Sex With Emily - Best Of: Trans, Pan, and San Fran-Sexual with Venus Lux

Episode Date: August 26, 2017

LBGT, Pan, and Poly oh my! Nearing the end of our Alternative Sex Month we are throwing it back to one of our favorites with porn star, business woman, and trans trailblazer Venus Lux! A pioneer in the alternative sex community– she isn't shy about speaking openly on a range of love and sex topics. Emily and Venus discuss everything from dating to pansexuality to pubic hair to trans post-op insecurities. No matter your orientation or gender this show will teach you a thing or two about the porn industry, gender identity and trans visibility. If you missed this the first time don't miss out now! Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep the show FREE: System JO, Womanizer, Adam & Eve Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily and today's show we're joined by award-winning transexual porn star and producer Venus Lux. She's gonna talk about her journey to being one of the top transexual performers in the industry. Talk about her sex life, what it's really like to work Book into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our secret institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them in a bike on day. Hey, Abelie, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.

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Hi. How are you doing? I'm good. How are you? I'm good. What have you been doing? I've been moving the last two days. I have so Ken, my vice president, is in town from New Jersey for meetings. But mostly I just got a new office. Yeah.

And we are moving today, this week. And it's, so we were working, you never went to my last office. The studio, it's a studio. It was 300 square feet in there, six months. And it was, we love each other thing, but it was very tight. And so now it's, it's 900 square feet, it's bigger. Nice.

And we're pretty, I know. It's bigger than I actually were. I lived, so I had to make a choice. Like I I always I may chose the business like I'm a nicer office And I'm living still living in my house, but which is fine because we're fixing that up as well So we're setting up a studio in the office Mm-hmm. You're gonna come help and it's exciting, but also so I live in this my guest cottage where we had a drunk party Just fine But there's just little things in there that don't quite work for me. There's no clubs, it's based, there's, you know, it's small.

So Ken, not only is he a great vice president in marketing in my company, but he used to be an architect. So all week long, we would like a Kia, but I went for four hours on Saturday and I like had low blood sugar drop. And I had to like hide out and like hide underneath the, um, where all those, you know, when you first walk into all the boxes and stuff, I kind of had to hide from him just for a second and take a few deep breaths and I was so hungry I just steal some sweetest swedish fish from the bins, you know. Yeah. That was like eating sweet because like there was too long of a line and I they sell hot dogs for like a dollar fifty. Yeah, that line was too long

and I was starving but it was really fun. So I've actually been doing things that are transformative because I've been living into our office, to crowded. So now I feel like I'm letting go of a lot of stuff and moving on and growing and it feels great. Love it. It's like gonna function my life. Okay, so that's what I'm doing and I want to talk to you about the drunk show.

Yes. I love doing that. I'm sure you did. There's no prep. We did a few shots and people love it. They love it. I'm sure they did. There's no prep. We did a few shots and people love it. They love it. I'm sure they did. And you know I never listened to the show.

Uh-huh. And not because I hate it, just because I just, I don't know it's weird. I don't know what time of time, but I was like, this is funny. I just, we're very open, raw. I think we could do that more often. I think we can. We should just schedule it out because it only happened because I said, okay, well, just make a date and we'll do it.

It's all about planning. See? How come it's so hard for this to plan? Because every time we're like, oh, we should do that. We should do that. And then it never happens. And I've learned over the years trying to get more organized is, all right, set a date, stick to it. That's it. So let's set it like tomorrow date. I can't do that schedule. I'm gonna have to look to see

when we're available. Okay. Well, how are you? But it was super fun. How are you doing? I'm doing great. I was in Las Vegas. I saw Rihanna who just oozes sex. She was amazing. I feel like I should really go see her. She's playing like for a couple. Yeah, she is in Los Angeles and then she's going to San Francisco. She's doing a world tour. So I suggest if you love pop music, Rihanna has a bunch of hits. Her show is amazing. She just does hit after hit. Did it make you feel like sexy? Did it make me feel sexy?

It didn't make me feel sexy, but it was definitely a very sexy show. I feel like I would dance. Yes, sexy. She's definitely sexy because you know who keeps on trying to hang out with her is It didn't make me feel sexy, but it was definitely a very sexy show She's definitely sexy because you know who keeps on trying to hang out there is later Nardo de Capri Oh, like they keep on being Sorry, I'm out. No, no, I'm sure she's hanging out But she's like I think that she's your type of late. It doesn't seem like she's Like getting locked down anytime. Oh, so she's out there having fun. Right. I am not getting locked down And time and soon but when I do I'll let you know okay, so then so Another thing happened to me while I was in Vegas, and I know it's not a sexy thing

But people hit me up all the time because you know It's not a new thing to post food on the internet, but no you're the first one But every so I'm always in Las Vegas. I'm actually gonna be in Vegas probably every other week for the next couple months, right? Just doing things, right? So every time I'm in Vegas, or I'm going to Vegas, everyone asks me, men is where should I go eat?

I need it, food suggestions, all this stuff, right? Right. It's fine, but well, okay. It's said, okay. So I figured out a way to make an Instagram account that's not gonna take up a bunch of my time for food in Vegas. So I made an Instagram account that people can follow

and just look at if they're interested, if they're going to Vegas and they want to see. Like, cheeseburgers and buffets, right? What do you, No, buffets, really nice restaurants. Oh my God, there's crazy five star restaurants. Like, back in the day, there wasn't. Like, there's like the face, there are no really nice restaurants. Oh my God, there's like crazy five star restaurants. Like, back in the day, there wasn't. Like, there's like, no, no, no, this is like new.

So you eat well there. Yeah, or I just find that. I think it's like all of your Instagram photos are like hot dogs and pizza and tacos. Well, I do not look in my Instagram. True. And Turo's Instagram, so now you've three Instagram cut your dog, happy birthday, Turo.

What's the last thing? So this one is called Vegas Foodie Guy. And you couldn't have done another minister, Cheryl. You need a third account. A third account. Yeah, this one just dedicated to food. Vegas Foodie Guy, that's kind. This is so full of the navelin.

So follow it, please. I will follow it right now. If I was, if I distracted though, then the whole show would go down the drain. Vegas Foodie Guy on Instagram. I don't have time, but I figured out a way to do it where it doesn't take up my time Okay, that it's all about that's what life is about being efficient. Yeah, I'm trying to be more efficient It's been I've been working on it for a couple years and it's it's coming together

I was never a fan of the eye watch, but the eye watch has helped me so much on keeping how? Track on everything because I can just immediately look at my wrist and say, oh, this is what I have going on today. This is what I have to do in my calendar. You show me that because I think I want one too. I see. Everyone's like, no, the Apple Watch don't get the out. It's been very negative. Dude, I was totally on board with the negative. I'm like, Apple Watch is such a waste of time and piece of shit. You should not buy it. But then I was given one as a gift. And then it has camp my calendar. Can that person give me one as a gift? I don't know. I can check it. But it's helped me. It's kept me sore organized because like...

