Sex With Emily - Bondage, "Bang Checks," and Shaggin' Wagons

Episode Date: October 15, 2016

Dating and communicating can be tricky to master. Should you divulge your sexual history? How do you tell someone you’re non-monogamous? What’s the best way to get over your partner’s specific porn preferences? In this show, Emily and Anderson have the advice you need for these and many more of your love and sex quandaries. The two also take a stroll down memory lane, get real about the best and worst parts of car sex and hear from a listener who shares the story of his “bang check” success. So whether you need a little porn pep talk or some nifty tricks for tying your lover up in bed, this show has your answers! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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But you know, Avaline's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemlee.com. We can find out all the information about the show, how to find us on social media and all that stuff. I just want to thank everybody for subscribing to the show. It really helps us out.

You can subscribe at iTunes and all the other places where podcasts are not sold. It just helps us and helps us do a lot of great shows. So we appreciate it. And also you can find me on social. It's at Sex with Emily across the board. Another thing I got to tell you about is it's October, okay? So we all know this month is about some freaky stuff, right? Halloween, all that.

But the sex with Emily team has decided to go in the other direction because we're taking the freak out of freaky sex. Why? Because so many people still feel shame, confusion, embarrassment about what they're into behind closed doors. And I don't want you guys to feel bad about what, embarrassment about what they're into behind closed doors. And I don't want you guys to feel bad about what turns you on. You're always emailing me. It's just normal.

It's okay. It's all fine. And I want you to fully embrace it, especially this month. I mean, always, but we're gonna start this month. So we're looking at ways that you can explore your sexuality, your fetishes, your fantasies. I mean, whatever turns you on, it's all good.

So check out the site for blogs and social media all this month about all things kinky. And we want to hear from you about your stories. And if we do hear from you, you might just win a sexy prize because we're doing a month on giveaway. This is what you got to do. Just this. What's your hottest fantasy? You know the one that always gets turned on like that fantasy that go to. And if you email it to

me at feedback at sexwithelm.com, you can one of the three sexy prizes. And one, of course, is a magic wand, original, because I know you want one. And you can change your name. It's cool. We won't like exploit it and send it to your mom and stuff. We're fine with that because we know she might sell us some shame around that on embarrassment. But we want you to feel good about it. So again, learn more about it at sexwithamlee.com. And I've got one more thing to say. Before I get into Anderson, you're sitting here, I'm very excited to see him.

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It's not just a loop, they said to you just like, they have like lotions and potions and it all smells really good and it's fun and slippery and nice. So go to sexathelmy.com slash dreamlube or click on the dreamlube banner. And also we've already been getting so many overwhelmingly amazing responses.

I read them all, believe it or not. I did read, I was on an airplane and I read it all. And it was just great to hear your feedback about the show because we have a few questions in there about that. But it's really quick and thank you everybody. I live here and from you. Woo, Anderson, what up? That was a mouthful.

Dude, I know, I tried to make it quick, because people are like, I like the, taking the freak out of things though. Right? I was afraid you're gonna say like only missionary from now on, but no, what you're talking about is you're gonna make people feel like, I'm not freaky.

Yes. You're fine. You're fine. You're fine. Xsucking on toes might be a thing. I'm cool with that. You're cool with that. Yeah. Like singing the national anthem might be like the only way a person can climax and you're okay with that. Dude, it's all fine. You will deshame them. Exactly. I love it. I love it too because everyone was like,

am I normal? Is this fine? It's all fine. This month I want you to all just be fine with you are up. I'm have you a have you had any relationships and broken up? Have you had any children? Have you? How many birthdays have you had? It's been a long time since I've seen you. Oh my God, it feels like it's been forever. No break-ups. You look younger. I do?

You look younger. Yeah. I feel younger. Thank you. That's so weird because of jet lag right now. You think it's because you're sucking on the wet head stuff all the time? Got vitamins in it?

I love my wet head. This is my, okay, everyone asks you what this is. It makes you a little uncomfortable. If you're sitting across from Emily and she's constantly squirting this stuff onto her. It would only be weird to forget my knees and it was about to give you blood, John. That's what it's for, though.

It's for blowing people and she's constantly like prepping. It's, okay, so it's by Doc John. I'm both asking for another plug here. I'm just sitting. No, because you've always wanted to know what I'm springing in my mouth. The point is.

So that is the question on the streets. I hear people talking. I was waiting for the red light turn. I don't feel weird about it. I feel fine about it. What is it that Emily's always squirting her mouth? Like I said, dude, I wish it was more interesting. But no, this is, okay, so a lot of people,

when they're, you know, one of the number one tips, people great, but. The stoneers, yeah. Stoneers are any fun. Stoneers get bad head, yeah. Cotton mouth. Okay, right. Yeah, thanks. Thanks get bad head. Yeah. Cottonmouth. Okay, right.

Yeah, thanks for answering the question with the question with the question that I didn't answer. So, the problem. You think it's developed for stoners though? Because they love to get high and sit around and bang. It's really hard to sometimes produce enough saliva to make a blow job wet enough. It just is. You're just, you can't keep,

like there's certain things you can do. I want to know. So this, good. I mean, not good. If you're into giving blowjob, I'm told it's not freaky, and I'm totally fine with that. Right.

So the thing is it makes your mouth that's dry when you're on the radio, or when you're on podcasts or talking, you can do that like, and that would be annoying. And so now. I just had a flashback, the terrible flashback. Oh, no, what? All right, I don't want to get into the details. But I remember I was with a couple girls. I was like

dating two girls at once for a minute. And it was pretty sweet. It was back in the 90s when I was like, a totally different person. And yeah, and there's these two girls that were kind of like they were together. And then I was kind of like their third wheel for a minute for probably about two three weeks It was a lot of fun, but I would be able to get together like as they were like a couple Okay, and then I was like their toy for a minute and it was fun But I remember I I shut the room down and I turned every both of them off when they had like

Introduce a toy and they were showing like how they blow the toy and we we weren't even having sex when I, and then I gave it a whirl, I put it in my mouth and they were both like, I didn't need to see. I put this sex toy, dildo thing in my mouth. Like I was like, showing what I, how I would. They're like, we never need to see that again. Yeah, we don't need to see that, and they're sending it like, just shut everything down. It was terrible.

