Sex With Emily - Break Ups, Hookups & Open Relationships

Episode Date: June 30, 2015

At one point or another, all relationships run into problems and this podcast is here to help guide you along the sometimes perilous path to relationship happiness. Is your relationship working? Should you stay or should you go? And how do you get over an unexpected breakup? Emily offers advice on some of your trickiest sex and dating troubles. How happy are you with your relationship? Emily and Menace help 5 listeners figure out the next steps to calming their unique relationship qualms. Are you starting to have feelings for someone else? Are you nervous about trying new things in bed? Maybe you’re just bored and don’t know what to do to spice things up. Whatever your hang-up, Emily gives guidance and tips that can be applied to any relationship in need of boost.  From heartbreak to jealousy, long-term relationships to open relationships, this Sex With Emily podcast is all about navigating the seas of dating and commitment. For tips on how to get happier in love, check it out!  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. In today's show, we're talking about some of those tricky dating and relationship road box. Whether the sex has gone stale, you're feeling conflicted and your current relationship are unhappy being non-monogamous. I've got tips to help you through it all. So thanks for listening and enjoy this show. Okay, guys, you know that I love my magic wand.

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Oh my god, I'm so proud. Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com where you can check out all of our podcasts. You can easily subscribe. We do two a week. So you'll never ever miss another show again.

And also, please follow us Instagram, Twitter at Sex with Emily and Facebook. Sex with Emily. What is it? Facebook.com slash-to-bomly. I'm here with men today. Hello, how are you doing? How are you doing? How are you doing? How are you doing?

How are you doing? How are you doing? I'm good. Yeah. I am very excited to be back here with you again. Last time we had a whole round table, and we didn't get to really be intimate with each other. I know, I miss it when we were in the city.

But it was cool. I had so much fun hanging out with all those people and getting different perspective on things. I know, it's good. It was all about casual sex. You had so much fun hanging out with all those people and getting different perspective on things. I know, it's good. It was all about casual sex. You guys should check that show out because that's just kind of what happened in these days. It's for you're in a monogamous relationship.

I am in one and you feel that it's boring. I'm kidding. It was fun when you were hucking up and having black outsides. Yeah, but you're supposed to be doing that. This is sex with Emily. I'm just like, I'm just the, you know, you know, you're Brody that makes sure everything goes well. We've like, it's like,

freaky Friday, we've like, switch places. I am, no, I am dating out more. I actually have a date next week. I've been on hinge. I'm not doing tinder anymore. Hinge is like the swipe you want to, but yeah, he seems like a nice. So you're on hinge. So all hinges that break down right where somebody has to know somebody. So there's like so many in common, right? So we have somebody in common and, you know, I got to be honest. I kind of was into it for, we did that great show with Anna, my friend Anna, David was here and we did a great show about that.

But then it's just, it's really like a full-time job and I already have like my job already feels like it's two full-time jobs and then I'm like, oh no, I haven't checked it for a week or two or a week and if you get back to someone and you matched, then sometimes they don't, you know, they're like, hey, and then I'm like, oh no, I haven't checked it for a week or two, or we can figure it back to someone and you matched then sometimes they don't, you know, they're like, hey, and then I think you're ignoring them. And so there's a lot of maintenance to go down, but I'm telling you that I, then I got back on and then I met someone that we're not met

that we connected. It's sweet. I will report back on that and then, who else have I been dating? Nobody, you know, I, oh, I did meet a guy that I like actually. I've gone a few times. How did you meet this fella?

I actually met him in person through a mutual friend and he's super sexy and cute. So we've gone out twice. I will report back. You've gone out twice now. How does that kind of date go? What do you do? So the first date, we went to dinner just somewhere in my neighborhood and had some, wasn't like Moroccan food and we had a good time, nothing happened,

we didn't hug off, we didn't kiss or anything. All right. Like, everyone else else, we could just get his blowjob in the first day. And then the second day, we went to a movie, which you know, I don't know. Oh, you probably don't remember what movie I'm talking about.

See, I knew it. It wasn't a very good movie. But it was actually screening of its friend's film, and it was like, oh, you're talking it was actually screening of its friend's film and Talking smack about it. His friends film. It was awesome. I'm really proud of his friend You do it so funny when I remember that's every don't take offense, you know, the friend is listening She doesn't like any movie she can't sit there for two hours. It's really hard Still and you know it's so embarrassing when you first meet people because I remember my ex boyfriend from years ago Bob We went on a date. I actually he was living in a light. I came to visit him Yeah, still. And you know what's so embarrassing when you first meet people? Because I remember my ex-boyfriend from years ago, Bob,

we went on a date. I actually, he was living in a light I came to visit him. And it was probably like the first weekend we'd spent together and we went to a movie in a movie theater. And afterwards, he was just like, I've, he goes, you're like a jumping jack. I've never seen someone move around in their seat so much. Like, you didn't still, I got up into that.

And you know how we went to movie once. Never again. Never again. Never again. It's because you thought I talked through it, but that was a horrible movie. Yeah, but the problem is I was there for work and I'm with a bunch of industry people that are reviewing the movie for a job.

And they're like, oh, which they all know me. They're like, oh, there's menace with the black and brown chick that talked through the entire movie. I know, I'm sorry about that. But it's all good. Okay, there's one more thing I wanted to mention. Yes. I totally was going to open with this is that and I mentioned this briefly last week but I did this killer workshop so at

Hustler Hollywood I've been doing these, I've done like three of them in the last six months. I teach workshops and now I'm going to be doing every month. Hustler or Hollywood. So I don't have the date for the next one in July yet, but I'm going to tell you all really soon. So if you live in this area, please come. And also if not, you can tell your friends to come because the one I did last week, it was oral sex.

