Sex With Emily - Best Of: Great Solo Sex-pectations

Episode Date: May 8, 2019

On today’s throwback show, Emily addresses three of the most common masturbation questions she gets asked, plus a rundown on masturbation basics. She explains ways to masturbate in order to take your self-love to the next level, why it’s important to incorporate it into our daily lives, and where to find the elusive G-spot.  Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep the show FREE: CalExotics, BTL Emsella, SiriusXM, Woo More Play, Bombas. Follow Emily on all social: @sexwithemily For even more sex talk, tips, & tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily and today's show we tackle the three most common masturbation questions Because hey, it's masturbation month. We're gonna talk about how to touch yourself for maximum pleasure Why are your partner masturbates? We're to locate the G-Spot. Thanks for listening Look into his eyes Then the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Betrubized, they call them a lie-gone day.

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Thanks everyone for being here. Thank you for being here. Hello! Hello! What's going on? You know, just a rockin' through masturbation months? I know, right? Do you want to hear the most intimate- Are you chafed yet?

Not yet. No, but here's the funny thing. So, I talked to you that I'm redoing a lot of things in my life. We're opening up a new, out bigger office and I'm going through my entire house, which Doesn't have a lot of storage and so I finally thought that since I'm redoing it so it can kind of like I mean I don't own it. I rent it But I'm just trying to make it so I can like actually walk from one side of the bed to the other and like open drawers Then I start to open these drawers

They're kind of scary to me not scary, but like they have literally like every toy, I mean I have a lot in the garage too, but toys are like one day I'm gonna try this one or I'm gonna try this nipple clamp because I give 18 nipple clamp, so I started pulling it all out or the door kind of moved the bed. It's a storage bed. I pulled out 65 bottles of lube, including samples. I had about 10 different kinds of nipple clamps. I had, you know,

where are they needing vibrators? For me. I didn't, no. So many chargers, chargers like tangled up. I'd like a $200 butt plug with like the pony hair, the one with the plastic delight. I had all these cute costumes. I had like a nurses costume and I had like the school girl.

I'm like, oh my God, I've got some sexy stuff going on. I better like restraints and that was just two drawers. They're very deep drawers. So that was really fun and I thought, I'm getting my life, getting everything organized and now I see exactly what I have all, because then on the other side of the bed, I have like the toys that are on my immediate rotation.

But these are toys that I just sort of put back there and toys and props and I'm like, I'll get to that, you know, whip one day. But now it's all across my house, spread across the world. You got a Snapchat. I'm snapping it. I'm snapping it. Check out my Snapchat. Your Snapchat is blown up, by the way. I know. That's crazy. It's really fun. Thank you for showing to me. I know I watch your Snapchat. You would be a billionaire by now if you just listen to me but no but man is I'll never forget that in 2009 you called me and said get on Twitter you're like there's this Twitter thing happening like what you like just do

what I say and I remember we're outstanding like in the mission I'm like okay okay do it I know you've been telling me this and so I'm doing it and yeah I gave you a billion dollar idea last year and you still haven't jumped on it. Which one? We'll talk about it later. Okay, we'll get to the minute. I'm just saying.

See what happens when you listen to me. Good things happen. I'm gonna say, always listen to you. And you're very loyal too. And I have to say something about this business is that it's not an easy business. And no business is easy, okay? The entertainment especially,

it's just really a lot of it's hard work. So it's luck. It's like working with the right people. And you realize that a lot of people are just kind of in it for themselves and not loyal but I feel like our relationship going into our eleventh year like you have been like you are truly like a friend like a confident my co-host you're just you've always been Stable amazing and show up and I just appreciate you so much like I realized how special that is and how rare that is people like Each other they blow ups like well, I know I'm a really might I know you but you don't yeah, but we've got to fight I yeah, I never say I'm never gonna help you ever again. No, I know I just think and I think I learned this early on I had great surroundings when I was starting out in radio

There's a guy named Big Von. If anyone lives in San Francisco and he's listened to 106KM. He's on in the afternoon 3pm and he taught me, he's the guy that got me into radio. He taught me, you know what, if you help as many people that want to be helps, the good things will happen to you. It's so true. I mean, I'm the same exact way. Like, how do I get into this?

How do I do this? Like, I love how people like that. You definitely have the right people, like yourself that are nice, that are into it, that want to succeed and do well. For the right reasons. Yeah, I've definitely helped out people in the past that are just totally into it for themselves.

They don't care about. Take advantage of you, whatever. Yeah, and stuff like that. But then I definitely have cut those people off. You could tell. You know. But it's just like, I don't know, again, that goes for life in general. You know, if you just help, if you help other people, good things will help. It is so true.