Well you could look at your phone and look at your calendar. Yeah but how often do you go through? All day long I look at my calendar on my phone. You do? What kind of I mean yeah kind of but you could probably miss something you probably get distracted Oh, yeah, but here you just look at your wrist and boom. It's right there. I don't know It's definitely helped me. Maybe it's not for everybody but you seem like yeah, really. It's definitely Been helping me out a lot. That's good. Well, it's good. It's your face. So you that's all the non-sexy news that I've been having for you I just love seeing you and I love seeing you too. But what is going on with your life? I know you've been single. I have people on Instagram want to date you. What's going on? Okay. Well, this is what you need to form me who they are. Okay. Profiles. Are they real people like real people? They're like direct messaging you. I want to

They're like commenting on Instagram like, Emily? Let's have sex with Emily. But is it my personal? Oh, you want? Okay, so let's just lay it out. All right, if you are a gentleman that's like hitting up our Instagram accounts, just tell them what you want, Emily, just lay it out. You want a guy, you're gonna want to have discussions, right?

You like guys that are writers and they're gonna pay attention to you. I'm typically like writers, yeah, and I'm gonna pay attention to them and we're gonna communicate and you're emotionally evolved. Like, you know what your issues are. You don't have to solve them because we never really solve our issues in life. You just learn how to deal with them. But you know who you are. You're an adult.

You are passionate about things. Hopefully you don't hate your family or your mother or anything. Guys hate their mothers. Like, I mean, I understand some moms suck, but just that's just tough. And you know, you're happy and you're like, you know, yeah,, they're mothers. Like, I mean, I understand some moms suck, but just, that's just tough. And you know, you're happy, and you're like, I mean, without, you know, yeah, you're happy person, you're, it be night, and I say, you've been in your life that you're passionate about.

And hopefully, you know, you like your work. You're like, you're like, you're like, if you could friend your, your establish, and I don't, that doesn't mean like money necessarily, but it'd be nice if you like, you know, you have a job. Yeah. And you're fun and open and like sex. And you happen to live in Los Angeles in a five mile radius. One mile radius.

One mile. Let's be honest. I don't drive that far. My office now I can walk to my new office. Oh, that's great. Talk a lot more about. But so that's what you're looking for. Yeah. And then to be honest, I've been taking a high. It's interesting. It's like the longest I've had a high a list from dating. And I think it's good though because it's interesting. It's like the longest I've hiatus a hiatus from dating and I think it's good though because it's healthy I've never gone this like I think it's good to take the hiatus get organized in your life And this is what I'm saying I like I kind of coasted over the whole what it means to like But I've been living in places that aren't quite like our offices way too small like Matt It's like they're all on top of you. They don't care like they're really cool. They're working

I want it in my uncle at home, you know, it's nice, but like things are falling off to something. And so I'm finally taking time to clear those roadblocks that are like, emotionally have like take a toll and then like everything new is coming in, it's transformational. Yeah. That's what I mean by that. And so now I'm ready to, I think dating's gonna go along with it, and the manners are gonna start falling through the roof.

Yeah, like crazy. But definitely I think that you have to get everything together in your own life before you could be happy in relationship. Yeah, it's true. Yeah, right. And I think for a long time, I did put off that dating and I was like, I got it. And then I feel like things really have come together in recent years. But now there's just like, and so then I had a relationship and that. And now in other ways, it's coming together. So yeah, it's evolving. So that's what I would like. Okay, now we're gonna take a quick break and give a shout out to our sponsors.

Thank you for supporting them and thanks for supporting the show. You guys, I love you, we'll be right back. We have a great guest here today. Okay. And I want to take that because I'm really interested in our guest because not only she Born and raised in San Francisco and her story is really really interesting. So her name is Venus Lux and she is a

Transactual top trans sexual performers in the Dell industry In addition to being ex-busy awards trans sexual performerxual performer of the year, in both 2014 and 2015, she runs her production company. She produces a direct movie, she's launched trans-gobble baggage, and she's done a lot for the trans-sexual men, women, and she's performer and San Francisco. Is there a hometown? And I've read a spread about it a whole lot. Exactly.

But I just think it's really interesting. I have a lot that I want to talk to her about, but she's got a great story, and she And she's so driven and like she's like 25 years old and beautiful and like taking over the world. So she's here Hello, VNex Hi, how you doing? I just combined your name Venus Lux. How are you? It's so nice to meet you. I was nice to be here. I'm a little nervous Oh my god. You're gonna be weird about you actually Oh my God. You're gonna be weird about you actually. Why? Because you're like an icon.

And on top of that, you're so educated and you're a feminist. It's awesome. Oh my God. Oh what? I was talking about how much I admire you. That's really sweet. Thank you. We go.

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Which you might not think. Really? Well, in a way, we both had our very formative years in San Francisco. Awesome. Right. And I know. Well, I lived there for 20 years, I'm from Michigan, but I was there for 20 years, and I was, and Menace was there for, born there. Born raised, about half hour outside San Francisco, and I spent about 15 years living in San

Francisco. Yeah. No, but I know that, so just reading about your history and reading about how you grew up in the tenderloin district, like in the 90s, right, because you're 25, so I'm just thinking about, but I know that I was in the where it was. The mission? The mission? Yeah, the mission was. Oh, yeah, the tenderloin is the last place and that was a tough neighborhood. The loin right next to the bill gram. Yeah, bill gram. Bill gram, I'm sorry, I'm thinking a warfield. No, that's some film. That's venaz.

Oh, that's a venaz part. I'm so tired. Yeah, more history. It's one of those. Yeah, more feel some more. I'm gonna make a music call. So one of those. Yeah. Yeah. Cool. No, but I was thinking about it because, you know, your story where you grew up and I was thinking about like come, you

know, transition, we're going to get all the attention. And Sam, just go. So I moved there in the early 90s. I worked in politics. I worked for City Councilwoman Carol McDonne. And I choose a lesbian. And like the first lesbian supervisor. And so we did a lot for transgender issues.

And it was the first, and then 95 was the first time like they passed legislation there, like it was like a so groundbreaking and so as I forget, I think living in San Francisco that I'm like everyone's just so open to everything and it's just like normal thing, you know? And just there's been a lot of things coming up. I'm just warped, people's like,

I got drugs, I have a problem with drugs. I'm like you do, just even so, and like smoking, I think it's all weird because I've lived in California for so freaking long. So I think like I know, and I want to a story but I think I've got it but I've been an easier place to go through what you've had to struggle through but then again different situations and you know obviously different districts too you know totally different districts so tell me about growing tell me tell me about yourself yeah growing up

in San Francisco it's awesome it's it's liberating to have a city where they are okay with nudists and okay with queers and okay with urban culture. And so having that openness allowed me to feel okay to really explore my sexuality, explore my identity and lead on transitioning at 19. Although growing up in a teneline, it's definitely very different. People would assume like,

oh, your in San Francisco is so welcoming, but like some part. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, that's our difference. I was like in North Beach. Oh, North Beach is awesome. Yeah, but obviously, it's very conservative out there too.

Right, absolutely. No, it is more kids, but then, right, that was my lead. I know that it wasn't easy, right? The teneline, so how did your family take how did you when did you first know that you just when you didn't quite feel You were so I was I basically I was I came out queer when I was like 13 I didn't really I was very ambiguous. I defaulted myself as gay back then because I always been attracted to men But I didn't really understand a grass or grasp onto what gender identity is.

