Sex With Emily - Best Of: Let's Play Balls

Episode Date: August 19, 2015

In this Best Of podcast, circa June 2012, Emily and Menace explore the wonderful, exciting and often overlooked world of ball play. They share tips to help you overcome your ball-related fears and get gungho for gonads, and tackle a few of your emails along the way. Does your lack of experience in the bedroom have you questioning your sex skills? Are you ready to get into the world of kink, but don’t know where the start? Emily shares advice on sex toys and sexual confidence, and gets filled in on the hot new “dogging” trend from a listener overseas.Then it’s time to talk balls... How do you tell your partner you want to tickle his testes? What are the most ball-friendly sex positions? And what’s the best way to show those little guys some love? From facts and fears to trimming and shaving, Emily covers it all in this no holds barred throwback podcast, straight from the Sex With Emily vault! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. I'm going to talk about your penis again for a minute. I'm going to tell you about promescent. So I, some men, your penis size is totally fine, but sometimes you want to last a little bit longer in bed. Maybe you last a minute, and you want to last two. Maybe you last five minutes, and you want to last ten. And also one in three men actually suffers from premature ejaculation,

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because you will love it. And it will improve your sex life. Happy Monday, everybody. I made it through the weekend. I'm relieved with my birthday weekend. And it was crazy. It went off. Why would you get me off?

Tell me all about it. Oh my God, I usually do something cash with friends out of big deal, but this was like all out so much fun. I considered stretching it into this week, like having another party tonight. I was having something. Really? Yes. See? You always try to keep a cash. No, you gotta go hard. I gotta go hard. Okay, so this is my first year of officially going hard. I had like three birthday parties. It was so fun. Okay. So I went to Thursday night was the party that we had, the Kaggle Kegger. Uh-huh.

At Good Vibrations, Good Vibrations sponsored it. It was at my friend's gallery in the city called Project One. It's like a really cool art space and bar and club and what a dance floor. And we Kaggle Kegger people were playing beer pong and doing playing with the Kegger or whatever. They wouldn't let us do keg stands. Ah, two dancers. Which was a bum art. Two bum are too dangerous for bars.

But we had hundreds of people show up and good vibrations gave way to the other wheel that you spin and you win something in it. And it was just fun. And I had a hot sexy coral dress on. And I thought, you posted some photos online. Yeah, my photos are on my Facebook, but page slashes with Emily.

And it was just like good people, ex-boyfriends, new boyfriends, old friends, new friends. Great, great people, except for, there was no menace there. I couldn't make it. Mm-hmm. You're just mad because I didn't come to your birthday party two years ago.

It's fine. No, well, now we're even. Now we're even. Thanks for bringing it up because I felt bad. There was no, it was like, I don't feel bad anymore. Yeah, you didn't come to my party. You didn't come to my party. But, no, that's great. That's just one thing you did.

You had a bunch of things to do. That was fun. That was just like lots of drinking and fun and all that. And then Saturday day, I had a picnic in the park in Delores Park with all the hipsters. I was like 20 people and we had like wine and cheese, of course. Did you see Chihuahua's? Because I told you a Chihuahua day? Other end of the park.

I never made it over there. I was too, I was literally planted in one spot for six hours just like talking to friends and drinking and eating and celebrating and it was just like all the people that I love except for you in the city were with me celebrating my birthday and it was just it was a great day. It was a great day and then I went dinner on Friday night went to a special dinner and at chase Ben sir Have you been there in the city whatever? I have right. No, and it was good and it was just I don't know. I felt really good I feel like this is gonna be a great friggin year and it just felt great to celebrate I feel positive

I's for this year me too all around all around. All of us, right? Yeah. It's gonna be good here. It's really good. Good things happening. Today's show, just so you know, we're talking sexy balls. All about the balls, the testicles, whatever you'd like to call them. But I think there's a lot of information that women need to have and men about their own balls, they don't even know.

So we're gonna share that information and we've got some great emails from the people and some news. Cool. Cool. And so that, I'm trying to think what else does my weekend? I haven't had my dog in two weeks. She's on been on vacation. It's been a headache. But I got pictures of her swimming and she's up at a lake and she's really happy. Oh, that's good.

Just over there. Yeah, I'm getting her to Marlowe. I'm getting her back. Have fun with that. I think it'll be good because two weeks Tijay does from the dog and then get her for two weeks. It's like I have a split custody thing going. So, that'll be nice. How was your weekend? how was your big concert?

My concert, yeah. So if people are wondering, why is it minutes around for Emily's birthday? Yeah, why does he need me? He needs blah blah. There's only two days out of the year. I can no matter what, I can't take any time off. And my concert throws this,

I mean, my work throws this amazing concert every year with 22,000 people. And it happened on Saturday and it was so much fun. I'm my my work those is amazing concert every year with 22,000 people and happened on Saturday and it was so much fun and for all the fellas Shirley Manson she's the leasinger of garbage. She was there and she still looks amazing great and she's this redhead she's she's really hot and uh yeah that was fun and then I was at I was there from 7.30 AM till midnight. Wow, on Saturday. On Saturday.

