Sex With Emily - Best Of: Sex, Love & Bacon

Episode Date: April 19, 2016

On this classic show from 2014, Emily sits down with Caleb Bacon, writer and host of the Man School Podcast. They trade relationship relationship tips, debate the benefits of Kegels for men, and Caleb opens up about how getting comfortable in his own skin led him to proposing to the love of his life!Emily also tackles your emails. Want to know how to give a great BJ, even with a nasty case of cotton mouth? Or how to go after the girl you really want? And what do you do if your boyfriend comes home from a “work trip” with smelly junk? She’s got the answers, and then some. From compliments to confidence to the dangers of dating a DJ and more, this throwback podcast is a blast from the past, packed with sex and dating tips that never go out of style. Check it out! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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that will help you have better sex, which is why you're listening to this show, better sex and relationships. And also you can find me on Facebook and Twitter and Instagram and all those places sex with Emily. So I so appreciate hearing from everyone, I'm beginning so many emails lately. I appreciate it. Feedback at sex withanley.com. And tonight we will be answering some of your emails. And the topics include a guy who thinks, you know, all his girlfriends are introducing him to his the less attractive friends at the nightclub. He wants to know why.

Also, we are talking about Kegel exercises and how much they help you. My guest is Kayla Bacon. He is the host of the Man School podcast. Hi, Kayla. All right. Hey, thanks so much for having me. I'm so glad you're here.

I'm so glad you're here. I'm so glad you're here. I'm so glad you're here. I know it's like 95 degrees and crazy, right? And it's down, it was like 100 before. What is it? It's down in the office all day. And I don't get to experience it.

Everyone's like, oh my god, it's so hot. And like my sister. Yeah, I know whether it talks super boring. But it was super boring. It was like 100 degrees. It was like 100 degrees. I know, I know it's like it was hot. Well, that's. I know whether it talks super boring. But it was super boring. It was like 100 degrees. I know, I know, it's like it was hot. That's why I was glad it was my air conditioning office all day.

Anderson, how are you doing? You were in the office, Emily. You were in the sex office. I was in the sex office all day. Do you fan yourself with Dildos? No, but that's a great idea. I'll do that if it comes down to it. You having those whirly ones that spin around like a fan maybe?

No, but that's not a bad idea. I don't have that. No, we fan ourselves with condoms that we blow up like balloons and that. It's good to see you. You look lovely as always. Thank you. It's great to see you too. It's actually been, it's been a really good week. I have to say tonight right now actually or in 25 minutes and after you all hear this, it'll be late. But I'm on an eat special tonight on the eat channel. I thought you said eat special. I'm like, are we going to hear about some new diet you're on? Eat, no, I don't diet, I don't diet. Eat channel, it's called like inside Hollywood.

Oh my god, I gotta tell you guys. Why am I here? I'm missing your special. I know you didn't tape it. I put it on Facebook, it's gonna be repeating because it's on eat, you don't read my Facebook every day. I didn't know, like my agent's called me and said they're airing it, I recorded it a while ago

and it's called inside, because they will be repeating it. Well each channel that's all they do is they just continue to re-gurgitate and cannibalize their own stuff over and over and over. I know but that's good for me because my mom already watched it in Michigan and she said that she goes you looked very good and you sounded very smart. It's not Hollywood inside Emily because that would be a different show. That would be a very long show and It's called secret societies of Hollywood deals and dealers and so I think they'll be repeating on you if you want to see it

And I'm on the sex part they interviewed me about I know but they interviewed about like inside stories of like sex in Hollywood And they're people really hiring hookers and porn stars and do this that really happen. How does it happen? First of all, no Okay No, no, no. Okay. No, that's not happening. Oh, everybody does. Oh, okay, I thought you were saying that. Everybody does.

Yeah. Not you do, you don't. No, no, I do. But you mean like celebrities. And it was surprising though, because a lot of the questions they asked me actually, you know, they are like a lot of times models, like they go through their modeling agents, like real models, you'll see like not real, but like not just porn stars, but models will also sometimes, you know, have someone like an Abu Dhabi Pam like you know a hundred thousand dollars

for the weekend and fly them there and have sex and so. Does that actually happen or does that mean you know? It really does because I thought it did but I had to do a lot of research before because I knew what they wanted to talk about and so I talked to like escorts and I found all I did a lot of work for this. Is there a number like a couple dozen that do this a year and then they come back and live amongst us? Oh, the models. So the women that actually go over. Oh, yeah, I would do it.

Six figure deals. I would have to sleep sleep with them now. No, I probably wouldn't do it. Well, six figures. I mean, Jesus. You're gonna do it. It's so hard. It's so hard. It's so hard. I threw it.

No, I wouldn't do it. I'm hanging that much. They're flying you over there. You're going to do it. It's $100,000. And apparently, they don't really fly one woman over. They fly over like a lot, like 10. So you're not like, you're on call the whole time. So you can go shopping. They give you a per diem, which is probably like $10,000 a day.

They really don't get higher up plane and just fly out one. You got to pack that plane. You got to pack the plane. And so they fly them out and they've got a whole thing. So that's what it's about. It's about like, just like, them each in their own plane. That's because I'm a gentleman've got a whole thing so that's what it's about. It's about like, I would fly them each in their own plane, that's because I'm a gentleman. Right, you would, that's sweet.

You give them each their own private jet. Old school. You are old school. You're a good man, right? That's what your show's about. Telling guys how to be a good man. A little bit. Yeah, well, that's like at the center of it.

I want to have awesome interviews with men who've had some really cool, interesting, difficult life experiences and kind of by sharing those stories pass on things that are usable to other guys or at least just entertaining. Okay so like who is your last guest in your show? I kind of I kind of want to say this in front of Anderson but Brian Bishop. Who in the world is that? Why not for Anderson? There are bitter rivals who host a film vault together. Oh, oh, oh, oh. New York Best Times seller of Ryan Bishop.

I know him, right? Don't I meet him every week? Yes, yeah, you do. He's the bald one. I never know anyone's name. He's the bald guy who they call Brian, who's also called bald Brian. Got it.

OK, I've met him. OK, cool. So what do you guys talk about? Would you learn from him? Well, he's a guy who just celebrated five years since his cancer diagnosis. Okay. And he's doing fantastic.

