Sex With Emily - Cheapskates, Cheaters & Sweaty Sex

Episode Date: April 8, 2016

On this show, Emily and Menace are addressing a slew of sex and love topics ranging from sweaty sex to cheating and everywhere in between! The two also exchange steamy Mexico vacation stories— spoiler alert: only one of them gets lucky in the end.Next, it’s on to your emails! Emily helps a listener decide whether she wants to open up her relationship or if she’s just looking for an excuse to cheat. She administers advice on how to confront your boyfriend about a lack of reciprocity in the relationship, and eases a listener’s worries on sweating during first-time sex.From ghosting to snapchat to doing the dirty with your dog in the bed, this show is packed with laughs and tons helpful information! Check it out... Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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I know, aren't we fancy now? Super fancy, I love it here. It's like a grab bag of just music and equipment. I know, right? We're like, you know what I mean? I need guitars everywhere. I'm like, oh, I need that piece. And then I just go into a room.

I'm like, yes, they have it here. I kind of like a, it's like having your own guitar center. It is like a guitar center. Yeah, it's great. I'm, it's pretty cool. I love it. I love being here. I love being here with you, menace.

I love being here with you also. How are you? I'm good. I, uh, where was I? I was in Mexico not too long ago. I saw the pictures. Yeah, I was in Porto Vellata. I don't even know if I say that right.

But it was so much fun. I partied for days and then one day I thought I would do something crazy. I go, as a goof, I go, let's go to senior frogs, which I've never been to. But that's where, you know, the notorious party spot is. And I started off in the morning and then my girlfriend and I are just drinking margaritas and non-stop. And then we go back to the resort.

We went, we stayed at the hard rock resort. Oh, God, crazy. And it's just nothing but party. It's actually not too expensive. I highly recommend it. But every single room has a jacuzzi in it, right? Every room. It's huge, as big as a hot tub, right? Outdoor jacuzzi.

No, inside the room. Okay. And all the rooms are marble. So we're there, we're drinking, we're partying. I dropped my phone and the jacuzzi were so hammered. Every room is just stocked with huge bottles of alcohol, right? I'm amazing. And my phone still works by the way.

I've phoned 6s. It did not die when you got water. It didn't, apparently there by the way. I phone 6s. It did not die when you got water. It's only their waterproof. I checked that out online. They don't really advertise that because I'm sure they don't want people testing it out. But the iPhone 6s is waterproof. That's the best you've ever heard

because I did spill a couple of coffee in my yesterday and it was fine. So I was like, what the fuck's going on? Yeah, so getting hammered all the stuff and then my girlfriend and I, we decided, you know what, let's the next one out? Yeah, so getting hammered all the stuff, and then when I go for a night, we decide, you know what, let's order room service. So we go and we order room service, and the room service comes, and I go,

you know what, I'm gonna go grab it. Why don't you even drive off because I'm so hammered, right? I go to the door and I slip, and I smash my head on the ground, blood is everywhere. No! The lady opening the door like freaks out, she's like, we gotta head on the ground. Blood is everywhere. The lady opening the door freaks out. She's like, we gotta call medical staff.

She was in your, was she like, okay? She was tripping out. She's like, you gotta call medical staff right now. And I go, no, no, I'm fine. And then I run to the shower and it's just blood, just oozing everywhere, right? And the medical staff comes and they're like, you got to go hospital, you got to get stitches. And I go, can we get to stop bleeding? Go, yeah, yeah, they got to stop bleeding.

And I go, you know what? I'm good. So I just, I just, you know, I just put a bandage run my head and it's kept on parting for two more days. I thought you were no longer getting black out drunk. It wasn't black out drunk. No, no, no, no, I was sober. I wasn't black out drunk. No, just that. No, no, no, I was sober. I wasn't, but the only thing is like, I was too afraid to try to buy marijuana in Mexico because I'm like the one person. He's not in that good there.

The one person I'm gonna ask in Mexico is the one that's gonna be the narc, and it's gonna send me to jail in Mexico. That's true, I'm gonna be jail, and I would be jail. Yeah, and then I'll have to pay like, stupid amount of pesos to try to get out of jail So it wasn't worth it and they had all the alcohol there. So see that's why I shouldn't drink alcohol I know you should not look it was a reminder for you. Yeah, you shouldn't well, that's funny because I'm actually going to

Mexico this weekend. Oh sweet. I'm going for a week with my mother to just you and your mom. Yeah Sweet mom. We're gonna hang out. I have an adification and we're gonna hang cuz I don't get to see her You know moms get old you guys are just gonna party. I had a great that's so your mother's remarried Yeah, yeah, my step dad they can get up 30 years. Yeah, we haven't really talked about that in a while No, yeah, because I was wondering if your mom was you know single Happy no You and your mom out in Cabo just cruising for dudes exactly. No, you wonder something nice to me. She's out on the prom. She's super happy. No, we're just like, we've got a hand like a cross. You and your mom out in Cabo, just cruising for deeds. Exactly.

