Sex With Emily - Best Of: Sex, Love and Totally Turned On with Carmen Electra

Episode Date: September 23, 2017

On today’s throwback show, Emily and Anderson welcomes Baywatch babe turned culture icon Carmen Electra into the studio! They give their advice on social anxiety creating sexual hurdles, oral sex challenges, and dating do’s and don’ts.   Carmen talks about her road to success– from her Ohio beginnings to her experience in the music industry to her sex life! From what’s sexiest to sexual pet peeves, the three get down and dirty with the naughty details, as well as how to use lube to its full potential. If you missed it once, don’t miss it again!   Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep the show FREE: Womanizer, Adam & Eve, DONA by JO Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily from Baywatch Babe to Reality Showstar. Carmen Electra has made the leap from sex simple to pop culture icon. Tonight she's gonna be my special guest later and join us to talk sex relationships and one of my favorite topics, Lube. Enjoy the show. Into his eyes They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex Eyes that mock our sacred institutions Betrubized they call them in a fecon day. Hey, Emily You got a boyfriend because my man E here. He just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute The girls got a hair stand. Oh my the women know about shrinkage isn't it common? What do you mean like laundry? It's shrink? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me?

Oh my god, I'm off here. So, going. Being bad feels pretty good. But you know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information go to sexthumbly.com. Have you been to Sex with Emily.com?

I know there's so many fun things happening there. Do you know that we post articles every day, blog posts, videos, things that will, you know, enhance your sex life? All these questions you guys email me, I bet you we've answered it on there for blog or podcast or check it out. I'm excited Carmen Electra is going to be joining us shortly, which is exciting right Anderson, but right now I have Anderson who's just as sexy. What up, M?

How you doing? As sexy as Carmen Electra. Yeah. You're super sexy. Advertising. You can be sued. You're just talking about Anderson's picture. You could be sued for lying to your listeners, M.

But thank you. Yeah, I mean it, I mean it. How you doing? I'm doing good, I'm doing well. I'm crazy as per usual, but not as crazy as you. So that's all right, I feel like some- Do I seem crazy? I think I seem conscious.

So far, guys, she hasn't been in her purse once, and she's been here for 10 minutes. I'm always in the bag aren't I? You're all we have we we've established that. I'm always in the bag. I know I've got a lot going on in the bag. So funny though. I don't even like someone tweet me out of it.

You have sex with me. I'm like no, but thanks for having those questions. Was that my cat or what's friend? No, but he's been okay. So some background. Yeah. And last week's love lines. Of her stories.

So love line last week was interesting. So, I hope Love Line is a nationally syndicated radio show for you for me to talk about it. Dr. Drew's, Benon, Anderson's Benon for 25 years. And, 22. And, that goes into the podcast, two of Love Line, but last week we had Millionaire Match Baker, Patty Stinger on, who was also on my show.

And since it was matchmaking, Mike says, I'm gonna fix you up my friend Victor. So Victor called into the show and Mike tried to arrange a little you know fix up a little thing and Victor said he was interested in dating me because I said what do you think we've been common he says well you like sex and I like sex which I thought you know was brilliant would be a great match but then Mike gave my phone number he's texting me I am. Why would you give this fucker your phone number? Mike gave my number. He texted me and I didn't text them back. I did text them back once maybe but no Mike was telling me last night I think it was off air though that he was saying that he wanted to have sex with you and some kind of like a bob or something

Uh-huh, I want some kind of act or something. I don't know. Well, no, he actually I was a fender for you. I was a fender for you. He's cut his text clean so far. There has been no dick picks or anything. I think if he was like my sister and I get offended and upset with people are dumb and they think. My brother doesn't even think of me as a sister. That's really sweet. I got you. I know. So yeah, no dick picks.

He was actually telling everybody to eat for dinner or something. You know what that means? What? Small dick. Oh my god. Why? Because he's nothing else. Because he doesn't send me the dick. Because he's not showing you.

And how would you know if you get dick pics? Now that I want one, people don't send dick pics. I've never gotten them. No, I've never gotten them. It's not a nice scent and he naked photos. Like 2000 episodes sex with Emily. No one sent dick pics. I don't know if we ever got it on Facebook.

I don't think so. No. You think dick pics? We don't get dick pics. We do. Apparently, Madison's claiming that dick pics come into the old sex with them Here get on the mic get on the mic Madison Madison producer Madison get on the mic. Yeah, which Mike green go green

I'm Madison for Philly me in yeah, no, we actually got a we got a dick pic a pretty serious dick pic What does that mean what is a serious dick pic? I wish that I could show all the audience all the people listening the picture But it was from a guy and like this I love it I said okay this dick for you was the subject line right of the of the email and I opened it and is a enormous black man, huh and an enormous penis you didn't have to say enormous black man You could just say enormous. We all know it's black. Yeah, I mean it enormous man with an enormous penis. You didn't have to say enormous black man. You could just say enormous. We all know it's black. Yeah, I mean, it enormous man with an enormous penis attached and he is just looking into the camera like a serial killer.

And I sent it to the interns and was like, Hey, like just a reminder to check feedback. Oh my God. Yeah. So we don't get that. I mean, maybe I'm going to say tomorrow, we're going to get like eight million. Like one a week, maybe like sometimes we get a couple

and we get them in our Facebook messages and we get like eight million. Like one a week, maybe like, sometimes we get a couple and we get them in our Facebook messages and we get them in feedback. And sometimes we get them actually in Twitter. Okay. Yeah, I said they can't sue me for sexual harassment because sex is the only. So like when the courts throw it out,

it's like one of the interns are you trying to sue me because they don't have to fix the job. Tell me that the listeners are beating off as they listen to a lot of them. So that's nice. I really hope that they're just trying to better sex and relationships, but maybe they do beat off every once in a while.

Shout out to dirty tone. What are you wearing? I think a lot of them think that you're a matum and that you're gonna set them up because they always email you like, Emily, I'm looking for hot single girl, please, please to sex with. That I'm like,

Ashley, I'm gonna say that. You've already got the model halfway built. Ashley, Madison's going down. Yeah, right. And everyone's always listening to me, like assumes that anyway, when I hand on my business card, they're like, oh, I'm like, listen, I'm not a prostitute. Sex with Emily, it's kind of misleading.

It is misleading, because it's actually not about sex with me. I've really cut that off. And I actually know, but I've never, till this day, sent a nude photo of myself to anyone, but I'm proud of. But then I feel like, you know, I was having, it's a serious discussion about this, my friends. They feel like, you know, I was having a serious discussion about this by my friends.

I was like, never like guys want that. My friends like looked at me. She was like, Emily, but you don't need, like if you're dating someone, like guys are visual, they need that. And I'm like, I just don't trust guys. They get this what they do. They get the naked picture of the like, whoever there's the next dude, they're like, check out this, check out that.