And not all my shows are like as heavy as cancer. Right. And things like that. Cancer's pretty heavy, right? Yeah, cancer's pretty heavy. But at least if I'm gonna do a topic like that on my show, I want it to be with someone who's kind of light and fun. So it's not just like- They can laugh about their cancer Yeah, and talk about it in a way that's not just like

an hour of things that are just morose. That's that's not what I want to do with my show. And so so Brian there's there's a lot you can learn from that guy because I think he I think he started off in a better place than a lot of people like born optimistic. That's really hard. Oh God really. He's one of those, like he's truly happy. Yeah, I think that's right. And there's this stuff. And there's some of our best friends. Anderson's not really happy though.

No, I know Brian does. He does wander around optimistic with thumbs in the air and a lot of people buy it. And I do most of the time. Anderson, I tried to book himself on your show through me and I said absolutely not. What? Because it's a fun sex show.

We're not going to sit around talking about Brian's cancer for it. Well, can we talk about how it affected his sex life? Is he married? Yeah, yeah. Okay. The poor thing. And that that we only talk about sex, but we mostly talk about sex. Have you done a show about boners and chemo? No, not yet. Boners and chemo. That would get a lot of downloads. Now, I'm kidding. I mean, I've told you, it is interesting and boners and anything. Like people have the hard time getting boners across the board, but boners and chemo, I'm kidding. Totally it is interesting and boners and anything like people have the hard time getting boners across the board but boners and chemo I'm sure is a whole other ball of wax. Yeah he and I did talk about sex a little bit.

Boners and chemo. You got boners chemo radiation. And sure yeah and he's okay now and he had cancer recently now that we're going on the cancer road. Yeah it's been five years five years okay. And he's doing fantastic. Okay Good. These days. Got it. Okay. So what what have you learned about sex and dating from doing your podcast? Oh geez. Well my Adventures in podcasting did not start out with my current show Man school. I used to do a show before and I would occasionally have porn stars on. Oh, and that's like you do So you know about how often they're late or Oh, and they don't just show up. Or they show up. Or they may go after because you didn't get them enough. You didn't get them a drink or

something after. I don't know. Yeah. I've had that happen. Yeah. And so I always had a place where I'm like, oh, I can have porn stars over to my apartment to like talk about sex. This seems like a fun, weird thing that like teenage me back in upstate new york would have a thousand grades and ever and so i did that and that kind of that it wasn't just porn stars but that kind of got boring right and i i'm not actually going to bang up like we just part of you secretly hoping like maybe it'll turn into something basically

just by having my neighbors see me in the elevator with porn star that that was enough that's how guys are really like they just They really want to be seen with with hot woman on the arm or hot women near them like I have a lot of guys An accessory. It is like an accessory and girl. I don't I've never felt the way. I don't get I don't take you guys all Well, but maybe they would take away. I'm sure all the guys Past and present who listen to this your program really appreciate you saying that I do But they're not like hot like you'd be like oh no except for that one that I dumped out of the birthday of a stake in San Francisco That was bad one. He certainly does a listen

We were talking about this today because Lauren my assistant was my intern at the time It was a mistake. It was so cute. I mean I seriously think that I've ever and I but I I decided to move to Los Angeles I've been like thinking about it for 10 years, but, but really for the last six months in San Francisco, I was like, I was flying down every week. I got to be in LA, I got to do it. And I was just feeling it's a nurse like, you know, when you want to start a new project or do something, you're like, okay, like enough talk, do something.

So I just like sitting on my computer, I went to Facebook and I just posted, hey, anyone want to want to swap my San Francisco for your LA? And within two minutes, he texted me, like, so you're moving to Los Angeles. And then I said, I was just thinking about it. I was just putting it down. And then we did date for another month. And then I happened to break up with him on his birthday. Because I moved.

Oh, I got a message four minutes later on Facebook from a woman in LA who I barely knew. I met a party 10 years ago. Facebook friends, that's how Facebook is. And she's like, I've got a message four minutes later on Facebook from a woman in LA who I barely knew I met a part of party ten years ago. Facebook friends, that's how Facebook is and she's like, I've got a place. I got to be in LA. San Francisco in ten days, so I'm moving to her place and I laughed in ten days. San Francisco. That's very romantic story.

Thank you. But then we stayed together for a month and then when I broke up with them was actually his birthday. But that wasn't on purpose. It wasn't like, it wasn't like happy birthday to you. You are dumped. You're like, I'm sorry. I meant to wait till Valentine's Day, but it was too far away. I've done that too and that's always by mistake

I think it just brings up a lot of emotions as holidays and then you just write up with people sometimes long So it wasn't on the Super Bowl. That's okay. Yeah, he wasn't a fault But right right right no people getting people kill people on the super like that's like a dangerous day for people Like abuse and stuff really like if you heard those stats dark not to go down that road Not a good time. Really, like if you heard those stats, stark, not to go down that road. Not a good time. Okay, so. Okay, answer a spousal abuse here on the sexual death.

How really, like really let's get, yeah. So we're talking about my other podcast I used to do. Oh, yeah, one chart. One chart. I used to be drunk, used to do a lot of drugs, used to just kind of act like a jerk a lot, not all the time, but enough of the time to where as it finally seemed like a good idea to clean up my act.

And so at some point in the past couple of years, I kind of got sick of just doing like a fun comedy podcast. And I wanted to do something that had some actual meaning and that people would find entertaining but also kind of helpful. And so I came up with the idea for man school, just talking to another guy 101 and sharing those experiences and like, you know, setting where my guests can be honest and and just basically get real and and not talk about stuff and like,

you know, kind of like a posturing macho away. Right. And so because those conversations have been super helpful to me in every area of my life and especially especially relationships. So from man's school, I haven't, and necessarily learn sex tips or anything. But. How about relationships? What do you think, yeah, what have you learned about by talking to them about having successful relationships

or anything? I'll give you a perfect example. So I got engaged last week. I know congratulations. Thank you very much. I'm very happy for you I was waiting for the sound effect because I don't know what Anderson thinks about the institution of marriage So he's married and he's full on married effect Anderson is so married and happily married that he won't even talk to me about a sex life At all like a mums the word which is annoying at a respect

I'm gonna break you one day. Yeah, that's a good relationship if he's not well in a I know but it's annoying when he sits here If I was on show with you like 10 years ago, oh, we would have had a show dude that would have been better No, he doesn't interview like Anderson from 1997 Yeah, I kind of cross that with the wife I've asked her and she just gave me a look so I think that's off the table as well Nope past Anderson crazy party guy. I got a friend named Andy who I can talk about freely.

Oh good. Is this like Andy? Yeah, Andy. Oh, Andy, where you in? Oh my god. Okay. Okay. So you were going to say that in recent show.

