Sex With Emily - Blow Job Blunders & Sex With Friends

Episode Date: May 6, 2015

This episode of Sex With Emily is about all different kinds of sex. From threesomes to sex with friends to sex with your boyfriend’s friends, Emily guides us through the in’s and out’s of these different sexual endeavors.Is a dreaded Ikea trip in your relationship future? Have you tried using sex to reduce stress? Are you horny and having trouble letting go of a lost loved one? Well, you’re in luck! All these topics are tackled this week in Sex in the News.Emily gives some pertinent advice to a kinky couple about condom etiquette in a threesome - Just be safe all around! Emily helps another listener with a gag reflex problem, and another still who has a problem with infidelity. Also, can women be bad in bed? Have you ever :swiveled and screwed"? Get the skinny on sex with a woman on top and so much more on this week’s episode of Sex With Emily! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Okay everyone, I'm here with menace. What's going on Emily? Oh my god so much well menace Mm-hmm. I'm probably the first but I'm going to wish you a happy masturbation mom. Oh, thank you so much May all about you bobbin your baloney. Oh, thank you and me playing with my whatever What's the wait what what age did you start playing with your Yes, sir, like 20 something it took me a long time to get around Even though didn't even occur to me. I wasn't even like oh, what's going on down there? I was like I pee there Yeah, it didn't occur to me my boss is 50 years old and he claims that he's never masturbated in his life for real He says he doesn't even know how to do it. That's a lot. I swear

No, it's not a joke. He joke he's a gay man and he claims that never even thought about it never even done it because he's like a boyfriend that does it for me I mean he sucks and yeah he does have sex but it's how does it okay well I know I'm sure there's people out there that have never done it for some reason and then all my friends You know, we're talking about having work out. That's how I did it started But I started late late late bluer, but it is masturbation month and I am doing a workshop at Houselor, Hollywood in Los Angeles, which is the coolest store. There's free parking in back It's a massive and it's has just have you ever been there? I mean the two these the products at Yeah, I talked about this the last podcast.

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May 12th. May 12th. Live show. What's up with you? Anything good to know? No, I'm going to Vegas soon for the Rock and Rio music festival, which is in Rio de Janeiro is one of the biggest music festivals in the world. And they decided for the first year to do it in America

They're gonna be doing in Las Vegas. I'm gonna be there for work and doing all of that. I love your job Yeah, it's pretty cool right get to do cool stuff But other than that everything is good My girlfriend's like back and forth from here in San Francisco all the time because her dad has lymphoma He's going through that, but he's doing he's doing a lot better, he's going through a treatment and all that stuff. So things are going well. Okay. And what else, just working.

I have another year here on my contract in Los Angeles, so hopefully. Would you go back to the Bay Area? I mean, I would have to. I don't think I would stick around. You could get another job here? I could, but I know a lot more people in the Bay Area. Yeah. I love it.

I love it in Los Angeles, and I hope to stay and I want to stay for a really long time. But if I could easily go back to San Francisco and make decent money, compare to struggling L.A. If you have to know people in L.A. Which is crazy, you can't just like get a job, which sucks. I mean, my girlfriend, she was here for a year, and it was almost impossible to get a job get a job which sucks. I mean my my girlfriend she was here for a

year and it like it was almost impossible to get a job. Have you been here for a year already? Yeah, a year and well my my work anniversary was April 20. Okay. Wow. So that was a year and then I was I was here like a month before. I'm still glad you're here though. It changed my mind. I know it was crazy right? How it all came together. It was meant to be.

I know we've been here for 10 years. I know. I know, it was crazy, right? How it all came together. It was meant to be. I know, we've been here 10 years. We did a lot of grocery. I had to follow you here at Los Angeles. So hopefully we can stay here for a really long time and keep on doing it. I know, I have interesting meetings here, though. I was just thinking I had this meeting yesterday. I was like, you know, job meetings, whatever.

