hours beforehand because if if you're gonna use your computers or something, then use like, you know, a lot of your phone has that dimming devices

or flux on your computer or something that gets rid of the, or where the blue block in the sun, the glasses. Yeah, they do, I do. So, you know, at nighttime, especially if I'm on a digital device because you wanna train your brain. And so, anything y'all, then we did four episodes on Hack and Sleep because it's such an important topic when it comes to brain. Yeah, you've had so, anything, we did four episodes on Hex and Sleep because it's such an important topic when it comes to brain.

Yeah, you've come through a lot of sleep issues. Yeah, I've had some serious sleep issues, sleep apnea and I've tried everything. Right. So, this is, make sleep a priority. And so, that's number seven. Number eight, brain protection. So, basically, protect your brain.

It's very fragile. You know, it's just like all the concussions people get, they access, they're not wearing their helmets, especially for the kids. So wear a helmet. Number eight, number nine is new learnings. And so if you want a quick brain, dedicate yourself to lifelong learning. It was interesting. It was done in the cover of Time Magazine.

They did a study on supernons. Not like supernons. Supernons. Like, they were living, they were just long, it was a longevity study. It's women were living 90 and above. And they wanted to find out what was the key to them living longer. They said half of it had to do with their gratitude and their faith. But the other half had to do is they were lifelong learners, like literally they were learning

every single day. Because of it, it added years to her life, but not only in just years to her life, it added life to their years. That's what you really want, right? The goal is not to just do her older, it's to maintain your vitality, your cognitive abilities and so on. That's number nine. And finally, number 10 is a big one.

This is stress management. All right, because then I put that out there because it's like the elephant in the room because we don't realize, it's like fish and water, we don't see the water because it's there all the time. We don't realize how much stress render on a chronic place. Like we normalize it, right? Right, until we're on like a beach somewhere, we don't, we water because it's there all the time. We don't realize how much stress render on a chronic stress.

Like we normalize it, right? Right. Until we're on like a beach somewhere, we don't, we're getting a massage. We don't realize how much tension we have, you know, in our mind and body, because it's just there all the time. And so do you have coping mechanisms

to get out of stress, you know, whether it's meditation or it's massage, or it's red wine, whatever it is, it sex, whatever gets you, you know, whatever it is, sex, whatever gets you out of stress. Because that will kill your cognitive disease. Anxiety is one of the biggest killers of our sex drive, but the more sex you have, the less stress you're going to feel, guys, so just think about that choice. So when you're thinking about not having sex right now, because you're too anxious, when

you have sex, you would be less anxious. Right. When we come back, Jim walks me through a simple process to remember lots of words like your grocery list. So imagine this, combining everything we talked about, the power of teaching other people, giving a speech without notes. Imagine now you have to give us a TED talk, right?

Which is on my bucket list. Right, imagine you have to give us a TED talk, right? Which is on my bucket list. Right, imagine you had to give a TED talk specifically though on the 10 things we just learned, right? Because most people right now, they're listening to us in the car, they're at the gym, they're like, oh, I wish I could wrote that down. Now the reason why I went through this is not- No, quiz me. So the whole thing here is people, it's in one of your out-the-other.

It's just like, you know, our significant others, we're dating, everything else, you're like, oh, did you take out the garbage? Like, you know, remember my friend Jenny, I told you about her all the time, right? All the time. And they posted on, like, we have this private Facebook group for our podcast, people post questions. And a lot of women will say, like, how can I trust a guy who can't remember to, you know, to take out the garbage, how can I trust him with something actually important or whatever it is? And so that's why memory is so important. But here's the thing, there is no such thing

as a good or bad memory. There is no such thing as a good or bad memory. There is no such thing as a good or bad memory. There's a train memory and an untrained memory. And I think most people are untrained. I'm not even trying to learn cheating. And you're not even learning. And your the thing, a memory is not even something you have. A memory is not something you have, it's something you do.

