Sex With Emily - Best Of: Real Women Talk Anal Sex

Episode Date: March 28, 2017

Think all women hate anal sex? Think again! In this Best Of podcast, Emily is joined by LadyFreaks Jennifer Bartels and Grace Parra, SWE alumni Laurie, and her good friend Kim to talk all things sex: from ball handling to sex toys to pubic grooming—and, of course, the nitty gritty of anal play. Want to know how women REALLY feel about it? They’ve got your answer… And then some! Have you ever wanted to knock on your guy’s backdoor? Emily offers tips and tricks for introducing the idea of prostate play to your man in a way that won’t send him running for the hills. The panel of ladies also divulge their own anal experiences, share turn-ons and turn-offs, and profess their love for a good BJ. Nothing is off-limits at this sex positive roundtable, making this show an instant Sex With Emily classic. Don’t miss it… Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep this podcast FREE: Adam & Eve, Promescent and Intensity by Pour Moi Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Today's show is definitely not safe for work, but in the best possible way. I've got four hilarious ladies in the studio to talk about all things sex and we're getting into the dirty details. Real women, real stories, nothing held back. Some of the things we're talking about, you can find out the biggest mistake a man can make in bed. What do real women think about during sex and what do women really think about anal sex? Everyone's favorite topic. Okay, everyone, so thanks for listening. Enjoy the show. Look into his eyes.

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The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry? It's shrink? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh, my God. I'm off here.

I'm so drunk. Being bad feels pretty good. You know, Avaly's not the kind of girl you just fling with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com where you can check out my podcast center for my emailing. It's got damn many of you not sitting around mailing list.

I give really good email. I mean, I have other skills as well, but I have to say that people, they like my emails. Check it out. We sent them once a week. We do not spam you and they're pretty entertaining and they link to a lot of the great stuff at our site, which every day we're posting blogs and videos

and things that will help you have better sex and relationships because that's what I'm all about and I'm all about these sexy ladies here. Hi! Hi! This is so fun! I love these shows because we I've got these you guys there is nothing I'll back here I know because okay so I'm gonna go around and introduce you guys and then we're gonna talk around with you first and then like how I know that they would be awesome on the show so first okay so I've

Grace. Yes, hi hi hi. Hi Grace. So tell me tell me about yourself. How old are you? Oh my name is Grace Parra. I am 31 years old. I am Sassy Latina. It's not relevant at all. Two or conversation. They're pictures on the site. They're pictures on the site. Great. And I'm a writer, host, comedian, an actress, I guess I should say too, and when I was hyphen it, one of those L.A. hyphen it. Yeah, and I'm a real big fan of sex, talking about sex, being candid about sex,

avoiding talking about sex with my father. That's good, that's probably a good thing. I don't know, dads don't want to use my parents. That's what get it, moms get it. That's a little bit. Yeah, but dads know. Dad's not. Okay, wait a minute, are you in a relationship it mom's get it It's a little bit. Yeah, yeah, but dad's no dad's not okay Wait a minute are you in a relationship with your relationship status? I am single. I am single is the day's long No, that's not

It's not very so I'm yeah single, but don't be out for the show Once they hear about I'm but dating okay single but they got dating. Okay, single-bredating. Got it. Jennifer. Hi Jen. Hi Jen. Hi Jen. I'm good.

Good to see you. Oh, I'm excited to be here. My name is Jen Bartels. I'm also a comedian and actress and creator of things that are important to me and my heart. That sounded cute and deep. And we actually have a show, Grace and I have this show called Lady Lady Free Comedy that we do at UCB here in Los Angeles that's kind of a, I guess, similar air to this show which is us just being stupidly candid, not the most educated, but always wanting to further our education on sex topics. So, so excited to be here.

And- And how do people find that? I just want to say that I'm honored because I was in your first show. You were amazing. Yes, you guys can check it out. It was really fun. And I have to say, I knew,. I just wanted to say that I'm honored because I was in your first show. You were amazing. You guys are gonna check it out. It was really fun. I have to say I knew I walked into our green room and I think Grace was like, you were like, yes, so this guy, I was eating this guy and then some guy came in my chest and then

I had another date and I didn't have time to shower and then I went home and then I had another guy and then I'm like, no shower, the comck, and he smelled like, I mean so I'm like, we just got rid of each other. I don't even think we said hi. I don't even think I said like I'm Emily. I said, I came on me. It was like these girls can be that. So that was a good that was that was behind the way to see the show.

Oh, yeah. Okay. So, okay, Kim. Hi, Kim. Hi, Emily. How are you? I'm doing great. Thanks.

So tell me Kim. So Kim's a friend of mine and tell me about you. You all live in Los Angeles. Yes. Okay and how old are you? Well I'm 42 and very single and I've never been married so you can imagine how many sex stories I have to share. Because you haven't been a burden for a while. Well yeah it's been a few years. It's a very long time no, it's just something I'm totally interested in. It's a big part of my life. And definitely open to just like talking about it today and sharing some crazy stories.

And you're single now. You said single. Very single. OK. I'm sorry, Jennifer. You say what you were separated. So I'm a newly single. OK.

So you were married. I was married. And now I'm going through divorce. Oh, OK. And how long were you married? I was married for two years, but I was with him for seven. Okay. So that was the same dick for seven years.

Wow. Okay, so now you're just going, we're all single. Yeah. Uh-oh. This is insane. Okay. Oh, wow. Lori, assistant producer Lori.

Hello. Hi, sweetie. So tell me you, I'm 27. I'm 27 years old. I'm 27 years old. And I am single. I'm looking for more, you know. You want a relationship? Well, I always want a relationship. Yeah, I just feel like I'm looking for more, you know? You want a relationship?

Well, I always want a relationship. Yeah, I just feel like I'm wired that way. But I also very much enjoy casual sex. Right, it's a good time. Especially when part of her job is like, I got to try out this toy tonight. Can you come over and, right? Laurie's had some good stories.

I don't want that job, by the way. It's awesome. Yeah, it's great. It's actually, I don't want to tell her. I don't know. No one likes the boss when I leave. No, I. Yeah, it's great. I don't want to tell her. I don't know. No one likes the boss when I leave. No. I'm kidding, but we have a good time in here. We do.

Lori had her first multiple orgasm after using a toy and the office. I just want to just launch that because I just let's do so that way now. Was it in the office? No, not in the office. OK. But we have an intern. We will, we choose an intern.

But we have an interned sex toy review day. We just did a sex toy review show recently. But she was saying the night before that she had never had a multiple orgasm. She was trying to think all the We Vibe touch. It's The We Vibe makes a bunch of sex toys, but it's a literal toy. And she was like, I've never had one.

I said, you know, just because you never had one. Because a lot of things about sex is we think I can only orgasm this way. I can only think that way. And then Lori took the touch home that night. And I was like, well, don't limit. You never know. It could happen.

She came in, we were on Mike like this in the same place. So how was the weave I bet she's like, I had five orgasms. Yeah, five in the one. I'm really mad and credible. Like you went to like seed in my brain. One after the other, it was like one and then a minute later two right next to each other and then like 15 seconds later

another. So like aftershocks. It was like little trams. Yeah, the back one and then aftershocks. That's awesome. Wow. Yeah, I know. So it's, yeah, it's like little tremors. Yeah, I was like the bad one and then aftershocks. That's awesome. Wow. Yeah, I know. So it's, yeah. That's amazing. I know, it's amazing.

I want that, by the way. I also got the toy. Have you ever had, okay, so let's, okay, so Grace, have you had multi-organisms? I have occasionally, but only self-inflicted. Okay. Never been given multiples by a man. Okay. Or by a toy. Oh, really? The man on machine has been able to be. Neither a man on machine. But you so your fingers are typically how you masturbate? Well actually I do this sort of like kegelsy thing. Oh does anybody else do this key? This is something we've talked about

a little bit on lady freak, but yeah I am like I pump the kegel muscles. Yeah. Yeah. Like I don't use my fingers at all. You don't even touch yourself. Don't even touch myself. Which is how sometimes the middle of the night, I can wake up mid-orgasm. Wait, you hands-free masturbate? I hands-free masturbate. Yep. Have you always done that?

Always. I don't know how I learned it, don't know how I picked it up, but it's, I've always done that. That's amazing. Yeah, no, I've, this is what I'm saying. You guys, we talked about this intensity. We have this product called the intensity that does your kegel extravice.

It's the most amazing product in the world. It does it for you so your kegels become stronger. And what I'm saying is when they become stronger that your pelvic floor, you can actually walk around like aroused all the time. Because your muscles are bigger. That's what every woman needs to do. Their cagglet, your pelvic floor drops down straight.

