Sex With Emily - Caution: Sexy When Wet

Episode Date: November 12, 2016

On today’s show, Emily’s answering your emails, addressing some of your most pressing sex and relationship questions. Do your partner’s fantasies have you feeling less than confident in the bedroom? When’s the best time to tell a new lover that you’re a squirter? And what do you do when SHE comes too quickly? Emily and Anderson answer your emails, discuss the dilemma of dating with kids and even debate some of Redditor’s top sex tips. Plus, how many college students are actually hot for teacher? Find out in this information-packed podcast! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Today's show we're answering your sex and relationship questions, including how to date online when you have kids, what to do when she comes too quickly and why your partner's fantasies are not a threat to all this and more, thanks for listening. There's just something about the fall that makes me feel like cuddling up with an old friend. And hey, you guys may have some fun memories too. Yes, I'm talking about the Intensity by Pormaw. The Intensity is an amazing product that has made a serious impact on my life.

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It was a thing. It was wrapped. And it's a wrapped gift. What is that? It's for you and your wife and little baby out of guests. I've been a dad for just over three weeks now. And here's the thing about newborns. Tell me about it.

OK, moms, they just love them. It's instinctual because they've been growing inside of them. And from the moment before they even see the baby, like, she's already in love with this kid. For the dad, it's like, it's, it's a learning curve. It is. And I love him. I'd do anything for him. But if this was like, if we lived in some kind of parallel universe where like, they started this toddler's and became newbornss I would not be looking forward to this phase

Right, no, I get it. You know what I mean? Right can't talk can't really even smile All he does is peas and cry is not how do you get right? But I you know I've had those moments and I absolutely love him and there's nothing better like when I'm actually stressed I go and I cuddle with him for like about 20 30 minutes And he's a really good baby. He only cries when there's something actually going on But newborns it's not my jam. No, no minutes. And he's a really good baby. He only cries when there's something actually going on. But newborns, it's not my jam. No, no, dude, I get it.

Looking forward to opening this gift. Open it. This is wrapping paper. It's like a shower curtain. Dude, it's special wrapping paper. Did you know? Yeah, I got it in your Amazon. You told me you registered.

We registered for this. Yeah. OK, because it's elephants. And the wife is all about elephants. I know. Well, I rather mind actually. This is so great! This is like one of the things on your registry and it's like a crib thing.

This is so nice, Sam. This is so nice! Yeah! It's elephants and it's for the crib, so every time. And it goes perfectly with that, uh, that, that nursery that I spent six months in my life on. Exactly, right? Should we take a picture of you opening the elephants? Everyone check out our Instagram.

This is new fascinating. Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. Oh, that's great. And you're so freaking supportive. Thank you so much. Oh my god, I love you. The baby needs sheets, isn't that what it is? It was a crib thing.

Or I kept trying to split to be honest. We couldn't figure out what it is called. What is it called? I think it's like a bumper. Bumper! Yeah. Bumper for the crib. I think you guys picked it off.

Okay, so anyway, happy baby. Yeah, you're so welcome. But I hear what you're saying, and I think it's probably helpful for a lot of men and women like, to learn to thing having a kid. Like, you're not right away. No, no, no, there's no, there's no, like, how-to book.

Actually, there are a lot of how-to books, but I purposely kind of avoided them because I didn't want to go in feeling like I knew everything. I figure people have been doing this for eons. Without books. Literally billions of people have done this before me and my wife, and I want to think, it was really fun though going through all the milestones I've been doing this for eons without books literally billions of people have done this before me and

My wife and I want to it was really fun. They're going through all the milestones are to becoming You know over the next like 12 months. It's like oh, there's like week a month two is when he starts to actually use like a Pincher Grass bean and when he starts to smile for real. There's a lot of really fun stuff coming up if you didn't read about it Well, I was reading the milestones just I looked at the chart No, right that that's easy. Just quick, quick, quick. And then, and then, and month three, if he doesn't smile, you'll be like,

God damn it. Yeah, they have like charts, like he'll be falling behind if he's not doing this. And it's like, I'm not gonna do that. Cause I'm my wife's way smarter than I am. And she didn't talk until she's like three or something. She was like, maybe, and she didn't crawl or walk. Everyone, everyone goes to their own pace.

Absolutely. That's good. Well, congratulations, I can't wait to meet the baby. And I'm sorry if you're disappointed that wasn't like a really large sex tour. No, I love it. It's actually a little bit different. Oh yeah, I was afraid that it was a blow up toy or something for the baby. That'd be an odd decision on your point.

I want to put a pass you though. And also before we move on, let me just say thank you to you and to Madison and your entire team and Eddie. And all the listeners who helped out make the campaign. So, for your movie. Successful, yeah. We got, when everything's done, we got $85,000,

and I asked for 75,000. So it was hugely successful. It was amazing. And now I have to make a really. And this is my first feature. An appropriate feature film that will embarrass my son. Can't wait. That is great, dude.

That's what you got to do. He'll learn from his dad. He'll be very proud of you. You give birth to a film and a child. And it's all that sexuality and homosexuality and identity. Yeah, I almost read the script. Group mentality. So, yeah, it's going to be right up your head.

I think it's the way that you feel. I hope that you take that in and you feel really, that's a big accomplishment. And I'm very proud of you. So Anderson was doing a crowdfunding campaign. Yeah. As I've been blabbering on about on this show for weeks now. But it's not, you know, and I just think that it also testament to the fact that we sat for, we taught, I've known you

for four, five years now. Yeah, you've been the most supportive non-family member during this entire time. Because I think that's it. Way more supportive than the other people that I will not name that I've worked with in the past. They won't know, they are. They will never know.

But, but, but interesting because it's so easy to support you. And also this is a, I mean, I mean, if you don't mind me sharing, that like probably year and a half ago, we used to sit and talk before the love line show is about stuff in life. And now we always get there early.