It is so true. How other people, and also like, and I always tell people that I work with, like you never want to burn any bridges. Like wherever you go, you might hate your job, your boss. But if you leave a situation like you wanna leave it like in a healthy place. And you never know who's gonna be your boss, your neighbor, again, like someone who's like, you're a system, could be your boss in five years. Like you don't know and I'm lucky, I'm proud,

I don't think I've really burned any like made, I still like, I could call my boss from 15 year old politics. So you don't wanna. There's only one guy that I feel, one thing that I ever done in my career that I feel really bad about it. It was like 2004 and I still think about it all the time. Yeah, but it was just, no, no, I can get into it.

It's just like, okay, this is what I feel really bad about. I had to make a decision. I was, I was like go for a company, for some dumb reason. And I, I was like, damn, a company for some dumb reason. And I was like, damn, I need a radio job. So I went to somebody I knew and then they got me a job at a Spanish station, which I really couldn't, I don't speak Spanish.

Right. Pocquito, you know, whatever. But they gave me a chance, you know? And then, but then my old company started calling back and wanted me back and gave me this huge opportunity. And then, and I was like, there's the way you show, right? No, no, it was a huge opportunity on another morning show.

And then I was just like, I was put in a tough place because here I am, I was given this opportunity when I was down, but there's no way that I'm going to progress, and then there's this other opportunity. So I had to take that other big opportunity, and then, but I still feel bad to this day that that guy helped me out. You retired to work with Commence? I've had, during that time, I said, I was sorry, but I started talking.

You don't understand that, I mean you're not. I know, but I still to talk to him. I don't understand that, I mean, you're not. I know, but I guess. I know, but I still feel really bad about it. No, I get it. I feel that too whenever I've had weird things and I want to make it, make rights to wrongs. Yeah, so I feel, I still feel terrible about that. We were a good person.

I try. I forgive you. Thank you for forgiving me. Yeah, I think you would too. But, so yeah, there's that. That's a little life less than there for people. So you know I'm doing all this house renovation and speaking of being naked,

I realize that like I had the, you know, I have my cotton. I feel like I'm invisible there because I do live in the back house and no one knows I'm there, but there are big windows and there were no curtains on them. And I often walk around, I sleep naked, get up in the middle of the night,

I get a drink, you know, drink a water. And I'm realizing now like, I sort of, people could like, no one is going to, but they could see me, they get, so now I've taken care of that situation, but I thought like, what if my landlord's like girlfriends there and say, kick out that girl, the naked girl walking around.

So now I'm gonna have curtains, and it's gonna be nice, but like, I don't, I don't know, I'm just thinking about people's masturbation routines and do walk around naked, and that's gonna be nice. But like I don't I don't know I'm just thinking about people's masturbation routines and do a ground naked and that's what I mean. Think of that I now live in a naked proof house. Windows open masturbation is just delightful though. Like on an afternoon you've got the sunlight streaming in everything. It's very like a soft core porn from showtime. Yeah. I love I've got like birds tweeting. Yeah. I love your cottage. If you ever move out I'm moving in. See I I'm glad you see. I like it too, but there's so many little problems that we're fixing right now.

Okay, good. There's no, whatever. I told you not to move out. I would just think you're contemplating. I would just think you're contemplating. Because you like, because it's little and you can have it. I like little spaces. I'm weird.

I'm a weirdo. I'm the only person on my group of friends that like really into tiny houses. Have you seen that tiny houses craze? It's like miniature houses and stuff like that. You can't have them here in LA, but you can buy like these little mini modern. They're already made and they've got off your house to get in a mailbox. Yeah, you can buy them for like $30,000. I've seen those. Yeah, definitely. You know, Martha like that. It's just a little guess house that was built like, you know, by you know, my landlord built it from its own hands when he came over from Russia.

I think it's not stable. You know, earthquake, I might die. But I'm fixing it up. Okay, so that's what we got there. And we got a little sex in the news. Cool. Menace, this one maybe think of you. All right.

Canadians already know about car sex and protect even more with driverless cars now Yes, you've been talking about driverless cars for a while I don't you didn't make up driverless cars because they were You predicted them. Yeah, I was I was the first One to like start mentioning it I think because I would read the articles when they were first coming out Right and then like no one was like really into it and then then I go, you don't realize this can be like, you can be on your way to Vegas and be in the back seat, having sex.

Right, it does again. Yeah, yeah, yeah, you kept them blowing me up. But it turns out it looks like turn back. Again. I know, I know, I know. God, why are we billionaires? I listen to you on Twitter and I should have made a car. No, but then this thing's like

