Sex With Emily - Calling All Virgins: Your First Time Sex Guide

Episode Date: April 5, 2016

This show is dedicated to all you virgins out there! No matter what your age or relationship status, Emily shares her “First Time Sex Preparedness Guide” to help you make your introduction into sex a positive one. She lists her do’s & dont’s for starting off your sex life, answers your most common virginity questions, and even shares her own first-time sex story… For science, of course.  Should you wait for that special someone or just get it over with? Will it hurt? Can you get pregnant the first time? Emily and Anderson address a range of pre-coital concerns to help quell the qualms of all the first timers out there. And for all you non-virgins, the pair also discuss new innovations in period sex and explain how “manspreading” might be able to help step up your dating game.So if you’re thinking about knockin’ boots for the very first time or you just need to brush up on the basics, this show will help you make sex be the best it can be. From foreplay to protection to the great hymen myth, this show is not one to miss! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily and today's show I'm bringing you your first time sex preparedness guide. It might not be the most magical night of your life, but I'm telling you everything you need to know to make it the first time a little less sucky and also answering your emails. Thanks for listening. By now, y'all know me pretty well. You know I love new experiences, but I have my favorite things that I always come back to because I know I can trust them.

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and then you never miss another episode, which would be a bummer, right Anderson? It's like a bummer, yeah. Bummer. It's just so easy, they just pop up bang, and they're a virtual too. It's like a bummer. Yeah. It's just so easy. They just pop up bang and they're a virtual too. So they're like, they're taking them space on your phone. They're not taking them space like the YouTube songs

that they YouTube put on your iPhone. It's like getting a free subscription to like the newspaper of your choice, sexual newspaper that doesn't take up any weight on your front lawn. Exactly. You don't have to look at it every day because you didn't really like I used to get the New Yorker. Exactly.

You could choose to download it and listen, but that's what happens So you don't miss it like we did one a few weeks ago Dating after divorce that was a good show we did and the one of your tips was don't date the bartender Which was gonna have to laugh in my office. It's true the bartender. Why not date a bartender right above the Hair dresser and right below the stripper right exactly which was interesting which was interesting, because we've had a lot of talks about that. So check out that one. We've done a lot of good shows lately. It's been fun.

And things have run for also just for listening to the show and following the show because we were like number six and I teen saw Super just very exciting. Six overall. Six man. I know it was really exciting. And yeah, it's been a good week. It's been busy.

I'm excited for the weekend. What about you Anderson? What do you have to? Oh, have we talked about the fact that you're being maybe yet? I think so. Yeah, we mentioned on the last show. Yeah, okay, because I'm still really excited I'm gonna we can find out it's a boy or girl. I don't know. I think you can find out or you want to know this couple Yeah, you know what you don't know any of these things how you're gonna be until you're actually Right now you like so I like I used to think like oh be kind of fun to have it as a prize on now. I'm like no No, you gotta pay the North. No, right. You got to know

Pink or green, but you know, honestly, that won't be a real pregnancy until I can picture what kind of child I'm raising. So it's big deal. I'm, I'm looking forward to the next two, three weeks. What's the due date? October 13th, okay. Which is my, the same day as my anniversary, right on my anniversary. Oh, man. So we're going to ruin it. We're going to like make the kid think that we're celebrating as a birthday or her birthday. Yeah, but it's really about us. That's a good one. Yeah.

I'm already trying to figure out what you just grew over the kid. I know, let's say you Anderson, it's like when you tease me tonight, you're funny because you're like, did you ever brought your teasing about something? But you always say, yeah, because I give him only shit, off air sometimes. And then she hurt the position a little bit, a little different off air. Like you get a little bit more like touching go with me. Like, come on, I was giving you a little bit of a... I was giving you a little bit of a...

And I'm like, don't you have a big brother that didn't he tease you? Yeah, he hates me. Because that's how I'm treating you like my little sister. But with you, it's a slippery slope, and I know that you, you're always bringing it up on a hate zone. Well, because you, a lot of people, Anderson,

let's be honest, fall into your hate zone. They can hear you in the love zone. Yeah, but you never get out of your hate zone. And I live in fear of the day I get in your hate zone. You're not gonna get in my hate zone. Okay. Because after all this time of your hate zone. And I live in fear of the day I get in your head. I get my hate zone. Okay. Because after all this time, I would have done it already, right? Yeah, you would have got in it last week at the coronashow when you were saying, hashtag ball of eagle. I did not say that. I did not say hashtag ball of eagle. You did. It's okay, but you didn't fall in the hate zone. And I dropped a fork and I

was a little drunk. It was so fun. I think I was tweeting something. I was like, that's funny. Yeah, you're doing that thing where she was reading her tweet as she was writing it. Out loud, while Michael was singing a song. I like his singing by the way. We need to go out more, see?

That was fun. Okay, I'm gonna, today we're talking about first time sex. We have a lot of emails from virgins. They have a sex yet. We're gonna get into that. And I got some sex in We have a lot of emails from virgins. They have sex yet. We're gonna get into that and I got some sex in the news. Everyone's been a virgin. Everyone's been a virgin and there's so much anxiety and pressure and stress.

Unless you get, if you're a boy and you get stuck in your mom and you're coming out and the doctor has to jostle you back and forth and think technically you're actually having sex with your mom at the time. No, no, Anderson. I mean, if you got a jostle back and forth, you don't ruin, I'm thinking, don't implant these things in people's brains.