It's called Going Down with Emily. And it was packed crowd. It was amazing. A lot of our listeners drove in, Orange County, from San Diego, It was great. And I talked, gave my best blood job tips, my best oral sex tips, and Hussar Hollywood, which is an amazing store. It's just so fun to go in there. And then after we all went sex to a shopping, I showed everyone my favorite stuff. And then, and it's funny because I've been announcing these and a lot of my listeners like, when you come into, you know, Iowa, when you

come here and there, and I want to let you know that I will be in New York. September 18th to 20th, I'll be at the Sexual Health Expo, which we've actually done one already in Arizona and Scottsdale, we did one here, and we're taking on the road to New York. And also, if you are living, if you live somewhere and you want me to come speak,

find some word for me to come speak and figure out a way to get me there, I will come. I will teach you everything I know about sex, come up with a good topic. So yeah, it was a really fun workshop and it was like interactive. So my intern Lori, I was teaching the bow job thing and do mind demoing because I'm not comfortable.

I can't talk and I have a deal though in your mouth. I've learned. So she was sucking at showing different tips. I mean, she really liked it. It was a good interactive crowd. People learned a lot. What's up with you, men? Is your phone?

No. You want me to picture your dog? Yes, pictures of my dog. Let's talk about that. Actually, I'm texting about my dog. Today, the dog comes home. Finally, I know. Oh my god. My dog, last time I mentioned, has its own Instagram

because I don't want to be like, I don't want to be one of those people that has a child or gets an animal and then that's all they have on their social media feed the whole time, right? So now she has her own feed, her name, I always say it wrong, I'm gonna- You say your dog, Churro. Churro. Like those fried sticks?

Yeah, yeah, sure. Okay. So she's at my dog, Churro, on Instagram. Check her out Cutissette you don't want to be one of those people that post about your dog all the time yet you created an Insta count Yeah, because if you want to see dog photos the whole time if that's something that you're into then you can just follow her Go for it. That's so cute. Can I meet her somehow? Yes She comes home today. Well, congratulations. Like a new. Thank you. It is it is crazy like you know, actually not even dog,

every dog person I talk to, they're saying, oh my God, it changed your life, figuring out so much fun, you love it. But it's weird because all the people that have kids, they're like, oh, it's like having a kid. There's like, it's like having a kid. No, no, because people actually like dogs and they want to take care of the,

I can take my dog anywhere and have somebody look after my dog. Right, you can leave it for eight hours. Yeah, it's way different, I believe at least. But it could be interesting for your relationship to see how you both parent. I know, it is, actually, and it's fun too, because there's so many different factors,

like, we're actually gonna get Health insurance for the dog the dog's gonna have better health insurance than me which sucks But anyway if you are looking into getting dog insurance you have to get them on their puppies But the best one I've done my research is healthy pause so check Healthy pause, okay, but definitely get dog insurance so if you're gonna get a dog. But yeah, it's definitely gonna change the dynamic of our relationship.

And what's cool is that we've researched like, because people commented and said, oh, well, you can't just get up and leave. Like you always do. Like, oh, you feel like going to Palm Springs, you're just gonna get up and go to Palm Springs. Well, our favorite hotel in Palm Springs is Dog Friendly. Exactly, a lot of hotels are dog friendly now.

Yes, I'm gonna have to take one extra step to see if the dog can go somewhere. Right, it sounds so bad. It's okay. You're gonna love it. I thought you don't have the dog sleep in the bed. No, the dog's not gonna sleep in the bed. See, that was my favorite part of a dog.

Cause it's funny, cause I just love cuddling. Yeah. Like for me, the guy that's a deal breaker if they don't cuddle, of a dog. Cause it's funny, cause I just love cuddling. Like for me, with a guy that's a do-brainer if they don't cuddle, like my dog. She wasn't even, I made, I turned her into a coddler. Yeah, oh wait, I, I, I didn't even mention it. I have a French bull dog. So she's not even. She's so cute.

She's not even tall enough to even jump on the back. Oh my god, how many pounds is she? Oh, she's, she's like nothing. She's like, she fits in the palm of your hand. But she's gonna get a little bit Yeah, well congratulations my dog Churro on Instagram and then menace app menace on Instagram So gotta follow that one, but do you know what's cool is You know, I do a morning show called the Woody show that we that we also podcasts and I always preface it with

It's it's not a sex show, so you're not gonna get it's very informative people don't Yeah, if you like pop culture and check out the podcast it podcast daily whatever But it's so cool to have like sex with Emily listeners Listen to that and then Whitty show listeners find the sex with Emily podcast so they like comments They're like all I found the sex with Emily podcast and the craziest thing happened the other day So I went to do this thing called E3 as it's all like a gamer convention right and I was getting passes and the

people that are coordinating my passes hit up this girl and the girl replies back goes oh my god is this menace from the sexual envy show? And the Woody show. And she just recently found out that I was the same guy on both shows. And she's been a fan. I so apparently I sound different. But how many menace is,

if your name is John, I'd understand, but your name is menace. Yeah, I think there's like one other menace out there from... She didn't put that so far. She was there or they just had. She was there and then she freaking out. Yeah, and she's like, oh, I've been listening to both shows. She actually listened to the other show first and then started listening to show but didn't realize it was the same person. How do you not realize it? How do you not realize it? I mean, I don't know what to say. You sound different. How do

you sound different? That's funny. I mean,. I know, maybe different compression on the whole story. I love that. I love providing people with different, you know. Yeah, so it's really fun. Intertamix. Intertamix. Intertamix. I love it and I love that everyone is going and reviewing the

Sex with Family podcast on iTunes. So since we've been pumping that up, that's great. Yeah, you guys, that's really helpful for us. I know you subscribe on iTunes. If you just go in there and click five stars. Five stars, please. Five stars. Five stars would be great Yeah, there was a moment in time when we you know

We tried this thing like oh charging for the podcast and the people this Railing on it. I know it was like one star one star three years ago. I know you can never get rid of those So yeah, if you do you like to show and you know hit five stars That's yeah, I was super broke like four years And we were like how the the hell do you make money podcasting? And so I charged for like nine months. It didn't work.

