Sex With Emily - Cheaters, Chokers & Sneaky Sex Tips

Episode Date: July 25, 2015

In today’s Sex With Emily podcast, we’re tackling a handful of complex sex issues, from mismatched libidos in your relationship to sex tips for lovers who still live at home to what to do if your partner’s choking fetish makes you feel uncomfortable. Any of this sound familiar? She and Anderson address some Sex in the News stories on strip clubs and cheaters, and Emily shares a story from her recent girl’s trip that you DO NOT want to miss. Whether you’re you’re itching to hear about a real life girl-fight or are in need of some guidance to help navigate sensitive sex subjects, this show has everything you’re looking for. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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For more information go to sexwithenley.com and check out all the sexiness happening there because there's a lot of it. We've got blog posts every single day. We are trying to improve your sex life and your relationship. Videos, blogs, it's just a freaking good time. Plus I'm launching a new website soon. La, la, la, so excited. Hi, Amazon.

Wait, wait, wait, wait. I'm launching a new website. Why? What's wrong with the old one? There's always something wrong with websites. Because, you know, I've had it for a few years. It's time to upgrade. Do you know how much content I have in my site?

Here's my issue with my site. Doing the show for 10 years, I've had probably four to five websites. However, my website now is great. It works. But there's 2,000 podcasts out there. There's hundreds, there's 5,000 blogs. That's a lot of podcasts. Thousands of videos. What I'm saying is, it has to do the, do the, do the, do the, do you think anyone goes to my website? They're like, Oh, I'd like to listen to a, it's just hard to navigate right now. It's awesome. There's just too much going on. Yeah, but the good thing is right now,

I'm not going to detract you because actually I would love you to go to the website. You can search for the top. You'll hold the one before it's gone. Yeah, exactly. The old one. It's very advantageous. You got it.

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the boss is kind of a dick. Any monitors what I do. And like, maybe they have some going to child protection stuff on. Can I go on your website or is it going to shut down? We're not if you work at the radio station or at the radio station. You work at it. Yeah, but yeah, you can totally go on it. And also, here's the thing, like I just said, if you're, there's, this is what you got to do when you go there now. If there's any topic in the world that you can think of that has to do sex and relationships and you put it in the search bar, anytime I've ever talked about it mentioned it, blogged it, video, it'll be on the site.

You ever talk about pheromones? You ever go like, you've got to be about pheromones and like, body odor being attractive? Absolutely. Why, why, you think so? Oh, sent is a huge part of traction. I know. Absolutely. And this is...

The girl that was cut in my hair just tonight, actually. Your hair looks good. I might tell you, you look awesome. I drive far out of my way to make sure that I go to my same girl, because she's very good at what she does when I'm sure. She was talking to me, she learned that I've been doing this with you lately, and she knows I do love line, and she's like, what about pheromones? I'm really into them. The older I get, the more I like the smell, the musty smell.

She likes people's natural pheromones. She means she's taking about like attraction, the science of attraction. It is true that scent is one of the biggest indicators of attraction, if you don't like someone's scent, you know, you won't be attracted to them. And they talk about women sleeping with men's t-shirts and they heard that study with the best ones.

Yeah, I've seen it. But then there's also like products. They were like products with fear moans. And ladies like wear perfume. So I mean, we don't even know what you guys smell. Like, is you guys mask? Yeah, we talk about all that. You can search everything you want. Afro-DGX, I swear to God, I've done it every, you know, I've had guests on that are super cool, but anyway, that'll be fun. And then

I actually feel like I haven't seen them forever, but it's true we are both gone last week. It's been a couple of weeks. I know. I've got the pleasure of seeing the old them. I know. Well, last Thursday, I flew to San Francisco for the night and I interviewed Dennis Hough on the bunny ranch. The boy scout of pimps. Oh my god. He wrote a new book called like the art of the pimps and he's, you know, they flew me

up there to interview with this place called the battery. It's kind of like the so-how of San Francisco. I think a lot of listeners might know him from the name of that. The bunny ranch, the show. The bunny ranch, the show time. The cat house. Yeah. He's really interesting. He's been on my podcast actually a few months ago,

but it's so funny because he's like, had these like 22 year old bunnies that are like his girlfriend. He's a character, he's a very smart businessman, but Friday morning I flew to New York for a girl's weekend. A girl's a girl scout weekend? Yeah, a girl scout weekend.

So when I best friends in San Francisco, long time friend or kids in my God children, we're like very good friends. Wait wait, God children, go back. I have two God children. You're going like a mile. Wait wait God children, go back. I have two God children. You're going like a mile. We're trying to catch up here because we haven't seen each other in so long.

I have two God children. What? They weren't there until. So this woman hates her kids. What? That's so mean. I know. I'm doomed.

But really, I mean, I want to, I love you. I love you, but I don't know if I could leave my dog standing with you for the weekend. I had a dog. I was a really good dog owner. Did your dog ever choke on a sex dog? No, no. I used to. Dude, I was the my dog standing with you for the weekend. I had a dog. I was a really good dog owner. Did your dog ever choke on a sex dog? No, no. I used to do it.

I was the best dog owner and I was a little too obsessed. Where's the dog? She's in Palm Springs. Why is she not with you? Because when I moved, I don't want to go out now. But here's the thing, Daisy, she's the best and she needs like a yard and don't want to stop on her own.

I can't get into this. Can I just talk to you that I'm a really good guy, mother and a great aunt? That's so mean of you to bring out I can't get into this. Can I just talk to you that I'm a really good godmother and a great aunt. That's so mean of you to bring up. Let me tell you this. So as a girls begins, who's a very good friend,

she's from New Jersey. You're a godmother. Oh my god. I'm an aunt too, and my niece is a lovely. Well, you got no choice with that. I mean, my niece could make one phone call. It's like she's in prison.

She's a camp. She can make one phone call. I'm visiting day. Guess it's, that's what she called you. And she called-hmm. She can make one phone call. Yeah, I'm visiting day. Guess it's time. Well, she took called my brother and my sister. And you happen to be there. No, no, my brother and my sister I should make one call she called me. Uh-huh. She's 13. Wait did she have a second question? No, she's 13. She loves her Aunt Emily. Okay. All right. Okay. All right. This is really harsh. Sorry And my friend asked me to be Godfather to his son. I said no, I'm like, no, dude. If you like something happened to you, because if you're a God parent, if they die,

you gotta like all of a sudden be instant parent. No, I'm not gonna be, she's already said that. I'm not the answer. So no, no, I'm just like the good, fun aunt. And the thing is my God son is like 13 now. So he's like, you know, he's getting, he's masturbating, he's like, how do you know this?