I slept for a couple hours, and then I took a flight down to Orange County, John Wayne Airport, and then I went to Disneyland for like 10 hours and went and checked out the departs. How are you still alive? Red Bull? What? I guess so.

Five hour energy? Check out the new cars land before it's opened. I can't say anything about it. I wasn't allowed to but So go check it out when it opens. That's what I can say and then I flew straight back here got home at midnight I woke up and did a radio show again. I got your voice gone. Yeah, yeah, well, what's amazing is One of my friends with DJing one of the tents, and he said, hey, I need a hype person and something that's gonna, you know, hype up the crowd.

So for 40 minutes, I got to be on stage with the DJ and hype up the crowd. Oh, fine. For six thousand people, it was like one of the best constant experience I've ever had. That's so cool, man. I had people sing along with the music. I was like throwing stuff out in the crowd.

I had a t-shirt gun that shot t-shirts like two before. Oh my god, and that's had you never done that before? Not, well, I've gone up in front of crowds that large before, and I just do a quick intro. Like, hey, what's up? It's men as well, blood. Check out this band, but it was never been.

I never been that guy. I've never been the guy who was in front of the stage for the entire time Like now I finally got to experience like what it is to be in a band that has such a large gathering like right and it's Ethan cool, man, that's so cool What band was it for that you were doing no my friend my buddy was DJing. Oh he was DJing So I would just like you know I got people to sing along with the songs and stuff Like It was DJing, so I would just like, you know, I got people to sing along with the songs and stuff like that. Oh, man, it's fire. I need to flutter for the crowd, that would get you.

I had like hundreds of hundreds of, it was at night, so I had hundreds and hundreds of glow sticks, and I was breaking all the glow sticks, and I was like throwing them out on the screen. Fine. Yeah, it was, it was one of the best experiences I've ever had. Oh my god, one of the best experiences,

pictures and stuff. Yeah, there's pictures, there's video. I Instagram, all that stuff my God, one of the best experiences to pictures and stuff. Yeah, there's pictures, there's video. I Instagram, all that stuff. Okay, that is so cool. I'm happy for you. I'm so happy for you. Thank you. I'm so happy for you, Sabanomal.

Yeah, you know, we gotta put your birthday on a different date. I know, it's never gonna work, is it? That's so sad. But it's, I'm glad it was so. But we both had great weekends. But they're weekends, it feels like good. You know what?

What? It's gonna be great here because you've got a television show coming out. I do, I do there. But we both had great weekends and- But the three weekends, it feels so good. And you know what? It's gonna be great here because you got a television show coming out. I do. I do, I do a television show coming out. Juneteenth. It's two weeks from today. And- From today, two weeks?

Yeah, dude. Crazy, right? Juneteenth. Wow. Juneteenth, two weeks from today, 10 o'clock in night, on Bravo TV, which is your on your cable network. Most people get it. If you've got cable, you've got Bravo.

Yeah. You can probably download it if my tunes, right? If you don't get it. I'm assuming because some people I know they're like super cheap for some reason. Don't have cable. I don't even know how these people live. I didn't have cable until recently. I don't know how these people live without cable and they want to know how they can see it online. I'm assuming it would have to be on iTunes. Yeah, I don't know if it's available on Hulu or anything like that, but they have clips at bravoTV.com. Yes, bravoTV.com, check it out. Slash misadvised. And that's what it's called. It's about three single dating experts in different cities, LA, New York, and myself in San Francisco. Do we practice what we preach? Yeah. And you will find out soon. Some reasons to watch. And you're going to be like,

okay, I'm just going to watch a kid's Emily's on it. Yeah, that's great. You should. That should just be enough, but I'm just telling you, some highlights, you should see some of the guys that she's making out with on here. I normally, I don't know, we, are these guys that she would be making out with, but you get in situations, and it's not forced,

it wasn't set up. No, it wasn't set up. It wasn't set up. But you just like saying yes to everything and having experience. And I don't know if you should have said yes on some of the things. I did say yes to all these dates and I end up kissing several men in awkward situations. Yeah. And it's quite funny and fun to watch, I think.

I don't know. We'll see. And I think we had some fun conversations because I got to sit around and like- Yeah, men on the show bunch in critique some of these guys you went out with right you can just imagine some of the comments that I had oh my God you almost got into a fight with one of them. Yeah, probably you did you literally did in this one scene But anyway, everyone else watch it's pretty exciting news for the show because we want you know Yeah, people that better sex and so we hope that you'll listen to show, watch. Watch the TV show. Tell your friends.