And yeah, we got a lot of one stars, which brings our number down. So if you liked the show and you've learned just one thing from it, if you could go to iTunes right now and give us five stars, we will love you. Yeah, or any other, but I already love you. Or any other place that you listen to. Oh yeah.

It's like podcast one and. Puckets one. Puckets one. Yeah, just sex with Abbey.com. Anywhere you can comment or anything. That's, I mean, I'm not to guilt-trip you, but that's the least you can do. All right. Yeah, check out my YouTube channel.

How many shows are you going, you're doing a month now? I do eight shows a month. Wow, eight shows. That's hustle. Yeah, two shows a week. Only do you like two of them. So you're cheating on me with like other people.

Well, it's just so fun with Anderson, and as I do it before, so I do Love Line. Also, that's another great show, Love Line. Of course, Legendary Show, Love Line. It's so funny, because I'm actually, I don't really stop and think about this, but Love Line has been around for 30 years with Dr. Drew Pinsky and my Catherine Wood.

And when I started sex, then that was like, the only show like this. So I was always like, thinking about it, comparing to it, and then I remember someone saying, like, it took 10 years to Love I was always like thinking about it, comparing to it and I remember someone saying, like it took 10 years to love line with every night and they got money. But anyway, I'm so honored that I get to be a guest co-host on Love Line every Thursday night. So that's also, if you can't listen,

it also is a podcast. So I think it's the podcast that comes out on Sunday nights, I think Anderson told me. So anyway, Anderson has been the sound engineer for 15 years on Love Line. So I do it too. It's also a dog lover. He is a dog lover.

He's an animal lover. Like I've never seen him in my life. Like I can't even get into it. But the thing is that he says to me, because I do a show with him before I do LoveLine. He says to me, you cheat on me with all the ones. He just said it too. So I just find that we are all in an open relationship. Yes.

We all know each other and no one's feeling. At least you're being honest. I am being honest. Good. Okay, let's get into the show and help people with some relationships. But first, this is something funny, minus you mentioned this on the last show, but here's some more information about this for our little bit of sex in the news.

Students invent smart condoms that glow when an STD is detected. I know this is insane. And the people invented it, I'm so impressed by them. I'm going to have our kids. A smart condom that changes color when it attacks a sexually transmitted disease could help to cut the spread of the illnesses. The idea dreamt up by a group of students taking part in the team tech awards as a way to combat soaring infection rates.

Called STI-E-Y-E, the condom concept includes a layer impregnated with molecules that attach to the bacteria and viruses associated with the most commonly transmitted STIs, sexually transmitted infections. So the condom might glow green for chlamydia, yellow for herpes, purple in the presence of the human papal bone virus, HPV, which causes warts, general warts. So I think this is pretty amazing. Since 1980, rates of Climedia in the US have soared compared to Europe. And while the number of Americans with gonorrhea is declines in 1998, the figure for the US till it clipses rates of its European counterparts. So this could be huge and the kids were like 11 to 16,

eight, 11 to 16 year olds came up with this technology. Young minds. So this is great. Okay. Everyone check that out. But I was saying when you first tell me, I'm like, does it glow in the dark? Because literally if you're in the dark, I'm like, how the hell are you gonna do? You're like, hold on a minute.

Like you said, you can just pull it off real quick. Let's check what color it is. But still, it's a great idea. I just think it should be going the dark. What else? There's going the dark, Loub. Yeah, I know, I totally understand, but she's like, you just think of what these kids came up with.

I know, it's amazing. It's amazing, you know? It changes my life, your life, everyone, not you, whatever. Okay, next, next, next, next, the new story. The world's most beautiful vagina contest winner gets cash, but also a prize worth much, much more. Last week, a bar in Brooklyn hosted the world's tiniest penis contest.

If men are willing to show off their tiny dicks in the name of cash prizes, women should be more than willing to debut. Their delightful vagina is to an interesting crowd of anonymous internet commentators. Commentators. At least that's what the people at the Sex Toy Company auto blower hoping as they launch

the world's first crowd-sourced contest to crown the most beautiful vagine in the world. So what women have to do is submit photos of their vaginas to the contest website and the public will vote on the vaginas. They consider it to be the most attractive. The women attached to the vaginas earnings, the vagina earnings, the top three places will win respectively 5,000, 2500 and 1200. In addition to trips to LA and undergo

vaginal 3D scanning, the 3D scans will be used to replicate their vaginas blah, blah, blah. OK, here's my problem with this, right? I think that there are so many insecurities that women have about their vaginas already with like labial plastic and what they see in porn. And I don't think that I just have a problem with women looking at the top three vaginas going,

mine doesn't look that way. What's wrong with me? And I just, I don't women looking at the top three vaginas going, mine doesn't look that way. What's wrong with me? And I just, I don't love this idea at all. I think it's really not a great idea. I know modeling exists and people are doing their faces and all that. I just think vaginas are like snowflakes. Every vagina is different and there's not one. Who's to say what a beautiful vagina,

like what is a beautiful vagina to me? It might not be a beautiful vagina to you or to anyone else. Yeah, I mean, if you can Google vagina charts and there's so many different kinds, right? It's crazy. It's like, pizza. Why you guys are so complicated.