Remember when I would ten years ago. I'm like you can have sex through the internet now that shit is here virtual reality Everything what the F.O. We're doing here. I don't know why are we on a private jet? Why don't you ever listen to me? I want to drive life. I hate it man. Let's just go for it then I gave you again. I gave you a billion. I need a new one. I promise you last year and you can do it. I promised your next billion dollar idea. I will run with it. It's so easy. But here's the thing. The term taxi drivers about take a whole new meaning. I'm predicting that once computers are doing the driving, there'll be a lot more sex in cars. Says Barry Kirk of the Canadian Automated Vehicle Center of Excellence. He said

more. So apparently there's already an in-car business going on and it's Canadian with in Canada. Let's make the point that even though driverless cars are coming and coming fast, that doesn't mean you can't sit back. You can't, it doesn't mean you can sit back, take a nap, read a book, watch a movie, or hop in the back seat with your partner. Even if you're in the front seat, you still have to be aware of your surroundings and what's happening. So, and you got to take over the wheel. So they mentioned on Tesla, let's see, officials mentioned videos posted online of Tesla drivers brushing their teeth, they're reading newspapers with the car's autopilot feature engaged. So the issue of the attentive driver is problematic. They tend to overestimate the performance of automation and will naturally

turn their focus away from the road and then they when they turn on their autopilot. But they're not really driving this like at least Tesla is not driverless yet. And if car sex and list just remember the authorities are looking for it. It's looking to arrest you for the car. It doesn't sound safe to me. Like I'm already like shouldn't be driving in general and I'm focusing. Like you know what I mean? So I just pull you on a driverless car. I'd be perfect

Just type in the address and you just I want to be driving less and have a driver But I don't want a driverless car. Yeah, I found out a way to just you know crash through Someone's like a gas station or something. Okay, okay But first I want to give shout out should I make my next sexual prediction? Yeah, oh go please Take notes. So we can have sex of the internet now It's gonna be like virtual reality and something that you could just put the headsets on What is the next thing? What is the next level? Are they gonna? Mm-hmm. I mean, I think this virtual reality thing like people will not men won't leave their house

Because I really feel like you're having sex. I haven't tried it yet, but I've heard about it. How about within the next 10 years or less, somebody will have sex in space for science? Oh, for sure. Yeah, people are going to space, the people have all these talk about sex and all that stuff. And then, Virgin America. Why not have sex when she's there, yeah? Yeah, but they're doing it for scientific reasons.

How can we make what you think you want me to go there and be the first Presumption if you want to make sense Yeah, I start like a crowdsourcing campaign crowdfunding Semis, Chase That's it. I'll wear the hamburger you can outfit with silver you can get on the Virgin America One of their flights. It's here in Los Angeles, go on there, it costs about 250 grand, you go to space,

I'll even let, first blowjob in space at least. You don't have to do full-on sex because that might be kind of... Who would I give the blowjob to? I don't know, some Rando millionaire that's on the flight with you. Oh, okay, a millionaire penis. Yeah.

But what about the gravity stuff? I just wonder how you would, if your body, your breath and all that, it would be safe to have sex in space. Oh my god. I don't know if you're just wearing it. I'm over sleeping again. It could be a quickie. Typically sex that you do, when you do random sex stuff, it's outdoors or weird.

It's not usually the most pleasurable sex. It's just cool that you did it on a chair a chairlift like I did once like I couldn't die It was cold. Yeah, it didn't have an orgasm, but it was fun good story. So sex and space I think would be a good story. It wouldn't be like Okay, but I need to get something that's a little bit sooner because yeah ten years I can't wait. Yeah, you don't already be a millionaire and then just I'll talk Yeah, no, I actually to be honest I think I would still be freaking doing this all right. I just might get here in a nicer car that I'm not driving.

Yeah. Alright, good. Alright guys, we are going to take a quick break and we come back. We're going to get into your emails. We're back. Yes. And we're going to talk about, we're going to do this to emails. Let's do it. Okay. So, thank you for emailing me. Feedback at sexwithelm. Yes. And we're going to talk about, we're going to do this to me, males. Let's do it.

Okay, so thank you for emailing me. Feedback at sex with LMA.com. Oh, it's so easy now to email us on our website. You just go to the Ask Emily button and ask a question and you ask it right there. Boom, sends, goes right to our inbox. You don't have to like go and write out feedback. It's really easy. Tell us your name.

Where you live, how old you are. That's important, how old you are, and how you listen. And the first one, there's about masturbation because it is masturbation month. So I'm going to get some nitty-gritty tells here. Alright. Do it. So I'm 19, but I've never successfully masturbated before. I want to, but I'm not sure exactly what to do. I get so far and then my click gets sensitive, so sensitive that I can't continue. I don't really want to get a vibrator or any toys. Do you have any suggestions to get past

the how to get past that point and continue? Please help Aaron. So Aaron's going through like a classic mistake that a lot of men make when they go right for the clitoris. I always say that's like the not the best thing you could do if you're dating someone new your in a new relationship Heather sexual couple she is not turned on it. So sometimes when you go right for the clitoris I get that's a hot button. I'm glad you know what it is But you got to work up to it. You got to like tease and you got to turn on

You got to make sure that you're like ready to be touched there because some women are sensitive. And a lot of women just mostly just don't want you to go right there cause they're not even turned on yet. But Erin sounds like you're one of these more sensitive types. So before we get into the technique, I'm just gonna lay out the basics for you about masturbation. So you need to be comfortable, you need to relax, and you need to be in the right environment. So for you, that can mean in your bedroom,

making sure that like your door's locked, your mom doesn't walk in, your roommates, and whatever makes you feel relaxed and sexy, like candles, maybe it's your favorite music, your favorite porn, people got the routines. Take the pressure off yourself because you're new to masturbation. And so I think a lot of women, I was one of these women, I suspected that the first time it would happen. Well, I thought it would happen during sex and it didn't happen that or in a course. And then I thought it would happen when I masturbated and that didn't happen. And you just, you got to figure out for some moment it does, but for some you got to like take time to get your, know your own body. So set the mood, set the atmosphere.