Because she tells me, you know, I can't get into this now. Let me just tell you about New York. Okay. This is not what we're talking about So so my friend is awesome and she's from New Jersey originally and it was like six girls from that I've known women. I've known from San Francisco. There's ten of us all together Probably about four to five. I knew from San Francisco. It's like she called it the East meets West West tour She has a apartment in Chelsea, meat packing district for five weeks. She usually lives in San Francisco. So it was like we all came together.

For five weeks? Yeah, she's living there for five weeks. Our girls weekend was a weekend. And she had we'd backstage tickets to you too. And it was amazing because her company like doing something with them. And so this weekend she like sent bios and everyone. She was like we had all these plans,

that girls were coming there to party, like half married, divorce, whatever, but just fun. Half married. So Friday night we go out and I fly right in, like I fly from San Francisco, I get there, I meet them at the restaurant and I know like half of them. I heard of them all, you know, whatever, we were, we were drinking, we're partying

and we go out in the meat packing district in New York. I don't know if you've been there, but it's become like super touristy, kind of a little crazy, but we go to get in this barn. My friends, she has like, get us in anywhere, we walk up, and I'm like, oh my god, you guys, stop for a second. And there were these three girls. It was like a scene out of Jersey Shore. They were crying, they were like,

well you took my boyfriend, that's wrong accent. Dude, Jersey. Oh my, well you took my boyfriend, that's wrong accent, dude, you're certain. Oh my god, you got my boyfriend. I mean, I swear to God, I mean, he loves, he loves me, he doesn't love you. And one of the girls was just crying, she's like, you're not a good friend to us. She's like, so what if we just sit around and get high?

He looked and they were crying and fighting. And so I took my, I did what everyone, anyone else. Little dresses, how he heals? Everything. And they were like, she was crying,. And the other shoe, like crying. No, but they were crying and fighting. So I took out my phone and I was like,

you guys stop, I've got a film list because it was just, it was like a cliche of, I don't know, I've never done that before, I've never said, so I start filming them for 30 seconds. All of a sudden, what on the looks at me? The one on the crime, she was, what are you doing? Oh. So meanwhile, my friends are laughing so hard

and she looks at me and then she comes over to me. Three girls, like 20. She's like, give me your phone. What are you doing? Why are you taking her? I'm like, I don't know what you're talking about. I'm like, I'm falling about, I'm like, I'm done. She's like, I'm like, it's cool, it's cool.

The next thing I know, I'm on the ground. I get in my first fight of my entire life. No, fucking way, you're kidding me right now. Yes, so at first I thought I got punched, but I didn't get that. How do you not tell me this in the parking lot? We just spent 20 minutes in the parking lot. Cause I tell you I had some history.

How do you keep this from me? Holy shit, this is a real story. Do you need to talk about 18 things in the bar? You're not still on some kind of meat locker jail in New York. So she takes what turns out, cause we have to recreate it over like, she takes my arm, throws me down like, and my head, my whole right side, I body hits,

but I'm not like that. I'm like, I'm still laughing. I know. But my fucking bitch friends, it's all these are all new girls, they're laughing. Also, a man like in a wheelchair comes up, it stops the fight. He rolls and he's like, ladies, ladies, break this up.

There's another woman's back, I'm going, girl, take this elsewhere. What you doing with the fight? So I get up, my friend Nancy finally pulls me out and I just not you're coconut water. What was that my water bottle? So my friend Nancy pulls me because Emily can we go right now? She goes stand here and she puts me behind like a potted palm and I'm like potted pool Yeah, because I've got like my as I have the phone on my pants

I'm like, oh my god. It's gonna fight. This all happens in a matter of like, because my video is very sick. 45 seconds, yeah. So I'm in there and then at office and I see this guy walk by, well, five minutes earlier before the fight, some really cute French guy come up to me. Name Alec, he's this friend. He's like, hey, what do you do when he walks to this high street? And he's like, hey, you look like the top of trouble maker

of the group. And I'm like, why do you say that? I'm so not. Oh, you like him that much, you made it a reality. No, but then he walks by me. I'm like, oh my god, so Alec, he's like, yes, I'm like, I do you say that? I'm so not. Oh, you like him that much, you made it a reality. No, but then he walks by me. I'm like, oh my God, so like, Alex, he's like, yes, I'm like, I'm in the bush. I'm like, can you help me walk down the street

because I'm scared right now, and I'm gonna, I said, I know it sounds crazy, but since you saw me four minutes ago, I got in a fight. I've never been in a fight. It's my first fight. He's like, sure, and he's looking at you with his friend. They walk me in the street, and then the other girls that come and join me.

And we are just, I'm like, where did you guys go? And they're hysterically laughing, and I'm like, I swear I've never been in a fight. And they're like, this friend. They walked me in the street, and then the other girls that come and join me. And we were just like, where did you guys go? And they're hysterically laughing. And I'm like, I swear I've never been a fight. And they're like, my friend's just like, I'm, you know what I'm proud of you. It's a bad time. It's a bad time you got your ass kicked. Did you swing?

No, cause she, it turns out she didn't, cause I was still a little, and I was a little buzz, but she, I realized it was arm behind, thrown to the ground. And I, no, I went first of all, okay. I shouldn't have been filming them, but it was fun. I got the video, but here's the best part.

37 seconds of them, two minutes and 45 seconds of the fight. Oh, no way. I got it. Dude, I've got it all. I've got me going down. I'm gonna see this. I can't wait for the show to end. I can't wait for the show to end.

Hold this shit. And so I actually feel like, and then, but here's the thing. So all weekend long, they're like, fight club, but you're the girl, and they got a fight. Like I become that girl, girl and then we're at you know backstay you two we have a sweet and Some of her clients are there and then I'd go to them This is the one who got in the fight. She leads everyone all weekend that I got to fight You know I'm bonnet will find out because he's all about peace love

Passive this bonnet. I was gonna meet bonnet, but we didn't she's already been like six shows. I've already met him though He's a tool. I met him at two that in 2000 I don't like him nor glasses. No, no, no, his name. Nor's music Did the concert rocked you don't like it at all? No, it was amazing. I like the first three albums And never he played every single song from the first three albums. There's two good songs on a Joshua tree And then the rest is shit. Hey quick quick little tip to you Next time you have like three-poor to reek and ladies bearing down on you because they're angry at each other and they're looking for, I can't comment.