I know. The real soul of life, the vagina. Yes. I actually said that in my hustler Hollywood thing. Oh, sweet, how to go over. People laugh their asses off. Nice. I have to attribute that to menace.

Thank you. Yeah, which I didn't, and I'm sorry, but right now off. Nice. I have to attribute that to menace. Thank you. Yeah, which I didn't, and I'm sorry, but right now, I probably know. I mean no one know who I was there anyways. Yeah, the dude, I'm telling you, McKenna, she's one of our huge fans, she's a man. She's not into McKenna, I know we talked about her before. Yeah, she just listens to every show and she said,

oh my god, I did not know you have to. She was like, listen, you need to post pictures of menace because I didn't know what it would look like blah, blah, blah, and thought you're cute. Thank you. Okay, so let's get into some emails. Alright, let's do it. Okay.

Sexually bored with partner. Hi Emily, I've been dating this amazing guy for two years. He goes above and beyond in any area I ask him to. He really is the nicest person. However I often find him boring. In order for me to relax and enjoy sex, I have to fantasize about other people. He is open for change in the bedroom, but still, I feel like our sex life is making me question our relationship. I have had much better sex with other people, but I feel like this is making me

pull away. Help! Allie! Before I answer this, let me say one thing. I forgot to mention at the beginning that when you email me, it would be so awesome if you could include your age where you live. And if you could include how you listen to the show that be great, but really we spend our age because that helps with things and we just want to know where you're listening from. Okay, Ali, here's the deal. Okay, they've been together two years. Sex really is an important part of the relationship, but you're saying he's boring and you've finished other people. Have you tried to talk to him about this?

You know, you've had experience with others. And I'm wondering if it was good at the beginning, because if you never really that sexually attractive at the beginning, it could be hard to kind of create this amazing sex and this attraction because a lot of it does have to do with chemistry. That said, if you have experience with others and you know what you like, either this is what I can't tell Ellie, either maybe you're looking for a way to get out of this relationship and you just want me to say, yeah, and you want me to say, yeah, leave it that it's sex is bad. And I'll say that to you, that's what you want to hear in your board.

But if you want this to last because you're such a great guy and you'll go above and beyond, you know, you need to talk to him about it. And it is normal that people experience fluctuations, especially at the two-year mark. But you just kind of try some things in the bedroom, you know, you could go sex toy shopping, you could tell him some of your fantasies instead of fantasies. You know, a lot of people fantasize about other people, I guess, they're like sex, but this has been two years.

And the more you keep doing that, Ali, it's gonna pull you apart from him. So I would say you guys should start to like, you know, together create some fantasies, exchange sexual bucket lists, watch some porn, do something. But if you're bored by him right now, that's not much that changes. Like you're not bored with any, she's bored of them sexually, but she's just bored of them overall.

Yeah, it sounds like it. That's what she said. She said she finds him boring. I hate to say like tell people to break up with each other. Me too. And I think that's what's happening here too. They don't want to say either. They want somebody else to do it. So I don't know. Maybe you try some edibles. Maybe that'll be some edibles. Some edibles are. Some edibles are. Some strong edibles. But Ellie, two years, I don't know how old are. Exactly. It's Kayla, female Viagra. No, but Ellie, here's the thing. I'm not sure. I think that you should just either make a decision right now, Ellie. Do you want to stay in this relationship

and do you want the sex to get better? If you do, you need to talk to them. If you really, your heart's on it anymore, I get it. I've been with the nice guy and been like, what the hell am I doing? He's the best guy in the world, but he's not for me. And I've had to end the relationship and I've never regretted it. I've never regretted ending a relationship because the truth is you got to trust your gut and you know, you find someone else.

So you just got to side if you're willing to work on it and if you're not then you got to get out. Yes. Okay. The next one is from someone who is Danielle who's conflicted over her college relationship. Hi Emily, I'm 20 years old and I've been with my current boyfriend since high school, three and a half years and things are kind of serious which both excites me and scares me. Things are mostly great. We have great sex and he generally makes me really happy. The problem is I have a crush on someone else.

The guy is totally different from my boyfriend. And I can't shake the chemistry and flirtiness we have one together. Great, this is always greener. He's a burn yourself. He's also in a relationship, but the way he acts Oh, I know because it's the drama the drama It's just like you've been with that you've been with your boyfriend for a long time. This guy's just

16 and new and you think he's awesome blah blah and there's the drama yeah, okay, just a little bit He's also in relationship, but but the way he acts and we're together makes me confused about my relationship and whether I'm just because it's comfortable. But when I'm with my boyfriend, I feel confused again. I don't know what to do. Should I take a break and explore what's out there since I am in college, should I stay with the guy I love or should I go for the guy I have a crush on? I'm so conflicted any advice greatly. You know what my my girlfriend in college did the same thing where she's like wanted to go test the waters, whatever.

Guess what happened to her? She dropped out of college and moved back home. She did. Yeah. After you guys broke up. Yeah. Because she missed you. No, because she's like, oh, I wanted to go explore.

I'm only 20 years old. I need to live live. Do do do do. You know what that does? It just distracts you from important things in life. Like studying for school. Like studying for school. Okay.

And you get caught up in some drama with some dude that already has a girlfriend. And let's say he did leave his girlfriend for you. But I mean, do you want a guy that's gonna leave his girlfriend for you? No. Because you know what? Because he's probably gonna leave your ass for another girl too. Exactly.

This is the thing, Danielle. Don't be that dumb. This is, Danielle, this has nothing to do with the other guy, okay? It has to do with the fact that you're 20. You've been with the same person for three and a half years. Perhaps he was your first love and the first guy you've had sex with. I'm not sure, but it's typical at your age, you're in college, to want to date other people and to have other experiences.