And I was in this really funny meeting yesterday, which was kind of like a serious business meeting. And within the first two minutes, like, because people know what I do, the conversation devolved into dick picks. This girl's dating online. And for the first 20 minutes of the meeting, we talked about like, why do guys send dick picks? She's like, I don't understand that either. I know it was hilarious. I'm like, only like, I mean, it's not even only in LA, but it was like

the funniest thing. And we definitely had a great meeting. But she's like, because it broke the ice, there's like dudes, the meeting going guys do that. They were like married. And like, yes, no woman sitting around going the ice, there's like dudes, the meaning going, guys, do that. They were like married and like, yes, no woman is sitting around going, God, I really like an unsolvable dick pic right now. This never worked in the history of times. I don't know, it's a number same. You send your dick to 100 women.

Maybe one's gonna get turned on. I heard no or the guy, he gets turned on by that. Like, oh, her, because that's the whole thing with fashers too. Like, they get off on the shock of Like a woman seeing seeing them naked and that gives them somehow gives them some sexual arousal Yeah, which I had no idea that No, it happens it's random. I think I've like it in terms. They delete them off on the Facebook page So we have I love our first of all if you don't yeah, if you're not liked, if you're not liked, our Facebook page is pretty awesome.

I have to say it's vibrant. We learn a lot and it's a Facebook.com slash section. Emily, but we do not accept your dick pics on it. Oh, dick pics. Okay, I've got some sex in the news. Menaceela, appreciate this because I think this is something we used to talk about, but it's confirmed. Okay.

It's like, colleges confirms IKEA is bad for your relationship. It is. It's the action. It's the worst. Okay. Now it's, IKEA is bad for your relationship. It is. It's the episode first. Okay. Now as psychologists say it. It's so true. So I go to the IKEA quite frequently with my girlfriend. And we cannot agree on shit.

Like a spoon or a glass. Like we cannot agree on our rug. We can't agree. Like it took us a year to even buy a table for our apartment because she wanted a round table, I wanted a square table. Oh my God, I'm telling you. And I finally got my square table.

Well good for you baby. So put my foot down. You should. But yeah, it is such a nightmare. I know because you like, first of all, even if you're alone, you can have panic attacks there and it is such a nightmare. I know. Because you like it first of all, even if you're alone, you can have panic attacks there and it's not so pleasant. I think I always think going and actually it's been on my list for like a year that I need to go. But it's overwhelming. But I don't want to be with anyone else. Yeah. There, but I

also alone, I'm scared. So when you're with someone and then you're fighting and I've never lived with anyone. So yeah. But here's a study. Everything comes bubbling to the surface when the key is involved. You work all the time you're never president's relationship the fact that you have it at six and three months why are we buying this bowl do we really need another bowl you remind me of my mother and so on all these issues come up so there's a psychologist and he explains that many couples who visit her clinic explain that their arguments began at a key the store literally becomes a map of relationship nightmares.

See, it's not that deep with my girlfriend and I. Like, we just don't agree on the rug. You know, there's no like underlying thing. I don't know, men. No, there isn't. I swear. Well, okay, they say. The only time I argue is IKEA and like,

her getting up on, like early on the weekends because I my sleep schedule I'm up early so I'm just like sitting around waiting for to wake up but I'm like bugging her at 8 a.m. He's like throwing shit at her like wake up let's go do stuff. I'm gonna do that. Yeah, but so they say that the relationship they're first prescribed couples a triple key to show how strong a relationship is and to test their communication skills so that it was actually like a study. She then tasks them with building an item from the store.

The couples report back on how the construction went. See, we don't fight about that because I'm the one that's building everything. I just hire someone. They like seeing, so the relationship's fall, they say they want to see the construction goes because you can see if the relationship's going to fall apart.

The therapist even describes one piece of furniture the liar, torp wall unit as a divorce maker. I guess it's like a really hard one to put together. At key point, take away from all this, is don't buy the lear torque. And though beautiful, Akeia is also the devil. And that sometimes it's worth spending the extra money to get the stuff without the expense of your relationship.

I know, well, two quick things. I, since my girlfriend's out of town in San Francisco, I was like, oh yeah, this is a perfect time. I'm gonna go buy two things so she doesn't give me crap about it. I went and bought a, this like really long vase, vase, whatever. What else? To put in my room to put change in,

because I used to have like this pillar type thing that I put a ton of money in before I moved and I just collect change for years and I opened it up before I moved. I had like $450. But now I don't want all these quarters and pennies laying around the apartment. So I bought this like this really long vase to put them in. But I knew that would have been like a thing of us. They got a long one. She was like, oh we want on. She's like, oh, we want to start one. Now, how long? Yeah, we want a different color one.