Technically nothing about it. But also reading your emails and we got some sex in the news. Don't ruin, don't implant these things into evil brains, technically nothing there. But also reading your emails, and we got some sex in the news. The first news story, Anderson, is a period sex. No problem, because there's a whole new thing out there. Plastic sheets. Nope, things can get messy if you've sex in your period, so many couples avoid it. But the Flex company wants to replace outdated pads and tampons with a sleek, disc-shaped, blood blocker called the Flex Discs, which are worn during sex to prevent making a mess.

So they put them inside of them. They're disposable. They can be worn up to 12 hours. They come in a stylish little packet, hyper-logetic, won't cause toxic shock syndrome, and they can register for a very sample on the company's website. But they say it's so shockingly comfortable that women tell us they forget their own their period when they're wearing it. But people say, and I think this too,

like their marketing hinges on the idea that people think periods are gross, and that men, women, they all think they're gross. But the point is, there are a lot of women, let's say, who don't want to have sex in their period, because a lot of times that's what we're turned on, but they're, you know, they don't want to bleed everywhere, they're not comfortable with it. Or maybe guys aren't comfortable with it.

Well, honestly, personally, I don't like doing it because it's so messy on the sheets. It's not like it grosses me out, even though the idea of what's actually happening freaks me out. It's fine, if I'm in love with the girl, if I have a relationship, I can do whatever, nothing for the girl. That's your favorite time though.

But I don't like, you know, we're in the bed. I know it's a sheet set the worst. And this is your note that's gonna happen. There's like a bloody mask here, I know. But you see the right one on the wall here. Girls are going to put this up there every time they have a period just because they don't like dealing with pads and whatnot.

And that's gonna be dangerous, I bet. Well, I hope, but this is just supposed to be if you're gonna have sex. I mean, yeah, temporary. But the thing is women often want the most. So 25% of the trial sun ups are for men. It says too. But obviously some women and men don't mind periods. Like I said, I mean, I, I don't know. I was with the guy once. He's like, eh, he jumped into the shower and his gross. I was like, doesn't it? Something like

with Orthodox Jewish people, like, you know, the women gets relegated to a separate room in the house. Exactly. It's like the red tent. It's not a bad idea. That's a terrible idea. That's a bad idea. That's a terrible idea. That's what I do.

I go for an MPM passing. Oh, so you're all still together. Yeah, like the red tent. Do you remember the red tent? Okay. What is that product called? It's called the Flex, but there's also one out called, what is it called again? No, no, there's one that we were just talking about recently.

No, no, no, soft cups. That's been out for a while, similar product. But you know, I think that if this is your thing, if you have a fear of like a body mask or happening and you're like, oh my god, because you know, when you been with someone and you didn't know it and like, blood, so if you were that, yeah, well, the sheets and the thing, that's the thing too. I wanted to do a new relationship or you can't get you can only have sex ever so often because you don't see the person very often or you don't live,

you know, when you're at your parents parents house when you're young, right? Like that doesn't matter at all. But when you become a grown adult and you can schedule around it, you just do. Ah, yeah. It's true. But there's other wrong blood or period sex, but if you make sure you're more comfortable, then go for the flex or you can also buy these soft cups that are out now because it's funny because I was in a meeting recently and they're like, have you heard of these soft

cups? And they've been around for a while. But okay, man spreading makes a person more attractive when dating, according to a new study, to do what man spreading is. Don't know what this is. I did not either. Reflecting your personality in a handful of words on a hook-a-bap or during a speed dating session,

reflecting your personality, reflecting it, showing who you are, in a handful of words on a hook-a-bap or during a speed dating session is almost impossible. But simply having an open posture, which sounds suspiciously like man spreading like this. When your legs are open and you're like all spread out, in your dating profile photos, or in real life can make a person more attractive.

So when a guy's like, you know, his legs are spread and he's like taking up more space, man spreading, you're like penis. I get it, I've heard about the whole, you know, his legs are spread and he's like taking up more space. Man spreading. You're like penis. I get it. I've heard about the whole, you know, like the unspoken words that occur with body language and you're never supposed to have your arms crossed because it's like blocking people out. It's true though.

Apparently it's true. But here's the thing when it gets the bottom, there's a study but women too, it says who take up more space. Why get that? No, not when their legs are spread naked, but just like if a woman's like, yes, her arms out, just take it up more space. No, not when their legs are spread naked, but just like if a woman's like, yes, her arms out, just take it up more space. So an expansive posture is described as an enlargement of the amount of space

the person is occupying is more attractive. This is a post-of-photo where the person's picture with their arms and legs close to their torso. So standing like that, not even crossed. But if I'm like, my arms are out, but the problem is I'm so small that I couldn't take up a lot of space. She's got her arms stretched right now. she looks like she's in some kind of like

little. Do you think I look better dancing free? I'm so happy. What had a billify? Yeah. Yeah, like the med ads exactly. And she called the basic basic instinctine instead of man spreading. I know.

Well, that's what they said man spreading. That sounds awful. Sounds like man scapego. I know. But when we get to study at three different levels, they watch speeddaters and they watch real-life people like judge-daters on a Tinder app and they had them look at photos of men and women and The researchers the researchers. I'm not drunk yet. The researchers believe that such body language is appealing because the brain Associates it with dominance and openness and Jesus and Jesus, but we make these you know

Then they showed people who met someone be getting that they weren't attracted to and then showed a picture of a spread eagle. Oh no man spread man spread taking a more space. Looking like a hockey goalie. Yeah. Um, so it's worked for Jesus. He's got a lot of followers. A lot of people are talking about it. Maybe it's a religious thing and it all goes back to Jesus. You're so. He's ripped. Friggin' right. Jesus was ripped. Chiseled. Now we're going to give a little love to our sponsors. I have a daily routine that keeps me grounded. Things I absolutely must do before I can even head out the door. And over the past few months, I added something new, the intensity by a poor moire.