And you got to get your brain on board because your mind is a number one sex organ. So if you're not turned on above the belt, nothing good's gonna happen below. So how do you do this, Aaron? For you, I'm not sure. Maybe you think of sexy thoughts, you think about your past sexual partner, your current one future, you know, maybe it's an amalgamation of a bunch of things that have happened. You sexually, some really hot things, watch porn, listen to rotica, whatever gets you in the mood. Okay, next you want to start touching yourself and stimulating other parts of your body

besides the clitoris. So start touching yourself, touching your nipples, run your hands all over your body, and since you're sensitive, you might want to keep your underwear on and rub over your underwear, which is always a big tip that I've been talking about for years. I don't know if I'm telling you that, but I love that. Like a lot of women think too. What kind of fabric though? Oh, it could be cotton, it could be silk, it could be satinite, it could be any fabric.

But I think that since the clitoris is so sensitive and it's just a different sensation, that when you rub a lot of women over their underwear over their clothing, it feels really good just because it's thick. Your clitoris is getting rubbed with like a different sensation. It also is like a build up and then you go in with your hands. It's just a cool little tip trick for you, Erin, and for your partners. So you know, touch your thighs, inner thighs, your breasts. And just remember, there's so many arises zones in our bodies.

We're like, your inner thighs, like, there's so many nerve endings there, like, your neck or your nipples. And this will help you get warmed up and ready. So now that you're warmed up, then you can go into it. So, um, okay, I'm going to give you some techniques. I'm going to get really specific here. That masturbation mess. Use your pointer and middle finger.

Okay. Pointer middle finger. And you want to lightly massage circles directly around the clitoris, like brushing over it. So, not touching the clitoris, but around the clitoris, okay. You might want to add a little loop, drops of loop to your fingers because women are more likely to have an orgasm when you add a little loop into the mix. And you want to vary the strokes and the pressure. So there was a study that came out that said that most women

it's a diagonal move across their clitoris. So that could work for you. You can go faster, slower. You could stick with the steady motion. So just like play with fingers, you could start tapping. You see that porn? There was tapping, or maybe you want a little slap. You could, here's the thing,

what I'm thinking for you is the wishbone. So you put your two fingers facing down, right? So your clitoris is under the hood of your wishbone, okay? So that's your clitoris is. And we talk about the legs of the clitoris. And that's like your labial, your labial. So your fingers are touching them. So you get what I'm saying, like your clitoris. So that's like your labial, your labia. So you play with your so your fingers are touching them. So you're you get what I'm saying like your clitoris.

That's why I need to make my own volleyball puppet. I got obsessed with this last night. But so your your fingers are rubbing over labor folds and you like indirectly are using to massage your clitoris. You can also put those like labial folds together. If you know what I'm saying, it's like you're closing your vagina and you're using those and you're going over your, you're using those to rub your clitoris, right? So you're indirectly touching your clitoris. So that was a lot there.

Did you get that Aaron? Everyone listening. Those are different moves. And we also have a ton of stuff on our website about masturbating. So you can go there. Next thing is you gotta breathe. A lot of people hold their breaths

when they're, hold their breaths people hold their breaths when they're breathing. Hold their breath when they're masturbating. And it's just really important to be mindful of that because the more breath that you breathe in, you breathe out, then you're like allowing the bloodthrow to move through your body. And it'll just help you relax and help you move that sexual energy to your body. And you can have to get out of your head too. Yeah.

Do you want anything to add here about massaging your clitoris? Oh, I just don't have one, but I wish I knew more because that would just help out a lot in life. Did you listen? I did listen. I did listen. I did listen. I did listen to you.

Yeah. Okay. So there's the last thing, be patient. It is a skill. Master patient, I can't drive this home enough. Just like any other skill, you got to work at it. You've got to learn what makes you feel good. It takes practice and you can't expect to get it right

after a few tries. And you can try a 30-day challenge. We could give you some products. And so just be patient and know, and just be committed to it. You'll get the hang of things, I and if you want to toy she doesn't want to toy right now but if you ever do. All right. Call me.