No, you wonder something really funny about senior frogs though? Yeah. So that's a place where they squirt the tail of your mouth. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's crazy. When I was in high school, I was there. I went there, I'm vacation. I would think I was a senior in high school, so I was 18.

And my mom, I just started working and she was excited because she's like, I'm going to take us on a family vacation and she just met my stepdad I think and it was my brother who we love, who didn't like me at the still, well now he likes me but then he still did not, he was junior in college. I was a senior in high school, my mom my stepdad, so we go for a week and we go over New Year's and we go to senior fraught, we go there, so the problem is the first day we get there, to Mexico, the problem is, you know my brother, he's so awesome, is that you go on a family vacation

for a week and all the guys are always like, oh, your brother's so cool, so all the guys that I think are cute, are like instantly friends with my brother. And all the girls think he's cute, so I'm like, oh, I'm not gonna make, you know, this week's gonna stop because it's like, they all wanna hang my brother, and my brother never wants me around.

So we get there and that happens like in the first day I see this hot guy named John. I'm like, oh my god, he's so hot and five minutes later he's talking about brother. I'm like, god damn it. I'm never going to get into this guy. So I'm kind of pissed. Your brother's going to see block you. I know. He does.

So I'm sitting there and I actually have one friend who's there from high school. Who I know and her face she's there with her family and we're hanging out all week. And I keep looking at the sky. John I have the biggest crush on him. But he barely talks to me. The last night, it's New Year's Eve where it's senior frogs, which is this crazy place where the guys walk around and this was like a long time ago,

but they've got like a backpack filled with the Kila and they just shoot it now. Yes, that rules. Right? There's like a little thing in the shooter. I got wasted, my mom got, my family's like, big drinking, well I got drunk, it's New Year's Eve. And so this guy, John and I start talking to him, he's like, hey, my family's not like big drinking. Well, I got drunk, it's near his eve.

And so this guy, John and I start talking to him. He's like, hey, what's up? He's like, yeah, I go, I said, what's up with you? He's like, I go to university in Michigan. I'm, he's like a sophomore. I'm like, God, I would love to go to you, them, I'm, you know, I can't, you know,

I hope I get in. And he's like, well, don't you have a while? Like, I mean, don't even want to think about that. I'm like, no, I'm waiting to hear if I got accepted. He's like, wait a minute. How old are you? I was like, I'm 18, I'm senior. I'm like, no, I'm waiting to hear if I got accepted. He's like, wait a minute, how old are you? I was like, I'm 18, I'm senior, I'm waiting. He's like, the first day I saw you by the pool

and I said to your brother, who's that chick? She's hot and he's like, that's my sister. She's 14, don't talk to her. Oh, no. So a week long, every guy in Mexico that my brother was hanging out with, everyone thought I was 14. Oh, well, I mean, you could pass us 14. Well, yeah, but I was pissed, so then I hooked up with them. And I was pissed with my brother. But my brother was hanging out with everyone thought I was 14. Oh well, I mean, you could pass us 14. Well, yeah, but I was pissed, so then I hooked up with them.

I was pissed my brother, but my brother wasn't guys, it's really doing it to protect me. It's because he just really didn't want me to hang out. So that's my senior frog's messed up story. Senior frog's people. I know, so maybe I'll have to go this week with my mom. You had to do it. I know.

The Snapchat, how are you doing on Snapchat these days? You know, we're Snapchatting now. It's at sex with Emily on Snapchat, Twitter, Instagram. And I'm doing okay, not as good as you. Yeah. You're Snapchat. Like, we're, it's just because it's a new, it's another thing to do.

Yeah, and it's hard. It's funny because, you know, Iced tea, the actor, rapper, Iced tea and cocoa. And he was doing interview about his reality show. And there were a couple seasons in, and then they decided decided quit doing it. And he said he goes, eventually if you try to do something every day, like your life is not exciting every single day at every single moment, you know, and that's what you try to

do with Snapchat and keep it up all the time. And it's sometimes it's just impossible. Sometimes I'm just at my house and I'm watching Hulu, you know, but I try, I try to put some content on that. But we treat that on Instagram. It's like, I need to tell you know, but we try every day. So everyone check it out. I'm, you know, we are doing that. We're doing it. We're doing it now. Super cool. Yeah. Anything else going on in your life? You're just, I'm doing love line now. Single, mingling. Single, you know this is the longest I was thinking today that I've... This is...

I broke up with someone like two months ago. Uh-huh. And this is the longest I've gone without having sex. In my entire life perhaps. No way. Right, not even like a Dalian. It's not even like a... Yeah, it's weird.