Have watching party, have viewing parties. We'll send you toys and stuff. Forget about me being on the show. A big thing that I'm looking forward to is, because there were some parts, so I didn't get to see where your brother's on the show. Yeah. And your brother, if you, people,

if you listen to the show and you think, oh, I mean, I'm brutal, you should listen to Emily's brother. He is effing amazing. Cause he's actually intelligent. You know, he, he, he, what's a school? He knows how to use his words, you know? He, he said a lot of therapy.

Yeah, he's really good. And he broke me down into like, he, he analyzed me on the show. He's on the reality show on our sex with Emily show analyzing me. Yeah. I just made him do it. And I don't know why I let you get it with that. So anyway, it's so good. We're so excited. I think that's the first episode actually with my brother. Yeah. Oh, God. Good times. Can't wait. We can't wait. We can hardly wait. We're're gonna have a big party soon too that we will announce. We're gonna have one of the nights we're gonna have viewing party, not the 18th, but night

after that. All right. Okay, well we've got some sex in the news for you. And that is? That is a San Francisco man sues BMW after a rousing motorcycle ride causes two-year-long boner. What? Henry Wolf sues BMW claiming that a four-hour ride on one of their motorcycles in 2010 gave

him an erection in the last two years. The main claim that he developed a severe case of priepism, a persistent lasting erection causing for the motorcycles, Corbin Pacific Sea, which is a ride that appears on these condition as ongoing causes of not to engage in sexual activity. Well, you know, he rode that motorcycle at his own risk. Yeah, I don't know. I don't think he could sue BMW. Yeah.

Oh, and I forgot to mention not to make it about me again, but I got, I went on a motorcycle ride yesterday. Really? I went down to Half Moon Bay and I was at the beach and it was really beautiful. And I was thinking when I was on the motorcycle that it vibrated and like how cool it would be to have a lot of orgasm on the motorcycle ride. Ohrated and like how cool it would be to be able to have an orgasm on the motorcycle Oh really? But I wouldn't want a two-year erection.

That's your new sex toy. Is it a motorcycle? A piece of a motorcycle and like a first toy. Exactly. It's kind of like the rock box sex toy that I have. Looks like a friggin motorcycle. Yeah, but that's a bummer. I feel bad for them to your long boner.

That's not good. No, no, not good at all. Do you have anything in there about people eating people at all? all? Because I don't know what the F is going on. Do we? Yes. Japanese chefs serves up his own genitalia to diners. No, but it's good. I can do an assist on this story, too. So go ahead and read that one if you can. Japanese chefs serves up his own genitalia to diners. if you can. Japanese chefs serves up zone jantelian diners. So a self-described asexual. Days after his 22nd birthday, he underwent elective genital removal surgery, divvied up

the severed penis shaft, testicles, and scourtle skin between five hungry diners and garnered his man meat with mushrooms and parsley. This practice was considered legal in Japan because there's no law against cannibalism in the country. Oh my God. So grossed out. Like, did he not tell them you're eating my penis? Like, I don't even, I'm set.

I get full-rain to at least beat the crap out of the guy, right? Yeah, I mean, like, how do they find out? What happened? Yeah. The diner's like, don't taste like chicken. I mean, you know, everyone says everything says like chicken. Yeah, yeah. That's not chicken. Every deep Friday would know, everyone says everything says like chicken. It's not chicken. Like I have.

You have a deep Friday, it would have been all right. Anything deep Friday's good. Oh my God, that's disgusting. More guy. I just need some psychological help. I don't know what the F is going on. The X, everyone keeps on talking on the internet. How there's this like zombie apocalypse going on

because more and more people eating body parts is getting in the news. Maybe just like, maybe there's one big story. There was one last week we had two. Yeah, and there's like a couple, right? So I'm thinking, you know, this usually happens where there's like one big news story so people pay attention for something like that and it just keeps on getting in the news. There was one today, Today, that happened. This model slash porn star guy. Killed his boyfriend, had sex with his boyfriend and then ate his boyfriend.

Oh God. Yeah, I think I heard that. What is going on in the world? People, what is wrong with you? I don't know, I don't know how many cannibals, I guess we always are in some way, but that's really exciting. This is not the donner party, people. Like there's grocery stores,

you can go get food whenever you want. I don't know what that's about. Is there some kind of, they're thinking it's a kind of apocalyptic animal? It's a cannibal. Now, I don't know, but that is effing, disgusting.

It's actually this boyfriend and then Adem? Yeah. Like did he kill him? Or did he just take it? Yeah, kill them, had sex with them, the eight-ohm. Yeah. Like did he kill him or did he kill him? Yeah, he killed him, had sex with him, the dead body and then ate him. Oh my God. What is the hatch? I don't know. Where does he live? Florida? No Germany. Okay. I don't know. All weird things happen in Florida. Our next story is about Florida.