It's like this, you don't have focus, you do focus. You don't have creativity, you do creativity. You don't have creativity, you do creativity. You don't have a memory, you do memory. Just like when it comes to love, you don't have love, you do love, because it's an actual process, right? And so when one truth... Most is not what we're talking about,

that's not a process. Love is a process. So when you take it and turn into a process, it becomes something that's living, and it becomes a recipe, so you could duplicate that. So it's like when people get stuck and they're like, oh, I'm writer's block or I'm just not feeling creative or motivated. You don't have motivation, you do motivation.

And so that's why I love internet when it comes to learning, it's a verb and it's not a noun, right? And so the goal here is to change the things into processes and step-by-step strategies. So let's come up with the process for memorizing a speech. Let's say you need to remember these 10 keys that we just talked about. Most people don't remember it because they are working out or they are listening to this.

And a lot of people like listening to you probably when they're taking a bath, right? Or when they're over there at work, which I always amaze me. I'm like, is that really good day or is it a distracted day? Exactly, and they can write it down. So how would they retain this information? So this is what you tube which you asked for,

how to remember facts and also how to give a speech without using notes, right? And so this is the location method that we talked about, you know, this Greek order, 25, 100 years ago, with store information, different places. So this is what you do. I'll walk you through,

because everybody would normally use their home, but since we're doing this all together, let's use my office. Okay. So we have an office, I'm here in LA, but we also have an office in Westchester, New York, which is a suburb of New York City, right, North of City. So I want to imagine everybody do this if it's safe for you to do, just close your eyes if you can.

If not, then keep your eyes open, obviously, if you're driving or something. Don't close your eyes or driving. If you're on a treadmill, do not close your eyes. But just imagine that you're on a plane and you're going to Westchester Airport, you land. And even if you can't imagine this, imagine you can imagine this, okay? You land in the airport, car picks you up, you're in the backseat, you go to my office, and it's a big glass building surrounded by trees, all right? And when you get out, I'm going to name 10 places in my office, and I'm going to put the

10 keys for a lock your quick brain, one in each place. So you get out in the first place, the parking lot. So then just repeat after me as you're listening to this. What's the first place? It's the parking lot. Good. And that's your verbal memory. And when you get out in the parking lot, I want you to imagine the first brain tip, which

is a good brain diet. So I want you to imagine all the brain foods, waiting for you in a buffet there, and you get into a big brain food fight, and you're throwing avocados and salmon and, you know, like, coconut oil. I just pictured a bunch of broccoli and avocados, like, but I pull up to green drive. It's a green parking lot.

Perfect. Whatever you picture and everyone can do, it's a little bit of a problem. Yeah, you guys do your own, I don't want to see you. So perfect, so every note, no, it's great. So you have lots of different creative answers here. So just, you have the good brain diet waiting for you. You walk over to the second place, it's a bridge.

It goes over, like, we have like this waterfall creates this mode around the building, but the second place is a bridge. So the second place is what? Bridge. And I want you to imagine it's across in the bridge, the second brain tip, killing ants. So I just want to imagine what are you doing?

I'm stepping on the ants. It's stepping on the negative, automatic, negative thoughts. Right, and you're stepping on the ants, you would never do that. Now it's going to help your brain. You get into the building and you get into the third place, which is the elevator. So everybody, not just Emily, what's the third place? Elevator, right? And you get into elevator and the third place, exercise. So I just imagine you, your trainer is in the elevator with you, you're doing

your hot yoga, you're doing your crossfit, whatever you're lifting weights, calisthenics. I'm jumping on it to make sure it's okay to do it. Great. And whatever you're doing, just imagine that exercise. You remember exercise number three. Get out of the elevator. Fourth place is the hallway. What's the fourth place?

Hallway. And you would remember brain vitamins. So I want you to imagine just all these bottles of brain vitamins coming at you and you're like Lara Croft or Indiana Jones just jumping over the brain vitamins. So, Ginkgo below above vitamin B, you know, you have your DHAs, your Omega-3s, you're jumping over brain vitamins. Okay, you open a door to my office immediately to the left is the fifth place, which is the closet.