Or we don't need that or blah, blah. So I want to buy the base because it was bugging the hell. I mean, because we had change everywhere. And then the second thing is I want to buy the Apple TV again. Why again? I bought it initially when it first came out, but it wasn't really, there wasn't really too many options and it was a pain in the ass.

You could buy it. Akea? No, no. You wouldn't buy something. Yeah, I bought it somewhere else at the Apple store. And I want to buy it because HBO now is out. Right? So I was like, oh, perfect. It's going to have my HBO.

It's going to have this. It's going to have that. But we have smart TVs where all these apps are built in. But right now, there's like an exclusive thing with HBO and Apple where you can only get HPO now through an Apple device, right? I got, yeah. Yeah, so I'm like, oh shit, I want to buy the Apple TV so I can have my, I can have my HPO now on my television, but I knew she was going to say, well, just wait a couple months, it's going to be available on the TV, but I don't want to wait a couple months, so I waited until

she left town, but I got busted out because I do a morning show, and she listens to the podcast, and we're talking about it on the podcast. And you said, hey, I got it when she was in the salon. Yeah, and so she called me, she's like, why'd you get it when I told you not to buy it, but I was like, well, I wanna watch it on TV, I don't wanna wait a couple months, you know?

I know, it's the worst. If I'm sleeping with you, don't listen to the show. It's really, no, but I wanna hear more, but can we talk after about it? And sleeping with you, don't listen to the chat. It's really, no. But I want to hear more. Can we talk after about that? I'm going to you set up my cable and San Francisco. Yeah. I have a bad seat.

I want to get apples. We have to talk later because I got to go. I have to go to a movie premiere and screening. Okay, honey. But I did want to talk to you about one other thing. I'm not going to be here. I'm not going to be here. What?

About that deal. That was my next story. Okay. Let's talk about it. Okay. So remember, you're loved one by putting their ashes in a dildo. I saw this all over the internet the other day, where it's like it's a dildo and it has some glass on the end of it and you put ashes in there. And then you master, that sounds like so what if it breaks open in your vagina? I don't know, it sounds kind of demented. I know. When you- I should've used infection. Yeah, exactly. exactly. It's not like dust is flying everywhere. Dude, it could listen.

When you die, how do you want your wife or girlfriend to mourn your death quickly by moving on to some douchebag who offers features to ability and all the con-cundling is you deny it or do you want to agree for the rest of your life because even in death you're a selfish M. Yes. And you scream, yes, to the second option, then the 21 grams dildo urn combo is for you. First of all, dildo and urn should never be in the same sentence. 21 grams is a memory box that allows a window to go back

into the intimate memories of lost loved ones. The box includes not only a dead human filled dildo, but also the scent and the fragrant music of the deceased. That'll really turn you on. Because duh, I mean, how else would my wife pleasure self to my memory if Pearl Jam is in blasting in the background, and the room doesn't stink up, skin bracer, whatever that is, sent.

Dude, that is nasty. Okay, well, God forbid, one day you pass, how do you want us to celebrate your vagina? Or you don't want us to? I would like you to make them all of it. You should have, yeah. No, it's funny though, because that's one. Okay, well, let me just finish this.

So what do you say about this? It came together. I sometimes help an elderly lady with her groceries, and she and Ernst sat near the window with the remains of her husband. This is the inventor. She always speaks with so much love about him, but the jar didn't reflect that. In that same period,

he read an article about widows, taboos, and sex, and he thought, hmm, how can I combine it? I'll make a deal though, poor yashasin. Such a bad idea. Speaking of vagina and how I'm gonna map it, I'm actually gonna go to Austin a few weeks, fleshlight, you know, fleshlight, the male masturbation sleeve,

they're gonna be molding some porn stars of a gynas, and they'd like me to come witness it. Oh, I thought you're gonna say you're gonna Mold up a jyna I'm ready for my vagina to be out in the world. Just do like a couple test runs Really, but um, but I think that'll be really fun. Yeah in Austin. Yeah, you're gonna tape it Totally when it comes to you vaginas a porn source. I really want to go to Austin. I know if you were been huh No, I've been want to go to Austin. I know, have you ever been? Huh?

