Sex With Emily - Best Of: Forbidden Sex and Frisky Texts with Jake and Amir

Episode Date: September 21, 2016

On this throwback podcast from 2015, Emily and Menace are joined by comedian BFF’s, Jake and Amir. They provide different male perspectives on a variety of topics, from sex toys to stamina to sexting like a pro, and even assist Emily in answering some listener emails. Emily and her male roundtable help a listener draw the line between dirty and degrading bedroom conversation, and give a lesson in sex toy etiquette to a single man with multiple partners. They even delve into the complicated ideas of female arousal and forbidden sex. This classic show is packed with a random (but funny) array of sex and dating tips that will both amuse and advise you. Don’t miss it! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Isn't it common only? What do you mean, like, laundry? It's drinks? And we not talk about sex so much. Are you kidding me? Oh, my God. I want to feel a sound. I'm going to be in bad feels pretty good.

But, you know, Abelene's not the kind of girl you just playing with it. and they have a web series on CalTumer and a podcast if I were you and they're just all around funny guys. Jake and Amir.com check it out. We're gonna be giving you advice on a variety of topics tonight, sex, dating, relationships, and you're gonna get a little more of the male perspective. So thanks for listening. I'm sorry about being okay, I was really on time.

Yeah, I'm as we need to talk. Yeah, okay. 10 years. No, but I've been thinking about the 10 year thing. Like it's, I started my podcast 10 years ago, and then we were on CBS Radio in 2006. Is that the year you started? Yes. So it's, I mean, 10 years of the show and then that, you know, and I think that's just, you

know, we got, remember we used to say like show 69, we're going to have a drinking show. Yeah, yeah, yeah. We never did. And then we're like, 169. And now we're like, 2000 shows, and I just think we should do something fun. Have you ever had the drink in the show? Like, in our shows. and no we should be wait. Well, we were yeah, we were really drunk that one time.

We were doing a live show on serious. Yeah, and playboy was it or no. Yeah. Yeah. And we got really drunk. Really drunk. We really. And we thought we were so funny.

We have us back for a drink. You guys. Yeah, do you guys want to come? Yes, that's really. I think I'm I think who isn't a little better when they're little buzz, right? We've been a couple drinking shows now. Are you like wasted?

Funny. No, we're like happy drunk. Are you funny or are you think when you're drunk or not? We're definitely more confident. Well, that's the thing. No filter. Like, I already have no filter, but then I have no filter. Yeah, the last of the filters.

The last of the filters. So then, it's really good. But I'm sorry, I was, there's a thing. All right. I try to get here, you know, I tried to be on time, and the friggin' bathrooms, okay, so we're the podcast one building where we were recording. And they took the beautiful bathroom right next door

that they just took down. You walk in there, it looks like you're gonna fall into construction hole, because there's like no floor. And everyone was trying to send me, as we ran on, you said that way. I ran in my five-inch heels, I fell down, there was a FedEx guy, and like, where's the bathroom? And then at the same time, I ran in my five-inch heels. I fell down, there's a FedEx guy. And I'm like, where's the bathroom? And then at the same time, I had a wardrobe malfunction

and my bra popped open and then my bag. That's what happened before the show. Oh, no. And so I'm sorry that we're starting a little bit late. But what a good day for the FedEx guy. Yeah, but the whole bathroom thing, and then I just felt bad. I lost the moment already, because you guys are here.

And I just felt bad, because I didn't, you know, but I was just going to let you're here. guys are here and I just felt bad because I didn't you know No happy to be here. You're here So I don't like being you know late because I've like I have to pee and there's no bathroom Well, I also was late because I got here late. Yeah, what does there's to be did you have to do the fight in the bathroom? My penis fell out when I was talking to the FedEx guy. Yeah, yeah, that's why he looks so scared that was it Oh my god, okay, so Jake and a mere minus oneis want to rather, we don't have anything to say. Yeah, just hurry up with what you have to say and then I want to talk to them. Okay, do it. Shut up.

Don't be so fucking nervous. You guys have no idea. You guys have no idea. You guys have no idea. You guys have no idea. You guys have no idea. You guys have no idea. You guys have no idea.

You guys have no idea. You guys have no idea. You guys have no idea. You guys have no idea. You guys have no idea. You guys have no idea. You guys have no idea. You guys have no idea. You guys have no idea. You guys have no idea. You guys have no idea. still live in San Francisco. Yeah. And people will like it because he's kind of like likes to give me shit about stuff that's really old issues.

There's nothing to do with how I am anyway. And then we're just guests here that he's like into the reacts like even then he's even more of a douchebag. Hell no, she's totally the douchebag when there's guests in. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. Hell no. That's her. You're deflecting.

That is totally you. We are siblings. Except for, yeah, we are siblings except for yeah, all right I'm gonna let you do your thing. I'm gonna fix something good to your thing I'm nothing. I was just gonna say that I'm doing oh okay, so Menace you dying to talk. What are you gonna say no just oh well? I was gonna move on into your sex life What's going on? Oh god who you banging? Who you gonna get up with?

Whoa, Jesus really brave men is going on on Tinder God. Who are you banging? Who are you going to get up with? Whoa. Jesus. Really brave. Men's going on on Tinder. Men's is at a girl. I went on Tinder once. And then I went on the app once you went on a date. Oh, I mean, half a bunch. Just to show my friends who've never been on it, what it is. I went on one date.

It was actually a live, blind Tinder date on my show. Oh, oh shit. Yeah, in the studio. So yeah, I do my show before love line, usually in the studio. And they all met and beforehand. We had wine like we used to do at the station. How was it? It was a real date.

Well, the podcast live date was good. Like I liked them there, but you know, you're sort of in a weird, like I won't remember. Do you remember everything that you say when you're on your show? No, it's like this weird open zone where you feel very comfortable and free. Exactly.

And people were like, oh, you said this or that. And I'm like, did I say that? I don't even remember. So anyway, it was a nice date. I felt comfortable and free. Exactly. And people were like, oh, you said this or that. And I'm like, did I say that? I don't even remember. So anyway, it was a nice date. I felt present and connected to him. Right. And I liked him. And then we went on a second date.

And I didn't want to kiss him when we got the car. And I think it's a pretty clear sign. He's like, you're clearly not into me. I'm like, no, you're awesome. You're just speaking. Well, it's nice that he said that. It's nice that he said you're not into me. Yeah, he's like, oh, if you don't want to kiss me.

Yeah, he didn't really say that. But he kind of was like, OK, I got it. I got it. Yeah, he did. I never heard not into me. Yeah, he's like, oh, if you don't want to kiss, yeah, he didn't really say that, but he kind of was like, okay, I got it. Like, I'm out. Yeah, you are. I'm out from again. But I like Tinder just to show people, but I'm not showing it.