And it's until later on in life, until 19, where I met another transsexual who kind of guided me and became the mother to me and they helped me evolve and become who I am today. And because I come from a background of Chinese culture and we don't talk about sex, we don't talk about sexuality, we don't talk about gender identity, we just talk about be a doctor, be a lawyer, marry, have kids, buy a grandparents a house, then retire, you know, and flaunt it. So that's Chinese culture. And so for me, I literally had to discover by myself and do a lot of do-do-diligence and researching what is sexuality, what is your identity,

and kind of experimenting. And so, 17, I kind of left home. I didn't really get along with my family because that's such a traditional way of life. And back then I was living with my mom and my step-dad and step-dad's Arab. Oh, okay. Yeah, you did have a lot of Muslim. You know, Reza Kron, everything and my mom is traditional Chinese. You know, so weird how they met. But yeah, so having that kind of like rigidness in my family did not allow me to explore and express myself. So I ran away from home at 17. Where'd you go? I was homeless for a while. And later on, I found a turn 18. go? I was homeless for a while and later on I found a turn 18 and then I was able to qualify

for transitional housing out there. So I was off the streets and I was staying in the government housing for two years and kind of get my stuff together and- And that's when you kind of figured out and turned exploring? Yeah, I had that privilege of this two years and my stuff to just really understand my identity and who I am, where I like, where I want to go. And I'm very thankful to have that situation happen to me to get to me where I am today. Right. So there wasn't a lot of role models but then at all.

No, there isn't. There was no Caitlin Jenner. No, exactly. I mean, because I was just thinking about the light, because I was looking at, oh, that was what I was doing. It's like, no, that that would affect you and And the tender line with your Chinese mother, I get it. It's very, very different. But then God's not going to have something non-profits. So it gave me that privilege. So then what did you do?

So you started to transition at 19? OK. And then what was your first move from there? So basically, I was working under the Day of Autos Trip Club. Which one? I can't say I don't know. Oh no. Okay. I don't know.

Maybe I can say they're divas. Oh, okay. I mean, is that where I went with your friend on the date? No, you went to the opera, where this is fine. Oh, right, okay. It's like two blocks away. It's like a friend to be on a date. And that was our first date.

It was fun. Oh, that's good. Kind of. That was like the great shade. That was actually fun. She loved it. You went to. It was fun. Yeah. Kind of. That was like the great. That was actually fun. She loved it. You went to O'Farrer theater. Yeah.

Yeah. She's got a sex talk show. She's going to like this. She's down. Yeah. Feed me the first. My favorite one was Little Darling. What?

Little Darling. Oh yeah. I remember that. They have that. So you did that. So OK, that's what's, so that's when it started. It got your 25. Yeah. So that really, you haven that. So you did that base. So, okay, that's what, so this one, it started in your 25.

Yeah. So that, really, you haven't been on this track that long, and I've been so impressed that you perform our the year two years in a row AVN. AVN and X-Fiz. X-Fiz, congratulations. Thank you. It's nice to be able, it's just preserveer,

and be able to just kind of get that validation, working hard, and you having those accomplishment to help a lot. And it just now kind of like gives me a level of like, okay, what's the next challenge, you know? Right, right. So, okay, so I wanna back off for a second, because there's still, now there is love,

Caitlin Jenner, there's a lot more awareness, but what I think it still is very like confusing for people. Like, you know, so what are the questions that you could ask? It's more so people ask like, how does Caitlin Jenner affect me? You know, it's a political question, because like, okay, where do my, you know, standards or my bias against or with a Caitlin Jenner?

For me is, I think she is great in allowing more visibility about this transgender subject, but also my ensue, she did not struggle. You know, she keeps on money before she transitions and You have your family too, so I'm not gonna judge as long as you are able to showcase a level of Community and kind of camaraderie with the with those who are trying to support a cause awesome But I still have the questions

Oh, sorry that is a big issue with Caitlin Jenner saying that, oh, she came from money. Yeah, right. What she earned. Well, she bought her face, too. One of the biggest hardships that kind of leads to really making you a real transgender person is getting discriminated.

And imagine if Caitlin Jenner did not have the surgeries, I'm pretty sure she would get different reactions And she wouldn't know, you know, now, but I'm just saying like just for people within her own community to like denounce her or whatever is I don't know. I think it's kind of ridiculous It is ridiculous. You know because if I mean if any one of the people in our community have the same opportunities that Caitlin Jenner had, I'm a billion percent sure they would take them. So it just comes off as kind of like jealousy.

I think you're saying, right, it's great that it's made a statement. I know what you're saying, but like why does? It's great if people are gonna learn what transgender, if they try to understand what that means and a transgender woman, that's great for visibility. But I told him, Greece shouldn't be the overall representation of the community question. But I really met Venus.

Venus or Venus looked, is it like, Mariette? I do think people coming to Venus. To Venus. They do? But can I say Venus? Venus. Okay. So, because he's like, Menace.

I'm curious, the question to you, because I think think there is, are you attracted to sex with men? I mean, no, I'm poor. But how does it all work? People, people, people, people, people, people, people, people, people, people, people, people, people, I'm single. I'm single. I'm single.

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I'm single. I'm single. I'm single. I'm single towards more sapial. I'm drawn by insect more so because my job is so dictated by aesthetics that I will I covet what I don't have. So I covet privacy because I don't get that much inspiring those who are ambitious because most of the time I don't even know my scene partner who I'm having. Right, so that's important. So important. Okay, so tell me about, yeah, what kind of porn, yeah, I got your log into your site. Because I was looking stuff out of the line.

I'm like, no, I want to see what Venus puts out there. And Venus, VenusLux.com. Yeah. VenusLux.com. Yeah. VenusLux.com. Yeah. VNUS.LUX. LUNX.Lux.com. LUNX.Lux.com. But talk about the kind of point. So you're with you have sex with men, women,

other women. I love trans women, men. And I kind of, everyone's kind of guiding me to be more bisexual and meaning. And that's also inclusive of transgender sexual, or transgender identity, also, into bisexuality. You're about to go into that, but could you explain pansexual real quick?

Yeah, I'm not sure, but I say non-judgement of gender. So I could like trans guy, I could like a trans girl, I could like a cisgender female, a cisgender male. That's kind of, you kind of open to ever, it's just sort of, yeah. I used to say bisexuals had a great, but I was like, everyone is about the same way. Yeah, not even.

It's like a buffet. It's like a buffet, yeah. I don't discriminate by color, gender, age, nothing. But do you think that porn? Because I was reading what I said earlier, you dated men mostly, but it wasn't until porn, that you had your first time that you were sexually with a woman or the first time you were just your first sex

you was with a woman or your ex-experience with a woman. It was on camera. Okay, can we talk about that for a moment? It was my first scene ever, too. And here's a vagina? Yeah, I had a vagina on it that looks like. I figured out how to use it. I mean, this is what I've been trying to have over 10 years.

They still don't get it, so what did you do? I was like, well, first off, I'm- They're a it. I mean, this is what I've been trying to have over 10 years. Like, and they still don't get it. And so what did you do? I was like, I will first off, I mean. They're painting the ass, right? The best ass in the wrong hole. Yeah. Oh, no, wrong hole. I know, I'm like, I didn't know the vagina was so close to the asshole.

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Oh, right. But now you've seen more and they're all little varied. Yeah, and now they're varied. And so many different types. So many different kinds. How did you, because you hadn't been, so you had a perform, but were you just fake attraction? Did you actually get a tour?