But I think it's healthy. I mean, not like trying... Here's the thing. I've not like, I've been like sitting home, twiddling my thumb, super busy. I mean, not like trying, here's the thing. I'm not like I've been like sitting at home, twiddling my thumb, super busy. I'm just not focused on dating right now. And I think this is like healthy for me. Yeah.

I'm gonna go bang once you will in Mexico, but right now, yeah. Yeah, you just focus on. There's no dating. I'm gonna just out here and there. I have like one day, but I'm just not. But it's interesting for me to look at it and go, oh, you know what, it's not where my focus is right now.

But I am doing love line every night now. Oh, sweet. Yeah, so that's five minutes a week. is right now. But I am doing love line every night now. Oh, sweet. Yeah. So that's five minutes a week. You can check that out or you can listen to the podcast of love line, which is with Dr. Drew. So the sex, I'm sorry, the love line podcast,

it's available on iTunes, correct? Yeah, just like word podcast. Yeah, sweet. So there's gonna be, there's so many Emily podcasts now. I know. The sex with Emily podcasts and then you have the love line podcast. Right. Wow. I know people are just gonna be like not going to work. I know. The sex with Emily podcast and then you have the love line podcast. Right. Wow. I know people are just going to be like not going to

work. I know. This is all they long non-stop content. I know they can listen to your podcast. Yeah. The Woody show. It's up every single day. It's about pop culture and what's going on in the news. Not too much banging and sex. Okay. People do a little bit of everything. They get a lot of banging for me. But yeah. The the way shows doing really well, we've got some numbers back and people are really embracing us and Los Angeles is great. So.

How do you, is it because of the billboard when they saw your cute face? My billboard was like a cartoon. I know, it's still. Let's see if it's better. Yeah. Okay, so I want to see our podcast, Dirty, I want to give you a little teaser

if you wanted to check out our last podcast that we did recently, some of the shows because we do two week dirty talk And dating dilemmas we posted that last made we talked about Online dating deal breakers bad grammar is a big one What to do if your partner's dirty talk ends up being a distraction? We talked about long distance relationship so you can check out that podcast and again every week we do too It was funny. You were talking about bad grammar. There was just a study that was put out by a couple of universities saying that if you're a person that's always focused on grammar, you're probably a person that sucks to hang out

with. Really? If you're focused too much on life too. Yeah, if you're like, you're the A-hole that's always like trying to, you're on social media trying to correct somebody. I love it too because I mess up on grammar all the time on social media, but I love it that it came out that you're most likely an A-hole if you're punishing your grandma. I don't know if you're an A-hole, but if you're like, if you're somebody in the comments,

yeah, in the comments, I'm like, what the f are you doing with your life all day? I know, it's a weird way to go quick. We're like moving. Who cares? Okay, but with dating, it's a deal breaker. Anyway, check out that show. It was a fun one. Well, for you too,

because you love people writing long messages to you. I love writers, I know, I do. I always say to writers. I know, but it's- Some people don't care. They just want somebody to have fun with. And apparently you're not fun if you care about grammar. I'm apparently I'm dating a bunch of losers. You're not fun, but they write really, really well.

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what the hell do I buy? They've laundry, they've toys, like what, oh, bye. That's what, I will be there. We will go shopping. I'm not sure where time it's at. Oh, 7 p.m. I already said that. And you can RSVP at sexthelmy.com. That's what I see there.

It'd be fun. Okay, we've got a little bit sex in the news minutes. And this one may be think of you. All right. Cause I gotta see if this is, this study here kind of contradicts some things that you've told me. Uh-oh, what?

Traveling improves your sex life is the headline. Yes. There are a few things in life more fulfilling than travel. Bronze are perspective, by exposing us new cultures and customs and way of thinking and all that, but the benefits to traveling don't end with spiritual enlightenment. It says it's traveling can actually improve your health. And there was a survey Expedia legit 31 million travelers took the survey and 81% they said they feel better, you know, as a direct sales. Wait, a travel website did a study saying that you have better

sex while you're doing travel. Yeah, I can't believe it. Okay, but men. But I mean, I totally believe that it is true. Yeah, no, the part that is that if your health feels better But also that taking the vacation helps you lose weight Getting confidence feel younger and yes, lose weight. Oh my god people hog out they say that you can gain up to 20 pounds going on Vacation, but you well that's what I'm gonna do. You always gotta read the fine print on where these surveys come from But I don't care if it's a secret. I don't disagree with the results, no. Right, but you, man, that's okay,

why would you say that you get the, if you get sunshine, makes you feel better. Love it. Right? Say, or tone in all that stuff. So if you're feeling depressed, creatively stunted, anxious, all this stuff, we all know it's great for vacation. Great to go on vacation and get like a renewed sense of self,

but you set out a recent podcast that when you go on vacation and get like a renewed sense of self, but you set out a reason podcast that when you Go on vacation. I was like, well, don't you have any sex? You're like no, I eat too much and I don't want to But you so you are actually actually not going against the norm. Yeah, so that's I don't Don't conform I guess I do head in depending on yeah depending on the type of are you avoiding having a drinking? No, no, I do. The bachelor head in. Depending on, yeah, depending on the type of... Are you avoiding having a drinking?