Okay this one minus I need your help with. All right. What do you got? I just want to hear from you because you have a penis. But this is a really common. This is a really common information. Master patient for guys so easy but for women it's so complicated because they're not all the same. I know this is why I have to explain. Penises are all the same

You put a hundred women in a room and they were all masturbating They would all be doing something different. Yeah, be like a freak show would not be coordinated not a freaking show That's terrible thing but it'd be like that's a terrible What insulting woman? No, it's not a sensitive It's not offensive. It's not offensive. So PC Okay, dear assembly. I start off by saying I love your podcast and I listen to all the time I love hearing the facts along with your sense of humor. It's very entertaining in case me listening This is probably silly concern, but here it goes

My boyfriend masturbates often in all caps when I met work during the day get home from the gym etc We live together. I find Loub. He accidentally leaves out all the time I'm not mad about it. so maybe I'm overthinking things. We've always had a healthy sex life from the beginning, multiple times a week, and sometimes multiple times a day. I hope I'm being silly, but now it seems like he'll masturbate and not want that sex with me later. Is it me or his loss of interest in me, or is he just a regular horny guy who wants it

at random times? I brought it up once recently and he acted like I was a sex addict who wandered all day every day and said it's common for it to dwindle down in a relationship. I know that this happens in long-term relationship sex tends to decrease but I feel like if it happens we'll drift apart and I don't want that. Tell me I'm crazy. Thanks in advance. Seriously the queen, uh, sincerely the queen overthinker. I the queen sincerely the queen over thinker

I thought I was the queen over thinker. Yeah, oh man. Okay, so let's think a lot of people over thinking everything constantly I know that's why they're so afraid to talk to their partner because they're always over thinking I know she's over thought this whole thing So that's why like we really had to break this down We're going through show prep because it was like mass. I like wait what are the questions here because there are two things Like first is the masturbation question. Like, why is he masturbation? Because I kind of think about like universally,

like I get asked this question all the time. I'm in a relationship. I love my boyfriend. Things are great. Why does he still masturbate? I they don't understand that masturbation is normal. He did it before you. He knew he did it with you.

Hold on. It's so easy too. How do you explain menace that like, you can be in love with your partner, but just because your master rate doesn't mean that you are not being set, you're not satisfied for men. Yeah, well sometimes it may be you're not available. Also a lot of it. It's like, do I, sometimes, okay.

Now I don't want you to take this the wrong way and take it out on you. Right. Okay. This is a message. It's just going to just going to make a relationship. Queenie, we're getting back to you specifically. But does it just mean it's a thing? Sometimes it's kind of, I don't want to say, because using same selfishness is kind of a wrong term for it, but to make it easier, that's what we're going to use.

Okay. It's just like, okay, think of the vagina and how complicated it is to satisfy, all right? The real experience of life. The real experience of life. The real experience of life. The real experience of life. Yeah. Now, think about, okay, now, do I wanna go and spend all that time

to satisfy that vagina to get what I want, what I, what I, what I can take care of myself in a few minutes, and then I'm done, and then I'm happy, and I can go to, you know, go to bed, or I can take care of myself in a few minutes. And then I'm done and then I'm happy. And I can go to, you know, go to bed or just hang out and I'm done. Or a lot of times guys do it because they think it's gonna help them later when they do have sex with you. Pre-gaming.

Pre-gaming. So they exactly already. And then I, it's like practicing for, you know, like, yeah, you're gonna play basketball later. What do you do? You practice, you know? Is it awesome? Yes, and I agree to all those things

that sometimes guys are like, it's just a hassle. And women too, we're like, I'd rather just celebrate the gift, you know, than have sex too. That's so true, but don't you think for also men is like, for you, I don't know, but do you feel like it relieves stress? Definitely. I think for a lot of men too, it's like,

it's so natural and normal for men. It's 100% most men will still masturbate in a relationship all the time. And it's like, it's not about connecting with someone or like bearing your soul or intimacy. It doesn't mean that he doesn't want that per se. It just means like he's stressed, he's anxious, he just wants some,

it's just, I call it procrastination. But since I just do it to like, I'm like, I should be doing something, but since I just do it to like, I should be doing something, but this will get me in the mood, this will relax me out this masturbate. Like I do it for a lot of different reasons, and I could be having, be in a relationship and have great sex.

So masturbation will happen, okay Aaron? Like not Aaron, that was last one. Queen over, Queenie over thinker. So just understand, this is just for kind of everyone to understand that if you're with a guy, and I just say this because when I was younger, in my. I was eating guy who masturbated watch porn and I was really I was 24 and he was like serious boyfriend And I was really Confused by it because I was like I was shocked

I was thinking like we have amazing sex and to this day It still is like great sex I think about and I learned a lot But I didn't get that like I thought well does he want me to look like that was you want me to get fake boobs, does he want me to be with the blonde, does it mean I'm not satisfying, these are things that women think, you know, and it's just not the case, like that's really not always the case. So I think that that male masturbation can be confusing. So now we got that out of the way. When masturbation is a problem in the relationship is when the masturbatory

respiratory habits conflict with your relationship. So for example, if he is masturbating so much, there's no longer interest in having sex with you. That's a problem. Yeah. Like, my mind is like, sometimes he's like, I don't want to. I'm just gonna have some. But if he's like, no, you're a sex like making you feel bad, because he doesn't want sex, we've got a problem. But a lot of times it's not because of the masturbation, it's because there's other things going on. Don't be jealous of the masturbation, who cares?