Yeah, I did a podcast with this actor singer Drew Seely, and the topic was on proposing. And so it was his story about how he got to the place with his girlfriend where he wanted to propose. All the steps he went through all the different considerations of what he wanted to do, didn't want to do. And it wasn't so much of how to guide, but it was what he had done from that experience. And I literally listened to that episode last week as I was preparing for my own engagement to get psyched up a little bit. How did you do yours? How did you get ideas from him or what you were going to do? He hit on a lot of topics, definitely make sure to make it about her. And I think as guys we know that, but we may not necessarily get that. As you could see from like the guys who do the flash mob videos,

like it's, it's kind of not so much about the, the woman as it is, like both of them are the guy. And I know that my lovely fiance, whose name is also Emily, right? So sexual family has many good meanings. Yes. But the, so she wanted something more intimate and so I'm How do you know she wanted something more intimate because she knew you were gonna propose?

Well, we've we've talked about it a bunch. Okay, and like she didn't know when it was happening but we've talked about like we wanted to get married and have a family and that sort of thing. Right. She knew it was gonna happen at some point. At some point, yeah. But didn't know specifically. So then I had a chance to take some of his information, some info from other guys who I talked to, and stuff I ran along. And I want to come up with something special, but that was special.

That would show that I put a lot of effort into it, but it was for her, and it was all about her and I have a lot of people currently thinking that I spent two million dollars to run out the Hollywood Bowl because I proposed to her in an empty Hollywood bowl. You just stuck in no, it's actually open No, it's it's technically a county park so it's open sunrise to sunset on days when there's no show and there was no in there There was one guy running the stairs which by the way, it's a steep you tell him to leave it's a steep place We like hey buddy. Here's some water go leave there pay two million dollars, right? No, I worked out great because he saw us We like I didn't try to get on one day right next to this wedding guy right in the 18,000 person That was empty, but he saw us and he said congratulations

And he asked if we wanted any pictures taken. Oh. So that worked out for her. That's great. And she said yes, obviously. Yeah. Right. That's great.

Congratulations. It does have to be all about the word. And that reminds me of something that I was actually going to start talking about the show if I had taken a few deep breaths before I got here. But I know it's been a crazy friggin life. Yeah. I'm glad you said life because I know that you because I knew all right every week she comes in here says it was the craziest week. It's been the craziest day every single week.

Oh my God. But here's the thing. But let me tell you the difference. I'm actually making time now for my for my life and my friends and I'm I'm used to say moved here. It's been great. I mean LA has been a great for business and for work and I work a lot and I'm starting to like you know see my friends again, which I have in the world. So last night I dinner with two girlfriends, two my closest friends here. And we went out for Margarita. I felt like a sex and city movie. We have like Margarita's at this Mexican restaurant and talking about sex and relationships which is so cliche. But that's what we're doing. And they're both in like serious relationships right now. One's been with her guy for three years. He proposed to but he doesn't really want to get married and the other one just met the guy after eight months

They moved in together, right? That's the story with them But they're both like in these relationships and then they started talking about How the men that they're with because they're both really beautiful and I wanted my coffee out here Is it most guys when when a girl says that a woman's beautiful, they're like, yeah, whatever, right? Is that true? Let me see her. On the inside. Right, right, you're like, she's not hot.

Like, you know what I mean? You think, sure she is. I'm like, you just love her. But they like objectively and empirically, these women are beautiful, smart, interesting women. And they were saying that the guys with the width, like, never, because one of them was complaining, like, I gotta get in my fake, I gotta face you,

I gotta lose weight. And I'm like, you're so beat, beat doesn't don't your boyfriend tell you how beautiful and they're like never no and like you never tells you that you're beautiful and makes you feel special and private and I've said that's on the show a lot and probably as as as recently as last week but that it's so important for women and not because we need our ego stroked and not because you know otherwise well you know but it just we want to feel cherished and adored and that it is about us. Like just like guys want to feel appreciated. Women really want to feel like we want to feel beautiful, we want to feel that you recognize us and that we just are supported in. So my one friend was saying,

like, yeah, like he used to tell me all the time and she said the other night we're lying in bed naked and falling asleep and not having sex and the news is on. And they're half asleep and all of a sudden, where's the guy? Jumping out and goes, holy shit, who's that? And she looks up and there's like a new hot weather girl on. He must've been watching Fox, right? Something is that what it is?

I don't know. But she's like, I'm a hot girl next to you. And you're noticing. And I'm like, he never tells you that. And then my other friend said the same thing and that he doesn't make it about them enough. And so I was just getting to say that. And also my mother, the other thing is,

she divorced my dad many years ago. But what she always said to you and I was a little girl, she's like, you know, he never made me feel special. He never told me I was beautiful the whole time we were together. And I don't, I guess I want to say that I'm not underplaying this guy's, because I used to joke on my show like,

compliment her 20 times a day. And like, Mattis, who's like, my co sometimes, like, that's ridiculous. You can't, they're I want to say that I'm not underplaying this to guys because I used to joke on my show like compliment our 20 times a day and like Mattis who's like my co sometimes like that's ridiculous You can't they're gonna know that they love me and that's a little too much 20 But but really like even if it's just a few and you're like you look great babe and just to recognize the person that you've been with Because you might think I've told her if she knows I think her ha I'm busy But we put time into things and we make ourselves you know We want to be appreciated for that and for other things. It doesn't have to just be like that. We're beautiful, but it can be like, you know, just do special things like bring home flowers on a random day or, you know, just make her feel cherished and special, you know, that she's indispensable to you.

And you can also like emphasize things you like like your hair looks really good to like little things. That's like your hot as a guy. Mm hmm. Why would you not say this to your fee? You got a fiance now. So why would what would make you not say your hot on a regular basis to your fiance? Well, I do tell her that to see he's one of those guys. Yeah. Let's say it wasn't your fiance with somebody else.

Maybe you've been in a relationship when you haven't said that on a regular basis. I think I think with a lot of us guys, when we start dating someone, we don't necessarily want to show all of our cards Right, you know play a little bit. I don't want to like fully open up and be vulnerable Right because then she's gonna think oh, I've got them or something or that she won't like me for coming on too strong Right like there's a friend of mine who went out with a guy on one date Like a two weeks ago. He's been texting her every morning like

Hey, hope you have a good day. And like they didn't even kiss. And I think as guys, like we're afraid we're going to come off like that as, I'm just going to be lame. Right. Right. Right. That's the opposite. Like I don't want to think, but that is kind of every day would be annoying too. There's a balance. Are you saying that was a good thing? No, it's totally inappropriate. It's weird. Right. It is weird. And I think so we're, we want to look cool and we don't want to get Kick to the curb. We want to kind of preserve our ego a little bit But if you're in an established relationship with someone and you've been together a while

It doesn't women is it the hurt desire to feel desired and cherished and and appreciated and beautiful doesn't wane No, because you've been together so I'm going to see her every time. It is. I'm just addressing it because the fact that it came up last night with both of them, and I always say it in here, it just shows that I'm right. Do you understand? Did you tell your wife? Yeah, I tell my wife, I mean, probably, you know, about two, three times an hour, honestly. And, but it's, it comes from a real place.