Right, we get there early and we'd sit and talk and we do the show this show there before love line. And we were talking, you're like, I don't know. That's secret. No one was supposed to know. You're like, you know, I don't know if I can do it. I don't know if I can do it. I'm like, one step at a time. I never said I didn't know if I could do it. No, but you were like I just don't know I was just down on myself

Cuz I was on the side I'm always behind yeah And then you just started doing it and you started and you got things in place and it all happened and and I think you were like Yeah, you're beating yourself up and now it happened now you put them on me or my cheerleader and you're great And I really really appreciate that I'm gonna be more of that in the future So I'm gonna lean on you as I'm actually making this thing too. Don't keep up with your James at my point. Yeah. You have something you want to do.

You're probably in your own way. We're all getting in our own ways, but sometimes you need someone to help you get out of your way. I just know that I don't want to die with any regrets, or any big regrets, you know what I mean? Like I still regret not kissing that girl named Nikki and ninth grade, I should have kissed her and I didn't want to die,

and I've never made enough of a movie or trying to have a kid. Right. Exactly. You did both in like a month. Yeah. That's amazing. We didn't make it. We made it.

I think it's a good point. I don't have regrets. I always, I think that regrets are a waste of time. What you can do is look at situations and say, you know what? This is what I learned from that time in my life. I was, I didn't have the tools yet to kiss her and have the confidence to kiss the girl or to take that job or to take that risk. But I learned that next, you know,

that's times that the next time it happens, I want to and this is why I just learned things. Don't hang on to the regret. If it's a little bit of growth, like all bad things that happen to you, hopefully you can use them as positives down the road. Because I've had a lot of bad things happen to me, but I'm still trucking them.

Every bad thing you get through and I think the more bad things happen to you in a way you get, you're even stronger. We learn from all of that. I'm still still trucking them. Every bad thing you get through and I think the more bad things happen to you in a way you get you're even stronger. We learn from all of that. It must be a very strong man. Mr. Universe over here. Oh, you're doing great. Okay, everyone.

So back to this, there's just so much. I feel like I haven't seen you. Well, in a minute, but first I want to talk about how much I love Loub because you're sucking on someone right now. No, this is my head spray. But I'm I'm amazed because our Loub is about to end because the people at Joe who make loop, we love them. They asked me what my dream loop would, dream loop would be.

So we started a loop survey because I said, well, I'll make a dream loop, but I want to talk to my listeners and see what kind of loop they want. So anyway, we put up a survey and we've had like over a thousand responses. So we've extended it like another week or so. Go to sexwithmlay.com slash dream loop, take a very short survey, think about five minutes and there's also some questions on there that have been really helpful about the show. Like what people like, they don't like stuff like that, but again, it's five minutes, we appreciate it.

I love that. Thank you for doing that. And yeah, we do now we have some sex in the news. Sex in the news. Okay, more than one in 10 college students have slept with a professor. I just found this interesting, because I didn't know anybody.

Maybe everyone was sleeping with professors, but they didn't admit any college. I would never have looked at a professor and thought, that's someone who's even attractive, or an option, or anything like that. But maybe I was very innocent. I'm with you. I've never been attracted any of my professors. I know that's a lot of people's fantasies, but not and I never had friends

that slept with the professor. Something maybe this sample came from one college and there was one professor over there that was paying an everybody. I don't think so. Okay, the numbers you had the survey from the folks at college stats.org who must know something. Would surprise anybody. It says they don't think the numbers would. Everyone is a friend and their friend circle hooked up with a professor or TA, which I do not. During their four year undergrad experience, hell, maybe it was even you. It might be unethical for the folks administration, but everyone knows chemistry happens.

You put a bunch of horny, 20 somethings together for the sake of higher education. And here's what happens. So over half of us admit to fantasizing about a professor, 52 percent. One in four would activate you, they would get caught. So chances are at least one of your lecture makes got dirty with the professor or TA three in 20 students of Eddett Fair. And one in five of the affairs was the teacher of the sciences. What?

I don't know what that means. Why would you use the sciences? Because it's so boring, maybe. Maybe, and maybe they somehow feel like you're with the science. Maybe it's biology. Okay, I was saying a little biology after class. I have no idea. Science teachers aren't hot. I'm thinking about all of my science teachers, none of them are hot.

Yeah, but you might find their minds really sexy. And I don't think you can't say science teachers are all in hot. That's not about osmosis small. So it's not hot. I'm sure it's true. I might sleep with them to get a no to get a better rate. I would never do that. Oh, am you just admitted to maybe being a whore? I wish I was a whore. I think I'd have better stories. I was never a whore. Never too late. What do that mean? See, then how would you even define a whore?

Hey, you're getting paid a favor for sex. People assume that I am. You might as well already might as well hit that tap that tap it you offering your services no I'm just saying like I was never a whore but people assume it so I might as well right I'm not even interested right now it's a longer story okay so let's move on to uh I have another one. To you? Sex and news? Yeah. Don't you don't ask me, I love the sex and the news. To you, the sex and news. 18 things everyone should know about sex according to Reddit. So we were talking before the show.

You made some, producer made some thing that everyone knows what Reddit is. Reddit is very important. I'm not sure that everyone, everyone, knows what it is. Well, you have so many listeners, I'm sure there's a couple out there that aren't familiar with Reddit, but Reddit is massive

It is massive, but I feel like it is the sort of like underground like underbelly One of the reasons why it's trusted by the millennials is because it's not like owned by any kind of giant corporation Even though it has been sold. I think it did sell about a year and a half ago. I could be wrong I don't know anything internet. I tried to just only watch movies You know anything internet right try not to go on the Internet's at all do you watch a movie a night I know even before maybe do I watch how many movies do you watch a night or a week I try and I have to watch at least five for my shows and you always have contests consistently yes yes it's a lot of movies so I want to that right before I came here it's amazing moonlight moonlight yeah it's a movie about homosexuality in the inner cities. It's tough one. Yeah, it's tough one especially now, but

Black dude live in the gay life in the urban modern day city is a sad sad guy. It's a new movie. Yeah, it's not right. It'll probably make some noise at the award season. Moonlight. Moonlight. All right, so once again, okay, when it comes to sex, well this is about Reddit, because I do get the Reddit boards, but you go down this thing and you're like, half the people are like, I don't agree with you. Like I get it's a place where people to express, it's like basically a...