You know what, okay, I've received naked pictures from girls. I have never dreamed of showing them to other other. Because you're like a good guy. I'm showing them to. You're a good girl. But guys. No, but I'm like a, I'm every guys, all my guy friends, I'm like their guy friend. I'm like their best.

Hey, guys, we're having relationships and being just fine long before iPhones with the capability. Right. Long before Polaroids. Exactly. Thank you very much. I'm not doing it.

I'm holding out for as long as I can. Okay. Just, if you're gonna do it, do it now. wait till you're 65-7. Yeah, that's not yeah, that's why it's so funny Yeah, you're right. My mom always said to me. I did do a unique. I did do a um I Was in this movie called I'm sex out what I was going on okay, yeah, no I was gonna tell you like three different things popped my head But I never said picker. But I remember doing this movie. I am a sex addict, which I was not was a feature film We talked about this briefly a while ago. Okay. Well, I was in this movie, I am a sex addict, which I was not, was a feature film. Did you know what she does? We talked about this briefly a while ago.

Okay, well, I was in this film, it came out like, two dozen, like, 10 years ago. And it's on Netflix and stuff like that. But I would not show my breasts in the film, and he really wanted me to. And then my mom, the time was like, well, this is the best job I'm gonna look. She always said it's me everywhere.

Well, it's not true. I look at it and I'm like, I'm not doing it. I'm not sure what that is. Your mom tried to, did the producer get to your mom, do you think? No, but she was like, well, what do you, I'm like, mom, she wasn't saying that, what you're doing. Your mom tried, did the producer get to your mom, do you think? No, but she was like, well, what do you, I'm like, mom, she wasn't saying that, but they wanted me to show more of my body and I'm like, I don't want to.

But then I also did these Budwara photos once because there was a woman on my show who was like, did free, but they never show anything naked. And I've never showed anything like that. But you were naked, though, and the camera was in front of you. But I was like wearing lingerie, but I'm like, who am I going to show them to? Maybe I could do like a special, like, 9.95 on my site,

not really. Just kidding, I'm not doing that. I'm gonna do calendar. Do they people still do that? Sex with heavenly calendar it'll be like in all the mechanics shops across the nation. I want to sex with the calendar while dick pics we've gotten. Oh god no. No that would do very well. Um okay another sex in history a firefighter's called to cut shower rings off of a guy's penis. Why didn't he just buy a copper ring? I don't know. Yeah dude you don't know how many things get people go to the emergency room around their penis or their butt.

Our rings are big though, aren't they? Well, I don't know. This guy's was stuck sometimes. Depends. They come in all sizes. So firefighters were called to remove four curtain rings stuck around a man's penis. The hapless fellow was taken to the hospital after the rings got stuck around his member, but doctors at the facility in Columbia lacked the specialist cutting tools required for a tricky job and had to call in firefighters. Rescue experts spent over an hour removing the metal rings, according to the news outlet,

the procedure required a steady hand in a sensitive region. And firefighters had to be extra careful not to enter the stricken man. And he had irreparable damage to the man's penis, the unnamed man remained in a patient hospital and you receive medical and psychological care and he's embarrassed embarrassment. What part of the world? Colombia. Colombia like South America not like. Yeah, Cali, Valladale, Decaucca. Or cocaine is this stuff. Fire department, really? That's bizarre. I don't know, maybe this stuff. Fire department, really?

That's bizarre. I don't know, maybe there were metal fire rings, you know what I mean? You gotta get it done, so that's a deal. I don't, I don't, I want to think, and you know what's funny too, is a, All right. Just use the stretchy penis right? Man's little penis, right? He's got the rings around it, and you know that, if it was out here at least, like two,

three giant trucks had to like drive a few miles to get to him, just to go take off the tiny little rings. You know what I mean? Yeah, it's like- That's the waste of it, taxpayers. Oh, so much. So much. Yeah.

They should have like one guy on a red motorcycle who goes out like he scouts and he gets their quick and then he'll like call back and be like, yeah, no fire. There's a cat in a tree. Don't worry about it. I'll get it out. You know what I mean? You're right. We don't need the whole fleet to go.

Dude, you could have died though. It sounds like it was pretty serious. It was cutting off a circulation, you know? And also, yeah, there's also here's some other things since I'm preparing for my anal sex workshop. Today I'm doing a lot of anal sex research. And one of my slides, my PowerPoint, is about all the things that have gotten stuck in butts. Oh, cool.

It has been all this, yeah. You're gonna do this at where she or at Hussler Suite. Tonight, so a lot, it's very common, you know, we've all heard people stick vegetables and things that they're butted, light bulbs. So there's light bulbs and people's butt. And in San Francisco, I've heard there is a special, it is so common, you guys, and don't do this, okay?

This should be a warning. A machine that actually removes light bulbs, sucks the light bulbs out. What is the name of that machine? I do not know, Google it, we should Google it. What is the name? How crazy. So this is the takeaway from this butt story,

is that you should only put things in your butt with flared edges so it can't go into your butt and you don't have to have surgery. I would think a light bulb is the worst thing, other than maybe shards of glass. I can't even talk right, right? Because then you put it in. But that's going to become shards. Yeah. How dangerous is that?

That's why there's a special machine in San Francisco because a lot of men are doing it. Yeah, or women, I don't want to discriminate, who knows, okay? So that's my news, and I'll get into a little bit of a email here. Special machine. Do the special machine. And Madison's gonna look up the name of it.

Be careful people, but well, yeah. Unless you're gonna forward to have a machine at home, which I bet it's a very expensive machine because it's so specialized. Well, why are you sticking light bulb in your butt anyway? It just feels like... It must be a thing. I'm not sure it's gonna look it up right now for us because... Part of that hamster, yeah people lose to cancers in their butt.

It's not real though. I like to think that it's not. The Richard Year story. Yeah, I know, I don't think it's true. I think it is true. I like to believe it's not. I know nurses and nurses will like tell you this point blank like I saw the X-ray. I was in the room. It was him. And I just don't buy it. Yeah, I don't know why would it be such a Some people have done that though. I am He likes he likes animals. He's in that movie hot hot. Yeah, that's why I think you got the idea is like

You know, be really great. I'm really in animals right now. I'm gonna stick a gerbil I bought no he wasn't doing it to like have sex with the gerbil. I wasn't like a love affair It was like because the thing spasms That's the rumor. This is what I'm telling you in my workshop, you guys. And if you wanted, you really need more, but anal sex to get my website. There's right ways and wrong ways to play with your anus.

And the right ways, there are so many making nerve endings. They don't involve pets. What? It doesn't involve pets. It involves a lot of lube, which is my favorite thing in the world. Lube is an amazing product.

And things just start edges, but also fingers, penises, that's about it. If you got a ham trucker, how many things went up before you get to the point where like, you know what, that's just not cutting it. Hey, keep raising the bar. I gotta do a hamster. I gotta do something alive. I really, I really don't know.