I'm not on it right now. How come? But because I actually don't have a lot of time, I would start finding matches on there, and then I forget to get back to them, and they were cute guys too. Yeah. And I was mostly losers, but.

You're looking up with your career. I know, but it's been a really long relationship. Like we're already, I'm almost already, like I think it's time to break off. No, I love my love. I love my friend.

Am you single? Are you? We talked about this. Yeah. So do you, how do you, like, actively single? Like are you out there trying to find someone?

I'm out there trying to find some two, not necessarily some ones. Excuse me. I'm looking for a three-zone. I know. No, no, no. I'm not looking for a relationship. You're not looking someone excuse me. I'm looking for three so No, no, no, I'm not looking for a relationship. You're not looking for a relationship You're looking for casual sex friends with benefits. Yeah, that kind of stuff. Okay. I found that I'm really into like the first three dates Well, that's the best part. That's the best part of the entire relationship. You can never get that

So that's why it's only gonna have three dates for the one. Yeah, it's like cocaine or draw any if you've ever done any kind of drug I have been I've only I've only done the three dates from the month. Yeah. It's like cocaine or drop any if you've ever done any kind of drug. I have been I've only have I've only done the three dates thing. I'll understand them before I love drugs. Yeah. Yeah. I love drugs. Okay, so so those first three dates are sometimes they call it the first

like three months of any relationship three to six months. The honeymoon phase when you're like, Oh my God, they're amazing. Yeah. If you look at the your the brain chemicals that are spiked dopamine and oxytosis. That's the same as true. Same

as being in drugs. But the addiction you get to that, you're like, I want that back. I want that back. And when it dies forosis. That's the same as drugs. Same as being in drugs. But the addiction you get to that, you're like, I want that back, I want that back. And when it dies for you, it's pretty three days. But that's typical between like three days a month. You can never go back to that. You can keep it going and interesting. And apparently if you in a long-term relationship,

it gets like deeper and more profound. Right, there's another chemical that I forget what it's called. But it's dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin. it. I'm not going to be able to do it. I'm not going to be able to do it. I'm not going to be able to do it. I'm not going to be able to do it. I'm not going to be able to do it. I'm not going to be able to do it. I'm not going to be able to do it.

I'm not going to be able to do it. I'm not going to be able to do it. I'm not going to be able to do it. I'm not going to be able to do it. I'm not going to be able to do it. I'm not going to be able to do it. I'm not going to someone. Exactly. Exactly. That's exactly what it is. It's attachment. Right. It's like the attachment team. So what happens is those are spiking the first three dates. You're like, oh my god. And then you're like, I already know this. It's not that you want you with a rush. Yeah. Yeah. It's exciting to me. It's all on dopamine. Thing is people are

it's hard because it's hard to get that back too. So maybe you got to go to date four next. But if I if I'm after date three, I already know that I don't want to like marry this person. I already feel bad stringing them along for date four, five, six, seven, eight. We should know that. Her, she'll go on like 40 more dates with the guy you go after third. She doesn't even like it. I don't do that anymore. I've cut the time in half.

All right. Yeah, you know what you want now? Yeah, yeah. No, I mean, I know what I don't like. I know what I don't want. I know what I want, but I know what I don't want I know what I want But I know what I I can recognize it doesn't take me three years now But here's my question for you guys, so when you want to are you single as well? Yes, okay?

So how long does it take when you're on a date and you decide? You know, does it take you to the third date? Does it take you know on the first date? What decide that you don't want to be with them? Oh, I just know that I never want to be with anybody. But I would, I go past the third date. Right. Because you want the sex. Yeah, I like that. Because that happens on the fourth date, typically they say.

Oh, I've never been on a, is that the average? No, I don't want to perpetuate that. But yes, menace, don't you think like the fourth date? Or that's what everyone says, like the fourth date. I have sex on the majority of first dates that I'm on you do you don't go on dates You just all right. I just get drunk places. Yeah. Yeah, oh Jigs that having like a sober dinner with someone Taking to like yeah, or something. It's like hey. I'm at this dance club. It's 12 a.m Yeah, let's come meet me. Oh, we hooked up. Yeah, that's date one

Okay, so you just hook up with checks mostly yeah 18 a.m. Yeah, let's meet me. Oh, we hooked up. Yeah, that's date one. Right. Yeah, yeah. For a second. Yeah. That okay. So you just hook up with checks mostly. Yeah. Yeah. Is it because you've like anxiety around approaching women and meeting them when you're not. No, it's very common. I will. No, most people do and that's why guys are so email me every day because you know. I think I just have an anxiety about like liking to be alone. So I don't want to like date anybody and have a time to hide up. Yeah, I totally got it.

That's been absolutely. I know what you mean. Because you feel like you feel like you're giving up a party and you're independence and you're freedom. But what they say, and I say, as they say, you keep referencing. Yeah, we're talking about the two people next door. I'm not.

So are married people that are poisoning our ears. I feel like can I be Let me tell you why. I'm not. Is there many people that are always in our ears? I'd be like, can I be honest, Jake? I'm more like you. Like, they say that it goes deeper when you stick with someone like, I've been in long-term relationships. It does happen.

But that's not typically what I want either. And I also have a fear of losing my independence. And in relationship, I'm very, you know, I am very to my career. We're having a really good time here. No, but I am sort of, if someone ever tries to take that time away from me, I'm like, I wanna like, I want, it makes me anxious. Yeah.

And they say they, no, I know it's true, because I've kind of done it. What I'm saying is people, you can have your independence when you're in a relationship with someone, you will find someone where you'll be able to still be you and she'll appreciate your own, your long time. But I'm not worried about another person taking that from me and like another person stealing my independence. I just know me in relationships. I don't do enough. I don't do enough to protect my independence. Because I like my initial thought, especially when I'm in that honeymoon phase, which is the

most dangerous place for me to be right. I'm like over promising over She moves it getting connected and then it's like I turn around three months later. I'm like fuck right How is she how why is she living with us because you guys are roommates, right? Does he have girls who like stay for weeks at a time now weeks at a time? Right days days Hours really the last one was two minutes, which I thought was kind of I've gotten fast. Yeah. All right. Can we do we just talk about that?