Right. But we already got through that, right. Don't be jealous, like guys do it. Married guys, sit down. Don't you encourage it, Madison? You've talked about that in the past. Oh yeah, I'm all about it. Like masturbate, take care of yourself.

So that way, whatever you're doing is not for stress. I don't want you stress relieving inside of me. Like I'd rather that be about like connecting and us having fun. Like if you just need to get one out, like take care of yourself. I'm not a flush light. I have things to do.

And your boyfriend, luckily, has probably the most impressive flush collection out of anybody. Oh yeah, he's a flush light. He's enjoying the benefits. Yeah. He's a con-surer. He's a con-surer. He's a con-surer. He's a con-surer. He's a con-surer. He's a con-surer. He's a con-surer. He's a con-surer. He's a con-surer.

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So I think that you need to talk to him about this, like about all of it. And you can just say like, I'd like to have sex more often. And you're afraid of disappear because I know he said that what concerns me as he said sex to windows. And you know what? It does. It does dwindle. I'm telling you over time in the relationship we all had sex three times a day at the first month of a relationship two years, whatever. However long that honeymoon phase goes, but eventually biology takes over, you know, we get comfortable and it just

does. So the fact that he just said it's going to dwindle, that's fine. No, I think we know it's going to dwindle, expect that it's going to change a, that's fine. No, I think we know it's gonna do into a, expect that it's gonna change a little bit that your sexual habits, your drive, but that you wanna work on it, that you wanna like, you know, say, well, we're not having it as much, but let's try to keep it interesting or let's compromise about how many times a week we have it.

I've talked about this a lot on the show. So, you know, you can just let them know that, you know, hey, I heard you say it's gonna like die over time, but we gotta work on it. I want to spice up our sex life so it doesn't disappear completely. So I think you just got to get more information because it does sound here, Missy Overthinker, Queen Overthinker, that you might be overthinking because I had to read your email a few times because I was like, you said, did he call you a sex addict or you made you feel like a sex addict? This could be your own projection. So I'm just not really sure what's going like exactly

But I'm telling you that it's only master rates, but it's not normal if he's making you feel bad pushing you way Which I'm sure is not as intention, which is why they need to talk. Yeah, I'm sorry if it all comes out overthinking it over thinking Guys don't think some guys overthink I've did overthinkers. They make me feel super normal and calm. I'm not really overthinker though. I ever think about like stupid self-finition think overthink, but that's still overthinkin. Ready?

Number two, this is oh, no number three. All right, number three. Master, wait, should you email. Where the F is my G spot? Emily, I was so- Where is the G spot locator app we've been talking about for a year, seat another billion dollar idea Different and every woman, but I want to do it. I want to do it. I did okay, okay

I just think it's hard because it's different. It's not so easy. It's like we're any end of Jones. I know We're trying to find the golden It's so hard and this is for a woman. She thinks hers is gone and migrated. Listen, Emily, I was really paying attention the last time I had sex and the spot that felt really good each time you thrust in and out was against the back wall of my vagina tore my back. And I know the G spot is supposed to be towards your stomach. So what is that spot I'm feeling to my G spot of migrated to the back?

Thanks Lauren Pittsburgh iTunes listener. Yes. I did not go to the back. Reviews on iTunes give us five stars. Five stars and iTunes. We're not happy. She's dancing every time she goes by. It does. It does. Because we don't happen to know. I'm just going to sorry Lauren. I'm going to find you to do some in a minute. But years ago when I was trying to make a living it's still struggle. But we charged. We paid we charged four years ago. We paid. We tried to experiment. It was experiment.

We said, can you please pay for a podcast? 99 cents a day, where? Didn't work. Again, no one paid, but we still reviews on there, like, she charged or she did so many ads, and I think I did used to a lot of ads, I'm sorry, and all I wanted to do was make a living doing the show. And I think I've worked out those kinks,

however, those angry people, their comments are still there. It still lives on. So can you please just say like, yeah. And it's just because I want people to keep listening because I love my job and I love what I do. And even if I became a billionaire and I had my own plane, I would still do the show everyday with my friends.

Yeah. You can be podcasting from the plane. Exactly. Oh. Dude, that's so in my radar. That would be awesome. I need nothing but that. Okay, a number of things can be going back,

I'm back there, Lauren. Here's the thing. I can tell you for one thing, for sure, even though we don't have the G-Spot locator app, your G-Spot did not migrate. So, let me break down the vagina for you. It has a number of rodent zones. Okay, so there's the A-Spot.

