Sex With Emily - Blame it on Emily: How NOT to be Boring in Bed

Episode Date: June 13, 2017

Everyone gets bored once in awhile, even when it comes to sex and dating. On today’s show, Emily is helping you use that boredom as a sign to spice things up in and out of the bedroom! How do you get your wife out of her head when she’s in bed? Are “paingasms” a real thing? What do you do when your partner’s fetish completely turns you off? Emily gives her sage advice on these sex and dating dilemmas, and more in hopes that you'll have the best sex of your life! This show is jam-packed with sexy tips you won't want to miss!  Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep this podcast FREE: Sportsheets, FT Toys, In Control, and System JO   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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It's at sex with Emily. And there's been awesome you guys hearing from you in all these places. And I have been answering all your snaps, which is really cool, you guys, and your Instagram stories, if you send me stuff. But the deal is, when you send me questions, I think I mentioned this last week on SnapChat, it's easier to go to the website

because then I saved your question and then I might not get back to it. And then I try to get back to it, or it's too, there's not enough space there for me to really think about it. So what I'm gonna encourage you guys to do is this. So you know how I answer your emails on the show and then recently we've been taking your calls, which is awesome.

And what I thought about was that I was thinking this morning, I was actually going for a run, I was thinking about the show and I was like, you know what, I really love talking to you guys and doing the call shows and I thought, well maybe people aren't really getting like how easy it is or how it can really help you as well when you call in. So here's how it works. So when you send me a question, you guys know you go to the website and you click on the Ask Emily tab and then you send in your question.

But now, you know, the last few months, there's been a box you can indicate, I don't know, how long do we do this a year, right? No, six months, the call is a while now. And you click a box that says yes, I'd like to be called and that just indicates that, you know, instead of us reading your email, you want to be called. And so we contact you, like my producer will contact you

and then you'll set up a two hour window that works with your schedule. And at some point in that, you know, it will have like a 20 minute, 15 minute conversation. But the reason why I like that is because I happen to be really good when I get you on the phone, I feel like we can get to the heart of whatever your question is because the email sometimes ago I'm not getting all of that information that I need. So when you're on the phone, I feel like we can get to the heart of whatever your question is because the email sometimes ago I'm not getting all of that information that I need.

So when you're on the phone, I feel like, bam, I can solve those things for you. We can get into it. It's like a little mini therapy session. When you check the box to be called, you can also remain anonymous. I don't care about your real name. It's cool. You know, age is important location, that's cool. But since our mission is to help educate you, spread the sex positive message,

help you communicate, all that stuff, it just, I think it helps when people, you know, we get to hear your whole story. So I'm not saying I'm not reading emails, oh, but going back to the Snapchat thing, a lot of you are like, this is urgent. I need this answer now. How soon do you get back to me with your emails

and we get hundreds of emails we do, but not as many emails with the call. Saying you want to be called. So that's why I thought, you know what? Let me explain to you how easy it is and check that box. And then also you guys, my new texting process is awesome. It's simple. You text Ask Emily one word to 7979.

That's Ask Emily to 7979. So easy. And then you get the same link that you get when you go on the website to fill out your question. Okay, you guys, that's fun. Help me help you, and it'll help everyone else, because we all learn from each other's stories. So thanks everyone for being here,

and for listening to the show, and for writing it. So today we'll be answering your emails, but first I've got a little sex in the news for you. You're gonna like this It's called why boredom can be a good thing We live in a culture that treats boredom as inevitable in monogamous relationships I mean think about you guys. I probably wouldn't have a job if you guys weren't always emailing and calling and talking about You know, why is it getting the sex getting stay on our relationship? How do we spice it up?

How do we keep the sex interesting? And it's going to happen. And that's why I always tell you guys, it doesn't mean that there's a huge problem and you need to get divorced, or you need to cheat on your spouse. I mean, we all crave newness and excitement and novelty in relationships.