Especially after childbirth or as you older every year. But we all exercise our outside, because as everyone can see, no one's going to her pelvic floor looks kind of messy. But I'm telling you, I love this. Really that's it. I've never. Yeah.

Okay. Yeah, I can talk about. I mean, I, I, it's, it's great. In many ways, it's a little bit difficult though because translating that to sex. So during intercourse, you typically do you have orgasms though? It's, it's much harder for me. It's much harder. So much harder. So much harder.

So in, only 30% can. Is that the physical sex? Oh, yeah. Yeah, that is. 70% cannot. Okay, Kim, what time? I can. No, I can't. During intercourse? Uh-huh. Every time.

If I want to. Yeah, I don't know why you're here. I've had a hard time having friends like this. I have to think about it and really focus on it though. Okay. Is it a certain position or can you do it for multiple positions? Mostly like me on top. Yeah.

So I wish I could do it another time. No, but still. So on top, so is it a G spot or a literal? It's G spot. Okay, sure Absolutely, see mine's literal. I can on top. I it's a sure fireway We could we could do it and still make dinner reservations and not be late because if I have my time every time Every time unless I've been drinking too much because then that's a different problem Right, um, I like pussy. Yeah, the bourbon pussy problem

Yeah, the bourbon pussy problem The baby Anyway, I wish I could come other ways like I see in porn like girls I guess quote unquote. I don't know if they're really coming but like from the back like from or the guy Yeah, yeah, and I'm just like I don't know how that happens. That's their line. Yeah. Well, we're anal sex Actually, no, they some of them in porn they might not be in that moment But a lot of women can have orgasm through anal sex because the tissues are so closely hitting up against your g-spot, and it's possible. It is possible. Use lots of lube. Not for every woman, but it can happen. So, yes, you're right. But you also want to be able to have a g-spot orgasm, too, or can you have

that as well during? No, it's more clitorial simulation. And have you had a g-spot orgasm? I have once or twice, but it's a rarity. It's like a special gift. There's a gift from that. Thank you. Okay. Yes, Kim. I wanted to add something to that. It actually didn't start for me until like my mid-30s. Really? It was like a cake. Yeah, I think that there was like training or I had to learn my body. I had to learn that really worked. So how did you do that, Kim? Yeah, I was just reading. I actually read a book called the G spot And it was really like inspired me and I really like put effort into it

And I think a lot of it's mental it is how did you did you did you get a G spot toy or did you just start playing around I just read about how to move during sex. So what did you learn? I just learned about really getting that yourself really aroused like like on the outside and like you're of course It's really helpful if your clit is yeah they say to have a clitorial they say I say I know this that it really helps to have a clitorial orgasm first and then so much easier to find your g-spot because it becomes more engorged and swiss we've already turned on yeah so I really have to focus on it I think I actually like visualized in my mind that I want it to happen and then I feel like that

makes it much easier. Before your mid-30s had you tried to make, because I've never had one and I try. No, I don't think I did. Maybe read this book. So you didn't even try it. I don't really really want to say that I remember it in a long, but definitely, mentally, I have to really take myself there. And I really have to be into the guy.

I can't happen with just everyone. I really have to care about him or have some kind of a feel you know feelings of those sorts that's so important I can't just fuck anything I can't just me to guy and do it like on the flip side though if you really care about somebody oh my god if you're into somebody it's like water works right oh yeah oh yeah like fishy pussy like oh I wish I have never done that I'll be interested in it. Yeah. I'd be there. I had a goal actually before I turned 31

that I would have Squirty Fun before 31. That's the name of your birthday party. Okay. Squirty something before 32. We can make this happen. Oh yeah. Squirty Liu before 32. Yeah.

Yeah, totally. I mean, you can learn to, where you can learn to sort of, so you want to set up. Okay, so, and then master, do we talk about how you do masturbate? I do. I masturbate quite a bit. How?

I, first, the funny thing we talked about this in the last show, I will fuck on my bed, but when I masturbate, I hide underneath next to my bed, so in case any neighbor can find a way to peak in, they can't see me. Oh my God, really? Like, you're afraid they're gonna... I don't I will I can openly do things on my bed sexually but when I'm by myself I'm like dirty little girl and so I like to kind of accept by myself and sitting on the floor like laying on the floor it's not a cold floor it's a warm room I'm sure yeah yeah no it's not like it's not a cage like it's bad I masturbate and I use my fingers but I just rub

my lid so I don't like finger myself. Direct right. Yeah, like yeah, like I directly rub my clit. That's something that I actually have been learning about myself. Direct stimulation to my clit is too much. Right, that's very, that's actually a conversation. This is why this is, by, we're talking about this because you're gonna, we have five women in the room and five different ways we're getting. But, ginas were all different. It's true. We all are going differently and there's a lot of women Just their clitters are way too sensitive Yeah, they just can't they can't touch they have to like work up to it So that that makes sense, but some of them are like you know

You know see porn with this is a question with when you have too much sex or you're like Clint is just getting touched and simulated for like a few hours then in the morning or in the middle of the night Once recently my clip felt like it was going rrrr on its own. It was having little seizures. And I don't know if it was withdrawal or I had overly rubbed it. It was, it was, it was, it was, it hurt? No, it didn't hurt. It just felt like,

it was like aftershocks. It was aftershocks of just little rrrr. That's like, that's like multiple orgasms, kind of, right? But it wasn't an orgasm. I was just laying there and I was like, and then I always think dark and like, my clits gonna fall off. No, you're clicking that phone.

Okay, so you're asking me. No, but you can sometimes, you know, with different toys, you wanna mix it up if you're only using one toy, you're just like anything, but you don't use toys. I use the rabbit for a while. Then I got so addicted to it because it stimulates your butt,

it stimulates your pussy hole, and then it stimulates your clit. And that's, it was like a Christmas Christmas morning and then when I have a real dick I was like this is it Damn it. What else you don't vibrate you don't turn around a little bowl Yes, did you insert it the all the way in like that's it was I mean it goes pretty deep. It's a decent size. Yeah, yeah, you received you guys You got to text them in office

Yeah, God, it's got some presents. understand. It's a good time to present the toys. So, you don't have, did you have a G-Spot orgasm with that insertion, rabbit toy? Yes, that was one of the times by myself that I've had one. Yeah, it just, it stimulates everything. It was one of the best still-dose on the market for a while. It did so much. It blew my mind the first time that I had it. I have the knockoff, the G-Gasmm. The giga, well they're so mean.

They're gonna say the ferret. It's like a lot of different kinds of, a rabbit vibe style. Like they make hundreds of them now with like, they just basically it's insertion and then they have a little things in the outside that my brain breaks. Yeah, that's cool.

Yeah, so that's cool. And Kim. Yes. Vibration experiences. Guilty. Guilty. Yeah, you know my favorite toy is, what's that little pink one that you can oh the jazzy me me

I'm well easy favorite. Yeah, you got there real quick by the way that that's impressive You're literally have 300 to five and I thousands toys, but that is my favorite That's my go-to every time right it's so powerful and so efficient So it looks a little I'll show you guys pictures after and you guys you guys if you've been listening I talk about it for a while. It's because I've tried everything and it still is my go-to and it's um, it looks like a little like it's silicone It's like a little, it's rechargeable like a stone like a pebble. Yeah, yeah, and you can hold in your hands Yeah, it's like that you hold in your hand rechargeable and it just has these it's the reason why I know the owners of the reason why I feel like I love it so it's soft But it's it's a different kind of vibration. It's a thumpy more like a Thing motor love a thumb love a thump and a thump. I love a hump and a thump and it's just there's something about it

So that's what you use to have you ever used it with a partner? Yes, as a matter of fact. I put it underneath the his premium his balls. Yes Wow, it's crazy. Have you guys ever done any ball play? Guys love this. Vibrations we think it's for us. Men, you put a little something there, printing them their balls. I have never done any sex toy play with a guy before.

I gotta get on that. I never, though. I just don't want to like pop a ball or like, you know, heard it because what ends up happening is I accidentally kick it or I do something. So I always get scared to bring toys near their sense of ball stuff. Don't. But first, yeah, you went to the first time you were with them,

but I thought that way too. I had a really bad experience in my early 20s. I think like, knocks them down the balls or something. And I did something bad. And I literally blocked balls for my life. It was like, I like post-traumatic ball disorder. I did not touch balls for like years. I like forgot the existed.