Can I rewind back though real quick to you guys, you know, start out in New York. Yeah. And now you're here in Los Angeles. Why did you come to LA and how much, you know, different is it because something just came out today where New York is like the third freaky city. Fre for like people like getting it on and then LA is like number six. Wait what's number two one and two of New York. Number two is San Francisco

and number one is Portland actually. Portland yeah yeah that makes sense. So how has it been like the transition? Why'd you guys even come out here? I don't know we should have moved to Portland. Yeah I thought it was gonna be fre transition. Why'd you guys even come out here? I don't know. We should have moved to Portland. Yeah. I thought it was going to be freaky. I'd be down to get a little fear as luck would have. Because, well, OK, so you guys have a certain level of fame like in New York, right? So it was probably easy to hook up with. I'd put your hand closer to the table when you said certain level.

Well, the thing about our popularity is that we're well known amongst a lot of like Basically teenage to college aged guys So it doesn't really help with girls right off the bat. It helps eventually Yeah, when like on date two or something when they ask what we do and they find out that we're Not even that we're famous, but just that we're writers and that we're that were successful at it. I think that goes a long way. If only we were gay pedophiles. I feel like we'd have a field day, just boning 15-year-old Jewish boys.

Like, we were in a semi-popular band, we would have sex way, way more than we had. Yeah, yeah. No musicians trump all. However, women, they like, they look you up on like Twitter. Our Instagram, like, oh all they got all these followers and it's kind of fun. They started like they already Google

GB4 Yeah, it gives us a chance to be humble because they look us up and they're like wow Why do you guys have so many followers and go we're just I don't know we just like to write and that's that's all yeah Yeah, so that definitely helps out, but how's that how's that been like versus L.I. versus New York and stuff like that? It is more tame out here, although I was in L.I. versus New York and stuff? I don't know you guys. It is more tame out here. Although I was in a relationship for most of New York.

So I was in a single eligible dude in New York. So five date relations? Is five dates? Oh no, that was three years plus. What? So I don't know what happened after that. It's hard to break up. No, it wasn't even that hard.

It was like fairly neutral. Yeah. Mutual. Not in deer. You don't into me. Yeah, I was like, oh, we're not gonna get married. You spent so long not having independence that you really valued. Yeah, now I like, I stocked up on my not being independent. And now that I have it, I'm like, oh, I can't get rid of it ever anytime soon. So how are you trying to, so are you, how are you meeting girls? Uh, either in person while traveling or online with apps. Which apps, Tinder? I've used I'm not really sure if I'm going to be able to do that. I'm not going to be able to do that. I'm not going to be able to do that.

I'm not going to be able to do that. I'm not going to be able to do that. I'm not going to be able to do that. I'm not going to be able to do that. I'm not going to be able to do that. I'm not going to be able to do that. I'm not going to be able to do that. I'm not going to be able to do that.

I'm not going to be able to do that. I'm not going to be able to do that. I'm not going to be able to do that. I should talk to it. Is he more attractive than me? Um no, I don't such think he's different than you. That's yes. How old is he? He has a better face body. 34, 35. Oh is he getting blow jobs from younger or older ladies? Younger. The younger girls because I think they're like I'm not going to do anything because I don't want to think of it but I'll give him a blow job. If it's anybody that she's hanging out with, he's definitely sleazeier. That happens to you sometimes. Where girls like I don't want to have sex with you but I'll blow you yeah users with the Leezers into me and it and I know give a blow job girls right away. That's the new making out though. Everything is so next level these days

It's like shaking hands. Wow. I should read out load I mean my parents Okay, hot So tinder so do you find that the girls are different than just let's just say overall forget about meeting out? I would imagine they're more straightforward in New York. Oh, Nela. It's much more like Professional and like I'm like dating when I'm like and like New York. It's kind of like he said it's going out late at night It's getting free and I know I didn't go on a lot of I think because New York There's so many places to go out and I think you don't want to waste a weekend like going on a date

I would be out with my friends and like yeah all of us would be on tinder like because New York, there's so many places to go out. And I think you don't want to waste a weekend like going on a date. I would be out with my friends. And like, all of us would be on Tinder. Like, and somebody would get a Tinder match and then like a group of girls would come out and meet us. That was the way that. That's so brilliant. Which is so much more fun than like a single date

that's like, I have to go and give you two hours of my time at dinner. I don't know. She shows up. You're like dinner. Like, I want her to leave now. Or he brings the menu. And the first half of the day is sober, very don't know. She shows up, you're like dinner, like I want her to leave now, or he brings the menu. And the first half of the day is sober, very sober.

Yeah, and what's another benefit about New York is everything stays open so late, you know? So you just get more and more drunk. That's true. New York is more of a party scene, LA. I mean, I guess Uber and ride sharing is sort of changing that, because ride is helping LA.

It's been like, you know, we're all gonna go to one bar because parking's a hassle. And then we all can't get that drunk because we all have to drive home. Yeah. Uber and Tinder, like nobody ever has to leave theirself and drive. It's making LA a little more fun.

We're gonna date every again and worry about it. No one's gonna get DUI or go on a date again, never, probably because that's the thing, it's about Tinder. So, before that though, before Tinder even, it feels like for a year, at least San Francisco, because we lived in San Francisco, you're Bay Area, you're from the Bay Area, right? No, I went to school up there.

You went to Berkeley. Yeah, yeah. Did you go to the... No, I have nothing to do with the Bay Area. You guys became BFFs after college. Yeah, we met in New York City. Okay, got it. So, but up there too, I felt like no one asked you out. They're kind of like hey meet up with my friends like that's typically But I think guys do anyway, and then like that was it or you just ordered like you know

It's like ordering pizza you you know someone's coming. Yeah, maybe we'll meet at chick tonight exactly Which is that I mean awesome. I don't want to sacrifice time with my boys. I love my friends I know you're so you're in the dude phase now. It's fine. Don't trip on it. I think it's okay I get to the point maybe where you're ready for it my boys, I love my friends. I know. You're in the dude phase now. It's fine. Don't trip on it. I think it's OK. Because you'll get to the point maybe where you're ready for it. Where you're like, oh, actually now, my alone space doesn't feel as, you know,

it feels like I'd like to shoot. Another problem is, I don't ever feel alone because I live with two of my friends. So I'm like, isn't it lonely to be alone? Single? It's like, no, because I'm always just that only hanging out. If I was living in a studio apartment,

I have to get a shitty studio apartment and not live with anyone. Then I will feel the loneliness enough to know where you're at. I'm just a real girlfriend. I would miss, oh, what do you mean, right now? Like, if you lived alone, would you say, hey, I want to live with you and Marty.

Oh, yeah, I would just move back with you. Yeah, that's what I would miss. Is there a Tinder for friends? Is there an adult wedding? We already had friends. Facebook. Perfect. No, but there should be for friends. Because I just moved here two years ago now, but it's hard to meet like good. Is there an adult wedding? Facebook. Perfect.