Of course. A couple of an accused of masturbating on a Florida highway. So a 35-year-old woman was arrested last month for masturbating in highway 484 in Florida. Apparently, mass Ashley's masturbation slowed traffic as drivers buy, slow down to watch her pleasure herself in her automobile. When an officer finally approached her, she exposed her breast to him. She was arrested and taken to custody for a few years. She refused to wear pants and continued to expose her female genitalia to officers.

She was on something. Is that illegal to have masturbated in that way? I guess if you hold on traffic. I'm sure that should be open. I've masturbated, but not in traffic. So that is crazy. Yeah, another one. And she was polyandrugs. She, she used to get dressed and she's in

fashion or genitalia to the officers. That's that's not normal. Oh my god, I heard the worst story. This is totally irrelevant, not related, but about a woman who got so stoned. She smoked marijuana. Did you read this yesterday? No. Do you were like drive? Would you really come out of the coffee shop or put your keys here? Well, on the the top of your car while you're opening your car? Oh, now I know what you're talking about. She left her baby.

She was high and she left her baby. She was got stoned, left her baby on top of her car and drove away and it fell out. In the middle of the session, yeah. But the baby was okay and unharmed because it was like in the car seat. How do you forget your baby? Even when you're stone, like, I mean, I got it. Dude, and I bet stoneers are so mad now

because now people, you know, anti-drug people can just use this. It's like, oh, watch, there's gonna be, there's gonna be some TV commercials, anti-drug TV commercials, and they're gonna use this. I know, I know. Well, the thing is, if you ride into the story, which I're gonna use this. I know. I know.

Well, the thing is, if you read into the story, which I did, the owners are gonna beat her ass. No, the story is, the reason why she got so stoned is because earlier in the night, her boyfriend got pulled over for having a DUI, and she was so upset about it that she went to her friend's house, got high, and then she proceeded to get pulled over. She went back to the scene of the crime to pick up the baby and the cops were high, and then she proceeded to get pulled over. She went back to the scene of the crime to pick up the baby and the cops were there, and then she got a DIY.

Oh, that's fine. People, drugs, just be careful with drugs. Wow. We don't, we don't, like, you know, don't do drugs. Let's just say that. Okay, we've got some emails from the people. The emails from the people I like it. Thanks everyone for emailing us at feedback at sexwithemily.com.

Emily, we love your podcast. We drive trucks and love nothing better than listening to you in menace. When are you coming to Australia? We'd love to meet you and show you what mischief, mischief, mischief Australians get up to. At the moment, dogging is very popular and we've started a few popular dogging spots along the road and love the thrill unspentaneous meats. Do you guys have anything like that over that in San Fran?

If so, we want to hear one of your kinky stories. Emily, stay sexy, let us know when you're in Australia, cheers your biggest friends with benefits. Jason and Anna from Pitsworth, Queensland, Australia. Okay, so do you know what dogging is? No. Okay, it's this bizarre sex craze, which involves taking their dog for a walk as an excuse to have sex in a public space.

The group used a website called Dogging Australia to find like-minded people to sex with in public places. They use signals like flashing their car lights to encourage others to watch or join in. The craze began in Britain, but it spread around the world with the help of Facebook and Internet sites. Territory, doggers range in age from 18 to 73 and many provide profile pictures of themselves. Dogging. So they bring, well, I have a dog so I can do it.

Yeah, go for it. I don't think I'm going to do it. Why not? Jason and Anne, I love it that you love us and and I love to hear more of your dog news stories. I'd love to hear the intimate details of it, maybe, but I don't think I'm gonna do it. And I've not heard of it in San Francisco, have you? This is the first time ever hearing about it,

but I'll definitely promote it. I know, we can't even look it up. You're gonna promote it? Yeah. Oh, that's so nice of you. Oh, and the question with Al's show, yeah, I have never left America and I've had like no interest.

Not that I hate other countries. I'm afraid for my own safety because I know myself. I'm going to have one too many patron shots in some word country and I'm going to get arrested. It's nothing against people's country. I am just afraid. That's really why your friends checked this out. Check this out though.

The only other place that I wanted to visit was Tokyo, Japan, because it has everything that I love, sushi, technology, all this stuff. But Australia keeps on coming up, baby. Now, I've got tons of listeners in Australia. Yeah, and I don't know. I kind of want to visit Australia now. But I like it, I think to show you. I have a friend that moved there to go work for Google,

so I follow her on Instagram, and there's so many beautiful photos that she posts. I know it's a beautiful awesome place. I'm dying to go to Australia and I've got some friends there too. Yeah. They will have to plan it. We'll go. We'll go, we'll go, we'll go. Thank you, Jason and I'm for sharing something that we did not even know about. Dear Emily, how be and I would like to try some 50 shades things. Like 50 shades of gray. Yeah, have you read it yet? I own it and I just started it. And I'm almost embarrassed being who I am,

sexually, Emily, it's my show that I'm not ready yet, but I've just been so friggin busy. Any recommendations as to what vaginal balls to try for beginner and what massage oil you do like? We keep trying different lube and can't find one that hubby likes, they all seem sticky to him. Thanks for your help. Enjoy your show.