And I was like, oh my god, I gotta get back into the balls. And then I realized like the ways to like handle them. Like you just totally, you start really soft. You put them in your hands, kind of like those little bend mobiles. Yeah, yeah. You know, like that. And then, but then, and you can have the lube,

and then just see a little vibrations on the lowest speed of any vibrato you have. And you just rub it in the balls. I'm telling you, no guys ever can play. They've crazy, you guys love it. You put in the pernium, too. Really gently. Like the taint in between.

Yeah, gently. And right when you was about to orgasm. Yeah, I was just kind of like, you know, during like the four play just kind of heating things up. It was super hot. It's definitely a go-to. Okay, good. I think it's gonna tell the Mimi.

Yeah, and I think it's good to talk to a guy about it. Right, you know what's the term? You know what's the term? It's the term. You know what's the term? You know what's the term? You know what's the term? You know what's the term?

Exactly. You don't want to rush it up. But yeah, I know what you mean with the balls. I got scared. What about you Lori? Um, I love balls. I my favorite thing about well, I love the okay I should say I like the scrotum in particular. I like to Hold them and then I like when your hand is a different temperature than their balls and then the scrotum like Like moves and you can feel it moving like I get a big kick out of that Yeah, and you find that some guys, there are guys that do ask them for you gentle start gently,

or they were like, no, don't answer my balls, if you ever had that. They usually ask me to, to, you know, access their balls at some point. I go for the blow job pretty quick. I usually go for a blow job, and then I feel like, I don't know,

nine out of 10 times, I'll hear like, oh, touch your balls. Yeah, you're right, that is. That's true. That's a nice transition. Let's go into. That's a blast. Yeah, you're right. That is. That's a nice transition. Let's go into blowjups for a minute. Oh, that's. I want to know how do you guys feel about blowjups?

I love them. I love them. I really genuinely enjoy giving them. I like the feeling. I like the taste. I like the power. It's powerful, right? It's powerful. Yeah? It's powerful.

Yeah, it's fun. It's really fun. I think I might enjoy giving blow jobs more than I like receiving. Oh really? Yeah, yeah, yeah. You do the sense of clippings. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

That makes sense. Yeah, I like, yeah. Wow, that's good. Because blow jobs get you bad. Men give the women's up giving them, they don't like it or they're all under. They don't understand that. I don't either. But you were were okay. Let's move to Jennifer who's Jen. Yeah, you were married Yeah, seven years. Yeah, there's a there's a myth and maybe it's a wives tale that when you get married you start

Dream blow jobs. Oh, you sex went I mean this is sad, but it's gone. It's good Yeah, sex it just went downhill. I mean everything it just sometimes it works and you can make it work and then sometimes you become so Comfortable with someone that it's not, it goes a little- Falls by the wayside. Falls by the wayside, and then it's just like, life gets in the way. And so that's like my big focus now is like,

that's not gonna happen, with whoever I end up with next. But I do like giving blow jobs if I like the person. And I've gotten big on this thing where I like, even after he's been inside, then when he's right before he's about to come, I'll go back down and take it. Take it, come right, you're like,

they didn't come about. Yes, and it's so fucking hot. Can I say the F-word? Yeah, it's fine. Yeah, okay. And I've just, it's been something I'm like, I'm surprising myself. I'm like, oh, okay, it's powerful,

but it's also like if you like doing it and you know it feels so wonderful to them. It's like a little mission I'm going on. I'm like, here I go and I kiss my way down and then we go Wow, that's hot. Okay. Good. I like any okay. Well Kim yeah fan. Yes, yes, yes, huge fan I mean I would give them all day if I could see and I love this you guys because I have friends like no women don't I like them they lie I have friends like that too and I'm like and so we don't look at my face Exactly and I think yeah, there's a lot too, with the hygiene aspect, liking the person,

connecting with the person. I'm not just gonna suck any dick that puts his dick in my mouth. Right. Do you feel like, is it the kind of thing that you do on the first day? Yeah, totally. Sure.

If it was a good first day, sure. Yeah, what makes you good first day? It's good enough that you get to blow it out. You're connecting. Oh, I think sense of humor paid for the bill wasn't like weird about it. Like, you got the friend tries and I got the, yeah, I need to be gone. Yeah, I'm pretty glad it's a lot of stuff. I said jerk. Okay. So Lori, blow job. I do love giving blow jobs. I feel like it's almost like, I think I'm good at it.

So it's like showing off when I do it. Like are you ready for me? We're making sure you think that you're good at it. Feedback. Feedback. And there's like a group of ones that when we did the the blowjob workshop or the oral sex workshop,

and I was like watching through the PowerPoint and was like, yeah, I do all of that. Oh good. And those are all things that I can make out of it. Okay, good. Except if it's like super, super large, then I get scared, but. We gotta get into other things. Check, check, check, make it happen. Okay, good. Except if it's super, super large, then I get scared, but... We gotta get into it.

We gotta get into it. Slash me into it. I also think that if you're good at it, if you're really passionate about it, if you're into it, the guy's gonna be into it, amount of what. Because the enthusiasm is the number one thing. But I have an issue when it comes to eye contact. I never know how much to give. Just a little glance at the lunchtime.

That's the whole time. No, that's so creepy. I that's happened to me where guys like going down on me And he's like looking up at me all the time like for approval and I'm not it you know this guy, right? And I'm not I'm just not into it right. It's like too much man We always feel like it's a show at that point like yeah It's like not real because you're like how do I look do I look like I'm liking what I'm liking right? Right, right. I think you've got to give them a little firt of glances every once in a while. So I can kind of like remember in their spank bank,

I don't know. Right? Okay, so do you guys have any blowjob tricks? Like, you're, you like a go-to weird move? Just gonna ask. And I'm just gonna be like, well, no, I was gonna ask. I was like,

Yeah, anybody here, I was like, are there any cool tips? Like, I know for me, I've big lips. I like to engulf as much as I can. Let's not use those teeth. And then when I, when it's in my mouth, I'll use my tongue to swirl around. Swirl around.

So it's like a double thing. So you're getting in my mouth, but then I'm using my tongue to go around. The tip? Yeah, the tip. And the frendy lung, which is the most sensitive underside? Yeah, the underneath of the tip. Yes, that's what I read about.

Nice. OK, good. Any blow job tips that you think have worked? Well, if you are like me, this is so unsexy. Let's get on sexy for a second. Yeah, why not? If you're like me and you have acid reflux. Oh, and... Well, I like a deeper. I do like that. But I have a combination of acid reflux and post nasal drip. Oh gosh.

Here's the great thing about... Here's a great thing about post nasal drip though. There's always a little extra accumulation of fluid back pain. Oh, so you can make it. So yeah, so I'm constantly making it wet. Like there's just like, it's a never, I never get dry during blow jobs.

I can just like, there's just like this barrel of blue. That's amazing. Really, it's like number one is enthusiastic. And number two is like making sure that it's super wet and slippery. Yeah. And there's like enough pressure. Yeah, exactly.

So we got it with the wet. The wet can be hard for me. Sometimes I just like to take more water, lube. Yeah, lube. But I don't like tasting lube. But there's some good tasting lube. Don't they have like really cherry ones on something? Well, I have one little one that sometimes it's like my magic trick that I'll pull. Oh, magic trick, a magic blowjob trick.

So I think it's kind of like interesting and maybe I don't even know because obviously I've never had a blowjob, but I've actually taken my finger and put it inside the corner of my mouth and kind of swirled my fingertip around while it's- Oh, you're back up. You're giving a blowjob? No. His penis is your mouth. Yeah, and then I'll take my finger and then kind of touch the tip with my finger.

Just to create a different sense. We're all doing this. We get different. Just to create a different sensation on him. Like not on the M. Sorry. Well, it's in my mouth, but it goes like this and then I touch a little bit on the side with my finger. Does this make sense? That is genius. I'm doing it right now. It's pretty hot. I don't know. Is how far in is he and then you're feeling it? You know, like the whole head is in, but then my fingertip is kind of swirling around a little because it just creates a different sensation.

Yeah, that's what you want to do. You want to do your next thing, yes. Exactly. It's the whole thing of like them, what they don't expect. Yeah. Okay, so that's a good tip. Lori, and he's good blowjob tips. Always use a hands on the shaft.

Yeah. I feel like just make sure there's coverage. And I feel like for a little while in my blow job career, I had neglected the whole suction part of it. Like I was, I was inserting and everything, but I wasn't like sucking it all, or there was no tight vacuum around it. Right, you wanna create that vacuum.