No, no, no, no. No, I, uh... I'm just saying that you want a million. It's depending on the vacation. Like, are we doing vacation where we're really active and we're going out and hanging out in the jungle with like monkeys and shit like that? Or are we going ATVing and stuff like that?

Some of the stuff can be exhausting for all day long. But if you're relaxing like this last one, then of course, yeah, you're having more sex. Right. So I hope to long to you with my mom, but maybe I'll make some. Yeah, your mom will hook you up. Just maybe think of you because you were saying

that it was a problem sometimes and you go away. Yeah, sometimes. But maybe. But maybe you're in Vegas. And yeah. And that's Vegas is your like, yeah, Vegas is. I love Vegas. I'm gonna be there soon doing something.

I don't know. I haven't been. Oh, I'm gonna go see Rihanna. Oh, awesome. Yeah, love Riri. I love. I want to talk about a sexual person, Rihanna. I know she's hot, right?

Yeah. God, I would love to go. She oozes sex. Yeah, just like me. I knew. Okay. Not me so much. We're going to give a little shout out to our sponsors and we'll be right back.

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Okay, so I'm going to introduce a new segment. We just started Emily, please tell my partner. Oh, no. I know. Sometimes new segment. We just started Emily. Please tell my partner. Oh, no I know sometimes hard to approach a partner something you might want in the bedroom like you try to talk about it It's hard to bring up and you don't know how to do anymore. You're like you're you're hitting the wall So I'm gonna do it for you We did it on a recent recent podcast ghosting three sims and the single grant guy So if you want your boyfriend to like shave his pubes because they get in the way when you're going down in him

or you wish your girlfriend would talk dirty to you and there's just something you're like, oh, I can't do it. Just email me feedback at sexwithmwe.com and I can make the call for you. Everyone has obsessed with ghosting recently. I know ghostings like the whole thing. I think it's just a hot term there.

Everybody wants to be people. It is a hot term, they love the term. Can we, we should come up with a new term because then ghosting. Well, people just log a glob on to any, you know, ten with a new term because then ghosting. Well, people just log, like, glob onto any, like, you know, ten turns, always adding, now ghosting. It's like, there's always like a new, like,

hot term. Well, we, we're reading, we're reading a survey just recently about millennials and how they break up. And they say that like, ghosting is the number one way. So if people don't know what ghosting means, that means, for the audience. It means if don't know what ghosting means, that means- Please explain it for the audience. It means if you have a lot of communication

with somebody that you're dating and then suddenly you just disappear. So you're a ghost. There was a great post I saw like a block was in some site. It was like what happened right before, like the last messages before the person ghosted and it was like, hey yeah, that was really fun. Okay, well I'll see you Tuesday and it's like nothing.

It's all the thing and then they, God, which they just disappear. Yeah. Because I guess back in the day though, when people go with before texting, they just wouldn't call you. Home was probably so much easier to ghost. Oh, yeah. I mean, you just never picked up the thing.

Yeah. Never see me get them when I died. Yeah. You don't know? Yeah. Because you like wouldn't see him, your friends wouldn't see him. There is no voicemail, there is no cell phones. It's so weird now though, because when you, I think about this, like when you break up with someone, I remember you really wouldn't see me like you just like you didn't have a friend

months later who's like oh I ran into him at a party and I'd be like tell me everything but now it's like oh I can just go to your agency like where you been. Yeah your friends are you like you check your bank it's great super fun yeah I kind of liked it when they would be out of it. More and more kids, sorry. Kids. More and more kids. More of the people that I've dated over the years have kids now, it's weird. I know, you see them, how do you go about that?

I could have had a kid with you. Right, thank god you did. Maybe, I did. No, I'm not. You're not gonna have kids, huh? It doesn't look like it. I got my French Bulldog Chiro, I love her. I know.

You can follow her on Instagram. Thank you, everybody. Where's my dog Chiro? My dog Chiro at my dog Chiro. Yeah, I mean, that's enough. But I just can't imagine a human being, you know? Like when she was a little puppy, and I had to wake up in the middle of the night

when I have to go to work at 3 a.m., it was a struggle, you know? And then imagine like kids for years, in years, years. And now- Even past 18, like always on your mind. And now, too, she just sleeps all night and that's it, you know? You love her.