I forgot about that. Let's be honest, I don't think it's hot if you're sucking on it. But there are a lot of ladies out there that like gay porn. Totally, but, right, absolutely, I absolutely I mean but not not this group of lesbians not me yeah these two did not like it it right I think I think actually they ended up hooking up later that night without me.

Oh dude that was that the blowjob buzzkill it was kind of the it killed it yeah the fallet kill so if you find yourself in the position guys don't do what I did don't stick in your mind this unless you're into that kind of thing and it's totally fine see we're all about acceptance this month. Defreak. So there's a few things. Yeah, I haven't seen you in like a month. I know we've so much to catch up on.

And we've got a really action-packed show today. A lot. But I wanted to give a shout out and tell you what happens. So you know I went to She in New York. I love you. We're here. Yeah, thank you. The Sexual Health Expo.

And which was amazing. I've talked about it already, but it was, I've never in my life met as many listeners in two days, 11 years of the show. I probably a couple hundred people came. And it was amazing. And they wanted to know where you were and all this stuff. But. Oh, they wanted to know where I was.

Yeah, I was in LA. I know, you've got to come with me. Be your busy making movies, making babies. It's okay. But you know who, so there's a lot of listeners there. Like thank you. And for me, we're in LA, I'm in the car. Like I don't meet listeners that often.

And do you know who came? Is do you remember the email from John? He was the gentleman who lost his wife? Yes, and I was researching porn at that moment. Yes. And you were distracted, but then you helped him, and then we apologized and thanked him. Yes, and I was researching porn at that moment. Yeah And you were distracted, but then you helped him and then we apologize and thank him. He's such a sweet guy. Oh, he did and he was so lovely And he just said not like at the show. He went to the I don't know what happened after he left But when he was there, he showed up at the show. Yes, not everything

He arrived and he arrived and he was so sweet and so thankful. And I was just my heart. Like I had tears in my eyes. And I was just so grateful. So he's doing good. He's dating somebody now. Yeah, he said our advice was really helpful. If he he lost his wife.

Right. And he was kind of feeling like pressure and dedating we gave him advice. Just to kind of like take it easy and take care of yourself and build a group of community. Most memorable email for me. I remember that one very, very well.

And the subsequent emails that came out. So John, thank you. And thank you to all the listeners for coming, because it was for arriving. For what? For what? Well, we had a climax fast out there. To you.

That was fun. Emily's 500? Yeah. Yeah. I didn't tell you about that. OK, if you tell me about everything. Yeah, let me do a couple quick plugs here. Yeah, yeah. And then we can move on with the program.

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I'm so proud of you, Anderson. And we also have a perk that involves UM and your team. I know. It's exciting. It's called Brunch with Emily. And it's on there, you can see it. It's a little pricey, but there's a very few of them. And it's going to be a very memorable fun day if you choose this perk. It's 500 bucks, you can see it. It's a little pricey, but there's a very few of them, and it's gonna be a very memorable fun day if you choose this perk.

It's 500 bucks and brunch with Emily, and her team, I will be there, and we're gonna drink Mimosas, and we're gonna be- We're gonna have a little gift packets helping everyone, and- Yeah, you're gonna bring sex toys and stuff to give away, and- If you're into that sort of thing.

It's gonna be like a chic little Hollywood restaurant out here. Yeah, it's gonna be a really, really fun little like mid afternoon, mid morning party. Right, right? We're gonna party and I can answer your sex questions and we're just gonna hang out. We are a good time. It's gonna be a great time.

And support Anderson because I just gotta say that I'm not, we, a lot of those like Anderson or loser conversations, not only did they happen in the morning, but sometimes they happened in the parking lot at Love Line before Yeah before the show I get down on myself I really do and I've directed short 10 shorts now I'm ready to make a feature and this one is going to make some noise so be a part of it I'm not having you in all the short films you've done of one awards and yeah

They've been all over the world. I'm the filmmaker and a good friend and I wish I wish I was in a right in a novel I could just do it on my own and I won't have to bother anybody, but making a movie takes a takes a small village. So please. And support a bar package because we want to have brunch with you. I hope you're so much fun. And you'll walk with a bunch of toys and sex toys in a morning that you will never forget answer sex. Your question probably a bit of a buzz and Emily's really, really fun to hang out with as his team so right aren't I fun Drunk your except for what I talked during my well we're not gonna be at a comedy show so you won't be able to heck That was fun. Okay, so thank you for that. Thanks. I'm bad at plugging

That was really succinct. It's weird plug in my own stuff I know it's weird, but it's so important to me really is and also This is the last time you're going to see me before I'm a dad My wife's due date is yesterday. I can't even believe it And her two days yesterday and I'm sitting like have a baby in her arms next time I know I think Stanley my dog was a really good practice But everything's about to change everything's about to change. He's still gonna get love. I am I'm really excited for you It's a big time. So um, wow, yeah, dad hood

We're gonna support your ass, but I'm so glad that she she kept the baby in her belly so that I could be here because it's been Nice. It was like touch and go if you were gonna be here, and I tell her I appreciate that too Okay, although she wants to get that I've had her clenching I've had her I've been doing she hasn't know why but I've been having her Duke Kiggle exercises just to keep the baby in so I could do the show today I that's you know what that was the That's really sweet. I appreciate it. Oh, Anderson. Kegel camp. Big day, Kegel camp. Oh yeah, do your Kegels.

Okay, wow. You got a sex, sex in the news for them? I do. Yeah. Thanks for asking. Okay. Getting busy in cars is still a beloved American pastime. Lest you think it went out in the 70s because it did, actually it did go on the 70s. It did, it did go back. It did, it did go back.

Exactly, no. The decline in the 70s, because of rising gas prices, the shrinking size of cars, the closing of the driving theaters. Sex and a Ugo is no fun. I've had sex and basically a Ugo. I'll get to that in a minute. And increase in anti-parking, not every Ugo,

but a geoprism. And increase in anti-parking regulations and advancing urban sprawl, that stuff people like you know F this sex in the cars well now there's new research because people are you know really researching important things right now in the world and they found out that 61% of hair loss and boners 58% of women report engaging in some kind of sexual behavior went into vehicle so I found the most common time participants had sex in their cars was during their junior and senior years of high school. More than half reported parking out in the country to get down and dirty in the backseat of a standard car and not necessarily a pickup truck or an SUV.