You just got me implementing that then everybody was like, you gotta think that you got a mimic like a vagina or an ass or whatever they're into and in their hand, that's the tightest you you want so if you can make your mouth create that I try to do that sometimes I don't use my hand because I work my do mouth play and I'm like oh no I'm going to it my mouth will feel like my vagina I'm going to do that. How do you do the deep throat choke? I'll do deep throat um, but it's really I mean and it's not constant Because if I do it you'll just hear lots of

Tractive and attractive to guys you think I mean I and it's not constant, because if I do it, you'll just hear lots of, and then it goes, Is that attractive to guys you think? I mean, I'm sure some people, it's just, it's made from not. Oh, she's about to choke. Yeah, I'm good. I think I'm positive. Yeah, I'm so too. I'm good with like filling up my mouth as much as I can,

but also keeping that friction, like you said, that tightness, like. Like right at the very bottom of my hands. So your mouth is going down, but you're still kind of using your hand? A little bit, like I might cut the base, but then it's just more about like with whatever I can comfortably fit in my mouth that I know feels good.

And then just, yeah, depending on the size. Like that's another thing, guys. Nipple plays something that I get into. Oh, yes. Let's. You got one hand on the shaft, mouth around penis, and then with the other hand. You're playing with those nipples.

Okay, see, I've always found this fascinating because some men are like, I feel nothing, but some guys like it. So have you fun more men or I can I actually that's the other thing I don't do that as often anymore? A couple yeah a couple guys have been really into it and they ask for it. So you do squeeze it do you? No, I mean I like I'll wrap around it. I'll wrap around it yeah and I'll kind of like tap it lightly because it's very sensitive. It is. And like nipples get erect during for men nipples get erect during during sex stuff for women My I feel like my boobs get like a cup size bigger. Yeah, no, it's true. You get you get you do

I don't know what science is behind this. That's true like like our boobs Yeah, they can they take that when you're turned on your your nipples swell and all that Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, so yeah, that's fun. Okay, little devil play there. Um, what about? But stuff like let's get into the well like I guess so I mean I don't mean to have such a direct segue but when you're giving a blowjob there are some people that I know that are who have said oh yeah my husband or so and so likes when I touch his asshole a little bit right how do you get into that without being like okay that's a great question okay so right, because a lot of guys,

they really believe that if they have any anal play, anything in their butt whatsoever, it'll make them gay, let's say if they're a straight man, that they won't like it, but a lot of the fear comes to like, it's gay, it's not right, there's something taboo about it, which we all know anal sex is taboo across the board. However, there is like the male prostate,

which they call like the male g-spot, and I'm telling you, not every man, but many However, there is like the male prostate, which they call like the male G spot, and I'm telling you, not every man, but many men, they do, they do like that. Like you put a finger in, but you don't want to just go right in. So like what I just tell men too about anal sex with women is that you never just want to like, stick it in. You got to play, so what I say is like, use some lube. I'm a huge, you guys have lube fans.

Like, yeah, yeah, yeah. My dream is like, lube on every night stand in the world. That you just take a little lube, maybe, make sure you can, you know, put your fingers wet and then you just start like rubbing around it with your finger, like, around his anus, maybe when you're giving a blowjob and just see how he reacts.

Then you can just start like tapping up into it with your finger. And then if he doesn't like, freak out, then you can just kind of like stick a finger in. See how it feels. You know, see if he goes, ah, you know. But I think that a lot of guys are kind of like into it, and sometimes you do it right before they come.

But you never want to surprise them, I'd wait just stick the finger. What's been your experience, Kim? Because you were nodding over there knowingly. What? This experience just last week. So, yeah. She had anal sex just in preparation for the show.

All right. Look at students. But no, with the whole like touching, like during like the blow job thing, and it wasn't even like something I had to ask. I just slowly made my way there and did some of that tapping and touching, but definitely with Lou,

because it's not even cool, there's hair and it gets kind of gnarly. So it made it nice and easy and smooth, and I mean, he went crazy. It was amazing. And then this is when you were blowjob giving him blowjob? Yeah, it was. Yeah.

And did you stick a finger in her? I didn't go in because he's kind of new and I just kind of felt like that was crossing a line. Maybe I wanted to get to know. Yeah, you just know better. You don't just think Russian today, you know what I mean? Some people do, but you know. But it was still like really hot.

I know it really turned him on. And I definitely know it made his orgasm like way hard. Yeah, you put a finger and there's some men have like it's like the best orgasms for even even rubbing the pranium. You know you should be careful with hygiene. I have a story from a long time ago with with fingering a man's asshole. Okay. And I just don't because some dudes are just and this isn't just dudes with this could be anybody like you got to prepare for that. Yeah. You can't just go to a sizzler and then let's meet up later

and I'm gonna stick a finger in your asshole because I'll throw up. Like, I can't do it. So I don't know, it's like this whole kind of setup of like, you wanna make sure everyone's clean and comfortable with what's about to happen, but then you don't wanna be like, I can't wait to stick a finger in your ass tonight.

Like, you can't, so it's just, I feel like there's a lot of little. What was the bad experience? I, he, so I, yeah, yeah, I stuck it in and he loved it. He would love when I did it and I was like, okay, that's fine. And then too many times, it was just like, I take out my finger and I was like, I'm going to throw in your nail. Yes, I had to scrub off my finger and like soak it like a shoe, like a shoe that stepped

and dogged it. It was disgusting. I don't like that. Wait, this is a note who is ever listening. Just pay a little extra attention to your asshole if you think something might happen. Right. And your junk by the way. Yeah, you're drunk.

So you say clean junk. They're both. Yeah, I'm into clean balls. I also think this is just a personal opinion. Shouldn't guys be like shaving their balls? Okay, well let's talk about that. What about grooming a man? I go.

I think that's just should be like a standard. They shave their balls on that. I don't even notice they do. I just don't like hairy balls. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. It's gross. Yeah, yeah, I know what you mean. I feel similarly, but here's the thing.

I don't like fully shaved balls. I like for there to be a little bit of hair. But I don't, and then honestly, it's the same way that I feel about people here and women too. I don't really want, yeah, I don the same way that I feel about pubic hair and women, too. I don't really, I don't want to look like I'm nine years old. No, me neither. I don't.

I like there being a little bit of a landing strip, a little bit. I mean, I don't worry guys, I get up there and I shave that push. Do not worry. Right, good. But there's a little, but I leave a little landing strip. I like that and guys too. I like a little. That's so hard to landings.

I don't know if it's like, oh, lazy. It's too hard. It's too hard. Yeah, it's work. Because I got a laser to like most of it's off, but I left the landing strip because the bush came back and I'm like, then I have nothing because it's all gone. So then I still get this little bit but I'm not really good at crafting it.

So I'm gonna shave it off. No, I'm very bad at crafting it. But I think it's like a, like, it's bad. But I think it's like, we're doing it. And I think as women, a lot of women, there's this, like, this idea or this pressure or this, like, social thing to like, keep your vagina clean and trim. And I feel like the same should go for men. If you're gonna like, you know, thanks for kissing and touching

and doing this and look what I've done to respect my body. Right. You just spend $100,000 on a baby. Yeah. Yeah. Just like different. Yeah. And I feel like the same way. Like men should just step it up and trim and just, you know, or gender pubic hair and their ball hair. Yeah, and I don't even think that men even really realize that how much better sex feels when it's all smooth because it does for me. That's true. The smoother it is, the better it feels.

And I think that they might not even realize like all the benefits of the fingers and the tongue and all the other sensory experiences going on. Right, when you move the hair, that's actually good points. Yeah, feels totally good point. What do you think? I like pubic hair. I don't know. I like a full facial beard also.

And I feel like for the same reason, I don't like to see, like I appreciate it to be trimmed. Because you know when you're like blowing someone who gets like in your nose, eyes or whatever. I don't like there to be like too much trimming or shape. I agree. I like it. Don't be too much trimming or shape. I agree. I like it. You don't bring a landscape.

Just clean up. Yeah. It's clean up. It's clean up. It's clean up. It's clean up. It's clean up. It's clean up.

It's clean up. It's clean up. It's clean up. It's clean up. It's clean up. It's clean up. It's clean up. It's clean up.

It's clean up. It's clean up. It's clean up. It's clean up. It's clean up. It's clean up. It's not as cute as above the clitoris, so I won't take that off because it just hurts the most. I could have every other area. About the beard thing, though, by the way, the sensation of having a guy go down on you when he has a beard, I love. Yeah, me too. I love. Yeah, I can love a little scarf. But not if it's too newly scruffy, that could be- It has to be so much.