And then she sleeps all day too. But I, just a kid that's always in your face. And it's funny, okay, I'm sorry, like for people that already have kids, it seems like I'm knocking it No, it's not for everybody. It's just it's hard to See people that just make themselves miserable thinking that they can't do anything because they have kids I don't know. What do you mean like when the ones they have the kid? They're like I can't do anything else Yeah, I mean there's some that I know that just like whatever they just had a kid and then they're out parting like a month later

And then some then they're out partying like a month later. And some like they're always fucking soft. I know it's such a different world now because back in the day, I feel like my parents were like, oh, I have a kid but they're gonna like adjust to our lives. And then there was a certain generation where it was like it was all about the kids and we're gonna do everything for the kids.

And I think that it's sort of a combination of both. Like you know, you've kids but the parents can't stop like living their lives. I had, that's what I want. I just want people to be happy. It's funny. I just have fun and be able to. But I, you know, I can't.

You're gonna mess up your kids no matter what. It is everybody's, no one is a perfect child. I mean, I don't mean you're gonna mess them up. Purpose later, you'd be the best parent in the world but everyone's gonna have issues. So you might as well just live a life that works for everybody in the family. So much responsibility that I cannot handle.

Dude, you know me, I mean, speaking of responsibility, the sexy smell also what? Didn't you get a dog? It didn't work out. Oh, yeah. Well, that's good. Well, speaking of dogs, well, no, I'm ready. I'm ready again.

Uh-huh. But this last dog that I almost adopted turns out wasn't ready for adoption. But I went through the whole process, but we're still looking. Is it not a little perfect dog? Like going through that entire process. It was so sad.

Yeah, I know people feel when they're like, go off to like, you know, wherever Africa to like, the child doesn't work like, I just had to go to San Francisco and it didn't work. But the dog just wasn't ready yet. It's a rescue dog, but we're going to get one. But speaking of dogs, the first email came in also relates to you and I, both of us. Okay. Oh, so thank you emailing us feedback at saxofathamp.com

and thank you for also being so awesome and including your name, your age. How you listen? Where you're from? Okay, hi, Emily. I liked your recent discussion. I'm what to do when the dog, with the dog, when it wants to be in the room during playtime.

Oh, we put that podcast out. Yeah, you brought that out. I, we put that podcast out. Yeah. You brought that up. I thought we were just playing around testing equipment. I didn't know you were putting that on the internet. Yeah. It was all around the interwrap. This is about you.

Oh, no. But they said, I was wondering if you kicked Anderson's dog out of the room when using the Sivian or whatever while you were watching the dog. Did you torment that dog? No, I don't think I had that when I was watching Stanley. Hold on, you're using the Sivian. I don't even know this story back. Wait, why I remember it Okay, yeah, okay

You mentioned a few weeks ago when you were also saying that we were talking about your sex life Which was monumental on the show? We were all blown away all the sex I thought we were just testing equipment. I didn't think we were putting that on the internet Yeah, that was internet. That was a podcast. All right. Um, sorry about that. No, it's okay. I don't think we were putting that on the internet. Yeah, that was on the internet. That was my guest. All right. Sorry about that. No, it's OK. I don't care. OK, hope not, because it's out there.

And you've got a lot of responses. You're really excited that you have sex. So we talked about the fact that, yeah, you're like, what do you do when the dog's watching or not, and then it's kind of can be troubling sometimes. You say we're so much more sure. They judge you. They don't judge you.

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I actually didn't have sex while I was watching Stanley Anderson's dog. So thanks for bringing that up. My old dog Daisy though used to sleep at the end of the bed with me when I would have sex. And I don't think that she's, but she was a little, she's just sleep. But she didn't like try to be all up in the mix. No, she wasn't like crying. She was like, that's cool. So I'm gonna stay here in the bed.

No, I mean, you know, so, but she was a little dog in my queen bed, but I know that you have churro. I'm sure of. Yeah, she has little radar ears like she, like moving back and forth and she's just like She looks at you with piercing eyes that would be hard judging you She's not judging. She's not judging so at the end of the day like you know I was saying Kevin like you're the boss you can train your dog I mean you can train the dog like we're just to sit outside the room and

Hang on dog bed or just get over it, you know, but I'm gonna scar the dog So I asked my best friend Charlotte, who was a vet. And I said, is it bad to have like the dogs? Why is it gonna torment them when you do? And she said, I don't think it's bad for pets unless it makes them anxious. In which case you need to shut them out of the room in the first place.