No, I've been wanting to go for years. I've actually... I've got all your music stuff. And so how have you not gone to Southwestern? There's something that, I don't know. There's something that happens during that time, so I can't go. I've canceled Southwest Southwest every year

for the past five years. Something comes up, but I have to do for work. Socks, I really want to go to Outs. Well come with me and look at the ginosses. Yeah, let's schedule it. Well, schedule it. I love you mean it. Alright, thank you for having me. Sorry, I have to go with the show though.

I'm going to be screening. Okay, I have a good movie screening. Stupid work. Okay, okay, so how do you sex to fight stress? What's better than a killer massage? A great full brew or an hour of video games? When you're stressed out sometimes what you need the most is an orgasm. But not all sex is created equal or will give you the release that

you're looking for both physically and emotionally. Different positions intensified levels and moves can actually alleviate the tension and help you relax. Regardless of whether you're sweating over money and career, body, image, or friendship issues. So here's what's doing in the bedroom based on what's keeping you up at night. So this is based on the stress that you're having and the different positions that are recommended for that. So you're stressed about your job.

If you're office, kicking your ass, you're working long hours, you're dealing with difficult co-workers, clients, you might feel like your energy is drained and you might not want to have sex. More so, your spirit likely feels a little smaller or defeated. You want to know the solution? Exerting your power under the sheets. Sex therapist Vanessa Marin says, this is a night for some rough and tense doggy style.

Of course, make sure your girl's comfortable. And if she is, go hard and get it all out. It'll help you feel dominant and powerful. And it'll give you the in-charge feeling you're missing at work. I don't know you can match sex positions to your stress levels, but... I can see the whole idea of like, he's feeling amassulated. Maybe work's not going great and he's stressed out about that. So he wants to feel like a man in the bedroom,

but I don't know that pummeling your girlfriend with your penis is really gonna help things. What if she the bad day would work? Yeah, if anything, you're just gonna beat her down and then she's gonna be like, oh, I don't really wanna do anything. And when you suck, I'm not gonna help you relieve stress. I'd say a little bit more intimacy would help build.

Absolutely. Help build up your endorphins and everything and make that better. Totally, I agree. Okay, so the other one here is your trust about your body. You know, self-esteem, huge killer of people's sex drive, they don't feel great about their body. And I think a lot of women I was joking with

the friends today, I'm like, if I think I was talking a reporter and I was like a lot of us think that, you know, if I could just lose these five pounds, I'd want them, you know, that I'd want them sex, right? You know, and it's like, it's not about that. You have to like learn to love and accept your body and all that, but let's say you are stressed. You're probably, you are harder on your physique

than anyone else, most women prefer a little more to love as opposed to a rock heart six packs. So this is guys who aren't feeling about the body there. I can practically guarantee that your partner is not worrying about the size of your belly. So if someone's in bed with you It's because they're turned on and they want to sex do they're not going. Oh, did she gain weight? They're not at all if they are than their douchebags because this person should love you for who you are

So if you are feeling bad about it doggy style is a nice option. What else is uh? Go have her on top so she can be in control and like your face. It doesn't have to look at your belly Yeah, and if you're a woman then maybe you want to be on the bottom I feel like women don't really mind a little bit of like a belly like if they're like Bigger you might have a question, but women like something to like squeeze. I know well, it's so unfair because a lot of guys don't Yeah, I feel that way as much about women, but I want to be the guy who does feel that way I mean it really just I just think if you're with someone and you love them, like go crazy.

I'm just skipping the whole thing because I don't know that I agree with this about sex visions. But if you want to know sex visions, I have a book called Hot Sex over 200 Things You Can Tart And I, and I came out a few years ago and I haven't forget to talk about it, but it's my book, but it's a pretty cool,

but I mean, we took pictures of people having sex, and we animate with this amazing animator, and it's pretty cool, because it has 200 things, and you can just flip it over to a new page and be like, let's try this tonight, spice it up. That looks great. I, everyone who comes over pulls it off my shelf, because it like really stands out against all the other books, so they like pull it off and like look through it, and I'll come home from work, or whatever, and like friends will be be over and they'll be just drinking a beer,

looking through my sex book and I'm like, yeah, have fun with that. Yeah, exactly. It's a fun conversation starter. So check that out if you wanna learn new positions that work. For you can get an Amazon, all that stuff. Okay, so let's get into some emails.