They were on a reek and though. They were like, you need to be sure. You're sure, you're sure, yeah. Maybe that's not, I can't decide, you're right. Go ahead, I didn't get it a little look at them. You say, in your shooting them on your phone, you say you're doing a selfie.

And then they feel like an ass. Oh. What are you kidding me? I'm not shooting, you know I'm doing a selfie. How dare you think that you're not a- You know what? You're right, I've never been in this, you're right. That's what I can do next time You got it's just so bad and then um, yeah, that's what happened

So that was a good time and then we um, what did you I don't know wait a great time? I went running on the the highlight You look great considering you're just Thank you. You took me on great for the first time. I got pregnant lady does Oh, no, I met talk to you. Oh, I should love the fact that I'm pregnant. I want to be shocked because you got that glow about you right now. I don't know what it is. This has really good sex. Just kidding. I didn't really like this. You didn't? Well, no. Not today. loved my trip by like being way. I'm so happy to be back and doing the show. And I love New York and it was good to get away. But here's what I have to say.

Real quick, before I move on to the sex, most of that, I, for those many people listening to myself included, like I don't get the whole meat packing. Is that, you know that happen? Okay, it's manhand. So I have- And it's a district? Yes, it's in Manhattan.

I'm sorry, right? Like a park in the used to be before like where they take, like Chicago would train in the beef. Right, it's been developed of I'm sorry before like where they take like Chicago would like train in the beef Right, it's been developed in the last probably 10 years. Yeah, it's totally if they think they built this the high line Which is where you can walk around across the river? I ran like two and a half miles on the river And then they also built the high line where you can see like the entire city and there's all these like shops and it's There's a standard hotel. There's a bunch of hotels when you you run, do you pretend like you're being chased by someone? No, I listen to that.

I could picture you doing that to help motivate yourself. You seem like that time. No, I listen to podcasts, actually. Okay, so there's a great episode about sign falls. Sign falls episode years and years ago when sign falls was on in the 90s. And George, I think, went to this great party and then he took Jerry there the next day and was in the Me Packing District in New York, but it was just an empty like where?

Oh, we used to have like, you know, you used to have needles, it was, you know, it was a whole thing. They used to have like surprise parties and then they just clean up and be gone. Yeah, it was like, it was like, you know, old warehouse is no one went there, but now it's very built up and very bougie. Right, gotcha.

And it's right next to Chelsea, whatever, even sorry, you don't know New York that much. But anyway, it was, it was just great. So this is, this is the thing thing and then if you are in New York I want to tell you this because people like why didn't tell me you're in New York I am doing another sexual health expo September 18th 20th in New York She Where you guys can all come and we're gonna talk about sex

We're gonna have great educators and I'll be giving you more info So if you live there or in the area plan on that and then one more thing Mm-hmm. Oh, oh, this is important. Yeah, okay, so Tuesday. Yeah, so this is the date which is July 28th From 7 to 9. Yes, I'm teaching another hustle workshop sex toys and sex products the best ones that you need To this is my third. I'm doing them every month now. You need to like just get you a room there I know. If you need to just have your own little flat in the back. Yeah. I'm gonna make an emulator.

Do they have like stars or anything in there? Like you know, like printed on a wall or out front? They have a lot of flashlights. They have every single flash. Like they're kind of just how about that store? If you haven't been, it's just so freaking cool. It's the coolest, it's not, you think like Hustler would be like, oh boy.

It's classy, it's huge, there's parking. And they would be like, oh boy, it's classy, it's huge, there's parking, and they literally have every single toy and product and just the way it's laid out, it's just fun. And then there's like, we have champagne and food and I teach, and then we go shopping. And then it's like, this counts. And it's so fun because all the things I talk about, but it's not going to be just, it'll be like products and just don't be fun. So come and RSVP, and if you don't live here,

tell your friends who live here, and you don't want it to be fun. So come and RSVP, and if you don't live here, tell your friend to live here, and you can RSVP to hhrsvp at lfp.com. As I'm lyraflin. Okay, guys, that's a lot. It's not my style. I just, yeah. Or there's a Facebook page, tell my sex, I'm a page.

I'm gonna be Google, I'm not gonna know it. Sexcelme.com, there's a banner on my homepage. That's so much easier. The old sites about things like that. Just to see you all there, last one was so freaking fun. I just love, like, you know what it is, you know what's cool? And you can appreciate this because you just did this. Are you do live things with your after-disaster?

I do, it's true. I, and I'm actually saying, I'm not, I'm not an adult. I don't know if I heard. Okay, so it this is- We stole out the Hollywood in print. Can I tell you this? I know what you did, I was there, I was so impressed.

This is the 10th year of my show. And so I wanna do a live show. Thank you. So, menace and I were talking about it. And I would like you to be there too. It's like my two. You're menace and I fight, do you think? I don't know, but you guys probably just make fun

of me the whole time. But I would like you to come. And I would like to do it before the end of the year. So, you can show really good that. Will you? I've been meaning to ask you. So, now I ask you. And who would come of my listeners?

Like, would you come to our live show? I've never done it. And that's why like these workshops, because I realize in 10 years, I've even done a lot of public things, not, because I'm like a harmorid, I'm just sitting there in a room. You should do it, I got it. I'm not out about. A one lady show, and like me, you know,

let people get up and close and personal and meet you. I wanna meet you all, and like, can I tell you, when I do these workshops and like listeners come up, and they drove in from Orange County, or they drove in from San Diego, I'm like, I'm like, my God, thank you, I'm so I'm so grateful because I don't get to meet you all who have been listening in sporting. It's a rush.

It's a lot of fun. It's just like, I don't know. You just, and even when coaching at streets are like, I'm like, my God, thank you. Can I hug you? I just, it's, I know that sounds weird, but I'm just grateful that people listen. People recognize you on the streets.

Yeah. So, you don't send them away. You know, God, no, not, not, not, not, not. I'm doing it. It's not like every day, but like people hear my voice. You know the voice. I can see that. The voice because I'll be on the phone. I probably say something really embarrassing or talking to someone like, are you Emily?

Yeah. But then people recognize me from like Bravo, like TV show and then or from my website. So sex. What are we talking about today? Dude, thank you. Okay. Here's the deal. We're going to talk about it. I feel like I wish we had three hours. I know we don't. I think we're just going to go. I'm going to skip the sex of? Dude, thank you. Okay, here's the deal. We are gonna talk about it. I feel like I wish we had three hours. I know, I think we're just gonna go, I'm gonna skip the sex of the news, I think. Really? No, fuck you!