We just do. It's going to happen. So prepare for it. But sometimes that boredom just sneaks up on us and we're like, wow, things were so great in the beginning. I remember we used to walk in the door and we'd rip each others clothes off and now we walk in the door and you know, make dinner and watching TV and we're getting bored. But you guys, the study says here that it's actually can be a

good thing if you use the boredom to your advantage. It could be a signal that alerts you to the lack of meaning in your relationship the boredom to your advantage. It could be a signal that alerts you to the lack of meaning in your relationship and boredom can get really kind of irritating, right? You know when something's in your head, it's kind of bothering you and you're tossing it around, you're like, oh, why is this happening? You know, I'm bored, but this is an interesting. And sure, you could just keep distracting yourself, you know, with porn or your cell phone or Netflix. That's an option, but you could also recognize that boredom as a vehicle for turning towards your partner

and saying, you know what, let's try something new. Let's bring in the novelty to our relationship. But here's the good news, you guys. When you get bored, you can be like, oh, hello, boredom, my old friend. What can we do here with the boredom? Oh, we can get inspired together and be like, you know what, we're bored, and that can actually be the impetus for you

to seek change in your relationship because at some point in every relationship you are going to want something new and exciting, you're going to want the novelty. It doesn't mean you're going to necessarily want a new partner, but you're going to want to really start paying attention to these things that I always talk about, which is talking to your partner about sex, bringing things into the relationship that are interesting and new, sharing new experiences together, you guys. I mean, couples that play together, stay together. It's summer. You guys go out, you can ride bikes together, you can go rock climbing, you can jump off a cliff, you could just take a walk and discover new parts of your town. Because all these things

are new experiences together, which spikes the dopamine and in your brains and connects you and bond you and then they'll make you want to go and bang like rabbits. It will you guys. Notice if you're getting bored, don't be yourselves up. That happens. Look for some novelty. Look for some fun in their relationship and that'll happen you guys. So there you have it. And my mommy's always saying, only boring people get bored. So if that's another inspiration, we can just thank my mother for that. Okay guys, we got your emails. Thank you so much for writing me. I'm going to give a shout out to my sponsors who are awesome. Thank you so much for supporting them and for supporting the show. And I'll be right back with your emails. Okay guys, we're onto your emails now. If you have a question that you want me to answer on the show,

you know I didn't mean to say if you guys just email me that's a now. If you have a question that you want me to answer on the show, you know, I didn't mean to say if you guys just email me, that's a problem. I get it, some people are not comfortable talking. I understand, I was just trying to encourage you because I want to talk to you. But you can always, you know, you go to the section at mme.com website via the Ask Emily tab, send me an email. You can also leave me voicemail 818askswe1 or like I said, text Ask Emily one word. Someone sent me a snap and said that they couldn't get

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Okay, first email, hello Emily, I love the show. Thanks for all the information. My wife is a thinker during sex. She gets wrapped up in her thoughts when we have sex or even when I'm performing oral sex. All the time, I tell her that she's beautiful, amazing, and I love her body. I do mean this with my whole heart,

but she never believes me. I believe it prevents her from orgasming, no matter how long we get engaged in sex or no matter what I do to turn her on and try to get her there. Is there anything I can do? Any tips you can give her. Ryan, 27 North Carolina.

Okay, Ryan, here's the deal. I've read this question so funny every time I read it, there's a few more things that jump out of me. At first I'm thinking, let me break this down for you. We all get stuck in our heads, but here's an interesting study, you guys, that during sex, there was like an MRI study where they looked at your brain patterns, and men, so during sex, they focus most of their active brain regions on the sexual activities. Like they are focusing on the sexual activities, and guess what women are focusing on.

We've got multiple regions of our brain going off, right? And guess what areas? That involved worry, attention to things that we didn't get done during the day. The children, external noise, our brains are busy and they're not on the activities that they're supposed to wait the moment. So you're not alone, Ryan.

There's a lot of women that have these challenges. And I know that men have it too. So the first thing I would say is that you absolutely need to eliminate the distractions as much as you can in the bedroom, make sure your cell phones aren't in there, you don't make sure that it's a convenient time for her as well that you're not like, hey babe, let's go for it now and she's like, I'm in the middle of doing something, but I'm sure you're already worked that stuff out, but if not just be mindful of that.