I've got a look at her and I'll see her dimples or something. I'm like, oh my god, you're so cute. Oh, that's cute. But it's because it's, you know, it's real. It's from the heart. I'm not too sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure, I'm like, oh my god, you're so cute. Oh, that's too much. Or you're so pretty. But it's because it's, you know, it's real. It's from the heart. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure.

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I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. were talking about this. I went to Sierra in Florida a few weeks ago and she was saying, you know, it's funny because we were talking about the same issue. And she brought up again that your dad never did that. I'm like, I know you told me that. She said, but Ed, my stepdad, she said, he'll just, she goes, you know, feel so good because I'll just come out dressed for work

and he'll be like, you look adorable today. I love that skirt, you know, and it's just, and he means it because he means it. He's not just saying, like he's like, look how cute your mom, like it's not, you're not faking it ever 30, but he really feels it. And I just, I think if you feel it or you're thinking it is not just saying it like he's like look how cute your vomit like it's not you're not faking it ever 30 but he really feels it and it just I think if you feel it or you're thinking it you should say it. I think so too.

I think something like worth noting is that Anderson and I are in unique situations in that we're with women and I'll speak on your behalf here Anderson that we want to be with forever. So it's because we appreciate already so many things about us women. So it's easier to say that. It was natural. But that's my friends are with guys. One of them is engaged. One moved in together. Yeah, it should be. What I'm saying is I think so too. I think they should both dump these losers. Another reason why I think guys might not say it is that they're insecure and they're afraid of letting this woman know how hot they are.

I think that they're narcissists. These guys that they're insecure and they're afraid of letting this woman know how hot they are. I think that they're narcissists, these guys that they're doing both of them. I believe me and I think it's also these women who, that's the long, I don't want to get into their whole history, but I think that they typically have dated men who don't treat them as well. I guess I just want women and all my friends to be in healthy, good relationship with men who do worship that. You are so sexy in the city right now.

Well, it's true. Why would you have to talk with a guy that makes you feel bad and that you're constantly trying to, you know, it's like the woman who gets into a relationship. They're kind of fixers. They date the fixer-uppers. Like, he'll change one day. He won't want to go out drunk and go see,

you know, go to strip clubs with his guy friends, you know? Anderson. He's like 40. I go by myself. But really, like, he's really, you really think you're gonna change him because people don't change unless they want to change You can't make someone change you can't say like I need you know So obviously he's showing you after two years not changing whatever it's a long story with them

But but women you should bring them in I should bring them yeah, you should do that Well good luck to them and you good luck to them. I just well. Yeah, the hot one But like that would be annoying to me. It's like you didn't tell me I I'm a hot-a-meek. Okay, I just needed to say that. Okay, I needed to get this off my chest. Okay, so what made you decide to propose, when did you know that was at the moment that you were gonna do it? I think I knew a couple of months into our relationship

that I wanted to. You did? Yeah. And how long have you been together? We've known each other for a little over two years, been dating for most of that time, but not all of it. And yeah, it was a couple months, but then we moved in together,

and I'm kinda old-fashioned, even though, like, I'm a sitcom writer, I got a podcast, you know, I'm a hip-swinging guy. Yeah, you're hip, yeah, totally. Working the MP3 arts much as yourself. Right. But, you know, things are a little bit different in Los Angeles than if I was back in Albany, New York,

or you were back in Michigan. And so I wanted to move in together. I'm the guy who wants to get married before I have kids. And hopefully those things line up accordingly. But that's the plan, at least. So we moved in together. That was really, really good. And then I got to a point where it's like,

okay, now I got some money in coming in so I can afford a ring, but nothing too crazy. And then, she just finished grad school. And so I wanted to throw a surprise engagement party on the day of the engagement, because I knew she was gonna say yes. So she knew we were gonna do this graduation party. That was a lot bigger than she expected.

And so it took me like four or five months of planning. Wow, you're like such a good guy. Yeah, thank you. It worked out though. I was so nervous that somebody was gonna blow it. Yeah. Some kind of way. The God you can tell me I might have like texted about a steak,

like see you at night M and then I would have messed up the whole thing. So I'm gonna do that. Well, congratulations again. That's very exciting. When you get married, you know. would have messed up the whole thing. So I'm going to do that. Well, congratulations, again, that's very exciting. When you get married, you know, you'll have to talk to Emily. I'll have to show you. She's in charge.

She's in charge of that part. I think so. We've been engaged for about five days. I think she already has her dress and shoes. Right. Of course, she's one of those. I get it like the night before and be like calling my assistant. Can we find a tailor that's open 24 hours?

I just found it yesterday. And you guys can go back to the Hollywood Bowl for your anniversary every year. Yeah, yeah. That's great, because it'll be there. I got, and if you haven't proposed yet, fellas, out there. Don't do it. I like my proposal, but I did it in an apartment that I no longer live at. Oh, oh.

Or have access to. Oh, this is a good point. That sucks. I would love it to have done it in a public place so we can go visit. Is it Los Angeles? Yeah, when they remodeled it, now it's an archstone and it sucks. Can you drive by and at least feel some of that good feeling? Kind of. You can do that.

You can make a little picnic outside and they're lost. They're so nice. Yeah, I crash it, climb over the fence, bringing some snacks. It occurred to me almost immediately after. I'm like, this is such a great moment. I actually cried and everything. It was awful. It was terrible. I was very embarrassed But afterwards I'm like that was such a you know big moment

I we can't once we move out of here. We can never come back to this exact spot I think next to when you're ever I think I should do this and go back to there the vicinity I Think this is a great idea for next year and then I'll give you some vibrators as a present As you're anniversary present. I just love giving out vibrators. One of the things that I consider about the location for the proposal was that it had to be someplace special, but for my relationship with my fiance, there's a lot of places where if all of a sudden we're driving up for no real reason other than some BS story I've made

up, I thought she would have sniffed it out. And I really didn't want that to happen. I wanted to be a total surprise, blower away, and the Hollywood bolt, we don't have any history there. I've always loved the place, but it's just bad ass. Right. It's amazing. So my folks are in town for this graduation party, slash surprise and getting the party.