It has to be like a little less chic. It's just going out and out to the grocery store. I don't know, I kind of like it a little. A little? A little? I see they're all different. I've gotten beard rash down there, though. Yeah. I've had to do A&D ointment for a lot of days, right. I like it a little. I like it a little. I like it a little. I've gotten beard rash down there. That's like, do A&D ointment for a lot of days.

I bet that's right. Yeah. I blocked it. Okay, so that was good about balls, man-scaping. Okay, when we come back, we're gonna get hardcore anal. But I have to just take a moment here to talk about some of the people that we love in this show

that help keep the show free and exciting. Let's get into anal, you guys. Because I feel like when I started my show, it was always like, I thought that I feel like it was the last 10 years even. It was always like, blow jobs, whatever. But anal, like with porn and everything, I just feel like everyone wants to talk about anal, but a lot of people are also confused and intimidated about anal sex. So what's been your experience with the anal sex? Oh, I might reveal myself to be the most inexperienced, actually.

I've never had anal. Okay. I've had some fingers up there, which I don't mind. But I've never, I think it didn't really enter into my world until after, like, probably in the last maybe three years has been a thing that people are really talking about. And it's never kind of naturally come up in conversation with guys that I dated prior to that. Oh, because they weren't even, they weren't like, hey baby, I learned. No, no, no, and like the last year, it's been definitely more prominent.

Okay. With fingers and so forth. But I've never had full, now I would. I told you I would. It's not something that I'm dying to have because of the poop issue that we discussed. Yeah, but I also, well I poop a lot though. So I just taught an anal sex workshop.

Oh yeah. No, but I did, and I really think that so many people are interested in learning about it because they are very confused by how to keep clean. Do you do animas? And I was like, no, animas. You don't wanna buy an animate in the store,

but you could do a water animal. Just by the end of the thing, the squeezy thing, and just put warm water in it. And you flush through three times, and it would just make sure that you're ready and you're not worried about the poop thing. Sure. Because before that, I always said,

just don't have a large, don't go out from Mexican food in a vein. But really, you've got to make sure that you're emptied out and that is a way to end. To me, it feels like a new frontier of intimacy. I have yet to find the person that I really want to be. No, right, no, it's a big thing. It is a big thing.

There's a lot of taboo, there's a lot of intimacy. It's like a lot of people emotionally, just someone going in your ass. Totally. You're like there, you're like, intimate. So, okay, what about you, Jen? Well, I have, A, I like a good going in your ass, like you're like there, you're like, you're like, you're like, you're like, so okay, what have you done? Well, I have, A, I like a good finger in my butt,

but not, we don't need to shoot it up there real quick and just go hard. No, it never should be, right? It should be like, I almost just prefer like, when I'm on top, just like you can touch it and just put it in a little bit, like a little like warm going into a hole. But I like that, and so it's made me want to do more anal stuff.

I've done anal once and it lasted like two minutes and I was very drunk on tequila. And it felt like a reversal poop. It felt like poop was going back in because like you know the feeling when you poop and the poop comes out, it felt like the poop was going back in and I was like what's happening? This is the wrong route.

You know, I mean, it just felt weird and rushed and not the best experience, but I'd be down. Well, that's okay. So what I want to say to you is that it's so common that women, like anal sex just gets a bad rap because a lot of people just don't know what they're doing. And first time experiences for many women is that they're with the partner, they're drunk.

This I always say is the right structure. They're drunk. The guy just puts sticks in and without prep, because prep takes you gotta warm or repy, one of your fingers, you wanna make sure she's relaxed and use lots of lube. Like when I say lots of lube, like you can just keep pouring on the lube.

And so when we have an experience with I just shove it in its paintball because we're probably, we're so nervous, we clench. Yeah. Well that's the worst thing you can do when you're having, you're like scared. So you gotta make sure that you're really relaxed, that they've already started to do

a little massage or ironiness, play with some fingers, lub, and you just gotta keep breathing and breathing, and make sure that he goes in slow. But so many women don't know this, or guys don't know this, and then they're like, it was horrible for a time I'll never do again, so I'm here on the planet, so people can try this and maybe have a good experience next time, what about you Kim?

Well, looks like I'm the anal slut here today. I love it. Everyone needs anal slut. OK. No, not like the series. I know. I mean, your slut. I think it's my age.

I've had maybe more partners. But actually, I don't even think I really got into it or even enjoyed it or got much out of it until maybe in my early 30s, because it was kind of weird and when I was younger or whatever. But definitely it's something that I like to share with somebody that I'm really into. I like to feel really safe and comfortable. It's not like, hey, let's just hook up and have anal tonight.

It's definitely something that I think is very exciting when it's kind of spontaneous. And it's actually, once you get into it, it's like, I mean, it's so good. You wore a hat? No, no, no. Well, no, but I get really turned on, especially like if they're like, yeah. Because they're so good on too. Yeah, and especially if you're touching your clip

while they're at back there. And there's just so many things like, you just, I don't know, it definitely takes things to the next level. So what positions do you like for anal cells? I'm just like, you know, like the guy behind is obviously like probably works the best but I've actually been on top before too. Right. And like squatting and like facing, you know,

away. Yeah like a first call girl. Yeah anal. Which is super hot too. But just like you said Emily, you have to like start out with just like the tip and then you have to breathe and then you have to like really go you have to like inch your your way in like very slowly because it's kind of painful the beginning it feels like yeah but that's right but if you breathe and you go slow then it's almost like you guys breathe together like if you breathe in and then when you breathe out he puts a little more so it's like you're really like synchronized I mean it sounds a lot more difficult but if you just do that and you're relaxed and you keep breathing it actually is a lot less painful and it can feel really amazing.

I don't know what you're saying. It just sounds like intimate and wonderful. I know, but I wanna do something. It's not going to have anal tonight and then go out for drinks. It's already after. Lori, where do I go? I've had a lot of anal.

Oh, good. Always in a serious relationship because I think being able to prep for it is really important. I like to have a shower. I have done water animas when I was nervous about what meals I had had that day. And it is really intimate.

So I have to have someone that I know is gonna listen to me when I say no that hurts or whatever. The first time I did it, I was really drunk and on my period. It was like, it's just used the other hole, you know? I was like, you're like innovative thinker. Right, right. And I was so drunk that at the time I was like, it was just use the other hole, you know? I feel like innovative thinker, right? And I was so drunk that like, at the time I was really into it

and I woke up like it kind of became an ex-state because I didn't do it right. And then the next relationship that I did it in, we took every step and every precaution to make it feel good and like I was psyching myself into having it feel good then one time we did it and I was on top, like normal cowgirl, and it just like felt amazing. It was like, oh man, this is the first time I've ever done it

that it feels, I think better for me than it's feeling for you. Wow, see? I haven't chasing that. I haven't seen that. Chasing that anal hive. You will get it again, I promise. It's fun, sure.

But that's the thing about sex is that, you know, that you, we do get so limited the way we think that we can enjoy that sex. about sex is that, you know, that you, we do get so limited to the way we think that we can enjoy sex. And my whole purpose, you know, on the planet is to some people that it can expand and grow. And I actually, there's, our bodies have so many nerve endings that feel really good that we don't even know about.

And they can constantly get better your sex life and expand and grow and have different sensations all the time, which I love. So you guys, okay, so anal, any other tips for anal that we cover that juice don't? I mean, how about like toys with anal? Yeah, toys butt plugs or vibrates. Or you can use, yeah, you can use your vibrator

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anal, anal, anal, anal, anal, anal, anal, anal, and have different sensations all the time, which I love. So you guys, okay, so anal, you've tried it? I was, yeah, no, for sure. So you think, that's what I was thinking about starting. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I would start there either a toy or something that just kind of preps my butthole for future use. Yeah, it'll be, it's right. Well, there's anal, okay, so butt plugs. Here's another great thing for,

I could go back to masturbation from it. If you're not used to having anything in your butt, there's some great butt plugs that you can get, like silicone butt plugs, and that you could, there's different sizes, there's all different stuff, and you just use a little lube when you're masturbating next time.

And just try sticking it in and seeing how that feels. You get used to the sensation of having something inside you. It's great, it's a great warm up, and it's a great way to just know how you like it. And a lot of who wear butt plugs, like if they don't want to have anal sex set with someone or just, you know, and mix it up, they'll wear it during sex, butt plug.