Assassin's, see this part hasn't changed the 70s probably or the 80s or the 90s. Sessions were brief less than 15 minutes, but 6% said that it went for more than an hour. And here's the part that's like, duh. More men than women, 86% versus 40% reported having an orgasm. Wait, 86% of dudes? Yeah, 40% did not. Sounds like regular, of course.

But the truth is, when you're in the car, it's always like, there's things going up inside you and it's like, it's never- Well, that's stressful. No, but it's like things always like, there's things going up inside you and it's like, it's never an adjustable. No, but it's like things you don't want. Speaking of things inside you and cars, I saw a video once of a woman being in her stick shift. Yeah, it was interesting.

It was actually shifting it and stuff. Yeah. I don't know how she reached the clutch though. That was probably tough for her. But she was actually a con on top. She was like, it's down there, down there, so I was working the clutch. The car was in a motion, but she was riding that stick shift

and I had never seen anything like it. It's good. That's a great visual. That's a great visual. Thanks for sharing. Yeah, like Google had stuff right now. People would not do it after the show. Also, we wrote a blog about this to make it more

a gasmic for both parties. It's called Backseat Windows Up Your Guide to Seriously Hot Car Sex. And people really love this blog, because I'm thinking, like, don't you already know how to car set? But no, we love it. It's really love this blog. Cause I'm thinking like, don't you already know how to car sex? But no, we love it. It's a really fun one. And people.

Tens of windows are kind of a must. I got to the windows. Yeah. So here's though, I started doing a, I started doing a little pre-sync through my memory of my car sex. Do you ever get caught?

I did. Yeah, so do I. So you did. I think most people get caught if you, if you do it enough in the car, you'll get caught. Well, I just got it. Well, the weird thing is the one time I got caught was randomly after high school. I went, I had a boyfriend visiting.

I was in living in San Francisco and my boyfriend was from San Francisco. I think he came home and visited my family over Thanksgiving. And I must have been like 25. What was I like, 25? I graduated. But you got that whole feeling like you're in high school again. I was like, come to my high school. school again. Was it come to my high school? So I was like, come to my high school.

And we went to the parking lot and then we like, buy the bleachers and we started like, fooling around a car. And probably felt like a high school senior, right? Yes, but the cops came up and I got busted when I was like 25 or something. How they approached, did they pulled him away first? No, they weren't mean about it,

but they're like, hello, what's going on down there? My cops are great, because they pulled her away first. They pulled her out of the car, and they made sure that she was consenting. That was sweet. That was the first thing they did, which I appreciated. It was nice. They threw you both in jail. No, they just told us to leave.

Same. That happened to me. But then I realized, I started doing all this, you know, through my memory bank, that when I moved to San Francisco after college, I drew about a geoprism. Do you know what geoprism is? They're small, right? Really small. And they're not great cars.

No. Sorry to any listeners, you haven't even anything to do anymore. I'm sure yours is fine. The reason why I got a geoprism is because I... Cool name. No, no, it's because I had a bike, okay, where I grew up.

Yes. I don't know, it's like regrow. You grew up in Michigan. You're 16. Yeah. I grew up in LA. You, where I grew up. I don't know, it's like regrow up. You grew up in Michigan. Like you're 16. Yeah. You have to have a car. Like grow up in LA, you have to have a car. Right, the same with LA.

There's no buses, there's nothing you can't get. There's buses. So I worked all through high school and I could pay for half my parents with the other half. That's because of Michigan. You have to get an American car. People hate you if you don't. I don't know what to do when Michigan or it was at the time.

But I wanted a foreign car. The point is, it was a Honda and it was like a GM or something like that. I don't remember now. So the point is, a hybrid car. A hybrid car. A hybrid car. And my friend, when I moved,

so I had that car for seven years. Like I moved out to California, it was red. It was not a Q car. You could look it up. But the point is, I had sex in that car. I went out to Boston one summer and I camp and I just, I went to a summer camp

and I had sex in the lot. And I never got caught. It was a very little tiny thing. All very American thing. So did you ever get shamed for driving this non-American car on the road by your... No, no, it was half American. And once I'm gonna do that, Sanford just go, no one cares,

but Michigan, you really like people grow stuff at you. Do they really? Yeah, I mean, because it's like, you know, motor city. Right, not anymore. Not anymore. But then at the time, I don't know, still, no. It's coming back. My mom, still her client, like she still has American car,

so I was like a Lincoln, like you have to like, like a nice one, but still, you gotta like, do it. So yeah, and then I was at Burning Man and I had seen my boyfriend's car, which was not an SUV and had a lot of sex in the car, so that's my story. But the other story I want to tell you. Burning man.

I'm sorry. You got balls. You do have balls for going to that thing. I did, I went like 10 years ago before it was like a thing, and now there's like cell phones there. I'm sorry. You got balls. You have balls for going to that thing. I did. I went like 10 years ago before it was like a thing and now there's like cell phones there. I'm like, it's dead. But, so here's a funny thing.

So I was in Germany. Yes. I was at Arrow fame, which is the largest sex. It's called Arrow fame. Arrow fame? Yeah. Like an arrow that flies to Arrow. Arrow.

Arrow. Okay. Arrow fame. All right. Doesn't matter. But it's a, you know how it's go to these sex industry conferences in America, the States. ERO. ERO. Okay. FAME. ERO FAME. It doesn't matter. But you know how it's going to these sex industry conferences in America, the States. There's many of them. Ten of them here.

But there's one. So everybody comes from all over. All of Europe. It's all of Europe comes from these industries. It's all the industry people. So I went with Wevibe. You know, they make like the top compass toy. They make amazing toys.

Like they've been around for like, I think 10 years, I remember they were like the first vibrator I ever talked about on the show. I've been hearing you talk about Weebub since I've known you. Since you've known me, so, and they actually have a new toy but this isn't the point. The point is I was with them and they, at the same time, we were in Germany, they launched their Shagon Wagon.

Shagon Wagon. And their Shagon Wagon, I, I, it's, it's no. It looks like old like 70s like VW bus, but it's not VW bus. And it shakes. They have it set up. So like when it's going down the street shakes, and you can get in the back seat of it. And there's going to be people like a host. And I can, I'm going to be doing this. I'm begging them. And then people are going to get in the car. I'm going to drive it. I'm going to ask them about their sex life. I'm a courted record. The whole thing video.