And I said my mom wanted to take a tour of the Hollywood bolt, so we got there and she didn't see a comment so so it's perfect but I I definitely realized like as the date was coming near that if I pull off to this like scenic overlook in Malibu for Kind of no reason other than saying hey, can we stop and take a photo? It might have tipped it a little you thought about this whole thing like that's you're right It could have especially if she knows that you're going to do it.

Like that it's good about to happen. And I've also talked a lot of other guy friends about this because I'm a big fan of guys talking to other guys, but like real stuff. Right. Right. I love talking about sports too, but yeah, I definitely had some love.

I love that you're the guy that. You're the city moment. Yeah. Right. You have. I'm sure. And especially on your show, it sounds like you sit down and you talk to men about real thing is and not just

porn So so on your show the men is there any like common themes you think that you've learned You said you've learned a lot from them, but what kind of like anything that could relate to like dating or Relationships is there any like common themes or is there anything that you think that men constantly run into that They don't know about women or they are confusing to them or common themes. Number of things is male kegels. Is there anything? Really?

Are you being serious? No, no, male kegels are things. No, male kegels are actually one of my questions. Yes, male kegels, can I just tell you the, okay, this is about, is he going to kill me, Jordan, if I tell the story? Are we trying to? Are you kidding me? Jordan would totally be down with it.

You don't know Jordan. Yeah, I think Anderson knows him well. But the guy's been on your show? Yeah. That's like Conker, Tangle Camp? Yeah. Oh, did you talk about it? I did.

OK, so here's the thing with me. I have an iPhone app called Kegel Camp. And it's for men and for women. And Kegel exercises actually help you men stay harder longer, have longer lasting orgasm, women can have stronger orgasms. And it's those peace-stopping muscles. So when you, like, if someone's knocking on the door and you go, shit, it was here and

you stop. It's like when you stop and start the flow of urine, right? So you have to find the right muscles. You have to identify your pelvic floor muscles and you go in and you stop and start them. And you're supposed to do them. My iPhone app has 20 levels, right? Which is crazy. So you do it for like five minutes a day.

Stop tense, relax. It's like my voice walking you through it. And it pops up on your phone. So every day at 11.30 AM, it says time for kettle camp. And then I do my five minutes of exercises because doctors are always recommending them for women that also helps with urinary continents and all the stuff.

So anyway, Jordan was on my show. He has a popular podcast, the's his podcast? The art of charm, of course. And he is like freaking out about he and his girlfriend were having a like a competition with Kegel Kegel. So when I first launched it only at 10 levels thinking like who the hell is going to get to level 10. But soon after people like I'm at 10, I want 20. So I relaunch it with 20 levels. Jordan kept sending me screen grabs. He's like I'm on level 17, 18. He got to friggin level 20.

And he's like, I have to tell you that I had ejaculated like I was 18 years old, like shot across the room. Like that's how hard it's kegal muscles because they help you with like ejaculation. Saying, so men, yes, do kegal and women have stronger orgasms. See, I was trying to make a stupid joke. I know you were a bit now, but no, see, but the funny thing

is that more actually I hear from more men than women who actually do their titles and tell them it helps them, but so they're sex life and stuff. So anyway, interesting that you ask. And look, there's less levels than candy crush, you know, just focus on it. What the hell is it with candy crush? No people don't invite me on, I never want to play it. I don't understand, everyone's obsessed with it. Should I be, because I feel like if I play it, maybe I'd never stop. I don't like it. Yeah, Yeah. The characters are naked. You'd be in. Hey, you know, you should do for the ladies Kegel camp, maybe get them boosted. You give them like a

little squeak toy so they could actually hear every time they do it. No, there are weights, though. There's kegge balls that you put in your. You can put it in there. Oh, yeah. There's weights for your vagina. They don't squeak. But that's a great idea. Yeah, but then you can't do them like incognito. They'll know that everyone does them in their car, right? Well, they tell you this is why I made the app because every doctor will tell you do kegels. Like, no matter what your issue is, they're like, you should down there do your know that you wouldn't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don't know that you don Graphically, but with your original question before I mentioned male kiggles, but by the way, those that was good to learn about my friend Jordan Oh, thanks. He's gonna love that I talked about that. Yep. I'm Jordan's fine with it Right he is, but with I think with like men stuff, so I'm 33 and I feel like I finally feel like I'm an adult now Not just because of the proposal thing, but I can finally have like my S together and

Like I have like the career I want. You know, I got my gal, got my, got my apartment, I got rid of the blackberry. You know, there's things like that. The iPhone's so much better than the blackberry. I waited way too long. Right, you just gotta do, okay. No, not just now, but it was still too long.

Right, right, right, no, at least you got the iPhone, it's helping you feel this complete cycle. It's not like a good cable camp. Oh yeah, download it, right. No, at least you got the iPhone. It's helping you feel this complete cycle. It's not like you get cagal camp. Oh yeah, download it. Totally. And I think so much with male sexuality relationships isn't really about, like I know you have a lot of

callers on Loveline, which you do a fantastic job at Coel Moston. Seriously, Emily, my fiance, not you. Great name, by the way. We listen, go into bed, most nights, but we put on the Loveline. Yeah, it's fantastic. And I think a lot of callers like Drew does a good job of breaking this down and Mike, Mike as well. Like they'll have like a little question like they that they think is the problem, but there's really

some like big huge issue behind it. They can't see. And so I think I've noticed that too about like a lot of guys, just, you know, friends or just people I've talked to over the years, it'll be like, I wish I could last longer and bad or something like that. But there's really like some anxiety problem where they're on some medication. Exactly. It's different. And so the stuff on my show, while it's less about specific sex stuff, I think when you can find a way to be more comfortable in your own skin, be less of a douchebag, put more like good stuff out into the world. And I mean, there's so much to be said for comfort in knowing who you are.

I think all of that translates to you. That's journey to be in your 20s. A lot of times you go through, you don't know who you are and you're trying to figure it out. A lot of men. Yeah, you do things like go to a tequila festival and try to drive back to Los Angeles. Exactly. See, you have the good stories now. Yeah, you do things like go to a tequila festival and try to drive back to Los Angeles. Exactly. You have the good stories now.