I had to like watch porn on my phone just to keep it up. And then on top of it was a condom shoot. So I'm like, I had to like take multiple breaks just to be able to get hard enough to be able to penetrate her. And most of it is just kind of like act out the rest. You know, just fake it to you, make it. And yeah, it was just nerve-wracking. Cause I'm like, there's positioning,

there's lighting, there's angles, you know. She's like, go down out of it. The first, I feel like a dude. I feel like, youacking because I'm like there's positioning, there's lighting, there's angles, you know She's like go down under the first, I feel like a dude I feel like a dude, I'm like oh my god I'm at the manhandle heart, I know Right But this is so unfamiliar territory, like is okay to like choke you, is it not okay? I don't know, what is it?

Don't think cover that isn't like in the script? Now you will choke I mean I know something about the Stray King.com It's one of the best companies Oh King.com, I love King.com, I love Peter They're open We parties it, yeah they're great, I mean hopefully they treat you well I mean, I know some of them. Yeah, King.com is one of the best companies. Oh, King.com. I love King.com. I love Peter. They're open. Yeah, they're great.

I mean, hopefully they treat you well. I think they do. I get to get to their parties on Saturday. Is that easy? They're so fun. I heard about it. Yeah, okay. We should go.

Okay, we go. So it was a King.com. I got it. So you got discovered. Yeah, I got discovered by Mickey Mwada, who was a performer and recruiter at King.com. And reach out to me and kind of say, now then they're good to Diva is now and then and he scouted me and then from there,

I was like, oh my god, awesome, you know, and of course I wasn't like, oh yeah, I'm going to totally gonna do it. I was nervous, but end up getting to a point like I needed to replace someone. So they weren't specifically hired me specifically. They were, they needed a film and I was local. So like, hey, can can you come in in two days and shoot this scene and we'll pay you this amount. Did they give you anything? We had a time? Like a piece of like, with the script. Just like, hey, you know you're going to be the woman?

Yes. Okay. But they didn't show you her lady before. No, I know. Yeah, and talk about it. She could have had shot. Yeah, I'm not saying I didn't. I didn't want to Google her either because I'm going to keep it as a surprise and I thought

it was just almost like scripted I thought it was all scripted, you know, but it was not it was all improv You know, they give you like a theme like hey, so the theme is she spies on you. You're in a shower You know, you get you know kind of a rouse by it and then you initiate the sex part with her and then go with it I'm like, okay Okay, so because you are so you you take, start taking hormones in 19. Yes. Okay, so in, did that tradition, but you still, and you have breast implants. Yes.

And you have your penis. Yes. Still, okay. I'm off hormones right now, though, more so because the hormones affect the functionality of your chest. Right. So what do you do with that? I'll say, effort.

And I am off hormones for the past four years. And I'm versatile. And I don't like to get hindered by my hormones. So I like to either top or bottom. OK. And I like to flip a coin. And now, no, we'll see who tops who. So you truly are then really now after that you are track

You're in that but I can grow you can kind of and it's just isolated up raising and that my culture being in Chinese So now that kind of through point I was able to I learn more about myself and explore. So here I am I'm like just like this chameleon. So if you're off hormones, I'm just curious how that affects you I'm saying I'm more saying I'm less. Welcome to our world, right? I don't know how to feel like moody-ness. I haven't known that, but it's not like a long cycle for like seven days, you know what I mean?

Yeah, I know what you mean. Or like longer than that, they say seven days, but. So I feel like I spend like a quarter of my life PMSing, which you kind of do, it's like a week. So like a, so that's like one week a month. Yeah. One week, yeah, so how would you know, I mean, that's something suffering. Okay, so, so, so, okay, so now you are, now you've won these awards in part. What do you think, what do you attribute to your success? Like what makes the best transactional porn star? I think it's all about work ethic and just personality and really keeping level

humility. In every job you take you always on one on the maintain level respect and dignity and even though as non-dignifying point can be, you know, you always want to maintain level humility because everywhere you go, you know, you are leaving an impression. And I think that's how it's always been my philosophy and motto in life is just be able to persevere and just make sure you stay optimistic and spread positivity. And from there, you know, things will come your way. And I think it's worked for me successfully and also maintain a level of business acumen, you know,

what's professional, what's not professional. But what about with poor, so the scenes that you're doing now, I mean, you kind of, you're directing more of your own sub-iterprice and writing. Okay. And so a lot of it is with, give me like your favorite one, leave shot lately.

Recently, I directed and performed in a scene with another transsexual and it was the first real transsexual interaction. Transwoman. Transwoman, yeah. That actually really liked. Like liked, like actually turned on for real? Yeah, kind of like porn on your phone and the bathroom, okay?

Most of the girls I usually encounter with trans girls are heterosexual and so they want men and they want a men to dominate them. And so for me, I never been with another bisexual or a pansexual or a transsexual woman. See, this is what the work gets confusing. I thought it was not the same for every trans-sexual woman. They're not always worried about it. Sexuality is very different from gender identity. Exactly. And I think that that's what's really confusing people. So, trans-sexual or not? You're making it.

But what you're saying is that most trans women that you've been with just want to be with men. Yeah. And they're heterosexual. And then, rest And then vested with this experience, I was able to be with a pansexual or open to transsexual women. And it was a lesbian or trans lesbian scene. See? It was intense. And it got to a point where we get to have sex with each other and we she taught me, I topped her. And then ended up, I just don't mean the hell out of her and choking her and spitting on her. It was hot, it was aggressive, but intimate and sensual at the same time.

There was a lot of body caressing and kissing and culling. So is it, could this be a relationship? Yeah, sexual. No, the person actually is open to, is in a poly situation. Okay. So she used the open to lead to a cisgender female,

but when it comes to intermanrelations, they're open. Okay, so that could still be like an open. Yeah, I'm open to it, but I'm more of a primary person. I'm not a secondary. Okay, so I know I know you know too much about polyamory. Yeah, I do. I do know about polyamory, but you have a primary partner. Yeah, I'm more of a primary.

I cannot, I'm too much to handle. Right, no, I know. I would need all the the primaryness, the primaryness, the primaryness, the primary ness. But so now tell me what you have learned about being with women after that, for like, what about pleasing women?

It's a tip. I don't know what your sexuality is, but can you relate, whereas like with women it's not. Many of them. No, I don't. But relate where it's like with women? It's not many there But with women it's a different Emotion and you're it's a different High or a different climax because you're with a person who kind of gives you empathy and understanding

Not sympathy, but empathy like understanding how it feels how hurt how it hurts or what position is awkward and on on top of that, you have a little bit more of a mutual understanding. So coming in, you're both kind of evolved and knowing what takes back versus when you come to a very heterosexual situation, which I'm not against at all. It's just almost like negative and positive trying to meet together all the time versus like a positive and positive and negative and negative. What are being straight men? Does that? It's awkward sometimes because I am such a control freak. I'm in my own business. I'm a dumb. I'm a transsexual. So it's just like double whammy, triple whammy, on a heterosexual guy. I'm trying to explore a sexual eye with a transsexual woman.

It gets to a point like it's just too much of a handful and I have no patience at all to guide them. So for me, it's always in a situation where I always get submissive men. Right, okay. Yeah, I have more. And so that it kind of is not. Have you ever had that with submissive men? I've had men who've worn me.