That's the front vaginal wall behind the belly button, which is kind of tangentially near the G spot. Then there's the O spot, and that's the spongy tissue on the back wall of the vagina, and that might be the spot you're feeling, or you just might like how it feels when he's thrusting in and out. There's also cervical orgasms that happens when your penis reaches so deep in your cervix, there's like a lot of different orgasms. But if you want to start with your g-spot and why not start with that, there's some things in life that you got to start exploring solo because it sounds like it's not happening with your partner. So where is the g-spot? It's located about two inches inside the vagina. I think a lot of people think it's way further back and it's the front vaginal wall.

So it's like towards your belly button, so you're right about that. And there's a cluster of tissue and it's roughly the size of a bean. And it resembles the texture of a walnut, although the size and location, but it does vary from the vagina vagina, but I believe, it's not in your back. When we become a rouse, so you start using your fingers and you play and you explore, this lump of tissue starts to swell, and it becomes much more sensitive to the touch, so it's easier to find.

The best way to find it is using your fingers. Use some lube, explore that area. If you can have a clitoral orgasm or turn yourself on, sometimes that's a great way to get started because that area will start to swell up. And so with your fingers or your partner's fingers, you put your palm facing up, your fingers curled up and gently stroke

the top of the vaginal wall. So your fingers like in this come hither motion, two fingers coming towards your belly button. And it's more of a stroking. It's not like a thrusting or it could be a pressure. Like you stroking you ply pressure. And again, it's different from the... There's a guy named Scooba Gear, don't you?

Just like looking down there, finding... Do you want some? Some Scooba. You can use like, like no, you know what I'm saying? You're all luscious squirt, so... Can you also share, real quick, don't we? Because I have to think about my cat the word I love and when he did a squirting thing with a mask on.

But yeah, my kids done a lot of crazy things. But the thing that I want you to bring up, and I know we mentioned it many times, but we get new listeners all the time. We do. Just a really quick recap, your friend, you had a friend who thought the same thing as this email. Yes.

And then so she masturbated every day for 30 days. She was that kind of the day for 30 days, which is kind of the inspiration for our masturbation contest this week is that of this month. Is that so and she's in spardium. I had like, this is when we were 19 and we were in college and she had never had an orgasm. And she had an internship and she was like,

going away for the summer and she said, you know what, she actually didn't tell me before she got this after, but she's like, I masturbated every day while I was there and she was there for 30 days and she after, but she's like, I masturbated every day while I was there, and she was there for 30 days, and she said, I just set back, I used my fingers, I played around, she had no idea. She had sex like once in her life.

And she, like the third week, she finally figured out and she had like, amazing orgasms. Change her life. Change her life, but it took her like three weeks, and I'm telling you, she's still my best friend until this day. Every time she has sex with her husband, she's married, she'll have three orgasms.

Like I believe that because she took that time of getting general her own body, like more than most people I know that she knows how to move and she knows she didn't come naturally to her. Maybe she had sex a few times before that. So that's the story you've got to practice. But the G spot, it does require continuous stimulation and might not happen right away. Again, there's also some great toys out there. I actually first fell in line with the toy. I don't remember which toy it was, but there's a lot of great

G-Spot toys we talk about. And now I can have it during a second. So I had to find it that way. So, no, it's not easy, but that's crazy. And the other thing is, if you feel like you have to pee, you want to keep going. That feels like it's probably working. So, and also, if anyone wants more G-Spot tips, God knows, we've got them on sex-ma.com. Hi, Emily, I'm a new listener and I actually got started with your show after Menace was talking about it on the Woody show.

See? He's where I never talk about you. I never say that. I'm so honored that you talk about me. Someone told me that you talk about me. I love it. I just want you to like me and talk about me and come over and get drunk.

By the way, the Woody show is a morning radio show that I do in Los Angeles with a group of people. It's about pop culture and what's going on in the news. It's like the most popular, you're killing it. I'm proud of you. It has become over the two years one of the most popular morning shows in Los Angeles. I'm really proud of you. It's just crazy.

We don't talk about how proud I am of you enough. Thank you. I really, I've been bragging about you. I'm really, really like. Thank you. We also podcast every day. You can download it. Just search the Woody show.

I'll check it out. I just wanted you to take on something that was pointed out to me not too long ago. I'm a single guy, 25 years old, and I've been out of a serious relationship for two years now. My friends are always surprised by this. They, mainly my female friends, consider me incredibly outgoing person. I'm funny, I'm nice. I can't tell you how many times someone said, why are you still single? Which is the worst question ever at Ask. I'm an arman. I have no problems talking to women except when we go out. Could be a group of guys, could be a mixed group of males and females. It never fails though. When someone says, go talk to her, I feel as if I'm being put on the spot.