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Virginity. Okay, I know that brings up a lot of fear and anxiety and a lot of men and women you have not had sex at. And there's a lot of pressure to have sex, you have anxiety when you're about to have sex, you have anxiety before sex, you're not even close to having sex the whole thing. But the thing is it's natural to worry about sex because you can't practice thinking about inner sin, like you can self pleasure, but you can't actually practice the old in and out. But you can, you can prepare for it. So this is your virgin preparedness guide.

So I decided to gather the most common questions I get asked. Everyone emails me feedback at sexwithelm.com, which I love. And I just thought, first let's talk about the common things I get asked everyone emails me feedback at sex with the Elmi.com which I love and I just thought first let's talk about the the common things I get asked and how to prep for the first time and how to do the goddamn thing Already but first the Hyman Chronicles the number one virgin man. I'm gonna say the Hyman crack and now I just like to call it the Hyman Chronicles is what I was When you're when you do Virginizing a girl you're essentially cracking that. I'm but you're not Never heard that term. That's I have cracking the Hyman but you're not. You've never heard that term. That's terrifying. I have cracking the hymen. Cracking the hymen.

I've never heard of cracking the hymen. I've never cracked a hymen. No. I'm not gonna talk about that, but yeah. I would actually actively avert such scenarios. If there was a virgin, you said no. Cause yeah, I would say like, you know what? No one likes the first guy that divergenizes them.

They're almost always assholes. I don't want to be like that. I don't want to be like that. I don't like not hate the guy it's actually with the first time. Well, you don't hate anyone, am. That's true. Yeah. That's true. I don't want to be like that. I don't like not hate the guy it's actually the first time. Well, you don't hate anyone. I'm. That's true. That's well.

I hate some people I dated or not. My favorite people. I'm in chronicles. Okay. So the hymen and virginity are not mutually exclusive. Even if you think you're going to crack the hymen for it to really be a virgin, you think there's going to be blood everywhere, but it is not an indicator of your virginity. And it's not adequate way of proving that because girls stick things up there and they go

right. Horses. Exactly. It is not a membrane that needs to bleed or be broken during intercourse. It's just like really, it's like a small elastic fold of like mucus tissue. I know. Mucus tissue. I got to find it typically.

Say that 10 times fast. Think about it once. And so it's, it's, it's, it only partially covers a vaginal opening and can but doesn't always tear off your stretch. So a lot of women, yeah, riding a horse, riding a bike when they're little like, it might just tear. Like it could happen. So, you know, and fewer than half of all women bleed the first time.

So if you don't tear bleed, like, don't be bummed out. Yeah. Like, doesn't mean you're not a virgin. And um, so, and the idea, what? Important knowledge, though, because there's a lot of dudes like you. Herobly like don't be bummed out. Yeah, like doesn't mean you're not a virgin and So and the idea what important knowledge, though because there's a lot of dudes out there And they hear that you're a virgin and then you have sex with them and if there's no blood What the fuck man more than half to not bleed? I don't think I blood the first time and I was swear to God I was a virgin. I don't know if I'm going up so I'm not sure why But you covers you ride those right anything growing up. I didn't know if I believe you. But I get my worst is going up, so I'm not sure why. But. You're right, those.

I didn't write anything going up. I didn't even organize until like 22. Why do you think I'm here? Okay, the idea that a woman's first sexual experience is like this permanent, high-man-breaking challenge is just BS, really. And it's, you know, you think like the language too, the people talk, she lost her virginity,

took her virginity, it's kind of, it's very misleading. I gave him my virginity talk to you lost to virginity took a virginity It's kind of very misleading. I gave him my virginity like I that's a valid me So just the hymen thing like don't be all you know, yes, you should still put you can put down towels Speaking of blood if you don't earlier if you don't want that but but it might not happen Okay, so don't touch it out. Oh, but that's how so what but it's not like it's bloody blood. I like period blood I think rarely though, couples are like, okay, we're gonna lose our virginity now. And a lot of time that happens in the passion,

the heat of the passion, you know what I mean? Right, well that's what we're gonna talk about to cover that because people are like, oh, I wasn't prepared, you know? And there might not be blood, but it should always be this sound. That's how you can tell if she's still. Is she about the cherry?

That might be the hackneyest joke I've ever done here. That was a hackney joke. That's like my daddy, the hackneyest joke. Listen for those boys. Yeah, exactly. Okay, here's a common virgin question. Top in the cork of the cherry.

Gracking that, how am I? But I can't remember if I was, I'm trying to, I mean, I don't know if I've led me about that. Well, I remember my story, but I can tell you the first time I had sex. I've never, yeah, I was dating guy for 11 months. I was a junior in high school, 17. He was a football player, very cute guy, and I waited 11 months, and then we had sex on his brother's water bed.

I. Yeah, not hot. And I know how like 80s, that 90s, so. How long did it take us to realize it's just a bad idea. Oh my god I don't know. How did you have good on this guy? This guy must have had a lot of experience his brother is water bed I know but the guy who did the deed he had set with one other person so he said a lot of time It's because I can I'd have a hard time having sex with my wife right now on a water bed It's hard to remember whoever has I don't even remember, I mean, I remember being in bed, but what happened was we had sex and it was fine.

Like, I remember being like thinking it was a big deal. Wasn't the dark. I think he was dark. You think? It was dark. How drunk were you in? I wasn't drunk, I wasn't a drinker. I don't even remember.

I was gut, the drunkest I was last week when I was hashtagging in the middle of the show. Hashtag, well, the little hashtag. Why did I, oh, because you sang with a bald eagle. I was like, this would be funny if my hashtag is junk. I'm sorry. I'm in the middle of the show. So, um, then my boyfriend and I had sex and his boyfriend and the water bed and then went downstairs.