So, no, I'm most submissive men. Yeah, no, I am dominant, I'm not in the bedroom. I'm very, I'm most submissive in the bedroom, but I have had men, I mean, have all the equipment in my house. You see, but in the cleaning of my house. No, but I very, I'm more submissive in the bedroom, but I have had men, I mean, have all the equipment in my house. I'm just putting in my house. No, but I am more submissive. I mean, I have been with women, but I'm with men.

And yeah, I wouldn't even know how to, I don't know, but then I wonder, I would know. I think it's three times. Oh, I've had three sums, but oh no, yes, I've done all that. Check, check. But I'm not particularly down. I mean, I can, you know, be the aggressor, but I'm not like, I don't know, I've done all that, check, check. But I'm not particularly dumb. I mean, I can, you know, be the aggressor, but I'm not like, I don't know, I've written like, been the dumb,

and it was a semester, and the man's really wants, I've been with guys who like, want that, and I've experimented, but it just doesn't really turn me on. That's why I was like, I'm just gonna choke yourself. What?

You're gonna get choke yourself. Yeah, choke me, I don't want to choke, but exactly, just choke me, just because I'm a sign. But yeah, so that's interesting, but I'm also wondering if there's ever this, because you say it's difficult. I'm sure it is, you can't go like on match.com. Yeah. Yeah. Dating is very difficult for me, more so it's just like

my demeanor and my business acumen and also my priorities. I don't have that. What is appropriate? Just because I am a porn star does not give you automatic, you know, invitation to ask me all the questions about porn, how my sex life is like, how do I date other guys? You know, why don't you just treat me as a human and then ask me, hey, how's your day? Will you up to, do you want to grab coffee versus like, oh my god, you're a porn star. What do you do, how do you work out, do you fuck it, you go and get paid? Exactly. I think Emily gets the same thing. I do too know all the time

They like totally make assumptions like you go all these guys Instagram. I'm like, oh great You're like your hot lets bone. I mean like are you qualifying these people? You know again So my first name is like sex you know different persona Absolutely, but I'm afraid about meeting because it's like you don't I do it it on as soon as you're trans woman. So what happens with, like when do you bring that up? Oh, off the bat. Like where you're like, hey, PS, what do you say? Like I'm like, hey, I'm trans. And if you don't understand a trans,

you mean I have a penis. And if you don't want to learn more, Google. Right, you say it, exactly. I don't have time to explain anything. Because I, as a transsexual. I feel like I'm oh I don't know why about always keep finding myself educating people all the time. Yeah, when it's trans So I'm sure that can be just that's your Every single day for life that you're talking about and it's I don't mind ignorance

You know, I don't mind educating his managers. Like sometimes I just want it in moderation. Yeah. I got to meet him. And I was like, oh yeah, I'm going this podcast. I'm doing this all the time. No, he's such a thing. I'll go to parties and be like, don't, I just say I'm a producer.

Like I don't want to have a way to do it. Because it's such a thing, the whole room. Like the dentist next to me does not want to have a reason. But sometimes it doesn't make it easier when you're having a deep conversation. That someone knows your background already. Yeah, you know what I mean? Yeah, that's true. But like, yes, it does. You're like, it's like the whole story like, so I do this podcast for this long, how many years? I was exactly, I was out of the guide, he's like, we're telling me, I'm like, can you just google it?

And then we'll talk about it in the next date. I was out with the guy recently. It was a one day. Yeah, it's funny because I talked to my buddy who is gay and I asked someone, like, is there not one day of your life that you don't have to have a discussion about how you're gay? Oh, that's a question, does it? Yeah, that's your goal. No, everything, everything. But then on the other hand, I do have another,

my boss, she's gay and he loves talking about being gay. Everything is all about somehow he turns around about how he's gay and like every conversation like this guy is blue Oh, yeah, by the way But it's funny cuz so like Uh-uh. I also do a morning radio show and so these topics these topics come up and it's funny though because like when we try to have these So what since we've done this podcast, you've said I am trans, right?

But then we try to have conversations about that that comes up in the news, and then there's some people will text in and freak out, like, no, that's not the label that I use. I know, you get a set, right? Why? There's so many people freak out about different, like, don't call me trans.

I'm not, yeah, I've got that term. I'm fourth level blah blah, you know, like what? What's what is going on like how can we have like a conversation about this without offending people in some way. So we look at some political about it and I can understand that but also we just want to understand. Crazy PC. Yeah, we're just trying to have a conversation. I said transgendered once on the show because in the 90s that's what I worked on

That's what it was called that was like the political thing and I'm like, oh my god I can't understand it. I'm not like insult to you. I'm sorry. I said that you know, I think it's because transgender It's just so big almost like LGP LGBT and I'm a kid Thing it was like a He's doing oh I didn't know it was like I'm trying to support you when it comes to like North Carolina and all this stuff back but then you're like crazy blowing me up saying that I'm insane. I know. That's a story.

That's a story with the community. It's just like there's so much classes on. I know. Like for some people like, oh don't call me transgender. I'm transsexual Right, you know transsexual means actually you have the surgery and augmentation versus transgender You just identifying it, you know, actually going through the whole entire problem I'm like okay if you identify as woman can I just call you a woman? Yeah, why do I need it?

The bathroom debate like someone's gonna say you're a woman. Now where you got a peanut? You can't go in the back Who cares? Spacer focus our time. The goal is to just go pee, and not try to get a good, exactly, unless I'm one. As we were talking right now, I got an update about that on, really, all the way here. About the bathrooms?

About the bathrooms, so that's not a constitutional. It was an associated press update, as I was driving here, saying it's non-constitutional, like they can't say that. Yeah, it's here. It's non-constitutional like they can't Yeah, yeah, absolutely So I've questioned so many questions for you, but hit me

But I want to know how it has changed since we're talking about there is so much more awareness now of these issues Like how do you think that porn has changed for in your community? I feel like I'm going to say porn changed for in your community. I feel like porn in your generation, you know, it was like booming, you know, it was evolving and so much money, you know, now coming in, it's been four years for me. So I came in 2012, you know, after the dot-com boom in the way, you know, everything just went downhill. Right. And so basically, the transgender pornography was also making a lot of money before 2008. And then at the dot com boom,

because our industry is so small already, it just became really smaller, more even smaller. I think there's more of an interest now. I feel like there's more. Well, in the production side, oh, the production side, right, that's why you started your own business. Yeah, the demand is there. It's just supplying people don't know how to do it properly

in regarding to humanizing transsexuals and also really categorizing the sub-john russ like hey there is a genre for transsexual women with transsexual women transsexual women with men and then transsexual women with the cisgender women you know and you do all that by the way, right? Right, right. Okay. And then there's also there. It's throwing the sexuality or the Complexities of whose dorm who's sub, you know, and it's it's so I'm exhausted It's like a missionary. You just like have sex turn Netflix makes it so easy. Just cut it off the word I thought you just cut it off the word. He's one of the kindle subs.

Right? It is complicated. If Warren can sell like that, awesome, you know, just sell, oh, we're gonna cut it off. We're gonna make millions of dollars in killing for, you know what I mean? Yeah, that idea. I'm really good at it. I'm really good at it.