I literally screamed when they showed it to me because they did not know that when I started Sex with Emily one of my fantasies was that shacking was was to it wasn't no shagging wagging is like next level better idea I just wanted to get a van right and drive across America and have people get in and talk tell me about their sex Right, and so now I want to do the shagging wagon, but I don't want to drive across country anymore because I'm super busy now I just want to drive through LA anymore because I'm super busy now. I just wanna drive through LA. And then just shakes and people get in.

And they, so it's shaking when you're like, idoling at a red light. Yeah, it just shakes. Like people are, you know, so a mix of a little crack people are banging. People are banging the Shagon wagon. Henshin getter.

Now they're gonna ship that thing over here on a ferry or they got one here. But they want, yeah. Unless, yeah. Yeah, they're gonna get it over here somewhere. Why don't you throw a couple of mics in there and you can do the show from wherever you are. And everything, I'm gonna move into it.

I'm gonna do the podcast, I'm gonna do video. Let me ask you, this is a really good thing. I'm gonna leave out excited and they're like, well, can I get a tele? Go. You are a sex expert, right? And you are of the era when you can go into sleazy motels and some of them had little coin-operative machines

that shook the bed. Remember that? I kind of, yeah. I've only seen it in movies. I've never seen it in real life. And what in the world is that, where's the benefit? It's kind of like a vibrator. The shaggin wagon reminding me of this because it's shaking and moving.

I've never seen one of those in person. I think it's the most important thing. I've never seen one. I've never seen one. I kind of want to see one now. You could probably find one like a Vegas thing. You know, I don't know, it's like water beds. What happened to those?

I lost my Virginia and water beds. Banging on a water bed is such a, who has, it's very difficult. Very difficult. I grew up in the 80s, so I had to contest with that a couple times, yes. The water bed in the, I want to see you in the shaggin wagon for sure

I know we need to make this happy you can check it I don't know I'll put a picture of it. We'll tweet it I thought they were actually to sell it like consumer to consumers when you're first Shaggin wagon no, but it's like a thing and I like literally freaked out and they thought they were just like oh by the way And I'm like oh my god, I love you until like weener stencil they have the weener a car that drives across the country Right They have the weiner car that drives across the country. Right. Maybe the weiner schnitzel should meet up with the Shagon wagon. Oh, what if it were ended it? They can make little babies or something.

Car porn. If it were ended it. It's car porn. Yes. Oh my god, this is getting better by the moment. Would you do a show with me in the Shagon wagon? I would love to be in the Shagon wagon. Absolutely.

That is epic. Okay. I love that. Okay. Thank you. We're going to get into some emails from the people. Yes. But first, I want to give a shout out to our sponsors

and thank you everyone for supporting them and helping keep this show free so we can do epic shows for you. This week, it's actually when Emily comes to you, thanks to the Shagon wagon. No, they didn't even, I asked her. I said, can I texted her from Wee-Vie? I'm like, Steph, can I talk about it?

Like, I didn't know, but was the right they might not even come up But I now I hope maybe my listeners. Yes, I'm bored. We'll tell them that I want it Okay, everyone if there's something I have more than toys it's cosmetics and I don't even use half of them My makeup counter looks like you can probably guess because if you like cosmetics Yours probably look similar and does one thing seemed totally out of control. The folks at Kopari asked me to try their line of multitasking beauty products. So Kopari's products are made from 100% organic coconut oil.

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I am so ready. Okay, so this is, we don't, this was a great email because I'm just going to read it. You'll see. Hi, Emily and company. I'm just going to, like, hate me if I like tell you it's great and I'm like, we don't, this was a great email because I'm just gonna read it. You'll see, hi, I'm a lean company. I'm just gonna, like, I hate to even feel like tell you, it's great and I'm like, that wasn't great. Apologies in advance for the hell along email. And I had to edit it a little. This is dormant virgin from your September 6th, 2016 episode.

I remember this email. I know, on sex obsession, I just want to update you on my sexual journey since then. Long story short, I did it. Long story long. After I heard what you and Anderson had to say, I followed most of your advice. However, the next time I was with her for my Bing check, what was Bing check again? Rain check. Rain check. It was a rain check for Bing check. His eat my e.d. kicked in again.

Not wanting this prompted continue any longer. I consulted a doctor and he prescribed biagra. We tried again for the third time with the pills and I was able to stay hard but couldn't come since I couldn't shut my damn brain off. It was until the fourth time with her that I was able to clear my head and just focus on myself and not, and her, not to mention smoking a little weed prior helped. Things started getting hot and having to all the sun being lost in the moment. I was able to climax with the woman for the first time. The satisfaction I received cannot be rivaled by any other moment I've experienced. So I may have cheated with the dick pills in the weed,

but you're advised to focus on myself. I've never heard dick pills. That is great. But you're advised to focus on myself and her in addition to your Kegel Camp app, and a little of the Joe salted caramel lube, big fan of this product, helped me to overcome my anxiety and in my eyes to finally becoming a man.

Now to help level up my sex life I'm looking into taking some classes at the somatic institute where you know I take my classes and it's go I'm only on the other side of the bay. I also took her my lady friend on kink.com's headquarters tour since she's been introduced to me to some kinky stuff I I never thought I'd be into. Can to play and biting to name a few. Anyway, for the bottom of my heart, thank you very much, Dr. Morris. I couldn't have done it without you and your team constantly putting hard work into a show that people like me care about since sincerely DV age 31 Bay Area.

PS, shout out to Eddie and Chimmy, who I missed from my first post. Am I forgetting anyone? Because remember, he like thanked Stanley and like, Mence's dog and you. I love this, first of all. I don't typically read, people don't actually send us a lot of, maybe they do, a lot of follow up emails about what happens.

I love this. I don't often get like all the, how it helps. Other details, yeah. So thank you, we appreciate that. Where are they now? He's, you know, a kink.com headquarters, you know, shooting loads and. I remember. Emily. I remember, I can't get that come headquarters, you know, chute loads. I remember. Emily, I remember.