Avid listeners from West Bloomfield, Michigan. We're in from, from Abigail. I'm from a town right over from West Bloomfield, Michigan. West Bloomfield, I believe that your whole town back home listens and then it is bleeds out through Michigan. That's why we have so many Michigan listeners. I think so too and I love that my, that my, my homies are sticking by.

Do they treat you like the mayor when you go home? No. And with my family. Oh, but they whisper. Oh, that's, that's how I like her. Well, now I think with the TV show, I think I'm on the fourth of July weekend and I think that could be.

It's over. It's over when you go home. People are like, oh my god. Oh my god, it's her. Everyone watches Bravo. So I've been getting tons of emails for everyone who's like, so I can't Bravo you too, probably, right? Well, no, I'm only on the website, but the, but yeah, but people have been tweeting

me like crazy that they see you. Yeah, yeah. Okay, so what she's talking about Abigail is 50 shades of gray which has been in the New York Times Best Seller list for weeks and it's by EL What the hell's her name something anyway? You can find a 50 shades of gray and they're calling it mommy porn because it's all about this woman Who's in the submissive relationship? It's like BDSM and she's submissive and There's actually three there's three of them. There's six. My mom's read all of them.

Wow. Most of them, most people have. Okay, so also good vibrations who we love, they sell it, they sell 50 shades of grade, but not only that, they sell on their website. If you go to goodvibes.com, they sell the 50 shades of gray, sex toy kit, and the 50 shades of gray desire kit. And, and the 50 shades of gray, desired kit.

And then many of the sex toys that you find in the story, including a blindfold, rope, restraints, spankers, tethers, and tape. So that's just a separate thing that we met with Good Vibes the other day. And if you go to Good Vibes, got Good Vibes.com, use coupon code, Emily, and you get 15% of anything from Good Vibes.

Now, everything that was described seems like something that you would be into. You love all that kind of stuff. I love all that stuff. I just got to read the book. Yeah, and I heard there's already a movie top. Yeah, but every actress wants to play the submissive hair. I know. I wonder how they would position the movie.

Would the movie be about the writer writing the book and then they would cut into it or would they just try to make it a full-fledged? I think they would have had to make it a full-fledged or Otika, whatever, but she asked specifically for kegoballs and I would recommend the Smart Balls, the Tenio T-E-N-E-O, silicone kegoballs from Good Vibrations. Yeah, so Smart Balls Tenio T-E-N-E-O, silicone kegoballs.

I mean, getting good vibes. So smart balls, 10-E-O, T-E-N-E-O, silicone kegoballs. I mean, I'm gonna be good for that for good vibes. I also like the Zizu, J-E-J-O-E, J-O-U-E, kegoballs. They're amazing because you can wear them, I'm calling them kegoballs because they exercise your, but they're the vaginal balls that you can stick them inside you and leave them inside all day. And you naturally are doing your keggal exercises

while you're wearing them because your muscles are contracting, contracting to keep a hold of them in, but you don't really feel them. So they're amazing. Like I wear the keggal balls all day and I feel like I'm like exercising my kegels. And we all know keggal exercises are so important and you should check out my app,

keggal camp in the iTunes store. So you will be reminded every day you exercises. Okay, for the massage oil, I suggest you try touch me massage oil. Emily and Tony, which is actually my candles that I make. I have a brand called Emily and Tony, you go to Emilydoney at Tony.com. And if you've never heard of a massage candle or used one,

you're gonna want one because it is, I made it so you'll have better sex and it'll spice your sex life. Because it smells good and it's fun to use. Have you had fun using it? Um, me personally. Oh, he does some massage. It's okay.

I mean, I don't massage. You like the Down Under Comfort. I love the Down Under, the Down Under Comfort. It is awesome. That's for your balls. But I use the candle all the time. Yeah. You know, for the house., the downowner comfort. It is awesome. That's for your balls. But I use the candle all the time. Yeah. You know, for the house.

But it's not as much as the massage candles. But my co-workers, which remember, I don't know if you remember, they gave me a bunch to give my co-workers and they absolutely love it. I love it. Okay, that's good. So basically it's a massage candle. Look, it's a beautiful candle made in France.

It's made of amazing ingredients. If you care about that stuff, a Roman therapy, sketch in the mood. But what happens is you light it, you blow it out, and it turns into warm, sexy, sensual, luxurious, and massage oil. That's fun to play with. Oh my hands.