And I know you love your boyfriend, and I'm sure things are wonderful. But in many ways, but it is natural that you would have this attraction to somebody. And so it tells you something about your own wants and needs. You should not know one should say in a relationship just because it's comfortable, especially when you're in college, especially when you're 20s. I mean, this is the time to experiment and have fun and have a good time. But I don't think that your dilemma has anything to do with this other guy. In fact, I think that if you just go from one relationship to the next right now, you're going to end this one's not going to work out either.

I actually recommend that you have a little casual sex. Now, I have some fun in college and maybe date some people, but I, you know, I can't. She probably is going to go with another guy for a while and he's going to end it, but just not a great idea. But what I'm saying is that, yeah, Danielle, it's totally fine to have these feelings behind, don't cheat on your boyfriend right now.

Decide whether or not you want to end it and then just spend some time alone spend some time getting to know yourself Which is what your 20s are about and Joy College don't drop out though like men's this boyfriend keep working on your studies Get your degree that's what my boyfriend your girlfriend in college. Sorry. Yeah, I don't have a boyfriend I'm sorry. I did not catch that nothing wrong with that everybody no judgment No, even though it's Jesus Christ Right, it was the boyfriend do it after college. I'm sorry Yeah, there was this like the whole PC world that something recently a little bit off topic But it's like Jerry Seinfeld Chris rock and all these people are not talking to college students these days

Are going to college campuses and doing shows because the college kids are so like PC police offended by everything just want to be offended. Really? Yeah. So they're not? So they're not? So they're not.

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So they're not. So they're not. So they're not. So they're not. So they're not. So they're not. So they're not. and we're at very liberal school and all that, but I would think that. Yeah, comedy's comedy, you know? Yeah. Yeah, the PC police is out there, but it's like, it's such a minority of people that believe that are offended by this, but it's everyone is just folding left and right

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Dear Emily, I'm a fan of your podcast and it's been a great help when dealing with anal sex with my partner I've been dating a partner now for seven months Four months into our relationship. He stated He stated sex with me is boring and that he wanted to find another person to sleep with to keep our relationship Exciting sounds like great guy sounds awesome. I'm sure that made you feel really good. We are in an open relationship, but honestly, is it too soon to start looking for another sex partner? I'm not usually the jealous type, but this made me so upset.

How do I tell my partner I don't want to be polygamous, just monotonous. Thanks for the help and hope to hear back from you soon, Jacqueline. Okay, Jacqueline, I, God, this is a major red flag. You don't want this Jacqueline, this is not what you want. You've been together seven months and four months in relationship. First of all, don't take this personally. It has nothing to do with you. It's not that you're not interesting. It's that he's probably always been oriented this way and he probably did the whole sounds like you put in four months with you, which is, you know,

let's be together, but I'm actually into open relationships. I don't think he was totally honest with you. And if you guys had the discussion up front, that would be one thing, but he like, spring is done, you four months in when you're already attached. And I understand that you're starting to attribute,

you don't want it. I mean, you could start looking for another partner, but it is true. It's gonna make you jealous. People in open relationships, they don't want it. I mean, you could start looking for another partner, but it is true it's gonna make you jealous. People in open relationships, they don't just say, okay, let's be open relationship tomorrow. It takes a lot of communication. And the people that I know that are in successful

open relationships, they both want it. They are fiercely, fiercely honest. They communicate like no other couple I know because there is no lying. Jealousy does exist, but they actually talk through it and they talk about all the things that are going on. And a lot of people I know about relationships, they sort of learn to, to either transcend it or just to deal with it. It is like another emotion like sadness or hunger or whatever. They're like, I'm feeling this jealousy and they process it.

So what I'm saying is you don't just say, let's go data other people. You didn't mention your age in here, I'm not sure, but it's really just, this isn't what you want. Maybe you guys aren't sexually compatible. And being open-listed isn't for everybody. You're polyamorous and it doesn't sound like it's for you, sweetie, and I don't like that this guy just sprung it on you. And then you're like, yeah, sure, what are you gonna do?

You want Tinder, like? It was like after what, four months, you said? Yeah, four months, that's kind of awkward. Yeah, it's not what you want, but you know, she's attached to them. So I would just say that- After four months, come on. Yeah, this isn't the guy for you, honey.

Jack, if you would like to say, there's some great books on over relationships. God, they're trying to think of something that I know, but you just, you guys need to communicate about it. What's it called? Oh, this one, Wendy O'Matic. She was on my show like years ago. She wrote a great book.

There's also the ethical slide. There's another go book about relationships. There's a lot of information out there. If you do want to do it, I would say, I start looking to otherwise, fail. Yeah. Right, what do you think? I mean, God, I don't want to say no, but Jesus, four months, that's kind of a red flag. Don't you think?

But she's interesting because one more thing, Jacqueline, she's not usually the jealous type, she says, but this has made me so upset. And she wants to, okay, maybe I didn't answer, how do I tell my partner I don't want to be polyamorous? Tell him. Say, I loved what we were having. We were in a managamous relationship. That's what I want. That's what I want.

That's what I want to continue having. I love you, maybe you love them. And I don't think this is for me. Or you say to them, I'm not really sure how to deal with the emotions I'm feeling right now. It's not feeling like it's right for me. Let's talk more about it before we dive into this. And maybe you'll find out that it does work for you,

but you mean, mean really you just got to tell them. I mean you guys are in a relationship together and he just sprung something major on you. It wasn't like you know should we take a weekend trip to Palm Springs. It was like let's freaking open up our relationship and I'm surprised that you guys haven't talked about it yet. Like it seems like that he just say that and then just like should we get pizza for dinner or should we order some chicken. Like I'm not sure, you just gotta start talking. Or then if you guys aren't on say page bail. Okay.