And you can absolutely train them to be okay with it and leave, it's not easy, but it's totally doable. So if you still wanna have sex with your partner and the dog, you know, you can train your dog. You just like kids, the dog can't wear your life. The kids can't say you try to still have sex with your partner and if the dog's just, I mean, just chiro good anxious. Chiro, yeah, she will run back and forth. The edge of the bed and then want to jump on the bed. She doesn't care. She wants to on the bed. I'm putting a phone and put her out in the... Now she doesn't care.

She wants to be with you. She wants to be with you, I get it. Mom and Papa. I know, I don't want to stop. You know, babies, you still be sleeping, because you're still busy with your mom and teen, if you're eventually like, train your kids. So, I just wanted to share that with you.

Okay, hi, Emily. I am 21 year old female, and I've been in a relationship for three years. Everything with them is really good, but I miss just having a sex buddy. So I'd like to add a sexual partner to my life without breaking up with my boyfriend. I don't feel like my relationship with either of them will affect the other, but lots of people do. So this is where I would like your advice.

Should I talk to my boyfriend about this? If so, how? If I don't say anything, is it considered cheating? Thanks for the help, Kelsey. All right, Kelsey. Kelsey, we've got a little ground to cover here. Let me get this straight. You're in a committed relationship with your boyfriend

of three years who you should be having sex with, but you'd like to add a little something to the side. And Kelsey, this is called cheating. Gotta be honest, these having sacks, but she's like, I just kinda wanna have more sacks on this. She's seven. And your partner doesn't know anything about it, then it's cheating.

Right, it's totally cheating. What's your partner be upset? She's like, I don't know if they be upset. She's asking me. She's like, don't know. She says to me, well, they might be okay. I'm not sure yet. She's in a, she's like, but I miss having sacks on the side,

which means a, Kelsey, you're not having fulfilling sex in your relationship right now and you got to turn all this sexual energy that you have towards your boyfriend and work on that and see why you're not being fulfilled by that or you need to, you could talk to them and say I'm thinking of getting something outside of the relationship, but do not go in and sex with someone else. Yes, that is considered cheating. 100%. I don't think your boyfriend's gonna be okay with it

and dishonest. And she wants a little f-buddy without telling him, but once know that's cheating. Oh, it's totally cheating. Come on. I mean, but maybe he's been looking for something else. I mean, I'm not saying you need to break up. I'm saying that you need to talk to him

before you venture outside the relationship. Yeah, start off with a woman, say, hey, I think I want to mess around with a woman. And I mean, he'll be open to that. And then maybe, hey. Just kidding. Just, well, no, maybe then, hey, what do you think of me

looking up with another guy? You think she's got to ease into it? Yeah, I got to ease into it. Not just like straight up, I want hooking up with another guy? You think she's got to ease into it? Yeah, I got to ease into it. Not just like straight up, I want to hook up with another guy because I'm very, very small percentage of guys would be cool with that. Yeah, I know, but she's just like, hey, is that cool?

Can I do that? No, I don't think it's cool. Don't cheat. And if you want to be an open relationship, that's a whole other thing, but that's about rigorous, honesty, talking to your partner. And so I'll see you. Don't go off and do that.

Okay. Hello, Emily. My name is Owen. I'm a 22 years old, a huge fan of your work. I'm about to lose my virginity, which I'm excited about, but I've had something I was always insecure about. I sweat a lot. I'm a bit worried that it could be a turn off during sex, since I've never had sex before.

I want to know in your experience, having and studying sex, do you get sweaty during sex? Is it a turn off or turn off of a guy get sweaty? During sex, what advice do you have for sweaty guys? Like me? Sweat. First time never at sex. There's so many things that guys worry about.

Yeah, you worry about sweating like don't you? Don't worry about sweating. There's so many other things to worry about by now. You really, you should listen to our virgin show that we just put out. We just put out a show about everything you need to know about being a virgin and having sex. What happened in that episode? Can you give me a small recap?

I had sex with a virgin. You did? Yeah, it was a really interesting show. You always complain that it's called sex, but then we actually have sex in the show. So I was like, get me a virgin. Oh, sweet. That's not what I meant.

I'm sure that got a lot of downloads. Not well. Okay, so I understand these were right. We do remember the first time you had sex. Yes, I do. And I was extremely worried because my mother tormented me my entire life and told me the first time I ever have sex, I gonna get a woman pregnant but then after everyone's so tormented by that experience.

But after the first time then you know I was good and then I wanted to do it all the time of course. Of course and you have a stop except for when you go on vacation. Okay so I don't know if he is like a normal amount of sweating like there are people of excessive sweating which is called hyper-hydrosis. And that's like when you like, did you know those people who like, they like have this, it's like, still, I mean, you're having sex,

don't even worry about it. Please worry about sweating. So yeah, you do sweat during sex sometimes when it's really hot. It's kind of sexy though. Like you sweat, you're not. There's a listen. Sexification.