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Okay, we've taken line one because this guy has a very important question. It's a girl. Danny. Hi, Danny. You're on sex with Emily. Hello. Hi, Danny, you're on sex with Emily. Hello. Hi, Danny. Thanks for waiting. So my boyfriend just got back from a four-day vacation, a golf vacation. It was all paid for by ESPN, like, supposedly non-stop golf, but I think it's a little weird. I came home and we came to my

center and went down on a smell like cheese. I think I've never smelled on him ever, ever before. I definitely was not me and I'm just a little concerned. I did lots of goolean didn't really get any answers because there's so many cheesy jokes. Right, did you go? What's up? But did you, um, okay, so did you say anything to him? No, I didn't say anything to him.

Right, because that's tough. Okay, you know what he thinks. Because there's a mini-different thing. So first of all, we went out to gender with the guy that he went with a lot of advertising through his dance. So he was like a plus one for this trip. Well, I talked to that guy. I think I was like, I think I never got the last day of the trip.

Well, according to him, he was golfing all day. Well, it's all so like, you know, like, this just seems a little weird. Right. so like you know like it's it's it's just seems a little weird right i think like he came home and said the shower but he was also him was by the time you like that got it right you're a day full of all for whatever they were doing and then a day full of

traveling but that's what is weak right no it doesn't sound good and he is he has pn bune dog will suggest that he's got to go to the doctor had sex well he was well you might have honey i mean honestly like there's something wrong like even like i I'm good. ESPN, boom, doggle. Okay. He's got to go to the doctor. Had sex. Well, he was supposed to go up to the doctor. Yeah, he might have, honey.

I mean, honestly, like, there's something wrong. Like, even like, I say this, like, when women call in or guys call in, they're like, she's something, I smell something, find it down there. Usually when there is a certain odor that you're not used to, he might have, he might have something going on down there. And I don't want to say, for sure, it's sexually transmitted disease. But you have to say something. Either way, like, there's-

Either way, something's going on and you shouldn't be giving a blowjob and sex them. Is he circumcised? Yes. Okay, thank you. Ask him like what a score was on that last day of golf. If he says 69, that's a problem. He was sorry.

He was fine. He didn't do very well. Yeah. You know, whatever. And like we're, we're very very touching couple like we like have all of our each other's passwords you know like I never go through his phone and he's a smart guy like I there's no way I can go through his phone and find anything if it was gonna be related to that anyway. Right. Right. There's really no how long have you guys been together? We have been on and off for the past five years.

We have only been, I knew to raise for three years, and came back. Has there ever been any other kind of distrust moments in this relationship? No, but he's also, yeah, mainly my only thing is, he likes to, like, I never had him, like, I would like, prostitute or anything before, but he's the kind of person you like to pay for something if he wants it. Okay. He has that kind of personality. He went on ESPN. Okay, I'm sorry, but these boondog he won it where was it in Vegas no it was um it was in South Carolina keyword island okay an island whatever that's all I need to know I don't want to say that the I'm not gonna say I think that he just needs to get charge he could also have something else more serious I don't know but he should get

checked out just tell him that he could have just been golfing all day and traveling all but his friends said his friends said that they weren't golfing that day. So that's the main problem. Fuck the cheese. You got a bigger problem with him lying about his last. Yeah. Why did he say he did and he didn't? And yeah, well, I don't know.

I don't know that he didn't. He said it rions. Well, he said his friend doesn't. When did this? OK, when did this happen? This this this this this this this this this is all today. This is like a couple hours ago. I never called it to a radio. I love that you called in. No, this is so good. This is all today. This is like a couple hours ago. I've never called it to a radio show.

I love that you called it. No, this is so good. This is I want to help you. I mean, honestly, and you just had he did shower right before you had sex, right? You said he came home when he showered? Yeah, like he came home and showered. Okay, so.

He was a little invasive. Maybe he didn't shower well enough, but there is like definitely a funky. Oh, yeah. I would talk it like a pro-provoloner. I mean, you look good. Yeah, sharp cheddar. So like, would, I mean, have you ever had a weird scent

with your penis that you didn't know? Yeah, I mean, I think it happens sometimes because we're all bilotually. Right. And we'll go through different things. But Danny, I'm wondering, is he a fan of condoms? Oh, and he's like, no. She's been talking this entire time.

Danny, I think that you've got to say something to him. I mean, I would say something to him and say, there's this strange, you got to be honest with you. There was like this, did you keep giving him a blowjob or did you stop? No, I kept going. And did he ejaculate? Yeah. Okay.

And was that cheesy too? She's like it. I was like that. The owner was already in my house. Like I was talking to him. Yeah, I think there's something going on. No, I don't know what. There was my first time seeing him. I'm like, we're really close. No, I get it. I like that. The owner was already in my house. Like I think there's something going on. No, I don't know what- You know, it's like the first time seeing them.

Like we're really close. No, I get it. I don't want, and I don't want to, listen, I don't want to jump to any assumptions, but this is what I always tell guys because I actually hear this more from men calling in about women. I say there's probably something going on with her. She's got to get checked out because there's a lot of guys who are like, I've been dating her for a while and there's been this set. And a lot of times it could be something.

Why are we just thinking, is there like, I think, because it could be something. Why would you think is there, like, I think, because when I was googling it, there was like, cheese stick, like where I like, I was like, oh my gosh. Well, no, because you were saying it was like cheese, it's probably just some odor that could be emitting from his penis that could come from some kind of de-bacterial, like bacterial infection.

So, I mean, but it's never, like, it's a virus. I get it, he's never cheesy. Whatever it is, it's something different. So that's all we talk about, it's never like, I got it. He's never cheesy. Whatever it is, it's something different. So that's all we talk about. It's different. Whatever it is, you've been with him for five years. His penis has never smelled like any kind of dairy, poultry condiment. So you really need to just tell him be like something,

I could be honest, babe, something. Yeah, honest, he's just saying, do that. Be honest, you've been with him for five years. Say, I don't know, say, tell him you talk to me. be on his baby. Yeah, honestly, do that. Be honest. I'm gonna be in the five years. Say, I don't know, say, tell me talk to me. Say I was a little worried. Yeah, and honestly, it could mean like he could be something else going on that is completely unrelated to any to a sexually transmitted disease.