Dating, hookups, and one night stands. Hey, Emily, I'm single 31 year old straight English guy, healthy and athletic, and if never in the past had problems with sex, be it casual or monogamous. But two years ago, my girlfriend a four years broke up with me over the phone, and ever since, I've had a massive problem and that have lost all interest in relationships and

one night stands, etc. My sex drive is almost no. I masturbate maybe once a week or less, sometimes with porn, sometimes without. I really want to get back on the scene and date, but I'm never horny or confident and want this change. I still love women, but I feel no drive to pursue them. I'd love some advice. I try prostuits or take Viagra, force myself to go out to have a one night stand with hopes of breaking the cycle. Thanks for your advice. Love your show. Matt. Okay, Matt, single 31, it happened four years ago. Okay, man, single 31, it happened four years ago. Girlfriend of four years ago, we have two years, okay, here's a deal. I think you're depressed, Matt. I think this was traumatic for you.

I think that that's problem is more of a something going on in your mind, a mental problem, and a physical problem. You don't need to see the positive, you don't need to take Viagra, you need to address the issues of being rejected. Also, I have a like a weight question. Did you put on a lot of weight afterwards? Because it's funny, because it's something that I didn't really talk about when I put on a lot of weight. I came really disinterested in sex.

And then somebody really famous brought that up just recently, Chris Pratt, who is in Jurassic World, that's his latest movie. He like, he fluctuates a lot in weight and he's like either super ripped when he's in the movie Gardens of Galaxy or he puts on a lot of weight. And when he said, when he was at his highest,

he said he was like, totally disinterested in having sex at all. He just had no drive to do it. You know? Yeah, well that totally makes sense. I mean, the healthy you are, the healthy you are, the whether your nutrition is in lower body weight, you exercise, you're gonna want more sex.

You have the adrenaline, the dopamine, all that stuff, and your body's just healthier when you are, yeah, yet that's absolutely true. So, I mean, how are you feeling now? Because you're super healthy, do you want more sex and that you're exercising and stuff? Yeah, no, I feel more energetic. I mean, I'm not definitely now? Because you're super healthy. Do you want more sex and you're exercising and stuff? Yeah, no, I feel more energetic. I mean, I'm not definitely not where I want to be.

Wait, why is, but just working out recently, I just feel a lot more confident in myself. I have a lot more energy. I don't need to take naps during the day. That's amazing. It's true. There were so many times where I was like falling asleep, trying to do the show with you. I know you seem different. You seem lighter. Your That's amazing. It's true. There were so many times where I was like falling asleep trying to do the show with you. I know you seem different.

You seem lighter, your energy's back. I do feel like there's a dip. We talked about this a few weeks ago, but there is a different man is here that I once knew. I once knew. I'm seeing some back. Yeah, you are. I'm really happy for you that you're,

and it's not even like I was like over, like you're overweight, but really it has to do with just like exercising and being healthy. I totally just affected my mood all the time. Right, so again, this is, I'm gonna go back to you in the second map, but this is very true. There's a lot of people don't think to look at that. So if you're in a relationship right now

and you're struggling with like, you know, you feel like you don't have a sex drive, lower libido, I mean, look at your health, look at your diet, look at what you're eating. And that is a huge factor. So, but Matt, let me go back to you. I really think that if this was so true about it to you, maybe you need to go see a therapist.

If it's been two years, four years. And I feel like there might have been some trauma with that. Have you gone and talked with therapists about it? That could be helpful. Also, if that isn't your jam and you're like, I'm not into therapy, which I think everybody needs a little bit therapy in their life, you just gotta get yourself out there

and start talking to women. Do not hire prostitutes. Don't force yourself to have a one-night stand that kind of stuff doesn't work, especially because this is a mental thing for you. It's like a logical thing. I would just say that you just gotta get out there, be social, do have good friends.

And I'm not even saying you should go out there. Maybe it's better for you. I think it's better for you not got to get out there, be social, do you have good friends? And I'm not even saying you should go out there. Maybe it's better for you. I think it's better for you not even to go out there with the goal of meeting someone, but just start talking to people. It's just start, you need to get your mojo back. I was just start talking to women, whether you're interested in men,

whether you're interested in them or not, but just start your conversation skills, like it sounds like maybe you've been isolating yourself. And so I would just start saying yes. Like say for the month, the next month, I'm going to say yes to every invitation that comes in way, even if I don't want to go. It's summer. So you might want to barbecue, friends birthday, whatever it is, go out, start talking, start communicating, and build your confidence again.

And you need to learn how to trust women and feel comfortable with them because you've really been hurt. And so it's been something like that, that traumatic and severe happens to someone, you know, whether they're cheated on or dumped, it is like post-traumatic stress, like it really can have an impact. So I would say that you're also on-line dating,

that's another option as well. If you're not as comfortable talking, you go out and just start doing it, but do not turn to these other things. And the reason why we did bring up the health thing, if you're not even interested in sex is why I thought, either you're already taking some kind of medication that could be impacting it, but if not,

it could be depression or something, but I'm not a psychologist, so I can't diagnose you, but that's what sound blip to me. I agree, totally. Okay, Matt, good luck to you, honey, and I'm glad that you wrote and thanks for listening to the show and keep me posted. Godspeed. Godspeed. Okay, one more. Okay, posted. Guy speed. That's God speed.

Okay, one more. Okay, I'll do it. Let's do it. Okay. How do you get? Madison, the producer says, okay. Madison, the producer. She was a green though, like when I was talking earlier

about that whole sign fell Chris Rock thing. Were you maddening about that? Yeah. Oh, sir. Give him a mic. I'm a producer. I know my mic was on, guys. It is on. Talk of the mic. Get a mic. I'm not a producer.