That's a great question. If you've had a hamster, you're about to play Z-Mummy or get some help first. Yeah, so, but really, but Anel sex is interesting because it's like, you really, people just don't know how to do a right and you just need to warm up and use the input anyway, check it on my website.

I can't talk. I can't anal out right now. I'm gonna be out now. You can't anal out right now. Tonight, you're saving it for tonight. I don't wanna blow my analogue right now. Wow. I wish you didn't say that.

I'm so sorry. I wish I didn't either. Some words I have a problem with. Some words, some things. Okay, so we can get into some emails. By the way, I heard it in my head, shards of glass earlier, and I wish that I hadn't said that.

It wasn't lost on me when I was talking with a light bulb in the butt, in shards of glass, instead of shards of glass. Oh, shards. Yes, I was there. That was lost on me. That's disgusting, and it's filthy. And I just, but I want to let the people know who are listening at home

I didn't miss it. I just didn't choose to say it. I was feeling mature. Okay. Yeah, I appreciate it Because we don't want to take this show down to the level that people might assume that it's right I was actually interview. Oh, you know what? There's a few things. I was that I was in Chris Jericho Remember he was on I love that man. I love him too. He is such a good guy. He's got a great podcast called The Jericho Christ Jericho. What's called He's got a great podcast called the Jericho podcast. It's called Talk His Jericho. Talk His Jericho. I was on his podcast. He launched it, promoted it this week. And it was really popular. I have to say it was a really good podcast. And a lot of people on Twitter were very excited about it. So you should check that out. We talked

a lot about sex and it was a very like, you think it would be, but like I really got a lot of stuff. People, the thing is I do so many podcasts. You know, I've done thousands, I've been on guests a lot, but people were just like on Twitter, like, oh my God, that was amazing, I learned a lot, so you guys should check that one out. And I was also on Paul McCurriot's podcast, who's on Loveline and he's a writer for the...

He's done a lot of stuff. He's doing it. And Stephen Cobrair show, the new one. Yeah. Did you put it in the title? He says CBS, I think, right? Yeah. He's done a lot of work and Stephen Colbert show the new one What is he doing? CBS I think right yeah, I heard his hilarious from Yes, watch me on civis. It's like all right Capcom instead of CBS. He was like acting like he was like a really bad reader and he was reading CBS's Civis anyways, apparently he is funny though

Maybe he's funny on the funny is to practice little but Lube on his podcast say to but he was like I've never used lube never new sex toys. It was interesting I've been got it's just interesting to talk to people like that who was he bragging? No They're always that he had that old school thing. He was like I feel like I would feel very clinical It would be very like if there was a sex toy embedded me my wife, I would feel like it would just be, she'd like it more than I would. Oh, it's one of those guys, yeah. Those men still exist. So I taught them, you know, different ways.

Did you scold him? Did you shame him? I didn't. I'm going to say I'm much like I've got damn sex toys. So you can just throw it right into your ass. I'm like, I'm going to say it's your wife because believe me, she wants one if you've any use any. So this just in. Oh, what about this? San Francisco.

Go ahead. Okay, this just in Madison. Yeah, the San Francisco item out of butt removal thing. It is a hoax. That makes sense. Okay, so it was actually, it looks like it's propaganda from a Christian youth leader. Oh, I love that. So, I don't know if it's a port of use of that isn't true. Yeah, I mean, that's why we had to fact check, you know, but I'm sorry.

We thought that they're like signs all throughout San Francisco that are like butt, like, you know, like light bulb removal removal like 25 cents and stuff like that 25 cents they're actually from what I can see I can't find anything about an actual thing that removes items I have fun a lot of funny lists, but you have so funny is that my friend who was a doctor and who was a doctor He's a doctor here and San Francisco told me that that existed. That's why I thought maybe it was true We're gonna have to have him dig that up because I need to know. Doctors are doable. Yeah, but yeah, I think that's right.

Dr. Drew is one of the most gullible people I know. That's kind of just because they're doctors. I feel like they're just in school and they're studying for so long medical school, like they just, they're little rural. I love that a Christian group came up with that. I just, I'm imagining the boardroom discussion where they're sitting around going, how we're going to take these fairies down. Let's make up a machine that doesn't exist.

Okay, I'm stuck. Let's just, okay, well, let's just say that the situation is dire enough that you just shouldn't stick it up your ass if there's any take-home message. Well, even more so now because there's not a machine that exists. Exactly, and then you're going to have some shards in your ass. Hey, stop it. It's true. Okay, so what? I just go. Okay, go. I want to talk, I want to get into the emails. So I want to thank you all for emailing me at feedback at sex.com. We do read all your emails and we look at your dick pics, but don't send those.

And when you do email us, I love when you tell me how old you are and where you're writing from. And how you listen to is great. I want to know how you listen. You know, you can always listen on iTunes and stuff like that, but the apps and stuff. Many ways. Ditcher. Okay. Stitcher is a great app. I used to, before you, before I knew you, I would record there. And so you just go. Yeah. Add to Stitcher Studios.

But machines are, yep, or not. Yeah. That's a Stitcher Studios. And San Francisco. Okay. Here you go. Ready? Yeah. Hi, Emily. My name is Thomas. I am 35 years old and I have a serious issue with talking to women. This has been a problem for a long time. I'm heterosexual and I can converse with women. I am not a traitor too. But when there's attraction, I get nervous, anxious.

Don't know what to say and having something stupid. I am saying something stupid or talking myself out of saying anything at all. Everyone says, just get over it and put yourself out there and it's natural breathing to them, but it's not easy for me. I've only been on one date and it was unbelievably awkward. I work in a shop with all guys, no women commute, eat, shower, go to bed. I really don't hang around in social atmospheres, but when I do, I'm usually with my parents and my brother.

My parents are very encouraging. Mom is the one who actually had to put yourself out there, and they both have said that they had want grandchildren. So what now, thanks, Thomas. How old's Thomas? 35. He left porn off the list, because I know that that's on there. What's on there?

He said all he does is work, drive home, eat, sleep, but I'm sure that there's a healthy lot of porn. Maybe before he goes to bed, he watches porn. Okay, Thomas, he's 35 and he spends a lot of time with his parents and it works. So I think there's a lot of things going on here. And it sounds like he's just got the case of the social anxiety, which a lot of people have, especially when they meet someone attractive.

This happens to a lot of guys. And women, I was talking to my friend who's very attractive woman and she was saying when actually was telling me to send the naked photos to guys, but she was saying you know and she's like I get it in guys but the second I see attractive guys she's like and if he smiles and me I turn away and it's just really common that people the people do this they get in it and they don't get over it. The problem is and she's 35 if you if you never break through any anxieties what what? Hook them up. Oh, I don't know where he lives.