Yeah, I put it on at night, people like, I have no one massage, I'm like, I give myself a hand massage every night, I blow it out, and it's not like, it's not this kind of like, you know, like a lot of massage oils you get, like all over your clothes and your bed, you got changed sheets, it. So, yeah. And it's not like, it's not this kind of like, you know, like a lot of massage oils you get like all over your clothes and your bed, you got changed sheets, it's sticky,

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Slickwood and Alokadabra, my two favorites. Okay, dear Emily, I'm currently with a girl who is much more sexually experienced than me. Now I'm nervous. I guess I'm not great and bad, but I have no idea. I'm pretty much I've pretty much only attacked with unexperienced girls. I guess the point is I think I'm going to lose her over this. Any ideas doc from North Carolina? Well doc, I would say that first, you have to get over your insecurity and your nervous energy and your anxiety

because that is just going to get you nowhere. Yeah, it's going to torpedo it. It's going to torpedo, it's going to get worse, you're going to get more anxious. First of all, I want to know, how do you know that she's more sexually experienced than you? Is this the story that you're telling yourself is she asking you to do things that you don't understand?

I feel like a lot of times, guys and women, men and women, make up stories in their mind about the person they're dating and they're worried and this person, you know? So I would say just ask her what she likes. Like when you're having sex with her or you're fooling around with her, you're not gonna lose her. Let me tell you something.

You're gonna keep her if you say to her, what makes you feel good? How do you orgasm? Start touching her, you know, start rubbing, touching her in different places and just ask her, how does it feel when I kiss her? Not, how does it feel when I kiss down your stomach? Where do you like to be touched on your clitoris or do you like to be fingered or do you like to, you know, I mean, not like don't fire 30 questions at her, but pay attention to, you know, slow down and touch her softly and and and you should always start softer than you think you should. Like I always tell guys to go five times slower than they think they should. And just try to pay attention to her

responses because you will get responses from her. You will get her moaning heavier or not saying anything at all. And that's how you can gauge her reaction to see if you're doing good job. No one starts out amazing in bed. Every guy probably, I mean, I think he's probably young, ish, right, man? That's a pretty good idea. He's totally stallion.

I mean, you still know, do you? No, I'm kidding. Not lately. But what would you recommend to him? I would recommend that, just be a guy. He says it's not great and bad. How does he know? Yeah.

Just be a guy, put it out of sight out of mind and then just keep on practicing with this chick. Keep practicing, don't worry. She doesn't know. I've never been with a guy and thought, well, that's not true. I probably haven't thought that. Later on in life.

Later on in life. And when you're younger, you don't even know. You don't know what's better. You don't know anything about teen. I am. Even if you're younger, you don't even know what's better. You don't know anything about your life. I am. Even if you weren't, who cares, you're having sex with the girl. You're having sex with the girl, have a blow up in your face

by being paranoid about everything. Don't be paranoid, anxious, and worried. If you can somehow work, do some kind of meditation, tell yourself that you're awesome, and that you're a rock star, send yourself positive messages, and I really think that you will feel great about yourself and you have to pump yourself up because if you don't have confidence, it's just going to wreak havoc in the bedroom. Speaking about being confident, I almost took Cinderella home.

Who? Cinderella when I visited Disneyland. You did? Well, I was, there's this place. If you ever go to Disneyland, at the Disneyland hotel, they have Goofy's kitchen. And you go there and it's like a buffet, which you would never go to a buffet, but for the common folk like myself,

we go to buffet and they have all the characters there. And they come by and they take pictures with you and they say hello. And so Cinderella comes and Cinderella is hot. You know, they get like legit like like, literally has the girl's right. So Cinderella comes by and she's like standing next to me, she puts her arm around me and stuff like that. And she's asking everybody at our table like, oh, who do you, who are you excited to see what characters blah blah. So everyone

names all these characters. And she's like, who are you excited to see? I'm all, I'm excited to see Cinderella right now. And then she's like, nice move. She's like, oh really? Yeah. And dude, she was like honestly blown away that I just said that. Like, she's not even frontin'.

Like, I'm not even kidding. You're like, I'm so happy to see you. I'm happy to see Cinderella. And then what happened? Did you take her home? No, no, no. But it was just like, you know, just, like some of the guys were like shy because this is a beautiful woman, you know?

And you just cannot be shy. You can't be shy. Just tell her she's beautiful. Yeah, well, no, don't do that. Not all that, you know. Don't think that she has you in the palm of her hand. You just gotta get out of your head, guys. You're gonna get rejected a million times more

in your lifetime. And so you gotta keep, it's how you get yourself back up again. You always fall down, how do you get back up? You always like at a bar or somewhere, and you'll see like some guy, there was some like some hot chicks, you're like, how is that guy with these girls? Cause these guys are confident, man. They just don't care.

You don't care. I mean, don't be like a total perv, like, sleaze ball, where, you know, you're just trying to fire on chicks left and right. Don't do that, because you know what? That's never gonna get you anywhere. You're gonna be a lonely person later on in life. If you're just trying to hook up with chicks left and right.