Okay, sweating is a lubrication. That's when you're saying, say if communication is lubrication, listen. Sex is messy. It's aation. It's lubrication. Right. Sweating is lubrication. That's what he's saying. So, if communication is lubrication, listen, sex is messy. It's a beautiful thing, but there's semen. There can be vaginal excretions, like squirting. There could be sweating, blood, for example. There's a lot of things that goes on.

Fecal matter, if you're into that kind of thing. There's a lot that goes on, and it's not always, you know, but that's part of sex. So I wouldn't trip on it and if you're with someone that you like and you trust at the moment, she's not going to be like, oh my god, I'm so excited to be having sex. Bottom line, she'll be psyched to be having sex and so will you and I wouldn't trip on the sweating thing. Not at all. You'll be okay.

You'll be fine. We all survived. Okay. We got another email. Dear Dr. Emily, I'm a long-time listener from Toronto. You've answered my questions in the past and are always insightful. I'm 48, divorced eight years, single mom, and recently met and began dating a man eight months ago. Our physical connection is incredible.

Our intellect is off somewhat. And although I don't believe in dating based on potential, I believe that he's open to learning new things is never judgmental and always kind. My issue is this, because I have teenage daughters at home, our dates, which are once a week, are always at his house. I've recently become resentful, unbeknownst to him, of the fact that I always bring the wine.

I'd like to drink and the dinner or snacks. The wine is $15. I'm including this fact so that you don't think my taste is above what perhaps he might be able to afford. And although I'm a vegetarian, cheese, grapes, and bad baguette doesn't seem to too much to expect, or is it? His fridge is always bare except for the beer he drinks.

I often ask him, my way there, do you wine? Maybe some crackers? The answer is no. So I stop at my way there, do you wine maybe some crackers? The answer is no. So I stop my way to his house. He seems apologetic but never offers to reimburse me or pay for the groceries I bring when I cook his dinner at his house. Please help. It is not my nature to point out someone's inadequacies after many months of gas, mileage, food, wine purchases. I'm beginning to feel like this man will never reciprocate despite what I feel to be basic prep to enjoy

and evening with your lover. Thanks for all you do, Madison, Menace, and Anderson too. Appreciate your feedback, Kelly. All right. All right. Yeah. If he, if you're just going to him all the time

with all this stuff and he's not doing the same. Then you're kind of just getting used to be real. Because I was thinking like there's two things going on. Like is he being cheap or he doesn't just realize he's being considerate? I think he, while he's enjoying it, yeah, he might be just oblivious. Oblivious?

Yeah, oblivious, but he's probably in his 40s, right? 48, he's something. So I just kind of think, you know, that you got to bring it up. I mean, I, well, this is what I would do. I know you without even bringing it up. Yeah.

Invite him to come see you. See, she can't because she has daughters at home. So she always has to go in here and drive there. Okay, well, find another place where he can meet you and see what happens. And if he does absolutely nothing after everything that you're you've done, then he's either completely stupid. Or yeah, he's just taking advantage of you. Yeah, I mean, I think I think that it does say a lot about him, but I wouldn't

jump to conclusions that he will never reciprocate if you've never brought it up to him. So let's just give him the benefit of the doubt. Maybe he's been a bachelor for a long time. Definitely if I was in that situation and I just felt like that she kept on wanting to do that, then I would just let her. Right. Well, this is what I'm saying. So some guys are just kind of dense.

Maybe he's ever been in a relationship. I don't know. I mean, for some people, it's kind of like a muscle. Like if you don't bring it up, he's just going to know. But if you say to him, like, you know, I feel like, like, you're gonna start to resent him even more. So you could just say, calm the next way.

This is the right thing. Cause she could, says she could only go to his house. Cause she's got kids at home. And she likes sleeping at his house once a week. So I would just say, hey, babe, running to the late. Can you pick up the wine and food? Done. Stop offering.

See what happens. If he's like, no, I don't have time, whatever, then show up empty handed and then see what happens. If he's like, no, I don't have time, whatever, then show him to hand it and then see what happens. And if he says, oh, I don't have time, whatever, I can't do it, I've got everything I need here. Oh, I've got everything I need here

and you walk in and there's beer and empty fridge. He's selfish. Okay, yeah, that's a good plan. I mean, because I would be put in a weird situation of a woman brought that up to me like, hey, you're never buying the wine or anything like that. I'm like, okay, maybe I just wasn't picking up on it. You know, but that's a good test, right?

I'm not to play games because I hate games, but it's a good test to avoid making things awkward. Right, I mean, you've got two kids, you're working hard, you're driving there, you've got two kids. You're working hard. You're driving there. You're making the effort. I say just say, I don't have time tonight. Can you pick up my wine? I like the Pino Grigio and the

crackers. Are the Opus one? Right. Pick up the Opus one. B.O.T. Which is a 300. You know, I've got one. Right. But I would just mean, no, you're not being. I had some recently. You did. Was it good? I've had one. It was cool. I can tell a difference. It could be a two dollar one. I know.