Yeah, absolutely. Three-way condom etiquette. Dear Emily, my wife and I are gonna have a three-way after 12 years of marriage. Male, female, male. Interesting. Yeah, our question is, her tubes are tied and we don't use condoms when it's just us. Should I wear condoms during our three-way for etiquette reasons?

P.S., the three-way is not to fix our marriage but something we both want to try. Thank you, Kinky Couple. Okay, first of all, I love this couple because a lot of people think, oh, I'm going to open up our relationship because it's going to, I'm going to open up our relationship because it's going to, I'm going to open up, we're going to have a threesome because it'll help fix our sex life. It's like the same thing as having a baby to fix your sex life. It's a terrible idea, but they are confident having great sex and they probably have to discuss the boundaries, taking it to a next level.

So Kudos to you, you're expanding your horizons, getting kinky, I love it. You and the other guy should absolutely work on them during this experience. You have to. I don't know his backstory, you've got to be safe all around. So I'm not sure who's pleasuring who, who how it's all gonna go down, but make sure that you're using condoms

for every new sex act that you're doing, that he's changing it if he goes in or behind or a front, you've got gotta keep changing the condoms. So yes, buy some condoms, buy some skin condoms. They're my new favorite, Paliya Supreme. If you have any, if you have it, more condoms in a while, you might be like, these truly are like you're wearing nothing.

Like you really don't feel the condom, but they're strong and durable, and they're not latex, and they're awesome. Yeah. Okay, embarrassing gag reflex situation. Dear Emily, your show's been an incredible lifesaver for me. I had my most embarrassing moment of my life recently and now I don't know how to recover. I'm normally a very sexual person but I took a break from dating about a year ago.

I also live in a small town where it's hard to meet guys. When I'm recently met a guy, I only hung out with a few times. We were hooking up and his penis hit the back of my throat. And before I knew it, my entire dinner came up all over him. I've never had this problem before and given successful blow jobs to best boyfriend, so I'm not sure if I was out of practice or I should just stay away from blow jobs. At one point in life, I really didn't enjoy giving up, but now after this experience, I'm quite terrified I might give another guy an unexpected Roman shower.

Is there anything I can practice to help us not happen again? Or my hopeless, since my gag reflex seems to give out of me, thanks for your podcast. You give me so much confidence and different POVs that help me have been more confident to get out there and be single at 26. Dear sign, Mrs. Roman shower. Oh, poor girl. Yeah, that's really humiliating. That is humiliating. Roman Shower. Oh, for girl.

Yeah, that's really humiliating. That is humiliating, but that happens to the best of us. I've had an experience like that before granted, I was really drunk and so I was just getting sloppy. But you know, that happens. And so, you know, even the most experienced BJ giver, so listen, Ms. Roman, Shower, Ms. RS, do not let this be a confidence deal breaker for you.

It happened one time, you have a great history of blow dubs. Don't worry about this could have been like the way it hit you. And I know guys and I was like thrusting because they want this to be important. They want the deep throat thing. And you need to be like, you know, if it's too much, like you got to learn to like backtell them to back off. But also you can like treat, you got to like relaxtowem to back off. But also, you can, you gotta relax your throat

because a lot of times we tense up. So if you breathe and you make sure that your whole throat is relaxed, that can really help you with it. But also, it could be the position you were performing in. And the fact that it's a new penis, you didn't know how recti was gonna get and you didn't know what was gonna happen.

So you can also, here's the thing, I know guys are so into deep throat, but you can also use your hand because what guys really want is pressure around their hand, around their shaft. That's what feels really good. And you want like an even pressure. So relax your mind, relax your throat,

and you can hold this penis. There's really pleasurable nerves located on the head, though, and the front and theum, which is that patch underneath the tip. So try focusing on sucking at the head and use your hand to stimulate it. And you can go further down, but as long as you're still using your hand,

you can kind of like, you don't have to like keep it there. So relax, make sure you're relaxed, go down. You know, so you have the feeling back and then go back up with your hand. And then you're still feeling the same thing. But again, I went and rushed into it. You're going to have some post traumatic gag reflex disorder here. I get it.