I'm like, you know, like he, he had a hook up and he couldn't work and she said maybe next time. And we had a bunch of advice about like, you know, trying to practice and imagine in her and using a condom, I remember all that. So I was. Because said which parts he followed and which he didn't. He did almost almost all he said Well, he said that he got into his body and he focused on himself And I'm think it sounds like he did the Kaggle camp app and he whatever we give him a lot check out the episode It was great. So thank you. We're the great one

Cuz they're all great Hi Emily. I recently discovered your podcast ever seeing you on true TV. You can do better It's TV show called you can Do Better, which I shot. I thought that was like an insult. I thought she was insulting. Oh, I know. I watched true TV all the time. It has been practical jokers and a billy on the street.

Okay, the new TV show called You Can Do Better. And I was on it. I shot it like a few months ago and I, in June, and I didn't know it air. Is it about like ladies getting better dudes? You know, it's about sex the episode and Ken saw it because he saw this email, Ken. Ken is your VP. And I haven't seen you yet, but he said it was great.

Point is, it air. I've been married for seven years and about a year and a half ago, my wife and I opened up our marriage. It's been seven years. Let me get through the email without the commentary. Okay. Thanks. I've been married for seven years

and about a year and a half ago, my wife and I opened up our marriage. It's been great. Thanks. I've been married for seven years, and about a year and a half ago, my wife and I opened up our marriage. It's been great. Right. Interesting. Stop it. Don't talk for a second. It has been great for us.

Having an open marriage has forced us to be much more open and honest with each other and has made me feel less trapped in the marriage. I love my wife even more now than before. My wife dates a former coworker of hers. Co-worker of hers. And until recently, I was dating acquaintance of mine. My girlfriend recently committed to another guy, but she and I are so good friends. My question is this. Now that I'm looking for a new girlfriend, how should it bring up that I'm in open marriage? I wanted to be honest with people, but I'm afraid I will

scare women off if I bring it up too soon, but on the other hand, if I wait too long, it'll feel kind of sleazy, which I am not. Recently I met a girl to bar and we hit it off and she agreed to hang out again. When I saw her again, I told her my situation, and while she was nice, she was uninterested. I'm nervous to do online dating because I work at a conservative financial institution. If my boss finds out, it could affect my career. A couple of women I work with, no I'm married, but don't know it's open, respond very well to me, and give me indicators of interest, but it's too risky to date someone from work.

This is long. Should I just tell a woman I'm married, ask them out, and when they get confused, explain that I'm married. Just open. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks, Derek, age 35. Okay. First of all, it's not the 70s anymore.

True. What's the problem with that? Free love is kind of like over and done with and I think that when he's meeting these girls, they're gonna think Relationship they're not gonna think bang time, but you're wrong. Okay, because actually there's more open relationships than ever right now Ever in the world There's more of them like one in five or two But what's the next thing coming out of these like one in five or two? Or having a relationship and in fact we often hear from people Who are like oh can't work and be horrible and it's working for them. Yeah, seven years They opened it up and he's actually not asking like how do we do it?

Which is very rare he's saying like how do I find someone right and it's where I'm not saying it's for everybody No, no, we've talked a ton on the show by who it's right for. But how do you feel like if they have kids? You think it's cool? Yeah, if they have kids, they, you know, can talk to their kids about it or the kids don't know about it. I don't know. I hope they don't have kids. Okay, I know a lot.

I know people in open relationships who do have kids and when the kids get to a certain age, they tell them they don't have, it depends whatever stage that they're at, but I don't feel like, is it better to just be cheating on your partner or to be miserable and studying for the kids when the kids, I get it, on paper.

The kids, if you're standing there for the kids, they know you're miserable, okay? Kids are like sponges and all that. So, exactly, you can choose. Yeah, my parents should have, I really wanted them to break up and they didn't, and they hated each other. Okay, exactly.

So, if your parents, you know, when you're 18 and they explain them, sure, they're not frolking around the house having orgies. Right. But that's another question. So, that's a different topic. My point is, I know, I'm saying that a lot of people don't believe me that they can't work for people. They don't believe me.

Right. Plus, that's not even a question. You're trying to get to a thing. Question is, right. Question is, right. Question, right. Okay. If you, I think that Derek, you do need to let people know right away what your situation is.

And a lot of them out there might not be interested as you found out, but I think it's better to let them know early on so you don't waste anyone's time for sure. And you might have better luck with women a little bit. He's 35. I mean, I think a lot of women are kind of like, a lot of people are delaying marriage. They're dating around. They might be interested in, you know, having sex, maybe they're dating other people. People are not committing like a lot of people are delaying marriage, they're dating around, they might be interested in, you know, having sex, maybe they're dating other people,

people are not committing like they used to. So I think that, you know, you could find someone who's not looking for anything serious. It's a bummer you don't want to go on apps because the truth is, okay, Cupid has a section for open relationships. There's another one, well, FetLife is more for kinkier people.

FetLife. FetLife, and then there's a meetups. Here's another thing that is, Fat Life is more for kinkier people. Fat Life. Fat Life. And then there's a meetups. Here's another thing that is actually not really a website. A lot of cities have meetups for people in a relationship. Right. They have meetups for people who like cats, you know. I think it started with dog walking, dog parks.

They totally did. But now they've meetups. Of course, I would check out like meetup.com. And so those are some of my suggestions for you. But I do think Derek that you just know once a waste of time. And Derek, I know that you work at a financial institution which is conservative and you're worried about your boss.

I thought your boss is gonna see you on Tinder. I think you could probably do Tinder and your boss isn't gonna be swiping your face one day. It's true. And the women at work find my, I wouldn't see whether the women at work. But I mean, yeah, that's true. And he's probably on Tinder as well, anyway. But actually, okay, keep it

like I said, which is not swipe app. Right. Does have a section four open, really. Unless your boss is like actively searching for you on these sites, I think you're probably pretty safe. And I feel like even conservative these days, it's so, it's different. Like, you're going to get fired because you're an open up. I don't, I mean, who knows? You know what? People are still still thinks things are freaky. It's actually so, back to October. Okay, so, a lot of hypocrisy.