I'm dirty! Oh, Jesus, I just wanna eat this. I feel like you've been talking for so long, you guys, I'm sorry, just hopefully fast forward if you want it. No, it was funny. It was funny, I got my ass kicked, I'm so alive. It wasn't a fun, if it was hockey, and that happened on the ice.

I wanna edit together this video and post it, but I shouldn't say. If you guys hockey, and that happened on the ice. I want to edit together this video and post it, but I shouldn't. If you guys did what you did on the hockey ice, neither one of you would have got a five minute penalty for fighting. Maybe, maybe roughing, but not fighting. I don't know. I thought she stole my phone first.

I mean, it was scary. Okay. Survey. 20% of people who live on the West Coast have cheated. What? That seems low. According to May 2015 study of 2000 Americans conducted by Avvo, 20% of people who live on the West Coast of the United States have admitted to cheating on their partners. All right, what about the youth goes?

Take special note of the phrase, have admitted. I'm sure some of you will took the survey and straight up lied to say face, which I can imagine. And with that in mind, the statistic could be registering lower than it really is. Regardless, 20% is a hell of a lot of people who cheat. Those who live in the Midwest were the most faithful in their romantic shifts. Or they live in the Midwest. I don't know. I think people in the Midwest, she just smart sounds to the part of Michigan. I mean, everyone's not everyone, but don't you just feel like so many people cheat? Do you not have friends like that? I mean mean I got friends here just again

They got like two or three in a wife What are you doing? Well, I'm gonna finish this then speaking of cheating We got to talk about Ashley Madison the study also when I just date that more men are portiving cheat down their partners and women This is always the case. I just think women don't admit as much and Big cities will often have a lot of transplants for the parts of the country who may have moved there because they seek a life of more excitement And no cities feel a trans transplants for the parts of the country who may have moved there because they seek a life of more excitement and no cities fill a transplants and then that personality leads someone relocating they're likely to result in greater openness. I'm looking at one right now. I'm open. I've cheated. I've been transplanted. It's true. And I'm a transplant and I used to I'm a reformed cheater. I just

don't commit now. You just let them know. Oh, no, front. There's no way I'm gonna be committed to you. So I mean, tell I want to commit. I mean, can't even call cheating that is. I never caught either. I think that was the problem. So I never had any negative consequences. They weren't ever ongoing love affairs. It was more like I'm one of those women who's able to have emotionally detached sex. Yeah, yeah, not all the time. Train wreck. Good movie. Same thing. Good movie. Same thing. That movie Train wreck by Jed Apatow.

It's on TV right now. Yeah. Is it Amy Schumer? Is that her name? Yeah. She's like the bomb right now. She is. I haven't seen a funny movie.

What? Amy Schumer. It's just the greatest publicist. In his dream. You never heard of her and then just know where you can look without her. Do you think it's her publicist or just like the tipping point of Amy Schumer? She's just everywhere. She was good in Train wreck though wrecked up is all about a woman

who i think some of the man you know i can't actually hurt her dad calling quen plays her dad in the movie in the beginning of the movie cia as a twelve-year-old girl getting the lecture from her dad about the divorce it is about to have in explains to both his daughters and monogamy is just a myth doesn't really work and it never will work and then flash forward to her like in the mid thirties and she uh... treats sex dude would, like where she's just having one night stands and using guys. And then she's probably falling in love with the end.

Well, I mean, it's a rom-com, I'm direct about Judd Apatow. That doesn't happen because let me tell you, I've been very, I'm very much like a man in my relationship, I have been like the dude. She talks like one. I talk like a dude, but I'm very feminine though, you know? Oh yeah, not really.

I'm feminine. You're a very lady- But I happen to be in my relationships a lot of people like you're such a dude, but I'm very feminine though, you know? I'm feminine. You're a very lady- But I happen to be in my relationships a lot of people like you're such a dude or like the guys are the ones you want to have the talk and are we committed? Well, you don't make guys feel safe. You think you have to feel very unsafe, family. So guys that really like you, they start to get clingy

because they know that you're just a brief little part of their life and they don't want to admit that. Yeah, I've had boyfriend's tell me like I feel like every day you're about to wake up at me with me. But I don't think that I'm like that anymore in the sense of that because I don't. You're probably going to feel like a like a prolonged one-night stand. To most guys. Dude, but that's the best. That's okay.

No one would understand. Because one of the stands is always the best sex. Best sex. Godmother. You see what I'm saying? You see what I'm saying? They Google me. They Google me. My Godson, you see what I'm saying? You see what I'm saying? They Google me. They Google me. My Godson, Jesus, yeah.

That's fine. You know what? I hope we learn something about sex. So it's fine. I know. I can't believe you're that's terrible. She made it clear to me that if she dies, it's not in the well. I take the kids.

Don't worry. So there's a real Godmother out there. It's not more. No, what? You're like the fact, you know. Godmother. That's not her. That she knows me for 20 years. And she said, I want you to be. You're like the effect. No. God, I'm kinda like the queen of England. Okay. That she's known me for 20 years and said I want you to be.

It is an honor. I mean 20 years ago she, okay. Another sex and use strip club in San Francisco is making $15,000 a day selling $5 lunch buffets to tech bros. Gold club San Francisco. Tech bros, what's that? Tech, tech, not, you know, it's a tech city.

We didn't live there. Okay, so I lived in San Francisco for 20 years It's all technology right now. It's all startups. It's like, you know, Google it's Yelp. I mean, it's down there too, but in the city now the silicon Like my city my my office was when I before I moved here was right by the ballpark where all the tech like next to me was like Was Yelp and then the other side was yeah, yeah, they're everywhere so Now it's funny because the gold club is an establishment San Francisco. It's a strip club I used to know the owner and we go there all the time and party

There's a stripping no, but here's the funny thing one time I did go to the gold club and I made I was there some friends and we did the girls like dancing I'd started dancing and I made 40 bucks But yeah, you know didn't show any. I didn't get naked, but then I didn't show any. You painted my shirt. And I was like, cool, I made 40 bucks stripping. So the goal club, here's the thing though.