I know my mic was on, guys. It is on. Yeah, I've been hearing a lot actually coming out, especially like, Stan, it means the older ones. The ones who used to be able to get away with saying anything, like Jerry Seinfeld, he could say whatever he wanted. Everyone loves him. Well, now everyone is super offended all the time.

They're just, you're constantly walking on eggshells. But I feel like it's such a small group of people, but I don't know what gave them the power. It's just the people that love to be offended. We talked about this on the last podcast when we were together, or people, they feel like they need to be a part of something. This, even though they don't really care that much, at least they're in a group of people that, you know, that they could talk to and communicate to and stuff like that. Did you feel like that in college? I mean, you graduated, like, that's how it was, you were.

Oh, but it seems like recently, right? Yeah, I mean, honestly, even at Chapman, I feel like no one, people weren't offended easily. Like, it wasn't like, we were constantly, like, at each other's throats trying to call someone out for being inappropriate. This has only been happening, and that I've noticed in the last, like, year or so.

Yeah. It's really nuts, yeah. It's funny because when it's going back, spinning it back to our show, Emily shows, sorry. It's all of our show. The thing is, I remember you would get so upset on comments and emails and stuff like that. And what did I always say? You always said, I don't give a shit. Yeah, you did, because earlier on, yeah.

You're right, I think I did used to get really a set with people. And I was like, that is they said this about the show, like, you just can't, I know. You just can't care. When people stop downloading the show,

which I hope never happens, and mass quantities of people, then you should start care. But if one little, you can't make everyone out. I know, I'm not gonna make you all happy. I totally understand that. It is true though, I feast for that. But then I remember I came around and I read an email,

this is when we were on Frippett's CBS radio, it was like 10 reasons why I stuck to them. Lee is like the word, it was like the word show on there. Do you remember this? I was mostly technical issues too. And what did remember this? It was almost a technical issue too. And what did I do? It just laughed on the roof. We laughed and it was fine.

So I've gotten to the point where I'm cool with them. That was like 10 years ago. But anyway, but you guys, but you guys, listen, email me. If you're unhappy, that is fine. I read all of your emails. I'm just, you know, and maybe you have a good point. I will take it under consideration,

but I'm not gonna lose sleep. Also, but I also back to relationships too. Like you can't make everybody happy and then for persons like unhappy, like you can do anything under the sun for them. And if they just, they want out of relationship, you gotta let them go. You can't be like the Hilton kid just recently

who broke up with his girlfriend. I don't know if you know this. Paris-Silton's brother just got arrested because he went to his ex girlfriend's house because he wants to be back with her. She doesn't want to be with you, man. So let it go Let it go. If somebody doesn't want to be with them and be with you then screw on You're not going to convince them. You're gonna find another person on Tinder and you're gonna be happy And if you do you can if you do convince them because I've had friends who have begged for their partners and had their partners come back

They never get over that stigma of having begged. And if having had to beg and jump through hoops to have someone be with them, if they don't want to be with you, you just, and this is something I'm learning. Like when I was younger, I was like, just love me. But like now, as I'm like getting older, I'm figuring it out also that like, if they're not going to love you, like why do you want to force someone to love you?

Like you need someone who's going to like, you know, like beg you to like come with me to a party and I do something because like I don you want to force someone to love you? Like, you need someone who's gonna like- That's someone who's gonna like- Like, you gotta like beg you to like come with me to a party and I do something because like I don't want to- But you never want to force someone to make like the biggest decision of their life. It's like women who are like, you have to marry me, you have to marry me, you know, shit or get off the pot,

that whole thing, it's like, why would you spend that much time? Why would you want to convince someone to make the biggest decision of your life? And how are you gonna tie- they, they- If they don't want me to just- If they don't make the decision, then just move on, you know.

I gotcha. We're all on the green man here. I love it. Okay. Our last email is about pornography. Oh. Hello Emily. I am 24 year old female from LA who absolutely loves your podcast.

I just started a new relationship a couple of months ago. I've been having the best sex of my life. I need a little help though. My boyfriend has mentioned he wants to watch porn with me. Well, I have no problem with him watching porn. I've never done it before and I'm pretty intimidated by it. I'm open to watching it with him, but I'm not even sure what I'm into.

Do you have any suggestions for porn newbies, suggestions for porn newbies? And also, how do I bring this up to my boyfriend? Do I surprise him with it? Thanks. Keep up the great podcast, Ashley. OK, so she needs, OK, her boyfriend mentioned that he wants to watch porn, and she wants to bring it up to him.

So I'm saying, OK, so maybe you should get started. So she's saying she wants to get started. I don't know, I'm watching it. So she can be like, hey, babe, this is what I'm into. OK, there's some, I think you should take. I think this is great, Ashley. Don't just say yes right away, because if you've never really watched porn, it's some, I think you should take, I think this is great Ashley, don't just say yes right away because if you've never really watched porn, you know, it's like anything. It takes a little dabbling here and there to see what turned you on. So let's look at this.