You wear, you wear, so you keep it in the whole time. Yeah, you can keep it in, you can wear it during four play. I've put anal beads before, actually. I remember this now. Oh, we're at top of you like that. And it was, it's really wonderful when you're right before you're about to come,

like I was on top, and we used anal beads. Which are little beads that go in, and you pull it out, you feel the, and it's just a sensation of just like, it at the same time which is so important timing of course And it was like he came as I came and we and then he as he pulled the little beanie out and I was like oh my god Wow, I said you know, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's really hot. I think you should do it tonight Let's you in a way. What point did you put the beads in before? Yeah, before.

Yeah, like so, like as we're starting to fuck or I'm on top, we lubed up the beads, I believe I remember. There wasn't like a long string, it wasn't a pearl that went down, you know, it wasn't six yards. Right. But um, and then we put them in, just not even all of them, just a few of them in me. And then right before I was like, I'm gonna come and then he took them out. And that kind of helped me come.

That's a thing too. This is a tip for I think most men, I don't know if they know. If you are willing to touch a girl's asshole, you know, it's clean, it's good. Maybe she's on top, you're grabbing her ass. Touch her asshole if she's about to come and she will come. Like to me, it's the cherry on the,

like if I'm like, oh, there, oh no, there it goes. Oh yeah, it's just like an activation button. Right, or how about spanking your ass? Oh, I love spanking. I love being spanked so much. I love, I like hand prints on my ass. Next day, what the hell? Love it.

Right. I don't know. But sometimes, I love your delivery. It was very strong and powerful. You know, I think that spanking and touching your bum, I think these kinds of things, actually what they do for me is they bring me my mind wanders when I'm having sex and they make you more present. Yeah. It brings you back into like what's happening with the person because I

think I'm guilty. My mind wanders and thinking about like things I have to do or whatever, not that I'm not enjoying it. Right. But it all really snaps you back into reality and then you're like wow, this is like a really happening. And that can push you over the edge to have your orgasm. Yeah, I'm just like a little different. I'm expecting it. What do you think, Lori? I like to play this submissive role in bed.

So I'm totally into being spanked. And also with anal sex, I feel like I'm totally submitting. Like this, I could get hurt if someone were to, you know, be too rough with me. That's sexy. That's hot to me. Yeah. Do you ever use handcuffs or any sort of like,

I've never used tie-ups. I've been tied up once, but it was kind of like, we're both laughing about it. That never, ever really went successfully. I like being tied up. Yeah. It's happened a few times actually. It's like blindfolds together.

I like it, yeah. And there's so many great things. You don't need like, like the handcuffs. No. They like velcro Yeah, and there's so many great things, you don't need like the handcuffs, they like velcro ones, they bonded shape, it's really easy. I have these restraints, cause I get all this substance to be. And so I have these restraints that are just live under my bed, as my sports sheets.

And they just live under my bed, they're both sides there for hands, and for what you can't see on my housekeeper comes and they're like, and I have a flung on the top of my bed. But they're always there, like I always have restraints. I have to say I haven't used them enough. But do you use them on the guy or do you live? No, I'm submiss floor, I got a tuck of her teeth. But they were always there, like I always have restraints. I have to say I haven't used them enough. But do you use them on the guy or do you like?

No, I'm submissive at that. I would, I would. I haven't had a chance. I think there's men that like to be reshure. Oh for sure. A lot of men like to. Do you guys ever had experience where you dominated a man? Yes, yeah, yeah.

And tell me about that. Oh God, let me think if I can, I mean, I enjoy like, I'm kind of a smaller person, smaller, little, like a spinner. Yeah, yeah, a total spinner. So I like climbing on a I enjoy like, I'm kind of a smaller person, smaller, really. You're little, like a spinner. Yeah, yeah, a total spinner. So I like climbing on a guy and like, just like, spraying all of his legs and arms out, and then telling him what to do,

and telling him like, you can't use your arms, you can't use your hands, you can't use your legs right now, just deal with it. And then like, having my way with him, just like, licking where I want to lick. And, and like, he can't touch his dick either, so like sticking it in when I'm ready for it. And like kind of grabbing his face and like slapping a little bit.

That, I don't like to be slapped, but I will like lightly slap a guy. And if you were to guy be like, oh, I don't want that or they're like, whoa. I mean, no, yeah. No, well, who would you react to? You look at Ali's healthy and never- I'll do fucking whatever you want to time me up and stick something in my banana and my butt. No, don't stick a banana in your butt. Don't do that.

Okay, so what about fantasy? When you guys are masturbating, do you guys think about some things when you're masturbating and so what kind of things do you fantasize about? I think my thing that I've noticed, and I've been more open especially since we've started doing our show, you just kind of, and also as you've gotten older, like you said, you just become more comfortable in what you like and being open about it. And I'm really into, I can't fantasize or watch or think

about like a dude fucking a girl. It's like, well, that happens to me. That's a real thing. So I'm really big on girl and girl, even though I've never gone down on a girl or gone all the way with a girl, I've done some stuff but nothing crazy. And then, gay sex watching two men.

That's a lot of people. I really love it. So, comment those are the two most common for women is gay sex and women are watching women. You know, women always email the kids and they be gay, I'm like, no, just what turns you on. It's beautiful, seeing two women together. Yeah. Yeah, what do you about, you, kids don't lie.

I'm not the guy thing, I've never been into that. I saw it this morning. Gay porn? Yeah, I mean, as a woman, I just thought that just, I I saw it some this morning. Yeah, I mean as a woman I just thought that just I mean does nothing for me right, but it's very yeah, it's cool I know it's so common. That's like yeah, but yeah, that's so amazing. You know, I just cheat every time I just cheat a porn what do you kind of porn do you watch everything like what like how do you know when you go to you to Weep porn or whatever I just kind of see like what's new, what's streaming,

it doesn't even take long. It's just like I just cheat. I just need that. I need the visual stimulation. I can't just like. You're not crazy. I'm gonna see up in my head. Laura, he's like, I got some fart out of it.

I think about almost exclusive. All right, so try not to get weirded out. But I almost exclusively think about women I know. Oh wow. Wow. That you got even. Wow, that you know. Thank you.

Like having sex with one of the women that I know in my life. Not necessarily that I'm attracted to or anything. It's just I've gone through all of them. Like, have you been with the woman before? Yes. OK. So I'd say I'm like 35% gay. Oh.

So I got this. I don't know. I also like gravity. I was like, I don't know. I was only like, gravity. I was not on your resume now. We've talked about everything. I gravitate towards men. I've never been with a woman.

I've wanted to. No, I mean, I've never been in a relationship with a woman. But you've hooked up with them. I've hooked up with a woman and had flirtation dating situations with women, but not as often, or as successfully, as with men. But when masturbating, I'll even go into it trying to think about a guy that I know

and it'll switch at the end to a girl that I know. Just, I don't think about women that I know, but I love boobs. And I love thinking about boobs. I like looking at pictures of boobs. And when I look at porn, it's all about women with big tits. Big real tits, ideally.

But I don't know. And I've never been with a woman and I don't. Do you want to be with a woman you think that whole? Is that the bucket list? I wouldn't say no, but I don't like, I don't know what I, I don't know what to do with vaginas. I know. Do you just gotta get down there and get into it?

Well, you do know, because you have one. I do, that's true. Oh, but you don't love a man before, and I'll sex and you see you. Well, I like it, but I don't, I think that I enjoy giving more than I can. It's funny, once you get to the vagina, it was like, I've been with a few of that, a few of them,

I've dabbled. You just kinda know, I don't know. It's like riding a bike, no I'm kidding. It's not the same thing. Cause I never did before, but like you have a vagina, it's really cool. I kinda know. I don't think you're gonna know,

if I had to curl your hair, because you can curl hair, I can curl your hair, I'm gonna, stupid. But no, vaginas, you kinda get it. Yeah, I mean, yeah, a few times. I'm like, oh, okay, I think I can just get it, right? Yeah, like what you would want. Yeah, cause you know what I want. Yeah,, I'm like, oh, okay, I think I can just get it right?

Yeah, like what you would want. Yeah, because you know what I want. Yeah, like I just think about when someone's going down on me, how do I like it? Yeah, I just would do that. Right, right. And I usually let them go first. Oh really? So that I can see like what their style is and then I'll just copy.

I'll just mimic it. Okay, so what is the, so we're talking about fantasy, and then I wanna know what is, what is the one thing that a guy can do? Is there anything that's your go-to that will turn you on every time? Like if he nipples your neck,

or if he do love oral sex, does he have to talk dirty, anything? There's a couple things to me. One is anything in my neck, ear area. It is such an erogenous things to me. One is anything in my neck ear area. It is such an arrogant of stone for me. And that's why I like, I actually like doggie style a lot because the guy's behind you and he's just like kind of whispering

or like licking that area. I mean, it just, that turns me on a lot. I would say that. And then also like licking my nipples, not doing anything hard to them, not squeezing. Don't fight them. No. I don't even like squeezing, I don't like pinching, I don't like any of it.