And I've come up with some witty line to make her notice me. Any advice for the person who's never shy except in the moment when I call the doctor. And this is Aaron. He's a male. He's 25. Obviously, he's a male Kansas City, Missouri podcast or public. What? What? That's how he listens. So a lot of guys have this issue, probably this challenge. I've lived that issue. Matt has lived it. He no longer does.

No. Being in the moment is terrifying because of the fear of rejection. What goes on? Can you channel your 25 year olds out? And I'm sorry that it feels like I talk about this every other podcast that I've been talking about for years. But if you get rejected, nothing physically is going to

happen to you. You might feel sad for a moment, but you won't die. You won't die. But what you will know is, you know what? She's not interested in me, or awesome. She is interested in me. Right. That's all that's going to happen.

But you just go up and it's practice, too. Just like everything masturbation is a new practice that you have to muscle. You've got to learn a lot. There's been so many stories in my life where I find out years Like oh my god. I was into you, but you never made a move Every guy is dumb ass, you know why cuz you didn't know so shy because guys well again We're so dumb. We can't read signs unless You're sucking on my penis. Oh my god. She does like me like I don't know

I don't know if you're being nice. I don't know. So do you think that would help with girls, this is separate, but are more, like when girls are more sort of aggressive? I think that they should be. I think it's 2016, you want everything to be equal. Why does it need to be this thing

where I need to chase you and then find out? Like if you're into me, let me know that you're into me. What's the big deal? Like that's not gonna turn a guy away that's gonna make you guys super interested like stop with these stupid games it's true it's true we are in a new era people we are in a new era yeah absolutely true Aaron and you're a woman listening to this podcast and there's a guy that you're into let him know let him know because maybe he is into you but he's so stupid like nine

percent of guys I know out there that just can't pick up on signs. They can't pick up signs and they think they have that hat. They think they're just being nice. They think they have the perfect line, but it's not about what you say. It's like how you say it and how you present yourself. So if you go up to a girl and your eyes are like,

you're hunched over and your eyes are staring at the floor and your body language is uncomfortable, like that's not a chapter, but you just, you got to kind of channel like, what if you're hunched over and your eyes are staring at the floor and your body language is uncomfortable. Like that's not a chapter, but you just, you got to kind of channel like, what if you're hanging out with just with your guy friends? So you want to like be confident in your speech, send him straight, be like, hey, you have fun tonight?

What's going on? Like you could just say that, but it's the way you present yourself. You look around the eye and your body language is confident. You don't pause, you don't, you know, and you just, how's your night going? You know, you can observe something that's happening. So in the moment, like if you're at a concert or club,

you can be like, have you seen this band live before? Something that you would just observe because then you guys have something to talk about. Yeah. And I like that your friends are pushing you because I'm telling you, and you're gonna thank me for this. I swear to God, Aaron, the more you will do, the more that you do this, the easier it will become,

like anything in life. And right now you just gotta get over that hump. Like, there's a lot, like every time, and you know, fear is where we grow. Like, the most things, like, whenever I've had, like, growth and learn things, it's because I was terrified at first. I used to be afraid of public speaking.

Like, I'd break out in hives, like clearly, like, I can speak to people right now. I can do that. I mean, there's a lot of things. So, the guys who are good at talking to women, it's because they do it over and over again. So just remember, you're smart, you're funny, you're going, you've got lots of friends, you've got people who love you. And these are all true things, these are true. This is you, Erin. And so you just believe

that when you're talking to men, women, you know, everybody. So, you know, I just, I think it's really just about practice and you know, you know, your friends, you can even talk to your friends, like what do you think is a, you know, how would you talk to that girl? But I really just think it's just practicing talking. And even women that you're not necessarily even interested in, doesn't matter, just talk.

Okay, that's what I got for you. That's all we got. That's it. This is awesome. This feels really good. I'm gonna masturbate him so happy. I'm going masturbate, I'm so happy. I'm going to procrastinate, because I actually have work to do. I love you, menace.

I've fallen 16 Instagram accounts now. You have. Yeah, thank you for everybody on the last podcast. I mentioned so many people hit me up all the time about food in Las Vegas. So I combined those, and I started another Instagram account called Vegas Foodie Guy. Vegas so I combine it I combine those and I start another Instagram account called foot Vegas foodie guy so just follow that Vegas foodie guy if you're interested in that if you're not then

I'm always hanging out somewhere in the country you can follow me at Venice and my dog Cheryl And I love that everybody and I know it was so cool like I was really cool. I talked about this on the last podcast, but a couple podcasts back, I said, how many people actually listen to the very end of the show? Like the whole thing. Let's do an experiment. Go to my dogs Instagram account and wish her happy birthday. And then so many people commented, said,

I listen to the whole podcast, and that's why I'm here. And then that's really, really cool. I love that. Okay well, I'm gonna say it's good to see your face. Thank you. And next, thank you Gibson guitar for having us at their Gibson showroom here in Beverly Hills. We love it. And thank you producer Madison, thank you Laurie and Jamie who are killing it with our

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