But it's not going to happen all the time. You'll be prepared for it. And again, you can like practice on relaxing. And so people just don't have a good gag reflex. Yeah, I know some girls who really like my friend has an uncomfortably small mouth. And she can't really give head because her mouth is too small and it's like too shallow And so she gags really easily and then her mouth is so small. There's nowhere else for stuff to go You know what? Yeah hands. I know that's a bummer. Get better. Yeah, just double team it with your hands

Yeah, and you've got two hands plenty of spit and then your mouth is working the head and you're good to go He's not gonna complain. He's not complaining at all. He loves you. Okay, so yeah, when we come back, we got some more stuff about having sex with friends, but first I needed to tell you about massage candles. I've been talking about Emily and Tony, my brand, I made these massage candles, and they're really, really beautiful candles, but they also will totally spice up your relationship

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Hey Emily, I'm a guy that has a lot of women as friends and I've known them for while I'm not looking for a relationship right now and I know a few of them know I like them and they are single I was wondering if I should just quit being shy about it and go for it going for a strong kiss and sex I know her like random spontaneous sex if we like go out to eat or bar and that something in the nature or Is this a bad idea? Thanks, Devon. Okay, Devon, Devon, here's a deal. I don't think it's great to be like a spontaneous attack your friend, but I do think that if your friends

was a girl, a woman of that, you know, typically there is a, guys aren't, a lot of guys are friends with women because we all know you want to see best. It's not like you're like, I really need new girlfriends. And so usually there's sexual tension there and she might not be wanting to return it. But I don't think there's any harm in you like trying to kiss or one night when you're out, not trying to bang or not being aggressive, but to see what happens.

Because I think a lot of people think like, oh, it's going to ruin our friendship. I was talking to friend about this the other day and he was like, I want to kiss this girl, but will it ruin our friendship? If you guys are friends, it's not gonna ruin our friendship. You have nothing to lose here because it sounds like you actually like these girls. So you have nothing to lose, but remember, if she's not into it,

you have to be mindful of that as well. But like, I've never been pissed off at my guy friends for trying a view. Maybe you have. Yeah, honestly, I'm from the other angle. That's why I'm saying, you need to read the signs. You need to make sure that you are paying attention to how she's reacting to you.

Because I have had extremely platonic friends who have tried to make a move on me. And it has been, of course, we were friends after because I feel like girls can move past that a little bit easier. It's not going to be a friendship ender. But it's always going gonna be really awkward. I had a guy friend who invited me to a party

and he was really drunk and he just had a friend of kids as the worst. Yeah, I was trying to smoke a bowl with him and he just like, kept like insisting that I be on his lap and I was like, no thanks, I'm good. And then he launched it me. And so when I see you say things like a spontaneous,

I'm like, if you're gonna have that, or like, like that's gonna, you need to make sure that she's on the same page as you before you go ahead. Ask her if, ask her if like me, or not, you don't like when guys ask if they can kiss you. No, I don't. I really don't, but you know, I think that you can kinda tell

if someone's into you, I just think you can and, but maybe if it's your friend, you could be like, you know, hey, you know, I've just been thinking about you and I know you and friends, so I really wanna kiss you right now. I think you could do that and let her know, and if she's like friend, you could be like, you know, hey, I've just been thinking about you, and I know in friends, so I really want to kiss you right now. I think you could do that and let her know. And she's like, no, not into it. But don't jump her, don't be spontaneous. That you're right, that is assault.

Yeah, you can go out and nature and try to have sex so there isn't going to come off a little assaulty. But it's so funny, because I was actually talking to a woman friend the other day, same thing. She's really into this guy. She's like, Emily, it's like we're dating. We do everything together, but we've never huffed up. And I was like, well, why? And she's like, I don't know. I mean, he's never made the move. And I've never made the move. But I can, like, he wants

to hang out every day. She's like, should I make the move? Like, well, it sounds to me, like, you guys are both really into each other because he's spending all this time with you. And he's not seeing anyone else. So yeah, maybe you could make the move. And you could see how it goes. But she's like, well, I ruin the friendship. And I just think you're never gonna, if you guys are them move and you could see how it goes But she's like, well, everyone in the friendship And I just think you're never gonna if you guys are truly friends. You're not gonna ruin it We all know that it's in the air, but it's doing it in a classy way Okay, yeah, okay So I would also like to talk about in fidelity with a partner's friend Emily I have a situation that I need your help with I have a boyfriend who I really care about we've been together five years now