It almost makes me nauseous when someone overly pinches my nipples. It's almost, it makes me nauseous. Yeah, weird. Rubbing is so tantalizing. Yeah, rubbing and rubbing nipples. Like going around circles, feeling, it's great, again, another great place to have loop.

Yes. Yeah. Okay, so that's a have lube. Yes. Yeah. Yes. Okay, so that's a big turn on nipples. Anything else for you guys? The one big turn on? I think ears is a big thing. Like, that little like, that breathy-esque.

I love that. I love that. I love that. I love that. I love that. I love that. I love that. I love that.

I love that. I love that. I love that. I love that. I love that. I love that'm really into that. You think that's just something I just like it. I like when it's, I like eye contact. And sometimes you gotta force yourself because you're like closing those eyes and you're trying to get there or you've been with someone for a while.

And I'm just, I'm really trying to learn like, no, I'm going to look at you and you're gonna look into me and like, we're in each other right now. The whole time, you mean, at some point during sex? Oh yeah, at some point during sex. Not like, I'm staring at like, I'm like a murderer. But like, yeah. Yeah. But Dirtat, I agree.

I think Dirtat, what do you think with Dirtat? I love it, love it, love it, love it. But I have to answer the question that we were talking about. Yeah, thanks a lot. I, things that turn me on. I really love it when I'm like totally like in it, like having sex and like we're like, he's in me

and we're like going at it. And I love like mixing it up and I like him to go down on me to break it up. So like we're doing it and then he's like going down on me because it just gets so overstimulated that like brings me to like, it heightens my orgasms too. So you like, okay, oral sat when he goes down on you. And can you, well, we're having sex.

Like he stops and he goes down, he stops. Yeah, that's awesome. Yeah, that's like amazing. Longer you can go down to me and prolong it, take breaks, I don't care but come back. It builds it for me. It allows me to build like my whole orgasm. Right. And that's what sex should be about building the orgasm, building the arousal.

I really, yes. It's totally second the ear thing. Like the ear thing is huge for me. But I also hair pulling and ask grabbing. I mean, we'll always get there. But it's all those nerve endings. And here's the thing about the neck. We all said this.

The neck is one of the top origin zones for my am for women. There's a lot of nerve endings there. So that's why it feels so good. And don't you feel have you had this experience when you're with someone at the beginning and they do it like once or twice and then they just like forget about your neck? Oh, yeah, I hate that.

You're like, can you just kiss my neck? Yeah. I feel like I'm gonna put like a little bull tie here. Like forget about your neck. Oh yeah, I hate that. Can you just kiss my neck? They actually go in for like a little bullet tie here, like kiss the neck. That happens a lot in general. I think it's about trying to like, keep it fresh because it will, it will never, I mean, it's like a psychological study that after the first three months,

a lot of things can fall by the wayside or it can get monotonous and just like. Biology, two after a year, you're in a half. It's like, you're bonded, the oxytocin, all of that. And then after all this takes the dive and you got to, that's why a couple have to work on bringing it back up. This is why I don't have relationships.

I have. No, I'm teasing. No, I get it. But it's exciting. The new, the newness of sex is, you know, there's nothing quite like that. You don't get that. But the thing about being with someone in the community

is that you just, that it's fun. I always say that sex is fun. Like work on a way to keep connecting and changing it up and trying different things. Okay, do you answer your big question? Yeah, yeah, yeah, hair puller, not for that. Okay, so what up turn off? Like is there anything a guy, everything's going great

and he does something and you're like, oh, Uber, you know? Oh, man, I gotta think about this. During kissing, if you rush, and if you keep your tongue stiff, you know, like a pencil kisser. Yeah, like a dart. Kissing so poor to me, you're like licking to,

just like I like it to be wet, but like you can really screw up. I have a similar to that is one time I did this guy who would finger me, but his way of fingering was to insert his finger and then just leave it there. I call him dead finger. That is guys, when I love being fingered. Like to me, one of the sexiest things is being fingered under a table or at a bar and

probably by the way, that's something I also like. Oh, public sex. Public sex, love it. So, like that kind of... Yeah, by the way, that's something I also like. Oh, public sex. Public sex, love it. So, so like that kind of, yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So that like kind of like, you know, getting finger, when you shouldn't be getting finger, it is great. But the worst thing you can do is just fucking stick it out there and then not.

It's like a turkey for my hair. It's so bizarre. You're like, what? Shake it around. Shake it around, something. Turn off. I'm like, I think that's such an individual thing. It is, that's one thing. Okay. Okay. No. I guess I'm gonna try to plead so do we all like orals or all sex performance?

Oh man, I had a guy that like I call him Big Dick's he had a big dick But so that's a good big day to remember him big dick was like I was like, why don't you go down to me like I and he's like I don't do that and I was like why what do you mean like, I don't do that. And I was like, why? What do you mean? You don't do that. He's like, trust me, you won't need it. I'm like, no, trust me. I do need it already.

Oh, he was awful. Guys, do you ever find it? So you were oral sex performance? You can't live it. But I just had this happen recently where this guy was like, I was like, OK, my turn. And he was like, no. And I was like, what are you kidding me?

I was like so turned on. You're like, this wasn't a yes or no. And he was kind of like, well, my turn. And he was like, no. And I was like, what are you kidding me? I was like so turned on. You're like, this wasn't a yes or no. And he was kind of like, well, I like to do that with girls and I'm like, seeing or dating. And I'm like, you're already giving me like, you just saw my whole body. What the hell, you know?

But yeah, I don't, we messed around. But I was still expecting it because it seemed so normal to me these days. It's just like kissing somebody, like go down on me. Like if you're, if you're getting intimate and taking off your clothes, I think you should be having oral sex. I mean, come on. Well, yeah, yeah.

Where are you guys like oral sex? I like oral sex. I think it's good. I don't need it done for an hour and a half. Like I get in my head, my head goes in my element and that's just my brain. So I like it, but then it's for me, it's more just for play until we're ready to do it.

That's how I, that's how I I feel because I love leading up to penetration. Right. Because we also don't want to go right we sometimes do want to quickly but typically we need something. So as far as oral sex since we're all pretty much fans although you say yeah I do like it. I just think I'm just giving it. So is there one tip you think that guys if you could tell men in the world a big message right now from you to guys, what is the one thing that you wish they knew about oral sex? Or it can even be, if you don't have any answer, that can be about sex in general. I think that for, I mean, maybe it's just my body or what I love, but I don't really

get a lot of satisfaction from oral sex unless he's touching my g-spot. Okay, with two fingers, one thing. One or two, depending on how big his fingers are, I guess. But there has to be some pressure on my g-spot while he's like licking like... Okay, otherwise you won't have an oral sex. I mean, no, absolutely not. No, I'm totally opposite. Yeah.

Like, if I'm, I really love getting oral sex, but it's almost like if I'm about to come and he'll put fingers in me me it'll stop my orgasm. Cause it'll like bed of nails effect, I guess like split the sensation. Yeah, I agree. See, it's to everyone, but I've talked about it. So that's why guys, when you call the girls, I think I'm bed at oral sex

cause my recent girlfriend can't come. I'm like, cause cause your last girlfriend, like a certain way, we're gonna show you right now that we are all different. So what about you, Jen? Oh no, that's the same. I, that recently has happened

where it was clitor, it's the same. That recently has happened where it was clitorial stimulation with the tongue. And it's like a nice swirling motion. Not just like use your tongue and find the clip and really use some sort of swirling motion to activate it and to start to make it feel good. Don't just go down there and lick it like it's a cone. Like that to me, that's not eating out.

That's not oral sex to me. And then I also like one or two fingers, which hasn't always happened. And then as a recently, I was like, whoa, oh! And it just, it was another. In the vagina. And the vagina is like, but it like,

deeply going in there. See, I was gonna say what I like about oral sex is, it's when a guy's- You're the kegel girl. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So the deeper he can go in with his tongue The more I like it and almost like drawing out the juices that sounds gross Oh, no, but that's like that kind of come hither thing where he's like like lapping you up

I mean that I love like a guy with a long tongue. I love I wish do they ever say that dating sites like I'm six or like went to Princeton I've got my tongue is 4.5 inches. I wish they would, I think that a long tongue is underrated. I've never even thought about it. I just think if they're good or not, I'm like maybe you're a really stubby tongue. Yeah, you might, yeah.