That's the thing. I mean, but Kelly, I don't think that you're being out of line. You seem like a really sweet conscious, you know, giving woman and I don't think that you're asking too much here at all for him to contribute to show like a little consideration. Because I was dating guy once. I remember the same thing. Like I'd go to his house and we were dating, you know, for a while. And I was like, every time I went over there or one time I went over there and he was like, eating dinner. He's like, and he knew that I had eaten because you know,

I never pick up. He's like, oh yeah, oh you have an eaten? I'm like, no, he's not. He's like, I'm was like eating dinner. He's like, and he knew that I had eaten because I never picked up. He's like, oh yeah, oh you have an eaten? I'm like, no, he's a guy who's picked up food. And that was annoying. He did that a few times.

And the next time he knows I only drink wine, but he only drinks whiskey. So like, he never wants. Like I bought whiskey at my house. So just like, there's certain things like, you know, you just, you kind of, and eventually he picked up on it. Like one time he's like, look, I got your wine. So, you know, if he's you kind of, and eventually he picked up on it. Like one time he's like, look, I got your wine. So, you know, if he's not getting it, you got to try this.

And if not, I think you can, then if you really like this guy, you can say something. Like it would mean a lot to me if you could provide the food and snacks from time to time. But let's just see how it goes with the test. But you are not out of line here at all. Kelly, I think it's totally understandable that you, it should be reciprocal. So, and thanks for the sweetness and thanks for listening to the show. Long time listener, I love that in Toronto. One of my favorite cities. Okay,

Kelly, thank you. I love Toronto. I've never been there, but I love the girl. Yeah, we used to go a lot. Very good thing. Cause Michigan, we go to drive. All right, that's all we got time for. That's it. I know, baby. Making a shorty one. Well, menace, people can find you you just menace on Instagram and Twitter is always the best I love Instagram Instagram is my thing I like taking photos. Yeah, um, you know my dog Churro and I think that's it You know, yeah, the Woody show podcast you can find on iTunes SoundCloud wherever you want is there. Wherever podcasts are not sold. Yeah, we don't sell podcasts and yeah, a lot of people have been listening to both shows,

which is great. I love that. Do you hear you up and say? Yeah, I mean, I run into people around Los Angeles to listen. It's the Woody show, if you don't know, it's a morning radio show on Alt 987 in Los Angeles owned by ArtHeart Radio. It's on every day, six to 10 a.m. And but I run into people all the time that listen to both shows. It's great.

And the most awkward places. It's funny. No, I'll be like at maybe a kid, a kid-friendly park in some of you whisper like, hey, listen to six. Stay whisper. That's awesome. Thank you. Okay, well thank you, Mattis and also everyone. Thank you for supporting the show. I love here and for you. And also I love when you review the show, Mattis, whenever you tell people like, you've shot that out

before, if you go to iTunes, you like the show. That would be great. That really helps. Yeah, I mean, it does help. And your subscription's helped too. Emily has a whole squad now of people that she. I love my squad. That she works with to put the show together.

I just come and turn the microphones on, but it would really, really help the show if you could just go and rate and review it. I only once five stars, but if you wanted to be honest, but whatever you want. It really hurts. It's cool. It's cool. It really hurts. It's cool when there's one or two stars. Yeah, I just don't do it. Just don't just cry. She cries about it at night. I do cry and I won't sleep for days, but it's cool. I always want you to be all be honest,

because we're all about rigorous on. The only reviews that I, but it's cool. I just want you to be all be honest because we're all about rigorous on the reviews that I hate. It's like the people that want us to be hardcore. We're dropping F bonds and S bonds and talking, you know, being extremely dirty. Because I feel like that's the people they don't swear. I mean, but we should we should of course we swear here there. But like the people that want like some hardcore, raunchy show, that's just not what this is. That's no, we're trying to help you entertain you

along the way. Go find another show. I'm sure it sucks. But yeah, but finally, I'm on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, it's all at sex with Emily and also don't forget our amazing Facebook page, facebook.com slash sex with Emily. And thank you to my amazing squad, as you mentioned.

The squad. Madison and Lori and Nina and Jamie family. And thank you to my amazing squad as you mentioned. The squad. Madison and Lori and Nina and Jamie and Lauren and Madness. I've got fucking amazing videos. I know, right? I'm pretty sure because I love them so much. Okay, but when Thanksgiving was good for you, email me feedback at sexwithamlee.com. I have a daily routine that keeps me grounded. Things I absolutely must do before I can even head out the door.

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