What's the fifth place? Closet. Closet, and inside the closet are your positive peer group. You're happy friends. I want you to imagine all your happy friends are in the closet, all right? And then you're like, see all your friends, all your happy friends, they're celebrating in the closet.

You see that? All right, you leave the closet, you go to six places, the receptionist. What's the six place? Receptionist. And the receptionist is cleaning the environment, cleaning the environment, mopping, like vacuuming, leaching everything,

clean environment, everything has this place. Yeah. Behind the receptionist is the seventh place is the fish tank with some fish. Fish tank, very good. And the fish, they're sleeping. That's a remind you, get sleep. So I would just see Nemo, Dory, their sleeping. They're sleeping. The fishes are sleeping. No dead fish. They're their neemos and they're pizzymas and bunk beds snoring, just, I mean, just build it out, right? Okay. And notice, like, you don't have to repeat it. Like, traditional learning in school was like repetition.

Right. It's like over and over. You have to repeat it for only 50 times. You just see this once, you'll remember it. Okay. And then from the execution, you have power of your imagination. The eighth place is the door. So it's eighth place, the door to the classroom.

And the door is locked. So you put on a helmet. That reminds you to wear a helmet, brain protection. Protect your brain. And you headbutt the door open, and splinters, and shatters open. You never do that, but it reminds you of brain protection. The ninth place is the whiteboard.

What's the ninth place? The whiteboard. Great. And I'm there, and I'm writing the ninth tip, which is new learning. So I'm literally writing the words new learnings on the whiteboard in your favorite color marker. What's your favorite color?

Say it out loud. Green. Great. And whatever your favorite color listening, that's the color. You've got to choose your own. Right. New learnings.

New learnings. And then finally, the last thing is on the side of the classroom, I have all these bonsai trees, you know, these Japanese plants. And so bonsai trees, number 10. I want you to remember. Bonsai tree. Stress management. Stress management. know, these Japanese plants. And so bonsai trees, number 10, I want you to remember stress management. Stress management. Oh, that's good.

So imagine you're meditating, imagine you're getting your best massage on the bonsai trees, the best massage of your life on the bonsai trees, right? Whatever gets you out of stress. Okay. Love making on the bonsai trees though, all right? You see that?

All right, now everybody, you are on stage. You're on the stage of your life. And you can need to remember, oh, what were the 10 keys for unlocking my quick brain? Just walk around my office. Now, now, so that's how you memorize the speech. You wanna capture the keywords, because you know your stuff,

you just need the keyword to prompt you. It's true. I want you to remember, so you take it, turn into a picture, because we think in pictures, remember you turn names into pictures, it's the ultimate tip. Love that. T-I-P, turn into picture. Because we remember what we see, and then you put it in the place,

and then you remember. Because your home becomes a filing system for the things you want to remember. So you use your home, you go from the kitchen, to the dining room, to, you know, you go room to room. But man, unless you're in New York and you're a studio apartment, you just go room. Or your body, you said you could go. So everybody could do this. You could use your body, you could use your office, you could use your home, and really create a list for anything.

You know, our life, it's not about the haves and haves, not. It's really now more, you know, those who know and those who don't know. That's why I find this podcast so valuable. That's why I find reading so valuable. You know, people committing themselves to constant education, lifelong learning. And we talked about how it adds years to her life and life to their years.

But it's so important to integrate every single day. It's true. And I feel like you're never done learning. There's a lot of limiting beliefs I have around. I think my ability to focus and to learn and to read in a no time. And I also know that I can do anything, right? So it's just weird stuff to post.

If I told you before, we started this conversation that you would be able to memorize a grossly list forwards and backwards after hearing it once or memorize a TED talk, like 10, you know, talking points on the board and back. So I'm going to do my TED talk because that seems like that's so many more. I'll have to practice it enough.