That's why. It's a sound in the board, yeah. And you can hear it. So you can only see the stuff that you wanna see, like that you're interested in, and you can see the people's opinions about it. But according to these Reddit people that there was an ask reddit thread about what

everyone should know about sex and they thought that many of the responses were so dead on accurate. Okay. And I don't know how who picked on reddit. Right. The authority that said these were pretty accurate. Maybe it was the ones that came up as many times, so many times repeatedly. Right. So, okay. So, I'm going gonna say that I agree with you. So once as always P after always, I agree. Because I think it's a good refresher for everyone too, because I'm just gonna read the ones that I told you to agree with.

You should always P after sex, men and women. P, get that bacteria out, something got in there, get it out. And give yourself an excuse to go to the bathroom and high five yourself for a job well done. Exactly. There can be weird and awkward bodily noises, just laugh it off or ignore it. So true.

We get asked a lot, like, what happens if I cleave? What if I fur? What do I do? Keep going. Laugh or don't laugh. Just keep going, if you're having sex, no one cares. And I think when you're younger and starting out, you worry about all these things.

But sex is messy and loud and noisy and beautiful. Right. It's fine. Before asked before you stick a finger on your dude's butt. Or hers. Yep, or hers butt. It's funny because we do this on Instagram. If you don't follow us on Instagram, which is weird to me, you should.

But we do these five biggest mistakes you're making in bad videos. I think we have the fifth one left to still post. But the last one was by anal sex and my friend called me or someone in my somatical class had to be, well, I learned now, like, I can't just stick a finger on the butt. I'm like, why? So I learned that in your video. She actually learned. She didn't know.

I just thought she was keeping her finger through herself. She was always sticking figures in guys' butts randomly. It's like a little surprise. Please point her out next time we're at a... I'm like, asks. In the same room, I don't want to shake her hand. Got it. She seemed pretty clean to me about.

Point her out. So, I toweled nearby or in use is never ever a bad idea. I agree. So this goes back to Hepatowell. Like afterwards, if you come on her, like if you, whatever, I think it's really nice for guys to like clean it off. Go to the bathroom.

We've talked about this, warm. This is why I don't use those motel, a little hand by the wash gloss. I never touch them, because I just imagine that they're covered in semen. Dude, everything in hotel room is covered in semen. No, don't say that. I'm about to live in one for a week Especially that one. Oh, I am

Don't touch the remote. Oh, dude. Yes, don't touch the remote. Well, how am I supposed to get the TV on? You should bring like what wipes or something You probably have what wipes now with the baby. No, I got what wipes galore you right don't touch anything in there I almost I don't know what it makes me really grossed out so I don't know what time it makes me really grossed out so What was that? The one thing that doesn't get cleaned in hotels Yeah, oh Motel six is where I like to go and I don't think much gets cleaned

Now I'm really good now. I can't even go on But I'm just saying a towel by your bed whatever you're going to there's gonna be some mess and just wipe it up Especially if you like don't make her get although she used to get up in pee no matter how many times you are You're always like that the towel or the shirt. It's always just out of arms reach. So you gotta do that awkward thing where you're like scrambling in the room to try and find something to mop up.

Yeah, you know it's gonna have to keep in your bedside store, keep a little towel. Okay, it's true what they say about size. It really doesn't matter unless you have pathologically small one. However, that doesn't mean there are no expectations laid upon you, how hard you can give it to her and how long does it matter.

Plenty of fact. I still, I like the first part of this. I don't even know what pathologically small means. It is really true that size does not. I'm telling you, like, just like the size of my breasts, guys, would be with me because my breasts are not large enough. Size of your penis. We have preferences with that.

You can't tell with a peen though. You can tell with a breast. Right, well, the public. Yeah, but I can be wearing. You should see the last week I was wearing big... You could pat it up. People, I was wearing a bra and I had... It was a push-up, it was a thing and people...

It was nice, but it had a nice cleavage. Well, a dolly part and thing going on. Something going on and you would think so I could be lying. It could be a optical illusion that I'd be... But I'm just saying, you guys don't trip on your size. Um, cut your fingernails. This is a great one. Yeah.

You got to. I've got. Because for guys and women. I've dated girls who say that they... The first thing. This is a great one. Yeah. You got to. I've got. Guys and women. Updated girls who say that they, the first thing they do is they look at a guy's hands. Yeah, it's true. That's a, this is going to be one of those things that you were like, I heard this in sex with them. Like, it is true.

Guys, like, cut your fingernails, wash them like in a shower, like take one of those, even like those buff things and like get dirt out. Yeah, yeah. The dirt, dirt, dirt, things.. Because guys, you do look at that. And I wonder too, I hear you when you go to the bathroom and you come out and you don't wash your hands and then you want to start falling around. Like there's bacteria.