He didn't tell me where he lives. Oh, miss. Why didn't I really live? Is it, if you, it's like, if you don't work on this anxiety, things don't go away. Like why we go to therapy, issues, they will, they will continue to plague you and they actually get worse and worse

if you don't work on it. So I think that you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself and it doesn't come as easy to you. But again, like dating, like I always say and talking to people, it's a muscle that you have to exercise. And I know that you're saying that you can talk to on attractive women. But just practice saying hi, practice these skills of talking and just like communicate. It doesn't have to be here to think there's no practice on your mom's friends. Yeah. I guess somebody says you can talk to women that he's not attracted to. Yeah. And so you just, it's like rip it off a bandaid. Just start saying, hi, that's it. You just got to smile, say hi. And the great thing to do is

I'm not going to tell you any pick up lines. I'm not going to say that you got to walk a certain way, you know, it is important to be confident and it is important. So even if you got to fake it to you and make it and you just start, you can observe something made a great formula for talking. So, my, let's say you didn't say that you get coffee, I'm assuming, you know, maybe you got to pick up a coffee or breakfast in the morning, you walk in, let's say you're standing there in the coffee shop and you observe something that's going on there. And so you could say, yeah, you know, I didn't know they had the pumpkin spice lattes this time of year, you know, and then you ask a question, so you observe something, you ask

if you had a pumpkin spice latte, see what they say. And then you, you know, and then you ask a question and then you just start, you ask, have you had a pumpkin spice that day? See what they say, and then you ask a question, and then you just start a conversation about something that's happening in the moment. So that's a way to practice, you know, just talking. Don't do that line in October though, because you'll turn and say, of course they have fucking talking

a lot of things in October, you fool. I mean, it can be really scary, but also you have to think you're not gonna die, what is the worst thing that is going to happen to you? This is probably, I mean, Thomas probably has problems with like tests that are really important. It's a pressure thing too.

If he talks to like women, he's not interested without any problem, but then as soon as it means something to him, he cracks. It actually is 35, so I'm assuming it's been going on for a bit exactly. It's been going on a long time. I got the same problem, we all have the same problem.

We all do, we just figure out. How did you get past it? I never really did. I never talked to strange women. I mean, everyone that I dated, they either asked me out or they're like friends of friends and I was hanging around for a while and I really waited for signals to slap me across the face

before I made a move because the rejection is a horrifying thing. Horrifying, essentially for a man. You guys have to do it. So you could also try online dating. Hello, who isn't online dating right now? Yeah, not actually Madison. Don't do that.

Don't do Ashley Madison. But you can go online, you can put any website Who isn't online dating right now? Yeah, not actually mad at you. Don't do that. Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it.

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Okay, you bet. And then you can start a conversation. You can put an online profile, ask your friends, ask your mom. She seems to be very interested in your dating life, get some good pictures. And then when you crap, we've done a lot of shows on online dating and we've done a lot of things

about actual dating. We have a podcast called It's a Dating Survival podcast that might help we get all into how to date and how to approach people But when you start you know dating online That's another way that you don't have to actually have that anxiety of talking to someone and also tell everyone that you know Just like when you're looking for a job to lie your friends You're looking for someone you like to meet someone do they know anyone fix you up and it sounds like he's also just thinking about it Too much. He's overthinking it and it's like becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you actually like threw himself into a

passion or something and then met people through that, whether it's like gardening or writing or whatever, and then if you're working yourself, then other, and stop looking out and kind of look inward, other people, they start to come. They'll come to you. Do something that you love. So I'm a word that you're just all you're doing is working and hanging out with your mom. So Tom's taking class. No, but like, yeah, exactly like take a class like on the weekends, like do you work on the weekends? You probably don't. What are you like doing? Do you like high game? Do you like wine? There's wine. Whatever. Take classes. Do something you're interested in. Jim, whatever. You'll be fine. And check out our shows and check out our website because you have a lot of information

on this. Thomas, so good luck to you. Let me know how it goes. And again, you will get passed away. And you're not in the minority or in the majority. You're in the majority. So there's nothing wrong with you. Don't freak out. Just do it. Just start practicing right now. Life too short.

Having a fair. Exactly. Or not. I think Carmen's gonna be here soon. You got another email. You might have to do it before she comes on. Yeah, I do. Partner hates oral sex.

This one's about that. Yeah. Dear Emily, the man I love doesn't like giving oral sex He'll do it maybe once a month stay down there for a minute or less then go into penetration I've discussed this with him and he said he just doesn't like it. I've been with other men Before him and they all absolutely loved it. Is it possible for a man not to like it and be straight? That's from Amanda. Oh my God. I am glad that my I think that carman. Hi Carmen. How are you? Good to see you

Just in time for this question. I think that Carmen would actually help me answer this question even though we're just meeting right now You can sit there I'm gonna read this. I'm gonna tell. I get a lot of emails from listeners. We were just answering this question. I was really getting this woman in my mate. The man she is dating doesn't like performing oral sex on her. She says, I'll do it once a month.

Stay down there for a minute. Go into penetration. She's talked to about it and he doesn't like it. She says she's been with other men. They've loved it. She wants to know is he could he be dumb? Really I agree with you. Have you ever had this happen to you a guy doesn't like it? No, because why would they be with you? Because they they maybe they didn't like it, but they just lied and right did is tell yeah, I mean that could be true

guys, I mean four plays is you, extremely important. It's so important. Exactly. So that's like my big, so I had this happen. I was dating Guy once and for what, for way too long. It was a long distance thing. So I just thought, hmm, I'll give him a chance. Like he would do it again. The same thing. First of all, don't do any four play for a minute and then stick it in. That's a huge mistake. What's the minimum? Five minutes for oral sex or some general for four play.

Yeah. Is there a minimum 10, 15? Yeah. I mean, you don't, yeah. What's the minimum? Five minutes. For oral sex or some general for for play? Yeah. Is there a minimum? Ten, fifteen? Yeah, I mean, you don't, yeah. Every, every, yeah. I think you could agree. It doesn't need to go on forever.

No. You know, and so, but teasing at first is, I mean, is ultimate. Exactly. It's just a little tease kind of, you know, make you want it. Yeah, teasing one of them. Exactly, make us, the best case in our is that we're like, please have sex with me now.

Please do it now. You should be able to read her a little bit. Yeah, exactly, exactly. And it'll make everything better. Just tease her for a little bit. One minute is nothing. But here's the thing, Amanda, it might come in surprise,

surprised you, but not all women enjoy blood jobs, not all men love performing oral sex and men are different in their preferences and their skills and maybe had a bad experience, maybe his past partner didn't like it, hygiene, who knows, but he might also might not like it because he doesn't know what he's doing. Well, there's other things you can do. Right, but she really likes it. But if he hates it and doesn't want to do it Mm-hmm. It got for me that's a I wouldn't want it done to me if it's Someone that you want to do it because my thing is if he doesn't if he doesn't if he's confused about how to do it Maybe it a bad experience. She could be like listen here's what I like

If I don't like what if he's like I'm out because I had a boy from once and I said so I'm so curious Um, is it that you don't exactly I said is it that you don't like Is it, is it you, you're not sure what you're doing? Or you think I don't like it? He's like, not just not my thing. And I was like, hmm, you're not my thing. And then we added the relationship, just like that. It's good. Give me a blowjob.