What do I think about that? Well, here's the thing. We didn't tell the brother until the brother came home that night and found the condom in the bed. So, apparently, we didn't throw away the condom. Did you guys make up a story? So it was probably in the dark. It probably was, but like my boyfriend shouldn't know and did throw away the condom because he had sex before. Not that I wouldn't know it. I'm a bit like a... You guys are mine. We're also spacey too when it's actually happening, especially for the

first time. It's like, oh my god, it can't believe this is happening. Nothing else matters. Yeah, it's been like, god damn you, ass, I remember coming on screaming like you had sex in my bed. Did you make up a story? How do you I remember coming on screaming like you, it's like my bed. Did he make up a story? How do you make up a story with like a used condom in the bed? That wasn't it. It wasn't it's. No, that's not what happened.

But that's my story. It's pretty good. Okay, here's a question. It's okay. And then you have sex with him a lot after that? You know, I'm trying to remember. I think I did. That's not what it was to be like.

It wasn't like that. It wasn't like that. I was learning the bed. No, he wasn't. And to be honest, I wasn't either. I didn't know about orgasms. I never masturbated. I was in the water.

I was in the water. But that was the first last time. I think it was pretty good for 10 minutes. I didn't know. But in that point, he was in the water. But like I forgot until I was like appearing for that. I'm like, oh yeah, the water bed. They still sell those.

I want to be still by one. My brother had one too. I'm sure your brother did. I can see that. But I, yeah, I mean, it mean, I did keep having sex with them and then I just like, I don't really remember it because honestly, I didn't know about pleasure. No, doesn't it feel great?

Like, I don't think it was really painful. Maybe it was little, but it was okay. I like did it and I remember thinking it was big, you know, like, oh my God, we had sex and it was like a big, we love you. I love you and then, I know, we were together for like a year or so and then whatever. Much better to hear that after your first time. Like, I love you. I love you. And then, I know, we were together for like a year or so and then whatever.

It's much better to hear that after your first time. Like, I love you. But I know that we love it. Get out. Well, that's a thing. We're going to cover some of the things, because people like, how do I just have sex with anybody? But here's the first question I get asked.

Am I a freak? People I date think I'm a freak because I'm a virgin. So when you do have sex, decide to have sex for the first time, you just want to make sure to have someone you trust, make sure comfortable, that you have a relationship of some kind with them, not saying you have to wait 11 months and being madly in love like I thought I was or in love. But don't sleep with anyone who judges you or makes you feel bad about your sexual history. If you're a whistle one that you think is going to make you feel like a freak and you don't

feel safe with this person, the keyword is like safe and you know them, then don't do it. And even if you're not committed, just take this step of having sex to someone that you've like, no, because you know, like even if you're dating someone casually, and you're like, oh my God, are they gonna think I'm a freak? Like you don't have to let everybody know you're a virgin, but if you're with someone,

and you feel like it's going to that place, then like let them know. And if they act weird about it, then leave. Like, you know, if someone makes you feel bad, you shouldn't be with them anyway. Like, you even got to tell them, mom? Okay, well here's the other thing. That's the next question. How do I tell my partner, new partner, that I'm a virgin?

So once you do that point of having sex, I think if you want to tell them, tell them honestly. I thought you should know I'm a virgin. Keep it light, don't apologize about it. There's a fact you don't have to make excuses for. Right? You have to be like, I'm really sorry I'm a virgin or can you move? Like someone. But it depends on why, too, right?

Like if you're a virgin because you can attract the opposite sex and have anyone put it in, that's a problem and you're probably ashamed. If you're a virgin because you haven't found the right guy or girl, that's on your terms. If you're a virgin because of religious reasons, that's on your terms too. So it kind of depends on the words,

you might have shame yourself right? Right, yeah, totally that's true. I mean, do you think people shouldn't always tell I? I don't want to say too much but yeah, you go as a buzzkill and you were like I can't yeah It was definitely a buzzkill in a few scenarios and then I found out afterwards a few times too And I kind of was appreciative that I didn't know at the time It would make freak me out. I know I understand that I. I just feel like, okay, so maybe times have changed. Or for some people, I get it. You want to get over with and women are like, oh,

or men, just like that's to do it. But I still think it is a big moment. And if you're worried about it and there's all this anxiety, like it's best to be with someone, I think you want them to know, you know? It's gonna be a bigger deal for you, girl. It is a bigger deal, right? That's true.

Like if it's not a big deal to say, it's a big deal. I want you to know it's my first time. I just think that you'll appreciate that, but now you're telling all these women they're not gonna tell cause they're afraid of guys gonna frow a frow. I think there's a lot of guys out there that are looking to crack the hymen.

That's true, Anderson was not. Yeah. So, okay, the next question is, should I wait for someone special or just get over with? I think make sure you're really ready and you're not just pressing yourself to check it off the list.

Because you guys always remember the first one too. What they actually do. I remember it. I remember it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But you're all like, I don't remember how I felt. I remember it as wearing my tight naked.

But you remember number one for sure. Always, you always remember number one. So like, I, yeah, you remember it. And I still think it's gotta be mean something even without a sex out there these days. It should be somebody you have feelings for I think right? Yeah, I didn't get that. I didn't get to have you had a bad you had a bad you had a First two times didn't even happen because one time I felt the girls but hole in a freak me out and I kind of left the room You felt her but hole

In the dark and I was kind of feeling around other than I'm like that's a bottle I just felt like I got all freaked out my left But I was like 13 I was way too young's a bottle I just felt on like I don't freaked out my left. But I was like 13. I was way too young. And then when I finally had penitentiary sex, it was with a much older woman. And it was not good looking back on it like she was saying things, acting like a porn star. She was 22 and I was like 14. Yeah, I was not good. She know that you were. And my wife thinks it's still screwed me up to this day.