It's so funny because nowadays all these tech nerds were looking at like ones and zeros all day. So they're like, I'll trade that for some tips and ass and barbecue. And a bunch of ones going out on my pocket. Exactly. So that's 300 lunches, by the way. If they're making 1500 or they're selling $1,500 worth of $5 dollar by day. It's a different. Yeah. So whatever,

cheering them up, that's fine. I'm no problem with that. Okay. I love that. I always thought that was weird going. First of all, strip joint period. Strip joint in the daytime. No. Really weird. Strip joint in the daytime eating lunch. Very odd. So strange. I just think you just don't want to be eating and looking like I just think it's super. Do you ever look at porn and eat? right once again sign fell George the stands and tried to incorporate food into the sex routine because they liked both so much he wanted them to intertwine like having to have a ham sandwich and having sex but she caught him and

she didn't like it you're trying to I've been trying to combine sex and comedy I would think it would be awesome if you can be laughing hysterically while having sex, but it's just it's hard to find fun sex. No, okay, let me tell you, I was thinking about you. I was having sex a few weeks ago. I was thinking about you, but not in that kind of way. Right, yeah, I got to.

Because you said that during the short release, and you recently you said I wish sex could be funny. And I'm like, it is funny. And I was actually having sex with someone. Oh no. And we started to laugh about that you, but we started to laugh about something. Right, you were laughing. Oh, this is what Andrew was talking about. And I was like, It's someone. Oh no. And we started to laugh about that you, but we started to laugh about something. Right, you were laughing.

Oh, this is what Anderson was talking about. And it's happening. Look how funny this is. We're laughing and then we were back to boning. And I thought, and the laughter died. And the laughter died. And the laughter died.

I found, in my history, I'm a married man. So I don't really do anything. But in my history, pre-marriage. He's never say that again. Married man. Pre-marriage. And women would kind of frown upon me laughing during sex. It's kind of a turn off.

If I just start chuckling. Is it when they get the hiccups, the shirt off and you start laughing? Because that would be a fucking bus girl. If I was a chick, I'd be like, I'd do my left breast with smaller than my right. All right, I apologize. I'm doing railing the show.

I feel like you need to get some tips. I already railing the show. I've got to tip it. Thank you. Okay. Hey, I'm my name is Shelby. And've got to tip it. Thank you. Okay. Hey, I'm, my name is Shelby and I'm a 23 year old female from a small town and I'll burn a canada.

And I'll listen to the show through my iPhone's podcast app. I am currently in a relationship with a 22 year old man and we've been together three years. I can't but help notice that our sex life has taken a nose dive in the last year. Meaning we have sex maybe twice a month. I have a high libido and would love to have sex all the time, but he actually has said to me that he doesn't care if we have sex or not.

We used to have a healthy sex life in the beginning of the relationship, but over this last year, it has declined significantly. I'm concerned. Exactly. I'm concerned with why this may be. I've tried multiple times to have spontaneous sex. I've bought several sexy outfits to wear

to get him to have sex with me. I've even offered him blow jobs. But he has turned me down so many times that I've lost count of how many times at this point. And he calls me desperate when I ask him for sex. Then reviews of sex with me. I know it's like one bad thing after next. I've tried talking to him about he shuts me down. I get frustrated and I cry. I know he's not sex with me. I know. It's like one bad thing after next. I've tried talking to him about it. He shuts me down.

I get frustrated and I cry. I know he's not cheating on me. He's not taking any medications. I know he still master rates. I guess I'm just really desperate at this point, Emily. And I was wondering if there was anything I could do. Any advice you have would be more than helpful. Thank you so much for all that you do and I'm looking forward to hearing from you, Shelby.

Shelby. First of all, Shelby, number one, thank you for saying how old you are, where you live and how you listen. How old is he though? They're both 23. Okay. Uh-oh, she's 23, he's 22. They've been together three years.

Here's the thing, Shelby. You're young. And all relationships, and I'm gonna say all, are to go through ebbs and flows in their sex life. That's what you know that happens. That's natural. That's biology. It's always great at the beginning. It dies. You got to work on it. Okay. Or it just changes. You're young. You guys are together. The sex you know for three years, a lot of people in relationships would have problems, but you guys are at a point where you have two choices. First, he won't talk to you about it, and I'm not sure why, and he keeps rejecting you. So whatever you're doing, you sound like you've tried it, you've done everything I would have suggested. Sexie outfits. Usually when men, she does that. I know,

but she's from Alberta, so I'm trying to figure out what that is. You think she's wearing like a mask, and Edmonton Oilers jersey and like snowshoes. No, here's a thing. There's several explanations. Why? Okay. So first of all, he could lose sex. I have a lot of times you know the Sanderson, perhaps not a 22 when men don't want sex.

It has to do with like their stress in the workplace. They're worried about money. And that usually translates them feeling emasculated and not really wanting sex. He could be have you have depression, you know, on treating it. To be on medication. She said he's not on medication. Yeah, how does that work?

So it's troubling also to me how he treats you when she tries to address the problem. So again, it could be a mood thing that's totally separate from you, but I don't even like how he's treating you in this way. So it sounds like, you know, he's got issues that he's not dealing with, and then he's not even taking responsibility for it

and not trying to have a productive conversation with you. Now, again, you guys have been together since you were 20, you don't have a lot of experience with relationships. So if you think he is the one and you're like, I wanna make this work, you're gonna have to go to therapy. Okay. Because she can't get through it.

Listen. But it shouldn't be this problem at this age. Is that what you're gonna say? There's no way that this is the one. I mean, if this is happening at 22 and 23, marriage makes this so much harder and so much more difficult. You're wasting your golden years. I agree.

You need to, this is the last two and a half years too long and you need to move on. And I know it's scary, but a lot of time break up so like the best thing that can happen in your life, right? I agree. And let me just say this, it's really tough for me to say like yes, break up them because I'm not there. Shelby I just read your email but yes, speaking this way, why did I? It's really terrifying especially three years ago. Because it's your probably your first love. It's probably your first relationship and I know that ending that one you've never felt this

deep love before. You feel like you'll never feel it again. And he's pop of your best friend and you love him. I get it. But let me beat. Let me tell you this. We all win through this. And there is another person that you will meet that will be more well matched for you. And in fact, I believe that your twenties are about dating and exploring yourself, figuring what you like and don't like dating a lot of people or had spending some time alone or going back and forth doing all that stuff and don't get married before 30. So that's what I gotta say about that, Shelby. So it sounds like you've tried a lot of things. If you want, you could try one more time

and be like, listen, you know, change the language and be like, this is how I'm feeling. I'm at my end with send, see what happens. I have a thing to write about. You and I both know it's not gonna work though. She's not going to end up with this guy. So every day she spends with them. She's wasting another good day of her life.

That's why I feel in love line. We get callers. I just want to say to every caller who's 19, they're like, oh, we've been in love my life. Because it's terrible. But I can't be like, break up next call. You gotta let them know that life does go on. And it's gonna be really hard.