Yeah, I was like, no, your penis is going nowhere near my mouth. You're not for the road. At all. So, you know, I don't know though. I think Amanda, I mean, honestly, to me, this would be a deal breaker. I think that you need to get deeper into the situation. And if he says that he's at a bad situation, you could probably work around it, show him

what you like. But if he refuses to do it, this is your choice. I'd be out. Karma would be out. What about this move, guys? Like, if you make sure that you finish her off before you even start an event. Is that all right? Yeah, totally.

And then like, if you go too quick, it doesn't matter because you've already done. Well, she comes first. It's a great book by Ian Kernner. There's a book called, she comes first and that's the L-theories she come first and the L theories and yeah yeah yeah with me with man no but it's true I mean that's always great to make her come first and then you have to worry about it but I mean one minute of oral sex or one minute of anything it's like why bother giving glass of water right now you can do that that would be much more effective I mean I guess if there's a real connection and you really you know you really feel in each other and it's just something they're not guess if there's a real connection and you really, you know, you're really feeling

each other and it's just something they're not into. Because there's just others you can do. Yeah, but there's so many fun. You could use toys, you could use a toy on you, you could use a loob, a little porn. Right, things turn you on, but if she loves oral sex, you shouldn't getting it. But if you're like, you know what, I love that. Yeah, I don't want to say dump them. If you love them and everything's great but he just doesn't like it, it doesn't mean he's gay.

It just means that believe it or not, there are guys that don't like it. Cause straight men don't like it. Just like women don't like blue jobs. So if you still like this guy, Amanda then talk to him about it. See what's going on and see if you can live with it and just get a lot of friggin' sex toys. And there is, there's one thing I want to say

is that there is a toy by Lilo, the aura, which stimulates the feeling of oral sex. It is a toy by Lilo, the aura, which stimulates the feeling of oral sex. It looks a little round thing as it looks like a tongue-gong. And it's really cool. I know. I know. I should get you.

Oh, I did bring you some toys though. You did? I did. You're going to die. You're going to have some fun. I'm going to say that you could try that too. If you needed that bad, they could. I mean, you know, little pocket rocket action.

Exactly. Well, no, sex toys, okay. So thank you. Yeah. So I think we're done with that. What's called the Lilo aura? And if you want one, go to my website, sexathelma.com. Do you want to click on the voice?

No, I was making it, but it kind of, it's quite, it's rechargeable. You use it and not have her know. You don't have to be like your partner. You know, it's not that good, it's not that good. But it's pretty damn good. It's Alila or Click on the good vibe communication, you know, they need to communicate exactly Yeah, don't assume he's not gay, but talk to him about all the stuff and also you're into him

You can work around it shout-out to our sponsors Thank you everyone for supporting your sponsors and for listening to the show and I love you all. We'll be right back. But have you ever been with a guy that you're like sex was at and you were out? I mean, I think in the long term, I think sex is a huge part of relationship because, you know, someone may stray if you know if you're not playing them or if you don't feel You know you could you could make your partner feel not wanted or like you're not attracted to him or her Exactly. You got to keep it going sort of you know without the communication it all boils down to that You know you need to talk be open with what you like and then go for it Not so fun. I know sex is fun. That's what sex is fun.

Sex is so fun. Role play. I mean, do you do the role playing like how? Of course I do. Okay, so can you just tell me, give me a scenario. Walk me through the last time you played a scenario. I won't tell. Just been good.

The last time I heard anyone do a role play and explain it was iced tea and cocoa. They explained to me how they role play. And that was fun. And they love it. that was like five years ago Okay, and I'll never forget it. Yeah, well you can you know, I mean obviously depending on your partner or whatever But you know you can always play sort of master mistress right so you know stuff and stuff like do Sure cuz here's my not not not every time I'm right, anytime, but sometimes you just want to get to it.

Right, exactly. And then other time, it's like exciting sort of the planning. How do you start it though? Are you like, hey, tonight, I'm going to be there. You just say, hey, master. And then they know, I'm just saying with guys, like how? Like that's the key phrase, like let them know it's on. Like, do you initiate the role playing?

Because I shoot better. I have so many little costumes and cute things. I don't know what to think. Like, do you initiate the role playing? Because I shoot better. I have so many little costumes and cute things than I've ever had. We just vibe, you know, I mean, I think you just, if you have sexual compatibility, you just vibe with that person. And I don't know, I truly believe that for women, a lot of it's up here.

It's in the brain. And so if you're dating someone that's really intelligent and sexual You know they'll they'll they'll get you there, you know, right? They'll talk they'll talk you through it and then ideas start to pop up and you know exactly you can just say you know I mean, it's fun to be a mistress. It is fun. It is to be taken out on Ice ice tea all your frustrations. He dropped Coco off in the ghetto and then you get out of the car, come around the corner

and pretend to abduct her. Really? That's so funny. That's fun. You know what, sex follow. That's totally fun. Yeah. That's probably weather together.

I was just going to say that. I mean, they're not. Absolutely. I mean, you want some missionary every time. Nobody. I mean, no, I just fell asleep and you said that word missionary. All the time.

Really, no, it's true. You're just little things, like little time, it's text toys. Now, do you, um, you like sex toys, you said? Yeah, I do. Do you, um, what's your favorite? I have to be honest, you know, I've tried quite a few and I still go back to the pocket rocket. You have so funny.

I love the pocket rocket too. That was my first one. You put the little bag. It still has got a battery and you just carried around. What was the one, the bunny with the bunny ears? That just doesn't work. The rabbit didn't work. The rabbit didn't work.

It didn't work. You know, we kind of talked about that in the office a lot because it's like, it's like dual. It's like I want one or the other. I've just confused. Have you ever had the magic wand? Magic wand is a big hit too. Okay.

Well, and you can kind of do that on the slide. The magic wand? Yeah, because it's a back massager, but for women, it's a whole other thing. How you can leave it out? Yeah, yeah. I mean, if that person like me would go over and have no idea that your vibrator

is just sitting on the coffee table, I would have no tell. How you and your purse, what are you doing? I've been going, current our first present. Okay. It is now unplugged. So you can it's rechargeable magic wand. I know someone that's gonna have some fun tonight. Right. There you go with your loop. This is awesome. I know. So you now you just charge it and you doesn't it's easy to be connected to the wall. So much. Yeah, I am I thought you'd like it. I don't know. What woman doesn't like the magic wand, right? I mean, yeah, it's like a magic wand or like I said, the poker o'clock is exactly.

So are you dating anyone right now? I am. It's new. It's great. So the sex is still good, probably. So how'd you meet him? Yeah, I'm not going to ask you to find it. I accidentally met him.