But who would say is your main fan base? My demographic is still predominantly men more so. I've kind of capitalized on a niche that hasn't really expanded which domination or just dom women. Because the hormones cause are a little bit to go down and also kind of prevents the penis from getting fully erect that most girls end up conforming to becoming bottoms. And so it's just kind of the catch 22 in the crash 22 some girls depending on their genetics They can still function some they some can't and so for me that's why I kind of opted out to be able to be off Formos because hormones doesn't dictate me as being trans and a lot. It's just what identify

So for me, I was like I love the functionality my penis and I just focus on that and that's why I feel like that market has grown and helped grow that market and supplying being a performer and supplying that content by shooting with women, men, but as a DOM. Right. Right. So that is a niche. Yeah. I told you to do that.

And especially it becomes a kind of a platform that when it comes to transactuals, we're like the next evolution of lesbian pornography and also Peking porn. So Peking was Peking. Yeah, women with strap-offs, but then like if a guy doesn't want the toy It wants to be all thing they go to a transactual. Yeah, you know, or if like Peking is the gateway. Yeah, the game got a transactual, right? Menace I guess. Yeah, so you have? Well, they brought it up. It's funny pegging on Broad City. Yeah.

That's a great episode. People have Hulu, Dessertia, Broad City. I wonder if you think it's everywhere. Like, it's really it. Yeah. More so. So I feel like Transsexuals are becoming more universal ones. Almost like the medium platform to introducing into fetish life or into something that's

different. Like, nowadays, my family also comes from a lot of couples. So, transsexuals, these- Heterosexual couples? Heterosexual couples, yeah. It's so odd, you know, I would never have fathom having a fan base, you know, with couples. And they watch my porn together. And they're fantasized on having a transsexual threesome

because a female is an intimately, female is an int on having a transsexual 3 song because a female is an intimidating Female is an intimidated by a transsexual and then that is the guy is an ad doesn't feel too gay because it's a Transsexual it looks like a woman to have a woman But there's a few this penis because she's the woman. Yeah, that's brilliant. That makes so much sense Yeah, so it's evolving but I think it's I get it much sense. Yeah, so it's evolving, but I think it's, I get it. Yeah, so with the porn industry itself is still run by men. So they had this kind of narrow, mind and mind, so like how porn should be made. And so that's why the genres don't really evolve. So that's why I kind of opted in to become a feminist producer, director, and just advocating

for sub genres and different sexualities and different niches and fetishes. And that's why I came up with a new website I'm launching next month called TS fetishes. TS fetishes. TS fetishes.com, taking away the fetishization of transsexuals and just putting it into niches underneath a transsexual category, which is, you know, smoking, foot worship, domination, bondage, you know, these tiny air facets that are fetishes that are just tied in with transactual. Do you have a fetish? I love body hair with men

with women. I like women, yeah, I'm still exploring with women. Still exploring with women, right? It takes like a lifetime. I'm very picky because I like brunettes. I like natural tits, natural ass and minimal tattoos. And you know, it's something that's nice and clean and puffy and no pubes, you know? I know pubes. What is the trend with pubic? Are people always asking me that? I know that I got a memo. What do you think? I'm like, no, it's the worst you've never coming back. No, no, no. But a small group of people trying to make you come back,

but there's just a landing star, there's nothing. I don't know, landing is just fine. It's easy, just take it all out. Yeah, yeah. So guys, I don't mind it, because my sexuality, you know, I like masculinity and femininity. So with a man, I want to feel a man. And with a woman, I want to feel a woman. Right, but you kind of do it all.

So do you think you could see yourself in a traditional relationship or just... I'm open to a mono situation, but down the line I feel like a poly would be the best situation for me, but it's just so complex. You can get it off the ball. Right, so it's hard to find a ball. You got to educate that. It's so hard.

No, but you're right. I mean, that's what I've been... It's just something that just... Well, let's see. ...paying out with my nisten stuff and you and my nisten. Yeah. But what can you say? No, agreeing.

Other questions I have. I was curious. So I was reading about your early parenthesis. Now, when you're doing porn now, and now you're in a trance, well, first I'm very impressed that you become such a mogul. And so, short time, like you won these two, what you would do porn for four years,

you've been a sucks entertainment. I'm really impressed by your website that helps trans, trans-global, trans-phalates, really trans-global magazines. I'm really impressed by your website that helps trans trans global trans-called that's really trans-goble magazine. I've taken sabbatical from it as a little out data right now. I was impressed if it was like how do you change your name? If you was like you know how do you wear make out?

You just take a very like interesting site at that lifestyle for trans women and I thought that was such a great service. I like it because there is no platform. There is no education or a garden. there's nothing like that in a judicial system that makes it a requirement to learn about sexuality and gender identity and also what details and tell it. And when it comes to college, it's an elective.

So for me, I wanted to create this platform for those who are young who are learning about transitioning and trying to understand what it takes to be actually transition. So I kind of created this as a hub. And it was more of a test and seeing how the public will perceive it and how my fanbase were perceiving. Right. And so I took a sabbatical.

And now this year's goal is to transform transglomer magazine into more of a digestible guidebook that comes out quarterly and I'll hopefully be able to pitch it out to like hospitals and school. Yeah, there's just to be able to understand more education. On social media. Now the millennials are all about Snapchat, Twitter and Facebook and Instagram, but how often would they encounter something as educational or why to transgender? Well, I think it's great. I mean obviously because you had to learn on your own I think it's great that you're also educating so many so many young people But the other question for you was so when you had your first scene you weren't really attracted to women

I'm wondering now when you do porn are you most like what are you a turn on? I am turn on but it's all about personality for me If I connect with you then anything anything can go. I need to connect on it is intellectuality, how humble you are, how compassionate you are. I do have your shit together or not. If you're going to be doing a lot of drugs, I'm like, that's a little bit of a turn off. If you keep talking about your snake all the time, that's not really like a snake or a real snake. Like actual snake. Oh yeah, snake's for a living. I'm like, okay, that's only applied.

I'm trying to get a wooden here. You know, like that's huge turn off. Right. So I'm just gonna connect intimately and like someone who likes to kiss, who's into it. And I think it's, I haven't had many good experiences sometimes with women who are kind of just fake it to the make it, you know, has a situation

that opened to the idea of transsexuals but they're not really into it. I feel like something has just a paying job for them. Right. So I need to get less of that and more like real lesbians and really just interested in just, you know, getting fucked by my straffold. That attached. Exactly.

The attached straffold will fall off. It's not confusing. Yeah. Right. It's going to work. It's going to have a hard enough. Exactly. Can you move it in the right direction? confusing right exactly it's crazy when so I used to do a morning show in San Francisco called the doghouse and they're actually they're still they're

still in the air in San Francisco so you can google them it's a great show and then there was a morning show and we would actually have a trans woman come in Quite often named vanity. Oh, vanity. I don't yeah, that it is funny because then she would come out with us and party and But it's funny because all the straight guys after a couple of drinks they like they did not care no They just did not care like see I'm looking about that too guys that you know claim that they're I'm hydro-sexual blah blah blah. Yeah, dude. They were making our vanity like after a couple drinks It was crazy. Okay, right? Because like if it I mean at the time I don't know I haven't seen her recently at the time

You cannot tell that she used to be a... She did, she still has a penis. She's still transsexual. Or, you know, when I'm fat, I'm like, she used to be a man. And I still get that too now and then with guys, the thing is, I always get the curious guys, you know, who I want more. I think it's, I feel like I always end up

becoming a conduit to someone's fantasies And that's why I'm talking about comes to the fetishization of transactuals like the had these fantasies I want to get fucked by a transactual or you know But you don't want to be that part no you don't You don't want to be like no, I don't want to be like I don't I don't I don't mind guiding you But I don't mind I don't want you to approach me in that manner Yeah, I'm expecting that I don't want you to approach me in that manner, and then I'm like, I'm expecting that. I would like to get to know me first,

and then I can maybe work with you and help you open those doors on my own prerogative, but not just because. Because you're trying to live out, so I think, right, I totally get it. So that's how I do it. I mean, it's similar, but not like, even like, I get it.