But I'm gonna eat her sleep for a couple weeks. I never regretted one break up. I've never regretted leaving one job. I've never actually don't have a lot of regrets in life except for buying my state. It's the greatest diet out there too. When I could have in the next couple. But only regret is not buying real estate

when I could have in San Francisco. Literally in my entire life. Or investing in bicycles. I would have been set for life. But no, I mean, the thing is, the great thing about relationships, and this is a great way to look at it in life. This is just gonna be a life lesson here.

Is that you actually, we sometimes we do our best personal growth in relationships, because it's someone who's like a mirror and a reflector to you. And I bet you've learned a lot about this and a lot about yourself, but it doesn't mean that you have to,

that each one needs to stay in them forever. Sometimes they just come in your life, they serve a purpose, and then you move on from it. And so maybe, I think it's maybe right on its course, and maybe you can look at this Shelby, take some time back and be like, what did I like about it?

What didn't I like? And it's a nice memory. It's a nice little memory box. You can look forward. You're missing out on another memory box. You're not gonna have, because you're sticking yourself. You should be having rock and sex right now, Shelby.

Rock and sex. And you should be offering men blow jobs who are like, like, yeah, now can we do it now? I mean, just, yeah, I mean, so. And you were talking about investments. I mean, investing in, really, let's say this is an investment. Like he's an investment, he is. He's in a life investment and that stock is plummeting.

Why are you holding on to it? I mean, it's just gonna keep plummeting. That's true. You know what I mean? I know, I got you. Oh, I gotta tell you, I gotta tell you something really quickly before we get to the other email. Okay. I, I got to tell you we got to I got to tell you something really quickly before we get together your mouth. Okay.

Um, I Have a new like Is it a sex toy? Yeah, but but do you remember actually drew when I talked about it on love line last week? Dr. Drew Penske. Dr. Drew from love line. You weren't here. I was not here two weeks ago. No, I wasn't here either Oh, you neither one of us. That's right. So okay. Do they think we out of here? Who? Because we're both gone. Yeah, they thought we hadn't a fair. Um, so there's okay. You know, I love keg, keg,

I got your size. They're so important. Oh, you love squeezing the kegels. But here's the thing about kegels. The reason why they're so important is because over time for men and women women they're important but this this one kind of talk about is for women Just like any other muscle your pelvic muscles will drop Atrophy like in your 20s, too like if you didn't work out all through your 20s But time your third like you have to always you work out these muscles So women have to do them because first of all you have to keep them strong You have stronger on orgasms and I'm telling you, like from practice, I know that my orgasms are stronger, you're tighter.

Sometimes when you laugh, sometimes, and you pee, like that happens to women, you laugh and you pee a little. It's called urinary kindness. No, no, no, it happens to women as they get older, not even like in their late 20s, 30s, definitely after childbirth and the older you got. That makes that comedy club so much scarier. Why?

I know. It must be pee everywhere. But here's the thing, this is this toy. It's actually a medical device. It was created by a company and it looks like a rabbit, but get this, Anderson. It does your kegdle exercises for you. And the only side effect is orgasm.

Like the Bruce Lee thing. It feels awesome. So you lie there in bed, you do it for five weeks. How to do it for you? You turn it on and it. So it turns it on. It looks like it has controls. Like you can control the little rabbit ears.

You can control the inside. But it expands inside you, okay? So it expands contracts. It expands contracts like a bubble. And it just you lie there. It works in for you. And it feels amazing. And then you have, and we're back.

I've, oh yeah. Now here's the thing, it has a revolutionary intimate health and stimulation device, Anderson, that takes all the confusion out of caggles because a lot of people do it wrong. And like it does resemble the classic, you know, rabbit vibrator, but it perfectly targets your G spot and clitoris

while using gentle electrostimulation to contract your vaginal muscles. They've done it. They've combined like exercise and sex. Yes, it's like, you know, you're like on the trend, you're like to wish that someone could work out for you and then you're like, I can be any pizza or whatever. And so I've been doing it. And it's a little like you put inside

and you gotta find like your spot, but it's like, and then you know what else I learned from this company is that, because I met with this woman, I was losing my mind and I'm like, and then I was telling Drew about, he's like, this is going to be your Emily, like, because he'd be your joke and he's like, you should have a toy. This is going to be your Emily. This is going to be your Emily toy. Oh. Because, you know how women also, you hear they get like labial plastic to tighten their vagina.

I hear it way too much, and vaginal mash. All of a sudden, I don't want to hear about it. So here's the thing, women do that, but that's just a cosmetic fix. Then they get this, then three-wheel and slater, they go back, it's stretched. So they do these exercises, so you write your whole life, you just do it.

Then you don't have to go back. Don't you have to go back. So it strengthens your muscles. 43% of women who have difficulty, like having orgasm or experience sex some time in their life, this helps them. Titans and toned your pelvic floor and your orgasms. And I honestly think that the reason why a lot of women have low libido, you know,

can be due to a lot of things stress, anxiety, after childbirth. If they do this, because your muscles are, it's like when you flick a flat stomach and you're doing lots of abs and you're like, you stand prouder, you're like, you wear a half shirt if you're a chick, this is like, you're going to want more sex because your muscles are like strong pants off. You're gonna walk around like turned on. I can't explain it in a weird way. I can't explain it.

Go to pornwah.com. That's all I gotta say and buy one of these. It's the intensity. It's POURMOI.com. Pleasure with a purpose. I'm freaking out about it. And your kegs are already like really strong. Well, I have a keg camp app.

Yeah, I know. You can use my iPhone app. You're catching it wrong. Like if you got pregnant, you could probably keep that baby in there for like 20 strong. Well, I have a keg camp app. Yeah, I know. You can use my iPhone app. If you got pregnant, you could probably keep that baby in there for like 20 months. I'm a time pregnant. You can use your keg it. Oh, no, I'm not. So all I'm saying is that you is a whatever, they're strong. Oh, and my app reminds you of doing it every day, so this way you'll never forget.

But I never forget, because I come home every night and I'm just like, yes, I get to use this. We are done. We are done with it, because I never stick with things and now I'm like, freaking. Okay. Back to emails. You know, email me. You know, email me. Feedbackatsex. and now I'm like freaking. Okay, back to emails. Thank you for emailing me. Feedback at sextheelmy.com.

I love you all. Okay, sex while living at home. I'm 27 years old and I've recently started listening to your podcast during my daily commute to work. And I'm totally addicted. You give amazing tips, great advice, and by the end of each episode, I'm always ready to get it out on my boyfriend.