I've been working on music lately. so I've gone back to my roots a little bit. Right, that's how you started, right? Yeah, I started off with music in the very beginning. I was going to ask, tell me about the beginning. How did that all start? You came to LA. You're from the midwest, you're from Ohio, right? From Michigan. From Michigan, midwestern girls, moving out for the dream. And then I went to performing arts school

and studied classical ballet and modern dance. And I was just in that environment. So by the time I was graduating, I was looking for a job and trying to figure out what I was going to do with the arts. And I ended up dancing in this magic show. And I saved up my money, my family doesn't have a lot of money, so I saved up a little money and I met, by accident, I met a girl that lives here in Los Angeles and she said, you can stay at my house.

I think you'd be a great, you know, you could back back up dance for Janet Jackson He'd be great. Wow amazing. And that's all that I came to LA to do Jackson to be a backup dancer. Wow Well Jennifer a JLo. She was like a Laker girl for a minute, right? She was kind of a dancer. I was a pilot of dual. No JLo was a JLo was a fly girl. Oh, okay. Okay. I don't know because you know She's from the East Coast. Right. All right. Okay. Okay. Okay. Oh, okay. I don't know. Because she's from the East Coast. Right. Okay.

Okay, we're okay. I have a release of Makin' for you. That's funny because you're from, right, you're like, okay, back up. That sounds good. Oh my god. Yeah. And then you came down. So, so my first, you know, I decided to stay for a week in LA and actually, actually the first thing I did when I

um well we used to sneak into clubs we were too young right so my friend had a big idea and we'd sneak into all these clubs and whatever I'm so much my god that's my own like you could like oh my was just live love you I mean if you always been like the sex symbol the sexy you must have had so much attention 19 year oldyear-old Carmen Alactara, I can't even. Right? And we say, you came out. I know.

Really? Yeah. I mean, you think I'm so excited. Yeah. Aww. You're so sweet. Well, anyway, my first, it wasn't really a job because we didn't get paid for it, but I danced on Soul Train. You did?

Yeah. Wow. Where do they shoot that? I don't even remember. Without you. Yeah, in Los Angeles. Yeah, in LA. That did? Yeah. Wow. Where did they shoot that? I don't even remember. I mean, yeah, in Los Angeles, that's huge. So I did this gravel board and they put me on the risers and got a soul train line. So I thought I had made it. And I was so happy. I've made it. You know, you don't get paid to do it, but I thought I'd made it. Anyway, I was really excited about that, but. I'm excited about that.

Okay. I ended up getting a demo deal. I met this girl and she just, you know, she had a band that Prince was producing. And I actually auditioned for Prince to be a backup dancer. A backup dancer. Back up dancer. Back up Prince.

Like, okay, amazing. Yeah, it was really weird though, because we were just at a club and she approached me and it felt kind of, you know, like this is surreal. Yeah, you know, basically, you know, his brother is going to come pick you, pick us us up and then you'll go to his house in audition Prince has a brother. Yeah, he does Yeah, okay, we're learning a lot of this bodyguard for a while but yeah, so I went and like there was a part of me. It's like no don't go I'm like we're in LA. Oh scary stuff happens in LA

Exactly, it's a natty, you know. Now, how do you even know it was Prince? How did you know that like, you were gonna show up just some random birthday. That's the thing, like, that was, that was, you know, we didn't. Yeah, you know, I'm just trusting, you know, just trusting this woman.

The woman, at least it was a woman. Would you have gotten in the car if it was a guy that approached you? Oh, no. okay, no it Okay, um, and then so a blue blubly blue BMW pulls up Bmw wasn't like a Blue okay, so you know Colorful like a right ban

Yeah, it was a black BMW out blue fine Well, it's just you know that felt very prince-ish to have. All right. You know, okay, we should be able to be MW on the floor. So, it's purple. So, it was purple. Yeah. Hands down.

I'm going to audition. I'm auditioning. Right. Oh my god, I love this. So, you get the blue MW. Yeah. And then what? And we go to his house.

In LA? Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Keep in mind I was 18 years old. Oh my god, little Carmen. I'm really nervous. Um, I'm nervous. Yeah. I remember meeting him for the first time and he was cool. You know, he was just kind of down to earth and and he said, so you want to be in this band and I said, yes, I want to I want to be I want to be in the band. So, uh, he he said, do you sing?

And I said, yeah. And he got on the piano and he played, Delray Me from the Sound of Music. And I was in that musical. So I knew it probably better than him. Oh my god. OK, I love that song too. I know it.

I have a great thing. So I could do the other parts to it. It was kind of a silly thing. I think he was just playing around. Warm up. Yeah, whatever. So I did that and he was like, okay. You nervous.

You must have your brother. I was dying. I was so nervous. I didn't know what to do with myself. I'm not honest. And then I was at his house and 18 years know, 18 years old and just not knowing. And Prince is like a huge... What's the biggest singer at that time?

Oh, yeah. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, so then he said, I heard you're a really good dancer. And I said, well, I loved to dance blah, blah, blah. Next thing, you know, I'm dancing to... I think graffiti bridge was coming out at that time. So, so he played some of the songs and I just pre-styled, danced and didn't hear anything actually. I didn't get a response.

At the moment you weren't hearing anything see ya I had no response and and so this woman with her band kept saying you are amazing I really want you in my band I don't know why you won't give me an answer and so hard to get so she said I know some people are capital records I'll take you in there and you can audition for them. I went in, I ended up getting a demo deal with Capital.

And so I was able to go home, visit my family, and they, like, it was worth it. Yay! So they flew me back. I stayed at the holiday in. Right, and then Glendale. Okay. Here, you know, and then through my friend, Prince got ahold ahold of me and said I just wanted you to know I think you should do your own thing

I don't think you should be a backup backup for anybody Wow So he squashed your backup dreams, but then loud look at you But I said, you know, so he said I comes to studio. I wrote you a song. Oh my god Okay, and I went into the studio and I was really nervous listening to the song, but really, you know, God, Prince wrote me a song, that's crazy, that's insane. How does that happen? I don't even know.

He's never written me a song. Well, you know, basically I'm under contract for a demo deal at capital. He got me out of it and moved to Minneapolis for a couple of years and you did? You did? Recorded, yeah, recorded. Did you guys date titles? Did you? No, I'm like flashbacks. Did you guys date? It's kind of flirtatious, you know.

It's very, very flirtatious, but you may have that one. Okay, that means yes. With the prints. With prints. Did you hear it?. With the prints. With prints. Did you hear it? I would have sexed a prince. I could hide it. That's what I'd say.

My first thought with him, but two of them, you know, all of a sudden. A little record for that. I used to watch it. I was really little. We were in a loud watch, pervuring. And so. With Abelonia. Yeah, we would sneak and watch it.

We just thought it was the hottest movies. Did you see that? I wouldn't use Monapolis. As Prince or the artist formerly known as. He wasn't the artist formerly known as yet. Right. And he only did that because, like, he lost access to his name, right?