But, you gotta be confident too. They don't, women don't want pussy's man. Seriously. No, we don't. We want you to be confident. And people keep asking me, I've been done a lot of interviews that do like, what's the number one thing for men? I'm like, be confident.

Yeah. So, okay, let's move into our topic, sexy balls. Sexy balls. Sexy balls. Okay, so we are decoding balls today. Facts, fears, man-scaping. We've got some amazing products for men. Because we know that all men are a lot of men.

Trimming their ball hair. There's upkeep going downtown there. Downtown. It's called man-scaping. Man-scaping. And so I first have to tell you that my first experience with the balls wasn't great. I actually spent a good few years ignoring balls because I've been hearing a horrible story

about how some girl, like this, like, pay in high school or something, hurt some guys' balls and like, I didn't touch them for years. I thought they were like off limits, like, don't touch a man's balls. But I've learned differently now and I do know that you can touch them.

Okay. But how can a man let her know that she likes his balls touch? So, Menace, how do you feel about it? I don't like my balls being touched. Menace and Lee's balls touch. Okay, so I'm just not into it. I know, I know some women here, like, oh, in a porno or something, you got to create all the balls while you're receiving fluke show.

No, it's just not for me, but you know what? You're going to get five million guys that are gonna email in to the show at Sex of the Emily, and they're gonna say, Menace, you're out of your mind, I love it. So, continue. Continue. Okay, so the fact, here's a fact.

Most men enjoy getting their balls played with, especially during oral sex. So tell her that it's a real turn on if her mouth and tongue wander over to your balls once in a while. You can gently take her hand and guide it to your ball so she gets the hint. That's something wrong with that.

It's the head push. When you push your head, our head down to your penis, I've got a problem with that. But if you gently take my hand and like, show me that you like your ball of touch, I'm psyched. Like, I want to know that you're that guy that likes your ball of touch. Another fact psyched. Like, I want to know that you're that guy that likes your ball of touch. Another fact is you can stimulate the pranium.

Use your finger to gently rub his pranium, the nerve-packed bit of skin between his scrotum and his anus, aka the taint. And you're likely to launch him into orgasmic orbit. So, do you know two poxie core? Yeah. He had on his chest, tatted, it said, Tupac Shakur? Yeah. He had on his chest, Tatted, it said Thug Life, right?

And I was on a radio show. And we had a street guy, the stunt guy, who does all these crazy wacky stuff. We made him get a tattoo on his taint, and it said Taint Life on his. Really? Yeah. You made your friend do that?

Yeah, our coworker. It's a date life. Is it better? Was he really drunk? No, his job to see how crazy he gets. We also put on his ankle. We had a tattoo put on his ankle of a rose. Like a full on like if a guy just gave you a single rose. That's what it looked like.

But in the middle there was a penis. Oh my god. Did you still walking around with the penis? Yes, it's a tattoo, it's for life. She's price idiot. Okay, ball play tips with your mouth. Yeah. Okay, the fact is this is super sensitive area, so start small with a light kiss or tickle. If he seems to be enjoying it, do a simple cupping of the balls followed by a light massage.

There's no the fact sucking on a guy's testicles can make for an incredibly sensational experience and you'll double the pleasure if you simultaneously findle his shaft. You can swirl the tip of your tongue around his scrotum. You can lick his balls with long, sweeping strokes as if you were savoring an ice cream cone. That's a good image. Yeah, that's right. Licking like an ice cream cone, you wouldn't like that. Does it hurt you physically if a woman touched your balls or just doesn't, you feel nothing?

Both. I don't know. I think it's maybe in my head that I'm actually physically getting harmed. I don't know if I'm actually feeling pain. I think you should really sit and you should experiment ball play again. Life's too short. Yeah, I guess. Okay.

Mix it up and intermentally, purse your lips and suck softly on the skin or take each testicle all the way into your mouth. So another way to get a woman, so that's some ways to get her to play with you, but how to get her to go down anymore, I'd say shave your balls or trim them. Then we've got how to, there are some ball played during intercourse. This is what you can do with the balls during intercourse, okay? Okay. You, you, what, you don't love it?

No, I just the way you said it is like, oh, what you could do with the balls. Well, we're making it do. I'm not going to do anything with balls. Okay. There's a number of positions during intercourse where his balls can be made. Like, I'm just saying I'm not gonna play with balls myself. No, not all that with other women play.

Okay. Well, you can make that one. I'm gonna play with your balls. I think that this could be good for you to open up to start letting them play their balls. Okay. I just think it could be a good goal for your year. Yeah. Going back real quick. Yeah. Tell me about your first experience

when you really started playing with balls. I mean, it started, you know. I would say that it probably started like, like I said, I had like real ball fear in the beginning. In the beginning. And then I started playing with them and I would just touch them lightly. Like, I remember a guy having a ball fear in the beginning. In the beginning. And then I started playing with them and I would just touch them lightly. I remember a guy having a talk with a guy once.