But also the fact that you're saying, you know, a lot of this is self-esteem, you're telling you're, she's beautiful and amazing and you love everybody and she doesn't believe you. Here's the thing, here's the thing everyone, you gotta know this, no matter how many times somebody tells you that you're beautiful and amazing and smart, self-confidence is an inside job. And until we truly, truly work on loving ourselves

and cultivating that self-esteem, that confidence nobody else is gonna be able to fill it up for us. And it's a lifelong process, it really is, which might sound kind of like a bummer to you all, but really it's the most important work you can do. So Ryan, while you're telling her all these things, you know, you love her body, and you sound like, you know, a very caring, wonderful husband, and I love that you're like so thoughtful and caring about your wife, but all that stuff about, I think that's a separate issue. If you do feel like she's struggling a lot and she doesn't want to go out

because she feels fat and her jeans or she feels like she's less than at work or with you, that's a whole nother subject. That's something she might have some wounds from childhood. Okay, we all do. Raise your hand if you don't have a shit in childhood that messed you up, but let's get back to the bedroom and the focus part, okay?

Because that seems to be your main question and the number one thing is really Mindfulness and mindfulness is a huge buzzword, you know now I know everything is like mindful sex mindful eating You know mindful exercise mindful work But what that really means is just paying attention and being in the moment and the one thing that helps more than anything At all in the entire world is the one thing that helps more than anything at all in the entire world is breathing. And so I would tell your wife is that, I think the best thing to do is for her

to have a breathing exercise. I have a breathing practice. And for women what's been extremely helpful is practice breathing when she's not even with you. Even if she wakes up in the morning or you guys could do this together like a meditation exercise, where she just breath her and breathes

and she breathes all the way down to her pelvic floor, like into her stomach all the way down. And that might sound weird to you, like I didn't know I can move breath down there. It's really just the matter of feeling and conducting. And you just like, I mean, if she does that five minutes a day and practices that breath,

she can also take that into the bedroom now. She, again, I always like hesitate because I know like it's taken me 20 years to finally get my set meditation practice down. I mean, I've always been aware of it. But there's all these apps right now too that are great for mindfulness practice and for breathing. There's one called headspace.

That's a great app. A lot of women also hold their breath strength, because they're nervous in her mind, but I'm telling you, it will help calm her mind. You guys can also practice breathing together. This is kind of like a ton of practice. I don't want to scare you in runaway, but really there are also apps for that as well. You guys can just look into each other's eyes and breathe together. Because when you're breathing and you're mindful and you're present and you're focused

and you're staring at each other's eyes, that's another tip. It will really help her be present and be in the moment with you during sex. So thank you for your question, Ryan. Let me know how it goes. Okay, our next question came in via text. Hey, Emily, I'm so glad I found your podcast. It's quite informative and entertaining. How can an introvert a person who hasn't been in a relationship in seven years get back

into dating? I've been married twice with my longest relationship being 13 years. I've always had a difficult time talking to women. When I'm at work, it comes a little easier. I've tried and tried to be more outgoing, but with no luck. I'm seeking your advice and creative ways to give dating another go.

Thanks, Chris 49 Central Florida. Okay, Chris, well, I'm so glad that you want to give dating another go. You absolutely should. And, you know, here's the thing about dating. Don't be too hard on yourself, because dating is actually a muscle. Like, there's a muscle involved in, like, actively, like, getting out there and talking to people.

It's a practice. I know that you said you're trying, but one of the great things that you could try to do is really just talk to everybody. I mean, really, people might be able to be interested in men, women, when you're out, proud of how, you know, observing things going on and talking about things going on in the environment or saying hello, it's going on and talking about things going on in the environment, just saying hello, it's gonna get a lot easier over time. And I find it interesting that it work,

you're really comfortable with women. And so I'm also wondering, one of the key things for introverts is that if you, I think that introverts are really in their heads, and you're thinking like, what do I wanna say, and how do I talk to someone? If you talk about a subject that you're really interested in and things that you're comfortable with, you're going to feel more comfortable. And so I think that that's something you might want to lead with.