Like, it was tied up as a trademark or something. And he couldn't get it back from the record company, right? Yeah, and they owned the music. Well, it's like having sex with them. Can you just tell me, kissing them? I guess, come on. It's been so long now. He's like, I don't get it.

I don't know. No, that's right. That's actually smart, neither do I. I you just tell me I'm kissing them? I guess, come on, it's been so long. I'm okay, I'm tired. I'm tired. No, that's right, that's actually smart, neither do I. I changed names, so I changed names of people. But it was amazing. I mean, I toured, I opened up for him, I had my own band. That's so awesome. On the Diamond and Pearls tour, in Gerrard, that's, I learned a lot, I learned a lot from him.

Okay. And I'm really grateful. It's a great story, that she was shooting to be a background dancer, And then she came to come. In one week, things just clicked. So I knew I was kind of on the right path at that point. OK. God.

I mean, you were. So now OK, so now you've done all this stuff. And then you become like this. Well, I decided after living in Minneapolis for a couple of years that I wanted to move to LA. It's more fun. Yeah, let's be honest. Yeah. So in the West, you're like, really I'm back in the West, but you're with Prince.

It's hard. And I just had this West Prince LA. Yeah, and it was kind of, you know, I would be bored sometimes, you know, and it was in a lot to do. I didn't have a lot of friends there. So I moved to LA and then I kind of decided. It was weird because I remember him saying to me, you know, you can stay in LA,

but you'll be on your own, or you can come back to Minneapolis. Wow, you loved you sitting here like, I loved you. Like, what do I do? And I didn't wanna go back, you know. Right, I totally understand. And so, I decided to stay,

but I didn't have a bank account. That's Balsey. I had. That's very bad. I had 5,000 cash. You must really hate the snow. Yeah, it's really bad. The snow is bad.

The mosquitoes are all the same. You got the big spoon with the cherry, right? Isn't that out there in Minnesota? It's like the thing that's known for it. She was with Prince. She was with Prince. I love Paisley Park. I mean, that's freaking amazing.

Okay. But now, you're always, I mean, people see you as like this all, you are like the ultimate sex symbol. Like, carbon laughter. Like, you are. Yeah, you are. So, how do you, how do you feel about that? I love that title.

I love hearing that. Right? I mean, what, I mean, you know, I've always felt sexy. Like, did that come, I've always wanted to be, you know, I felt sexy. Did that come, we just wanted to be, you know, I always wanted to be. Obviously, I've had moments where I feel sexy and moments where I don't feel sexy at all, but what makes you feel the sexiest? Performing on stage in lingerie. Yeah, Okay. So like just being- Sort of doing the dancing. The brilliant thing or, you know, dancing.

Okay. How about like, in front of an audience? Right. What do you, in your days, we got, we were like, I don't feel sexy at all. Oh, time. And so what do you do with that? I mean, you've been securities too, just like- Oh, you know, women?

Absolutely. Right? And then what? I just try to take my mind off of it and do something, you know. Right, because then every day, you feel sexy. You keep focusing on your flaws and, you know, beating yourself up, you know, it doesn't get really get you anywhere, so. Right.

Okay. So now, okay, so now you're dating someone, and I want to get some sex tips from you, okay. You just made a lube. So I want to know like what is like, if you could describe like the best sex you ever had, what would it be? Like if you've just like a moment or something happened. Or just, yeah, your best case scenario sex.

But what would happen? Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Um. Or could be fancy, or like, you know. It would be like a, you know. I've, I've fantasized quite a bit about SNM. Right?

Did you have your ever- But I should have bought you some whips. But that's a change. I have a piano on the back of the cane. I have many, many different styles of whips. I'll be submissive or being dominant. I like both. You do?

Yeah. Okay. So have you done that a switch? So you've done it with men? Have you like gotten into the whole BDSM? Sure. A little bit. I mean, I'm not, you know, full-blown, like, hard core. Downic, hard core.

I mean, if I'm on the other side of things and I am, you know, I can be hard core. Right, wow. I don't want to, like, end up bleeding and... You know what I mean? Like maybe the handcuffs, bondage, they're a little pain, a little pain, a little bit. Just enough. Right, just enough, because it's enough.

Just enough of feeling like you're being controlled. Right, it's hot. It's hot. So what would be your beginner tips? But I'd feel like to be dominant as well. Yeah. Do you feel like, if you remember the guys, I do not want you to be dominant.

Are you like you ever try it? Or you can kind of tell if they want it You just vibe out. I mean what you're saying earlier you just kind of vibe out your brain and you can kind of sense Where they want to go? I do a bed that is like a pet peeve yours like sexually like oh to turn off Non-talker like dirty talk. Um, um, a non-talker. Like dirty talk. Yeah, I love dirty talk. Me too. I mean, come on.

Filthy talk. Filthy. Yeah. Filthy, the filthy ass. Yeah, we want to make it. I keep my mouth shut. Yeah, I know you do in the show too. Yeah.

Sometimes about your sex life. Yeah, Mary's like, I asked him to go married. So that's a dream. To me, that's a huge part of four-play, even without being touched. Because again, our brain, largest sex, we're going to talk to me dirty, and I'm like, there, and you have to go down to the studio, and actually do a style. And, you know, to me, kissing is a huge turn on as well. I mean, it sounds simple after talking to you about SNM. No, but it's true.

I think about it too. The kissing is the most intimate thing you can do. Yeah. Right? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Look at how it looking in your eyes during sex.

What? Do you like looking in someone's eyes when you're having sex? Yeah. Yeah. Sure. Yeah. Okay. Sometimes you do.

And that's their like spanking you or something. I'm just trying to run your eyes. Unless I'm in control and it might say, look me in my eyes. Right. Exactly. You make me do it right. eyes. Right, exactly. The boss. Right, I'm not scared. That sounds hard. That sounds terrifying. I'm not scared about you, but.

Okay, so we're like your biggest turn on them. Like what could a guy do, I guess, turn it talk? Is there anything like what's your favorite sense of four-foot? Like do like, or a sex, so performing or all sex, I knew is that like a, because someone who don't, they're like really sensitive down there, they just don't like it. Multi-ag-gasm, or gas, or women don't like that, yeah.

That's what Drew always says. Drew though, right? That's what I don't, I've noticed it. I don't I don't know that from it You did yeah, how do you know that they were just like oh cuz you've actually at sex them and they'd multiple Do you know this women who can have a multiple I can have multiple Asms and I have a role sex of course you can your sex family can do it all you're like the super one sex I can have multiple orgasms as well right during during in a horse So many like not like 50 in a horse. So yeah, so many women.

Not like 50 in 30 minutes. I can. That's like, if you give me the best one, I can have like 25. Magic one. Oh, you mean the sheep, you mean the record. Yeah, let's do it. I counted 20. Yeah, really?