Yeah, literally going through and coming up with 10 or 15 talking points and turning each one into a picture. But this also takes time. I would have had to stop. But you know what takes time? You know what takes time is like, making up with your boyfriend or your own cake. Right.

Repeating things 50 times to yourself are forgetting where you put things or forgetting a name. Like so, you know, the bad news is it takes a little bit effort, but the good news is not as much as people think. And so there's no magic pill, like no magic memory pill, but there's a magic process. And that's what we're doing is we're taking just like with what you do, with love and communication and sex and relationships, you're turning into a process, right? So it's not like, oh, I hope I have romance or I hope I have it all together. I hope I have the best version

of yourself. Right. And you turn into a process. So people don't have to feel bad if they're not getting a result in their body or in their relationship because it becomes a recipe. And that's what we're here to do. And then when you're talking about even the negative self-talk, you know, I believe our life is like an egg. That if an egg is broken by an outside force, life ends. But if it's broken by an inside force, life begins. And all great things begin on the inside. And I believe everyone who's listening to this, you have greatness inside of you, you have

genius inside of you. And now is the time to let it out. Thank you, Jim Quick. Thank you for teaching. Thank you for all of this. This is amazing. Very inspired by you. Quick. Thank you for teaching. Thank you for all of this. This is amazing. Very inspired by you and by everything you say. So everyone should check out Jim Quick, KWIK. Check out your podcast. Take some of your courses, all your things.

Honestly, if everyone just like the best way of people doing this is so I would love right now. I was everyone goes on social media, take a screenshot of this episode, post it on social media, tag Emily, tag myself, tag your big, I'm actually sharing with this your big aha. That would be actually, I feel like, because my whole set, I like six people sitting in the room right now and I feel like everyone's really moved by this.

I'm saying like, that's why I take a screenshot of this episode, share it on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, whatever, tag us both. Nice. And post your big takeaway. Remember I talked about one of the keys to learning faster is teaching. When you teach something you get to learn it twice, share it on social media, share your big takeaway. Remember I talked about one of the keys to learning faster is teaching. When you teach something you get to learn it twice,

share it on social media, share your big aha, and then or your big question, because that's what's the most important thing. Yeah, well answer it. That's good. You're so good. I think questions are the answers, so I'd be curious, like, what was your big quickening?

Right. Like what activated your orgasmic brain of you? And you know, it would really like, because that really, like if you're gonna stimulate any parts, someone's body, like I would start with the brain. But so, brain is the largest sex organ, and the brain has to be healthy.

It is the way we think. But it doesn't come with an owner's manual. No, nothing comes with an owner's manual. And it's not user friendly. So I hope that this kind of gave some people some perspective. It does give perspective, because I think a lot of us have so many limiting beliefs about what's possible for us.

And I think that the way you teach and the way you talk and the way you continue to learn yourself just really inspires people to realize a life and the brain they're living in and the way they've experienced and stuff is not how they have to live. Exactly. People got a little bit of growth here. Just focus on that because how you do anything is how you do everything and success, breed, success.

And really when it comes down to it, if you really want to be fulfilled, it just comes down. For me, it comes down to two things. What I love about the show is you help people really understand themselves, understand their body, understand their mind, understand their relationship, because you need to have the courage to know yourself. Most people don't have the courage to do that. So if you're listening to this still, we applaud you because you're going deep, right? And so have the courage to know yourself, but then also once you know yourself, you need the courage also to be yourself. It's true.

So you have the curiosity to know yourself and the courage to be that person. And then remember, the life you live are the lessons that you teach. So yeah, I would love to continue this more in other conversations. Yeah, I would love to continue this more. And then just search my name on your phone's podcast app

and just let me try those. Jim Quick, yeah, we'll do it, we'll do it. I love your podcast, they're perfect for me because they're short and you get so much. They're so good, Jim, thank you Jim for being here. This is really helpful. I can't wait to hear what everyone thinks of this episode. That's it for today's episode, see you on Friday.

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