But the fingernail thing is good, important too for guys, because you can like rip her. Like if you go inside and your fingernails are not even sturdy, you could snagger and you could like rip. I was on a date with a girl once and she said, look at your fingernails. All I can think of when I see that is if you finger bang me it would hurt and that was our last date And I did not finger bang right well good

But now but did you go do have you quite your nails? I think about that all the time or like I did at least before I was You know locked up or as like I want to make sure my hands don't look painful You don't want those fingers to be true. That would be a total. I agree. That's a good one painful. You don't want those fingers to be painful. That would be a total I agree. That's a good one. You just let's see what else. It's okay for guys to make noise and that girls dig it. Ah, so true. I want to give every guy permission to make noise. I think that guys don't realize that they're not making noise. I maybe maybe guys were present because I think that they don't know what noise to make and it sounds weird. Or I think a lot of times guys were just trained for masturbation to be quiet because they're afraid someone's going to hear them. Years of experience under the parents roof. to make and it sounds weird. Or I think a lot of times guys are just trained from masturbation to be quiet,

because that's what the fates of what's going to hear them. Years of experience under the parents roof. Right. Well, because we're not telling you what noise to make, but your body naturally wants to make a noise. And I love this one. It's nothing like porn. Don't have your expectations of sex be like,

it's going to be just like porn. It's fortunately a lot of these guys, I think nowadays are making it just like porn porn because that's the only sex thing they know By the time they're actually having sex themselves. They're trying to make it like porn and understanding why it doesn't work Well, I'm gonna finish on your face now honey. I know. I'm trying to say that means we're last babies So that's kind of good for the population. What if they're coming in every one's face. Yeah, it's not pregnant What it's on your face? You don't know you don't know honey. It's not safe. It is true. It's not like porn nothing I'm born They pregnant when it's on your face. You don't know you don't know honey. It's not safe It is true. It's nothing like porn nothing wrong with porn

For titillation, but not for your that's why we exist to help people to the light Okay, so I think those were some of the highlights. Yes, reddit Emily look at Emily all hip on the reddit love it I'm not not hip on reddit. I just not hey, you know snapchat snapchat is the most confusing thing I've ever looked everyone says that and I don't know how I figured it out but I did. You did. I love my steps. You kill it. Thank you, honey. From what I've heard, I can't figure it out.

I know. I don't know. One day I literally got locked in my house and I had 10 minutes and I just sat there and I stared at it and figured it out. And then I googled stuff. Here's a thing about Snapchat. I googled what does it mean to do to do. Yeah.

Or you can YouTube and then it's 12 year old to say, okay, today we're going to be looking at how to do this on Snapchat. You take like seven minutes to get to it. Oh, I hate those videos. I know, that's those videos. You know, I'm talking about it. This is a YouTube video for every day.

Yeah, for everything, there's always like a 12 year old who knows everything about the computer or the program that I'm trying to figure out. And it takes forever for them to get to it. That's not made sense. Please like my page and subscribe. That's my nappy that you want to go to. OK, we can be bunch of emails, but first you know what we're

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It just comes up. It's such a psychological little thing. I know. That's not why they told me I had to. You're kidding. It's Mike specifically for Emily, like all the volumes and the equalism and everything. Equalizer, the EQ, yes.

Yes, I got it. Equilibrium. And equalizer. How that moves. I didn't know producer Madison knows which are a terminal. It's not sound engineer Madison, I would like to point out.

Yeah, but do your killing down the sound dude, you're freaking killing it. No, the other shows that I do work on though, like they're always special. You're never killing Brian, like he always demands and I switch it when he's not looking, so I'm in the number one Jack, and then he gets all like upset.

It's pretty good. Really, that's pretty awesome. I'm on mic number four, which makes me feel very relaxed. But you always feel good anyway. So it's pretty natural. I just feel natural though. OK, emails.

Yeah. Let's get onto that, people. God, I keep doing this thing with my computer where it stumes in. Oh, that's the double tap. The double tap. You know, I fix that, turn the computer on and off. No, I just shut the document.

The other day, I cannot get the entire thing with double tap, so I turn the computer on and off. No, I just shut the document. The other day, I cannot get the entire thing was double tap, so I just turn it on and off. And I have a tech guy who says that he makes 90% of his... I'm turning off for no one thing. Yeah, 90% of his job is just going into people's offices and turning the computer on and off. He's a 90% of what he gets paid for is rebuilding people's computers. I can do that if things don't work out.

It's another 10% though, that's where he makes the big bucks. Okay, so I have a question that you want me to answer on the show. I love that and now it's so easy to submit your questions. Go to sexwithemily.com, click on the Ask Emily tab, fill out the form, hit submit, that's it. You can also leave me a voicemail and that's 818-ask-sw-e1 and our 818-275-7E1 and are 818 275 7931. And then there's also the, oh, how about the thing on the form where they can be checked,

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I promise, I'm not selling your information. Not about. We just want to, I just think it's fun to talk to people. Absolutely. It's fun. It's fun. Don't get me wrong. But we can really get go deep and get there and I can answer like because now it's listening going wait. I don't know how old you are. I don't know what happened the day before. I have no idea how many emails that I've covered with you on the show and but I've never done one where I didn't have at least one question for the emailer but they're not there. So you can't ask it. And you were great on the last calling show. We just did together.

It was our first or second one. Despite my four status here, I'm always great. You are always great. OK, here we go. Emily, I love your podcast. I have an interesting question that I'm hoping you can help with. I've just recently started to attempt online dating using OKCupid.

It's going pretty well, but I have one issue that keeps popping up. I have a child. And while I don't talk nonstop about her in my bio or during conversations, she does come up multiple times on my page. It's obvious that I do have a kid, but I keep getting guys who message me that have don't want kids in their bio. I'm not sure if they're not reading my page or if they don't care and want to try anyways. Do I bring it up or just roll with things. I don't want to be like, hey, I got a kid right after that because maybe they know that and are just trying anyways. Also, should I now reply to guys who don't want kids? I feel like there's an obvious answer, but I'm so confused.

Thanks for any help. Check this though. I know your face Anderson is going, what? Brittany, 19 years old Illinois. So she black me. So she's 19. And so that makes it, it's why your age is so important. I don't know how old the kid is. But we don't know, like we'll never know if these guys are reading your bios or they just don't mind is the truth.