My boyfriend and I have been together a few years and our sex life has been on fire since the beginning. You hear that Shelby? The problem is we don't live together right now and our work schedules are totally opposite so we really like to each other once or twice a week. When we do see each other, we never have a good location to have sex because we both live at home to help our parents. It's extremely frustrating. I'm wondering if you have any advice for having sex in places other than the house and while the beach would seem like the obvious choice, it's hard to find a beach with that with no people on anywhere on the island. You're the best Aloha summer from Oahu. She's in Hawaii. I know I did

too. Can't you put down a blanket? No, it's true that you just get at you know You know when you've said when you've actually the beach you get like stand in your ass. It's so afraid I'm gonna stand in the ass. Yeah, I don't want sand in the crack Here's a thing. I know you're saying that there's no sex at home But I'm wondering if you guys are 27 years old. I mean did your parents say no sex at home? Are you believing that they don't want you? They're helping them too. Yeah, you're helping them like to I don't know Just what you tell yourself to feel better about it? Yeah, I'm not sure really both your parents, because I know when I was at age, I have

boyfriend come over, like stay with me or whatever. But if you really do want to have sex, you know, outside, I mean, I guess, you know, I'm sure she saw that, the car sex, all this stuff, you could go to a friend's house. Here's what I, what i first i thought was you know hotels are expensive but why don't you put like post on facebook tell your friends if you're leaving town we will dox it or cat sit or watch your house or something and state your friend's house and tell me like clean the sheets i don't know i mean

there's got to be creative ways to get out and go camping a lot a lot of people can't. And a lot of go? Yeah. Yeah, bring it down. Can you guys start saving money so you can move in together? I mean, I just think you're both sweet, so I get your help in your parents.

Yeah. And I wouldn't think the kids parents would be more forgiving. Why? Because she's a check? Yeah, because the grandparents are always more easy. That's true. I dated a very religious guy in my 20s. His parents was strict.

And they were like, you can't share a bedroom. We were like 29. And my parents were like, hey, come on in. Secret quiet sex is pretty hot too though. You know what I mean? Like mom and dad are home downstairs, you go upstairs, hey we're gonna go do some work upstairs. Didn't go to school, I did not go to school.

Not sex but like. Sex in front yard backyard. Yeah, parents right outside. Have a house in front seat. Have a house in your backyard and allow to share what you guys build some kind of like fort? Yeah, like a get clothing that is easy accessible. Yeah, easily accessible.

Just wear summer skirts, wear dresses. No, school, I had a girlfriend who was very wrong. Very wrong. She ended up becoming property of the hell of angels actually. Oh my God. Did you date bad girls? I did a lot of. I was, I tried to save them always. But yeah, we had sex in a front yard backyard.

You know, like, she would like do things to me in the back seat of the car with her parents driving us. Yeah, you know, it's a bad job. You had job and stuff. Yeah, she's bad. You can't see California, you crazy stuff growing up here. Like, I would never have done that machine. But then we'd be alone, the house would be empty, and she wouldn't be in anything. It's like, what a weirdo.

She was the one that she'd watch cartoons, well, she'd let me have sex with her, but she'd be watching. She'd let you have sex with her. Yeah, she's like, I don't really feel like it. I just want to watch him in. You can do stuff to me if you want. I don't think I'm a 14 year old boy. You're like, I'll'd be watching. Let you have sex with her. Yeah, she's like, I don't really feel like it. I just want to watch him in. You can do stuff to me if you want. I was like, 14 year old boy. You're like, I'll do whatever you know.

She was 14 too, guys, before you cast any judgment. She was 14. You guys were 14 and she was, did you have sex with her? She wasn't the first either, yeah. Things happened a week out of your man. They do. It's true, just like we were saying people on the coast, like, you know, I, they are.

I did not have sex until I was 17 and I had a boyfriend for 11 months before I had sex. And that's the longest relationship to date, right? I don't think I chewed on them though. But is that your longest relationship? No, my longest relationship. I was three and a half years. I'm not talking with a show or your interns or people you work with, I'm talking about boys or men.

What are you in my show or the intern? My show is from the years. That's a relationship nearest Madison's work for me for two and a half. But you've dated a guy for three years? Yes, several. I was a serial monogamous. I didn't know. Occasionally cheated once or twice and then. No, I was.

Dude, what did you think? I've been like casual sex. No, I am actually young. Well, you're still young, I don't know. I had a lot of serious relationships. Okay. I had several. I was three, the two and a half, you know, I did it.

One of the one more email? Yes. Before we. This one is funny. I mean, not funny, but interesting because it actually came up twice last week, the subject of choking. Oh. Dear Emily, I'm a 44 year old man dating a 29 year old woman.

I'm a bit of a late bloomer, so she's quite a bit more experienced than me in the bedroom. And a lot of things she asked for require on the job training. The one thing she really enjoyed is being choked during an course. It was scary at first but I've grown to enjoy it as she gets a lot of pleasure from it. Recently she's been escalating the degree of choking. She'll ask to be choked quite a lot harder and wants me to use a belt rather than just my hands.

I'm a bit uncomfortable with this, but would feel guilty about not doing what I could to pleasure her. What would be the best way to talk to her about this, Eric? Okay, Eric, here's the thing. The reason why this comes up is because it was funny. I was talking to a guy friend the other day, and he's like 40, and he's like, yeah, you know,

he's doing this whole funny, he's like, I see 20-somethings, they want to be choked. The 30-somethings want kids, he was just laughing. And I was like, it's true that I think in porn, I mean, you choked, like a lot of people are see this and they want it replicated. And I, a lot of things in porn though, and choking is one of them because I'm telling you 10 years ago, no one else be about choking. The choking thing though, do you, you into it at all? Um, am I into it? I mean, not like a rot of fixation, which I'm nervous about.

I tell the she is with the belt. In fact, there's something about it. Let me just tell you this. It's an act of sexual dominance. She feels submissive, feels taken, and not in control. She's given up total control. It's very sexy to a lot of women.

My little dog Stanley, he's very submissive. I see, yeah. And you know, when he's nervous, he'll like do go on his back and be like, just take me. Like you can do, he presents his throat. Like you can kill me. I'm no threat to you.

I think it's kind of similar with the sex. Like when a woman is like dogs. Like and I think you guys probably like it. Like oh, he could kill me right now. He's that powerful. But it is true. No, here's the thing. It's at women's fantasies are kind of like that.