But we do fight a lot. Anyways, I've always been close to his friend, who is a guy, because he just always seems to understand the way I feel. I felt more than my own boyfriend did recently. Recently, his friend and I started having sex. We both agreed to keep between us. He really wants to have sex again,

but I don't know if I should, or if I just put an end to our flirting. Help, Millie. She's been getting it five years, but she cheated on him with his friend. Yes. Okay. First of all, get out of this relationship. Don't tell him. He might find out. You gotta break up with your boyfriend, and you can't see but this friend anymore. I mean, isn't that my dad just read that right? That's just five years ago.

Yeah, absolutely. Okay, so you're going to end their friendship. I just think that you got to get out of this relationship and I think you've got to not see the friend anymore. You got some larger fist of fry. I think by telling him that will become that will become the issue. Now, there is a chance you could find out if the friend tells him, I don't know if it's his best friend, but honestly, you got to this in, where you don't wanna be with this guy,

like put him out of his misery, he will thank you and end the relationship and end it with a friend. It's just not fair, it's hurtful to everybody. And you guys, you know, you've been in a relationship for five years, it's not fair to anybody. So, you know, I would start ending the relationship with both of them. Yeah, your plan with fire,

that is just not gonna end well for anyone. No, no, it's not. And here's the thing. I hate to say like, I'm not like keep secrets from people, but there's certain things that people just can't get over. And I think things like this, especially if you're on a, it's just going to kill them. It's going to hurt them.

And he doesn't need to know. Yeah, or worse, after five years, if you guys have been together, he might be like, all right, well, maybe I can forgive you and try to move forward with it. And then your second relationship, you don't want with a guy who doesn't trust you. Right. And that's even worse. Right.

You don't even want exactly. And you'll never get back over the trust. The trust things will be there forever. I mean, his issues don't do it. Okay. Woman on top sex position. Hi, Emily. My name is Bella.

And I listen from Austin, Texas. I absolutely love your show. Sex with my boyfriend has always been amazing, but listening to your show is made it even more amazing. Mind blowingly amazing. Anyway, I love this because this is why I live in, this is my purpose on the planet, so thank you for telling me this, I love it.

Anyway, my question for you is this, could you please give me some tips for me being on top? We have so many positions that we do but with most he's doing the work. I want to be able to rock his world, we get laid back and live it up. Thanks for what you do, you're goddess. Love and light, Bella. Oh, Bella, thank you very much. Okay, so if you've been avoiding woman on top, you might be missing out on something that you actually really like. I'm not sure if you haven't really done it before, but first of all, guys love it because they get

to see you, your body, your breasts juggling around, you can play with them. It's like a really hot position for guys and sometimes they kind of want a little break and it feels really good. It's also a very highly orgasmic position for women because you're in full control of the rhythm and the motion and you know how to hit the spots. So you can like rub your clitoris, you know, go back and forth, go up and down, see what feels good for you. So the best thing is assume the position, straddle your partner with your knees on either side of his hips, and then slowly, slow as always good, especially when you're just starting that penetration, like you're starting the old in and out. especially when you're just starting that penetration, like you're starting the old in and out,

slowly lower yourself and ease them into you. If he's lying down, you can either lean over him with your breasts pressed against his chest, because there's different positions, you can actually go back and forth that feel good for women, so it might feel good for both of you when you're lying on top of him,

and you start going back and forth, if you're lying on top of him, like moving that back and forth motion, or you can sit up and place your hands on his chest for balance. And if you're both sitting up, what you can do, you can press your chest to chest, wrap your arms around your partner's body, or place them on the back of a chair, couch, you can come sit on a little leverage.

Yeah, absolutely. And if you want to give Michelle lean away from him and arch your back to give him a good look. Guys love that. They are so miserable. You lean back with the boobs. You're like, whoa, that's hot.