When guys want a date, they're like, oh, well, what kind of toys do you have? What's going on in your house? Because I've always talked about it. I'm like, you're going to be crazy and bad, and I think that they just want to see because, they're like, oh well, what kind of toys do you have? What's good on your house? Because I've always talked about it. I'm like, you're gonna be crazy and bad, you're gonna end up like that. Do they just want to sleep with me? Because of what I do.

Yeah. Because of, you know. This is why there's a term in transsexual women used called trainee chasers. Right. The guys who specifically love trainees, or that's a drug trade term, but transsexual.

I can't say transsexual. Well, it's a, the only transsexual, since they like us, but they call them Chinese hacers and basically are guys who are very attracted to transsexuals and for me actually I love them because there are the people who understand me the most who anticipate the most and know what to expect and they're not looking for a fantasy because they're ready for fielded you know so

I also they've already been with other trans-transmacial so it's not like you're the one teaching that right okay exactly so it makes it easier by the same time like, you know, I don't want to deal with the situations like, I don't want to come out about it. I'm like, you should have to come out, you know, my penis is in my hands like a walk about naked, you know, like, what is that to disclose? I'm a woman, you know, and what happens in a bedroom does not dictate how we behave. Exactly. So mostly we'll don't assume that this as they know it's senior porn, like they've never, I mean, believe me, there's many times I've messed around

with a lot of male talent, industry industry, and they just don't want to be out of that. It's a lot of people I care about. No doubt about it. As much as that, matter of time when people again, willing to be go public about it,

and less stigma, less discrimination. I think you're doing the good work here. Yeah. Oh, another discussion. Start to go all the way back to. No, no, no. I know you're probably extremely talkative, tired of talking about Caitlin Jenner.

There's one thing that was funny, because we, my group of friends, and also how it's turned bright up recently, it's like, okay, like now the show is kind of boring because the people I'm talking about all the issues, like trans women are actually pretty fun. Like show the fun parts, you know, like now you're constantly just talking about issues, issues, issues. It's like, I won't. Like trans women can party and have fun. Like, can you show that part? Yeah. So it can be fun. This girls can be like

Yeah, because like mind you we used to be You know talking about Like hey, let you know you know you know you're gonna jerk off you jerk off I got it now When that benefits of being a trans sexual woman is like hey, you know you have your man needs address them You know go to a bar drink with the dudes, go do it. Now, I'm not gonna be like a clean girl. Like, oh, what's going on?

You know, of course, you know, sometimes everyone hormones out, you know, there would be like the jealousy aspect and security. That's what it is. There's a couple of months. Harm out the jealousy. It's a point. Yeah, the point I'm trying to make is like,

yeah, we're discussing that now because of the podcast trying to educate people too. But like, I think when you do hang out with a trans woman, don't think that's going to consume your life. That's all you're going to talk about. Right. It just honed too. It's going to come to that. It's not what that part of the story is. Yeah. If they want to either party a lot, they want to, you know, they love bags or whatever. You know, it each is out. And I think it's just really just making sure coming in with an open mind and not osuming

and not following the cliches of what stereotypical transactuals are, you know. So how often do you masturbate? I masturbate about once a day. What's a day, okay. And do you watch porn? Are you over porn? I do watch porn by watching amateur porn

because I produce porn, you know? I know how, oh that angle, that leg is so inappropriate. Interpreter, that's the thing. You got to get relaxed. You got to get more continuity. Yeah, exactly. So amateur, it just kind of gets me off, but, and day, when it comes to personal sex life,

you know, I'm very picky. Like, I just cannot, if you're smaller than me and like you're not fucking me I'm sorry but you know they're penis is smaller than you yeah so like I just like you've nice penis oh nice you do know I watch your poor know really Emily this is so flattering no you

should see I was like I was like texting bad like wait what's like I know if you're logging to your site I think when you're logging I gotta see it all I don't want to see what's wrong? Because I didn't have your log into your site. I was like, you're log in, I gotta see it all. I don't wanna see what's done. You're gonna regret saying that. I'm not giving a fast.

I'm gonna get temporary. No, you do, but I can see that, but you don't know until you're in a room with someone to measure up. Yeah, true. But I guess the gay cune deals with us all the time. Yeah, that's all about size queens, right? Right.

I'm not really a size queen, it's just more. I said one who's about my size or bigger if you want to talk me And if you bottom, I just want to make sure that you are prepared for it You're not like oh, you know like you don't know you the anima Like you know like or happy. I'm sure Yeah, guys like oh, you're just rinkering like did you use the anima like I know what is that? I'm like House you like yeah, yeah, I do Usually I just do I kind of

Structuralized everything like you really organized Over what I like you want to checkless like you do did you do you shower did you do that? Yeah, I have that and so I masturbate most of the time because the fact I'm just so picky, I just can't hook up with a random person off the street. I like to have sex with industry people because I know they're tested, we're safe. We're having fun.

And we can get kinky as possible and not feel regret. Like how can you give, we're just kinky. The gorgi, like just like a last month and they had a gorgi, I'm like, oh, that was awesome. Just like just like couple like a last month and then they had a word. She I'm like Oh, that was awesome. I mean, you're like a fun or that hotel. I know it's after award ceremony Exposer not T a T awards trend or a rata car a Fun you're all there those held it. Oh, I was invited to those. Yeah, it's no sex awards It's a smaller one. I want to go next year. Yeah, I should go

So many transactional. Yeah. It seems like you're doing a really impressive. You've got your Venus-Lux.com, your production company, Venusux Entertainment, and Venus Box. That's your latest. Yeah, the latest. Great.

Yeah, just a little idea. I have to be able to interact with my fans because it's just to be able to entice my fans because it's just be able to entice my fans to want to explore something more kinkier and kind of create something like that. It was just an off kind of. Okay, because I said that's what you want to talk about it. I didn't know if you want to talk about it. I don't worry. Okay, I didn't know what else you wanted to.

The promote was definitely TS fetishes. TS fetishes. Okay. So focusing on that and also this year's project because I've kind of plateaued I have all my Performing years I know you want to for about 25. She's one like yeah, what now? You know retire what I'm working on that so I'm working on my retirement plan so I'm glad I was to stay in it for another four years or so and get my hall of fame but then this year I'm focusing on more management so I'll be this year managing more girls and taking them underneath my arms and being able to just

guide them the preliminaries and the processes, the politics, the aesthetics of the industry and really have kind of like a guidebook of what a texted PA will be successful in this industry. For Eddie, for trans women, trans, mainly trans. This really is no guidebook but I could see that getting, it's already a tough industry. And I could see if you come into trans women even being taken advantage of more. Yeah.