You know, like romance, I'm like, it's like we want you. We want to feel like a man wants us so badly that he can't contain himself, that he has to throw us down and rip our clothes off and he just can't, you know. And so the choking thing is connected to them. It is very primal. But, and let me say to you, Eric, that I love that he cares so much about his partner's pleasure.

I like that you're into pleasing her. But you also, I think, are insecure right now because you feel like you don't have as much experience. And I don't know that just because maybe she says she does or she's into the choking, I would hopefully that you're bringing stuff to the bedroom that you want as well because you can always, you know, she might not be into what you're into. Maybe she should just have experimenting. But here's the thing, what I'm nervous about is, you know, if she wants to use about the lack of oxygen, the buildup of carbon dioxide, for women, that's what happens is that it causes this feeling of getting a man, of getting this

and pleasure, and that can heighten your sexual rousell briefly. But this, it can be, so that's why it's a turn on because it's like you build up this carbon dioxide. That's an added turn on to it. The bonus. But, but it can be so dangerous because if you can do it, you hear these stories all the time, people die from it. Yeah, man.

I have a friend who died of it. Okay, so there you go. So you got to be honest with her. You just got to say, listen babe, love having sex with you. I like trying new things. I like light choking, but this escalation is making me uncomfortable. So you don't want to hurt her, you're a specter, and you know, try to find some new things to do.

Maybe she wants to be spanked as well. Like, what? The belt seems a little intense. Well, I don't like that. And I don't like that you know what you're doing either. I mean, if you really want a pleaser and you guys are into it, like, go see a professional like, dumb or something. Like, go take a clap, read about, you know, like, baby. You're doing either. I mean, if you really want to please your new guys or enter it, like, go see a professional, like, dumb or something.

Like, go take a clap, read about, you know, like, baby, you can do this. I live in San Francisco. I live there, yeah. If you want to take it up a notch, maybe have inaccess plain and have some kung fu TV shows on in the background. David Caradine and the singer for inaccess, they both passed away with the belt around that.

Yeah, this is why it makes me nervous. But like, again, and I also wonder, it's funny that all these women are, you know, I've several guys are like, what's with the choking? But do Yeah, this is why it makes me nervous, but like again, and I also wonder, it's funny that all these women are, you know, I've several guys are like, what's with the choking? But do you think that's hot? Like, do you ever choke a woman in the past before you are, you know, right?

No, I can understand the allure. Like I sense things from the ladies when I used to be with the lady. You know, I can figure out, I can, you know, you become one with them. You feel what they're giving off. Well, their hair choke them. Yeah, like you can sense like what, you become one with them. You feel what they're giving off. Well, their hair, choke them. Yeah, like you can sense like what,

if you pay attention, if you don't lose yourself within yourself, you can tell what's making them a little happier. Right. With some girls, yeah, like the, the choking and a little bit of rough trade, really gotta go. Not every time, guys, I'm not saying every time, but some girls shy away from me.

They'll let you know without words. Right. Just pay attention. Exactly. Exactly. And everything you want to start, and again, Freddie, when he wasn't tried this, like, I'm not saying go out and choke a girl, you want to like, lightly put your hand on our neck

and just see how she reacts, or even like, was spanking, like, you lightly spank me. Anything that you do that you haven't tried before, try it five times lower and five times softer than you think. And again, not every woman would be into this. So pay attention, people. Especially on a first date. Don't try with the woman would be into this. So pay attention people. Especially on a first date. Don't try to get joking. Don't have sex on the first date. Oh look at that. Look how demeanor and virginalitis became. Don't start having sex until you're 18. Like me. Like me. I was 17. I was almost 18. Okay, Anderson, that's what we got time for. Tell me you

are rocking it right now. And I'm not only do you look great, but I feel like things are great with you. How is your weekend in um, I went to DC. It was fantastic with the movie. The movie, the filming, your podcast, that amazing Joshua. I went to, no, it's a death valley. Death Valley. For those of you who listened to the after that, sure, if any of you came over here or listening or actually some people have actually discovered it through this program.

Um, Mike, Ken Tyler and I, the three Pabs, we went out to Death Valley and we did a full like bonus two episodes. We shot video. We went to the bottom of a full like bonus two episodes. We shot video. We went to the bottom of a crater. We punished ourselves. We're being alive by these giant black flies called bombers that like they they they cut you open with their pointy sharp nose and then the drinker blood. We were being attacked by those.

It's all on video. We went to the natural hot springs. And that's available after zester.com. But more importantly, what's more important? And I have a show, September 26th. I shot five shorts last year. You helped me get over the hump and do what I needed to do.

So I appreciate that. I shot five short, wrote and directed five shorts. So proud of you. They're all short. They're, they're, they're ranging in time from like three and a half minutes to like the longest one is 13 minutes. I'm showing all those as well.

It's five other projects that I've, but they're all short. September 26th. Oh my god That's awesome. You want the friggin film for I already want one of them already one award and I'm so excited. They're all yeah, and they're all really inappropriate and comedic But I put as much style and I'm proud of you. Killy all come on. We could you stop

I'm like I know watch it, but this is September 26th September 26. Yeah 26th yet gonna be NLA I take it to our on sale Anderson Cowan.com I'm raising my Anderson Cowan C O W a and and I'm raising money for the feature that I want to shoot next year Which you text Madison will send it out to oh I'm gonna show a preview an animated preview of the proof of concept of what I The script that I tried to shoot next year. You're so to get that's amazing. You're going to kill it because I it's a feature that really will grab your attention You'll never the subject matter It's sexually related and it's about homophobia and bullying and it's fucking wrong and I love it And I can't wait to direct. I'm so proud of you. I could So proud of you. Good. So come on. Hang on. We'll tweet out to okay people's here's a thing

Thanks. I want to I love you. Thank you so much Anderson and congratulations and all your amazing things So come on up, hang on, keep going. We'll tweet out too. Okay people, here's the thing. Thanks a lot. I love you. Thank you so much, Anderson, and congratulations on all your amazing things. Thank you to Madison and my amazing interns for making this show. Missy Mads. And also, you guys, follow us on YouTube now, because we're putting up videos all the time that are really fun and subscribed to our YouTube channel. Please follow me on Twitter and Instagram. It's all at sex with Emily. Facebook.com slash sex with Emily.

And the other thing I want to say is, I guess that's it. Oh, come see me in the middle of the Tuesday sex. Oh, she is. You got the hustler and she. Oh yeah, but hustlers like on Tuesday. So I know you're listening to this on Friday. And so just if you, even if you don't live in LA,

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