This is a fun thing Ashley that you get to go and you get to look at a lot of porn and see like, oh my god, like that termion that didn't, and then I'm sure your boyfriend will be down with whatever you're into. So you can check out a few things. with whatever you're into. So you can check out a few things. You can go to, good vibrations after dark, is a great sight. You have to subscribe to it, but it also, they have a lot of like female friendly porn, Erica Lust is also porn, they call female friendly,

which I think a lot of women are more into, you know, women and women. My mom was actually asking about this. She and I were talking about, oh, we're just watching oranges the new black and And like all the lesbian sex, my mom was talking about, you know, men being really intense. She goes, you know what? Like women aren't women aren't into that. And I go actually, according to porn, have women searched for lesbian and like gay sex scenes over anything else. And it got us into this big discussion on

female friendly porn. And my mom brought up that back when cable was in its earliest stages, they used to have one channel that would play really soft. It was almost like, yeah, it was like, I'm like, yeah, exactly. It's got the same you well. Yeah, it was, I'm trying to think of how she described it because it was so funny. It was essentially like, kind of like,

down in Abby style stuff. It was like old, like historical porn, but it was like really like soft lighting. And she said that she, like, down an Abby style stuff. It was like old, like, historical porn, but it was like, really, like, soft lighting. And she said that she, like, to this day when she thinks of, like, erotic, I like, that's what she thinks of. That's what she finds, like, it's true. Like, you know, sexually appealing. So I think that Bima friendly porn is huge now. Exactly. Or honestly, if you don't want to subscribe to any of these sites, just go to, I mean, I don't know, Pornhub and search for lesbian women and women.

And I would just, that's what I would say go to, being an Eric Aless, Adam and Eve, those are more subscription, but really, just I know it seems kind of intimidating, but. Tumblr, also. Tumblr porn is great. Lady Cheeky, I follow her on Tumblr,

and she was a guest one time, and I really enjoy it. Exactly, that's, but it's images. Yeah, it's images, they're like awesome. Gifts and stuff too, and they link, some of it's images. Yeah, it's images. They're like awesome gifts and stuff too and they link some of them I've accidentally clicked on it and it's taken me to actual like a video or like a longer clip of So to lady cheeky. We love her. She's awesome. That's a great place to start. She curates this amazing site Is it just lady cheeky? Com yeah lady cheeky.com then she links to her tumbler which has got just so much great and it's all female friendly

Yeah, that is a great place to start and then she links to her Tumblr, which has got just so much great and it's all female-friendly. It's all really sexy. That is a great place to start. Just start looking at images and click through. And like, again, don't force yourself, you know, take some time, Ashley. And I think it's great that you want to do this. And then, you know, just find a few things. And then it's okay that you don't know now

as what I'm saying. Like, look at this is fun. And then, you know, tell them, this is what I found. And he's gonna be so psyched. He's gonna come over one night, and you're like, babe, let me show you what I did last night. Check this out. And then, you know,

you guys are gonna be good time. And speaking of the orange, orange is a new product. Oh yeah, I was gonna, yeah. Everyone's flipping out over that new chick, Ruby Rose. Right, everyone's like, I'm turning lesbian in front, right? I know, right? So there's this girl named Karuchi,

who's Chris Brown's ex-girlfriend. And she was just hanging out with her recently and then the crew she girls like I felt that I was straight this whole time but now I'm confused since they've been like hanging out. Everyone's like flipping out over. I know I haven't seen this since. She already has three million followers on Instagram. Yeah, she was funny. She was in Australia and I think and she was kind of like a semi celebritysileverty in Australia. I forgot she had like modeling and some acting and stuff like that.

And then she got on the show and everyone's obsessed with her, but the problem is that actual, like, you know, full-fledged lesbians are offended. They don't like this whole, like, oh, I'm turning lesbian because it brings back that whole prehistoric idea that it's a choice that you make, that you can just choose, like, wake up one day and you're like, hey, I'm a lesbian because I think that woman's pretty.

Wait, so it's like, like, the lesbian community is actually really upset about it. They're like, hey, like, don't go around throwing this word around, like, it's something joking. But then it kind of goes back to what you're saying, everyone being easily offended by everything. Because it's not always offended. And I understand that. I'm looking to sign up for change.org. It's so funny because everyone says, oh, I feel so passionate about this.

I'm trying to raise money. Then you look at some of these things that people say that they're so passionate about. You go back to the charity and they've raised like no money, but it has like five billion retweets. Exactly. People don't really care. You know, I don't let people like that has like, five billion retweets. Like, people don't really care. You know, I don't let people like that effect your life. Yeah, that's true too.

And I guess I can understand Lesbian. Like, even if you say, well, but maybe I'm bisexual, then the lesbian, you know, lesbian and bisexuals don't get along. Gays, but all it means, a lot of women are on, like, if you look at the Kinsey sale spectrum, we tend to be, you know, like, one is being very straight and ten is being, you know, gay,

lesbian. And women tend to fall more in the three, four, five scale and being more open. It doesn't mean that you're actually going to act on it. But we tend to be more attracted to women, whereas men are more like on the one, two, and women are like, I guess four to six, so three to six, where we fluctuate. So everyone's joking, I'm turning, I don't know if they're gonna go out and have affairs, but they can be attracted to women just like we're telling Ashley to watch some, you know, female family porn.

Yeah, and when I say, it's almost like, I think we're almost even, I feel like I'm such an old, it just feels like just fine with you, like, to say it's female friendly, I think might even be outdated that I'm keep saying that. Like I just think you find what you like. Now I just got PC on myself,

that someone's gonna get pissed off. Anyway, gosh gosh my head is spinning. This is a great show. Thank you Madison for producing a wonderful show. Thank you Menace and good luck with your new pup. Thank you. And Churro. My dog Churro on Instagram. We'll repost it. Yeah we will for sure. And Adidas. I'm talking. That's fine. You guys hate my dog. It's cool. Dude I didn't feel like I could post it until you brought Adidas. I'm talking to you. That's fine. You guys hate my dog. It's cool. Dude, I didn't feel like I could post it until you brought our home. I don't know.

You get mad at me for things. I don't think it'll release. You actually don't get mad at me anymore like these two. No, at least not. At least not too many. Well, now that we're in, like, this type of format, it's a lot better. You know?

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