And we could assume that's either not a big deal or maybe they overlooked it. But if you're messaging, messaging by a guy who seems interested in, you know, getting to know you and you want to get him, you could just like start a conversation with them and say, Hey, so yeah, that sounds fun. But I noticed in your bio, you said you don't want kids. I have a kid.

You could just get it out of the way. You could also talk to them on the phone first because I think I know that 19 people aren't talking on the phone, but I think if you've matched with someone before you go on a date with them, I don't think it's better even if I'm a 50-minute call. I don't think that the younger people are gonna think that, like 19-year-old Brittany, I don't think she's going to be down with the phone calls because she's younger,

but it would really come in handy, Brittany, because you could be like talking to like, say Joe Schmo and then like, say, yeah, so anyways, I'm glad that you like my brother. Hey, would you be quiet? Like, you're not your kid off the phone. Oh, sorry, that's my daughter. Yeah, sorry, my daughter's putting her diaper on her head again.

Sorry. That's actually not a bad idea. Working in a conversation. But I think you're overthinking. I mean, you obviously understand why, but you could just take the guesswork out of it. Just get to the bottom of it. I bet you a lot of guys are saying I don't want kids now.

Right. Especially in your age bracket. Yeah, because you're 19. And maybe if they don't want kids, perfect, they, they like kids and you have one, they don't have to have one of the, they might be like, I don't want to be a dad right now. Right. And I don't know what you're looking for, Brittany. So again, I think I get that it's also at 19, not as many women on the dating sites might have a kid. But that's also, I think, you know, when you sit in that, you'll find the guy that's like,

wow, that's awesome that you're a mom. And I'm cool with that because I love you and they'll fall in love with your kid. And maybe. These are probably 22, 23 year old screwballs. She should put it, sound like she's already put it in her bio and she should put it towards the top of the bio. So if a guy doesn't know about it,

it's his own fault for just looking at a picture and being a pick, you know what I mean? So that if it turns out to be an issue later, she can say, hey, is right there in the front of my bio that I'm a single mom. Right. And also, a little preachy, just be an issue later, she can say, hey, is right there in the front of my bio that I'm a single mom. Right. And also, a little preachy. Just be careful, Brittany, you don't have another kid

with somebody else now. Right, we're con. Let's be careful. Pretend. 19 is a little young. 19, it is young. And finally, do not be introducing your kid to any of these people you're dating.

Do not. This person, whoever you introduce your kid to, I don't know how old your kid is, I'm assuming very young, but once the kid is old enough to understand what's going on, make sure that this is a real solid person in your life because that's how you mess kids up. Really mess them up with like guys coming and going.

Yeah, exactly. What you're entitled to do, you're young and you gotta live your life. You gotta play the field and figure out who's right for you, but don't be introducing your young child to that. So there's a part of me that, yeah, exactly. Don't introduce the kid. It also, don't go back and forth.

You could also take the other approach and not even talk to these guys, but like the ones who didn't read my profile and they say they don't want kids, let's just assume it's not your guy, because he didn't read and he doesn't want kids anymore. But I mean, casual dating, you don't know what it's gonna lead to.

And it just because, I can see a lot of 22, 23 year old guys saying they don't want kids, but they'd be willing to go out on a date with a girl. So it was a good practice. Yeah, it could be good practice. Okay, so, you know, I say just go with your eyes open. And also, I know that you're dating online, which I love, but it's also great to let your friends know you want a date and just put yourself out there.

And good luck to you. But I get it's confusing. We had a girl that hung out in our circle of friends and she used to date around a lot of us. And she had a girl that hung out in our circle of friends and she used to date around a lot of us and she had a kid and her nickname was baggage. And people would actually call her baggage to her face. She went with it, she thought it was kind of funny, but say, hey, if you see baggage here,

and we're back. That's nice, pretty good like that. Yeah, maybe that could be her nickname. Actually, if you would get a baggage Brittany. Maybe you could make that your name on your profile. I just said that. Right there in your face. Oh, did you say that? I just said that, but you don't listen to me.

I don't. I saw you making faces at Madison. I get scared because you guys edit me sometimes when I say bad things. No, no, that's because we're calling our baggage. But I think she sounds super kind of her confusion is just like which guy do I do? Yeah. So I open. Yeah, how do I figure it out?

Okay, 52-year-old straight married male from Colorado who lives, who listens via the overcast podcast app. I love what he did here, because I always ask you all, name, age, where you live, how you listen. He just nailed it. I have an issue I have yet to hear on your show. My wife of 19 years comes too quickly. Yes, she actually orgasms and isn't faking.

It takes very little for her to reach climax and once she does, she actually orgasms and isn't faking. It takes very little for her to reach climax, and once she does, she is done. Me, in the other hand, takes a very long time. Obviously, this proves to be a problem as she comes first and is done. She isn't too much into foreplay as she ends up coming early, so everything I have been taught

falls apart completely. She doesn't like giving oral, she will sometimes, but never to completion. Because she comes so quickly, she is always in a rush to get me to finish. Once she's done, she gets starts questioning me if I'm done. Major turn off.

Is there anything you can suggest to make her last longer and be more into it? Thanks, Dennis 52 Colorado. He's right, we don't get this allowed. We often hear from women who are like, he comes too quickly, like there's this orgasm gap, like we always talk about and what, you know, what do you do about this?

And they put them together 19 years. I'm gonna be quiet on this one and just let you go at it. And I'm gonna keep you honest though. So go ahead. Let's see what you have to say about this issue. I'm not feeling pressure. Why do you keep it?

Could you think I'm reversed it? Cause it's a man and I'm not. I'm gonna say these exact things. All right, you know what? I don't want, not. I'm gonna say these exactly. You know what? I don't want, yeah. If this was reversed, how? You know, like, shit. That's what I said.