No, but there should be for friends. Because I just moved, I mean, I moved here two years ago now, but it's hard to meet like good. I mean, I've met some people. I have a million friends. You just need to meet one, because then they can meet in Chusey to three. No, I am. I mean, I have, but like, it'd be nice just to not have to go through the bullshit. Who's your newest friend?

I'm a new sock. My friend Emily. Your newest friend? She has same name. That's the only thing that sucks about her. I'm like, I'm at, no, okay. I hate her names. How, when did you meet her? I've never been Herna is Emily. That's the only thing that sucks about her. I'm like, I'm at no- I hate her names. How when did you be there? I've never been friends with another Emily.

I met Emily five few months ago. And then our view had one on one time alone time? Yes. She's so funny that I left so hard that my stomach hurts. It hurts. It's actually a lot of fun. It's a lot of fun. How did you meet her?

I met her through a friend of mine that I was kind of dating or date sometimes. Oh, it's like a friend of a friend? Yeah, yeah. And there are best friends, you know, and then she's married, she's cool, but she's awesome, and she's hilarious, and she makes me laugh. And the other night we actually went out with some friends, we went out with them. I don't want to be like, whatever. But let's just say someone, you know, entertainment, because I talk about names, but he was

just really funny. Oh wait, now the name's me so I can know. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, I'm not going to be a fan of her. I'm not going to be a fan of her. I'm not going to be a fan of her. I'm not going to be a fan of her. I'm not going to be a fan of her. I'm not going to be a fan of her. I'm not going to be a fan of her. I'm not going to be a fan of her.

I'm not going to be a fan of her. I'm not going to be a fan of her. I'm not going to be a fan of her. I'm not going to be a fan of her. I'm not going to be a fan of her. I'm not going to be a fan of her. I'm It's fun to have a new friend. Did you have any new friends? I feel like we're new friends because we had dinner at the podcast one time. Yeah, but it's like we're spending one on one time or not taking a picture.

You never like, you call me or a text me anymore. Did you want me to? You never did. I never did. I never did. You're a told leader. Well, you never tweet me. Oh, yeah, I guess I don't tweet you.

I don't tweet you. Yeah, you didn't tweet me. I will. I thought we were friends. We like, you know, things were going well. We were definitely. But you guys do mind. I've say quick break here. I will. I thought we were friends. We like, you know, things were going well. We were definitely. But you guys do mine. I've said quick break here.

I should do mine. But I do want, when we come back, I would love you guys to give advice on your amazing podcast. We do. I would like you to help us give some people advice. So right now though. Oh, right now.

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Menace hates for play. I don't even think he knows what it is. It's too much work. He's like really? Like, you said these things in the show. He's like, how long? How long do I have to do that? Well, she was like, oh, two hours in the make out.

And then you're going to last like two minutes in bed. That's your problem. Because you're so excited to finally have some competition. Yeah. You know? No, I got it. I mean, I understand that it's an ideal. We are machines work differently, but you just

got to put it in the time. Guys are just too much goddamn work as what it is. Well, the thing is, it's great for guys probably more than it is for girls. And so you have to put in more effort because you're right. What's great for guys more than girls sex. I disagree. Well great sex is great for girls but I'm saying on average

guys probably. Oh yeah guys are like it's like pizza like what really like like in the music bad pizza. It's the same thing like I got you guys 99.9% of the time you are going to have an orgasm. Yeah. And it's going to be awesome and you're gonna be like yeah I could have masturbated I could have had sex as a

mirror got off. But guys typically we're like a good guy deals with guilt afterwards Oh, you do tell me about it. Well, like if I come too earlier like if I come ahead of somebody and they don't get off Then I feel then you got to just turn around and get them off you got to take this necklace I'm gonna give you But I get what you're saying no, I get it guys. There's a lot of guilt I don't like yeah girls definitely have the sex thing worse But let me tell you one thing though women.

We don't trip if we never have an organ. Like we don't care if we don't have it orgasm every time. We really don't. That's what I've heard. Don't worry. And we're not lying to you about that. Here's the problem. If you're with a guy and he doesn't even make an effort or he doesn't seem to care.

And he just like three pump chump. And he's like doing the whole like, you the whole jackhammer and then he's out. You're like, you're a douche. But if you guys, oh, let me please you first. If you can, you clearly tried, didn't happen. We appreciate that more than you just like going and, you know, bam, bam, I'm out there. You don't want to feel like a flesh light.

Yeah, exactly. You might want one, but you don't want to feel like one. So that is the whole four-play. OK, so we're talking to Jake and Amir. So when you meet, but you don't want to feel like one. That's right. So that is the whole four-play. Okay, so we're talking to Jake and Amir. So when you meet, do you feel there's pressure not only sexually, but to be funny? Like, you're so funny. Do you feel like?

No. We're lucky. I can only be funny. That's your thing. That's your thing. But yeah, girl, okay, what if a girl you're out with her and she like, doesn't get your sense of humor? That must have happened. Oh, yeah, that's happened girl you're out with her and she like Doesn't get your sense of humor. That must have been That's that's happened before

I'm funny. I'm using somebody doesn't get our sense of humor. I don't know I've never had somebody like straight up think I wasn't funny But I've had even girlfriends like tell me that a joke I said was not funny and that's such a turnoff because it like That's all I am That joke was bad Jake. I will shrink and it's like it's not I am. Right. So like, that joke was bad, Jake. I will shrink. And it's like, I'm not fun to be around. Right. No, I get it.

So you mean like, if it's like you're performing, or if you're just like talking or. And you say, yeah, if I'm just talking to somebody, if I'm like around a group of people, and I'm like telling jokes, and everyone's laughing at my girlfriend, it's like, you're stop. You're embarrassed. She's no longer your girlfriend.

Yeah, no. That's the beginning of the day. That's the second date. So that's one of the ends usually. Anyway, she insults your jokes. But you like date, that's the beginning of the day. That's the second date. So that's when it ends usually. Anyway, she insults her droves. But you guys also, I wanted to tell you this, just to make you feel even better than you probably already do, is that a recent study came out

and it found that women reported having more pleasurable sex, A.K.A. orgasms with guys who believe who they believed had a good sense of humor. Wow. So you got like, you got more than half the battle one. Cool. Brown, thank you guys for having a problem, really. Well, you have no idea how terrible Dick is in bed.

You are. What? I'm great at giving or orgasms. Do you guys have a bad idea? Let's 69 and see who comes first. You're wrong, brother. You guys have to hear, since your roommates do hear each other having sex ever.

No, I live in a back house detached from our actual house. Really? Yeah. Awesome. That's probably a good idea, because you don't want to. What about in our old place? Those were thin walls. Oh, yeah.