I don't know. I probably will. It was it you didn't want to do it. No, I was into it. And of course, yeah, I was down. But it was one time. No, it was about 10. So why does you think it messed you up? My wife, because my wife likes to fuck with me. Oh, okay. Yeah, but as she still was true. You were raped as a child. Well, it is legal. Technically, you were raped. I was like 14. How'd you meet her? She was, I used to work at this place called Porquies.

No. It was a place for ribs. It was a place for ribs. It was a place for ribs. It was a place for ribs. It was a place for ribs. We sold ribs and then she was like, Hey, come back to my place to park.

I want to park you. She was really good friends with one of the owners, daughters. So they always, we always hang out. I'd skateboard there. I was like, cool kid. She drove a Porsche. I was like, the coolest kid in town for like a month.

And then I'm like, wow, this chick's got problems. What? Like she drank a lot. A lot. I was like the coolest kid in town for like a month and then I'm like, wow, this chick's got problems. What what? Like she drank a lot, a lot. Kind of. She met the she's your Anderson. You get along well. She used to call my school, say that she was my mom and have to come pick and she come pick me up. And then they pick me up and then I they'd have a 12 pack of beer in the back seat. And I drink driving. I'd be in the back seat drinking in her Porsche as she was driving with her friend to the court where she was having her DUI hearings.

And then we'd all drink the parking lot before we went in. Oh God. Did she so messed up? Was she a porn star? Was she or she just having sex like a porn star? No, she agreed. I agree this messed you up. But I think a lot of things have messed you up.

I'm not saying it's hard to isolate. Yeah, I remember her saying things like, about a huckna how wet she was. Like I get turned off. Then you got a 14. Oh, you can't talk to her. I don't like it. No, okay. Good. No, that's what I could know because I get wet now. I do things. Yeah, I don't like now.

You're 14. Did she know it was your first time? No, I well, maybe no, because it wasn't. I'd already been like I just couldn't most a lot of guys. I'm I think you know this like they can't perform in their first time. They're too nervous. Right. Are they come quickly? Or they just can't get hard? And that's fine. Here's the thing. Also, guy, that's why you want to tell your partner

because you might come too quickly or you might not be able to perform the first time because anything with anxiety, think about whenever you're anxious about anything. You know, playing sports, doing something like you might mess up. You might not throw the ball. Yeah, the first time it was actually in the middle of night on a lot of things occurred to get up to this point,

but it was on tennis courts. Tennis courts in the middle of the night. a lot of things occurred to get us up to this point But it was on tennis courts and tennis courts and the middle of night Yeah, she was pulling up her skirt like I was trying to get there and I couldn't find it was awful So never actually happened there It happened like a couple months later with this 20-thirtl. Oh god So I had the bottle incident the tennis court incident before so you had two misses Yeah, and then you had the point of the Porsche check. Who is a DUI drinking in a Porsche? She was hot though. Have you had there? I'm sure she was.

No, I don't do there. Okay. Okay. So here's the thing. Should you wait for someone special or get over with Anderson? Just got it over with Anderson, how that work for you? You don't need to madly in love, but you should have some kind of trust. I mean, virginity is very loaded. Like I said, for a lot of people, make sure you're doing with someone who has your best interest.

And if you're convinced your breast interests that you have to do it. I just got to get over it then just be prepared for what could happen. You might have a great story 20 years later. You might not 20, 30 years later. I remember being a guy just wanting to get it done. Well that's the thing and I think that a lot of guys do and so you know this is kind of, I was going to break this down to men women, but a lot of this is universal I

Understand guys want to get over with but I also think it's just if you can just wait here with someone that you feel safe with And you feel like exploring and you want to it's okay. This she's okay if you or he or whoever it is a he he he he gay like okay If you would jack that you could clear something, but there's the first sex, and there's also the first comfortable sex relationship where it's repeated. Sometimes it's the same person, but a lot of time it's not. It's not. By the time you're actually having sex

on a regular basis with somebody, that's a whole different thing. That's so much better too, like, when you, after that, right. And it wasn't with this guy. It wasn't uncomfortable, but it just wasn't great sex. But I don't think I learned how to really have great sex

until I understood my own body and how to move and masturbating and being with someone who maybe feel comfortable. And now I'm just going to look at you. Look at you now. Now I'm just going to be like, That's a bad one. And so just remember there's no rules, just make the decision that's right for you, you know, but think about it.

And how can you tell if you're ready? It's another big question. There's not like a magazine quiz I'm going to give you all to know if you're ready. There are risks, STDs, pregnancy, psychological emotional risks. Look at Anderson. If you see person before you're ready, like someone who's not trustworthy, makes you feel bad about yourself, it can cause stress and anxiety for your entire life. Now, but sex shouldn't be the cause of stress and anxiety. It should be fun. So don't rush into it. I know. So ask yourself these questions.

How am I going to feel after this? Is this what I want? Am I doing for the right reasons? Do they want the same things? You know, just be sure. Like, I just don't want anyone to be pressured into making this decision when they don't want to. Okay, what should I expect the first time?