What did you mean? Give me this guy. If the guy was like, all right, you done yet? You think I should make your wife's a bitch. I can't believe she doesn't care. You know, if we do want that, if we're the guy kind of. I do not, I've never said anything negative about my own. You know, imagine a guy who finishes real fast

and then starts to try and get his girlfriend or wife to finish and he's like are you finished? Are you done yet? Looking at his watch? Yeah, I have a time you give that guy shit. I wouldn't give him shit I would just say I never say guys or I don't yell at anyone. You know, I know you don't yell at me Madness has his two like you've done the same for you like you were totally did it that I just say to because People do shbags you and I agree the people are douchebags when we get you know, I don't love just to label people I feel like we all have good bad enough can I judge I really try

not judge I'm not judge I let's just talk about this okay we don't talk a lot because it doesn't come up and that doesn't what I love to is oh it just because we don't get emails over this I'm sure there are other men in his situation who for sure have this experience the cold rich is one of these what yeah Nicole Richie she was on Loveline talking about how she comes really fast all the time. She says she sits on the cold floor in the bathroom and she comes. She's just constantly coming quick. It's weird. Really?

Yeah, there are some women that are like, there are definitely some women. And I feel like, okay, so when this situation is reversed as it often is, I always make it clear that the, you know, man needs to be sensitive to his partners needs and to slow down make sure that you know she's taking care of and I'm going to say the same exact thing here that I understand that you guys are in your routine after being together for so long but things got to change here because you I love that she can come so quickly that's awesome but she can also you know you guys can slow this down with, for play and let her know, first of all,

first of all conversation, have you talked about this? You've to let her know, not just like, you need to slow down or I need a blow job, but like how does it make you feel that she's kind of disregarding your pleasure? Like it probably doesn't feel very good. You're probably feeling like neglected and not very sad, Clearly you're not satisfied.

And just let her know that like it's something that's like really important to you and that you both got to be getting your needs met. The only thing that really is a trigger here, though, is her saying, are you done yet? And her being impatient. Otherwise, she's doing the Lord's work, right? She's actually taking care of him after she's finished.

She's not though. She's not. She sometimes gives gives him blowjob sometimes she does. I thought most most of the time she does. No most. When she does okay what once she does she's like looking at her watch. Yeah exactly. She's like I'm done I'm done and now maybe you guys have fear. Busy you got kids I get it there's a lot that goes on and you get into these routines but she could probably learn to have an org. You have a multiple orgasms first of all. She has one and she's done. I think that she's missing out on a lifetime

of having multiples, like never too early to start, never too late to start learning to have orgasms. And like, here's the thing about sex, is she could also like have, you could start with four play, fooling around, and then she could, you know, she could have orgasm, then she could start pleasing you. You could, you know, if you need to like Bring in like a flashlight you guys

Her spring in her sister, you know, have a threesome, you know, she can take a break and like Kind of kidding. No, but I'm saying like that there were a fractory period for women to have like multiple orgasms Like if she quickly orgasms, she might not have tried it. A lot of women just think they're done. She could truly be going down on you, but also using a vibrator, using her fingers, and I bet she can get back on top of you and have an orgasm again. I think this can be a fun way for you guys to relearn how you're having sex. I just think that she does low jobs. I'm not sure what that's about. She doesn't want to finish you. So, bringing some porn into the situation, like I don't think that you have to live like this any longer.

I don't like that they're having sex and she's not having this climax. I can see it, this is frustrated after 19 years. That just makes me feel like this is going to be some work though because they're setting their routine. Yeah, 19 years, you got to mix it up. Yeah. Try taking her out to a got to mix it up. Yeah. Try taking her out to a hotel to start the new mix up.

Usually a new environment would be a good place to start. It's a new routine and then you can maybe bring it back to the house. Also, there's only off chance that like she has one after 10 minutes and then it takes him 45 minutes. He's not being specific here. This is what I want to say. Yeah, if he's on the phone, we're going to ask that. Maybe he is a delayed ejaculator, and that he doesn't even realize

that he's been with there so long. Well, that's, that's exact, thank you Anderson. That's exactly what I was thinking. It doubted. There are some, no, it's not real. Here's the thing, I've been with delayed ejaculators, or as Drew always says, like retarded, retarded ejaculation. Yeah, we should.

We try to cut that out, but that's actually what it's called, mentally speaking. But there are some guys who literally take some an hour, hour and a half, or they just can't orgasm. They're called messes. No, that's not true. I've been with one of these guys before, and it takes forever, and it was frustrating. I was like, I'm really good. Like I gotta say, I know how to give a good-

And you ladies always blame yourself. No, I know how to- I knew well. I knew enough to know, but I'm wondering if that's your situation as well, in which case you might not even know, Daniel, because you have been with her for so long. But if you do take an hour, which is fine, we're never going to, you know, women take 45 minutes an hour sometimes, it's just that we got to look at all the whole situation here. And you just got to find a new dance together. That's all it is. And make sure that, you know, she's on the page with us and realizing that she might not know how you're feeling. How

much is this? Yeah, have a listen to this. that, you know, she's on the page with this and realizing that she might not know how you're feeling. Right. How much is this? Yeah. Have a listen to this. You can start. Have a listen to this. Have a good time together.

Grow your sex life. Actually, you need to do anyway. You need to be expanding it. Okay. I do. We all do. You're going to, I can't wait to start talking about your sex life when you guys start. I'm assuming you have a net sex yet. It's been a dark spot.

Yeah. It's been a dark spot. You need some loop. Okay. Hi, Emily. My question is, how to. Do you need some loop? Okay, hi Emily. My question is how to tell if you should let a new partner know that you are, as many people call it, a squirter. Some backstory. I met a man while traveling.

We've been talking a while and since now he's coming to visit. When we initially met, we did not share any sexual interactions aside from a hug and a kiss on the cheek when we left each other. I know that when I have sex, I produce a lot of female ejaculate and in previous measures are not taken, the bed isn't suitable to sleep in afterwards. I want to give them a heads up, but I don't really know how to approach this.