You never got late. That's true. And you always did, but I put on those headphones. You never heard of it. Have you ever heard of it? I don't think so. I don't think I've ever heard you have sex. There you have it.

And then it was one time where I thought to look. There needs to be more sex going on here. Like, we'd be like, uh, it was really quick. It was over before starting. You don't make noise. I mean, whether it's me or furniture moving, there's probably noise to be added. For furniture dropping.

Guys, I don't think that guys make enough noise during sex. Oh, right. Did she, you dated that one guy and you said he, at the end, he didn't make any noise to that? I didn't even know, like, I'm gonna use so a lot. Like, if he, if I be doing sex. Did she dated that one guy and he said he at the end he didn't make any noise to that. I didn't even know I'm going to use a lie. If he if I knew he'd orgasm he was like.

Oh, I like. I just have to be breathing. No, there was no breathing like preceding it. There was nothing. And that's I had to like move around. And then you were done. Yeah, but it was just so not that's the only going to be screaming and moaning yelling But it's like a little bit of like I started growling when I work as him. No lie I really like how show me like I like it Oh wow that's hot I don't know like I mean that's that's like

That's so time off but like that wasn't the real growl really having an orgasm and you really growl It feels it feels like it amazing. I didn't do it just for show. No, I love that. That's like so primal. Yeah. It becomes a tiger. What are you doing in your orgasm, menace? Just think of that so live. Probably a little bit stuff. Because I'm so fat.

Just out of breath. Just gassed out. Oh, that's a good feeling to have to sex. OK, stop. Did you see that new study that said the fat guys last longer in bed? Yeah, that was done by the fuck guys. Google it. Yeah, I did. Did they last longer in bed? Yeah, that was done by the guy Google it. Yeah, I did I did today last You know why because you're probably on the bottom

You're not you're not doing it from behind you're not doing it in the positions are gonna be make it more like four extra minutes And you're just lying that yeah, well, that's good. Did you like that one? Here's some questions, okay, because you guys on your podcast Which is if I, what are you? Why to say if I were, if I were you, is there awesome podcasts, which is super successful, so congratulations on that. I think you can get on iTunes. And you give advice. We do.

And so I thought, since I tried to sometimes give advice to my people here, thank you for emailing me feedback at saxofatme.com that we could all help people together. Like, it's really meaningful and thank you. Hi, Emily, I'm a new listener to the show, so sorry if this has already been covered. My question is if a guy is playing the field and having a normal sex life with different women, what is the etiquette in terms of having him owning sex toys? I've never owned one,

but I assume the first thought a woman would have if you brought one in the bedroom, wouldn't be who else have you been using that with? Thanks, Brendan. Well, yeah. Okay, I can go first here. I was just gonna, because I do, it's my show.

Yeah, that's weird, Brendan. So here's the tale. You don't want to like stock up on sex toys that have that are opened and have them in your house and whip out because I've had this happen to friends Seriously friends not me because I think guys know better, but I have had friends They're like where was that vibrate is like pubic here. Where has it been grass not me whatever it was when people used to pubic hair I don't know so no you don't want to like buy stock up on them However, if you think there's something like a penis or if you're usually like, sex toys or a cock ring,

like, it goes on your feet. It is new and you bought it and you got, I thought this cool thing for my friend Emily because I give all my friend sex toys. Then that's fine, but you don't want to bring in ones that have been used. So, I don't think I haven't had sex enough to need to incorporate toys.

Sex enough, sex in general is so fun for me that I don't need to spice it up yet. I don't need to incorporate toys because they've had so much. I think it is. They're just bored with sex at this point though. Oh, no, I have to spice it up. It's a gateway drug. That's why I've been telling her forever.

Because I start with one little tiny one and then next thing you know, it's like a dumb truck, bulldozer type apparatus going down. I just wanted to create a really sexy toy called the dumb, dumb truck. I know. I was going to, it's a huge, huge hit in China, but it didn't happen. But the thing is, you first of all, sex toys, speaking of orgasms earlier, for a lot of women, that's the, that's your penis no matter how big, no matter how it moves, no matter

how small, it doesn't matter. Like, because some women prefer that, they just can't. Like, they need a viability, they need extra clitorial stimulation because the typical move during sex, you're not hitting clitorial. So it's not that it's gotten old and boring, it's that it like takes, it's like having dessert then, it's like, oh, this is great sex with you and I'm like, you're preaching to this guy who says that, well, you also said you're never used sex to sex. I know you're used to sex with her, but I'm not saying, But it's not because my sex is so great that I would need them.

Right. But I just... No, right. But one day, typically, I guess the cool thing to do is most women have them, like, over 54% of women own sex toys now. Oh. So the cool thing, if you're ever interested, you might want to say, hey, babe, so do you have any toys I'd love to see them.

And then, she'll feel comfortable, and then actually, it's kind of hot like it's not that she's you're just sitting there watching and it's not like it's a big For you vibrating don't like it's could be this because it's scary. No, it's a little desperate So then you could play with her. There's ones you can use together. Anyway, they could be hot. So Sex toys moving on so you guys don't know that about sex toys, but typically. Oh, here's a thing Brandon If you are in a pali amrace, open up, no, I'm saying it's not your thing, but if you are like an, I know people who are in open relationships,

and they actually do share sex toys. But you clean them after this. Yeah, did you open up? Did you hear the story recently? I'm sorry. Did you hear the story recently, the guy he was watching, she was like boiling all the dildos,

and he burned down his house? He was trying to do a favor for his wife because they've been fighting about something. He goes like, oh, I'm gonna clean our sex toy collection. That's gonna be such a nice thing. So he goes downstairs, he puts him in a boiling water which you actually should not do. I guess they were glass dildos,

I don't even remember whatever, but whatever it is, he was boiling water and then he forgot. Went upstairs, gone phone, and then all of a sudden, fire alarms went off and smoking his wife's like, what are you doing, gone the phone, and then all of a sudden, fire alarm's going off, it's smoking, his wife's like, what are you doing? And they run downstairs and she's like boiling this, he's boiling this extra,

he's like, the whole house, someone's going on fire. Oh, geez. I tried to do a nice goddamn thing. Yes. I did her that. Okay, dear Emily, I've listened to your show for years, both with you and sometimes men is two. I have very crude associate that sends me video clips,

crude associate, and I happen to actually watch from the other day, and I thought I heard menace talking in the background. I don't really pay attention into the 32nd video, I didn't really pay attention to it, but I just thought I'd email you rather than rewind it. I was wondering if you ever noticed, if you ever recorded or worked with Girl's Gone Wild, I don't mean to imply anything weird, but he has a distinct voice, I was curious. Love your show, think it's a great thing, I listened to it all the time. Cute up the great work, Robert. Girls gone wild? Yeah. Well, I mean, you're sweating.