And I'd love to hear all this goes dark, with the open list ship and finding someone. But I think that I create that you're honest and be honest with everyone. And you know what, it sounds like he's not wearing a wedding ring with just kind of odd too. If he's picking up girls at bars

and they don't know that he's married to a second date, what did he say? I don't know. He it what do you say he met a girl at a bar And she was she liked them and then then they met again and he let her know his situation and she's like yeah, I'm not in well A lot of guys don't you wear writing rings maybe they don't because they're not relationships I don't know many guys don't what he rings where you take them off and they're imprints. Yes Oh, married on your finger. No. Yeah.

Wait, it says I made like the wife gives it to him like if he's going to Vegas, what do you mean? No, like, like, that's like, what do you mean you can get for a husband is it, you pull it off and there's like an imprint because it's like on the inside of the ring and it says, I'm married. Like it leaves it on your, your finger. Like it brand you. Do I have one of those? That is horrible. No.

Um, like that's just one of my things. I do have a. I wouldn't want to get married. I think you should pause. I do have a tan line though. Where am I? What are you writing? Yeah, it sucks. I need bass. I've been with God. I've been on like bass. I've got foundation here. I've got lots of products hitting a bar after this. I need to. It's funny though, because I've definitely been in situations where I've seen guys like it to I was probably in Vegas or on a business trip somewhere like in China, I remember. And guys, I'd see them like, talk to me and slip the ring on.

Yeah. So, sleeping. That's pretty bad. That's a drunk move. Yeah. You don't get away with that when you're sober. No, you're drunk. No, guys, no.

I don't want to get into that. But, okay, dear Emily, thanks for your great podcast. I always enjoy listening to all your advice. My question is about tying up my man. Same question you had Anderson when you came in. We had great sex and he enjoys tying me up from time to time. And I certainly enjoy it. But I'm interested in taking control some time

and pleasureing him while I do all the work. Any tips for tying up my man? We already discussed that this is something he's open to. Also, what are other positions besides classic girl on top where I can do all the work? Thanks for your advice, Lea, age 26. That's a crime bangin' age right there. She wants to tie her grab.

I like this, Lea. It's fun, take control. So my suggestion, first off, let's get the equipment out of the way. The accoutrements, sports sheets. I love sports cheats because they were actually made for the ease of use of time people that they use Velcro, okay. They've amazing Velcro coughs and they've under the bed restraints which you can leave on your bed

at all times which I have on my bed. And yeah, it's freaking Velcro. You think how easy is that? Cough coughs they can't move. T ties hanging off your bed. Yeah, there are I type. Yeah, you know, you can see them. They're tough on the bed. Okay. And so, wait a minute. Does your maid come in and make your bed? I told you about the maid incident, right? She does. But I think she's seen them. Okay. Maybe she has. I don't really care. The point is to sell the Sibian. Come on. What do we endow? She sees everything. Try it out. They do. I don't know. Okay. So sports sheets. Yeah, just go to their website. Click on the banner on our website or go to sportsheets.com

because you'll love all their stuff. They have like all different. They have like their good, better best lines, they've cool stuff and it makes it really easy. Like literally Velcro that's coughs comfortable. And it works. You don't need a key. Any bed because a lot of beds like, oh yeah.

They're all the same. With a head. People like I don't have a head board. No one has a guy who had board with holes in it anymore, right? So you have them, they go to get, the thing about the sports sheets, cuffs I'm showing you right now, but no, I'm gonna say the sports sheets, cuffs that your arms can go together over your head.

You can do your arm to your leg, you can like, or you can get the actual sports sheet that's Velcro and put the, there's a lot of different configurations, but let me see. And then you can wear a suit that's made of the stuff that's it's. We did a show. We did a show. If you guys are interested, just stick your partner in any part of the bed. They stay there.

Do I know that I don't want to get it now because it's so totally side track. But Tom, the founder of sports team is on the show. You were not here. No, I'm sorry. You were sad. But he freaking came up with this idea. Do you remember the David Letterman episode where he was Velcroed to the building? It was like in the 80s or late 80s early 80s. No, but I'm envisioning like super glue at it. Literally and he was like, oh my God, what if you could Velcro someone building and came up with?

We did interview with Tom from Sportschy through his moves. So could you, theoretically turn the bed upside down, the person will still stick to it if they're not too fat. Maybe. That is great. We should try that. I love this. Okay, so positions.

They're, you're right. You got woman on top and what else can you do that would make you, you could do reverse cowgirl because you're still in control. Here's another position that I recently like I've heard about, but then I got a press request about it last night. And I was like, oh, the crab. I know it sounds bad name, but the crab is like woman on top, but your weight is not on your knee. So you know when you're on top, you're like on your knees. I'm on top. Let's say I'm on top of you. Right. You have some money. Your legs are over his shoulders and you're leading back on your hand. So like you're leading, get it? Like you got to have a really strong tricep.

It's so hard. You do. You have to strong ties to triceps. But you can practice doing the dip. If you do the dip at the gym, you do tricep dips while you're in control here. Every time I see a lady doing dips now at the gym, I do tricep dips while you're in control here. Every time I see a lady doing dips now at the gym, I'm gonna know why. She's doing it for the crab position. I just thought it was cool. Oh, the crab. And then there's also the cross position, which is like the scissors position.

But with the cross position, he's on the bottom and you're on the side. God, I see this is why people always ask me for a sex position. Right, the book. It's hard, right. I have a book called Hot Sex over 200 things you could try at night. It's really reasonable.

It's like 13 bucks. Get on Amazon. No joke. Anderson uses it every night. That's not true. It's next to his bed and you can open it up and there's a lot of positions in there. But check these out, like a mine, whatever.

Whatever the scissors. Put a little velcro on the back of it Just keep it on the bed. But here's the thing you could also while you're in control because it sounds like that's what you want I would also get a blindfold you could again sports eat cells like their beginner bodice kid or just use a neck tie whatever you want When you blindfold him You are taking away like his all the other senses, right? So you could just start off by like blindfolding him, tying his hands back, and like, having fun, like take some, you know, massage candles, some like hot, you know, massage wax, you can take some ice cubes,

they kinda play with them, feathers, tickle them. I do have them, we don't sell them. You don't sell them. No, we no longer sell them, we no longer are in business. They were great. They were fun while they lasted. But other Joe makes some great candles. The point is, you can do whatever you want there,

and he won't know what's happening next, which is very exciting for him, especially, because he's already said he would do this. So have fun with that. And I like him, man, it wants to be tied up. That's hot. Okay. Another email.