If you're observing something or meeting someone, talk about something that you like. I mean, that excites you. And that'll get you going. And then you'll forget that you're even uncomfortable talking, I promise. So just think of some things that interest you and stick with those. Okay, so here's the thing Chris, you're made for online dating, my interwritz, you can sit and you can match with people, you can use bumble, you can use Tinder, you can use match, match, you have to pay for it and you get a little bit more detailed, I

think, with your matches and a little more back and forth. But really, you can craft what you want to say, you can find people that you're interested in and text back and forth and then maybe talk on the phone and gain that comfort level. The other thing is, since you already said that you're comfortable with people that you know like it work, I'm telling you, when you are single and you're ready to date, I cannot emphasize this enough you guys. It's just like when you're looking for a job, let everyone know that you're looking to date. Let you know, you're getting your teeth cleaned. Tell your dentist, tell your friends, tell your neighbors, tell the people, you know,

whoever, who you work with, you know, these people that you're so comfortable with and think that you're awesome because they might not know someone in that moment, but believe me, they'll come across a single woman and be like, oh, Chris, it work, he's awesome. So treat it like a job, let everyone know that you're dating, check out the apps

and just keep practicing talking, Chris. You got this, get out there. Do it. Hi, Emily. I'm a veteran and for a few months now, I've been seeing this very masculine man who's also a veteran. He loves cars, trucks, motorcycles, guns, and has a dangerous job. We are extremely compatible except in bed. It's passionless, missionary with no foreplay every time. We do talk about it and give one other feedback So he recently told me he has a high yield fetish. Great I thought totally down with that. I'll put on some pumps We can go to town one problem

He's the one that wants to wear the heels. I'm turned off by the idea, but I'm open-minded if that's what gets him going I was willing to try and try hard not to laugh in hopes of better intercourse. This resulted in marginally better missionary sex, but still no foreplay. I want to be with a dominant masculine man that he is, not a feminine man in a dress and pink pumps. Should I keep seeing him, his fetish is my turn off. If you found the man of your dreams, but he was bad and bad or had an undesirable kink, would you stay with him? Thank you, Lowe, Massachusetts.

Okay, Lowe, I gotta say here, bottom line, if his fetish, you know what a fetish means. It means that whatever his fetish is, so he wants, he wants to be wearing pumps. It's typically a requirement for orgasm. It's a quite requirement for rousals. That means that he's going to keep wanting to wear pumps and bed, and this is your turn off. So I have to say, he's not really the man of your dreams because you're sexually mismatched, because you have different desires. You can't turn around this kink.

And there's nothing wrong with it. I hear about men all the time who are straight, and they want to wear women's underwear. It's actually a common fetish. The only thing I can say is that, you know, he seems perfect to you when you thought he was all these things. He loved cars and he was a veteran. You know, trucks, motorcycles, guns. You have all these things in common. But he's not that guy that you think

and when in the bedroom, he takes on a different persona. And I just don't think this is gonna be your jam. I'm gonna say, unless you can somehow make his fetish work for you, but it sounds like it's not working. So like all relationships take work. If you want to somehow say, you know what, I'm gonna go in with an open mind.

If you want to try to channel his turn on and do your turn on, and people can do this, if you really think that he's the one, I'm not sure how long you guys have been, oh, a few months now. So I feel like, you know what? I feel like that this probably isn't your guy. And I hate giving the absolutes and saying,

you know, you should just go But it just sounds like this is not gonna work sexually and we know if you're not having great sex at the beginning It's gonna be a challenge in the long run There's a lot of guys out there who like cars and trucks and motorcycles and they're gonna want you to wear the heels in the bedroom Okay, thanks. Hello Next email dear Emily. My wife and I have been listening to your podcast for a year and a half now. Listening to you has made my wife more confident in asking for what she wants in the bedroom.

We've been together for 19 years. My wife and I have always been extremely adventurous with SNM. Usually when I instigate, in the past, she has treated me to sessions with both her and a pro-dom as birthday gifts and we've played with subgirlss and threesomes. My wife has been really into it and she loves doming a girl so she loves dominating the other woman. Personally I'm a pretty hard-core masochist and my wife is extremely skilled at building pain to an enormous crescendo so that even the lightest touch from her brings me to orgasm. Recently as we push boundaries even further I've experienced a new phenomenon. She can build the good pain in such a way that to orgasm. Recently, as we push boundaries even further, I've experienced a new phenomenon.

She can build the good pain in such a way that I orgasm with absolutely no touching, no physical contact of my penis, it sits in midair, touching nothing, I can feel a build-up and then I orgasm explosively. I've heard that this is known as a pain gasm, but I'm really intrigued by it. How does it work? How is it triggered?