Also, I don't want them to be disappointed if for some reason I don't squirt the first time with him, because on occasion doesn't happen though it mostly does. I have one partner, I have one other friend who has this issue many times and I always, she always struggles with telling new partners. So tell, how to tell, when to tell, let it be a surprise, let me know with love, sage. Sage. Good name, sage. I love it.

I think that you don't need to make a big deal about it before and not all. If it happens, it'll be totally psyched. But you don't want to tell him too early because I can be like, I sport and like set up this whole thing and then I'm like, I'm squirt. But if you have a sense of humor about it and he does too, you've ever seen Dexter. Dexter, the key has that he'd set up kill rooms every episode and he would kill his victim in there and he would line everything with Salafan. And that'd be kind of a funny way to let them know. And you know, you line the entire bedroom with cellophane and you walk them in there. And he's like, what's going on?

And you just look at him and go, I'm a squirt around him. So you think that's it? That would be a fun way. That would be a fun way. Yeah, he'd always remember it. Right, exactly. Cellophane, does he really like it? I'd be really excited if I walked in with a girl.

And I'm like, why are you gonna kill me? You're gonna murder me right now? Exactly, no, just gonna squirt all over me. Just gonna squirt all over me. Exactly. That's actually not a bad set of idea. It's a cellophane, although that wouldn't totally work. And you could also suffocate yourself with this.

But I guess so. I think you should just, when you guys start filling around, I don't know where you're gonna be at your house or you're gonna be in hotel, if you want to make sure that your sheets are fine, just pull out like a blanket. It extra blanket or towels and be like, hey, sometimes it gets really messy.

Sometimes it gets really wet in here. I just throw it down, see what happens. And let's take once. Do they have terry cloth sheets? Yes, so if you want to safeguard your sheets, liberator actually makes a safe blanket for that. It's called the liberator, fast-nader, throw, moisture-resistant sex blanket.

I'm assuming they probably have it at good vibrations. You could use code M-Languid Discount there. We don't have it on our site yet. We do have a lot of sex toys on our site though. I know that. So it's a throw blanket that is absorbs fluids, no more wet spots. So that's a cool thing. You could also just use your beach towels or throw some towels down and just have them by the bed like we said. Yeah, he's ever towel by the bed. Sometimes you need a little, a bigger tell by the bat if you're a squirter. But I agree, like, I've gotten wet before and that's capacity and.

Have you? Really? I've just got, I've just got a little bit bashful when she was telling me that. That was, I never see you bashful. I swear, I swear. You were like looking the other way. I can't talk to you if I want to.

A lot of you guys did, I'm realizing that hotels back to the hotel life, they would have squirting rooms and non-scoording rooms, probably, right? Like if there was more of you guys in the population,. They would have squirting rooms and non-scoirting rooms, probably, right? Like if there was more of you guys in the population, they probably would. Because they have like smoking rooms, non-smoking rooms. They'd be like, well, they didn't even have

that anymore. Animal rooms. Yeah. You squirt or not squirt? Yeah, squirting rooms. Big, right, wake up to your partner. Right, exactly. Can you imagine that like, let's go back to,

I don't really want to go back to the dirtyness hotel rooms, but if you like get so a mattress, they're not going to like change the mattress. They might flip it. They might flip the mattress. They might flip it. The flip the mattress. Oh my God. Because they're doing work. There's a reason why this keeps coming up.

Is they're doing work on the house that my wife and I rent because there's a massive league in the bathroom and where there's contractors in there for three full weeks with the newborn. We have a newborn, a cat, and three dogs, and we're nomadic right now. So we're staying in motels, hotels, in-laws. It's brutal.

That is brutal. And now I'm not going to be able to sleep tonight. Exactly. I can't even sleep thinking about you there tonight. But yeah, big, don't look, babe, babe, sage, you're good. Don't tell your friend, dude. Just don't overthink it. Just make sure there's a towel there.

Throw it down. Next time. There's another towel that happens. And he's going to be psyched that you squirt. But I would be like, listen, when you talk, I'm a squirter. Most of these things that people are emailing about, like, are not major. Even, can I go back to I'm a squirter. Most of these things that people are emailing about like are not major, even can I go back to Daniel for a second, just with the wife, Daniel and Colorado.

I feel like this is if we've been covering some of these 19 years, we need to talk, I'm really upset to say, like babe, you know what happens with us with the coming and then you come and then I don't, like let's just have some fun and figure out a way that we can both come, like make it tone, all that, very important.

And with Sage, just like when it starts to happen, you know what, I don't think you want to have a precursor, like over dinner, like by the way, if we bang later tonight, this might happen. Like when it starts going down, like you know, whisper in his ear, like sometimes I get a little messy and grab like a towel or sometimes I, and he'll be stoked, you know,

he'll probably be all that more engaged at right after you say, whisper that in his ear. I just got even more engaged. I mean, that The way you said it. Sometimes it gets, sometimes I get really messy down there. But you don't want it to sound like maybe she has crones to say either. That could totally throw it for a little. That's why I said messy, but I meant it gets, it gets wet. And you don't want to say moist. No, no one wants to voice to thicken and wait for the rest of their lives. They should not say moist. How would you say it? You just say it just to get sweat. I guess it's a squirt. You gotta say the word squirt word.

I'm not saying it's a squirt. I'm not saying it's a squirt. Yeah, every whatever guy knows that for the most part. Well, if they were watching porn. Okay, um, the time of the morning. My vagina thinks it's a fire man. That doesn't work. No, like a fire hose.

Yeah, fire. No. Okay. Okay, hi, Emily, I love your show. I like a fire. Fire. Fire. No. Okay. Okay. Hi, Emily, I love your show. I'm a 24-year-old. Am I a Chinese sneezes? This is a lot.