Oh, like with the boots that like, for, that spring break. Yeah, and girls gone wild. Yeah. 14. Dude, you're a Snoop Dogg. Yeah, for show. No, I mean. The races. No. When I worked at like hip hop, pop radio in San Francisco, I've been to so many night clubs and like been drunk blacked out and But when you were on a bus outside that we had women like like not outside, but that is what slashed at his bros. I mean, I definitely been around like girls just naked in the club and stuff like that. Maybe I was in the background something, but it's like some that's not your job. You like some horse and some other person then it's definitely not me.

And no offense, girls go wild. That's like how crude they think it is. Yeah, like girls go wild, they're not, that's not true. That's like, you know, like, you know, yeah, yeah, yeah. Boom, boom, boom, boom. Definitely.

You also, I think you're saying that off. We were really stressed about it, we didn't know, yeah. I also saw him referring 12 bump fights. Yeah, that's a good one. Like 12 bump fights. Yeah, that too. Like, head up. Yeah, for show. He's just going to the background of really depraved internet.

I know, yeah. OK, we've got our email, which I think is really relevant to you guys. Well, I'm just going to read it. Here we go. How to sex? Hiya. This is really embarrassing to ask,

but I really struggle with writing sexual messages to my partner. He is really good at it. But I really struggle with writing sexual messages to my partner. He is really good at it, but I feel like I'm disappointing him because I don't know what to write back to him. So I usually always say, oh wow, come here now. It's really bad. I just just see if you could give me some advice on what to say to him. Thanks, Katie. Well, the reason why is because I don't you have like ask a mirror or something? No, it's called textjake.com. Textjake. It's you, sorry you guys.

It's a text expert. Okay, so right, textjake.com, and people can send you, like in real life, like screen grabs, what how do I respond? Some screenshots of texts and they're like, what should I say to respond to this? So do you ever respond? That's so, do they pay?

Five dollars a message. Wow. That good. Well, too nice. That is brilliant because guys who can't give, forget sex, guys who can't give good text can't get laid. Yeah, yeah. It's a humor thing.

It really does, because texting is all about just like telling me a little microflertation. Right. That's what, that's what so many people are bad at it. And it's literally the one thing I'm good at. That is, well, it's, it's, because I've made it guys that I was like, I liked them so much better when we're just texting. Like we dated for a while, and then I think I just want to go to the room and text me because it's because I've dated guys that I was like I like them so much better When we're just texting like we dated for a while I'm like I think I just want to go to the room and text me cuz so much more not that you're like that

But funny so would you any of them? I mean you're funny and you can text so do people? Ever asked you to sex they have yeah, oh, we should start sex Jake Dude anything with sex in the title. I would love to man sex thing really I'll do with you like we could do sex will not I'll help whatever you probably know I'm sure has anybody has anybody done that? They asked the SD first sex device Yeah, what do you say? It's happened once or twice. I mean I Could always write just like one message. I think the one that like gets would get me off the most is like

I want I want to suck your cock. I want cock, I want you to fuck me from behind. Right. Those are pretty standard. But then like, That's funny. That's funny. It must have been like, that's funny. I think it must have been,

like coming desensitize what we're saying. I just know our guys are saying it. It's like, it's, I don't know, people are just so self-conscious. But, I think you just bite the bullet and you send it and you get more desensitized each message you send. That's true. It is true, but how do you, Katie,

wants to know how you warm up? So I would say ask questions and tell, I think you have to, when you're sexy, you have to find them for a little bit. Yeah, and also make it like a fantasy, so you want to be kind of linear. You want to just kind of, yes, I think dirty talk, you just kind of want to say what you,

just be descriptive. So like, you know, just kind of, yes, like dirty talk, you just kind of want to say what you just be descriptive. So like, you know, I was thinking about you, I just got home and I got in bed and I'm thinking about you right now, I took my clothes off for something. And then you take really like, what are you doing? Well, I'm touching myself. I mean, you just kind of go from there, right? Tell them what you'd like to do. Like she could say, oh, I'm thinking about sucking your cock. Me, she doesn't leave it bad. Yeah, baby, I'm thinking about having you. Okay, here's think, Katie, if you're a newbie, I'm not gonna make you use the word cock, which is actually voted the number one word

that was used in erotica, erotica, the day cock. If you wanna know. It is a little powerful. I haven't rather see somebody say hard dick. Really? Yeah, that would turn me on. Your hard dick, dick, really? See to me me on. Your hard dick. Yeah. Dick? Really?

It's a me, I'm like, yeah. Yeah, dick's a little, it makes it, but I'm saying hard in front of it. Hard cock makes it sound like it's not mine. Like she's a poor, she's poor. And I never talked about my dick using the word cock. Right, no, I got it. It's all porn. Yeah.

Okay, well, I'm not even, let's say you just start, because you guys find these date nice girls like Katie, who maybe they're not as professional at sexting. So what would it get you going? How would you like to receive your sext and let's help Katie. So Katie's a newbie. She's a this guy. How long should we be dating on let's say? Uh, can I just say first? I would like her to say initiate this sexting, you know, because probably 95% of the time women aren't, you know, I never initiated the guy has to. Right. And that's so let's see says I've been think Okay, let's say he says to her. Well, how are we okay last night was so hot? I keep thinking about your hot body or something

And then what would you want back from that if he said if I started? Let's just say he started last night was so hot because she says he's I just want to say that He'd be what do no way you do He's just telling me I said I to say that. He's like, what? Dude. No way. You do? He's just telling that as the guy's smile. I'm sure you're afraid that like somebody would screenshot that and be like, tweet it out like, oh, what's going on with everybody?

Dude, look at this. It's just somebody having sexy of a writer I am. Yeah. That would be a good thing. That would help you get, you know? That's why you never, I would never send an unsolicited creepy thing. Yeah.

I always would make sure that it's somebody that wants to get it. Yeah. So what would make sure that it's somebody that wants to get it. Yeah. So what would you tell, like, so, you know, what, yeah, because men, I think that women, we like to be complimented. We just do, there is no woman on the planet who's like, oh, I hate when he tells me I like hot.

And we used to joke, I wasn't really talking about like, compliment her like 10 times a day if you're with a girl, like, you're like, you're hot, I know. But I'm just to get my point across. So I think, you know, to say like, you were so hot, if you're with a girl, like, you're like, you're hot, I know. But I was just to get my point across. So I think, you know, to say, like, you were so hot last night, thinking about you, you know, and then you could say, oh, really?