I don't know. How do you do an encounter? That seems to be distracting. Well, I want to know. I want to see how far you go with it. The magic on 25. Shit, I'm late. I gotta go. It's like, it's really uncomfortable for a to see how far you go with it. The magic on 25. Shit, I'm late. I gotta go.

It's really uncomfortable for a minute and then it just gets more intense. You gotta push past it. You gotta push past it. You gotta keep going. You gotta keep going. So you're like, exactly. I'm just telling you everything. I know.

I love to tell you get to me. You just go up and out. It's good. So this new guy you're dating. Sure. I just want to know, so how long did you wait to have sex with him? It's okay if you didn't. No, we did.

Yeah, I think it's important. I don't, you know, you don't need roles around that. I've never slept around. I've never, even during this time of dating, I've always been in long-term relationships. So at least five years. This is throughout my 20s. Long relationship, I would go right into another one without a break, which wasn't good. So a lot of that going on. And then these past couple years, actually actually I wanted to date, you know.

How did you meet guys? So how do you, but I don't have sex right away. I want them to wait and I want to know, because I don't want to, I don't want to feel gross or sit there and go, oh my God, why do I do that? And then also being who you are, don't you think that a lot of men,

I mean, I have it at a much smaller scale, but I think people would be like, oh, sex, thenly, I'm gonna walk in, there'll be like a sex swing and it'll be crazy. You know what I mean? So you might also think that guys are like, making assumptions, I'm sure you are amazing about. But you also don't wanna get,

you gotta like, you don't wanna just give it off, and. Guys would just wanna be able to say to their friends, that is sex with Carmen Electra. So you gotta be worried about that too. And then when you're dating, like it's interesting because, you know, since I didn't do it in my 20s, I thought this is what I need to do. I need to go on some dates and meet a lot of people.

Doesn't mean you're having sex when you're even kissing. Exactly. How do you meet this guy? Did you like to stop with him? Did you meet him? No, I met him accidentally. I was going into record a song

and he has a studio next door to my label and they were having problems with the technical. Yeah technical problems. So they walked me over. You're a technical person, you're going to fix it? No, she's the guy one. Oh, okay. Are you with you or that?

No. Yeah, my label. The recording studio at my label, they were having technical issues. That's why I called her a wager. Oh hell no. She's super technical. Are you kidding? She can work the magic wand though.

I can't turn that on. Wait until the new one, you guys see a different level. It's a whole different thing. Okay, so you met this guy and then she went into record and then everyone left and I was alone and I felt really shy all of a sudden and we would just we vibed off of each other. Wow you felt it right away. Didn't get the song done that night at all but didn't do anything else. I mean we just basically talked. Okay. We talked a lot and he you know asked me for my

number and you know you sure texting and stuff at first. Don't you feel like, no, I was texting a lot, but I do believe that at some point, you have to get on the phone and watch. Yeah, exactly. We're old school. I don't want to stop texting me. Make a plan with me or call me.

Yeah, I had to date with someone that I, that I was really attracted to at one point, and he would only text. I hate that. And he just said, I don't, I don't talk. It's not the sign of real man. He said, I don't talk on the phone. And I'm like, well, how do I know about you?

Yeah, I'm gonna get to know you. Right. If I can't hear your tone. I'm a wicked good text. Who is he like younger? I'm just wondering what's a younger generation thing. No, actually, he was. I hate him and talked to me.

Did he have money? Yeah. Maybe I had an assistant who text for him. I made him really swarth. You know what I mean? Who knows? I mean, the thing about, yeah, I can't go out because then you realize I just spend an hour and a half. This happened when this guy was dating.

One night, we were like texting for an hour and a half and then he was like, come over. I'm like, dude, I would have come over an hour and a half ago when we started texting, but now I'm just wasting all this time. Exactly. We are all wasting our lives texting. Like life is just like, I'm gonna be like, oh, I texted and I got it.

I love a good text. I like to text. You can get your point across, you can get it. Yeah, like I'll be there in 10 minutes, sorry. But if you're dating and you're getting to know someone, at some point, I wanna get to know you. I wanna hear your tone. Right, I mean, you can misinterpret texts.

Exactly, you know. I totally, I don't know. I got it. So this guy's good, so you're dating. It's fairly new. Sex is fun now, it's good. You're like, you. I know, I know. I got it. So this guy's good. So you're dating. It's fairly new. Sex is fun now.

It's good. You're like, you're not going to talk about it. Okay. So if you had to give everyone, we'd be dating for three months. It's so good. It's so good on you. But it's so far so good. I'm happy.

Do you feel like that you, for example, the dirty talk? Because I'm seriously a guy. I'm going to admit this, but I love the dirty talk. I'm not even great at initiating it if they don't. So I've been seeing someone and I'm like, we never talked dirty. And I'm thinking, I guess I got to start talking dirty to'm not even great at initiating if they don't so I've been seeing someone I'm like we never talked dirty and I'm thinking I guess I gotta start talking dirty Don't that's not a pressure for a guy guys it really is an instant switch for me You just can't help it. You're like I'm turned on. I mean, you know, I know The guy does it to me on it's the wrong thing though

You know I'm always wearing a foot my foot in my mouth and say something just horrible about her mom or something. You know what I mean? I was like, I was like, do you want me to lay out your mother's panties? Do you remember that sign? No, that's Jerry that said that? Yeah, it was Jerry.

And she was like, what? I'm afraid I'm gonna see someone just completely cut the mood off. So I don't even say any. So you have a really dirty mind. That's pretty fucked, yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

But he got married, like someone married, um, so, but maybe she likes your dirty stick mind Well, never know because I'm not gonna talk dirty. I know exactly. Okay, um I think we got to wrap this up. So I have time for I'm so glad to know. I know well There's there's more I mean if you do you want to give me like your top sex tip your top loob slash sex tip Top sex tip I've got the tips. It's you know, I mean have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I just have to say, I wake up in the morning and like half asleep and have sex like how blood jobs like yeah, yeah, yeah, you're like giving up right don't you think you always have to like in a relationship like to whip you hear These stories like oh, I got married. I stopped getting blood jobs like why would you do that? Why would you stop?

Yeah, I was like I'm not married thing, you know all of a sudden That's a bit more. Yeah, you know, I do more right? I got the pace can you stop having sex? You are roommates, people. You stop giving blood jobs to your cliche. I don't want to hear that that happens. Okay. I mean, I can understand everyone likes what they like, and that's what I'm talking about. Yeah, I mean, if your guy doesn't like blood jobs, you're fine, but most of the matter of,

you know, being sexually attracted to each other and liking the same thing. Exactly. You know, right. Carmen, you're so beautiful and pretty and sexy and thank you for being here. I really appreciate it. Thank you for having me. Yeah, and they can find you,

Carmen Electra, Twitter, Instagram. All that stuff, yeah. Okay, Carmen, thanks for being here. And thank you for listening and thank you Madison for great show. Thank you Anderson, love you dearly. And thanks everyone for listening. Was it good for you?

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