Dear Emily, one thing I've not been sure on, but has never really come up in conversation fully in my previous relationships It's around previous sexual partners and relationships. How much is too much to share and how much is not enough to share? I've had more sexual partners in number of relationships I guess that is part of the norm, but don't know what to expect in terms of a reaction Also, I've seen a number of escort slash massage parlors to appease my sexual desire when I was single.

Should that be shared or kept quiet to myself? Honestly, I don't know what is right or wrong here. From friends I've heard where they have been totally open and others they've not so much. So I'm lost here about what to say and why not to say. I guess it depends on the girl as well if she's open-minded if she'll accept it but she may not and that's best not to share. What do I do? Okay. Harry, 33 London. London. I am so okay. I this these questions how when you give

a step with. Yes. How much of my sexual history. Don't share any of it. Well when when I was single, they're going to ask you and you know why they're going to ask you, they're going to ask you so they could use it against you to torture themselves and to torture you. Right. And they'll use it to sabotage the relationship once they get to a point where they don't want to be in it. Whether they even realize it or not, I used to do that all the time. They're going to use against you. Well, those 18 dicks you had inside of you, right? When I was, but as far as the massage part, when I was single, I would lead with that.

I would go up to a girl on a bar and I would just sit on the next door and go, I love getting hand jobs at massage parlors. That's how it starts the conversation. No, of course. No, never ever. Don't even tell Emily that. Don't tell people you own a massage part.

Yeah, dude, Harry, I'm so glad you, don't, but no, Harry, thank you so much for telling me and let that me be the last woman that you ever tell that to okay No one needs to know no one needs to know and and because nothing's wrong with it. It's not freaky It's not wrong. It's not shameful. Oh, it's not it's a service and it's out there for a reason They're on every corner where I'm not judging you however People Anderson was there the way here there. They really are I don't like to, I have a bad back and I like to get

the knots massaged out and it's really hard for me to find a place that seems like it's on the up and up where I can get hands on my back that haven't been on penis as all day. It's stressing, it's very distressing. I can tell, I walk into Smolzaclorine, I know what's going on in there. It's turned right around.

I go to a great time massage place. Okay, anyway, but there's nothing going on. I bet that they touch weeners over there. No, they don't. I bet that you're the point. We are so obsessed in, I would say that every culture you're in London, wherever we are, about how many we stop with them, what to tell,

and what to ask. This information, like people will ask because you might have asked a woman before her, you're like, how many of you stop with? It doesn't help anybody. It's like, we're gonna use it, for a lot of times, the stereotype is that women, they've had too much.

So they're sluddy. You're not enough when they're an experience or a guy is a player. And then you can never stop thinking about all these other partners they've been with. This is not useful information. But yeah, we ask. It's like, we want it's like watching a train wreck, right?

It's like watching a car crash. It's like a tooth. You can't, like a bad tooth. You can't. You want to know, but don't want to know. And then you're gonna keep like, and train wreck, right? It's like watching a car crash. It's like a toothy, like a bad toothy, can't. You want to know, but don't want to know. And then you're going to keep, like, and then you're right, you're going to use it against him. And then you're going to be thinking about, she might be thinking about, well,

maybe he's late at home late tonight, he's probably getting a hand job at the massage parlor. Like it's just so much fun. And you know what, I think it really does trigger all the unhealthiest parts of a relationship, for sure. And I've noticed when, and I'm in good healthy relationships, it doesn't even occur to me. I don't even want to know.

I don't need to know. I don't want to know. I'm comfortable and I'm secure in the relationship. It's the bad relationships where I find myself wondering, like how many has she been with? And I hate it, but I keep looking at it like a train wreck. And I told you, I've been with girls where I had like all nine of the guys that they've been with, like I had their names memorized

at the exact times and like something will come up like in a movie where they're big night. Like a John, I'd be like 1995 and I'd be like, that's when she was banging that guy. That's what I would think, I really on health. It's so unhealthy, it's absolutely true that we think of all of it like all the other partners in the past, you're having sex with her, you're like,

there's 18 other guys, nine of them. So don't have this conversation and Harry, if it comes up and you're with them, which is like, so how many women have you shagged Harry? You know what you say? You're gonna say, oh, you know, all I'm thinking about is the amazing sex that we're having right now. I'd love to focus on that. Not as good as you.

Yeah, not as good as you. I don't remember. I've backed up. Go right back to the sector having. There are the occasional freaky ladies out there and guys who get off on it I they want to hear about pretty very very rare though. It's very rare It's true though and you can tell but again, it's not gonna be on the first month through the day or the first week You're dating somebody and it is true that's no one to hear about it

But I in most cases that that's not why they want that information to quote dr. Drow He used to always say for years and years and years, I hear it on Loveline, more history, less history, more mystery. Right, more mystery, less history. Yeah. Exactly. To quote the great Dr. Drow.

And if somebody's like really shaking you down, she's got issues, Harry. If someone's really demanding, you know. And I feel like it's a good point, or something, because it really hasn't, like I feel like it doesn't really come up. It used to come up, maybe in my 20s, it came up, but I just feel like people. When good point, or something, because it really hasn't, like I feel like it doesn't really come up. It used to come up maybe in my 20s. It came up, but I just feel like people.

When people were more insecure. Yeah. No one asked me. Yeah. God knows I was like, okay. Stage wall, you're a sex with family. They just assume it's in the case. I'll be like today.

How many today? How many today? Okay. Another email. Dear Emily, I have an issue that's come up between me, and my husband. The problem lies with me and my dislike of porn, especially certain types that he likes to watch.

Some background. I'm 45, my husband is 30, and we both come from different cultures. I'm American, and he's from the Caribbean. We have a wonderful exploratory sex life, and usually if sex, once or twice a day. I recently discovered that my husband watches porn and quite a bit of it. He watches daily, usually after I've gone to work in the morning. My problem is that the type of porn he watches always involves older women. He usually looks at mother-son clips, mother-drink-son's-com clips, and alike. I do not like porn generally as I feel like the sensitizes men to real teeth. Nice own genre. Dude, there's a genre for everything. Deepa connects sex.