Is it mentally triggered? I'd love to know and understand more about my brain and body are doing and why keep up the fantastic work Dan 41 France. Well, Dan, I want to tell you to keep up the fantastic work I'm blown away by you guys 19 years together and you guys are like in SNM and downing and you're learning all the stuff about your body This should be an inspiration for everybody listening, because I'm super inspired by you guys. You just want to know about why you can have an orgasm without touching you, which is amazing.

So here's the thing about a pain gasm. A pain gasm is an orgasm that's achieved exclusively through the pain, through the pain stimuli, so whatever she's using, if she's using like a whip, or she's spanking you, and that is associated with massacism, and it's very common in BDSM practices, but it might be something different. Now, we often pigeonhole sex into an act that just involves genitals, right?

Your genitals need to be touched, but I always say the brain is our largest sex organ. So what I believe is happening, that this arousal that you're experiencing is mental, that you're actually thinking yourself off. They call it a think off or energy orgasms, because you're having some like mental concentration that's going on, and maybe you're like breathing in a certain way, and that's why you're experiencing it. It sounds like she's not even touching you.

So when this is happening, so I believe that you're just doing this think off, and that's a right energy orgasm that you guys are so connected and you've learned to kind of circle like this energy of the pleasure and pain through your body and actually think about it and have an amazing orgasm. So that's my, that's what I think you're bringing in body you're doing. So I think, wow, amazing work there, Daniel. I love it.

Okay, that's really cool. I'm telling you guys, I think women can do this too. You guys, in fact, Daniel, you know what's really cool? I typically hear about this from women. I don't hear about it from men as much, so you're like, you know, you're beyond. It's awesome. I want to think off. Should that be my goal for this year? Thinking off. I can like semi think off, but I get distracted. See, I've got distraction issues as well. Maybe I should just be focused on a mindful think off. That's my goal, you guys. Follow me on my journey.

Hi, Emily. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years and our sex life has always been amazing. We both know each other's bodies really well. We're pretty good at communicating and we're both more than satisfied when we have sex. However, there's something I'm struggling to communicate and I've been wanting to try this for a long time. I have a fantasy of

being tied up. I'm thinking risk to the bedposts or behind my back as he's taking me from behind. I don't care, I just want to be bound. I've casually brought it up before, but it's usually after we've had sex and I nonchalantly say, hey, you know what would be fun sometime? My boyfriend's never given a negative response, but he's never jumped at it either. Instead he holds my hands down as he has his way with my body, which I find so hot. But I still just want to add something extra to spice things up and satisfy this fantasy of mine. Whenever I do think of being tied up, just as we're about to have sex, I'm just too nervous

to act on it. We don't have a whole lot of props in our normal bedroom escapees. I'm not sure the best way to introduce this and remain mindful of my boyfriend's feelings and comfort levels. Any suggestions? Thanks for your help. I love listening to your show and value your advice so much. Emily 24, California.

Hey, I'm, do you have a call you am? People call me out. And this is awesome. Okay. So I've got just the thing for you. So here's the first thing. Typically, when we have conversations in the bedroom about sex, like that was great. Let's try this. It kind of can fall in deaf ears because he's actually, you know, right after orgasm or relaxing,

where we were, you know, we were being stimulated, we're just, it's not the best time to bring up, like, let's try this next time. So, you know, like I always say, it's best to have these kind of talks outside the bedroom, you know, at breakfast or when you're at dinner or taking a walk together. But I feel like your boyfriend is down with it and there's just one thing missing here which is totally easy to fix here, Emily, is that he's like cool.

I mean, he holds your arms down. He's like, oh, you want to be bound. I get it. Let me use my hands. He's not going to go out and buy what I'm going to recommend right now. So I think he already is comfortable with it. So like I said,. He's not gonna go out and buy what I'm gonna recommend right now. So I think he already is comfortable with it.

So like I said, you don't have to worry about that, but I would say when you're outside the bedroom, say, hey, I was listening to Secretary of Family, blame it on me. I know a lot of you do that, and it totally works, and just say she was talking about bondage, she was talking about these great things. I know I've mentioned it before,

but let's go, you live in California. So I don't know exactly where you live, but if you're in the LA area or wherever you go, there's hustler stores everywhere. You can go to Pleasure Chas. You can go to my website in order these together. Sportcheats is made for you, Emily, like seriously, they make bonded material gear that is so easy to use.