And it's small. And so because it's a man's world, you know, and it's always the man with the most money in who dictates everything, that I want to advocate for feminism and for independent women to be able to take care of their own brands and kind of watch each other's back because I don't, you know, sometimes it's politics that affect us and also some of them that demean us, you know, as transactuals,

we always get, you know, backlash, you know, sometimes because people want to hook up with us, but don't not approach it properly and also what's appropriate, what's not appropriate too. And so that's why I want to protect some of these girls. In the future that, hey, just because this director shooting you, doesn't mean you have to go suck that person's dick. Right, you know, you're... Right, well that's always, yeah. Yeah, at the beginning of the time, there's been casting couch, right?

Yeah, yeah. But now it's just a whole lot of that. Sorry, a lot of that. And guys milk it, and I don't like that. Doesn't protect the girls. No, good for you. I'm glad you I love that. And guys milk it. And I don't like that. Doesn't protect the girls and the girls that are in the house. No, good for you. I'm glad you've a house.

You help women. Yes. And I have a monochau. And basically, there are girls who are traveling on their way to L.A. to work. And basically, they're just a temporary home for they can feel safe and not be touched by men or get involved with drugs or get involved into aspects that hinder their career. So, that's when I'm focused on this year and I'll be branding it under a new company I'm

launching called Siren Network and it'll be brand management and managing girls' sites and their careers in this industry and getting established and sustaining a level of expansion in the Transsexuals genre. So, you're doing really, I'm really impressed. So and then also the Tranquil magazine will be converted into a non-profit this year. So it's an award, advocating for a workforce placement for a Transsexuals who want to get out of sex work and just be able to find out. Right, because really how do you find happiness?

Because you win in this route and you see like you did it but what next right exactly I got it. Do we have time for you under one email? You want to have like what an answer an email? Oh wow. For our listeners that'd be awesome. Thank you for emailing us feedback at sexwithmla.com We love hearing from you and we love when you include your name where you live how old you are and how you live. So we can stock you. Yeah exactly. Your address and your social security number. It's interesting to find out like how they listen to the show because there's so many different ways.

There's sex at Emily dot com. There's iTunes. There's Stitcher. There's podcast one. There's a lot of different ways. What you do and also as long as I'm here, I forgot. I was so excited at the beginning. I wanted to say follow me on Facebook and Instagram and Twitter and Snapchat at sex with Emily

Facebook.com slash sex with Emily. It's all cohesive. It's all at sex with them. That's really easy. Okay, so hey Emily, love the show. I'm writing in from Quebec, Canada. I'm 19 years old. I'm a fully passing male to female post-op trans girl and I feelings of sexual and adequacy due to my situation. I find that most people are not friendly to the thought of dating people like me. How do you suggest I approach my insecurity, Nicolas? I just thought, we've talked a lot about this, but I was thinking maybe you could ask.

So she's a post-op transsexual who's 19 years old. Yeah, I feel like that's one of the new raves nowadays. Would it explain this to me? We have to be able to postop, so I had the operation. Yes. Yes. Right? And because I don't know how it's like in Quebec, but obviously now, you know, government

covers SRS or sex reassignment surgery or post-op. In the United States. In the United States, yes. And so dating is very tough. I have a couple of my friends actually just got their post-op surgeries too, and they assumed that life would change and assuming that people would perceive them differently because of the genitalia I told them like, the genitalia does not dictate who you are, you are still female with or without your penis

You walk in a street wearing pants, you don't show your genitalia So, and the yes, dating is different, you know, and I have some girls who lie, don't disclose that they weren't born a female, and I have some who are transparent about it. And then a day is to figure out, finding someone who is going to accept you for who you are for your personality, not by your genitalia, and that is kind of your success for happiness, and associate with people who are who know and are positive and can be allies. And even I feel like you need to be transparent about it, even though it's a vagina now. You know, you had to disclose that, hey, it's not a functional vagina, there's no uterus.

So right, there's no uterus, but is there, but it's sensations. You can get, it's actually prone for infection. You have to understand that like if you were to do a cream pie, you actually had to manually clean it out because you cannot piss it out really. The track is different. You can't get right. Tricky. It already is difficult.

Of a vagina actually, it kind of helps sterilize everything by itself. Right. When it comes to a wound. Subclaiming, suppclaiming, right. You had to take it out and tell that you can't get pregnant. So you don't want a disabled guy to have fun loving kind of children, you know? So you always have to be transparent.

So, to 19 years old, 19 years old, just associate yourself with support groups and other, you know, non-beauty community members that can advocate. And dating just, you know, make sure you beat as a present as you are and just live your life be happy and always disclose that, you know, be honest. I think that's real helpful. Thank you.

I appreciate that. Okay, I've got five questions for you. We have to bring us. That's it. Just try. These are quick though. These are rapid. And then, if I can't find more after. Then, if I can't find more after.

Just one question. Okay. Quick. Just cover cup of mine. Which your biggest turn on? Biggest turn on, the brain. Biggest turn off. Smells, bad smells, odor, bio. Craziest place you've gotten busy. Oh, that's so hard.

Because they're all crazy. Yeah, beach and movie theater moms bed Awesome sexes were to you That's hard sexiest word sensual What's the one thing you wish you could tell a future partner about your sexual needs? Evolved you wish you could tell a future partner about your sexual needs. Um, evolved. Got it. That's good.

Thank you so much. I appreciate it. You're awesome. How can so people can find you, I'll be on our website, but what's your biggest thing you want to Twitter and Instagram at VenusLux and Facebook, the real VenusLux or a T.S. Venus Lux, either or one of those. Check out my website, venus-lux.com. Stay tuned to my Twitter and for updates on regards to launching my new website, T.S. Edishes.com next week. Also, be prepared for a new company. That would be my god.

Have you ever done a sex and duration? No. I know. Horde and companies and wow. I like the B, a busy B. So they find out all this. Yes. Well congratulations.

I have your success. Now we're stocking out. And thank you for what? We're stocking out. You didn't stock me out. We're like an awesome creeper but you're your positive you're educated. You're fun Thanks, I try to have a good and you're pretty too. Oh, yeah, oh, that's Thank you. Hi, sure. So more about me. No, okay

Thank you so much. We just like thank you coming. Thank you. Thank you everybody. Thank you Madison and thank you Borey and thank you Jamie and my home amazing team. Love you all Can I say one thing it was so okay? Of course you can now there was it was so awesome the last podcast that I That I was on I mentioned it was my dog's birthday Chiro, right? And I said follow my dog Chiro and I said I go it would be a fun experiment to see how many people listen all the way to the end of the podcast to say Hey follow my dog on Instagram, right? So many people

Commented on her Instagram page and said I've listened to the end of the show So thank you so much. So she's talking about something really important right now. Oh I love that and I didn't have a a Brazilian chorale. Yeah, my baby. She had so much fun. She had a cake. Oh. There's a dog bakery. I know.

I can't even believe you've come. It's crazy. I'm a child or something. I brought a cake when I ate it because there's a people cake. That's cool. Okay, everyone, thank you, men. Thanks everyone for listening. Was it good for you?

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