And so, and here's how you move in it. You've got a lot of options here. And it also depends on what feels good to you. So you can lightly bounce up and down. But I always say you should go back and forth because that's really going to hit your clitoris. I think that up and down thing is what people see important. It's all porn and it's exhausting and it doesn't feel good I have actually had my boyfriend pop out during when I was bouncing up and down and then I came down on him in a weird position and it hurt him a lot and it's just because it's not it's not conducive

Not that's it. Now what you guys want to do. It's so true, but I think in porn I think I try used to do the up and down like this doesn't feel good. This is weird. So typically you grind back and forth. And that is the perfect amount of pressure on your clitoris. And can have a really powerful orgasm. You can also do the swivel and screw maneuver

by moving your hips in a circular motion. Well, he tilts his hips up slightly. And so that would just give you a different, you'll get to feel him a little differently and hit your pelvic, but well he's up, he'll be hitting you in a different position. So no matter what you're doing on your top, I'm sure he's loving it.

And don't try to ride him like a porn star. You should really be present in the moment and think like what feels good. So experiment with it. If you haven't done it before, figure out what feels good and just have a good time with it. But I love that you want to try something new. I think that's awesome.

Yeah, I like that she's like, I want to treat him to something for once. Because a lot of girls, I used to lay there and let my boyfriends do all the work guys that I would have sex with. And it was just kind of like so boring. I didn't know that girls could be bad and bad. And then it's so funny. It's like, we had that sex and the new thing

that we were going gonna talk about where Like things that you learn out of your 20s And I thought that girls like as long as you just laid there you were fine Right, I didn't learn until later that like girls can be bad at bat and bad and bad like guys are like she was just like a dead That's it. That's what they say exactly and like I get it now like it's I enjoy it more when I'm more Participating in it and giving like giving as much as I'm getting I think it's because like a lot of women are. Absolutely. Giving as much as I'm getting. I think it's because a lot of women are socialized that it's about his pleasure and his

penis going inside me and I have to sit here and look pretty. But again, it was that we'll get into that. We know time about sex in your 20s and what you learn. And I just don't think we know in our 20s unless you listen to sex then we. Yeah. Didn't we meet someone who's like, all through high school, they listen to it? Yeah, it was one of our interns. In terms of Britney.

Yeah. She listened to it all through high school and she listen to it. Yeah, it was one of our interns. And Brittany, yeah. She listened to it all through high school. And she said a lot of the things that she knows about sex, actually, and she listens with her boyfriend, who is my boyfriend's best friend. And so they know lots of weird stuff about her sex life. Hey, Brittany, hey. About your sex life? Yeah, they'll be like, so,

they'll like, they come to know about something I'd said about West, they like called him out at dinner the other night. We're all drinking and West just looked at me and I was like, I'm sorry. Welcome to my world, right? I'm just talking about this. Like, if you date me, I'm going to talk about you. Again, I'll bet. It was the pink teen-soccy thing. What? The pink member that I could like turn to you. Oh my god, what was that again? It was that he had a search history. It was like the dangers of not clearing your browser

history. And I had been looking at pirate bay, which is a torrenting side on his laptop when he was at class. And I typed in PI and the first thing that popped up and the feed was pink teen pussy and I was like, oh my god! And I like sent him a picture of it. It was like this is the funniest thing I've ever seen and he was so embarrassed. At least you're a cool girl, Fennel, that wasn't free time. I know, I thought it was really funny. Like it was just, it was so funny.

It's just so funny, right? It was so funny. I love his attention to detail. I know, it's like that's so specific. He could have just said teen pussy. Yeah, but he wanted it pink. Yeah, he's color preference. It's like that's so specific. He could have just said teen pussy. Yeah, but he wanted it pink. Yeah, he's color preference. It's like buying couch.

Exactly. It was like on Amazon, like how you search for something. Like I want the small post-its that are colored. Right. Oh my God, that's hilarious. Yeah, but he knows it's free range of work at Sex Family. Things come out that you might know on. OK, I think that's what we got time for.

Yeah, we're good. Thank you Madison. You're awesome. Thank you, Madison. Menace who left? And also also we're always looking for interns, social media, marketing, production, internship, video editing, audio and it's a good friggin' time. So email me, feedback at sexwithm.ai.com. Also, we send out killer newsletters once a week and they're great. I will never sell your email address but I do people really

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