They've got Velcrocoffs that, I mean, you don't need a key. You wrap them around your wrists. They have ones for your wrists, for your ankles, they have the underbed restraints. Have I not talked about the underbed restraints in a while? They're awesome, you leave them under your bed at all times, there's coughs for your hands and coughs for your legs, and you like, talk them under the mattress. So anytime, like even if you don't have a bed post, it doesn't matter because you just can like, he can easily lock you in with these.

They're velcro, they're easy to use. And so what you guys could do is you'd be like, I've been talking about it and I've been thinking about it and it just turns me on so much. And I heard about these really cool cuffs that we can buy. And they're really reasonable. So the thing about the underbedder strengths,

I know that sounds like really intimidating, but they're basically nylon material with velcro cuffs on either end or you could just start with handcuffs. And I think if you have them there, you buy them. And then before you sex, you're just like, let's put these on or he can even come home one day and you're like dangling. You're sitting there on the bed naked with them in your hand.

I feel like he's going to be down with it. The other thing is when you go to their website, you can see when you click on the sports sheets banner from our site, you can see they have like blindfolds and handcuffs. They have a beginner bondage kit. So I would just play around with it and like start with, it's actually kind of hot to be blindfolded and then start with the cuffs

and then you guys can see that you can move them all different formations. So I think this is gonna be the answer to your prayer as M, and my friend, let me know how it goes with the sports cheats and with the bondage, I love it. Hey Emily, first off, I'm a big fan of the show. I travel quite a bit and your podcast is the only thing that keeps me alert when I'm

driving at night. Thank you. I'm recently divorced. I've been with the same person for 15 years. The divorce has been a long time coming, but now I couldn't be happier about being single for the first time since I was 17. My question is, what advice do you have for me for being single for the first time? And how do I travel and single for the first time?

And how do I travel and date at the same time? Thank you so much, Emily. I appreciate your time. Have a great day. Josh, 32, location on the road. Josh, wow. Okay, so half your life pretty much you've been married and been with the same person. And so, 32 now, and I would say, God, you know, good for you.

You are on the road and you get to meet a lot of different people, but I want to first say, don't put pressure on yourself right now to just start, to date someone to find another girlfriend, because I know that you're so you'd find another wife. Eventually, sure, but right now, the most important thing you could do is kind of figure out who Josh is. Like, who are you not in a relationship? I'm sure that you've changed a lot and you've grown a lot You know being in the relationship, but now they're out of a relationship

I mean you have so much more knowledge also than many people who have never been committed So you actually have a lot of skills that you need to date So I wouldn't really trip on the fact that like you know, you know, you don't know how to date or how to communicate So I would say you know Just go out have fun meeting people without the goal of like, I need to find a girlfriend, I need to find someone steady. And the thing is that like dating is a practice. Like it's a kind of thing where it might feel awkward at first because you've only been

with your one partner. And the good news is about traveling is that also is that you're going to new cities and you're meeting new people wherever you go and you got the dating apps. You know, I would definitely like every time you go to a new town, there'll be like a new Tinder batch that pops up that populates on your phone. And so I would just say, you know, be safe, have safe sex if you're going to have sex. Josh, I mean, you seem really positive. I mean, I love that you're out of the relationship.

It sounds like it was a long time coming and just go out and meet people, go on dates, don't I would try not, I would really advise against getting something serious again because I think that might be your proclivity. Just stop practicing, explore the apps and practice safe sex and have fun. Enjoy this time. Thank you so much for writing. Josh, good luck with you. Let me know how it goes. You guys, you can always let me know.

You guys always email me and say that it helped you so much, which I love, but I'd love to hear like your success stories or maybe things didn't work for you. I'm cool with it. I'm not perfect all the time. Sometimes I might give advice that didn't totally die with you. Let me know either way. Thank you. Thank you, everyone.

Fun show you guys. I love you all. Thank you so much for listening. Thank you for subscribing. Thank you for hanging out. Thank you for shopping on the site. Thank you for emailing me all your amazing questions and your stories. You guys killed it during masturbation month.

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