No, it's not good either. No. I'm a... Yeah. It is messy though. If you've ever been like, it does the whole mattress. It's a good thing. Okay.

Love your show. I'm a 24-year-old female with a 27-year-old male partner. We've been together two and a half years. I recently snooped on his phone and found a conversation with his best friend where he described his sexual dream he had about a mutual friend of ours. This mutual friend is, of course, athletic tone and muscular exactly his type. I confessed to snooping, we talked through it. These texts didn't make me think he was cheating or even interested in her, but now I keep

thinking about the fact that he thinks she is so attractive. This is especially hard for me since he likes athletic women, which she is, and I don't always have that body type only when I'm exercising regularly. It's not that I think he doesn't find me attractive. I just keep thinking that he thinks she and other women are more attractive. This leaves me feeling less attractive in bed and in general. I probably shouldn't expect my partner to think I'm the most attractive person. I get it, but now I can't get over my self-esteem issues and feeling lesser than, please help

Caitlin age 24. She also sent the text exchange, which... Oh, she did. Yeah. Look at that. I know. So, here's a thing, Caitlin. It's normal for men and women to find other people

attractive in a relationship. This is just a fact of life. This is going to happen. But I get that by you snooping, which I'm not going to judge, because I honestly feel that everybody snoops these days, right? That it's, this is going to be particularly harder for you, because you read this dream that

air this fantasy he had about this girl. Was it a dream? He had a dream, a fantasy dream fantasy hit a dream about her Which is involuntary True, but either way don't read in the subconsciousness. No, but fantasies It may be fantasized about her who knows but you dream so many random things though It's not because he wanted too necessarily right Well, that's the thing about fantasy in fact fantasy is important in a relationship because it gives us the variety

That you don't get from being with other partners so to have an active fantasy life and to be thinking about other people, I know that a lot of when you're married or committed you think it's a horrible thing. It's like cheating. It's not. It's a part our brains work. Keep things exciting. It's part of keeping our radicism alive actually is having an active fantasy. It doesn't mean that that's what he wants in real life. And you just got to trust him. Like, I feel like you already do trust him, but what has happened here now, Caitlin, is that this is wreaking havoc on your self-esteem. Which probably, like a lot of women,

it's always teetering a little bit. Like, we're always kind of working on strengthening it. But I think that you really have to, go back to the conference thing and just trusting that, you know, he finds you attractive and that you also love yourself, love your body, find yourself attractive. So when you find yourself obsessing about this, which I get it, I, I've, I've, I've snooped and then I found things out and I've been obsessive.

You've remineted. I've remineted for sure. Maybe I am OCD. We talked about that earlier. I don't think I wish I was OCD. You have a little twinge of OCD, let's move on. I don't think that there's anything that your boyfriend can do to reassure you now and make you feel better.

This is your job, okay, Caitlin? So your job is to work on your confidence, your body, like if you got to be masturbating more coming up with your own fantasies and what really turns you on, because you say it's also affecting your behavior in the bedroom. So for me, this is a great opportunity, I think, for you, when I suggest it's a great opportunity for you to say, you know what,

I'm going to feel sexy again, or whatever makes you feel the sexiest. And this is a fun experience, like whether it's like watching porn and getting to know your body, maybe you can have multiple orgasms, maybe you can have G-Spot, maybe you can squirt, who knows what, but really like work on taking control, learning know your body, maybe you can have multiple orgasms, maybe you can have G spot, maybe you can squirt, who knows what, but really like work on taking control,

learning your own body, what makes you feel good, feeling confident. He's not cheating, he's having a fantasy. What do you think? A little shady with him talking to his friend about it though, especially since it's like, they can't ever hang out with that girl again without her feeling really awkward now.

Right, right? Yeah, I don't know how good it's so much. If I had a sexual dream, but you were Madison, it's not sure to be like texting Karano saying, dude, you won't believe this man. I was having this dream, I was double teaming Madison and M last night. I got one of you that.

I know 24. That's good point. But even when I was one, but I'm different. You would have it 24. I would not have. And little sister is an mom that I loved. I was very, I never kissed and told, ever. OK, but not just you.

Not just you. I made it was his best friend. And he was like, hey, I had the spandes, you never kissed and told ever. Okay, but not just you. Not just you that I don't. I made it was his best friend and he was like, hey, I had this fantasy, you know, this text thing, but I feel like self-esteem issues are an inside job. So whether if it's really getting bad, maybe therapy, I think it's great to go and learn to let myself. And you use that energy in a good way. And there's nothing wrong with maybe getting a little bit

better shape to make yourself feel better about yourself. Not saying you have to do that in my body is Jamie by any means, but being a healthier you is not a bad thing at all. Use this energy and as motivation maybe, I know that I feel a lot better about myself and my relationships whether it's now or in the past, if I had a little bit of a toned body or I just felt better from like you know, wailing on the pitch every other every now and again. So it is true.

It is true. A lot of energy to expand to. But I've been working out. Well, I haven't lately and I feel like my skin's crawling. You look ripped. Think you're really good. But the point is I need it for my mental space and my head feels so much better. I get addicted to those endorphins. It's great. Sure. Okay. Thank you very much. Thanks, Caitlin. Let us all know how it goes. I love when we get the follow-ups of how things go and how we help people. Yes, yes. Or we didn't help people.

I think it goes. Let us know. That's what we got time for. Thanks to Anderson for coming in. Thanks for having me, Em. Leaving your baby to come see us. We love it. Yes, I know.

I've abandoned my boy to be here. It's OK. I'll be back. He'll get used to it. OK, so thank you, everyone. Thank you, Anderson. Thank you, producer Madison. Thank you, Eddie and Lori and Jamie. everyone. Thank you Anderson, thank you producer Madison, thank you Eddie and Lori and Jamie. And also you guys, thank you for subscribing.

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