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haven't had anything inside you. So, anyway, I haven't organized in the first time. I wonder if women have organized in the first time. I'd be curious to know. But just stick with it. It gets better, okay? Will my partner be able to see my inexperience? That's another question. I mean, probably, which is why you should tell him first. Like, is it worse that you came quickly or didn't get hard, but she thought that you already experienced or like,

ham a virgin and I can't get harder. I'm sorry, what was the question? I said to you, you're like, yeah, don't tell, but what if you're a guy and you didn't perform the first time but you didn't tell that you're using that as an excuse no I'm saying if you don't tell that you're a virgin but then you like you can't perform you probably should have told them yeah so you know it is a big deal I think it's a big deal it's like milestone masturbation virginity orgasm marriage baby it's a big deal it is but you don't it's

such a mental game I know I don't know if you wanted it and either one of your heads You know like my whole thing too is like I pretend like I've been there before you know I mean right almost everything I do I try and act like oh, yes, this is old right old school We're dead not a big deal like what I went to jail like I pretended like I've been there numerous times before You know and I was just trying to like act like we would do it. Why are you in jail? That's not the point but like so when I first had sex I was trying I was pretending like I I, and I was just trying to like act like I don't know how you and Jill. That's not the point. But like, so when I first had sex, I was pretending like I knew what I was doing.

You have all those really interesting psychological coping mechanisms. You got to try and fake it. You got to act like you know what you're doing. Well, I act as if, right? Fake it to you, make it. Yeah. Which women should never fake their orgasms.

But yeah, no, I think it's interesting. Just the way that you think about, like how you say, like you think of, you see someone you don't want to talk to them and you're like, oh, what if they died? I pretend like that they're dead for like two to three seconds. I'd be sad. I'm going to say I'm going to say hi to many. I'm like, oh my god. Wait, no, they're not dead. And then I actually appreciate them for a split second. I can deal with them in the elevator. I think whatever you have to do to be a normal functioning human is working. Let me ask you a question. Have you ever taken anybody's? No, I've never taken anyone's.

Sure, I'm sure. I'm sure. No, I'm sure. I'm prime sure. I've never taken anyone's. I have never taken anyone's. No. No, no.

Why? I'm not a T-anger, guys. No, they don't have to be young. Like a virgin? The virgin's coming all the shape size. You're right, like a 40-year old virgin. I have not, but maybe I should. I'll pop you up.

No, I never thought I'd buy it actually. You've never thought. I've never thought that I've never taken a guy's Virginia. It's never been on my bucket list, but I'm not saying I wouldn't do it. Call the bucket list. A bucket list, but never have.

Because I'm sure that like I always, I was a serial monogamous. I was at the serious boyfriends. That's so funny, because I don't see that in you at all. I know I got out of my system in my 20s. I literally like five in a row, two nephews, two nephews, two nephews. Same with me.

I was like, ugh. Yeah, I got off to high school, like, right after high school, yeah. I just think that you don't know what else you don't want to do. Like, you think, oh, I'm dating you, and then we like each other, we had sex, but I think now people are not committing as much. Oh, no.

I'm lying else. Thanks, Tim. Thanks, Tim. Okay, thanks, Tinder. Oh, no, thanks Tinder. Okay, so here's a few more things about it. Your mindset before sex. Make sure you're ready. Make sure you thought about the pros and cons and you're in a clear mental state. I'm just gonna say this, best not to be blacked out drunk

or too high. Like Emily might have been. Yeah, no, I wasn't to drink her. I wasn't even a stoner. I wasn't anything then. I was so type A. Um, I think the lights are off. Yeah.

For candles. Most people want to get the most people who are loose, virginity, wild drunk. Or at least under the influence of the sun. Yeah, yeah, for sure. But I'm saying like, you know, you're still going to be drunk, baby, but you don't want to blacked out crazy.

You know, you don't want the liquid courage. You want to remember just like I remember the part about the condom. Self love, the best things to do. Prepare know your own body. Know what you like. It really is so important. Like I don't remember the first time I drove, which is something that I do every day.

You do. Do you remember the first time you drove only because I was a worse driver. No, I, I should not have gotten my license. Like I made like a left into the wrong lane. I went down a one way street the wrong way. Like the first day I broke every I was terrible. My point is there's so many first. But I don't want to be the first week I was driving.

And most first things you don't remember because you're too young or it's just it's not memorable. Sex you're always going to be the first time. And you don't want to be black out drunk because you can miss it. Oh memorable. Right. Sex, you're always going to remember first time. And you don't want to be black out drunk because you can miss it. Oh, that's sad for so many people that are black out drunk. They don't remember the first time. I get just never it was there. I'm glad I wasn't. Was it all the cause? I mean, I'm drunk. Yeah. No idea. Oh, God. I'm sorry. It's okay. I'm free of cosby. I'm safe sex,

bring protection with you, even if you're on the pill, bring condom, you could get an STD. Remember that. Don't assume that you're partner well. I remember my other boyfriend. Okay, so this is my boyfriend my junior year, my senior year boyfriend. He was going to be the second guy slept with. We went we were dating for a few months and he came to my prom. Mm-hmm. And we got a hotel room. Mm-hmm. And he didn't bring condoms. Dick. And I was like, Not sleeping with you. None for you. Like none for you. And then I was like, not sleeping with you. None for you.

None for you. And then I'm like, let's get him a Donald's. I'm gonna talk to Donald's instead. McDonald's, co-cranel. Oh, we just said McDonald's and didn't have sex because he did a great one. So, I apologize. Why didn't you guys go get a condom?

I don't remember why. You know what? I don't remember why, like maybe nothing was open. Back in the day, there wasn't like 24 hour anything. Nowadays, I think condoms are much more readily available. Yeah, Nick Nicarat and condoms way more available than they were back then Yeah, thank God for that And so despite what you think plenty people do get STDs And it's not be a buzzkill they get STDs or get pregnant for their first time having

First time because you think about it if you're if you're looking up at the first time with a random that random is probably having sex with as many people as possible It's true And just because someone tells you that they haven't or they don't have an STD Just please work on them. So I promise you take some one person with one outbreak or one drop of sperm free to be pregnant Mm-hmm. It's true a little pre-com a little pre-com a little pre-com for play warm each other up beforehand If guy if you're a guy you're really nervous You're gonna be ready to go the night's here. You're excited But if you're really nervous, you're going to be ready to go. The night's here, you're excited, but if you are super nervous, just take care of her. Make her excited.