He could have something serious. So he should check, get checked out. There's no reason why he should have that odor that lingered after he just showered. So I would say something sooner or later, I would not have sex with him him right now and I wouldn't perform all sex until he goes to the doctor Very good advice ASAP. Okay. Thanks for calling in Danny and thanks for waiting. Okay, so anyway God dick cheese. That's just that was so far. I'm gonna go to bed with that like thought of my dog Don't go to bed with that. I don't know. I'm gonna do Right he was groan around do you think for sure I think so yes be

in boondoggle hello what else are you gonna do they're like golf trip what she's thing really like at the next day or that's what she's like she's no but if he has some if he contracts some kind of like bacterial thing from a woman or you know maybe he has some kind of like cancer I don't know I'm not gonna say I don't know I'm not a medical doctor if you guys picked up on the fact that she kind of said that he's paid for hookers in the past. She said he'll pay for something if he wants it. He doesn't sound good, but I'm not gonna point fingers.

He's gonna be wearing a condom and then he doesn't smell like cheese. I have no. Guys who sleep with hookers and cheat on their girlfriend's and don't wear condoms are really hard. Every hooker, I mean, I always hear them, they always demand. Every hooker you've ever slept with. I've saw pretty women, she demands condoms. No, they all don't though. Well, that was a realistic story. That pretty well. That was a real space.

The reality. They all look like Julia Roberts too. So, so that's good. But she said she said it was they've been on and off for five years. That man. Okay. So he's basically like a shark who's had the taste for blood. And so over the past few years, he's been able to go get it elsewhere and be able to come back to her. Right. And like a safe situation that's comfortable. So I mean, I exactly and I had a friend who was dating a DJ, which by the way, I don't

want to offend anyone here if you're DJ, but I just would never dated DJ because honestly, Casey Kason. Yeah, maybe now I date Casey Kason, but honestly, my friends who did DJs, it's just the worst because they're up to 5 a.m They're usually doing drugs There's a million girls going Just standing right I'm like all night long and it was just awful and he was always cheating on her But we all kind of knew it but didn't know but then he came back that sex ones and then she got like bacterial vaginosis or something from him. She's also what? She's osu

It is weird chicks are weird you guys are also weird Caleb. I was in a bar once down just down the street This place called carbon club and their DJ didn't show up and it's a tiny little club red lights whatever and I'm like I could push play so I put on the headphones I push play I instantly became like a rock star chicks were literally throwing themselves at me like for the next two hours or in line to come up and talk to me that was pushing play exactly exactly these are the dudes they can't wait to get to our anything like I'm gonna be a DJ and this guy was just like so

Dushi and we all knew and anyway DJs. I think they're bad news Not all of them Work till 5 a.m. Don't listen to sex with Emily suck cock. Yeah, but I usually don't say things But I'm very I'm not a very judgmental person and so that's actually unlike me to say something like that It's not all DJs do something like that. I think it's fair to evaluate. Yeah, it's like typically a guy who's into that and he's always like going to a visa for a week without her like hello. But I know as a guy living in Los Angeles, it's like okay, dating actresses was not a good

idea, not because I have some judgment about actresses, but because there's something legitimate going on there. Like what? Like what? That they are self-centered, more than normal, more image conscious, more than normal, and also typically more damaged. And I don't say damaged is like a bad thing to pass judgment. Because who is in damage a little? Yeah, I mean, I've had plenty of issues, but I've also done a lot of work on myself. And so there was definitely, yeah, time where I was not as awesome.

Because now you're asking this, right? Yeah, and so there's sure there's plenty of actresses that have done good work on themselves, but it's harder. Yeah. So it's just, I get it. No people say that, I mean, I, you know, I don't know, people who say that about actress about different people, but you're right, I can, I could see that. Absolutely. People say that about ball I you know I don't know people who say that about actress about different people but you're right I can I could see that absolutely people say that about ballerinas right I've heard it like more than once and

that's so random and I think I don't know where you even meet a ballerina right Anderson Carbony Club Culver City is that where you meet the ballerinas who knows my guess is Kayla Bacon from the Man School podcast they can find it at a Man School Show dot They can find it at uh... on iTunes. Man School Show.com. On iTunes. Okay, Man School Show. If you're on iTunes, get the Kegel Camp app as well. Yeah. For men and women.

Exactly. And your podcast and my podcast. So how do you feel about answering some emails with me now from the people and giving some advice? Is it more dick cheese or other stuff? You know what? There's no more dick cheese tonight. So this is actually from the... Yeah. So this is from a guy So anyway, everyone I appreciate your emails to feedback at sex with Emily calm

This is from Jeffries is hello Emily I recently went to a party at a nightclub throughout the night girls were trying to set me up with their less attractive friends What am I doing wrong? Thank you Jeffrey? So I say Jeffrey is that's probably his own security A because the girls, like the girls probably weren't inside the outgoing, well, here's my less attractive friends. I'm going to introduce you to him, but he's kind of don't know

in security is going into the situation. Don't you think? Or that's probably part of it, but he's I bet he's right. You think that the girl was going, okay, I'm hot, but here's my less hot friend. I've never, I guess I'm not that girl, so I would never consciously be like,

you're an eight and she's a six, so you're a good, nice person though. I am. I think like at some level that maybe you don't even realize it, you think that someone's in someone's league and someone's not in someone's league. And you could justify it whatever way, maybe it's true, maybe it's not true.

But I'm gonna guess like that this is just a guy who is not as attractive because he's probably more passive and so it's probably like nobody's talking to this friend of mine haven't you talked to her so he's got any more confident he's got up his game I would guess I would guess that's probably the big thing yeah it's always about confidence and I and I almost hate that I say that to guys all the time like the number one thing that women love is confidence but it's always about confidence and I almost hate that I say that to guys all the time like the number one thing that women love is confidence, but it's true. And I think men too and women, I mean, they, right? I mean, I don't think that that's initially the guys can bang a hat chick for like years

and then be like, oh, wait, I want someone who's also has other things. But for women, it is a man who walks in, who owns the room, who's attractive and knows himself. That is a very attractive to us who has confidence. So I hear, yeah, right? You know, I mean, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you attractive to us who has confidence. So I hear, yeah, right? I mean, you gal say that all the time. And but it's really true. So so she's just got us up being like the nice guy and whatever and sitting there and just get and go out and talking. Here's what he said that tip me off. Okay. In fact, he's not very confident. Why isn't he already talking to the hotter? Exactly. Why is he waiting for this girl to fix them up? Yes. Yes.

Point. You snooze, you lose. It's because he doesn't have. He's not confident. Right. He's got to approach. Don't sit and stare at the hot chicks across the room. Because the second we see you staring at us, look at the double take. Your time is up. The second you see it attractive, when you have to just go approach her and talk to her. I think you got to be okay with rejection. Yeah. Exactly. And it's not that like the girls hot friends are rejecting you. Right. They're, they're, they don't know you. They're rejecting whatever.