Yeah, I actually always want to know what how do I do it, am I doing it right? And I always say that goes slower than you think because guys are gonna go right to it. And if we are sensitive, I like when guys tease, like you're in your thighs and they take their time. Like the ideal situation is that I think that we were begging for over one at least.

I feel like lay off the clip for like the first three minutes. Oh, at least. Don't be. At least. Yeah. Also ask, guys, like if you're down there and you're kissing my vagina, then we're in a moment together. So feel, have that confidence, which I think is a real turn

on in general, is confidence to be like, what do you like? What do you want, how might, like, you know, and make it sexy, but like, do you like what I'm doing? I don't know, like, talk about it. Talk about it. Have you guys ever, is there ever been a way that you communicate like you thought, go ahead, this guy's never going to work, he's bad kisser, or he's bad this, but then you had to talk and then it turned around the sex life, or is just like, oh, he was, tell me.

Dude, I had my, it was my boyfriend and he, I felt like when we were kissing, he would never open his mouth enough. Like it was like he was tight mouth. Like I couldn't get in there. I didn't know. I'm not Charlie. Yeah, dick hairy.

Yeah. French friend. French friend comes back. Like in a totally neutral setting, I was like, hey, why do you kiss like this? And he's like, oh, I just have like an insecurity about my breath. I'm like, dude, your breath you kiss like this? And he's like, oh, I just have like an insecurity about my breath. I'm like, dude, your breath's fine.

It was always fine. It's never been alarming to me. Not fine. And then after that, it just started opening his mouth. And it changed everything. It changed everything. Great, that's good, see. I had no idea.

I thought that's just how we kissed. Why do you think you like pull my breath? To your mouthwash. Maybe he had someone telling me that. Yeah, at one point, like he was traumatized or something. But yeah, it's a good story. It's a good story, because it can turn around. We were gonna say something? No.

Okay, I have a question. I guess I've ever had a threesome. Oh, no, no, and I've been thinking recently that maybe that I would be into it. Okay. And the reason is because of this boob thing, because I'm like, if I like boob so much, but I know that I love a dick, so why don't I be?

Why don't I have boob's a dick? Why don't I have both? Right, it's a sure thing with a threesome. Because then it's like, I know that I love dick. So why don't I- Why don't I have boobs and dick? Why don't I have both? Right, it's a sure thing with a gaff. Yeah. Because then it benefits, like, I know what to do with a dick, and then I, like, can maybe play around with boobs and see what happens.

No, expectations. You can play around and see how it goes. But I do have this concern. I think I'm very, very selfish. Like, in bed, I want all the attention on me. Right. So I don't actually, that's been a bit of a turnoff for me when I think about three sums.

I'm like, ah, I don't like, and I think as a result, I don't think that I could have a three sum with anybody that I'm in a relationship with or that I care a lot about. I think it has to be somebody that I'm a friend of and somebody that I like, but not somebody that I am super emotionally connected to because seeing a guy that I'm emotionally connected to having stuff with somebody else. That's true. I mean, typically the best three sums are, or my best threesome experience in this also is conferred by other people is that when it's been someone

that I know, me and casually dating, we're not committed and there's another woman and like there's no feelings and there's no, yeah. There's feelings, I like the guy enough to sleep with them, but I'm not like we're together, we're about a third of it. It's like we're all on a touch, but we came together for this beautiful night of threesomes. Okay, threesome.

Yes. But with two guys. Oh, Three. Okay, three some. Yes. Okay. But with two guys. Oh nice. Oh yeah. Oh yeah. I recommend it. Yeah.

No, it's on my list. What do they do to each other? Nothing. It was all about me. Okay, that is what I mean. That is what I mean. That is what I mean. Well, I like a dick though.

So maybe I just go, you know, don't eat. A dick's on parade. Did you just want to do a steak? I know I would do it, but I'm very big on what you just go, you know, don't be these. It's a joke, I'm afraid. Did you just say, I know I would do it, but I'm very big on what you just said, which is the idea that like it would be casual, it would be respectful and friendly,

but I don't know if I fall for somebody, if I could see them fucking around. It's really hard to write. I mean, I'm cool, I'm not that cool. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I've never had a threesome. I had a little bit of a lesbian orgy in sixth grade, but I've never, yeah, it was not best a little bit of a lesbian orgy in sixth grade, but I've never yeah, it was not best quote of

this Orgy is great up like it was it was nuts, but having an adult threesome is definitely my When you're out of middle school, right? Yeah, it's definitely probably one or two on my bucket list like I really would like to so hard to find is it? I don't know. What kind of a Lori manifest tonight, you'll have a three-subit, what's a dynamic do you want? You want another guy?

I would like another girl. Okay, okay. Or maybe two other girls, I don't know. Oh, right. Yeah, three girls, right, because you're 35% like that. Right, learn ourselves. Maybe if we go to 45,

but get into the month, then what's gonna happen? Okay, you guys, I think we gotta wrap this up. We got it all in. You guys are great. Thank you so much for being here. This was a dream. We're gonna have you back. I think we gotta wrap this up. We got it all in. You guys are great. Thank you so much for being here. This was a dream.

We gotta have you back. I think I kind of asked this, but there is one last question. And I kind of said, is there any one thing, I guess I just said about men, that you just think that if you could talk to every men, I was saying about oral sex, but is there anything that you just wish that men, you think that's very misunderstood over and over again

by men sexually? I mean, we've talked about this a bit at Lady Freak and I think it was during the show that you are on Emily where the men are just so, they're able to so easily disconnect emotionally after sex. And for women, it is, at least in my experience, it is much harder. It is especially if they're like actual deep feelings involved.

So I would just caution men to be cognizant of that, to be aware of the emotional side of that. Could we have the oxytocin after orgasm? We feel connected and you just fell asleep. And you just fell asleep. And even in the days after, there's just like, you can move on with your life and not think about it, but here I am thinking we just shared our physical juices together. Right, exactly. You were laughing up my juices. You were laughing up my juices

with your six inch tongue and now you're texting me like, hey, yeah, or not even. We're going to do another dating show with you. Yeah, definitely. But I want to get it sex. What anything that you'd like to impart, Jen? I think just be vocal about what you want, what you like, and what the other person wants. And not be afraid to do that, I think, as I've gotten older, it's not dorky to be sexually open to get that pleasure that you want out of your partner and to try new things and to keep it spicy, because I'm getting out of something where it could have been a little spicier. And so now I'm excited.

Now you'll never go back there to the unspiced again. Spicy, spicy, spicy. Well, this isn't really all about sex. It's more about just sex and relationship. Yeah, but just being upfront with what your intention is and what you're there for, if you just want to hook up and have sex, just say it because there are a lot of women that will give it to you and you're going to have better sex than if you're if you're not like being authentic. Don't pretend that you want a relationship and you're like, what are we about? You mean before?

Yeah, I don't be like all making plans like, oh, I want to see you next, you know, whatever. Just like be up front tell somebody what you're up for and just be authentic. Yeah. It's great. Lori. Um, I would say sexually with guys like to make sure there's always a crescendo or a build up. To tease. Yeah, the teasing thing. And the four play of building it. I just think I can't like tell enough guys this. Like you have to, there has to be something before something else.

Four play is a suggestion. It's four plays of requirement. Not a suggestion. Okay, guys, well thank you so much. And is there anything, how can we find you? Find your show, Twitter, all of a sudden. Well, yeah, Jay and I have our show, yeah, we have our show at ladycreencomedy.com.

Okay. That's what we can go see in for about us. And then my Twitter handle is at Grace Parra 360, GRACEP, ARRA 360, as an Instagram is the same too. Okay. Yeah, hit me up. Yeah, lady free comedy, every month at UCB Sunset. My handles are Gen B giggles.

I'm on Snapchat now. I'm doing a horrible job at it. And you can watch my sketch on True TV, Friends of the People, that comes on every Thursday night at 11. Okay, cool. We'll have all of this in our site as well. We're going to take some pictures if you want to see how sexy these ladies are. Kim, no one can find you can't be anywhere

Right exactly. No, yeah, it's cool. Okay, Laurie Yeah, um, yeah I'm there. She's there. Okay, you guys you are wonderful. Thank you so much for being here This was really a fun show and thank you everyone. Thank you Madison for producing a great show Thank you to Borey and thanks for listening, was it good for you? email me feedback at sexwithenley.com