Make it about her. Make it about her. Exactly. Take your mind off yourself, oral stimulation, kissing, touching. You don't have to rush straight for the sex, get to know each other's bodies, and then take it slow during. Guys, I know you're excited, but just if you're worried about nesting long enough, take the pressure off your erection, put it on her long enough, take the pressure off your erection,

put it on our pleasure, and take the pressure off your erection, put the attention on her, on her breast. I thought you meant like physically, like just... On her nipples. Okay. Women, take it slow, take the breath, pay attention to your body. If there's pain, please, please tell him to stop. Say, you stop.

You're probably like that too. Don't worry about that. Stop! If you're like, how that hurts, he's gonna think, yeah tell him to stop. Say stop. They'll probably like that too. Don't worry about that. Stop. If you're like, how that hurts, he's gonna think, yeah, yeah, I'm big. Yeah. Seriously? And this goes for any time we're having sex.

If you are so many women experience pain during sex and they just suck it up. Yeah, don't do that. Not good. You could have serious damage. You could hurt yourself. Just don't do it in like a don't weird turn off. You would be like, ow, stop it.

What are you doing? Yeah, it's been always hard to get that hurt. Yeah, say it in a sexy way or just say it really. Um, communicate what you're experiencing. Use Loub. You guys, you know, I'm a huge fan of Loub. And here's the thing. How wet you naturally are. Does not necessarily indicate over how turned on you more every night stand. What? Every night stand. Every night stand. I want to live. That's all I want. Is that too much to ask for? Like, I don't think that's hard.

I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don't think that's hard. I don to do that's all I want is that too much to ask for like I don't think that's hard I just got their Bibles and every nightstand in the Bible in the hotel exactly you should have a little a thing of Loop right next to those by at least in the hotels. I think that's brilliant. Yes, I know that's they give you shampoo shampoo, they give you soap why not why don't they get they know everyone's having sex no tell they do know that idea Afterwards get the condom off your penis into the trash What are your condom or moom or not in the water bed? Do you tie the thing that when you take off the condom, what do you do?

I'll let you do it with them. I can't take the trash out. Really? No, but you take it off. I'd spend so long since I've used the condom in my room. Right, I got it. Right, because you're married. I'm a married man.

Okay, so here's the emotion part. You might feel worried or guilty or exposed or who knows what you feel? You might be late. Tie it off. You tie it off. You can't flush it. You can't flush it. You can't flush it.

You know, just flush. Don't flush it. Throw it in the trash. But you know, if you're weird or guilty or all this if talk to someone, talk to a person about it. You don't want to get set like Anderson, have a traumatic experience that like, you know, it is provides a fresh your life. So I got to even tell my friend.

I should have a bragging on my friend. How did you not? I didn't even do that. Until when, until now? Yeah, years later, I talked about it. But like my friends are all the group that we hung out with, none of them knew. Because you were a barista.

It was like secret set. I would think that as a 14 year old boy, it would be like, you would tell everyone. Yeah, I would. And I never, I never, I never, I was a star. You were seer again? I thought that was rude. Sorry on the market once,

since you gave me like a deer in the headlights Look like years later. Really she remember do I can't remember never never never does it matter. Okay, we don't even our name although We could Google her. I was always very drunk too. I think she might be dead which would freak out I would freaking me out. I don't know. She wasn't on the road to safety anyone that had sex with the idea of them being dead is creepy Oh, yeah, I think everyone's a lifestyle. I'm fed to them on Facebook. Yeah. Okay. Sorry.

We got some emails, dude, death. Okay, thank you for emailing me feedback. Okay, those are my version of things. I hope they covered it for a lot of you. Let me know if you have more questions. Just don't stress out. I mean, and make sure you're with someone that you trust and don't feel pressure to have sex.

Don't sweat it. Okay, emails, thank you for emailing me. Feedback at sexbammy.com you all rock. I love hearing from you and I love, when you include your name, where you're listening from, how you listen in your age. It's just so awesome. Okay, hi Emily.

I met this guy six years ago, we've been friends ever since. I've always been interested in him, but I didn't seem like his type, so I never pursued anything. In the last few months, I've noticed subtle things that make me think he want something more than a friendship with me, like handholding in front of our friends, whispers in my ears, being close to my face during conversations and paying for me whenever we hang out.

He even went 15,000 eight miles away to be exact, to do a few shows. And while I'm break between those shows, he came back and only wanted to see me myself and my family. What shows now I'm obsessed. I know now he's a band guy. I don't know. Though I've noticed all his signs that I do see myself with him, I want to be at least 80% positive. He actually feels that way towards before I pursue him and possibly get my feelings hurt. Is there any way to get him to divulge his feelings towards me first or do I have to jump in with both feet and help us not getting hurt?

Help us to out also great, also keep up with the great podcast. Thanks, Tamika 29, Louisville, Kentucky. Louisville, Kentucky. It sounds like such a dude email, doesn't it? I listen to your shows on the podcast app. No, why? Be 80% thing, that's such a guy thing.

I will not move forward unless I am 85% 80% confirmation. I get it though. As a woman, like I get it, like no one wants to be rejected. Okay. Let's just and he clearly don't you think he sounds like he's interested in her for six years? Yeah. If this was her father, her brother, would it make her super uncomfortable with what he's doing? Yeah. Probably. So yeah, he probably does like you. And this has been going on for a long time and five and a half years of just being friends

and now he's just like, at the last six months, he's like, yeah. And holding a van for dates. Either you've been downplaying it and you're not realizing that maybe there have been signs there before or something has just started. Some switch. It does happen.