The mom, son, genre, stuff turns me off. I don't want to feel like his slutty mother. The whole situation makes me very close and bad. I can't seem to get the video titles out of my head during sex. I've spoken to him about this. He says I'm making a big deal out of nothing. He said he'd rather watch porn than look at other women and that he's attracted to older women.

Besides my general version to porn, this John turns me off. I know porn is healthy and normal. Can't get over it. Thanks for all me off. I know porn is healthy and normal. Can't get over it. Thanks for your advice. I love your show, Lisa. Okay, this porn question we get a lot. A lot of different variations of this from men and women. Here's a thing, Lisa, and all my amazing learners.

I hope you're gonna ask what I need to ask. What does mom look like? Is his mom in the picture? No. Does he seem to really get excited when his mom's drinking milk? What his real mom in real life. Yeah, that's what he's looking at No, I'd be very concerned God, I wouldn't know okay. Here's a thing men are gonna watch porn

They just are I understand this is super confusing for women and women watch porn too They watch it before he was dating you during, you know, they just do. And it's part of men, I'm gonna say after, but you guys are gonna be together because you guys are super happy except for this porn thing. I feel like guys are hardwired to like watching porn, like watching people have sex, talking about sex, like reading about sex, hearing about other people have sex. And it's like hardwired into your brain. And I know that men get around,

you get around is easier, a lot of times in women and it's a stress reliever, like masturbation. It just is, okay? Porn is going to happen. And I feel like there's all these, and yes, it can be a problem in some relationships. For sure, porn addiction,

or whatever you want to people being reliant on porn and they can have sex in real life. They can't ejaculate, they can't get hard, these cases exist in the world. But typically, it's separate. It's not equal, it's just a separate release. And a lot of guys watch the stuff that they're not necessarily,

they don't want in real life, they just want to watch it, like it's the dimensional. It's a rid, we all should have rich fantasy lives, okay? But I get why this is also disturbing because it's the older woman. And this might be a thing right now like you know, guys go into phases and they get into certain things and then they move on it's like you know it's like any past time. It's like any

hobby. But like how is it so do it that would mean we're reading you know reading porn magazines reading playboy it's like because her other concern your other concern Lisa is that you feel like it takes away the deeply connected sex that they're having Because he was watching porn earlier in the day and again totally separate totally separate He's with you and I'm not saying that people have sex and they think about other things sometimes But I'm not like it's gonna happen No matter what there's gonna be fantasies that happen. I'm sure when he's with you if you feel deeply connected to him

He's deeply connected to you and your sex is fine. You have this aversion to porn and I just I understand that porn isn't going anywhere and it's not going to harm your relationship. In fact, it's very healthy for men and women to have rich fantasy lives outside of their relationships. It just is. You don't always have to share it with each other, but it's part of being healthy and having a good sex life. Right. And I'm sure he fantasizes about you as well. And again, I get why this is disturbing,

but he's not gonna stop watching this porn. Like he's, you're a dude, so I don't wanna speak for pieces everywhere. I think the biggest concern that she might have here. You started off very concerned, yeah. Is, you know, they're having sex twice a day, and he's looking at porn. There might be a little porn addiction going on here

and something to keep an eye on. That's what I would have to think. Point of eight times a day, if he's climaxing three times, four times a day, that's a lot. It's a bunch of, a bunch of drinks for mom. He's 30. Yeah.

I don't know if he says, she goes to work earlier than he does. Like, the reason why we would know we would be a problem is if he wasn't going to work. Yeah, if he wasn't going to leave the house, he consequences. He consequences. Yeah. He couldn't orgasm during sex anymore. He couldn't get hard when he was with her. He couldn't please you.

And, um, and it was really disturbing. And it's his day to day. Yeah. There's consequences. Are there consequences, Lisa, besides what you're feeling right now? I just want to know if there are any of those things do arise, we might have a problem. But you know, he could be watching other kinds of porn. It sounds like you'd still have a problem with it. And I'm just trying to get people to embrace porn.

I know that there's again, problem people have problems with porn for a lot of different reasons, but it's... It's a weird thing, and I don't envy you ladies at all, to have to deal with browser histories and seeing what your guy is looking at. I haven't really ever had to experience that in a relationship. Because you play your cookies. Well, what you do is you get Bing and you go on Chrome and you just always go to private. You go to private. Thank you for that hack. Yeah, in a talk-nido. And that hack. Yeah, in Cognito.

And Bing's always the best. That's Google search. But here's the thing, yeah, thank you. That's good. That's the search engine for poor. The thing is, I'm just gonna hover the arrow over it, the cursor over it, and it actually shows you

a little preview before you actually click on it. Yeah. Everyone Bing came out and was like a big thing, like they were really trying to take the market. Well, they realized that they cornered the porn market and they're like everyone surfing point out even. It really is the best search engine for porn. I think Sanderson, that's a really great service.

And Lisa's going to appreciate that too because she tells her husband. But here's the other thing I want to say about porn. When I, and I've said this a lot on the show, if you've been listening, like I was 25 years old, having the best sex of my life at the time I thought I was one time. And my boyfriend, I found out watch porn and I was so upset and I was really like I could I thought he wanted to be with a woman who's blonde and big boob I I didn't get it. I'm like to me it was the best sex It was like really though I had my first orgasm with him it was a whole thing and I really didn't understand it And I did not have the knowledge that I have now right and I actually didn't have a lot of the salad until I started to show

About 12 years ago and started hearing from all these men and women and studying it and understanding that it is just a natural part of a desire and sense. We've got to lower that ball. We've got to lower that ball. And everyone, every dude does it. Yeah, they do.

It's not going to work. So that's what we got time for. Cool. Thank you, Anderson. Thank you, everyone. Thanks for squeezing me in before my baby is squeezed out. I feel like if my wife sneezes, I'm worried that he's gonna shoot out.

She is so pregnant. I know. She's nine and a half months pregnant right now. That's crazy. I know. I'm so excited for you, actually. I'm pretty pumped, too. I can't wait to meet the little one.

And I can't wait for you to give birth to the baby, your wife, and give birth to your film. You have any like little sucking toys, like kind of like little pacifiers, like weeners. I like a weeners pacifier. I bet you do. I do.

No, actually believe it or not, they've kind of in that market. They are the 10th of their sex toy. What? That's for the furry population. Teddy love, Teddy love. Don't worry, I already got it. I've seen them.

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