Like, what are you thinking about? You'd be like, when you were sucking my hard dick. And then she could say, that was really hot. What would you, you know, she just get creative, Katie. Like, think of any erotica. You had the problem as a lot of men. I think about it as a thing during sex. What's she like when you were actually part of? Exactly. So, right, think of Think of any erotic, you have the problem is a lot of men. I think about it's favorite during sex. What is he like when you were actually?

Exactly. So I was thinking like, so when you're having sex, was he really moaning when you were slapping his face or something? When your legs are straight up, does it like when you're riding him, reverse cowgirl, you know, just like talking about the family. Exactly.

Talk about explain your last sex session or your most memorable sex session to him verbatim in text. And like talk about what you wanna do, right? Yeah, I mean asking questions is a way to keep it going without necessarily a sex session. Yeah, if he says I wanna take your clothes off, she'll be like, well, what do you wanna do next? And then what, and then what, and then what?

And then that could get her going. Right. And then you'll already be going Katie and then you'll know what to say. It's like dancing where you're letting him take the lead. It's like dancing. And then you just follow in step, and then you can take the lead.

But do you wish that women took the lead more like initiating sex? What do you guys think about that? Or do you think they do? In my experience, I'm not very good at it. That's only I struggle with. A lot of guys do. So would you say you struggle with doubt?

I didn't. Doubt fear anxiety. Yeah. Side effects, man. I'm fearful and anxious all the time. Yeah. Me I didn't say it. Doubt, fear, anxiety. Yeah. Side effects, man. I'm fearful and anxious all the time. Yeah. Me too. I get it.

I don't know. I think it all seems to happen good enough amount for me. Right. I'm not like wishing it was happening more. It all depends on the lady. There are ladies out there that could do that to text me right now and it'd be like, oh, this is great. And then there are ones that are like, I feel bad about this.

So it sort of depends on the relationship you guys already have. But if she's dating this guy, then it sounds like it's going well. Yeah, OK, good. Men, it's anything. Nothing. OK. No, I was just saying earlier, though,

I wish they would initiate more. Well, I feel like I hear that the top complaint I get asked for men is like, why won't she initiate sex? Like, why won't my partner or anyone want to initiate it? Yeah, they'll give you the blowjob at the second date, but once you're in a relationship, apparently, women don't, I know I know they don't initiate sex enough.

I feel like women are so giving when we say we want something. So you say, you just have, the guy almost just needs to have that first conversation. Right. What is it worth it? When you ask for it and you get it, is it worth it? Yes, it is. It is. Guys want to please you and this is the thing. Guys want to please you. Guys do. You do. You want to know if she would be like,

here's my because men always have the vagina's like the Rubik's Cube of life, which it kind of is. And when you be psyched, if she was like, I want you to do this, this or that, you're like, great. You got the room. Awesome. You're pleased. I'm pleased. Let's, you know, you know, those YouTube tutorials we took to solve the Rubik's key. Yeah, that same guy should tell me how to fuck. Well, yes You are you L you L I think it's like intimidating conversation to say something is what gets you off So there's but there's like subtle ways that you can do that exactly like just leading people by I mean you're By moaning by saying yes more of that. Yeah, exactly.

Just talk about it and a couple of people don't talk about sex enough because they think that women, M-M, believe it, they're typically women because guys are a little bit simpler in the bedroom, technically. Women assume that men just know, like you guys were like, you know, someone gave you like a manual or something or you've like saw YouTube, he's not going to do. But they don't and every woman's different. So even if you were a master with your ex, you're not going gave you like a manual or something, or you've like saw YouTube, he knows how to go to do. But they don't, and every woman's different. So even if you were a master with your ex, you're not gonna know with this guy. So, it's woman.

So, it's confusing. So, I think that the more that women speak up in the bedroom is important, because why are you just sitting there suffering? If you know that you want a finger in your bottom or something for that. Yeah, try that on literally everybody in sleep with you. I'm sure you do.

But, do you, is it a test? I have a guy in front of me who does that. He's like, it's a test if she's kinky or not. Yeah. Do you? Yeah, try that on literally everybody in sleep with you. I'm sure you do. But do you? I have a guy in front of you who does that. He's like, it's Tess if she's kinky or not. Do you? Yeah, I try it on everybody. You stick a finger in a butt of every girl. Yes. And then so how have the results been?

Some people just pull it away and some people are into it. Right. And I've never had somebody be like, stop it. How dare you. Never? They just met in a house. It's not like I go all the way. It's just like, it's just like. It's just like, inch and a half. You just like I go all the way. That's just like, into the closer.

You just like rub it a little like you're not like, yay. I rub and I usually am not even so, so like, clearly trying to do it that they have to grab my hand, but like if they just change their body so I'm not close to it, then I get that sense. But I also just wanted to say positive reinforcement in terms over negative reinforcement, right? So this guy might say to his girlfriend, I love when you initiate sexting.

Like I love when you touch me like this. Not, hey, you've been doing this and it's bad. Exactly. You're so absolutely right. You do not want to start in with what you're doing wrong. And I wish you were in the defensive. So I always say, yeah, when you want to have the sex talk in relationships, which a lot of people have a hard time doing,

I myself struggle with it too, which is funny. If I'm dating someone, you think I would, I mean, I think I'm probably about, I'm hard at myself. But when I was learning, and I still struggle, it's hard just to, the first conversation, you're like, okay, so sex, I mean, because you don't want to do it in bed, unless it's like a move to the left, out you're like, okay, so sex, I mean, because you don't wanna do it in bed unless it's like a move to the left out

you're hurting me, like, you're on my knee. I'm like, what's up? Definitely speak up. It's you do wanna be like, you know, like, I, because I get a lot of emails from listeners who are like, well, I wanna try, I have a three-some-one partner, I wanna try toys, what do I do?

And so I think it's just great to be like, you know, our sex is so awesome, it was so great last night, that was so fun, you know, it would be, I think we'd great to be like, you know, our sex is so awesome. It was so great last night. That was so fun. You know, it would be, I think we'd have so much fun together if we started to talk dirty or I'm going to dress up as a schoolgirl. Would that be fun? Right. Whatever.

And then you just like compliment them. It's great. And then here's where we're, we should do this. If a vagina is a rubik's cube, what is it penis? Can I recommend the ball on a paddle thing? Like a ball. Yeah. So much salad. Yeah. Yeah... Yeah, so much solid.

Yeah, it's so much easier. Jacob's ladder. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's a ruler. Yeah, so you're using it all, Ed. Yep, yep, that's it. What's the thing that you bang on and something sports out of it? That is the penis.