I was like, I'm confused. And he's like, you hold him like, he gave me like those Ben wall balls or whatever. Like you just kind of hold them tenderly in your hand and you move them about. He was showing me how to play with them. So I got a tutorial from a guy that you don't squeeze too hard,

you gotta be careful and you just move them around like those balls that you use for stress. Uh huh. Those stress balls. And it's stressful. Yeah. Why, which year first, oh, you don't have any experience with us.

Oh, I would wanna see if, have you ever done a Stevie Wonder? No, what is that again? A Stevie Wonder? It's ball is that again? A Stevie Wonder? It's a ball play. Uh-huh. We're talking about ball play. We are talking about ball play.

Go ahead. You've never done a Stevie Wonder? No. OK, it's when, let's say you were sitting down Indian style, right? And then a guy is naked. And then he stands above you. And you look up at his balls.

And then he places one ball over each of your eyelids. It's a Stevie Wonder. Right, I remember talking about that, so. Because he's back in. Are you open to a Stevie Wonder? Sure, whatever. So you're open to a Stevie Wonder. Why not?

You know me, I'm open to everything once. Yeah. Everything once. Okay. You're laying down with your guy and he's like, hey, real quick. Why would he want a real quick get up and put his balls on my eyeballs? Maybe he's really into it.

Hold on, I'm trying to describe the situation. He's a surprise. You're laying down in bed with your guy and he goes, you know what? You know that carpet, you know, out in your living room, you have like a, it's like a furry tight carpet. It's not real fur. He's like, I really want you to go sit down Indian style over there. And I'm going to walk over with my balls.

I'm going to place them over your eyelids. Because I'm really into. So he doesn't climb over my shoulder. Well, no, you're sitting down on the ground. He's standing. And he's tall, right? Okay. He's taller.

And then he places his balls over your eyelids. Just for because it feels good to him. Yeah. Because he wants to do the Stevie eyelids. Just for because it feels good to him. Yeah. Because he wants to do the Stevie Wonder. Yeah. He wants to do the Stevie Wonder. His penis might be laying down over your nose too, by the way. Yeah, it sounds fun.

You would be into that. You would be into that. I wouldn't say no if that's really what it turns them on. Yeah, it turns them on. It's less work for whatever. Put your balls over my eyeballs. What do I care? I'm down.

You heard it here. Okay. During intercourse, there's four very ball-friendly sex positions to keep in mind. There's the reverse cowgirl reach down. So when you're doing the reverse cowgirl, this is beginner ball players. It only requires a simple reach down. There's a cowgirl reach back. This is only to be used once the reverse cowgirl has been successfully conquered.

You reach back and do it. There's the missionary reach down, missionary position, not always easy, but can offer great pleasure to a man putting your legs up and reaching between your thigh and his thigh allows for quick fondling of the balls as he moves in and out of you. And then there's the doggy style reach back. Reach under your body between your legs and back to his balls. Allow his balls to slide across your palms as he moves in and out of you adding a light squeeze here.

And there will give him a different level of pleasure. So what do you think about that? Those are all good ways for women to go to the balls. Do you know that I consciously, since I started out, I had such a bad ball experience early on or I was misinformed that I really have to consciously think, oh, this is a good time to grab his balls. And usually it is like doggie style or like grow on top, you can reach back.

Yeah. I'm just, I'm up to sell for the balls today. Not to bring back to CV Wonder real quick. I just, I just, I just want to throw it out there real quick. Quick note. If you do try the Stevie Wonder after listening to the show, please tweet sex with Emily or feedback at sexlehammy.com. And promise me you'll read the email. I promise I'll read them. If you do the Stevie Wonder, please somebody out there, I know there's a lot of couples that listen, just try it for fun. And then,

okay. And then just do it This is a really quick move. Just do it. Why don't you just try for fun? Okay, I will go and try to accomplish that. Okay, one more thing I want to say about balls is that do not, okay, sorry, I'm honest. We're bringing a new term to baller, by the way. What, I am?

I'm a ball, I'm a big baller. Yeah. Yeah, I'm a big baller, I'm all about balls. Here's the problem, you probably shouldn't get waxed. Oh, thanks for researching last time that we did it. Yeah, it's not great. So start with us using a scissors or a pair of clippers or shorten everything up for a quarter inch.

I know. And I found that show and I'm playing it. So some, those are some balls facts. And also one thing is if you are coping with a fear of balls Make sure that you're completely comfortable with the person you're with and just always go slowly get a costume to them Introduce yourself to them some light touching and massaging and most importantly ask your partner how they like to be touched Do you want your balls touched? Do you not that's what you should do? So that's what I got for you today

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