It does happen. I hear a lot of guys say that girls can't grow on guys and that's total BS. Absolutely. Oh, you think that girls say that, oh, guy, you don't think that I grow on girls all the time. Like you guys are like, oh, he's, you know, guys grow on me all the time. Yeah, you got so much with girls all the time. Guys, guys growing on girls, but I've heard a lot of guys say, Hey, you know, you know, in the first two seconds, and if you're ever going to want to bang this person, and girls have completely grown on me. Yeah, see?

Because you're like a chick. No, because they get it. No, because they get it. No, because they get it. They do. I get it. You're right. I think you're obviously right.

Girl, it's true. You get the one you get to do. It's the same reasoning why it is for women. Like, you get to know someone in the smart. To grow on this guy. Yeah, exactly. So either way, you need to have a conversation. She could be lighthearted or something and just say, hey, so, we were always

holding hands before we do a lot of hand holding. What's to do with that? Why you hold my hand? Like, make a joke out of it. Like, hey, you keep holding my hand. Like, just make it light. Make it like point it out because obviously kind of a weird difference. You know, maybe he's afraid to make the move. So just, I would just call it out like that because I get her 80% scared because I would be scared. I would be like I don't be rejected either he's just a player Don't say like it. No, he can't be the other friend. No, I think it is he came back He only wanted to share his family. He all the sons are only I think that you're pretty good And I would just say a light little like I'm good at this

I'm like, what are you doing? Are you gonna hold my kissing me? Whatever he did. What do you do? Can talk closer close talk her close talking holding hand in front of her friends, too. In front of her friends and his friends. So I think it sounds good. And she does like him. You've like him a lot of. I think you're thinking you wouldn't like you. You said you're not as type. I don't know what that means. You sound hot. It's sexy. Smart to me. So that's your head. Here's the 20% go that it's not is that she's just really zeroing in on

little things that don't even register in his mind, you know what I mean? Like it just grabs her hand real quick. It doesn't even think about it because he's comfortable with her. He's leaning in and whispering in her ear like maybe that doesn't mean anything to him, but she's focusing on it because she likes him so much. That's just 20%. Yeah, that's true. That is 20%.

And you can be like, what are you talking about? So that's why I think she just says, we're hoping that we never used to hold hands or just make a joke about it. How about this just eye contact and then grab his dick and see what he does. Yeah, exactly. See if he pulls your hand away from the dick or he says suck it bitch. If he... I was gonna say if he looks away, he's not in.

If he keeps the eye gaze, he's in. But you just want straight for the suck. I don't know, I came home. But I think you know, and I think it's gonna happen the next time you see him. You're gonna figure out a way to do this, but I don't think any likes you. And I want you to email me to go what happens. Because I actually really want to know where I am. I'm very invested.

Tameca, let us know. Yeah, I really do want people to let us know what happens at this. You say that, but then there's like 30 people, and you're like, oh, they don't tell me. They're people are like, you help me so much. I'm like, well, how? We do need some updates on the show.

What updates? Hey, Emily, I just started listening to your show. It's really helped me feel comfortable with my sexuality and learning things. I met a guy in Australia last summer. Hi, I'm Mike. And had to leave to go back to school in America. We've been messaging each other over the year

and I left since we left and we're clearly interested in each other still. I want to break the news. I'm a virgin to him, but don't know I know back to the virgin thing, but I don't know how to go about it. I wanted to know before I moved back to Australia and meet up with him. I'm 18.

He's 19 just to give him some background. Love listening to you and the guests on your show and hope you're having a great spring. XX Gabby. Oh, Gabby. She's falling for the down under under under. I'm so glad she's enjoying the show and learning what? She's not enough dude. State side.

I don't know. This is what happens. You think it's a thing they would talk to him for a year. The accent's kind of cute. That guy called the show over there. My question is you're going to my pecka. He's got an issue with the dick I think. So she might want to steer clear.

Oh my god, that was in your boyfriend called. Gabby, I say run for the house. My biggest concern here is when you say break the news to him. It's not a bad thing. Like she's not breaking the dude who got to break the news. I'm a virgin, right? Did you pick this one on purpose? Purpose because it all ties in

together with it. I wanted to have a little Virgin topic here because yeah. And I think that she's sharing information about himself. So I think she can wait until she sees them and I think we ashamed of don't like don't start emailing about your video texting or cross time. Oh crap around. No, it's fine. You know what? He doesn't need to know until you see him. I mean unless you think you have to be you should break the news. So if're gonna apologize to nothing apologize about got his handful with warm bats and the great Bearer of reef Bleach him out because of El Nino. Yeah, he's got enough going on

He doesn't need to know about that and I really do think that he might for the wrong reasons really fixate on the fact Oh, this American girls got the I could crack the hymen you know what mean? And and she he would want to do it for the wrong reasons. Right. If he's no furious at all, right. I keep going back to that movie kids. I don't know if you ever saw kids back. I did see kids and I keep thinking of Tully who he wanted to do was bang virgins.

And that's all he did all day. He even friends with us. Oh my God. That movie was so disturbing. I never seen it after another virgin after another version. And that's what I'm picturing when I'm picturing these guys finding out that they might have a shot at cracking the hymen. Yeah, we don't know how he's going to feel about it.

And I don't think you have to share it to your whistler and your comfortable. You don't need to break anything. Right. Don't do it. Except the hymen. Get a break that. Right, break the hymen.

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