Yeah. We're talking about a metaphor There's no like a toy Something but that's ejaculate The king is this simple little lab. It's a her mind. Yeah, it's easy. So easy. Okay, silly putty One more question. Okay. Okay. Hello. My name is Jason. I'm 27 I love the show and learn so much from your talks. I have three questions Oh, you said one. Yeah, what's the good one? Okay, we might only have time for one But first I want to section my ex girlfriend's former roommate. I believe I can make it happen

My question is why am I turned on by having sex people that I'm not supposed to for various reasons? What has your experience been in this realm? Second dirty talk I want to talk dirty to my partners But I'm never quite sure what to say, and I don't want to see something like, I think it's too dirty, but it's just a grading that I wouldn't normally see outside the bedroom. Lastly, in an interracial dating,

I'm a black man who is dated, mostly white women. Coast is more open to interracial dating in West Coast or East Coast, thanks Jason. Okay, Jason, we, like that's like a whole friggin' show there, okay? Which one is the most interesting to us all? We can answer X Girlfriends, former roommate? Yeah, let's go to that one, too.

The West Coast is probably more open-dinner-rishly. Yeah, yeah, that's so funny. But that we can ask that quickly. But what about your X Girlfriends, former, do you guys do that? Bros or four hos, or what's the other? What did chicks say just for Dix? That just wants the forbidden romance romance that has nothing to do He can't get oh he wants girls

Yeah, cuz he wants that thrill of doing something different not already the chase Yeah, and the forbidden I've been I've been him many times and I think that like you just have to weigh the Way the pros and the cons like you don't really Makes an excel spreadsheet of the pros and the cons. Like if you don't really really hurt, she makes an Excel spreadsheet of the pros and cons. But except the only pro is sex and there's never a con. Right. Well, sometimes you're just like, I can't quite come up with my penis. It's going to be never a giant on 10 minutes. It's going to hurt somebody. And like, is that okay? Or is it not okay? There's plenty of people who are like, oh, this would hurt her feelings,

but I don't care that much. And that's okay, and you can have sex because you're both single, and it doesn't sound like too intensive a relationship. My sex girlfriend's former roots. Yeah, like it's not even like there's still roommates, but that's a very tame forbidden fruit. It's not like my ex-girlfriend sister. It's my current girlfriend sister.

Yeah, I shouldn't do that. But then he said, I'm turned on. Yeah, like he said, the bigger issue, having sex with people that I'm not supposed to be married. Women, who knows what road he's going down. Right, yeah. So I think that on, yeah, like you said, the bigger issue, having sex with people that I'm not supposed to feel like married women Who knows what road he's going down? Right. Yeah, so I think that's really common because it also it's Commitment sometimes people think well, this isn't gonna work anyway. It's a little crazy And I don't really have to get intimate with this person and care So I'm gonna go after like the unknown

Un attainable or the dangerous that could be not that could be a reason. Well, what's the psychological Reasoning behind stuff like even as far back as like the Bible, the like the forbiddenness of stuff is like so tentative. Literally going the forbidden flu. Yeah, exactly. Because at any time, you know, you, I mean, well, it's also primal. And I just think that we've always been told

that sex is wrong and shameful. And in so many ways, which is the, what I say the biggest issues people struggle with sexually is that they do have shame around it. Whatever reason, either they didn't perform or go, I love it, you can just say that. I mean, even God. I didn't mean that you were.

Even God who wrote the Bible thought Furbin Fruit was hot. Yeah, exactly. We've messed it up. And he's fucking God. We've totally messed it up. Right, God knows. And so I just think that we've always made it seem like it's the thing that that's what makes it exciting.

That we're not just doing it. There's shame, religion, all this stuff. Right, yeah. But it's all good. People should just take a bite of the apple. Right. OK, then dirty top. We kind of covered this one.

Men's and I once talked dirty on the show. And you said I wasn't. But that was for television. Which episode was that? I want to make sure to never listen to it. What the hell? We had a phone set. We were on a reality show. It's funny. This is like he wants to say things that are like a little degrading.

To make? Oh, general. He always does. There's porn where people get off to being like, Yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh, totally. Shaming, yeah, yeah. Just reading. And women like that. To some women like that too.

Oh, yeah. Some of them like, if I was fucking somebody and they like sent out of the blue like oh they were like doing a dick shaming porn to me or something like oh yeah you have a tiny little dick. I would really hate that. But you hate that but there's some men that are into that. Some men that dress like babies and they want to be babies. Exactly. They want you to pee on them. It's like dominate.

It's a misdiv the whole thing. Absolutely. And if it's like that you almost have to break it up beforehand. Yeah. Don't st- okay here's the thing with dirty top. Here's the number one rule of dirty top. You're not going to be like you're not going to be like you're not going to be like you're not going to be like you're not going to be like you're not going to be like you're not going to be like you're not going to be like

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You don't want to be like scientists. And you want to be descriptive and you want to just kind of build up. You don't want to go in like, I want, you know, you're my bitch, you're my. Right. I'm like, because all my dirty talk is positive. All right. What like, like, what? You're so tight.

I love fucking you. You feel good. Yeah, yeah. Oh, that's sweet too, see that? No shaming. Right, no shaming. But as you feel good dirty talk? Yeah, I mean, it's weird. Oh, that's sweet too, see that? No shaming. Right, no shaming. But does you feel good dirty talk? Yeah, I mean, it's talking.

It's okay. Here's the thing. Our brains are like the largest sex. Or women get turned on, which is why we like funny guys and personalities and things. Guys are like, she's really funny, but she's not cute. I don't care. If you talk to us in a way that's engaging, entertaining,

you know, hence like text, Jake, or whatever. I'm sorry, I fucked that out. No, that's right. That is right. Like, that's the words turn us on. Like, they really do. And so if you can email texts, say these words to a woman. So I think positive reinforcement is great.

Just we like to hear the words. Because even during sex, that's for play for us. That's hot. So that's what I recommend. So if you're inclination, though, is to shame people, if you think that's hot. which is what I'm gonna like. Well then you gotta build up to it, it's totally fine. Dude, we had her to find somebody to do that.

You have to build up to it though, right? But you can't be like, you're a study-hore bitch, and you fucked your cousin or something. She had this shake on the show, like here's a girl who was like, higher to shame business guys. Down the tricks. Yeah, and she would like show up to these guys' house and like pee in their mouth and like do all this crazy stuff

Yeah, so I want me to give you what does she do now? I think she's still a dominator she was in my sex school with me But I think it's just there is something for everybody and you never and this is actually a rule of thumb for sex across the board No matter what you want to do you want to stick your finger in places, you know, you don't she's into it He's into it, or he's into it. Real of thumb. Slow.

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