You know, you can just tell yourself that, maybe they're, they have a boyfriend. Maybe they don't like my outfit. Exactly. They don't know you. Right, they don't know you at all. And don't you think that with rejection and also being like, you know, like doing a podcast

or doing something public, I always think, you know, and don't you think that with rejection and also being like you know like doing a podcast or doing something public. I always think you know you can't worry. I mean it's so easy to say but like you really can't as long as you're being your best self like you can't worry what people think some people I always assume like half the people might hate my show right people hate Oprah they hate puppy dogs they might like you're sure they might they hate my like you can't worry so much about that and like reject it's the same kind of thing with like Rejection that just know and this is gonna be entertainment. You're gonna get rejected It's not about you like it's about whatever they were looking for the person and you just have to keep going and it gets easier

The more you get rejected. I write yeah, I write on the sitcom Sullivan Insan on TBS Oh, wow, which is season three is coming out. Amazing. Congratulations to that as well. Sullivan's on. Okay. And it like literally millions of people watch. But I see some like of the the meanest stuff on Twitter about the show. And so I know a lot of a lot of people like the show, but I think it's like almost helpful to read bad stuff because like that helps kind of condition me to the world. Does it help you do listen to it? Not really. I mean a lot of times it's funny and then, and that I'll collect

favorite on it and then they'll like click back to my profile and see that I'm a writer sometimes like apologize. What's your Twitter again? We have a Mac. At Caleb eats bacon. C-A-L-E-B eats bacon like food. Got it. So I know it's hard. I do that two sometimes and I want it. It's an age you want to get angry or you want to say something or eat some of them. You just, you know, I don't know people I get you know criticism too and and sometimes people are you know I think they have a point too. I'll be like okay but a lot of times I'm just like you know I read it

but I don't you can't take it in because not everyone's gonna have an opinion. Rejections hard like look if someone listens to 25 episodes of Sex with Emily and they tell you, you do a terrible job. Right. Obviously, that's not true. But that's going to hit you harder than if you meet someone at a club. Right.

And who doesn't want to talk to you? Right. Exactly, exactly. That's a whole different thing. Exactly. Just keep going and keep asking people out. You got to just, yeah, I think that was a great point, Jeffrey, that you should just be talking to that chick and don't even let your friends, don't let anyone introduce you

to someone you don't want to talk to. Okay, next email, hi Emily, I am a new listener and I'm in love with your show. Your attitude is amazing and I always seem to have a better day if I listen to nothing but sex talk on my way to school. That's nice. And yes, my sex life has improved since I started listening, so you're definitely serving a wonderful purpose on this planet. I'm one of those girls that loves giving oral to my man.

However, sometimes I notice myself getting cottonmouth, cottonmouth, as I had count. You just got cottonmouth. I know, that's the city. Oh my god, I'm just glad I wasn't in a cheesedick thing. I know, I'm like, I'm going for off the cheesedick. Yeah, we are.

So this is the cotton mouth Which is much better than cheese dick. Do you have any solutions? Thank you so much Brianna smoke less weed I was just gonna say that do you smoke pot do you take any medication? A lot of times that could give you cotton mouth you just took a sip of water I did I saw it like you know the answer I was about to get more job no, but my answer is stop and take a drink of water. Nope. I don't keep your hand on it.

Whatever you got to do, I always get thirsty during sex. I always have a muck obsessed with the fact I don't have water by me all the time. So take water. Take a few sips and another great trick what you can do. Brianna is take a few sips to your hydrate and then take some in your mouth and then go back to giving a little job. And while you're doing it, have them in your mouth, let the water come out of your mouth and drip over his penis and it'll feel amazing.

I think. I don't have a penis, but how does that sound to you? I would be like, did you just get sick? No, but like a little water. Just a little bit water. A little bit water, okay. A little bit, cuz it gets a lubricant. That's a good thing.

Not like all of it, psh, but like a little in your mouth and then you can give it more lubricant so you keep going. That like all of it, but like a little in your mouth and then you can give it more lubricant so you keep going. That does sound like a good time. Okay, or you can put it away. You know the thing you can do Brianna is since if that doesn't work because I I've done I never had any complaints, but ice cubes perfect. I have a glass of water with ice and I'm ice, I have ice, I'm ice, Cuban in your mouth while you're going, giving a little job that can feel great too, I've heard. I think she should also just drink more water ahead of time. True. Yeah, get the hydration going.

Yeah, you should hydrate or die. That's it, camel back. You know camel back does, does, does backpack things. Yes. That's the thing is hydrate or die. Do they recommend their products for oral sex? Um, but that's how bad, you know what? Because you can wear a backpack.

Right. And she could have a little straw coming out. A little hose, yeah. Yeah, and then she never has to come up. She could just suck the water out. Wear the backpack though not as sexy. Maybe if they made like a lacy one. I smell an Emily and Tony crossover product.

What Anderson, you don't think that's a good idea. I'm not saying that. Very unhot. Her wearing that and I won't make it. It looks like she's about to go hiking. Well, she's going down. I'm totally kidding about that, but it's not a bad idea. I know. I think this might be all that we have time for, but I have so

many of the things that I want. That's it. You just ran out of time. No, the show's over. But Caleb, so many things that are more I want to talk to. I'm so glad you came on the show. This is a lot of fun. I mean, so fun.

I really enjoy it. So, um, okay, I want everyone to listen to your podcast and go to your website. So tell them where they can find you again And this will all be on my website as well. Man School easily found on iTunes And after you've listened to all the back episodes of Sex with Emily come check out man school. Yeah people love your podcast Very popular podcast. Yeah, thank you. Kids like it manschoolshow.com and and and good congratulations on your engagement Thank you. Emily's a good peeps. Yeah, thank you. So I so appreciate that.

Thank you. Everyone's check out Anderson's podcasts. You never every week, which one? Film ball. The film ball. The end of the year after disaster. Why do you always think you treat the after disaster like your bastard child? I don't know.

Ask all the film ball fans think that I are vice versa. All the after disasters, the famous thing I treated the film ball ball. We're all podcasters. I think we should see what's good for everyone. This week we did top five bars on the film ball with ball Brian and I top five bars in movies. Oh, yeah Because I'd be weird. It's a movie show if we were

No, like what are you like bar scenes bars in movies actual the actual bars to go if we could have a drink in a bar That we've seen in a movie I take the Star Wars one you know that came up a lot I Don't even came up a lot not by you because that's so cliche. I hate that it came up a lot. That means I suck. And then the swingers won, came up, right? No, actually swingers did not look at that. Oh, I'm a good. Dude, I'm movies.

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